Loved the idea of saying “ Did Istikarah and….” Also, so true to not drag it out. It lets you both move on towards finding the person right for you. Thanks sister for this great advice!
Best thing to do is to reject someone directly and kindly, it's better he know that clearly in order to move on, when u don't reject him clearly, he can't move, he still think there's chance while it's not, that's if you care about the person.
As a Muslim man, I have faced rejection from another Muslim woman. After respecting her decision, a month past and I messaged her in a more confrontational way questioning our actions and history. I think I lacked the maturity to be accepting and was too weak to see life without this person. I was too intoxicated with immature and sad emotions. She blocked me on many platforms, and this time I fully understood that I am doing wrong. Now I have the chance to give her space and respect her space without feeling like I'm harassing. I wish my parents taught me to accept rejection as a part of life without being bitter. We don't talk anymore, but i feel deeply regrettable that I was not able to respect the rejection. Allah forgive both of us, especially me Insallah. Have a peaceful life.
I think u can be proud of u because of your process. We are all human and the whole process is a new thing for most of us. We have to be more gentle with ourselves in this topic. May allah helps us to find our righteous person
That's fine! I think we all learn as we meet people. Plus don't consider it as a rejection, Allah has a bigger picture and the reason why it didn't work out is because it wouldn't be better for both of you in the long run. So Alhamdulillah and move on. We tend to cling to that one person we talked to and overthink that he/she is the one. However, it will be good if we have a business mindset when meeting people (as lama said in other video 😅) and eventually Allah will bring loads and loads of khayr - only at His Timings. 😊😊
Exactly.. what makes it tough is when we attach ourselves and care too much about others' feelings... the whole point is not to think about others and only about yourself and become careless about it.
Yeah but not this much! This will show how arrogant and narcissistic a person has become! Respect others feelings and learn to communicate your values effectively!
When you reject someone for no clear reason you hurt them more because you make them questioning they ‘ve done something wrong and they are bad people also at the first place you should not attach people to you when you are not sure you wanna start a relationship with them or not
Why to get hurt by a rejection? If you only understand its Allah's plan and His beautiful Hikmah behind it, you will only thank Allah if they rejected you. Also, I don't feel we should consider it as a rejection but Allah's signs and your answered prayers. Maybe it wouldn't have worked in the long run so Allah knows best! We tend to cling to that one person whom we think in our mind will be our future spouse and then we overthink and when it doesn't work or someone says a clear NO. It feels as though life has fallen apart lol. Point is that we need to keep trusting His plan and also ask Allah for clarity on that person. It works, Alhamdulillah! 😊
How come you give time to someone to get to know you? Whoa! beautiful! The caravan will go on... If anyone approaches you, tell him/her to meet your parents or your guardian... and Settle thereafter... Don't take things into the lizard hole... Why the question of prolongation comes in the first place? Sheer apocalyptic intelligence! Good luck...
If I’m not mistaken, aren’t you supposed to make a decision before doing istikhara? In other words, some people don’t feel anything after praying istikhara and pinning the decision on istikhara makes it a lie when rejecting someone
What are you guys talking about? Doing istikhara after making a decision? For what reason praying then? Brothers, istikhara should be made before making decisions! Because you seek guidance from the Almighty and you’re waiting to see it is right to decide to do something!!
Exactly! So isn't it better to perform Istikhara before you talk to that person? And eventually, the conversation will make sense as you will get clarity from Allah. Alhamdulillah 😊
Be considerate and dont ghost or drag it on
Loved the idea of saying “ Did Istikarah and….” Also, so true to not drag it out. It lets you both move on towards finding the person right for you. Thanks sister for this great advice!
Best thing to do is to reject someone directly and kindly, it's better he know that clearly in order to move on, when u don't reject him clearly, he can't move, he still think there's chance while it's not, that's if you care about the person.
As a Muslim man, I have faced rejection from another Muslim woman. After respecting her decision, a month past and I messaged her in a more confrontational way questioning our actions and history. I think I lacked the maturity to be accepting and was too weak to see life without this person. I was too intoxicated with immature and sad emotions. She blocked me on many platforms, and this time I fully understood that I am doing wrong. Now I have the chance to give her space and respect her space without feeling like I'm harassing. I wish my parents taught me to accept rejection as a part of life without being bitter. We don't talk anymore, but i feel deeply regrettable that I was not able to respect the rejection. Allah forgive both of us, especially me Insallah. Have a peaceful life.
I think u can be proud of u because of your process. We are all human and the whole process is a new thing for most of us. We have to be more gentle with ourselves in this topic. May allah helps us to find our righteous person
@@sapok4925 Thank you for your kind words :)
@@pebblebooch5449 you’re welcome ☺️
That's fine! I think we all learn as we meet people. Plus don't consider it as a rejection, Allah has a bigger picture and the reason why it didn't work out is because it wouldn't be better for both of you in the long run. So Alhamdulillah and move on.
We tend to cling to that one person we talked to and overthink that he/she is the one. However, it will be good if we have a business mindset when meeting people (as lama said in other video 😅) and eventually Allah will bring loads and loads of khayr - only at His Timings. 😊😊
@@beenish8189 Thank you, you are right
Exactly.. what makes it tough is when we attach ourselves and care too much about others' feelings... the whole point is not to think about others and only about yourself and become careless about it.
Yeah but not this much! This will show how arrogant and narcissistic a person has become!
Respect others feelings and learn to communicate your values effectively!
When you reject someone for no clear reason you hurt them more because you make them questioning they ‘ve done something wrong and they are bad people also at the first place you should not attach people to you when you are not sure you wanna start a relationship with them or not
Why to get hurt by a rejection? If you only understand its Allah's plan and His beautiful Hikmah behind it, you will only thank Allah if they rejected you. Also, I don't feel we should consider it as a rejection but Allah's signs and your answered prayers. Maybe it wouldn't have worked in the long run so Allah knows best!
We tend to cling to that one person whom we think in our mind will be our future spouse and then we overthink and when it doesn't work or someone says a clear NO. It feels as though life has fallen apart lol.
Point is that we need to keep trusting His plan and also ask Allah for clarity on that person. It works, Alhamdulillah! 😊
@@beenish8189 you are right, jazakoum allahu khairan
How come you give time to someone to get to know you? Whoa! beautiful! The caravan will go on... If anyone approaches you, tell him/her to meet your parents or your guardian... and Settle thereafter... Don't take things into the lizard hole... Why the question of prolongation comes in the first place? Sheer apocalyptic intelligence! Good luck...
If I’m not mistaken, aren’t you supposed to make a decision before doing istikhara?
In other words, some people don’t feel anything after praying istikhara and pinning the decision on istikhara makes it a lie when rejecting someone
Istikhara isn't a "feeling." You are right that you have to make a decision before praying and then act on it after praying.
@@omariyile7549i don’t disagree, that’s what I’m saying; that there is no feeling after doing istikhara
What are you guys talking about? Doing istikhara after making a decision? For what reason praying then?
Brothers, istikhara should be made before making decisions! Because you seek guidance from the Almighty and you’re waiting to see it is right to decide to do something!!
No! Other way around! U have to pray istikhara and then see and decide!
Exactly! So isn't it better to perform Istikhara before you talk to that person? And eventually, the conversation will make sense as you will get clarity from Allah. Alhamdulillah 😊
Salam aleykum dear sister