Everyone on the internet says, they're weird. Probably because they want to feel special. Sometimes I think, I'm the only normal person :P (I just want to feel more special)
@@rajinfootonchuriquen Things not working out? Just do what I did. Be raised in the most prosperous and peaceful time in human history. Alright, good talk son.
Well my dad gave me Crack and Heroin and stole my money and kicked me out of bed when i was 2yo and broke my skull and the only talk he gave me is how i should hate my mother which i do but i also hate him so be thankful for your dad. Edit: I forgot how he told me that the world will end 2012 and that we should kill ourselfes before that happens. Also: He thinks hes very christian and actually on the good side Edit2: It actually was a very fatherly and loving action of him to give me drugs and be sucha disgusting person because he only wanted to show me what NOT to do.
I was diagnosed as high-functioning autistic last year and that diagnosis along with my weak social skills have caused me to constantly second-guess myself and try to change for people. I needed this bit of encouragement to pull me back into reality
@@totally_not_a_bot I'm alot more comfotable being honest about how I feel, and it hurts sometimes to think about how much I used to bend over backwards, it's no wonder I was always so frustrated. I'm still not great with people, but what can you do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@LevKozlodoev I have an autistic friend who has a great job, owns a house, lots of money, very into fitness, has lots of friends etc. Whenever I call him out on anything he does he says 'oh it's not my fault I was rude I was diagnosed with autism as a child'. What a load of shit.
I have the cure to bad social skills. Look at my video where I talk about my autism disappearing... My only issues were bad social skills, and that's about it. Everything else was up to me. This concept of fear that isn't actually there, but now has been infused into many. Unfortunately I'm yet to be recognised for it. Hoping to get diagnosed tomorrow and see if I can become a speaker for my experience. It's affected me a lot, and simple attention is what I require. I can't fix things a lot of things right now. I'm waaaaaay past social skills. Honestly stop worrying about what comes out your mouth. It's such a freeing feeling. But, yeah I really need attention lol there ain't nobody that discovered this yet. Like nobody believes that I have problems socialising. I don't... but I used to. Please help these people not endure the mentality I used to have. I ain't got many people to vouch for me right now. I'm really putting myself out there. I'm the last person that you'd expect to suddenly become social. My videos prove that. loser in his bedroom. Help me
The biggest problem is doctors over diagnosing "autism" at a very young age and parents reinforcing a child's behaviors because "that's just the way he/she is and we can't do anything about it"
I Was 35 When I was Diagnosed thought I also Have Dyslexia and ADD. I had a hard time making friends I got Teased a lot and some of kids did not like me but i never gave up and I mad Friends. I got Married to the love of my life when I was 23. In my 30s I was having lots of melt downs. Having a hart time Handling Stress and changes at work so i went to see a psyocalgist she dignosed me with autism and put me on SSI. My Melt downs at work were gitting so bab I was becoming unemployable
in my case i was diagnosed at an early age and put in therapy all my life to try and correct bad behavior i wasn't really allowed to be a kid, everything was constantly scrutinized and punished, it was like having 3 bosses that come around every time you screw up your tps report. you get punished at school, then sent to the sped room, then they would call your parents, then they take you to a family therapist where the only advice you got was "stop doing that"
I kid, but your message is true and useful to remember. I'd like to append to the title something like '(and even if you are, you've got to figure out some way to live!)'.
I'm pretty normal. I just like Linux. I use Linux. And I like your videos, because they're interesting and I like the way you share your opinions and knowledge.
Well-said. People are quick to label themselves with some kind of syndrome these days, and often wear it like a badge of honor, (or an albatross around their neck). Skim through the comments on any mental health-related youtube channel. You'll see quite a few people searching for a way to obtain an official diagnosis, ("finally got my diagnosis!! Yay!!"). Not trying to disparage anyone who genuinely has a serious mental condition, but there seems to be a pretty high number of people who are seeking to put themselves in some kind of box. My tendency is to believe that there are a lot of unhappy, unfulfilled, socially frustrated people in the world today. Maybe I am off-base with this, but it seems that the number of people desperately searching for personal or social validity through some kind of group identity is increasing daily. I can't help but feel that some people may be looking for an excuse to stop trying. Maybe it's a lack of perspective. It can be difficult sometimes to truly accept and cope with the negative things about yourself that you cannot change. Either way, this video rings true to me: Not every personality trait is some kind of diagnosable disease.
I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome as a child and had a pretty rough childhood which caused me to develop Bipolar Disorder and through some horrible experiences i had also PTSD and Social anxiety. The first thing i did when i was an adult was to fight to get my Asperger Diagnosis legally removed. I thought if i just didn't believe there was anything wrong it would work out, it didn't. At the age of 22, i was diagnosed yet again by 2 different doctors (One Specialist and my Psychiatrist). I used to always feel bad for myself and hate who i was, wondering why i couldn't just be like everyone else. But after thoroughly getting interested in Philosophy(mainly Stoicism and Nietzsche) i generally stopped caring about that. I am pretty sure that i am exactly how nature intended me to be and i accepted that fact, therefore i just want to be myself and do the things that i value and consider important even if that makes me weird or even a "Loser" as people tend to say. What i am disgusted with though is that there are so many people on the internet that pretend to have disabilities or mental illnesses that most people now started making fun of people and not taking these things seriously anymore. Which means people like me with actual issues and diganoses are put in the same box as those attention seakers, making it basically impossible to talk to people about those things, therefore i have been quite lonely and isolated, which at this point became normal to me so that i started to be pretty independent. A trait that i didn't want but now value a lot. Because just like you said, time invested in yourself and skills is something that will always stay with you, while friends can always turn their back to you and leave.
Mate, I know this is an ancient video, and without going into any details I just wanted to unironically say thanks. You have no idea what this video meant to me
Huh. I'm not really your demographic but this is some very sane advice. You have a knack for rationally and calmly breaking down ideas, good delivery too. Hope younger viewers take this advice on board, because as someone who went through stuff like that...it's totally normal. You'll be fine as long as you make some effort to be at least a bit self aware (which is a totally different thing than how we use the term 'self-conscious') and work on improving yourself in the areas that you can work on. Much of the other stuff will fall into place as you become a more well rounded person. Quality video and good on your for making it.
Autism is not just a social disorder. In order to be diagnosed with autism you must demonstrate repeated and restricted patterns of behaviours, interests, or activities.
A really great take on life, Luke. Keep it up, and when you're 77, like I am now, you'll be more valuable to our society than any plunderable object. Thank you.
man, I remember being a teenager, barely. shit was wack. school is like this weird alternate reality you can't see out of until suddenly it gets pulled away, or you pull it away. I left early to pursue study in a saner environment, thank fuck
I think most people just call themselves just jokingly call themselves autistic. Using linux and spending hours customizing your environment isn't normal, but who cares? I don't want to be normal. I think people should just care less about what other people except family and close friends think of you. When I used to make some weird jokes and nobody laughed I felt super bad for the whole day, but other people dont really care that much. They might find it weird in the moment but just forget about it afterwards. People really don't care that much about you. It was so bad that when I answered a teacher's question wrong in class I felt bad about it for a long time and thought about what the teacher might think of me because of that. I know this sounds super weird but that's just how insecure I used to be. [Special snowflake intensifies]
@@manners7483 I've Had These Issues and feeling some times still do But i just go for it and make mistakes and learn from them and i've mad friends some go and some to advantage of me then i weeded the bad ones out. After Failing at dating i finally met the love of my life. I am not A virgin I am Married have 2 kids. Me And My wife get along well she gives it to me straight never beats around the bush and i have worked on my communication skills for her
There used to be a time when it was understood that the smartest of us are shy and awkward, it was accepted as fact. Those who screamed AAAAAAAAAAA at the sight of new people or crowds, and ran away really fast, were diagnosed with autism. In today's society, having a weakness or a sickness is a badge of honor. Don't think I need to explain why.
I feel like part of the problem is many people do not want to view themselves as being just smart (or creative), since this feels arrogant, but want an explanation for why they are different, and latch onto things like autism. There are a lot of overlaps between autism and giftedness just like there is a thin line between genius and madness.
@@leftfield6590 I've been slowly learning it is arrogant to deny your gifts. Doesn't mean you need to brag, doesn't mean to think you know everything and not be humble, but false humility is not a virtue. Like people used to say to me "Wow you're really good at math." and I'd say "I'm not that good. So in so did better on that one question." which was me completely denying their compliment, and, if they took me seriously, was me implying "I'm not good, you suck"
To me, having asd and adhd aren't any badges of honour. They are labels that help me somehow get along with others without breaking down into tears every few hours. If I accept and embrace my "weirdness", I can allow myself to do behaviours that people consider socially unacceptable EVEN THOUGH THEY DO NO HARM to anyone (like, not looking into strangers' eyes, rocking back and forth or pacing at a bus stop, covering my ears when a loud siren goes by, being uncoordinated with my facial and bodily expressions). I take responsibility for hurting others on purpose, but I rarely do it these days cause I have been working on myself. But those behaviours didn't even likely stem from autism, they were just me being a spoilt teenager. Me "hurting" someone's feelings by acting how I wanna is not my problem, it's theirs. Like when they feel offended by me saying fuck you to the social norms and just stimming like crazy in a public place. In these situations, the reason for someone feeling "hurt" is not me intentionally doing something to simply hurt them. It's their own feeling of pressure to conform to social rules, all while seeing that someone else just doesn't care and acts like themselves no matter what, that gets that first person to feel "offended". You see the difference? Pretending to know how to act is a huge draining force that I don't need in my life. I'd understand you would like me to change if my problem was antisocial behaviour: hurting people and animals, stealing, breaking in. But all I do wrong now is stim. Or talk about taboo topics in public places cause I don't care that much. What's hurting you in the latter case is again, not me. It's your own perception of what is right or wrong that the society has taught you.
98% Male 2% female. It's almost as if women aren't interested in tech as men are. Better redesign the entire field to make it 50% men and 50% female, or let's be honest, 30% male 70% female.
It's really refreshing and wonderful to see someone who's directly addressing the youth and their feelings and what they're going through in the current state of the world. Keep it up! Things are so very confusing for kids now. And I let for clarity like this is definitely needed!
Good points, and like you said, even if it was wrong, thinking this is a bad mindset. IRL friends are very important though, isolating yourself socially isn't natural or healthy. I'm guilty of it to though.
I am an introvert. And I always thought I was not normal, also a little bit weird. But as I read that we are living in an extroverted society and it's a type of personality that also has many benefits, I accepted it and even like me being an introvert. And I think computer gurus say mostly they are weird, but they earn a lot of money and therefore it isn't meant to be something bad anymore. I also know someone who thinks those weird side of a programmer being a status symbol.
thank you Luke for this. I self suspected that I had Asperger's because of some thing recently happened to me, and I have always had interests that are very different from people my age, and because of that, I never had much common language with my schoolmates/friends. I went to a counselor last week and we talked for an hour, the councelor refered to hisi DSM book and said he did not think I was austistic, and added that lots of intelligent people do feel isolated somewhat from the society, and even feel that they've got no time for stupidity, which to people around them, they are just being rude. So I guess if you enjoy different things and your friends can't understand you, maybe it is just because you are smarter, more sensible than them, but it does not necessarily mean that you are weird.
I hate the word "weird" or "normal" when used to describe a person. I prefer to use "different" and that it is totally fine to be this way. I was frog marched by a care home manager last year into her office, where she said I was weird to my face. I think it comes down to my lack of societal conformity and more abstract ways of thinking. I also think it is ok to do anything you want, so long as it does not hurt anyone. However "normal" people like the manager, are just full of fear and prejudice when it comes to people like me, and they fail to see the creative mind and unconditional love I have for everything.
I can see the reason for either the exaggeration or the misunderstanding: People these days are pushed into a corner, forced to declare this or that even though they don't believe in it or agree with it. It takes a __huge__ amount of effort to both lie and to lie convincingly and this is made all the harder if you are in the middle of a project or task. At many jobs, I have upset come people because I'll only speak to one or two people and will be very animated with them, really enjoying their company. But, with others, I'll be quiet and stand-offish. I got in trouble at one job for not wanting to eat lunch off the clock with other coworkers when the company was buying us all lunch. My feelings are: i'd rather not eat at all than to be forced to spend my unpaid time with those coworkers (who I didn't hate, but being forced to pretend to enjoy them was exhausting). I was told by management that I wasn't friendly enough. I am seeing ridiculous things in job ads that say I need to have extroverted, social qualities in fields that are mostly manual labor (not at all customer service or sales). I left customer service and sales to escape the political correctness and the office politics, because those are harder to deal with than the job itself.
Luke, you are very weird, so I am and every person who resonates with your speech. Being normal is literrally the worst thing that can happends to someone. Normal people are alienade from themself. They never cuestion, never thinking on their behaviour, never do something remotely novel. They even consume the same things: same movies, same music, same books, same drinks, same clothes, etc. Living and dying being totally replazable, where the people who knew them, never thought of them as someone never met before. With them, only change the skin and the voice, but their minds are the same.
Part of me craves attention, and the other part despises socializing and likes being alone. The first part made me write this comment, and the other part is asking what's the point of writing this comment.
I have to add, I am weird. But, I have 5 children. My eldest son is clearly different. Highly anxious and overwhelmed, thoughts are completely different than my other kids. He is clearly very insightful beyond his years and very interesting. I also have 5 siblings. None are like that. I have over 30 first cousins, only one of them is kind of similar. He is clearly different, thinks different, has a difficult time interacting and conversing, is sensitive and anxious.He is also highly insightful. I will make it short...I think possibly wifi frequency sensitivity or some type of brain malformation like a stroke is causing it. There is something that is going on and on different levels with people . But for the most part I agree with your comments and people are throwing themselves in this category in an attempt to understand why they are a little different and less social. Its tough.
Sounds like most of those comments are just people trying to make themselves look quirky. Also, having social skills is actually very important. Being able to make connections with people in a similar career path is extremely useful in getting a job. I don't think anyone should brush something like that under the rug, even if you have some disability that makes it hard to talk to people.
True words clearly spoken. Well, ok, "normal" is a statistical unit, it does not necessarily implement "good" or other moralic units. Love your videos and your humor, keep on rockin'!
Most people who are diagnosed with "autism" aren't actually autistic, they usually just have social anxiety (a problem which anyone can overcome). To show you how insane this whole disorder movement is, when I was about 14 I got diagnosed with a "defiance disorder". Seriously. If I'm not compliant, I'm a damaged human being who needs to be medicated. If this isn't dystopian then idk what is. My advice to anyone out there reading this. If you're diagnosed with a disorder, do everything you can to overcome it. Try socializing with other people, fix your health/diet, practice what you are bad at. There is no excuse for doing nothing.
@@cooleyYT You absolutely can though, honestly it's pretty ignorant and stupid to pretend that the majority of social anxiety cannot be fixed with accountability and personal responsibility.
@@s1nistr433 yea because getting help bad..just getting over it and dealing with it good. Fantastic logic. Amazing that you dont know what its like, clearly. OR your logic is just flawed. either way you're wrong
Social anxiety is usually a symptom of another issue one has. And autism is not wrong, it doesn't have to be overcame. It's just different brain wiring so it should be more about learning how to adapt to the world and making people more aware of autism so that they adapt top it.
You should make more videos of this caliber. Orginally subscribed for your Linux content, but I (and others I'm sure) enjoy hearing your thoughts. Have a good one.
Honestly, this video was nothing like what I expected to be. You think this is only good for "neurotypicals"? There are many cognizant individuals within the actual autism community who could definitely benefit from a message like this. "Worry less, improve yourself, do better, don't put yourself in a box". For us, or for me at least, autism has been an integral part of my identity. I can pass well as normal nowadays, and to me, that was due to a large amount of painstaking work. It's that sort of thing I want to inspire in others in the autistic community who are able. I.e. don't use their traits as a crux. Move forward, do your best to improve, don't beat yourself, keep going. I've been inspired before to do autism research myself. You sir encourage me to do so more. God bless you and everyone else here!
Hi, an actual autistic person here and just let say, if you're using "autism" as an excuse to explain away your flaws, you'll end up alone and it'll be your fault. The main thing that triggered me in this vid is those ppl making excuses. Treating autism as an incurable disease. So Here's how it really is. A. Being "off mainstream" isn't autistic (basically the video) if anyone wants to hear my exp ask in comments. B. Autistic ppl can 100% work at getting better at social interactions. It takes work, and you'll probably never fully get that intuitive social compass other have. But I got to the point of being comfortable being the only person on a stage. So that argument "oh I'm autistic" is bull. C. I love been neurodivergent. And so are a lot of ppl like me. I love the irregular thought patterns, I love the off perspectives I love being able to take ppls view on reality and make them question if cartoon characters are real. So, yeah, you might be weird. First of, welcome to the human experience, we're all a little crazy, coffee's over by the window. secondly, if there's an aspect of your personality you don't like. You're the only reason it isn't getting changed. So yeah. Sorry if I come off aggressive. As you can imagine I don't appreciate "autistic" being used as derogatory term, some of the best ppl ik are autistic. And I'm sick and tired of ppl using it as an excuse to saty in their comfortable box
@@upendownlinker lol how does something sounds "from a community" I'll tell you exactly where I experienced that. I experienced that during 9yr of therapy elementary to highschool. I experienced that figuring out how to analyse and approach social situations so I won't say something so tactless I'll actively insult someone. So yeah, Those are mine. The reason they might sound like something you hear from the autistic/neurodivergent community is bc~ idk? I'm part of it? Ever considered that? Or, are you talking about me enjoying parts of it? Why? Bc if you're autistic you're automatically "sick" and have no good facets from being wired differently? Get over yourself lol
1% of the population is autistic. But also, a much larger share of people attracted and prone to geek-ery and nerd-ery are autistic than in the general population (this is true for IT, but also for Physics, Math majors etc). Those have been well studied and documented in relevant papers. So, yeah, it's very possible that a large percentage (10% or more) of your specialized geek-oriented audience IS autistic. Unless you have studied what autism is, and how it manifests and behavior like "masking", you might have the idea that autistic means "Rain Man" or "The Accountant" style behavior, which is hardly the case for the "highly functional" side of the spectrum. So unless you see that, you're quick to call the other "fake" or "normal just thinking they are autistic". The social things you say "don't matter" after high school still matter a lot in adult life, and represent realsetbacks for autistic people - even the highly functional (non-Rainman style) autistic people who you couldn't tell at first glance. They mean big problems in socializing, being the office scape boat, failing at office politics, taken advantage off, and we haven't even touched the sensory and other issues. In some IT companies it's better than the general corporate world, as a lot of colleagues will be autistic too, so the climate is more geared towards accomondatingt that mindset, even if it's not done explicitly and consciously. In others, all bets are off. In general, telling people "you're not autistic, you're normal" when you don't know their individual cases, and when by its very nature of your content a larger share (than the general population) of your audience will be actually autistic, is BS and detrimental. It's like going to McDonalds with a lot of the tables full of 300+ pound guys eating and telling them "You're not obese, you're normal".
I am a genuine nerd and take pride in the term. I also have a legitimate diagnosis of autism dating back to 9/11/01, resulting in 2 very shocking events happening on the same day: terrorist attacks and my diagnosis of (then low functioning, now high functioning) autism. I really hate that people use autism as an insult. It's stupid because even though it is a neurological developmental disorder and therefore a disability, it is also a trade-off, giving those with the condition unique skills that most neurotypical people may not necessarily have. Because we are socially inept by nature, we tend to be very good with computers and other technical or logical things. I for one, even to this day, struggle to read specific social cues at times and even experience PLI, but I am an absolute computer and technology nut and am picky about the way I have things set up or do certain things. TL;DR: Autism is essentially complete ADHD with symptoms of OCD and social awkwardness or difficulty reading social cues. That's it.
@@manners7483 I feel you. I go on tangents a lot. I like to type long paragraphs and could write a whole essay if I simply felt like it. I don't really like the idea of curing it and if such a thing existed I would refuse because I didn't come all this way just to throw it all away and become a completely different person. Yeah, I pretty much know how neurotypicals think but I also know how I think. Our brains aren't really missing parts so much as they are wired differently and prioritize different things.
The trade-offs associated with autism are absolutely not worth it, being different inevitably leads to isolation which begets depression. Why is mental illness / depression so much higher with autistic people if that wasn't the case?
"Oooh but i'm good at computers!!!" means nothing if you are constantly isolated from your peers and gain life-long depression as a result of trauma or whatever the hell it's called. Why do people love to say they are "proud" of their condition when they know that this is what it entails, is it perhaps a case of survivor bias or just a delusional coping mechanism?
@@pikajew3578 also, isolation can kill you or it can lead to you doing great things. sometimes both. not to mention, with the internet, it's totally feasible to find and meet up with other autistic people. they communicate and get along with each other as well as neurotypicals do with other neurotypicals. just gotta find their crew.
What a great message. I’m 22 in college getting my computer science degree, I spend my weekends coding and tinkering while a lot of my friends are partying. If you feel like your missing out, do your self a favor and go to a bar with your friends just once. You’ll immediately be reminded of the reasons you hate doing that stuff😂 great vid man, you earned a sub👍 #iusearchbtw
I happen to actually have the disorder to a relatively high degree (high functioning though). It's a bit of a struggle to deal with to say the least, and people claiming they have it despite not having consulted any professionals in mental health really doesn't help. Most people don't understand it properly in terms of what it actually does, so people claiming they have it when they don't just adds to the confusion. I think that the reason people do this is because it's quite a trivialised disorder, with characters like Benedict Cumberbatch's Sherlock who make it seem like a sort of superpower. It gives people a reason to feel better about themselves despite their social failings. People need to understand that you don't need a DSM-5 listed problem to make you special or unique. Special in particular is something that most people have to earn, including autistics.
Having autism or a few other issues gives you a tiny bit of legal protections or, at least, more considerations if you work at really large companies. At really small companies, it is better not to tell them usually
Im 44 And A big Fan .I grew up using Ms Dos and had a Hard time adjusting to windows/Mac Desktop. Im A big fan of you video's and your dot files. Im a Huge Vim User. I've Been Diagnosed with autism but I'm not a Virgin I have been Married for 20 years and have 2 kids. I make Friends very easy. I've Work hard to improve my social skins and i don't consider my self masking my autism, I am just not using it as a crutch. Sure I make Mistakes but I learn from them and grow
Thought of postmodernism gave us that identity politics where once you identify your victim status you just self-referentially relive your past victimization over and over again. People should know that this is learned behaviour which stems from ideas they unknowingly accept and then judge whole life experience by those ideas. If everything is irony all the time (evading being serious), thats string marker.
if the only symptom of autism you have is "social anxiety" you would be diagnosed with social anxiety disorder or whatever it's called (which is normal) not autism.
I agree. I fell into the trap to wonder whether I am autistic or some other thing. It was a desperation to explain why I was struggling with things and didn't fit with society or couldn't connect with most normies. While I believe there are differences in the brain that makes it harder for some, this whole identification is a beg for explaining why one struggles so much with life. There are of course people with severe autism, but most who are not, might have tried to explain their issues and how they don't fit, and one of the explanation that came was a mental difference. So are other things. Some of us are lacking the other traps (gender, race, sexuality) to try to make sense when things don't go well in life. I call these the three vectors of identity==victimhood. The fourth vector is mental differences. But it's the same when people find for example MBTi and they internalize it, like "They don't like me because of INFP, we are special!". It's the same trap. I sometimes think, if I was a woman I would have fallen into the trap of becoming a feminist, if I was non white I would have fallen into the trap of race grifting, or if my sexuality wasn't straight I'd fallen into that trap of identity==victim. I almost fell on the 4th vector. I do wonder, if that's another reason why some men are more successful (although many others fail because of the pressure). What do I mean? There are no vectors of oppression, so if you fail, if you didn't get the job, if you got victimized, you can't explain it with the first three vectors, so it's more probable you will strive to get good at something to make for the fact that as a man you are just a nobody unless you have proven yourself. But if you are a woman and they tell you, you are good no matter what, then you might stick to it and even have some kind of complex of men being achievers (which is still a small portion of men, because most suffer from the pressure). It's harsh, but there is something liberating to let things go, do your best, and not fall into the trap of explaining your situtation with an identity.
Nah man, I am a woman and I am not a feminist. I am not hetero and I don't give a shit about being part of the LGBTQ movement. But my illnesses are mine. My asd is mine. I am weird and much less normie than normies are, and won't pretend that I am NOT super sensitive and easily overwhelmed.
What's more, I am obsessed with mbti and similar systems, but I don't use them as excuses for my acting like an asshole to people sometimes. That's what immature people (including an immature me a few years ago) do. I own my mistakes and try my best to avoid them. But if it wasn't for my asd label, I wouldn't allow myself to "act autistic" and harmlessly stim for example. I would just try to suck it all up and get my shit together and act "normal", which would, ironically, lead to incomparably bigger and more frequent breakdowns and meltdowns than nowadays when I feel not only not discouraged, but even encouraged to hum silently on the bus or to flap my hands when I feel excited. That shit is everything.
I was looking for this video so I searched for "you are not autistic", and every other result is "50 SIGNS THAT YOU MAY BE AUTISTIC AND NOT KNOW IT!?". Stuff like "feeling tired often", "don't like people telling you what to do", "not caring what other people think", "liking animals", "noticing patterns" and my favorite "either having a good or bad memory". This shit has millions of views, all veiled in this disguise of "understanding" and "helping" you recognize your ILLNESS. Makes me sick, especially when I just know the kids who watch this crap are also encouraged by school and other institutions to get diagnosed.
Have been diagnosed with ADD and I'm suspected to be on the spectrum, always been different and kind of hard to "mesh" with others. Couldn't agree more, you just gotta go out and find your comfort zone everywhere!
A far larger percentage of the American population is extraverted and/or social. People who are not are looked down upon, frowned upon. But, sometimes it is worse if a person is open and fun with one or two people but not with others. This seems to upset people more than your just being quiet with _every_ one.
There are many traits we have which don't belong to a condition or a mental health issue. However, if you recognise yourself when listening to people talk about a specific condition (professionals or people with lived experience), and you would like to gain clarity, then go and see a mental health professional for guidance. A lot of people, including myself, have found a great deal of comfort from finally understanding our reactions to the world, getting help to manage our life better and a community which understands and supports us. Sometimes there actually is something different about us and an explanation for this can be a very positive experience.
I'm actually a high functioning autistic (what they used to call Asperger's) and it is a lot different internally than just being nerdy or geeky. Try not being born with a social intuition and an abnormal emotional intuition. That's the best way to describe it I think.
Very refreshing to her your encouraging words, not easy these days to live like a normal person with "normal hobbies" or working in the IT field. It automatically brands someone as a "undesireable" person.
Half of human interaction is stuff that everyone knows is bullshit but nobody has the guts to call out how stupid everyone is being for fear that they won't be able to stand up to the group-think. I think once you recognise that and realise that people are just as terrified/disillusioned with it all then you feel a little less alone.
Never join groups the worst thing you can do is be the odd one out who upsets the status quo and everyone ostracizes you for it. A free thinker In a group is like a strawberry in a basket of blueberrys. It cannot work.
3:30 Interesting. I find myself regretting not having been more adventurous and spending most of my time in books. It's a pretty unique situation in life where you have very low risks to yourself socially and very low expectations as well. And while you clearly learn better when you're young rather than old it's not obvious that my learning was all that much better than it is now. And frankly I didn't have very good direction in learning what I wanted to learn so there was also a lot of wasted time. Being even more retrospective the worst direction I've had is when I was given toys to learn programming. They're awful on all levels. I kinda want to make something that actually could teach kids electronics and/or programming really well. Because thinking back to second to 6th grade those years were just a tremendous waste in many ways. I probably should have just picked up skateboarding or mountain-biking. Anything else, given what I had.
I think a lot of young men never develop an understanding that mistakes are the default and most men aren't actually a 1 dimensional stereotype that puts people in the hospital playing foobaw and impregnates half the young women in their high school or whatever. You don't have to sort yourself into the "I'm a weird little social outcast because I'm an introvert who likes computers" category over that. it's more common now than ever, so probably a lot of you are just atomized "normies."
I think that something not emphasized enough is that diagnosis is a tool for getting specific treatments and understanding show to deal with certain issues. *That* should be emphasized, not the label itself. I think that in our increasingly polarized society, we focus too much on the idea of a label and not what the label is actually supposed to be used for.
Yeah I agree. I'm 25 and was diagnosed with autism about 5 years ago. Always been a bit skeptical about that diagnosis, but regardless, at the end of the day it's just a label to me and I don't see it as something that should determine my entire personality or life. Sure, some things might be more difficult for me than for others and in some regards I feel like I'm less developed, but that doesn't mean that I can't change and develop and improve my skills. In fact I think I've made a lot of progress in different areas, even before the diagnosis, but especially the past few years and months. Even if we have certain genetics and biases, I think we as humans can be very adaptable and flexible. It's just a matter of your mindset and putting in the time and effort. It can definitely take a long time, it has for me and it'll probably take much longer before I'm at a place I'm properly content with (though I can already be quite content where I am rn), but I'll get there. And sure some people might be more "normal" in the sense that they're neurotypical or whatever, but I think everyone has their own issue and I don't think being normal is necessarily something good or something you should strive towards. That's just the pressure you feel from the expectations of society. End of the day we're all just a bunch of meatbags wandering around in some made weird ass system we've constructed. If we broaden our horizons a bit there's potentially so much more to life.
This is the saddest story i have ever read, imagine being okay with being an outlier of society. You clearly want to be normal but know you can't and gave up sometime in high school or college, instead of just admitting you have less worth than others you just rationalise it all as "self-acceptance" in order to cope with your lonely & pathetic existence.
I only have anecdotal and firsthand evidence of my view but such is life. It would seem that a very small minority of people diagnosed with Autism are actually “different” from the norm. I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism back in 2004 and my parents made the decision to not tell me and treat me the same as my sister. The rules were extremely consistent and applied fairly. Even with this treatment I see in retrospect that I display some of the most typical traits of both diagnoses. But since I didn’t know about those diagnoses I thought I was just different at the time. So in my personal experience there are a subset of people who have sets of traits that would set them apart from the “norm”. The biggest problem is extreme over diagnosis and telling kids they have X or Y, because then being X or Y becomes that kids entire personality. You’ll see posts all the time saying “as an X”, “as a Y” and the talking about their behaviour or how they need to be treated differently. Please give me a break. Treat everyone equally! Don’t tell people who aren’t your doctor your diagnosis. This infatuation with mental differences or disorders is disgusting. It is up to the person with X or Y to find strategies to deal with all situations, not to try and bend all situations to their will by saying “I’m X don’t do this”. Sincerely a dude that some doctor labeled as a child.
Good stuff. This is why it's important to find like minded or people with similar interests if for no other reason than to be reminded that you're not "alone". Also society needs people with diversity in interests and personality. If it wasn't beneficial for human progress and survival, we'd all be much more similar. So it's important to find out your strengths and how you can use them for self-growth, instead of turning into an asshole like some folks do and going full moron. The whole phenomenon of people calling themselves autistic is an aspect of this, imo. Having inclinations that make you less likely to get social practice is *not* the same as being physically unable to understand social and/or emotional cues; the former is just your personality, the latter is a developmental disorder.
A long time ago, a friend of mine was talking with Sir Terry Pratchett (who writes the discworld books). He was very industrious, and spent 8 hours per day working, monday through friday. On fridays, he would spend the day answering fan mail, and he would file the fan mail afterwards. He found a very large number of the "detail-oriented" folks (the ones who would point out internal inconsistencies between word choices between books) were named "kevin", so he had a file labelled "kevins" which was those letters. When we heard this story, my wife and I took to referring to people who had deep knowledge in an area as a kevin. As in, "Man, Luke Smith is a real ricing kevin". I always liked that it differentiated the trait from the individual (since terms like nerd, rather than referring to a particular area, seem to refer to the overall person).Also, sorry for the wall of text.
I agree in principle, though you should not take this reasoning to the extreme either Being weird is fine, having an introverted personality is fine too. Using that as an excuse to never get out of your comfort zone isn' t though, I think. >looks at comments wew lads that' s a lot of weaponised autism in one comment section.
I'm very likely autistic, but it doesn't matter because I'm more of the Asperger's variety, and it makes me much better at certain things and worse at others. The only importance it holds is that it explains why I'm not the same as everyone else, but I'm not particularly bothered being different. In fact, I guess you could say it's normal to be different because tons of people have different mental varieties, as it was said in the video.
The difference between someone who is actually weird and someone who wants to tell you how weird they are is that the person who is actually weird can't turn it off. The person who wants to be thought of as weird or unique, actually HAS to do things that make them appear eccentric. But really, they don't exist in that neurodivergent, eccentric space. The person who is truly neurodivergent just wishes it would turn off for 5 minutes, and is usually terrified of making social errors.
The whole "everyone vaguely different has autism" thing fits perfectly with every other way modern life is today. The male brain (more systematizing than empathising, so yeah basically male brain at the risk of being shouted at for simplifying things) is something to be suspicious of, according to modern society. And needs a label if it engages in too much wrong think.
"I'm sorry but you're not weird"
How will I ever recover
😂😂😂
Everyone on the internet says, they're weird. Probably because they want to feel special.
Sometimes I think, I'm the only normal person :P
(I just want to feel more special)
Get into Scat
@@scalalearning7850 what's weird about that
@@scalalearning7850 Maybe he isn't German?
"Maybe I'm just a bizarre little person who walks back and forth." -- Terry A. Davis.
Based TCHAD
I miss him so much.
A 1 dimensional being?
"I'm going to give the VM 24 cores, because I have a fucking Xeon supercomputer" - Terry Davis
I miss him bros.
Come for the Linux, stay for the feels.
Haha! Sew real
@Alon Itzhak A public service by Luke Smith, hahaha
true dat
Same
i feel you bruh
Luke had a better boomer dad conversation with me than my dad himself
Boomers are highly overrated. It's like they had lived for most that 60 years and in that time, they never thought of their everyday life.
honestly, i think luke is just on the spectrum
@@xdirtyrandyx he certainly seems to be in heavy denial and attempting to convert everyone else
@@rajinfootonchuriquen Things not working out? Just do what I did. Be raised in the most prosperous and peaceful time in human history. Alright, good talk son.
Well my dad gave me Crack and Heroin and stole my money and kicked me out of bed when i was 2yo and broke my skull and the only talk he gave me is how i should hate my mother which i do but i also hate him so be thankful for your dad.
Edit: I forgot how he told me that the world will end 2012 and that we should kill ourselfes before that happens.
Also: He thinks hes very christian and actually on the good side
Edit2: It actually was a very fatherly and loving action of him to give me drugs and be sucha disgusting person because he only wanted to show me what NOT to do.
Ammm,
I think in forum there are 98% male
and 2% male with female account
yeah i'm a girl (boy)
Isn’t that a rule of the Internet
@Entry #17 no only men and men exist on the internet
G(uy) I(n) R(eal) L(ife)
@@iam-retarded-but why only men?
>98% male
>tfw 2% female
>females watch his videos
Gtfo chad
"females"
in layman's terms: traps
2% of his population watch his videos from their mom's phone.
It's been fun boys
femoids*
"TV was a mistake." Quote of the year. The more I think about it, the more it seems right.
You should read "Amusing Ourselves to Death" if you haven't.
@@ilowqualityripeverything7886 More than 60 years ago Newton Minow gave his “television as vast wasteland” address.
Yes😊😊😊
I was diagnosed as high-functioning autistic last year and that diagnosis along with my weak social skills have caused me to constantly second-guess myself and try to change for people. I needed this bit of encouragement to pull me back into reality
It's been a couple years. How ya doing?
@@totally_not_a_bot I'm alot more comfotable being honest about how I feel, and it hurts sometimes to think about how much I used to bend over backwards, it's no wonder I was always so frustrated. I'm still not great with people, but what can you do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@LevKozlodoev I have an autistic friend who has a great job, owns a house, lots of money, very into fitness, has lots of friends etc. Whenever I call him out on anything he does he says 'oh it's not my fault I was rude I was diagnosed with autism as a child'. What a load of shit.
I prefer talking with computers, they actually tell what's wrong when something's wrong, and they rarely do mistakes themselves
I have the cure to bad social skills. Look at my video where I talk about my autism disappearing... My only issues were bad social skills, and that's about it. Everything else was up to me. This concept of fear that isn't actually there, but now has been infused into many. Unfortunately I'm yet to be recognised for it. Hoping to get diagnosed tomorrow and see if I can become a speaker for my experience. It's affected me a lot, and simple attention is what I require. I can't fix things a lot of things right now. I'm waaaaaay past social skills. Honestly stop worrying about what comes out your mouth. It's such a freeing feeling. But, yeah I really need attention lol there ain't nobody that discovered this yet. Like nobody believes that I have problems socialising. I don't... but I used to. Please help these people not endure the mentality I used to have. I ain't got many people to vouch for me right now. I'm really putting myself out there. I'm the last person that you'd expect to suddenly become social. My videos prove that. loser in his bedroom. Help me
Dude, I flap my hands thinking about rendering graphics.
Made me chuckle
I sometimes flap my hands while I wait for my Operating System to load lol.
yeah, you're definitely autistic...
and that username is telling.
Autism is when hand flap
sorry bro, u might in fact be weird
The biggest problem is doctors over diagnosing "autism" at a very young age and parents reinforcing a child's behaviors because "that's just the way he/she is and we can't do anything about it"
I Was 35 When I was Diagnosed thought I also Have Dyslexia and ADD. I had a hard time making friends I got Teased a lot and some of kids did not like me but i never gave up and I mad Friends. I got Married to the love of my life when I was 23. In my 30s I was having lots of melt downs. Having a hart time Handling Stress and changes at work so i went to see a psyocalgist she dignosed me with autism and put me on SSI. My Melt downs at work were gitting so bab I was becoming unemployable
srs
This is an extremely stupid take lmao
in my case i was diagnosed at an early age and put in therapy all my life to try and correct bad behavior
i wasn't really allowed to be a kid, everything was constantly scrutinized and punished, it was like having 3 bosses that come around every time you screw up your tps report. you get punished at school, then sent to the sped room, then they would call your parents, then they take you to a family therapist where the only advice you got was "stop doing that"
Docs aren't over diagnosing autism lmao
'It gets better.' -- Luke Smith, 2018
I kid, but your message is true and useful to remember.
I'd like to append to the title something like '(and even if you are, you've got to figure out some way to live!)'.
"it gets better" -also louis ck
It sure did
From the future 2020 here. His words fit perfectly here.
Narrator: "It didn't"
I'm pretty normal. I just like Linux. I use Linux. And I like your videos, because they're interesting and I like the way you share your opinions and knowledge.
(hes talking to /g/)
I use windows because I’m a gamer! But Linux seems pretty cool!
@@themysteriousnavi6850 *gaymer
Well-said. People are quick to label themselves with some kind of syndrome these days, and often wear it like a badge of honor, (or an albatross around their neck). Skim through the comments on any mental health-related youtube channel. You'll see quite a few people searching for a way to obtain an official diagnosis, ("finally got my diagnosis!! Yay!!"). Not trying to disparage anyone who genuinely has a serious mental condition, but there seems to be a pretty high number of people who are seeking to put themselves in some kind of box. My tendency is to believe that there are a lot of unhappy, unfulfilled, socially frustrated people in the world today. Maybe I am off-base with this, but it seems that the number of people desperately searching for personal or social validity through some kind of group identity is increasing daily. I can't help but feel that some people may be looking for an excuse to stop trying. Maybe it's a lack of perspective. It can be difficult sometimes to truly accept and cope with the negative things about yourself that you cannot change. Either way, this video rings true to me: Not every personality trait is some kind of diagnosable disease.
I Have Autism and i get laid allot
I think people do that so maybe they feel like it could explain their problems. Sometimes it’s true, but only for a minority of people.
You're a good guy Luke. Keep it up.
Luke is 28 pushing 50
😂
"We're all bowling alone"
What a nice way of phrasing that
I'm pretty sure he was referencing the book, "Bowling Alone".
I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome as a child and had a pretty rough childhood which caused me to develop Bipolar Disorder and through some horrible experiences i had also PTSD and Social anxiety. The first thing i did when i was an adult was to fight to get my Asperger Diagnosis legally removed. I thought if i just didn't believe there was anything wrong it would work out, it didn't. At the age of 22, i was diagnosed yet again by 2 different doctors (One Specialist and my Psychiatrist).
I used to always feel bad for myself and hate who i was, wondering why i couldn't just be like everyone else. But after thoroughly getting interested in Philosophy(mainly Stoicism and Nietzsche) i generally stopped caring about that. I am pretty sure that i am exactly how nature intended me to be and i accepted that fact, therefore i just want to be myself and do the things that i value and consider important even if that makes me weird or even a "Loser" as people tend to say.
What i am disgusted with though is that there are so many people on the internet that pretend to have disabilities or mental illnesses that most people now started making fun of people and not taking these things seriously anymore. Which means people like me with actual issues and diganoses are put in the same box as those attention seakers, making it basically impossible to talk to people about those things, therefore i have been quite lonely and isolated, which at this point became normal to me so that i started to be pretty independent. A trait that i didn't want but now value a lot. Because just like you said, time invested in yourself and skills is something that will always stay with you, while friends can always turn their back to you and leave.
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YOURE NOT MY REAL DAD!!!!
😂😂
>2% female(male)
YakuzYah #staʟe_memes fe(male)
Speaking of which, anyone here remember Me and Charlie from /g/ a few years ago?
G.I.R.L. = Guy In Real Life
meme-male
Mate, I know this is an ancient video, and without going into any details I just wanted to unironically say thanks. You have no idea what this video meant to me
Came here to say pretty much this. I should watch this video every morning
same
same
Huh. I'm not really your demographic but this is some very sane advice. You have a knack for rationally and calmly breaking down ideas, good delivery too. Hope younger viewers take this advice on board, because as someone who went through stuff like that...it's totally normal. You'll be fine as long as you make some effort to be at least a bit self aware (which is a totally different thing than how we use the term 'self-conscious') and work on improving yourself in the areas that you can work on. Much of the other stuff will fall into place as you become a more well rounded person. Quality video and good on your for making it.
Autism is not just a social disorder. In order to be diagnosed with autism you must demonstrate repeated and restricted patterns of behaviours, interests, or activities.
A really great take on life, Luke. Keep it up, and when you're 77, like I am now, you'll be more valuable to our society than any plunderable object. Thank you.
My god, anybody would've thought the numbers in your name were random...
You are as old as my grandfather.
😮
How are you doing?
He *ded*
Yoo how's things bro 👀 👀
man, I remember being a teenager, barely. shit was wack. school is like this weird alternate reality you can't see out of until suddenly it gets pulled away, or you pull it away. I left early to pursue study in a saner environment, thank fuck
Working on my own personal Linux system literally kept me alive during school.
We should've never strayed from Jungian psychology. This 'labelling' business is getting out of hand.
Psychology was a mistake
Except Jung had those archetypes.
@@KyriosHeptagrammatonthe archetypes werent for labelling individuals theyre for interpretation of the symbols in our surroundings and subconscious
Your one of the few healthy people living on this world, congrats
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I think most people just call themselves just jokingly call themselves autistic. Using linux and spending hours customizing your environment isn't normal, but who cares? I don't want to be normal. I think people should just care less about what other people except family and close friends think of you. When I used to make some weird jokes and nobody laughed I felt super bad for the whole day, but other people dont really care that much. They might find it weird in the moment but just forget about it afterwards. People really don't care that much about you. It was so bad that when I answered a teacher's question wrong in class I felt bad about it for a long time and thought about what the teacher might think of me because of that. I know this sounds super weird but that's just how insecure I used to be.
[Special snowflake intensifies]
I use linux and I don't care customizations. arch BTW
@@manners7483 holy shit i might be same as u
@@manners7483 doesn’t everyone have these thoughts and feelings? Come on, it’s not all smooth sailing
@@manners7483 I've Had These Issues and feeling some times still do But i just go for it and make mistakes and learn from them and i've mad friends some go and some to advantage of me then i weeded the bad ones out. After Failing at dating i finally met the love of my life. I am not A virgin I am Married have 2 kids. Me And My wife get along well she gives it to me straight never beats around the bush and i have worked on my communication skills for her
There used to be a time when it was understood that the smartest of us are shy and awkward, it was accepted as fact. Those who screamed AAAAAAAAAAA at the sight of new people or crowds, and ran away really fast, were diagnosed with autism.
In today's society, having a weakness or a sickness is a badge of honor. Don't think I need to explain why.
I feel like part of the problem is many people do not want to view themselves as being just smart (or creative), since this feels arrogant, but want an explanation for why they are different, and latch onto things like autism. There are a lot of overlaps between autism and giftedness just like there is a thin line between genius and madness.
@@leftfield6590 There are some wise men (who reside in hidden mountain temples) who even go as far as saying genius and madness is one and the same.
@@leftfield6590 I've been slowly learning it is arrogant to deny your gifts. Doesn't mean you need to brag, doesn't mean to think you know everything and not be humble, but false humility is not a virtue.
Like people used to say to me "Wow you're really good at math." and I'd say "I'm not that good. So in so did better on that one question." which was me completely denying their compliment, and, if they took me seriously, was me implying "I'm not good, you suck"
To me, having asd and adhd aren't any badges of honour.
They are labels that help me somehow get along with others without breaking down into tears every few hours.
If I accept and embrace my "weirdness", I can allow myself to do behaviours that people consider socially unacceptable EVEN THOUGH THEY DO NO HARM to anyone (like, not looking into strangers' eyes, rocking back and forth or pacing at a bus stop, covering my ears when a loud siren goes by, being uncoordinated with my facial and bodily expressions).
I take responsibility for hurting others on purpose, but I rarely do it these days cause I have been working on myself. But those behaviours didn't even likely stem from autism, they were just me being a spoilt teenager. Me "hurting" someone's feelings by acting how I wanna is not my problem, it's theirs. Like when they feel offended by me saying fuck you to the social norms and just stimming like crazy in a public place. In these situations, the reason for someone feeling "hurt" is not me intentionally doing something to simply hurt them.
It's their own feeling of pressure to conform to social rules, all while seeing that someone else just doesn't care and acts like themselves no matter what, that gets that first person to feel "offended".
You see the difference?
Pretending to know how to act is a huge draining force that I don't need in my life. I'd understand you would like me to change if my problem was antisocial behaviour: hurting people and animals, stealing, breaking in. But all I do wrong now is stim. Or talk about taboo topics in public places cause I don't care that much.
What's hurting you in the latter case is again, not me. It's your own perception of what is right or wrong that the society has taught you.
98% Male 2% female. It's almost as if women aren't interested in tech as men are. Better redesign the entire field to make it 50% men and 50% female, or let's be honest, 30% male 70% female.
*Debianic screeching*
*Parabola gahohnoo/lonaxic screeching*
*Ubuntic screeching*
*Void gnu/linux screeeeching*
Though it seems that debian went the wrong way recently. Devuan may save us.
@@LedoCool1 What did debian do?
It's really refreshing and wonderful to see someone who's directly addressing the youth and their feelings and what they're going through in the current state of the world. Keep it up! Things are so very confusing for kids now. And I let for clarity like this is definitely needed!
Early boomer comforts late bloomers by traumatizing high school chads saying that they're no better than the virgin college student
>You're not "Autistic." You're normal.
Luke, I'm literally autistic, I don't get what you're talking about
haha I thought the same
Autists are normal, it's the other guys who are weird
This is what I constantly try to explain to people, but most people nowadays are brainwashed beyond repair....
Good video.
Diagnosis is supposed to help you finding personalized strategy to improve yourself, not make you feel like a failure.
Good points, and like you said, even if it was wrong, thinking this is a bad mindset.
IRL friends are very important though, isolating yourself socially isn't natural or healthy. I'm guilty of it to though.
Far more encouraging, motivational, and real than other content. Thanks man, I needed this.
21 YO me : I'm such a failiure for not having had sex at my age
25 YO me : I've never had sex and could not care any less
Based
If u didn’t care then you wouldn’t have made this comment 💀
@@duckman2480 nah, he doesn't care, but he cares about not caring.
it's not truly necessary. I'd rather a person stay a virgin than have lots of pointless problematic sex.
@@duckman2480 i usually think they same as you but in this case i think he said it just to encourage ppl to not feel ashamed
I am an introvert. And I always thought I was not normal, also a little bit weird. But as I read that we are living in an extroverted society and it's a type of personality that also has many benefits, I accepted it and even like me being an introvert. And I think computer gurus say mostly they are weird, but they earn a lot of money and therefore it isn't meant to be something bad anymore. I also know someone who thinks those weird side of a programmer being a status symbol.
thank you Luke for this. I self suspected that I had Asperger's because of some thing recently happened to me, and I have always had interests that are very different from people my age, and because of that, I never had much common language with my schoolmates/friends. I went to a counselor last week and we talked for an hour, the councelor refered to hisi DSM book and said he did not think I was austistic, and added that lots of intelligent people do feel isolated somewhat from the society, and even feel that they've got no time for stupidity, which to people around them, they are just being rude. So I guess if you enjoy different things and your friends can't understand you, maybe it is just because you are smarter, more sensible than them, but it does not necessarily mean that you are weird.
I hate the word "weird" or "normal" when used to describe a person. I prefer to use "different" and that it is totally fine to be this way. I was frog marched by a care home manager last year into her office, where she said I was weird to my face. I think it comes down to my lack of societal conformity and more abstract ways of thinking. I also think it is ok to do anything you want, so long as it does not hurt anyone. However "normal" people like the manager, are just full of fear and prejudice when it comes to people like me, and they fail to see the creative mind and unconditional love I have for everything.
Great one, this one.
I can see the reason for either the exaggeration or the misunderstanding:
People these days are pushed into a corner, forced to declare this or that even though they don't believe in it or agree with it. It takes a __huge__ amount of effort to both lie and to lie convincingly and this is made all the harder if you are in the middle of a project or task.
At many jobs, I have upset come people because I'll only speak to one or two people and will be very animated with them, really enjoying their company. But, with others, I'll be quiet and stand-offish.
I got in trouble at one job for not wanting to eat lunch off the clock with other coworkers when the company was buying us all lunch. My feelings are: i'd rather not eat at all than to be forced to spend my unpaid time with those coworkers (who I didn't hate, but being forced to pretend to enjoy them was exhausting). I was told by management that I wasn't friendly enough.
I am seeing ridiculous things in job ads that say I need to have extroverted, social qualities in fields that are mostly manual labor (not at all customer service or sales). I left customer service and sales to escape the political correctness and the office politics, because those are harder to deal with than the job itself.
Luke, you are very weird, so I am and every person who resonates with your speech. Being normal is literrally the worst thing that can happends to someone. Normal people are alienade from themself. They never cuestion, never thinking on their behaviour, never do something remotely novel. They even consume the same things: same movies, same music, same books, same drinks, same clothes, etc. Living and dying being totally replazable, where the people who knew them, never thought of them as someone never met before.
With them, only change the skin and the voice, but their minds are the same.
Learn to spell.
*If you're 22 and never had sex, you are normal*
Thank god I'm not 22 yet.
I'm 22 Now.
Shit.
bruh moment
:(
Nice, man.
You're 25 now dude.
What's happening?
Part of me craves attention, and the other part despises socializing and likes being alone. The first part made me write this comment, and the other part is asking what's the point of writing this comment.
That's normal. 🙂
I have to add, I am weird. But, I have 5 children. My eldest son is clearly different. Highly anxious and overwhelmed, thoughts are completely different than my other kids. He is clearly very insightful beyond his years and very interesting. I also have 5 siblings. None are like that. I have over 30 first cousins, only one of them is kind of similar. He is clearly different, thinks different, has a difficult time interacting and conversing, is sensitive and anxious.He is also highly insightful. I will make it short...I think possibly wifi frequency sensitivity or some type of brain malformation like a stroke is causing it. There is something that is going on and on different levels with people . But for the most part I agree with your comments and people are throwing themselves in this category in an attempt to understand why they are a little different and less social. Its tough.
Sounds like most of those comments are just people trying to make themselves look quirky. Also, having social skills is actually very important. Being able to make connections with people in a similar career path is extremely useful in getting a job. I don't think anyone should brush something like that under the rug, even if you have some disability that makes it hard to talk to people.
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True words clearly spoken. Well, ok, "normal" is a statistical unit, it does not necessarily implement "good" or other moralic units. Love your videos and your humor, keep on rockin'!
This guy is really smart in many ways. I hope his subscribers are listening to all his videos (tech and life).
Watched this somewhere during 2019.
I'm 27 and and It's actually sinking in more easily now.
Most people who are diagnosed with "autism" aren't actually autistic, they usually just have social anxiety (a problem which anyone can overcome). To show you how insane this whole disorder movement is, when I was about 14 I got diagnosed with a "defiance disorder". Seriously. If I'm not compliant, I'm a damaged human being who needs to be medicated. If this isn't dystopian then idk what is.
My advice to anyone out there reading this. If you're diagnosed with a disorder, do everything you can to overcome it. Try socializing with other people, fix your health/diet, practice what you are bad at. There is no excuse for doing nothing.
Where is your evidence that most people who are diagnosed with autism just have social anxiety? It's a baseless claim.
Wow this is ignorant and stupid.
To say you can get over social anxiety like its just a cold is fucked up and gross. Fuck you..seek mental help, cunt
@@cooleyYT You absolutely can though, honestly it's pretty ignorant and stupid to pretend that the majority of social anxiety cannot be fixed with accountability and personal responsibility.
@@s1nistr433 yea because getting help bad..just getting over it and dealing with it good. Fantastic logic. Amazing that you dont know what its like, clearly. OR your logic is just flawed. either way you're wrong
Social anxiety is usually a symptom of another issue one has. And autism is not wrong, it doesn't have to be overcame. It's just different brain wiring so it should be more about learning how to adapt to the world and making people more aware of autism so that they adapt top it.
You should make more videos of this caliber. Orginally subscribed for your Linux content, but I (and others I'm sure) enjoy hearing your thoughts. Have a good one.
Honestly, this video was nothing like what I expected to be. You think this is only good for "neurotypicals"? There are many cognizant individuals within the actual autism community who could definitely benefit from a message like this.
"Worry less, improve yourself, do better, don't put yourself in a box".
For us, or for me at least, autism has been an integral part of my identity. I can pass well as normal nowadays, and to me, that was due to a large amount of painstaking work. It's that sort of thing I want to inspire in others in the autistic community who are able.
I.e. don't use their traits as a crux. Move forward, do your best to improve, don't beat yourself, keep going. I've been inspired before to do autism research myself. You sir encourage me to do so more.
God bless you and everyone else here!
You mean it's good to mask? Shit you're on.
Hi, an actual autistic person here and just let say, if you're using "autism" as an excuse to explain away your flaws, you'll end up alone and it'll be your fault. The main thing that triggered me in this vid is those ppl making excuses. Treating autism as an incurable disease. So Here's how it really is.
A. Being "off mainstream" isn't autistic (basically the video) if anyone wants to hear my exp ask in comments.
B. Autistic ppl can 100% work at getting better at social interactions. It takes work, and you'll probably never fully get that intuitive social compass other have. But I got to the point of being comfortable being the only person on a stage. So that argument "oh I'm autistic" is bull.
C. I love been neurodivergent. And so are a lot of ppl like me. I love the irregular thought patterns, I love the off perspectives I love being able to take ppls view on reality and make them question if cartoon characters are real.
So, yeah, you might be weird. First of, welcome to the human experience, we're all a little crazy, coffee's over by the window. secondly, if there's an aspect of your personality you don't like. You're the only reason it isn't getting changed.
So yeah. Sorry if I come off aggressive. As you can imagine I don't appreciate "autistic" being used as derogatory term, some of the best ppl ik are autistic. And I'm sick and tired of ppl using it as an excuse to saty in their comfortable box
You are coping hard. These don't sound like your own ideas or observations either. You got them from some "community".
@@upendownlinker lol how does something sounds "from a community" I'll tell you exactly where I experienced that. I experienced that during 9yr of therapy elementary to highschool. I experienced that figuring out how to analyse and approach social situations so I won't say something so tactless I'll actively insult someone. So yeah, Those are mine. The reason they might sound like something you hear from the autistic/neurodivergent community is bc~ idk? I'm part of it? Ever considered that?
Or, are you talking about me enjoying parts of it? Why? Bc if you're autistic you're automatically "sick" and have no good facets from being wired differently? Get over yourself lol
>"no one likes going to bars"
What
1% of the population is autistic. But also, a much larger share of people attracted and prone to geek-ery and nerd-ery are autistic than in the general population (this is true for IT, but also for Physics, Math majors etc). Those have been well studied and documented in relevant papers. So, yeah, it's very possible that a large percentage (10% or more) of your specialized geek-oriented audience IS autistic.
Unless you have studied what autism is, and how it manifests and behavior like "masking", you might have the idea that autistic means "Rain Man" or "The Accountant" style behavior, which is hardly the case for the "highly functional" side of the spectrum. So unless you see that, you're quick to call the other "fake" or "normal just thinking they are autistic".
The social things you say "don't matter" after high school still matter a lot in adult life, and represent realsetbacks for autistic people - even the highly functional (non-Rainman style) autistic people who you couldn't tell at first glance. They mean big problems in socializing, being the office scape boat, failing at office politics, taken advantage off, and we haven't even touched the sensory and other issues. In some IT companies it's better than the general corporate world, as a lot of colleagues will be autistic too, so the climate is more geared towards accomondatingt that mindset, even if it's not done explicitly and consciously. In others, all bets are off.
In general, telling people "you're not autistic, you're normal" when you don't know their individual cases, and when by its very nature of your content a larger share (than the general population) of your audience will be actually autistic, is BS and detrimental. It's like going to McDonalds with a lot of the tables full of 300+ pound guys eating and telling them "You're not obese, you're normal".
Something that badly needed be said.
If anything I find it's the so-called normal people that seem to live in their bubble.
I am a genuine nerd and take pride in the term. I also have a legitimate diagnosis of autism dating back to 9/11/01, resulting in 2 very shocking events happening on the same day: terrorist attacks and my diagnosis of (then low functioning, now high functioning) autism. I really hate that people use autism as an insult. It's stupid because even though it is a neurological developmental disorder and therefore a disability, it is also a trade-off, giving those with the condition unique skills that most neurotypical people may not necessarily have. Because we are socially inept by nature, we tend to be very good with computers and other technical or logical things. I for one, even to this day, struggle to read specific social cues at times and even experience PLI, but I am an absolute computer and technology nut and am picky about the way I have things set up or do certain things.
TL;DR: Autism is essentially complete ADHD with symptoms of OCD and social awkwardness or difficulty reading social cues. That's it.
@@manners7483 I feel you. I go on tangents a lot. I like to type long paragraphs and could write a whole essay if I simply felt like it. I don't really like the idea of curing it and if such a thing existed I would refuse because I didn't come all this way just to throw it all away and become a completely different person. Yeah, I pretty much know how neurotypicals think but I also know how I think. Our brains aren't really missing parts so much as they are wired differently and prioritize different things.
The trade-offs associated with autism are absolutely not worth it, being different inevitably leads to isolation which begets depression. Why is mental illness / depression so much higher with autistic people if that wasn't the case?
"Oooh but i'm good at computers!!!" means nothing if you are constantly isolated from your peers and gain life-long depression as a result of trauma or whatever the hell it's called. Why do people love to say they are "proud" of their condition when they know that this is what it entails, is it perhaps a case of survivor bias or just a delusional coping mechanism?
@@pikajew3578 also, isolation can kill you or it can lead to you doing great things. sometimes both. not to mention, with the internet, it's totally feasible to find and meet up with other autistic people. they communicate and get along with each other as well as neurotypicals do with other neurotypicals. just gotta find their crew.
Good post. Try to ease up on spreading lies though
What a great message. I’m 22 in college getting my computer science degree, I spend my weekends coding and tinkering while a lot of my friends are partying. If you feel like your missing out, do your self a favor and go to a bar with your friends just once. You’ll immediately be reminded of the reasons you hate doing that stuff😂 great vid man, you earned a sub👍 #iusearchbtw
I happen to actually have the disorder to a relatively high degree (high functioning though).
It's a bit of a struggle to deal with to say the least, and people claiming they have it despite not having consulted any professionals in mental health really doesn't help.
Most people don't understand it properly in terms of what it actually does, so people claiming they have it when they don't just adds to the confusion.
I think that the reason people do this is because it's quite a trivialised disorder, with characters like Benedict Cumberbatch's Sherlock who make it seem like a sort of superpower.
It gives people a reason to feel better about themselves despite their social failings.
People need to understand that you don't need a DSM-5 listed problem to make you special or unique. Special in particular is something that most people have to earn, including autistics.
I'm autistic and low functioning af
Having autism or a few other issues gives you a tiny bit of legal protections or, at least, more considerations if you work at really large companies. At really small companies, it is better not to tell them usually
I’m literally autistic though. Thanks Luke
2% female? you're telling me there's a chance?
Im 44 And A big Fan .I grew up using Ms Dos and had a Hard time adjusting to windows/Mac Desktop. Im A big fan of you video's and your dot files. Im a Huge Vim User. I've Been Diagnosed with autism but I'm not a Virgin I have been Married for 20 years and have 2 kids. I make Friends very easy. I've Work hard to improve my social skins and i don't consider my self masking my autism, I am just not using it as a crutch. Sure I make Mistakes but I learn from them and grow
/r9k/ needs this
/r9k/ needs a noose. They do nothing but moan about being a losers and then do nothing about it.
Gaydolf Hitler sometimes they like to LARP as wymnz(“femanon”) on le interwebs for 4chan gold
Thought of postmodernism gave us that identity politics where once you identify your victim status you just self-referentially relive your past victimization over and over again. People should know that this is learned behaviour which stems from ideas they unknowingly accept and then judge whole life experience by those ideas. If everything is irony all the time (evading being serious), thats string marker.
if the only symptom of autism you have is "social anxiety" you would be diagnosed with social anxiety disorder or whatever it's called (which is normal) not autism.
I agree. I fell into the trap to wonder whether I am autistic or some other thing. It was a desperation to explain why I was struggling with things and didn't fit with society or couldn't connect with most normies.
While I believe there are differences in the brain that makes it harder for some, this whole identification is a beg for explaining why one struggles so much with life.
There are of course people with severe autism, but most who are not, might have tried to explain their issues and how they don't fit, and one of the explanation that came was a mental difference.
So are other things. Some of us are lacking the other traps (gender, race, sexuality) to try to make sense when things don't go well in life. I call these the three vectors of identity==victimhood. The fourth vector is mental differences. But it's the same when people find for example MBTi and they internalize it, like "They don't like me because of INFP, we are special!". It's the same trap.
I sometimes think, if I was a woman I would have fallen into the trap of becoming a feminist, if I was non white I would have fallen into the trap of race grifting, or if my sexuality wasn't straight I'd fallen into that trap of identity==victim. I almost fell on the 4th vector. I do wonder, if that's another reason why some men are more successful (although many others fail because of the pressure). What do I mean? There are no vectors of oppression, so if you fail, if you didn't get the job, if you got victimized, you can't explain it with the first three vectors, so it's more probable you will strive to get good at something to make for the fact that as a man you are just a nobody unless you have proven yourself. But if you are a woman and they tell you, you are good no matter what, then you might stick to it and even have some kind of complex of men being achievers (which is still a small portion of men, because most suffer from the pressure).
It's harsh, but there is something liberating to let things go, do your best, and not fall into the trap of explaining your situtation with an identity.
Nah man, I am a woman and I am not a feminist. I am not hetero and I don't give a shit about being part of the LGBTQ movement.
But my illnesses are mine. My asd is mine. I am weird and much less normie than normies are, and won't pretend that I am NOT super sensitive and easily overwhelmed.
What's more, I am obsessed with mbti and similar systems, but I don't use them as excuses for my acting like an asshole to people sometimes. That's what immature people (including an immature me a few years ago) do. I own my mistakes and try my best to avoid them.
But if it wasn't for my asd label, I wouldn't allow myself to "act autistic" and harmlessly stim for example. I would just try to suck it all up and get my shit together and act "normal", which would, ironically, lead to incomparably bigger and more frequent breakdowns and meltdowns than nowadays when I feel not only not discouraged, but even encouraged to hum silently on the bus or to flap my hands when I feel excited. That shit is everything.
I was looking for this video so I searched for "you are not autistic", and every other result is "50 SIGNS THAT YOU MAY BE AUTISTIC AND NOT KNOW IT!?".
