Why Learning to Enjoy Being Alone Changes Everything

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  • @fortinosamano12
    @fortinosamano12 ปีที่แล้ว +2376

    “I used to think that the worst thing in life is to die alone,but I realized that the worst thing in life was to die with people that make you feel alone”-Robin Williams

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว +14

      To live while surrounded by an indifferent society is pretty lousy.
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

    • @jeerahhh___jee
      @jeerahhh___jee ปีที่แล้ว +18

      The quote is from The World's Greatest Dad (2009), which he played the main roll. The screenplay was written by Bobcat Goldthwait.

    • @Kirsten4260
      @Kirsten4260 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Love the man. Miss him everyday.

    • @SierNotsruht
      @SierNotsruht ปีที่แล้ว

      Who tf is robin williams

    • @MohammedAadhil10
      @MohammedAadhil10 ปีที่แล้ว

      which movie is this from

  • @-idk
    @-idk ปีที่แล้ว +2623

    4:25
    "You can make more friends in two months by being interested in people
    then you can in two years trying to get people to get interested in you".
    This hits hard.

    • @Batemane02
      @Batemane02 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      “dale carnegie”

    • @ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked
      @ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ^_^ Fr. I'm mostly to myself. I was born and raised in infamous Miami, FL, USA, and happily live abroad from those 3 really toxic places. Vegan. Centrist. Spiritual, anti-religion.

    • @adarsh8269
      @adarsh8269 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dale🔥

    • @TotalPhilosophyTP
      @TotalPhilosophyTP ปีที่แล้ว +11

      How to Win Friends and Influence People is a must-read in my opinion

    • @Shannon_Robbie
      @Shannon_Robbie ปีที่แล้ว +48

      @@TotalPhilosophyTP The only issue with this is that you spend time being interested in their stories but they may not return the favour.

  • @chrisaguilera1564
    @chrisaguilera1564 ปีที่แล้ว +992

    Being lonely and being alone are two different concepts that people often mistake to be the same. They are not. One is a choice and the other isn't.

    • @chrisaguilera1564
      @chrisaguilera1564 ปีที่แล้ว +116

      @@Analyticalinadream When you are lonely you don't feel in control but when you are alone that more or less a decision as you could go anywhere and not be alone. Lonely is a state of mind while being alone is state of being.

    • @laurieford6373
      @laurieford6373 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@chrisaguilera1564 Words of wisdom !!

    • @maicholor2849
      @maicholor2849 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Analyticalinadream If you can't figure it out, you're going to learn the hard way!

    • @navigator_g
      @navigator_g ปีที่แล้ว

      OH GOD DID YOU REALLY SPEW THAT GENERIC BULLCRAP OUT

    • @FxnkyFresko
      @FxnkyFresko ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂😂

  • @architbhagat
    @architbhagat ปีที่แล้ว +206

    "You can't make people like you, you can only try to understand them and hope they try to do the same back".

  • @historylover3018
    @historylover3018 ปีที่แล้ว +538

    I feel lonely only when I'm with people.. But when I'm alone, I'm with the best company.

    • @laurieford6373
      @laurieford6373 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      That's because you're your own best company !!

    • @laurieford6373
      @laurieford6373 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      As in I'm my own best company.

    • @mert_058
      @mert_058 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Cope

    • @Yukinyun
      @Yukinyun ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same looks like they don't care about you never asking to go out and stuff, now I'm a loner an I love it be a man I believe in ya

    • @21daystill
      @21daystill ปีที่แล้ว +2

      touché, i feel the same too a lot of times

  • @LoveHandle4890
    @LoveHandle4890 ปีที่แล้ว +965

    “Be alone, that’s how ideas are born.” -Nicola Tesla.

    • @peezy1942
      @peezy1942 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Boom boom baby

    • @lifechann
      @lifechann ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thats how incels are born too

    • @iforget6940
      @iforget6940 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@lifechann I don't believe they choose to be alone they are forced to be alone

    • @kenshobuq7105
      @kenshobuq7105 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifechann You don't know what that means do you?
      Just another stupid word programmed into people so they use them like Parrots.

    • @thevcountdown9824
      @thevcountdown9824 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@lifechann Well, if the only goal in your life are women (very sad thing), then you will become an incel

  • @regnbuetorsk
    @regnbuetorsk ปีที่แล้ว +457

    I am a lone wolf, i like my own company, i appreciate it more than any other thing.
    But sometimes i can't avoid to feel the need to witness someone else's life, and to not be the only one to witness my own life. This feeling comes just from time to time, and it never comes weaker than before

    • @beridledodopidop4822
      @beridledodopidop4822 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Lol the only answer you got was congratulations from a bot, I don't know why but this made me laugh xD

    • @K4nj
      @K4nj ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@beridledodopidop4822 haha

    • @mansigandhi991
      @mansigandhi991 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      I feel you, like you wanna know what stories others have to share or how they reacted in what situation. I am like that too, I love being alone but then it gets boring so I have to know the various thoughts of people and how they're different from mine. During these times, I talk to a friend, read books or try doing something new like go out and analyse people or watch tv and observe the characters.

