An Explanation of Social Anxiety and Treatment from Dr. Joseph Himle of University of Michigan
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- Joseph A. Himle, Ph.D., University of Michigan School of Social Work professor, speaker at the March 2017 AKFSA event "No More Running: Living with Social Anxiety Disorder," explains social anxiety and what it is like for those who are struggling with the condition.
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Been suffering from severe social anxiety since early childhood... And "demoralizing" is the exact explanation of how it feels. Dr. Joseph Himle is the first doctor I've heard that actually understands what this condition is like.
Been 3 years ,how u doing
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of introverts a lot easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Looking forward to reading your answers :)
@@ALIVE.Offical I am not able to make meaningful relationships with anyone even with my closest friends. Sometimes I feel depressed because people misunderstand me. They think I am not interested in talking or I am a person with ego problems. They think I have a cold heart. I have been single for a while now and most of the girls I talk with label me as a boring person. I also faced substance abuse problem through my teen years. I am 23 years old now and I am trying to stay clean. I don't like feeling lonely all the time. Things seem to be getting worse for me. I feel like I need to run away to someplace new and start a new life there. I wish I could be born again like a normal person and live a normal life. I have thought about ending my life when I was younger. At that time I didn't understand what my problem was. Now I have learnt to appreciate life and I am grateful for every second of it.
@@ALIVE.Offical
1. Daily social interactions, saying no to things that I want to do because it requires socializing.
2. Natural social skills, I don't want to think about my every move I wish that I had more natural social skill.
I could have written this. Nobody, absolutely nobody knows the extent of my social anxiety. It's exactly as you've just described, Elizabeth. Tonight I am taking my children to a karate lesson for the first time and I am crapping myself. I need to go out and get groceries but I'm putting it off because it makes me feel nervous.
I swear, if anyone wants me to make a WhatsApp support group for this and people join, I will do it. I feel it's desperately needed. We can update eachother and support eachother on bad days as well as celebrate our achievements. Anyone up for it? Message me. I will be back later to tell how the karate lesson went.
when Lary said "I could not talk to another human being", I felt that...
Can anyone else not order in restaurants, coffee shops...? I also can't go for walks around my block, even though I like walking cause I can't bear standing at traffic lights, feels like everyone's looking at me and I'm so anxious and exposed and just making eye contact with people and passing by them as I walk can be really difficult, especially if they're alone and looking my way. If people are busy talking to friends and not seeming to notice me I'm ok though.
I feel the same . Some days I have more confidence and just go out , some days I cant. I'm no expert but best thing is to throw yourself in the deep end of uncomfortable situations. It is possible to live a normal life but you have to work on yourself .heathy lifestyle . Good nutrition. Good sleep . I wish I all the best, you are not alone
@@deepsport5559 Yeah I agree with you, thanks a lot.
@I don’t know Haha sounds like me tbh. But also I don't have any friends at all, so if I wanted a friend to come with me somewhere to feel less nervous I don't have that option :( So it's hard that way, cause I have no choice but to try to do things with no support. It's a cycle. Cause I'd like friends but I've on friends to help me make them. So really I just have to brave it on my own. Most of the time it's awkward and goes badly but not everyone dislikes me and it doesn't always go really badly 😅
I posted this before on another comment. Is anyone up for a social anxiety WhatsApp support group?! I want to make one and use it to support eachother, our little achievements, our bad or anxious days etc. Message me guys if anyone wants to do this. Everything you wrote here Elizabeth describes me lol. Ugh. I need to go out and get groceries but I'm putting it off. I need to go and take my children to a karate lesson for the first time tonight too which I am crapping myself about 😬
@I don’t know Ah thank you. Yes my motto lately actually is, persevere and keep going and also do my best. So so long as I just keep going I'm happy with myself. Wish you well and hope you can do the same :)
The awkwardness when being around people. Oh being categorised as being "shy" makes it all worse. Are there support groups where people with social anxiety can sit toeghter.
No fr ppl don’t realise how harmful it is to be given that label as a “shy or quiet person” I hate it and when u genuinely wanna talk but u have no idea what to say at all
I’d love to join one of those groups if possible
I can't remember a time that I've not struggled with it. As far as I'm concerned it's always been there.
