Heartache is a gift and it is painful for a reason. It's the universe screaming out that there is something about yourself that you're not aware of. When we experience a breakup or rejection we feel that we'll always be alone and we'll never be loved again. The hidden truth is that you are never alone and you will always love yourself.
Where in the Bible are we told to "love thyself first, before all others"????? We are MEANT TO CONNECT and to bond with another in order to become something more than we were, or could have been, by ourselves. It's only today, in our super self sufficient, vain, self obsessed culture that we are told crap like that. Like yourself, work and live with honor and dignity, sure. But self-worship is wrong, it was called "vainglory" and never encouraged. I think it's at the heart of so many breakups: as most everyone think "i love myself, I'm so awesome, who could ever be worthy of me? I need to break with their person and find someone better" A recipe for an unhappy society. Oh, yeah, that's what we have.
@@TheRealThomasPaine1776 Typically as humans, well responsible ones and those who understand and value commitment and relationships, rarely are solely self seeking. Regardless of what man wrote in the Bible over 2000 thousand years ago, god granted everyone with differences of personality, psychology, emotional makeup etc. if a person feels as though they want to end a relationship, that is absolutely okay. The key is understanding that you will never leave yourself. If someone does choose to walk out of your life you should always ground yourself in the fact that you came into this world with yourself and you will leave by yourself. Some people get so caught up in another that they lose self and that’s not healthy. There’s a balance between the other and self and many struggle with understanding this principle.
I've never felt a pain this bad in my life. Every single day is a struggle. I'm totally depressed and just don't know what I'm going to do with my life. Everything reminds me of him ... Everything leads me back to feeling that part of myself is not with me. I wanted him forever. I hope this gets better ... I can't deal with feeling like this .
Kay Grifff it gets better by getting back up. I just went through the same and with depression. It's not easy but getting up and getting ready, going out, making a dating profile (even if your ready to date), and knowing that you deserve better and each day is a fresh start. Sending 💓🦋⭐️
I changed my hair, moved to a different continent, started exercising, eating healthy, meditating daily and working a lot since the loss of someone important. I do what I love and I'm content with myself. But the pain just doesn't go away, I don't think it ever will to be honest. I don't believe I'll meet anyone like that ever again, it's just impossible. UPDATE: Thank you to all the people who kindly responded. I was an overly dramatic 18 year old after my first major breakup. The guy was a complete loser in so many ways and I am baffled now that I was so heartbroken. Anyhow I did get over it within two months and have rarely looked back. It's rather hilarious to read this reminder of my mindset back then. Next time I'll write a greek tragedy!
Sara Anne You may be right...the pain may never go away...but when I read of all the changes you've made in your life during this painful time, I feel so proud of you, and I hope that pain at least lessens.
+Universal Mastery AXE! AND SO IT IS! i am still healing from a break up...still in awe at how long it takes me to remove ppl from my astral memory, so to speak...but i know that it is laid out for me to CHANGE. some of us have a deck to shuffle many times before we can see the spread clearly...heh. the pain is with me every day, but wow does it make for a hell of another layer of my time here as a spiritual warrior. his journey really isn't my business and thats where i get bogged down. we get enmeshed...but the contracts break, bridges burn, ppls poop gets projected on to you. doesn't mean you have to shovel it with you forever. not saying i have learned how to put the whole thing in a more compassionate place. . . but every day is work on this.
+Sara Anne +Chrisy McConnell I just read what Chrisy said to you and I have to say I agree with her. It absolutely courageous that you changed your entire self AND moved to a different continent. Maybe you should think about contacting someone who can do channeling to seek guidance. I've used it myself for other stuff.
+Sara Anne Ask yourself - did you know how good you would feel just before you met that person? No. Similarly, you don't know yet how good you will feel again.
+Sara Anne What is for you will not pass you by. Just remember that. Wish him well, sometimes the ultimate love is to let them go-release him with love and without any resentment and if it's meant to be he'll come back. But don't waste your time waiting-if he doesn't the chances are someone even better will be coming into your life, you just have to open yourself up to receiving that love. I personally think maybe running away isn't the best solution-you physically ran away from the emotional situation. It may have felt better for a while but ultimately there is something inside you that will not be resolved until you face it. You are clearly strong and are willing to take steps to improve yourself. It's a grieving process which is the most painful experience as far as I'm concerned but if you can get through this, you can achieve anything. You do deserve happiness and love but you have to let go before you can truly allow anyone else in. Did you move to another continent for you or through pain of losing him?
I am in the process of ending a 10 year relationship and thank you for your insights Teal. Today I realised I can never lose the love I feel for my partner as I thought I had to cut it off because he has found another, I see love is all encompassing and the pain I am feeling is the letting go of attachment not the letting go of love. Thank you , love is eternal.
+Pamela Mills You ARE love! :) Loss is an important lesson in life and an illusion. It's about re-balancing your emotional energy and forgiveness is the key to this.
Beautifully said :) Thanks for confirming how I feel. Wise words. Let go of the attachment not the love. Never become hard, stay soft and warm, but be more discerning without harsh judgment.
So true I’m in the middle of one right now and all the childhood trauma of not being good enough unloveable is right at the forefront but doing my best to parent myself as best I can
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....
The man I loved deeply and wanted to marry left me abruptly two weeks ago, leaving me with a shattered heart. Heartbreak truly hurts. This video is wonderful; thank you!
Wow. I expected to be told that my pain was an illusion or something but actually this was one of the most sensitive and truly nurturing videos I have seen on the subject. The pain is searing and overwhelming but this video that does not belittle it is a great help. You surprised me Teal! ❤️
True words there, I unfortunately began drinking heavy after my breakup to try to ease the rawness of what I was feeling, Sadly there is no fast foward to our lives to skip to the end but I did come full circle and found my inner peace again, taken nearly 2 years tho.
