The Voices of Men // Men's Mental Health Documentary
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Very proud to share this film, it's something that means an incredible amount to me.
This is a short documentary focusing on mental health, spotlighting men's mental health in a raw and honest way to help fight the stigma attached to men expressing their emotions.
I asked men to send in recordings detailing their experiences with their mental health, giving them a safe platform to open up as honestly as they want. We must normalise men talking about their feelings, which I hope this film will contribute to.
In the UK, men are three times more likely to die by suicide than women. In the Republic of Ireland, the rate is four times higher among men than women.
Mental health is invisible and you don't know who may be struggling. Check up on your family and friends - even the most charismatic ones or the ones you don't speak to as much anymore. Don't take anyone for granted. Be more considerate with what you say to people. Keep the conversation going.
You can call Samaritans 24 hours, 365 days a year for free on 116 123 if you need to talk to someone safely.
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Thank you to everyone for your comments and love for this film. The reaction has blown me away considering this was just made as a passion project and uploaded with no expectation. It goes to show how much this topic resonates and needs to be spotlighted.
We’re now expanding this short into a feature-length documentary, exploring new stories, new voices and wanting to spotlight the stigma still surrounding men’s mental health on a much deeper level.
Keep your eyes peeled in the not so distant future.
Thank you again!
I grew up in a house with my mom and dad and four older brothers who were my heroes. Being the only girl and the youngest, I got to see how my brothers were treated at school and by people in general just because they're boys. The affection and kindness and loads of extra help I got because I'm a girl were all denied my brothers. Just because they're guys. Teachers adored me, praised me, encouraged me. At best, they ignored my brothers--all who're at least as "school smart" as me. And in their relationships... One of my brothers had a university scholarship revoked after a girl accused him of sexually assaulting her--even after a long and expensive trial when she admitted she'd lied b/c he broke up with her. The college never offered him back his scholarship despite his winning the case.
Since high school I've been speaking out about this but no one cares to listen. Everywhere, boys are portrayed as these stupid, gruff monsters. In the media, in schools, in the workforce. It's one reason I've decided not to have kids. Being born a boy today is being born an automatic second-class citizen always suspect in the eyes of the law, the courts, schools, social services, and the community. And when we learn boys and men commit more suicides, what do we say? That it's men's fault for not reaching out, for not taking care of themselves. That it's the result of "toxic masculinity." Gawd.
To all you guys out there, there are girls who see what's happening to you and who advocate for you.
Good on you for speaking up.
Now if you can make other women stand up and have the same determination to change their spiteful ways towards all men just because they exist, and see that not every man is a selfish war mongering rapist that wants to use their bodies or see women as lower than them.
So many of us gone through life being told that we will have the weight of the world on our shoulders and could do anything, but it wasn’t the case, and we managed to meet a lot of people along the way, and some became long time friends and others just used and abused us because of our kindness and trust, and those were the types that started to open our eyes and see who people really were and what the real world around us was really like.
So many people go through life and lie, cheat and steal, and still manage to get everything that they want, and some of us work hard our whole lives and do the right things and still never manage to get all the things that we always fought hard for, and as we get older our strength and health starts to grow weaker and we aren’t in the best shape to keep working hard at the pace that we used to and while all that is happening, you start to not see the long time friends that you made along the way because you are all so busy and they start families of their own.
Life is tough for men everywhere, and when you can’t even get up and walk two feet away from your chair or bed just to pick up your phone or video game controller anymore, you know that’s it’s close to that time for you already and that those days of you being in peak athletic physical condition because of always playing sports like basketball, baseball or football are long over now, and they are never coming back.
As good as we were to all people our whole lives while also being physically and mentally tough enough to get up every single day for years to push ourselves to go to work at grueling jobs that we used to love at first, but then grew to hate as we got older, we still shuffled our way through and did our absolute best.
We still are hated by a vast majority of women just because we exist, and the very funny thing is that a lot of these women are still just college kids fresh out of high school that never even had the courage to jump onto daily transportation all hours of a day just to get to their jobs, schools or to see friends and family.
They would probably quit after working just a couple hours of the first day of a company work shift.
They don’t know the first thing about what true struggle and survival really is yet.
University’s will betray you in a second, they don’t care
Thank you for sharing your story. I really encourage everyone to do that, and it's great when videos (be that fiction or documentary) gets people doing that. Well done, everyone.