The way I think about it is that it's a bit like being a fish that never learned to swim. Fish exist in water, it's kinda their thing y'know. Humans are social animals, so people that can't be social essentially can't swim in the medium humans exist in. It's not just the occasional limitation of not being able to enjoy swimming in a pool. It's perpetually living in the deep end and not being able to swim.
I, myself is a social anxiety disorder person. I feel this till now. When it gets me back I can't talk any language and even freeze. I try my best to overcome this but this gets back. I am 25 years old from France.
Un français !!👏👐🇫🇷 donc parlant de ça moi aussi j'ai actuellement 15 ans et je souffre d'anxiété sociale et de mutisme selective et mon adolescence ne s'avère pas bon tous les jours c'est horrible
I can understand
It's ok i also have this
Today I got help for the 1st time in 25 years with my social anxiety I felt hopeless but now i changed my life with therapy and medication now I feel I can live I’m free
How you feeling now
Does the medication help
What meds?
I think it’s AMAZING TO FINISH COLLEGE WITH THE CIRCUMSTANCES HE FACED ! That’s amazing! And congratulations.🎉
Lary seems like a very sensitive and clever man I really hope he is doing better now.
So glad it’s becoming public information. 🤘🏾
I had Soc.AD for years but it got better by it self... I still have it, but not so bad as I used to. I still fear real job, social events, and I constantly feel I must impress people or they will not like me or they will judge me. So I alway obsess over my presentation in social events, and with that I miss the reality of conversations and I miss getting to know new people. Once I feel the impression was good, I must run and hide, because I fear, I may destroy that impression. So my interactions with people are never natural and honest, its always about me, presenting my self as a role, so they would not judge me or think less of me. and I never let anyone too close. I feel different, a freak. And i have no friends ether
I have the performance anxiety and feel relatively relaxed with strangers, but then the more I know the person my anxiety grows up to a point that I cant speak when Im around my cousins and relatives :(. Also I sweat and tremble and stutter nowadays on online meetings having discussions with my colleagues, but then I can go out and talk with complete stranger on a street.
ME. Whenever I say this to my mum she does not understand. It’s like I can’t form relationships romantically/friendships
I have social anxiety and I’m a salesman. I feel stupid when I smile and laugh.....I do not understand small talk.
Im also a salesman with this condition and I find it very strange that I'm able to go into this zone of pure performance and appear to be extremely extroverted but find it impossible to enjoy small talk or even exist naturally in social situations at all...pretty sure im crazy tho
@@traviswoods7849 I can relate to this. I've worked customer service jobs and as a cashier before. It's like I put on another face; I became a very polite robot. Sometimes I met people I knew while I was at work and they barely recognized me. Then, after work I was completely drained.
Thank goodness I got out of it. Now I work with computers.
@@theodenking169 similar story. I was a server at a restaurant. Now I work with computers. I still have to work on a team though and it’s stressful sometimes.
Yeah I do cashier work every now and then. I’m a job hopper due to this condition. I think I also have Avoidant personality disorder as well. I’m okay with being social if I’m required to be social such as when you’re a cashier. I can always make the excuse that I was just doing my job. It’s weird. I always end up quitting because my coworkers end up trying to get close to me so I run away in fear of these people potentially not liking the real me. Although when I’m outside of work I still get socially anxious with strangers.
There are a few things you can try
Do Not have stimulants such as alcohol and coffee
Take part in relaxing activities
Do regular exercises
Seek help from others
(I learned these and more ideas on Trevs panic fixer site )
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
I don’t mind speaking in public but I do mind speaking in group settings when a conversation is going on. Now I don’t know what my problem is.
This may still be your situation. You don't have to fit all of the symptoms to have a form of the problem; there are many different ways that it can manifest itself (all of which I'm still learning about, myself). I'm petrified in certain situations (social groups, public speaking, etc.) but, for instance, when I'm buried in my work a huge amount of the anxiety suddenly sheds. If you really aren't sure, I would recommend talking to a professional to see what they think the exact situation is, but I think you're probably on the right track. I wish you the best of luck in finding out for sure. Hang in there.