Good video. For me it helped to work on myself. I read more, I brought my reflections to paper, I changed my diet a bit, I went running, I changed little habits, I tried new things, I discovered some nice self development videos on you tube, there is help for every taste and situation and like Teal said meditation really frees you for a while, gives your brain time to breathe... At first I did it to make myself "worthy" for her, but when I realised there will be no romantic love between us I kept on walking in the direction of good and learned the most valueable lessons in my life. Change something for the better, it gives you hope and makes you stronger not only to withstand the weeks right after the breakup but even more it gives you the power to change your life. If you look back on the breakup phase with a healed heart you will see it was a good lesson for you. My best wishes to the heartbroken out there!
I'm not gonna hide it... this became a very relevant video to my life today, and I'm glad I started to read the Completion Process book before any of this happened. Being lonely is... lonely....
SUMMARY - how to survive a breakup - Teal Swan Loving someone means emotional unity, means including as yourself, you match the frequency of source Breake up is the opposite, it means seperation If you breake the contract of unity/oneness with somone you feel betrayed Seperation can be caused by cheating, emotiinal withdrawal, criticism Breaking up is so painful because you are loosing a part of yourself as you feel Hatred is the cover emotion for hurt that you feel in a break up Hatred keeps you from the lower vibration of hurt The hurt needs to be addressed The heart chakra is the unifier When you experience a break up the heart chakra is impacted most strongly Break up is the death of a part of yourself If you are not able to willingly die you hope you die involuntarily, then dont have to doubt yourself or feel guilt Heart breake is traum of the system, it takes a process to stabalize again You cant rush this process What to do if you experience a heart break Live for the next five minutes Wha would bring you relieve for the next hour? 1. do not distract yourself If you come together it most likely is because you compensate a lost aspect of yourself with the partner. 8:00 You feel more whole with the partner You have to turn inward now and become whole again To be autonomous you have to be in a sefure relationship with yourself Dont jump into another relationship ---> completion process To become whole is to find yourself again: Who am? What do I want?/what do I need? What changes do I want to make in my life? Think back to times when you were truly happy in an autonomous way. What have you done back then? Oftem break ups call for start over, beginning new, priorities have to shift You have to feel yourself again, because you have lost yourself --> feeling lost video 3. change your life so that it feels new Different food, appearance, etc. 4. address ylur negative core believes that occur as a result of the break up pain like "I can never trust someone anymore" Address the shoulds like "this shouldnt be happening" --> how to change a believe video --> byron katie 5. Ask why Understanding sets you free You know why, you dont want to admit 6. people come into your life for a reason Look what part or parts of the puzzle they gave you look for the positive things that came with the relationship 7. figure out what is right with you Look at your strengths and whats woth looking at about yourself How does your steength help you in your life? 8. find connection with other people Learn to receive --> receiving video 9. figure out the best case szenario a year from now 10. cry if you feel the urge to cry 11. relax your body by yoga, massage, musoc, breathing, paint, salt bath 12. meditate daily to release your thoughts and connect with source and seeing a bigfer perspective and being more allowing 13. write into a gratitude or positive aspects journal especially before going to bed Think small if you are in emotional pain. Focjs an the little things. Only put things down that feel better 14. practice the art of self love The more love you give yourself the more loving things yoj attract --> shadows before dawn book 15. gain closure What does it need to gain closure? Learning what to do better, apologize, ask why, how to avoid the same in the future, ceremony 16. seek out therapy Therapist can be a secure atrachement figure for you Alllow to feel sorry for your loss You cant really lose someone, its an illusion Pain is temporary, it is like a crying child, crying for your help treat it like that Thanks Teal
Thank you. I'm still in pain, but I start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel & that light is understanding of what is happening to me. One thing that would help me is knowing for sure that he really doesn't care. That tiny hope that he still cares slows down my recovery.
Ahh.. so what I was feeling was heartbreak in my chest. I really wish I could rush the process 😕 thank you for the part about shock , exactly what I came for ❤
This was amazingly helpful. I feel as though I was meant to see this because I can finally understand my ex's hatred of me. Thank you for all that you do, Teal!
It's been 7 years and I'm still not over it and I in fact haven't been able to trust anyone again. Looks like I am going be alone for the rest of my life . I can not open up to no one else despite my best efforts I haven't found anyone that loves me . I have been through therapy and it didn't do anything but drain my pockets . I feel like people just tell you it gets better with time to make you feel better or because they dont know what else to say but in my situation the pain is still there like it just happened yesterday
Thank you so much for this video Teal! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago, and the pain hurts so much sometimes, that all I can think about is given up. After watching this video, and reading some of the comments posted before mine, I feel a little bit better because I know that I am not alone, and because I believe that there's hope...
I will never be able to hate someone especially someone I love. We love unconditionally. Yes it hurts as you have described. But to hate or wish harm on anyone is sick and not healthy. I'm sure that is not true for most. I will always love my ex. He has a part of my heart forever. Learn to love in all its capacity and accept it. I choose to grow from every situation.
I'm 2 years on and although the days are better for me, the nights are still so long and dark, Takes so much but I know the sun will always rise in the morning.
I was supposed to get married at 2:22 today and I was ghosted a week ago after some silly argument. This has been a pattern throughout the 27 years I've known this man. He probably was already bored with me and getting ready to discard. I can't help it so my heart still aches. He totally blindsided me.
Very happy to have found this video. I was broken up with a week ago, by my partner of 6½ years who was also my best friend for 8 years. The pain right now is unbearable and I have no idea how to get through this or if i ever will - but I will try the things you suggest and attempt to hope for the best. Thank you
This video. Every single word and phrase of it, the way it's put together, from acknowledging your pain, to truly making you feel like there's a way out of it. It's perfectly made to align with a frequency that you are capable of, just not in the right moment to exercise because of your emotional state. But it still resonates with you, and it brings out that capacity, that strength, that capability to see beyond the heartbreak. I don't think I can ever thank you enough for making this video, Teal. This alone can singlehandedly start someone in the road towards REALLY getting over a heartbreak, learn from it, and come out as a better person on the other side. Just, thank you so much.
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Last February for the first time in my life I did experience a break up. It was my first love relationship. I did all of the things she stated even without knowing that it could help. Watching this after six months of that break up to see of what I did was right or not and I feel so proud of myself. Always choose yourself no matter what 😇❤️🌸✨
I'm going through a painful breakup right now. I changed my hair, and it really helped. I'm very tempted to distract myself, and I've even tried to numb the pain. I realize that I need to be present wholly with the emotion and let it be my teacher. Music really helps me switch my mood to something more positive, but it can also help me become more present with my pain.
