Faces of Attempted Suicide
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 พ.ค. 2019
- Despite suicide rates actually declining - it's the lowest in 30 years - #suicide remains the leading cause of death for men aged under 50 in England and Wales.
For many friends, relatives and partners of those how have taken their own life, suicide is a question of why. Yet they will never get to hear the answer.
In our new documentary, Digital Editor Robert Hicks speaks to three young men who all attempted to take their own lives. Here, they talk about what they were feeling when they believed there was no way out. How #depression grabbed them and wouldn't let go. They reflect on what's happened since, how they cope and, most importantly, how they are doing better.
We all have a mate, a colleague, a brother, a partner, a nephew, a father - a man in our lives who could be struggling. We need to get more men talking.
These three guys are here to start the conversation www.menshealth.com/uk/mental-...
ironic how a magazine that feeds off men's insecurities is pretending they care
You should try www.man-age.com - they're a good independent mental health magazine.
@Jaime Paiva thanks, now go back to your cave.
@Jaime Paiva an ad hominem attack is the refuge to those who have no real facts to mention.
@Jaime Paiva men try more men are more successful both are huge issues what the hell are you trying to do with your comment?
@Jaime Paiva men commit suicide 3.53 times more. Educate yourself before speaking fool.
Been there, twice, failed twice. I admire people with the strength and courage to succeed.
How are you doing now my friend? ❤
Depression feels like your trapped in your mind, an empty void of your own
@Michael P plenty of other shit too
Trapped in your mind wilst simultaneously going 12 rounds with a pro boxer :'(
It can also be a jail sentence of your own doing
Yes.
It can also feel like you're already dead and killing yourself is just making it official. Suicide seems like the logical and sane choice sometimes.
Depression and anxiety destroys you in every way imaginable!
and can kill you as well....
Yes 100%
Yes it destroyed me and my life
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
I don't know if I am depressed but I am slowly having it.
praying for you guys to heal better 😢
I'm 30. Time to time the feeling creeps back. Last attempt was 3 years ago. Was drunk, pissed off, going 85mph and tried to drive off a bridge into a lake. I burned a lot of bridges after that. A lot of people I thought I knew, were the reason I kept trying to end it all. Nowadays I live far from them and I hope to god that I never see these people ever again in my life.
I know right. Time tells who give a F!
@@jcbanbury yup. I think that most people think its similar attitudes or similar interests,that determines if a person is a good friend. Wrong! Rather it is TIME that determines if a friend is REALLY a friend. Was this person interdependent with me from day 1 till day 1,000? They're a friend.
Great that you've found a coping mechanism.
Do you think you may have been burning all those bridges so there wouldn't be any left for you to attempt to drive off?
How do you try to drive off a bridge and fail? Not saying you should but sounds like you're reaching a bit
To face death in complete control and choose death must take more courage than people can comprehend.
I don't think it is courage Paul. I think it's a numbness. A numbness takes over and you have no emotion. Courage, Sadness, Grief, Self-loathing. All gone. Just numbness.
To face death is the most courageous act. The only reason I haven't done it yet is because I don't have the courage. For me life is unbearable
Marcus Aurelius
Its hopelessness
@@Thinkingisallowed i understand your feelings.
Sometimes I really feel like going. it comes across my mind quite a lot and it’s like I want to be here but I don’t want to. Who knows what the future brings
Hello Guy you’re not alone
Ryan Sheehan thank you mate
Sometimes I cant decide which is worse death or life because both are shit they both hurt and I just cant choose so i end up isolating myself
Go
Pink Gal really
I went to my line manager about a month ago and said I haven't been coping very well. She (who now works from home) said that the needs of the business must come first. Nothing has been done and I'm living in a total state of anxiety. Can you imagine if the sexes were reversed in this conversation? We've recently celebrated International Woman's Day (quite rightly) as we did last year. But unfortunately International Men's Day was totally overlooked. I will be submitting this video to my HR department urging that the event is highlighted this year.
No ones really gives a fuck about us. They pretend to but in reality they don't. That's why we have to reach out to each other.
@@MolloyPolloy Some women care e.g. Bettina Arndt, Diana Davison, Karen Straughan and some others. I also care and have lost a lot of women friends - first 8 and now possibly twenty more!! - because I've been speaking up. I hope things go well for you and I hope that this aggression towards men will be overcome.
Feminism is bitchery.
@@MolloyPolloy I give a fuck mate I'm a woman, don't seperate the genders were all human we have the same feelinga
@@becky2235 He doesn't mean individual women at a grassroots level in particular but I think he means the radical feminists in the media, colleges, education, politics who push the woke, anti-male agenda. They've been doing this for decades and it's become more radical. Thanks for your support, btw. :)
I think for men it's so much harder when you're alone. Especially if you crave the companionship of a woman, someone you can open up to and confide in. When you don't have that significant other, things feel so dark.
Heartslove 3 fuck god! i prayed for many many years to god and his son Jesus Christ but to heal me or save me from depression and anxiety BUT after many many years of praying it got worse and i declared my self an atheist a year ago prayer is delusional!!
