I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
I went to my line manager about a month ago and said I haven't been coping very well. She (who now works from home) said that the needs of the business must come first. Nothing has been done and I'm living in a total state of anxiety. Can you imagine if the sexes were reversed in this conversation? We've recently celebrated International Woman's Day (quite rightly) as we did last year. But unfortunately International Men's Day was totally overlooked. I will be submitting this video to my HR department urging that the event is highlighted this year.
@@MolloyPolloy Some women care e.g. Bettina Arndt, Diana Davison, Karen Straughan and some others. I also care and have lost a lot of women friends - first 8 and now possibly twenty more!! - because I've been speaking up. I hope things go well for you and I hope that this aggression towards men will be overcome.
@@becky2235 He doesn't mean individual women at a grassroots level in particular but I think he means the radical feminists in the media, colleges, education, politics who push the woke, anti-male agenda. They've been doing this for decades and it's become more radical. Thanks for your support, btw. :)
@@JulietCrowsonmental disability causes the opposite to the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Out of their control. When well they can access them. When unwell they can’t. They can’t even smile. It’s NOT their fault (i.e. lack of faith) It’s a disability
There is meaning in all of this life, though you may not think so. As a 20+ victim of chronic pain, I’ve thought about it, it I realize how it would hurt my kids. I said it one night in front of my 20 year old, and I only just found out how hurt and scared he was. It tore me up. Find a relationship with Jesus, go to a Christian Church, especially a Catholic Church. Jesus is always present there in the tabernacle. Talk to him, tell him what you think, and ask for his help. I offer my pain up to him daily, uniting it to His cross for the salvation of souls. At least I can help somebody through this pain, otherwise it would be worthless. Also, look for the little joys in life, and be thankful for them. Being grateful is one way to get out of yourself. Volunteering somewhere is good for that, too. I pray you’re doing better. God bless you.
You have power to make it an adventure. Pursue the truth and the best possible outcome. That will be your adventure even though full with tragedy, but an adventure till the end. Work hard, fall, fail, raise up and do it till the end.
I'm 30. Time to time the feeling creeps back. Last attempt was 3 years ago. Was drunk, pissed off, going 85mph and tried to drive off a bridge into a lake. I burned a lot of bridges after that. A lot of people I thought I knew, were the reason I kept trying to end it all. Nowadays I live far from them and I hope to god that I never see these people ever again in my life.
@@jcbanbury yup. I think that most people think its similar attitudes or similar interests,that determines if a person is a good friend. Wrong! Rather it is TIME that determines if a friend is REALLY a friend. Was this person interdependent with me from day 1 till day 1,000? They're a friend.
I think for men it's so much harder when you're alone. Especially if you crave the companionship of a woman, someone you can open up to and confide in. When you don't have that significant other, things feel so dark.
Heartslove 3 fuck god! i prayed for many many years to god and his son Jesus Christ but to heal me or save me from depression and anxiety BUT after many many years of praying it got worse and i declared my self an atheist a year ago prayer is delusional!!
@@nicolaspicolas1988 Thanks for reminding me about this. A couple years back, all I was hearing about around uni was "incels." It became "cool" to label guys as incels for the simple crimes of being lonely and being honest talking about that pain.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 True, but then we're becoming (again) a gynocentric culture. We don't care about our sons. Only the "top 1%." This is only possible because half the population--men--refuses to give a damn about their own kind.
I don't think it is courage Paul. I think it's a numbness. A numbness takes over and you have no emotion. Courage, Sadness, Grief, Self-loathing. All gone. Just numbness.
They say suicide is a cop out but choosing when to die and having no fear of death is a very brave thing. Everyday I'm getting a bit closer to that time when Im at peace asleep forever.
I'm going to unload here because there is nowhere else that i can. Don't read if you're easily unsettled or triggered. I'm 23, from the UK. I suffer with depression and anxiety. I attempted Suicide last year, 2018; I hung myself. full suspension, but no drop. It was not an impulsive decision, i didn't do it on a whim. It took months of desensitization to the idea of the rope around my neck, and the sensation of falling unconscious and avoiding panic, before i was ready to go through with it. That took an enormous amount of mental energy, now, over a year later, im still drained by it. Despite this, I've still decided that I'm going to do it again, i haven't picked a date, as im yet to rebuild the necessary mental fortitude. it's also partly to do with the fact that good rope is exceptionally hard to buy in the UK for some reason lmao. Anyway, here's context as to why i'm doing/have done what im doing. Depression is a serious problem. It is a plague, it corrupts your entire process of thinking. Your 'Roadmap' of life is warped to a point where, the location you're currently at is awful and every possible position you could move too is awful AND there is no end goal or achievement that would mean anything valuable or useful whatsoever. It applies to everything; Your appearance? 'Awful and there is nothing you could possibly do to improve it in any meaningful way at all'. Your academic or career achievements? 'Worthless and there is nothing you can do to make them valuable'. Your friends? 'They don't actually like you and just take pity on you'. It makes failures infinitely harder to deal with aswell. You failed a class by a few points? 'Why the fuck are you even trying? Drop out, there's no possible way you could ever pass that class'. Get rejected by someone? 'lol its because you're ugly af and pathetic'. Now, here's the thing, you can get past that with logical, mindful thinking. Thats what they teach you when you go to CBT(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) It still fucking sucks, but you can pass that. However, if, like me, you have a nihilistic philosophy, you're in a bad position. Because now, life has no objective purpose or meaning AND you have an exponentially increasing burden for you to bear. So here we're upping the level of suffering a little bit more. So the therapist's response is; "Okay, so objectively, life has no purpose or meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create a subjective meaning and purpose in your own life". Yeah, you're absolutely right, there are multiple avenues for success in a modern human life. Academic, Social, Career, Family just to name a few. Well, personally, i can't succeed Academically because i likely have a below average IQ/intelligence and both of those are REQUIRED to succeed in that field. Career? I'm not interested or driven enough in any task to seek a career in it, remember not every job is a career. I can't achieve socially because i'm too socially awkward and am anxious constantly, i tried most of my life to achieve this one to no avail. Family is the only objective i can set short term, but it is short term because my parents will not be around for much longer due to deteriorating medical conditions. So now what? we have a short term objective of 'Live for your family' for a few years, then? Okay okay, lets just say that we can forget about most of the problems and just get a job and exist. I don't even want to be involved in (and i know how fucking cringe this sounds) society. a good 50%++ of my life will be spent working, Why? 'because you have too'. The fuck kind of response even is that. You're now in a circumstance where, the game of life has handed you a poor hand of cards, So you can't possibly win the game, but also, the game itself is something you cannot bare to play, but you're held at gunpoint to play it and cannot leave. What do you even do? there is no out. To extend upon that, you can't even talk about this shit to anyone either. One, it's a hell of bombshell to drop on people and it is horribly unfair to share. Two, To spread this burden to others is to potentially expose them to a line of thinking that they hadn't considered, and dragging them down with you. And yes, to be clear, it IS a burden. To confide in people is to share the load, to share severe problems such as this, is seriously taxing to those listening. Even therapists, people professional trained to deal with this kind of problem, need constant breaks and help as to not get mentally and emotional fatigued. So in addition to all that crap previously mentioned, You're alone to bare the burden aswell. look man, i know "To live is to suffer, to be alive is to find meaning in the suffering." but when every possible avenue of success is something unachievable, most of your time in this world is spent doing something you despise, you believe that there is objectively no reason to do what you're doing, AND you have an ever growing weight that continues to crush you relentlessly. What possible other conclusion do you land at other than suicide? As a final note, because people will probably mention it; I've been to therapy, it was nice but ultimately unhelpful. I was taken to a psych ward - A horrible experience and i'd rather not relive it. I am indeed on medication, it helped a lot, but, my problem is rooted rather deeply. The UK Mental Health sector needs work. It is currently poor in my experience. The last thing i want to get off my chest, to all those people who think they're helpful by saying "It gets better", Stop saying that. Because No, it doesnt, you just tolerate it more, it always hurts just as much. Signed, Some Guy from the UK.
VenoM I relate to every single word. I'm actually glad we are the same. I don't know what to do either. Passing time for the sake of it is killing me inside. And working a job for the sake of it is making me feel frustrated af. I want to live everything and go away and never come back to Earth.
I just want to say thank you for warning people who get triggered. It shows that you still have the ability to care about others no matter how small or simple it may be. I just wish you could take that same amount of care and apply to yourself. I guess all I can say is you are awesome for being so brutally honest. Why? Well because it may help other people find the will to live. And that's a part of human nature. Helping others.
A TH-cam comment will prob make no difference to the way you’re feeling but I wanted to say that I relate completely. I’m not quite as resolved in killing myself as you seem to be be but I share most of your emotions on the same matters. It feels like I am living for my family (father in particular) because I know it would devastate them if I were to harm myself. I can’t be bothered writing a full reply right now as I’m currently on way to my mundane job as I type this. Maybe later. All the best pal
Sometimes I really feel like going. it comes across my mind quite a lot and it’s like I want to be here but I don’t want to. Who knows what the future brings
They say to contact Samaritans but the last few times I had a breakdown and called out of desperation, I was put on hold for five minutes and no one ever picked up.
Lol me to. I thought about it for awhile before. But when the moment came. I was blank and frantic. There wasnt any logic.... It wasnt pre-planned. The straw just broke the camels back and it happened just so happened to be at that time
This is fake and real at the same time... If you put it in your head enough to do it. Youll be constantly thinking about it. And looking for excuses to do so. Constantly... Thats why you need to warn someone, it will manifest
We are not failures, otherwise we would not be here, we are fucking warriors, these thoughts are bigger than any man or women on this earth. Every single time these thoughts went to battle with us we won. Let's continue beating these battles and eventually we will win the war.
In my forties now, attempted suicide in my late teens, not a cry for help as there wasn't any really at the time, I went somewhere that no one ever goes, took a load of pills and injected air into my veins, woke up two days later in hospital, a dog walker had found me, there's a line you cross when you want to die, it's different than just being depressed, feeling nothing is a dark place to be, even now I struggle, luckily I have a family to keep me focused but there is always the feeling that I'm on a knife edge, I exist for others!
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me he was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES! "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" "I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life" th-cam.com/video/EXQGTInPpZU/w-d-xo.html
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
My Depression started the day I got Psoriasis, after that I ended up getting IBS and have early stage psoriaic Arthritis. It doesn't help that I'm only 21, because I know no matter how bad it is now these disease's are only gonna get worse with age. The worst part is what I feel like mentally, everyone I know looks at me as the funny guy but can't tell how fucked up I am in my own head.
