How to Cope with Grief: Tips to Find Hope and Healing

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  • @raethibodeau9604
    @raethibodeau9604 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Thank you for this video Beth. I remember lying in bed after my husband passed away and thinking "I can't believe I'm 54 and a widow." How am I going to live the rest of my life without my rock, my partner, the love of my life? I chuckled when you mentioned taking out the trash. I remember crying my heart out the first time I had to do that. I said to myself, "Get a grip Mary. You can do this. You are being silly" Looking back, I don't think it was so much the trash, but rather the loss of everything that my husband did for me and our family. His tremendous love for us. The one thing I miss a lot in the winter is that he would always have the driveway and steps shoveled of snow, my car cleared off and running so it was warm when I left for work. I regret not telling him more how much I appreciated that. It became something I took for granted. It's been over 8 years for me and life is good just different. You have to embrace every phase of your life.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Life has many chapters, and we need to embrace each one. Thanks so much for sharing your experience.

    • @momana550
      @momana550 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks for sharing. One of my first big breakdown moments was putting gas in my car. In our 35 years together he not only washed and took care of the cars but, he always filled up my gas tank. So many little { and big } tasks he did that were taken for granted. I was 58 when i lost my husband. It’s going on two years this September. I’m still deep in my grief. Knowing that we’re all going to go through similar experience , makes me stop wallowing and pitying myself. I hope you continue to heal and have a fulfilling life. Wishing you the best

    • @Gnv-q2m
      @Gnv-q2m ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My late father used to take my Mom’s car out of the garage for her every morning so she could drive to school (a teacher) despite his increasing frailty. Men really show their love through quiet daily acts of service.

    • @livingdoll3445
      @livingdoll3445 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very touching and god bless

  • @donnapinciottikiniry4648
    @donnapinciottikiniry4648 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I became a widow at 41 after my husband’s tragic 7 year battle with Leukemia. Our son was 10 and we got all the help we needed through individual amazing support groups. My advice is to never turn down and invite for at least that first year. People want to help! I found so much love and help from unexpected places A different kind of grief now though. Dealing with my Son’s total abandonment encouraged by his now wife. I have never met my little grandson. I am hurting like never before.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am so very sorry, Donna, that you are hurting. Hugs! xo

    • @songbird5030
      @songbird5030 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Oh Donna! I am so sorry!! That is incredibly hard!! I admire you for continuing to walk in spite of your pain. But I know that’s really hard!
      It seems like that is what is happening with my oldest son. I have not seen my oldest son and his family since my husbands tragic death in 2021, he was 55 year old. This is all so devastating, I am so sorry for your loss and heartache!! 🥰

    • @crystalreynolds279
      @crystalreynolds279 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Donna, Your new grief is so very rough.
      Your husband left his family because of illness, your son left by his choice. 😢
      I wish you reconciliation in the future as there is still hope for it. Hugs

    • @davisholman8149
      @davisholman8149 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Donna - that is so unimaginable. I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful husband. I am doubly sorry for the cruelty of your son’s wife that in turn his turning his back on you. I am very sorry you are dealing with that kind of pain. It is shocking how much we mothers can give to our children, and in the future be mistreated horribly. I hope that one day he comes to his senses.

    • @MrDrjila
      @MrDrjila ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh Donna
      I'm so sorry ! MY sister was in the same situation and her two daughters abandoned her encouraged by her Ex. She went through sorrow and depression but my advice to her was to know they also needed her love and eventually would be back in her life, and it happened after many years. Be hopeful and get busy with your life, that is what I learnt from my own loss.❤

  • @ginnyburley9552
    @ginnyburley9552 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    One of the most important skills to learn as we age is to learn how to deal with great losses because they will come and they will devastate us. Thank you for sharing your process.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is the sad part of life, but no one escapes grief. Thanks so much for being here.

  • @deebauer9629
    @deebauer9629 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you so much, After almost two years of losing my husband I know I am not alone but it often feels like it.. This has helped.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It takes time to heal. God Bless!

  • @KatjaLS
    @KatjaLS ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am 61 and lost my dear husband after 1 year of a severe illness. He was the great love of my life since I was 17.
    After 35 years of our loving marriage I feel so sad, desperate and lonely without him. Unfortunately our only son died already 17 years ago, so I am now without any family.
    Thank you very much dear Beth for your helpful advices and I hope that I will overcome this so very hard time of grief and that I will see again a positive light and a purpose of life for my upcoming future....
    Kind regards from Switzerland
    Katja

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God Bless! I know it's a challenging path you're on right now. One day at a time.