Mr Prank Garrett I don't think so, not in my experiences. It's always been the man, who was not 100%. And when say fuck it, they want to be the worst to the woman, if they have kids, he excludes the woman like trash. And I think few humans behave decent, when the other cheats, they go for blood. But I think it's the men that tend to be behaving badly, and want women to just forgive them. I think women give 80% in a relationship, but men give 40% at best. Whoever gives more, maybe gets angriest. It says that men have changed, but no, not true. Personally, I don't think women should be in relationships, they should love whoever whenever they please, and not have to answer to anybody. It's going to be more and more that way.
forever zeta That's fine until the wall starts approaching. Lots of women will find themselves miserable no longer able to manipulate men. MGTOW is small now but it will grow and it will make a difference.Look at what's happening in Japan. You are foolish if you think men only put in around 40% to a relationship. Men love women but since feminism men have been repeatedly kicked in the balls by women and a horribly unjust court system. As for you thinking women shouldn't be in relationships i am quite certain that a sizeable majority of women do like being partnered up.
Healing all my core wounds from childhood that created beliefs, thought patterns, emotional attachments, and habits and also unlearning the old ways. Healing within without distractions with compassion. May all beings feel it all because the only way to feeling whole is through it.
Teal you are amazing, even your voice calms me down now. Even after so many years your video makes sense.. so far you helped me a lot during my destructive relationships. Thank you so much for being my guide xxx
Of course. Become conscious of the parts of you that resemble the kind of people you draw to yourself but who don't fulfill those needs. To have universe bring you better people.
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much! It's an amazing thing to have the right knowledge but to actually back that up and reinforce it by offering your acquired wealth back to those who simply ask for it, I think is the true measure of an actualized healer. Thank you Teal!
Thank you. This video brings back so many memories of pain and heartbreak it was excruciating and healing to watch at the same time. I kinda want to laugh at the people who say, “I’m not taking relationship advice from someone who…” bc they fail to realize that “someone who” already went through those experiences might be the best person to help you process or learn from. Anyways, thank you. I learned a lot about myself and the pain I have put others through. There were times in my youth that I would withdraw bc I didn’t want to have that difficult conversation expecting them to break up with me, and the times it happened to me I recognized it and broke up with them. Painful stuff. Hopefully I never take part in either side of that cycle ever again.
"This will backfire immensly" ain't that the damn truth! I distracted with drugs n men n here I am a year later still trying to get over him as if it happened yesterday
Love the minute by minute, hour by hour advice! This is how I got through military basic training but instead of minute by minute, it was get through breakfast then focus on lunch then dinner then lights out. My problem = becoming a recluse (practicing my guitar, researching recipes or bury myself in work!!!)
I saw a man I was highly attracted to at the gym. I said a little prayer to God to bring him to me or someone more compatible with me. A couple weeks later he approached me and got my Snapchat. We didn’t start dating until the summer. I felt like we were a match made in heaven. No one I’ve ever been intimate with has made me feel as alive and wonderful as he did. However after a month of dating he’d leave for weeks or months at a time before returning back into my life for a limited time. Each time he returned it was so passionate, he said he missed me and I thought this is the time he’ll stay. But he kept leaving and I even saw him hanging out with and going on dates with another girl. It’s been three weeks since we last spoke and hung out. I’m so confused. I don’t know if it’s worth it to keep him around for a fun casual relationship once in a blue moon, or if I’m too emotionally attached for that. He made me feel desired and attractive. I specifically asked God/ the universe for him or someone more compatible. Why did he come if there is someone more compatible out there for me. I’ve been trying to move on. How can we have shared such incredible other worldly passion and intimacy together yet not be compatible...
I don’t even know if pursuing a romantic loving and intimate relationship ship with someone is even worth it since I can’t fall in love with just anyone and chemistry and attraction has to be there for me to be happy in that relationship.
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Wow I can't describe how relaxed and amazing this video made me feel afterwords and I've been searching up inspirational people on TH-cam to seek advice but you seemed to stand out.but you def have a way with your words thanks for making me feel better. I will continue watching your videos 💕
I have a brokenheart because my ex-girlfriend Amanda Mick broke my heart and I been couple of days of brokenheart but now I listen to this like " how to survive break up and heartbreak " I take step by step it heal me up inside my heart to find a new love
I am heartbroken after two annulments from my husband and it is upsetting in me. I never wanted this to happen but now I am breaking up with the person and going on with my life in another place far from him. It is so painful to be betrayed as you say in your video. There is a separation between us now. I agree with you that it is a severing of me. In Great Love, Marilyn Bloch
I was thinking making changes will not prevent me from falling again..making someone else be part of me or someone to fill me after a while is not the right way to go. there is not a human who can fill me. I personally find peace in knowing that god is having the strongest connection to me and that humans are not created in order to fill me. I am not here to fill anyone but to maybe be an additional source of peace and love but the ultimate love is not to be searched in any creation I believe. Thank you I love your advices. what has always helped me are the tears I allow to fall, the prayer and exercise. and in addition to that believing and trusting that everything is happening for my own good.
Having a sense of how things should go is the main reason for suffering, dissapointment, depression etc. Go into a relationship, Be in a relationship without expectations. Without a self-created image of your future, without even the self-created image of who you think YOU are. Don't live life through concepts you have accepted and believe in, let everything go, just BE.
I have a bad cheating man that won't admit that he is cheating.. He just leaves when ever and come back whenever 4:am and lies. I'm so over that piece of shit
Exactly! @13:00 Who needs a therapist when I have you 😍 I believed this, that the why, should questions should be asked because I realized I did wrong and that lead me to start healing my inner child. You are a blessing to humanity
I met this girl back in high school we've been together since I was 18 and she was 17 and we had a beautiful relationship but as years went by emotions and shape shifting started happening she ended up moving to a different state we did the long distances and it was making us frustrate we talked about having a family but now she's with someone else and has plans with them that we was going to have and that tore me apart it's crazzy how we have to use the rest button to start over thinking that the ones we loved was of us to find out they was meant for someone else I've loved and lost but thanks to this vedio I see the brighter picture
I lost my father a couple of months ago and now my wife is filing for divorce. Very painful. And what is more painful is that she put all the love, sacrifices and care I gave her aside and created out of her imagination a new me, a monster to justify her breakup.
