Good on the ops brother. Far too often the favorite child gets dismissed as a lost cause in stories like these, but they're also a victim of their parents abuse, just in a different sort of way. They're deprived of being able to grow as a well rounded person and often end up as shallow husks, so congrats to the brother for being able to realize what was happening to him.
Plus in some families like this, but not all, the unfavorite is used as a scrapegoat to vent their frustrations on in subtle ways. so what happens when the unfave is gone and left for good? They have to find another target... and that's the supposed golden child now. That's when the golden child realizes what the other one was going though. shitty parents are still shitty even to the golden child.
Being a parent is a blessing. But it's also hard work. It's not FOR YOU. Everything you do from that point onwards is...FOR THEM. If you don't have that mind set, don't have kids.
They had a fantasy that they going to have a boy and a girl with whatever order but they never check the gender of their 2nd kid until was too late and blamed the 2nd son for being born as a boy (as nobody choose to born as the gender that they got)
Thank goodness the rest of the family and the golden child in question never took their foot off of your parents' necks. All those two should have done was accept the fact that they had two boys and be genuinely decent people. But no, resent one and overextend on the other and end up childless.
They did not love EITHER son. In cases of favoritism this extreme neither child is loved. They also did not love each other. The greatest bond possible between 2 people is having a child together, even more so than marriage and if 2 people have a child together and abuse their child like this that means they do not love each other.
They were never meant to be parents, all they had were expectations of this perfect life they had made up and when it unsurprisingly didn't go that way they just refused to see reality for what it is. They're both delusional and you can't reason with that. Going their own ways away from them is the best path both brothers could have possibly taken.
Am I the only one who thought the vid thumbnail meant that the parents intentionally tried to muckduck him with the janky car and his brother borrowed it and had a tragic accident?
The golden child getting away from the parents and hearing the story from their grandparents must have been eye opening. They did their best to actively change and acknowledge that they were also being abused in this situation as well.
I actually hope he does have a daughter, sure they'll want access but they don't have a right to access and especially if he moves far enough away nor shares his address it'll be hard for them. If he has a daughter then it proves why they shouldn't have shown favortism cause then all they had to do was love him and wait and then they could have had a granddaughter to spoil. I doubt either son will want their parents involved when they have children.
If they pick and choose kids to love and hate just because they weren't the gender they wanted aren't real parents, if i wanted a daughter but got a son, i would still love him and cherish him, because even though i wanted a daughter he is still my child, and that's all that matters.
After my oldest son was born I wanted a girl too, and was planning to name her after my grandma. I got 2 boys (twins). I love them to bits, and they are the best sons anyone could wish for
*I relate so much to the OP. My parents REPEATEDLY forgot every year when it was my birthday. Granted I never really cared or saw any point in celebrating being one year closer to the grave. But when it was any of my 3 brothers birthday God it was an event, they got bags of presents, taken out for meals, drinks. Even a simple card would have made me happy. I have kept the few cards I have received over the years, off friends, girlfriends one or two off brothers.*
At the end of the day, the truth hurts, but it's better than living a lie. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you're going to come out stronger for it.
Real or fake, its always crazy that in most of these stories the grandparents are usually nice people and the actual parents are scum. Like how the hell did the parent turn out that way even when the grandparents are supportive and willing to call out parents on BS
My question too.. you know I thought this story was going to be tragic that the brother took the OP’s car and died because he got into an accident in it and then after that OP moved to another city, so the parents lost both sons… I didn’t expect this story. But good anyway.
As an mechanic myself the moment i heard warped im just thinking who the fuck sold this car if the car is literally hanging on by a thread it should either a be sent to a crusher or b completely restored like brand new but it would be costly
I don't know but the knowing about the car being bad.Wouldn't that be considered attempted murder? Since they knew the car was dangerous and could end up with him crashing, and having his life ended?
All of the “you should give the car back it was blackmail” people have somehow managed to spend too much time on Reddit without seeing the “my 18th birthday/high school graduation/final testing for a homeschool program/etc is in 6 days and 16 hours and my parents just told me they will throw away anything I haven’t carried out in that time. They have never let me work. Our neighbors are like a mile away and I wasn’t allowed to stay after school for even academic clubs or Scouts or do the stuff everyone was doing when they became firm friends. I don’t have a car and they are wishy washy on where my birth certificate etc are and I have to give them my phone from 7 PM until I am getting on the bus and yes, that means I only have it on school days. And this week their planting the kitchen garden and I have to still do at least 3 hours a day and they’ll keep distracting me because every time I have tried to figure something out or daydream while we work ‘it just happens’…”
went very different then I thought when I saw the title. I had gone with the idea OP was a daughter with two brothers. said brothers Dying due to crashing in the broken car
I heard this story before, but not with the most recent updates. The parents’ obsession for having a girl is disturbing. If the grandparents hadn’t stepped in, the mom might have convinced OP he was trans to mutilate him against his will to force him into her preferred role. Hell, she might not even have bothered to convince OP and instead take him to the first quack of a doctor willing to take her at her word and do it.