And then we live a society we’re your not allowed to complain or be sad about it because then you’ll be labeled a desperate creepy incel.
@@CatfishGumbo23 Thanks for reminding me about this. A couple years back, all I was hearing about around uni was "incels." It became "cool" to label guys as incels for the simple crimes of being lonely and being honest talking about that pain.
look up the blackpill everyone, its over for many men unfortunately.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 True, but then we're becoming (again) a gynocentric culture. We don't care about our sons. Only the "top 1%." This is only possible because half the population--men--refuses to give a damn about their own kind.
I'm going to unload here because there is nowhere else that i can. Don't read if you're easily unsettled or triggered.
I'm 23, from the UK. I suffer with depression and anxiety. I attempted Suicide last year, 2018; I hung myself. full suspension, but no drop. It was not an impulsive decision, i didn't do it on a whim. It took months of desensitization to the idea of the rope around my neck, and the sensation of falling unconscious and avoiding panic, before i was ready to go through with it. That took an enormous amount of mental energy, now, over a year later, im still drained by it. Despite this, I've still decided that I'm going to do it again, i haven't picked a date, as im yet to rebuild the necessary mental fortitude. it's also partly to do with the fact that good rope is exceptionally hard to buy in the UK for some reason lmao. Anyway, here's context as to why i'm doing/have done what im doing.
Depression is a serious problem. It is a plague, it corrupts your entire process of thinking. Your 'Roadmap' of life is warped to a point where, the location you're currently at is awful and every possible position you could move too is awful AND there is no end goal or achievement that would mean anything valuable or useful whatsoever. It applies to everything; Your appearance? 'Awful and there is nothing you could possibly do to improve it in any meaningful way at all'. Your academic or career achievements? 'Worthless and there is nothing you can do to make them valuable'. Your friends? 'They don't actually like you and just take pity on you'.
It makes failures infinitely harder to deal with aswell. You failed a class by a few points? 'Why the fuck are you even trying? Drop out, there's no possible way you could ever pass that class'. Get rejected by someone? 'lol its because you're ugly af and pathetic'.
Now, here's the thing, you can get past that with logical, mindful thinking. Thats what they teach you when you go to CBT(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) It still fucking sucks, but you can pass that. However, if, like me, you have a nihilistic philosophy, you're in a bad position. Because now, life has no objective purpose or meaning AND you have an exponentially increasing burden for you to bear. So here we're upping the level of suffering a little bit more. So the therapist's response is; "Okay, so objectively, life has no purpose or meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create a subjective meaning and purpose in your own life". Yeah, you're absolutely right, there are multiple avenues for success in a modern human life. Academic, Social, Career, Family just to name a few.
Well, personally, i can't succeed Academically because i likely have a below average IQ/intelligence and both of those are REQUIRED to succeed in that field. Career? I'm not interested or driven enough in any task to seek a career in it, remember not every job is a career. I can't achieve socially because i'm too socially awkward and am anxious constantly, i tried most of my life to achieve this one to no avail. Family is the only objective i can set short term, but it is short term because my parents will not be around for much longer due to deteriorating medical conditions. So now what? we have a short term objective of 'Live for your family' for a few years, then?
Okay okay, lets just say that we can forget about most of the problems and just get a job and exist. I don't even want to be involved in (and i know how fucking cringe this sounds) society. a good 50%++ of my life will be spent working, Why? 'because you have too'. The fuck kind of response even is that. You're now in a circumstance where, the game of life has handed you a poor hand of cards, So you can't possibly win the game, but also, the game itself is something you cannot bare to play, but you're held at gunpoint to play it and cannot leave. What do you even do? there is no out.
To extend upon that, you can't even talk about this shit to anyone either. One, it's a hell of bombshell to drop on people and it is horribly unfair to share. Two, To spread this burden to others is to potentially expose them to a line of thinking that they hadn't considered, and dragging them down with you. And yes, to be clear, it IS a burden. To confide in people is to share the load, to share severe problems such as this, is seriously taxing to those listening. Even therapists, people professional trained to deal with this kind of problem, need constant breaks and help as to not get mentally and emotional fatigued.
So in addition to all that crap previously mentioned, You're alone to bare the burden aswell.
look man, i know "To live is to suffer, to be alive is to find meaning in the suffering." but when every possible avenue of success is something unachievable, most of your time in this world is spent doing something you despise, you believe that there is objectively no reason to do what you're doing, AND you have an ever growing weight that continues to crush you relentlessly. What possible other conclusion do you land at other than suicide?
As a final note, because people will probably mention it; I've been to therapy, it was nice but ultimately unhelpful. I was taken to a psych ward - A horrible experience and i'd rather not relive it. I am indeed on medication, it helped a lot, but, my problem is rooted rather deeply. The UK Mental Health sector needs work. It is currently poor in my experience. The last thing i want to get off my chest, to all those people who think they're helpful by saying "It gets better", Stop saying that. Because No, it doesnt, you just tolerate it more, it always hurts just as much.
Signed, Some Guy from the UK.
