my mom passed away when i was 10, growing up without a mother makes you having difficulties showing emotions, anger also comes quicker. dont know if you guys feel the same.
I lost my mom when i was 10, i am 37 now...trying to research exactly how much fucked up i might've become. Am normal, emotionally in control but i guess i don't know the depth of love. And this is a problem when dating, i don't know how to create scenarios, demonstrate that tender loving. Another big thing is that an element of fun got wiped early in life, and now i try hard to loosen up and have fun, lol how ironic!
I know this comment is old, but I feel the exact same way. I was also 10 when my mother died, and I feel exactly as you said. I do have empathy for people, but I'm not one to cry and when I'm a little upset, I have to really fight the anger so that its not bleeding out of me.
I grew up without a mom, and I lived with a stepmom who disliked me. It took me until my middle 30s to realize that it damaged me in a way. I never knew what motherly love felt like. It started causing me problems in my relationships including my marriage, because affection felt very weird to me. I had to learn what affection is and get used to the way it feels I’m still not perfect but at least I know now and I am working towards it. I doubt I will ever be totally normal, but at least I realized the problem.
I am going through the same thing right now , and its really hard being emotionally vulnerable with anyone . It hugely affects your self esteem and open wounds that never heal . Im happy you are finding peace in your life now
I'm a single father and I wanted to get some insight on motherless boys. My sons (they are twins) mother abandoned the family before they were even one year old. I've been raising my sons alone and they seemed to be okay. I worked very hard to make sure their upbringing is balanced and for the most part worry free. They don't show anything on how not having a mother affects them but I just wonder if it does and if one day they will express it.
Sry in advance for my english not native: I can only talk about my experience here (And I do it because I never really talked about this to anyone and seeing this Post I thought well why not give it a shot ). Premise: 24 years Old, mother last seen at 7, she lives in the same city but doesnt want/ can have contact. For the most time I keep this topic in a "box". I have huge Problems trusting women. I have an irrational anger/fear towards women and expect bad things from them to happen. I feel unseen with this Pain. For me it seems that people who grow up without a father have the right to be angry at those fathers (especialy women get backed up by everyone it seems), but if i say i dont like my mother because she left me i get strange looks saying how dare I insulting my mother she has giving birth etc. Another thing is that I tried to "earn" love from women by doing everything I thought I had to in order to make them happy (mostly by giving me up). If I get to close with women I fear them leaving me and disconnect myself from them before they can. The strange thing is I seem to know exactly what women want to hear and can read them every wish from their eyes and they would always tell me how they never met someone like me but in the end I always try to "earn" the right to be loved even tho I just want to be accepted the way I am without proving it. There is a constant fear of not beeing enough or having to proove my right to exist. This results in disconnecting from other people and observing them from a safe distance. I do the same with my emotions. I observe them as part of something else but not me I can choose to feel and I dont for the most time, because of the negative emotions that would come up. I cried a lot as a child not understanding why this is happening. I still sometimes wonder about the "why" but thinking about that doesnt help. Im shure this numb feeling will never fully go away. The only things that keep me going are the following: 1. The chance that I maybe met a women that accepts me for what I am and not for what I do. 2. I dont want to be a waste so I try my best to help others And at last: cake, I would not be here sitting and writing if cake would not exist. I know how this all looks, like a drama boy who wants some attention, but i am for real, the fact that i can go to any store and get for literally no money a whole cake (wich also comes in different shapes and flavors) is insane to me. Thank you for readying have a nice day!
Man my mom walked out when I was 6 months old. Lived 20 minutes away my whole life and I wouldn’t recognize her if I seen her. I’ve always known I just don’t have much emotion. Not many highs or lows. But having my daughter has started to open me up and I’m always trying to get better for her and any future kids/relationships
My mom left when I was 10 months old. I'm 59 now. I've been married 5 times... I love women but can't seem to connect on an intimate level.. It really sucks. My only advice is to not think about it and try to be vulnerable to women.. Not easy I know..
Hey everybody! Crazy to think this video was uploaded 5 years ago. I never thought in a million years this video would reach so many others who have experienced what I have. I’ve read all of your comments and can’t express how thankful I am for you sharing your story with me. I hope the video has helped someone out there. Love you all and thank you ❤️
Would love to hear an update and follow up on how you’re dealing with this. I’m assuming we’re the same age (1997 baby) based on when u uploaded the video. Most of everything u said resonates with me bro.
My mom left when I was 3 and I’m 27 now and I still feel like it has had a big effect on me. Your video really made feel less alienated and realize I’m not the only one in the world who’s mom has left ♥️
Omydays and that part what you said about Facebook! It’s so crazy how my situation is identical 😩 like they never reach out expect on fb once in a blue moon
I am so very sorry I’m 54 and still long for the love of the parents who abandoned me as as a child . Though by looking at their childhoods their relationships with their parents / their parents parenting , I found compassion . It doesn’t excuse their actions merely helped to to understand so I could let go of what I can’t change . They my inability to forgive those who’s DNA who runs through my veins kept me a prisoner . I encourage you to investigate what their life was like as a small child, and to put your pain into something creative be at writing acting playing an instrument painting . I’m putting mine into America’s Children of grace ministries a non profit for kids like us who’s parents either walked away or passed away . Use your story to inspire other young people , often my purpose is to fill looked dinner our pain. Thank you for your courage of making this video .
Thanks. My mom died when I was 7. It was sudden it wrecked me my older brother and dad, none of us went to counseling instead we took our anger out on each other, turned the house into a war zone. Me and my brother both have domestic violence charges and neither one of us talk to our dad anymore. So painful to think how different it would be if she never died.
Mine left when i was 7. Im 30 now. Shes left my brother and dad and i to fend for ourselves. All 3 lives were ruined. Theres not many trustworthy women out there so i suggest locking one down if you find her. Good luck and keep your head up.
Arbab Khan 😖 do you explain to people, in words? Nobody can ever understand how any of is feel but the first step is to express it in words or arrt or something other than anger etc because most people personalise that anger and cannot see that its because of something else
My parents also split before I could remember. Mom lost custody and decided to move far away rather than play any role in my life. It's such a unique and painful struggle: moms rarely abandon their kids. I've felt all the same bitterness as you, especially when I was 18. I hope you're doing better now and have learned to forgive your mom and her family. Only the Lord could free me from this.
My wife left my son to China this January, we live in Brazil, he is only 3 years old... It's so sad for him... He just say no to everything, his self confidence went away with her... I am living my life for him now, trying to give him all the love that I could, but I have a feeling that will never be enough... I am so scared that this could ruin his life.... He is such a good heart, cute smart boy 😭😭😭😭 I grew up without a father and now my son will not have a mother. Only the Creator can operate now... 🙌
Hey man I just wanted to give you my feedback. We have very similar backgrounds in the sense that I lost my mom when I was 4 as well. I am 25 now so it has been about 20 years. I understand the rage too bro. There's a rage then nobody will ever understand..that I will never hug my mom..I will never be able to send her a card or a funny email or call her when things aren't going right. My dad has always only cared about his tv shows but he raised 3 boys by himself so he's a goddamn hero in my books. But here's the difference in my story, my mother was murdered.
