The whole reason I went to my first BTS concert was to experience a stadium full of fangirls. I'm 48 and I'm an ARMY and loving 7 strangers makes me happy and so be it. Do you!
sometimes I'd see videos of them getting super mad that their team lost a game or something, they'll destroy the tv or anything they can find because they're that angry. In my country, sports fans can get a liiiiiittle bit overboard where they tend to physically fight(?) people but it would often be seen as passionate because most of them are men.
@@shreena96 while it hasn't happened in the last couple years (as fas as I'm aware), it isn't uncommon in my country for fans of different football teams to kill each other. Not like everyday common, but it did happen every once in a while. Fans would sometimes just riot after big games.
@@IamClipsus that's just so bizarre to me and no one seems to care that much if it happens imo. I've never heard of assault or murder cases involving fangirls and yet they're described as crazy or "will hurt you if you cross them" type of people
@@shreena96 the main difference is that grown men are obviously more likely to hurt each other. We are built physically and mentally to fight, it's what we do. Large groups united under a single banner take us back to the 'tribe mentality', so it is no surprise that that kind of environment often fosters violence. Comparing hooligans (that is the word, right?) with fangirls doesn't make much sense tho. Yeah, you don't see them fighting outside of concert halls, but then again, you don't see fans of "rival" bands outside of those concert halls either, so who would they fight? Besides, saying "football fans are crazy" is no argument against "fangirls are crazy", which kind of struck me as the point of the video. Idk.
Lord Clipsus It all comes down to the same thing which is passion. Those behaviours are seen as a part of the whole "sports culture" and acceptable eventho sometimes violence may take place and there's a hint of toxic too. I'm comparing both parties here mainly because of how society reacts to them and their level of acceptance, that's all.
Idk why im tearing up when watching this. "Is she crazy/psycho" is the most often heard phrase since i became an ARMY in 2015 when i was just 10 years old. *FANGIRLS' SCREAM IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN MY ENTIRE LIFE* love myself love your self peace.
Madi Menzies it’s not a double standard. Guys who do the same things as fangirls for female celebrities are creepy too. Minus the squeal. Nobody is the exception. Just like men can cross the line so can women. It’s not about feelings bribed validated it about having a socially respectable level of self control. This women’s comparison from music fans to sports fans shows a skewed view of the world because they are two completely different forms of entertainment so her double standard remark is invalid and along with it her whole argument. It would make sense if she said men can be just as crazy with female stars but we can’t. In fact we can’t be anything more than enthusiastic. I see girls in the comments talking about affection for a person they don’t even spend time with. From a dudes point of view that’s not allowed if he want and if he does that it’s not something he could tell the girl straight off that bat because she doesn’t know him that way but if she find out that he thinks he knows her that way that makes him stalkerish. That’s the creepy part. One sided affection is where it goes to far.
@@Roan.bot. It's a double standard. Males don't admire women for their talent, skills or achievements, so her comparison between fangirls of boybands and fanboys of sports is equivalent and works perfectly to exemplify the double standard she is talking about. Your comment is absolutely irrelevant.
11:29 is the most beautiful sound you can hear at a concert! Knowing that you share the same enthusiasm and passion with thousands of other people is just magnificent
I was afraid of another critical point of view on people who simply give a lot of love and passion in what inspires them and makes them happy... Turns out I am actually not disappointed. Thank you. 💜
Imagine being a woman and liking a band that sings in a different language..that's double the prejudice lmao (edit : being Asian and liking a band from Asia, that's triple the prejudice. I've seen enough on Twitter lol)
@Sweet Epiphany : Yea, not sure I get what OP's point is. But I agree with liking music from other cultures. I grew up listening to all sorts of music from all over the world. My dad was a musician too, and later I became a guitarist, instructor and recording engineer. I mix all sort of musical styles in my own compositions too. From, Japanese and Arabic modes, Indian and Balkan rhythms, to blues, country and jazz. Even and especially when I play in progressive metal bands, it's fun and interesting to toss in something from another culture. But also, that sort of thing is a staple for jazz-rock fusion etc, witch is what I love most.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Ah same! My father is also a musician. Hence I easily had access to listening to different music. Isn't the point of music to be global and heard and loved by everyone? I never understand why it has to be limited by one's ethnicity or where they're from.
Imagine being a woman expressing the fact that she likes a band that sings in a different language, in a world full of prejudice towards women and people of a different race/speak a different language without fearing judgment and hate. That's damn bravery. Come on women 💪💜
Me too because I am one of these fan girls. hahah. I'm 30+ though. Too old for delulu mode. I just like their music and their funny yet sincere personalities.