    • @KatjaLS
      @KatjaLS ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@BethDjalali Yes, one day at a time. Thank you 💗

  • @Avoid_Low_Frequency
    @Avoid_Low_Frequency ปีที่แล้ว +16

    One of the things I never had to concern myself with was keeping my car washed. He had always kept the yard, kept the cars, keeping the porch swept and beautiful. Your advice of 1 Day at a time is the best advice. Redecorating was important and I enjoyed it! Realizing I could find JOY again felt so empowering. Love this video Beth! Thank you!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's a challenging journey that many of us have embarked upon, but working through grief is an important lesson we can share with others. Thanks for being here!

  • @judyburkey4862
    @judyburkey4862 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you so much Beth. Your heart to heart talk was much needed. I lost my husband of 42 years in 2022. This first year has been such a struggle. It feels like one step forward and two steps backwards. Everything you mentioned is so true. I’m going to take one day at a time and do my best to take care of me. Thank you for this talk it was so needed by many I’m sure. 🙏❤️🤗

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @carriemartz8952
    @carriemartz8952 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    All good advice!! I've walked this path for 12 years , With God's help!! We definitely need to celebrate the joy in our lives, that are dear ones gave us!! Happy memories are treasures of the heart!!!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We will always cherish our memories while finding joy in today. Thanks for sharing.

  • @arethavanhorn7010
    @arethavanhorn7010 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Excellent advice shared with love! My husband of 32 years lost his battle with cancer September 2021. I have been blessed enough to be able to slowly continue life without him by my side. I totally relate to having been completely “thrown off” and discombobulated. I too had to step back & go one day at a time. Your heart to heart will bless so many. Thank you for sharing❣️

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @catherineo5721
    @catherineo5721 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is one of the finest videos I have seen on grief. Thanks so much Beth!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is an important topic to discuss. It's a hard one but so very important.

  • @lindalambert8712
    @lindalambert8712 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am a 55 year old recent widow battling gut issues alcoholism and depression. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. My William doesn't want me sad. I need to do something good for myself. Get healthy stop drinking travel redecorate....that all sounds fantastic. Thank you soo much for sharing your tips and God Bless You and Your Family!! ❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It is so hard to lose a loved one. God Bless on your journey.

  • @sueprice4082
    @sueprice4082 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Beth, I have listened to this three times since I lost my husband last September. Your words and thoughts are better than therapy. Sending love 🇬🇧 Sue

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      God Bless, Sue! It's a journey to be certain but it's one day at a time. xo

  • @beverlynorris557
    @beverlynorris557 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video. I lost my mom 3 months ago and some days are so difficult. Some days are really good and some are bad. I just roll with it.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @songbird5030
    @songbird5030 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh Beth!
    Thank you so much for this video on grief!! Thank you sharing your wisdom and your heart, it is so helpful when we feel like giving up.
    I just sat down, thinking how I will make it another day. My dear husband of 35 years passed in a tragic accident in 2021. He was my best friend and the love of my life. We have 6 kids and I’m doing my best to keep going but it is really heartbreaking! Thanks again for sharing with us! Blessings!!❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @barbarabraue4087
    @barbarabraue4087 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beth, first, I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. You gave the best advice for the many people dealing with loss. I love Leanne Morgan as well, she is one funny lady! God bless your steps ahead.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your sweet words!

  • @ajaxbac
    @ajaxbac ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good for you for not limiting grief to loss of a loved one, as you said there are many many losses in our lives.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Loss comes in many forms, and with it grief.

  • @susanholding2809
    @susanholding2809 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your thoughtful video. I lost my husband 9 years ago when I was 56. It was so hard at the time. My children were still young, high school and college and being the rock for them helped me to get through. I have found that saying yes to invitations even when I feel like staying home has helped tremendously. Joining book clubs, going out for coffee (even if it’s by myself), taking an exercise class, just being around others helps to keep me connected. All the best to everyone on this journey or helping someone else.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing a bit of your journey. It's helpful to so many.