Josh johnson Sorry to hear that , that must be awful to carry around. I wonder do you blame your mother? How has it effected your feelings towards women do you think? Sorry if the questions are too personal I'm trying to understand others one being my own father.
@@gabrielmaximus6447 no I have never blamed my Mother. I am mostly angry with the fact that my family could REALLY use her here and she is gone forever. There are a lot of alcoholics in my family and rage issues and I wonder if that would be different with her here.
My step son is going through a similar situation. His mom left on his 5th birthday and he is struggling with her not being around. He pushes everyone away that tries to get close and hurts himself and others. We have been trying to get through to him for a couple years. I am commenting because you have brought out an emotional response from him and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Thanks for the video, as a lonely father to my son I really wanted to see how it would affect my son.. She left us when he was only 1.5 years old :( worries me how he is going to handle it.. I'll do my best to make his life happy. BTW change the battery in your smoke detector, hehe
My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old. I never could get along with any step mother. I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc. Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream. You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us. I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such. Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary. Greetings from Indonesia
My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old. I never could get along with any step mother. I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc. Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream. You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us. I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such. Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary. Greetings from Indonesia
Definitely not alone man , I've lost my mom & she's been in and out of jail. I have a little sister that I grew up with and we got separated & I don't even know her now . I'm now 22 and lost with my life and it still effects me . Never will I understand why my mom left her children .
yeah i feel you-you just dont expect your parents to die and the initial shock is horrible-i know i cant see my mom again and its not like they split up
I really don't understand how a mom can do that. I grew up without a mom. And I dated this woman who had a daughter with no farther. In that little girl I saw myself. I saw her need to feel loved, I saw that empty feeling in her facial expression. I would have made the little girl my daughter. I cared about her that much. But her mom betrayed my trust.
You can never be a child's father if you didn't birth them. Stop trying to care for another man's child it will never work because once it's sour between you and the mom the relationship with you and that child will completely diminish therefore causing more hurt than good
Both my parents are refugees who’ve been through some shit. I have no memory of my father or his side of the family as a child, all I’ve seen is a picture of him with me and my mother, who has been unstable for as long as I can remember. My moms side say she wasn’t always like that. My moms been on prescription pills but it’s so hard to deal with her. Nobody, even on her side of the family can. Met my father all grown up a couple times and realized he has a.d.d. And he doesn’t want to tell me what happened. My mother isn’t so truthful either. I became an adult and it still affects me. I wouldn’t want anybody to go through these affects. I was never parented. I still don’t know what happened. I am still a lost adult.
Well done for speaking up. I hope you continue talking about it with your dad. I am single father to my daughter and twin boys. I encourage them to express their emotions regarding this issue. The key is they know why their mum moved out. Will it bring closure emotionally? No. But it has set them on a path where they are able talk freely about it.
My mom was a hardcore drug addict. I was born with pcp in my system, and the courts took me from her when I was a year old. Age 3 my dad took custody of me from the foster homes, but he was never emotionally available for me. He always made me feel like I was a mistake. I grew up never understanding who I was.
Damn sorry to hear that bro! My mom was also an addict. She shot heroin while breastfeeding me so i went into withdrawal when she stopped breastfeeding me. Ironically i became an addict myself lol
How does it affect your partner choices? Do u want secure relationships but subconsciously take the unstable ones? Very sorry. I'm very sure u are loved!
@@Calida2308 Well, I've grown to be a lot more self aware now. But my partner choices used to be based on just who was giving me the most attention at the time because it would get really intense for me. I would confuse "filling the void" with love. The infatuation would get really intense. I'm really deep into quantum mechanics and spirituality in which I've come to learn the individual is GOD and everyone and everything else in the universe is an illusion. Mirror perception. In the mirror perception, trauma does not exist. It's the realization that it is too an illusion and only exists in the belief the world exists outside of you.
Dude I'm going through the exact same thing. My mom left me when I was 6 in the first grade and I'm 17 and I'm a senior in high school getting ready to graduate. I haven't seen her once and I haven't talked to her. My dad asked me if I want her to come to my graduation and I said "I can't answer that" and now I'm thinking about saying no because I'm thinking "What is the point?" Some people also say things like "Oh well you're lucky to have a Dad because most people don't" and my response is "Well you wouldn't know what it feels like to not have a mother so I wouldn't be talking" and then they get mad at me for saying that.
I'm sorry. I grew up without dad(he died when i was just 2)😰 and i always wished to have dad. Now I'm happy thqt atleast i have a mother who handled all the situation and supports me for who i am.
I am not on the point of view of losing my parent. But I was 30 years old and lost my highschool love off of my life..She was 17. She died in 2007 on mothersday from a tic bite. We had 3 children. The youngest being 11 months at that time. I became a full blown alcoholic but all 3 of us survived. Pain will always be there for life
I feel you too, I had the moment when my stepmother harassed me and my older sister too. And my Father was and still is on her side till now. My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old. I never could get along with any step mother. I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc. Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream. You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us. I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such. Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary. Greetings from Indonesia
I know how you feel, my mom left when I was like 3 and I haven't heard from her since...hmm guess drugs were more important, I do believe she's remarried and I think she's got another kid, I hope she does better for that kid than she did me
Hi my name is Albert I now how it feels like I also growing up with out my mom she left me when I Was 2 years old and its Been 30 years since I ever Seen her and yet still haven't seen her FACEBOOK yes true the only person on her side I ever spoke to is my sister Also all my life I've been looking for her and last year 2018 I found her and we only talk once in awhile on Facebook this is weird we both have something in common I hope your doing Good keep your head up life Is not fair but we can make it better 1 day at a time I still brack down every Birthday, and every holidays Knowing she not her with me well good to now a little about you I'm here for all with same problems hope to here from you .
My mom left when I was 4 and my father raised me and three other kids on his own. He had to work hard for us and I'm 18 and I grow out of it I see all women as my mother and respect all women because I didnt have a mother. But my father thought me how to be a men and do thing on my own.
Do u want secure relationships, with someone who stays, care n appreciate but u subconsciously take the unstable ones? The ones u have to prove yourself?
My mom passed away last year and I was 12 and like I don't have like that much problem you feel like you need your mother but it is easier but my dad's like always here he would just do everything I don't like even miss my mom like I thought I would
my mom and my sister moved away when i was 12. lived with my dad until i was 18. do you ever feel like you have trouble showing emotion toward woman? and do you ever think it was your fault why it happened? I think about this all the time and still cant get over it
My kids haven't seen or heard from their mother for 10 years. I often wonder what effect it has on my kids. My son is pretty well behaved but my daughter is problem after problem. I wonder if it has anything to do with their mother being absent? Anyway, if it makes you feel any better, if your father is anything like me, he's doing the best he can at filling the void left by your mother being gone, and is probably making a lot of mistakes. But he is trying his best.
My mom moved to cali with my sister when i was 13... also my parents got divorced when i was 2. I think going through those crucial years without my mom made me develop a thick shell and I am very bad with alot of social situations. I think just growing up with my dad made me a huge introvert, but my dad did make me into a man although i do feel kind of incomplete. Its a weird thing to go through
this is so totally me! i've posted above, then scrolled to see other responses and saw yours. The 'shell' part is so real, in fact my last relationship fell apart and the reason was the 'shell'. I didn't even know which fucking shell she was referring to. Consult a psychologist or CBT for helping you with opening up bit, hope it helps buddy! Btw it's past midnight here and am stumbling upon stuff which should've seen the light of my day way earlier!