When i was in college, I hate how fangirls act until i became one. Years ago, i just don't get why do they scream and do stuff with high enthusiasm but when i became one, ITS A WHOLE NEW PERSPECTIVE IN LIFE! I started doing things i didn't know im able to do; like, having friends all over the world and create meaningful memories with them, composing and writing music and lyrics with them to dedicate to our faves, i started being more open to how i see the world, compare to who i was before i am now more compassionate and understanding to the people around me, i also get to learn educational stuff about literature, science, language, history, social issues, and great topics i wasnt able to learn at uni. Being part of BTS ARMY is a gift for many people. Not all people understand us but all the things we do for our boys, its all out of love. BTS also loves us back by dedicating their music to us and teaching us to love ourselves so that we can give real love to others too and also to not give up on our dreams and work hard for it because at one point of someday, everything we did will exactly what we will be. I enjoyed the tedtalk a lot 💜💜
My level of fangirl reach to the point if I met my idols in front of me I wouldn't scream to them, try to approach them, touch them, chase them, take photos of them in their private times neither ask for a photo with them, because I love them so much and also respect them so much as a person, that would never do something that could make them feel uncomfortable, I would be happy just by looking at them, never touch, never stalk, that's what a true fangirl do
Thank you from the bottom of my heart...I've become a fangil of the Beatles back in 2010...then fell for One Direction in 2017 and currently my biggest love since last year is BTS. I'm turning 28 years old in 2 months and I'm not ashamed anymore. .I'm not ashamed of letting the world know that boy bands are my biggest source of happiness, joy and comfort. I hope the world starts taking fangils as seriously as we deserve.
Yes, some of those things are intrusive and a bit scary. It's easier to teach those limits I suspect when people's enthusiasm is embraced and respected, and say if we don't police emotional expression in men maybe things will also get better? I don't know if the whole deal with sexism is just teaching emotional control gone awry. Invasion of the body snatchers used a high-pitched scream to indicate a non-converted human which is interesting: and honestly, which is scarier - enthusiastic men in terms of far right football firms, incels & stalkers have committed far more actual murders and terrorist incidents as far as I am aware!
When the screamed I legit cry they just sound exactly like us on the shows and I feel like they finally understand that exciting feeling of loving someone this much
The way they describe anything in TED talks is always rubbing the subject in the right way. People not only learn from their mistakes, they must also receive a feed-back of this mistake. One does not learn from a mistake he never knew he committed. I'm afraid this is the issue here, we are literally in the middle of a giant Survivorship bias, where people who survived to tell the tales, come and talk about how you should quit your precious job to travel, how your instinct is always right, how anything you thought was negative in yourself is in actually a strength, etc. I never saw TED Talks about how people attempted things but got nothing positive in the end, yet it's much more common in real life.
What fangirls need to learn, is how to be a fan, and how to be respectful at the same time. To understand that the people they look up to are just human beings. That social rejection will be the result of their lack of balance between logic and emotion. Never too late to teach control
thanks for mansplaining normal social behaviors. men that follow football teams should do the same instead of causing damage to property after their team wins.
I agree. I don’t think the problem is that they admire that person, it’s that they make life hard for that person and sometimes for people around them. Sometimes love is sacrificing what you want for the sake of their privacy, or just for people in general. I mean, breaking into an airport! Way to surprise me with what direction she took this though! Definitely made me think.
Since being a fangirl I have made things that I never imagine I could be able to do before. Travel alone to another country for the first time, get out of a concert and immediately put in line for going to the same concert in the order day, stay there for 19 hours until the concert starts, being able to sleep just like 1 hour (after screaming and jumping the day before), eating just like 1 hamburger during the 2 days because I was so nervous I wasn't able to eat, going to the bathroom just one time during the whole day I was in the file, don't drinking enough water because I was scared of needing to pee after that, and yet be stand during 3 hours screaming and jumping until my throat hurts. I'm really surprised that I didn't faint... this is why I really think that being a fangirl gives you super powers, I just lost my voice for one week. I was able to travel to brazil and see BTS live for the first time, and it worth it
Thanks really I’m no more going to be ashamed of the word “fangirl”as a noun to describe me,and If I hear my idols name I’m gonna hold my head up and talk about them freely without thinking about judgments♥︎♥︎
Ive never felt more alive and full of joy than in the middle of a crowd of 86k fellow Army at Metlife, screaming, chanting and dancing with abandon, filled with pure excitement. I'll chase that feeling the rest of my life ..but hopefully Ill be able to see a few more BTS concerts before that ;)
Or even hurting yourself. There are fangirls that cut themselves and stuff for their idols. I'm a huge fangirl too but the craziest thing I've done as a fangirl is having 800+ pics of Sally Hardesty
@@user-pw9ie9ou7t girl i have 11,000+ pics of enhypen 😂 n don't get me wrong people, its the pictures they released officially that i collect, i never take their pict without consent or doing weird things abt it so don't call me crazy istg
alihaggis78 you are the first person I’ve found in the comments who doesn’t think like a sociopath. Everyone else thinks it’s perfectly fine to tell someone who doesn’t know you that you fantasize about having their baby. Because that’s what the majority of sports fans are doing.
i think it was meant to show one of the extremes of fan girls... most aren't like that lol.. also with fan fiction ( i don't read it but i have friends that do and they have said this) if you ask the writer a lot of the time when they write using the names of these celebrities it's like they make a new personality for them and don't think of it as anything that could be real? just like a character in a book.. some would say that is wrong to do too, but i think it's better than believing you could get pregnant with their child..? lol
You guys never played aggressive shooter video games? Research showed that people who play those are NOT more likely to commit murder. Here is the thing: enjoying a fantasy to the fullest, even a creepy one, together with other fangirls, does NOT mean they don't know that reality is different. It's a social thing, and gives endorphines in lonely times. Fanfic is NOT representative of what they think is going to happen. Duh...
I would much rather live a life full of loving something to the fullest of my ability and being excited about it as much as I want rather than being worried what other people think. 💜 amazing Ted talk!