DO NOT talk to anyone about it. They don't know what to do or say. The mental health professionals do nothing. You will lose everything, like I did. My job, my friends, my marriage. All through talking about my mental health.
Sorry it went that way for you ❤ mental health is not treated right in the UK. Needs to be a lot more open mindedness and way more resources to support people and their families
You’re right, if you have complex issues mental health counselors can’t help and everyone will turn on you. Don’t talk about this shit people will turn against you
Yep, I figured as much. Just makes no sense to. It's like dropping a ticking time bomb on people. Deep down, they're afraid it'll go off at any second and they'll be left hurting. So they'd rather get as far away as possible. Thing is, I don't even blame them. They're just looking out for their own interests. I suppose I do kinda blame family though lol But yeah I would never tell a soul in real life. Only bad can come from it
I'm 27 and I've struggled with mental issues (Bipolar, anxiety, OCD, ADD, etc) for as long as I can remember. I'm pretty sure if I had access to a gun, this comment wouldn't exist and I'm not sure I'll exist this time next year. I'm exhausted being alive and I'm tired of my struggles being ignored. Most of all, I'm tired of it all
I wish nothing but the best for you! Please don't give up, take a rest if you must, but don't throw everything away.. you deserve love and peace and joy! Love yourself! I'm sending you a virtual hug!!🧡
If you're reading this know i love you, you are loved. You are not alone in your struggles. I won't say i 100% understand because i'm a little younger and not in your shoies but i have a lot of the same illnesses, You are not alone. my friend
@@m3kbeatz Does ridiculous amounts of weed and self-medication count? I'd see a doctor but I'm from a " Depression? That's women's nonsense!" community, so I just slowly self-destruct and hope I don't bring anyone down with me
I think maybe it's time to put my life into perspective. Some of my friends know, others don't...but I'd like to clarify my life to you all, whether you knew already or not. Between 2011 and 2015 I struggled, with life. I couldn't leave the house, I didn't want to see people or talk to people. I was medicated to the point I'd sleep at crazy times. I had several therapists who all gave up on me to the point the last one I had ended up laying on his own couch. I stripped my house of any material belongings, I stripped my kids' bedroom of everything that belonged to them, as in my head I thought I'd never see them again. I have the attention span of a gnat on coke, I'm getting bored already so i'll speed up.... In 2015 I dropped the meds. Took my kids (who were the only reason I hadn't offed myself) on holiday and I got a job which helped me to integrate with people, which was a struggle. 2019 I got a new job, more challenges > still integrating. I'm shit at being social, I hate having to converse, it's not that I don't like you all....I just have issues, I may be better but I'm not fixed.
As a white 62 y/o male I battle suicidal ideations every day. I never had those thoughts 10 years ago. I've seen my mental health go down the drain the last 10 years even though my physical health is good but it just keeps getting worse. No one to talk to, no one wants to listen when there is, or it's just to expensive to get professsional help. Suicides looking like a better option for me everyday. I feel for the men in my age group because it only gets worse.
I think the only ones who can truly understand is others who have felt/done the same things. That's why I enjoy these videos - they remind me of the darkness I once lived in and will always stay on the look-out for should it ever come back. I manage my depression with medication and that helps things from becoming too dark. I really hope you find people who can relate so you know you are not alone and that you are worthy.
Hope your doing better now. If you’re still having those thoughts Call the suicide prevention hotline for help and access to resources that can make a positive difference.
I know how hard it is, but try and take joy in the little things. If you see a a bird, or nice tree or something, try and focus on it. No matter how small or silly it is, just focus on it. And remember people love you. Many just need to hear someone say that to them. You are so loved and I care about you. Just take time to enjoy the little things. I promise it will help.
What bothers me is that I am not living for myself. I'm living for my sons, their mom, my parents, my siblings my friends. I can't bare to put to them through that. The guilt the hurt the anger my sons' future I just can't do that to them. But that is as far as it goes. I can't find a reason to live for me. I don't matter to me. When I think about dieing in an accident or a robbery I think about everyone else and how it would affect them. If someone threatened me I think they have just threatened my loved ones I don't care if I die. I just don't want to dies painfully. I battling this feeling of not want to live for me.
When I hear them talk I think of two acquaintances I had known who didn't talk and how they are no longer here and it deeply saddens me and how the space the took can never be filled again every life is so so precious. Thankyou god men are being given a platform now to heal their hearts and minds because I believe people copy behavior of their peers and these men will change the course for many many others through their willingness to speak out about the importance of male mental health. We need our men so much we need them to be able to have a space to build themselves back up from ground zero with a caring supportive environment.
I know the feeling oh so very well. I have tried more times than i can remember, but it's more than a dozen. I have suffered depression my entire adult life. I have managed to get so close to being free from a world i have grown to hate, but interference from medical professionals have just got to me before i was gone. Then i feel cursed that the suffering will simply continue, as it always does. It never stop's. I just have to think about the next time, and how to go about it. One bonus. I am all alone now, nobody to interfere with the next go!
You're not alone. I'm considering to off myself soon. I have autoimmune disease that destroyed my life and all the medications don't work. Do you have anyone that you can talk to?Maybe it will lessen your suffering even a bit?
As a girl I'm so happy that this is shown as a gender based problem considering the disproportionate amount of men who commit suicide,yes it is a gender issue.i hope men's rights movements keeps growing.
This is not solely an issue at all. What's disproportionate is that the ratio of men to women is simply too high. Mother nature is balancing itself out.
@@lilithrosa9309 You have a video of men opening up about their psychological battles of ending their lives, and your input is complaining about how a woman who cares about this kind of stuff? What’s wrong with you?
Thank you guys for making me apart of such a powerful documentary the feedback from this has been amazing and it is already benefiting peoples lives, I'm glad I was able to be so open about my own experiences so that it can help somebody in a similar situation 💚
Lost both my brothers to suicide. Going through quite a difficult time myself but there’s always something in the back of mind telling me (you will regret this the micro second after you commit). I knew my brothers experienced this in the last moments of their lives. To anyone even considering suicide, please reconsider. The collateral damage it causes… it’s not just your life ending but the lives of those who love you, a good bit of them also dies with you.
Depression feel like a huge, heavy wet blanket laying on you every single day. It immobilizes you and stops you in your tracks. Anxiety and depression go hand in hand. It's an illness and like any other illness it requires a professional to help you get through it. Do not stop seeking help until you find the right therapist,meds or combo of them both.You ARE worth it and trust me, you are NOT alone!
@thawne7993 , sad bozos??? Depression and anxiety are illnesses caused by Serotonin depletion. It's an awful illness with serious outcomes at times. You are extremely rude and misinformed to refer to all of us suffering as bozos. I hope you NEVER have to feel the emotional and physical effects of depression. I lost a brother to suicide and your comment really hit a nerve. Do some research.
But what is the point for life anyway. Even if i felt ok i dont see anything good in all of this. Work, stress, getting old, beeing alone no family, anxiety all the time.
Powerful I’m a psychotherapist and men’s mental health is just ignored. Needs to be a focus for change. This is so essential to the fact this is real. I do a lot of posts on men’s mental health
@Evidence Based Health I don’t stand for most women I stand for what I believe is important. Men’s mental health is extremely important as it makes up for 77 percent of all suicides in the uk. I work mainly with men and honestly don’t see anything laughable about the subject or my interest. I’m interested as a human being first my gender is not a matter in my focus and campaigning for more support for men. People do bad things sometimes and that can very well be what you are pertaining too but not laughable by any stretch of the imagination. In my view men’s mental health affects us all it’s a shame so many of us don’t recognise that.
@Evidence Based Health yes I have noticed all your comments on my videos have been deleted. I think that’s because your comments are not relevant to the point of the videos. It’s obvious that you have something personal to say about the point you have been trying to make which actually is not all women and not linked to the videos you have commented on. I can’t even read your comments as it’s been removed but the jist info it I see in my notifications but I can not respond as they have been removed
Yep sick world, my previous employer handed me a card with a “special” phone line, and said I can speak to them about anything and it will be confidential, I know they have a lot of traps in this world.
Never talk to your employer about mental health stuff, be smart. They're the ones feeding u and it is not their job to "care" for you like that. Like it says in the bible, speak to the rock not the people. Bless
Suicide is running through my mind now. I lost my job and had numerous interviews and did not get a job. I feel numb. My wife is not doing a great job and we don't talk much. I was driving my daughter to her friends and started crying. I don't know why this sadness keeps coming back in my mind. It does though.
Please dont harm your self I dont know you, but as a fellow man I care about you from distance dont harm yourself please. If you want to talk I can give you my email.
Can we all agree that 1. being human sucks hard sometimes. 2. the unfairness in this global society sucks big time all the time. It's okay for you to cry. You are human - that's what we do when we are hurting and overwhelmed. And you deserve to feel better. Whether it's therapy or medication or getting involved with a group who understands and can relate - or a combination of all the above - you deserve to feel better.
No, dear. You are not alone. Find others who can relate to you and understand you. I really think it is us - the people who have survived attempts - that are going to help each other. We might get lucky with a counselor or an advocate, but I trust grassroots people like myself more than some paid professional whose there only for the money. We can tell when someone really doesn't give a shit.
Yep I really felt it too. That was how I felt when I was about to end my life. Numb, trancelike. Totally out of body. That was what scared me so badly that I ended up calling the crisis line.
I want to end it all, I just can’t inflict it on my parents who have lost one of their children already (my little sister) I feel numb all the time, uninterested and given up in life, relationships, career. It hurts to live.
@@emmyandboo thank you I appreciate that, I am very happy to hear you’re on the path to recover but unfortunately for me I live alone and I’m turning 36 tomorrow. I don’t want to live to 37 miserable and lonely, things have slipped so far I can’t stop what’s going to happen now. It’s pretty much a foregone conclusion.
@@emmyandboo lol of course you have a bf. well guess what, many men cant have any of that. im not saying you dont have your own hardships, but compared to the average dude, you are privilliged.
i hate when people call it selfish because people have to understand how it can distort your perception of reality to an almost delusional level sometimes it makes it impossible to consider others because you just lose that ability to connect and care but a lot of times it's actually coming from a place of caring too much this distorted perception makes you honestly believe it's an selfless act that you're doing this to help others to make their life better to save them pushing a loved one out of the way of the bus and letting it run you over instead because you honestly believe your existence is doing them more harm than good it's complete and utter bs but it feels real at the time. what's actually selfish is seeing a person in that much despair and agony to the point where they can't bear it and telling them they're selfish and they should just endure the pain for the sake of others instead of offering actual real support that might make life bearable
Once you free yourself from seeking others approval or even friendship of others through mindless training....YOU ARE FREE. No need to die or feel lonely, you are just alone. Meditate.
