Abused - Short Film (2013)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ก.ย. 2024
- **This project was made quite a few years back. It's far from what I would do now and is a project from my first year at university. Had I made it now there would be a lot of changes and it would be more polished. Keep that in mind before condemning it as "awful". It may not be perfect but it's something that I'll always be proud of.**
A short film exploring domestic abuse within a gay relationship. Written and filmed a while ago but re-edited with new voice over and music.
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Music:
No Winners - Ross Bugden
Solstice - Ross Bugden
Touch - Mattia Cupelli
At Rest - Kevin Macleod
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It's "rawness" worked VERY much in its favour; loneliness,denial and lack of a sense of self entitlement to be loved and supported for who you are - as you make clear at the beginning, firstly,by ones parents/caregivers - is poignantly and movingly expressed; sadly devastating that SO many people place themselves at the power of weak,pathetic bullies,who've been equally destroyed by their parents,normally ;a hideous continuum,which needs to be broken ; through education and excellent drama like yours. KUDOS,to yourself👊 for making a film where the fact the couple are gay, seemed incidental, his monologue could be anyone's in any combination of couples. Painful to watch for all the right reasons👌🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟👍💥❤💯Have you considered this as play,possibly part of a three act? Child,this and 20/30 years on? Regardless, very best of luck & good vibes👋🌟✌
Thank you very much for your kind words. I have thought of it as a play in fact. My writing has come along way since the time that I wrote this (As it was written in 2011) and there's much of their past and future that I already know but just haven't done anything with yet. It's definitely something I'd consider doing. I particularly love that you saw their sexuality as being incidental. Its true that you could swap these characters out for a man and woman or two woman and the point would still be the same. I'm glad you enjoyed it and thanks very much for the great comment!
Just Grant Cool.My pleasure,I watch a LOT of short films/films (just look at my profile);it's so refreshing to watch a film which is so relevant, regardless of the couple. You should expand it ,sadly the issues you address are still very relevant. Tragic! You could even make it work as a monologue - the character has retreated into his head,probably as a child - but,would like to see more,as I'm sure would ,the others who've been so positive about it. I'm amazed I've not come across it before;knowing nothing about its timeline, it's very fresh and of the moment, on IMDb, it doesn't look like you ever put into competition? There's so much you could do with it,including rereleasing it now? Regardless, was very impressed,though thankfully never having experienced anything, like this, personally, have seen many attemps (with much bigger budgets😉😀) which haven't got the point across with as much pathos or sense of desperation,which is guess I key to the dynamic of an abusive relationship - possibly on both sides? It's the absolute resignation, even in attack, of the main character that is so devastating,so kudos on your acting,as well as writing. Enjoy the rest of your weekend,look forward to where you'll go next with this very worthwhile project. Very best wishes👋✌
I hate the fact that society thinks that men just have to be strong and put up with everything
IKR
Me too. Even though I am a female, I hate sexism. Men are human just as women are. They have rights and feelings too. Equality👍.
You look just like Polly shore.
You're his lover, not his slave!! Fight back or leave him!! The one who abuses clearly doesn't love you.
I was in a 7 year relationship like this guy, my ex didn't work, he drank all the time cheated on me with women, would always berate and belittle me. He alienated me from my family and friends, he would go into a rage and beat me for the littlest things talking to my cousin for instance would get me beat. I would always excuse it as my fault along with his "loving apologies" the baby I love you and dont want to hurt you, and baby i won't do it again. I believed him until one night, he beat me so bad I could not walk I had to crawl for help. And that is when my best straight friend Zack came to help, he took me out of that situation, nursed me back to health dealt with my ex physically, and after about 3 months, him and I are in a committed relationship. Hes a hard worker, respectful and loves me to the moon and back. I am so grateful for him.
The protagonist is just in love with love and how he wants his partner to be not how he really is. His fear of being alone clouds his ability to be able to see clearly.
I suffered psychological abuse from my partner. After we were together for a year, he found someone else and I gave him an ultimatum of him or me. He chose me at the time but it was never the same after that. I've often wished I could redo that time. I would have kicked his ass out then and there. I had to learn how to become the person I am today. Thank you for a very powerful and moving film.