@@yeuruuerueeheue I am feeling better, I fell out of that intense love. I feel like that person is in my heart and my soul forever. Something I get sad or worried about him, but I feel that we both have our paths. I think it is as it is supposed to be.
@@monikazimovaart I’m not really sure what to make of this. I hope you’ve found peace. all I can say is I don’t want to be thinking about him two years down the line.. I guess we’ll see.
@@yeuruuerueeheue you know, we something reunited in between so... That made it more complicated. I mean, the fact that he is in my soul is a comforting fact. It doesn't hurt like it used to. When you love someone they will stay in your soul forever, but you move on with the feelings and feel at peace.
Thanks. This video helped a lot. I just broke with my soulmate that was literately the person I have the most fun with and his energy was always giving me life. But it was a very difficult situation because of a big age gap. Now I feel I'm death inside. The most painful thing is to know I'll never find someone like him or even near. I'm addicted to all his ways, and I feel he's the best guy in this world. Teal do you know any good therapist in London?
Its' not easy to experience breakup, being in pain is just like your getting dying, losing hopes and afraid to invest feelings again, it's a long process but you can make it one day you woke up without feel that pain, be happy and to love again.
Thank you so much for this, Teal. I look forward to reading your new book once it is released. Your approaches and advice are invaluable, and you always bring me a sense of calm when you speak. All the love.
AMAZING. Thank you ! I can never really show my appreciation to you for this but you have really helped me and I am extremely greatfull for this Vidio and for people like yourself. Have a blessed day
i was close with my uncle and when he died I felt a pain that was so unbearable I became numb. However I was able to address his death and all past relationships. I am free and clear now. No past issues.
my heart break happened a year ago and it is still going on because we work in the same company so I keep hearing things that has happened. He is now engaged and his new girlfriend is having a baby. Also he lied about so many things and he was in a lot of debt luckily nothing to do with me! We were together 7 years so it is still hard but I think I am doing so much better then I was. I've had to move twice and cope with living on my own and also lost my pet kitty cat in the process too, she had to be put to sleep. But my family has been helping me
Its hard to listen to teal cause shes so right. Im 40 and I just cant seem to learn from my mistakes cptsd. Its been 6 years since my divorce and even yesterday I spent hours in rumination hating my ex. We have a child. I cannot run from her, from the memories. Just when I think Im doing ok the haunting comes back. The financial ruin, now being a truck driver isolated and alone without connection. I haven’t touched someone in 6 years and Im a brilliant attractive man...but not on the inside. So if you’re 18 and just got your heart broken, please listen to Teals advice. Shes right. Don’t loose a decade of your life to anger, you wont get it back, and your youth will be gone
Heartache is a gift and it is painful for a reason. It's the universe screaming out that there is something about yourself that you're not aware of. When we experience a breakup or rejection we feel that we'll always be alone and we'll never be loved again. The hidden truth is that you are never alone and you will always love yourself.
Thiss. 😍😍😍 I need to eat, sleep and BREATHE all of thiss. ✔💯💯
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Where in the Bible are we told to "love thyself first, before all others"?????
We are MEANT TO CONNECT and to bond with another in order to become something more than we were, or could have been, by ourselves.
It's only today, in our super self sufficient, vain, self obsessed culture that we are told crap like that. Like yourself, work and live with honor and dignity, sure. But self-worship is wrong, it was called "vainglory" and never encouraged.
I think it's at the heart of so many breakups: as most everyone think "i love myself, I'm so awesome, who could ever be worthy of me? I need to break with their person and find someone better"
A recipe for an unhappy society.
Oh, yeah, that's what we have.
@@TheRealThomasPaine1776 Typically as humans, well responsible ones and those who understand and value commitment and relationships, rarely are solely self seeking. Regardless of what man wrote in the Bible over 2000 thousand years ago, god granted everyone with differences of personality, psychology, emotional makeup etc. if a person feels as though they want to end a relationship, that is absolutely okay.
The key is understanding that you will never leave yourself. If someone does choose to walk out of your life you should always ground yourself in the fact that you came into this world with yourself and you will leave by yourself. Some people get so caught up in another that they lose self and that’s not healthy. There’s a balance between the other and self and many struggle with understanding this principle.
I've never felt a pain this bad in my life. Every single day is a struggle. I'm totally depressed and just don't know what I'm going to do with my life. Everything reminds me of him ... Everything leads me back to feeling that part of myself is not with me. I wanted him forever. I hope this gets better ... I can't deal with feeling like this .
same feeling, I understand so well
its bad...but for me at least, the more breakups i go thru, the easier it gets (loss of oxytocin)
Kay Grifff it gets better by getting back up. I just went through the same and with depression.
It's not easy but getting up and getting ready, going out, making a dating profile (even if your ready to date), and knowing that you deserve better and each day is a fresh start.
Sending 💓🦋⭐️
Kay Grifff im where you are now, i hope things have got better for u
Kay Grifff 🦋⭐️💪🏼
heartbreak is a trauma to the system. absolutely the truth. so glad I found this video.
I changed my hair, moved to a different continent, started exercising, eating healthy, meditating daily and working a lot since the loss of someone important. I do what I love and I'm content with myself. But the pain just doesn't go away, I don't think it ever will to be honest. I don't believe I'll meet anyone like that ever again, it's just impossible.
UPDATE: Thank you to all the people who kindly responded. I was an overly dramatic 18 year old after my first major breakup. The guy was a complete loser in so many ways and I am baffled now that I was so heartbroken. Anyhow I did get over it within two months and have rarely looked back. It's rather hilarious to read this reminder of my mindset back then. Next time I'll write a greek tragedy!
Sara Anne You may be right...the pain may never go away...but when I read of all the changes you've made in your life during this painful time, I feel so proud of you, and I hope that pain at least lessens.
