Living with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome
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- Natalie was born at 28 weeks as a result of fetal alcohol syndrome. Stephanie intended to find an adoptive family for her daughter upon birth, but after seeing Natalie for the first time instead found sobriety at rehab.
Stephanie now credits Natalie for saving her life and is doing her best to give her the life she deserves.
As much as I respect her for being honest and sharing her story it’s heartbreaking. It wasn’t your daughter’s job to save your life, it was your job to save hers.
No. everyone's job is to save everyone's life
Im glad to hear she straightened her life up and says her daughter saved her, but her daughter is the one paying the price for that.
shes mentally ill
Her huge smile looking at the child she made is sickening , no guilt , I wouldn’t be able to live with myself
I have FAS. I will never forgive my mother for the choices she made while she was pregnant with me. Sorry not sorry. A mother should never do that to her child.
Respectfully, i would like to ask how has this affected your adulthood?
I agree. All of this recovery and accountability should have taken place the moment she found out she was pregnant.
I think they should be charged for abused of the child in my opinion
@@Roxysyoutubechannel what if they didn't know they were pregnant
I agree
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Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
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How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
One of my best friends has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Like Natalie, she was also born super early. Her adoptive parents were told she'd never walk or talk, but she proved everyone wrong. She walks, talks nonstop, has the most hilarious dark humor, and is a very deep thinker. I thank God everyday that she's in my life.
i have to boys the one i posted up top now my youngest they said the same thing to us well now my ex that he would never walk and talk the first one did the 2nd said he will end up in a wheel chair the 3rd said what no all he needs i9s therapy we went almost everyday by the time he started school he was walking with help he had speech op pt all at school now he is doing good he has mild cerbreal palsy he has balancing problems but he is healthy other wise he will be 27 his brother will be 29
I do respect this woman's honesty, and the fact she isn't blaming others for her bad decisions. I'm happy that she is a caring and nurturing mother willing to share her story.
I agree. I’m glad she knows she’s the one who made the choice.
@@Ap9leJacks-wy3pqaccountability goes such a long way
Amen, God’s blessings to her and her family. 🥰✝️🙏🏻❤️😀
This one's hard for me. Sadly, my mother wasn't like this woman. She abused me, and constantly drank. She denies that she needs help for her addiction. She also allowed men to hit her in front of me and my younger siblings. For the non-disabled people out there, disabled people like myself are two to three times more llikely to be abused than the regular population. My advice to you is, if you see something, say something! No one, disabled or otherwise, deserves to be abused or neglected!
glad you are saying this, not all kids with FASD get lucky, look at Nikolas Cruz.
You tell them! Coming from a fellow disabled person.
I’m so sorry to hear that 😢 I hope it gets better for you. No matter what anyone tells you you have a purpose and it’s up to you to find it with gods help you can. Believe in yourself and better days will come.
Wow God bless you, when I graduate undergrad I want to go to law school and fight for people like yourself who have been in abused homes
thats the exact situation i am in currently 😢 disabled and trapped with an abusive narcissistic mother
It's difficult to hear stories like this as her children are the ones who suffered the consequences.
I agree. It’s almost like it’s rug swept
I agree 100%, she caused this and wast responsible enough to prevent it
Yeah I agree it’s terrible. It’s hard to see the comments saying she’s brave for openly coming out about it.
@@BigRedProductions904 and you cannot sue or prosicute because alcholism is classified as a disease...in cases like this that should be waved as look at what it has done to these inocent children.The parents should be held acountable.
@@rosefarted hope the parents have good paying jobs as these kids will need care for life
I'm glad you didn't give her up. YOU deserve to raise the child that YOU disabled. YOU deserve to endure the hard days because she didn't deserve this life. She could have been healthy and led a normal life. Im glad you sobered up and learned your lesson, but too bad it was at the expense of your child.
Ayyyo chill with the damnation 😂 hold your piece ,that ain't no one documenting the bones underneath your bed 🛏️
@mikecru9229 I will not, and I didn't screw my child up because of my carelessness, so no bones like that under my bed bud. When you make poor decisions that affect other people, you will get zero sympathy from me. 🤷♀️
I love how she's playing the victim now
it’s rare to see a kid with FASD still living with their birth mother.
usually i see them with adoptive parents because CPS took them away 😶
I guess that’s a testament to this mom’s commitment to recovery then
She doesn't deserve them
Probably the only reason she's sober
Once an addict always an addict
@@cats2905 Her body her choice, right?
