Thanks Teal. Great information. My husband and I are divorcing after 33 years and we have done most of the right steps that you mention. We are even helping each other move and he’s set me up with utilities in my new place. I’ve bought him all that he will need (household items) for his place since he hates shopping. We will always love each other and care about each other but it’s time for separate paths now. Our 4 grown children are witnessing a loving and amicable divorce. I hope they’re learning that relationships do change and marriage isn’t always forever but the love can be. 💜💜💜
VentionMGTOW Wow that’s a whole lot of generalization. Number one- My son is about to get married. Number two- who still thinks you have to be married to have a baby?! Lol Number three- I’m in my 50’s and retired too. See how that works? 🤷🏻♀️
in my experience its easiest to stay friends (or maybe even reconnect in a relationship) if you stop talking and take a break, and then when you're both over it, talk again, because up until then there is so many hurt feelings involved
Maybe the relationship didn't work but that doesn't mean you don't love each other, you will be there for each other and deep in your heart you know you'd do anything for that person, there will always be a strong connection
That might sound all fine and good but you have to factor in what’s best for the person that got dumped and is in emotional turmoil because of it. Personally I wouldn’t be friends with someone that broke my heart. My dignity is too strong to accept myself to settle for less than what I desire emotionally, physically and mentally. If someone walks out of a relationship with me then I’m not going to chase or follow that person, I’m keeping it where she left it behind and if she doesn’t want it then someone else will. I’m sure she would have other friends that could be there for her, but I’m not going to be just another one of them, because I know I’m worthy of something more than just friendship. It’s just boundary of mine.
I think that's not true. I think the definition of a break up is that you stop loving each other. You may still like each other and trust each other, but this deep love is gone. Otherwise you would still be in the relationship
Decoupling a poly relationship based on a single incompatibility. We are still deeply in love, but I am already married with children and he wants that for himself. We have become so attached that we now have to decouple so that he can follow his truth and meet his need of having a life partner and children of his own. This video has been very validating for what we are trying to do and helping me to not reject the parts of myself that feel such deep emotional hurt and the parts of me that are not willing to let go of our connection.
I want to thank you for validating my personal experience. I'm often told "you should be mad or just cut if off " and I have most often, when mutual, found that transitioning to friendship or even a slow letting go and conversation is much less ripping and traumatic. I thought it was just my attachment style. I do therapy with couples and this is how I approach folks who might be splitting up as well. Thank you for supporting and encouraging a gentle and human loving approach to relationship!!
I love that your former fiancee and your former partner are friends! I usually stay friends with my ex's. I don't see any need to cut somebody, who I cared about deeply, out of my life permanently. I usually do that for a short amount of time and then work them back in to my life within their new role as a friend.
I screamed in pain and rage the other day in total nature at night as I was doing the inwardness process instead of dwelling in anger over my husband's blaming, insinuating and accusing. An owl came over, said something that sounded like "We love you" and then imitated the exact crying sounds I had made just a few minutes before. Ha. I felt understood and loved.
This woman's emotional intelligence is off the charts!! Thank you Teal for the gifts of these videos explaining everything so fully and clearly, and thank you God for the gift of Teal.
You're right, I don't want a hypothetical friendship with a hypothetical person that I had a hypothetical romantic relationship with and a hypothetical breakup, this is just an unsuccessful relationship where no one got what they wanted
For me, if a girl dumps me, being just friends with her is not going to work for me, because we were more than that. I have too much dignity to accept being downgraded, settle for less than what I desire emotionally, mentally, physically, and watch her date other guys. That’s just my boundary. Maybe in the future IF I end up having no romantic interest in her, then we could possibly be friends, But other than that, if she walks out of the relationship then I’m not going to chase her or follow her. It’s all or nothing.
I can't tell you how useful this information is to me right now, having separated from my husband in July and going through the motions of transition- we are both incredibly respectful of each other's feelings but it is painful when we're together and we can't be intimate like the way we used to. I hope it gets easier x
Unfortunately many tie their relationships to the ego and that's why it's hard to let someone go. Most often than not, one gets dumped by the other. Almost never mutual.
Not everyone wants to be a part of their exes lives. I hate the "let's be friends" are breakup thing. It's just a crutch and eventually when either of you find someone else you will not want much to do with the ex friend-wise. Every ex of mine who tried the friends thing with me, simply want to stop me from moving on from them. It was used as a form of control. People who still have love for each other can't be friends. That love will tie them right back up together. I'm not even friends with my baby Father for the simple reason that he was a terrible friend. It's Ok to not want to be friends with your ex and politely express that and hold that boundary.
Man do I feel you! Someone who made the relationship into a zero sum game while you were together is not going to magically evolve overnight to stop doing that after you split up.
My ex and I just started talking again recently, so you know they're spying on us through our phones when this pops up as a recommendation. Always appreciate your perspective teal!
THIS WAS THE EXACT VID I NEEDED IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW THANK YOU. i've been on a break with my boyfriend since last week. break was supposed to end next week but watching this vid helped me decide it was the right time to break up and just be best friends in a possibly open relationship. we don't have a label for this. are we together or are we not? still calling each other bae, being flirty af with each other, and still loving each other dearly. we shouldn't feel limited to the relationship structures people have already defined. you're right; we need to just do what feels best for us. thank you teal!!!
I passed through something very similar... Wanting to support my lover dearly, at the same time seeing that the relationship has no future because of irreconcilable cultural differences.... We're still figuring it out. They are very hurt by the idea of an open relationship though, for now we've just decided to abstain overall. I must say.... It's so painful!
