There is a beauty in being able to build a household with your partner that reflects you both. There is beauty in bonding over finding kitchen items you both like, or furniture you like. But people have lost sight of this opportunity. There is a beauty in building together which allows you to grow in your collaborative efforts together. If people want to gift you something give them leeway to do so and give the best they can. At the end of the day live within your means. Too many people have fallen into debt over such, live within your means and grow together.
One thing i love and will always love about Mwaji is that she doesnt have breaks 😂😂 she says it as it is we legit need such people in the world it will even become a better place #i wanna be like Mwaji now and when i grow up❤😂
💯so true it's sad how people have friends based on money just this morning I came across this quote on a friend's status 🙆" if you can not slove a quick problem that requires money with at least 3 phone calls change your circle of friends" so disappointing! proudly taking your problem and putting it on me and disqualifying me as a friend if I can't come thru, when I equally have my own struggles that you will never hear about, we are all fighting something! #lets be considerate and work with what we have..24/7 I'm ready to offer a friend mental, physical, emotional and spiritual support nkani ya money I equally don't have 🙏 when I start having it will never be an issue to the real ones in my life💯
This video was needed 🙂♥️ and then when we decline one committee because we are in a bad position,we get threats telling us we'll see when it's our turn...
Yesss! I had hoped you’d address this. Completely agree with everything you ladies talked about. I think a couple should plan ahead before, like Mwaji said. Build together.
Loved this and good to see more people are seeing that it’s wrong to budget someone else’s money to furnish your standard of home/wedding. Live within your means🤷🏾♀️
This topic is 🔥. They even pinda people. Smh I was in a committee where the bride or chairperson never even came back to say thank you for the contributions 🚪🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️
Thoroughly enjoyed this video as it was the first time I've seen your content. Also love and appreciate how there are so many gems and lessons with Gods teachings in this video. 😊
Great content and enjoyed watching this... Having helped and been a part of Kitchen party committees, I found them to be unnecessary. Planning and saving is key in order to avoid unnecessary pressure on yourself and those around you. PRAY, PLAN, SAVE these 3 things you will never go wrong with. You will be amazed at how people get to give when you have not bothered them...I loved how you backed this video with scripture, I must add 1 Timothy 6:6 "But godliness with contentment is great gain"
Totally agree with the points you ladies brought up. There’s enough financial stress going on. Say no if you can and cheerfully accept if you want to help. Personally didn’t have a “committee” or wedding party and we still had a ball!
I surely agree that people exploit people with these committees but I have seen the beauty of having a committee especially if done in the right way. call your close friends and ask also mentioning that if they are not able to it's completely fine. The committee meetings are nice it really grows your relationships especially with your mothers and sisters and friends.
I've been in a committee once for a good friend and I was in it willingly. My friend asked beforehand and even mentioned the amount to contribute (and if I could manage). But these days most committees are just money-making schemes.
My biggest problems with these committees is how people just appear from nowhere and don't even care to know whether you're financially able to be in that committee. I had an old friend ask me to be in her committee after we hadn't been in communication for a really long time. Girl didn't even bother to find out how I've been or even where I now stay. When I told her I couldn't manage she walked out of my inbox as quickly as she had walked in. People should stop using others to sponsor their fantasy weddings.
Personally I feel there is nothing wrong with having a committee as long as ; 1. People offer - on this one , if say they decide to make a little group , let them discuss and decide on what they can get you that is in their means. Also if asked, be modest and don’t go demanding things that you can’t afford to buy on your own. 2. It is not a money making scheme to cater for your anticipated wedding/kitchen party expenses - sadly this is what is has turned to and people end up demanding large sums of money hence the negativity that has been attached to the word “Committee” . Going back to our parents days , committees where there ; (small) composed of mainly family and really close friends that brought whatever they can ( non- financial) That being said , there have been quiete a number of people I have said No to. So yes let us learn to say No.
We should live within our means. Don't go about bothering people to finance what you can't afford. True friends don't even wait for you to ask them, they'll just help you from the heart.
Sooo agree with a lot of points 🧡. Love this topic! We defo need to check our hearts and one needs to ask themselves; why am I having a committee? Do I need it ? And why am I asking this person to be part of it?
3of the committees I have been put in,once you pay and the event passes then you are chopped liver...the other recent one I and the person were not in touch for 2 good years ati committee but I failed to say no up straight so I joined and watched her friends pay😎using people is bad manners
Agony is people are seeing what others who have had a five year head start and that's where they want to start. The same people you are kumbwaling didn't even have chairs when starting but built together. Contentment is key and when you learn it early the better
Ala vama kitchen party committee belong in the bin! And those treasurers in those committee WhatsApp groups asking us to pay up like ndise ba nkongole must end!
