You're INFJ... Now What?
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Is INFJ prone to sadness? Could you please make a video about it?
Everything I needed to hear,just found out I'm INFJ today and I have a crazy urge to learn everything I can about this! INFJ-T from Guam💯💜🤙🏽
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Hi! Can you make a video about the differences between INTJ and INFJ? because in the tests, sometimes it tells me that I am INTJ, and other INFJ, and I'm a little confused about it!!!
Figuring out that I'm an INFJ makes me able to accept myself. Before that, I always found that since I was so different, I was full of mistakes and completely misshapen
Guritno Safitri you are just rare ♥️
“Mishappened” I think that I’m going to have that made into a jacket pin. Etsy, here I come!
@@basilbaby7678 actually I meant to type "misshapen". Sadly my autocorrect didn't work 😅
Still a happy accident, and seems appropriate in context. Mishappened- “To happen through misfortune” My state of being.
I totally relate.... I only learned about INFJ and personality types on Monday, and since then I’ve just been learning more about INFJ’s. It made me realize how not alone I was in my thinking and how I interact with people in general.
It’s allowed me to accept some of the things I thought were faults inside of myself.
It’s given me so much clarity, and has allowed me to focus on things I want to change and embrace the things I can’t control.
These videos helped a bunch to be honest
A little off topic, but your hair has a personality if its own.
Maybe it's an infj thing. My hair and beard won the fight long ago
This humidity has me looking like, I was freshly mauled by a Bear.
INFJs seems to exhibit some common physical traits amongst our species. Large eyes...moppish heads. I’m just an INFJ Troll doll really. Thank Gawd our unique charisma compels others to find us so darn sexy.
BasilBaby I am INFJ and I don't have that
My previous assertion was, I can assure you...super scientific, and not purely anecdotal and biased at all! 😅
I found out I was an INFJ today. I then went through the TH-cam wormhole and I was completely baffled and brought to tears by finding out that I am not alone. I honestly felt lost and sought meaning in every facet I could. I recently watched your video about unhealthy INFJ's and you couldn't have hit the nail on the head any harder. Then you uploaded this video. I have never heard of your channel before, but thank you for giving me the talk I so desperately needed and was searching for. You have truly been a blessing with your content!
I feel exactly the same way. Now I just need to figure out my bf's personality type. Perhaps it will help me understand him better.... He does call himself a narcissist and sometimes he turns a bit toxic tbh but I still feel it could work between us.
Md. Risat Abdullah toxic? Run! I tried that...INFJs often do. But it will not end well. Be very cautious.
@@md.risatabdullah3849 This is a very common relationship scenario for INFJs, matching with narcissistic personality types, so be aware before hand that it can be very emotionally draining. I'm speaking as someone who put up with this for 25 years!
"Was I dropped on my head as a baby?"
Actually yes and I'm concerned.
too soon?
@@FrankJames yes, like months
Me too! I was like YES MANY TIMES. Then he meant it as a joke.
Is it weird to be a selfish infj? I feel like I always put myself first and sometimes I have to manually turn on my empathy button and care about how others are feeling, I also don't know how to miss people, I can spend months without having any contact with some friends and I feel like a liar when I tell them I miss them but very few times I feel like I do miss them, it's just idk I don't get easily attached to someone, only the people who are very close to me and have a lot in common with that I might wish to see more frequently
I have the same problem. Oh well. I just think of it as a self-defence mechanism. Sometimes it's hard to care of others & it's pretty tiring.
Another "selfish" INFJ here. 🙋🏻♀️
I also don't get too attached with people and can go off the grid for months, then come back like nothing ever happened. 😂
I do tend to put myself first in many situations, often coming as a bit rude.
I curse a lot and just like you, I have to manually turn on my empathy button in order to invest in a friend's or family member's struggles. But unlike you, I don't lie about missing someone unless I genuinely missed someone.
I try to be as authentic and honest as possible, even if I sometimes come off as rude or insensitive.
Though deep down I worry about hurting the feelings of my loved ones so it's an aspect of myself I've been working on.
Either way, just letting you know that it's not that weird, I guess.
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@@isasolorzano9706 I didn't say I lie about missing them, I just feel like I'm lying because I don't miss my friends as much as they miss me
Maybe this isn't selfishness, but you're in the season of like "protecting yourself". You're in "I need to know how I'm feeling and what I want for once" mode. If this is so- I would say there is no problem 😆it'll pass
In what way selfish...if you care more about arguing about being right than to seek some common ground for everyone to be as satisfied with the situation as possible... well maybe that's not so INFJ...but if you don't care what other people want to do if they think it's fun as long as you don't have to do it too...and you prefer to retreat from the group... then I guess that's not weird...INFJs usually don't miss people...don't know why...maybe we have a different way of perceiving time...I don't know really 😬 I'm not an expert on INFJ behaviours...but then again...who can be...we're so complecated that we don't understand ourselves from time to time😬
I agree learning each type makes us more compassionate :)
Makes me understand them a bit better. I don't have to Agree with them but I get where they're coming from.