    • @mansigandhi991
      @mansigandhi991 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope i helped to answer your doubt

    • @jeffsadowski7759
      @jeffsadowski7759 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We were meant to have that positive back and forth. It fulfills both sides of our heart at the same time. I think alot of people are missing that experience.

  • @636Knight
    @636Knight ปีที่แล้ว +238

    "Being a human is both a blessing and a curse and you're the one who gets to decide why."
    - Don't remember who said it

    • @christopherjmartin
      @christopherjmartin ปีที่แล้ว +4

      thank you for sharing this, I'm saving a copy of this quote forever

    • @ronaldpettifurd5957
      @ronaldpettifurd5957 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love this channel because it causes us to ponder the many wonders of life. To re engage with that childlike wonder you once had, before you became jaded, cynical, and beaten down by the world. Maybe not the world itself, but surely the people within it. We are just as guilty as the rest.
      I often think back to the little kid that I was. That good little boy wouldn't believe in a million years, what he would turn out to be. That little boy would be ashamed and disappointed. I try to meet with that boy, he's in there somewhere, in the back of my mind, in my heart. He's there, and I want him to be happy, proud, and full of wonder.

  • @TheChickenFairy.
    @TheChickenFairy. ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I think that meeting people by chance is the best way to find the best people. if we’re constantly searching for a partner or friendship, we won’t know how to find them. we are capable of loving anyone and everyone because it’s all in our mindset. a love for another person feels more dear when the universe seemingly brought them to you.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

    • @Nextbigching
      @Nextbigching ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Beautifully written, @samantha A. The best friendships are the ones that just kinda happen organically, sometimes by chance, and sometimes by circumstance. Especially when you deeply connect with a complete polar opposite, it just opens your fucking mind and world so much.

  • @JohnnieHougaardNielsen
    @JohnnieHougaardNielsen ปีที่แล้ว +246

    Being alone by choice may be the best way of not being lonely, while immersion in people can create intense loneliness.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

    • @Crumpets7377
      @Crumpets7377 ปีที่แล้ว

      True!

  • @barryjames3747
    @barryjames3747 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I love being alone, I just love the peacefulness of it, the solitude and freedom of only being responsible for yourself. I don't like being lonely though.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

    • @barryjames3747
      @barryjames3747 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Novastar.SaberCombat thanks for that quote, it's amazing really, I shall be looking it up. Hope you have a nice Christmas.

    • @YerlanYegisbekov
      @YerlanYegisbekov ปีที่แล้ว

      same bro

    • @blacklyfe6881
      @blacklyfe6881 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I like both

  • @xMDawg19x
    @xMDawg19x 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    3:36 - I’ve had that feeling so many times over the past several years and never knew how to describe it. You perfectly summed it up in a couple sentences.

  • @joshua.recovers
    @joshua.recovers ปีที่แล้ว +188

    This sums up my current internal struggle at age 30. I needed this video today. Thank you, #PursuitOfWonder

    • @sagarmc
      @sagarmc ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I suggest you listen to J Krishnamurti or Rupert Spira.

    • @etrain3371
      @etrain3371 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Age 20. Internal struggles here as well.

    • @TrisnoadiWikantoro
      @TrisnoadiWikantoro ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Age 23, just broke up. Let's fight together

    • @StoryFanatics10
      @StoryFanatics10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Feeling the same.

    • @introvertedcarat
      @introvertedcarat ปีที่แล้ว

      Age 27. Lonely and struggling. We'll get through this... I hope.

  • @EckheartTurtolle
    @EckheartTurtolle ปีที่แล้ว +44

    “What someone says about something says far more about them than what they are talking about” or something like that…that got me good.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

  • @micling2199
    @micling2199 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As a solitary being, I find myself in a state of perpetual solitude. Conversations lasting more than 20 minutes with anyone other than family have eluded me for the past 15 years. Nevertheless, I do not experience any sense of loneliness, as I have grown to cherish my own company and find solace in being alone. Despite societal norms dictating that one should crave human connection, I have come to accept that I am not like most individuals. Through this acceptance, I have found a sense of contentment and happiness.
    Living in this manner is not for the faint of heart, but rather requires a certain inner strength that most individuals may not possess. For me, the universe itself provides the companionship that others may seek in human interactions, and my loyal canine companion has become a steadfast presence in my life. I feel incredibly fortunate to have found such peace in my solitude, and it is something that I reflect on often.

    • @resistdisinformation9931
      @resistdisinformation9931 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel exactly the same except that I don't currently have an animal companion by choice due to having experienced too much painful loss previously. Enjoy your serenity!

  • @Fear_Therapy
    @Fear_Therapy ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Being alone is always peaceful for me ❤

  • @explorer.samrat
    @explorer.samrat ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Being happy being alone is a super power. 😊😊

    • @SparkTFS
      @SparkTFS ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Indeed. It's good to be confortable around the person you're living most of your life with.