At last someone enlighten the enthusiastic power of a Fangirl, not just only in that room but to all who would gonna watch this video across the world.
This video is a blessing Edit: Also, I think it's safe to say that you can call a fan girl crazy when she puts needles in a cookie and feeds it to an artist over different opinions on character designe.
One of my favourite TED talk I ever saw. Very clear message and very fun to watch at the same time. I watched because I am a fangirl as well (not boy bands)
I am reminded of a passage in Douglas Adams' novel "Dirk Genty's Holistic Detective Agency" in which a venerable old professor points to a particular cobblestone and remarks, "Wordsworth once got sick on that brick. Great man."
The part where everyone screamed brought me back to the first time I saw One Direction and the screen was lifted and they walked out. My stomach dropped, my heart raced, and tears came to my eyes. And as a 20 year old, I was made fun of for that. As a 25 year old now, I still get made fun of my love for One Direction but nobody says anything to my boyfriend and his hockey obsession. I loved this TED talk.
I feel like this is gonna attack Fans of anyone and generalize us as crazy and obsessive. Lets see if I’m proven wrong... (Update: I was wrong and I am so glad I was wrong, ARMYs💜)
that was a wonderful TED talk! and I absolutely agree with her, but I also see many things in fandoms that actually are very problematic (like the "shipping" or fetishizing of people)
Aninja the shipping can be okay if ppl don’t go overboard but that’s impossible and happens in literally every aspect of everything. The fetishizing too. It’s all about how ppl look at things. That’s why there are so many kinks going “mainstream”
This is one of the BEST Ted Talks ever! The way she's combined humor, facts, stories, audience interaction, and a new unprecedented point of view on a glob issue is 💓 and her energy!!!!!! 💓💓💓
Boys are told not to cry at 4?? Uh where ? Maybe 50 years ago. All the parents I see now embrace emotions and encourage feelings almost to the point it’s annoying.
I think this talk was two years ago, also she's referring to the generation she grew up in, where there were fathers in the home. Now mothers tell their sons to embrace their emotions, cry and lean on their women when they need them.
I’m a fan girl of The Vampire Diaries Universe. It’s adults who watched the show in high school/college and it’s nostalgia for us. We are crazy…but god we love this show with passion. People judge us as crazy adults and we are. But that’s okay because TVD got me through COVID.
I don’t think it’s a gender issue. Anyone who tells me they’d slit someone’s throat to be with some famous person they’ve never met is a crazy fangirl. Tell me I’m wrong
Joe Is Awesome and not Mediocre finally someone who sees what wrong with validating this type of behavior just because they are women. Men who do the same with female celebrities are considered a threat to society. There is no double standard accept for the fact that it’s actually more acceptable for women to be this aggressive about someone. That’s why I reported this video for promoting terrorism 😂
I recently wrote 'fangirling' as my hobby in my resume...and I researched alot about how I will explain if the HR asks me how to react to the questions related to 'Fangirling'. Now I am relieved thanks to this video🙏 If you have any more suggestions please please please help me🥺 It would mean alot!🙏💗
Yall should go to concerts if you can it is super fun and thrilling esp with all the screams. It's like you share the same happiness and love with everyone else there
DAMN! as a fangirl, i'm crying. this is what people need to know. we are just as sane as the other. we are just as normal as the other. i agree, our scream is not a crazy sound, it is a hopeful sound. i hope no one would ever underestimate and judge fangirls again. let's love with no fear and apology towards the one we love. and let's just respect someone's love and interest towards something and someone because we never know how would 'that person/thing' means to someone. have a good day!♥
where my directioners at???? didnt she summon us? btw....hope you all are doing great!drinking water and eating well..taking care of yourselves!love yoyuuuuuuu
Being a girl, I think that fangirl affection is awesome, but being obsessed with Harry Styles 24/7 is a bit unhealthy in my opinion. Though I had my own share of squealings in my time, hence I do not discourage these young girls from letting out their affections.
Nancy K you can’t hate the girl obsessed with Harry 24/7 because that is how the world is pushing her to behave. The 14 yr girl is told to love harry styles and the 14 yr boy is told to love video games. So in the end, please direct your unhealthy opinion to capitalism
Thank you, Yve Blake, and Ted Ed for this video. I really really love it, it expresses my hidden thoughts so very well. So I’ll start doing what you preach. *I’m ARMY (a BTS fan) and I’m HELLA PROUD!* 💜
Yeahhh, That's the reason why I will never be ashamed to be called a fangirl. All my love for the lads of One Direction! 🌹 Harry, Liam, Niall, Louis & Zayn. ( I know, I know to some there were only 4 left, but in my heart 5. period) Ofcourse, support and love them as a solo artists. ❤And massive thank you for speaker and TED for this! 😍
I am a book girlie, and I have been since I was 11. Maasverse, Twihards, the emergence of BookTok, book cons, online FB book groups. I feel very supported and loved. I am.a fan girl, I am 45, and IDGAF how society sees me.
I get what your saying... it's okay to scream and cry about someone you like even if they don't know you, but harass and shame people who hold other opinions is completely uncalled for and I refuse to let it be because we oppress women
To be willing to kill for a love interest, either it be a game or an idol is psychotic however you spin it. One could even argue that placing a human so far up above all else as to the status of a demigod is psychotic in of itself.