Yes exactly
Fj, you are cool, attractive, wise and compassionate. There are no weaknesses to improve! ha, ha (It is true that as INFJ we have a thirst for excellence, that is our great weakness)
No...all I want is to have a meaningful life...I do try to understand myself better though and I do crave knowledge...but not excellence...why would I seek that 🙄
Yep, perfectionism 😏
@@kita3256 now that's a word I can relate to...my god...I have a picture in my head how I want something to be or look like...and if it doesn't turn out that way I'm like f*k this...I'm doing something else 🙄😬 but not before I've tried over and over again to make it into what I pictured in my head 😁
@@t.c9537 Perfectionism is the word I wanted to use! I am from Greece. I am not a native english speaker and I make many mistakes. Thank you for comments! 😊😊😊
@@user-uc3vw7yn9n that's okey...I'm from Sweden...I'm glad we figured it out 👍😁
Now what? get back to work? I'm watching these videos for 2-3 days and I learn so much about myself. Weirdo-magnet, "door slam" thing. Everybody telling me about their problems. Kinda know what will happen, like an inner voice telling me stuff. Love/hate people. Really enjoy being just left alone for hours sometimes even days. That feeling you just do not fit in. It always makes me happy to help people with random stuff even I don't like them that much. At least I know now, where it all coming from. F* rabbit hole.. how deep I can go with this knowledge? I know who I am. Thanks, Frank!
MY CAT IS ALSO AN INFJ!!!
Honestly though, great analogies of how we can use this stuff for good.
i do not relate to cats at all therefore they are not INFJ. a true INFJ would never lick themselves like that
Funny to witness these two comments
I’ve realized it’s very important that I don’t use typology as an excuse. Breaking down and strengthening the functions makes typology a very powerful tool.
The best INFJ video ever 👏 Thank you Frank!
And you know what? Soon you'll get your TH-cam Silver play button, Woohoo 🤩🥳
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Woah woah woah, easy there with the relatability.
Ha! I was dropped on my head. Still got the bump. Thought maybe that's what messed up my wiring. 1st thing I did after finding your videos was throw out the anti-depressants and then I stopped apologizing. Thanks
The Media Dead blessed be
Yep, knowing your type is liberating. I was addicted to apologizing for processing and handling life, in my own way, as well. Unless someone is acting with malice, or deliberate insensitivity, there isn’t a need to apologize.
The Pikachu meme reference is the best thing ever
Has anybody else have strangers' dogs come up to them, displaying signs of affection? If so, then the "instant confidence" seems to work with animals as well...
Yes. We share many values with dogs, and are calm and available. Like us, dogs are constantly watching how those around them act and react, and scan facial expressions to gauge the situation and expectations. We appreciate their open honesty and unconditional love/acceptance, and desire for companionship, loyalty, and vulnerability. When it comes to cats, they want to initiate. Trying to grab, pick up, and pet a strange cat makes them uncomfortable. Cats are more interested in you if you ignore them, and are calm. In a situation of visiting a new place, like an aquaintance's house/family, we would be calm and seemingly withdrawn, actively listening, absorbing the new social situation. This is a magnet for cats to feel comfortable investigating.
@@johnravely2872 The experience of a Rottweiler purring like a kitten is truly rewarding. And shy cats approaching me up to "invading" my lap also have a calming effect.
Once I was sittin' hangin' with a couple big sweet dogs I met on a walk; lady comes out of her house, freaking out, "Oh my God, I can't believe they didn't attack you! They hate men! They were abused as puppies by men. Didn't you see the beware of dog sign?" I thought they were just a couple nice doggies.
I am a mail man and dogs and cats come to me all the time. I even walked within 6 ft of a deer a few weeks ago.
Man, i've experienced a golden retriever jump into me so sudden when i pass him/her. I was so shocked i thought he/she's angry but actually he/she want to play with me, said the owner. Damn, i thought i had heart attack and almost lost an arm that day.
Love the cat/dog analogy! We should always approach others with curiosity, not conformity. Figure out which "pet" for dealing with, & just roll with it.👍
Oh my .... that baseball metaphor was really deep and accurate ... I stopped breathing even lol and I’m so not into baseball but man that metaphor made me realize how much I love metaphors. Especially if they are made well... ok I don’t usually write comments this INFJ needs to hide now
You’re a wizard harry!