  • @beacuz
    @beacuz ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dear Beth-I have followed you for years and I remember Mr Styles. I appreciate you for sharing this story. I am so blessed, my husband and I live in an apt that my daughter and SIL had built along with their home. We enjoy our grands daily and I love this life ( it’s been 2 yrs since we moved from our house). When we first moved my dear sister was diagnosed with stage 4 uterine cancer and she passed 2 months ago. She lived close enough that I saw her just about every day, took her to appts, spoke with her several times a day and the loss is so overwhelming even now. I miss her terribly. I have so many people around me and sometimes I feel so lonely. Again I thank you for taking the time to speak on grief.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so glad you had the opportunity to spend time with your sister. Life is precious. And what a joy it must be to be right next door to your daughter and her family. God Bless!

  • @KarenMartin-s5l
    @KarenMartin-s5l ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Beth, for the most concise and thoroughly presented videos on grief from a widow’s perspective I have seen, and I’ve watched many over the last two years!
    My beloved husband died on Mother’s Day in 2021. We met as musicians when I became his piano accompanist 40 years ago. It took ten years before he proposed to me beneath the Gateway Arch in St. Louis, but our life had been filled with music , a wonderful friendship, and Christian service, something we both had both grown up with. It all continued thru our 27 years of marriage., and the Lord blessed us with three children whom we home schooled, and they participated with us in many music and theatrical endeavors. God chose to take our 4th child directly to Heaven before it was born, but I am comforted knowing that Ben and our child are now together. Our life was filled with many challenges, mostly financial and physical, but
    though we were “poor as church mice” as the saying goes, we still lived a rich full life, and the memories of it are a precious treasure I will never take for granted! I have also been blessed in being able to live my passion, our passion, which is music, and that has helped me tremendously on my grief journey. I am on the music staff at my church, and have not missed a scheduled Sunday playing the organ since Ben died, and, I played at his funeral! There were plenty of people who thought I was crazy for doing so, and one of them insisted that I would crash! I’m more insulted by that comment now than I was back then! Oh, I’ve had many moments of deep grief, especially when triggered by hearing songs we once performed, but my “crashes” have come when having to deal with the things I am totally inept at, like dealing with car issues! But thru it all, I think I have instinctively done a lot of things you suggested in your video. When I have gotten myself in trouble, I think it’s been because I’ve tried to do what others expected of me. I’m becoming more bold in standing up for myself now, even though there are those in my life who aren’t taking my change in attitude too well! And though traveling alone is somewhat intimidating, I’m going to St. Louis next week to celebrate the 30th anniversary of our engagement beneath the Arch, and spend time with my sister showing her some of the places which hold special memories for me. My precious Ben will go with me in my heart.

  • @jenniferannfox2316
    @jenniferannfox2316 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Beth, I've been following your videos almost from the beginning when you first started. I remember when you told us of your husband's passing and how so sad I felt for you. I can't imagine being in that place how much struggle it can be especially at first. My mother lost my dad (in 80s) in 2017. She stayed the same in some areas of life and in others she slightly changed and it was fully ok because that is how she had to grieve and adjust. Your tips are very valuable to us all. Thank you for such encouragement and strength. I know I'm nearly 60 and still miss my daddy so much. He was so reliable and knew how to fix anything with just a call away. In some ways when my daddy passed I had to learn how to depend on myself finding out how to fix some things in the house or just plain good advice. I think it has made me stronger in those ways. I know he will be in Heaven when I get there!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Grief is hard! No matter how old we are losing a parent impacts our lives in many ways. God Bless!

  • @judypierce8973
    @judypierce8973 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for sharing these very important stages of grief. My sister and brother and I lost our parents within two years of each other. Mom died from complications of Alzheimer’s disease and our Dad from complications from dementia. For about 5 years they were both in different nursing homes, at the same time. It was probably the darkest time of our lives. Dad will be gone for 4 years on the 30th of June, and Mom for six years on August 14th. We miss them terribly, we were a very close family. That was how we were raised, God first, family second. We feel blessed to have been raised in a loving, Christen family.
    All Is Well With My Soul was our Grandmother’s favorite song.
    Thank you very much for the wonderful video.

