I went out alone Saturday night and got 4 numbers. 2 of the numbers I got when they were standing next to each other. One got jealous. Confidence is the key. Be classy and enjoy your own company & they will come!
Let me just say, the writing thing works!! I've done this with my laptop and guys have come over to me asking if im an author or what I'm writing. The notebook is probably even more mysterious... I'm going to get the courage to do this!!
I usually go out alone but when i tell people that they think I'm are weird ... but i 100% agree with you .When you ride solo guys approach you with ease and as the saying go ; "Show me your friends and ill show you who you are" and as much as we love our GF sometimes they can deflect the kind of guy you want to attract .It has happened to me and if you are alone one of the two is going to happen 1. You attract a really forward guy who won't leave that easy lol 2. A quality guy or the shy guy and if they are too afraid to approach you .. oh well their loss :)
You make me love being a woman and learning to be feminine. I always wanted to be a wife, but never knew how to be one. I’m working on it one day at a time, thank you!
I just found out you make advice videos and I just want to say thank you. I just broke up with a man that made me pay for dates, massage him, etc without me getting anything in return. I tell my friends I want a guy to pay for me and they ask me isn't that gold digging? You made me see that a lot of men have women fooled to think they are being selfish to ask for respect. I admire you a lot.
@@allenellsworth5799 Just wanted to update everyone that sees this that I am now married to a man who pays my bills and respects me. I met him soon after I wrote that post. Don't give up on your dreams and standards. ❤️ 🙂 There are good men out there.
I’m going to Vegas alone for my birthday for 2 days this weekend.. I’m also treating myself to a nice dinner while I’m out there.. Table for one already reserved.. I am getting a lil notepad 📝 and will watch this one more time before I leave.. WISH ME LUCK 🍀
@@sarahabe1221 I had so much FUN!! I stayed at the Bellagio, had 2 glasses of champagne which was 27 dollars each.. I never spent that much on alcohol.. Did the Segway tour and rode all around downtown Vegas, went to Pawn Stars pawn shop, I had room service and the best thing of all I ATE AT HELLS KITCHEN!!! I had lobster risotto and Beef Wellington Omgosh it was so good.. I went to the fancy French bakery and had coffee and pastries, I gambled a little, and a man even offered me 200 dollars to go to his room and not the usual going rate of 40 dollars💃🏽🤣 I took a bunch of cute ass pics and I realized that I’m really a lot of fun.. So this year I’m going to New Jersey to try this restaurant I been wanting to go to.. I’m just enjoying ME and I love it 🥰🥰🥰
Well I'm late, but I hope you got there early and sat at the bar. Guys are more likely to approach u at the bar than they are to walk up to your table.
For women, it's great for u to go out alone if you want to meet a new guy. A lot of y'all are going out in groups of ten. That is a repellent to guy. Keep it to groups of 3 or less. If I approach a group of 3 then the other two will entertain each other. Don't be too thirsty but also entertain the conversation. NEVER ask a dude to buy you anything including a drink. Let him offer or you just buy your own.
You need to push through that. Then go home and recharge. You can spend your older elderly years alone. Because no one will be interested when that time rolls around.
What do you tell a man if he asks you "what you do for a living?" If you dont want him to know you are well taken care of? After watching further, i found my answer. Shera says.. "I dont really like to talk too much about what i do when im out. Ill just tell you, i really love what I do" "Oh, ill tell you later, ill let you in on my passion."
Certain women are far smarter and sharper. Women also have greater intuition and emotional intelligence. All women need to control their emotions and hormones need to be tended to. It's very difficult men haven't a clue overall. Takes discipline.
Yes hun...I'm the same way. I love going out by myself. I have most of my best adventures when I'm by myself! I would love for you to do a video on how you and your husband met 😘
Cool Chicka yes girl.....I was born by myself and I'm going to die by myself. Besides GOD and the Lord, the most important relationship you will have is with yourself
+Kim BlaQue Having a relationship with a mythological god is not a relationship with yourself. All it really does is make you avoid dealing with yourself. Writing the word god in all caps doesn't make it more real. It just makes you look like a religious nut case.