@@koushalyag3608 To reply further to your first comment -- I agree; it's so painful! It's been 3 years since I've watched Teal's video haha, so I don't really remember what she said. Maybe there was something in there about having to fully accept that there won't be any 'getting back together.' And then it's possible for friendship to work out. I was pretty desperate to keep my ex in my life, and the 'best friends' thing seemed like a good way to do it. However, I still had (and currently have) romantic feelings toward him (though I denied it at the time). And deep down, I wanted us to get back together. At the same time, the things that had upset me during our relationship was continuing to upset me during our period of 'friendship.' Things just weren't working out very well. We don't really talk these days. It's still quite painful Still, wishing you the best. I didn't know love could be so complicated.
@@Fidddle2Pie thanks for sharing the wisdom! I think I'm on the other side of this dynamic... Just praying my ex will be okay after whenever they decide to cut contact with me. Dreading the ill fated day and bracing myself to face it!
Wow I literally just found out my partner of 3 years has been lying to me about some significant things (and likely for a very long time). I opened youtube to type in "yoga for heartbreak" but this video was on my homepage (I follow Teal & this video had just come out)....so here I am. Watching it & stretching both my legs & also my heart, preparing for another transition, determined to learn, to bring my best self forward, & perhaps to have my first breakup that hasn't ended with transformating a partner into an enemy. Thank you, Teal, as always.
23 years of marriage three children this one of the hardest emotion’s and blindsided me something keeps breaking so this is truly helpful and everything she is saying is where I want to be freedom and light thank you 💚
Wow, I bet Gwen got her to get him to stop drinking. Yeah, so kewl... I wonder if he could get her to eat a "bacon & eggs" breakfast on this Beautiful Sunday AM ...wow... I did love this C & W Top 5 Song... Big Big Love and & Knot th-cam.com/video/oVEBZLrjpw4/w-d-xo.html
woew! I keep seeing that first "Cappy" movie in Yr#1917..what a "Super Stor e" and I just Imagined that Good "BallCap" his "BatGirl" wore before he went into the "Deep Freeze"... and how he so Wished to ty that 'Knot' and 'KnoW' She is Safe & Sound... Oh, Well...I Need to go to My Wall.e Mart Store @1030+123 superstore...Big Big Love Oh, wow teal... I found this kewl "Cappy" Song but i think it's "Bucky"... The Sound Can Mezmerize....or not. th-cam.com/video/qhwAMqU6Ehs/w-d-xo.html
This video has given me some hope. It's been 4 years since my breakup with my partner. We were together nearly 3 years, however I was very young and he was a bit older and more mature than me. Since then I've dated a few people and I have a loving partner now. But the shock of that sudden change, the ripping away of deep love and friendship was so traumatizing. It left him in a sort of victim mentality and me in a self-hate loop. I am hoping that this information applies to my circumstance as I realized I really truly want him in my life as someone I can support and cheer on and heal with. This has been the most traumatizing and debilitating situations in my life.
You uploaded this at the perfect time! I was just trying to figure out how to transition my romantic relationship to a friendship. Thank you, Teal. I share your videos with other people all the time, and you give me hope for understanding the world around me.
I wish we were all taught this kind of stuff in school. What a different world it would be together. What an amazing teaching. Thank you so much, I feel so much better for now I can begin to understand a true path for myself and some people in my life that I love with all my heart yet feel differently about our relationship than before. Thank you 🙏
Teal I've followed you for 7 years now , but lately haven't really watched your videos (just topics weren't my cup of tea) but now, Finally a GREAT video!
Teal, sometimes somethings are best meant to die. It is true that the pain one feels after ending a relationship are sharp, what is far worse is seeing that loved one in a relationship with another, seeing them kiss, seeing them affectionately caress each other and know, absolutely know......or worse kind of hope that they break up ...not bc you want to redate him necessarily but bc she's not right for him. If one is honest in assessing why losing this person hurts so bad one will realize its because they are so special, so utterly and uniquely different …..that you wanted this person to share the rest of your life with.. to marry this person....Teal, trying to be friends and really be there for that person and to spend quality one on one friend time and travel together …..you will find that the flicker of that most fickle, dangerous and flame one can perish in, not withstanding the admittedly exquisite nature of "make up" love, that Teal this rebirth is most often a fascade and like the shadows on Plato's wall are but just a reflection of what is really real and important, and that is finding the right man, this truly true love that is out there, one that will love and adore you, treat you with respect and love and surprise with wonderful joys that only you-twos love can unlock, that person who will commit to giving you their live and earning your love through marriage and family. Not, with this incredible person and their friend, their x girlfriend who they spend good quality alone time and sometimes travel alone, in each others life ………….or your friend and him......NO, Teal, swallow the pain, and get through it and truly before you know it the pain will be gone, period and you will be SO grateful that you ended it and move on. Regardless of what he says or the god forbid...""friends with benefits"...….trust and believe regardless of whatever you will end up feeling used and bitter going down this dead end road with no future.
thank you so much- perception is everything! you're such a gift to all willing to listen with an open heart. my love and gratitude is being sent to you , with hope for new behaviors with the new concepts of this perception!
OMG TEAL WOW THE idea of having a ceremony to transition a relationship is AO CUTE and enlightened. That’s so amazing I would love to do stuff like that!!! I never thought of it, you’re such a genius!
Thank you, Teal Swan. I love what you say about the longevity of a relationship not equalling the quality of it. That really resonated with me. I think people in an authentic relationship are there to provide some insight and fulfillment and change/spiritual evolution for each other. But then, they might reach a point where there is nothing more to be learned from one another and move on. It doesn't mean the relationship is any less significant or fulfilling. ❤️
oh my god, Teal. right in time. thank you. this video is like a great support from a close friend in tough time. I decide to leave my boyfriend few days ago. we were together for 3 awesome years and now we're trying to be friends (or more likely - to love each other in a different way). when I saw youtube-notification from your channel I immediately felt this beautiful synchronization of the Universe. and now I'm gonna watch the video
Was just chilling and listening to this, and when she closed Step 12 at 27:33, suddenly broke down crying... Why?? It just totally blind-sided me out of nowhere. Then I realized this is the first time I've heard someone say (validate) what I've been about all my life. Damn.... Thanks, Teal.
