To anyone reading this I want you to know that it was never your fault. These people were broken and had issues long before you came across them. You are a whole lot stronger than you know and LOVED by so many. Your smart and kind,and beautiful inside out!! In 2025 we have to stand on business, stand your ground, walk away and stay away from any and all extremely toxic PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS!! And never forget that God is watching 👀 all things and every man reaps what he sows!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
❤❤❤❤ So true been thar Those unstable creatures areas real as the devil himself 💩 I be with him for 16 years it seem like a life time until I ran across Lee n his powerful positivity n two others that actually made me understand wat I was truly dealing with n yes he told every one I was an alcoholic n was crazy no not a alcoholic just was drinking to numb the hurt n pain now im 2 years free n feeling my power back n I am NOT going to change my way of thinking anymore Power to all who made it back to life from a unhealthy relationship ❤❤❤🙏🏽😇👍🏾
@rosieingram6893 7 years no contact in July 2025 for me. I'm here ONLY BECAUSE OF MY HEAVENLY FATHER JEHOVAH GOD!!! listen don't react or respond to anything said negative about you. People who love and care about you know the truth 💯 percent! Stay strong always and CONTINUE LOVING SELF,IT'S SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I continue to move forward after a lifetime of following and supporting a covert Narc. I am fighting uphill everyday for my kids and my freedom, good luck to everyone doing the same.
That is the exact reason that got me caught up. I kept saying, "There is no way they are doing this purposefully." I then realized that their actions were intentional. It was easier to break free.
Thank you for everything you share. I figured my fool out, and you sealed the deal I'm not crazy. It's sickening, how how this man mind thinks. He is a covert narcissist. I learned how to play with his head just as he tried to play in mine. Is it worth it NO ITS BEST WALKING AWAY. It also feel good it runs him crazy he can't control me. The relationship is very toxic. I became cold like him and I ran him straight out the house and I'm at peace.
Spot on. She started recording my reactions to her abuse and set me up in public to try to make me look crazy. She even called the cops and claimed I barricaded her room
They love to record you and use it against you they are always setting you up for their own amusement and supply it’s all a game to them for drama and attention. I understand and I’m sorry that you have to go through this it’s heartbreaking
Until I reached my mid 30s, I always gave my narcissist parents the benefit of the doubt, and always gave them another chance. Once God shows you the Truth, you will never unsee it. God Bless.
I agree my ex narc has hurt me too what I thought was non repairable but @ the same time I learned so much about myself with him. I know once I'm fully healed I'm going to be stronger mentally than ever before. It's weird how he would verbally put me down and @ the same time give me encouraging words. It was so weird.
@@nicolebreland3381 so very true. A Narc neighbor a man caused me to move out of my apartment. And the day I moved he bought a moving truck and parked it next to mine. It was so creepy.
I am convinced that he purposely watched me struggle and wanted to see me go down because he was holding a grudge for something I was constantly trying to repay him for
I feel like I was the one who did something wrong for calling him out and telling him that he was just masks and lies. I told him he had no integrity. He goes to church and then cheats, lies, gaslights, etc.
Yep he'd also said all the things he was doing..controlling my phone, control over every life aspect email , social media, doctors, bills, bank account etc. Never letting me drive or visit family was all because he was keeping me safe and for my own good.
Its all about power and control. It was never about you. Or love or about working as a couple. It's ALL power and control. The sooner you realise it....the faster you can heal. Theres no need to hate them though. They are already suffering inside by just existing. Just stay away. You don't want that energy to harm you or your kids.
I think my ex husband was on a scale of “crazy” like this of like 8 out of 10 of darkness . He hurt me then healed me. Bankruptcy 3 times, idk how many cars repoed, 3 houses lost, would hide my keys and find them. I was too sick to leave. I was 78lbs on a feeding tube and bedridden. I was 100 percent dependent on him for the past 11 yrs. I’ve been divorced for 6 months now
Wow! That is crazy…. That’s how my spouse is, trying to play hero . He does all these hurtful things and say hurtful things and then act like he’s doing a good thing when it’s a wrong thing to do.