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Older sister has FAS and fetal drug. We’re both adopted, but different birth parents. Her birth parents were drug users and she nearly died of an overdose before age 3 when she ate drugs left out on a table. She has permanent mental and emotional disabilities and developed her own drug addiction. My parents spent $$$$ on therapy, legal fees, etc trying to help, but her life a mess. Mothers who drink or do drugs during pregnancy are forever scarring their child’s life.
I had a hard time with this one. All I can feel is pain toward her condition because the mother caused it. Makes me angry and sad but I'm trying not to judge her. Wish them the best.
Addiction (in this case alcoholism) is a disease. Your own brain chemistry is working against you at that point. We don't know the reasons why the mom began drinking or the situation in which she got pregnant so it's really not our place to judge. From this video it seems her daughters are wildly happy so that is the most important thing now.
@@itsmelive I really love this channel and it changes my views a lot but Your comment is woke bs
Sorry
We are all just dust in the wind. I think the biggest thing to come out of this specific situation is the mom being actually deciding to be open and honest, despite knowing all the judgement people would throw at her.
Also, the fact that kids with FAS can be healthy and happy!
@@itsmelive she said she was not trying to judge her so I think she's aware of all you said
@@KaplyaNikotina What do you want the mum to do instead? She’s clearly learned from her mistake and is doing what’s best for her and her kids. Would you prefer her (and her kids) instead be further punished legally and have the kids be robbed of a now caring, loving mother?
If the idea of rehabilitation is woke bs and you think that no-one deserves a second chance, I’d much rather be on the woke side of things.
Her mom looks like a loving mother, but it's still sad knowing that the little one could have a normal life if not for her mom's irresponsibility.
I can only wish her and her mom a happy and calm life.
Mental illness and addiction are not irresponsibilities, they are serious conditions. Addiction is not a choice.
I was born with AFS my mother was an alcoholic, and She passed away in 2018 because of alcoholism.
It's a choice to drink.
@@idwtbkabbam drinking alcohol is definitly a choice.
@@inged1986 Alcoholism is a mental illness. I am a recovering alcoholic and I can tell you for sure that drinking is not a choice. It is a horrible disease and it is very difficult to stop drinking
@@lovingmayberry2000 We are not guilty of the things we have done. When we made them we were sick, we were not in our right mind
She saved my life, but I ruined hers. Smh!
It's so brave of her to tell honestly, that she was drinking when she was pregnant. I wish her and her daughters happy life ❤
I agree, this was very brave, so many very judgemental people. We all have our struggles.
Of course the person with a pride flag and an animated character talks about how brave a woman was to mess up her kid's life. Jesus
@@rileywilson7434 Damn bruh. Chill don't be so easily triggered. They were saying it was brave of the mother to admit her error. You can tell this mother is struggling with her mistake but taking care of her daughters. People who are able to speak out and educate others for their own faults helps change lives.
@@rileywilson7434 ppl want to say, "don't judge" but when you say things that disagree with their beliefs and viewpoints, they sure do. This mom clearly stated she used to judge ppl that did what she did and yet, she gets pregnant and does it anyway. She had a living being inside her. Unless she had no clue she was pregnant, then i can see that. My mom was pregnant with my sis and did not know till she was 4 months along. No bump and still had her period.
I am glad her mom takes care of her daughter, and now responsible, but i am still shaking my head at something that could have been avoided. Addiction is a "choice" everyone has the will to stop what they're doing. We are not mindless robots. We know right from wrong and "choose" to do it.
Brave? She caused this
She saved your life and hers is different forever. 😔🙄🙄
That mother better never get frustrated with her daughter she is the cause of this and the reason why her daughter will never have a normal life
I feel mother's who does this should go to jail for knowingly causing harm to the baby.
Or I thought they get the baby taken away
Why? What good would that do anyone? This mother went to rehab and became sober. That's a much better result!