  • @SamDehghan
    @SamDehghan ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "What someone says about somehthing, says far more about them than the thing theyre talking about."
    Now this, this is something special my friend.

  • @saanvii
    @saanvii ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "And to know that there are infinite possibilities for how life could go and that you'll only get to try just one"

  • @jW-kr5xn
    @jW-kr5xn ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Although I have no problem socializing, I just love being alone, free from other people’s problems. Spending time to do stuff that I want, working towards my goals. I rarely feel lonely, I don’t have many friends, but those who I call friends, they are the best friends ever.

  • @Burbie
    @Burbie ปีที่แล้ว +69

    a lot of the times i see comments saying they were thinking about the topic when u posted it, and it never felt that real... Until now, ive been feeling so lonely from yesterday and u drop this banger
    The entire Pursuit of Wonder team is amazing they always give so much thought provoking content

    • @joshuas.8239
      @joshuas.8239 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bruh, this has happened to me several times, idk if TH-cam is reading my mind via algorithm or each channel is

    • @nebd1760
      @nebd1760 ปีที่แล้ว

      i was going to search 'how to be alone' when i saw this in my recommended

  • @4bad2fish0
    @4bad2fish0 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    So I discovered this channel a little over a year ago and it's really helped shaped my mind and also to be a better person as a whole. I've been over a year sober now and I think your channel has helped my life in ways I never thought I'd imagine. Thank you for everything you do and all the hard work and effort that goes into these. This channel is a blessing in disguise for us lonely people that have no outlets to go to for support. I'd never thought I'd be in the place I am now in life without the words and advice I've gotten from here

    • @RainRemnant
      @RainRemnant ปีที่แล้ว +3

      No congratulations from an annoying bot, but a congratulations from a person, sometimes we can't do something on our own and we need help from outside, and I can imagine why this channel has contributed to you turning your life around but in the end YOU are the one who did it! So I'm very proud of you and wish you all the best life has to offer 😊

  • @Mnkyfd6
    @Mnkyfd6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Maybe I'm a dark person, but i find so much beauty in this level of melancholy. I want to feel sadness, I want to feel sorrow. It is a teacher, and a looking glass into what it really means to feel joy.
    I'm not addicted to sadness, It is in fact the opposite. I seek out joy. At my core I am a happy person, this is why i make myself feel deeply, only to remind myself that happiness is earned. Happiness is a perspective and such i seek to remind myself of what i have.

    • @xerainiac2278
      @xerainiac2278 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I assume that inside you want to be sad because being in that state makes you feel at home. perhaps you felt sad in your childhood and it's all you know, which makes it familiar and comforting. as paradoxical as it sounds

    • @Mnkyfd6
      @Mnkyfd6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@xerainiac2278 👍

    • @mailanudalo4712
      @mailanudalo4712 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you know how you put your feelings in your words. it's beautiful.

    • @Mnkyfd6
      @Mnkyfd6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mailanudalo4712 life is beautiful

  • @zachfinemusic
    @zachfinemusic ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “Most of who we become close to is just by the random odds of proximity; chance, met with desperation and the fear of being alone. If you’re lucky, maybe one of those people you would keep close if you could live forever”

  • @simonlinser8286
    @simonlinser8286 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's just as bad if you need to be alone, just like needing to be with people and fearing being alone... loners can be like leave me alone don't bother me i need to be alone... just as bad... there's a balance, enjoy the time you're alone, maybe you'll end up wishing you could be, and don't fear being alone because you might learn to enjoy it. Just don't wish for what you don't have, unless you can get it. That's a waste of time.

  • @TheDoomerGoGetter
    @TheDoomerGoGetter ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I've been alone most days lately and enjoy it, in the past I thought I needed a girlfriend or friends to feel fulfilled in life but December been the happiest I been all year and all I've been doing this month is working on TH-cam videos, working towards this goal of becoming a successful self improvement TH-camr, when you find something you're truly passionate about it gives you purpose and takes away all the negative feelings like loneliness, go find your passion

    • @Michael-ru5zw
      @Michael-ru5zw ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I feel the same way when I'm making music

    • @TheDoomerGoGetter
      @TheDoomerGoGetter ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Michael-ru5zw beautiful, keep making music, don't ever quit

    • @siddhantahuja5384
      @siddhantahuja5384 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel the same when I am playing tennis.

    • @JaxYTB
      @JaxYTB ปีที่แล้ว +1

      was curious to see what your channel was about and closed that tab so damn fast im sorry bro making videos like that gonna make you miserable 😭😭😭

  • @anujadhungana7532
    @anujadhungana7532 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Watching and listening to these view point makes me believe that I'm not alone to have such feelings about myself and my surroundings.