This is what I needed to ignite me finishing working through all I have been through. 10 years with the narc and Lee pinpoints exactly the ways he was hurting me: setting me up so he would look like the victim and make others think I was crazy, hurting me so he could play hero, and purposely triggering me to make me look crazy and so he would be entertained. If I had any doubts he was a narc, this video just confirmed it for me. Thanks, Lee.
I had a narcissist coworker who got me fired from a job I liked. On PURPOSE. Created a smear campaign against me and got me fired. Unfortunately, I did go off out of anger and the company defended that person. My former co-worker has been problematic from years (from what I heard) and the company refused to do anything about this person. This person did a laundry list of things to me and when they got me fired, that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. The company of course didn’t believe my side of the story either. What has happened to me has made me honestly never want to trust anyone (mainly men) ever again.
OMG!!! I have definitely experience that I worked with someone and they keep confusion going on a lot and they do it so that they can swoop in and rescue and save the day. They create confusion or a problem that no one else can fix. No suggestions at anybody else comes up with fixes it and they do this so that they can come in and create the peace and be the all powerful Oz this is so on point.
I’m still thanking Lee for telling me not to get upset for “poking the bear” defending myself and telling the narcissist (my husband) his faults after he read me the riot act for not letting him (husband) know the mail carrier didn’t come yet. I was told I was stupid, lazy and my mother brought me up wrong (among other things). Defending and coming back with his faults-Something I know you’re not suppose to do with narcs. Well, Lee made me feel better saying that sometimes a person needs to speak up a little. And of course, the narcissist, after 10 minutes was pleasant, talking about great things he was going to do, and his favorite tv shows! Wow, it’s like he didn’t know he was so upset minutes ago for marrying a stupid, lazy, selfish woman, a pimple on society! These people are so hurtful! It’s been a long time since I stood up for myself but I do remember after the yelling and name calling is over, he is pleasant like nothing ever happened. So, there’s no use in feeling bad, because it’s like nothing ever was said!
Went NC after he cancelled our lunch date saying he has something to do and it has nothing to do with me and that he doesn’t have to tell me everything. I’m sick and tired of being the only one who works on the relationship while he does nothing. Last conversation I ripped him 3 new ones. He needed to know. I’m too done‼️‼️
They get their sick kicks off of feeling important and significant when they've provoked you.The most recent narc I met could go full King Kong at the drop of a hat! For real!!! She made the bunny boiler from Fatal Attraction look like Bambi.
I feel like he enjoys me struggling and wants me to beg and ask for help so he can feel like he did something or to make himself looks good. I feel like he gets excitement when I couldnt pass my NCLEX cause he knows when I pass , he knows I won’t need him at all.
"Hurt people hurt people." I can't stand this saying. We've all been hurt. Unfortunately, that's what being a human means. Some choose to pass their pain on to others while some do not. We make choices. It's such a lame excuse to perpetuate evil. This was definitely said to me by my lying and cheating ex. In the end, I found out he had a whole separate life going on. We all make mistakes. I was willing to forgive him but he wouldn't stop his horrible behaviors. Continuously hurting others over and over again takes "hurt people hurt people" off the table. If you're hurting, ask God to help you. Go to a therapist; do something positive. Stop hurting other people!! Stop making bad choices.
Their hurts belong 2 them n them alone. We r sorry they r hurt. That is NOT an excuse 2 hurt others. N never will b. N we hav an absolute right 2 not speak 2 them, not get involved w/ them, n refuse 2 allow them 2 harm us. Just bc THEY r hurt DOES NOT mean that WE hav 2 b their punching bags. THEY get 2 do e work of healing. If they do? Good. If they don't, then we will walk away until they do. If they refuse 2 do so, then they will never hav us in their lives. We r so tired of all e excuses ppl make 4 them. I am doing e hard work of healing from all e damage they inflicted on me. W/ help. They need 2 do e same.
He is divorced and always disappears/ starts a fight when his ex wife comes around. He wants to fight with me to spend time with her. Until they fight and she leaves.
I belive he hurt me, physically, to either off me or make me leave. So, i finally left. Its been over a year and i still look over my shoulder. I dont trust him to leave me alone. He would help nurse me back to health after he hurt me too.