When the boyfriend in the beginning started to approach him he backed up and fell into the couch is just so real and you are just always expecting something bad like someone raising their hand. This was a really great film ♥️🙌🏾✨
Jika ko ijjjhh
This almost hits too close to home. I was in a similar abusive relationship with this guy named drew. He wouldn't work, he was a cheater, and he was violent. He put a knife to my throat and told me he would kill me if I ever thought about or tried to leave him. I got tired of being a victim, so I fought back and eventually left his sorry ass.
@coronaVILUS No, I'm a guy. Why does it matter if I'm a girl or a boy?
@@TheBeastofTrinityi am sorry that happen to you ,i hope tou are better now.
I was crying in the first few minutes. Abuse does not include just "straight" relationshps
wd harvey sooo true
It’s powerful seeing a story from the vantage point of the fellow being abused. He has so little self-worth that he’s almost grateful for the beatings - his way of feeling loved, of feeling like he matters to that tool. God awful, but living with an abuser will make you feel like a nothing.
It hurts seeing someone willing to settle for such degradation. Not one person deserves to be treated this poorly, which is the whole point of the video.
Great job, well done! Please give us a part two.
It's still a great, pretty well made short. The saddest part being watching the one you loved become a monster. When you can barely look at him in the eyes or shaking by getting to sit next to him... It's terrible. But you still love him maybe you are keeping a slightest hope he might turn back again to that pretty nice person you use to know... Thank for making it, happens in any kind of couple
Does anyone else think he was only eating white bread because he couldn't afford anything else?
Claire Lally I didn't realize that but I think you have a point
Wendy Denning Yeah, it just seemed like he was overselling the whole "I love white bread" thing. Also, if his partner was taking most of his money, it is doubtful that he could have afforded much else.
Claire Lally that makes sense
Ohh yeah! Good point
I don’t think that, because he has cigarettes and beer to drink so,
This deserves more views
I liked this short film. I wish they made more films about domestic violenc like this, instead of just the typical film where the victims are always women and the perpetrators are always men.
Agustin Camejo amennn
Agustin Camejo je suis complètement d’accord avec toi, je trouve sa dommage qu'il n'y est aucune film sur se sujet!! (je suis française et je parle vraiment très très mal anglais, alors je t’écris en français mdr c'est bien connus les français sont nul en anglais xD)
In law enforcement it was common knowledge that the worst domestic violence cases departments encountered were usually among gay and lesbian couples. That's not something you could tell just anyone because they'd get very angry and not want to hear it. Some would go out of their way to rationalize that the couples weren't really gay so it was not a real part of the "community". Sometimes the quickest way to deal with a problem in the community is to ostracize and disown the trouble makers. In this day and age where the common trend is for people to start a "conversation" that's not one many people want to have.
I teared up at the end when it goes from them laying in bed together and then him laying in his bed alone :,(
Thank you so much for this. I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, and I thought that nobody could ever possibly understand. Just knowing that this exists out there in the world gives me hope. Thank you so much, again.
I lived with a guy for a little over a year, I knew he cheated on me but I over looked it and he could be verbally abusive I also over looked it,one night he punched me in the face as hard as he could (Big Mistake on his part) he got the ass beating of a life time and thrown out on his ass.I will tolerate some things but never put your hands on me.
Thank you to everyone that has watched my short film. I'm overwhelmed by the response to it over the years. I can't show my appreciation enough. Now I have a question for you, only answer once you've seen the film, but, would you like a Part Two? I have an idea for a second part to this film, set 4 years later and would love to know if people want to see it. Please leave it in the comments down below. Thanks again for watching!
Just Grant yes please, I feel i've been waiting forever for it
Just Grant (attention je préviens : je suis français et mon anglais est vraiment pas terrible, mais j’espère que tu pourras quand même me comprendre...)
YES please, we would like a sequel, this short film is just awesome and super well done. For me it should have a lot more film about it.
