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Even as a woman, the way you described a simp as someone who puts energy into something that doesn’t give energy back hits hard. Cause it should really be approach to all of life - putting energy into friends, hobbies, education, thought that brings you energy back. It doesn’t apply to just romantic relationships
Exactly, doing that creates a positive feedback loop in turn increasing your competence in that thing, increasing the amount of energy given back for your effort. Always go where you're wanted
I used to think of things as, 'what can I get from this'. But then I switched it up to, 'I do what I want' and that made me feel a lot more mentally at peace (of course as long as it doesn't harm others).
I agree with this, both on a relationship level and life in general, but I will add that some dudes overshoot this mentality into waiting for way too massive of a green light that a girl's interested. At the end of the day, *somebody* has to be the one to initiate interest and if the girl catches your eye then you might as well be the one to kick it off and see where it leads. And beyond that, there has to be some degree of you taking the lead towards what you want with her - all you can do is listen to your gut regarding whether she's responding to it or not.
It’s one of the few times when you feel like the world isn’t fair but then you realize that it’s always been like that so it’s easier to focus on yourself and maybe you will meet her in the way. But it’s a 1000 % true fact that never ever chase a woman.
Don't put energy into things that don't give you energy back is so strong! Love it
will definitely take this with me
none of them do bro that’s the problem
And so we must ask ourselves truthfully, are we the type of man that women want to date? If not, how do we become that?
I’m sure if you follow basic advice like going to the gym and building an attractive physique , working on social skills, becoming independent where if someone leaves you, it doesn’t hurt you financially or you lose your home, also putting yourself out there you can bring some attention to you
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@@StephenVTran "just become top 20% bro" theory😂, problem is the market will keep skewing and women keep raising their standards and requirements for a man, so that's a bad solution
If so then the problem is not women, look elsewhere brother, maybe inward
Better to attract than pursue; the trick is needing to figure out what is attractive.
You seem happy, and it’s great to see.
No man pursuing is different from chasing. in life you need to pursue the things you really wanted not just in women but also in career goals, money, etc.. before you pursue a thing you make sure if it's worth it to get that thing. chasing is different its like the things you wanted is running away from you when you get closer.
I've watched videos aimed at women, and those advise women to let men pursue. It's really confusing.
You’re definitely not wrong about detachment from outcomes. For me, it isn’t just about detachment from romantic outcomes, but detachment from all outcomes. I feel so free now because of this mindset. My interactions with all people are much better because of it, women especially.
It’s crazy that I treat girls who are attracted to me like how the girls I chased treated me. Its definitely better to be present and involved with the potential relationships around you. I like that you generalized it to all opportunities. Anyway I see you out here melding energy and determination. Cheers
I have entered a new phase; Acquire wealth, disregard women.
Too many young men get the whole game of life wrong! - they Chase women aggressively* and neglect the fundamentals of what makes a men useful and attractive.
Take a few years to build your resources (wealth, personality, social status, happiness and health). You might start off doing these things just with the extrinsic motivation of wanting to attract women but you would eventually fall in love with your progression.
Not to say that you can’t date and pursue women, but you should never let that desire consume you.
I wouldn’t completely disregard women, I’d keep myself open to meeting a good one. You don’t want to get old and look back realizing you let a couple good women go. Find one that will help you achieve your goals, disregard the rest
The timing of this video is spot on. I was experiencing what you said with putting energy into people who aren't acknowledging you and needed this reminder. Thanks for your work
The dopamine hit of your favorite TH-camr dropping 3 videos in 2 weeks. Bruh. 6 minute break from coding before getting back to work
Its cliche but its true When i put a lot of my energy into chasing women it gets harder to actually get women, but when i directed that same energy on myself not only did my business, work money and energy go up but i found more women just coming to me and not having to chase it. Its crazy but its true .. do the basics Exercise, sleep well eat well.
If a girl likes me it's an immediate red flag for me, I think why would a girl like me of all people? there must be something wrong with her. I know this stems from low self-esteem but it's true for me. I've never been able to invest in situations where the female was attracted to me in contrast to the usual. It's like how Woody Allen says in the beginning of Annie Hall "I wouldn't want to be part of a club that would want someone like me as their member".
