This was a really good topic and something not so easy to talk about (with all the judgmental viewers on youtube haha). Really like how you handled it. My husband and I actually met online on one of these Muslim 'dating' apps, alhamdulilah it went well for us but I would also advise women to be super cautious on these apps. We are planning to make a video on our story and the way we went about it in hopes that it helps others as well insha Allah. I feel like for people who don't have family/friends who are actively looking out for them/rishta-hunting on their behalf, it's actually really hard to find someone - but not impossible, like you said.
Thats interesting! I am happy it turned out positive for you Alhamdullilah cuz these apps are quite dangerous like you said, i have been on a few and kind of regretted it. The guys there were very disrespectful and inappropriate and not looking for marriage whatsoever. They only wanted physical intimacy, its really messed up. They just on there to date and play around. It truly destroyed my hopes to find someone online and i personally dont think its the best way to find someone unless Allah guides you that way otherwise it cud put u in trouble. I dont want to burden myself in that way anymore
As someone who got married through Minder (Salams now), this was so accurate!! Be very transparent from the beginning. Setting expectations, especially in desi culture with the whole joint family situation is KEY. (Filtered out so many guys that sounded so unsure about being able to give their wives their own space of living) lol
I really liked you talking about this topic. As a female, its reassuring for me to know that every female out there can have and probably will have odd experiences at some point in her search to finding the right spouse but that is okay and is part of the journey to eventually finding the happiness that is right for you.
Thank you for being my internet big sister!! I really wanted to know more about dating apps cause I just started my professional career and want to meet someone but was too scared to even download them. I loved hearing about your experiences
Jaserah I love your content! I did my shahada in December as an X catholic. You are soooo inspiring to begin to wear the hijab although I have not taken the plunge. This dating content is very helpful for the future for me since I have 2 daughters.
I got married abroad i asked Allah to find me someone who will look after my parents. 13 years on have 2 beautiful boys and still going strong Alhamdulilah. Whether it's arranged or love marriage try to make it work
@@CS-yn2wg there not there my responsibility i never asked her to look after my parents i asked Allah he blessed me with what I asked for and more. I never told my wife her duties she never told me But it worked never forced my wife to do anything she wears a niqab Vail again her choice. She even told Me she didn't wear the niqab for me she did it for herself and Allah
I really enjoyed the video! I would LOVE to hear more stories. I was highly entertainined. I also learned so much from your video. (I'm non Muslim and a black woman by the way.)
Asalamu Alaikum Jaserah I’m a Muslim girl I’m 9 I love every bit of your videos I liked subscribed and put the notifications on the all bell mashaalah im really sad you got divorced inshaalah you will remarry and you are so sweet
I'd much rather be rejected early on or told "I wasn't feeling it" or "I won't be taking things further" than for things to drag on or for my date to come up with lame excuses that their car broke down or for them to hide behind charity work/busy schedule I'm a grown up I can handle rejection lol
I don’t understand why people are so mad? Nowadays you have to be extremely cautious and use all your cards. I think people are confusing dating with westernized dating which is a major sin. However it is important to know who you’re going to get involved with for the rest of your life. No one will show their true colors to you in front of other people and I’ve seen it way too many times where the husband becomes manipulative, abusive, and neglectful behind the doors. Getting to know someone is so easy in islam yet the Muslim community finds ways of making it complicated. As long as there are no inappropriate talks or physical intimacy then it’s all good! Allah made marriage beautiful not a burden or chore for us!
I'm sorry to say this but considering the downsides I experienced with long distance courting, I personally hate dating apps. I prefer to talk to the person in person if that makes sense
Most muslim guys have never been with a girl so when they want to get married to a specific girl that they really like they will be touchy, and depending on how you get along and how much you are attracted to them, a guy being touchy is not necessarily a red flag. It is just their way of conveying that they like you and if you are on the same wave then make it clear that you are ready to get serious.
If a guy does not talk or get along with his family does not make him a bad person maybe they have differences or certain situations have arised where differences have been made between the guy and his family not every parent will be great remember this been good parents and just been parents by name is 2 different things if you have never been in that situation then obviously it’s very hard to understand
PART II please!!!! please focus more on the unfiltered questions men ask you, such as have you ever been in a relationship before? etc or are you a virgin :/
There's no Halal dating in Islam without when you're maried Love you so much & I like the way which you're talking by 💖 Sorry for the writing mistakes because I'm an Arabian girl
@@si.2110 U like someone and he likes u back. U both tell your parents and get to know each with your mahrams present or in my culture our family has alot of connections so we ask around if anyone is willing to marry. They send pictures u go to their see them irl if everything is fine u get to know each other
That works if you live somewhere with lots of Muslims or in a place where you know lots of people. If you live somewhere with a small community your family and the few people you know usually have no way of introducing you to people so your only option is the internet and then you have to talk to them because you know absolutely nothing about each other
@@deena681 where are u from? Like i am from india and back home we have a guy called a broker. U go to him and tell him you are looking ro get married ans he will look around and ask around and ask for the pics and information like age studies and stuff. He is like the middle man. I am pretty thats how it works. I am still 18 and my parents dont talk about marriage alot so yea. This is just what i think happens
Be safe and if you do pursue this method remember that Satan is always there to manipulate the situation between man and woman sisters .if you find someone or you think the person is the one get your parents to analyse the person at end of the day your parents or guardian will only guide you for good they will see things in a different aspect of the person that you are not seeing .it's your decision to go forward from that IN SHA ALLAH Sisters you will find the right husband of deen Islam may Allah swt protect my sisters in their journey of finding husband Ameen . Please be safe.