That just scared me. I knew someone who was told for 15 years that he would kill her one day. Both were re-married with kids! Well, one day, he killed her then himself. You're smart to look around. Especially when you're leaving and returning to your house. These people are stuck in their anger and are out for revenge. Please stay safe. ❣️🙏🙏🙏
Same. I finally left after 31 yrs after he assaulted me for the last time a lil over a year ago. I have a criminal protection order against him for 3 yrs and divorced for 6 months now
Same situation! Always have my head on a swivel! He hit me with my own high heel on my knee and it messed up my nerve and swelled up I couldn’t walk in it for 3 weeks….. But he bought me crutches so I could get around……
Yeps. After 3 years of insisting I add milk AFTER the hot water is put in, he forgot himself and laughed as he said he only did it to mock me because I like my milk in my coffee before hot water is added. I turned to him, shocked, because he had been violent, screaming, smashing things around if I made him a coffee to my preference. When I called him out in the evilness he looked ashamed he'd slipped up with his nastiness and looked evil. Honestly he's evil. Glad I've left him.
I set my notifications on for this video, but didn't watch it when I was notified. Scrolled passed it and it popped up again with 444 views. I told myself let me go ahead and pay attention to the synchronicity and watch this video. This video was definitely confirmation regarding past experiences.
They hurt you because they r sick, cuz they were hurt by mum or dad and never healed. Thats it. SICK. Some of them are aware some not, most aware. RUN. Dont wait to ruin ur life. RUN. No happy ending there.
Yes!! His mom abused him. Doesn’t have a relationship with his parents or his children. He can’t possibly do anything for me. He’s broken and unhealed. He shows no interest in God prayer or healing ❤️🩹
Yes, my narc mom would bring chaos into my life to try to get me angry. If I was angry they played the victim. If a kept my cool, they would get away with it. Either way, they would win. Exhausting. 🤦🏽♀️
The narc I’m about to leave this year is constantly bored, seriously this guy has no life no friends no relationships no hobbies and spends his time in front of a screen for work comes home plonks himself in front of the tv then it’s his phone , until bed 24/7 365 days a year. Pushes every button I don’t react so he keeps on when after months I finally crack it he says “oh are you bored today. Looking for an argument?’ Dude are you for real
My demonic narcissistic ex husband checked all the boxes above. This was him to a “T”. When I watch Lee’s videos, I look back at my “marriage”, shocked that I came out in one piece dealing with someone so dark and so sinister! God is so good!
# 1 reason I left is because he constantly bombarded me with insults saying I was out to destroy him that I was sleeping with every man i ever came into contact with. The insanity was real.
what are they trying to achieve? i mean be rude to me im less likely to do what they want me too i might even walk away and never see me again hows been rude giving them control if they lose their victim? they failed by insults if anything the victim has won by walking away.
@MentalHealness my mother was abusive throughout my childhood. Got a kick out of me being upset. It's a long story, but in my late 30s her final attempt to crush me was, after my husband and I went on a cruise because we never had a honey moon, when we got home, she came about 30 min away to my home and took my 16 year old daughter out of my house in the middle of the night, who was rebelling at the time. When we woke up, we had no idea where my daughter was. To make this short, I took my entire family access to me away including my mother. It was necessary
W/ my Ndad, he had no clue what 2 say next. Autism can be a very good thing 4 not reacting like a neurotypical person. I cd see that my reaction 2 his statements was not what he expected n did not giv him e supply he was angling 4.
They just don’t get it nothing phases them they’ll make you feel guilty and the following day will send you a text message acting like it’s a normal day and when you don’t respond back he or she will make it known that you are doing the things to make them angry. This is childish behavior.
Went no contact after the last verbal attack when his hoover didn't work. 10 days and we work together. Now he's looking for me at work when he arrives. He reverse discarded me. We're divorcing and he's with his affair partner. Why look for me if he's so happy hurting me when he doesn't get his way 🤔
One thing that wasn't mentioned is directing your attention. I believe one reason my ex was constantly causing drama was to prevent me from noticing all the stuff that he was doing behind my back and all the lies he told to cover it up.
Interesting what you talk about at ten minutes in. It's like they'll happily wound you but they'll call you an ambulance type scenario. SO SO twisted and beyond messed up.