I've been going to clubs and bars alone as a female from the age of 18 I used to feel uncomfortable, and people used to make out like that was something strange to do but nowadays I just don't care I'm 30 years old now whatever you do in life people talk I put on my makeup do my hair and I step out to the bar alone I don't care
Just hit my 30s. Life has taken a whole 180 for me. Somewhat feeling lost but im thinking it may be a blessing. Im going to embrace this and use it as time to do things i wouldnt normally. Meet loads of new ppl and try new things
I’m so grateful I found your page! And I’m even more happy there’s young women my age that feel the same way I do- I don’t feel so bad for wanting more for myself and knowing my worth. I’m 10/10 tired of giving guys a chance that can’t level up with me or contribute even the minimum
Lol i actually do say that "I don't want to discuss work 'and what I do' because that's exactly why I came out to have #FUN *and a really good time out* ..... I'll be happy to discuss what I do when we next meet in a more convenient place to talk at, like at dinner where we can hear each other and no need to shout over music" and that is actually ALL genuine fact, no ploy
I’m so late but I loveeee going out alone; I honestly prefer to do everything alone so I can have my freedom. Butttt, since I’m a bit socially awkward, with a short attention span, and introverted- I tend to speed everywhere lol. So I’ll try to bring a notebook or a book or laptop, to stay put longer to get some numbers 😆
I’m living with my broke boyfriend whips constantly chooses his friends over me, I’m so happy that I discovered this channel. I really needed to hear this now
A tip I saw on another channel that I will be using is to go somewhere where something is happening. Live music or some entertainment of some kind. That gives you something to look at if you need it as well as a common topic for conversation and small talk.
One time a fiend of mine and I were at a well known expensive restaurant. We went out to eat a lot. I guess we were looking cute. The only Black women in the place. It was early only a few at the bar or in the restaurant. The server came over and said all of our drinks were taken care of for the night. She wouldn't tell us who was taking care of the bill. I don't drink at all. My friend had to drive, so she only had 1 drink. Too bad. There were about 3 older White guys at the bar. I guess it was one of them.
Oh my god this is so wise, like I can’t even describe how much this video opened my eyes tbh, I’m definitely going alone to this fancy hotel bar I know now, I’m doing this 😭 thank you you’re literally saving lives out here
@@mjeltonfreddie You should go! I’ve been going with a friend and it hasn’t worked for me so I’m gonna go alone. I was getting a bunch of stares though. She ended up meeting a wealthy man who owns multiple properties and travels internationally because she went to grab a drink and he was right next to her maybe he thought she was alone. I’m gonna go out this week alone.
Yes this is the secret. Go out alone. - A man won’t be as intimidated to approach you because he doesn’t have to worry about “🐓blocking” from your friends. - There isn’t any competition. If you go with friends, he might find your friend more attractive and approach her.
I love the get your journal out tip. Love that cuz I love writing things down and Journaling. I'm going ti get my purse size journal out thst I bought in Italy and be all fancy and classy. :)
Wonderful notes, thank you for telling me these basic things Im very clear now, no putting on lipgloss, no more INDEPENDENCE CRAP, NO MORE TOUCHIN MY HAIR OOPS OR GIVING AWAY WHERE I WORK OR IF I WORK. ITS FUNNY CUZ I ALWAYS HATED ANSWERIN IT, I ALWAYS FELT I LOST EITHER WAY CUZ UR RIGHT DEAD ON ITS TRICKY , THANK U FOR THE WORDS 8 COULDNT FIND TO SAY, AND THE REMINDERS AS TO WHY AND HOW to stay intriguing withput intimidating them or looking li,e a digger. U are tha best, soo much appreciated.
i usually feel so insecure sitting there alone, especially if everyone else is coupled up, i cant enjoy myself because thats in my head all the time...lol
+ChooChoogirlelle well if you are insecure you will project that outward and people will pick up on it... most women need to learn how to be alone and happy before they can be in a relationship and be happy, this is something to work on and get past!
You just gave me a idea for love work. Write a partition during idle time out and use the partition in a ritual when you get home. Do this every time you go out to bring in the vibration of love / romance.
Iamher Monica I have been studying the Occult both with my spiritual mentor and some on my own. I'm more of a solitary green root worker that works with nature for myself and maybe friends/family sometimes. This video simple gave me inspiration for a love ritual work that I can practice on for myself. SheRaSeven1 does spiritual work and has a whole channel for it. You should hit her up for some love work if that's what you want.