+Universal Mastery AXE! AND SO IT IS! i am still healing from a break up...still in awe at how long it takes me to remove ppl from my astral memory, so to speak...but i know that it is laid out for me to CHANGE. some of us have a deck to shuffle many times before we can see the spread clearly...heh. the pain is with me every day, but wow does it make for a hell of another layer of my time here as a spiritual warrior. his journey really isn't my business and thats where i get bogged down. we get enmeshed...but the contracts break, bridges burn, ppls poop gets projected on to you. doesn't mean you have to shovel it with you forever. not saying i have learned how to put the whole thing in a more compassionate place. . . but every day is work on this.
+Sara Anne +Chrisy McConnell I just read what Chrisy said to you and I have to say I agree with her. It absolutely courageous that you changed your entire self AND moved to a different continent. Maybe you should think about contacting someone who can do channeling to seek guidance. I've used it myself for other stuff.
+Sara Anne Ask yourself - did you know how good you would feel just before you met that person? No. Similarly, you don't know yet how good you will feel again.
+Sara Anne What is for you will not pass you by. Just remember that. Wish him well, sometimes the ultimate love is to let them go-release him with love and without any resentment and if it's meant to be he'll come back. But don't waste your time waiting-if he doesn't the chances are someone even better will be coming into your life, you just have to open yourself up to receiving that love. I personally think maybe running away isn't the best solution-you physically ran away from the emotional situation. It may have felt better for a while but ultimately there is something inside you that will not be resolved until you face it. You are clearly strong and are willing to take steps to improve yourself. It's a grieving process which is the most painful experience as far as I'm concerned but if you can get through this, you can achieve anything. You do deserve happiness and love but you have to let go before you can truly allow anyone else in. Did you move to another continent for you or through pain of losing him?
I guess it's time to start taking better care of myself
I am in the process of ending a 10 year relationship and thank you for your insights Teal. Today I realised I can never lose the love I feel for my partner as I thought I had to cut it off because he has found another, I see love is all encompassing and the pain I am feeling is the letting go of attachment not the letting go of love. Thank you , love is eternal.
+Pamela Mills You ARE love! :) Loss is an important lesson in life and an illusion. It's about re-balancing your emotional energy and forgiveness is the key to this.
Yes I see now that the feelings of loss was the inner child wanting her dad's recognition and love. Thank you.
Beautifully said :) Thanks for confirming how I feel. Wise words. Let go of the attachment not the love. Never become hard, stay soft and warm, but be more discerning without harsh judgment.
So true I’m in the middle of one right now and all the childhood trauma of not being good enough unloveable is right at the forefront but doing my best to parent myself as best I can
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....
Text him on WhatsApp....
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@@Patrizia-uw2cl I have absolutely no interest in making an ex come back . He’s an ex for a reason
The man I loved deeply and wanted to marry left me abruptly two weeks ago, leaving me with a shattered heart. Heartbreak truly hurts. This video is wonderful; thank you!
Lia Fiol-Matta
Big hug and feel better in time!
Catherine Fernandez Thank you! I appreciate your words and good wishes.
Do you feel better now? This happened to me yesterday. I feel like I'm dying.
@@m4396 I am right there with you. I too feel like 'm dying.
@@kristienvanevelghem6568 i do feel better know. Time gives us perspective. Lots of love
Never thought I would be here....4 years down the drain. Thank you, Teal. YOU are my safety net.
5 1/2 years down the drain. She met someone 2 weeks ago. was worth more to her than our relationship. feels bad man. Hope you are doing good
Wow. I expected to be told that my pain was an illusion or something but actually this was one of the most sensitive and truly nurturing videos I have seen on the subject. The pain is searing and overwhelming but this video that does not belittle it is a great help. You surprised me Teal! ❤️
That’s just dumb to say pain is an illusion
Small increments of time. This is the best advice.
True words there, I unfortunately began drinking heavy after my breakup to try to ease the rawness of what I was feeling, Sadly there is no fast foward to our lives to skip to the end but I did come full circle and found my inner peace again, taken nearly 2 years tho.
looking back after my most devastating moment of my life I realize it was necessary, I was blinded by love and failed to see what I needed to see
Good video. For me it helped to work on myself. I read more, I brought my reflections to paper, I changed my diet a bit, I went running, I changed little habits, I tried new things, I discovered some nice self development videos on you tube, there is help for every taste and situation and like Teal said meditation really frees you for a while, gives your brain time to breathe...
At first I did it to make myself "worthy" for her, but when I realised there will be no romantic love between us I kept on walking in the direction of good and learned the most valueable lessons in my life. Change something for the better, it gives you hope and makes you stronger not only to withstand the weeks right after the breakup but even more it gives you the power to change your life. If you look back on the breakup phase with a healed heart you will see it was a good lesson for you. My best wishes to the heartbroken out there!
I'm not gonna hide it... this became a very relevant video to my life today, and I'm glad I started to read the Completion Process book before any of this happened. Being lonely is... lonely....
SUMMARY - how to survive a breakup - Teal Swan
Loving someone means emotional unity, means including as yourself, you match the frequency of source
Breake up is the opposite, it means seperation
If you breake the contract of unity/oneness with somone you feel betrayed
Seperation can be caused by cheating, emotiinal withdrawal, criticism
Breaking up is so painful because you are loosing a part of yourself as you feel
Hatred is the cover emotion for hurt that you feel in a break up
Hatred keeps you from the lower vibration of hurt
The hurt needs to be addressed
The heart chakra is the unifier
When you experience a break up the heart chakra is impacted most strongly
Break up is the death of a part of yourself
If you are not able to willingly die you hope you die involuntarily, then dont have to doubt yourself or feel guilt
Heart breake is traum of the system, it takes a process to stabalize again
You cant rush this process
What to do if you experience a heart break
Live for the next five minutes
Wha would bring you relieve for the next hour?
1. do not distract yourself
If you come together it most likely is because you compensate a lost aspect of yourself with the partner. 8:00
You feel more whole with the partner
You have to turn inward now and become whole again
To be autonomous you have to be in a sefure relationship with yourself
Dont jump into another relationship
---> completion process
To become whole is to find yourself again:
Who am? What do I want?/what do I need? What changes do I want to make in my life?