This is very painful towatch, but necessary.. this is bringing up all the stuff I've been working through and on, but still hasnt been fully healed. Thank you for this video
I have been following Teal. Her material is helpful, but idealistic. When hearts are involved, our brains usually walk out of the door. Our thoughts are like a reflection of ourselves upon water, where there is a disturbance there are ripples. In that state, nothing is shown back to us clearly.
lolsaXx I’ve done this successfully with one of my children’s fathers and it went great. I did this with the father of my other child and it failed miserably. Go with your gut, it’s never wrong 💜
Thank you Teal. This is one of the most needed topics/videos for myself,and I am sure for others too. I think many people stay in unfulfilling relationships because they don't know how to end it/transition in a loving way.
wow, I'm amazed, I'm really wordless, I dont know who you are to me but i felt so much resonating with your vibration, your perspective and vision, I'm learning at the same time wondering, sending light and love to your soul and being
Is a majority of people going through this kind of thing? I dont feel so alone. I love how you develope these vids and how they synchronize so perfectly with the events going on for me. You did it again! Thank you.
Im so glad that you brought this up. After getting my divorce, I have a much better relationship with my exhusband. I have begun establishing my boundaries and both of those things have been very helpful for our daughter. Also coming from India, I had an arranged marriage which in my understanding is a relatively foreign concept to the Western Woeld. We arent friends but we now are extended family members for each other and will be there for each other when we can be as family. Also my divorce enabled me take accountability for my part in the game.
Wow... "You are so beautiful....' I keep hearing that..."nobody gets left behind..." And I'm an eternal optimist... so, maybe everything will be alright... Big Big Love
Truly superb timing. The degree to which we, collectively, are abysmal at handling relationships and relationship transitions has always been startling to me, but updates in my own perspective have really cast brilliant stage lights on the scene, making unconscious and unhealthy responses in relationships especially obvious. This subject both draws me back to several previous relationship collapses and has me in the present moment looking on at the relationships my friends have. My wish and intention is to further embody these ideas and understandings myself and that we all open ourselves to the same. Our world needs us to be honest with ourselves and each other and communicate authentically. No more war.
Really wanting to transition my 11 month rocky relationship from partners to friends now that I’m 5 months sober I just really want to not feel so codependent. I get enmeshed badly with him and lose myself! I got this video on let the universe choose your message and I’m so excited to watch. When it came out I guess I wasn’t ready to watch it, but I feel readier now!
SO happy to be the 1st comment after 4 years, haha. Timeless, sensible, and grounded advice here. Anyone would do well to watch this, albeit just to lead friends or family going through this pond of peanut butter called 'relationships.'
The uncoupling ceremony happens in divorce court. That's when the man is utterly obliterated in every way, chewed up and spat out into a back alley somewhere with everything he ever cared about taken from him. His family is gone, as is the relationship he thought meant something, and 95% of everything he owns is gone. It's such a source of beauty and closure, LOL. Due to the beauty of it all, the male suicide rate goes from 4 times the female rate to 9 times the female rate. In my case though I saw too many of my friends go through it. If it happened to me I'd probably decide to take my own life. I saw how dangerous it was back in 1997. That's when I chose not to marry. It's not all bad though. Money piles up when you're a single guy and the wealth that has accumulated has allowed me to retire 11 years early.
@@dealingwithit302 No, it doesn't have to be this way. Don't catastrophize just because many divorces happen between bitter, selfish, unenlightened people.
Love this! Teal, would you pls make a video about a break up with (young) children are involved? That’s what’s kept my partner and I together, because the damage that my 4yo/1yo might end up having to spend life trying to heal is just too difficult to awful to put them through. We are finally at the point where we know it’s time, but how do we ‘protect’ them, in the best way we can?
Excellent. Thank you. The end of a relationship is ripe with learning. Compassionately harvesting it takes courage and love. Teal Swan gives sage advice worth considering.
Beautiful video. The problem is what we forget is, it is taking someone as us is what love does. When it is mutual approach, we get an endless relation. 😊 Have a great day dear Teal. Lots of love and light to you.
bravo Teal! i had my first break up and i am the dumpee. and even with that being the case i said many times that i don't see why we need to end the contact.. i whould be more than capable to be with the person with no phisical contact, if we agreed so. but dumper couldn't. always asking myself that the way break ups normaly go in society is wrong.. if two people are amazing together, shouldn't be the romantic feelings of one or the lack on the other that it should ask for a total ending... and normaly is what happens.. and thats a loss, like no other... just because emotional social norms
Every time I watch one of your Videos I hear you say what I`ve been thinking myself. Just so much clearer and in better order, so that I can realy see what it is that I thougt before. Thank you for sharing all of it, it is a great inspiration.
I think best not to be friends. But, to completely separate. Otherwise, the new partner will not like this kind of relationship where on partner is having contacts with an ex. It is a no non for me
(Pre-watching) Not sure if I'm ready for this tbh. (Post-watch) In most cases I've simply lost the connection to people I've cared about. And with all the ones I've wanted to maintain I didn't see us wanting the same things. However each one has taught me more so about what type of relationships to enter, how to maintain and remain healthy in them.
Look at all that turqouise color! It's a stone that helps with connection and creating harmony. Now I am wondering about all of the colors in her other videos as well...