"Talk to someone, talk to your loved one" - for the last 10 years ive been getting worse and worse, i know it i feel it, the only person in my life is my wife and she simply doesnt understand my problem. she never did, she trie, but she is simply not able to grasp it. i really have nobody else to talk to, i hate strangers and the thought of talking to somebody about those things almost makes me panic
I hope you're doing ok. I understand cause I can't bring myself to talk to my parents, siblings, or even my closest friends. I journal and talked with a counselor which worked for me
I am nearly fourteen now and I have thought about suicide at least three times. The fact that I’m still here from those thoughts is shocking to me and I don’t know wether to jump off a bridge since I want to do it tomorrow but I need to try to keep going. If you are suicidal get help cause it’s a mistake that I decided to make
Hey friend. That's about the age i started feel like that. Seek therapy. Or if that is not available. Dont fret. Learn about self improvement. You can find some great videos in youtube and tik tok. And please talk to a trusted friend or family. Even if they domt fully understand. Its nice to just be real with someone. And be kind to yourself. You are doin a fantastic job!!
I’m a man and I felt this way many times. 😞 I’m doing ok but depends how you play you’re cards like that one guy said. Sometimes I feel like I’m shit and then I’m good for while. I stare off a lot and I know it’s not good because it’s a sign of mental health issues. I think a lot and one thing is I don’t drink a lot. Because if I did drink I probably wouldn’t be here today. That really makes me feel low half of the time.
Well done on being so open with your mental health takes true strength to be speak out share this with someone close to you so they can help you and also keep going your stronger then you think
Nathaniel The Visionary not easy to speak out to you people. But people need to know how to speak out and stop the stigma on mental health. It’s hard trust me no easy day . All I do is focus day by day. I still feel like there is no way out. I lay in bed most of the time , but I do get out and feel good that I do. But I still feel like it’s better off being not here. I try and try every day. What kills me is I try to feel better by getting a job and etc . I apply all over and get turned down. So I feel like I’m not worth it to anyone or anything. It’s hard.
@@Lethalwar keep going mate the fact that you feel better when you get out of bed shows your progressing its a big step just getting out of bed and not many people will understand that instead of focusing on the negatives try and focus on something your passionate about that you love, its the small steps that lead to the big progress and although I don't know you I believe in you keep your head up, mental health isn't something you can fix over night but one step at a time you will get there. I think people think because I speak about mental health that I'm confident about speaking when I'm actually not I just open up in the hope that someone who struggles with mental health will do the same I was nervous to speak to someone about it the first time but when I spoke to someone I felt alot better If you dont feel confident in speaking write a letter and give it to someone you trust and love, things will get better made stay positive
Im noticing at 34 years old that these problems only get worse the older I get I've just now realized how much it has affected me I've been numb to certain feelings until it built up and drinking didn't help it's only a temporary band-aid
I've failed 3 times 1st time was in 2010 extension cord around the bar in the closet I leaned forward with all 320lbs Next thing I remember is waking up on the floor and a huge bump on my head 2nd time was in the parking lot of the post office I had taken my belt and tightened it and buckled it I passed out and came to with a guy beating on my driver's window 3rd failure was about 8 months ago Mu wife came home and opened the door and I fell to the floor I'm on 2 anti depressants but I still know my exit from this world will be by my hand
Not sure if your still here but you had many attempts and they are failed. Let me tell you one thing if your still alive today is because God is not done with you yet. You may not know he loves you i encourage you open your heart and let him come into your life ask God for comfort and to hold your hand through this hard mental journey you will find hope in him and the love, peace you have been seeking just let your creator love you.
What a hard hitting but wonderful video. I think getting a coping mechanism is the way forward. I was suicidal, but have started hiking and it works for me. I know we are all different, but give it a try. You can't lose and can only gain.
As I experienced anxiety symptoms alongside depression as well as OCD symptoms, I can definitely say that sharing to your loved one or anyone whom you’re comfortable with, that can really help. It feels like that immense weight over you gets lifted off once you share what you’re experiencing. You are not alone.
I wish there was somebody I could turn to. Nobody seems to help me and the older I get the more I see this as my final destination. Everybody hates me and they think I am stupid. I have been surrounded by people who make me feel bad about myself so now I struggle with this even more.
For real 😳, the numb of the heart Is like waking up to a flat line telling u just to live because society said 😖, be in more suffering and survive for the sake of survival
I can't stop thinking about it. I've got it all planned out. I have done for years though and I'm still here. Every year it gets harder and my mental health worsens. I'm 40 now, I'm really tired.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES! "come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" "I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life" th-cam.com/video/EXQGTInPpZU/w-d-xo.html I know what its like to feel numb and hopeless with no emotion and darkened thoughts. Its a nightmare. Jesus heals 100% Never give up
@@SoonGone I would honestly give it a shot 💉 God is life. I remember when I was clinically depressed I couldn't eat or sleep or shower or do basic things. I felt numb and hopeless nothing had meaning. He healed me 100% that pain in my mind disappeared. I will pray for you
@@GhostMonkey772 why God made such cruel World? If he was almighty he should have known better. He didnt ask me if i want to live. He is an evil to me.
And you deserved NONE of those terribly cruel experiences. So first, I'm gonna give you a big thumbs up for surviving this long after going through that shit. Second, keep fighting to find the help that will work for you. It might take 2, 5, 10 tries, but guaranteed there is a professional helper out there who will work for you. Do not give up yet. Keep fighting, rest when you have to, but dammit, get up again. You are worth that. Think of all the stories you can share will children who are going through that torture right now. You could be such a mentor for them.
I tried when I was 13 (the light broke off the ceiling when I stepped off the chair), and again at thirty. I wish there was something I could say to everyone that is struggling, but I'll say you really do matter, like more than you could possibly know. Just always do one more day, just one more day. Give tomorrow one more try all the time
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
Iv tried it 3 times in 12 months its hard to pick yourself up from issues isolated alone but guy we need to talk more to anyone videos like this help to think your not alone
Yeah, I pretty much wanna go a lot. Turned 33 yesterday. I just put my 9mm 147g in my mouth toward the brain stem at the back and sometimes I just press the trigger lightly and I look at myself in the mirror while doing it and wonder how I got here.
@Heartslove 3 I'm working through intensive trauma therapy now. Thanks so much for your concern. God and I simply haven't seen eye to eye since I was a kid, so, no offense at all but please don't pray for me. If heaven is seen through the eyes of a child, it can't be real. My beliefs are much deeper than the Abrahamic religions without a god to speak of. No occultism, no theosophy, no new age, but trust me I believe in something strongly. Thanks again. Come what may, in the end, it will all be alright.
Men's mental health are undervalued, I honestly had suicidal thoughts, all those guys who struggled I hope they find love and peace. It's a cold and dark world where will live in people are so selfish
Yes, there are people in this world who suck big time. But there are still good people out there. Might take time finding them. Trust me, you keep looking and you will find others who understand you and who can see how worthy you are to this world. I already know it but you need to find it for yourself with people you can talk to.
Bro i feel that athleate on so many levels i would never wish it on my enemy too injury is the worst pain for a man who was going somewhere great and was recognised in his field.
I screwed up everyone’s life. I remember all the numerous mistakes I made. I don’t want to do anything anymore. My apartment’s a shit hole. I am response for my friend’s death. I can’t do anything right, nor retain any information. It’s is extremely difficult to articulate my thoughts, and my career sucks. I have no friends or interest in exercising anymore. Screw it all to hell.
@@AryanDiablo I wish I could say better. I’m hanging in there. But, the person that was always there for me, my ‘Grandmom’ is gone. We laid her to rest. There is no one to live for now. I’m lonely with no partner. I’ve given up.
The big problem with talking with his family about his mental healt is that when you feel Bad, you dont wanna affecte negatively the people you love. So it's a way to become even more lonely and you think that the best solution is to give up and stop your life, it would be the best option so you won't be a problem for your family and friends anymore
I suffered from depression and mental illness in college. As a result, I tried to kill myself countless times. I would not recommend making the same choice, because I have to live with lasting damage to my body. And the loneliness is still present 😊
I dont know what 'life' means. I just came across this vid while i was looking for eays to attempt suicide. Life is shit. I feel like my parents gave birth to save their future income. No friends , no meaning in life , what should i do. Im sitting here writing this and i cant control my tears
2:08 yes that voice "this has to happen now" is the best way to describe it. It's so weird that the brain does that regardless how good things are going at that moment.
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏.
2020 has perhaps bought into focus more and more about just how serious the issue of mental health is. Of course, this is nothing new, we have been aware if it for some time. But we are living in a time unprecedented in many of our lifetimes and it has bought it more to people’s attention. I’ve seen people in work who’s personality has changed. They seem to be walking around with the weight of the world on their shoulders. If there is anything good to come out of this pandemic, it may be that we finally recognise mental health as the serious problem it is...and indeed has been for a long time. The number 1 killer for men in the UK under the age of 50 is suicide. Just let that sink in.
You my friend are super awesome. Let's gooooo! PS - why do so many people think it's okay to get a fitness coach for physical training and health, yet can hold back finding a mental fitness coach/therapist for mental health? Go for it - and you will be unstoppable!