  • @anhtaa1
    @anhtaa1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have been following your videos but just stumbled upon this one and let me tell you how much that it resonates with me.
    I too, lost my husband of 37 years, my best friend 5 years ago. He too, had cancer. We were both 61 at the time. Life eventually got better. However, there would be days that grief is still very much alive.
    I have been traveling since. My husband and I were world travelers. So I like to keep that tradition alive. I also appreciate another great video from you about tips for women traveling solo. I will keep these tips in mind.
    So just a note to say thank you for speaking to my heart. Keep up the good work.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm so sorry for you loss. God bless!

  • @dafnaeizik6803
    @dafnaeizik6803 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I also lost my husband to liver cancer eight months ago. Hard to think of my self as a widower at the age of 56. Having 4 young children, knowing he didnt live to see his dreams come true, especially to marry our childerns and having grandchildren. Thank you for this video.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Life is hard sometimes for no reason at all. Hod Bless on your grief journey.

  • @tammymullins1151
    @tammymullins1151 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    A year and 9 months for me. I was 62. My husband also died of liver cancer. Good advice Beth. I enjoy your videos.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @CanadianDivaDi
    @CanadianDivaDi ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Grief is so individual that's for sure. I worked in hospice and in talking with resident's spouses after, a few wives said the same thing about their journey. While enveloped in their grief they realized life was moving forward without them all around them and they had to make a conscious effort to join back in again. Great video.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Life can throw a curveball anytime it wants. It's up to us to make lemonade. But it is a conscious choice to move forward with your life.

  • @momana550
    @momana550 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for this video on grief. I lost my most beloved husband of 35 years to liver cancer two years ago. Everything you said hit home. My grief is still very strong and raw. I’m in the process of joining a grief support group. My husband was exceptional and did me no favors by spoiling and loving me and our children so much. Our marriage was truly magical. Making life without him extremely sad and hard. But, I am trying to move forward. Learning and adjusting to continue living without him. I look to you for strength and inspiration. I’m happy to hear you’re doing well. It gives me hope. Much love ❤❤❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is so hard losing a spouse. It takes time and a lot of effort to carve out a new life. Take care.

    • @momana550
      @momana550 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BethDjalali Thank you Beth. Following your example helps. Stay safe and be well ❤️❤️❤️

  • @eileensutcliffe6755
    @eileensutcliffe6755 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you! It has been two and a half years since cancer took my husband of 57 years. He was very wise! When he retired from the successful business he had for 49 years , he told me he was done dealing with money and now it was my turn .We have a beef cattle farm so I had to learn to make the decisions to keep it on the profitable side . I have learned a lot since he is gone. As I said, he was so wise! Still working on the depressed Side of life but am coping better. Thank you!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is hard work. It takes time to heal.

  • @lindafrazier8092
    @lindafrazier8092 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this❤ caregiver for mom for 9 years end stage alzmeirs probate was hostile and lost so much... 3 years now trying with all my heart to put pain to purpose... again thank you❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Life can be so hard sometimes. God Bless, Linda.

  • @helenbotelho285
    @helenbotelho285 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I lost my husband who was 62 years old 6 months ago to cancer. He was the love of my life. I've seen grief videos, but this one is the best one. Thanks for doing this Beth.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @francescooper3578
    @francescooper3578 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for this video. Lost my husband last year after 44 years of marriage. I never imagined it would be so hard. We went from two people to one to accomplish everything. I have never been alone till now.

    • @crystalreynolds279
      @crystalreynolds279 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Coming home at the end of the day to silence, for me was the worst part of my day. I started leaving a radio on when I left the house in the morning, then when I opened my door to the sounds I would say “ honey, I’m home!” I would laugh at myself over this but over time it really helped me get over this hurtle. Hang in there!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It takes time and effort to heal. God Bless!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks so much for sharing!

  • @nancysnell7428
    @nancysnell7428 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for this video. It is very hard to feel joy and not feel guilty for it. My son has been gone for over a year and every day gets a little better. Some days the sadness is just overwhelming, but one foot in front of the other every day.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is overwhelming at times. It truly is. God Bless!

  • @barbaragordon6177
    @barbaragordon6177 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The part about feeling guilty for laughing and having a good day is something I've really been struggling with... and I didn't know that was normal. I lost my loved one on this day last year (06/10/22).I'm really glad your video came across my time-line. I needed your words today. Thank you.