Try dating a depressed guy.
And make him not not depressed. If you really mean your words . Try dating a guy who is poor asf . Who is a complete loser . Will you? I don't think so.
2.5k views… that‘s how much almost 8 billion people on this world care about mens mental health.
This comment is so underrated.
We care about our mental health ourselves, actually. Except for that, barely any one
Welcome to the world my friend, no one gives a fuck about anything anymore. We live in an egocentric, self-absorbed society. Empathy is void. Watching this video made me feel something deeper than sadness, I connect to these men on a much greater level than words can describe. Shame 95% of the world can't do the same.
only 10k after one year, lol. even my video on my main youtube channel reach 10k in a day
Nah, that’s how much a capitalistic company like TH-cam who created the algorithm does
I've been a weed addict for 5 years, now i'm 22 and i've been 1 month without it, i started to study something i really like for the first time in my life on september, i started to do exercise and trainings 4 times a week, i started to meditate, i started to be much more organized and disciplined, i started to meet new good people from my school after a few years without meeting new people, i started getting more confortable with girls again, (since 2019 i don't kiss or have sex with any), and i feel much better but at the same time i feel much more sensitive because I am in the most emotionally intense period of my life where there has been a lot of improvement in a single month and sometimes I find it difficult to handle it and keep improving, I opened up a lot with my best friend and I cried with him but still I think that I need talk more with my family because I only show them the beautiful part and everything that I am improving this month but I don't feel emotionally stable, i still need to quit cigars, caffeine, sugar and porn to get better phisically and mentally but i'm sure i'm going to get even better at the end of this year and become the men i want soon
Thanks for your comment and sharing your story. I wish you all the best in your journey.
Keep the faith and HOPE .
Blessings to you sent from Rhode Island. Peace
Be patient with yourself, you've got this!
Hey as someone who has similar story im proud of you. What i can say is that maybe you can go at your own pace dont rush it because rushed things dont last usually. I hope we can all be happy again, lots of love to everyone!
Keep grinding brother, u can do it, and proud of you to take this step and sticking on it
YOU CAN
I just want to comment so the algorithm will promote this. MEN ARE PEOPLE TOO!
Thank you for making this film. It is truly comforting to know that I'm not the only one who deals with this anxiety and suicidal ideation on a daily basis.
It’s so common, but so uncommonly spoke about - it can feel incredibly isolating. You are absolutely not alone. Thank you for your comment and bravery.
Mental health creeps up on you and it feels suffocating. Its worse when mental health causes physical symptoms.
Thanks 🙏
I needed this right now. As a man that isolates and withdraws, I feel completely alone most of the time. Even if I'm not alone on the occasions when I do socialize and crawl out of my hole, I'm never really there. I can't trust anyone to actually listen and understand me. At best, I get home and feel relieved that no one actually 'saw' me, because i hid it well enough. Being real with people is the worst; the common passive comments of people are usually so destructive. And being told to "man up" is the most destructive of them all. Do you really want men to take their hurt and channel it into more aggressive, toxic, and violent behaviour? Because that's how you destroy a man's empathy and turn him into a savage. The allure of the abandon is intoxicating to think of; to actually feel power instead of absolute powerlessness.
"He who make's a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man." I've always felt like this quote is a perfect example of this duality. We ARE beasts, yet we are a civiliation that seems to put high emphasis on ignoring our animalistic nature and favoring empathy instead. Survival of the fittest IS the ultimate law of nature and as a civilization we seem to strive to go completely against that. Thou shall not kill, thou shall not steal, thou shall not covet thy neighbours wife, and the billion other civil LAWS we have accepted as a civilization for the greater good; they all go against the laws of nature. We are led to believe you don't need to be the strongest to be a successful man, you don't need to be the smartest to be a successful man, you just have to follow the rules. A male lion does not feel guilty for killing the wildebeast, it does not feel guilty for fighting another male for the chance to mate with the pride's females, it does not feel guilty for mercilesslessly killing the infant males of the pride so instead his coming offspring will flourish. No, he feels powerful and master of his destiny, successful in life. So how, if we are so civilized, do i see the most successful people being the ones that ignore civil law and just TAKE what they want from people. Our whole civilization seems like a scam to favor the beasts, while fooling the empaths into being taken advantage of. So if THAT really is how our society works, survival of the fittest, the physically strongest and smartest people get to feel powerful and successful by depressing other peoples success. Power corrupts people. And we constantly see people in positions of power selfishly taking full advantage of it. This is the truth.