Voilà, merci de ton indulgence pour mon anglais merdique ^^
Omg yes!
Please!!
I think a part 2 would be awesome
I feel this so much... "How can you love someone who hurts you all the time"....its all I ever heard from my friends when we watched a movie with abuse in it but they never understood they never will they haven't gone through it I always stayed silent afraid I would lose them but one of them saw through it and showed this to me and confronted me about it she helped me get help
I love this it is so well done I started crying when he said he'll be home soon he'll probably rape me but it's ok that part gets me every time because I cant believe anyone would think that it would be ok
Just now seeing this video. My son is in an abusive relationship. We have all been trying desperately to get him to see how wrong it is. But he always forgives. We don’t know what to do. Thank you for this. We pray that our son makes it out alive.
Is he doing better? I hope everything is alright with you guys. Forgiving doesn’t save someone from themselves he’s got to get out.
I swear I'm screaming at the screen so loud and high pitched I'm going to shatter it just GAH! HE DOESN'T DESERVE THIS
Dude same I wanted to do the same thing I’ve been in his shoes before
@@delaney5721 are you doing okay right now do you need a hug
wow ,, I , as a victim can relate so much to this ,, powerful , moving , now 40 I have only now come to terms with the way I was treated , I have been an alcoholic since I left him 5 / 6 years ago ,, drank myself into a stupor and damaged my liver , now a recovering alcoholic I can only now see what I was trying to cover up , the abuse by " him " ,,, it has affected me moving on in other relationships but I now have a councillor , but it still doesn't seem enough ,, I don't know what else I can do ,,, thankyou for this video ,,,
....are you fine... 😄 😄 Now..
@@meensbharucha8809 no hun I'm not ,,, it's an on going battle 😢
@@ashdan76... 🤔 🤔Take care... Yourself...plz....and stay away from bad people 🤘........ ....
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Hope your okey plezz tacke care of your self my fathor was alchoolic too he lost the battle .
I know I'm super late but this made me cry 😢
If you're a woman, we expect you to keep quiet and behave yourself, if you're a man, we expect you to be strong and put up with everything in silence. The truth should be, the society was created by a psychopath.
Wonderful film!!! I wish people being abused would leave their abusers! I wish they would look at things as they really are. I hope this film helps them do that.
Lack of self esteem, abusing in a relationship (mentally, physically, and verbally) are not acceptable. It's better to be alone than being beat up by your partner.
Wow!
Very powerful and moving.
At first I couldn't believe that this guy was making all these excuses for this abusive SOB.
He didn't want to lose this jerk.
I was yelling , " you can do much better than this guy."
Then I understood the real message here.
That abusive people attack and chip away at a persons self worth. Destroying any true sense of self. I speak as an outsider. This would only happen once to me and it would be over, PERIOD!
THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR PHYSICAL, MENTAL, or EMOTIONAL ABUSE!
You don't have to do it alone or in silence.
That was a very powerful message about being abused I have known many gay guys who are or have been involved in an abusive relationship......they find it very hard to move away from the abuse so like this short they just put up with it.
this made me cry
Same 😢
Me to 🥺🥺
For those thinking this is a bad story line because he’s being “good” in the end have probably never been in an abusive relationship and don’t understand the film was showing trauma bonding. Abuse isn’t bad all the time it goes from good to bad and constantly does that. The highest highs to the lowest lows and that’s why people love their abusers and can’t seem to move on. This isn’t over dramatic this is real life situations until you have been in his shoes you can’t possibly understand what we go through even years after this. Please understand it’s not easy for us and for anyone who has walked away like I have we are the strong ones 🙏❤️. It’s not easy no matter how bad someone treats you they condition you to think you can’t live without them. Trust me
This film mesmerized me! Even though its roughly made the emotional situation shines through really excellent work!! I would love 2 see you make a sequel to this!!!
Being numb in a relationship, is to be sitting alone, when there are 2.
Thinking about how they live as I walked by that window or open door.
Laying in bed awake in the wee hours, never feeling a warm touch a smile, kind word.
Relationship!