I don’t think that the relationship between child and parents has anything to do with how the person is. (Not in all cases :p) We all go trough hardship and test and sometimes this can be the family situation. Not everybody is born in a muslim or believing family. But sometimes do find believe on a later ages If a person has difficult w the family they are not gonne open up about it on the first time seeing you. Im a person myself like this and saying this can hurt people to
Many good people have strained relationships with their families.Its not a sure sign of anything.Nabi Yusuf ( a.s) brothers literally plotted his death, mistreated him and lied about him.Its important to keep an open mind.
As a revert I am not so caught up in dating to this level in terms of being so so strict . I know I’ll be judged for saying that but I’m a 41 year old adult woman who is capable of making her own judgements and decisions. I know what I’m looking for and what I have to offer . I have no issue with kissing or hugging a guy who I’m planning on marrying also not afraid to talk about sex and what I like etc. I find being too obsessive and strict can set you up for failure as you don’t get to know the guy well because it’s all on the surface . When you open up and can be direct with a man it works better . I’m not suggesting anyone need to kiss a guy or get close to them I’m just saying that once I’m not having sex outside marraige and am careful I’m happy with that. It’s hard out there trying to find a good spouse so whatever I can do to assist myself in that is a good thing.
@@pilotgiogio31 thankyou I was scared I’d get judged for saying that but I’m being honest . I think being realistic is important and also open about even the tricky topics regarding men sex etc xx
@@catherine9808 Oh well, you will get judged for sure. People are quick to judge others. Just know that them judging says a lot about them and nothing about you. Furthermore there is so much confusion between religion and culture nowadays and everyone seem to hold the one and only truth. Set the right intentions (which as I can read you already did), follow your heart and you'll never be wrong. Take care!
I think if we are honest in our intensions dating is very easy and rightly said that we must always be ready for rejections because after all if you are not made for that person it is not going to work. So move on to next
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Dude but isn't it haram to catch up with a non- mahram before getting married? Ik its crucial to get to know them inside out for the long run but would it not be haram to go on a date with someone alone?
You shouldn’t be alone with them. Better to take a Mahram with you! Some people say it’s okay to meet “alone” as long as you stay in public but with a Mahram it would be much better and safer. (If u have a practicing family)
there is no such thing as halal dating in islam astagfirullah..if someone is really interested and think u as a potential wife, he wud honour u and see u at home where ur mahram are around and discuss things about marrying u if he still want to proceed to nikkah after seeing u in person..but its a big NO to go outside wd d guy for a date astagfirullah..ds halal dating s not in islam and not frm d quran and sunnah.may Allah swt guide us all ameen
@@Kaia-cz I am no scholar but one of the reasons it makes sense to have a mahram with you is to ensure the safety of both parties. If you live in the West or anywhere where dating is the norm, I am sure you have heard of the term "date rape." It's where a guy/girl (usually a guy) assaults someone by covertly giving them a sedative in their food/drink. There are also situations where men have been robbed by their dates. With a mahram, a date with bad intentions would have a much harder time carrying out their actions. Also, the presence of a mahram helps keep both parties accountable and ensures they don't engage in any sinful activity together. In addition, an individual who is truly interested in marrying someone will also be "marrying into the family" so the presence of mahram helps give a glimpse of how they will fit into the family.
@@kalyda211 Well that is why my first dates are always in public places. But my boyfriend was already my friend before we started dating. But I would never invite my family member to my date…. Its just weird for me
It's so hard to get married I don't think people have balance between deen and dunya. A girl asked me for 100k mahr and when I said I didn't have the means she moved on. Lol may Allah make it easy on us.
Dating apps are dangerous and would never use them or advise anyone to use. Best way is someone that you have friends in common or something, someone you go to school with or work with or something.