I am an INFJ that went the career sales/consulting route in life. I feel like typology has not only helped me work on my weaknesses, but it has also helped me not be as sensitive to rejection in sales because I better understand how my clients think. It is usually because I am not reaching them the right way or because they are just busy/ having a bad day.
Frank-there you go again makin’ this world a better place💖
In a previous video, he mentioned something about the "Ni-Ti Loop". And as an INFJ-T, it reeeeeeally helped me a lot with what I was going through at that time(even right now). I realized that the reason why I was so into the swamp of my darkest thoughts is because I have this loop that kinda cultivates into some sort of 'being' in my head that won't stop turning, but now thanks to Frank sharing about this loop, I was able to bring myself out of it when I was in it. Knowing my weaknesses really has helped me a lot, thank you FJ!!
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Very insightful. I agree that it is helpful to know about other people's type. I don't think it divides. I'm pretty sure my husband is a ENTP. He has brought me out of my comfort zone in so many ways. He loves to debate and it has helped me become a better debater. He brings excitement and fun to my life. He gets me out of the house. I would be a hermit without him. His need for social interaction is so much higher than mine.
since i figured out this whole typoligy a few days ago i have been watching hours and hours of this stuff. and it is as you say, its a toul for you to understand youreself better, espacialy for people with more different types then the more normal ones, that feels like misfits, to improve youre life, but also understand others. i think this (finding out im an INFJ) saved me from much troubles later this year. and life.
This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I find that one of my weaknesses as an INFJ is wishing people would return the amount of effort and energy and compassion that I give to them. I’ve got to realize that not everyone is the “martyr” type. They cannot physically, emotionally, or mentally do that just as I cannot express all my crazy thoughts or be able to stop myself from soaking up another’s emotions. Thanks FJ
Found your videos a couple days ago. Binge watched HELLLLAAAAAA videos.
THANK. YOU.
no, thank YOU
I feel like I really needed to hear this, lately i have been overusing "this is who i am" and just pushing everyone away just because they dont (and never will) return the amount of care and attention i give them.
Thank you sm, even tho i was aware of this fact this video just slapped me across the face and made me realise that everyone has a different way of dealing things and just because i do it a certain way doesnt mean that everyone else does too,
LOVE YOU SM!!! Thank you for being someone i can look up to and become a better person
(not weird at all coming from a 15 year old girl)
Care and attention...please, just be aware of compassion fatigue. We’re particularly susceptible to it, in my opinion. Sometimes, we need to call a timeout for self-care.
@@basilbaby7678 yep, and i am so glad that i finally understand that taking time off isn't selfish, its selfcare. :)
Glad to be ONE of the 3 users who watch baseball !! Thanks Frank James to make this video so personal for the 3 of us !! Appreciate !!! ;)
I must be #2 :)
This was a really nice video! I usually have a lot of disdain for these MTBI subject videos, but yours is more introspective and honest than most. I think that all personality types are contingent on upbringing during childhood, current socioeconomic climate, and mental health. Most important is mental health, and self ascribed types may not always be beneficial to the state of one's mind. What you seem to put forth builds on Jung's work of individuation, of knowing that finding what archetypes you fall into can and should always be worked upon. This was very refreshing!
The compassion and empathy piece- I can definitely resonate with... (not that I can type people on the spot) but just being cognizant of the fact that some people think differently enabled me to be more understanding and lenient with others as well as myself. It’s helped me out a ton!
Perhaps, I’m an outlier in the INFJ community, but I had always just known and accepted that other people “think differently”. What perpetually confused me, was the nearly constant refusal of other persons to accept that I thought in a counter-typical way. I have a long-time friend that is adamant that the concept, and reality of introversion is “bullsh*t”. Her opinion isn’t unique, unfortunately.
I'm an ENTP but this one weird INFJ who is, like, super attractive for a man, and who keeps using baseball analogies that I don't understand because I don't know how to use my body in any intuitive way, so sports is totally lost on me, has great content that I enjoy. Human-ing is hard business all the way around, it seems and we could all use more empathy and fantastic hair. (I have fantastic hair myself, so I think I can comment on such?) Also, I've decided I need more commas in my life, or maybe not. I'm going to deploy comma experiments today.
I really needed this video. A couple of weeks ago I found out that I was a INFJ and everything clicked. I've always felt like different, like I didn't belong anywhere (I could be in any group but it didn't feel right), no one understood me but I understood everyone. I'm very selective about the people that I surround myself with, because I seek deep and genuine connections to people. That has led me to have very high expectations of what people should be or act like. Lately I've come to realize that people are just that, people. They're not a perfect specimen that checks everything I'm looking for. Also, I'm coming to terms with my personality, I didn't like being an introvert, or the fact that I'm an empathic, self-conscious person.