I understand why you feel that way but addiction is so strong. These aren't bad women, they were just lost in life. You hurt a lot of people when you're in addiction in many ways, not only your own children. It's terrible. And you feel guilt and the worst shame imaginable. In this woman's case, she sobered up and became a good mom to her kids, why bother taking them? As a recovered addict myself, I can tell you I still lay awake because of my guilt and shame, none of the bad things I did were me, they were the substances that had taken over my mind body and spirit and I'd give anything to go back in time and change things. Jail would have lead me to suicide probably, I needed treatment and kind support. An iron fist isn't always the answer.
@@yesleksmith There are things that can never be made up for. If an alcohol addicted man brutally raped his wife and then started therapy and became sober, would you expect the wife to stay with him and show "kind support"? I wouldn’t. But the victim of this mother's doings still lives with her. Natalie probably doesn't understand yet what her mother did to her, but some day she will and she will realize that the person she is supposed to trust is the one who robbed her of a normal life. With destroying this child's life she lost the right to be her mother.
I'm the daughter of an alcohol addict mother. She drank herself to death. And she always said that she would have quit if people had been kinder to her, her life wouldn’t have been so stressfull, her marriage would have been better... It were always the others who should have behaved differently. The harsh truth is: Only you are responsible for your life. And if you can’t stop drinking when noone supports you, no one loves you and no one is willing to give you a second chance then you haven't overcome your addiction.
I agree
Don't get this "she is brave" thing. That woman can start drinking any moment if she wants, then stop, then start again, make another kid etc. But kid wouldn't get health back and is doomed for whole life.
She's willing to speak, publicly, of what she did, so others will know of the negative consequences of drinking during pregnancy AND so others will know it's possible to become sober and become a wonderful mom after making the decision to do so (and with the support of others) - despite knowing there are judgmental people who will blame her for her drinking and disregard all the changes she has made and the excellent care and love she is clearly providing for both of her daughters now. That is indeed brave!
@@krisw5318 yeahh we are so bad bad for judging her! i mean she is so amazinggg righttt what a mom should be the mother of the year like seriously! its so hard to like not drink right? its harder than being a ret@rd with FAS like omggg
I loved the “IM A HORSE” “You’re a horse?” With her adorable little excited whisper “Yeah”
Made my whole day!
I was a alcoholic. I would literally drink beer or wine everyday and once I found out I was pregnant I stopped cold turkey. There’s no cravings for a drink because I wouldn’t be able to live with myself knowing I caused my daughter to be born disabled and that she will never have a normal life. It’s appalling how they still let her have custody of her children. That baby was born so premature. If you can’t go 9 months without a drink you don’t deserve to be a mother.
You are awesome! And I agree with everything you said
I wrote a very honest comment under this video not too long ago….
I don’t see it ,so looks like it got removed.
I basically agree with you
But In my comment…. I probably was not as nice as you.
I definitely was not as nice. 😆
Generally I would agree, not because I'm judging, but because the child deserves a parent who can take care of them. I have an adopted child and the parents didn't try at all to change. However, this mother did change. Not in time to prevent consequences, unfortunately, but if she became clean and was trustworthy at that point forward, I don't see a legitimate reason to take a child away, except just to punish her. You'd have to be able to trust the parent, obviously. But if a parent is safe and loving, a child is almost always better off with their biological parent. That's a big if. As much as I value adoption, I see how it traumatizes even infants. It is a loss and an identity crisis that they deal with their whole lives, even when there's no memory. I am still all for adoption, but in this case it does not seem it was necessary. Maybe she had a family member who had temporary custody while she was in rehab. But I think it turned out for the best. As long as the mother was parenting well, the daughter was better off to stay with her. It's hard to see kids get hurt, but you've got to look at it going forwards, not back.
@JM51501 • I guess God had other plans. Like forgiveness, deliverance, healing, and restoration. Love covers a multitude of faults. Beautiful family. 💙💙💙🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👍🏾🤟🏾😊😇🥰
@@CJrunner7199• Well said. Thank you. 💙💙💙🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👍🏾🤟🏾😊😇🥰 💯💯💯
She saved my life????????? But what about hers??????
"I always judged people like me"
Yeah.. if you drink while pregnant you should be judged. It's WAY worse than being a drunk driver, and we lock those up
It’s not way worse than being a drunk driver. It’s almost as bad, because in both ways you risk ruining or ending someone’s life. Both drunk drivers and pregnant women who drink should be judged terribly
And both should be in jail or lose their kids
I love how cheerfully she said that, as if it's all okay now. No it's not.
The mother’s honesty about this whole circumstance is incredible. And I love the fact she got herself cleaned up so she Can be a mom to both of these kids. At first, I thought she was the adoptive mother because that’s usually what you see. The real mother either loses custody, or they just abandon their children, and you never hear from them again. Kudos to this mom for getting her stuff together. I hope when was the disabled child grows up she doesn’t resent her mother.
First step to healing is awareness and accountability, owning up to your mistakes and growing from them. Glad to see the mother has changed her life around and is raising her daughters with love.
unfortunately the child can never grow from it.
@@Yupyupyup32yes unfortunately. But this is the reality so what would you rather the mother do.
@@MScrista24 go to jail
The way her sister loves her is so beautiful 🥺 those kids are adorable 💖💖💖
I respect that she's being honest about what she did and decided to keep her child even knowing she's disabled. However, I'm an alcoholic (or damn near close to one), and my God, even I can't imagine wanting so badly to get drunk that I'd sentence my child to a lifetime of severe disabilities. It's worth nine months of sobriety, however torturous.
I hope ur doing alright
yeah, the absolute selfishness of this woman knows no bounds. she ruined the life of a child, because of her addiction.
You are definately not an alcoholic! Lol- I am (13 years sober) NO question, no way I could have just stopped drinking for 9 months- a real alcoholic has to be in jail or rehab, pregnancy unfortunately isn't a strong enough match for addiction.
Then you aren't an alcoholic or are underestimating how hard stopping would be. Also, bodies aren't clocks. You might not realise that you are pregnant for several months and by then the harm is most likely done.
Can you do an update on the girls? I’d love to see how they are doing now :)
The dumb one died
Печально, что дети расплачиваются за деяния своих родителей. Судя по всему, у девочки все в порядке с психикой и интеллектом, что что-то не так, видно по внешности. Не понимаю зачем девочку так ужасно стригут. Надеюсь, что мать приложить все усилия, чтобы компенсировать свою вину перед дочерью и начнёт её развивать, заниматься с ней.
Child abuse. This should not be glorified, respected or accepted. It’s literally attempted murder and mental health/ addiction should not be taken lightly when risking another human life. Want to be a fool… do it to yourself. Done deal.
She should be in jail. How can she even sit here and say she caused this??
Because she's honest with herself. What exactly would a prison sentence do?
@@beatricesell7171 send a message to our society that we don’t tolerate abusing children in the womb.
May another pregnant woman with addiction see this clip and get the courage to go to rehab.
Absolutely awful. These kids would have been much different if she wasn’t drinking while pregnant. I could never live with myself if I knew I caused a birth defect in my kid.
you sound weak!!
The other kid looked 100% normal. Why do you say "these kids would have been much different"?
Then she's doing better than you because beating yourself up about it won't change what's already done. You just get on with it.
I'm so glad Natalie's mom got sober. I'm surprised she was allowed to have custody of her though. My son is adopted. His birth mom drank and she got no prenatal care. When he was born, the hospital called Child Protective Services on her. He was in terrible shape and about 6 weeks premature. She told me the doctor told her that my son most likely had Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. She had decided to keep him about a week before his birth. And I had told my husband after I met her that I had a feeling she was going to keep him. (we didn't know about her drinking then) She kept my son for a week and then decided he would be better off with us. Thankfully he does not have FAS. It was an open adoption and I reconnected with my son's birth mother last year. He's met his birth parents and his siblings. His birth parents are nice people. And my son is so happy to meet his younger siblings.
The troube with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, is that you are affecting another persons whole life when you choose to drink and be pregnant.... its them that have all the pain and troubles because of you.
Lmfao ! Thanks for proving the pro-choice movement is pro-mur.dering children.
Everything is the mothers fault. She ruined this childs life... Shame on her. Thats just so sad!
Disability isn’t the end of the world calm tf down
@@thebuilder5271 Get tf off with your political correctness. She ruined her life. No need to sugar coat.
@@thebuilder5271 says a guy with no disability. if you deal with those kids and the real world youd see it is the end of everything
Why didn't she go to rehab when she found out she was pregnant? Why wait till after her daughter was born? I don't get it
@@thebuilder5271stop minimizing this, apologist
These women boiling my blood. And who pays for their actions??? The most innocent person pays. Much love little one.
Sad story… but impressive and an example for others to learn from.
And still, I think Natalie is adorable the way she is.
Thank you for bravely telling your story! When I was pregnant I remember a lot of moms online saying/debating that it was OK to drink one glass of wine a day or a week and their doctors OKed it! Multiple people. This information is so important. Nobody knows how much alcohol can cause brain damage in their unborn baby.
@@daniel4412 It is because of your comment.
It is common knowledge that the only safe amount of alcohol to have during pregnancy is ZERO
@@WilliamHollinger2019 even before conceiving. So if you are planning to have a baby stop drinking
I hear what you're saying, however I think it's important to draw a distinction between drinking a glass of wine per day during pregnancy, and FAS.
FAS requires very heavy alcohol intake. The mother of a child born with FAS will have a serious addiction problem.
Imagine being called brave for permanently maiming your child
I don’t see this as any different from a parent who abused their child outside the womb
That's not a helpful, or constructive comment.
Judging or ridiculing the mother will not help her, the child, or any other family dealing with FAS.
The helpful thing to do is encourage people with an addiction to seek help. Being judgmental or stigmatising those with addictions only decreases the likelihood of them seeking help. That benefits neither the addict, the child, nor society.
It's not any different! Thank you!
@@mickeybeeyou would say the same thing about a father who beats up his daughter?
What a great mom! Unfortunately I knew a woman who drank and partied heavily throughout all 3 of her pregnancies-she couldn’t give up a good time. By the Grace of God her children were born healthy, but the sight of her stumbling out of a party and falling onto her pregnant belly laughing is still revolting.
Great moms don’t drink while pregnant but ok
@@Mimi-bs7kn that doesn't make her a bad mom, shes still a great mom because she turned her life around for her daughter. Great moms, turn their life around, great moms don't blame others, great moms try their best to get better, great moms make mistakes and admit to them while trying to not repeat it.
Your definition of a "great mom" needs to be reevaluated. Be more understanding, not judgmental.
@@Mimi-bs7kn wrong! Great mom's make mistakes, admit to them, fight their battles and turn their lives around for their children.
@@zeldagamelover24 terrible mother..she should be locked up!
"By the Grace of God her children were born healthy,"
Really? Have they been examined for FASD and been found not to have it? I'm wondering if they have it in a subtle way - in a way that effects executive functioning and not intelligence or facial appearance. Unnoticed and undiagnosed FASD can seriously impair someone's quality of life.
I don't have the slightest amount of respect for the "mother" she knew well that she was giving life. 😡
Agree with you!
Why hasn’t she been charged with a crime?
that’s a crime ?!
@@LilReeskiiyes it is
Crazy watching a story like this basically watching a parent who beat their kids still taking care of them. She robbed them of a normal life
That’s true. Like yeah I beat her but now I’m all better and she saved me from myself! Like okay but the little girl still has to pay the price forever.
It’s so hard not to be judgmental sometimes. The mom doesn’t seem to have much shame for she did to her daughter.
I’m glad this mom came forward and did this cause it educates people and I just hope anyone drinking that becomes pregnant or might be, will decide to get help before or right away. I have FAE. Fetal alcohol effect. Similar but less severe. I can’t imagine the guilt she carry’s. My bio mom gave me up and I have two loving parents for the last 40 years. I have no animosity toward my bio mother for what happened despite having vision loss cause of it and being learning disabled growing up. I have only some of the facial features
Shame on you mom...
Why?
she drank while pregnant@@elliottkitai5890
@@elliottkitai5890 Isn't it obvious?? The mom was an alcoholic and drank during her pregnancy which is absolutely irresponsible and dangerous, and now her daughter will pay the price for the rest of her life with a serious developmental disability. And you ask why?
@@elliottkitai5890she shows dis-care for the kids
I loved how Natalie’s mom said “she saved my life”. Her mom seems like a very loving parent, and maybe she is that way even more so because of Natalie’s condition. Despite her having FAS, she seems genuinely loved and supported. I think her mom is extremely brave, and I am glad to see she had the help she also needed for her addiction/illness, and can enjoy her beautiful family that is clearly filled with much love.
That government support is a lifesaver for sure
It's not the child's responsibility to "save" the parents life
Children aren't meant to be born into this world with a job to do like saving their mother!
sad that it took messing up her child for her to realize that her actions have consequences...
I wish the fathers had to face the same restrictions. They get away with everything. It's a good thing the court system at least attempts to make things fair
One of the first SBSK videos I saw! There's such a precious bond between Natalie and her family.
No excuses for drinking when you’re pregnant
Knowing this all couldve been easily prevented pisses me off.
Im sorry but I just can’t listen to that mother speak, it upsets me too much.
“She saved my life” but look what you did to hers?
She is aware of what she has done. A commentor on youtube doesn't need to point it out.
Ridiculing or judging her will not change the situation. It will not help her, the child, or any other family dealing with FAS or addiction.
The most constructive thing we can do going forwards, is to encourage those with addictions to seek help. Fear of judgment and stigmatisation is a big barrier to finding that help.
Addiction is not the same as 'just loving to party'. It physiologically changes your brain. It is not enjoyable.
Of course, the mother is responsible. She took full accountability. There is nothing more she can do. Being digusted with her helps no one.
Please try to be compassionate to addicts you may encounter - if they could get out, they would. Addiction is a terrible thing.
She is a criminal
Her daughters are so fun and sweet
Poor kid 😢 if only her mom didn’t drink when she was pregnant
Terrible person. At least she didn’t abandon her child…literally zero flowers go to her.
It would be better if she leave her. Why would you want a mother like that?
This woman should be in jail but instead she HAS to take care of this child. Sometimes woman really upset me
Watching your child every day is a sort of mental prison and probably harder than being in jail.
@@MultiLinda42 maybe you should change your outlook and start caring.
It’s also a warning to people who drink and become pregnant, the dangers it has towards a unborn child. Im glad she was able to get her life together now even though her daughter now has FAS, it don’t mean she can’t live a good life.
This should be penalized as any other behavior permanently deteriorating someome's health.
How would you implement that into law? I’ve known multiple women who didn’t know they were pregnant until the 2nd or 3rd trimester, I know 3 that only found out once they gave birth. How would the courts be able to determine whether a woman knew for a fact she was pregnant as well as knowingly drinking despite it?
How would you punish it? She is sober, she looks after her kids. She likely has frequent social services visits still and will be scrutinized more than most parents. I'm not excusing her behaviour but addiction is crap and she pulled herself out of it for her kid.
I wish there was more informational material available for not only the publics education but also for healthcare workers. More than 60% of pregnancies are unplanned and FASD can be triggered/caused by as little as one drink. It could be a homeless or low income woman on the street, an alcoholic or an upper class socialite. One dinner party with friends where you have that one glass of wine with dinner only to find out a few days later you are pregnant. The brain begins to develop at approx 6wks gestation, a time when many women are just beginning to get the signs or symptoms she may be pregnant. You don't have to be an alcoholic for it to happen to you. It can happen to anyone from any walk of life.
It's also often misdiagnosed as ODD, ADHD and even as mental illness, girls are also more difficult to identify than boys as boys tend manifest the behaviors more clearly than girls whose symptoms tend to be masked by females natural instinct to mimic.
yesss lets not judge the woman who just destroyed a life. so brave oh my gaaad what a queen
Im so annoyed at the mom bro
Why is she getting famous for ruining her kids lives instead of in prison for life!
Female privilege that's why
Her body , her kid . We're you gonna pay for the kid if she was sober ? No
@@melindasmith3713you’re sick 😂
I saw a video about this syndrome. Where several youngsters with it, were living in an institution together. I think it was in Denmark, but not completely sure. They all suffered, and cried a lot because of it! And they were angry about their mothers giving it to them. It was nothing sweet or adorable about it, just a lot of struggles and sadness. This video is not showing the real life struggles, these people are having!!!!
Those kids are living in an institution. This girl is living with her loving mom, who has recovered from her disease and will forever be in atonement for the hurt she caused her daughter. These situations aren’t comparable.
@@MNHRI This girl is a lot younger than they were. The struggles got bigger as they grew to teenage years and older. When they started comparing themselves to other young healty adults. it was extremely sad and tragic, when they now cried a lot about what they could have been like. If the mothers had not been drinking during pregnancy. It was just so painful to see all the physical challenges as well as the psychological ones they had to struggle with, on a daily basis, as young adults.
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I couldnt live with myself kbowing i did this to someone
same. the guilt would eat me up
But regardless, there’s a little being that needs you; you have to be there to care and raise them. The mom did what was right, she got sober and took her motherhood seriously
Watching 1:54 makes me think she felt the same way. Good chance she wasn't in rehab only for addiction, but possibly also depression or suicidal ideation. We are often our worst critics
That mother is pathetic she should be ashamed of herself
Exactly
Shes so energetic, and amazing. Her family is really caring, and great.
Yes hashtag toilet gang
Thank you so much for doing this video. I love your lil one, she is adorable! It takes a lot of effort of bravery to do this video.
“ I feel like we’re friends , not sisters “ 🥺🥺so cute
The mother should be in jail because that is tottally evil
I find it a little ridiculous that when any other kid with a condition is on this channel, the comments are filled with people telling them how they're just like anyone else and aren't lesser, but the comments on this video are constantly talking about how the mother "ruined" Natalie's life forever. Natalie's mother has to face the consequences of her actions every day and I'm sure she would have changed them if she could go back. Addiction is brutal and can ruin people. But Natalie seems like a very sweet and happy soul and there's no reason to be telling her family in the comments that her life is somehow horrible when other children on here don't get that treatment.
That's because the other parents didn't ruin their children's lives. Their children were born different almost purely due to the genetic lottery, their parents were in no way responsible for what happens on a genetic level.
Natalie's mother, on the other hand, would've known full well about FAS. It's one of the first things expecting mothers are told at the hospital, and there are signs and warnings against it on literally every website and post about childcare. Yet she still let her addiction dominate her, and while Natalie isn't inferior to anyone, I'm certain that at some point she would've probably wished to be like most other kids. Her mother did this to her, and there's no place in Heaven for a lady that chose her vices over her angel of a child.
@@primerprime596 you clearly are ignorant on addiction. I believe Natalie’s mom, who is now in recovery, is an extremely loving mother who will give nothing but the best for her children. She may be in heaven before your judgmental self….who knows.
She caused great bodily harm to her own child, and for that she deserves a punishment. Being addicted is no excuse, you ignorant person. You are one of those people who do not judge a drunk driver, aren’t you? If someone drives while being drunk, that certain person deserves jail time. It is the same case with this horrible woman here.
Addiction is brutal. It’s still sad her daughter was hurt because of it though. Nobody chooses to be an addict and I’m sure she regrets how it affected her daughter, but she changed the entire trajectory of another persons life. I feel like we shouldn’t completely minimize an addicts actions when they end up harming other people.
@@zoehicks880 I agree. We should not minimize the actions, however, in this case we see Natalie’s mom went to treatment, and has been living a sober life for six years. She clearly has made changes and is a force for good for her children. She can’t undo her past actions, but she can do everything in her power to give her kids the best life now.
I don't think there's anything that can explain away or make it okay that you did that to your baby and permanently disabled them for the rest of their life. She shouldn't have a right to that child.
>If you could tell the whole world one thing, what would it be?
>I'm a horse
😂😂 She's so cute
It got me so much. She is so amazing 😂
It's not cute... It's heartbreaking
I wonder how many of the people leaving sanctimonious, preachy replies towards anyone who _dares_ to criticize the mother, would still keep that same holier-than-thou energy if a person with an addiction did something to _them_ that changed their life trajectory (e.g. permanent chronic pain and injuries from a DUI crash) or otherwise seriously harmed them. Just wondering.
Would that make you happy? Like seriously, why are you upset that people support a mom in recovery. Would you be happier if we mocked her?
@@AtMyHappyPlace mock? no. praise? yeah thats a bit too much. if we start praising criminals that is the end of it
Anybody else here because of the Chrisean situation? 😅
Yes
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What is the situation? Share the tea
@@jrideout2802People are speculating that her child (Chriseans child) has FAS or Cri du chat syndrome
@@jrideout2802 people have been speculating that Junior might have FAS or cri-du-chat because of how he looks and cries
i have FASD and so does my young sister, thanks mom!
I wish you the best both of you ❤️
Rock baby is the same 😢praying for these kids
How can this woman live with herself ?!
I think people who drink or so drugs while pregnant should be put in jail.. I could NEVER forgive myself if I was the cause of damage to a child. I
And what, exactly, would that accomplish?
@@krisw5318 Responsability for their actions. You hurt and damage a person for life? You go to prison, no matter if you had an addiction or mental illness or whatever.
@@krisw5318I don’t care. People who harm others like this shouldn’t be in society
here to watch this video after my sister willingly drank alcohol knowing she is pregnant … preparing myself in case.
Why would she drink while pregnant
She saved her life and you destroyed hers before it even started lol xD
It's easy to judge people because you don't know what they are going through. Going through life saying what you would never do, until you do it. My heart goes out to anyone who struggles with addiction.
she saved your life huh? and her life?
it's common sense when your pregnant and drinking we know we can damage the unborn it's sad this little girls life is ruined she won't live a normal life and she will need adult care all her life
The sisters have a beautiful bond ❣️❣️❣️
Until they hit 16yrs old. Then one will be out partying without her sister.
And noticing she is facing a lifetime of having to care for her sister after her mother is passed out on someone's couch or dead. She ruined two lives.
I‘m sad to read that people want to see the mom in jail. I see the point in condemning the consumption of alcohol, that shouldn‘t have happened, that’s clear.. but it makes no sense to put the mom in jail. a.) she is sober, b.) she can take care of her kids. Losing her mom, wouldn’t help her child. Nothing can make the damage undone. The only thing the mum can do is staying on track and continue to be honest with her child, even though questions and strong emotions will arise from the girl at some point pointing all to the question: „why did you let this happen?“ it‘s such a sad story indeed, but punishments and hating the mom wouldn‘t change anything.
Please do an update on Natalie and her family.
子どものための少しの我慢で健康に生まれてくるはずだった。
this is messed up...
And why is no one talking about how this kids hair is cut?????
She should be in jail just for that alone.!
I'm so happy people are able to recover this well. Its truly amazing to see.
And that little girl looks so happy. It warms my heart to see her smile😊
Until she grows up and finds out her moms irresponsibility damaged her life forever
The mom seems so proud about what she did
She beat all odds, she chose to keep her baby and beat her addiction. She then had a healthy child free from the effects of alcohol, she has something to be proud of. Is it tragic that she drank while pregnant with her first? Absolutely. Should her shame over her past sins be greater than the joys of her success? Absolutely not. Repentance is the way to salvation; who can judge another who has done the work to atone for their past?
Mom seems like a narcissist.
She never answered why she doesnt judge other women like her……….. she tortured her child.
Its a good idea to talk about this issues next to the child? Cause she seems to understand words and seems distraught
Generational Trauma Tragedy
この短い動画を見ただけで文句言うのも失礼なんですけど、「幸せ」って母親は子供のおかげで立ち直れたかもしれないけど、このアルコールを大量摂取させられて生まれた子の将来はどうするの？
気持ちが不安定で、自分の考えてることもうまく伝えられない、苦しみも上手く伝えられなかったらどう責任取るの？
だってこの子笑ってるけど、幸せだから笑ってるって見えないもん。
目がおかしいし、反応も極端。
将来がとても不安です。
Should be in prison for life. She essentially punches her child in the face every time she thinks, speaks, and acts.
She's so sweet
I think the best quote for this is "He who hath not sinned may cast the first stone." None of us are perfect.