As someone who was bullied too, this hits very close to home....................You spend your entire life thinking that your going to be the same and everything isn't going to change, then something hits you and you feel completely helpless ................To the bullies out there, who get off on demeaning, belittling and ostracising someone for fun, you may be done with the past but the past ain't done with you...............To the people that have been bullied, walked on and treated like shit, it only takes one event in your life for you to realise your worth.......... Don't let insignificant imbeciles words mark you for the rest of your life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
@@HarmzConsciouswhy are you spamming this shit on every comment you stupid brain dead chogi? You clearly haven’t got a clue what you’re talking about so fuck off
Depression when it gets severe is unimaginably bad, it’s scary, very scary, things don’t make sense, you can’t think clearly and you lose hope. Some have bad insomnia where they can’t sleep which makes things worse. I’m in a very bad place now, unemployment for a very very long time, have ocd and many issues, I’m barely holding on. I admitted myself to hospital at the end of January to a ward, was there 3 weeks and I slept poorly in there too and felt agitated so left and haven’t felt myself since. My mental health has been getting worse for a couple of years now. I’m 49 and so very tired of the struggle, I don’t know where to turn now. If rather lose an arm or a leg if it meant not feeling like this ever again. If there is a god then please help me, please as I can’t seem to find any peace of mind. I need to be able to sleep again too, and not lying there for hours all through the night
I won't comment about there being a god or not - but there are other people in this world who understand you. These medical systems - most of them are just shit. So what that means is we keep fighting to find a doctor or a therapist or some professional who can help us find ways to cope and keep on living. I've seen over a dozen therapists through my life - I've found maybe only 2 who were good. (And one of those, I'm getting help from now.) It is a statistical probability that we have to go through I'd guess half a dozen professionals until we find the right one - or we get lucky. Keep fighting until you find one who will help you get your sleep (which is SO important for mental wellness) and guide you to learning how to make life liveable for yourself. Trust me, someone is "out there" for you
I'm Schizophrenic was abused as a child, been depressed all my life, committed suicide tonnes of times, stabbed myself (was seriously close to death) drank bleach, took ricin poison but didn't know to use lie so just drank a load of acetate and castor beans, sliced my wrists so many time yadda yadda but what I realised at the ripe old age of 35 was that the majority of my problems are my fault and in my control. Our demons are mostly of our own design. Bo hoo my life is shit, the past that is, it doesn't control my present. WILL POWER overcomes all that shit, making your life better by incremental improvements and when you start trying to make your life better you are no longer a victim and you realise that most of your problems are your own fault, because all us depressed and all us with mental health problems have extreme self destructive tendencies. Understand that and just try to be better, stop drinking, stop doing shit. It worked for me.
Unfortunately I'm finding out the hard way, that no one want's to hear it. Think I will seek therapy before it's too late. Getting close to it. Again...
I'm seriously thinking about its I have the tools to never wake up its never ending this isolation. Its my faith that's holding me back but that's wearing thin. I don't feel sad or cry just had enough of this world its not for me thanks.
In a world dominated by social media, it's too easy to think that everyone's else's lifes are perfect. Everyday, we see celebrities who look like they live the best lives ever. None of us ever see how they are after a photo on instagram or before a red carpet interview. Being famous or being rich dosent mean anything. It dosent matter where you come from, your mental health can still dwindle at any point. No one ever goes out and is emotional at work because it isn't "professional". Even though, so many people are sad, anxious, alone, fearful, angry, depressed, confused, hurt and pained behind closed doors in their own homes. We just don't see it.
The feminazi is using the secret weapon of emotional intelligence to kick our man butts around. Females are graduating from college at a higher rate, living longer and staying the fuck out of prison. That emotionally intelligent man will be in that bedroom with your ex-wife before and after that divorce men.
I feel like I already died about 20 years ago, very unusual in this new body and spirit today. Some massive ego death where I never came back but someone new was born at-least or was always there
@@BEACHDUDE71 good being authentic about it - I'm feeling better spirits today. I was on a nasty 4 days drinking bender, low vibrations and solid 9 hour sober sleep has that sun shining little warmer. Tried a interesting hour long mantra meditation group that's still resonating with me days later, did something, I want to try it again
To all of the comments who have talked about the idea of suicide/depression. I’m no philosopher nor am I a therapist. From the words of a 23 year old broke college student, you haves to find a way to be happy. You have to find a way no matter what. It took me an uncomfortable amount of time to figure out how, but I did. I did it my way. If by god, you can’t find a way to be happy by exhausting/using all of your god given resources, then I wish you Godspeed. Find peace, solace, and love in what you do next.
been struggling financially and mentally.i am giving up.this suicidal thought is winning over me.felt like ending my life soon.hope someone will help and save one life
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me he was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES! "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" "I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life" th-cam.com/video/EXQGTInPpZU/w-d-xo.html Reach up!
@@shreyakumarisingh2427 i just cannot man up. It doesn't work like that. I have health problems too. Are u alone? Will u be alone whole life? Wait when u get older and alone. When i was in my 20 and 30 i was thinking like u.
I know this feeling all to well. It’s been over a year and the only time I felt value in this world was with her. Although I am ok without her because time healed that, I still struggle with my sense of purpose. I’m not particularly good at anything and I don’t really have any idea of what I want to do. I know that finding oneself would dramatically change the way I feel about my life. But the more I try to find it it seems the farther it pushes away from me.
@M Gr256 What about his father? What about his male family members, friends or colleagues? It's so fucking unfair to expect ONE person to fix him and demonize her if she can't do it anymore. Not to mention using it as further fuel for your already existing hatred of women. Go to hell.
@NightWolf Lol, the bitter delusional one who's generalizing half the worlds population tells other people they're in denial. Thanks for that I needed a wee laugh today.
@NightWolf Lol WHAT FACTS? Why are there so many nut jobs on the internet preaching "facts over feelings" while offering no valid statistics or proven arguments themselves? Your twisted personal views of women are not facts.
Ive tried a few times in my life but it doesnt make me sad it just makes me feel like i should've been braver about it. Negative i know, but my life has been extreme to say the least.
ironic how a magazine that feeds off men's insecurities is pretending they care
You should try www.man-age.com - they're a good independent mental health magazine.
@Jaime Paiva thanks, now go back to your cave.
@Jaime Paiva an ad hominem attack is the refuge to those who have no real facts to mention.
@Jaime Paiva men try more men are more successful both are huge issues what the hell are you trying to do with your comment?
@Jaime Paiva men commit suicide 3.53 times more. Educate yourself before speaking fool.
Depression and anxiety destroys you in every way imaginable!
and can kill you as well....
Yes 100%
Yes it destroyed me and my life
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
I don't know if I am depressed but I am slowly having it.
praying for you guys to heal better 😢
Depression feels like your trapped in your mind, an empty void of your own
@Michael P plenty of other shit too
Trapped in your mind wilst simultaneously going 12 rounds with a pro boxer :'(
It can also be a jail sentence of your own doing
Yes.
It can also feel like you're already dead and killing yourself is just making it official. Suicide seems like the logical and sane choice sometimes.
I went to my line manager about a month ago and said I haven't been coping very well. She (who now works from home) said that the needs of the business must come first. Nothing has been done and I'm living in a total state of anxiety. Can you imagine if the sexes were reversed in this conversation? We've recently celebrated International Woman's Day (quite rightly) as we did last year. But unfortunately International Men's Day was totally overlooked. I will be submitting this video to my HR department urging that the event is highlighted this year.
No ones really gives a fuck about us. They pretend to but in reality they don't. That's why we have to reach out to each other.
@@MolloyPolloy Some women care e.g. Bettina Arndt, Diana Davison, Karen Straughan and some others. I also care and have lost a lot of women friends - first 8 and now possibly twenty more!! - because I've been speaking up. I hope things go well for you and I hope that this aggression towards men will be overcome.
Feminism is bitchery.
@@MolloyPolloy I give a fuck mate I'm a woman, don't seperate the genders were all human we have the same feelinga
@@becky2235 He doesn't mean individual women at a grassroots level in particular but I think he means the radical feminists in the media, colleges, education, politics who push the woke, anti-male agenda. They've been doing this for decades and it's become more radical. Thanks for your support, btw. :)
I just want out. Life isn't a grand adventure filled with possibilities, it's an awful series of unpleasant events to be endured until you die.
Praying helps some people 🙏🙏
I feel that
@@JulietCrowsonmental disability causes the opposite to the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Out of their control.
When well they can access them. When unwell they can’t. They can’t even smile. It’s NOT their fault (i.e. lack of faith)
It’s a disability
There is meaning in all of this life, though you may not think so. As a 20+ victim of chronic pain, I’ve thought about it, it I realize how it would hurt my kids. I said it one night in front of my 20 year old, and I only just found out how hurt and scared he was. It tore me up. Find a relationship with Jesus, go to a Christian Church, especially a Catholic Church. Jesus is always present there in the tabernacle. Talk to him, tell him what you think, and ask for his help. I offer my pain up to him daily, uniting it to His cross for the salvation of souls. At least I can help somebody through this pain, otherwise it would be worthless. Also, look for the little joys in life, and be thankful for them. Being grateful is one way to get out of yourself. Volunteering somewhere is good for that, too. I pray you’re doing better. God bless you.
You have power to make it an adventure. Pursue the truth and the best possible outcome. That will be your adventure even though full with tragedy, but an adventure till the end. Work hard, fall, fail, raise up and do it till the end.
I'm 30. Time to time the feeling creeps back. Last attempt was 3 years ago. Was drunk, pissed off, going 85mph and tried to drive off a bridge into a lake. I burned a lot of bridges after that. A lot of people I thought I knew, were the reason I kept trying to end it all. Nowadays I live far from them and I hope to god that I never see these people ever again in my life.
I know right. Time tells who give a F!
@@jcbanbury yup. I think that most people think its similar attitudes or similar interests,that determines if a person is a good friend. Wrong! Rather it is TIME that determines if a friend is REALLY a friend. Was this person interdependent with me from day 1 till day 1,000? They're a friend.
Great that you've found a coping mechanism.
Do you think you may have been burning all those bridges so there wouldn't be any left for you to attempt to drive off?
How do you try to drive off a bridge and fail? Not saying you should but sounds like you're reaching a bit
I think for men it's so much harder when you're alone. Especially if you crave the companionship of a woman, someone you can open up to and confide in. When you don't have that significant other, things feel so dark.
Heartslove 3 fuck god! i prayed for many many years to god and his son Jesus Christ but to heal me or save me from depression and anxiety BUT after many many years of praying it got worse and i declared my self an atheist a year ago prayer is delusional!!
And then we live a society we’re your not allowed to complain or be sad about it because then you’ll be labeled a desperate creepy incel.
@@nicolaspicolas1988 Thanks for reminding me about this. A couple years back, all I was hearing about around uni was "incels." It became "cool" to label guys as incels for the simple crimes of being lonely and being honest talking about that pain.
look up the blackpill everyone, its over for many men unfortunately.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 True, but then we're becoming (again) a gynocentric culture. We don't care about our sons. Only the "top 1%." This is only possible because half the population--men--refuses to give a damn about their own kind.
To face death in complete control and choose death must take more courage than people can comprehend.
I don't think it is courage Paul. I think it's a numbness. A numbness takes over and you have no emotion. Courage, Sadness, Grief, Self-loathing. All gone. Just numbness.