This video has been very insightful for me. My wife ran out on our 7yo son just after the New Year this very year and my son hasn't said much about it and I constantly wonder how this is impacting him. I'd appreciate any advice you can offer so that the trauma be reduced, if such a thing is possible. Power to you.
I don’t think the presence of his true mother can be replace. But I believe the best bet is to try your best to guide him as a father, show him values, be very attentive to his emotions. Also if possible try to have motherly figures (aunt, grandmother, if possible) to give him that unconditional loving presence. That’s the first things that come to the top of my head
Brother im in the same boat im 30 years old i feel you man......talk to her man.....life is jacked up but it gets better just do your thing and find happiness........im currently trying to make a video myself talking about the same thing
You're not alone brother. My mother passed away when I was 22. I never got to spend much time with her before that. Maybe 3-4 years when I was 7to11 years old. Love you bro. We are all here together. 🙏🏼❤️
i am alone dad with 3 kids, twins age 10 and a son 8.. been alone with them for almost 7 years when i left there mum. reason was that she was not a mum, she could not take care of them in a way you should take care of kids. But at least i will be honest about why i left there mum, of course i need to say this at slow pace.. and wait until they are growen up ore ask questions that they can handle.. but this hard for me, to lissen to you and i feel you.. i think my kids also will feel many things you do..but i really hope you have a dad that is there for you. and one day you will maybe be a dad yourself. And all this will make you strong as hell, and be a super dad, i am sure.. take care. thanx for the video
you will never understand why a mother could leave a child because it should NEVER HAPPEN. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have a very similar story, my mom left my family when i was 4 years old. Just know that you are who you are today because of your past. You are strong and inspire me with your courage to share.
You have anger but behind all that anger is a tremendous amount of pain, hurt, sadness, fear, and helplessness. Anger is the result of all of those emotions.
Your a strong young man! Your feelings you feel towards your mom are very normal. Try to forgive her in your heart so that you can move on. I guess learning yo accept what happened and being happy with what you do have which is your dad. Concentrate on the beautiful things God has given you. May Jesus Christ bless you and your father and that your able to live a happy fulfilling life ♥️
I lost my mom when I was only 18 months old. I don't like people pitying me because I lost her when I like to focus on the now. However, there are times in my life when I feel a mixture of emotions; Grief, anger, and pain. I am now 20, preparing to enter college shortly.
Mom and dad separated when I was 7. I have a hard time knowing how to deal with women even though I've been watching dating advice videos daily for almost a decade. Very frustrating.
My mom left me when I was two years old I still Don't even know where she's is at I feel your pain man can you do a video on what you think affects men growing up without a mother
Hey man my mother left me when I was five because of things out of my control obviously like drugs and other things. She came back and took my older sister then disappeared for about three years before she came back into my life. I thought I was lucky you know finally having my mom back and now that I’m in court with her trying to get her visitation and parental rights taken away, it caused me to look back at thing and to see that my sister hated me and she ruined my life, she mentally and physically abused my sister while I sat there and watched. Then everyone doesn’t understand how I tell them that and when they say lock her up i say no and now I can’t remember the childhood she always says I have. I’m lucky enough to have known the people on her side of the family that cared for me. But I understand the feeling of being mad at your mother but you can’t because you love her and at the same Spence you don’t. We may not be in the same situation and this may be a pointless rant but I’m glad I’m not the only one going through emotional problems because of it.
You're better off man. I'm going through the similar situation with my ex. I have a an almost three-year-old who she is willing to give up on because she is very selfish. if a human being does that to somebody that came out of their body then they are a broken piece of shit with issues that they have no business projecting onto a child...Just always remember it's not you it was her. I hope someday my son has the same attitude you have about it without the anger. Good luck
Update: So it’s a even worse situation now. I’m 19 and a sophomore in college and it’s been getting to my head. Almost two years ago I was forced to see my mom in person about a month after graduation and it was all bad. My mom looked and sounded like a totally different person and you could tell that it was from all the drugs she kept consuming. Then she tried to act like she loved me and all and in my mind I’m thinking “you literally abused me along with my dad and then abandoned me and left me with a total narcissist and abuser. My dad is no better. Not only has he kept abusing me but he also kept talking bad about my mom when he’s just as bad and they both never wanted me to even exist. Come to find out They had me by accident. Then my moms side of the family I met them around the same time I saw my mom again and now they’re acting like they love me and all and they’re all trying to connect with me on Facebook. I’m like “you guys are all just a bunch of strangers to me” and then other person I really talk to is my grandmother from my moms side. Nowadays I’m trying to move away from my dad and cut ties with almost everyone including my mom and my dad because I’m tired of all of this and it’s giving me depression and anxiety everyday and I have a whole lot of anger issues that I’ve developed over the years on top of that. Life is horrible man!! It really is.
My mom left me when i was about 1 cuz of heroin addiction. She od'd and died 9 years later when i was 10. When she died i didnt feel anything at all. Honestly, i thought it was cool so i went around bragging to my friends lol. I met her once in awhile and she was always high as a kite. She even shot heroin in front of me. I didnt really know her so i never loved her or felt any connection to her so ive never missed her. But i dont hate her either. Difficult to hate someone u dont know. But i do wonder what my life would have been like if i had a mom. C'est la vie.
I’ve got a 4yo, his mom basically went crazy and is a drug addict alcoholic who lives on the streets. For years I’ve tried to wrap my head around how a person could do this, but it goes no where, there’s no answers, it just is. Now my focus is how will this effect my son, and how can I help make it better. He’s got his grandma, but she is pretty old, and I have a gf, but they are more like friends, so no strong mother figure except perhaps his elderly grandma
Hey man I am there too dude my mom left when I was 11, I am hurt and I don't really know what too do about so I just don't do anything. Man thanks for sharing I hope you got through it
I seek love throughput my life I seek relationship desperately until 26 I understand it's all because there is a deep hole in my heart of motherless love during growing up..
My kids Mom left when he was 8 months old. I have had full custody for 4 years and he's almost 5 years old in October. This is my Son in a few years. She's a deadbeat addict.