@@freemindsloveforever reverts have no one literally yet they rarely seek out methods that go against Allah. Why because they have a God fear and willingness to please Allah. Where there is a will there is a way. If you have no mahram no friends . Then tell the local mosques to assist you . It can even be an out of town mosque with a larger population of Muslims. But don’t contravene Allahs laws and expect approval. It’s totally prohibited . This is just a mockery of the faith
Lol your misguiding ppl dating is not halal in Islam. Dating wont tell you if your compatible with anyone becayse everyone's just on there best behavior . But good luck . But dont say this is a muslim way to date. Becayse it's not halal for muslim to date. Pls gather more info before u miss lead poor young muslims
Obviously this doesn't work since she is divorced. It is haraam to misguide people. You are not a scholar on this and shouldn't be sharing this. May Allah guide you.
Hej, I’m sorry to say but this made me a little sad. In a way you could just as well have been talking about “how to find a business partner”. Love and courting (English is not my first language so if that word sounds weird it is because I had to look it up) wasn’t mentioned at all. For me dating is all about having fun and seeing if I get “that” connection with someone. If the connection (and I’m not talking about whether or not we have the same idea of family or religion) is there I want that person to touch me, I want to sit closer to them, I want to get to know their sense of humour. That’s first priority for me. I wouldn’t bother going on a second that if I didn’t feel a twinkle of that. I think that is the start of love and I wouldn’t marry anyone without loving them. Maybe I’m a dreamer but if I love someone it doesn’t matter if we have a different view on many things, as long as we’re together and he supports me as a person I’m happy. I get that you have to be cautious as there is a lot to loose (if you believe there is) but don’t miss out on the ultimate reason for dating, which to me at least is to find someone to love and who loves you. Not saying that one should be stupid, but if someone wants to trick you into you giving them all your money, or that they will cheat on you, or just sleep with you and then dump you, then they are going to do that regardless of what questions you asked about their finances or family.
I totally understand your POV but I intentionally left out emotions of love and such because I was focusing on “halal” dating and the initials phases of dating/talking to someone which usually doesn’t translate to love at first sight. However everyone is different!
Love isnt everything girl. Just wait for 5 years and see that passion die with your emotions. There is no thing called love within the first 2 years of getting to know someone. Its all hormones and emotions. U live with that person for 30 years with no toxicity. Now thats love
@@SativaSeanLasVegas and you’re rude. Why do you wish misery (well, isn’t a child a blessing, so why you make is sound like the opposite) on someone that you’ve never met? And if I’m not happy in a relationship then I’m rather divorced. Maybe that is what bothers you, that women are sticking up for themselves and not tolerating rude men and lifelong relationships “just because” some men has said that it’s the “right” thing.
@@itwasaizensplan007 when this (why more people divorce today than before) has been studied it turns out that many more women would leave their husbands if they have financial independence. And as women are more independent today than they used to be many more can leave. So, that women didn’t leave before has not to do with that they didn’t want to, they simply didn’t have a choice.
@@itwasaizensplan007 and I don’t get it. Why should anyone “stick it out” in an unhappy marriage? We only live ones, why not make the most of it and be as happy as we can. God has given us one chance, let’s not waste it on misery. Do better and the world will be a better place. I’m not divorced myself and have no intention of it, but none of my friends that are have regretted it. I think your idea of that women regret that they have left their man is not correct.
So much of this incredibly HARAM. Please be careful sis in suggesting exchanging numbers and dinner out. This is not even permissible in Islam. I get that it is the new norm, but Allah is timeless. He said this is never ok. You will take sin for each person you lead to the wrong. Subhanallah. No Islamic basis. Whatsoever.
I'm really sorry, but I'm extremely disturbed by the fact that you used the word "dating" to describe the Islamic way/process of speaking to someone for the purposes of marriage. Even if that's not what you mean (I.e. "dating"), please note that the actual word carries many implications and should never be used for Muslims. I'm so sad to see Muslims willing to follow non-Muslim concepts so quickly and to "Islamicize" it. Ta'arouf in Islam is not = to dating, and therefore the same term should not be used lest it leads to the Western concept of "dating". They used to use the word "courting" in the past...and it meant for purposes of marriage. "Dating" is not. Take care
Only Halal dating is in presence of her father and no way around it. Alternatively can be a family. Alhamdulillah Next topic will be how to get married with 2 husbands 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Astaghfirullah
Exactly she has no shame...she thinks she has some sort of authority to speak kmt..Muslims on TH-cam just worry about views and subscribers subhanAllah...May Allah guide us all Ameen
@@sumayyah78 MashaAllah, this content is so misleading for new converts/reverts who doesn't follow Sunna of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and rely just on information available on social media. 😔
@@EvertsMatissLV yes it's very sad..alhamdulillah I never saw anything like this when I reverted as this would've made me fall into zina...this is why some like to do things to suit their desires..imagine the sahaba going to cafes having dates with a woman Astaghfirullah..
exactly and if the guy really wanted to see u in person as a potential wife ,he will come to ur house and see ur mahram like dad if u dont have a dad then older brother or uncle ,any member of ur family that is ur mahram..this influencer teaching ans encouraging young one here something that is prohibited in islam ..they twist things up and evn call it halal dating astagfirullah..freemixing is not allwed in islam let alone halal dating..