Stuff like "feeling tired often", "don't like people telling you what to do", "not caring what other people think", "liking animals", "noticing patterns" and my favorite "either having a good or bad memory". This shit has millions of views, all veiled in this disguise of "understanding" and "helping" you recognize your ILLNESS. Makes me sick, especially when I just know the kids who watch this crap are also encouraged by school and other institutions to get diagnosed.
Have been diagnosed with ADD and I'm suspected to be on the spectrum, always been different and kind of hard to "mesh" with others.
Couldn't agree more, you just gotta go out and find your comfort zone everywhere!
bro it's spelled spectrwm
On Ritalin, Adderall, Concerta, or something else?
A far larger percentage of the American population is extraverted and/or social. People who are not are looked down upon, frowned upon. But, sometimes it is worse if a person is open and fun with one or two people but not with others. This seems to upset people more than your just being quiet with _every_ one.
There are many traits we have which don't belong to a condition or a mental health issue. However, if you recognise yourself when listening to people talk about a specific condition (professionals or people with lived experience), and you would like to gain clarity, then go and see a mental health professional for guidance. A lot of people, including myself, have found a great deal of comfort from finally understanding our reactions to the world, getting help to manage our life better and a community which understands and supports us.
Sometimes there actually is something different about us and an explanation for this can be a very positive experience.
Wow. This video came exactly when I need it.
I'm actually a high functioning autistic (what they used to call Asperger's) and it is a lot different internally than just being nerdy or geeky. Try not being born with a social intuition and an abnormal emotional intuition. That's the best way to describe it I think.
what is abnormal emotional intuition?
Very refreshing to her your encouraging words, not easy these days to live like a normal person with "normal hobbies" or working in the IT field. It automatically brands someone as a "undesireable" person.
Half of human interaction is stuff that everyone knows is bullshit but nobody has the guts to call out how stupid everyone is being for fear that they won't be able to stand up to the group-think.
I think once you recognise that and realise that people are just as terrified/disillusioned with it all then you feel a little less alone.
Never join groups the worst thing you can do is be the odd one out who upsets the status quo and everyone ostracizes you for it. A free thinker In a group is like a strawberry in a basket of blueberrys. It cannot work.
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Interesting. I find myself regretting not having been more adventurous and spending most of my time in books. It's a pretty unique situation in life where you have very low risks to yourself socially and very low expectations as well.
And while you clearly learn better when you're young rather than old it's not obvious that my learning was all that much better than it is now. And frankly I didn't have very good direction in learning what I wanted to learn so there was also a lot of wasted time.
Being even more retrospective the worst direction I've had is when I was given toys to learn programming. They're awful on all levels. I kinda want to make something that actually could teach kids electronics and/or programming really well. Because thinking back to second to 6th grade those years were just a tremendous waste in many ways. I probably should have just picked up skateboarding or mountain-biking. Anything else, given what I had.
I think a lot of young men never develop an understanding that mistakes are the default and most men aren't actually a 1 dimensional stereotype that puts people in the hospital playing foobaw and impregnates half the young women in their high school or whatever. You don't have to sort yourself into the "I'm a weird little social outcast because I'm an introvert who likes computers" category over that. it's more common now than ever, so probably a lot of you are just atomized "normies."
I think that something not emphasized enough is that diagnosis is a tool for getting specific treatments and understanding show to deal with certain issues. *That* should be emphasized, not the label itself. I think that in our increasingly polarized society, we focus too much on the idea of a label and not what the label is actually supposed to be used for.
Thanks for the video, it really made me question some things and feel better about myself
Yeah I agree. I'm 25 and was diagnosed with autism about 5 years ago. Always been a bit skeptical about that diagnosis, but regardless, at the end of the day it's just a label to me and I don't see it as something that should determine my entire personality or life. Sure, some things might be more difficult for me than for others and in some regards I feel like I'm less developed, but that doesn't mean that I can't change and develop and improve my skills. In fact I think I've made a lot of progress in different areas, even before the diagnosis, but especially the past few years and months.
Even if we have certain genetics and biases, I think we as humans can be very adaptable and flexible. It's just a matter of your mindset and putting in the time and effort. It can definitely take a long time, it has for me and it'll probably take much longer before I'm at a place I'm properly content with (though I can already be quite content where I am rn), but I'll get there.
And sure some people might be more "normal" in the sense that they're neurotypical or whatever, but I think everyone has their own issue and I don't think being normal is necessarily something good or something you should strive towards. That's just the pressure you feel from the expectations of society.
End of the day we're all just a bunch of meatbags wandering around in some made weird ass system we've constructed. If we broaden our horizons a bit there's potentially so much more to life.
Paragraphs, please!
@@BlackpilledBuddha6476 sorry, I have autism! XD
no I usually use paragraphs but was too lazy in this case I guess
anyway I fixed it
This is the saddest story i have ever read, imagine being okay with being an outlier of society. You clearly want to be normal but know you can't and gave up sometime in high school or college, instead of just admitting you have less worth than others you just rationalise it all as "self-acceptance" in order to cope with your lonely & pathetic existence.
@@pikajew3578 I am not only okay but also proud of being outlier in society, society is dumb not me.
I only have anecdotal and firsthand evidence of my view but such is life.
It would seem that a very small minority of people diagnosed with Autism are actually “different” from the norm.
I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism back in 2004 and my parents made the decision to not tell me and treat me the same as my sister. The rules were extremely consistent and applied fairly.
Even with this treatment I see in retrospect that I display some of the most typical traits of both diagnoses. But since I didn’t know about those diagnoses I thought I was just different at the time.
So in my personal experience there are a subset of people who have sets of traits that would set them apart from the “norm”.
The biggest problem is extreme over diagnosis and telling kids they have X or Y, because then being X or Y becomes that kids entire personality.
You’ll see posts all the time saying “as an X”, “as a Y” and the talking about their behaviour or how they need to be treated differently.
Please give me a break. Treat everyone equally! Don’t tell people who aren’t your doctor your diagnosis.
This infatuation with mental differences or disorders is disgusting.
It is up to the person with X or Y to find strategies to deal with all situations, not to try and bend all situations to their will by saying “I’m X don’t do this”.
Sincerely a dude that some doctor labeled as a child.
3:25 Before social media this was true. Now not so much.
"The Myth of Mental Illness" by Thomas Szasz is interesting read on similar topic! Best regards
Thank you Luke! Great video!
I can totally relate to the things you say.
Good stuff. This is why it's important to find like minded or people with similar interests if for no other reason than to be reminded that you're not "alone".
Also society needs people with diversity in interests and personality. If it wasn't beneficial for human progress and survival, we'd all be much more similar. So it's important to find out your strengths and how you can use them for self-growth, instead of turning into an asshole like some folks do and going full moron.
The whole phenomenon of people calling themselves autistic is an aspect of this, imo. Having inclinations that make you less likely to get social practice is *not* the same as being physically unable to understand social and/or emotional cues; the former is just your personality, the latter is a developmental disorder.
A long time ago, a friend of mine was talking with Sir Terry Pratchett (who writes the discworld books). He was very industrious, and spent 8 hours per day working, monday through friday. On fridays, he would spend the day answering fan mail, and he would file the fan mail afterwards. He found a very large number of the "detail-oriented" folks (the ones who would point out internal inconsistencies between word choices between books) were named "kevin", so he had a file labelled "kevins" which was those letters. When we heard this story, my wife and I took to referring to people who had deep knowledge in an area as a kevin. As in, "Man, Luke Smith is a real ricing kevin". I always liked that it differentiated the trait from the individual (since terms like nerd, rather than referring to a particular area, seem to refer to the overall person).Also, sorry for the wall of text.
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sadly he passed a few years ago.
im proud of my tism its shameful to be a normie
I agree in principle, though you should not take this reasoning to the extreme either Being weird is fine, having an introverted personality is fine too. Using that as an excuse to never get out of your comfort zone isn' t though, I think.
>looks at comments
wew lads that' s a lot of weaponised autism in one comment section.
Plot twist he's talking to the camera man
Fucking so true. Thanks Luke, you probably helped a lot of people today.
Thanks man, feels good
I'm very likely autistic, but it doesn't matter because I'm more of the Asperger's variety, and it makes me much better at certain things and worse at others. The only importance it holds is that it explains why I'm not the same as everyone else, but I'm not particularly bothered being different. In fact, I guess you could say it's normal to be different because tons of people have different mental varieties, as it was said in the video.
Water under the bridge, guys. Remember.
Thanks, Luke. Sometimes we just need to hear this, inspite of we know all this or we do not.
Not if it literally defines you for the rest of your life, no.
expected a rant. got a good vid. well done
i think youd be quite capable with kids.
The difference between someone who is actually weird and someone who wants to tell you how weird they are is that the person who is actually weird can't turn it off. The person who wants to be thought of as weird or unique, actually HAS to do things that make them appear eccentric. But really, they don't exist in that neurodivergent, eccentric space. The person who is truly neurodivergent just wishes it would turn off for 5 minutes, and is usually terrified of making social errors.
4 Years later still relevant.
Why didn't you upload this when I was in high school?
Very nice video, you're a nice guy.
The whole "everyone vaguely different has autism" thing fits perfectly with every other way modern life is today. The male brain (more systematizing than empathising, so yeah basically male brain at the risk of being shouted at for simplifying things) is something to be suspicious of, according to modern society. And needs a label if it engages in too much wrong think.