  • @kathyjohnson4823
    @kathyjohnson4823 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am part of this club too - Widowhood. But I came through it. Life goes on and we don’t forget

  • @martha4136
    @martha4136 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this video, I got a lot out of it, I am a widow 10 months now , it is hard. Life has completely changed. Thank you again.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @auctiongirl48
    @auctiongirl48 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is some of the best advice I have ever seen on dealing with grief. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for making this video. My son was killed in a tragic accident when he was 26. This was June 3rd, 1994. The first 2 years were almost unbearable. I have tried to get past it, but it's always there and I will always be sad.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things we have to face. God Bless.

  • @MrDrjila
    @MrDrjila ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dear Beth
    I joined to your TH-cam channel a few years back and always enjoyed your videos, but this one touched my heart.❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It's not a topic we want to discuss but it's a topic we need to discuss. Thanks for being here.

  • @CherylOdell-ds7vp
    @CherylOdell-ds7vp ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much. I recently lost my husband of 45 years to lung cancer, and have been struggling. This was very helpful for me.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @catherinegardner8407
    @catherinegardner8407 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this heart felt post. I have an advanced education degree and taught some of what you spoke of. When I was a ten year old, I was suddenly "aware" of some things that was going to happen in my future. I suddenly knew that my mother would pass when I was age 16, and there was another loss before I was 21 which I thought of as happening to myself being so very young. My mother did pass, on my 16th birthday as I fore knew. The second loss ended up being our beautiful, extremely kind 20 year old son, a month after Christmas and just before he reached age 21. I have heard that my being intuitive is a blessing; it is hard at times as you might imagine. I came across a wonderful writing that spoke to me very profoundly, If I may share it with you. This is part of a eulogy written by a priest. Please look up "Death Is Nothing At All"; it is amazingly powerful.

  • @sharonerenaldo3466
    @sharonerenaldo3466 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    WOW, WOW, WOW. Thank you for confirmation. God Bless you. Thanks again for this video.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so welcome. God Bless!

  • @teresacrooks6201
    @teresacrooks6201 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video Beth. I lost my partner last year. The first year seemed unbearable. Your words help so much especially since you have gone through it and know,

  • @debbiefitts8793
    @debbiefitts8793 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much, Beth. I lost my husband 2 years ago to suicide. We were together 40 years and married for 30 of those years. We had no children and have no family, making this nightmare even worse. I'm trying to get through this. It's so difficult.

  • @louisefrayne6176
    @louisefrayne6176 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is very sensitive sharing of grief, thank you, Beth. My husband died suddenly 13 years ago at the age of 41. The greatest piece of advice I received was 'everyone can write their own book on grief'. Your point that there is no right or wrong way to grieve is spot on. I have learned to manage my grief and understand that although my life is not the one I planned, it is good. I am healthy, have a loving family and very supportive friends, a variety of interests, and keep myself busy. I count myself lucky and remind myself daily that I have a lot to be thankful for ❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      That is such a great attitude, Louise! Keep on, keeping on with a vibrant life.

  • @lose999
    @lose999 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much. I'm in the despondent stage; listless, lonely, hopeless, so this video is appreciated. It been 7 months since my children's dad passed suddenly and unexpectedly of a heart attack. We are all still trying to manage our lives without him. It's especially hard on the grandkids.
    I hope it gets better with time. Father's day is going to be so hard...

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @visible9090
    @visible9090 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video on grief!
    I been very impressed with your encouraging, you are an inspiration for all the women's who are subscribed to your channel. Good job, keep doing because you're doing an excellent work. ❤

  • @donnadavis5544
    @donnadavis5544 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My first and only response was ❤❤❤, it has taken me a day to be able to respond in words. Your smooth gentle voice combined with your experience based tips were just what I needed to hear. (More than 1 viewing). We lost our only child 2 years ago, he was 34. Finding my way has been a journey. Your chanel and blog has helped me take care of myself. Your video has helped see that I will survive this. Thank you,❤❤❤

  • @gloriagaldamez9750
    @gloriagaldamez9750 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for helping me,I loss my husband 6 months ago and your video and your advice is giving me hope that things will get better.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @kathybriscoe1474
    @kathybriscoe1474 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing this video. I am 78 and lost my husband almost four years ago. We were married 53 years and he was my friend as also my husband. It’s been a challenge and I believe we have to move “forward” not “move on”. Grief share helped me go through the initial stages. I still miss my husband every day but have made an effort to stay engaged with friends and find activities which are fulfilling.