My son and his brother have to grow up without their mom because she died randomly of a brain tumor. I believe they will both live on and move past it and I believe you will understand your mothers choice when you're older. Life happens. Death happens. Be glad she didn't get an abortion 💜
sometimes getting away from those kinds of people are best for us. i spent years and years listening to my mom scream until 3am every night, had her throw glass and knifes at me, had to go to the hospital. best thing to do is get the fuck away from it all. i live happily in an apartment in a very relaxing vibey room and i found serenity
So I have my mom still I grew up with both parents till around 8-9 years old. I caught my mom cheating in our house, so I think that’s really where I think my rage comes from cause she tore our family apart. Since birth I’ve had a strong connection to my dad, before I was born my siblings (older brother and older sister) used to say he was a menace of a dad but when I was born he changed. I moved away back to my hometown with just me n my dad. After the split and I did go back and live with my mom after she moved down here too and it was hell. She was too busy with her new relationship to care about me and my brother at the time, my sister was already starting a family and was on doing her own things, so I couldn’t relate to her plus I was only 10-11 and my siblings have a 5-6 year gap on me. Anyways domestic violence, drugs and there’s so much more I had to deal with living with her, just ruined my image of her being my mom yk? Years have gone by now I’m 20 and I’m just realizing that all of these feelings and actions I do are because the hole she left in my heart yk? I had a long convo with her when I was 18 and I thought it patched up a lot of problems and questions with her, but I still feel empty and hurt and angry it’s like I forgot what type of person she is, I call her today she doesn’t answer or is always too busy to talk for over a minute, or tells me she’s gonna call me back but never does. You know how many times I wished I just got a call from her just to tell me she loves me? Or just ask me how I’m doing? Man that shit sucks as a kid and even today, I feel like I almost hate women in these times but I don’t, I love them more then anything, and I want to have a good relationship with them. It seems subconsciously I look for women who are like a mom, that comfortability with a women that I’ve never gotten for the rest of my childhood-teenage years. My dad did and does the best he can as a father and I never will forget that, he pulled me away from her for the good 2 times in my life and I’m grateful for my dad. The only thing my dad is missing from being the ultimate parent is being that mother figure (which he cant) Btw Idk if anybody’s gonna see this but typing this all out kinda helped me really identify my problems that I have with her today. Thank you for making this video and a place where people who have these traumas can share and hopefully heal together 💙
My mom pasted away a few day before i was ONE !!! YUP ONE SHE PASTED AWAY OCT.4 MY BDAY WAS OCT.23 SO YEAH I'M ALMOST NINE I HAVE DEPPRESSION CAUSE OF IT AND I'M HATED AT SCHOOL AND YEA I'D DIE THEN NOT LET MY MOM LIVE AND YEAH YOU MIGHT THINK ASK SANDRA COOPER SANDY COOPER ON FACEBOOK I CRY AND PREY!!! FOR HER MY STORY IS WORSE I HAD TO SEND A YEAR IN FOSTER CARE LIFE SUCKS TO ME
God is THE father to the fatherless, defender of the widows in His holy sanctuary. (likewise to the motherless) He loves you with an everlasting love, He has always been there and will always be. His love for you drove Him to the greatest lengths just to bring our flawed selves back to His hly presence....and all He asks of you today is to accept Him. And to let Him loveyou with that perfect love and have His good pleasing and perfect will over your life. (I pray that whoever reads this and is yet receive Jesus as LORD -master- of their lives, makes the decision to taste and see that The LORD is good. Psalm 34)
Hey just curious if you ever asked your dad about how the breakup happened? Or what his reply has been... I’m now the single father of a 7 year old girl whose mom is now a meth addict. The mom and I were never together so the breakup in a way never happened and she’s never known us together which I suspect is better. Still very concerned about raising her right and well balanced.
I wish I could have spoken to my mom and I wish I could talk to her about my problems. My mom died when I was three and I had about five years without any women in my life. Then my dad decided to marry his girlfriend and I was so happy until they got divorced. Now she lives across town and frequently flies out to California to see her boyfriend. 😔😔😔
wow my heart goes out to you. see I'm in the same situation but vice versa, I've lost my son to his controlling father. his father has promised me for months that I would have my son with me. I'm not saying your mother is right. but maybe you should have a closure talk with her. or maybe just find out why she left. because I know not all mothers are willing to leave their babies. just a suggestion
Shaina Day I never thought of that but yes agree, but why wouldn't she keep trying, not doing so really impacts a child and forcing them to be the one to come to you their sense of worth is already rock bottom in that area and your asking them to lower it further and risk being rejected again.
@@gabrielmaximus6447 My ex pushed me out of my three sons lives- for a while. But I've steady initiated contact, sending letters and gifts. Lately I've been able to go to a concert with my 20 yr old. My middle son doesn't talk to me but he has said thank you a few times. Because I always showed love it made it easy for my youngest boy to reach out I think. I make sure he knows he is priority. But your comment, those thoughts are why I kept at it. This video 😭
How does it affect your partner choices? Do u want secure relationships but subconsciously take the unstable ones? Are u able to find love in someone appreciative?
my mom passed away when i was 10, growing up without a mother makes you having difficulties showing emotions, anger also comes quicker. dont know if you guys feel the same.
Thanks for bringing about understanding.
I lost my mom when i was 10, i am 37 now...trying to research exactly how much fucked up i might've become. Am normal, emotionally in control but i guess i don't know the depth of love. And this is a problem when dating, i don't know how to create scenarios, demonstrate that tender loving. Another big thing is that an element of fun got wiped early in life, and now i try hard to loosen up and have fun, lol how ironic!
fells sss when I was 3
I know this comment is old, but I feel the exact same way. I was also 10 when my mother died, and I feel exactly as you said. I do have empathy for people, but I'm not one to cry and when I'm a little upset, I have to really fight the anger so that its not bleeding out of me.
I feel the same ...
We men without mothers are a different breed of men.
different in what?
We are a rare breed that society wouldn't understand.
@@garystenmark3921
Please tell me more...
No one would ever understand
I grew up without a mom, and I lived with a stepmom who disliked me. It took me until my middle 30s to realize that it damaged me in a way. I never knew what motherly love felt like. It started causing me problems in my relationships including my marriage, because affection felt very weird to me. I had to learn what affection is and get used to the way it feels I’m still not perfect but at least I know now and I am working towards it. I doubt I will ever be totally normal, but at least I realized the problem.
I am going through the same thing right now , and its really hard being emotionally vulnerable with anyone . It hugely affects your self esteem and open wounds that never heal . Im happy you are finding peace in your life now
My mom left when I was about 5. It makes me feel welcome for once in my life knowing that I'm not alone here.
I'm a single father and I wanted to get some insight on motherless boys. My sons (they are twins) mother abandoned the family before they were even one year old. I've been raising my sons alone and they seemed to be okay. I worked very hard to make sure their upbringing is balanced and for the most part worry free. They don't show anything on how not having a mother affects them but I just wonder if it does and if one day they will express it.
Sry in advance for my english not native: I can only talk about my experience here (And I do it because I never really talked about this to anyone and seeing this Post I thought well why not give it a shot ).
Premise: 24 years Old, mother last seen at 7, she lives in the same city but doesnt want/ can have contact.
For the most time I keep this topic in a "box". I have huge Problems trusting women. I have an irrational anger/fear towards women and expect bad things from them to happen.
I feel unseen with this Pain. For me it seems that people who grow up without a father have the right to be angry at those fathers (especialy women get backed up by everyone it seems), but if i say i dont like my mother because she left me i get strange looks saying how dare I insulting my mother she has giving birth etc.