If a man asks what I do for a living and I say “I don’t wanna talk about work but I enjoy what I do” I feel like he’s either gunna think I’m crazy or a sex worker
Im a guy and this is the second day iv noticed this girl at Starbucks. First day we made eye contact and we both smiled at each other. Second day i see her at Starbucks again, just on a tablet or something. Im looking at her, just getting a feel for her. I walked past her to the bathroom and both times she has looked up as i past her. I think the 3rd day, im going to buy her a coffee and talk to her
You are so very eligant & and an intelligent woman!! You've already became very motivational to me...you're not wrong by any means sharing your gratitude and advice, who says its wrong to want a little more out of life,& a wealthy man I mean okay...l mean live life to the fullest, take chances, try something fun, try something new where there's a bad ending there's a new & better beggining....I'm on to u......
Glad I am learning from you, and found your video, on how to carry yourself, to attractive, right man anywhere. I'm thinking about doing what you mention, go out along again,wish I'm thinking of doing a early movie, like happy hours like you said.
Love Your hair curly and straight! I am installing My #microbraids #microtwists #locnewbie #finehairloc #3chair and I own it but do want to level up! Loving Your educational plan for financial success!
Is it okay to study or read from an IPAD? Is it tacky to study from flash cards? I would like to visit a upscale lounge inside of a hotel but I want to look proactive and not just sitting there looking like I'm there to catch a man lol
Blood Diamond An intelligent an curious man will ask what you're studying if you are reviewing flash cards. More than likely he will be older. That's been my experience when reading something that looks like study guide
I disagree about that reading n writing thing.. Its a nice guy repellent.. They want smiles, laughs, convo and eye contact..if u use that strategy not to fidget..then yes. Bc nothin worst than fidgeting
Me two i tried some things to see What works. In wearing more red, pink and greys and natural colours. Not too trendy, not much make up, not too high heels and nails. I always weare french nails
You are so cute and so true all you state! You are right! And i have to learn to go out alone! I dont go out at all but i have to give it a try before i pass away! I love you ms. Shira! 💜
Lol shera no one taught me this but my instincts told me too I lie an said oh I only drink wines an I mean good quality ones also I said I need to eat in order to drink ha ha by the time am finish my bill should be at lest 3 wines an a food!
Earlier this evening, while waiting in line at the currently exchange in my state, a guy assistant on paiding my credit card bill, while waiting for a money order. Wish I let him, and smile, and thank him. One woman who was in line, told the guy, she notices,done that for me, said out loud, " I quit my job". And he laugh at her, and said, no need to be upset, at somebody else.
Hi I'm not sure if you got my video request, but can you please do a video on doing the silent treatment on men when they do something we don't like. Or if they don't call us for a day and then the next day don't answer their call and ignore them type of thing. Thx again.
I'm glad you talked about a notebook or drawing pad. Before watching this video I was thinking of maybe painting because no matter where you are, any person doing a painting always attracts people since they want to see what you are doing. But since painting is quite messy how about maybe pastels crayons/markers or whatever doesn't need water. Of course this would require someone with basic drawing skills but could also work for those with none. You could draw it out in advance or heck, use a colouring book 😂. What do y'all think about this idea? I need some second opinions before I go make a mess😂
Man, I seriously hope people don’t think I’m seeking a man when I take myself out to restaurants and shit. I’m an introvert with paranoid schizophrenia and I’m not looking for any type of relationship at all. I’m not mentally healthy and shouldn’t be with anyone until I get my diagnosis in check. If any guy approaches me while I’m out alone, I’ll tell them straight up so I won’t be bothered.
Just don't make eye contact with people if you're unstable. Just let the bartender know your situation and that's it. Bartenders always make small talk with solo bargoers that they've never seen Just to be friendly, but other than that, just look at the ground or on your phone so no one notices you
Thank you so much for Sharing thoses valuable tips and it really helped me to answer the question, what do you do for a living? Now! I know just what to say when I am out on a dinner date. Thanks Keshia
How do you earn an income and take care of yourself and kids if you're single? They'll DEFINITELY find you unattractive if you're on public assistance!
I went out alone Saturday night and got 4 numbers. 2 of the numbers I got when they were standing next to each other. One got jealous. Confidence is the key. Be classy and enjoy your own company & they will come!
How did you do that?!!!