Yup they hurt you just to help you and seem like a hero…. Mine messed up my leg so bad I couldn’t walk for 3 weeks but he bought be crutches so that made him a good guy 🙄🤦🏽♀️
My ex narc could not be held accountable. He is demonic after 14 years 3 breakups each time had a baby on the way within 4 weeks. Three different women came back for me to be step mom. Our daughter is a preteen. He has a 6 month old. He was angry I took birth control faithfully. He blamed me for each kid. He tried to break me on purpose and teach me a lesson. God stepped in with him and the new supply. He has No Bond and new supply family is broken just like I was. Karma
You did a Q&A live and kept skipping over my question. I don't even remember it, something about if narcissists have genuine relationships with people. This video topic is different, but is helpful in understanding some past experiences. Whether they can have genuine relationships or not this video was confirmation that the one I experienced wasn't.
Love the opening theme. I wonder if he’s still mad that I “rejected” him years ago because he brought it up a lot in our 15 years together. Of course I’ve no memory of doing this but apparently he tried to get close to me and I was closed off. This was 6 years ago.
Hi! I want to know why my narcissit never hoovered. I confronted him 2 months ago about the lies and cheating and everything else. He blocked me without saying a word and never heard from him again. I found panties in his house also. We were together for a yr.
Narcissist love to leave people with no closure. They also love when you run behind them and keep asking them questions. They love the attention they get. Also learn to find your own closure, and began to heal on your own. STOP asking questions and stop all contact. You will see a big difference ❤
The same parent ruining shit for their kid gutting them on purpose so they can plsy hero to their kid will slso destroy shit w their so-called partner to then turn around and to use lees fav expression clap the cheeks with a vengeance. 😂 My older brother would pull the same power trippy shit when we were kids too. Destroy me snd manipulate to lesve me in tatters when i wss sll of four years old just so he could tend to the wounds snd mske sure my parents or whoever would wstch would be sure to see him being the best big brother. In adulthood I think his discard snd derision of me is bc he can’t stand himself. But yeah this destroy snd stsb you to be the one tending to the wounds thing. Lesve you broke snd worked so they can swoop in snd save the day. Similar to the good bad switch they got you walking on eggshells to not trigger every relational thing for them runs on s switch. This is the switch they put on other people whether it’s their girlfriend their sibling their parent or their own gd kid.
Peaceful, Confident, Popular, Quiet people set them off. They can never relax and feel comfortable in their own skin. Can you say miserable as hell. 🥹🧐😫😡
She definitely does try to set me off. She will say something negative and go off cursing and yelling in a text. When I don’t respond she will text again with some words of “a peace treaty” claiming she’s trying to make peace with me. Ridiculous war & peace at the same time. 🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🫨
To anyone reading this I want you to know that it was never your fault. These people were broken and had issues long before you came across them. You are a whole lot stronger than you know and LOVED by so many. Your smart and kind,and beautiful inside out!! In 2025 we have to stand on business, stand your ground, walk away and stay away from any and all extremely toxic PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS!! And never forget that God is watching 👀 all things and every man reaps what he sows!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
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So true been thar
Those unstable creatures areas real as the devil himself 💩 I be with him for 16 years it seem like a life time until I ran across Lee n his powerful positivity n two others that actually made me understand wat I was truly dealing with n yes he told every one I was an alcoholic n was crazy no not a alcoholic just was drinking to numb the hurt n pain now im 2 years free n feeling my power back n I am NOT going to change my way of thinking anymore
Power to all who made it back to life from a unhealthy relationship
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@rosieingram6893 7 years no contact in July 2025 for me. I'm here ONLY BECAUSE OF MY HEAVENLY FATHER JEHOVAH GOD!!! listen don't react or respond to anything said negative about you. People who love and care about you know the truth 💯 percent! Stay strong always and CONTINUE LOVING SELF,IT'S SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Amen 🙏🏽
I continue to move forward after a lifetime of following and supporting a covert Narc. I am fighting uphill everyday for my kids and my freedom, good luck to everyone doing the same.
That is the exact reason that got me caught up. I kept saying, "There is no way they are doing this purposefully." I then realized that their actions were intentional. It was easier to break free.
Chaos keeps them feeling in control.
When they are bored they need a dopamine hit by hurting others. They get a rise out of it, cruel & sadistic.
