unfollow IG models, start following artists and designers, your entire outlook on life will change. you will be reminded less of your insecurities and more about what humans are capable of creating
You are amazing Helen, even though you are an “influencer” you are real and make sure that you are telling stuff honestly! I’ve been watching you for years and I’ve never thought that you weren’t showing it all. You live life and it shows that you enjoy it.
Omg the house thing! Being a homeowner is a lot of responsibility. On social media you see a lot about lux renovations and decor but never paying for removing a dead tree, termite prevention, and other unfun but very real expenses.
If anyone is interested in the productivity part of Helen's chat, I highly recommend looking into how the capitalist system produces this expectation and how unhealthy this lifestyle is! Sincerely, a canadian chick who wrote her thesis on it
@@tarynrobinson4865 my thesis hasn't been published (yet! here's hoping!) but I did find a very interesting article that's similar, my thesis focused on how capitalism and feminism intersect when not centering oppression frameworks and intersectionality. Here's the article: medium.com/@tamcgath/the-tyranny-of-the-workday-how-capitalism-colonizes-your-free-time-b3f8ba438f53
I started crying when you mentioned how the mentality of "if you're not hustling at every moment you're failing" is toxic. I feel that so hard. I got my masters degree when I turned 24 and I'm having a tough time to break into the job market especially because my native tongue is not the main language. And for a while I felt like I was failing because I pushed so hard to get this far and now just "stop". I really appreciate you discussing this. ♥️
I’m just about to return to work after 3 months being signed off with horrible anxiety. I’m a nurse and worked my way up to being a senior nurse and then the anxiety/burn out whatever you want to call it hit. I’m returning into a less demanding role which means less money, BUT a better work life balance which is all that matters! I watch ‘influencers’ and can easily be jealous of what they have, but really does having 100 eyeshadow pallets or abs of steel make them any happier than me?! I’ve always enjoyed you as you’re normal and I notice you treat your friends and strangers with equal respect and kindness, that’s what we should be promoting 😁
If anyone wants to watch an un-influencer who has a day job, moderately exercises, has realistic curves, takes a trip maybe twice a year, has to buy all her own makeup, and the only way she'd be invited to a brand party on an island is if she skydived into it uninvited, than Hello. I'm Seanna. It's nice to meet you.
I'm really not a fan of this new "I need everything and I need it now" attitude that seems to be happening on social media a lot now, and which is generally becoming a part of societal thinking. The amount of times a day I need to remind myself I can slow down and I don't need to stress about not having something immediately. Thank you so much for this video Helen, excellent choice of day to upload it ❤
Iove what you said about not feeling bad about your productivity. I used to be so active and always doing stuff but since my chronic illness got worse I had to quit work and most days cant even get up to shower because of chronic pain and fatigue. It really got me down a lot because it seemed like everyone around me were going places and doing a lot with their life and I just felt that I was useless to the world. I now even count getting showered and dressed as an achievement now. Just appreciate the little things. Love you Helen x
You have no idea how much I needed this video! My depression is horrible right now because I’ve been doing nothing but comparing my life to others! Thanks for the Peptalk
This is the most realistic and refreshing video about side effects of social media and influencers I have ever seen Thank you so much for sharing it with us
Mad respect for your honesty here. It's so true and the reason I deleted FB and instagram last August. I'd waste hours scrolling through feeds of other people's lives, I'd waste minutes curating the perfect caption, I'd chastise myself for every like I didn't get but someone else did. It made me jealous and bitter, it made me insecure. Every tagged picture sent panic through me and it killed my self esteem. Now I look in the mirror and see me, not flaws.
90% of typical influencers are of a particular "basic" style I've noticed 🤔 it's all rose gold and copper, designer bags, mermaids/unicorns/succulents stuff, overlined/filled lips and CONSTANT HAIR FLIPPING AND TOUCHING 🤣 it just feels like their whole world revolves around their appearance and money and the image that they put across to others, it's sad really 😔
I feel exactly the same, sometimes you need to take a look at who and what you follow & then have a mental chat with yourself about these accounts/ people and ask yourself "does viewing this type of content make me feel good about myself" if it is a no, delete it, unfollow it. It can really destroy even the most confident peoples self esteem. I love how much you have remained relatable, thanks for making everyone else aware of this fake facade a lot of people try and push. Glad to see you so happy. xxx
I removed social media from my phone for one month to see if it would a) be missed and b) help my mental health. Since then I have only reinstalled Instagram but I've unfollowed a large chunk of people and I no longer have a Facebook or Twitter account. This is a great video from one of the only TH-camrs I haven't unfollowed! Consistently good content without the need for constant hauls, thanks x
This is why social media breaks truly help so much. I only deleted twitter and instagram at one point and came back not even wanting to see everything I left it for. But now i'm back! and with a better mindset. It's an awful awful bubble you can get stuck into
I love these kind of videos where Influencers spill the tea but in a nice way. Like we all know the Insta/TH-cam game is a bit fake and people are not 100% natural but I still like that you point it out and tell us "yo, it's not REAL life for everyone"
You're one of the only people I see on insta that make me light up - you're so body positive, you don't feel the need to tune the crap out of your posts and sugar coat your life - it's so refreshing and I love seeing what you're up to!!! You're the best
WORD. You are an absolute gem Helen. This is exactly why I’ve gradually unfollowed 90% of the people on social media and only kept that few that is still relatable and doesn’t make me feel shit about myself and my “normal” life. No matter how kind and lovely those influencers were (are), I was still comparing myself to them and this in the end always made me feel sad.