Malaika all I did was look fierce& walk with confidence! Plus I had on a fresh straight wig🔥
Did you end up calling one?
Yesss girlll!!! Get that bag ❤💰
Where did you go? & what hours did you choose? how was your experience outside of the 4 men you chose to exchange #s with? Thanks for sharing
Let me just say, the writing thing works!! I've done this with my laptop and guys have come over to me asking if im an author or what I'm writing. The notebook is probably even more mysterious... I'm going to get the courage to do this!!
Wow
What do you tell these guys your writing tho ? 😂I wanna try this Im so shy tho
@@marjorieeexo55literally 😂I dunno what I’d say if they asked what I’m writing about
I’m actually an author. Time to get out of my room and go write at these places 😭
Yeah, if you pretend to be a writer then aren’t you lying? Haha
I usually go out alone but when i tell people that they think I'm are weird ... but i 100% agree with you .When you ride solo guys approach you with ease and as the saying go ; "Show me your friends and ill show you who you are" and as much as we love our GF sometimes they can deflect the kind of guy you want to attract .It has happened to me and if you are alone one of the two is going to happen 1. You attract a really forward guy who won't leave that easy lol 2. A quality guy or the shy guy and if they are too afraid to approach you .. oh well their loss :)
Colene S you are so right
They try to make me feel weird when I say I go alone as well but I really don't care anymore I do what I want
Omg yes I noticed going out with my gf I was spending money!!! When I went out alone I never spent a more than $10
You are correct. A lot of men won’t approach a woman in a group because they’re afraid of “🐓blocking” from her friends.
So true sometimes girlfriend drag you down if they don’t know how to conduct themselves well
You make me love being a woman and learning to be feminine. I always wanted to be a wife, but never knew how to be one. I’m working on it one day at a time, thank you!
222 🎉❤
Same
I'm loving this journey
Are you wife already?
@@justinecorshen Lol wonder that too
I just found out you make advice videos and I just want to say thank you. I just broke up with a man that made me pay for dates, massage him, etc without me getting anything in return. I tell my friends I want a guy to pay for me and they ask me isn't that gold digging? You made me see that a lot of men have women fooled to think they are being selfish to ask for respect. I admire you a lot.
Sassy28311 heell noo that's not gold digging. You're the gold!!you should be appreciated
Oh wow. I hope things have turned around for you!
🙋🏾♀️❣
You can thank the "I don't need no man" feminist types.
@@allenellsworth5799 Just wanted to update everyone that sees this that I am now married to a man who pays my bills and respects me. I met him soon after I wrote that post. Don't give up on your dreams and standards. ❤️ 🙂 There are good men out there.
I’m going to Vegas alone for my birthday for 2 days this weekend.. I’m also treating myself to a nice dinner while I’m out there.. Table for one already reserved.. I am getting a lil notepad 📝 and will watch this one more time before I leave.. WISH ME LUCK 🍀
How did it go ?
@@sarahabe1221 I had so much FUN!! I stayed at the Bellagio, had 2 glasses of champagne which was 27 dollars each.. I never spent that much on alcohol.. Did the Segway tour and rode all around downtown Vegas, went to Pawn Stars pawn shop, I had room service and the best thing of all I ATE AT HELLS KITCHEN!!! I had lobster risotto and Beef Wellington Omgosh it was so good.. I went to the fancy French bakery and had coffee and pastries, I gambled a little, and a man even offered me 200 dollars to go to his room and not the usual going rate of 40 dollars💃🏽🤣 I took a bunch of cute ass pics and I realized that I’m really a lot of fun.. So this year I’m going to New Jersey to try this restaurant I been wanting to go to.. I’m just enjoying ME and I love it 🥰🥰🥰
@@Pretti_Lucky I’m soo happy for sis . Out here living your best life💅🏾
Well I'm late, but I hope you got there early and sat at the bar. Guys are more likely to approach u at the bar than they are to walk up to your table.
For women, it's great for u to go out alone if you want to meet a new guy. A lot of y'all are going out in groups of ten. That is a repellent to guy. Keep it to groups of 3 or less. If I approach a group of 3 then the other two will entertain each other. Don't be too thirsty but also entertain the conversation. NEVER ask a dude to buy you anything including a drink. Let him offer or you just buy your own.
I really needed to run across these videos because I been wasting time with broke jokers.I'm too worthy for that..