  • @krokodyl1927
    @krokodyl1927 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    The older I get, I come to the realization that alleged friends and family are not to be trusted. It’s terribly weird that after suffering child abuse, pre-school abuse, elementary school abuse, and right up to latent teenage years abuse, that this shit never ceases! Once upon a time, I was told by a counselor that in my family I was considered ‘second best’. She told me to be careful regarding my facies, that when you are treated as ‘second best’ it becomes too easy to appear as second best and others pick up on that, resulting in a never ending cycle of feeling abused and being mistrustful of most everyone. I’m aware of the fact that we as humans are ‘social animals’, but I’m better off spending most of my time alone. I don’t abuse myself and I certainly can trust myself. 🌝

    • @kalleskit
      @kalleskit ปีที่แล้ว +9

      There are many friends to have which can be just as trusted as yourself. You just need to learn how to see them, which can be easier said than done, of course.
      Hang in there, and don't lose hope in people!

    • @skiphopflipflopdripdrop
      @skiphopflipflopdripdrop ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kalleskit”learn how to see them” how?

    • @kalleskit
      @kalleskit ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@skiphopflipflopdripdrop By staying curious and open-hearted, I suppose. By having no expectations from how other people or yourself "should" be, and at the same time have a high standard for who you let enter your life, who you put your full trust in. By recognizing and appreciating what kind of people you may have previously sought for a feeling of security. The people you think you need are not necessarily the ones that will be helpful to you, and truly supportive. For example, if a parent of yours was abusive, you may very likely develop a pattern of seeking out partners who are toxic or abusive, thinking that those kind of behaviors are what you must have in life to be love-able.
      Unlearn or at least observe the destructive beliefs you around love and security. There is no security to be had in this world. You are already secure, you are already loveable. Welcome into your life those who acknowledge your truth and worth unconditionally.
      It starts by being your own best friend. Are you?

    • @krokodyl1927
      @krokodyl1927 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@skiphopflipflopdripdrop Exactly! There are a lot of ‘bad actors’ out there.

    • @thetopcat8946
      @thetopcat8946 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I understand what you mean. Sending love ♥️🙏

  • @raspberryboss4192
    @raspberryboss4192 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    I don't know how to explain it properly, but I feel like loneliness is the difference between your current social situation, and the one you once had. If it was never great, you wouldn't feel like you're missing out on much. But if you did (which demands a lot of luck) experience true friendship, romantic love and family warmth, then no matter how much you will lie to yourself, you will want that back until time takes the vividness away. I'll conclude by saying that we are social species and there is nothing wrong with feeling lonely, it is an emotion like another, useful sometimes, not so much some other times. Like every feeling, you should analyze it, reflect on it... Never numb yourself, it has never done anyone any good in the long run.
    I invite you all to respond to my comment and let me know your point of view :)

    • @wanderingdew5423
      @wanderingdew5423 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree

    • @Analyticalinadream
      @Analyticalinadream ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I feel like there is an essential need or desire for some level of relationships, that one can be lonely never knowing what it is like not to be lonely. Loneliness is an emotion, but at times the pain of loneliness is so overwhelming that watching mind numbing videos (not this one) is the best way to deflect the loneliness....just my thoughts.

    • @659dude
      @659dude ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agreed. In fact it's so painful I think soon I can no longer stand it and will die because of it.

    • @Analyticalinadream
      @Analyticalinadream ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@659dude It can be really tough to go through. I hope you can find someone to reach out to. One person can really make a world of difference.

    • @marka.8535
      @marka.8535 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I had a close friend when I was too young to fully appreciate him . I also came from an abusive family . I’m not sure if it’s the case that if I hadn’t had this friendship that I would not feel loneliness now ; I think we can wish for an ideal and if we don’t reach it we can feel the sting of loneliness maybe with some regret added to it.
      I feel loneliness because my daughter and I aren’t close like we were before I filed for divorce ; that’s some painful loneliness.

  • @superstar5123
    @superstar5123 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i could care less for other people. they are ignorant and small minded. i am perfectly content knowing i am the only person to have the pleasure to know myself truly

  • @Vurt72
    @Vurt72 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    i am amazed how people can stay in relationships. being by myself and still being able to have a really great time has since i was a small kid always seemed like such a great strength to have. not saying every day is great, but if i'm not having a great day its not because i'm lonely, and its not because of any problem related to a relationship.

    • @Salmasobhi1714
      @Salmasobhi1714 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Relatable 😅

    • @Stealth1337
      @Stealth1337 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah man, it's called doing drugs alone !

    • @Vurt72
      @Vurt72 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Stealth1337 Nah., personally i only drink coffee nowadays.. but i used to do ghb, weed, psychedelics (shrooms etc), 20 years ago. currently mostly making mods for games, making music, trying to get good at various programs such as GameMaker, RPG Maker.. making music is probably my favorite though.

  • @White-dp6bg
    @White-dp6bg ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You can't make people like you, you can only opt to understand them and hope that they'll do the same.

  • @Mahchew_5
    @Mahchew_5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Freshman in college been commuting all year lost most of my friendships. At my most depressed loneliest stage of my life, I just feel numb. I just spent New Years alone. I’ve spent the last couple of days reflecting, beginning to accept my loneliness as good thing. This video is a great supplement. Needed it

  • @aseaofhoney4171
    @aseaofhoney4171 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    The last 5 years I became a loner, and it feels great! I live alone with my dogs and a cat and never was happier. Sometimes I'm visiting friends, but after 1 hour I can't stand it anymore.