Yes this is why I reported this video for promoting terrorism 😂 this woman’s view of reality is skewed. Her comparison was invalid because guys are held to the same and even stricter rules when it comes to female celebrities and women in general so no there isn’t a double standard if she compared it right instead of framing it as if women are just a victim of their own feelings. It’s any socially unacceptable behavior that stems from lack of self control that is the problem.
Because ANY criticism of female behaviour is obviously caused by sexism, apparently. If you say a female is behaving badly, there will be a TED talk shaming you for criticizing the pure angels that absolutely all women are
@Harry M : Why are you so lost? Just how hard was your heart broken to fill you with such anger? Women are not your enemy. More like you are your own enemy here guy. If you want to be loved, then you yourself have to give love, it's as simple as that. If you can't find it in your heart to love others, then don't blame them for not loving you back dude, it's just simple math.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 hahaha I have a beautiful wife and we love each other, but nice try. I'm actually worried about my children. Marriage rates are going down fast, and that has to do with how courts always side with women (men get resentful and women do whatever they want cause they know they can get away with it). If you stop trying to ad hominem every time you hear criticism, you might actually see the problem.
Sure, being passionate about your interests and loving things is great, no matter if you're male or female, but... believing you're going to marry Harry Styles because you're willing to slit people's throat over it is crazy and delusional. It's not OK at any age. Also imagine what it's like to be a famous person and not being able to have a normal life and go to public places because a mob of crazy fans, crying, yelling and shrieking will come running after you and trample over everything and everyone in their way... People need to chill. Seriously.
Totally agree you sould let your feelings out whoever you are, but this feeling of protection people have with famous people sometimes really looks maniac. And it is not just with famous people, football is a good example as well. It is still scary
"Fangirls know how to love something without fear or apology" a very true statement.
Let's not forget that a group of 1D fans hacked into an airport security system to see when the band entered the airport. That's skill man
Wait what!
Lmfao that is.. actually amazing 😂😂😂😂
As a directionner, i wasn't aware of that. 😂
@@lucyl15 lol😂😂 I love the clown memes
That's a felony
She radiates such happy energy with the way she talks, what she says and her dress :D
She is good at what she does! She is full of enthusiasm and energy and they both are contagious. God bless her.
The whole reason I went to my first BTS concert was to experience a stadium full of fangirls. I'm 48 and I'm an ARMY and loving 7 strangers makes me happy and so be it. Do you!
💜💜💜
🥰🥰
Yeah I do
Of course because literally nobody has a problem with that. She's looking to cause a problem where none exists.
Football fans are genuinely insane and scary too.
sometimes I'd see videos of them getting super mad that their team lost a game or something, they'll destroy the tv or anything they can find because they're that angry. In my country, sports fans can get a liiiiiittle bit overboard where they tend to physically fight(?) people but it would often be seen as passionate because most of them are men.
@@shreena96 while it hasn't happened in the last couple years (as fas as I'm aware), it isn't uncommon in my country for fans of different football teams to kill each other. Not like everyday common, but it did happen every once in a while. Fans would sometimes just riot after big games.
@@IamClipsus that's just so bizarre to me and no one seems to care that much if it happens imo. I've never heard of assault or murder cases involving fangirls and yet they're described as crazy or "will hurt you if you cross them" type of people
@@shreena96 the main difference is that grown men are obviously more likely to hurt each other. We are built physically and mentally to fight, it's what we do. Large groups united under a single banner take us back to the 'tribe mentality', so it is no surprise that that kind of environment often fosters violence. Comparing hooligans (that is the word, right?) with fangirls doesn't make much sense tho. Yeah, you don't see them fighting outside of concert halls, but then again, you don't see fans of "rival" bands outside of those concert halls either, so who would they fight? Besides, saying "football fans are crazy" is no argument against "fangirls are crazy", which kind of struck me as the point of the video. Idk.
Lord Clipsus It all comes down to the same thing which is passion. Those behaviours are seen as a part of the whole "sports culture" and acceptable eventho sometimes violence may take place and there's a hint of toxic too. I'm comparing both parties here mainly because of how society reacts to them and their level of acceptance, that's all.
Idk why im tearing up when watching this. "Is she crazy/psycho" is the most often heard phrase since i became an ARMY in 2015 when i was just 10 years old.
*FANGIRLS' SCREAM IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN MY ENTIRE LIFE*
love myself love your self peace.
I'm a screaming fangirl!
i also cried while watching JDKSHADKJAH oh well
I don’t really know how, but I KNEW this was going to be about Harry Styles.
Anytime someone says fangirls its always 1D or Harry Styles
impact
Same 😂
Same,his fangirls are way too crazy...my best friend is one of them too
@@user-pw9ie9ou7t did you not listen to the video? Did u rly just say crazy after that 😅 wth
Sis snapped about the double standard
Madi Menzies it’s not a double standard. Guys who do the same things as fangirls for female celebrities are creepy too. Minus the squeal. Nobody is the exception. Just like men can cross the line so can women. It’s not about feelings bribed validated it about having a socially respectable level of self control. This women’s comparison from music fans to sports fans shows a skewed view of the world because they are two completely different forms of entertainment so her double standard remark is invalid and along with it her whole argument. It would make sense if she said men can be just as crazy with female stars but we can’t. In fact we can’t be anything more than enthusiastic. I see girls in the comments talking about affection for a person they don’t even spend time with. From a dudes point of view that’s not allowed if he want and if he does that it’s not something he could tell the girl straight off that bat because she doesn’t know him that way but if she find out that he thinks he knows her that way that makes him stalkerish. That’s the creepy part. One sided affection is where it goes to far.