  • @susanevanko3982
    @susanevanko3982 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Beth, for so many helpful suggestions. I lost my beloved husband of 23 years at the age of 45 due to sudden and devastating cancer only 4 months after diagnosis. My entire world turned upside down. Ten years later I reconnected with a widowed classmate and we were together for 9 years when he too passed away from cancer 4 years ago. Two very different but wonderful men that I miss every day and my grief seemed different for each of them. I’m in a better place now due to wonderful, supportive friends and family, volunteering and loving my pets. Life is good but dating again at 65 seems daunting. Hugs to you.

  • @annieyahu676
    @annieyahu676 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for Sharing Beth ❤️. I can agree with your advice from experience. I've personally experienced multiple deaths of family members, including a spouse and also serious personal illness and problems that come along as a result. You have to learn to keep going, and it's OK to smile and laugh again. I couldn't have done it personally without a faith relationship with God and lots of prayer and meditation 🙏 in the word. Thank Yahusha Jesus for helping me. Much love and blessings to you ❤️

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      God is the great healer. He turns All things into good. Even the most challenging parts of our lives. God Bless!

  • @rachel2959
    @rachel2959 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I needed this today! Thank you, Beth!!❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is such an important topic to discuss.

  • @gerry498
    @gerry498 ปีที่แล้ว

    A very helpful video. No need to go anywhere else for tips. Thank you!

  • @juliemoore6957
    @juliemoore6957 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dear Beth thank you for sharing your grief journey. I'm sending this to my sister, who lost her husband 11/2 years ago. God bless you.❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you, Julie. Grief is an important topic to discuss.

  • @pattiray6032
    @pattiray6032 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing this video. I recently lost my father. I was adopted and he didn't know I existed. I met him two years ago. He passed away while visiting me for a few months. This video was good for me. Thank you again!!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @karenhoward5314
    @karenhoward5314 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for this video, I lost my husband and the love of my life 3 months ago. This was so helpful!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bless!

  • @deidrebriggs
    @deidrebriggs ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Valuable encouragement! God bless you and keep you!

  • @gorgo1945
    @gorgo1945 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Beth and a million thanks for this video today which I found to be both sensible and sensitive. Lots of practical things to do to help ourselves. The best tips for dealing with a problem come from those suffering the same thing. Your sage advice really resonated with me. My darling husband passed in January. I am struggling but I do have better days now. Letting others in to help is very welcome as are achieving the simple tasks of every day life. All your tips are true gems - thank you!!!! xxxxx

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's so important to share all aspects of our lives. God Bless!

  • @gabrielleparis3532
    @gabrielleparis3532 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beth, a beautiful, loving video, thank you. And that blue blouse makes your blues eyes brilliant 💙💙💙

  • @Nini51963
    @Nini51963 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing this , I have been grieving forever I have been to therapy but I have to say your beautiful advise is more help than I got from therapist so again thank you , I’m so sorry for your loss of your husband ,

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you. And God Bless.

  • @doreenfeingold1539
    @doreenfeingold1539 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much. I also think of the not so comfortable behavior of my husband of 65 yrs and wish he hadn’t said this or that

  • @martienuttingNYC2UK-MUA
    @martienuttingNYC2UK-MUA ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautifully done ❤ I wish this video had been available when I lost my husband 11 years ago. ❤ from England

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Grief is an important topic to discuss. I hope you're in a good place now.

    • @martienuttingNYC2UK-MUA
      @martienuttingNYC2UK-MUA ปีที่แล้ว

      @BethDjalali Thank you. My British relatives and friends got their matchmaking hats on and I not only remarried 7 years ago, but made the move from New York City to the middle of England.

  • @jenniferjones6076
    @jenniferjones6076 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Beth. Just lost my hubby of 43 years 2 weeks ago. Great advise

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      God Bless, Jennifer! Life will be a roller coaster but lean in on your friends and family.

  • @melclim3422
    @melclim3422 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. Valuable guide and advise. I salute you for being strong woman. Keep up the good work!!!

  • @elsiejulia7258
    @elsiejulia7258 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so thankful to hear this video, I have a problem of after coming back from a success cancer operation most of my friends and family turned their backs on me, I have to start life afresh and it's not easy at my age how can I handle that, I am 58 and still looking young and an active God loving mom🙏

  • @barbromano9975
    @barbromano9975 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a great talk. I am sending it to a friend who suddenly lost her husband.
    I also found tips of self care for myself.
    Thanks!