This is so true everything you have shared is true many people just want to gain from other people's money I have seen my mum be pressured into paying money and afterwards they just don't check on her it was always ever Sunday after church ninshi baisa Matron:Bana B nachisa muku mi tandalila ko fye and to drop a ka reminder about the contribution. They almost always come in a place of an innocent visit especially azimai 😂smh Honestly I think it all better to just manage what you have and if you need help family is the best place to go for that like mwaji said you can push their bottoms they will understand unlike a stranger na pressure yakwe from her house ati contribute k500 for a kitchen unit Kona sometimes it just to be humble and I 💯% agree with everything you have said 😌✨✨✨
Hmmmm we had a group at church where we would put money for each bride and what not hmmmm didn’t all the people we put for leave all of the sudden🤣 people are mad
I feel attacked 🤣😂My friends were so sweet, and gave what they could, despite us having the standard contribution amount. Also most of them didn't have time and chose to give money instead 😂..
That's why I'd rather have an intimate wedding, I know the people in my life and what they can handle. I wouldn't want to live with the feeling that I forced people to give/fund what myself I couldn't afford
I love you both😍😍😍its feels good knowing we still have vibrant young women like you both. There is such wisdom in what you're saying. When I have money am taking you both for ice cream😍😂😂😂 can I have your WhatsApp line
Awe mwandi it's too much especially these alumni WhatsApp groups we have for our former schools. They made me pay for someone's committee even when I complained that i didn't know the person who was getting married. They would even call to remind me about the payments ati "we're only remaining with a few months bla bla let's support our friend". 🤦
I agree. Its somewhat unfair that you barely know this lady, you have never met her man before or even know his name but you are asked to pay large sums of money to buy a washing machine. Yet in my household I hand wash. Smh.
Mwaji’s statement; “if you want that K16 000 dining table, remove the money for the reception” 😂
Louder for the people at the back please! 🙌🏾
There is a beauty in being able to build a household with your partner that reflects you both. There is beauty in bonding over finding kitchen items you both like, or furniture you like. But people have lost sight of this opportunity. There is a beauty in building together which allows you to grow in your collaborative efforts together. If people want to gift you something give them leeway to do so and give the best they can.
At the end of the day live within your means. Too many people have fallen into debt over such, live within your means and grow together.
One thing i love and will always love about Mwaji is that she doesnt have breaks 😂😂 she says it as it is we legit need such people in the world it will even become a better place
#i wanna be like Mwaji now and when i grow up❤😂
She legit keeps it 💯 😂
🤣🤣🤣 me too
Right! 😂😂😂
She's real
Great content!
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I love this😆😆
You are Amazing you two!
This rawness is everything.
Some of us have indirectly become Slaves to such unnecessary commitments.
"Thank you abc for sending K300." I actually screamed 😂😂😭
I am not in support of committees. I think people should cultivate the culture of saving for their wedding.
💯so true it's sad how people have friends based on money just this morning I came across this quote on a friend's status 🙆" if you can not slove a quick problem that requires money with at least 3 phone calls change your circle of friends" so disappointing! proudly taking your problem and putting it on me and disqualifying me as a friend if I can't come thru, when I equally have my own struggles that you will never hear about, we are all fighting something! #lets be considerate and work with what we have..24/7 I'm ready to offer a friend mental, physical, emotional and spiritual support nkani ya money I equally don't have 🙏 when I start having it will never be an issue to the real ones in my life💯
Vollluummmeeee pleassseeeee......this video was needed some one had to say it..
This reminds me of the song by Magg44 and manasseh titled neighbor
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This video was needed 🙂♥️ and then when we decline one committee because we are in a bad position,we get threats telling us we'll see when it's our turn...
Yesss! I had hoped you’d address this. Completely agree with everything you ladies talked about. I think a couple should plan ahead before, like Mwaji said. Build together.
'Beauty in quality of friendship and not quantity' That's the quote
The truth in all this.. sometimes they don’t even ask, they just add you to a group🤦🏾♀️ without asking😕
I don't understand why people don't get that its important to ask and not ambush 😫
Pray for heart of contentment
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I like this 👌. Ladies skin is glowing.
Am loving how u coating scripture Mwape go girl 👏, money matters, ama committee..... 👀
I love you so much Ladies
Mwaji is a gee😂❤️💃🏾
Love your videos ladies,you work so well together🎉
Absolutely loooved the points you put out!👌✨
Mwaji!😂😂😂 ati X them!