To face death is the most courageous act. The only reason I haven't done it yet is because I don't have the courage. For me life is unbearable
Marcus Aurelius
Its hopelessness
@@Thinkingisallowed i understand your feelings.
They say suicide is a cop out but choosing when to die and having no fear of death is a very brave thing. Everyday I'm getting a bit closer to that time when Im at peace asleep forever.
Who knows what lies beyond death
I guess death is just a new adventure
Hi Matt, hope you're OK. Sending you love.
@@gI-nj3vo There was nothing before we were born and there will be nothing after we are dead.
@@TheFracturedfuture but you don’t know that because your not dead genius that’s why it’s the greatest mystery of life
I'm going to unload here because there is nowhere else that i can. Don't read if you're easily unsettled or triggered.
I'm 23, from the UK. I suffer with depression and anxiety. I attempted Suicide last year, 2018; I hung myself. full suspension, but no drop. It was not an impulsive decision, i didn't do it on a whim. It took months of desensitization to the idea of the rope around my neck, and the sensation of falling unconscious and avoiding panic, before i was ready to go through with it. That took an enormous amount of mental energy, now, over a year later, im still drained by it. Despite this, I've still decided that I'm going to do it again, i haven't picked a date, as im yet to rebuild the necessary mental fortitude. it's also partly to do with the fact that good rope is exceptionally hard to buy in the UK for some reason lmao. Anyway, here's context as to why i'm doing/have done what im doing.
Depression is a serious problem. It is a plague, it corrupts your entire process of thinking. Your 'Roadmap' of life is warped to a point where, the location you're currently at is awful and every possible position you could move too is awful AND there is no end goal or achievement that would mean anything valuable or useful whatsoever. It applies to everything; Your appearance? 'Awful and there is nothing you could possibly do to improve it in any meaningful way at all'. Your academic or career achievements? 'Worthless and there is nothing you can do to make them valuable'. Your friends? 'They don't actually like you and just take pity on you'.
It makes failures infinitely harder to deal with aswell. You failed a class by a few points? 'Why the fuck are you even trying? Drop out, there's no possible way you could ever pass that class'. Get rejected by someone? 'lol its because you're ugly af and pathetic'.
Now, here's the thing, you can get past that with logical, mindful thinking. Thats what they teach you when you go to CBT(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) It still fucking sucks, but you can pass that. However, if, like me, you have a nihilistic philosophy, you're in a bad position. Because now, life has no objective purpose or meaning AND you have an exponentially increasing burden for you to bear. So here we're upping the level of suffering a little bit more. So the therapist's response is; "Okay, so objectively, life has no purpose or meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create a subjective meaning and purpose in your own life". Yeah, you're absolutely right, there are multiple avenues for success in a modern human life. Academic, Social, Career, Family just to name a few.
Well, personally, i can't succeed Academically because i likely have a below average IQ/intelligence and both of those are REQUIRED to succeed in that field. Career? I'm not interested or driven enough in any task to seek a career in it, remember not every job is a career. I can't achieve socially because i'm too socially awkward and am anxious constantly, i tried most of my life to achieve this one to no avail. Family is the only objective i can set short term, but it is short term because my parents will not be around for much longer due to deteriorating medical conditions. So now what? we have a short term objective of 'Live for your family' for a few years, then?
Okay okay, lets just say that we can forget about most of the problems and just get a job and exist. I don't even want to be involved in (and i know how fucking cringe this sounds) society. a good 50%++ of my life will be spent working, Why? 'because you have too'. The fuck kind of response even is that. You're now in a circumstance where, the game of life has handed you a poor hand of cards, So you can't possibly win the game, but also, the game itself is something you cannot bare to play, but you're held at gunpoint to play it and cannot leave. What do you even do? there is no out.
To extend upon that, you can't even talk about this shit to anyone either. One, it's a hell of bombshell to drop on people and it is horribly unfair to share. Two, To spread this burden to others is to potentially expose them to a line of thinking that they hadn't considered, and dragging them down with you. And yes, to be clear, it IS a burden. To confide in people is to share the load, to share severe problems such as this, is seriously taxing to those listening. Even therapists, people professional trained to deal with this kind of problem, need constant breaks and help as to not get mentally and emotional fatigued.
So in addition to all that crap previously mentioned, You're alone to bare the burden aswell.
look man, i know "To live is to suffer, to be alive is to find meaning in the suffering." but when every possible avenue of success is something unachievable, most of your time in this world is spent doing something you despise, you believe that there is objectively no reason to do what you're doing, AND you have an ever growing weight that continues to crush you relentlessly. What possible other conclusion do you land at other than suicide?
As a final note, because people will probably mention it; I've been to therapy, it was nice but ultimately unhelpful. I was taken to a psych ward - A horrible experience and i'd rather not relive it. I am indeed on medication, it helped a lot, but, my problem is rooted rather deeply. The UK Mental Health sector needs work. It is currently poor in my experience. The last thing i want to get off my chest, to all those people who think they're helpful by saying "It gets better", Stop saying that. Because No, it doesnt, you just tolerate it more, it always hurts just as much.
Signed, Some Guy from the UK.
VenoM I relate to every single word. I'm actually glad we are the same. I don't know what to do either. Passing time for the sake of it is killing me inside. And working a job for the sake of it is making me feel frustrated af. I want to live everything and go away and never come back to Earth.
I just want to say thank you for warning people who get triggered. It shows that you still have the ability to care about others no matter how small or simple it may be. I just wish you could take that same amount of care and apply to yourself. I guess all I can say is you are awesome for being so brutally honest. Why? Well because it may help other people find the will to live. And that's a part of human nature. Helping others.
A TH-cam comment will prob make no difference to the way you’re feeling but I wanted to say that I relate completely. I’m not quite as resolved in killing myself as you seem to be be but I share most of your emotions on the same matters. It feels like I am living for my family (father in particular) because I know it would devastate them if I were to harm myself. I can’t be bothered writing a full reply right now as I’m currently on way to my mundane job as I type this. Maybe later. All the best pal
Im dealing with the same shit if you're still around I'd want to talk
Plenty of us feeling the same mate, keep going and good luck!
Sometimes I really feel like going. it comes across my mind quite a lot and it’s like I want to be here but I don’t want to. Who knows what the future brings
Hello Guy you’re not alone
Ryan Sheehan thank you mate
Sometimes I cant decide which is worse death or life because both are shit they both hurt and I just cant choose so i end up isolating myself
Go
Pink Gal really
Been there, twice, failed twice. I admire people with the strength and courage to succeed.
How are you doing now my friend? ❤
You are loved sir
Hope you never succeed in it. It’s the worst feeling
Your life has value and meaning . Christ created you for a wonderful purpose.
Please don’t admire those people.
They say to contact Samaritans but the last few times I had a breakdown and called out of desperation, I was put on hold for five minutes and no one ever picked up.
Just keep your head up!
@@user-ev8lv2rk8i This is exactly the kind of behavior that drives people to depression and suicide. Failure of "freedom of speech."
Yeah. I had that happen to me when I called the suicide helpline
@@cedpete7434 Damn. The irony. :(
They don't always answer immediately; I've noticed that it takes around seven minutes.
It’s funny, I just felt absolutely calm when I had an attempt, but at the same time I was just thinking over and over again.
Same
Lol me to. I thought about it for awhile before. But when the moment came. I was blank and frantic. There wasnt any logic.... It wasnt pre-planned. The straw just broke the camels back and it happened just so happened to be at that time
This is fake and real at the same time... If you put it in your head enough to do it. Youll be constantly thinking about it. And looking for excuses to do so. Constantly... Thats why you need to warn someone, it will manifest
Same here. Sad, but calm; not hysterical.
@Rob'sTransportPhotography ok troll
I think I'm close, I looked at my food and thought was is the point of eating this just to keep the pain alive. I don't know what to do
I'm the same man, this shit is hard. I hope everything works out for you bro.
Me to um tryin but i have a rare illness um 34 and my life um a failure
We are not failures, otherwise we would not be here, we are fucking warriors, these thoughts are bigger than any man or women on this earth. Every single time these thoughts went to battle with us we won. Let's continue beating these battles and eventually we will win the war.
You can do it .
NightWolf you’re on a video on attempted suicide and decide to comment that? at least she’s trying to help.
In my forties now, attempted suicide in my late teens, not a cry for help as there wasn't any really at the time, I went somewhere that no one ever goes, took a load of pills and injected air into my veins, woke up two days later in hospital, a dog walker had found me, there's a line you cross when you want to die, it's different than just being depressed, feeling nothing is a dark place to be, even now I struggle, luckily I have a family to keep me focused but there is always the feeling that I'm on a knife edge, I exist for others!
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me he was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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What of the others don't exist .
I'm that guy .
If I were to do it , I'd be the story you hear about where they find my decomposed body months later
@@northlanedarko771 i feel u and with health problems too. How do u cope with it?
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
@@HarmzConsciousbro shut up
„You become confident about not wanting to be here“ is nailing it
My Depression started the day I got Psoriasis, after that I ended up getting IBS and have early stage psoriaic Arthritis. It doesn't help that I'm only 21, because I know no matter how bad it is now these disease's are only gonna get worse with age. The worst part is what I feel like mentally, everyone I know looks at me as the funny guy but can't tell how fucked up I am in my own head.
Wow what a brave honest post. I admire you.
Take care man
DO NOT talk to anyone about it. They don't know what to do or say. The mental health professionals do nothing. You will lose everything, like I did. My job, my friends, my marriage. All through talking about my mental health.
You’re absolutely right. Its a trick, just to get us to empty what we have left in us.
i’m here man
Sorry it went that way for you ❤ mental health is not treated right in the UK. Needs to be a lot more open mindedness and way more resources to support people and their families
You’re right, if you have complex issues mental health counselors can’t help and everyone will turn on you. Don’t talk about this shit people will turn against you
Yep, I figured as much. Just makes no sense to. It's like dropping a ticking time bomb on people. Deep down, they're afraid it'll go off at any second and they'll be left hurting. So they'd rather get as far away as possible. Thing is, I don't even blame them. They're just looking out for their own interests. I suppose I do kinda blame family though lol
But yeah I would never tell a soul in real life. Only bad can come from it
I'm 27 and I've struggled with mental issues (Bipolar, anxiety, OCD, ADD, etc) for as long as I can remember. I'm pretty sure if I had access to a gun, this comment wouldn't exist and I'm not sure I'll exist this time next year. I'm exhausted being alive and I'm tired of my struggles being ignored. Most of all, I'm tired of it all
🖤🥀Iam so sorry man iwont leave you alone ill pray for you and have you in my thoughts and hearts
I wish nothing but the best for you! Please don't give up, take a rest if you must, but don't throw everything away.. you deserve love and peace and joy! Love yourself! I'm sending you a virtual hug!!🧡
If you're reading this know i love you, you are loved. You are not alone in your struggles. I won't say i 100% understand because i'm a little younger and not in your shoies but i have a lot of the same illnesses, You are not alone. my friend
Do u take any medication?