I'm not sure how the relationship pieces can be reassembled into being, 'something infinitely more beautiful than they were to begin with', (stated at the very end). It is an appealing concept, while being a bit irrational. Since breakups become a growth mechanism for better relationships, which are achieved by breaking up. Human lives are just too short for this big picture cycle. Here, Teal's spirituality concepts seep in, and give support to her multiple lives cosmology. Oh well, we use what we can. Thanx
you mentioned when the other person doesn't want to reconnect in a positive way even if you would like to. Could you please make a video talking about this topic please please please? i beg you. I would like to reconnect with two of my exes and an ex-friend in a better realtionship, even if it's not meant to be friends, but at least i would like to feel better about this in my present, cause it's making my childhood trauma worse all these feelings. I don't even know how can people handle a bad relationship, cause as you said, relationships never end, the person doesn't cease to exist. Great video, thanks for sharing your wisdom
This subject is an interesting one. I do have some experience with it and thought I would share. I don't think there is a right or wrong, but for me I will say after my experiences I would like to find my next love available, not close to the ex. I have been friends with one ex, we were together for 5 years before deciding to split. We had to turn our relationship in to a friendship because we bought a house together. Over time we got the house figured out during the 2007 recession. I moved out. We stayed friends for years and I even became friends with his current girlfriend who I love more than the ex lol. We were all such close friends it had it's issues, at one point we had to take a break to reestablish good boundaries. Nothing weird. I learned so much over a year of not talking to my ex I realized I needed to make room for a love relationship again. I asked myself was it healthy being friends with my ex? Moving forward I met a wonderful guy who I dated long distance, we new each over 28 years ago through a group of friends who we were close to. We were personally not close friends, but new each other, and had not spoke since we both moved away from home at a young age. Forward two years ago, before deciding too relocate to his state and city we talked about his relationship with his ex, I thought sure that sounds fine I understood the romantic ties had been over for many years. He truly felt like a soulmate. After 2 years of trying to fit in a new state new friends, family and the wife living a block away. I can tell you not all ex relationships are healthy. They still love each other, and his family loves her too they all have long roots going back 20 years. The boyfriend has a best friend his ex wife the sister in law and brother consider the ex wife a best friend. About 3 months ago I broke it off with him. I literally felt like I was trying to fit in where there was new room. We both cried so deeply it was so painful. I even went back to try again. My boyfriend did not want to change anything, even if he said he would his family didn't, they liked it the way it was, but not for me sadly. A person can't force change it will never work, they have to want to change. For something like this to work it also needs good boundaries and respect. Just remember if you want to be friends with your ex you still need to let go of them first so you can make room for someone new.
This feels like a way to avoid the fact that something needs to end. Maybe some relationships need to end entirely, like with death. How can we know the difference between clinging on the something that is hurting us? I’m the modern world, we do have the ability of cutting someone off entirely for our own well-being. I admire this idea, but it takes a really enlightened person to achieve this I believe..
I don't think her ideas apply to unhealthy relationships...if the relationship is hurting you you might need to stay away...no transitions necessary...🤷♀️
I mean, the point of the video was "how to break up and stay friends", not "how to know whether to be friends with someone or not". Even in the beginning, she made sure to say that you need to be sure that you even want to be friends at all, or else prolonging any kind of relationship is a bad idea. It was not an avoidance of ending things completely, it was just a different video topic 🤷♀️
Thanks Teal. Great information. My husband and I are divorcing after 33 years and we have done most of the right steps that you mention. We are even helping each other move and he’s set me up with utilities in my new place. I’ve bought him all that he will need (household items) for his place since he hates shopping. We will always love each other and care about each other but it’s time for separate paths now. Our 4 grown children are witnessing a loving and amicable divorce. I hope they’re learning that relationships do change and marriage isn’t always forever but the love can be. 💜💜💜
VentionMGTOW Wow that’s a whole lot of generalization. Number one- My son is about to get married. Number two- who still thinks you have to be married to have a baby?! Lol Number three- I’m in my 50’s and retired too. See how that works? 🤷🏻♀️
But do he have a girlfriend or wife ?
Beautiful
That’s lovely!
Amazingly beautiful
in my experience its easiest to stay friends (or maybe even reconnect in a relationship) if you stop talking and take a break, and then when you're both over it, talk again, because up until then there is so many hurt feelings involved
No pint in telling good advice hear. These people are all nuts.
@@jjcool4184 lol maybe so
Maybe the relationship didn't work but that doesn't mean you don't love each other, you will be there for each other and deep in your heart you know you'd do anything for that person, there will always be a strong connection
That might sound all fine and good but you have to factor in what’s best for the person that got dumped and is in emotional turmoil because of it. Personally I wouldn’t be friends with someone that broke my heart. My dignity is too strong to accept myself to settle for less than what I desire emotionally, physically and mentally. If someone walks out of a relationship with me then I’m not going to chase or follow that person, I’m keeping it where she left it behind and if she doesn’t want it then someone else will. I’m sure she would have other friends that could be there for her, but I’m not going to be just another one of them, because I know I’m worthy of something more than just friendship. It’s just boundary of mine.
I think that's not true. I think the definition of a break up is that you stop loving each other. You may still like each other and trust each other, but this deep love is gone. Otherwise you would still be in the relationship
blake is your former fiance? wow I never knew that, and your relationship is so sweet.
Decoupling a poly relationship based on a single incompatibility. We are still deeply in love, but I am already married with children and he wants that for himself. We have become so attached that we now have to decouple so that he can follow his truth and meet his need of having a life partner and children of his own. This video has been very validating for what we are trying to do and helping me to not reject the parts of myself that feel such deep emotional hurt and the parts of me that are not willing to let go of our connection.
I want to thank you for validating my personal experience. I'm often told "you should be mad or just cut if off " and I have most often, when mutual, found that transitioning to friendship or even a slow letting go and conversation is much less ripping and traumatic. I thought it was just my attachment style. I do therapy with couples and this is how I approach folks who might be splitting up as well. Thank you for supporting and encouraging a gentle and human loving approach to relationship!!