Awe this is a necessary topic👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Loved this and good to see more people are seeing that it’s wrong to budget someone else’s money to furnish your standard of home/wedding. Live within your means🤷🏾♀️
this is so insightful! ive never thought about it.
Great content... You look beautiful
I agree with you ladies, 💯
I love this channel😊
Preach sisters!!! 😅👏🏽👏🏽
I have advised people several time to not do what they won't afford..but people think you're jealous when you tell them.
You have said it all..truth
Love this topic 🔥🔥
This topic is 🔥.
They even pinda people. Smh
I was in a committee where the bride or chairperson never even came back to say thank you for the contributions 🚪🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️
great content guys you are vibes. and I agree people should be able to support you at their own free will
Much needed conversation ❤
"There is beauty in the struggle" I definitely relate to the statement and agree with you strongly❤
Thoroughly enjoyed this video as it was the first time I've seen your content. Also love and appreciate how there are so many gems and lessons with Gods teachings in this video. 😊
😂😂😂 mwaji is so blunt mweh but its true you can't have a K100000 reception and want me to sponsor your dinning table
THIS VIDEO IS EVERYTHINGGGGGGG!! Awesome content!! Beauty in the struggle :) my mum always says that!! "Don't impose, leave us alone" I'm dead
I love this vlog.very interesting topic ladies
Great content and enjoyed watching this... Having helped and been a part of Kitchen party committees, I found them to be unnecessary. Planning and saving is key in order to avoid unnecessary pressure on yourself and those around you. PRAY, PLAN, SAVE these 3 things you will never go wrong with. You will be amazed at how people get to give when you have not bothered them...I loved how you backed this video with scripture, I must add 1 Timothy 6:6 "But godliness with contentment is great gain"
It’s very true.
Managing expectations and being mindful of people’s pockets is where it’s at.
Totally agree with the points you ladies brought up. There’s enough financial stress going on. Say no if you can and cheerfully accept if you want to help. Personally didn’t have a “committee” or wedding party and we still had a ball!
This video came at the right time for me.
You guys I love this, they have now brought chilanga mulilo committees it's really frustrating.
This is God speaking through these people
🙌Mwape and Mwaji may God richly bless you
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Mwape is sooo full of the word, maybe you could just take after your father🤭!!!
I surely agree that people exploit people with these committees but I have seen the beauty of having a committee especially if done in the right way. call your close friends and ask also mentioning that if they are not able to it's completely fine. The committee meetings are nice it really grows your relationships especially with your mothers and sisters and friends.
Loving the content!✨
Work within your means 🔥 I love this
Mwaji is the real deal 👌 you say it as it is guys... hope this video pops sence into people
I am also against committees honestly
but again its so hard to say no but its better to do what you are comfortable with
For my friends .. 💯
For my aquaintances .....nooo
Ine...I even just want to skip mweh
I needed this
You guys are too honest and I love it....you just put my thoughts into words ..thank you😊
Great content🙌🙌
Other wise committees are a NO for me.
End of topic😪😪
Kitchen party committees are a no no but personally Iv been in way too many to let it slide when my time comes 🙈
😂😂😂😂 I need to search my heart and say no
Lol so you heard😂
😆😆😆 ok, this is just so true. You just spoke out my mind. Thumbs up. Lets learn to work hard for what we want.
I've been in a committee once for a good friend and I was in it willingly. My friend asked beforehand and even mentioned the amount to contribute (and if I could manage). But these days most committees are just money-making schemes.
Very true.
Loving these outfits ❤
My biggest problems with these committees is how people just appear from nowhere and don't even care to know whether you're financially able to be in that committee. I had an old friend ask me to be in her committee after we hadn't been in communication for a really long time. Girl didn't even bother to find out how I've been or even where I now stay. When I told her I couldn't manage she walked out of my inbox as quickly as she had walked in. People should stop using others to sponsor their fantasy weddings.
Loved watching this video! Didn’t want it to end 😅
I also think it's better to let people pledge rather than give a money goal.
Personally I feel there is nothing wrong with having a committee as long as ;
1. People offer - on this one , if say they decide to make a little group , let them discuss and decide on what they can get you that is in their means. Also if asked, be modest and don’t go demanding things that you can’t afford to buy on your own.