VenoM I relate to every single word. I'm actually glad we are the same. I don't know what to do either. Passing time for the sake of it is killing me inside. And working a job for the sake of it is making me feel frustrated af. I want to live everything and go away and never come back to Earth.
I just want to say thank you for warning people who get triggered. It shows that you still have the ability to care about others no matter how small or simple it may be. I just wish you could take that same amount of care and apply to yourself. I guess all I can say is you are awesome for being so brutally honest. Why? Well because it may help other people find the will to live. And that's a part of human nature. Helping others.
A TH-cam comment will prob make no difference to the way you’re feeling but I wanted to say that I relate completely. I’m not quite as resolved in killing myself as you seem to be be but I share most of your emotions on the same matters. It feels like I am living for my family (father in particular) because I know it would devastate them if I were to harm myself. I can’t be bothered writing a full reply right now as I’m currently on way to my mundane job as I type this. Maybe later. All the best pal
Im dealing with the same shit if you're still around I'd want to talk
Plenty of us feeling the same mate, keep going and good luck!
They say suicide is a cop out but choosing when to die and having no fear of death is a very brave thing. Everyday I'm getting a bit closer to that time when Im at peace asleep forever.
Who knows what lies beyond death
I guess death is just a new adventure
Hi Matt, hope you're OK. Sending you love.
@@gI-nj3vo There was nothing before we were born and there will be nothing after we are dead.
@@TheFracturedfuture but you don’t know that because your not dead genius that’s why it’s the greatest mystery of life
It’s funny, I just felt absolutely calm when I had an attempt, but at the same time I was just thinking over and over again.
Same
Lol me to. I thought about it for awhile before. But when the moment came. I was blank and frantic. There wasnt any logic.... It wasnt pre-planned. The straw just broke the camels back and it happened just so happened to be at that time
This is fake and real at the same time... If you put it in your head enough to do it. Youll be constantly thinking about it. And looking for excuses to do so. Constantly... Thats why you need to warn someone, it will manifest
Same here. Sad, but calm; not hysterical.
Oh for fuck sake it’s obvious you guys are attention seeking
They say to contact Samaritans but the last few times I had a breakdown and called out of desperation, I was put on hold for five minutes and no one ever picked up.
Just keep your head up!
@@user-ev8lv2rk8i This is exactly the kind of behavior that drives people to depression and suicide. Failure of "freedom of speech."
Yeah. I had that happen to me when I called the suicide helpline
@@cedpete7434 Damn. The irony. :(
They don't always answer immediately; I've noticed that it takes around seven minutes.
In my forties now, attempted suicide in my late teens, not a cry for help as there wasn't any really at the time, I went somewhere that no one ever goes, took a load of pills and injected air into my veins, woke up two days later in hospital, a dog walker had found me, there's a line you cross when you want to die, it's different than just being depressed, feeling nothing is a dark place to be, even now I struggle, luckily I have a family to keep me focused but there is always the feeling that I'm on a knife edge, I exist for others!
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me he was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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What of the others don't exist .
I'm that guy .
If I were to do it , I'd be the story you hear about where they find my decomposed body months later
@@northlanedarko771 i feel u and with health problems too. How do u cope with it?
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
I'm 27 and I've struggled with mental issues (Bipolar, anxiety, OCD, ADD, etc) for as long as I can remember. I'm pretty sure if I had access to a gun, this comment wouldn't exist and I'm not sure I'll exist this time next year. I'm exhausted being alive and I'm tired of my struggles being ignored. Most of all, I'm tired of it all
🖤🥀Iam so sorry man iwont leave you alone ill pray for you and have you in my thoughts and hearts
I wish nothing but the best for you! Please don't give up, take a rest if you must, but don't throw everything away.. you deserve love and peace and joy! Love yourself! I'm sending you a virtual hug!!🧡
If you're reading this know i love you, you are loved. You are not alone in your struggles. I won't say i 100% understand because i'm a little younger and not in your shoies but i have a lot of the same illnesses, You are not alone. my friend
Do u take any medication?
@@m3kbeatz Does ridiculous amounts of weed and self-medication count? I'd see a doctor but I'm from a " Depression? That's women's nonsense!" community, so I just slowly self-destruct and hope I don't bring anyone down with me
I think I'm close, I looked at my food and thought was is the point of eating this just to keep the pain alive. I don't know what to do
I'm the same man, this shit is hard. I hope everything works out for you bro.
Me to um tryin but i have a rare illness um 34 and my life um a failure
We are not failures, otherwise we would not be here, we are fucking warriors, these thoughts are bigger than any man or women on this earth. Every single time these thoughts went to battle with us we won. Let's continue beating these battles and eventually we will win the war.
You can do it .
NightWolf you’re on a video on attempted suicide and decide to comment that? at least she’s trying to help.
My Depression started the day I got Psoriasis, after that I ended up getting IBS and have early stage psoriaic Arthritis. It doesn't help that I'm only 21, because I know no matter how bad it is now these disease's are only gonna get worse with age. The worst part is what I feel like mentally, everyone I know looks at me as the funny guy but can't tell how fucked up I am in my own head.
Wow what a brave honest post. I admire you.
DO NOT talk to anyone about it. They don't know what to do or say. The mental health professionals do nothing. You will lose everything, like I did. My job, my friends, my marriage. All through talking about my mental health.
You’re absolutely right. Its a trick, just to get us to empty what we have left in us.
i’m here man
Sorry it went that way for you ❤ mental health is not treated right in the UK. Needs to be a lot more open mindedness and way more resources to support people and their families
I don't expect my friends, family and loved ones to understand me or my everyday struggles, but i do fear when they do it will be too late.
Please stay strong, Louis. Sending you love.
Thank you guys for making me apart of such a powerful documentary the feedback from this has been amazing and it is already benefiting peoples lives, I'm glad I was able to be so open about my own experiences so that it can help somebody in a similar situation 💚
Feel ur pain.
@@martinbrentnall7691 👊
Thank you for opening up
@@hemaniscool Thank you for watching
Help Me
idk man, I don't think I'll be able to handle these thoughts much longer
Are u ok now?
Hope your doing better now. If you’re still having those thoughts Call the suicide prevention hotline for help and access to resources that can make a positive difference.
Do whats best for you ❤
I know how hard it is, but try and take joy in the little things. If you see a a bird, or nice tree or something, try and focus on it. No matter how small or silly it is, just focus on it. And remember people love you. Many just need to hear someone say that to them. You are so loved and I care about you. Just take time to enjoy the little things. I promise it will help.
hopefully you’re doing ok 🤍 you’re in my thoughts
I just needed to hear from all of these people in this video. The message from Nathaniel Shaw really resonated with me. Thank you Men's Health UK
What bothers me is that I am not living for myself. I'm living for my sons, their mom, my parents, my siblings my friends. I can't bare to put to them through that. The guilt the hurt the anger my sons' future I just can't do that to them. But that is as far as it goes. I can't find a reason to live for me. I don't matter to me. When I think about dieing in an accident or a robbery I think about everyone else and how it would affect them. If someone threatened me I think they have just threatened my loved ones I don't care if I die. I just don't want to dies painfully. I battling this feeling of not want to live for me.
Your pain saddens me, the fact that you have pulled through gives hope and courage. Do not give up.
Thanks for sharing your story. It's rare to find stories with adults especially men. I hope you'll continue to be visible - blessings to all of you.
The worst part is that nobody understands. Nobody cares..compounding the loneliness.
I really care man please trust me but i cant take your pain away!Ill pray to Jesus to save you i cant do nothink else!😔🖤
Hey. I care. I found you today someway somehow.
As a white 62 y/o male I battle suicidal ideations every day. I never had those thoughts 10 years ago. I've seen my mental health go down the drain the last 10 years even though my physical health is good but it just keeps getting worse. No one to talk to, no one wants to listen when there is, or it's just to expensive to get professsional help. Suicides looking like a better option for me everyday. I feel for the men in my age group because it only gets worse.
I care about you for what its worth. I really do
Hang in there man.
@@whatdidujustsay2094 O_O
Keep going G , cut my jugular 2x times
I understand when u have no hope anymore for the future and beeing alone whole life is not easy.
When I hear them talk I think of two acquaintances I had known who didn't talk and how they are no longer here and it deeply saddens me and how the space the took can never be filled again every life is so so precious. Thankyou god men are being given a platform now to heal their hearts and minds because I believe people copy behavior of their peers and these men will change the course for many many others through their willingness to speak out about the importance of male mental health. We need our men so much we need them to be able to have a space to build themselves back up from ground zero with a caring supportive environment.
Thanks so much for this video
Depression feel like a huge, heavy wet blanket laying on you every single day. It immobilizes you and stops you in your tracks. Anxiety and depression go hand in hand. It's an illness and like any other illness it requires a professional to help you get through it. Do not stop seeking help until you find the right therapist,meds or combo of them both.You ARE worth it and trust me, you are NOT alone!
@@thawne7993 , sad bozos??? Depression and anxiety are illnesses caused by Serotonin depletion. It's an awful illness with serious outcomes at times. You are extremely rude and misinformed to refer to all of us suffering as bozos. I hope you NEVER have to feel the emotional and physical effects of depression. I lost a brother to suicide and your comment really hit a nerve. Do some research.
@@thawne7993 , you are a vile person.
But what is the point for life anyway. Even if i felt ok i dont see anything good in all of this. Work, stress, getting old, beeing alone no family, anxiety all the time.
I know the feeling oh so very well. I have tried more times than i can remember, but it's more than a dozen. I have suffered depression my entire adult life. I have managed to get so close to being free from a world i have grown to hate, but interference from medical professionals have just got to me before i was gone. Then i feel cursed that the suffering will simply continue, as it always does. It never stop's. I just have to think about the next time, and how to go about it. One bonus. I am all alone now, nobody to interfere with the next go!
You're not alone. I'm considering to off myself soon. I have autoimmune disease that destroyed my life and all the medications don't work. Do you have anyone that you can talk to?Maybe it will lessen your suffering even a bit?
@@E10l think I have that too..if u feel like talking let me know..I get it
Life can be tough and ..today it's harder and more despair
Yoo, how're you doing today?