Thank you for everything you share. I figured my fool out, and you sealed the deal I'm not crazy. It's sickening, how how this man mind thinks. He is a covert narcissist. I learned how to play with his head just as he tried to play in mine. Is it worth it NO ITS BEST WALKING AWAY. It also feel good it runs him crazy he can't control me. The relationship is very toxic. I became cold like him and I ran him straight out the house and I'm at peace.
Spot on. She started recording my reactions to her abuse and set me up in public to try to make me look crazy. She even called the cops and claimed I barricaded her room
They love to record you and use it against you they are always setting you up for their own amusement and supply it’s all a game to them for drama and attention. I understand and I’m sorry that you have to go through this it’s heartbreaking
Mine wanted to be the hero, the victim, and the good guy - all rolled into one 🤣
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Until I reached my mid 30s, I always gave my narcissist parents the benefit of the doubt, and always gave them another chance. Once God shows you the Truth, you will never unsee it. God Bless.
They hurt you and save you to become more powerful in your life. They become everything in your existence 💯💯
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I agree my ex narc has hurt me too what I thought was non repairable but @ the same time I learned so much about myself with him. I know once I'm fully healed I'm going to be stronger mentally than ever before. It's weird how he would verbally put me down and @ the same time give me encouraging words. It was so weird.
@@nicolebreland3381 so very true. A Narc neighbor a man caused me to move out of my apartment. And the day I moved he bought a moving truck and parked it next to mine. It was so creepy.
Lee cracks me absolutely up! "Can I get a reward. . . in the bedroom?" 🤣
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I am convinced that he purposely watched me struggle and wanted to see me go down because he was holding a grudge for something I was constantly trying to repay him for
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I feel like I was the one who did something wrong for calling him out and telling him that he was just masks and lies. I told him he had no integrity. He goes to church and then cheats, lies, gaslights, etc.
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Yep he'd also said all the things he was doing..controlling my phone, control over every life aspect email , social media, doctors, bills, bank account etc. Never letting me drive or visit family was all because he was keeping me safe and for my own good.
Its all about power and control. It was never about you. Or love or about working as a couple. It's ALL power and control. The sooner you realise it....the faster you can heal. Theres no need to hate them though. They are already suffering inside by just existing. Just stay away. You don't want that energy to harm you or your kids.
It's their conformation to themselves that they matter more than anyone else.
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I think my ex husband was on a scale of “crazy” like this of like 8 out of 10 of darkness . He hurt me then healed me. Bankruptcy 3 times, idk how many cars repoed, 3 houses lost, would hide my keys and find them. I was too sick to leave. I was 78lbs on a feeding tube and bedridden. I was 100 percent dependent on him for the past 11 yrs. I’ve been divorced for 6 months now
He used to pick fights so that he could have a few days off from the relationship to cheat. Took me a while to figure that out.
Omg Lee I told my ex husband when we were married that he seemed to like my Savior and abuser at the same time.
Life is hard enough we don't need anymore narcs here north of Boston,.
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Wow! That is crazy…. That’s how my spouse is, trying to play hero . He does all these hurtful things and say hurtful things and then act like he’s doing a good thing when it’s a wrong thing to do.
Yup. "A bored narcissist is a dangerous narcissist."
This is what I needed to ignite me finishing working through all I have been through. 10 years with the narc and Lee pinpoints exactly the ways he was hurting me: setting me up so he would look like the victim and make others think I was crazy, hurting me so he could play hero, and purposely triggering me to make me look crazy and so he would be entertained. If I had any doubts he was a narc, this video just confirmed it for me. Thanks, Lee.
If there is an attorney out there this should be a crime. We need a law against them. I am out of a million dollars.
I had a narcissist coworker who got me fired from a job I liked. On PURPOSE. Created a smear campaign against me and got me fired. Unfortunately, I did go off out of anger and the company defended that person. My former co-worker has been problematic from years (from what I heard) and the company refused to do anything about this person. This person did a laundry list of things to me and when they got me fired, that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. The company of course didn’t believe my side of the story either. What has happened to me has made me honestly never want to trust anyone (mainly men) ever again.
OMG!!! I have definitely experience that I worked with someone and they keep confusion going on a lot and they do it so that they can swoop in and rescue and save the day. They create confusion or a problem that no one else can fix. No suggestions at anybody else comes up with fixes it and they do this so that they can come in and create the peace and be the all powerful Oz this is so on point.