At the very end I'm glad the boyfriend pushed back and told his partner you will not keep abusing me and treat me like a puppet if someone being abuse get help and get away from the relationship
While I was watching this film, i got different moods. I feel pity, sad, angry and mad. I can't believe it. How could he hit him? All he did was to love him unconditionally. He was so lucky to have him but he left? How could he??????? If I was that guy I would love him as much as he loves me.
Great masterpiece I can't survive such relationship even for a month
He managed 3 years he has big heart
I would like to part two of it
the stark filming style of the film added to its emotional impact......and the result is very moving....one feels so much for the title character.....he would do anything for love...his ego had been so damaged.....
would love to see a part 2....set yrs in future...to see where the title character is now.....in a same relationship/still being abused...or in a more stable loving relationship...???????
whatever u decide to do...I hope that u will continue to make films....u have a unique talent
I would have left or told him he has to go , now if he was a big part financially I could see being scared to leave !
Its a horible reality and very sad. Went tru the same situation of fals love and abuse. Its almost 3 years after and Im still struggling to get over what I thought was love that he had for me. Even till today and after everything and the love that i still feel for him . Will i never go back to him . All that love I gave wasted. And all that years wasted. Love is supose to be beautyfull
I got a full time job and live with somebody that I love but what he did is just mental, financial and physical torture
Begging your boyfriend that please don't leave me don't leave me
Its weird bc when i first hit high school like the seniors would prey on the freshmen . and so i met a senior and he was nice at first but the first week we started dating things took a turn for the worst and the thing was he would abuse me in front of other people and my friends and the thing is i didnt love him but i did like him . and he would touch me pull my hair sqeeze my waist . and i still havent told my parents. And yes im still in high school and yes im a girl.
I am so sorry for what you have been thru. Better days are coming 🙂.
This is so hard to watch. But had to see all of it, because this stuff actually happens. Sadly, it happens. I don’t think I could ever tolerate a person that would do this to another person. I try so hard to understand the enabler that allows this. I don’t think I ever will. It’s a very sad mental condition for both parties.
What a great film, an uncomfortable watch but you are hooked from the start. You are right to be proud of it but wrong that it needs to be more polished, I think it would lose something from the realism of the film. Great acting too. Strange to be happy at the end of a film when the lead character is miserable. Excellent!
My guess.....the abuser isn't gay. He just found a meal ticket knew how to push his buttons to keep him in a state of terror so hell stay his meal ticket.
Also.....this is something that goes way beyond your garden variety domestic violence. In the vast majority of domestic violence cases the abuser genuinely LOVES the victim of the abuse. This one DOESN'T. He HATES his victim. As i said i dont think hes even gay.
Heres the deal.....the intentional unprovoked violence..he LIKES doing it....showes the utter contempt he has for who hes doing it to. Im willing to wager he was sexually abused....most likely by more than one male adult...even passed around. And it started at an early age. Then kicked to the curb. This was how he learned to survive...using his body to barter to get his needs met.
This case is truly frightening. Theres some serious sociopathy going on here. Not all victims of horrific sexual abuse identify with the victims in future situations. Sometimes they grow up identifying with their abusers as far as what they want to be like. Victims are weak. He hates....loathes...his victim because he loathes himself. He really believes its the victim's fault...hes allowing that to happen. Because when it happened to HIM he was made to believe it was HIS fault.
This isnt just a case of domestic violence. Hes a sadistic violent psychopath. Possibly a future serial killer. If he isnt already.
This just shows you trauma bonding this is why we can’t get over it no matter how bad someone treats us cause the good comes just as good but then cycle repeats itself
This made me cry so much. So relatable.
This was really sad
12:36
This made me 😢
"That's when I watch TV... And eat bread" like same
So heart-wrenching. :(
I know the feeling, my first boyfriend did this to me as Well. I still have flashbacks
Very sad ! He is co-dependent! I was never physically abused, but verbally and emotionally! We both had jobs, he a good job, I worked two jobs! Was gone at work a lot of hours, and he would go "out' to bars, little did I know he was having sex, until I came home early, and found someone else with him! We try to make our relationships like our parents, and hang on for better or for worse!