That’s an insult to any modest woman Muslim or otherwise . If any one said that of my sisters daughter first cousins I’d give them a beating they’d never see daylight again 😂
Let me tell you why you are divorced two times. You are so materialistic i mean look at your youtube channel. No men like materilistic womens. May Allah keep back you on right track before you rech old.❤
No type of dating is halal in Islam. Like I get it you've been through a divorce, but you shouldn't be teaching other young female Muslims how to date. No dating leads to a real relationship. Also, it is complicated to find men these days in the 21st century , but Islam allows no type of dating. So it’s better to stick with what Islam guides you with and to not twist God’s words. You're being a bad influence on young teenage females. Love the irony in this videos name “halal” dating. You should make another video on “halal” pork.
Nowhere in the Bible does it say you can’t kiss. Kissing is different than intercourse. But I guess if you can’t control yourself not kissing is best for you. This is exactly what Pharisee types do. They make the laws more than they are to signal virtue. Not kissing doesn’t make you more virtuous than someone who does. If you have the lust in your heart you have already sinned.
Yes she is giving Haraam info as no such thing as halal dating but you are too wrong because hijab is obligatory and you are telling her to do a sinful act
@@Yasmin-wq5jh i meant if she going to sin, might as well sin by doing that. It's true, i should not have said so. May Allah increase her taqwa and yaqin, Ameen!
This was a really good topic and something not so easy to talk about (with all the judgmental viewers on youtube haha). Really like how you handled it. My husband and I actually met online on one of these Muslim 'dating' apps, alhamdulilah it went well for us but I would also advise women to be super cautious on these apps. We are planning to make a video on our story and the way we went about it in hopes that it helps others as well insha Allah. I feel like for people who don't have family/friends who are actively looking out for them/rishta-hunting on their behalf, it's actually really hard to find someone - but not impossible, like you said.
So did u guys meet alone or did u have someone else with u like your parents or siblings
Thats interesting! I am happy it turned out positive for you Alhamdullilah cuz these apps are quite dangerous like you said, i have been on a few and kind of regretted it. The guys there were very disrespectful and inappropriate and not looking for marriage whatsoever. They only wanted physical intimacy, its really messed up. They just on there to date and play around. It truly destroyed my hopes to find someone online and i personally dont think its the best way to find someone unless Allah guides you that way otherwise it cud put u in trouble. I dont want to burden myself in that way anymore
Wow so excited to hear your story!!
If make a video about pls tell us here so we can watch it
@@simplyjaserah Hi Jaserah please see video of bad habits to avoid for guys. th-cam.com/video/1W4tCRtVeJ4/w-d-xo.html
As someone who got married through Minder (Salams now), this was so accurate!! Be very transparent from the beginning. Setting expectations, especially in desi culture with the whole joint family situation is KEY. (Filtered out so many guys that sounded so unsure about being able to give their wives their own space of living) lol
I really liked you talking about this topic. As a female, its reassuring for me to know that every female out there can have and probably will have odd experiences at some point in her search to finding the right spouse but that is okay and is part of the journey to eventually finding the happiness that is right for you.
Thank you for being my internet big sister!! I really wanted to know more about dating apps cause I just started my professional career and want to meet someone but was too scared to even download them. I loved hearing about your experiences
I’m so glad you touched on this subject! I think it’s very insightful for sisters navigating to find a spouse
I met my husband through a dating app, we are happily married for over 8 years!
Very good! :,D
Mashallah
Which?? App??
Jaserah I love your content! I did my shahada in December as an X catholic. You are soooo inspiring to begin to wear the hijab although I have not taken the plunge. This dating content is very helpful for the future for me since I have 2 daughters.
I got married abroad i asked Allah to find me someone who will look after my parents. 13 years on have 2 beautiful boys and still going strong Alhamdulilah. Whether it's arranged or love marriage try to make it work
why your parents ?
@@CS-yn2wg there not there my responsibility i never asked her to look after my parents i asked Allah he blessed me with what I asked for and more. I never told my wife her duties she never told me But it worked never forced my wife to do anything she wears a niqab Vail again her choice. She even told
Me she didn't wear the niqab for me she did it for herself and Allah
Arranged marriages are stupid.
@@puppydogs68 not always
I really enjoyed the video! I would LOVE to hear more stories. I was highly entertainined. I also learned so much from your video. (I'm non Muslim and a black woman by the way.)