So yeah, this video has helped me a lot to analize my thoughts and realize that it's okay to be like that, I just have to accept myself and improve to be a healthier person. Typology is truly interesting, it's one of the reasons I'm going to study psychology when I go to university. Keep up the amazing work on your channel!
I don't dislike any personality type. The only people I avoid are toxic people or people with personality disorders like Narcissism or sociopathy.
Ditto.
One must never stop learning :) my fave past time is doing research and extra courses on "these human behaviour things" as I call it. Simply love it :) Like the way you're wired man :)
My brothers and I are all adults, and my older brother (entp) just got into typology and in his twenties just realized that my younger brother and I (both unfj) are not being rude like he thought. He didn't realize we were processing and not just bored with the conversation. We had no idea he felt we were not paying attention. He watched your video on the infj stare and it blew his mind. We have never been so close as we are recently.
“I gotta throw in a baseball metaphor”. You got me there. Great analogies by the way! I find it easy to draw connections between concepts and find patterns thanks to that strong Ni
My INFJ development area: Hulk mode. We were discussing which super hero we’d be once and my husband said I was the Hulk. Not due to my stature, which is relatively petite, but due to my explosive outbursts.
Let me explain: I take , and take, and take , and take, and then out of the blue I will go full Hulk mode and completely freak everyone out. My INFJ empathy completely exhausted I go ape. It doesn’t happen often, maybe once every couple of years.
Anyone else? Or am I alone on this? I’ve tested INTJ once by a prior employer, and subsequently as INFJ.
Fellow INFJ here. This definitely happens with me. I honestly think to myself that there is an inner Hulk within myself! Lol 😆 i agree with your assessment of the taking til u can’t take no more and then....the Hulk outburst. I have literally left people stupefied or petrified...wondering wth happened. I liken it to Yoda mutating to the Hulk when I’m in empathetic or sensory overload!
What you’ve helped me with the most is educating me with how my weakness as an INFJ kind of prevents me from using one of my main strengths.
I’ve always lived in my head and my imagination is so vivid. But that’s all I’ve seen it as. Just daydreaming.
After watching your videos I was able to see how important it is for me to push myself to bring what’s in my head out into the world. It’s nice to hear all the strengths of your personality type and pride yourself on them. But if you don’t tackle how your weaknesses stunt your growth, ability, and those strengths then it’s kind of pointless. It was nice to finally understand myself in a deeper way but really it’s so i can help myself as well and see what my purpose is. A lot of you content give me the courage to do so in creative ways. So Thankyou :)
My dreams are better than reality
@@Missmagazinebura yeah I agree... But if we put the anything we find light in fro. Our dreams into this world... Reality will improve, and not just for you... But for others you touch
It's crazy because I just discovered I'm an INFJ like so many days ago and I was wondering just today like what do I do now and like how should I feel. This video was actually quite helpful. 😊
Kal bet j hatituti eo earr kdah aaas hjav a ne hsj au 6 ha stioigt dur rtank is te mlse teia karo mari ay pa sao hu imar hju e ts aeli chhu
Genuinely concerned about the redness of your right ear
Lava Lamp xD
Honestly same 🤔😂
Someone must be spilling some tea...them ears be burnin’. ☕️ lol
@@basilbaby7678 noice
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I discovered you fairly recently but it is unbelievable how much of what you say resonates with me. I am aware of why that is so but it is still utterly fascinating considering that it seems almost impossible to explain myself to anyone else and then there is a guy on you tube who gets it ALL lol keep up the good work Frank!
I am in full agreement on this one, Frank. Not using typology as a tool for growth is like receiving a great gift that never gets used even though it has the power to enrich your life.
When you feel displaced and then suddenly discover why and then find people who are similar, it takes considerable effort not to circle the wagons. It's probably even harder for some of the youngins.
Whoa, now I get cat videos and flashes of my favorite Smash Bros. character? Awesome.
Hi. I'm Natalie. Five years ago I became so emotionally exhausted that I deleted my social media, cut off everyone I ever knew, and moved out of state to live in a secluded cabin in the woods (where I have lived ever since). I took the 16 Personalities test today. I am an INFJ. I plan to watch your videos and use them as a resource for real, meaningful personal growth. I can't thank you enough for helping me figure out where I have been in life, and where I am going. I feel understood for the first time. I'm excited that I've stumbled upon this wealth of information, and I have a lot of work to do.