Another thing is that I tried to "earn" love from women by doing everything I thought I had to in order to make them happy (mostly by giving me up). If I get to close with women I fear them leaving me and disconnect myself from them before they can. The strange thing is I seem to know exactly what women want to hear and can read them every wish from their eyes and they would always tell me how they never met someone like me but in the end I always try to "earn" the right to be loved even tho I just want to be accepted the way I am without proving it. There is a constant fear of not beeing enough or having to proove my right to exist. This results in disconnecting from other people and observing them from a safe distance. I do the same with my emotions. I observe them as part of something else but not me I can choose to feel and I dont for the most time, because of the negative emotions that would come up. I cried a lot as a child not understanding why this is happening. I still sometimes wonder about the "why" but thinking about that doesnt help. Im shure this numb feeling will never fully go away. The only things that keep me going are the following:
1. The chance that I maybe met a women that accepts me for what I am and not for what I do.
2. I dont want to be a waste so I try my best to help others
And at last: cake, I would not be here sitting and writing if cake would not exist. I know how this all looks, like a drama boy who wants some attention, but i am for real, the fact that i can go to any store and get for literally no money a whole cake (wich also comes in different shapes and flavors) is insane to me.
Thank you for readying have a nice day!
Man my mom walked out when I was 6 months old. Lived 20 minutes away my whole life and I wouldn’t recognize her if I seen her. I’ve always known I just don’t have much emotion. Not many highs or lows. But having my daughter has started to open me up and I’m always trying to get better for her and any future kids/relationships
Same story here man. I fell you, it hurts, it sucks and it f-you up forever.
My mom left when I was 10 months old. I'm 59 now. I've been married 5 times... I love women but can't seem to connect on an intimate level.. It really sucks. My only advice is to not think about it and try to be vulnerable to women.. Not easy I know..
I’m sorry
Hey everybody! Crazy to think this video was uploaded 5 years ago. I never thought in a million years this video would reach so many others who have experienced what I have. I’ve read all of your comments and can’t express how thankful I am for you sharing your story with me. I hope the video has helped someone out there. Love you all and thank you ❤️
Would love to hear an update and follow up on how you’re dealing with this. I’m assuming we’re the same age (1997 baby) based on when u uploaded the video. Most of everything u said resonates with me bro.
My mom left when I was 3 and I’m 27 now and I still feel like it has had a big effect on me. Your video really made feel less alienated and realize I’m not the only one in the world who’s mom has left ♥️
Omydays and that part what you said about Facebook! It’s so crazy how my situation is identical 😩 like they never reach out expect on fb once in a blue moon
@@fea6378 I’m sorry
@@fea6378 I’m sorry
I feel you buddy !! it never goes away no matter how old you are......never
airmenz1 that's very true
I am so very sorry
I’m 54 and still long for the love of the parents who abandoned me as as a child . Though by looking at their childhoods their relationships with their parents / their parents parenting , I found compassion .
It doesn’t excuse their actions
merely helped to to understand so I could let go of what I can’t change .
They my inability to forgive those who’s DNA who runs through my veins kept me a prisoner .
I encourage you to investigate what their life was like as a small child, and to put your pain into something creative be at writing acting playing an instrument painting .
I’m putting mine into America’s Children of grace ministries
a non profit for kids like us who’s parents either walked away or passed away .
Use your story to inspire other young people , often my purpose is to fill looked dinner our pain.
Thank you for your courage of making this video .
im 43, im still crying typing this message.. i'll do everything to see my mom face again.
Thanks. My mom died when I was 7. It was sudden it wrecked me my older brother and dad, none of us went to counseling instead we took our anger out on each other, turned the house into a war zone. Me and my brother both have domestic violence charges and neither one of us talk to our dad anymore. So painful to think how different it would be if she never died.
My mom left me recently shit hurts when you live with a dad that just doesn’t really love u man. fuck
As a single father, I hear your pain. I am sorry you have to live with this. Keep on keeping on kiddo, keep swinging!
My mom passed away when I was 14 from mental illness. It got to a point where I don’t know what to believe anymore about her.
Mine left when i was 7. Im 30 now. Shes left my brother and dad and i to fend for ourselves. All 3 lives were ruined. Theres not many trustworthy women out there so i suggest locking one down if you find her. Good luck and keep your head up.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can understand your feeling but there are many good women and good mother out there. Just have fath. Lots of love
My mom left me when I was two weeks old and no one understands how I feel
Arbab Khan 😖 do you explain to people, in words? Nobody can ever understand how any of is feel but the first step is to express it in words or arrt or something other than anger etc because most people personalise that anger and cannot see that its because of something else
My mom left me when I was 2 months old
My mom left me at 10 months
Cul Gaming same here
I haven't seen mine since 2014
My parents also split before I could remember. Mom lost custody and decided to move far away rather than play any role in my life. It's such a unique and painful struggle: moms rarely abandon their kids. I've felt all the same bitterness as you, especially when I was 18. I hope you're doing better now and have learned to forgive your mom and her family. Only the Lord could free me from this.
God bless you.i hope u r living a beautiful life with the people you love and care ..
My wife left my son to China this January, we live in Brazil, he is only 3 years old... It's so sad for him... He just say no to everything, his self confidence went away with her... I am living my life for him now, trying to give him all the love that I could, but I have a feeling that will never be enough... I am so scared that this could ruin his life.... He is such a good heart, cute smart boy 😭😭😭😭
I grew up without a father and now my son will not have a mother. Only the Creator can operate now... 🙌
Hey man I just wanted to give you my feedback. We have very similar backgrounds in the sense that I lost my mom when I was 4 as well. I am 25 now so it has been about 20 years. I understand the rage too bro. There's a rage then nobody will ever understand..that I will never hug my mom..I will never be able to send her a card or a funny email or call her when things aren't going right. My dad has always only cared about his tv shows but he raised 3 boys by himself so he's a goddamn hero in my books. But here's the difference in my story, my mother was murdered.
Josh johnson Sorry to hear that , that must be awful to carry around.
I wonder do you blame your mother? How has it effected your feelings towards women do you think? Sorry if the questions are too personal I'm trying to understand others one being my own father.
@@gabrielmaximus6447 no I have never blamed my Mother. I am mostly angry with the fact that my family could REALLY use her here and she is gone forever. There are a lot of alcoholics in my family and rage issues and I wonder if that would be different with her here.
Sorry to ask but your mom got murdered by whom?
My step son is going through a similar situation. His mom left on his 5th birthday and he is struggling with her not being around. He pushes everyone away that tries to get close and hurts himself and others. We have been trying to get through to him for a couple years. I am commenting because you have brought out an emotional response from him and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Thanks for the video, as a lonely father to my son I really wanted to see how it would affect my son.. She left us when he was only 1.5 years old :( worries me how he is going to handle it.. I'll do my best to make his life happy.
BTW change the battery in your smoke detector, hehe
@isak felldin just try to be there emotionally
My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old.
I never could get along with any step mother.
I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc.
Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream.
You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us.
I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such.
Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary.
Greetings from Indonesia
It's not hard. Try to make him feel loved through female body. It maybe your mother, sister or anybody
Yo ... I felt this man
Wow. Its the first time I've ever seen the exact same situation I've ever seen. No birthday cards ..... etc...
My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old.
I never could get along with any step mother.
I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc.
Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream.
You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us.
I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such.
Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary.