  • @debbietindall1480
    @debbietindall1480 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel better just listening to you.❤

  • @barbaragonzalez3504
    @barbaragonzalez3504 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks. It was a beautiful video. I wished I had this video when I lost my husband 15 years ago. I had no support or time to grief; especially, since I had to move quite quickly afterwards.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is an important topic that needs to be discussed. I hope you're in a good space and place now.

  • @marieracal5393
    @marieracal5393 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks! Beth,
    This is the absolute best advice I’ve ever heard as it is straight forward compacted wisdom.
    also it’s the way you come across with it, your “vibe “ is exceptionally healing, and you instill hope and confidence.
    I’ve downloaded it so I can listen often or pass it along to a friend in need. You are a gem!🌷 so very glad I found your channel.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you, Marie. Grief is challenging subject to discuss but an important one as we each will have to face it at one point.

  • @virginiagirl6628
    @virginiagirl6628 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is such a beautiful video. I have dealt with family loss over the years. I was only 20 when my grandmother developed Alzheimer’s, she was the most important person in my life. Dealing with that and her eventual death changed me. During the 19990s I dealt with losing my father, grandfather then my grandmother along with a divorce. Loss is always so hard. I don’t know if I have gotten better with it now in my late 50s or not. I love all your suggestions, my natural inclination is to isolate myself and you are right that doesn’t help at all. I also love in the list you shared the death of pets was acknowledged. I have dealt with that more than once and it is extremely painful. Prayers to everyone suffering loss of any kind. Thanks Beth for your words of wisdom, we all need to know there are ways to cope and life can go on!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Losing a loved one is hard. Thank you for sharing a bit of your journey. God Bless!

  • @crystalmccoy7265
    @crystalmccoy7265 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject. I truly needed this video today. Dealing with grief/ loss is such hard work and a must to get on with your life.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It is hard work. So hard at times, but we have to fight to create a new life.

  • @12Gaile
    @12Gaile ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Beth for this video. Excellent advice & timely for me. I am still grieving the loss of my cousin 2 years ago. She was also my best friend for 75 years. I am recovering but there are times when I slip back. I do have my male partner of 30 years & my sister who are supportive as well as my fur baby. You are so spot on about the small things that also become important. Take care Beth. I love your content . ❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It's so hard to lose a loved one. God Bless!

  • @marnasorensen988
    @marnasorensen988 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your reassuring and kind words. I'm still struggling but don't feel so alone.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is hard work. Be kind to yourself.

  • @dorischardon942
    @dorischardon942 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video❤ Beth. God bless you.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It's an important topic to discuss.

  • @barbarazahn6922
    @barbarazahn6922 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, Beth,
    I so enjoy your videos, and this one is especially exceptional! What you had to say was beautiful, sensitive and supportive. Everyone has gone through heartbreaking circumstances that has altered their life in some way. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us.
    Love you, Sister! Keep up the great work!

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much, Barbara, for your sweet words. Life is hard sometimes for no reason at all but we have to move forward. xo

  • @katherinerichardson1767
    @katherinerichardson1767 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautifully done. I have had many of my students that I have taught and close friends who have become widows. Thank you for covering important points that we need to hear.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is a challenging part of life that none of us is spared. It's essential to be there for each other.

  • @elizabethvanmeter3217
    @elizabethvanmeter3217 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have helped a lot of people with this video. Thank you. 💜💜💜💜

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It's an important topic to discuss.

  • @jochen6578
    @jochen6578 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your insightful video with practical and commonsense information ! You are a very
    kind and patient person . ❤😊

  • @irenesingleton3427
    @irenesingleton3427 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is an excellent video. Thank you. I know it will have a positive impact on many people.

  • @sunshinedaisy9879
    @sunshinedaisy9879 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing Beth. I'm so glad I found your channel in the past month or so. This grief talk has helped me tremendously.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm glad you're here and that the video was helpful. No one wants to encounter grief. It's typically thrust upon us, then it's up to us to learn how to cope.

  • @KELLITX
    @KELLITX ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have been waiting for you to do this video but didn't want to ask. Thank you.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It took me a long time to get to this point and share with others.

  • @karenhoward1843
    @karenhoward1843 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you,Beth. Such a helpful video. I really appreciate your insightful suggestions. K

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      It's an important topic that we rarely discuss.