So despite being physically fit and smarter than the average person, my empathy has lead to me to being an unsuccessful man. I COULD be a powerful man. At the most extreme I could kill those that threaten me, take the stuff and things I want to improve my life, rape women who reject me; I could be a perfectly content man in the real world. But instead I chose empathy. I choose to take other peoples feelings seriously because I know all too well about the pain and don't want to perpetuate it. Instead i take my blows and rejection and ridicule for my sensitivities as a man, and i suffer in silence. Every day I choose to be a good compassionate person, and everyday I go to bed hurting and struggling with this question; how much more hurt can i tolerate before I succumb to the sadness, or let the beast out of the cage so i can survive. And i hate myself for even contemplating it.
Touching comment, my friend. Stay strong. Mind if I talk about it on my channel sometime? There are some point there that resonate with me.
@@dolorosaenigmakil No I do not mind.
@@danieltwomey7882 I will do that in a couple of videos then. Stay well, my friend.
I will tell you that you ARE all alone, it isn't merely a feeling. I will never forget how the people were to me when I reached out. At the end of the day your seen as a resource, nothing more
Compassion goes both ways mate. Being compassionate doesn't mean turning yourself into a punching bag. Sometimes it's an absolute must to set boundaries and be compassionate to yourself as well. Finding balance between those two things is the hard part. Stay strong and remember to treat yourself with kindness too.
I've had times where things are hard and the question I find myself asking is "Who'd actually miss me if I disappeared?". I asked myself that very question this morning. A few days ago my girlfriend left me. We work together. As far as I know to myself I didn't really do anything wrong. I loved her with all of me. I never once raised my voice to her or deliberately made her feel bad about herself. Everyone at work is messaging her and asking how she is... 2 male members of staff have asked if I'm ok. Everyone else assumes it was my fault.
Thank you for this.
I’m so pleased this has resonated with you. 😊
Tool rule (but the latest album was not very good) ^_^
Stay well, my friend!
@@JonnyVisuals can talk with you
The last part where the person says that when we are thinking of suicide, it is to remove ourselves from the equation as we see ourselves as a burden to those people, that is what I struggle with the most. I don't end myself due to religious reasons. But man if I wasn't religious, I would have been dead 7 years ago.
This feeling of always taking others feelings into consideration and pushings my own behind is just so heavy at times, especially when it comes to family and your own personal interests. I feel like, instead of just being a dissapointment to my mother and sisters or my fiancee, I'll just try to take myself out of the equation and make it easy for them to move on in life. A life without disappointment.
I can't shed a single tear in front of anyone. The last time that happened was 5 years ago when my father passed away. I cried for 15 minutes holding my sister in my arms. Wiped my tears and put on a brave face for my family. I can only ever cry in solitude. My tears immediately stop as soon as someone turns the corner and all feelings go away in that moment. I guess it is some sort of defense mechanism.
Last time I was about to cry because my mum would disturb me so much while I was working from home and it was hindering my concentration on my work (self employed) that it was affecting the money coming in as well. I got to hear from her for not earning enough. Not "helping" her when she asked. I couldn't take it anymore and I had a shaky voice and almost had tears welling up as I tried to explain to her that her constant interferance during my working hours is what is leading to my lesser income, she immediately said "Stop crying". That sadness in me immediately turned to anger and I yelled "So what? Is anger better? Should I start yelling?". I hated myself in that moment. I hated what she said. I hated that I was suffocating and I still am.
I'm sorry for sharing all this, I don't know why I wrote all of this. I don't know where I'm going with this. I just really want my life to end. Like, die on a good note soon. I just keep listening and am never able to talk.
You said this because you have the strength and voice to share what many can relate to rn and rn we need that community, and togetherness. The feeling we are not alone but experiencing the same things though miles apart, different circumstances, different ages, and so on. Thank you for sharing, thank you for bringing us that read this closer to freedom from these overwhelming feelings. All the best brother and again ty for speaking it helps us all.
Stay strong my man, you’re not alone I swear
The worst thing is when you have issues with your friends. You can’t really talk to them because you know they still hang out with people who were mean to you. Or they’re too busy within their own lives to bother to schedule a real hang out or anything. And any group hangout involves people you can’t stand. Trying to find a friend as an adult these days in person is like finding a needle in a haystack...