    • @sherwinh1661
      @sherwinh1661 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Are u financially independent already ?

    • @blobtv7444
      @blobtv7444 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sherwinh1661 no are u a nigerian prince ready to give me my $10000000000000000000000000000000000?

  • @ethanholland4909
    @ethanholland4909 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is one of the first comments ive left on any video or piece online, im 19. Ive started appreciating content that hasnt just been created to be viewed and discarded for that quick dopamine rush, but to be appreciated for its blatant honesty to the message its trying to convey. I feel like this video does that perfectly, it piques my intrest because it was able to show some clarity on some of my own interpretations but to also pull me along through someone elses current theories and beliefs, i felt like he wasnt trying to do anything but convey how he feels about a topic and how it applies to his life, almost like listening to his inner dialogue. i understand that there might be a script behind this video, but then the way this is written is very pleasing and genuine, i appreciate the effort that was put into this and hope to come across alot more of your content!!!

  • @OrchardFox
    @OrchardFox ปีที่แล้ว +6

    About finding yourself feeling impossible: i used to think the same thing. I've always been a very passionate and curious person, but for some reason always struggled with keeping things up and staying motivated. I got burnt out so fast on things i usually love. Then my intense fear of the future started to creep in. I was starting to feel like I'm just chronically depressed and stressed. But what it actually was all this time, was dysphoria, about who i was. Now that I've finally come out as a girl, everything has sorta clicked. My fear for the future is suddenly gone. I'm suddenly a morning bird with an actual routine. And i enjoy stuff I've always loved even more for some reason. I never thought one "small" change could do this much to my mentality and energy levels. So yes, finding yourself really is possible, be it work, passion or Identity

  • @stephen148
    @stephen148 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Notes from the end of everything is one of my favorite things…ever. It helped me reflect deeply. Thanks for what you do.

    • @Templar.Knight-Reaper
      @Templar.Knight-Reaper ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What is it about in a nutshell?

    • @stephen148
      @stephen148 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Templar.Knight-Reaper a dying author reflects on his life and the nature of existence in the modern world.

  • @RandomlyScrolling
    @RandomlyScrolling ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Being alone is your choice, sometimes its what you prefer and your comfort but you will bear the consequence of it at time of being lonely.
    just a blip because having your own live and space will still be important.

  • @bigdaddy910
    @bigdaddy910 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    Why is it that with every video i watch from you i drift off into my own thoughts and 20 seconds before the video ends i snap out of it and think like:"Shit, i've missed the whole video"

    • @rudyb2755
      @rudyb2755 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This typically happen to me in class 😂

    • @jeevesharma
      @jeevesharma ปีที่แล้ว

      this just happened w me :⁠-⁠O

    • @Rarelychoice
      @Rarelychoice ปีที่แล้ว

      Every time...

  • @almila1368
    @almila1368 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I think balance is the key. Too much loneliness will be problematic and too much socialising too. It's fun and refreshing to see some friends, having fun, laugh together and all. But I love loneliness too. Especially after a busy day with people. When i'm just all by myself. You need to have both. I think, that's the best.

  • @resistdisinformation9931
    @resistdisinformation9931 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love the statement that "People are just messy and sticky." Wow! What an understatement. With a few of the many individuals I have had the unfortunate experience of meeting during my lifetime, it literally took years to get all of their messiness and stickiness off me and to successfully remove the damaged parts of me not unlike self amputations. So much time wasted on deleterious people who I genuinely wish I had never met!

  • @andysandy3465
    @andysandy3465 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Once I learned to enjoy being alone I stopped needing having other people around and it feels quite liberating

  • @MMAKitchen
    @MMAKitchen ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, stranger. Ironically makes me like I'm not alone. Knowing others share my thoughts and feelings.

  • @bunbynoy
    @bunbynoy ปีที่แล้ว +3

    And my problem is that i'm 100% aware of what of every individual my mind can see thinks and feels about me now... at least my anxiety says i am which i know its definitely skewed and lying to me, which is where the problem really arises. :( this is still spot on though.... i know amd experience this stuff on the daily its not just a thought every now and again through hard times...... ive been this way for my whole life i think. I just be my self and watch the negative reactions that surround me and the constant questioning of every thought i speak out. I am always honest even when I'm trying to be deceptive. I'm terrible at lying, because my emotions and my body are so closely intertwined and disconnected from my inner self my person, so i'll just give details that are technically true arranged in a way that makes you feel like stop asking questions because you don't feel like listening to the rambling 👀 😅

  • @eldestaroma
    @eldestaroma ปีที่แล้ว +5

    In my walk of life i passed by thousands of people and for each individual i passed by, i was one of the thousand.
    -me

  • @colinhawks2469
    @colinhawks2469 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I understand that it’s ok to be alone, but the feeling of loneliness is something I don’t want. It’s sickening…poisoning…empty…it’s killing me. I wish it would end, but despite my best attempts, here I am once again. The close of yet another year, lonely. Somehow hurts even more at 29 this year…

    • @Analyticalinadream
      @Analyticalinadream ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Feeling lonely is really, really tough. Been there....hang in there....