I’m glad to hear that other men are in pain are willing to share their stories and I’m not the only one. I’m not alone .
„You become confident about not wanting to be here“ is nailing it
I think maybe it's time to put my life into perspective. Some of my friends know, others don't...but I'd like to clarify my life to you all, whether you knew already or not. Between 2011 and 2015 I struggled, with life. I couldn't leave the house, I didn't want to see people or talk to people. I was medicated to the point I'd sleep at crazy times. I had several therapists who all gave up on me to the point the last one I had ended up laying on his own couch.
I stripped my house of any material belongings, I stripped my kids' bedroom of everything that belonged to them, as in my head I thought I'd never see them again.
I have the attention span of a gnat on coke, I'm getting bored already so i'll speed up....
In 2015 I dropped the meds. Took my kids (who were the only reason I hadn't offed myself) on holiday and I got a job which helped me to integrate with people, which was a struggle. 2019 I got a new job, more challenges > still integrating.
I'm shit at being social, I hate having to converse, it's not that I don't like you all....I just have issues, I may be better but I'm not fixed.
Stay strong
I have gad which makes doing anything socially fucking miserable i know how you feel with social anxiety
You've made some changes and got back into life so I hope it keeps getting better for you.
To all men, you are loved and you aren’t alone I hope every man out there gets the care and love they need❤
I'm Schizophrenic was abused as a child, been depressed all my life, committed suicide tonnes of times, stabbed myself (was seriously close to death) drank bleach, took ricin poison but didn't know to use lie so just drank a load of acetate and castor beans, sliced my wrists so many time yadda yadda but what I realised at the ripe old age of 35 was that the majority of my problems are my fault and in my control. Our demons are mostly of our own design. Bo hoo my life is shit, the past that is, it doesn't control my present. WILL POWER overcomes all that shit, making your life better by incremental improvements and when you start trying to make your life better you are no longer a victim and you realise that most of your problems are your own fault, because all us depressed and all us with mental health problems have extreme self destructive tendencies. Understand that and just try to be better, stop drinking, stop doing shit. It worked for me.
Thank you for this video
From personal experience all taking to your boss about you feeling suicidal will get you is unemployed, homeless, unemployable and a social pariah.
Yep sick world, my previous employer handed me a card with a “special” phone line, and said I can speak to them about anything and it will be confidential, I know they have a lot of traps in this world.
Never talk to your employer about mental health stuff, be smart. They're the ones feeding u and it is not their job to "care" for you like that.
Like it says in the bible, speak to the rock not the people. Bless
U men are very brave to talk about that ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Nathaniel said it the best...it feels like you in a trance, in a room full of people still all alone, you go from 100 to 0
Its really like that
As a girl I'm so happy that this is shown as a gender based problem considering the disproportionate amount of men who commit suicide,yes it is a gender issue.i hope men's rights movements keeps growing.
This is not solely an issue at all. What's disproportionate is that the ratio of men to women is simply too high. Mother nature is balancing itself out.
@Not Convinced What's the real reason ?
Do men care about our own movements? Girl bye
@@lilithrosa9309 You have a video of men opening up about their psychological battles of ending their lives, and your input is complaining about how a woman who cares about this kind of stuff? What’s wrong with you?
Feminazi
What a hard hitting but wonderful video. I think getting a coping mechanism is the way forward. I was suicidal, but have started hiking and it works for me. I know we are all different, but give it a try. You can't lose and can only gain.
I attempted suicide at the age of 13, honestly the only reason I'm still alive is that I accidentally knock the tab that contains my notes.
That time was painful, and still is. It was a collection of bottled memories from family abuse to bullying.
I've been starved, punched, kicked, left out and betrayed by my so called friends. The experience made me suspicious of everyone. I don't trust him, her, or you. I fundamentally don't trust anyone, it affected my academics.
It reach to the point that I neglected and even avoided walking out of my room or even talk to anybody. Because what's the point? It wouldn't change anything and honestly?
It made me question if my life was even worth it and that why being a male made me feel that... well, alone and burden by countless expectations
sorry you went throught this, this isn't right 😢 im in so much pain too
same situation.
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
@@HarmzConscious bro, just shut up and leave if you think that men are robots. You really start to annoy me. You think my depression is a joke?
@@HarmzConscious Toxic fvck.
These are the faces of courage.
Great story, great insight.
I’m a man and I felt this way many times. 😞 I’m doing ok but depends how you play you’re cards like that one guy said. Sometimes I feel like I’m shit and then I’m good for while. I stare off a lot and I know it’s not good because it’s a sign of mental health issues. I think a lot and one thing is I don’t drink a lot. Because if I did drink I probably wouldn’t be here today. That really makes me feel low half of the time.
Well done on being so open with your mental health takes true strength to be speak out share this with someone close to you so they can help you and also keep going your stronger then you think
Nathaniel The Visionary not easy to speak out to you people. But people need to know how to speak out and stop the stigma on mental health. It’s hard trust me no easy day . All I do is focus day by day. I still feel like there is no way out. I lay in bed most of the time , but I do get out and feel good that I do. But I still feel like it’s better off being not here. I try and try every day. What kills me is I try to feel better by getting a job and etc . I apply all over and get turned down. So I feel like I’m not worth it to anyone or anything. It’s hard.