I've had well over a decade of mental health problems stemming from childhood trauma. Last autumn I set up a men's mental health peer support group in my local town, and it's going well. I set it up to help others - which it is doing - but it's helping me too. And it was pretty straightforward to get up and running.
"Well it looks like collectively breaking the spirit of man may have worked too well, let's pretend to give a shit now that we've about thrown the last shovel full on their casket."
We live in a period where mental health is still seen as a dogma, something that cannot be talked about and should not be talked about. Where man is seen as an indestructible thing capable of enduring whatever happens. Videos like this should be seen all over the world.
Sincere congratulations.
I am 66 . I have felt disconnected over half that time.
Everything said here i agree with and have experienced those feelings myself .
I still feel that way at times.
Now i meditate , i see a counsellor , i exercise , i read and try and accept this mindset and i float around that feeling like mist over a stone .
There is always a long way to go but there is joy sometimes .
8:30 hit me the hardest.. because when I have been at my lowest, the thoughts of how much of a burden I am on everyone else feels so true.. that I’m only doing bad for my family and friends when I don’t intend to, I’m just marked, broken, cursed, unfixable, unlovable. The only things that kept me from going beyond that were my 2 year old son who may grow up in a crazy, dangerous world without his father to protect him and guide him, and also all of the other men in this world who suffer in silence along with me, who awkwardly laugh and shrug off our deepest shame and pain in front of everyone, but in moments of silence our innermost thoughts we don’t let anyone know about bring so much hurt, pain and suffering that the mere thought of an escape from that pain, as horrible as it sounds and is, is almost strangely comforting, and that is the trap that our people fall into. I need to stay alive so that I can spread the kindness I’m able to share with the world in the smallest ways every single day, so that I can hope that my small gestures will help someone else, stranger or friend, from allowing themselves to fall into that inescapable, irreversible trap that our own mind lies to us about to comfort us.
More people need to see this video.. because it most accurately depicts and provides a small glimpse into the intense suffering I feel inside, and that all of my brothers on this world feel inside, that goes unnoticed.
Thank you, Mr White, I really needed this video. My high school brothers betrayed me, left with no friends, got rejected from university, tried it again, got it but had to wait over 2 years because of quarantine. Over 2 years of procastination and dream catching eroded my mind and my OCD and ADHD got worse. Got depressed in and out for over a year, non stop for 4 months, withdraw for society, spaced out from my girl to protect her because I was shutting off. She got tired of me being in my hole and the toxicity that came with it, broke up. After 3 years of putting her before anything else, including my mental health (Protected her and consoled her 60 seconds after getting out of the bathroom trying to recover form the worst mental colapse I've had -cryed until didn't have more tears, felt like a spectator in my own head-) and still, after all the love, after all the dedication, after all the bumps and shit we had gone thru, mutually thinking that after every dark time together our relationship got even stronger, because it did, she didn't want to try it again, didn't want me anymore. Begged her to just give the chance to make her fall in love with me again, from scratch, she denied. Just friends if I promised to not make drama if she dated anyone. I'm gonna focuse on me, on my goals, on my physique, strengthening my mind, conquering my head. I'm gonna grind my way up. You can do it brothers, we will all make it, reject modernity, reject simping, embrace yourself, improve yourself. One day at a time
Women depression is one thing, but depressed men is another thing. Women suffering by thing that relatively known instead they sometimes has no another option. Bun men, there is soo much thing that can make one prone, yet lot of them still unknown.
Like once man said "women and children can be careless, but not men"
Dont know dude . People have different reasons for depression so it depends on the situation i believe not if you a woman or man.
The only way I could describe the feeling of watching this video and hearing all these guys talk about their experiences was how unknowingly I felt like it's happened to me for so many years, how i've suppressed these feelings because nobody cared or rather the feeling of nobody caring. About loneliness, the constant anxiety and stress about having terrible thoughts I never dared to act on because I knew it would hurt those I love more than it would me.
It was a pleasant feeling, a sense of belonging for the first time in a long time and I hope more men will see this and feel the same way I did.
Fight, fight like hell to make out voices heard! We are told from a young age to just ‘man up’ and even in a supposed woke world are struggles are still swept under the rug. Reach out to your fellow brothers and make sure hey are doing ok. If not us than who? Hope of you are reading this you are doing good and if not seriously reach out. You are not alone in this fight!! I promise you that.
I love my father more after watching this
end feminism in India sis, if you really want to help men
a feminist video gets millions of views, and this ? this got just 35k in almost 2 years.... feminism has made most women the same old monsters, as patriarchy once made men, but feminism is doing this as a slow poison....
I am happy though, atleast your husband and son in the future might live a good life....
For me the constant barrage of negative narrative about men led me to Great Depression. If this was a women’s issue there would be programs and funding but as a man there is nothing other than messages like this that we should talk more. Great message of course but we also need to start acknowledging the male bashing needs to stop and that may go a long way to helping so many
This deserves more attention and to those of you reading this, Im proud of you for seeing this comment right now. Stay strong
For every men and boy, or literally for everyone who's struggling, i hear you, i feel you, i know how it feels. Please try and see the light
agreed
This needs... more views.
Please... help us. We (men) have voices too.
We (men), we (teen men), we (children men), have feelings too.
Here I am experiencing all these things rn. To these men, I feel you brother.
Informative! Very well done. I really like the imagery selected for the commentary!
Your kind words mean a lot 😊
@@JonnyVisuals Absolutely my friend...as a fellow Filmmaker, I admire your work a lot and aspire to becoming my own cinematographer. I'm going to try it out in the next couple of months and see how I feel.
every time ive ever opened up to anyone it has always backfired, I used to trust really easily and when i got extremely depressed because i was being constantly threatened to be bashed by a group of 19-20 year olds while I'm in highschool, i was extremely self conciouse about my weight, also i was being mentally abused at home and none of my friends ever tried to help but instead just made fun of me for it. Once i decided to open up to my best mate out of all of them, he's trusted me with plenty of secrets that i still have not shared so i decided to trust him enough with my depression and mental state, i even cried in front of him, and he was nice at the time but as soon as he got home he told everyone and then i got constant messages making fun of me, calling me a cry baby, telling me that no one gives a fuck because everyone has a sob story! This has happened 5 times now and its from different "friends" and even girls that i was interested in. After the 5th time i stopped even talking to people for a long while, i fell into the worst depression of my life and got very close to suicide many times but never did it because i didn't want to burden my family of that horror. I was constantly in this state of mind for months, never spoke to anyone but without realising it i became a hollow shell of my oldself and couldn't even recognise myself in the mirror anymore! It wasn't until one day, i was lying in bed and when i looked down i saw my massive stomach hanging out, i was disgusted, angry, confused on why i cant be happy and why no one cares about me! Right then is when i figured out that if i didn't do anything i would end up dead soon so i remembered what it felt like when i used to workout and then my brain clicked into place, "if i cant control how people think of me or what others do then i might as well not care for anyone but myself" i then started to workout everyday, eat super clean and got my act right, ive now had plenty of extremely attractive women flirt with me and the fact that i dont feel like i need them anymore is CRAZY! i used to dream for just one girl to like me back and now i have some of the hottest chicks ive seen flirting with me and instead of trying to get with them, i think first and see if they are even a good match. No one has been for me yet so ive backed off and rejected them, nothing wrong with ignoring the world to get yourself better! STAY STRONG KING!!!
"Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light"
As someone who struggles with both depression as well as other disabilities this really does express how myself and so many others feel thank you for making this film.
Why has this video not gone viral yet
i´m not alone, you´re not alone, we are not alone
Love it! I just finished up a blog post about Men's Mental Health. I've linked this video to my FB and Twitter. #endthestigma #menhelpingmen
I'm going to have a look! This means so much to me on very personal and universal levels. Hope you're mental health is holding up well? #staystrong
Wait, why does this video not have more views, this should be in EVERYONES recomended! We NEED to talk more about mens mental health. I personally have been on the rock bottom for years (This year have been a good year for me) my mother passed away when i was 16 years old, and she was really the only one that i felt comfortable opening up too, she was the one that told me "I love you" I love my father and my father loves me but he was raised in the classic: Don't cry infront of ppl, man up way. He is showing me love in his own way, and thats kinda enough i guess. I got completely numb after my mom died, so i turned myself to video games and alcohol... for years. And during those years more family members passed, and i felt more and more numb/empty and lost. I lost my social skills, still have a hard time keeping eye contact, but its getting better. Im 22 years old today, i got my first job this year. I am currently working out, really trying to better myself. I feel more energized, i don't know how to spell it. Maybe soon in the future i might try out dating, as i never have had an relationship, never have had sex either, but I guess thats normal when you have been inprisoned in your own room for years. I will get better, and im gonna let it take the time it needs. And i believe that if you feel down, speaking to a loved one, a family memeber or a friend that it will help, or i guess i know that it helps. Keep your head up king, its okey to cry, its okey to feel down, it will get better.