I abandoned my Facebook 6 years ago, and cut out a bunch of toxic people, like a samurai. My fantasy is owning a little home in the woods. Natalie, you’re living the dream!
Sometimes people ask why I’m interested in knowing about other types and they just don’t realize that I want just to know how do things work in their brains. I think it’s more easier to communicate with someone when you know something about their functions so you know what to expect
kateisokay // yes! Its the same for me. Thats why I ask for a zodiac sign Even iF people think its a total bullshit I can find some indications on their personality type and what to expect
uploaded at 5 am... I was just about to go to sleep . Frank plz, spare me some mercy
Hahahah 😜
Lol I get up then!!
Yeah, its labelling. Labels can he a source of strength and identity, they can also hold you back and cause stagnation.
It's about incorporating that label into who you are without letting the label become who you are.
Great video. I'm not an infj and I rarely watch MBTI videos as I find most channels actually suffer from that exact problem, along with stereotyping.
But your videos are very insightful, plus my SO is infj so I like to watch these now and again.
Great point. Growth and acceptance are very important. It's terrific how so many more people are interested in MBTI now. Thanks FJ
I agree completely. I'm much older than most of the people watching this so I've spent most of my life not knowing why I was different than most of the people around me. First, the empathy makes learning that a whole lot of people lie devastating when you are young. It took me years to come to terms with that. Second, my empathic skills made me an excellent therapist. However I didn't realize how easy it is to become drained and had not set up a strong outside support system. Thus, I burned out after ten years. So, it's good to know your type to help you navigate through your life. Not only for yourself, but for others too. We all have strengths and weaknesses.
I also thought very similarly. Thanks for always sharing your super insightful thoughts!
if life would as easy as an INFJ... no of course not. The formula I came up with so far is
Personality type + Upbringing + living conditions + choice = Life of an INFJ. well or any other human.
Its pretty dumb to take the personality type test and then they say "yup I'm done".
+culture, and totally agree with you here. an INFJ born and raised in an affluent U.S family is definitely going to be different than a INFJ who's born in Africa and struggling to sustain themselves, not to mention educations and upbringings etc.
Same for the infp but only my room is messy
I completely agree with you on learning to strengthen your weaknesses and not just focusing on your strengths. I think self improvement and personal growth are so important.
Hi Frank, i'm a brazilian guy that have depression, i've been having really hard times in the last couple years, then i finally started a treatment for my depression, last week my psych tell me to try to learn more about my self, about who i am, and what i like cause it could help me, then a started to read and watch a lot of vids and i start to learn and study deeply about personalities,
psychology and this stuffs... then i found you channel, i think i'm a INFJ too and it explain a lot about what a feel and think and what sometimes i feel nobody understand me, what make me feel lonely and odd, its very good to know that are others people that think and feel like me, i have learn a lot with your channel, so thx man.
Greatly appreciate your videos thus far and even more so, the somewhat diverse analogies/examples. The only way typology can become a means of segregation; is by someone’s decision not to accept a perspective, idea or process, similar to their own. Which is the same type of closed-mindedness from which negative portrayal and hatred, are eventually created. Only by learning more about ourselves AND others, can we evolve into a more harmonious existence. I truly believe that by further exploration and comprehension of our thoughts, reactions and naturally developed perspectives/observational processes, we can only improve our communication and interactions.
Looking forward to hearing more, as I continue to watch/listen.
Hi Frank,
I have just recently discovered your videos and I am currently trying to catch up. Very glad I found you! I am also an INFJ 🤗 I have always been somewhat different from everyone around me and learning more about the reasons why instead of beating myself up has really helped me to be comfortable with who I am. I must say that it doesn’t separate us as a people but it helps us to be more understanding of our differences. I especially connect with your giving up on your dream video & well pretty much all of them...... Thank you for what you do! Would be nice to chat with you more sometime😊
Ive been watching you for some time and i dont know if it just seems this way but you look like youre doing way better in life now, youre more attractive and more confident. I dont know if its actually the case , but just a thought of it makes me so happy.
Thanks FJ, Yo people 15k till 100k we’re close👏🏼
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I did not that I was an INFJ till I was in my early sixties. For decades , I hide my real self. Be thankful that you learn these lessons early in life.
The cat & dog metaphor at the end of the video struck a chord💡
Frank might want to know whether it was major or minor.
It was a G Chord on a acoustic. Sound filled the house.
Also I'm right there with you, I'm 29 and living at home for a number of reasons. I also feel embarrassed about it, so you're not alone and its really not a big deal. Hope your move goes well.