@@Roan.bot. It's a double standard. Males don't admire women for their talent, skills or achievements, so her comparison between fangirls of boybands and fanboys of sports is equivalent and works perfectly to exemplify the double standard she is talking about. Your comment is absolutely irrelevant.
@@Roan.bot. bruh, NO ONE ASKED
11:29 is the most beautiful sound you can hear at a concert! Knowing that you share the same enthusiasm and passion with thousands of other people is just magnificent
I was afraid of another critical point of view on people who simply give a lot of love and passion in what inspires them and makes them happy... Turns out I am actually not disappointed. Thank you. 💜
😉💜🙋🏿♀️
True
Why did that fangirl scream from the crowd make me tear up 😭 it was a quite powerful and wonderful statement!
This lady is the voice of reason for fangirls.
Loved when she pointed out how boys understand they must suppress emotion by the age of 4 and glossed over the horror of this completely
Agree. But that would (and should) be a whole separate TED talk ❤
Imagine being a woman and liking a band that sings in a different language..that's double the prejudice lmao (edit : being Asian and liking a band from Asia, that's triple the prejudice. I've seen enough on Twitter lol)
Facts 👌
That's me. Woman, likes music from other cultures. Though I fail to see why that's bad.
@Sweet Epiphany : Yea, not sure I get what OP's point is.
But I agree with liking music from other cultures. I grew up listening to all sorts of music from all over the world. My dad was a musician too, and later I became a guitarist, instructor and recording engineer. I mix all sort of musical styles in my own compositions too. From, Japanese and Arabic modes, Indian and Balkan rhythms, to blues, country and jazz.
Even and especially when I play in progressive metal bands, it's fun and interesting to toss in something from another culture. But also, that sort of thing is a staple for jazz-rock fusion etc, witch is what I love most.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Ah same! My father is also a musician. Hence I easily had access to listening to different music. Isn't the point of music to be global and heard and loved by everyone? I never understand why it has to be limited by one's ethnicity or where they're from.
Imagine being a woman expressing the fact that she likes a band that sings in a different language, in a world full of prejudice towards women and people of a different race/speak a different language without fearing judgment and hate. That's damn bravery.
Come on women 💪💜
When I read the title i thought about BTS/ Army tbh
me too😂😂
Same
Me too because I am one of these fan girls. hahah.
I'm 30+ though. Too old for delulu mode. I just like their music and their funny yet sincere personalities.
Saaa~me, that's why I clicked, lmao
Me too hahaha
Tedx Talks: Who am I?
Fans: You are our Life 💜
When i was in college, I hate how fangirls act until i became one. Years ago, i just don't get why do they scream and do stuff with high enthusiasm but when i became one, ITS A WHOLE NEW PERSPECTIVE IN LIFE!
I started doing things i didn't know im able to do; like, having friends all over the world and create meaningful memories with them, composing and writing music and lyrics with them to dedicate to our faves, i started being more open to how i see the world, compare to who i was before i am now more compassionate and understanding to the people around me, i also get to learn educational stuff about literature, science, language, history, social issues, and great topics i wasnt able to learn at uni.
Being part of BTS ARMY is a gift for many people. Not all people understand us but all the things we do for our boys, its all out of love. BTS also loves us back by dedicating their music to us and teaching us to love ourselves so that we can give real love to others too and also to not give up on our dreams and work hard for it because at one point of someday, everything we did will exactly what we will be.
I enjoyed the tedtalk a lot 💜💜
I wonder what would happen if they paid you to listen to their music.
@@3dmodeldoctor473 bruh I would have been a millionaire
Amen, sister!💜💜💜
True 💜
My level of fangirl reach to the point if I met my idols in front of me I wouldn't scream to them, try to approach them, touch them, chase them, take photos of them in their private times neither ask for a photo with them, because I love them so much and also respect them so much as a person, that would never do something that could make them feel uncomfortable, I would be happy just by looking at them, never touch, never stalk, that's what a true fangirl do
thank you for this --> "Fangirls know how to love something without apology or fear". Those are powerful words
fangirls are scary but fotball fanboys are so much scarier they legit kill each other
Thank you from the bottom of my heart...I've become a fangil of the Beatles back in 2010...then fell for One Direction in 2017 and currently my biggest love since last year is BTS. I'm turning 28 years old in 2 months and I'm not ashamed anymore. .I'm not ashamed of letting the world know that boy bands are my biggest source of happiness, joy and comfort. I hope the world starts taking fangils as seriously as we deserve.
Being a fangirl isn't bad as long as you know your limits. 💜
Yes, some of those things are intrusive and a bit scary. It's easier to teach those limits I suspect when people's enthusiasm is embraced and respected, and say if we don't police emotional expression in men maybe things will also get better? I don't know if the whole deal with sexism is just teaching emotional control gone awry. Invasion of the body snatchers used a high-pitched scream to indicate a non-converted human which is interesting: and honestly, which is scarier - enthusiastic men in terms of far right football firms, incels & stalkers have committed far more actual murders and terrorist incidents as far as I am aware!