  • @jacquejohnson7157
    @jacquejohnson7157 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this. I am on the precipitous of a divorce. It has been 5 years since the beginning but I am finally ready to move forward. It has just occurred to me that what I am going through is grief. There has been anger, embarrassment, and mostly, guilt for what is happening to my children. I realize that grief is a process and this is exactly what I’ve been going through. I know the journey isn’t over, maybe just beginning but I feel like I have a better, healthy understanding now.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, loss comes in many forms and grief with it. Recognizing it is a healthy first step. Take care!

  • @vanisubramaniam2095
    @vanisubramaniam2095 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you….. very well put thoughts …. feeling reassured that I am on track.🙏🏻

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It takes time to heal. Be kind to yourself.

  • @msan4278
    @msan4278 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Beth! Amazing video! Have a great week!

  • @leeanneNZ
    @leeanneNZ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this brave video. It was just what I needed to hear today.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      God Bless, Leeanne. Grief is an important topic to discuss.

  • @AngelicaGarcia-jo4lu
    @AngelicaGarcia-jo4lu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video thank you for your heartfelt understanding I needed this validation. Perfect timing. Any blessings to you.🌹

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is an important topic to discuss. God Bless!

  • @silviatallarico7412
    @silviatallarico7412 ปีที่แล้ว

    I woke up every day and I looked at theme to continue my life.

  • @pamooi4658
    @pamooi4658 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wonderful talk, thank you!!

  • @ROSALINDA-nf7pc
    @ROSALINDA-nf7pc ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Beth, Thank You for all your advice.

  • @janesaldana6269
    @janesaldana6269 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Beth.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so very welcome! It takes time to heal.

  • @nancyciampa3485
    @nancyciampa3485 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video Beth. We all need to embrace our grief.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Grief is part of life. Those of us who love will face it at one point or another.

  • @karenthorsteinson4258
    @karenthorsteinson4258 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this wonderful video, Beth! ❤️

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching, Karen.

  • @marciascott141
    @marciascott141 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s kind of strange how this particular topic showed up today, the day of a friend’s memorial service. He passed tragically and unexpectedly. AlthoughI have experienced a lot of grief in my life, this was a good review of what I need to do and help my husband with as well. Thank you.

  • @sandieneitzel254
    @sandieneitzel254 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I met my second husband ten years after divorcing my first husband. My kids were grown, and it was time for me! I met him in 2005. We got married seven months later! Everything was going great, and we bought a beautiful home together. Not even a year after we bought our home, he got pancreatitis. He was in the ICU 68 days, hooked up to a lot of machines, and in a medically induced coma. Sadly, he got sepsis, and didn’t make it. I was by his side every one of those 68 days, and lost 40 pounds due to stress. I lost him in December of 2010. We would have celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary that coming Valentines Day. I never thought I would be a widow at the age of 52, but some things we can’t control. I sold our home, and moved into a rental condo. I couldn’t even walk out the door for weeks. I had been seeing a therapist while he was hospitalized to help me cope. I ended up seeing her weekly for seven years! It’s now been thirteen years since I lost him, and I’m still living alone. I do have triggers from time to time, but have survived. I’m fortunate to have my two children and seven grandchildren living close by. I took it a day, then a month, then a year at a time. There was a point where I didn’t know whether or not I would survive, but I did! ❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God Bless, Sandie! Life can be so hard at times. xo

  • @doanetriggs5563
    @doanetriggs5563 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So, so well presented! Thank you.

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for watching.

  • @janinepettit2019
    @janinepettit2019 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I would just add to the list of tips to allow God to carry you. On days when I think I will never survive, I raise my eyes and ask Him to take the weight off my heart. He always does. If you’ve let faith slip from your life, pick it up again and humbly ask for help. ❤

  • @kimtilley7936
    @kimtilley7936 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    THANK YOU ❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are so very welcome!

  • @liuyen9862
    @liuyen9862 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you Beth,Thank you 😊❤

    • @BethDjalali
      @BethDjalali  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are very welcome!

  • @clarencejohnpattillo8802
    @clarencejohnpattillo8802 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this beautiful video.❤

  • @gladyschesnutt2674
    @gladyschesnutt2674 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are so good thanks for your video helps a lots … God is good

  • @marymccarthy2131
    @marymccarthy2131 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing