I wonder about a child that was raised to be totally honest about their feelings but then in adulthood they find themselves by trial and error where the thin line lays between complete honesty and toxicity. Total honesty can hurt a person who is not honest with themselves. If your honest with yourself you should have no problem admitting your faults but some people seem to be very hurt by that kind of honesty from another person. Not everyone is true to themselves. It's something I've learned how to navigate...and it's been a trial by fire.
Bro, all these fit my family situation, but praise be to God! My whole Life, the Holy Spirit has guided me out of the thought patterns and the shame patterns it creates within a kid. Stay tight with God, and he will deflect trauma even tho u go thru traumatic things. Jesus can conquer everything and anything. He really is Lord of all 🙌🏻
I’ve got absolutely no secrets my dad read my journal and now as a adult I’ve finally confessed that I broke the chair when I was a kid and he whooped the wrong kid . My dad first of Denying the whooping. Then has gave me the silence treatment. Haven’t talked to him for three months now . Regardless of text I send him.
I’m currently dealing with an ex who’s enmeshed with his mother (both are evil and contemptuous) . I am constantly gaslight , his mother wedges herself between us and he’s brainwashed by her. He’s a mamas boy and very evil and I’m afraid from them. I feel like they are trying to ruin my life exploit my finances , can you help or explain my situation? He tries to set up scenarios , makes me jealous with the dog we bought then runs away with the dog and glorifies the dog while degrades me.
Do you advise that I can share this video with my child who is presently being abused by his Narcissist father . I am afraid he may get contradictory inputs which may hamper his emotional and psychological growth . On one hand he is bring love bombed . He actually loves him but as a Narcissist you know they have to also accept all their ways . No expression allowed . Do as I say
I want to help you and your child so much!!! But in the interest of full disclosure, I am not a professional counselor/psychiatrist/psychologist in any way. I'd love it if Kenny got back to you since he has been trained in all of this 🙂 In my opinion, this might be too advanced for where they are in their cognitive development. But, without knowing the intricacies of your situation, I don't feel like I have enough information to make a proper judgement. What I DO feel comfortable advising you is this: Whenever you talk to your child, periodically tell your child (gently but earnestly) that they can tell you what they need or want or feel, even if they are worried about how you will react. Really hammer home that you are there for them. And if you think you think you may have messed up, or misunderstood them in some way, (because you probably will, but that is okay, you are human 🙂) then just go back to them, apologize for reacting in a way that you think probably wasn't ideal, and ask them if they will forgive you and help you to understand them better. I also hesitate to give you advice because I know how damaging it can be to talk badly about the other parent. And how difficult it is to walk the line of being honest about a person without becoming overly critical and cruel about that parent. But I DO know that if your child sees you (maybe not their father, but at least one of their parents) open to them, and sensitive to their needs and feelings then that means a lot!!! Again I am not a professional by any means, but I hope this helps you a little bit. Sending you love.❤
@@user-zr3ks8bx6v true . I feel like pointing it to them then and there when whey are telling anything wrong to kids . So that the kids learn the correct thing . Also stop them from abusing . I feel I must tell my child behind him which I do , that your father may be loving you but he he may not be correct always in telling you things . Then I tell him that “ Forgive him for he does not know what he is doing at times “ . But he finds it hurting to here negative things about his father as most of the time he is being surrounded by his father and his father is not leaving him much to live free , even move around freely .
So sad to try with the parents that are not worth the pain. My mother is literally homicidal, never loved me, always hated me, and wanted me to die. Do you really want to find all that info. No. You don't. No Contact. They have nothing you need or want. ps. secure your inheritance.
Its so hard as a mother to even imagine not loving my child who grew inside my body and I cared for as a baby and child. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. This should not be happening to you.
1- Nope - never! 2- Ha! Yup… They were the children 😂 3- Ha.. you’re funny 4- Not anymore …I was robbed ..radical acceptance .., I am at the “and” now 5- Yep, definitely still a recovering codependent
I wonder about a child that was raised to be totally honest about their feelings but then in adulthood they find themselves by trial and error where the thin line lays between complete honesty and toxicity. Total honesty can hurt a person who is not honest with themselves. If your honest with yourself you should have no problem admitting your faults but some people seem to be very hurt by that kind of honesty from another person. Not everyone is true to themselves. It's something I've learned how to navigate...and it's been a trial by fire.
My parents cared about my thoughts and feelings. They felt sorry for me when I was sad and gave me sympathy
We are so traumatized 😢
Wow this is so powerful!!! It’s time to take accountability and make some major changes🙏🏾
Bro, all these fit my family situation, but praise be to God! My whole Life, the Holy Spirit has guided me out of the thought patterns and the shame patterns it creates within a kid. Stay tight with God, and he will deflect trauma even tho u go thru traumatic things. Jesus can conquer everything and anything. He really is Lord of all 🙌🏻
I love your teaching!