Loved this video, the honesty of it is so refreshing to see and hear, I genuinely believe people have a need of being loved via social media and the need of a certain number for their posts is so damaging mentally, our lives are now generated via a screen
I needed this... been feeling a bit down about social media and comparison lately, and you’re right about a lot of the things you talked about. I especially liked “work smarter, not harder.” Think I might write that down and put it right above my desk! ❤️
As an "Influencer" you have really inspired me to be comfortable in my own skin and be happy with who I am. You also really cheer me up on shitty days, I love watching your videos and seeing you pop up on the gram. I totally agree with this video, around a year ago I had a major unfollowing session of all the people who to put it bluntly made me feel inferior. Since then I am so much happier. x
I love how chill you are and just how you love people.. I feel like every influencer or just people in general should do better and caring about others
Half of these "influencers" are just influencing us to use diet milkshakes, facetune and over spend on designer shit we can't afford. People gotta keep it real.
Usually what makes me feel better about myself is remembering that everyone's body does gross human things like poop, and sweat. It doesn't matter if you're body is the most ideal. You still have gross af poops like the rest of us.
I wish more influencers had your rawness and realness. You are one of the influencers that makes me honestly feel me feel validated and comfortable in my own skin. I think you are genuinely amazing ❤️
Just like our parents taught us when we were little...there are people who are GOOD influences, and BAD influences. People with any kind of spotlight on them should try and be a GOOD influence. Thank you for being one of them
Thank you for mentioning productivity. I never realized that my productivity effected my mood until you mentioned that in your vlog a while back. It’s helped me take a step back and remind myself that there’s nothing wrong with taking my time.
Hearing all this feels like being able to take a breath after holding it for a long time.. loving the honesty and the very down to earth talk Helen thanks for this. I feel as a 34 year old woman that I should be above all this kinda comparison and sometimes jealousy even, but I’m not always that strong and so I feel more for the younger generation who are so wrapped up in this online world.. i think this type of video is very important for their sake. Great work Helen xx
You’re one of the only ‘influencers’ I’ve watched over the years, that still has her feet firmly on the ground and is still so relatable without this increasing ego the others seem to get. Great video! ♥️
Thank you for the house advice! My husband and I are currently in the process of buying the house we've been renting for the last few years. I've wanted to change so many things for so long, that I feel like I have to do it RIGHT NOW. You reminded me it's ok to slow down and chill about it. With having all these plans already, I'm just stressing myself more. And lets face it, buying a house is hell on earth. Anyway, thanks babes. You're my favorite
Thank you for being honest and being so down to earth! I cannot agree with you enough about productivity and feeling like a failure if you're not constantly busy.
Love this video, nice change and outlook. Following weight loss instas I thought it was a good idea but some are constantly productive and yeah working out everyday isn't sustainable for me. I work 3/4 12.5hr shifts a week day and night. Thanks for reminding us not to feel shit about ourselves.👍
this is why i love you, you are great for younger girls to watch as i think a lot of them get sucked into whats happening online and some of it is pure fake and i see a lot of negative videos on here, keep doing what your doing, you are fab :) x
The house thing annoys me. Some influencers do homeware hauls every other week, like how many bowls does one person need?? The amount of stuff in general some influencers own is insane, like more than a family of 4. And moving so regularly because of something like noisy neighbours, what a privilege to be able to move so simply. Does this sound targeted to any youtuber hahah pls no hate x
THIS!! There's a UK youtuber/Instagrammer I've followed for years and she's rented several beautiful apartments in London and Brighton since turning 18. Every time she moves she buys all new home decor it's ridiculous. Oh and she's just bought her first home as is having it renovated in "insta" worthy decor. I've been working 50+ hours a week for the past 6 years and i'm just coming close to having the deposit for my first home.