It's a good thing to know that we can accept people for how they wired, but if you are annoying them or if they are offensive to you then it's not worth the trouble.
Love seeing this old style content every once in a while
Thank you!!! Yesh. Typology is there to help people understand each other on soo many different levels. Great video dude!
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Omg right before u started talking about the pet examples in my head I’m like “it’s like cats and dogs”
Another well done video, Frank. You know, even within any certain type there are great differences as you know from all your studying. I am an infj and all the oversensitivity and frustration and wanting to run away from all the other people that seem to have gotten the memo on how to live a fun and outgoing and joyful life without ever worrying about the million stupid little things that kept me back were mysterious to me. So, having empathy allowed me to actually feel their Joy just by watching them live. But one interesting thing
is that I have seen you growing into empathy. When you first started, and you knew the different types, you still reacted with frustration and self-consciousness and maybe even anger. Some INFJs already have empathy and that saves a lot of negative feelings because generally I used to feel sorry for people that on the surface seemed to have it all but my empathy could see past that and I could relate to them at a deeper level. And you know we like to go deep. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm glad that you studied all the augmented parts that make people say what they say and do what they do so that you don't have to react to that. In other words, I knew you were a hell of a man and I just had to wait two years for you to catch up to him!! :-)
If you knew how it feels to be house bound for two and a half years and somehow hang on to a semblance of sanity then you would know why I'm rambling. I am down to the nitty gritty of life and death and I'm afraid. And every time I reach out to someone they always find a clever way to push me away. When I make it through this storm I will be much stronger, I pray. But for now, I feel like a little girl who's left alone in the house with her dad and I am seeing him passing away. How does an infj handle that? Each night, when he lays in my bed for a couple hours I can feel all of the energy of him being ill and I don't know how to stop it from becoming my illness. I guess it would take an empath to teach me how but right now Frank, I don't know how I'm going to make it till the weekend. Thank you for everything that you do. That was one of your top 10 videos. And I love baseball analogies and football analogies and if you could throw in some hockey, bull riding and equestrian ones I would like that too.! :-) love, Carly
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I can't Thank you enough for showing these video. It help me learn how to deal better with my brain.. I'm 35 years old an I'm just now figuring out my thoughts are not reality it's all in my head.. I can function properly lol Thank you,, it awesome knowing I'm not the only one that thinks this way
So true! For me it’s helped so much to understand why we misunderstand each other, in my family for example, it’s a great relief! I also checked out enneagram but they did nothing for me, I think MB is superior so far. Thank you🙏🏽
Need I say this video had the best presentation till date! This is coming from a guy who has watched about 40-50 of ur non-skit videos in the last two days.
Thank you for your job and your videos, Frank! I appreciate your job and knowledge so much! I had a hard time understanding myself and others when started to communicate with my friends-extraverts. (I'm INFJ). When I watched your video about Cognitive Functions, I started to understand things. Empathy, understanding of my weaknesses and finding beauty in that my friends complement me as well as I complement them, feeling that I have a place to fit in - is a unique, one of the best feelings I've ever had! Thank you so much!
Preach bro! JUST discovered typeology about 48 hrs ago which led me to you. Instinctively thought, "Wow this will make social interactions much easier assuming I can get a read on their type". Fell down this rabbit hole seeking a better means of sorting through potential employees. Currently figuring a practical way to apply this exam in the hiring process. You've gained yourself a new subscriber here and I'll certainly spread the word. Cheers
BTW I was classified as an INFJ type if that wasn't implied. Honestly, at first I found it a bit disconcerting how accurately the classification described who/how I am. I quickly got over it though realizing the potential behind this Briggs Myers theory.
INFP A
I agree 💯 %
5 years ago I was dating a girl, while going through a divorce, and had just started my second year of seeing a counselor weekly.
Said girl sprung the personality test and love language tests on me while we were having a couple beers at a bar. I went with it, came back infpa, and didn't think anything else about it for a long time.
Couple years later I see the test pop up on a friend's FB feed, so I took it again. I've taken it once a year, and the last time I did I tried to answer most of the questions differently. By that I mean instead of "kind of" disagree, or agree- I felt more strongly about the topic. INFP A. AGAIN.
The type description I have has HELPED me in some bad times when I was feeling low. It's helped me when I was feeling angry and misunderstood, in all of my personal interactions and relationships with my soon to be fiance, kids, parents... it helped because I do work in areas I wasn't strong in, and have learned to take pride in and accept certain strengths and traits I didn't even realize were there.
Contrary to my PT, I'm not going to proof read and edit this ramble. Bc I've already spent too long typing a comment that I can easily turn into an essay
I have to agree with you! I found out about typology in 1990. I really liked it because it really highlighted the best of each type even though we are all so different. Very optimistic approach. My husband is ISTJ and I love bouncing my ideas off him because his thinking logistically is so much stronger than mine. He sees details that I miss and vica versa. However getting him to see my INFJ strengths and blind spots has been a huge undertaking. We talk about these subjects and our differences alot. I agree that continually developing is important, however, I venture to say that not all types see that as necessary. Wish it were different. I thank you for your videos. I look forward to watching them each week.
Frank James, I agree about not stopping here at my type and improving myself for the better...I also agree on how people misuse our 'type' to have their ego to be fed. (As I have seen in the comments of other youtubers' channel, several INTJs want to 'wrong' people in a very 'cold' way, not to offend or call out my type. But then again I understand them because I am one too and it is a part of their or our personality type. However, I am thankful that I am Turbulent one and not an Assertive type INTJ.) Before the time I learned of MBTI, I was into Astrology, learning of my birth chart. Did I stopped there? Nope. I came to know of and learn more about who I am through my environment, religion/spirituality, my chakra points, my color auras, numerology, and eventually MBTI. These all helped me to learn things and in return, maybe oneday I will be able to 'teach' someone with the things I have past learned and apply it to their lives. To sum it up, like you have somewhat directly/indirectly stated, I believe that every type and/or everyone should continiue to improve their lives and those around them, even if it simple and small. Great content, btw! 😊
I agree with you 100 percent, I would also like to add. It seems to be a product of our individualistic society, everyone wants to be special in some way. Saying that they have these qualities or cognitive abilities and starting to become egotistical and dive deep into the ego. Instead of learning how to grow the cognitive abilities they are weak at.
Thanks for another great video Frank xx 💚
I wonder how hany other personality types are watching your vids besides INFJs...!
And out of these types, do they take the time to learn about and better understand our type as much as we try to understand theirs!
Oh and for the record, my cat fetches like a dog 😋
Love and peace to all ♾🤘☮💚☯
As an INTJ-T, I enjoy watching Frank James' videos. To answer another part of your question, I believe I try to understand INFJs because I feel very similar to them and/or vice versa. Overall, I'm still in the the baby process of typology. It may be a while before I get a overall 'sense or understanding' of the 16 types of myers briggs. :)
KatAtomic77 I’m an INFP and love Frank’s channel. When I discovered it last week, I misread the initials of his type and thought he’s an INFP. I was reading along thinking, yes! Yes! Yes! Resonating with everything he was saying. Then I saw the J after the INF and literally did a double-take. I thought, That can’t be! I looked again and sure enough! It was a J!
100% agree with you, Mr. FJ, I used to think a lot of people were just useless idiots, in fact now I can understand why they act like that and instead of pushing them away I felt more connected with them and, I kind of diminished my criticism about them to be more receptive because I noticed after taking the test that I'm a weirdo too and people might also think I'm an idiot because I'm always making my distance from them
Perfect analogy! I struck Mike Lieberthal out in 1989 with my infamous knuckle ball. I played American Legion in El Segundo. My fast ball was at about 75mph, I had a decent curve, but a sweet knuckle ball. Thank you for that memory again.
this video had a powerful impact on me ! you really inspired me Frank , now that i started learning about types & different cognitive functions i started trying to work on my weaknesses & also understanding why people are different & that i should stop excpecting them to react in some way or getting mad at them because we're simply different ! now i'm becoming more understanding ! PS. that baseball methaphor was EVERYTHING ! (i'm also an INFJ btw )
Great vid man, all this stuff needs to be said way more often to the greater typology community and especially to new people.
Only qualm, INFJs probably need to hear this the least out of all of the types :D
Almost didn't click on the vid because I'm not an INFJ :D
Well you know how it is, gotta use those buzzwords!
Just stumbled across your videos and I really appreciate your excellent insight. You got my sub!
On a more relevant note, I went ahead and took a few of those tests and they confirmed that I'm indeed an INFJ. It's tempting to feel like I'm a super special snowflake now but nah. I'm just a person trying to navigate this crazy world like everyone else. I have things I do well and things I could stand to improve just like everyone else. It is nice though to finally find out at the age of 34 that I'm not alone in my particular way of processing the world. The loneliness and alienation I've felt throughout my life has been hard to bear at times and just being aware that there are actually other people like me gives me a great deal of comfort.
I hear you...wish the ones who needs to hear this would listen...but they probably won't...love your metaphors by the way 👍
You ARE an infj! You teach me stuff everyday! Staapppp all the haters! Thank you James!