I’m still thanking Lee for telling me not to get upset for “poking the bear” defending myself and telling the narcissist (my husband) his faults after he read me the riot act for not letting him (husband) know the mail carrier didn’t come yet. I was told I was stupid, lazy and my mother brought me up wrong (among other things). Defending and coming back with his faults-Something I know you’re not suppose to do with narcs. Well, Lee made me feel better saying that sometimes a person needs to speak up a little. And of course, the narcissist, after 10 minutes was pleasant, talking about great things he was going to do, and his favorite tv shows! Wow, it’s like he didn’t know he was so upset minutes ago for marrying a stupid, lazy, selfish woman, a pimple on society! These people are so hurtful! It’s been a long time since I stood up for myself but I do remember after the yelling and name calling is over, he is pleasant like nothing ever happened. So, there’s no use in feeling bad, because it’s like nothing ever was said!
Went NC after he cancelled our lunch date saying he has something to do and it has nothing to do with me and that he doesn’t have to tell me everything. I’m sick and tired of being the only one who works on the relationship while he does nothing. Last conversation I ripped him 3 new ones. He needed to know. I’m too done‼️‼️
‘What you going to do about it?’ and ‘because i can’ were his favourite sayings when confronted. 🤷♀️
Some hurt you to keep you in line ...intimidation or punishment, threatening.
They get their sick kicks off of feeling important and significant when they've provoked you.The most recent narc I met could go full King Kong at the drop of a hat! For real!!! She made the bunny boiler from Fatal Attraction look like Bambi.
Oh my
@CMackenzie-e5u can you elaborate on your experience? I’ve experienced similar, and it was truly terrifying how quickly their disposition changes
I feel like he enjoys me struggling and wants me to beg and ask for help so he can feel like he did something or to make himself looks good. I feel like he gets excitement when I couldnt pass my NCLEX cause he knows when I pass , he knows I won’t need him at all.
Absolutely 💯 confusing and exhausting. Evil is very real.
Hurt people HURT people
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"Hurt people hurt people." I can't stand this saying. We've all been hurt. Unfortunately, that's what being a human means. Some choose to pass their pain on to others while some do not. We make choices. It's such a lame excuse to perpetuate evil. This was definitely said to me by my lying and cheating ex. In the end, I found out he had a whole separate life going on. We all make mistakes. I was willing to forgive him but he wouldn't stop his horrible behaviors. Continuously hurting others over and over again takes "hurt people hurt people" off the table. If you're hurting, ask God to help you. Go to a therapist; do something positive. Stop hurting other people!! Stop making bad choices.
Their hurts belong 2 them n them alone. We r sorry they r hurt. That is NOT an excuse 2 hurt others. N never will b. N we hav an absolute right 2 not speak 2 them, not get involved w/ them, n refuse 2 allow them 2 harm us.
Just bc THEY r hurt DOES NOT mean that WE hav 2 b their punching bags. THEY get 2 do e work of healing. If they do? Good. If they don't, then we will walk away until they do. If they refuse 2 do so, then they will never hav us in their lives.
We r so tired of all e excuses ppl make 4 them. I am doing e hard work of healing from all e damage they inflicted on me. W/ help. They need 2 do e same.
He is divorced and always disappears/ starts a fight when his ex wife comes around. He wants to fight with me to spend time with her. Until they fight and she leaves.
I belive he hurt me, physically, to either off me or make me leave. So, i finally left. Its been over a year and i still look over my shoulder. I dont trust him to leave me alone. He would help nurse me back to health after he hurt me too.
That just scared me. I knew someone who was told for 15 years that he would kill her one day. Both were re-married with kids! Well, one day, he killed her then himself. You're smart to look around. Especially when you're leaving and returning to your house. These people are stuck in their anger and are out for revenge. Please stay safe. ❣️🙏🙏🙏
@silverlakegirl9078 thank you.
Same. I finally left after 31 yrs after he assaulted me for the last time a lil over a year ago. I have a criminal protection order against him for 3 yrs and divorced for 6 months now
Same situation! Always have my head on a swivel! He hit me with my own high heel on my knee and it messed up my nerve and swelled up I couldn’t walk in it for 3 weeks…..