@@m3kbeatz Does ridiculous amounts of weed and self-medication count? I'd see a doctor but I'm from a " Depression? That's women's nonsense!" community, so I just slowly self-destruct and hope I don't bring anyone down with me
Thanks for sharing your story. It's rare to find stories with adults especially men. I hope you'll continue to be visible - blessings to all of you.
I think maybe it's time to put my life into perspective. Some of my friends know, others don't...but I'd like to clarify my life to you all, whether you knew already or not. Between 2011 and 2015 I struggled, with life. I couldn't leave the house, I didn't want to see people or talk to people. I was medicated to the point I'd sleep at crazy times. I had several therapists who all gave up on me to the point the last one I had ended up laying on his own couch.
I stripped my house of any material belongings, I stripped my kids' bedroom of everything that belonged to them, as in my head I thought I'd never see them again.
I have the attention span of a gnat on coke, I'm getting bored already so i'll speed up....
In 2015 I dropped the meds. Took my kids (who were the only reason I hadn't offed myself) on holiday and I got a job which helped me to integrate with people, which was a struggle. 2019 I got a new job, more challenges > still integrating.
I'm shit at being social, I hate having to converse, it's not that I don't like you all....I just have issues, I may be better but I'm not fixed.
Stay strong
I have gad which makes doing anything socially fucking miserable i know how you feel with social anxiety
You've made some changes and got back into life so I hope it keeps getting better for you.
I was raised to believe that God never gives you more than you can handle. Then came a disease called depression.
James G 😂 I was raised in a Christian family and this is their excuse for everything mental.
Same here man...
Defiled Anamoly stay safe brother 🤟
Prayer never cured anyone of schizophrenia or any other mental health problem. Goes to show how the efficacy of prayer is a delusion.
James G Damn right, I was happier when I was ignorant, young, and Christian though... Knowledge hurts.
As a white 62 y/o male I battle suicidal ideations every day. I never had those thoughts 10 years ago. I've seen my mental health go down the drain the last 10 years even though my physical health is good but it just keeps getting worse. No one to talk to, no one wants to listen when there is, or it's just to expensive to get professsional help. Suicides looking like a better option for me everyday. I feel for the men in my age group because it only gets worse.
I care about you for what its worth. I really do
Hang in there man.
@@whatdidujustsay2094 O_O
Keep going G , cut my jugular 2x times
I understand when u have no hope anymore for the future and beeing alone whole life is not easy.
I don't expect my friends, family and loved ones to understand me or my everyday struggles, but i do fear when they do it will be too late.
Please stay strong, Louis. Sending you love.
I think the only ones who can truly understand is others who have felt/done the same things. That's why I enjoy these videos - they remind me of the darkness I once lived in and will always stay on the look-out for should it ever come back. I manage my depression with medication and that helps things from becoming too dark. I really hope you find people who can relate so you know you are not alone and that you are worthy.
idk man, I don't think I'll be able to handle these thoughts much longer
Are u ok now?
Hope your doing better now. If you’re still having those thoughts Call the suicide prevention hotline for help and access to resources that can make a positive difference.
Do whats best for you ❤
I know how hard it is, but try and take joy in the little things. If you see a a bird, or nice tree or something, try and focus on it. No matter how small or silly it is, just focus on it. And remember people love you. Many just need to hear someone say that to them. You are so loved and I care about you. Just take time to enjoy the little things. I promise it will help.
hopefully you’re doing ok 🤍 you’re in my thoughts
The worst part is that nobody understands. Nobody cares..compounding the loneliness.
I really care man please trust me but i cant take your pain away!Ill pray to Jesus to save you i cant do nothink else!😔🖤
Hey. I care. I found you today someway somehow.
I just needed to hear from all of these people in this video. The message from Nathaniel Shaw really resonated with me. Thank you Men's Health UK
What bothers me is that I am not living for myself. I'm living for my sons, their mom, my parents, my siblings my friends. I can't bare to put to them through that. The guilt the hurt the anger my sons' future I just can't do that to them. But that is as far as it goes. I can't find a reason to live for me. I don't matter to me. When I think about dieing in an accident or a robbery I think about everyone else and how it would affect them. If someone threatened me I think they have just threatened my loved ones I don't care if I die. I just don't want to dies painfully. I battling this feeling of not want to live for me.
Hope you got better, Bro ❤
When I hear them talk I think of two acquaintances I had known who didn't talk and how they are no longer here and it deeply saddens me and how the space the took can never be filled again every life is so so precious. Thankyou god men are being given a platform now to heal their hearts and minds because I believe people copy behavior of their peers and these men will change the course for many many others through their willingness to speak out about the importance of male mental health. We need our men so much we need them to be able to have a space to build themselves back up from ground zero with a caring supportive environment.
I know the feeling oh so very well. I have tried more times than i can remember, but it's more than a dozen. I have suffered depression my entire adult life. I have managed to get so close to being free from a world i have grown to hate, but interference from medical professionals have just got to me before i was gone. Then i feel cursed that the suffering will simply continue, as it always does. It never stop's. I just have to think about the next time, and how to go about it. One bonus. I am all alone now, nobody to interfere with the next go!
You're not alone. I'm considering to off myself soon. I have autoimmune disease that destroyed my life and all the medications don't work. Do you have anyone that you can talk to?Maybe it will lessen your suffering even a bit?
@@E10l think I have that too..if u feel like talking let me know..I get it
Life can be tough and ..today it's harder and more despair
Yoo, how're you doing today?
As a girl I'm so happy that this is shown as a gender based problem considering the disproportionate amount of men who commit suicide,yes it is a gender issue.i hope men's rights movements keeps growing.
This is not solely an issue at all. What's disproportionate is that the ratio of men to women is simply too high. Mother nature is balancing itself out.
@Not Convinced What's the real reason ?
Do men care about our own movements? Girl bye
@@lilithrosa9309 You have a video of men opening up about their psychological battles of ending their lives, and your input is complaining about how a woman who cares about this kind of stuff? What’s wrong with you?
Feminazi
Thank you guys for making me apart of such a powerful documentary the feedback from this has been amazing and it is already benefiting peoples lives, I'm glad I was able to be so open about my own experiences so that it can help somebody in a similar situation 💚
Feel ur pain.
@@martinbrentnall7691 👊
Thank you for opening up
@@hemaniscool Thank you for watching
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Lost both my brothers to suicide. Going through quite a difficult time myself but there’s always something in the back of mind telling me (you will regret this the micro second after you commit). I knew my brothers experienced this in the last moments of their lives.
To anyone even considering suicide, please reconsider. The collateral damage it causes… it’s not just your life ending but the lives of those who love you, a good bit of them also dies with you.
Depression feel like a huge, heavy wet blanket laying on you every single day. It immobilizes you and stops you in your tracks. Anxiety and depression go hand in hand. It's an illness and like any other illness it requires a professional to help you get through it. Do not stop seeking help until you find the right therapist,meds or combo of them both.You ARE worth it and trust me, you are NOT alone!
@thawne7993 , sad bozos??? Depression and anxiety are illnesses caused by Serotonin depletion. It's an awful illness with serious outcomes at times. You are extremely rude and misinformed to refer to all of us suffering as bozos. I hope you NEVER have to feel the emotional and physical effects of depression. I lost a brother to suicide and your comment really hit a nerve. Do some research.
@thawne7993 , you are a vile person.
But what is the point for life anyway. Even if i felt ok i dont see anything good in all of this. Work, stress, getting old, beeing alone no family, anxiety all the time.
Powerful I’m a psychotherapist and men’s mental health is just ignored. Needs to be a focus for change. This is so essential to the fact this is real. I do a lot of posts on men’s mental health
@Evidence Based Health I don’t stand for most women I stand for what I believe is important. Men’s mental health is extremely important as it makes up for 77 percent of all suicides in the uk. I work mainly with men and honestly don’t see anything laughable about the subject or my interest. I’m interested as a human being first my gender is not a matter in my focus and campaigning for more support for men. People do bad things sometimes and that can very well be what you are pertaining too but not laughable by any stretch of the imagination. In my view men’s mental health affects us all it’s a shame so many of us don’t recognise that.
@Evidence Based Health yes I have noticed all your comments on my videos have been deleted. I think that’s because your comments are not relevant to the point of the videos. It’s obvious that you have something personal to say about the point you have been trying to make which actually is not all women and not linked to the videos you have commented on. I can’t even read your comments as it’s been removed but the jist info it I see in my notifications but I can not respond as they have been removed
Thanks u really great woman...
From personal experience all taking to your boss about you feeling suicidal will get you is unemployed, homeless, unemployable and a social pariah.
Yep sick world, my previous employer handed me a card with a “special” phone line, and said I can speak to them about anything and it will be confidential, I know they have a lot of traps in this world.
Never talk to your employer about mental health stuff, be smart. They're the ones feeding u and it is not their job to "care" for you like that.
Like it says in the bible, speak to the rock not the people. Bless
Suicide is running through my mind now. I lost my job and had numerous interviews and did not get a job. I feel numb. My wife is not doing a great job and we don't talk much. I was driving my daughter to her friends and started crying. I don't know why this sadness keeps coming back in my mind. It does though.
Please dont harm your self I dont know you, but as a fellow man I care about you from distance dont harm yourself please. If you want to talk I can give you my email.
Can we all agree that 1. being human sucks hard sometimes. 2. the unfairness in this global society sucks big time all the time. It's okay for you to cry. You are human - that's what we do when we are hurting and overwhelmed. And you deserve to feel better. Whether it's therapy or medication or getting involved with a group who understands and can relate - or a combination of all the above - you deserve to feel better.
I lost my job too
These are the faces of courage.
I’m glad to hear that other men are in pain are willing to share their stories and I’m not the only one. I’m not alone .
No, dear. You are not alone. Find others who can relate to you and understand you. I really think it is us - the people who have survived attempts - that are going to help each other. We might get lucky with a counselor or an advocate, but I trust grassroots people like myself more than some paid professional whose there only for the money. We can tell when someone really doesn't give a shit.