@@theworldisimmense nothing
Theworld isimmense What does your mama bring to the table???
@@theworldisimmense women are the table
Me too
Why don't you earn your own money then.
Get dressed. Step outside. Done.
Clark Kent aka live! Ppl now and days get so caught up in overthinking and rationalizing they never experience anymore
@@maddipage1347 anymore? Shy introverts have existed forever
Get kidnapped. Oh lol
You need to push through that. Then go home and recharge. You can spend your older elderly years alone. Because no one will be interested when that time rolls around.
Facts. Keep that phone in ur purse.. And no fidgeting pleaseeeee..😐
What if it's the man that is shy to approach you? Man don't value women that approach them first, but what if he's the shy one?
@@lalili1358 then he ain't the right man, I've learned that the hard way
What do you tell a man if he asks you "what you do for a living?" If you dont want him to know you are well taken care of?
After watching further, i found my answer. Shera says..
"I dont really like to talk too much about what i do when im out. Ill just tell you, i really love what I do"
"Oh, ill tell you later, ill let you in on my passion."
THANK YOU FOR THIS GEM 💎
I tell them im a student😂😂😂😂 so they know ill be needing financial assistance right off the bat
@@DD_MENEN😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@DD_MENEN lmao
That's very sound advice compared to the advice men give to men. It's clear why women have the upper hand. They are smarter and cooler. P.S. man here
Certain women are far smarter and sharper. Women also have greater intuition and emotional intelligence. All women need to control their emotions and hormones need to be tended to. It's very difficult men haven't a clue overall. Takes discipline.
Yes hun...I'm the same way. I love going out by myself. I have most of my best adventures when I'm by myself! I would love for you to do a video on how you and your husband met 😘
Cool Chicka yes girl.....I was born by myself and I'm going to die by myself. Besides GOD and the Lord, the most important relationship you will have is with yourself
+Kim BlaQue Having a relationship with a mythological god is not a relationship with yourself. All it really does is make you avoid dealing with yourself. Writing the word god in all caps doesn't make it more real. It just makes you look like a religious nut case.
+reevideo Sit down Satan! Nobody asked you shit...thanks 😊
+Kim BlaQue very Christian of you psycho.
+Kim BlaQue You sound real spiritual idiot.
I've been going to clubs and bars alone as a female from the age of 18 I used to feel uncomfortable, and people used to make out like that was something strange to do but nowadays I just don't care I'm 30 years old now
whatever you do in life people talk I put on my makeup do my hair and I step out to the bar alone I don't care
Rite, so do I, I eat out alone, movies, mall & all. 100% respect and love yourself which I do. 👍
Just hit my 30s. Life has taken a whole 180 for me. Somewhat feeling lost but im thinking it may be a blessing. Im going to embrace this and use it as time to do things i wouldnt normally. Meet loads of new ppl and try new things
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I’m so grateful I found your page! And I’m even more happy there’s young women my age that feel the same way I do- I don’t feel so bad for wanting more for myself and knowing my worth.
I’m 10/10 tired of giving guys a chance that can’t level up with me or contribute even the minimum
Lol i actually do say that "I don't want to discuss work 'and what I do' because that's exactly why I came out to have #FUN *and a really good time out* ..... I'll be happy to discuss what I do when we next meet in a more convenient place to talk at, like at dinner where we can hear each other and no need to shout over music" and that is actually ALL genuine fact, no ploy
Binge watching SheRa. This lady is logical and unemotional as we should strive to be.
I love going out alone. I feel most comfortable when it's something I really want to check out vs. going out to be seen.
I’m so late but I loveeee going out alone; I honestly prefer to do everything alone so I can have my freedom. Butttt, since I’m a bit socially awkward, with a short attention span, and introverted- I tend to speed everywhere lol. So I’ll try to bring a notebook or a book or laptop, to stay put longer to get some numbers 😆
I’m living with my broke boyfriend whips constantly chooses his friends over me, I’m so happy that I discovered this channel. I really needed to hear this now
You still with him?
Are yall still together?
A tip I saw on another channel that I will be using is to go somewhere where something is happening. Live music or some entertainment of some kind. That gives you something to look at if you need it as well as a common topic for conversation and small talk.