People didn't bury Munchausen's By Proxy around the time OP was a child, so mothers abusing their sons into being girls hadn't become mainstream and acceptable practice yet like it is today.
13:28, that is crazy, what more does he want? Lol I don't know, maybe acknowledgement that he even exists? Helping pay for a little bit of college doesn't even really require any interaction on their part.
i hate to judge but why was everyone so insistent on guilt-tripping the parents into speaking to op? if i was op, that would feel like rubbing dirt in the wound. i would've cut as much contact as i could with them and set bounderies with my family in terms of them being around me or speaking to me
so they a both psychos?... how can someone be like that when their parents arent? at least one of them... how come both parents are like that? seriously people are just getting psycho out of nowhere now a days
This is beyond heartwrenching to listen to, what the fuck. I'm glad the brothers were able to reconnect when outside the web of the parents' bullshit. I really feel for the grandparents too. Imagine seeing your own child turn out that way. I'd be crestfallen.
OP is right, a car is not a right, it's a privilege, however, being treated equal to your brother is a right, is an expectation, and is absolutely something you are entitled to have. If that involves a car, then so be it, fair is fair.
So there's the golden child vs. ignored child/children thing. Then there's the focused on child vs. the non-focus child. The former is usually one child is born into some special circumstance like the doctors say the baby has little chance to survive but manages to pull through like a "miracle". Usually that one is spoiled rotten and in the end can't survive on their own and are very attached to the family. In the latter situation, both kids are tortured, one by overbearance and helicopter parenting while the other child/children is completely ignored. Often times in both situations, the non-favored child winds up being very strong if they can survive it, ironically. This is definitely the latter.
You know there are some lines you do not cross, and trying to end your own child life after years of abuse and being ignored is one of those, these creature ( They don't deserve the title people let alone parents) saw that line and took a running jump over it. And the biggest question Why didn't someone called the cops on them when it came out they gave him a broken car.
Lol holy shit- we're supposed to buy our kids CARS when they turn 18??! No wonder my parents didn't want me to learn how to drive😂😂🤦♀️ *and as for this story, yay Grandma!!
And all that when it's so easy to determine the sex of your child, and no, I'm not referring to termination when it's the not desired sex, just to using the specifics of male and female sperm cells, and to influence the egg cell by eating certain foods to your advantage. It's really not that hard.
I would have hired a lawyer and sued my parents in both civil and criminal Court for neglect mental abuse and torture of a child. They can explain to a judge why they did what they did and serve some time in jail probably losing everything they ever worked for and your brother well I'd never talk to him again I'd say you watched it and did nothing about it so you're not family.
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I'd be a little worried if I was the other son, I get the feeling they're planning to move closer to him to get their gold child back in line.
True, but hopefully, he'll tell their grandparents and hopefully get another intervention underway.
Good on the ops brother.
Far too often the favorite child gets dismissed as a lost cause in stories like these, but they're also a victim of their parents abuse, just in a different sort of way.
They're deprived of being able to grow as a well rounded person and often end up as shallow husks, so congrats to the brother for being able to realize what was happening to him.
I was hoping someone would comment on this.
Plus in some families like this, but not all, the unfavorite is used as a scrapegoat to vent their frustrations on in subtle ways. so what happens when the unfave is gone and left for good? They have to find another target... and that's the supposed golden child now. That's when the golden child realizes what the other one was going though. shitty parents are still shitty even to the golden child.
Being a parent is a blessing. But it's also hard work. It's not FOR YOU. Everything you do from that point onwards is...FOR THEM. If you don't have that mind set, don't have kids.
This.
This is truth, which is why I don't have kids as I care for myself more than anyone else and that mindset is bad for people with kids
This really needs to be said to soooo many people.
They had a fantasy that they going to have a boy and a girl with whatever order but they never check the gender of their 2nd kid until was too late and blamed the 2nd son for being born as a boy (as nobody choose to born as the gender that they got)
The grandparents should have gone through with applying for guardianship.
And the real tragedy was the bond between brothers was ruined during childhood. I hate it when parents fuck up sibling relationships
Thank goodness the rest of the family and the golden child in question never took their foot off of your parents' necks. All those two should have done was accept the fact that they had two boys and be genuinely decent people. But no, resent one and overextend on the other and end up childless.