@@Lethalwar keep going mate the fact that you feel better when you get out of bed shows your progressing its a big step just getting out of bed and not many people will understand that instead of focusing on the negatives try and focus on something your passionate about that you love, its the small steps that lead to the big progress and although I don't know you I believe in you keep your head up, mental health isn't something you can fix over night but one step at a time you will get there. I think people think because I speak about mental health that I'm confident about speaking when I'm actually not I just open up in the hope that someone who struggles with mental health will do the same I was nervous to speak to someone about it the first time but when I spoke to someone I felt alot better If you dont feel confident in speaking write a letter and give it to someone you trust and love, things will get better made stay positive
ABSOLUTELY LOVE THESE GUYS! HELPED ME ALOT! 😎
I appreciate this video so much.
"Talk to someone, talk to your loved one" - for the last 10 years ive been getting worse and worse, i know it i feel it, the only person in my life is my wife and she simply doesnt understand my problem. she never did, she trie, but she is simply not able to grasp it. i really have nobody else to talk to, i hate strangers and the thought of talking to somebody about those things almost makes me panic
I hope you're doing ok. I understand cause I can't bring myself to talk to my parents, siblings, or even my closest friends. I journal and talked with a counselor which worked for me
hey man did you wanna have a chat?
I was raised to believe that God never gives you more than you can handle. Then came a disease called depression.
James G 😂 I was raised in a Christian family and this is their excuse for everything mental.
Same here man...
Defiled Anamoly stay safe brother 🤟
Prayer never cured anyone of schizophrenia or any other mental health problem. Goes to show how the efficacy of prayer is a delusion.
James G Damn right, I was happier when I was ignorant, young, and Christian though... Knowledge hurts.
"It initially made me cringe at the idea of it" I had this similar thought too before I got help. But by god! Therapy changed my life for the better!!
Thanks for this
Bro i feel that athleate on so many levels i would never wish it on my enemy too injury is the worst pain for a man who was going somewhere great and was recognised in his field.
Powerful strong men. I hope they’re all doing ok 💪🏻
very interesting video, thank you!
Powerful I’m a psychotherapist and men’s mental health is just ignored. Needs to be a focus for change. This is so essential to the fact this is real. I do a lot of posts on men’s mental health
@Evidence Based Health I don’t stand for most women I stand for what I believe is important. Men’s mental health is extremely important as it makes up for 77 percent of all suicides in the uk. I work mainly with men and honestly don’t see anything laughable about the subject or my interest. I’m interested as a human being first my gender is not a matter in my focus and campaigning for more support for men. People do bad things sometimes and that can very well be what you are pertaining too but not laughable by any stretch of the imagination. In my view men’s mental health affects us all it’s a shame so many of us don’t recognise that.
@Evidence Based Health yes I have noticed all your comments on my videos have been deleted. I think that’s because your comments are not relevant to the point of the videos. It’s obvious that you have something personal to say about the point you have been trying to make which actually is not all women and not linked to the videos you have commented on. I can’t even read your comments as it’s been removed but the jist info it I see in my notifications but I can not respond as they have been removed
Thanks u really great woman...
Thanks for the vulnerability guys, sorry to hear that you felt that way! Keep your heads up!
What does "keep your heads up" mean?
@@aiahzohar5636 keep going
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
Iv tried it 3 times in 12 months its hard to pick yourself up from issues isolated alone but guy we need to talk more to anyone videos like this help to think your not alone
Stay safe bro, you're loved
how are you doing?
Great video!
Thank you for this vlog
I want to end it all, I just can’t inflict it on my parents who have lost one of their children already (my little sister) I feel numb all the time, uninterested and given up in life, relationships, career.
It hurts to live.
I hear you. I hope you can find help and get better. You are not alone. I don't kill myself because of my boyfriend and family. I am working on getting rid of these suicidal thoughts. You are loved. Never forget that.
@@emmyandboo thank you I appreciate that, I am very happy to hear you’re on the path to recover but unfortunately for me I live alone and I’m turning 36 tomorrow. I don’t want to live to 37 miserable and lonely, things have slipped so far I can’t stop what’s going to happen now. It’s pretty much a foregone conclusion.
@@nathanjgtaylor1985 please find strength in yourself. sometimes you have to be selfish and put yourself first. I have a feeling your story is just beginning. Get a piece of paper or a notebook and write down every year you've been alive and reflect on memories. If it helps, you can be high or whatever. Remember everything that you can and realize that no one can be you but you. What are you afraid of? Make lists. Sign up to go sky diving. It's only like 200 bux and will change your perspective. When you have nothing to lose- you can do amazing things I promise 💗
@@emmyandboo lol of course you have a bf. well guess what, many men cant have any of that. im not saying you dont have your own hardships, but compared to the average dude, you are privilliged.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 I'm a girl not a dude first of all and I'm poor and I'm not white. So, privileged? Try again.
