The Best Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Get! - Don’t Just Hope… Decide! - Matthew Kelly
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The Best Relationship Advice You’ll Ever Get! - Don’t Just Hope… Decide! - Matthew Kelly
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Video Transcript:
“Peter was an ordinary guy. He liked to watch football, drink beer, and hang out with his friends. From time to time, when he was alone, he would get a little introspective and start to think about where his life was going. It was then that he thought about relationships; more specifically he would wonder whether he would ever have a truly great relationship. He always concluded that he hoped one day he would.
One thing Peter loved to do was people-watch, and if you like people-watching there is perhaps no better place than an airport.
A few years ago, Peter was standing at the airport in San Francisco waiting for a friend when he had one of those life-changing experiences you sometimes hear people talk about . . . the kind that sneaks up on you when you least expect it.
Straining to locate his friend among the passengers coming out the exit into baggage claim, Peter noticed a man walking toward him carrying two small bags. The man stopped right next to him to greet his family.
First, the man motioned to his younger son, who was perhaps five or six years old. Putting down his bags, he took the boy in his arms and gave him a long hug, and as they drew apart long enough to look at each other, Peter overheard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I’ve missed you so much.”
The boy smiled shyly, averted his eyes a little, but replied, “Me too, Dad.”
Standing up, the man gazed deep into his elder son’s eyes (the boy was maybe nine or ten years old) and, taking the boy in his arms, he said, “You’re such a fine young man, Nathan, I love you so much.”
While all this was happening a baby girl was eyeing her father and squirming excitedly in her mother’s arms, never once taking her eyes off her returning father.
The man turned to the child now and said, “Hi, baby girl!” as he gently took her from her mother’s arms and kissed her face all over.
After several long moments he handed his daughter to his elder son, declared, and proceeded to kiss and hug his wife warmly. As they drew back, he held on, looked her eyes for several seconds and said, “I love you so much.”
All of a sudden, Peter became awkwardly aware of how engrossed he had become in this wonderful display of love.
“How long have you been married?” Peter was amazed to hear his own voice asking.
“Been together fourteen years, married for twelve,” the stranger replied.
“How long have you been away?” Peter asked.
The stranger turned to him now, smiled, and said, “Two whole days.”
Peter was stunned. From the intensity of their greeting, Peter figured he had been gone for weeks. Two whole days, he thought to himself, and smiled.
He was little embarrassed now, but hoping to end his intrusion with some semblance of grace, Peter said casually, “I hope my marriage is that passionate after twelve years!”
Suddenly the man stopped smiling. He turned and looked straight into Peter’s eyes with a forcefulness that burned, and he said something that left Peter a different man:
“Don’t just hope, friend, decide!”
And with that, the stranger picked up his bags and he and his family strolled off.
Peter was still watching them disappear into the distance when his friend came up to him and said, “Whatcha looking at?”
Peter smiled and, without hesitating, replied, “My future.”
Great relationships don’t come to those who hope for them. Hope is worthless unless coupled with real effort. Great relationships belong to those who decide to put in the effort and make them a priority. Don’t just hope... decide!”
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I believe that my husband and I had this kind of a relationship. He passed away a year ago this month. Just yesterday I was thinking again how grateful I was for our life together, together 17 years, married 16. I remember weekends waiting for him to come home from a men's retreat, and then again from a meeting when he was only gone for a few hours. The immeasurable joy I felt when he came through the door and we held each other in a welcome home embrace. I was so happy for him to bond with other men during retreats, he had a glow about him when he came home. I also noticed a change in him after reading Into the Breach. Already into his 80s, he knew he could still become a better man and I wanted to become a better wife to him. These are the moments now that tell me what a great relationship we had. Thank you for the reminder and the beautiful airport story. God bless you Matthew.
Sorry for your loss.
Incredible insight and perspective. Thank you for sharing such a personal story.
My friend, you just don't know how much I needed to hear this today . I had this same encounter with Our Lord Jesus about 32 years ago standing outside my future Wife's house. After a huge fight, because I knew that I had to return to the One Holy Catholic Church, but I didn't want to. While getting ready to drive away from Everything the Lord was Giving me, a COCKROACH ran up my leg, and I jumped out of my car. Right there the Lord said that this was the Wife that He had designed for Me, but I must DESIDE to Love Her, that it was a Choice. This March 2022, we will be married for 30 years.
Stay the Course 💪, what God has started within Us, He is Faithful to Complete 💪🙏 Viva Cristo Rey 🙏
Delighted it resonated Tony. Hope you will share it with others
Thank you Matthew. "Don't Hope - Decide." so simple, yet so powerful. Great Wisdom to be applied immediately.
One of my daughters has tattoos. None are due to trauma. Each has a meaning to her.
Great message. What I needed to hear today. Very powerful. Thanks. Phil Canada.
Equally good to your video on STOP COMPLAINING! This one hit me like that one did. Deside is a powerful word. Thank you, Matthew.
Another message that hits hits home! Thank you.
I wished I had heard this 50 years ago. Our marriage has lasted, but could have been better had I worked harder.
I forwarded your message on to my son and daughter in law and my daughter and her husband. It's amazing how such simple advice can never occur to some.
Thank you Mr. Kelly. You are a priceless source of inspiration.
Karl, thank you for watching and for sharing this with your family, no one is ever too young or too old to make this decision!
What beautiful story. Simple things make miracles!
My son is about to marry his high school sweetheart next month, after 8 years of dating... I'm going to share this with them! ❤️
I am delighted this served you Carmen, thanks for sharing it with them. Congratulations to them both!
Such a powerful message! Thank you for sharing your gifts, Matthew!
What a powerful message! Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it, thanks for watching Shawna!
I love that!!!! Makes so much sense. I’m so thankful God put you in our lives. Specifically, He speaks to me thru you and I thank you
Thanks Judith. I appreciate your support and encouragement.
What a great video! Thank you!
Thank you for this video Mr. Kelly.
What an amazing lessons
"Love" is a choice.
Any tips for how we can live out or decision to love? I always feel that I just try to will the good of the other person in my relationship, but it’s hard when it feels like the flame is out.
My husband and I attended a Worldwide Marriage Encounter over 25 years ago. On that weekend we learned about this very thing - the Decision to Love. Of course, one weekend doesn’t fix everything. We have attended more Marriage Encounter events over the years and surrounded ourselves with other healthy marriages. Keeping the flame alive takes an investment of time and attention. I hope you can get back what you’re saying is lost. It’s still there. You just have to dust it off and bring it out from under the surface. 🙏🏼🤗
@@kenandjaninekessler2205 thank you, I appreciate the encouragement! Been about a 2 year journey of working on things. I’ve read a few books by Dr. Bob Schutes from the JP2 Healing Center and attended the “Be healed” retreat her in Chicago. Just continuing to have try and hold onto hope.
@@davesmietanski512 did you find the retreat helpful?
@@julianntomse4120 for sure. Definitely worth while.
Incredible, thank you for sharing this part of your story.
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