They did not love EITHER son. In cases of favoritism this extreme neither child is loved. They also did not love each other. The greatest bond possible between 2 people is having a child together, even more so than marriage and if 2 people have a child together and abuse their child like this that means they do not love each other.
They were never meant to be parents, all they had were expectations of this perfect life they had made up and when it unsurprisingly didn't go that way they just refused to see reality for what it is.
They're both delusional and you can't reason with that.
Going their own ways away from them is the best path both brothers could have possibly taken.
Am I the only one who thought the vid thumbnail meant that the parents intentionally tried to muckduck him with the janky car and his brother borrowed it and had a tragic accident?
I thought the same
I thought they intentionally gave a broken car to one of their children and both of the child's brothers drove with it and died in an accident
The golden child getting away from the parents and hearing the story from their grandparents must have been eye opening. They did their best to actively change and acknowledge that they were also being abused in this situation as well.
The twist is the favorite child getting the clue about the parents and patching up the relationship with the brother.
op needs to hope and pray he never has a daughter cos he'll never be rid of them wanting access
I actually hope he does have a daughter, sure they'll want access but they don't have a right to access and especially if he moves far enough away nor shares his address it'll be hard for them. If he has a daughter then it proves why they shouldn't have shown favortism cause then all they had to do was love him and wait and then they could have had a granddaughter to spoil. I doubt either son will want their parents involved when they have children.
Why didn’t they just let your grandparents get guardianship since they didn’t want you?
Because that's outrageous, that's why. What would the people say?!
@@mykolapliashechnykov8701
EXACTLY!!
It will affect their public image.
If they pick and choose kids to love and hate just because they weren't the gender they wanted aren't real parents, if i wanted a daughter but got a son, i would still love him and cherish him, because even though i wanted a daughter he is still my child, and that's all that matters.
After my oldest son was born I wanted a girl too, and was planning to name her after my grandma. I got 2 boys (twins). I love them to bits, and they are the best sons anyone could wish for
The grandparents shouldld’ve filed to be the guardians of OP
*I relate so much to the OP. My parents REPEATEDLY forgot every year when it was my birthday. Granted I never really cared or saw any point in celebrating being one year closer to the grave. But when it was any of my 3 brothers birthday God it was an event, they got bags of presents, taken out for meals, drinks. Even a simple card would have made me happy. I have kept the few cards I have received over the years, off friends, girlfriends one or two off brothers.*
I was born on my mother's birthday but since I was an unwanted female child, my birthdays were never mentioned.
At the end of the day, the truth hurts, but it's better than living a lie. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you're going to come out stronger for it.
Real or fake, its always crazy that in most of these stories the grandparents are usually nice people and the actual parents are scum. Like how the hell did the parent turn out that way even when the grandparents are supportive and willing to call out parents on BS
My question too.. you know I thought this story was going to be tragic that the brother took the OP’s car and died because he got into an accident in it and then after that OP moved to another city, so the parents lost both sons… I didn’t expect this story. But good anyway.
As an mechanic myself the moment i heard warped im just thinking who the fuck sold this car if the car is literally hanging on by a thread it should either a be sent to a crusher or b completely restored like brand new but it would be costly
I don't know but the knowing about the car being bad.Wouldn't that be considered attempted murder? Since they knew the car was dangerous and could end up with him crashing, and having his life ended?
All of the “you should give the car back it was blackmail” people have somehow managed to spend too much time on Reddit without seeing the “my 18th birthday/high school graduation/final testing for a homeschool program/etc is in 6 days and 16 hours and my parents just told me they will throw away anything I haven’t carried out in that time. They have never let me work. Our neighbors are like a mile away and I wasn’t allowed to stay after school for even academic clubs or Scouts or do the stuff everyone was doing when they became firm friends. I don’t have a car and they are wishy washy on where my birth certificate etc are and I have to give them my phone from 7 PM until I am getting on the bus and yes, that means I only have it on school days. And this week their planting the kitchen garden and I have to still do at least 3 hours a day and they’ll keep distracting me because every time I have tried to figure something out or daydream while we work ‘it just happens’…”
Real life Timmy Turner
Omg, you’re right
so the parents treat him like shit simply because they wanted a girl, seriously. You got a healthy child, be happy with what you got.
went very different then I thought when I saw the title. I had gone with the idea OP was a daughter with two brothers. said brothers Dying due to crashing in the broken car
I heard this story before, but not with the most recent updates. The parents’ obsession for having a girl is disturbing. If the grandparents hadn’t stepped in, the mom might have convinced OP he was trans to mutilate him against his will to force him into her preferred role. Hell, she might not even have bothered to convince OP and instead take him to the first quack of a doctor willing to take her at her word and do it.