My excuses if there are some misspelling, I am Swedish so English is not my motherlanguage.
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Smash the like button. Great video. As a person with mental anxiety issues, female I help my male partner get through his rough days the best I can. I cannot stress enough that I have been so tired trying to convince him to get help but he will not go. I can only wish now that making my life enough he will see that he is important and find the self love to go to therapy or to get a diagnosis. Denial is wonderful but for the partner it is like watching someone die a little each day. The pain for both is real. Men need to keep openly talking and sharing so they have support in their communities. Self loving your self love is so important. You just never know what impact you could have on another's life. Gratitude for the video. ❤❤
3 time deployment vet here. For me the hardest part was returning home to no one. No family. No friends. Then at work no one asking how I was feeling. If I was all right, or if I was okay. I began to hurt more when I was at home then when I was deployed. The worst was the holidays. You get numb to the pain after awhile. It becomes everyday, or normal. Then one day something happens, and you realize that it should hurt, but it doesn't. Then you realize you have been in pain for months. Or years. And no one cares, and no one ever did. Even those closest to you. Where to go from here? I don't know. But I wish I did.
I lost two uncles and three neighbors to suicide all men. God bless our men we need to check on them, especially during difficult times, and have better and fair laws for them, understand if they’re not healthy neither do we females, we need each other. ❤
I’m sure no one will read this, but the best way I could describe depression is picture a pool party on a beautiful summers day, everyone is laughing and there’s music playing and everyone is just having a good time, with family, friends, wife or husband, but while the party is goin on you are the only one in the pool, and you are in the deep end with anchors tied around your ankles, you scream you fight to swim up but you just can’t, the party (life) is going on without you, not even a couple feet away, but you are stuck, suffocating while everyone else is enjoying the party, enjoying each other’s company….:no able to hear your underwater screams, and even if they couple it’s not their problem, they have their own life to live at the party, they gotta watch their kids, or have a few drinks, or dance to the music, or try to get laid hitting on one of the girls in their bikinis……you are so close, life is right in front of you, yet you are drowning alone
I'm sending love and compassion from my heart to everyone...
bless you for getting this out there.. The world needs more people like you..We are never alone.. however we think.. perhaps the greatest healing is when we turn the ME around to WE...?
Mercy
Thank you.
I hope this film resonated with you in some way. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Amazing and emotional film, really well done man.
Thanks Paul, that means a lot. Appreciate you taking the time to comment.
@@JonnyVisuals my pleasure man, you did a truly outstanding job. Thank you!
I always find it interesting and ironic how, in this age of convenience and relative luxury in comparison to our forefathers' plight, people go on record now more than ever discussing how difficult life is. It speaks to man's need to strive and attain via his own will that current societal infrastructure deprives from so many people, but specifically men.
I feel like crying after watching this and can't understand why.
I've not been able to talk for 2 days now cz i was shut down and have no energy and then i saw this, idk if i feel better or worse. I'm just crying.
I finally feel understood
1:40 Same bro same 😢.
I just don't feel. Feeling like a failure... coz I'm, no friends to even talk to face to face, even after achieving something it doesn't feel good. No confidence, no energy.
The voices of me😔🌹💯, very crisp and powerful
one day people will start realizing and this video will get more viral, just wait. But more importantly, stop thinking, take action, start little and surpress thoughts, find a friend with who to talk about your problems. If you don't have one, work on that, you will succeed, I believe in you all.
For all of You Guys, big, fking big respect to share with all of Your problems. Keep fighting, i'm also have big menthal and psychological issues. Like You, You, or You. I lost a lot of my people, lost all money with hazard. 1 month i'm sober from alkohol mixing with drug addicted. It's hard, it's fking hard, but i don't wanna die in age 40 or 50, first for me, second, I'm uncle of 3 kids of my sisters and two of them is my godson, three i don't wanna be painful for my family. They give me strenght to live. Everybody of us have chance to make a life better and beutiful. Just keep fighting and respect, what You want. Collect moments, not things. Thank You for this amaizng video, and if You had the same problems, remember, i keep my fingers FOR YOU, and remember, You are not alone in this world. If You want talk, talk under my commentary, or we find sollution. Be brave, be Your own hero. It's long way, but we win. WE FKING WIN!!!