Nathaniel said it the best...it feels like you in a trance, in a room full of people still all alone, you go from 100 to 0
Its really like that
Yep I really felt it too. That was how I felt when I was about to end my life. Numb, trancelike. Totally out of body. That was what scared me so badly that I ended up calling the crisis line.
I want to end it all, I just can’t inflict it on my parents who have lost one of their children already (my little sister) I feel numb all the time, uninterested and given up in life, relationships, career.
It hurts to live.
@@emmyandboo thank you I appreciate that, I am very happy to hear you’re on the path to recover but unfortunately for me I live alone and I’m turning 36 tomorrow. I don’t want to live to 37 miserable and lonely, things have slipped so far I can’t stop what’s going to happen now. It’s pretty much a foregone conclusion.
@@emmyandboo lol of course you have a bf. well guess what, many men cant have any of that. im not saying you dont have your own hardships, but compared to the average dude, you are privilliged.
@@emmyandboo He never said anything about white? What does that have to do with privilege?
i hate when people call it selfish because people have to understand how it can distort your perception of reality to an almost delusional level sometimes it makes it impossible to consider others because you just lose that ability to connect and care but a lot of times it's actually coming from a place of caring too much this distorted perception makes you honestly believe it's an selfless act that you're doing this to help others to make their life better to save them pushing a loved one out of the way of the bus and letting it run you over instead because you honestly believe your existence is doing them more harm than good it's complete and utter bs but it feels real at the time. what's actually selfish is seeing a person in that much despair and agony to the point where they can't bear it and telling them they're selfish and they should just endure the pain for the sake of others instead of offering actual real support that might make life bearable
Once you free yourself from seeking others approval or even friendship of others through mindless training....YOU ARE FREE. No need to die or feel lonely, you are just alone. Meditate.
"Talk to someone, talk to your loved one" - for the last 10 years ive been getting worse and worse, i know it i feel it, the only person in my life is my wife and she simply doesnt understand my problem. she never did, she trie, but she is simply not able to grasp it. i really have nobody else to talk to, i hate strangers and the thought of talking to somebody about those things almost makes me panic
I hope you're doing ok. I understand cause I can't bring myself to talk to my parents, siblings, or even my closest friends. I journal and talked with a counselor which worked for me
hey man did you wanna have a chat?
I am nearly fourteen now and I have thought about suicide at least three times. The fact that I’m still here from those thoughts is shocking to me and I don’t know wether to jump off a bridge since I want to do it tomorrow but I need to try to keep going. If you are suicidal get help cause it’s a mistake that I decided to make
Hey friend. That's about the age i started feel like that. Seek therapy. Or if that is not available. Dont fret. Learn about self improvement. You can find some great videos in youtube and tik tok. And please talk to a trusted friend or family. Even if they domt fully understand. Its nice to just be real with someone. And be kind to yourself. You are doin a fantastic job!!
I’m a man and I felt this way many times. 😞 I’m doing ok but depends how you play you’re cards like that one guy said. Sometimes I feel like I’m shit and then I’m good for while. I stare off a lot and I know it’s not good because it’s a sign of mental health issues. I think a lot and one thing is I don’t drink a lot. Because if I did drink I probably wouldn’t be here today. That really makes me feel low half of the time.
Well done on being so open with your mental health takes true strength to be speak out share this with someone close to you so they can help you and also keep going your stronger then you think
Nathaniel The Visionary not easy to speak out to you people. But people need to know how to speak out and stop the stigma on mental health. It’s hard trust me no easy day . All I do is focus day by day. I still feel like there is no way out. I lay in bed most of the time , but I do get out and feel good that I do. But I still feel like it’s better off being not here. I try and try every day. What kills me is I try to feel better by getting a job and etc . I apply all over and get turned down. So I feel like I’m not worth it to anyone or anything. It’s hard.
@@Lethalwar keep going mate the fact that you feel better when you get out of bed shows your progressing its a big step just getting out of bed and not many people will understand that instead of focusing on the negatives try and focus on something your passionate about that you love, its the small steps that lead to the big progress and although I don't know you I believe in you keep your head up, mental health isn't something you can fix over night but one step at a time you will get there. I think people think because I speak about mental health that I'm confident about speaking when I'm actually not I just open up in the hope that someone who struggles with mental health will do the same I was nervous to speak to someone about it the first time but when I spoke to someone I felt alot better If you dont feel confident in speaking write a letter and give it to someone you trust and love, things will get better made stay positive
Im noticing at 34 years old that these problems only get worse the older I get I've just now realized how much it has affected me I've been numb to certain feelings until it built up and drinking didn't help it's only a temporary band-aid
Hope these guys are ok in 2020 x
Highly unlikely...2020 was the worst year
I've failed 3 times
1st time was in 2010 extension cord around the bar in the closet
I leaned forward with all 320lbs
Next thing I remember is waking up on the floor and a huge bump on my head
2nd time was in the parking lot of the post office
I had taken my belt and tightened it and buckled it
I passed out and came to with a guy beating on my driver's window
3rd failure was about 8 months ago
Mu wife came home and opened the door and I fell to the floor
I'm on 2 anti depressants but I still know my exit from this world will be by my hand
Not sure if your still here but you had many attempts and they are failed. Let me tell you one thing if your still alive today is because God is not done with you yet. You may not know he loves you i encourage you open your heart and let him come into your life ask God for comfort and to hold your hand through this hard mental journey you will find hope in him and the love, peace you have been seeking just let your creator love you.
Hope i last long enough to tell my story too, feels like this year might be my last, not willing to go through another year of intense struggle...
Stay safe, you're loved
What a hard hitting but wonderful video. I think getting a coping mechanism is the way forward. I was suicidal, but have started hiking and it works for me. I know we are all different, but give it a try. You can't lose and can only gain.
As I experienced anxiety symptoms alongside depression as well as OCD symptoms, I can definitely say that sharing to your loved one or anyone whom you’re comfortable with, that can really help. It feels like that immense weight over you gets lifted off once you share what you’re experiencing.
You are not alone.
I wish there was somebody I could turn to. Nobody seems to help me and the older I get the more I see this as my final destination. Everybody hates me and they think I am stupid. I have been surrounded by people who make me feel bad about myself so now I struggle with this even more.
hmu
Hey, how are you today?
Thoughts of death bring me peace
Ideation I’ve had that for years and I did attempt but I failed I have no idea how I survived
I agree. When it happens it will happen and if it doest it will do when it's right.
I hope you read Fully Human by Steve Biddulph. It may bring you peace but in a life-giving way.
If death is destined , then why can’t u be the one to choice, is survival really worth it until the end ?
I don't really feel anything anymore.
B strong
For real 😳, the numb of the heart
Is like waking up to a flat line telling u just to live because society said 😖, be in more suffering and survive for the sake of survival
@@TickleyourBuds1111 I feel like a snake is wrapped around me, and strangling the life out of me.
This happened to my dad...he’s not here anymore
I can't stop thinking about it. I've got it all planned out. I have done for years though and I'm still here. Every year it gets harder and my mental health worsens. I'm 40 now, I'm really tired.
It's hard to find something, anything, to continue, when your mind is totally gripped with nothing.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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I know what its like to feel numb and hopeless with no emotion and darkened thoughts. Its a nightmare. Jesus heals 100% Never give up
@@GhostMonkey772 I'm glad you found something that helps you buddy 👍
@@SoonGone I would honestly give it a shot 💉 God is life. I remember when I was clinically depressed I couldn't eat or sleep or shower or do basic things. I felt numb and hopeless nothing had meaning. He healed me 100% that pain in my mind disappeared. I will pray for you
@@GhostMonkey772 why God made such cruel World? If he was almighty he should have known better. He didnt ask me if i want to live. He is an evil to me.
I've suffered from depression and anxiety since childhood, due to physical and psychological bullying. I have had suicidal ideations and self harmed.
Its 24/7 with me too and im utter sick of it.
And you deserved NONE of those terribly cruel experiences. So first, I'm gonna give you a big thumbs up for surviving this long after going through that shit. Second, keep fighting to find the help that will work for you. It might take 2, 5, 10 tries, but guaranteed there is a professional helper out there who will work for you. Do not give up yet. Keep fighting, rest when you have to, but dammit, get up again. You are worth that. Think of all the stories you can share will children who are going through that torture right now. You could be such a mentor for them.
I tried when I was 13 (the light broke off the ceiling when I stepped off the chair), and again at thirty. I wish there was something I could say to everyone that is struggling, but I'll say you really do matter, like more than you could possibly know. Just always do one more day, just one more day. Give tomorrow one more try all the time
"It initially made me cringe at the idea of it" I had this similar thought too before I got help. But by god! Therapy changed my life for the better!!
Thanks for the vulnerability guys, sorry to hear that you felt that way! Keep your heads up!
What does "keep your heads up" mean?
@@aiahzohar5636 keep going
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
Iv tried it 3 times in 12 months its hard to pick yourself up from issues isolated alone but guy we need to talk more to anyone videos like this help to think your not alone
Stay safe bro, you're loved
how are you doing?
It feels like I'm empty inside nobody to turn to
How can I help you?
It's like seeing 3 reflections of myself.
its the anxiety and ptsd im so exhausted with dealing with it daily.
Me too brother your not on your own
@@Paulsheppard-f6j thanks bro
Yeah, I pretty much wanna go a lot. Turned 33 yesterday. I just put my 9mm 147g in my mouth toward the brain stem at the back and sometimes I just press the trigger lightly and I look at myself in the mirror while doing it and wonder how I got here.
@Heartslove 3 I'm working through intensive trauma therapy now. Thanks so much for your concern. God and I simply haven't seen eye to eye since I was a kid, so, no offense at all but please don't pray for me. If heaven is seen through the eyes of a child, it can't be real. My beliefs are much deeper than the Abrahamic religions without a god to speak of. No occultism, no theosophy, no new age, but trust me I believe in something strongly. Thanks again. Come what may, in the end, it will all be alright.
I'm 7 months late but I hope you're life is improving even with the shitty plague. Stay strong
Thanks to those who cared enough to make this video !
Men's mental health are undervalued, I honestly had suicidal thoughts, all those guys who struggled I hope they find love and peace. It's a cold and dark world where will live in people are so selfish
Yes, there are people in this world who suck big time. But there are still good people out there. Might take time finding them. Trust me, you keep looking and you will find others who understand you and who can see how worthy you are to this world. I already know it but you need to find it for yourself with people you can talk to.