But he bought me crutches so I could get around……
@@DanceChickaDee , what a bastard
I told him I didn’t want to watch ANY NEWS today. He has it on EVERY DAMN TV and wants to give me a play by play!
Oh wow
Omg..... please get out of that house. No matter what you do, you can't fix it. Stop trying to re-arrange the seats on the Titanic.
Yeps. After 3 years of insisting I add milk AFTER the hot water is put in, he forgot himself and laughed as he said he only did it to mock me because I like my milk in my coffee before hot water is added. I turned to him, shocked, because he had been violent, screaming, smashing things around if I made him a coffee to my preference. When I called him out in the evilness he looked ashamed he'd slipped up with his nastiness and looked evil. Honestly he's evil. Glad I've left him.
I set my notifications on for this video, but didn't watch it when I was notified. Scrolled passed it and it popped up again with 444 views. I told myself let me go ahead and pay attention to the synchronicity and watch this video. This video was definitely confirmation regarding past experiences.
Hope you enjoyed it!
@@MentalHealness Yes, thank you for sharing insight on this topic!
They hurt you because they r sick, cuz they were hurt by mum or dad and never healed. Thats it. SICK. Some of them are aware some not, most aware. RUN. Dont wait to ruin ur life. RUN. No happy ending there.
Yes!! His mom abused him. Doesn’t have a relationship with his parents or his children. He can’t possibly do anything for me. He’s broken and unhealed. He shows no interest in God prayer or healing ❤️🩹
My soon to be ex husband used to say that he likes doing stuff to make me mad
So confusing to deal with!!
Def can be
Yes, my narc mom would bring chaos into my life to try to get me angry. If I was angry they played the victim. If a kept my cool, they would get away with it. Either way, they would win. Exhausting. 🤦🏽♀️
Facts! It truly is draining
The narc I’m about to leave this year is constantly bored, seriously this guy has no life no friends no relationships no hobbies and spends his time in front of a screen for work comes home plonks himself in front of the tv then it’s his phone , until bed 24/7 365 days a year. Pushes every button I don’t react so he keeps on when after months I finally crack it he says “oh are you bored today. Looking for an argument?’ Dude are you for real
My demonic narcissistic ex husband checked all the boxes above. This was him to a “T”. When I watch Lee’s videos, I look back at my “marriage”, shocked that I came out in one piece dealing with someone so dark and so sinister! God is so good!
7:01 YUP! Mine absolutely did the same!!!
# 1 reason I left is because he constantly bombarded me with insults saying I was out to destroy him that I was sleeping with every man i ever came into contact with.
The insanity was real.
This is my story! 100 percent
Thank you Lee!
Awesome video
what are they trying to achieve? i mean be rude to me im less likely to do what they want me too i might even walk away and never see me again hows been rude giving them control if they lose their victim? they failed by insults if anything the victim has won by walking away.
What happens to them when you don't give them the reaction they're looking for. Both my mother and mother in law were like this
It depends
@MentalHealness my mother was abusive throughout my childhood. Got a kick out of me being upset. It's a long story, but in my late 30s her final attempt to crush me was, after my husband and I went on a cruise because we never had a honey moon, when we got home, she came about 30 min away to my home and took my 16 year old daughter out of my house in the middle of the night, who was rebelling at the time. When we woke up, we had no idea where my daughter was. To make this short, I took my entire family access to me away including my mother. It was necessary
W/ my Ndad, he had no clue what 2 say next. Autism can be a very good thing 4 not reacting like a neurotypical person. I cd see that my reaction 2 his statements was not what he expected n did not giv him e supply he was angling 4.
They just don’t get it nothing phases them they’ll make you feel guilty and the following day will send you a text message acting like it’s a normal day and when you don’t respond back he or she will make it known that you are doing the things to make them angry. This is childish behavior.
Lol this fancy countdown to good ole Lee 😅😊
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Went no contact after the last verbal attack when his hoover didn't work. 10 days and we work together. Now he's looking for me at work when he arrives. He reverse discarded me. We're divorcing and he's with his affair partner. Why look for me if he's so happy hurting me when he doesn't get his way 🤔
GREAT VIDEO 🎉❤BLESS UP👏🏾
Great topic you been on a roll
I try. Thank you
@MentalHealness welcome
KEEP IT HOT🔥🔥🔥🔥 & ready Lee 🍕
One thing that wasn't mentioned is directing your attention. I believe one reason my ex was constantly causing drama was to prevent me from noticing all the stuff that he was doing behind my back and all the lies he told to cover it up.