Although some things I'm sure people know, it's great to be reminded that these 'goals' and lives people have is 1/100 and not the person sitting opposite you in the office and that's okay! It's not reality for everyone all the time. Another thing apart from items that you see influences purchase is relationships. I see SO many influencers show their amazing and perfect relationships and while they don't owe to show anyone that bad parts or arguments, it's also perfectly normal to have those parts too. It's especially important for teens to know that too! xxx
Love this so much. I only follow accounts that raise me up and inspire me. There's too much negativity around as it is without me adding more to my own life by my social media browsing. Decided to be too busy living life to get bogged down in the instagram aspirations. Good for you for keeping it real x
I haven’t even watched the video yet but I wanted to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. You’re so beautiful inside and out and I adore your energy. Your style is radical and as a basics loving girl, I feel like I can get some awesome inspiration for when I do go out of my comfort zone. Bought a snakeskin body suit and felt FIRE. Also your tattoo collection saves my life and I hope to look as dope as you some day. You’re one of the only OG youtubers I stayed subscribed to. Love u melon lady
I fricking loved this video Helen! You’ve given such good advice and have definitely reminded me to stop the Insta comparison!!!!! I related to each point you made Thankyou!❤️ well done chickadee x
I didn't know how much I needed this until I saw you explaining it here! It's so easy to get caught on social media traps, like the productivity thing... Thank u for the vid!
This is super important and relevant. Even though you feel like you contribute to these types of feelings and maybe you do, I’m happy you are self aware enough to make this video anyway. I remember last year I found this black fitness insta , i was happy because finding black female vegan fit gurus are hard to find. But after thanksgiving she did a 36 hour fast and it freaked me out. This person didnt even eat that much for thanks giving and they felt they needed to fast that long?? I unfollowed them so quickly.
This was good- thanks xxxx I’ve unsubbed from sooooo many channels because as soon as they purchase a house, it’s fully renovated in a year!!!!!! And the IG “home” accounts as well 🙄 I get that sometimes it’s their job, but Jesus- where does work end and fun begin?
Also this is so relevant to me right now because I've recently decided to take myself off of Facebook and Instagram for a while because it was making me feel rubbish and just making me into a person that I don't want to be and since I've done that I feel so much more positive! 💖
Helen you are amazing. I can really relate to the holiday/travel part. I am a yacht skipper so my instagram is beautiful places, sailing and in the sun all summer, but people never see me up at 6am each day sailing to take my guests to a nice lunch spot, cooking in 38 degree heat, having no personal space or not a single day off for months st a time. Social media isn’t the whole picture! Also love you x
I've never seen a really beautiful person say.. I acknowledge I got all this success and money and brand deals coz I won the genetic lottery.. Its Always I worked so hard.. Girl do u realise its just coz your face fits and u prob don't even need to be trying as hard u are coz it all gonna come to you.. No matter what people are chosen based on what they look like first.. Everything else is secondary
I don’t follow any ‘influencers’ , cause I’m am a old women and they have nothing to offer me. You’re fucking fabulous and funny, down to earth , and gorgeous! Your words in this vlog are from a wise woman, brilliant ! ❤️
Many influencer wannabees forget that you actually need to have "influence" to be an influencer. I've worked with a lot of influencers before and I've seen a lot of these fakes. If we only look into the followers they have then we have already been blinded. The true worth of an influencer lies beyond that. There are tools like influencer auditor that tell what kind of growth the influencer had. It also checks on the quality of followers. These fakes are also the reason why there is some negativity associated with the word "influencer".
Can’t even imagine buying a house, ever ! “Influencers” live in an entirely different world but often portray themselves as “normal”. They’ve commodified their whole lives and person and it’s wild that it’s normalised. It’s another infuriating part of capitalism 👎🏻 (not including Helen in this btw!)
Im finding that less and less influencers is finding their way into my instagram feed, and more and more influencers beeing unfollowed. I like my feed better now 😊
Helen, thank you for always being you and keeping it real. I know exactly what your trying to say. Instagram and you tube to me can be like going into town with feck all cash and window shopping and if u were to do that everyday it would really make a person feel shitty about themselves 💜❤️💜❤️
Very well said. Thank you for being so real and truthful. Although I think you have an amazing lifestyle and a wonderful bunch of friends and family, watching you go about your daily life doesn't make me feel shit about mine.
Yes yes yes to everything !!! I love how much sense you have Helen. Really needed this recently as I'm feeling burnout and have definitely been doing too much work work work ! Loved this vid
YES!!! & it's ok to not buy everything new but repurpose something 2nd hand instead, why add to unnecessary manufacturing and waste. I've been there and burnt out, I'm now self employed doing my own thing but still often have times I think I've not achieved enough, while retraining I've met a fabulous friend who is great at reminding me that I've done so much and need to slow down as I'm making her tired & I'll break myself again.
Been looking forward to the next feel good diaries, hope you continue with this series! I really enjoy you doing this type of content. You’re amazing keep going 💕
How do your tattoos still look so bright and new if you expose them to the sun often? Genuinely curious because some people tell me to keep my tattoos out of the sun 24/7 to keep them from aging but yours look just as good
This video has inspired me to deleted Instagram for a while. Such a good truthful and honest video , i lové content like this from you ! I watch most of your videos , a silent watcher , don’t really comment however this video 👌🏼
I'm wondering, how do you stay sort of mentally in real life, when you follow like the biggest starts/actors/youtubes/celebrities and see what life could be. It seems hard somwtimes to, you know, go to work, or achool, when you do see those tropical beaches. On the other hand I don't want to be out of the loop, want to know what's happening, so I really don't know what's the sollution here. I guess get a life? But it's too late for me lol I'm too much online and most of my friends are too, so who do I hang out with? What do I do?
