Emotional Numbness in Grief Isn’t Denial
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.พ. 2025
- Feeling numb during grief can be confusing, especially when everyone expects visible pain. But numbness is a normal, even protective, response. We’ll talk about what it means to feel numb, why it’s different from denial, and why there’s no “wrong” way to grieve. Whether or not you’re shedding tears, your grief is valid.
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What is extremely difficult for me, is when feelings start coming back, they are hard to deal with, I get overwhelmed by them.
That's OK. Getting overwhelmed is part of it. It sucks, but fighting only makes it worse long-term. Letting myself be overwhelmed was hard, and though it feels like I'll be destroyed by it... I won't. I'll be OK. You'll be OK.
I was hit with numbness pretty hard right now, the sixth month without my mom. I am overwhelmed with guilt. In a trippy way, I'm grieving the first months of acute grief; as for me, it was the only logical response to losing the person I loved the most in my life so early. I am terrified I'm letting her go.
It's so reassuring to know this is not only normal but somewhat expected. Numbness does feel like a reactive response indeed. Like a mechanism to stop overheating. But It does feel like it pushes my mom further and further away from me. I'm always looking at the review mirror of my life to catch a glimpse of her, and I dread the day she won't be there anymore.
After the initial tsunami of grief, I went numb and have been there for about three years. I don't feel joy or sadness or anything.
same, it sucks
Sorry to hear this,it’s hard daily to deal with all sorts of emotions,it sucks
My numbness came Years ago.. When my beautiful husband had a bleed on the brain... After long stay in hospital he came home and I looked after him.. With help of carers... I had to be strong for my family.... I just could not cry... He died last week.. In a nursing home.. We were with him a peaceful passing..I cried then with my family.. Then nothing.. I feel numb..while people around me cry.. I am emotionally shut down.. So many years of coping with grief I feel I've lost myself. ..Will this change in time ?
Maybe. Maybe when you feel that everyone else is okay, that there is no other family/friends to tend with their own emotions, then that big dam you've built will break. When you feel there is nothing left to do, you will let yourself grieve. When you feel like everyone else is okay, your thoughts will bend back to focusing on yourself. Then you can process your own loss. I'm in the midst of a similar situation, still numb, still waiting for a safe time to grieve. God bless.
Numbness can hit anyone experiencing Post Traumatic Stress. Sometimes we need to let the hind brain process, even if we're not consciously aware of that internal process.
Let the hind brain process?? Please explain this to me?
I fluctuate between grief and trying to move forward. Then I feel guilty that I’m not grieving. This is the first holiday season without my husband of 54 years and I’m all over the map. Will it ever get better.
Bless your heart, I’m very sorry for your devastating loss. Oh the dreadful first holiday season after a spouse’s passing. IT’S HORRIBLE!!! This will be my 4th holiday without my husband. I’d prefer to hibernate from thanksgiving thru new years to avoid the pain. Do what you think will be best for “you”. Take care……
@ I’m so sorry to hear that. Please know my prayers are for you and others going through difficult times.
Society is so broken in how it puts these expectations on us and makes us feel guilty because we're not meeting the expectations.
However you experience grief is valid.
@@pampistoresi6431I was completely bummed out this Christmas,would sit and just break out in tears,was the worst Christmas ever and couldn’t wait till the day was over
I wish I could feel numb. I'm so overwhelmed by emotion I'm not functional anymore.
Maybe denial can be when you are unable to fill in official documents, throw away the unused medication, respond to condolence letters, putting off going through closets , cant look at photo's, smell the perfume... I cant bear the enormity of what is welling up and it's better right now to not deal with it now. Im a psychologist and realise I am grieving, and although I am thinking what I am going through is ok. it doesn't stop the pain and utterly bereft I feel.
Will you talk about boundaries sometime please?❤
These two videos are both about boundaries: th-cam.com/video/jmwY-3ElI6I/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/8VZm6sn4SN8/w-d-xo.html