I love that your former fiancee and your former partner are friends! I usually stay friends with my ex's. I don't see any need to cut somebody, who I cared about deeply, out of my life permanently. I usually do that for a short amount of time and then work them back in to my life within their new role as a friend.
No No no
My boyfriend and I broke up last night and this video came out. Thank you universe 💕🙌🏻
I screamed in pain and rage the other day in total nature at night as I was doing the inwardness process instead of dwelling in anger over my husband's blaming, insinuating and accusing. An owl came over, said something that sounded like "We love you" and then imitated the exact crying sounds I had made just a few minutes before. Ha. I felt understood and loved.
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how this be such a perfect timing, woww
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Right!
spooky right
To me as well. Weird haha
Same...
This woman's emotional intelligence is off the charts!! Thank you Teal for the gifts of these videos explaining everything so fully and clearly, and thank you God for the gift of Teal.
You're right, I don't want a hypothetical friendship with a hypothetical person that I had a hypothetical romantic relationship with and a hypothetical breakup, this is just an unsuccessful relationship where no one got what they wanted
'Interdependent.' I love that she uses that word
For me, if a girl dumps me, being just friends with her is not going to work for me, because we were more than that. I have too much dignity to accept being downgraded, settle for less than what I desire emotionally, mentally, physically, and watch her date other guys. That’s just my boundary. Maybe in the future IF I end up having no romantic interest in her, then we could possibly be friends, But other than that, if she walks out of the relationship then I’m not going to chase her or follow her. It’s all or nothing.
If there is no love why would you want to keep a memory going. Once it’s over it’s over.
I can't tell you how useful this information is to me right now, having separated from my husband in July and going through the motions of transition- we are both incredibly respectful of each other's feelings but it is painful when we're together and we can't be intimate like the way we used to. I hope it gets easier x
Unfortunately many tie their relationships to the ego and that's why it's hard to let someone go.
Most often than not, one gets dumped by the other. Almost never mutual.
Gonna subscribe to your channel
@@cyruscherry35 Welcome to the neighbourhood
Relationships are so pathetic
True
Crazy I just seen you on a Netflix show called explained they called you a colt leader I laughed cuz I see you more as a healer
We're a cult, dude
@@chr1staki can I join😂😂😂😂💯👌
@@ACE-LH6 you're already in 🙃
Them Netflix explained seris are awful, it's so biased it hard to watch
Which show
Not everyone wants to be a part of their exes lives. I hate the "let's be friends" are breakup thing. It's just a crutch and eventually when either of you find someone else you will not want much to do with the ex friend-wise. Every ex of mine who tried the friends thing with me, simply want to stop me from moving on from them. It was used as a form of control. People who still have love for each other can't be friends. That love will tie them right back up together. I'm not even friends with my baby Father for the simple reason that he was a terrible friend. It's Ok to not want to be friends with your ex and politely express that and hold that boundary.
Man do I feel you! Someone who made the relationship into a zero sum game while you were together is not going to magically evolve overnight to stop doing that after you split up.
Omg you literally post videos at the most perfect times
Right??!
Teal is a blessing to humanity❤️
Sho i was just looking for words to express this
A skid mark on society more like it
Much love to all the haters of Teal...I hope you all find the light and love within yourself ❤️
@@Shoshow I have no idea why they would hate her, other then for her challenging dogmas. Nothing is more destructive on this Earth than dogma.
8:13 - Realitionsships don´t end, even if you want them to end.
Very good!
My ex and I just started talking again recently, so you know they're spying on us through our phones when this pops up as a recommendation. Always appreciate your perspective teal!
THIS WAS THE EXACT VID I NEEDED IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW THANK YOU. i've been on a break with my boyfriend since last week. break was supposed to end next week but watching this vid helped me decide it was the right time to break up and just be best friends in a possibly open relationship. we don't have a label for this. are we together or are we not? still calling each other bae, being flirty af with each other, and still loving each other dearly. we shouldn't feel limited to the relationship structures people have already defined. you're right; we need to just do what feels best for us. thank you teal!!!
I passed through something very similar... Wanting to support my lover dearly, at the same time seeing that the relationship has no future because of irreconcilable cultural differences.... We're still figuring it out. They are very hurt by the idea of an open relationship though, for now we've just decided to abstain overall.
I must say.... It's so painful!
@@koushalyag3608 update: it didn't work out for us :((
@@Fidddle2Pie oof, sorry mate. What does that mean tho?
@@koushalyag3608 To reply further to your first comment -- I agree; it's so painful!
It's been 3 years since I've watched Teal's video haha, so I don't really remember what she said. Maybe there was something in there about having to fully accept that there won't be any 'getting back together.' And then it's possible for friendship to work out. I was pretty desperate to keep my ex in my life, and the 'best friends' thing seemed like a good way to do it. However, I still had (and currently have) romantic feelings toward him (though I denied it at the time). And deep down, I wanted us to get back together. At the same time, the things that had upset me during our relationship was continuing to upset me during our period of 'friendship.' Things just weren't working out very well. We don't really talk these days. It's still quite painful
Still, wishing you the best. I didn't know love could be so complicated.
@@Fidddle2Pie thanks for sharing the wisdom! I think I'm on the other side of this dynamic... Just praying my ex will be okay after whenever they decide to cut contact with me. Dreading the ill fated day and bracing myself to face it!
Wow I literally just found out my partner of 3 years has been lying to me about some significant things (and likely for a very long time). I opened youtube to type in "yoga for heartbreak" but this video was on my homepage (I follow Teal & this video had just come out)....so here I am. Watching it & stretching both my legs & also my heart, preparing for another transition, determined to learn, to bring my best self forward, & perhaps to have my first breakup that hasn't ended with transformating a partner into an enemy. Thank you, Teal, as always.