Interesting what you talk about at ten minutes in. It's like they'll happily wound you but they'll call you an ambulance type scenario. SO SO twisted and beyond messed up.
It's called reactive abuse. ❤
Yup they hurt you just to help you and seem like a hero….
Mine messed up my leg so bad I couldn’t walk for 3 weeks but he bought be crutches so that made him a good guy 🙄🤦🏽♀️
My ex MIL has an addiction to chaos. She can’t control it which is the biggest reason I think she hides behind a Christian mask.
Can I take this as the last discard? He's blocked me before, but never this long.
That’s up to you
My ex narc could not be held accountable. He is demonic after 14 years 3 breakups each time had a baby on the way within 4 weeks. Three different women came back for me to be step mom. Our daughter is a preteen. He has a 6 month old. He was angry I took birth control faithfully. He blamed me for each kid. He tried to break me on purpose and teach me a lesson. God stepped in with him and the new supply. He has No Bond and new supply family is broken just like I was. Karma
Oh my goodness
You did a Q&A live and kept skipping over my question. I don't even remember it, something about if narcissists have genuine relationships with people. This video topic is different, but is helpful in understanding some past experiences. Whether they can have genuine relationships or not this video was confirmation that the one I experienced wasn't.
NOTHING justifies cheating, period.
The justified reason to cheat is EXACTLY what I've been going through.
Love the opening theme.
I wonder if he’s still mad that I “rejected” him years ago because he brought it up a lot in our 15 years together. Of course I’ve no memory of doing this but apparently he tried to get close to me and I was closed off. This was 6 years ago.
I tried to write a good comment without any bad word, but it got deleted by the system…
Hi! I want to know why my narcissit never hoovered. I confronted him 2 months ago about the lies and cheating and everything else. He blocked me without saying a word and never heard from him again. I found panties in his house also. We were together for a yr.
Narcissist love to leave people with no closure. They also love when you run behind them and keep asking them questions. They love the attention they get. Also learn to find your own closure, and began to heal on your own. STOP asking questions and stop all contact. You will see a big difference ❤
I have vids on it
Yes, then they break out their phone and record you at your worst moment when you're fed up and no longer have a filter ...
Lee, IMHO, I guess they're not only narcissists, but psychopaths or sociopaths.
99% of what you said happened to me you take the words out of my mouth basically
Yes. My Ndad wanted 2 b a hero. It dripped off of him. As a result, I hav never driven bc he was such a horrid teacher.
This is me :(
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Omggggg!! 😣😣
The same parent ruining shit for their kid gutting them on purpose so they can plsy hero to their kid
will slso destroy shit w their so-called partner to then turn around and to use lees fav expression clap the cheeks with a vengeance. 😂
My older brother would pull the same power trippy shit when we were kids too. Destroy me snd manipulate to lesve me in tatters when i wss sll of four years old just so he could tend to the wounds snd mske sure my parents or whoever would wstch would be sure to see him being the best big brother. In adulthood I think his discard snd derision of me is bc he can’t stand himself.
But yeah this destroy snd stsb you to be the one tending to the wounds thing. Lesve you broke snd worked so they can swoop in snd save the day.
Similar to the good bad switch they got you walking on eggshells to not trigger every relational thing for them runs on s switch. This is the switch they put on other people whether it’s their girlfriend their sibling their parent or their own gd kid.
Worried. Sorry for typos yall my phone is broken.
It of course ss usual boils down to control.
Thsnk you lee this crystallized some stuff for me.
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So it’s like Munchausen syndrome.
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Oh wow! Guilt sex
Peaceful, Confident, Popular, Quiet people set them off. They can never relax and feel comfortable in their own skin. Can you say miserable as hell. 🥹🧐😫😡
She definitely does try to set me off. She will say something negative and go off cursing and yelling in a text. When I don’t respond she will text again with some words of “a peace treaty” claiming she’s trying to make peace with me. Ridiculous war & peace at the same time. 🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🫨