Greetings from Indonesia
Definitely not alone man , I've lost my mom & she's been in and out of jail. I have a little sister that I grew up with and we got separated & I don't even know her now . I'm now 22 and lost with my life and it still effects me . Never will I understand why my mom left her children .
How does it affect your partner choices? Do u want secure relationships but subconsciously take the unstable ones?
My mom passed away when I was 11 turning 12, it gets really hard.
yeah i feel you-you just dont expect your parents to die and the initial shock is horrible-i know i cant see my mom again and its not like they split up
I can relate to this so fucking much bro my “mom” did the same thing. stay strong g
Thank you for the video. I just started dealing with this issue myself at 30.
damn my nigga Crucial hold ya head up! ✊
I really don't understand how a mom can do that. I grew up without a mom. And I dated this woman who had a daughter with no farther. In that little girl I saw myself. I saw her need to feel loved, I saw that empty feeling in her facial expression. I would have made the little girl my daughter. I cared about her that much. But her mom betrayed my trust.
You can never be a child's father if you didn't birth them. Stop trying to care for another man's child it will never work because once it's sour between you and the mom the relationship with you and that child will completely diminish therefore causing more hurt than good
woow how is going now?
Both my parents are refugees who’ve been through some shit. I have no memory of my father or his side of the family as a child, all I’ve seen is a picture of him with me and my mother, who has been unstable for as long as I can remember. My moms side say she wasn’t always like that. My moms been on prescription pills but it’s so hard to deal with her. Nobody, even on her side of the family can. Met my father all grown up a couple times and realized he has a.d.d. And he doesn’t want to tell me what happened. My mother isn’t so truthful either. I became an adult and it still affects me. I wouldn’t want anybody to go through these affects. I was never parented. I still don’t know what happened. I am still a lost adult.
Thanks for making this post. I know the deeper feelings you have are just indescribable.
Thank you for sharing this video. It may not be easy to talk about but there are people out there that need to see this. 🙌
Well done for speaking up. I hope you continue talking about it with your dad.
I am single father to my daughter and twin boys. I encourage them to express their emotions regarding this issue. The key is they know why their mum moved out. Will it bring closure emotionally? No. But it has set them on a path where they are able talk freely about it.
My mom was a hardcore drug addict. I was born with pcp in my system, and the courts took me from her when I was a year old. Age 3 my dad took custody of me from the foster homes, but he was never emotionally available for me. He always made me feel like I was a mistake. I grew up never understanding who I was.
Damn sorry to hear that bro! My mom was also an addict. She shot heroin while breastfeeding me so i went into withdrawal when she stopped breastfeeding me. Ironically i became an addict myself lol
@@jadecleveland865 I’m sorry
How does it affect your partner choices? Do u want secure relationships but subconsciously take the unstable ones?
Very sorry. I'm very sure u are loved!
@@Calida2308 Well, I've grown to be a lot more self aware now. But my partner choices used to be based on just who was giving me the most attention at the time because it would get really intense for me. I would confuse "filling the void" with love. The infatuation would get really intense. I'm really deep into quantum mechanics and spirituality in which I've come to learn the individual is GOD and everyone and everything else in the universe is an illusion. Mirror perception. In the mirror perception, trauma does not exist. It's the realization that it is too an illusion and only exists in the belief the world exists outside of you.
@@ryanthomas2209 so u choosed partners who used to be loving n kind?
I understand this so much, the same thing happened to me.
Dude I'm going through the exact same thing. My mom left me when I was 6 in the first grade and I'm 17 and I'm a senior in high school getting ready to graduate. I haven't seen her once and I haven't talked to her. My dad asked me if I want her to come to my graduation and I said "I can't answer that" and now I'm thinking about saying no because I'm thinking "What is the point?" Some people also say things like "Oh well you're lucky to have a Dad because most people don't" and my response is "Well you wouldn't know what it feels like to not have a mother so I wouldn't be talking" and then they get mad at me for saying that.
I’m sorry
@@nuuraabdulkadir3217 it’s ok, when everything goes as planned I’m just gonna eliminate myself from everything.
I'm sorry. I grew up without dad(he died when i was just 2)😰 and i always wished to have dad. Now I'm happy thqt atleast i have a mother who handled all the situation and supports me for who i am.
@@pa4760 I’m so sorry for your loss
I am not on the point of view of losing my parent. But I was 30 years old and lost my highschool love off of my life..She was 17. She died in 2007 on mothersday from a tic bite. We had 3 children. The youngest being 11 months at that time. I became a full blown alcoholic but all 3 of us survived. Pain will always be there for life
Ive grown up and ive never been able to say mum and seeing all my friends say it. I feel like its not fair but you know...
Same with me
Love you baby
I feel you too, I had the moment when my stepmother harassed me and my older sister too.
And my Father was and still is on her side till now.
My Mother passed away at her 27 years old age with my just born younger sister after birth delivery, I was just 2 years and 8 months old.
I never could get along with any step mother.
I went living around the world on my own alone since 11 years old including in Middle East, Europe, etc.
Yes, without Mother we are much stronger than weak mainstream.
You're stronger than you think and than what people misjudged us.
I missed her a lot too, but you know what no one really die, it's just the temporary humanly body died but the Soul is eternal. My Father told me lately when I was a child many noticed me that I talked to my Mother and sometimes She left marks to my Aunties. Like leaving her palm trace on flour dough and such.
Life is bitter indeed but this all is temporary even happiness is also temporary.
Greetings from Indonesia
I know how you feel, my mom left when I was like 3 and I haven't heard from her since...hmm guess drugs were more important, I do believe she's remarried and I think she's got another kid, I hope she does better for that kid than she did me
That likely sounds just like my older brother on my mom's side 💀💀💀 she left him at 2 or 3 and then married my dad and had me this is crazy
i have a very similar story. My mom left my family when i was 4 years old for her drugs.
my dad did that and my mom left for drugs
@@AprilEscobar I’m sorry
@@AprilEscobar I’m sorry
Beautiful Video. Thank you for sharing your story.
Power and I do pray that one day you do start to swing bro God bless
I’m 28 still haven’t seen my mom in the flesh since I was 3 . I’m still tryna figure myself out still at this age
Hi my name is Albert I now how it feels like I also growing up with out my mom she left me when I
Was 2 years old and its
Been 30 years since I ever
Seen her and yet still haven't seen her FACEBOOK yes true the only person on her side I ever spoke to is my sister
Also all my life I've been looking for her and last year
2018 I found her and we only talk once in awhile on
Facebook this is weird we both have something in common I hope your doing
Good keep your head up life
Is not fair but we can make it better 1 day at a time I still brack down every Birthday, and every holidays
Knowing she not her with me well good to now a little about you I'm here for all with same problems hope to here from you .
My mom left when I was 4 and my father raised me and three other kids on his own. He had to work hard for us and I'm 18 and I grow out of it I see all women as my mother and respect all women because I didnt have a mother. But my father thought me how to be a men and do thing on my own.
Thanks for sharing bro. Grew up without my mom as well, I've always sort of wondered what effect that may have had on me in relationships as an adult
Do u want secure relationships, with someone who stays, care n appreciate but u subconsciously take the unstable ones? The ones u have to prove yourself?