You can’t like my comment? James? Lol
I'm INFJ TYPE living in SouthKorea and so moved by ur saying. So same thoughts as my usual thinking! Thx for making these faboulous contents!
I see this in the astrology community too. It's very divided as well unfortunately. But I agree, we should be using our types to connect more with people and understand people rather than using it to separate each other. Spread love not hate ❤️✌🏻
I subscribed to your channel specifically because of this video. So many people brag how they are empaths. How they are special and feeling everything. I’m like cool so you have empathy? No I’m an Empath. Yeah narcissists also possess empathy to an extent. Sociopaths recognize cognitive empathy. We aren’t all these special psychic people who are so misunderstood because we have ascended to some higher level of awareness. Empathy is a common emotion, and many empaths I know are actually pretty emotionally unstable. Let’s relax with the labels and focus on relating to others and working on ourselves. I completely support this video, I know I went on somewhat of a rant detour but back to what I was saying thank you for posting this 😂
This reached my soul sir!💗💗💗
Agreed, after the initial surprise and awe of finding out I'm normal as an INFJ can be I was less impress with just accepting the weakness and strengths. I wanted to be the best me and I started to challenge alot of those weaknesses. But I must say knowing what those weaknesses were helped me to become more aware of why I did the things I did and how to correct my efforts and interaction with the world. Ty FJ.
hahaha the knuckle pitch metaphor is awesome ! Ia m binging on these videos.
I agree with the typology unification hypothesis - after I found out that my best friend is ESTJ, and me being the INFJ, I suddenly gain so much insight and understanding for the divergences in our actions and ideals,and made me even fascinated with her, not puzzled. awesome thing, MBTI is the only healthy obsession out there.. and bananas
Awesome metaphor! Definitely feel much closer to other people since discovering I’m an INFJ. Useful tool for bettering relationships and navigating life
Being a huge baseball person I thank you for the metaphors ❤
And yes, I have found that getting to know my type and my family's type has helped me to understand them better, way better. I respect them so much more.
Because of you I found so many answers when it comes to typeology. It's been a great journey so far.
It has brought me closer to my husband.(INTJ)
Which I think is an almost perfect match for this INFJ... except the feelings area.
When I watched your video on INTJ...it all made sense.
My husband is truly a softie in the inside but he can't express feeling like me. But now I know that's ok....he does feel, he's not cold, he's just different, and I love him even more. I think it's cool because I know him so well, it's like I only know when he's feeling a certain way...I can read him way better now.
keep it coming with the baseball metaphors (Dodgers fan 🙋)
uh oh those dodgers are hot this year
@@FrankJames yep! Going out to see them in a few weeks when the Yankees come here to LA.
What team is your favorite?
@@kita3256 the nats, to my yearly disappointment
@@FrankJames ah yes, but today they had a pretty good game, if I'm not mistaken. 🙂
Such a great video Frank! Thank you! You remind me of a hermit who comes from the past and suddenly starts speaking to share knowledge :)
I discovered you channel recently and now I’m hooked! I literally got too attached pretty quickly and now I feel like you’re my best friend... I mean this in a non creepy way...
You have no idea how much I needed exactly this right now.
you have put so much more insight to my unhealthy INFJ tendencies, also HPPD makes it a lot worse but i’m trying to heal
I appreciate the baseball metaphors. Keep up the good work
One of your smartest vids yet, made even better with your baseball analogy. Being serious. High 5!
Just found this channel and my life is already 10x better, brb gotta watch all the infj vids.
I am a seeker, from astrology from different cultures to any accepted science that there is, you name it I’ve been there, and although I’m against any kind of label to define people, personality types are useful to know ourselves better. I agree with you when you say that this should not be an excuse. Any piece of new info is a kind of clue to move forward, improving oneself and being able to help others in this process is a good goal to pursue. Knowing your type is the first step, I hope it will lead my to a Bilbo Baggins kind of journey. (My spanish keyboard made me go through hell to write this in English 😓😓😓)
i don't know what to type but i love you and your videos frank. 💙
You didn't know what to type and created a pun. Genius.
@@Pikachu-qr4yb i didn't realise it until you said it lol, but is it really a pun?
@@vanshome7612 Using "type" in a video about personality types
@@Pikachu-qr4yb omg XD
The problem with typology is that very first letter, just cuz your introverted doesnt mean you have to exclude yourself from everything, the real beauty in the types is the last three letter which describe the more important aspects of your personality. In my opinion. I have tested as infp and infj so far and I know I'm introverted but that self awareness has helped me try and push myself out of my bubble I will be in a room and I'm like ok I'm being introverted as fuck I should say what's on my mind instead of just thinking to myself.