Self worth and not spotting it early
Where is part 2
I feel so sorry for him💔.
That guy is the epitome of a bad boyfriend
This so sad! You don't know what people are going through behind closed door! Men keep things balled up inside because they supposed to tough! Its sad!
I think he was weak and this relationship made him stronger I guess
This is so incredibly heartbreaking. Not his shit of an abusive boyfriend leaving, that I was great with. But what that bastard did to him, and the fact that he thinks that is love. How in the world do people get to that point? How do people's heads get so messed up, that they can love someone that abuses them like that? I know it happens in increments, and I know emotional manipulation and mental abuse has something to do with it. But man, did that asshole of a boyfriend really do some work on that guys head. Such lack of self worth. That poor, poor man. So heartbreaking.
This was such a beautiful story... I only cried a wee bit... Fine I cried a lot 😭.
So emotional ❤️
Nobody deserves to be treated like this.
It actually made me cry you are amazing
really sad, poor lad, why is it so hard for gay men to report this ? had no real idea the gay men could be bad. wow !!
4:30 yooo is that the black mesa theme??? tight
as soon as i found out he had no money and didnt work i was like i wouldve been left his ass. I just dont understand why people abuse peopple, and sometimes people are to blind to see what theyre doing to them. Love really is blind.
Amazing storytelling ❤
Why I am feeling too much terror on seeing this clip
Is it good to establish such relationship or not
Should date someone younger and nonmusclar guy
Hey well done, it's good! You're a good film maker, I hope you went on.
I think it was ok but I don't believe that it was the best portrayal (sorry)? Speaking from experience there's a lot less physical abuse and much more emotional abuse with people like this! they learn very quickly not to leave any visible marks because people ask questions and it becomes obvious that one person can only be so CLUMSY, so, if they do hit you, they do it where the majority of people would never have the opportunity to see any bruises or red marks. The emotional abuse is usually worse than the physical because the bruises fade but the memories last a lifetime and are much harder to forget. I hate to say this but being the victim is almost worse than being the abuser because we've allowed it to happen more than once and didn't have enough respect for ourselves to leave after the first time and that has enormous emotional consequences to have overcome. You have to love yourself a little more than you love someone else to make sure you never end up in a position like this ( much easier said than done for many people).
Is the best movie
This was great 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
Oh hell NO! I can’t believe how people think or consider this LOVE. Abuse is Abuse & there’s nothing right about it. GET OUT ASAP DONT BECOME A VICTIM
He's abusive bf more than likely is screwing around the sad part other ppl dnt Kno what this guy is like and he'll just repeat the same abuse to them.
Guys what happened after
14:20
He was alone at bed
Very good
poor baby awww I'm crying
wow thats enugh tv for the day
How tragic, how easily confused masculinity can become without the guidance of a two parent home. Here it is. She, a single other, without a father is raising either a homosexual or a though.
Not sure what you're saying?
Just Grant I don’t know what the fuck he’s trying to say either.
Anna@AnnaAntiperdis I gave up with it. I'm guessing it was supposed to be about gays being wrong, but it was hurting my brain to read so I left it :-D
how all to frequent,str8 or gay sad
when I ask my abused friends why they keep relationship, they said they love their couple so much. so stupid!
It’s not stupid... it’s really hard when you love someone and think they love you but they turn out different
Yes it was - perfect... Thank you!
god the subtitles are alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll wrong.
Wow its sad but done so well
Is this a movie of its only short film
Well now I’m in the floor crying cause I can relate
I like the narration and the bleakness is put over well...
Basic though.
Amazingly done, 10/10!
Sad
Awesome
Jeez im crying
im confused it ended happy.
I couldn't understand english without english subtitle...😞...anybody explain me please.... 😭
That was so emotional
So sad🥺😭
Neil can have his ass! Let him go!
I loved this.
omg this is so bloody sad for sure...........................
Sadomasochism is much more popular than alot of people think.
grahmhw totally is!! Sad 😭
The long hair boy is so handsome