We don't know whether she would have succeeded but she would have 100% tried as you said.
People didn't bury Munchausen's By Proxy around the time OP was a child, so mothers abusing their sons into being girls hadn't become mainstream and acceptable practice yet like it is today.
Gender reaffirming surgeries aren't legal on underaged patients.
@@EduardoFlores-bt4fo And yet they have happened to great fanfare from The Community.
@@Terralventhe like who
13:28, that is crazy, what more does he want? Lol I don't know, maybe acknowledgement that he even exists? Helping pay for a little bit of college doesn't even really require any interaction on their part.
It was a Gender thing but they wanted a boy and a girl but they got to boys and blame the younger one.
The rest of the family and especially the grandma pulling through here is really clutch.
All those people who said that are the exact same people who are exactly like your parents
i hate to judge but why was everyone so insistent on guilt-tripping the parents into speaking to op? if i was op, that would feel like rubbing dirt in the wound. i would've cut as much contact as i could with them and set bounderies with my family in terms of them being around me or speaking to me
so they a both psychos?... how can someone be like that when their parents arent? at least one of them... how come both parents are like that? seriously people are just getting psycho out of nowhere now a days
I had parents similar to this. I remember telling them I'd grow up, move away, and never visit them. Well, I grew up, moved away, and never see them.
This is beyond heartwrenching to listen to, what the fuck. I'm glad the brothers were able to reconnect when outside the web of the parents' bullshit. I really feel for the grandparents too. Imagine seeing your own child turn out that way. I'd be crestfallen.
OP is right, a car is not a right, it's a privilege, however, being treated equal to your brother is a right, is an expectation, and is absolutely something you are entitled to have. If that involves a car, then so be it, fair is fair.
Oh my god, even wild animals don't eat their children.
fun fact! some do, if the kid is unlikely to survive, so they can save the nutrients and try again.
quokkas ("world's happiest animals") will literally throw their babies at predators to get away. it's so awful... 😭
What? Many do.
title seemed a bit more dramatic about the whole car thing
So there's the golden child vs. ignored child/children thing. Then there's the focused on child vs. the non-focus child.
The former is usually one child is born into some special circumstance like the doctors say the baby has little chance to survive but manages to pull through like a "miracle". Usually that one is spoiled rotten and in the end can't survive on their own and are very attached to the family.
In the latter situation, both kids are tortured, one by overbearance and helicopter parenting while the other child/children is completely ignored.
Often times in both situations, the non-favored child winds up being very strong if they can survive it, ironically.
This is definitely the latter.
10:08 why didn't they just give OP to his grandparents.
I pretty sure OP said seconds before it was because his parents didn’t want to look bad in other peoples eyes or something like that
atleast his brother turned out to be decent
All those people who said that are the exact same people who are exactly like your parents.
You know there are some lines you do not cross, and trying to end your own child life after years of abuse and being ignored is one of those, these creature ( They don't deserve the title people let alone parents) saw that line and took a running jump over it.
And the biggest question
Why didn't someone called the cops on them when it came out they gave him a broken car.
Sounds like the other brothers died in the crappo car
would be great to be trans in that family, then your parents would be fully on board with helping you transition. lemme sign up for that family smh
What an immature outlook. No, it wouldn't be "great" to be in that family even if you are someone who is trans.
Wow,these parents are scary phsyco
Woa, even the brother know and was sad what is wrong.
Lol holy shit- we're supposed to buy our kids CARS when they turn 18??! No wonder my parents didn't want me to learn how to drive😂😂🤦♀️ *and as for this story, yay Grandma!!
And all that when it's so easy to determine the sex of your child, and no, I'm not referring to termination when it's the not desired sex, just to using the specifics of male and female sperm cells, and to influence the egg cell by eating certain foods to your advantage. It's really not that hard.
No way I drive the same exact vehicle
I thought the brother dies or soemthing.
No he moved another state for school and found a real life
Stop these videos gets motion sickness watching them. Chance background.
W grandparents
Psycho parents!!!
I would have hired a lawyer and sued my parents in both civil and criminal Court for neglect mental abuse and torture of a child. They can explain to a judge why they did what they did and serve some time in jail probably losing everything they ever worked for and your brother well I'd never talk to him again I'd say you watched it and did nothing about it so you're not family.
Yeaaah that's not how it works in the real world.
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@@MK-gc2sj no im Spartacus.
This is so fake
Knowing that a lot of cheaters are nurses, they might have ironically hit the nail on the head with that comment on the girlfriend.
Don't go there.
Exactly what I was thinking lol
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