Thank you
I struggle with depression for years now,at one point it got so bad,that I tried to off myself,twice actually. Sad thing is,nobody really cared before,and neither after that,all I got was that I'm not even good enough to end myself. It broke me inside,and I know it's beyond repair,I have to live with this. Nobody cares about men,the sooner you realize,you be better off.
I struggle with mental health for many years… My friends get a stable job and marriage, but I have none. I am feeling so worthless.
Truer words have never been spoken.
Its crazy how much i can relate to some of these storys it honestly scares me
Thank u a million times
Keep your head high kings, we need to look out for eachother. God bless you all and much love.
I’m only just now seeing this, thank you for making this
If you like challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are also subjects that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
"Any moment there going to betray you"......holy hell thats me...a million times over
I need to talk. I’m 19 years old and currently in college. Lately I’ve just been feeling nothing, like there is a hole inside of my soul which cannot be filled no matter how hard I try. I get close to filling it sometimes, but it just causes pain, it burns. I’m afraid to cry because I will be shamed, I’m afraid to talk because no one will listen. I feel like whether I talk or whether I stay silent it will just be the same, people throwing me aside and ignoring my silent and subtle cries for help.
Great work man
A comedian, Chris Rock, touched on this. Only women, children, and dogs receive unconditional love. A brutal reality and an ugly truth. It’s a tragedy. Will it ever change? I doubt it will be seen in my lifetime.
why its so relatable ?
I don't want to die. I just want the pain to go away. Even the simplest things are such a burden. From waking up, to cook something, to eat, to do the dishes, cleaning...
I've tried to improve myself so much. Everyone just leaves me. My family just sees me as a failed product.
I never had a girlfriend, not because I'm ugly but because I've always been miserable.
I never got past my traumas and childhood abuse.
I'm too old now to fix my life. I just don't see any way out. I tried therapy, it really didn't help at all. I've been wrongly diagnosed and they made me think that it was beyond my reach because I've autism. What a joke.
Always being put in a category, is there always a scientific explanation for everything ? I just feel numb all the time.
To me, life feels like a song that I've listened to 100 times in a row. The song has no excitement, no value, and no emotion and I'm just waiting for the song to end.
Be Strong Brothers, You are destined to be Successful,its just a matter of time.
Death lasts, life is temporary and filled with regret, sometimes even the better you live, the more you will be afraid to die,
maybe that's why depression has such power over people in general, it expects nothing of us.
I always pray for God to bless me with many sons to love them properly 💙💙💙💙
Love to all the men❤
Men are easily replaceable. I don't see what the big deal is
Thank you, it’s great to finally hear the male perspective on mental health
The suicide rate in men is higher but the suicide attempt rate and depression rates in women are higher. Comparing struggles is unavailing.
no one asked you about women in a men video
Lost my coworker, friend, a father, bright spirited individual to suicide. Same age as me (28). He passed away a week ago. This will be the third time since graduating high school where I've had a friend do this. It's a damn sad thing to happen and more people should talk about this but will that ever change? Maybe. As the rate goes up I think so. But not in my generation or possibly the next. It's a subject that is plowed over by all the other political antics such as feminism, gay pride and politics. People other than men get jealous as soon as any cause for men gain any bit of traction. 😑
This needs so much more eyes on.
I don't know how many people can relate to this, but I feel as if I'm stuck with this whole free therapist job with multiple people because I have helped them with their mental struggles in the past. I love these people, but sometimes I want to tell them to fuck off because I want some peace and quiet for a couple of days so I can convince myself not to off myself. But I can't because oftentimes I am the only one that knows what is going on. Part of me also thinks that "what if I stop being this person, am I going to be replaced? Are they going to stay in contact with me if I stop for even a day?"
It's so confusing and I honestly have no idea how any of this sounds even somewhat rational in my head, but it's gotten to the point where I know my cycles and can tell when a bout of depression is going to hit hard, so I'm glad I can prepare for it at least. Still doesn't change the fact that as a guy it is incredibly hard to find someone to tell who won't end up telling 40 other people through the grapevine, and ofc everyone in this comment section can imagine how that reflects on me. Either pity or disgust because I dared reach out.
Listened to this the evening I attemped to take my own life, Lost my mother 1 month ago and back at contemplating ending it all.
That would be tragic my friend and surely you'd be missed....
Life is good when you have good people in it....
I'd be more than happy to talk
This feels too real
Having had an argument with a partner who screamed (for the neighbours to hear) "Well just f off and kill yourself" . . .
Wasnt depressed or being moody, argued over a simple domestic task
Thats why people dont express their fears. Wasnt optimist for sympathy when i may have actually wanted it
I relapsed… for the first time in years…
I relate to the person at 6:44, it's like I am hearing my own story....
Thank you 💞
this really helped...
I got diagnosed at 37 years old with the tad and autism
2 years later... 74k views... but the videos about girls mental health is 1 billion
Thanks for sharing
62.252 views after 1 year. Always nice to see how much men's mental health is important, which is basically nothing
So much their that hit home . awful as it is it’s nice to know it’s not just me
Last one resonates
I don't think I've reached the level where I would say I wanted to you know just not be here anymore or maybe I have and I have just suppressed that thought deep into my memory. One thing I do find myself doing at times is searching content like this to make myself emotional. In a way it feels like healing when I cry and have my heart sink watching these kind of things. 9:30 this part really does hurt me the most, even such a simple thing as asking friends If I can be included to an event feels like such an internal battle and I just end up saying "I'm okay." to them and being alone instead. Thanks for making this documentary. ♥
I, as a man, have mental health issues. And I battled with anxiety in a really bad way. I have trust and anger issues and I battle with the subject of killing myself
If this is a about Emma a d two mom 💀💀 the world will remember 💀
2:38 im 28 and this guy perfectly describes my life until now, except finding the love of my life, which will help me to get back on the track...
Also, I know I'm just a random person but I'd love to have a more thorough discussion with you about your journey with mental health. I do understand these stories are about other men as well but I'm assuming based on the video, you refer to your experience as well. Thank you.
We're all random people but I find that when people join together for a common goal or cause, they become a family of sorts. A lot of people feel more able to express their darkest and saddest thoughts online than to people they've known in person for a long time. My ex considered me a burden for my depression, and broke up with me due to it. I kept a lot inside and diluted whatever it was I did tell her. I guess people online will probably know me better than she ever did after seven years.
@@dolorosaenigmakil Yes, this is true. I think it's because people online don't know us but what we deal with. That alone is enough to get someone to reach out. I want to be there for others and spread good messages to everyone who needs it.
@@joncook5535 Very true, I appreciate that comment, you seem like a nice person. The irony though is that the people who don't really allow us to be ourselves, won't ever truly know us anyway. So in a strange way, people online might end up knowing you more than "friends", or rather the associates you hang out with.
@@dolorosaenigmakil Indeed. I also it's easier to connect with people more comfortably when you you're not in person because you are protected by a screen in a sense. But, that's not entirely true for everyone. Some people might think that you are more approachable in person rather than through a screen.
@@joncook5535 Yeah, it really does depend. My next video is going to be about how depression looks and feels for me, and also how talking online is both sad (because it reminds me that certain people in my "real" life haven't been there enough) but happy in a sense that I'm not alone. At the moment I want to show the horror of how depression feels for me. After a few, then I will talk, face to camera like what you do, but at the moment that's a little too naked for me.
Being a hard man is easy,all you have to do is not care.
Anyone can do that.
Try caring about people and things.
That is bloody hard.
I really need to get clean off heroin.
I wish you strength and willpower to overcome your bad habit. You can do better things with your time and energy. If you like challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are also subjects that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
1 year and 4.7k views only.
Wow! Shows how much we understand the gender we call "male".
5:12 this guy's thoughts are the exact copy of mine's
thanks
Hey @Jonny White I have a question for you. You mentioned that you joined the army having depression and anxiety. Was being in the army with these mental conditions in any way difficult to bare. Was it hard being in the arm when you were battling/still battling anxiety and depression? Thanks in advance either way. I've always been curious about this. Awesome content by the way.
Hey Jon, thanks for the comment. I really appreciate you making the effort to do so. The story about the army is another man - not myself. All the brave men in this film reached out to me willingly to share their stories. I just wanted to give them a platform as a filmmaker, however small, to anonymously express their feelings in the hope it resonates with other men and contributes to the normalisation of conversations on men’s mental health.
It's enough to make a man cry.
And that's ok.