I like to imagine Instagram like a physical photo album, like the dusty kind people keep in their living rooms. They are the same thing. Imagine going into a strangers house (hypothetically, no creep creep), and looking through a photo album and coming to a conclusion that what is inside is what their life is like. You'd be wrong, in fact we'd be way of the mark. When people drunk, get out photo albums at Christmas parties, we have a collective understanding that we are not getting the whole picture. It is the same with online content. I like to keep the is mind when on the internets, helps lessen the comparison.
I came from your download vlog from last year, I just thought you were a normal person tbf haha which you are big then I checked ur following on insta. It’s weird when we see these numbers we feel almost like alienated. A lot of people to. A lot of people buy thousands of followers because these days that’s all companies are interested in. It’s sad. But back to you. I feel like you’re a breath of fresh air and well ur British haha I think the social media scene does more harm than good. I love it for art and artists I’d never know normally. I’m happy when social media goes down haha you get to see all the ‘influencers’ cry about it hahah Keep on being you 🥰
I fucking love this video, thank you. Theworst thing about all of this is that no one speaks about it this openly and realistically & that can feedsome People's negative thoughts. But look at you , thank you 🤘🏽👏🏽
I used to feel bad watching your videos because you had a habit of listing off all the things you were doing ie. getting up early, going to the gym, cleaning the whole house, editing, walking the dogs, going to the recycling centre, gardening, making videos, editing, cooking etc. You seem more chilled now and your content is more enjoyable for me at least.
I totally agree with you about productivity. We've kind of developed this culture where if you're not busy and rushed off your feet, then you're failing. When did it become so noble to be buzzing around all fucking day? It makes me feel like a lazy arsehole, but if I can pay my bills and look after my mental health, why is that such a bad thing? X
I don’t know if this is happening soon in the UK or US but in Australia Instagram have just removed the number of likes under each photo! it takes away sooo much pressure and comparison & I feel better already haha
I hate ‘influencers’ who use edit their photos with Face tune or Photoshop but then preach about body positivity- YOU ARE THE PROBLEM if you’re editing your pictures because you’re the one setting unrealistic standards. If you were really all for body positivity you’d not edit photos at all. (Love u Helen you’re then only ‘influencer’ I like)
I don't get how people being busy constantly is successful, I work 30 hours a week at the minute and hate it cause it's turned my brain to jelly the minute I'm not on autopilot, success is happiness, happiness should be when you're doing what you want to do, not working all the time.
Totally agree! Also to add to the productivity thing, I have a full time job from 8.30 to 6.30, I don't have time to do all these influencer stuff like making my own bread, deep cleaning my house and doing yoga twice a day, making kambucha or some sht haha ! People with real lives just wanna go home have some food and chill on the couch lol Also, Helen.... Where's that top from it's so CUTE?!?! Also, love your outfit in this video, mucho gusto
unfollow IG models, start following artists and designers, your entire outlook on life will change. you will be reminded less of your insecurities and more about what humans are capable of creating
Can you recommend anyone in particular to follow? X
iambeckijayne Florence Given!! She’s an amazing artist with some very important messages
Amen
Excellent advice. I mainly follow people who inspire me in some way, indie brands, musicians and cats.
You are amazing Helen, even though you are an “influencer” you are real and make sure that you are telling stuff honestly! I’ve been watching you for years and I’ve never thought that you weren’t showing it all. You live life and it shows that you enjoy it.
Omg the house thing! Being a homeowner is a lot of responsibility. On social media you see a lot about lux renovations and decor but never paying for removing a dead tree, termite prevention, and other unfun but very real expenses.
If anyone is interested in the productivity part of Helen's chat, I highly recommend looking into how the capitalist system produces this expectation and how unhealthy this lifestyle is!
Sincerely, a canadian chick who wrote her thesis on it
Is your thesis in the public domain? Link pls ?
@@tarynrobinson4865 my thesis hasn't been published (yet! here's hoping!) but I did find a very interesting article that's similar, my thesis focused on how capitalism and feminism intersect when not centering oppression frameworks and intersectionality. Here's the article: medium.com/@tamcgath/the-tyranny-of-the-workday-how-capitalism-colonizes-your-free-time-b3f8ba438f53
@@LeapBeforeLooking Thats a pretty interesting topic, and I'd love to see your thesis when it is published. Keep us updated!?
Where in Canada are you from? Fellow Canadian youtuber here ☺
Kirsten Leigh C please let us know when your thesis gets published because I did a similar paper for my undergrad dissertation
It’s a contest for who is the busier then the rest. Busy is the new success these days and it’s bull shit. Thanks for saying this Helen.