Bro i feel that athleate on so many levels i would never wish it on my enemy too injury is the worst pain for a man who was going somewhere great and was recognised in his field.
Remains of me back 2012 still self harm myself lot am 26 but be mentally stable and mentally abused by my parents and step parents too 😢
U men are very brave to talk about that ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I screwed up everyone’s life. I remember all the numerous mistakes I made. I don’t want to do anything anymore. My apartment’s a shit hole. I am response for my friend’s death. I can’t do anything right, nor retain any information. It’s is extremely difficult to articulate my thoughts, and my career sucks. I have no friends or interest in exercising anymore. Screw it all to hell.
I get it. Nobody cares unless I screw their lives up. This makes my decision so much easier.
@@brett8706
How are you doing brother?
@@AryanDiablo I wish I could say better. I’m hanging in there. But, the person that was always there for me, my ‘Grandmom’ is gone. We laid her to rest. There is no one to live for now. I’m lonely with no partner. I’ve given up.
@@brett8706
I hear you big guy
The big problem with talking with his family about his mental healt is that when you feel Bad, you dont wanna affecte negatively the people you love. So it's a way to become even more lonely and you think that the best solution is to give up and stop your life, it would be the best option so you won't be a problem for your family and friends anymore
Powerful strong men. I hope they’re all doing ok 💪🏻
I suffered from depression and mental illness in college. As a result, I tried to kill myself countless times. I would not recommend making the same choice, because I have to live with lasting damage to my body. And the loneliness is still present 😊
That sounds so very sad. I hope life can get better for you.
I dont know what 'life' means. I just came across this vid while i was looking for eays to attempt suicide. Life is shit. I feel like my parents gave birth to save their future income. No friends , no meaning in life , what should i do. Im sitting here writing this and i cant control my tears
2:08 yes that voice "this has to happen now" is the best way to describe it. It's so weird that the brain does that regardless how good things are going at that moment.
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏.
I’m going through this now
What’s the point of life
When I attempted to take my own life my mum showed zero compassion and called me pathetic & selfish
2020 has perhaps bought into focus more and more about just how serious the issue of mental health is. Of course, this is nothing new, we have been aware if it for some time. But we are living in a time unprecedented in many of our lifetimes and it has bought it more to people’s attention. I’ve seen people in work who’s personality has changed. They seem to be walking around with the weight of the world on their shoulders. If there is anything good to come out of this pandemic, it may be that we finally recognise mental health as the serious problem it is...and indeed has been for a long time. The number 1 killer for men in the UK under the age of 50 is suicide. Just let that sink in.
Thanks for sharing the message. I will ask for more help.
You my friend are super awesome. Let's gooooo! PS - why do so many people think it's okay to get a fitness coach for physical training and health, yet can hold back finding a mental fitness coach/therapist for mental health? Go for it - and you will be unstoppable!
i can't do this anymore. I'm at a breaking point.
Let’s talk
Same.
Suicide takes courage, to face death on complete awareness and actually going through with it, requires courage
As someone who was bullied too, this hits very close to home....................You spend your entire life thinking that your going to be the same and everything isn't going to change, then something hits you and you feel completely helpless ................To the bullies out there, who get off on demeaning, belittling and ostracising someone for fun, you may be done with the past but the past ain't done with you...............To the people that have been bullied, walked on and treated like shit, it only takes one event in your life for you to realise your worth..........
Don't let insignificant imbeciles words mark you for the rest of your life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks man.
Good message
I’ll be real, a man committing suicide is a bitch thing to do 🤷♂️ where is the masculine energy at? It doesn’t matter how hard things get things will always get better, if you’re a man taking the easy way out then what were you born as a man for? Some people have much bigger problems than you but you just resort to the easy way out and want my respect, no chance. I just made a video on all this and went in deep check it out stay blessed 🙏
@@HarmzConsciouswhy are you spamming this shit on every comment you stupid brain dead chogi? You clearly haven’t got a clue what you’re talking about so fuck off
Depression when it gets severe is unimaginably bad, it’s scary, very scary, things don’t make sense, you can’t think clearly and you lose hope. Some have bad insomnia where they can’t sleep which makes things worse. I’m in a very bad place now, unemployment for a very very long time, have ocd and many issues, I’m barely holding on. I admitted myself to hospital at the end of January to a ward, was there 3 weeks and I slept poorly in there too and felt agitated so left and haven’t felt myself since. My mental health has been getting worse for a couple of years now. I’m 49 and so very tired of the struggle, I don’t know where to turn now. If rather lose an arm or a leg if it meant not feeling like this ever again. If there is a god then please help me, please as I can’t seem to find any peace of mind. I need to be able to sleep again too, and not lying there for hours all through the night
I won't comment about there being a god or not - but there are other people in this world who understand you. These medical systems - most of them are just shit. So what that means is we keep fighting to find a doctor or a therapist or some professional who can help us find ways to cope and keep on living. I've seen over a dozen therapists through my life - I've found maybe only 2 who were good. (And one of those, I'm getting help from now.) It is a statistical probability that we have to go through I'd guess half a dozen professionals until we find the right one - or we get lucky. Keep fighting until you find one who will help you get your sleep (which is SO important for mental wellness) and guide you to learning how to make life liveable for yourself. Trust me, someone is "out there" for you
@ thanks
I'm Schizophrenic was abused as a child, been depressed all my life, committed suicide tonnes of times, stabbed myself (was seriously close to death) drank bleach, took ricin poison but didn't know to use lie so just drank a load of acetate and castor beans, sliced my wrists so many time yadda yadda but what I realised at the ripe old age of 35 was that the majority of my problems are my fault and in my control. Our demons are mostly of our own design. Bo hoo my life is shit, the past that is, it doesn't control my present. WILL POWER overcomes all that shit, making your life better by incremental improvements and when you start trying to make your life better you are no longer a victim and you realise that most of your problems are your own fault, because all us depressed and all us with mental health problems have extreme self destructive tendencies. Understand that and just try to be better, stop drinking, stop doing shit. It worked for me.
Unfortunately I'm finding out the hard way, that no one want's to hear it. Think I will seek therapy before it's too late. Getting close to it. Again...
I'm seriously thinking about its I have the tools to never wake up its never ending this isolation. Its my faith that's holding me back but that's wearing thin. I don't feel sad or cry just had enough of this world its not for me thanks.
I urge you to read Fully Human by Steve Biddulph. It may be helpful.
Same.
In a world dominated by social media, it's too easy to think that everyone's else's lifes are perfect. Everyday, we see celebrities who look like they live the best lives ever. None of us ever see how they are after a photo on instagram or before a red carpet interview. Being famous or being rich dosent mean anything. It dosent matter where you come from, your mental health can still dwindle at any point. No one ever goes out and is emotional at work because it isn't "professional". Even though, so many people are sad, anxious, alone, fearful, angry, depressed, confused, hurt and pained behind closed doors in their own homes. We just don't see it.
Don't let the feminists get you down. Be expressive with your emotions & realize your strengths & importance as a human being.
@MrWithnailJRjunior Humans are also rich, rare & valued. Every human is different, you cannot say all are one.
The feminazi is using the secret weapon of emotional intelligence to kick our man butts around. Females are graduating from college at a higher rate, living longer and staying the fuck out of prison. That emotionally intelligent man will be in that bedroom with your ex-wife before and after that divorce men.
this is exactly what feminists want, too. for men to be able to express their emotions and to be vulnerable
so they can demasculinize men fir their own benefit. Not for men's. we all know that.
@@xNujeL that's been happening for decades now. They want weak men but they want women to be strong. They don't want both.
I feel like I already died about 20 years ago, very unusual in this new body and spirit today. Some massive ego death where I never came back but someone new was born at-least or was always there
I'm half dead
@@BEACHDUDE71 good being authentic about it - I'm feeling better spirits today. I was on a nasty 4 days drinking bender, low vibrations and solid 9 hour sober sleep has that sun shining little warmer. Tried a interesting hour long mantra meditation group that's still resonating with me days later, did something, I want to try it again
I'm more angry than upset and sad.
To all of the comments who have talked about the idea of suicide/depression.
I’m no philosopher nor am I a therapist.
From the words of a 23 year old broke college student, you haves to find a way to be happy. You have to find a way no matter what. It took me an uncomfortable amount of time to figure out how, but I did. I did it my way. If by god, you can’t find a way to be happy by exhausting/using all of your god given resources, then I wish you Godspeed. Find peace, solace, and love in what you do next.
Thank you for this video
been struggling financially and mentally.i am giving up.this suicidal thought is winning over me.felt like ending my life soon.hope someone will help and save one life
You are not alone, half of all single men in India feel like that.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me he was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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@@shreyakumarisingh2427 really? I struggle so much in life. What is the point all of this living? Always stress, getting old and alone.
@@m3kbeatz Doomsday is near. All ending up single lonely. You are not alone. Man up and live till the heart beats.
@@shreyakumarisingh2427 i just cannot man up. It doesn't work like that. I have health problems too. Are u alone? Will u be alone whole life? Wait when u get older and alone. When i was in my 20 and 30 i was thinking like u.
It's OK not to be OK. Talk to someone. ❤
Your pain saddens me, the fact that you have pulled through gives hope and courage. Do not give up.
The last thing I had to cling on was my girlfriend, but she left me. I don’t know what to live for anymore.
I know this feeling all to well. It’s been over a year and the only time I felt value in this world was with her. Although I am ok without her because time healed that, I still struggle with my sense of purpose. I’m not particularly good at anything and I don’t really have any idea of what I want to do. I know that finding oneself would dramatically change the way I feel about my life. But the more I try to find it it seems the farther it pushes away from me.
@M Gr256 What about his father? What about his male family members, friends or colleagues? It's so fucking unfair to expect ONE person to fix him and demonize her if she can't do it anymore.
Not to mention using it as further fuel for your already existing hatred of women. Go to hell.
@NightWolf It must be hard living with so much hate inside you.
@NightWolf Lol, the bitter delusional one who's generalizing half the worlds population tells other people they're in denial. Thanks for that I needed a wee laugh today.
@NightWolf Lol WHAT FACTS? Why are there so many nut jobs on the internet preaching "facts over feelings" while offering no valid statistics or proven arguments themselves? Your twisted personal views of women are not facts.
Ive tried a few times in my life but it doesnt make me sad it just makes me feel like i should've been braver about it. Negative i know, but my life has been extreme to say the least.