Yea stretch them legs
WHAT???! BLAKE AND TEAL WERE TOGETHER????
And yes, this approach WILL BE the new wave!!
Teal is a maneater!
Tips 4 chicks ...
FLUFFER FACE noshit 😅😍
Yeah, you can really tell how EATEN Blake and Mark are, by their close friendship with Teal xD
@@illillyillyo she eats poor men alive! They don't stand a chance! Her blue eyes hypnotize them and them she destroys them!
23 years of marriage three children this one of the hardest emotion’s and blindsided me something keeps breaking so this is truly helpful and everything she is saying is where I want to be freedom and light thank you 💚
I never saw a reason or had the need or wish to remain in contact, much less remain friends ?!! Why break up then??!
Omg, were Blake and Teal together? I'm SHOOK. This is so cool
Wow, I bet Gwen got her to get him to stop drinking. Yeah, so kewl... I wonder if he could get her to eat a "bacon & eggs" breakfast on this Beautiful Sunday AM ...wow... I did love this C & W Top 5 Song... Big Big Love and & Knot th-cam.com/video/oVEBZLrjpw4/w-d-xo.html
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woew! I keep seeing that first "Cappy" movie in Yr#1917..what a "Super Stor e" and I just Imagined that Good "BallCap" his "BatGirl" wore before he went into the "Deep Freeze"... and how he so Wished to ty that 'Knot' and 'KnoW' She is Safe & Sound... Oh, Well...I Need to go to My Wall.e Mart Store @1030+123 superstore...Big Big Love Oh, wow teal... I found this kewl "Cappy" Song but i think it's "Bucky"... The Sound Can Mezmerize....or not. th-cam.com/video/qhwAMqU6Ehs/w-d-xo.html
Don’t want to be friends just need to move on
This video has given me some hope. It's been 4 years since my breakup with my partner. We were together nearly 3 years, however I was very young and he was a bit older and more mature than me. Since then I've dated a few people and I have a loving partner now. But the shock of that sudden change, the ripping away of deep love and friendship was so traumatizing. It left him in a sort of victim mentality and me in a self-hate loop. I am hoping that this information applies to my circumstance as I realized I really truly want him in my life as someone I can support and cheer on and heal with. This has been the most traumatizing and debilitating situations in my life.
You uploaded this at the perfect time! I was just trying to figure out how to transition my romantic relationship to a friendship. Thank you, Teal. I share your videos with other people all the time, and you give me hope for understanding the world around me.
I wish we were all taught this kind of stuff in school. What a different world it would be together. What an amazing teaching. Thank you so much, I feel so much better for now I can begin to understand a true path for myself and some people in my life that I love with all my heart yet feel differently about our relationship than before. Thank you 🙏
Gratitude for YOU, Teal Swan
Stay friends no thanks that's why I broke up with her in the first place..
Teal I've followed you for 7 years now , but lately haven't really watched your videos (just topics weren't my cup of tea) but now, Finally a GREAT video!
Teal, sometimes somethings are best meant to die. It is true that the pain one feels after ending a relationship are sharp, what is far worse is seeing that loved one in a relationship with another, seeing them kiss, seeing them affectionately caress each other and know, absolutely know......or worse kind of hope that they break up ...not bc you want to redate him necessarily but bc she's not right for him. If one is honest in assessing why losing this person hurts so bad one will realize its because they are so special, so utterly and uniquely different …..that you wanted this person to share the rest of your life with.. to marry this person....Teal, trying to be friends and really be there for that person and to spend quality one on one friend time and travel together …..you will find that the flicker of that most fickle, dangerous and flame one can perish in, not withstanding the admittedly exquisite nature of "make up" love, that Teal this rebirth is most often a fascade and like the shadows on Plato's wall are but just a reflection of what is really real and important, and that is finding the right man, this truly true love that is out there, one that will love and adore you, treat you with respect and love and surprise with wonderful joys that only you-twos love can unlock, that person who will commit to giving you their live and earning your love through marriage and family. Not, with this incredible person and their friend, their x girlfriend who they spend good quality alone time and sometimes travel alone, in each others life ………….or your friend and him......NO, Teal, swallow the pain, and get through it and truly before you know it the pain will be gone, period and you will be SO grateful that you ended it and move on. Regardless of what he says or the god forbid...""friends with benefits"...….trust and believe regardless of whatever you will end up feeling used and bitter going down this dead end road with no future.
I agree
I disagree but I understand the recommendations in the video are not possible for certain kinds of people.
I highly recommand the book Conscious Uncoupling from Katherine Woodward Thomas for those who want to enter deeper into the subject.
Thank you :)
thank you so much- perception is everything! you're such a gift to all willing to listen with an open heart. my love and gratitude is being sent to you , with hope for new behaviors with the new concepts of this perception!
OMG TEAL WOW THE idea of having a ceremony to transition a relationship is AO CUTE and enlightened. That’s so amazing I would love to do stuff like that!!! I never thought of it, you’re such a genius!
Oh my goddess!!!! I love you sooo much! Queen right here.... beautiful timing!!!
For me too!!! I just broke it off with someone last night and woke up to this notification! It's a powerful thing.
I have no words that describe how thankful i am from all the things i am learning from you. Thanks from the hearth ❤
Thank you, Teal Swan. I love what you say about the longevity of a relationship not equalling the quality of it. That really resonated with me. I think people in an authentic relationship are there to provide some insight and fulfillment and change/spiritual evolution for each other. But then, they might reach a point where there is nothing more to be learned from one another and move on. It doesn't mean the relationship is any less significant or fulfilling. ❤️
oh my god, Teal. right in time. thank you. this video is like a great support from a close friend in tough time.