Hope these guys are ok in 2020 x
Highly unlikely...2020 was the worst year
To feel depressed to such a level you are thinking of ending it all is truly one of the worst things you can experience in life, it’s pure hell. Feeling deep despair and sleeping poorly, feeling agitated during the night awake in bed and with your stomach in knots, feeling great fear and self loathing, and feeling bad over things you’ve done, obsessive thoughts with your mind racing, its torture and if you aren’t sleeping well too it’s even worse
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
The medical profession brought me back 30 years ago and life just keeps getting worse. Doctors should have no right to bring people back, if life is that bad let them go before they mess up someone else.
Don't bother putting up positive messages, you don't have a clue and just trying to make yourself look good.
That's not strictly true. I once stood on a Bridge. So numb, I hadn't noticed a seven mile walk to that Bridge, in freezing rain and snow. It wasn't even a conscious decision to end it all. I'd already left my family, because I loved them and didn't want them messed up. On that bridge, I heard my daughter's voice. My numbness subsided and I looked down at the dark, freezing water and came around. After the coldest walk back home ever, I decided to try coping mechanisms. For me it was hiking. I have now seen three grandchildren, who I'd never have seen if I'd jumped that day and on the darkest of my days, I see their smiles. Not everyone who puts a positive message out, wants to "Look good", sometimes sharing and listening, really does help. Maybe not for you, but if a positive message from anyone, for any reason, ends up saving a life, that then goes on to be rewarding, then it's been worth posting. I really hope you find peace in this life and if not, the next.
@@Glenfunnyman Failed.
I hear you bro
Thanks to those who cared enough to make this video !
Im noticing at 34 years old that these problems only get worse the older I get I've just now realized how much it has affected me I've been numb to certain feelings until it built up and drinking didn't help it's only a temporary band-aid
I tried when I was 13 (the light broke off the ceiling when I stepped off the chair), and again at thirty. I wish there was something I could say to everyone that is struggling, but I'll say you really do matter, like more than you could possibly know. Just always do one more day, just one more day. Give tomorrow one more try all the time
Hope i last long enough to tell my story too, feels like this year might be my last, not willing to go through another year of intense struggle...
Stay safe, you're loved
Thanks for sharing the message. I will ask for more help.
When I attempted to take my own life my mum showed zero compassion and called me pathetic & selfish
I am nearly fourteen now and I have thought about suicide at least three times. The fact that I’m still here from those thoughts is shocking to me and I don’t know wether to jump off a bridge since I want to do it tomorrow but I need to try to keep going. If you are suicidal get help cause it’s a mistake that I decided to make
Hey friend. That's about the age i started feel like that. Seek therapy. Or if that is not available. Dont fret. Learn about self improvement. You can find some great videos in youtube and tik tok. And please talk to a trusted friend or family. Even if they domt fully understand. Its nice to just be real with someone. And be kind to yourself. You are doin a fantastic job!!
I've failed 3 times
1st time was in 2010 extension cord around the bar in the closet
I leaned forward with all 320lbs
Next thing I remember is waking up on the floor and a huge bump on my head
2nd time was in the parking lot of the post office
I had taken my belt and tightened it and buckled it
I passed out and came to with a guy beating on my driver's window
3rd failure was about 8 months ago
Mu wife came home and opened the door and I fell to the floor
I'm on 2 anti depressants but I still know my exit from this world will be by my hand
Not sure if your still here but you had many attempts and they are failed. Let me tell you one thing if your still alive today is because God is not done with you yet. You may not know he loves you i encourage you open your heart and let him come into your life ask God for comfort and to hold your hand through this hard mental journey you will find hope in him and the love, peace you have been seeking just let your creator love you.
Thoughts of death bring me peace
Ideation I’ve had that for years and I did attempt but I failed I have no idea how I survived
I agree. When it happens it will happen and if it doest it will do when it's right.
I hope you read Fully Human by Steve Biddulph. It may bring you peace but in a life-giving way.
If death is destined , then why can’t u be the one to choice, is survival really worth it until the end ?
I don't really feel anything anymore.
B strong
For real 😳, the numb of the heart
Is like waking up to a flat line telling u just to live because society said 😖, be in more suffering and survive for the sake of survival
@@TickleyourBuds1111 I feel like a snake is wrapped around me, and strangling the life out of me.
i hate when people call it selfish because people have to understand how it can distort your perception of reality to an almost delusional level sometimes it makes it impossible to consider others because you just lose that ability to connect and care but a lot of times it's actually coming from a place of caring too much this distorted perception makes you honestly believe it's an selfless act that you're doing this to help others to make their life better to save them pushing a loved one out of the way of the bus and letting it run you over instead because you honestly believe your existence is doing them more harm than good it's complete and utter bs but it feels real at the time. what's actually selfish is seeing a person in that much despair and agony to the point where they can't bear it and telling them they're selfish and they should just endure the pain for the sake of others instead of offering actual real support that might make life bearable
I wish there was somebody I could turn to. Nobody seems to help me and the older I get the more I see this as my final destination. Everybody hates me and they think I am stupid. I have been surrounded by people who make me feel bad about myself so now I struggle with this even more.
hmu
Hey, how are you today?