One time a fiend of mine and I were at a well known expensive restaurant. We went out to eat a lot. I guess we were looking cute. The only Black women in the place. It was early only a few at the bar or in the restaurant. The server came over and said all of our drinks were taken care of for the night. She wouldn't tell us who was taking care of the bill. I don't drink at all. My friend had to drive, so she only had 1 drink. Too bad. There were about 3 older White guys at the bar. I guess it was one of them.
For most men, simply having a heartbeat is good enough...
No, men are changing.
Oh my god this is so wise, like I can’t even describe how much this video opened my eyes tbh, I’m definitely going alone to this fancy hotel bar I know now, I’m doing this 😭 thank you you’re literally saving lives out here
How did it go?? Lol just curious, I’m thinking the same!
@@dream-nz9yb I didn’t go yet 😂 I’m not ready yet, I’m watching all of her videos everyday and literally writing it all down so I can memorize 😭
@@mjeltonfreddie You should go! I’ve been going with a friend and it hasn’t worked for me so I’m gonna go alone. I was getting a bunch of stares though. She ended up meeting a wealthy man who owns multiple properties and travels internationally because she went to grab a drink and he was right next to her maybe he thought she was alone. I’m gonna go out this week alone.
@@KaceyylangYour friend is probably very beautiful
God damn woman, you are smart.
Yes this is the secret. Go out alone.
- A man won’t be as intimidated to approach you because he doesn’t have to worry about “🐓blocking” from your friends.
- There isn’t any competition. If you go with friends, he might find your friend more attractive and approach her.
The secret is to approach the man.
@junosaxon fuck no
I learnt something, especially regarding the way to dress. I live in black, gold and dark grey, it's too corporate.
I love the get your journal out tip. Love that cuz I love writing things down and Journaling. I'm going ti get my purse size journal out thst I bought in Italy and be all fancy and classy. :)
What do you reply if the man asks what are you writing?
xVvix xnNix A to do list/agenda or grocery list
Hmmm, what about a bucket list. Should make a great conversation starter.
Wonderful notes, thank you for telling me these basic things Im very clear now, no putting on lipgloss, no more INDEPENDENCE CRAP, NO MORE TOUCHIN MY HAIR OOPS OR GIVING AWAY WHERE I WORK OR IF I WORK. ITS FUNNY CUZ I ALWAYS HATED ANSWERIN IT, I ALWAYS FELT I LOST EITHER WAY CUZ UR RIGHT DEAD ON ITS TRICKY , THANK U FOR THE WORDS 8 COULDNT FIND TO SAY, AND THE REMINDERS AS TO WHY AND HOW to stay intriguing withput intimidating them or looking li,e a digger. U are tha best, soo much appreciated.
I'm taking myself out to a nice cantina tomorrow night. I usually order chicken fajita nachos and order a top shelf frozen margarita or moscato.
i usually feel so insecure sitting there alone, especially if everyone else is coupled up, i cant enjoy myself because thats in my head all the time...lol
+ChooChoogirlelle well if you are insecure you will project that outward and people will pick up on it... most women need to learn how to be alone and happy before they can be in a relationship and be happy, this is something to work on and get past!
a video on how to be alone & be happy for women just coming out of a long term relationship and needing to do this would be awesome!
@@luxuryqueen42 great tip thank u
You just gave me a idea for love work. Write a partition during idle time out and use the partition in a ritual when you get home. Do this every time you go out to bring in the vibration of love / romance.
Ruby D Hmm tell me more girl!
Iamher Monica
I have been studying the Occult both with my spiritual mentor and some on my own. I'm more of a solitary green root worker that works with nature for myself and maybe friends/family sometimes.
This video simple gave me inspiration for a love ritual work that I can practice on for myself.
SheRaSeven1 does spiritual work and has a whole channel for it. You should hit her up for some love work if that's what you want.
Give more info for a sugar daddy.
ugh thank u for teaching me what my mother never did / could
I will be attempting to go out alone.
How did it go?😊
I want to know too, I am heading out tonight 🤪😁
How did it go for you guys?
Just do it. I have been around the world by myself.
I couldn't do it😭
Yay thank you so much for this video! I can't wait to go out and be confident and attract the people I want in my life! Thank you :) :)
yannababi me too
Same here
How did it workout
Going on Monday alone lts my bd
If a man asks what I do for a living and I say “I don’t wanna talk about work but I enjoy what I do” I feel like he’s either gunna think I’m crazy or a sex worker
Why would he think you’re a sex worker? We gotta stop that stereotype just say you’re a receptionist or something.
lmao. my tarot card told me the same exact thing this morning. I expand and ecellorate my growth with this video. thank you. thank you. thank you.