2. It is not a money making scheme to cater for your anticipated wedding/kitchen party expenses - sadly this is what is has turned to and people end up demanding large sums of money hence the negativity that has been attached to the word “Committee” . Going back to our parents days , committees where there ; (small) composed of mainly family and really close friends that brought whatever they can ( non- financial)
That being said , there have been quiete a number of people I have said No to. So yes let us learn to say No.
love to be here!!!
also watching all ads lol
The energy we need!♥️
We should live within our means. Don't go about bothering people to finance what you can't afford. True friends don't even wait for you to ask them, they'll just help you from the heart.
Enjoyed this! New subscriber here!
I always say if you haven't been around me for many years then you just pop up and say be in my committee my answer is NO
Sooo agree with a lot of points 🧡. Love this topic! We defo need to check our hearts and one needs to ask themselves; why am I having a committee? Do I need it ? And why am I asking this person to be part of it?
When Mwaji expresses herself 😂😂
3of the committees I have been put in,once you pay and the event passes then you are chopped liver...the other recent one I and the person were not in touch for 2 good years ati committee but I failed to say no up straight so I joined and watched her friends pay😎using people is bad manners
Finally it's Wednesday 💃💃💃💃
Mwape's energy is damn contagious....
Mwape : "Mwaji did you start with a dinning table?" ..."Did you die?" 😂😂😂
Love this!!!
Agony is people are seeing what others who have had a five year head start and that's where they want to start. The same people you are kumbwaling didn't even have chairs when starting but built together. Contentment is key and when you learn it early the better
Also when mwaji said you don't know what others are doing to have what they have . Contentment is key for real for real
Ala vama kitchen party committee belong in the bin! And those treasurers in those committee WhatsApp groups asking us to pay up like ndise ba nkongole must end!
Mummy your comment has made my day😂😂
@@mutalengaba3845 ah baby!! You know how i am starting my home from zero! Without exploiting anyone! How about two people? They surely can do it!
This is so true everything you have shared is true many people just want to gain from other people's money I have seen my mum be pressured into paying money and afterwards they just don't check on her it was always ever Sunday after church ninshi baisa
Matron:Bana B nachisa muku mi tandalila ko fye and to drop a ka reminder about the contribution.
They almost always come in a place of an innocent visit especially azimai 😂smh
Honestly I think it all better to just manage what you have and if you need help family is the best place to go for that like mwaji said you can push their bottoms they will understand unlike a stranger na pressure yakwe from her house ati contribute k500 for a kitchen unit Kona sometimes it just to be humble and I 💯% agree with everything you have said 😌✨✨✨
Insta-greezyy 😂😂💀
Mwaji 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 #TooReal
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It’s very true it’s not right to put pressure on people, I think it’s better to ask people first than to automatically add them in a group 😂😂
Hmmmm we had a group at church where we would put money for each bride and what not hmmmm didn’t all the people we put for leave all of the sudden🤣 people are mad
I feel attacked 🤣😂My friends were so sweet, and gave what they could, despite us having the standard contribution amount. Also most of them didn't have time and chose to give money instead 😂..
That's why I'd rather have an intimate wedding, I know the people in my life and what they can handle. I wouldn't want to live with the feeling that I forced people to give/fund what myself I couldn't afford
Finally someone said it👏🏽.
Mwaji has only been told once and she’s tired 😓💀💀😂
We need some financial literacy in our Zambian community...
Yesssss🔥😩❤💃
#collabtober
New subscriber here,love the content and positive vibes. hope to see you on my side 😊
We need to normalize having these conversations..People need to stop begging!!!!
I love you both😍😍😍its feels good knowing we still have vibrant young women like you both. There is such wisdom in what you're saying. When I have money am taking you both for ice cream😍😂😂😂 can I have your WhatsApp line
"Who are you guys???" Mwape 2020
It's not worth it indeed
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Awe mwandi it's too much especially these alumni WhatsApp groups we have for our former schools. They made me pay for someone's committee even when I complained that i didn't know the person who was getting married. They would even call to remind me about the payments ati "we're only remaining with a few months bla bla let's support our friend". 🤦
😂😂😂ati that's not Christian . I agree 👍
I agree. Its somewhat unfair that you barely know this lady, you have never met her man before or even know his name but you are asked to pay large sums of money to buy a washing machine. Yet in my household I hand wash. Smh.
Finally....
I'm past impressing people..
I tell people No ..
He always surely provides 🔥
Manje this segregation for people on Instagram only be the ones particpating so they can get a photoshoot. Please consider us who are not on Insta👏🏾
We hear you😩 we will work on it♥️
One reason why I appreciate committees is because Zambians have bad gifting culture. Too many people are okay with not giving gifts for anything.