Think back to times when you were truly happy in an autonomous way. What have you done back then?
Oftem break ups call for start over, beginning new, priorities have to shift
You have to feel yourself again, because you have lost yourself
--> feeling lost video
3. change your life so that it feels new
Different food, appearance, etc.
4. address ylur negative core believes that occur as a result of the break up pain like "I can never trust someone anymore"
Address the shoulds like "this shouldnt be happening"
--> how to change a believe video
--> byron katie
5. Ask why
Understanding sets you free
You know why, you dont want to admit
6. people come into your life for a reason
Look what part or parts of the puzzle they gave you
look for the positive things that came with the relationship
7. figure out what is right with you
Look at your strengths and whats woth looking at about yourself
How does your steength help you in your life?
8. find connection with other people
Learn to receive --> receiving video
9. figure out the best case szenario a year from now
10. cry if you feel the urge to cry
11. relax your body by yoga, massage, musoc, breathing, paint, salt bath
12. meditate daily to release your thoughts and connect with source and seeing a bigfer perspective and being more allowing
13. write into a gratitude or positive aspects journal especially before going to bed
Think small if you are in emotional pain. Focjs an the little things. Only put things down that feel better
14. practice the art of self love
The more love you give yourself the more loving things yoj attract
--> shadows before dawn book
15. gain closure
What does it need to gain closure? Learning what to do better, apologize, ask why, how to avoid the same in the future, ceremony
16. seek out therapy
Therapist can be a secure atrachement figure for you
Alllow to feel sorry for your loss
You cant really lose someone, its an illusion
Pain is temporary, it is like a crying child, crying for your help treat it like that
Thanks Teal
Sebastian on mama shivaya
Thks sebastian!! 😘
Thanks Teal :(
Wow that's a hell of a summary
Om Namah Shivaya 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you. I'm still in pain, but I start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel & that light is understanding of what is happening to me. One thing that would help me is knowing for sure that he really doesn't care. That tiny hope that he still cares slows down my recovery.
Ahh.. so what I was feeling was heartbreak in my chest. I really wish I could rush the process 😕 thank you for the part about shock , exactly what I came for ❤
This was amazingly helpful. I feel as though I was meant to see this because I can finally understand my ex's hatred of me. Thank you for all that you do, Teal!
"Sometimes to get to the other side of something, we have to go straight into it."
It's been 7 years and I'm still not over it and I in fact haven't been able to trust anyone again. Looks like I am going be alone for the rest of my life . I can not open up to no one else despite my best efforts I haven't found anyone that loves me . I have been through therapy and it didn't do anything but drain my pockets . I feel like people just tell you it gets better with time to make you feel better or because they dont know what else to say but in my situation the pain is still there like it just happened yesterday
art angel, you have to give love ❤️a second chance
i'm the same. 2 years out. time does not heal.
Don't trust people. Only trust yourself. Make yourself happy.
Thank you so much for this video Teal! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago, and the pain hurts so much sometimes, that all I can think about is given up. After watching this video, and reading some of the comments posted before mine, I feel a little bit better because I know that I am not alone, and because I believe that there's hope...
I will never be able to hate someone especially someone I love. We love unconditionally. Yes it hurts as you have described. But to hate or wish harm on anyone is sick and not healthy. I'm sure that is not true for most. I will always love my ex. He has a part of my heart forever. Learn to love in all its capacity and accept it. I choose to grow from every situation.
letting go is hard, you have to move away from the situation and see what went wrong. and accept what you cannot change.
these words in itself is healing. Hope, belief, knowledge the pain will not torture my being forever
I am going through a heartbreak. Its been 2 months and i still cry myself to sleep. So far this is the most reasonable advice i have heard.
I'm 2 years on and although the days are better for me, the nights are still so long and dark, Takes so much but I know the sun will always rise in the morning.
Minute 17:05 - yoga lady was my yoga instructor here in FL. I was surprised to see her picture here 😊
I was supposed to get married at 2:22 today and I was ghosted a week ago after some silly argument. This has been a pattern throughout the 27 years I've known this man. He probably was already bored with me and getting ready to discard. I can't help it so my heart still aches. He totally blindsided me.
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Very happy to have found this video. I was broken up with a week ago, by my partner of 6½ years who was also my best friend for 8 years. The pain right now is unbearable and I have no idea how to get through this or if i ever will - but I will try the things you suggest and attempt to hope for the best. Thank you
This video. Every single word and phrase of it, the way it's put together, from acknowledging your pain, to truly making you feel like there's a way out of it. It's perfectly made to align with a frequency that you are capable of, just not in the right moment to exercise because of your emotional state. But it still resonates with you, and it brings out that capacity, that strength, that capability to see beyond the heartbreak. I don't think I can ever thank you enough for making this video, Teal. This alone can singlehandedly start someone in the road towards REALLY getting over a heartbreak, learn from it, and come out as a better person on the other side. Just, thank you so much.
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Last February for the first time in my life I did experience a break up. It was my first love relationship. I did all of the things she stated even without knowing that it could help. Watching this after six months of that break up to see of what I did was right or not and I feel so proud of myself.
Always choose yourself no matter what 😇❤️🌸✨
I'm going through a painful breakup right now. I changed my hair, and it really helped. I'm very tempted to distract myself, and I've even tried to numb the pain. I realize that I need to be present wholly with the emotion and let it be my teacher. Music really helps me switch my mood to something more positive, but it can also help me become more present with my pain.
*****
MGTOW is the answer.
Mr Prank Garrett I don't think so, not in my experiences. It's always been the man, who was not 100%. And when say fuck it, they want to be the worst to the woman, if they have kids, he excludes the woman like trash. And I think few humans behave decent, when the other cheats, they go for blood. But I think it's the men that tend to be behaving badly, and want women to just forgive them. I think women give 80% in a relationship, but men give 40% at best. Whoever gives more, maybe gets angriest. It says that men have changed, but no, not true. Personally, I don't think women should be in relationships, they should love whoever whenever they please, and not have to answer to anybody. It's going to be more and more that way.