When the screamed I legit cry they just sound exactly like us on the shows and I feel like they finally understand that exciting feeling of loving someone this much
Am I the only one who thought about kpop fans 😂💛
yes i immediately thought about us (kpop fans)
Lmaoo
@@by_oshin Hi fellow ARMY!
We're not all that crazy 😂
I was waiting for that all clip 😂
thinking about when directioners hacked the airport security for 1d.... historical
The way that she described fangirls made me proud that Iam a one 😁💛
The way they describe anything in TED talks is always rubbing the subject in the right way. People not only learn from their mistakes, they must also receive a feed-back of this mistake. One does not learn from a mistake he never knew he committed. I'm afraid this is the issue here, we are literally in the middle of a giant Survivorship bias, where people who survived to tell the tales, come and talk about how you should quit your precious job to travel, how your instinct is always right, how anything you thought was negative in yourself is in actually a strength, etc. I never saw TED Talks about how people attempted things but got nothing positive in the end, yet it's much more common in real life.
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Wow .. I have just captured your reply to come and see it when I need .. your words are precious & contain alot of wise 💛
SAME! I won't stop loving Sally Hardesty 😁❤️
Well threatening to slit someone's throat just to be with someone is pretty messed up
I don't think the person really meant it. Maybe time will come they'll realize it's not right
And maybe a diehard football fan would do the same
Eshita Singh More like they CAN’T do it.
That just says you're not a fangirl. Nobody means that
that's gen z's joke and it's pretty normal. go to twitter
What fangirls need to learn, is how to be a fan, and how to be respectful at the same time. To understand that the people they look up to are just human beings. That social rejection will be the result of their lack of balance between logic and emotion. Never too late to teach control
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Cullen yes
thanks for mansplaining normal social behaviors. men that follow football teams should do the same instead of causing damage to property after their team wins.
@@cysounds agreed. Not mansplaining now. Checkmate
I agree. I don’t think the problem is that they admire that person, it’s that they make life hard for that person and sometimes for people around them. Sometimes love is sacrificing what you want for the sake of their privacy, or just for people in general. I mean, breaking into an airport! Way to surprise me with what direction she took this though! Definitely made me think.
Since being a fangirl I have made things that I never imagine I could be able to do before. Travel alone to another country for the first time, get out of a concert and immediately put in line for going to the same concert in the order day, stay there for 19 hours until the concert starts, being able to sleep just like 1 hour (after screaming and jumping the day before), eating just like 1 hamburger during the 2 days because I was so nervous I wasn't able to eat, going to the bathroom just one time during the whole day I was in the file, don't drinking enough water because I was scared of needing to pee after that, and yet be stand during 3 hours screaming and jumping until my throat hurts. I'm really surprised that I didn't faint... this is why I really think that being a fangirl gives you super powers, I just lost my voice for one week.
I was able to travel to brazil and see BTS live for the first time, and it worth it
As an older ARMY, HALLELUJAH. Our young women should never be afraid to express themselves fully.
I love her energy
Thanks really I’m no more going to be ashamed of the word “fangirl”as a noun to describe me,and If I hear my idols name I’m gonna hold my head up and talk about them freely without thinking about judgments♥︎♥︎
Yes!!!
Yesx2!
SAME! I'm not ashamed of loving Sally Hardesty ❤️😁
This is dedicated to ARMY, I know it.
I concur - from a 38 year old ARMY. ☺️☺️💜
27 year old ARMY. I'm also claiming this video for us lol.
And also for my daughter. She's only 2 now, but I want her to be fully supported in her passion and enthusiasm throughout life.
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24 years old army ✌
Ive never felt more alive and full of joy than in the middle of a crowd of 86k fellow Army at Metlife, screaming, chanting and dancing with abandon, filled with pure excitement.
I'll chase that feeling the rest of my life ..but hopefully Ill be able to see a few more BTS concerts before that ;)
It is not lost on me that she’s wearing an outfit extremely reminiscent of Taylor Swift’s lover era for a video that was originally posted feb 2020 ❤️
As long as you don't go hurting people or killing people, it's fine to be a fangirl.
Or even hurting yourself. There are fangirls that cut themselves and stuff for their idols. I'm a huge fangirl too but the craziest thing I've done as a fangirl is having 800+ pics of Sally Hardesty
@@user-pw9ie9ou7t girl i have 11,000+ pics of enhypen 😂
n don't get me wrong people, its the pictures they released officially that i collect, i never take their pict without consent or doing weird things abt it so don't call me crazy istg
I really love THIS ONE. I'm a fangirl and I never felt ashamed and listening to her made me even prouder
Me too!
This is so necessary
Thanks a lot, I really enjoued this funny and yet so eyes opening talk
This would have been the best reference for my sociology assignment 3 years ago 😭😭 love Yve's work!
It's ok to love things and people but building a shrine to someone's vomit actually IS mental.
alihaggis78 you are the first person I’ve found in the comments who doesn’t think like a sociopath. Everyone else thinks it’s perfectly fine to tell someone who doesn’t know you that you fantasize about having their baby. Because that’s what the majority of sports fans are doing.