I decide to leave my boyfriend few days ago. we were together for 3 awesome years and now we're trying to be friends (or more likely - to love each other in a different way). when I saw youtube-notification from your channel I immediately felt this beautiful synchronization of the Universe.
and now I'm gonna watch the video
Thank you so much Teal for your love and kindness!
Was just chilling and listening to this, and when she closed Step 12 at 27:33, suddenly broke down crying... Why?? It just totally blind-sided me out of nowhere. Then I realized this is the first time I've heard someone say (validate) what I've been about all my life. Damn.... Thanks, Teal.
This is very painful towatch, but necessary.. this is bringing up all the stuff I've been working through and on, but still hasnt been fully healed. Thank you for this video
Yaay! I'm so excited to watch this. What a great topic.
"Teal" Teal Swan
I have been following Teal. Her material is helpful, but idealistic. When hearts are involved, our brains usually walk out of the door. Our thoughts are like a reflection of ourselves upon water, where there is a disturbance there are ripples. In that state, nothing is shown back to us clearly.
Impeccable timing, I am exactly where i need to be, everything is always working out for me.
Synchronicity. The father of my babies and I just separated. I want to try and still live together. It feels hard right now.
lolsaXx I’ve done this successfully with one of my children’s fathers and it went great. I did this with the father of my other child and it failed miserably. Go with your gut, it’s never wrong 💜
Doing it here in Ireland we have a five year old together and we live together and will continue as a family !
Thank you Teal. This is one of the most needed topics/videos for myself,and I am sure for others too. I think many people stay in unfulfilling relationships because they don't know how to end it/transition in a loving way.
wow, I'm amazed, I'm really wordless, I dont know who you are to me but i felt so much resonating with your vibration, your perspective and vision, I'm learning at the same time wondering, sending light and love to your soul and being
Is a majority of people going through this kind of thing? I dont feel so alone. I love how you develope these vids and how they synchronize so perfectly with the events going on for me. You did it again! Thank you.
which relationship though ? there are many different types and degrees of the bond formed, which are you talking of ?
Several, all at once: Certain family members, my hubby, a few friends. It encompasses a lot 🤣
Been watching you video's all week for break up advice in exactly this situation. And here comes you blessing.
Thank you Sis!
This might have come in really handy... about 6 years ago. 🤔
All fluid exchange should be superfluous to friendship... its the bonus that shouldn’t affect the friendship
Im so glad that you brought this up. After getting my divorce, I have a much better relationship with my exhusband. I have begun establishing my boundaries and both of those things have been very helpful for our daughter. Also coming from India, I had an arranged marriage which in my understanding is a relatively foreign concept to the Western Woeld. We arent friends but we now are extended family members for each other and will be there for each other when we can be as family. Also my divorce enabled me take accountability for my part in the game.
Wooowwwww an Indian perspective!!! You still live in India or you moved?
Wow... "You are so beautiful....' I keep hearing that..."nobody gets left behind..." And I'm an eternal optimist... so, maybe everything will be alright... Big Big Love
Love ya Teal!💞✨🌟
Um gay?
Truly superb timing. The degree to which we, collectively, are abysmal at handling relationships and relationship transitions has always been startling to me, but updates in my own perspective have really cast brilliant stage lights on the scene, making unconscious and unhealthy responses in relationships especially obvious. This subject both draws me back to several previous relationship collapses and has me in the present moment looking on at the relationships my friends have. My wish and intention is to further embody these ideas and understandings myself and that we all open ourselves to the same. Our world needs us to be honest with ourselves and each other and communicate authentically. No more war.
Really wanting to transition my 11 month rocky relationship from partners to friends now that I’m 5 months sober I just really want to not feel so codependent. I get enmeshed badly with him and lose myself!
I got this video on let the universe choose your message and I’m so excited to watch. When it came out I guess I wasn’t ready to watch it, but I feel readier now!
SO happy to be the 1st comment after 4 years, haha. Timeless, sensible, and grounded advice here. Anyone would do well to watch this, albeit just to lead friends or family going through this pond of peanut butter called 'relationships.'
I’m stoked on this one!
I cried the whole time.
I love the idea of having a coupling & uncoupling ceremony. What a beautiful idea!
The uncoupling ceremony happens in divorce court. That's when the man is utterly obliterated in every way, chewed up and spat out into a back alley somewhere with everything he ever cared about taken from him. His family is gone, as is the relationship he thought meant something, and 95% of everything he owns is gone. It's such a source of beauty and closure, LOL. Due to the beauty of it all, the male suicide rate goes from 4 times the female rate to 9 times the female rate. In my case though I saw too many of my friends go through it. If it happened to me I'd probably decide to take my own life.
I saw how dangerous it was back in 1997. That's when I chose not to marry.
It's not all bad though. Money piles up when you're a single guy and the wealth that has accumulated has allowed me to retire 11 years early.
@@dealingwithit302 No, it doesn't have to be this way. Don't catastrophize just because many divorces happen between bitter, selfish, unenlightened people.
Unconditional love, flow love at them from an inside the vortex vibration, know your self. Tell them, or live a life of non attachment.
Love this! Teal, would you pls make a video about a break up with (young) children are involved? That’s what’s kept my partner and I together, because the damage that my 4yo/1yo might end up having to spend life trying to heal is just too difficult to awful to put them through. We are finally at the point where we know it’s time, but how do we ‘protect’ them, in the best way we can?
DO YOU KNOW WHATS BEEN HAPPENING TO ME IN MY LIFE, WHAT I DO, WHERE I GO, AND WHAT I SAY WERE EVER I GO, PLEASE TEAL.
Usually one person is always putting the total blame on the other and the resentment keeps people from being friends.
Thank GOD for this video. Absolutely saved my life today.
Thank you, Teal. From the bottom of my heart.
Excellent. Thank you. The end of a relationship is ripe with learning. Compassionately harvesting it takes courage and love. Teal Swan gives sage advice worth considering.