I've been looking for someone in a similar situation as me coz my mum died of cancer when I was 3 and my little bro was 1 I am now 15
My mom passed away last year and I was 12 and like I don't have like that much problem you feel like you need your mother but it is easier but my dad's like always here he would just do everything I don't like even miss my mom like I thought I would
my mom and my sister moved away when i was 12. lived with my dad until i was 18. do you ever feel like you have trouble showing emotion toward woman? and do you ever think it was your fault why it happened? I think about this all the time and still cant get over it
Absolutely I get nervous around some and despise others but deep down I do want to have those deep connections
My kids haven't seen or heard from their mother for 10 years. I often wonder what effect it has on my kids. My son is pretty well behaved but my daughter is problem after problem. I wonder if it has anything to do with their mother being absent? Anyway, if it makes you feel any better, if your father is anything like me, he's doing the best he can at filling the void left by your mother being gone, and is probably making a lot of mistakes. But he is trying his best.
Have they asked about her of so why and how often?
I’m sorry
My mom moved to cali with my sister when i was 13... also my parents got divorced when i was 2. I think going through those crucial years without my mom made me develop a thick shell and I am very bad with alot of social situations. I think just growing up with my dad made me a huge introvert, but my dad did make me into a man although i do feel kind of incomplete. Its a weird thing to go through
this is so totally me! i've posted above, then scrolled to see other responses and saw yours. The 'shell' part is so real, in fact my last relationship fell apart and the reason was the 'shell'. I didn't even know which fucking shell she was referring to. Consult a psychologist or CBT for helping you with opening up bit, hope it helps buddy! Btw it's past midnight here and am stumbling upon stuff which should've seen the light of my day way earlier!
This video has been very insightful for me. My wife ran out on our 7yo son just after the New Year this very year and my son hasn't said much about it and I constantly wonder how this is impacting him. I'd appreciate any advice you can offer so that the trauma be reduced, if such a thing is possible.
Power to you.
I don’t think the presence of his true mother can be replace. But I believe the best bet is to try your best to guide him as a father, show him values, be very attentive to his emotions. Also if possible try to have motherly figures (aunt, grandmother, if possible) to give him that unconditional loving presence. That’s the first things that come to the top of my head
I’m sorry
Brother im in the same boat im 30 years old i feel you man......talk to her man.....life is jacked up but it gets better just do your thing and find happiness........im currently trying to make a video myself talking about the same thing
You're not alone brother. My mother passed away when I was 22. I never got to spend much time with her before that. Maybe 3-4 years when I was 7to11 years old. Love you bro. We are all here together. 🙏🏼❤️
I haven't seen my since i was 7 now 16 living with a strict dad that shows no emotionally love.
my mom died when i was 8-no one i know understands and its nice ig to see other people like me
i am alone dad with 3 kids, twins age 10 and a son 8.. been alone with them for almost 7 years when i left there mum. reason was that she was not a mum, she could not take care of them in a way you should take care of kids. But at least i will be honest about why i left there mum, of course i need to say this at slow pace.. and wait until they are growen up ore ask questions that they can handle.. but this hard for me, to lissen to you and i feel you.. i think my kids also will feel many things you do..but i really hope you have a dad that is there for you. and one day you will maybe be a dad yourself. And all this will make you strong as hell, and be a super dad, i am sure.. take care. thanx for the video
you will never understand why a mother could leave a child because it should NEVER HAPPEN. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have a very similar story, my mom left my family when i was 4 years old. Just know that you are who you are today because of your past. You are strong and inspire me with your courage to share.
You know without mother life like hell.Now amm 18 I lost my mom when I was 14 😑I still miss her😢
Played man that took guts
You have anger but behind all that anger is a tremendous amount of pain, hurt, sadness, fear, and helplessness. Anger is the result of all of those emotions.
Your a strong young man! Your feelings you feel towards your mom are very normal. Try to forgive her in your heart so that you can move on. I guess learning yo accept what happened and being happy with what you do have which is your dad. Concentrate on the beautiful things God has given you. May Jesus Christ bless you and your father and that your able to live a happy fulfilling life ♥️
I lost my mom when I was only 18 months old. I don't like people pitying me because I lost her when I like to focus on the now. However, there are times in my life when I feel a mixture of emotions; Grief, anger, and pain. I am now 20, preparing to enter college shortly.
Deep stuff good video man hope you doing well
Mom and dad separated when I was 7. I have a hard time knowing how to deal with women even though I've been watching dating advice videos daily for almost a decade. Very frustrating.
My mom left me when I was two years old I still Don't even know where she's is at I feel your pain man can you do a video on what you think affects men growing up without a mother
Hey man my mother left me when I was five because of things out of my control obviously like drugs and other things. She came back and took my older sister then disappeared for about three years before she came back into my life. I thought I was lucky you know finally having my mom back and now that I’m in court with her trying to get her visitation and parental rights taken away, it caused me to look back at thing and to see that my sister hated me and she ruined my life, she mentally and physically abused my sister while I sat there and watched. Then everyone doesn’t understand how I tell them that and when they say lock her up i say no and now I can’t remember the childhood she always says I have. I’m lucky enough to have known the people on her side of the family that cared for me. But I understand the feeling of being mad at your mother but you can’t because you love her and at the same Spence you don’t. We may not be in the same situation and this may be a pointless rant but I’m glad I’m not the only one going through emotional problems because of it.
I'm raising two children without thier mom (2 and 3 girl and boy), what do you think I should tell them and when did you start to care?
Nothing is perfect in this world if you are with your dad, be glad he was there for you.
You're better off man. I'm going through the similar situation with my ex. I have a an almost three-year-old who she is willing to give up on because she is very selfish. if a human being does that to somebody that came out of their body then they are a broken piece of shit with issues that they have no business projecting onto a child...Just always remember it's not you it was her. I hope someday my son has the same attitude you have about it without the anger. Good luck
Update: So it’s a even worse situation now. I’m 19 and a sophomore in college and it’s been getting to my head. Almost two years ago I was forced to see my mom in person about a month after graduation and it was all bad. My mom looked and sounded like a totally different person and you could tell that it was from all the drugs she kept consuming. Then she tried to act like she loved me and all and in my mind I’m thinking “you literally abused me along with my dad and then abandoned me and left me with a total narcissist and abuser. My dad is no better. Not only has he kept abusing me but he also kept talking bad about my mom when he’s just as bad and they both never wanted me to even exist. Come to find out They had me by accident. Then my moms side of the family I met them around the same time I saw my mom again and now they’re acting like they love me and all and they’re all trying to connect with me on Facebook. I’m like “you guys are all just a bunch of strangers to me” and then other person I really talk to is my grandmother from my moms side. Nowadays I’m trying to move away from my dad and cut ties with almost everyone including my mom and my dad because I’m tired of all of this and it’s giving me depression and anxiety everyday and I have a whole lot of anger issues that I’ve developed over the years on top of that. Life is horrible man!! It really is.
My mom left me when i was about 1 cuz of heroin addiction. She od'd and died 9 years later when i was 10. When she died i didnt feel anything at all. Honestly, i thought it was cool so i went around bragging to my friends lol. I met her once in awhile and she was always high as a kite. She even shot heroin in front of me. I didnt really know her so i never loved her or felt any connection to her so ive never missed her. But i dont hate her either. Difficult to hate someone u dont know. But i do wonder what my life would have been like if i had a mom. C'est la vie.