Im a guy and this is the second day iv noticed this girl at Starbucks.
First day we made eye contact and we both smiled at each other.
Second day i see her at Starbucks again, just on a tablet or something.
Im looking at her, just getting a feel for her.
I walked past her to the bathroom and both times she has looked up as i past her.
I think the 3rd day, im going to buy her a coffee and talk to her
Update? Lol
Update!!
Its 2018 and I'm watching this and it is HELPFUL, THANK YOU
It's 2019 and I am watching it. Thanks for the video.
2021 baby
2022!
2023 😊
2024
Honestly speaking, I needed this video. Thank You
I used to go out alone and attract dusty 😂 because i dont know any better from that time. Now i level up!
I found so much value and life lessons in this video💕
My favorite video thanks sis, you give me life. I've been contemplating many things and you gave me many answers.
Any man who is intimidated due to the fact that you have a better job than they do may or may not be worth pursuing.
You are so very eligant & and an intelligent woman!! You've already became very motivational to me...you're not wrong by any means sharing your gratitude and advice, who says its wrong to want a little more out of life,& a wealthy man I mean okay...l mean live life to the fullest, take chances, try something fun, try something new where there's a bad ending there's a new & better beggining....I'm on to u......
Glad I found this all my questions answered- you rock gal!
So pretty love the makeup and the natural hair
Easy! move to Vegas like I did!
Tiffani Farrington easy Really😑😑
Lol
how is that?
I miss Vegas!
@@becuteforme is it nice there? I want to move but my family doesn't want me to. I have no family there.
Glad I am learning from you, and found your video, on how to carry yourself, to attractive, right man anywhere.
I'm thinking about doing what you mention, go out along again,wish I'm thinking of doing a early movie, like happy hours like you said.
Love Your hair curly and straight! I am installing My #microbraids #microtwists #locnewbie #finehairloc #3chair and I own it but do want to level up! Loving Your educational plan for financial success!
Beeest video I’ve seen on this topic so far. Thank you!
Is it okay to study or read from an IPAD? Is it tacky to study from flash cards? I would like to visit a upscale lounge inside of a hotel but I want to look proactive and not just sitting there looking like I'm there to catch a man lol
Blood Diamond An intelligent an curious man will ask what you're studying if you are reviewing flash cards. More than likely he will be older. That's been my experience when reading something that looks like study guide
I disagree about that reading n writing thing.. Its a nice guy repellent.. They want smiles, laughs, convo and eye contact..if u use that strategy not to fidget..then yes. Bc nothin worst than fidgeting
Most people won't want to disturb a person who is busy studying.
This actually happened to me but he asked me questions that were not normal so I had to step aside and walk away 🚶♀️
Great advice...love your videos!!!!
i love watching your videos, your so motivational
No one thought me these tips before thank you 😔💖💖💖💖
Oh lord I have been wearing my full face of makeup in public I thought it was ok 😭😭😭but now I know it is not classy thank you shera ❤️
Me two i tried some things to see What works. In wearing more red, pink and greys and natural colours. Not too trendy, not much make up, not too high heels and nails. I always weare french nails
Babe! I love these short videos!!👌
Great tips!
Thanks! ❤
You are so cute and so true all you state! You are right! And i have to learn to go out alone! I dont go out at all but i have to give it a try before i pass away! I love you ms. Shira! 💜
This was funny. Love u Shera. Binging ur old videos again
Taking time to work on me, and my image before i go out ❤
Lol shera no one taught me this but my instincts told me too I lie an said oh I only drink wines an I mean good quality ones also I said I need to eat in order to drink ha ha by the time am finish my bill should be at lest 3 wines an a food!
Thanks a lot! Sometimes I can even go with a laptop 💻 and act like am doing something online... how about that guys
Soo many things I have done wrong dating men lol
OMG where have you been all my life lol this video is everything! Thank you so much!
Earlier this evening, while waiting in line at the currently exchange in my state, a guy assistant on paiding my credit card bill, while waiting for a money order. Wish I let him, and smile, and thank him.