May I ask where the web link is for the quiz? The one regarding the adverse childhood, as mentioned during this video.
The ACES?
I am empowered NOW
I’ve got absolutely no secrets my dad read my journal and now as a adult I’ve finally confessed that I broke the chair when I was a kid and he whooped the wrong kid . My dad first of Denying the whooping. Then has gave me the silence treatment. Haven’t talked to him for three months now . Regardless of text I send him.
Man I love your videos so much. There is so much wisdom and aha moments in them. I feel understood. Thank you for your service 😊🙏🏽
Thank you that someone finally Said it. That one's at the top are also just as codependent. Money is just energy. It's only those who rise above both.
I love the dorky moments.
I’m currently dealing with an ex who’s enmeshed with his mother (both are evil and contemptuous) . I am constantly gaslight , his mother wedges herself between us and he’s brainwashed by her. He’s a mamas boy and very evil and I’m afraid from them. I feel like they are trying to ruin my life exploit my finances , can you help or explain my situation? He tries to set up scenarios , makes me jealous with the dog we bought then runs away with the dog and glorifies the dog while degrades me.
Read my post. His mother does not love him. He can't love she can't love. Nothing to fix here.
'Do you have many secrets from your parents?' Many...🤖
Thanks
Hi Kenny, where's the self assessment you refer to in your video please?
Where is the link to the quiz?
On my website, under the resources tab. Here you go. kennyweiss.net/resources/
my Parents... I knew by age NINE THESE PEOPLE Can notbe Trusted!!
Do you advise that I can share this video with my child who is presently being abused by his Narcissist father . I am afraid he may get contradictory inputs which may hamper his emotional and psychological growth . On one hand he is bring love bombed . He actually loves him but as a Narcissist you know they have to also accept all their ways . No expression allowed . Do as I say
I want to help you and your child so much!!! But in the interest of full disclosure, I am not a professional counselor/psychiatrist/psychologist in any way. I'd love it if Kenny got back to you since he has been trained in all of this 🙂
In my opinion, this might be too advanced for where they are in their cognitive development. But, without knowing the intricacies of your situation, I don't feel like I have enough information to make a proper judgement. What I DO feel comfortable advising you is this: Whenever you talk to your child, periodically tell your child (gently but earnestly) that they can tell you what they need or want or feel, even if they are worried about how you will react. Really hammer home that you are there for them.
And if you think you think you may have messed up, or misunderstood them in some way, (because you probably will, but that is okay, you are human 🙂) then just go back to them, apologize for reacting in a way that you think probably wasn't ideal, and ask them if they will forgive you and help you to understand them better.
I also hesitate to give you advice because I know how damaging it can be to talk badly about the other parent. And how difficult it is to walk the line of being honest about a person without becoming overly critical and cruel about that parent. But I DO know that if your child sees you (maybe not their father, but at least one of their parents) open to them, and sensitive to their needs and feelings then that means a lot!!!
Again I am not a professional by any means, but I hope this helps you a little bit. Sending you love.❤
@@user-zr3ks8bx6v true . I feel like pointing it to them then and there when whey are telling anything wrong to kids . So that the kids learn the correct thing . Also stop them from abusing . I feel I must tell my child behind him which I do , that your father may be loving you but he he may not be correct always in telling you things . Then I tell him that “ Forgive him for he does not know what he is doing at times “ . But he finds it hurting to here negative things about his father as most of the time he is being surrounded by his father and his father is not leaving him much to live free , even move around freely .
@@user-zr3ks8bx6v sure I am a strong believer in one’s intuition . It is your heart speaking . It is the guy feel
@@user-zr3ks8bx6v I feel I must tell my son
@@rekhaahluwalia2439 You sound like you are on the right track, I love what you wrote here. You sound like a very smart woman.
Earnest Angley?
Billy Graham?
OMG. I was codependent
The last sentence of Pia Melody.
Interesting. You should have made this video sooner.
So sad to try with the parents that are not worth the pain. My mother is literally homicidal, never loved me, always hated me, and wanted me to die. Do you really want to find all that info. No. You don't. No Contact. They have nothing you need or want. ps. secure your inheritance.
Its so hard as a mother to even imagine not loving my child who grew inside my body and I cared for as a baby and child. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. This should not be happening to you.
1- Nope - never!
2- Ha! Yup… They were the children 😂
3- Ha.. you’re funny
4- Not anymore …I was robbed ..radical acceptance .., I am at the “and” now
5- Yep, definitely still a recovering codependent
Oral Roberts?