Super informative presentation, and glad to see we’re beginning to educate society. First time watching a video about social anxiety and really described me perfectly. I have very severe social anxiety and have experienced this since elementary school. I was actually put in a program in 4th grade at my school to help me be “less shy”. Fast forward, my social anxiety has gotten worse since not addressing it, that sitting in a coffee shop, it can be hard to drink my coffee in front of other people. Really fascinating stuff and look forward to learning more along the way to healthy social interacting.
I hope that you are doing better
Hope you're doing better now. As a recovering socially anxious person, I perfectly understand what you're going through. Now that I've undergone a significant amount of CBT I feel much more comfortable interacting with other people. However, I still have some setbacks every now and then. So, please, don't give up on yourself! You'll recover, I know that!
it feel good to know at least it is understand by someone , thanks to people working to helps us
I agree because it teaches you more about yourself.
wish you made more videos
When everytime you meet somneone new and your body is in full fight or flight mode. And it takes all your mental capacity to keep youself together. That is what we are going through. You don't have any reserve to be confident or tell jokes.
No you can't say that the person with Social Anxiety Disorder will be more likely to want to work in a factory on a line because it is more isolated. You said "if I"m a very shy factory worker applicant" but MOST people with social anxiety disorder are not also "shy" or "introverted" which are both sort of vague terms anyway. They can inherently have every intention to be the life of the party extrovert type and have tons of friends and dating options, or they may want to be an aggressive salesman type and they simply can't get themselves to do it out of the fear, it would be the same as someone who has their heart set on being a pilot but has an intense fear of flying.
SO "shy" I'm not even really sure what that word means anymore honestly, that word sort of loses its meaning in these conversations. Introverted is easier to understand because its someone who prefers to work and be alone, however the key question is WHY do you they prefer to be alone? is it out of FEAR or is some other reason like they really just don't like people's company, which in that case might be more like an antisocial personality disorder.
Either way one of the most frustrating things about the disorder is many people inherently want to be extroverts, highly social people, I myself have Social Anxiety Disorder very severe and I always thought I would and wanted to have tons of friends and social opportunities, dating opportunities, success within school, job and career and it's all been heavily effected if not completely destroyed by the disorder itself. It's nothing to do with your natural "personality" it's not a personality trait to be confused with shyness whatsoever, I am inherently very outgoing and in my comfort zone I am, when I am drunk I am considered the life of the party by everyone they tell me that, as soon as the alcohol wears off it's back to square one like a completely different person highly socially anxiety ridden in all situations.
I STRONGLY STRONGLY disagree that alcohol doesn't work. I think it works wonders, on a true chemical level, it helps sort of soften or mute the "Overactive Amagdyla" and it does other things chemically which help as well Dr.Atta explains this on his video here on youtube .. Alcohol works wonders for short term treatment of the disorder but it's very dangerous in long term dependence and all the damage it can do to your body, but when it's in your system it actually helps the anxiety drop way more than anything, it's even better than Benzo's for pure symptom relief, benzo's are probably second best but those are extremely dangerous as well..
So in an ideal world someone could just have alcohol and benzo's with no consequence and the disorder would essentially be fixed. So in the future if they come out with a new highly safe drug with no or little side effects which is chemically cross of alcohol and a benzo (all the best aspects of those drugs while removing the negative effects) and we could just take it like a daily vitamin in the morning and it lasts 24 hours time release that would be the fix all to this problem. To me it's really just a lack of having the right medicines on the market for it, it's really a genetic/chemical issue to begin with like all anxiety disorders, i it runs in family trees, it could be easily fixable with those meds combined with a little CBT on top of it, maybe in some cases no CBT.. So that's what we should be looking into and funding. Anti-depressants really don't work for the severe cases of this, and they shouldn't work for that they aren't even designed for that. It's nothing to with mood, its do with fear, that is what is important to remember.
Great text! Of course alcohol helps in short term, i've made the same experiance. There is already a substance out there that acts like a alcohol/benzo combo. It's called Phenibut. Works pretty well, no shortterm sideeffects, but you cannot use it longterm because it is addictive. But it's a good tool for some situations like jobinterviews.