It's just a funny example of a extreme. Most fangirls are just happy with content of their beloved thing.
i think it was meant to show one of the extremes of fan girls... most aren't like that lol.. also with fan fiction ( i don't read it but i have friends that do and they have said this) if you ask the writer a lot of the time when they write using the names of these celebrities it's like they make a new personality for them and don't think of it as anything that could be real? just like a character in a book.. some would say that is wrong to do too, but i think it's better than believing you could get pregnant with their child..? lol
You guys never played aggressive shooter video games? Research showed that people who play those are NOT more likely to commit murder. Here is the thing: enjoying a fantasy to the fullest, even a creepy one, together with other fangirls, does NOT mean they don't know that reality is different. It's a social thing, and gives endorphines in lonely times. Fanfic is NOT representative of what they think is going to happen. Duh...
@@SkittyBlackfire agree. Me myself love violent and gore themed stories and but i actually weak and scared to death to see one in real life.
I would much rather live a life full of loving something to the fullest of my ability and being excited about it as much as I want rather than being worried what other people think. 💜 amazing Ted talk!
This woman has a beautiful soul and such a positive energy!
At last someone enlighten the enthusiastic power of a Fangirl, not just only in that room but to all who would gonna watch this video across the world.
I love how this was posted on the ninth anniversary of One Direction. Someone planned that really well. 😂
1D the biggest boy band and this talk is on point!
haha!! ikr
This video is a blessing
Edit: Also, I think it's safe to say that you can call a fan girl crazy when she puts needles in a cookie and feeds it to an artist over different opinions on character designe.
I heard this TED x Talk on a Spotify Podcast and before it had even started I just knew it was about Harry Styles
You know what's sad? That fangirls do more things for theirs idols, than for themselves.
Love this for young girls and passionate women all over the world 💜
Not a fangirl but I'm a big fan of this speaker. She was awesome!
One of my favourite TED talk I ever saw. Very clear message and very fun to watch at the same time. I watched because I am a fangirl as well (not boy bands)
I am reminded of a passage in Douglas Adams' novel "Dirk Genty's Holistic Detective Agency" in which a venerable old professor points to a particular cobblestone and remarks, "Wordsworth once got sick on that brick. Great man."
The part where everyone screamed brought me back to the first time I saw One Direction and the screen was lifted and they walked out. My stomach dropped, my heart raced, and tears came to my eyes.
And as a 20 year old, I was made fun of for that. As a 25 year old now, I still get made fun of my love for One Direction but nobody says anything to my boyfriend and his hockey obsession.
I loved this TED talk.
I feel like this is gonna attack Fans of anyone and generalize us as crazy and obsessive. Lets see if I’m proven wrong...
(Update: I was wrong and I am so glad I was wrong, ARMYs💜)
How can you expect an attack from a grown woman in a dress COVERED in HUGE sequins!? 💜💜💜😊😊😊
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that was a wonderful TED talk! and I absolutely agree with her, but I also see many things in fandoms that actually are very problematic (like the "shipping" or fetishizing of people)
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Aninja the shipping can be okay if ppl don’t go overboard but that’s impossible and happens in literally every aspect of everything. The fetishizing too. It’s all about how ppl look at things. That’s why there are so many kinks going “mainstream”
This is one of the BEST Ted Talks ever! The way she's combined humor, facts, stories, audience interaction, and a new unprecedented point of view on a glob issue is 💓 and her energy!!!!!! 💓💓💓
Boys are told not to cry at 4?? Uh where ? Maybe 50 years ago. All the parents I see now embrace emotions and encourage feelings almost to the point it’s annoying.
I think this talk was two years ago, also she's referring to the generation she grew up in, where there were fathers in the home. Now mothers tell their sons to embrace their emotions, cry and lean on their women when they need them.
I just got here after watching The Rise of Bangtan - chapter 21: Magic Shop.
Thank you! Thank you, Yve Blake!
One of the most entertaining and enlightening ted talks
I've never seen a young boy write fanfics about him marrying his favorite football player...
That's what you think..
@@MaiaPalazzo uh, no, i can say for a fact i've never seen that. I think I know my own memories better than you, mate. lol
@@CanyonF You're clearly the young boy you're citing.. but whatever kid. 👋
Canyon F go to wattpad
I never see fangirl punch another fangirl of rival band til death either but go off i guess
you should've shown the san siro fan project by 1D fans to further cement your point
Ok but why am I crying-
I’m a fan girl of The Vampire Diaries Universe. It’s adults who watched the show in high school/college and it’s nostalgia for us. We are crazy…but god we love this show with passion. People judge us as crazy adults and we are. But that’s okay because TVD got me through COVID.
This was going a different direction as I thought. loved it!
fandom is scary no matter what gender arrangement
Man, She knows how to tell a story!!!
i love her outfit
I don’t think it’s a gender issue. Anyone who tells me they’d slit someone’s throat to be with some famous person they’ve never met is a crazy fangirl. Tell me I’m wrong
Joe Is Awesome and not Mediocre finally someone who sees what wrong with validating this type of behavior just because they are women. Men who do the same with female celebrities are considered a threat to society. There is no double standard accept for the fact that it’s actually more acceptable for women to be this aggressive about someone. That’s why I reported this video for promoting terrorism 😂
I recently wrote 'fangirling' as my hobby in my resume...and I researched alot about how I will explain if the HR asks me how to react to the questions related to 'Fangirling'. Now I am relieved thanks to this video🙏 If you have any more suggestions please please please help me🥺 It would mean alot!🙏💗
her presentation was awesome..... she is incredibly talented
Yall should go to concerts if you can it is super fun and thrilling esp with all the screams.