I’ve got a 4yo, his mom basically went crazy and is a drug addict alcoholic who lives on the streets. For years I’ve tried to wrap my head around how a person could do this, but it goes no where, there’s no answers, it just is. Now my focus is how will this effect my son, and how can I help make it better. He’s got his grandma, but she is pretty old, and I have a gf, but they are more like friends, so no strong mother figure except perhaps his elderly grandma
Hey man I am there too dude my mom left when I was 11, I am hurt and I don't really know what too do about so I just don't do anything. Man thanks for sharing I hope you got through it
I seek love throughput my life I seek relationship desperately until 26 I understand it's all because there is a deep hole in my heart of motherless love during growing up..
My kids Mom left when he was 8 months old. I have had full custody for 4 years and he's almost 5 years old in October. This is my Son in a few years. She's a deadbeat addict.
Holy shit! You're saying my life😲😲
I'm dealing with the same thing my mom left when I was 6 for 13 years.
My son and his brother have to grow up without their mom because she died randomly of a brain tumor. I believe they will both live on and move past it and I believe you will understand your mothers choice when you're older. Life happens. Death happens. Be glad she didn't get an abortion 💜
sometimes getting away from those kinds of people are best for us. i spent years and years listening to my mom scream until 3am every night, had her throw glass and knifes at me, had to go to the hospital. best thing to do is get the fuck away from it all. i live happily in an apartment in a very relaxing vibey room and i found serenity
So I have my mom still I grew up with both parents till around 8-9 years old. I caught my mom cheating in our house, so I think that’s really where I think my rage comes from cause she tore our family apart. Since birth I’ve had a strong connection to my dad, before I was born my siblings (older brother and older sister) used to say he was a menace of a dad but when I was born he changed. I moved away back to my hometown with just me n my dad. After the split and I did go back and live with my mom after she moved down here too and it was hell. She was too busy with her new relationship to care about me and my brother at the time, my sister was already starting a family and was on doing her own things, so I couldn’t relate to her plus I was only 10-11 and my siblings have a 5-6 year gap on me. Anyways domestic violence, drugs and there’s so much more I had to deal with living with her, just ruined my image of her being my mom yk? Years have gone by now I’m 20 and I’m just realizing that all of these feelings and actions I do are because the hole she left in my heart yk? I had a long convo with her when I was 18 and I thought it patched up a lot of problems and questions with her, but I still feel empty and hurt and angry it’s like I forgot what type of person she is, I call her today she doesn’t answer or is always too busy to talk for over a minute, or tells me she’s gonna call me back but never does. You know how many times I wished I just got a call from her just to tell me she loves me? Or just ask me how I’m doing? Man that shit sucks as a kid and even today, I feel like I almost hate women in these times but I don’t, I love them more then anything, and I want to have a good relationship with them. It seems subconsciously I look for women who are like a mom, that comfortability with a women that I’ve never gotten for the rest of my childhood-teenage years. My dad did and does the best he can as a father and I never will forget that, he pulled me away from her for the good 2 times in my life and I’m grateful for my dad. The only thing my dad is missing from being the ultimate parent is being that mother figure (which he cant)
Btw Idk if anybody’s gonna see this but typing this all out kinda helped me really identify my problems that I have with her today.
Thank you for making this video and a place where people who have these traumas can share and hopefully heal together 💙
My mom pasted away a few day before i was ONE !!! YUP ONE
SHE PASTED AWAY OCT.4 MY BDAY WAS OCT.23 SO YEAH I'M ALMOST NINE I HAVE DEPPRESSION CAUSE OF IT AND I'M HATED AT SCHOOL AND YEA I'D DIE THEN NOT LET MY MOM LIVE AND YEAH YOU MIGHT THINK ASK SANDRA COOPER SANDY COOPER ON FACEBOOK
I CRY AND PREY!!! FOR HER MY STORY IS WORSE I HAD TO SEND A YEAR IN FOSTER CARE LIFE SUCKS TO ME
A kno how u feel Ma mom left when I was a baby like a month old cos I was a girl and not a boy
I feel you mate big love ❤️ my mother commited suicide when I was 3, practically ruined my life and the way I am able to navigate life tbh
I grew up with out a mother. I was adopted. The “adopted mother” took off
God is the Mother and Father to children without parents
Ya true we all are motherless morons crying for her all our life
4 years ago and still one dislike, and we all now from who
That dislike is one of the mothers who left their kid
i appreciate these
+JamiesProductions *this
God is THE father to the fatherless, defender of the widows in His holy sanctuary. (likewise to the motherless)
He loves you with an everlasting love, He has always been there and will always be. His love for you drove Him to the greatest lengths just to bring our flawed selves back to His hly presence....and all He asks of you today is to accept Him. And to let Him loveyou with that perfect love and have His good pleasing and perfect will over your life.
(I pray that whoever reads this and is yet receive Jesus as LORD -master- of their lives, makes the decision to taste and see that The LORD is good. Psalm 34)
Hey just curious if you ever asked your dad about how the breakup happened? Or what his reply has been... I’m now the single father of a 7 year old girl whose mom is now a meth addict. The mom and I were never together so the breakup in a way never happened and she’s never known us together which I suspect is better. Still very concerned about raising her right and well balanced.
Well you're doing great but make sure your daughter gets motherly love from any women. Maybe she has aunt.
I wish I could have spoken to my mom and I wish I could talk to her about my problems. My mom died when I was three and I had about five years without any women in my life. Then my dad decided to marry his girlfriend and I was so happy until they got divorced. Now she lives across town and frequently flies out to California to see her boyfriend. 😔😔😔
wow my heart goes out to you. see I'm in the same situation but vice versa, I've lost my son to his controlling father. his father has promised me for months that I would have my son with me. I'm not saying your mother is right. but maybe you should have a closure talk with her. or maybe just find out why she left. because I know not all mothers are willing to leave their babies. just a suggestion
Shaina Day I never thought of that but yes agree, but why wouldn't she keep trying, not doing so really impacts a child and forcing them to be the one to come to you their sense of worth is already rock bottom in that area and your asking them to lower it further and risk being rejected again.
@@gabrielmaximus6447 My ex pushed me out of my three sons lives- for a while. But I've steady initiated contact, sending letters and gifts. Lately I've been able to go to a concert with my 20 yr old. My middle son doesn't talk to me but he has said thank you a few times. Because I always showed love it made it easy for my youngest boy to reach out I think. I make sure he knows he is priority. But your comment, those thoughts are why I kept at it. This video 😭
imagine in the early 2000s or late 90s when there was no facebook
How could a mother leave a little kid? The question .
Hey, love your videos man.
Thanks!
How does it affect your partner choices? Do u want secure relationships but subconsciously take the unstable ones? Are u able to find love in someone appreciative?
You are trying to find partner that will not do the same to your kids as some sort of defense mechanism.
Sorry to hear about this, does he have a step-mom? Someone he can look up too as a motherly figure?
I found my mom and forced her to accept me, i have never said the word "mom" to her i never could