I started crying when you mentioned how the mentality of "if you're not hustling at every moment you're failing" is toxic. I feel that so hard. I got my masters degree when I turned 24 and I'm having a tough time to break into the job market especially because my native tongue is not the main language. And for a while I felt like I was failing because I pushed so hard to get this far and now just "stop". I really appreciate you discussing this. ♥️
!!!! this
I’m just about to return to work after 3 months being signed off with horrible anxiety. I’m a nurse and worked my way up to being a senior nurse and then the anxiety/burn out whatever you want to call it hit. I’m returning into a less demanding role which means less money, BUT a better work life balance which is all that matters!
I watch ‘influencers’ and can easily be jealous of what they have, but really does having 100 eyeshadow pallets or abs of steel make them any happier than me?!
I’ve always enjoyed you as you’re normal and I notice you treat your friends and strangers with equal respect and kindness, that’s what we should be promoting 😁
If anyone wants to watch an un-influencer who has a day job, moderately exercises, has realistic curves, takes a trip maybe twice a year, has to buy all her own makeup, and the only way she'd be invited to a brand party on an island is if she skydived into it uninvited, than Hello. I'm Seanna. It's nice to meet you.
I'm really not a fan of this new "I need everything and I need it now" attitude that seems to be happening on social media a lot now, and which is generally becoming a part of societal thinking. The amount of times a day I need to remind myself I can slow down and I don't need to stress about not having something immediately. Thank you so much for this video Helen, excellent choice of day to upload it ❤
THIS is why you're the only "influencer" I keep up with. Keep doin' what you do. 🤘
Word !
Iove what you said about not feeling bad about your productivity. I used to be so active and always doing stuff but since my chronic illness got worse I had to quit work and most days cant even get up to shower because of chronic pain and fatigue. It really got me down a lot because it seemed like everyone around me were going places and doing a lot with their life and I just felt that I was useless to the world. I now even count getting showered and dressed as an achievement now. Just appreciate the little things. Love you Helen x
You have no idea how much I needed this video! My depression is horrible right now because I’ve been doing nothing but comparing my life to others! Thanks for the Peptalk
This is the most realistic and refreshing video about side effects of social media and influencers I have ever seen
Thank you so much for sharing it with us
Mad respect for your honesty here. It's so true and the reason I deleted FB and instagram last August. I'd waste hours scrolling through feeds of other people's lives, I'd waste minutes curating the perfect caption, I'd chastise myself for every like I didn't get but someone else did. It made me jealous and bitter, it made me insecure. Every tagged picture sent panic through me and it killed my self esteem. Now I look in the mirror and see me, not flaws.
90% of typical influencers are of a particular "basic" style I've noticed 🤔 it's all rose gold and copper, designer bags, mermaids/unicorns/succulents stuff, overlined/filled lips and CONSTANT HAIR FLIPPING AND TOUCHING 🤣 it just feels like their whole world revolves around their appearance and money and the image that they put across to others, it's sad really 😔
The house part ooooh the house part 😭😭😭😭 so accurate
I feel exactly the same, sometimes you need to take a look at who and what you follow & then have a mental chat with yourself about these accounts/ people and ask yourself "does viewing this type of content make me feel good about myself" if it is a no, delete it, unfollow it. It can really destroy even the most confident peoples self esteem.
I love how much you have remained relatable, thanks for making everyone else aware of this fake facade a lot of people try and push. Glad to see you so happy. xxx
I removed social media from my phone for one month to see if it would a) be missed and b) help my mental health. Since then I have only reinstalled Instagram but I've unfollowed a large chunk of people and I no longer have a Facebook or Twitter account. This is a great video from one of the only TH-camrs I haven't unfollowed! Consistently good content without the need for constant hauls, thanks x
This is why social media breaks truly help so much. I only deleted twitter and instagram at one point and came back not even wanting to see everything I left it for. But now i'm back! and with a better mindset.
It's an awful awful bubble you can get stuck into
I love these kind of videos where Influencers spill the tea but in a nice way. Like we all know the Insta/TH-cam game is a bit fake and people are not 100% natural but I still like that you point it out and tell us "yo, it's not REAL life for everyone"
You're one of the only people I see on insta that make me light up - you're so body positive, you don't feel the need to tune the crap out of your posts and sugar coat your life - it's so refreshing and I love seeing what you're up to!!! You're the best
This is so relatable. I needed this today after feeling down about life, thank you💕
WORD. You are an absolute gem Helen. This is exactly why I’ve gradually unfollowed 90% of the people on social media and only kept that few that is still relatable and doesn’t make me feel shit about myself and my “normal” life. No matter how kind and lovely those influencers were (are), I was still comparing myself to them and this in the end always made me feel sad.