Indeed some people are born with a beta endorphin deficit which alcohol works to compensate for but alcohol is too addictive and too toxic to be used seriously in medicine. Benzos have many negative effects including memory loss and aggression and many people don't like feeling sedated. At the end of the day, the only way to overcome this beast is to face it sober and desensitize your brain to social interaction. It may be difficult at first, but you will look back on it and feel it was worth it. Do a little thing every day that you're afraid of.
I want so much to have one day an upper management position. Thats why I also spend years in the university :( I don't want to hide myself somewhere but I have such a severe social anxiety and sometimes I don't believe I can manage it, to talk to so many people and have that constant stress the a person in a leading position has. Not because I don't have the knowledge, but because I can't function around people :(
acohol works but in short term.after 3-4 beers im another person but when i wakeup tomorrow anxiety is back again.so drinking every day is not the solution
100% true
Great performance!,.explained in great points that most doctors do not understand and have the knowledge to help their patients in overcoming S.A. well done!,. and akfsa is making a big difference in how society deals with this complicated mental health issue.
keep the great work coming and I hope it expands across most doctor's practices .
Having social anxiety, you feel like every stranger is going to shame you or get angry, moment you open your mouth.
RIP all the oppertunites i had in my life becuase of my shyness and the fear of being judged.....
They don't call it "the disease of lost opportunities" for nothing.
thanks u sir from India
I can't thank you enough 🙏❤️
Thank you
I've had it since I was 8 years old, I'm 53 years old.
How have things been ?
OK I suppose.
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Very powerful video
Practice what you're afraid of
Isnt shyness also social anxiety, but just a very low form?
Great question and best answered by a mental health professional. Depends on the extent to which the shyness is interfering with a person’s life. The diagnosis comes usually when someone has an issue coping with a part(s) of their life and needs help.
i dont really know im shy or i have asocial anxiety.im comortable with people i know well like some friends but i avoid people i DONT LIKE
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of introverts a lot easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Looking forward to reading your answers :)
1) Meeting new people/talking to strangers, and reading replies to comments I make online
Edit: that includes reading notes from teachers and classmates since so much of my schooling is online now. I'm not just talking about youtube or reddit or facebook or whatever
2) Feeling confident
My biggest issue is speaking to people/ making calls. It’s hard to really do anything or get anything done because of it.
I would agree with the first comment, I’d wish for confidence
But I mean, I’m not an introvert. I’m socially anxious. The two are not the same. I’m a socially anxious extrovert. I want to socialize but don’t know how to and am afraid.
1)People opinion about me and how I looks
2)to be comfortable in social settings
everybody's super afraid of making a mistake or looking silly and every single person on the planet exhibit a lot of symptoms of being neurotic, not just socalled social phobics, t's all about which symptoms you get: If you blush in public or shake then you got a problem, because it is stigmatised, but if you smoke its ok because it is socially accepted and you don't need to hide your symptom, be a slave of it
Nail on the head...i see myself like this an nobody will ever accept me
Why do you say that
Why i don`t have access to the homepage ? Is it closed ore on work at progress ? Thank you for your respond. I need help!!!
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As a person who suffered from it since childhood and didn't know about it, this has been very helpful. As a person from India i don't know if these resources are available here.
Yeah am from bahamas an have same problem no facilities to help with it.. think this is the rest of my life always rejected
@@bahamasbroyt Are you from Bahamas? There must be a few cognitive-behavioural therapists there, no?
@@paulheinrichdietrich9518 yup annn no
@@bahamasbroyt Maybe you can find a therapist that does telematic psycotherapy online.
I say his incorrect about the alcohol as it made me to confident and be the loudest at the pub instead hiding at the pub …
I may be the female version of Larry.
MY SOCIAL ANXIETY STARTED WHEN I WAS MARRIED I WAS MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY ABUSED
The first ones at 17:00 look easy for me,
this is me
I am Larry.
I struggle most with the board of just having social skills to begin with . But just that board . The rest don’t worry me a bit , I hate men coming in my social area , women are fine but men who do that need a clip anyway
Hi
No thank u my friend
C b t THought he was saying C B D like the chemical from weed that relaxes the body
Behavioral therapy
The benzos are like alcohol and once you stop using those you will have to start all over again cause you will be a nervous wreck with you come off of them from B.i.n.d
A lot of this video sounds like AvPD
It's ruining my life.
My dude had AvPD