It's like you share the same happiness and love with everyone else there
KIM NAMJOON 사랑해!!!!!!!!
Loved this so much made me cry like a fangirl at the end.
Oh my I got as overwhelmed as she did by the end! I almost let out a fangirl scream from behind my screen too!
DAMN! as a fangirl, i'm crying. this is what people need to know. we are just as sane as the other. we are just as normal as the other. i agree, our scream is not a crazy sound, it is a hopeful sound. i hope no one would ever underestimate and judge fangirls again. let's love with no fear and apology towards the one we love. and let's just respect someone's love and interest towards something and someone because we never know how would 'that person/thing' means to someone. have a good day!♥
I'm totally fangirling over her Taylor Swift Outfit!!!
I forking LOVE this!!
i absolutely loved this!!!!!
where my directioners at???? didnt she summon us?
btw....hope you all are doing great!drinking water and eating well..taking care of yourselves!love yoyuuuuuuu
Being a girl, I think that fangirl affection is awesome, but being obsessed with Harry Styles 24/7 is a bit unhealthy in my opinion. Though I had my own share of squealings in my time, hence I do not discourage these young girls from letting out their affections.
Nancy K you can’t hate the girl obsessed with Harry 24/7 because that is how the world is pushing her to behave. The 14 yr girl is told to love harry styles and the 14 yr boy is told to love video games. So in the end, please direct your unhealthy opinion to capitalism
Thank you, Yve Blake, and Ted Ed for this video. I really really love it, it expresses my hidden thoughts so very well.
So I’ll start doing what you preach. *I’m ARMY (a BTS fan) and I’m HELLA PROUD!* 💜
Yeahhh, That's the reason why I will never be ashamed to be called a fangirl. All my love for the lads of One Direction! 🌹 Harry, Liam, Niall, Louis & Zayn. ( I know, I know to some there were only 4 left, but in my heart 5. period) Ofcourse, support and love them as a solo artists. ❤And massive thank you for speaker and TED for this! 😍
I LOVED THIS!!!! Thank you for sharing this!
in the beginnen I was sceptical but in the middle i changed my mind. she is so cool and this is so true. More people need to see this
Wow this really made me feel better about myself
Yehet!
really love this, thank you!! ❤👏
I am a book girlie, and I have been since I was 11. Maasverse, Twihards, the emergence of BookTok, book cons, online FB book groups. I feel very supported and loved. I am.a fan girl, I am 45, and IDGAF how society sees me.
I was so touched by this thank you💕💕💕💕
I get what your saying... it's okay to scream and cry about someone you like even if they don't know you, but harass and shame people who hold other opinions is completely uncalled for and I refuse to let it be because we oppress women
To be willing to kill for a love interest, either it be a game or an idol is psychotic however you spin it. One could even argue that placing a human so far up above all else as to the status of a demigod is psychotic in of itself.
Yes this is why I reported this video for promoting terrorism 😂 this woman’s view of reality is skewed. Her comparison was invalid because guys are held to the same and even stricter rules when it comes to female celebrities and women in general so no there isn’t a double standard if she compared it right instead of framing it as if women are just a victim of their own feelings. It’s any socially unacceptable behavior that stems from lack of self control that is the problem.
Yes its psychotic but you are assuming that every fan girls says or does that. There are outliers everywhere, be it fans of sports or movie actors.
@@ipromisethatserendipityisa9656 No I'm not.
Thank you so much ❤ this video is everything!!
As a fangirl, this made me cry
When everyone screamed at the end I had chills it brought me back to all the videos of BTS' concerts that was so beautiful
Same!! I shed tears
As a guy I was thinking “Why not fan boys?” We are guilty of being just as crazy. You should see how crazy some people get with Pokémon Go.
M_911 yes, I was just using Pokémon Go for an example.
Because ANY criticism of female behaviour is obviously caused by sexism, apparently. If you say a female is behaving badly, there will be a TED talk shaming you for criticizing the pure angels that absolutely all women are
@Harry M : Why are you so lost? Just how hard was your heart broken to fill you with such anger? Women are not your enemy. More like you are your own enemy here guy. If you want to be loved, then you yourself have to give love, it's as simple as that. If you can't find it in your heart to love others, then don't blame them for not loving you back dude, it's just simple math.
@@Mr-Thou You sound hurt.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 hahaha I have a beautiful wife and we love each other, but nice try.
I'm actually worried about my children. Marriage rates are going down fast, and that has to do with how courts always side with women (men get resentful and women do whatever they want cause they know they can get away with it).
If you stop trying to ad hominem every time you hear criticism, you might actually see the problem.
Sure, being passionate about your interests and loving things is great, no matter if you're male or female, but... believing you're going to marry Harry Styles because you're willing to slit people's throat over it is crazy and delusional. It's not OK at any age. Also imagine what it's like to be a famous person and not being able to have a normal life and go to public places because a mob of crazy fans, crying, yelling and shrieking will come running after you and trample over everything and everyone in their way... People need to chill. Seriously.
Totally agree you sould let your feelings out whoever you are, but this feeling of protection people have with famous people sometimes really looks maniac.
And it is not just with famous people, football is a good example as well.
It is still scary
That was very entertaining and thought provoking. Great job.
Best Ted Talk in ages, I reckon....
THE WAY I CRIED OVER THIS