Loved this video, the honesty of it is so refreshing to see and hear, I genuinely believe people have a need of being loved via social media and the need of a certain number for their posts is so damaging mentally, our lives are now generated via a screen
I needed this... been feeling a bit down about social media and comparison lately, and you’re right about a lot of the things you talked about. I especially liked “work smarter, not harder.” Think I might write that down and put it right above my desk! ❤️
As an "Influencer" you have really inspired me to be comfortable in my own skin and be happy with who I am. You also really cheer me up on shitty days, I love watching your videos and seeing you pop up on the gram. I totally agree with this video, around a year ago I had a major unfollowing session of all the people who to put it bluntly made me feel inferior. Since then I am so much happier. x
I love how chill you are and just how you love people.. I feel like every influencer or just people in general should do better and caring about others
Half of these "influencers" are just influencing us to use diet milkshakes, facetune and over spend on designer shit we can't afford. People gotta keep it real.
If social media accounts make you feel like crap, don't follow them!!! Helen you're a gem, keep keeping it real. 🤘
This is why I love you to bits, you are the only fashion-type/vlogger I have followed for fuckin years. I agree 100%.
Usually what makes me feel better about myself is remembering that everyone's body does gross human things like poop, and sweat. It doesn't matter if you're body is the most ideal. You still have gross af poops like the rest of us.
I wish more influencers had your rawness and realness. You are one of the influencers that makes me honestly feel me feel validated and comfortable in my own skin. I think you are genuinely amazing ❤️
Just like our parents taught us when we were little...there are people who are GOOD influences, and BAD influences. People with any kind of spotlight on them should try and be a GOOD influence. Thank you for being one of them
Thank you for mentioning productivity. I never realized that my productivity effected my mood until you mentioned that in your vlog a while back. It’s helped me take a step back and remind myself that there’s nothing wrong with taking my time.
The first video of yours I saw was how to colour your hair pastel.
I did it about a month later, and I’ve loved your channel ever since. ❤️
Hearing all this feels like being able to take a breath after holding it for a long time.. loving the honesty and the very down to earth talk Helen thanks for this. I feel as a 34 year old woman that I should be above all this kinda comparison and sometimes jealousy even, but I’m not always that strong and so I feel more for the younger generation who are so wrapped up in this online world.. i think this type of video is very important for their sake. Great work Helen xx
You’re one of the only ‘influencers’ I’ve watched over the years, that still has her feet firmly on the ground and is still so relatable without this increasing ego the others seem to get. Great video! ♥️
Thank you for the house advice! My husband and I are currently in the process of buying the house we've been renting for the last few years. I've wanted to change so many things for so long, that I feel like I have to do it RIGHT NOW. You reminded me it's ok to slow down and chill about it. With having all these plans already, I'm just stressing myself more. And lets face it, buying a house is hell on earth. Anyway, thanks babes. You're my favorite
Thank you for being honest and being so down to earth!
I cannot agree with you enough about productivity and feeling like a failure if you're not constantly busy.
I'd love to see a tutorial of how you've done this hair style with the scarf! It looks amazing! And I never get it to look right
As someone who works from home this was needed! It's so hard not to get caught up with comparing yourself to others. Great video 💕💕💕
Love this video, nice change and outlook.
Following weight loss instas I thought it was a good idea but some are constantly productive and yeah working out everyday isn't sustainable for me. I work 3/4 12.5hr shifts a week day and night. Thanks for reminding us not to feel shit about ourselves.👍
So eloquent, well thought out, positive and intelligent.
Thank you, Helen 💜🙏🏽
You are by far my absolute favourite 'influencer", you are so real and unapologetically yourself ♥️ don't ever change
this is why i love you, you are great for younger girls to watch as i think a lot of them get sucked into whats happening online and some of it is pure fake and i see a lot of negative videos on here, keep doing what your doing, you are fab :) x
I bloody love you Helen. Your content has always been my favourite, but you're going from strength to strength lately
The house thing annoys me. Some influencers do homeware hauls every other week, like how many bowls does one person need?? The amount of stuff in general some influencers own is insane, like more than a family of 4. And moving so regularly because of something like noisy neighbours, what a privilege to be able to move so simply. Does this sound targeted to any youtuber hahah pls no hate x
Why do I feel I know who you’re talking about lol
THIS!!
There's a UK youtuber/Instagrammer I've followed for years and she's rented several beautiful apartments in London and Brighton since turning 18. Every time she moves she buys all new home decor it's ridiculous. Oh and she's just bought her first home as is having it renovated in "insta" worthy decor.
I've been working 50+ hours a week for the past 6 years and i'm just coming close to having the deposit for my first home.
Hahaha lol, we’re all deffo thinking of the same girl
@@katiec.7645 Exactly the influencer i am thinking of ;)
@@megsta20 IT DRIVES ME INSANE! She tries to be so relatable.
