Being clingy also shows: * lack of confidence * dependency like a child * fear of unpredictability * controlling behaviour * confusion and insecurity * low self esteem Definitely a turn off for a man.
Borderline here with abandonment issues. I have a fearful avoidant attachment but I feel for those who have BPD with anxious attachments AND the strong fear of abandonment.
My mother was an abusive morbidly obese single mother of 5 and my father was an absent alcoholic. My parents messed my head up bad ! I’m 25 now and I’m still learning to not go into child mode when I’m with a man I really like. I have some healing to do ❤️🩹
Hmm. Another borderline here. I back away when I feel overwhelmed. I like to be on my own. (41) I'd love to have someone and I hope I've hit the jackpot.. if not, Ill be ok.
Advice for anxious attachers; Look for someone secure and stop chasing dismissives Emotional attunement is a real thing and won’t be fixed by tactics & tips
The problem is that for most ppl with anxious attachment, even the most secure partners can seem dismissive. Trust me..I've been with guys with anxious attachment, and u can never give them enough attention:((
@@blueblaze9862 i get that and agree . I’m anxious- avoidant or FA. it’s good to learn ways to self soothe, like somatic therapy , superficial fixes won’t help the nervous system response in the long run
You’re right, Clingy is a huge turn off, but I rather be myself than constantly put myself in check. If the guy still wants you and finds it cute or gets you he won’t run away.
I’m really hoping the more I meditate, the more my confidence will rise. Also taking a break from social media. As I got more mature I am way less clingy plus thanks to your videos! It’s been 3 days of no social media & I feel so much more in tune with myself & present in the moment
I always tell everyone I meet or walk by a quick hello! And then have a great day! I’m often criticized about this. But I feel that I genuinely love spreading happiness even to strangers. Love to all y’all!
Amazing video, one of your best ever in my opinion. You've helped me and untold hundreds of other people A LOT, and I'm so glad you're fulfilling your life's purpose by helping us grow .. If I may be so bold as to speak for the overwhelming majority of your listeners as a group, we are deeply grateful for you choosing to share your knowledge, strength and wisdom for our benefi.
Thankyou for making dating advice content that’s deeper than just the surface-level and really gets you to examine why you have certain compulsions bc once you understand the root of it you can improve it
Oh My God ! That’s brilliant. I don’t know why it never crossed my mind. I changed careers and went back to school to be a nurse, hospice mostly, caregiver… You are on hundred percent right.
The Section When you said " Love comes from yourself " and you banged on your chest like that made me laugh i literally felt like you were talking to me and my stubborn self through the screen LOL!!
The song you're referring to at 23:30 is called Gymnopedie No. 1 by Erik Satie. There's also a Gymnopedie No. 2 and Gymnopedie No. 3. Also, I highly recommend his songs called Gnossienne No. 1-8. Beautiful music and one of my favorite pianist/composers! I'm also a huge fan of Claude Debussy which I noticed you play Claire de Lune a lot in your videos. 😊
I've probably already screwed up my current relationship But this video made me see my attachment style and why. Its crazy how so many things go back to our childhood. Thanks Alex. I thought I was healed from past trauma. Obviously, I was wrong.
I just want people to understand Alex has never taught anyone how to play games. For years its been about learning how to reading the room, playing your position and practicing stoicism! Emphasis on the stoicism because it takes alot of self awareness to be a stoic person in general. The one that has the most self control had the power… That is a general power play amongst humans theres nothing malignant about that,
I still think when a person really loves you they will work with you through your attachment style. Sometimes the crazy comes out before a person can genuinely feel for you so they run.
Wow! You blow my mind as your video's & views on things. Are very intense I am sure you are helping so many individuals. Thank you for your insight, as it is much appreciated. J 👏💯🙌❤️
East london?! Woop!🎉Are you coming alone to london??? Will you record everything on youtube? What if i cant come to it?! It would be lovely to meet you though ❤
Dalexis I love your channel but please understand that that poor baby on the plane most likely had ear pressure pain, which is very painful! It’s almost like ear infection (otitis). Parents should be told to make the baby drink during takeoff and landing to compensate for the strong pressure. Please don’t hate on that poor baby, her only fault was that her parents didn’t know this… 🤗
Been watching your videos for YEARS lol 😅😆 you created a MONSTER
Facts!!!!!!