This is great that you realize this. Now you know where to start from. Building self esteem is a lot of deep work on yourself and consistently doing things that make you like yourself. Ask yourself why don't you like yourself and be honest about it. All progress starts from being honest about it. And once you know start working on them but slowly and consistently. It's a journey. Also, have a lot of self acceptance and self compassion.
This is some hyperactive autism level of over analyzing situations
i agree with the idea of rewarding the ladies ( and people) that are interest in you. i found a wonderful lady who rewards me, and i reward her back. i accept her and she does the same for me.
shes a paid matrix actor
No disrespect at all but you need to get rid of that toxic mentality
Women will try to date up, Men will shoot for the best but settle for "anything" within their standards.
I don't have a gf atm but not bc nobody wants me. I just don't think that within my current options nothing is attractive to me medium to long term.
That's why we level up, so that what I naturally attract the one's I'm attracted to in the first place.
True!
The same principle applies if you’re a woman. Putting energy into an unavailable man is the worst shit in the world and has seriously negative consequences if you do it for too long. Better to improve yourself and respect yourself first and not think about relationships. At some point someone will turn up who is actually good for you. (that last part hasn’t clicked into place for me - yet).
The thing is even you are aware of that my ladies, you will still pursue towards an unavailable man, because only such man is attractive for women. The percentage of girls that look for someone who is there, doesn't seem to be a guy who seem have hundreds of options and love you no matter what is small. Such type is boring for you - you and I both know that, Danika. There is no arousing risk that if you don't put you there, you will loose him.
How do I know that? I treat girls in a certain way I don't like and believe me or not being this "bad guy", as I used to say is always top solution in order to gain interest: she thinks about me all the time and even chatting me over with her friends. On the other hand I know great guys, who are not ugly or sth btw and they break up with them, why? - lack of emotions, lack of this stupid rollercoaster that you llloooove be a part of it.
I will never understand such behaviour and your point of you but it works. Discussing that with my friends they can't believe me what I say and they stay as it was - I totally understand that 'cause it's illogical.
There are ready-to-go guys to be with, but you prefer me 😁
@@pazeros6424You’re RIGHT. Women will lie about this all the time but we know the truth. I don’t want to be a cold, hard man but women love it. I’m forced into the role, all I was before was a romantic and they HATED that.
Cope, most women love bad guys
Yep. Hot and cold is only attractive to those who have an unhealthy intimacy issue. I used to like the high of the flakiness until I realized it’s just me playing out toxic behaviors between my parents and I. Figure your stuff out and be mentally healthy, and you won’t chase those rollercoasters
It’s funny how all the available men and available women never come across each other. But unavailable women will meet available men, and vice versa.
Truely it is difficult to meet people who want a fulfilled life which consists of love, enjoyment, and company.
The majority of people including men and woman are completely brainwashed into watching reality TV shows, movies, reading books, and the influence of social media influencers, websites, videos. These all include manipulative ways to brainwash viewers into how they should approach aspects such as dating. All of these have brainwashed all you people into believing that ignoring messages or calls is a normal idea, which apparently means that you have a life and you feel like leaving them on delivered is the right thing to do, whereas it is actually just pathetic behaviour. Aspiring to achieve a certain type of man or woman in a relationship is also absolute cap. People mess about with with other people way too much and it is actually such a joke to even know that human beings have a life for such a short period of time on this earth are doing such things. We all have a one in 400 trillion chance of being alive and people still want to mess about in this minuscule period of life that we have left to breathe. Keep in mind we are only young for such a short period of time and this is when people usually want to make a family and enjoy their life, which should carry on throughout older years.
Honestly, I’m 21 years old, and I have never come across anyone who takes life seriously. I have never met a person who has the true caring nature for other humans and truly wants the best for them. It seems almost impossible to meet someone like this because of the influence of the above listed, and the fact that people in general are twitchy robots with an attention span of a goldfish. So in my opinion, if you feel like you are in the same boat, I believe you should just focus on yourself and be who you are, and hopefully in the future, you may attract someone who has a similar energy to you. Just like Captain Sinbad said in this video if you put your energy into other people and you’re not receiving the same energy back, cut them off straight away and move on with your life. That person does not give a fuck about you, and they clearly do not appreciate the presence and company of another human being in their life. Funnily enough, people complain that they have no one in their life yet they go leading on people and getting nowhere in the end.