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

    • @chenstormstout9456
      @chenstormstout9456 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m 28 this year, man. I know exactly how you feel. I’ve pretty much felt that way since leaving high school.

  • @errebusaether
    @errebusaether ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've been through a lot despite being young, and I learned from bitter experiences while I was walking in the cold breeze of an empty world that this is me. This is the real me. I live alone, I think alone. I have my own philosophies, beliefs, ambitions, desires, and goals. I am walking to a path where I will be complete. A path not many would be able to reach because its too painful, lonely, and cold. Before seven years ago when I was still a teenager. I didn't understand what it means to be me. I always lied to other people so I can be accepted. But now I feel even more freer and at peace even when the feeling of sadness crept up to me. I was adapting to this new perspective. A perspective I've denied for so long because I was afraid.
    I always questioned why no one was there for me when I was suffering so much. They couldn't understand what I was saying or feeling. No matter how many cries of help I said to them they stopped caring. So, I gave up after all those years once I got to the age of 19.
    This peace and solitude. The feeling of walking alone when no one is there at your back to support you even when a storm hits or a blizzard slowly freezing you. I am the only one that can support myself, because I am the only one who can understand me far better than a world of lies. There is no point in looking back into the past of deceptive moments. Those feelings of happiness were delusions made by people who never cared about me in the first place. It is a give and take relationship, that's all there is to it.

  • @nunyabinnus
    @nunyabinnus ปีที่แล้ว +3

    the cadence of your speech and the thoughts that flow from - something healthy restful - its good meeting -keep on

  • @checkersthefool5588
    @checkersthefool5588 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This just felt like a narration of what I've felt for the last 6 years.

  • @123cache123
    @123cache123 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This ties in neatly with another notion called "Sonder". Makes a huge impact when you truly experience that.
    Meanwhile - many thanks and the best greetings from yet another stranger...

  • @a.nveshh
    @a.nveshh ปีที่แล้ว +1

    To be honest I see people have these big goals, whereas all I want is to blend in the background and observe others.
    This is my goal in life.

  • @Renthlei_Jr
    @Renthlei_Jr ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It helps our creativity and ability to learn new things as it helps our mind to stick to a single point i.e. we do not get distractions

  • @devontebroncas4967
    @devontebroncas4967 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video hits me really deep; i was thinking this exact same thing during my solo trip in europe.
    The absurdity of the odds in meeting new people, each with their own stories, and being able to connect with them - while some leaving the “theater” messy.
    Thank you for this video, it has all been a blurry blob of thoughts to me, and this video helped made me understand it.
    Much love to everyone here ❤

  • @sirius9468
    @sirius9468 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like that people like you exist in this world, thank you

  • @sheetalsingh8609
    @sheetalsingh8609 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Its a curse really, to be human. And to know that there are infinite possibilities to how life could go but you can try only just one"❤

  • @jravell
    @jravell ปีที่แล้ว +4

    3:35 ”There are infinite possibilities for how life could go, and you only get to try just one.”
    Damn, man…

  • @teejaye6226
    @teejaye6226 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "sometimes good is enough"...those are words to live by.!!! i had good, then i had very good, now i have nothing bc i was looking for GREAT.

  • @Dang.-
    @Dang.- 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was exactly how I felt in my life. How amusing is it that we believe that we're so intertwined into the development of society when we only get to live through one life. We're really all just storytellers that are trying to find a theme for our story, being a bliss that the theme the whole time was just small contribution. Have you ever wondered whether your story is truly yours? Maybe your story is a masterpiece that shines through the rest, or it could be a repetitive piece that never stands out, but we can never know because we can only read our creation. No matter how many other people you encountered in your life, the center of the stage will always truly be yours. It's not worth it trying to change your story for a non-existent audience, only change it to appeal to the sole conscious that will be externally bestowed for the rest of their life to consume your creation

  • @bigbruthajack5453
    @bigbruthajack5453 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love that theater metaphor

  • @greasywedges8027
    @greasywedges8027 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve thought of exactly everything mentioned in this video, but never had the words for it. This channel is truly a wonderful voice and representation of human nature at its greatest, thank you.

  • @chibay99
    @chibay99 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This whole video is sooo intelligent! 5 minutes long, but it feels like an infinte story of self-inquiry. Beautifully done!

  • @freddydorling9548
    @freddydorling9548 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The word 'sonder' describes the feeling one gets when considering the lives of everyone we don't know but share a world with

  • @dashbolt101s
    @dashbolt101s ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What I learned from life is that it is better to be alone than being with people that makes you feel lonely.
    Being diagnosed HIP, I always struggled with social interactions. I spent years of my life trying to find people with whom I could share my thoughts and passions, I got interested into them without anyone ever getting interested back into me, and this made me feel more lonely than ever.
    One day, I just accepted my difference and the fact that I may think differently and have niche hobbies, and now I'm alone, with only very few friends, but I feel less lonely and more at peace

  • @hazarhamouda3671
    @hazarhamouda3671 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I can't explain how hard this video hits home. I feel like it summarized the last 3 years of my life.