One woman who was in line, told the guy, she notices,done that for me, said out loud, " I quit my job".
And he laugh at her, and said, no need to be upset, at somebody else.
Also never forget your mase or stun gun
where is the men are afraid video
If I could like this comment 1000X I would.
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Well truth is, she is like a female PUA coach. She's right, but it's sleazy none the less.
I appreciate women who speaks from a woman’s lane.. be the women a man has to come prepared for.
haha
any tips for ladies under 21?? or in college?
perkymiddle stay in school.
perkymiddle seriously
SpellboundTonight lol stop being a hater
She said in another video the same applies to before, during and after college, follow the same mentality
I go out a lot by myself.
What if it's the man that is shy to approach you? Man don't value women that approach them first, but what if he's the shy one?
Hi I'm not sure if you got my video request, but can you please do a video on doing the silent treatment on men when they do something we don't like. Or if they don't call us for a day and then the next day don't answer their call and ignore them type of thing. Thx again.
+Brenda Lee ok i will do it soon!! I promise
great idea
That's immature. Communicate your feelings with him. Men are too stupid to get it otherwise.
danielc1112 men are not as stupid as u think stop spreading lies if he’s not picking up the phone nor returning text he does not want you
Great tips!
My mom has been telling me this for years
I'm glad you talked about a notebook or drawing pad.
Before watching this video I was thinking of maybe painting because no matter where you are, any person doing a painting always attracts people since they want to see what you are doing.
But since painting is quite messy how about maybe pastels crayons/markers or whatever doesn't need water. Of course this would require someone with basic drawing skills but could also work for those with none. You could draw it out in advance or heck, use a colouring book 😂.
What do y'all think about this idea? I need some second opinions before I go make a mess😂
Oh god..this is too much work :D
neets 19 no it’s not
Man, I seriously hope people don’t think I’m seeking a man when I take myself out to restaurants and shit. I’m an introvert with paranoid schizophrenia and I’m not looking for any type of relationship at all. I’m not mentally healthy and shouldn’t be with anyone until I get my diagnosis in check. If any guy approaches me while I’m out alone, I’ll tell them straight up so I won’t be bothered.
Just don't make eye contact with people if you're unstable. Just let the bartender know your situation and that's it. Bartenders always make small talk with solo bargoers that they've never seen Just to be friendly, but other than that, just look at the ground or on your phone so no one notices you
This was a good reminder
Always order a brut champagne;)
What do you reply when they ask what are you writing in your notebook?
Say your planning a vacation.
@@JazzyJazz317 thats actually smart! Thanks 😘
Say your making a bucket list.
This is gold ❤
Listen again✅✅ keep learning!!!
If i go to a bar i get too nervous or inpatient and drink too much
Sprinkle sprinkle all the time🥳🥳. Love u
Can it be in the daytime? I'm scared of going out at night
Yes. Some wealthy men go out for lunch every day!
Yes ! Sounds good & don’t drink too much ;)
Man she’s right 😌
I love your videos.
Yes can you do that video please when men ignore woman telling them things that day so what we don't like ?
And the next day or same day they act like nothing is wrong
Do you do coaching? I'd like to contact you
What if it's the man that is shy to approach you? Man don't value women that approach them first, but what if he's the shy one?
@@lalili1358 if he wants to approach you, he will. Shy or not!
@@missnatasha1182 Can we chat about looking for a wealthy man or sugar daddy?
Where to set? Bar stools Re so annoying?
I love this
Great advice
Thank you so much for Sharing thoses valuable tips and it really helped me to answer the question, what do you do for a living? Now! I know just what to say when I am out on a dinner date. Thanks Keshia
Thank you ❤
Thank you soo much 💕
This is bomb advice!
Do you think men find it unattractive when you tell them you don't work. My job is a stay at home mom.
Karen Smith yes.
You dont tell them you dont work. You lie. Just say you do clerical work or something like along those lines, and leave it at that
@@thetarotc wow. Str8 up lie to a man. Lol incredible
Karen Smith i’ve never had complaints with telling them. they try to spoil me some more 😉
How do you earn an income and take care of yourself and kids if you're single? They'll DEFINITELY find you unattractive if you're on public assistance!
What about going out somewhere a drawing? It seems like that would be a great time to practice sketching people.
You are incredibly nice and funny! :-)