It is honestly better to be alone rather than with people who put no energy into you. Until someone actually shows interest into you and wants to be with you. You will notice this as they will text you fast and they will not delay any responses, they will make time to meet you. People who care and have interest for other people will always make time for them and won’t bullshit you around.
I agree with most of this and have experienced the last part! I asked out a girl in college once. She said "she doesn't see me that way" and I was devastated. I had been into her for 2 years before I actually found the courage to ask.
I was obese in college. But after college I started lifting and did intermittent fasting, got fitter. I am still around 100kg 6'2" but it's more muscle and less fat now.
I met this girl again recently and she said "I should've said yes", and we were flirting the whole time.
congrats bhai!!!!
My dream is to make all the girls regret rejecting me.
That's a really shallow belief right there, accept that you were not even close to your potential when you asked them out so should they have said yes to just any random guy !
Thanks for the shoutout, Nikhil! Has been a pleasure working with you & the team, and I highly suggest the program to anyone who wants to take TH-cam seriously :)
Exactly the message I needed to hear. Thank you
Love this type of content! Short, sweet and hits hard to the point! John from Bulldog Mindset is an amazing addition to the video and would love to see more collabs or behind the scenes with both of you together!
Incredible cameo! Awesome guys.
the intro to your videos are a crazy hook. the songs that you use are just mad good. would love to take a peek at your playlist g. awesome videos and even better value, thanks captain.
This video needs more views, and more young men need to see this. Including myself when I was in my 20's. It shouldn't be hard for someone to be into you, and the one(s) that does you won't have to fight to prove anything to them.💯
Build yourself and you will always have lots of options. Its simple. Go hit gym, eat healthy, build your career, play a sport, have a hobby, read books. If you do all of that, Who really has time to waste on someone who doest deserve it. 😎
I truly needed to hear this Captain! I'm in my first year of engineering now and you helped me realize that I need to invest my energy into things that will give me exponential return like updating my skills, building an amazing physique, cultivating detachment and a focused mind. If a girl comes along the way, then amazing. If not, then oh well!
been watching since 2019. Your videos talk about topics and ideas that don't feel recycled which I really enjoy, they are original and feel like any age of man can enjoy, absorb and apply.
As a fellow south Asian who got brainwashed by Bollywood movies when I was young thanks for the video Nikhil - been following you since early days keep it up, future looks bright 💪
south asian??? really??
@@tusharsharma8952Even I got confused haha
Say 'Indian' not the cope term south asian
@@tusharsharma8952😂😂😂
I did not expect a John Sonmez and Captain Sinbad collab! Definitely pleased to see it😁💪
More of this Video format. It's been a while since I heard your Outro speech which is motivating and have always been a big part of the channel. it's a beautiful summary of the vid.
Fitness, social skills and finances are the key to this gentleman. Don’t over complicate it
Fantastic video brother - once you get to a certain stage in your development, you still might not be able to get the exact woman you want… you can peruse and supplicate and MAYBE “win her over”, but she still won’t value you nearly as much as a woman who had genuine desire for you from the start. Well done
This last line needs to be emphasized
You have no idea how much I needed this. Thank you.
love the shorter, story-style format 🔥
Short, quick vid, but SO DENSE WITH INFORMATION. I watch every video, but this one has me taking notes✍️✍️
You're doing great with these vids bro.
You don't need options for detachment. That's the players game and it's the lite version aka shallow. Even purpose being a few steps above that works but isn't it either. It's like self actualizing and having all your shit together and in the process of getting together plus being SOOOO into yourself and just learning, reading, like everything...that SHE is privileged to be in your abundance and you bring/brining her into it is leadership
that's a solid video man no bullshit was said here. I was expecting the usual go after her and do your best and try again and again rhetoric that disney taught us (and is a terible mistake ). But you talked about momentum, attraction, real life and the importance of flow and energy good job
Awesome video - needed this. also.... the best intros in the game!
I Just needed to hear this thank you
You have made a goood transformation down the life man ! Appreciate that ❤
No woman ever wanted me. A I did “self improve” I don’t believe in that bs anymore
I love this title. Had to click it. Comes accross as genuine and better than click bait or cliffhanger. Wonder if anyone else has a different opinion.