  • @asmiiii3
    @asmiiii3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow. I found this video and this channel at the best possible timing. I strive to be comfortable in solitude someday. I know it's a beautiful thing. And loving yourself and your own company is really a journey that cannot be fast-forwarded. It's a gradual process that will take time but at the end of the day, it will be so fruitful.

  • @landoarmand3283
    @landoarmand3283 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Such a brilliant storyteller; your choice of words is breathtaking 🙌🏾👏🏾

  • @colourlessfool5107
    @colourlessfool5107 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Man if I can write and express myself like this. This video is amazing.

  • @earnyourimmortality
    @earnyourimmortality ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've literally share *EVERY* singular thought & contemplation expressed in this video. I juggle them often & frequently.
    Infinity is a long time. All that's required of us is patience.
    ❤️⚖️🧠

    • @ma-burke
      @ma-burke ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The human life span, the extent we can participate in infinity, is a long time. When our imaginative modes of our minds enlargen past the moment, or the hour, or the day, there is too much to sink our attention into, so we cannot create new meaning. However, if we can remain humble in the __now__, if we can be patient, we can create infinity, for at every moment we’ll be living a meaningful life. Or something of this flavour. : P I like your mention of “patience” here. One of my favourite insights I came across was from a piano cleaner who wrote about meditation. He said that, when you know what you need to do to learn something or experience something, e.g. an expert golf swing, all you need to do is do it. You know that in 5,000 swings you will gain excellence; so in doing one swing you are doing the best reality can provide. Such is true for revising the ideas in this video, or building a healthy body. The patience from knowing what is the best course of action is so transformative. It defeats worry, procrastination, perfection, inaction, self-doubt, a lack of confidence. Although I’d like to end with “all we need is patience”, to me it is more we need to “find patience”. Patience appears to emerge through understanding, but once we have it, infinity seems manageable.

    • @earnyourimmortality
      @earnyourimmortality ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ma-burke
      Your comment is greatly appreciated.
      In a song I wrote recently one line simply states: *tune in with fate, create prophecy*
      When I wrote it, the depths of its meaning didn't hit me right away. My belief is that our active participation in this *forever present moment* does indeed allow us to have an active hand in prophecy.
      ❤️⚖️🧠

  • @henniannariina5877
    @henniannariina5877 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve previously loved being around people who are superficially different from me, not because it made me feel the differences, but specifically because it has made me feel more connected.

  • @KerriEverlasting
    @KerriEverlasting ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Loneliness is a failure to forgive." Harry Palmer

  • @congruentcrib
    @congruentcrib ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I should be going out making poor decisions. I’m 21, and I was the unfortunate “class of 2020”. I never got to say goodbye to my friends. I didn’t think I’d never see most of them again. Didn’t help that right before covid, my closest friend who I had genuine feelings for left me and I never got to try and explain how I felt. Never got to explain how I really felt to a lot of people. How many of those would share a closer bond than what we had.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront.
      "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
      🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
      --Diamond Dragons (series)

  • @apian7594
    @apian7594 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think a good personal goal to have, is just to be able to be comfortable in your own company. To try and be someone you wanna be alone with.

  • @nintendianajones64
    @nintendianajones64 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Some of these videos are from Lisbon Portugal, Sofia Bulgaria and Sydney Australia. Dude is covering his tracks lol
    My guess is he's in Düsseldorf Germany like me.

  • @Arianacccosta
    @Arianacccosta ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I moved and worked in a foreign city by myself. Feeling lonely, I started to use dating app, meeting those strangers. It turned out that I was objectified, devalued and lost, becoming even lonelier with the wrong people.
    Being able to be solitude, is something important for us to learn. It will make us stronger.

  • @Crankpie
    @Crankpie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's very dark and gloomy but truth. These kind of videos make me nervous that what am doing with my life? But I think the best way to live life is get with the flow everything is happening is happened when you think 🤔 . Nothing is in our control .

  • @timetobenotdo
    @timetobenotdo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I recommend that you honor the astronomical odds of random circumstance or “proximity” as sacred, or special, or however you need to define it. It will bring you deeper into the experience of being you, and help dissolve the delusion wanting different, more, better, etc..

  • @euchiron
    @euchiron ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I just spent five minutes hearing parts of my inner monologue and I heard things I really want to add to it

  • @jeremyhennessee6604
    @jeremyhennessee6604 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're one of the best writers/thinkers of this (and Any) century. Sincerely .

  • @olu4740
    @olu4740 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love to replay videos like this a couple of times to let it really sink in.

  • @sadmansakib2266
    @sadmansakib2266 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I always thought if I could everyone I see on for being relationship or friendship with me but now it gives me better perspective about this.

    • @sadmansakib2266
      @sadmansakib2266 ปีที่แล้ว

      One of my best friends recommended me this channel and we don't even talk.