I love you Teal. You are the best teacher for me❤🙏
Beautiful video.
The problem is what we forget is, it is taking someone as us is what love does.
When it is mutual approach, we get an endless relation.
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Have a great day dear Teal.
Lots of love and light to you.
Thank you sooo much ..i just experienced this and it's a create shift better than ever before ..so healing and evolving .. pure ..love it.
much love teal! i recently went through one and this is exactly what i had on my head the entire day today.
I want to marry you Teal xo
What an incredible video! This information will absolutely change my relationships and my life for the BETTER! Wow! Thank you.
Thank you so much Teal😭💗
bravo Teal! i had my first break up and i am the dumpee. and even with that being the case i said many times that i don't see why we need to end the contact.. i whould be more than capable to be with the person with no phisical contact, if we agreed so. but dumper couldn't. always asking myself that the way break ups normaly go in society is wrong.. if two people are amazing together, shouldn't be the romantic feelings of one or the lack on the other that it should ask for a total ending... and normaly is what happens.. and thats a loss, like no other... just because emotional social norms
wow i’ve never been this early sadly i have no ex to be friend with but i’ll watch anyway
You're literally gold
Every time I watch one of your Videos I hear you say what I`ve been thinking myself. Just so much clearer and in better order, so that I can realy see what it is that I thougt before. Thank you for sharing all of it, it is a great inspiration.
I think best not to be friends. But, to completely separate. Otherwise, the new partner will not like this kind of relationship where on partner is having contacts with an ex. It is a no non for me
Thank you Teal. On time and on point. Much gratitude 🙏💞
(Pre-watching) Not sure if I'm ready for this tbh. (Post-watch) In most cases I've simply lost the connection to people I've cared about. And with all the ones I've wanted to maintain I didn't see us wanting the same things. However each one has taught me more so about what type of relationships to enter, how to maintain and remain healthy in them.
This is nice to hear, I sent this to my ex but she told me "couples who breakup dont talk to each other" so i guess she didnt even check the video out
Look at all that turqouise color! It's a stone that helps with connection and creating harmony. Now I am wondering about all of the colors in her other videos as well...
the best video on TH-cam
I'm not sure how the relationship pieces can be reassembled into being, 'something infinitely more beautiful than they were to begin with', (stated at the very end). It is an appealing concept, while being a bit irrational. Since breakups become a growth mechanism for better relationships, which are achieved by breaking up. Human lives are just too short for this big picture cycle. Here, Teal's spirituality concepts seep in, and give support to her multiple lives cosmology. Oh well, we use what we can. Thanx
Wow the timing on this video Teal. Spot on.
Don't. Move on.
you mentioned when the other person doesn't want to reconnect in a positive way even if you would like to. Could you please make a video talking about this topic please please please? i beg you. I would like to reconnect with two of my exes and an ex-friend in a better realtionship, even if it's not meant to be friends, but at least i would like to feel better about this in my present, cause it's making my childhood trauma worse all these feelings. I don't even know how can people handle a bad relationship, cause as you said, relationships never end, the person doesn't cease to exist. Great video, thanks for sharing your wisdom
This subject is an interesting one. I do have some experience with it and thought I would share. I don't think there is a right or wrong, but for me I will say after my experiences I would like to find my next love available, not close to the ex.
I have been friends with one ex, we were together for 5 years before deciding to split. We had to turn our relationship in to a friendship because we bought a house together. Over time we got the house figured out during the 2007 recession. I moved out. We stayed friends for years and I even became friends with his current girlfriend who I love more than the ex lol. We were all such close friends it had it's issues, at one point we had to take a break to reestablish good boundaries. Nothing weird. I learned so much over a year of not talking to my ex I realized I needed to make room for a love relationship again. I asked myself was it healthy being friends with my ex? Moving forward I met a wonderful guy who I dated long distance, we new each over 28 years ago through a group of friends who we were close to. We were personally not close friends, but new each other, and had not spoke since we both moved away from home at a young age. Forward two years ago, before deciding too relocate to his state and city we talked about his relationship with his ex, I thought sure that sounds fine I understood the romantic ties had been over for many years. He truly felt like a soulmate. After 2 years of trying to fit in a new state new friends, family and the wife living a block away. I can tell you not all ex relationships are healthy. They still love each other, and his family loves her too they all have long roots going back 20 years. The boyfriend has a best friend his ex wife the sister in law and brother consider the ex wife a best friend. About 3 months ago I broke it off with him. I literally felt like I was trying to fit in where there was new room. We both cried so deeply it was so painful. I even went back to try again. My boyfriend did not want to change anything, even if he said he would his family didn't, they liked it the way it was, but not for me sadly. A person can't force change it will never work, they have to want to change. For something like this to work it also needs good boundaries and respect. Just remember if you want to be friends with your ex you still need to let go of them first so you can make room for someone new.
I had a very painful breakup and you gave me a very well neaded perspective on the possibility's
Thank you for that
This feels like a way to avoid the fact that something needs to end. Maybe some relationships need to end entirely, like with death. How can we know the difference between clinging on the something that is hurting us? I’m the modern world, we do have the ability of cutting someone off entirely for our own well-being. I admire this idea, but it takes a really enlightened person to achieve this I believe..
I don't think her ideas apply to unhealthy relationships...if the relationship is hurting you you might need to stay away...no transitions necessary...🤷♀️
I mean, the point of the video was "how to break up and stay friends", not "how to know whether to be friends with someone or not". Even in the beginning, she made sure to say that you need to be sure that you even want to be friends at all, or else prolonging any kind of relationship is a bad idea. It was not an avoidance of ending things completely, it was just a different video topic 🤷♀️
@@apollofateh324 yeah makes sense thanks
Teal, you blow me away sometimes.
this is about the best video ive seen in my life .