@@rachelllamas6331 lmfao 5 years to be exact 🤣🤣🤣 The practice runs I've done just to see if it worked. 😭 I'm going straight to hell!
Almost two years watching father Alex. I'm a monster too now. 👌👌👌🤣
😂😂 been watching since 2019 & omg ., I’m a thug now 😭
Agreed lmfaoooo I love it the feeling of being so unmoveable
Being clingy also shows:
* lack of confidence
* dependency like a child
* fear of unpredictability
* controlling behaviour
* confusion and insecurity
* low self esteem
Definitely a turn off for a man.
Not only for men for women too😂
This sounds like my bf
Borderline here with abandonment issues. I have a fearful avoidant attachment but I feel for those who have BPD with anxious attachments AND the strong fear of abandonment.
My mother was an abusive morbidly obese single mother of 5 and my father was an absent alcoholic. My parents messed my head up bad ! I’m 25 now and I’m still learning to not go into child mode when I’m with a man I really like. I have some healing to do ❤️🩹
Hmm. Another borderline here. I back away when I feel overwhelmed. I like to be on my own. (41)
I'd love to have someone and I hope I've hit the jackpot.. if not, Ill be ok.
Advice for anxious attachers;
Look for someone secure and stop chasing dismissives
Emotional attunement is a real thing and won’t be fixed by tactics & tips
The problem is that for most ppl with anxious attachment, even the most secure partners can seem dismissive. Trust me..I've been with guys with anxious attachment, and u can never give them enough attention:((
@@blueblaze9862 i get that and agree . I’m anxious- avoidant or FA. it’s good to learn ways to self soothe, like somatic therapy , superficial fixes won’t help the nervous system response in the long run
@@Nightswim_ That's true
Pp
You’re right, Clingy is a huge turn off, but I rather be myself than constantly put myself in check. If the guy still wants you and finds it cute or gets you he won’t run away.
I’m really hoping the more I meditate, the more my confidence will rise. Also taking a break from social media. As I got more mature I am way less clingy plus thanks to your videos! It’s been 3 days of no social media & I feel so much more in tune with myself & present in the moment
I always tell everyone I meet or walk by a quick hello! And then have a great day! I’m often criticized about this. But I feel that I genuinely love spreading happiness even to strangers. Love to all y’all!
Nice girls finish last. People will see you beneath them. Human nature is dangerous. You will be taken for granted. Always say less than necessary
Amazing video, one of your best ever in my opinion. You've helped me and untold hundreds of other people A LOT, and I'm so glad you're fulfilling your life's purpose by helping us grow .. If I may be so bold as to speak for the overwhelming majority of your listeners as a group, we are deeply grateful for you choosing to share your knowledge, strength and wisdom for our benefi.
I AGREE. 100%
Thankyou for making dating advice content that’s deeper than just the surface-level and really gets you to examine why you have certain compulsions bc once you understand the root of it you can improve it
Oh My God ! That’s brilliant. I don’t know why it never crossed my mind. I changed careers and went back to school to be a nurse, hospice mostly, caregiver…
You are on hundred percent right.
The part when you said “think, feel and be still” I like that.
Thanks Alex. You’re helping me heal myself one video at a time.
I just love this channel!❤️ Pure gold
The Section When you said " Love comes from yourself " and you banged on your chest like that made me laugh i literally felt like you were talking to me and my stubborn self through the screen LOL!!
Man, i love watching ur channel, i wish 1 day that some1 will say that about my dating content, i gotta keep grinding til then
Thanks for this. Watching this and self reflecting was therapeutic for me!
The 3 strategies at the end, incredible. You have so much Heart ❤️ Dalexis . Gracias 🤩
The song you're referring to at 23:30 is called Gymnopedie No. 1 by Erik Satie. There's also a Gymnopedie No. 2 and Gymnopedie No. 3. Also, I highly recommend his songs called Gnossienne No. 1-8. Beautiful music and one of my favorite pianist/composers! I'm also a huge fan of Claude Debussy which I noticed you play Claire de Lune a lot in your videos. 😊
video is gorgeous. Every time it gets better. Thank you for your help and inspiration.
I've probably already screwed up my current relationship But this video made me see my attachment style and why. Its crazy how so many things go back to our childhood.
Thanks Alex. I thought I was healed from past trauma. Obviously, I was wrong.
One of your best videos! This was perfect timing!
You’re amazing 💜 so entertaining and wise that I’m learning a lot from you and enjoying every single video.