I've been romantic with both men and women, and I find both to be about the same.
forever zeta
That's fine until the wall starts approaching. Lots of women will find themselves miserable no longer able to manipulate men. MGTOW is small now but it will grow and it will make a difference.Look at what's happening in Japan.
You are foolish if you think men only put in around 40% to a relationship. Men love women but since feminism men have been repeatedly kicked in the balls by women and a horribly unjust court system.
As for you thinking women shouldn't be in relationships i am quite certain that a sizeable majority of women do like being partnered up.
Mr Prank Garrett
listen to what it says beneath this comment ;)
Just been through breakup today, all of a sudden I just feel so relieved.
Healing all my core wounds from childhood that created beliefs, thought patterns, emotional attachments, and habits and also unlearning the old ways.
Healing within without distractions with compassion.
May all beings feel it all because the only way to feeling whole is through it.
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
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Again , the timing of these videos and relevance of topics .... Superp!!!!!
Teal you are amazing, even your voice calms me down now. Even after so many years your video makes sense.. so far you helped me a lot during my destructive relationships. Thank you so much for being my guide xxx
You have such beautiful eyes...so deep and strong..almost wolf-like. Thank you for this video..Best heart break advice I've come across on youtube
Pain is the body's way of saying that something needs to be healed.
I don't want to lose connection so damn early in my next relationship i want to feel connected that's all i dream of
Of course. Become conscious of the parts of you that resemble the kind of people you draw to yourself but who don't fulfill those needs. To have universe bring you better people.
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much! It's an amazing thing to have the right knowledge but to actually back that up and reinforce it by offering your acquired wealth back to those who simply ask for it, I think is the true measure of an actualized healer. Thank you Teal!
Your voice is so soothing.
I love Teal . She is great! She deserves all the admiration, respect, honor..
I miss him so much but he doesn't love me or want me anymore. I don't know how to accept that :'(
:( how are you doing now?
Im with you, dont despair... a brother from another part of the world....
Its the same here....
+evan fero I don't know when it will be over.
+Moni M sorry some times it doesn't. I've been hurting for 10 years now. I compare every new relationship to him. He took my soul.
Thank you.
This video brings back so many memories of pain and heartbreak it was excruciating and healing to watch at the same time. I kinda want to laugh at the people who say, “I’m not taking relationship advice from someone who…” bc they fail to realize that “someone who” already went through those experiences might be the best person to help you process or learn from.
Anyways, thank you. I learned a lot about myself and the pain I have put others through. There were times in my youth that I would withdraw bc I didn’t want to have that difficult conversation expecting them to break up with me, and the times it happened to me I recognized it and broke up with them. Painful stuff. Hopefully I never take part in either side of that cycle ever again.
Your videos makes me cry - detoxification. Thanks :'-)
Sara N, don't cry,always be strong 💪💪💪💪.
Oscar Williamson aw thanks (:
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I’ve just stumbled across this video and I just wanted to say how much this helped me, thank you x
Soooo deep!!!! With each one it's really very deep!!!
"This will backfire immensly" ain't that the damn truth! I distracted with drugs n men n here I am a year later still trying to get over him as if it happened yesterday
Ashley Stinson,So sad 😪 but please try to move on
"I'm never going to trust anyone ever again"
"I can't make relationships work"
Love the minute by minute, hour by hour advice! This is how I got through military basic training but instead of minute by minute, it was get through breakfast then focus on lunch then dinner then lights out. My problem = becoming a recluse (practicing my guitar, researching recipes or bury myself in work!!!)
I feel so much lighter after watching this
I feel better just watching this video. Thank you Teal, you've helped me tons since I started listening to you!
I saw a man I was highly attracted to at the gym. I said a little prayer to God to bring him to me or someone more compatible with me. A couple weeks later he approached me and got my Snapchat. We didn’t start dating until the summer. I felt like we were a match made in heaven. No one I’ve ever been intimate with has made me feel as alive and wonderful as he did. However after a month of dating he’d leave for weeks or months at a time before returning back into my life for a limited time. Each time he returned it was so passionate, he said he missed me and I thought this is the time he’ll stay. But he kept leaving and I even saw him hanging out with and going on dates with another girl. It’s been three weeks since we last spoke and hung out.
I’m so confused. I don’t know if it’s worth it to keep him around for a fun casual relationship once in a blue moon, or if I’m too emotionally attached for that. He made me feel desired and attractive. I specifically asked God/ the universe for him or someone more compatible. Why did he come if there is someone more compatible out there for me. I’ve been trying to move on. How can we have shared such incredible other worldly passion and intimacy together yet not be compatible...
I don’t even know if pursuing a romantic loving and intimate relationship ship with someone is even worth it since I can’t fall in love with just anyone and chemistry and attraction has to be there for me to be happy in that relationship.
When baffles me is that despite the fact that we are in unhappy relationship, we still feel so much pain when it’s ended. SMH.
I haven't cried in years. I need to cry and release emotion, I am looking for suggestions.
Teal, you are a great inspiration for me. Much love.
Without your guidance, Teal, I’d be so far behind my healing and my self-discovery. I’m grateful for you. 🙏🙏
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Wow I can't describe how relaxed and amazing this video made me feel afterwords and I've been searching up inspirational people on TH-cam to seek advice but you seemed to stand out.but you def have a way with your words thanks for making me feel better. I will continue watching your videos 💕
So grateful for you teal 💚
I have a brokenheart because my ex-girlfriend Amanda Mick broke my heart and I been couple of days of brokenheart but now I listen to this like " how to survive break up and heartbreak " I take step by step it heal me up inside my heart to find a new love
That ''freak accident'' call out. I started applauding xD
She Doesn't Even Go Here, you look gorgeous 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
I am heartbroken after two annulments from my husband and it is upsetting in me. I never wanted this to happen but now I am breaking up with the person and going on with my life in another place far from him. It is so painful to be betrayed as you say in your video. There is a separation between us now. I agree with you that it is a severing of me. In Great Love, Marilyn Bloch
I was thinking making changes will not prevent me from falling again..making someone else be part of me or someone to fill me after a while is not the right way to go. there is not a human who can fill me. I personally find peace in knowing that god is having the strongest connection to me and that humans are not created in order to fill me. I am not here to fill anyone but to maybe be an additional source of peace and love but the ultimate love is not to be searched in any creation I believe. Thank you I love your advices. what has always helped me are the tears I allow to fall, the prayer and exercise. and in addition to that believing and trusting that everything is happening for my own good.