Although some things I'm sure people know, it's great to be reminded that these 'goals' and lives people have is 1/100 and not the person sitting opposite you in the office and that's okay! It's not reality for everyone all the time. Another thing apart from items that you see influences purchase is relationships. I see SO many influencers show their amazing and perfect relationships and while they don't owe to show anyone that bad parts or arguments, it's also perfectly normal to have those parts too. It's especially important for teens to know that too! xxx
" be always gratful for what u have " Helen thanx and greetings from Austria
Love this so much. I only follow accounts that raise me up and inspire me. There's too much negativity around as it is without me adding more to my own life by my social media browsing. Decided to be too busy living life to get bogged down in the instagram aspirations. Good for you for keeping it real x
I haven’t even watched the video yet but I wanted to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. You’re so beautiful inside and out and I adore your energy. Your style is radical and as a basics loving girl, I feel like I can get some awesome inspiration for when I do go out of my comfort zone. Bought a snakeskin body suit and felt FIRE. Also your tattoo collection saves my life and I hope to look as dope as you some day. You’re one of the only OG youtubers I stayed subscribed to. Love u melon lady
I fricking loved this video Helen! You’ve given such good advice and have definitely reminded me to stop the Insta comparison!!!!! I related to each point you made Thankyou!❤️ well done chickadee x
I love how absolutely honest you are, you are so genuine!
Love this kinda of video. The importance of a healthy mind is what influencers should include when sharing their creativity.
Thank you for being so grounded, Helen. I love how honest and thoughtful you are!
I didn't know how much I needed this until I saw you explaining it here! It's so easy to get caught on social media traps, like the productivity thing... Thank u for the vid!
I absolutely needed this today! Thank you for filming this Helen!!
This is the video social media needs! Thank you
This is super important and relevant. Even though you feel like you contribute to these types of feelings and maybe you do, I’m happy you are self aware enough to make this video anyway.
I remember last year I found this black fitness insta , i was happy because finding black female vegan fit gurus are hard to find. But after thanksgiving she did a 36 hour fast and it freaked me out. This person didnt even eat that much for thanks giving and they felt they needed to fast that long?? I unfollowed them so quickly.
This was good- thanks xxxx I’ve unsubbed from sooooo many channels because as soon as they purchase a house, it’s fully renovated in a year!!!!!! And the IG “home” accounts as well 🙄 I get that sometimes it’s their job, but Jesus- where does work end and fun begin?
Also this is so relevant to me right now because I've recently decided to take myself off of Facebook and Instagram for a while because it was making me feel rubbish and just making me into a person that I don't want to be and since I've done that I feel so much more positive! 💖
Helen you are amazing. I can really relate to the holiday/travel part. I am a yacht skipper so my instagram is beautiful places, sailing and in the sun all summer, but people never see me up at 6am each day sailing to take my guests to a nice lunch spot, cooking in 38 degree heat, having no personal space or not a single day off for months st a time. Social media isn’t the whole picture! Also love you x
this video sums up perfectly why you are one of the only „youtubers“ I still watch since I started watching youtube
I've never seen a really beautiful person say.. I acknowledge I got all this success and money and brand deals coz I won the genetic lottery.. Its Always I worked so hard.. Girl do u realise its just coz your face fits and u prob don't even need to be trying as hard u are coz it all gonna come to you.. No matter what people are chosen based on what they look like first.. Everything else is secondary
I don’t follow any ‘influencers’ , cause I’m am a old women and they have nothing to offer me. You’re fucking fabulous and funny, down to earth , and gorgeous! Your words in this vlog are from a wise woman, brilliant ! ❤️
So down to earth. It's why I watch you. Great video, great message and completely understand where you're coming from.
Many influencer wannabees forget that you actually need to have "influence" to be an influencer. I've worked with a lot of influencers before and I've seen a lot of these fakes. If we only look into the followers they have then we have already been blinded. The true worth of an influencer lies beyond that. There are tools like influencer auditor that tell what kind of growth the influencer had. It also checks on the quality of followers. These fakes are also the reason why there is some negativity associated with the word "influencer".
Can’t even imagine buying a house, ever ! “Influencers” live in an entirely different world but often portray themselves as “normal”. They’ve commodified their whole lives and person and it’s wild that it’s normalised. It’s another infuriating part of capitalism 👎🏻 (not including Helen in this btw!)
Basically I agree with this video 100%
Im finding that less and less influencers is finding their way into my instagram feed, and more and more influencers beeing unfollowed. I like my feed better now 😊
Helen, thank you for always being you and keeping it real. I know exactly what your trying to say. Instagram and you tube to me can be like going into town with feck all cash and window shopping and if u were to do that everyday it would really make a person feel shitty about themselves 💜❤️💜❤️
I am diiiiiiigging your hair/makeup/outfit here. Killing it Mrs! xx
Very well said. Thank you for being so real and truthful. Although I think you have an amazing lifestyle and a wonderful bunch of friends and family, watching you go about your daily life doesn't make me feel shit about mine.
You never let me down Helen, this is why I'm a follower since you wore galaxy leggings in Melon Lady. You keep it real & cool ♥
Yes yes yes to everything !!! I love how much sense you have Helen. Really needed this recently as I'm feeling burnout and have definitely been doing too much work work work ! Loved this vid
How do you do your hair like that? 💖
YES!!! & it's ok to not buy everything new but repurpose something 2nd hand instead, why add to unnecessary manufacturing and waste.