Aww thanks for sticking around!! Hehe glad it was entertaining
@@simplyjaserah you're welcome! I enjoyed every bit of it~
Asalamu Alaikum Jaserah I’m a Muslim girl I’m 9 I love every bit of your videos I liked subscribed and put the notifications on the all bell mashaalah im really sad you got divorced inshaalah you will remarry and you are so sweet
I'd much rather be rejected early on or told "I wasn't feeling it" or "I won't be taking things further" than for things to drag on or for my date to come up with lame excuses that their car broke down or for them to hide behind charity work/busy schedule I'm a grown up I can handle rejection lol
Girl I loved this so much !! would definitely love to listen to more tips on stuff like this in future videos 🥰
I don’t understand why people are so mad? Nowadays you have to be extremely cautious and use all your cards. I think people are confusing dating with westernized dating which is a major sin. However it is important to know who you’re going to get involved with for the rest of your life. No one will show their true colors to you in front of other people and I’ve seen it way too many times where the husband becomes manipulative, abusive, and neglectful behind the doors. Getting to know someone is so easy in islam yet the Muslim community finds ways of making it complicated. As long as there are no inappropriate talks or physical intimacy then it’s all good! Allah made marriage beautiful not a burden or chore for us!
What westernized dating means to you?
Thanksss gurlll for this video!!! Really helpful and encouraging for us single muslimahs! Keep it up, love this type of content! Sooo more plsss❤😅
Loved this!! Part two, please!!
I'm sorry to say this but considering the downsides I experienced with long distance courting, I personally hate dating apps. I prefer to talk to the person in person if that makes sense
i am so insecure that i cant even walk to a shopping centre myself i can never meet a guy for a date
Loved this video so much! Your tips was spot on. Thank you for sharing the tips and your stories :)
This video is one of the best videos i had ever seen. This topic is really something people are unable to explain but you did it so good.
Most muslim guys have never been with a girl so when they want to get married to a specific girl that they really like they will be touchy, and depending on how you get along and how much you are attracted to them, a guy being touchy is not necessarily a red flag.
It is just their way of conveying that they like you and if you are on the same wave then make it clear that you are ready to get serious.
Gurl but that's haram you know?💀 they should respect that boundary, and if they don't then leave duh.
Ah tysm gurl I've needed that may allah bless u for teaching us the good path 🙏❤️❤️
I’m a man and I just started dating again. This video gives me a lot of good information.
I loved this video 🥰 you speak so well msA
Second!! I love your videos💕💕
If a guy does not talk or get along with his family does not make him a bad person maybe they have differences or certain situations have arised where differences have been made between the guy and his family
not every parent will be great remember this
been good parents and just been parents by name is 2 different things if you have never been in that situation then obviously it’s very hard to understand
This is a good topic to talk about! Great content!
PART II please!!!! please focus more on the unfiltered questions men ask you, such as have you ever been in a relationship before? etc or are you a virgin :/
That was so interesting. Part 2 please
Congratulations,, you reach 50K !!
Ahh thank you so much!!!
There's no Halal dating in Islam without when you're maried
Love you so much & I like the way which you're talking by 💖
Sorry for the writing mistakes because I'm an Arabian girl
So how can you marry someone ?
@@si.2110 U like someone and he likes u back. U both tell your parents and get to know each with your mahrams present or in my culture our family has alot of connections so we ask around if anyone is willing to marry. They send pictures u go to their see them irl if everything is fine u get to know each other
That works if you live somewhere with lots of Muslims or in a place where you know lots of people. If you live somewhere with a small community your family and the few people you know usually have no way of introducing you to people so your only option is the internet and then you have to talk to them because you know absolutely nothing about each other
@@nuskyahmad6375 yeah, in a ideal world this would be the best way. Unfortunately this doesn’t work for everyone.
@@deena681 where are u from? Like i am from india and back home we have a guy called a broker. U go to him and tell him you are looking ro get married ans he will look around and ask around and ask for the pics and information like age studies and stuff. He is like the middle man. I am pretty thats how it works. I am still 18 and my parents dont talk about marriage alot so yea. This is just what i think happens
Girl your accent is just so terribly good,awwwwww❤🔥🔥
Love this. Please do more on this topic!!
Red flags suggestions was very helpful for women
Be safe and if you do pursue this method remember that Satan is always there to manipulate the situation between man and woman sisters .if you find someone or you think the person is the one get your parents to analyse the person at end of the day your parents or guardian will only guide you for good they will see things in a different aspect of the person that you are not seeing .it's your decision to go forward from that IN SHA ALLAH
Sisters you will find the right husband of deen Islam may Allah swt protect my sisters in their journey of finding husband Ameen .
Please be safe.
Omg y'all, i can't with the subtitles calling "rishtas" as "rich does"💀
😂😂
Great video. Thanks for sharing your experiences! Part 2 please 😇😊
Thank you sooo much for sharing these videos. U literally help alot
We love this video. Very Informative. Thank you for this video 🤗
Yesss conversation to feel the vibe
I LOVE that there are timestamps!
This is such a great video!!
This video was very interesting and helpful, I would like a second part !