We need to listen to and support our young men x
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏.
Once you free yourself from seeking others approval or even friendship of others through mindless training....YOU ARE FREE. No need to die or feel lonely, you are just alone. Meditate.
This happened to my dad...he’s not here anymore
I have everything I need. When it happens it will happen and unstoppable!
In a world dominated by social media, it's too easy to think that everyone's else's lifes are perfect. Everyday, we see celebrities who look like they live the best lives ever. None of us ever see how they are after a photo on instagram or before a red carpet interview. Being famous or being rich dosent mean anything. It dosent matter where you come from, your mental health can still dwindle at any point. No one ever goes out and is emotional at work because it isn't "professional". Even though, so many people are sad, anxious, alone, fearful, angry, depressed, confused, hurt and pained behind closed doors in their own homes. We just don't see it.
For me it's hard to stop thinking about ending my life. My time will be here very soon. I'm 53yo male with a plan. I will not survive my suicide. My promise to myself
Paul Barnes Please stay strong and talk to someone you must get help!
I hope you’re okay today and are surviving ❤️
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
A year since you posted this comment, and I'm your first like? Frightening. As a woman, I'm confident that if in another context you'd written something like, "I travel the country to raise money for women's health issues" you'd have gotten tons of likes. Say a lot about equality.
Unfortunately I'm finding out the hard way, that no one want's to hear it. Think I will seek therapy before it's too late. Getting close to it. Again...
made an attempt 2 years ago. im better now. and happier than i have ever been 😊
It feels like I'm empty inside nobody to turn to
How can I help you?
I can't stop thinking about it. I've got it all planned out. I have done for years though and I'm still here. Every year it gets harder and my mental health worsens. I'm 40 now, I'm really tired.
It's hard to find something, anything, to continue, when your mind is totally gripped with nothing.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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I know what its like to feel numb and hopeless with no emotion and darkened thoughts. Its a nightmare. Jesus heals 100% Never give up
@@GhostMonkey772 I'm glad you found something that helps you buddy 👍
@@SoonGone I would honestly give it a shot 💉 God is life. I remember when I was clinically depressed I couldn't eat or sleep or shower or do basic things. I felt numb and hopeless nothing had meaning. He healed me 100% that pain in my mind disappeared. I will pray for you
@@GhostMonkey772 why God made such cruel World? If he was almighty he should have known better. He didnt ask me if i want to live. He is an evil to me.
U kno the crazy thing I tried it too I was really depressed and felt like a burden in other ppl lives on top of everything else that was goin on in my life personally
Am glad yo still here.
It's like seeing 3 reflections of myself.
As someone who was bullied too, this hits very close to home....................You spend your entire life thinking that your going to be the same and everything isn't going to change, then something hits you and you feel completely helpless ................To the bullies out there, who get off on demeaning, belittling and ostracising someone for fun, you may be done with the past but the past ain't done with you...............To the people that have been bullied, walked on and treated like shit, it only takes one event in your life for you to realise your worth..........
Don't let insignificant imbeciles words mark you for the rest of your life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks man.
Good message
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
@@HarmzConsciouswhy are you spamming this shit on every comment you stupid brain dead chogi? You clearly haven’t got a clue what you’re talking about so fuck off
Thank you
I've suffered from depression and anxiety since childhood, due to physical and psychological bullying. I have had suicidal ideations and self harmed.
I'm more angry than upset and sad.
I screwed up everyone’s life. I remember all the numerous mistakes I made. I don’t want to do anything anymore. My apartment’s a shit hole. I am response for my friend’s death. I can’t do anything right, nor retain any information. It’s is extremely difficult to articulate my thoughts, and my career sucks. I have no friends or interest in exercising anymore. Screw it all to hell.
I get it. Nobody cares unless I screw their lives up. This makes my decision so much easier.
@@brett8706
How are you doing brother?
@@AryanDiablo I wish I could say better. I’m hanging in there. But, the person that was always there for me, my ‘Grandmom’ is gone. We laid her to rest. There is no one to live for now. I’m lonely with no partner. I’ve given up.
@@brett8706
I hear you big guy
For me,who's currently going through some emotional instability, parts of this resonated with me,i guess i feel the same as these guys. I dont think for a minute that mens health care..but how can you quantify the feeling of a company...a group,feeling are completely subjective and there are probably a bunch of individuals in the company that understand, that feel the same,that care.
The big problem with talking with his family about his mental healt is that when you feel Bad, you dont wanna affecte negatively the people you love. So it's a way to become even more lonely and you think that the best solution is to give up and stop your life, it would be the best option so you won't be a problem for your family and friends anymore
Man I’m scared, this is how I feel and I don’t want to die but I don’t want to feel like this any longer. I feel so alone, no one really cares it seems.
Hey 🥺 how are you?
It's OK not to be OK. Talk to someone. ❤
There is a pain/turmoil in some people that never really goes away. At times that pain is too great and the wondering is if death will bring peace.
Do you imagine life can bring peace?
@@cam553 Not in all people. But the emotional turmoil can be controlled to an extent with the right experiences.