What an amazing heart you have and your voice is very beautiful. Thank you for helping so many who have heart breaks including I.
Having a sense of how things should go is the main reason for suffering, dissapointment, depression etc. Go into a relationship, Be in a relationship without expectations. Without a self-created image of your future, without even the self-created image of who you think YOU are. Don't live life through concepts you have accepted and believe in, let everything go, just BE.
This could not have come at a better time for me . I love you're advice Teal
and throw everything you once had with that person if is necessary for you to move forward
I was crying the whole video...
Saw them with someone else and that was closure for me
You are great, Teal. I found your videos and have watched a few. It is odd yet wonderful how greatly you resonate with me.
I have a bad cheating man that won't admit that he is cheating.. He just leaves when ever and come back whenever 4:am and lies. I'm so over that piece of shit
Thank you Teal, for being part of my reality, i appreciate you a lot, thank you for being you! Love From Romania.
Hi, can you please do a video on why some men are abusive-what causes people to become abusers?
What about why some men and some women are abusive?
It happens with both x
Exactly! @13:00 Who needs a therapist when I have you 😍 I believed this, that the why, should questions should be asked because I realized I did wrong and that lead me to start healing my inner child. You are a blessing to humanity
I met this girl back in high school we've been together since I was 18 and she was 17 and we had a beautiful relationship but as years went by emotions and shape shifting started happening she ended up moving to a different state we did the long distances and it was making us frustrate we talked about having a family but now she's with someone else and has plans with them that we was going to have and that tore me apart it's crazzy how we have to use the rest button to start over
thinking that the ones we loved was of us to find out they was meant for someone else I've loved and lost but thanks to this vedio I see the brighter picture
I lost my father a couple of months ago and now my wife is filing for divorce.
Very painful. And what is more painful is that she put all the love, sacrifices and care I gave her aside and created out of her imagination a new me, a monster to justify her breakup.
I love your suggestions and I thank you for your wisdom.
Get a rabbit and you forget on drooling these men!
I literally feel like I lost half of my soul, nothing can replace it
Sending you hugs. Check out Heal your broken heart now
how are you now?
@@yeuruuerueeheue I am feeling better, I fell out of that intense love. I feel like that person is in my heart and my soul forever. Something I get sad or worried about him, but I feel that we both have our paths. I think it is as it is supposed to be.
@@monikazimovaart I’m not really sure what to make of this. I hope you’ve found peace. all I can say is I don’t want to be thinking about him two years down the line.. I guess we’ll see.
@@yeuruuerueeheue you know, we something reunited in between so... That made it more complicated. I mean, the fact that he is in my soul is a comforting fact. It doesn't hurt like it used to. When you love someone they will stay in your soul forever, but you move on with the feelings and feel at peace.
Thanks. This video helped a lot. I just broke with my soulmate that was literately the person I have the most fun with and his energy was always giving me life. But it was a very difficult situation because of a big age gap. Now I feel I'm death inside. The most painful thing is to know I'll never find someone like him or even near. I'm addicted to all his ways, and I feel he's the best guy in this world. Teal do you know any good therapist in London?
This is exactly what I needed to hear
Thanks Teal, just what i was looking for today. Love and respect.
Its' not easy to experience breakup, being in pain is just like your getting dying, losing hopes and afraid to invest feelings again, it's a long process but you can make it one day you woke up without feel that pain, be happy and to love again.
Beautiful. I needed this right now. Thank You, Teal.
Very nicely done! Love your subject matter.
Laura Vescovi,Are you a photographer?
@@oscarwilliamson1264 I like photography, not a pro by any means.
@@italythroughmyeyes hahahahaha☺️.Ok that's pretty cool.I'm Oscar Williamson from Alabama,USA.You?
Thank you so much for this, Teal. I look forward to reading your new book once it is released. Your approaches and advice are invaluable, and you always bring me a sense of calm when you speak. All the love.
Anatasia Lynn,you are so beautiful 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌷🌷🌹🌹
She is so right! Wow. she is so clever.
I am more focused on what do I want then who am I.
Thank you forever!
AMAZING. Thank you ! I can never really show my appreciation to you for this but you have really helped me and I am extremely greatfull for this Vidio and for people like yourself. Have a blessed day
i was close with my uncle and when he died I felt a pain that was so unbearable I became numb. However I was able to address his death and all past relationships. I am free and clear now. No past issues.
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
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I really needed this. Thank you, Teal. Much love.
my heart break happened a year ago and it is still going on because we work in the same company so I keep hearing things that has happened. He is now engaged and his new girlfriend is having a baby. Also he lied about so many things and he was in a lot of debt luckily nothing to do with me! We were together 7 years so it is still hard but I think I am doing so much better then I was. I've had to move twice and cope with living on my own and also lost my pet kitty cat in the process too, she had to be put to sleep. But my family has been helping me
thank you so much best advise so far!!
Outstanding and extremely useful....thank you immensely.
The pain is real
So Grateful for the Amazing content 🌹❤️🙏
Its hard to listen to teal cause shes so right. Im 40 and I just cant seem to learn from my mistakes cptsd. Its been 6 years since my divorce and even yesterday I spent hours in rumination hating my ex. We have a child. I cannot run from her, from the memories. Just when I think Im doing ok the haunting comes back. The financial ruin, now being a truck driver isolated and alone without connection. I haven’t touched someone in 6 years and Im a brilliant attractive man...but not on the inside. So if you’re 18 and just got your heart broken, please listen to Teals advice. Shes right. Don’t loose a decade of your life to anger, you wont get it back, and your youth will be gone
Omg thank you so much it really helped me I'm very grateful for these words of wisdom.
You make a lot of sense.
It is a therapist who broke my heart.