Yesssss dating series with horror stories😅 love your content mA!
I don’t think that the relationship between child and parents has anything to do with how the person is. (Not in all cases :p)
We all go trough hardship and test and sometimes this can be the family situation.
Not everybody is born in a muslim or believing family.
But sometimes do find believe on a later ages
If a person has difficult w the family they are not gonne open up about it on the first time seeing you.
Im a person myself like this and saying this can hurt people to
Great point actually… 💖💖
I really like your videos!!❤️
I didnt mean to seem mean😝
English is not my first language 😁
Plus some family can be nightmares and Narcs so you have to look at why the person chose to cut them out of their life.
Many good people have strained relationships with their families.Its not a sure sign of anything.Nabi Yusuf ( a.s) brothers literally plotted his death, mistreated him and lied about him.Its important to keep an open mind.
I love watching your videos. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦💎💕
Great advice. Insightful and articulate. Personality pops
Great advice!
how do you manage a full time job and youtube? any advice on a busy lifestyle
Loved this
As a revert I am not so caught up in dating to this level in terms of being so so strict . I know I’ll be judged for saying that but I’m a 41 year old adult woman who is capable of making her own judgements and decisions. I know what I’m looking for and what I have to offer . I have no issue with kissing or hugging a guy who I’m planning on marrying also not afraid to talk about sex and what I like etc. I find being too obsessive and strict can set you up for failure as you don’t get to know the guy well because it’s all on the surface . When you open up and can be direct with a man it works better . I’m not suggesting anyone need to kiss a guy or get close to them I’m just saying that once I’m not having sex outside marraige and am careful I’m happy with that. It’s hard out there trying to find a good spouse so whatever I can do to assist myself in that is a good thing.
InchAllah you’ll find the right one! You rock girl!! 🙏🏻
I agree with you sister, best of you to you. Keep me in your prayers too. Trying to find a husband.
@@pilotgiogio31 thankyou I was scared I’d get judged for saying that but I’m being honest . I think being realistic is important and also open about even the tricky topics regarding men sex etc xx
@@wowso4 thanks sister , I pray Allah brings you a good blessed marriage.
@@catherine9808 Oh well, you will get judged for sure. People are quick to judge others. Just know that them judging says a lot about them and nothing about you.
Furthermore there is so much confusion between religion and culture nowadays and everyone seem to hold the one and only truth. Set the right intentions (which as I can read you already did), follow your heart and you'll never be wrong. Take care!
I think if we are honest in our intensions dating is very easy and rightly said that we must always be ready for rejections because after all if you are not made for that person it is not going to work. So move on to next
can you do an updated makeup look because you look amazing!! mA
Mashallah... Great advice .. Im looking to get married !!
If the relationship between man and woman is outside marriage then it is absolutely forbidden with no exceptions
PLS TALK OR POST ABOUT HIJABI MUSLIM GIRLS FROM KARNATAK BEING OPPRESSED AND ARE PREVENTED FROM ENTERING COLLEGES WITH THEIR HIJAB. . U CAN FIND DETAILS ON TH-cam
We want a part 2
Loved this video! So interesting
If you gonna promote non Islamic teaching/idea why are you dragging islam name with it? Leave it out
Dude but isn't it haram to catch up with a non- mahram before getting married? Ik its crucial to get to know them inside out for the long run but would it not be haram to go on a date with someone alone?
You shouldn’t be alone with them. Better to take a Mahram with you! Some people say it’s okay to meet “alone” as long as you stay in public but with a Mahram it would be much better and safer. (If u have a practicing family)
@@Sumayyak47 I'm curious. Can I ask why is it better?
there is no such thing as halal dating in islam astagfirullah..if someone is really interested and think u as a potential wife, he wud honour u and see u at home where ur mahram are around and discuss things about marrying u if he still want to proceed to nikkah after seeing u in person..but its a big NO to go outside wd d guy for a date astagfirullah..ds halal dating s not in islam and not frm d quran and sunnah.may Allah swt guide us all ameen
@@Kaia-cz I am no scholar but one of the reasons it makes sense to have a mahram with you is to ensure the safety of both parties. If you live in the West or anywhere where dating is the norm, I am sure you have heard of the term "date rape." It's where a guy/girl (usually a guy) assaults someone by covertly giving them a sedative in their food/drink. There are also situations where men have been robbed by their dates. With a mahram, a date with bad intentions would have a much harder time carrying out their actions. Also, the presence of a mahram helps keep both parties accountable and ensures they don't engage in any sinful activity together. In addition, an individual who is truly interested in marrying someone will also be "marrying into the family" so the presence of mahram helps give a glimpse of how they will fit into the family.
@@kalyda211 Well that is why my first dates are always in public places. But my boyfriend was already my friend before we started dating. But I would never invite my family member to my date…. Its just weird for me
salam sister! please make part 2 and maybe videos about your experiences in dating in-depth :)
Dating is not Islamic concept and it’s all about physical contact and I think it is not safe for Muslim women
This is very interesting. So are you not open to dating a non-Muslim? Even if someone was to respect your values?