I've been there and burnt out, I'm now self employed doing my own thing but still often have times I think I've not achieved enough, while retraining I've met a fabulous friend who is great at reminding me that I've done so much and need to slow down as I'm making her tired & I'll break myself again.
Been looking forward to the next feel good diaries, hope you continue with this series! I really enjoy you doing this type of content. You’re amazing keep going 💕
Bringing people back down to earth. Love you Helen
ugh you’re just so fucking cool Helen you really just tell it like it is thank you for this! looking forward to more feelgood diaries!
I love this! Makes me feel that however I live my life is valid x
I'm unfollowing a bunch of people after watching this 😂
I'm an "influencer" every time i walk out my front door. Lead by example IRL 💜😘
This would be amazing as a podcast! Love it & everything you are talking about 💜💙🧡💛
How do your tattoos still look so bright and new if you expose them to the sun often? Genuinely curious because some people tell me to keep my tattoos out of the sun 24/7 to keep them from aging but yours look just as good
This video has inspired me to deleted Instagram for a while. Such a good truthful and honest video , i lové content like this from you ! I watch most of your videos , a silent watcher , don’t really comment however this video 👌🏼
I'm wondering, how do you stay sort of mentally in real life, when you follow like the biggest starts/actors/youtubes/celebrities and see what life could be. It seems hard somwtimes to, you know, go to work, or achool, when you do see those tropical beaches. On the other hand I don't want to be out of the loop, want to know what's happening, so I really don't know what's the sollution here. I guess get a life? But it's too late for me lol I'm too much online and most of my friends are too, so who do I hang out with? What do I do?
I like to imagine Instagram like a physical photo album, like the dusty kind people keep in their living rooms. They are the same thing. Imagine going into a strangers house (hypothetically, no creep creep), and looking through a photo album and coming to a conclusion that what is inside is what their life is like. You'd be wrong, in fact we'd be way of the mark. When people drunk, get out photo albums at Christmas parties, we have a collective understanding that we are not getting the whole picture. It is the same with online content. I like to keep the is mind when on the internets, helps lessen the comparison.
I came from your download vlog from last year, I just thought you were a normal person tbf haha which you are big then I checked ur following on insta. It’s weird when we see these numbers we feel almost like alienated. A lot of people to. A lot of people buy thousands of followers because these days that’s all companies are interested in. It’s sad. But back to you. I feel like you’re a breath of fresh air and well ur British haha
I think the social media scene does more harm than good. I love it for art and artists I’d never know normally. I’m happy when social media goes down haha you get to see all the ‘influencers’ cry about it hahah
Keep on being you 🥰
I fucking love this video, thank you.
Theworst thing about all of this is that no one speaks about it this openly and realistically & that can feedsome People's negative thoughts.
But look at you , thank you 🤘🏽👏🏽
Completely unrelated but, I LOVE your hair tie 😍😍😍😍
I LOVE YOU HELEN. You’re just fantastic 🙌 I’m loving your videos lately (always did obvs, but lately they’ve been fab 👌)
I used to feel bad watching your videos because you had a habit of listing off all the things you were doing ie. getting up early, going to the gym, cleaning the whole house, editing, walking the dogs, going to the recycling centre, gardening, making videos, editing, cooking etc.
You seem more chilled now and your content is more enjoyable for me at least.
I totally agree with you about productivity. We've kind of developed this culture where if you're not busy and rushed off your feet, then you're failing. When did it become so noble to be buzzing around all fucking day? It makes me feel like a lazy arsehole, but if I can pay my bills and look after my mental health, why is that such a bad thing? X
I don’t know if this is happening soon in the UK or US but in Australia Instagram have just removed the number of likes under each photo! it takes away sooo much pressure and comparison & I feel better already haha
I hate ‘influencers’ who use edit their photos with Face tune or Photoshop but then preach about body positivity- YOU ARE THE PROBLEM if you’re editing your pictures because you’re the one setting unrealistic standards. If you were really all for body positivity you’d not edit photos at all. (Love u Helen you’re then only ‘influencer’ I like)
Helen in Canada! I can't wait! Whereabouts???
I love you Helen thank you for being so honest about these topics 🖤
Also, your style and aesthetic is just banging 😍
I don't get how people being busy constantly is successful, I work 30 hours a week at the minute and hate it cause it's turned my brain to jelly the minute I'm not on autopilot, success is happiness, happiness should be when you're doing what you want to do, not working all the time.
Totally agree! Also to add to the productivity thing, I have a full time job from 8.30 to 6.30, I don't have time to do all these influencer stuff like making my own bread, deep cleaning my house and doing yoga twice a day, making kambucha or some sht haha ! People with real lives just wanna go home have some food and chill on the couch lol
Also, Helen.... Where's that top from it's so CUTE?!?! Also, love your outfit in this video, mucho gusto
This video is such a breath of fresh air.