  • @mr.cheese8745
    @mr.cheese8745 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Those who can't be alone, can't be honest, can't be loyal, can't be anything" Miyamoto Musashi

  • @realname1743
    @realname1743 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What I got from this live everyday by putting your best foot fwd, live to love not hate, 😊not 😠.

  • @5planck3
    @5planck3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    All the stock footage from the beginning of the video seems to be from Lisbon, and the fact I literraly just moved here to get a change of pace in life and try to re-invent myself is scarily resonating with the part of my mind that sees patterns in this complex web of interconnectedness we call Earth.

  • @swagerrr6460
    @swagerrr6460 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “I have never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude” Henry D. Thoreau

  • @Worthwhile2023
    @Worthwhile2023 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is my internal dialog verbatim. I feel less alone because I so strongly relate to your stories and perspectives. I love this channel.

    • @MasteryOrder
      @MasteryOrder ปีที่แล้ว

      Use solitude to build greatness. Use great ideas to build yourself into a man of strength and character, a man of your word, skilful and with a purpose that serves the ones around you as well.
      If you enjoy ideas about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
      Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
      We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
      Looking forward to your points of view.
      All the best to you!

  • @mayintheclouds
    @mayintheclouds 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    WOW This is probably the most beautiful thing I have ever seen and heard. Every single word hits home

  • @MissesWitch
    @MissesWitch ปีที่แล้ว

    Loneliness isn't a choice, But being alone is.
    These are alot of the things that changed in my mind from so many years ago
    I used to think all of these things just like he did but now, It's all about understanding others that is the most important to me!

  • @qizhengg
    @qizhengg ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just came back from a solo backpacking trip a month ago. When I was back home, I didn't know how to articulate my experience to whoever that asked about the trip. Thank you for this video, it definitely helps in putting them into words.

  • @nyrdybyrd1702
    @nyrdybyrd1702 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I reeaaally dig this installment.. poetic and profound, an instant favorite alongside Amor Fati & No One Asks To Be Born.

  • @absoluteexistence8279
    @absoluteexistence8279 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One day we all will be forgotten.

  • @jukatheone8771
    @jukatheone8771 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have been following your channel for quite some time. I could say this content changed me for the best. Love to see that ou have met my country. All good for you m8, love u

  • @camiejones2402
    @camiejones2402 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m a big TH-camr, as in I watch a lot of TH-cam. And I never comment. But, something about this video, tonight with what I’ve been dealing with, hit home so cleanly that I’m just super grateful for it. I want to thank you for sharing your ideas and your journey. I’d be interested to know how you make your videos. Where does the inspiration come from? You touched on it a bit here in talking about travel, but I follow you and it’s rare you talk about yourself. I’ve seen a lot of your videos and usually your I is an esoteric everyone. It was nice to see a bit into the creator. Anyways. Thank for your videos. I bet you touch a lot of lives when they need it.

  • @mina-zc5lq
    @mina-zc5lq ปีที่แล้ว

    i’ve always loved being alone

  • @defiantlypinki1107
    @defiantlypinki1107 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Socializing with other people comes with a lot of drama, heartbreak, backstabbing, and unwanted feelings. I’m lucky enough to be born a twin, so I don’t have to go out to search for my other half. I used to have extroverted but I gave it up. I feel less lonely keeping to myself than around others.

  • @TDG361
    @TDG361 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As a child I felt like everyone was observing me, not in a paranoical sense, but in the sense that I was an actor. I felt I was in a stage perfoming, and all other people were expectators. Later in life, I discovered I wasn't the only one feeling it, there is even anmetaphora "all the world's a stage". We are just acting, but we have the oportunity of being the actor and the director.

  • @abcdefg4570
    @abcdefg4570 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 17, and have no close friends. I have learnt to enjoy being alone; I can confirm that it's awesome once you get over the fact that you have no friends, and realize, that you've got all of your time to yourself, and can spend it doing whatever you want to do. Though I am sometimes really sad about it, I doubt I'd have enough time to study to go into university and become an aerospace engineer if I had tons of friends. I'm becoming the person I've always wanted to be.

    • @almila1368
      @almila1368 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good friends are important. I think being alone is peaceful but now and then you need to socialise.

    • @abcdefg4570
      @abcdefg4570 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@almila1368 Very true. I sometimes feel very alone. However, where it gets really difficult, is when one has no friends or anybody or anything to talk to or talk about.

    • @almila1368
      @almila1368 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@abcdefg4570 exactly, even one friend is enough. I think it's also important that the friendship is deep, not just a shallow casual friend.

  • @sebastiaan.6493
    @sebastiaan.6493 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The most lonely i felt whas with another person

  • @NickBoston
    @NickBoston ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At this point, I will bribe someone to become my friend. It’s next to impossible to talk with people. Everyone flakes out, or doesn’t share the same interests as you.

  • @gronmaster
    @gronmaster ปีที่แล้ว

    Good, is more than enough. Good, is GREAT! I spent my life looking for somebody good. And she was not born here. She is great, and I love her

  • @Gealamusic
    @Gealamusic ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very interesting video and thoughtful metaphor