You can call on what's app and other messengers. I don't think like it's really needed.
Thanks May Allah bless you
@SimplyJaserah If you would ever consider marrying again, would you marry a man younger than yourself and he finds you his compatible match.
Some Islamic organizations also have matrimonial services
It's so hard to get married I don't think people have balance between deen and dunya. A girl asked me for 100k mahr and when I said I didn't have the means she moved on. Lol may Allah make it easy on us.
She can ask for whatever she wants it’s in Islam. But Ameen Summa Ameen May Allah make it easy on u!😊
People are the one who make it hard
Digging halal in haram 👏
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Dating apps are dangerous and would never use them or advise anyone to use.
Best way is someone that you have friends in common or something, someone you go to school with or work with or something.
Not everyone has someone to find them a person. So dating apps help.
@@freemindsloveforever reverts have no one literally yet they rarely seek out methods that go against Allah. Why because they have a God fear and willingness to please Allah. Where there is a will there is a way. If you have no mahram no friends . Then tell the local mosques to assist you . It can even be an out of town mosque with a larger population of Muslims. But don’t contravene Allahs laws and expect approval. It’s totally prohibited . This is just a mockery of the faith
how old are you now and did you end up finding someone?
If you meet someone , first you must pray , , , , , pray solat hajat , , , , , after that just tawakkal,
Which app good for muslim recommendation please
Lol your misguiding ppl dating is not halal in Islam. Dating wont tell you if your compatible with anyone becayse everyone's just on there best behavior . But good luck . But dont say this is a muslim way to date. Becayse it's not halal for muslim to date. Pls gather more info before u miss lead poor young muslims
part 2 and 3 pls hahah
You are unbelievably beautiful 😍😍
What are some good dating apps for muslims? PLEASE RECOMMEND
Very best wishes
Well sorry. There are enough families who are almost all narcissts and if people don't talk about them, what is wrong? Families aren't holy.
nah there is no such thing as dating just do it the halal way! 😁
Where are you from ma'am???
Are you wearing an underscarf? If so, what kind? It looks really nice, whatever it is!
Obviously this doesn't work since she is divorced. It is haraam to misguide people. You are not a scholar on this and shouldn't be sharing this. May Allah guide you.
Hej, I’m sorry to say but this made me a little sad. In a way you could just as well have been talking about “how to find a business partner”. Love and courting (English is not my first language so if that word sounds weird it is because I had to look it up) wasn’t mentioned at all. For me dating is all about having fun and seeing if I get “that” connection with someone. If the connection (and I’m not talking about whether or not we have the same idea of family or religion) is there I want that person to touch me, I want to sit closer to them, I want to get to know their sense of humour. That’s first priority for me. I wouldn’t bother going on a second that if I didn’t feel a twinkle of that. I think that is the start of love and I wouldn’t marry anyone without loving them. Maybe I’m a dreamer but if I love someone it doesn’t matter if we have a different view on many things, as long as we’re together and he supports me as a person I’m happy. I get that you have to be cautious as there is a lot to loose (if you believe there is) but don’t miss out on the ultimate reason for dating, which to me at least is to find someone to love and who loves you. Not saying that one should be stupid, but if someone wants to trick you into you giving them all your money, or that they will cheat on you, or just sleep with you and then dump you, then they are going to do that regardless of what questions you asked about their finances or family.
I totally understand your POV but I intentionally left out emotions of love and such because I was focusing on “halal” dating and the initials phases of dating/talking to someone which usually doesn’t translate to love at first sight. However everyone is different!
Love isnt everything girl. Just wait for 5 years and see that passion die with your emotions. There is no thing called love within the first 2 years of getting to know someone. Its all hormones and emotions. U live with that person for 30 years with no toxicity. Now thats love
@@SativaSeanLasVegas and you’re rude. Why do you wish misery (well, isn’t a child a blessing, so why you make is sound like the opposite) on someone that you’ve never met? And if I’m not happy in a relationship then I’m rather divorced. Maybe that is what bothers you, that women are sticking up for themselves and not tolerating rude men and lifelong relationships “just because” some men has said that it’s the “right” thing.
@@itwasaizensplan007 when this (why more people divorce today than before) has been studied it turns out that many more women would leave their husbands if they have financial independence. And as women are more independent today than they used to be many more can leave. So, that women didn’t leave before has not to do with that they didn’t want to, they simply didn’t have a choice.
@@itwasaizensplan007 and I don’t get it. Why should anyone “stick it out” in an unhappy marriage? We only live ones, why not make the most of it and be as happy as we can. God has given us one chance, let’s not waste it on misery. Do better and the world will be a better place. I’m not divorced myself and have no intention of it, but none of my friends that are have regretted it. I think your idea of that women regret that they have left their man is not correct.