Thank you ❤ You give Big Brother advice 🎀‼️
This videos is right on time! Thank you ❤
Genius 🫶🏽
Thank you for helping us!
You’re saving lives out here Alex 🫶🏽✨
I just want people to understand Alex has never taught anyone how to play games. For years its been about learning how to reading the room, playing your position and practicing stoicism! Emphasis on the stoicism because it takes alot of self awareness to be a stoic person in general. The one that has the most self control had the power… That is a general power play amongst humans theres nothing malignant about that,
Exactly. It's like teaching martial arts. You can say I'm teaching you how to kill or I'm teaching you self-defense.
When you played Eric Carte I wasn’t looking and thought it was you doing his voice, like how you be doing Tyrone and the chic voice lol
This is profound ❤️🔥
Love it this video is fantastic
I’m this way, I control it very well though. But I get really sad but I don’t start trouble or anything but I have this problem and I hate it
You're awsome. Loved this one~
Beautiful!!!
this vid is well done. great explanation of a common way of being 🙏
The baby started crying on the airplane because of the pressure in its ears
Great video dalexis !
Thank you so much for this video, this video made me subscribe immediately. Binge watching you today 👏
I needed this ❤❤❤
Love from Pakistan❤ learnt a lot from your videos!!
I appreciate you Alex. ❤
I still think when a person really loves you they will work with you through your attachment style. Sometimes the crazy comes out before a person can genuinely feel for you so they run.
Thank you
Oh my God i’m clingy! 😢
Thank you for this
Can we have more videos on Anxious attachment style please!
Attachment theories and object relations theory and maybe articles on relational psychotherapy are my suggestions for you
I love how you set up your videos and the music you’ve added in the background.
Love this guy ❤
Where does he get these voices ???? Is this Tyron ?
I laaa love Robert Greene
It was probably the baby's ears were not clearing and thats why baby was crying then stopped at landing.
Oh granny is always up to something 😂
Wow! You blow my mind as your video's & views on things. Are very intense I am sure you are helping so many individuals. Thank you for your insight, as it is much appreciated. J 👏💯🙌❤️
I need help ,I am screaming for help 😢, I am struggling with everything you are saying 😊
Sigh I just want to stop chasing love. I don’t want to feel like I need to be in love. Don’t know what’s wrong with me.
East london?! Woop!🎉Are you coming alone to london??? Will you record everything on youtube? What if i cant come to it?! It would be lovely to meet you though ❤
Your fine
Ah shit I'm clingey 🙈 but it's like only for people I really like asides from that im mostly aloof
I think you mean gymnopedie by Satie 😂 “gym something”
- a classical musician
Hey Alex any chance you can come to Tampa, FL ?
Come to Miami. That's where I'm having it.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0 I didn’t see a date in Miami. Did I miss it ?
Granny is getting busy still
You mean That vulnerability is a Sign of weaknedd
Did you delete your Instagram page? Why? 😢
There is no right way to love the wrong person
What’s the movie from 1:43
The most hated baby🤣🤣
Will you come to Manchester one time
What is the audio that you’re listening to in those clips w the man explaining things?
Lol. I get it because I understand the ignorance lol 🤱
Can you do a video on if someone leaves a relationship and jumps to a rebound and what the dumpee should do?
23:06
What if he’s the one that’s clingy 👀
Watching father alex i become high value women men try to chase me more lol and me no cares at all lol
Is Alex a Pisces, Taurus, Aquarius?
virgo
Babies don't cry to piss you off
Obviously but it doesn’t make it less annoying though.
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Dalexis I love your channel but please understand that that poor baby on the plane most likely had ear pressure pain, which is very painful!
It’s almost like ear infection (otitis). Parents should be told to make the baby drink during takeoff and landing to compensate for the strong pressure. Please don’t hate on that poor baby, her only fault was that her parents didn’t know this… 🤗
I saw the babies eyes and looked at its soul, it knew what it was doing lol
Stop using celebrities photos
Nope lol
@@MindfulAttraction2.0😂
@@MindfulAttraction2.0😂
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I’m I’m
Baby Orangutans ❤
What do you mean
LOL 🤣🤣🤣
I love you, but stop whispering - respectfully !!!!! you’ve changed WHY
Super helpful ❤ appreciate your help. Really healing the world! ❤️🩹
I messaged you on Instagram ❤