And here l am wondering how this was useful at all
You are so active are you from Pakistan?
So much of this incredibly HARAM. Please be careful sis in suggesting exchanging numbers and dinner out. This is not even permissible in Islam. I get that it is the new norm, but Allah is timeless. He said this is never ok. You will take sin for each person you lead to the wrong. Subhanallah. No Islamic basis. Whatsoever.
Cute video
Dating is haram!
I'm really sorry, but I'm extremely disturbed by the fact that you used the word "dating" to describe the Islamic way/process of speaking to someone for the purposes of marriage.
Even if that's not what you mean (I.e. "dating"), please note that the actual word carries many implications and should never be used for Muslims.
I'm so sad to see Muslims willing to follow non-Muslim concepts so quickly and to "Islamicize" it. Ta'arouf in Islam is not = to dating, and therefore the same term should not be used lest it leads to the Western concept of "dating".
They used to use the word "courting" in the past...and it meant for purposes of marriage. "Dating" is not.
Take care
True
Well meeting a person on a coffee alone on a fine evening is dating. Taaroof is in the sight of parents.
Only Halal dating is in presence of her father and no way around it. Alternatively can be a family. Alhamdulillah
Next topic will be how to get married with 2 husbands 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Astaghfirullah
Exactly she has no shame...she thinks she has some sort of authority to speak kmt..Muslims on TH-cam just worry about views and subscribers subhanAllah...May Allah guide us all Ameen
@@sumayyah78 MashaAllah, this content is so misleading for new converts/reverts who doesn't follow Sunna of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and rely just on information available on social media. 😔
@@EvertsMatissLV yes it's very sad..alhamdulillah I never saw anything like this when I reverted as this would've made me fall into zina...this is why some like to do things to suit their desires..imagine the sahaba going to cafes having dates with a woman Astaghfirullah..
There is no such thing as halal dating, you take someone with you. You don't go alone. Please stop brainwashing people.
I literally said take someone with you in the video lol
There's no such a thing as halal dating lol.
exactly and if the guy really wanted to see u in person as a potential wife ,he will come to ur house and see ur mahram like dad if u dont have a dad then older brother or uncle ,any member of ur family that is ur mahram..this influencer teaching ans encouraging young one here something that is prohibited in islam ..they twist things up and evn call it halal dating astagfirullah..freemixing is not allwed in islam let alone halal dating..
@@haydeelo9016 she is going to take the wizr of every girl that does what she says..
@@سبحانالله-و3ف1ن sad sis as we shud be enjoining good and forbid evil and not otherway around..
If you were 35 still searching would you still have these demands of future spouse
She's already 31
Dating is haram so how the hell can u have halal dating 🤦♂️. Stop messing with people’s head & giving Islam a bad name seriously
She’s talking out of her cake hole 🤦♂️
@@ilyasvalli9494 you're literally simping all over her account and then you going to ask your cousin for marriage 🤡
Sorry we don’t marry our cousins that’s the Pakistan community . I’m not Pakistani .
@@ilyasvalli9494 yeah true as a Pakistani mostly people do like that ...
Alah
You are like Kim Kardashian with hijab
That’s an insult to any modest woman Muslim or otherwise . If any one said that of my sisters daughter first cousins I’d give them a beating they’d never see daylight again 😂
Let me tell you why you are divorced two times. You are so materialistic i mean look at your youtube channel. No men like materilistic womens. May Allah keep back you on right track before you rech old.❤
This one has been divorced twice?
No type of dating is halal in Islam. Like I get it you've been through a divorce, but you shouldn't be teaching other young female Muslims how to date. No dating leads to a real relationship. Also, it is complicated to find men these days in the 21st century , but Islam allows no type of dating. So it’s better to stick with what Islam guides you with and to not twist God’s words. You're being a bad influence on young teenage females. Love the irony in this videos name “halal” dating. You should make another video on “halal” pork.
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halal bacon, turkey bacon lol
Nowhere in the Bible does it say you can’t kiss. Kissing is different than intercourse. But I guess if you can’t control yourself not kissing is best for you. This is exactly what Pharisee types do. They make the laws more than they are to signal virtue. Not kissing doesn’t make you more virtuous than someone who does. If you have the lust in your heart you have already sinned.
We’re Muslim we follow the Quran not the bible.
U might as well take off your hijab, you are missleading!
Yes she is giving Haraam info as no such thing as halal dating but you are too wrong because hijab is obligatory and you are telling her to do a sinful act
@@Yasmin-wq5jh i meant if she going to sin, might as well sin by doing that.
It's true, i should not have said so. May Allah increase her taqwa and yaqin, Ameen!
Astaghfirullah shame on you for telling someone to take off her hijab. You’re worse than anyone else!