Current title at time of writing. If changed: "pay attention to the women who want you"
Choose a women who chooses you.
bro if this guy thinks he's not attractive to women, it's over for me
You guys look the same lol, just get off TH-cam and go talk to some women.
Same
As a woman, this is unexpectedly and immensely helpful. It goes both ways
Honestly this advice is probably even more helpful to women. As much as we bag on men for being simps, damn near every woman I know is putting all her time and energy into pursuing a guy that could give two shits about her and only sees her as an easy lay.
@@JarinXenobecause she's going for Chad who just sees her as an easy lay but she rejected plenty of good guys before him. So in a nutshell they brought this on themselves.
@@aarrynz9721 Yes that and most women grossly overestimate their own value on the sexual marketplace. They go for Chad because they actually think that they are on his level, they are not.
That average nice guy she wont give the time of day to is actually the guy that is on her level. But women can't seem to understand that men will happily sleep with women that they don't want to get into relationships with so women assume that if she can sleep with Chad that means she qualifies for a relationship with him.
@@JarinXeno preach yes 💯
I feel like every man really knows this. So why do many not follow the advice already? Because there's a painful gap you haven't mentioned between chasing women and finding the ones who are into you: a gap where nothing's going to happen with women until you level up. Pushing through that to the other side is the real work.
thankyou . needed this
Most of the girls that compliments me or tries to get with me are the ones I am not attracted to, I get DM's from them all the time. And the ones I am attracted to really acts like I don't even exist in the room, but some of them surely are attracted to me. I have found that out after asking my crush out, I have been crushing on her since 9th grade, but she said she'd been crushing on me since 5th grade, isn't that insane?😅 till 9th grade I didn't even know she existed. I asked her out and told her I had a crush on her after school, after 10th grade, in summer holidays. If I hadn't asked, she would have never either. She'd been crushing on me for 5 years but never even tried to hold a conversation till 10th grade. She is shy, like really shy, but she's is really the sweetest person I have ever met, it's been 2 years since we officially started a relationship. And I'm happy than ever. She, also told me that a few other attractive girls found me attractive too but never cared much. The girls I thought are not attracted to me are actually attracted to me. So guys, don't forget to shoot your shot!
You'll never know for sure if someone is attracted to you or not, not until you shoot your shot.
Great to see a collab with Bulldog Mindset!
Great video brother ! And I’ve been following your channel from its early days and your progress has been great and very inspiring ! Next up 1 M followers ! Wishing you the best !!
Detachment is something I teach as well, in every aspect of life. It is truly the most empowering thing when you are no longer attached to an outcome of any situation. Pursue greatness, the best version of you, and you will attract the right ones who like you!
Bro you have inspired me today. I wasn’t gonna hit the gym today but I’m omw now after listening to this! I don’t wanna fail my myself by wasting my potential.💪🏼
Good luck to you Sir! Maybe it's different in different countries, I dunno, but I think over here in England charisma beats conventionally desirable body shapes
Pursuit the easy stuff that actually makes your life better,
Not the easy stuff that makes your life harder or the “good” stuff that makes life hard.
great video. thank you
💪Great message brother
John Sonmez and Rom Wills! Let's goo!!! Youre lucky to meet John
I understand what you mean. Its so annoying and exhausting that we often get so little in return when we give our everything for a woman. We have to make sure we do everything right or check the right boxes, because even what we consider insignificant and trivial would be enough to inconvenience many women today. Its because most men give attention so freely to anyone they come across, they put a specific demographic of women on a pedestal compared to others. Its supply and demand. When people know they are high in demand, they will subconsciously act like they can walk all over you without any consequences.
we dont chase potential friends who treat us like this, most people at least, imagine how obviously bad for you that'd be. you know its silly
with romantic relations, we should treat it similarly. maybe ask yourself if i was looking for a friend and they treated me like this how would i feel? or if they treated a friend like this how would i think about it? these questions may help build some more detachment
bro you're looking amazing! well done!
Momentum is everything ❤
I gave two years, thousands of dollars, moved 400 miles for a woman that dumped me 11 times. I poured so much into the relationship and took care of her in every way I could, but she was always so quick to freeze me out, scream at me, or throw me away. I'd fight to get her back until she made it clear that wouldn't work, so when I would turn to leave, she'd beg me to return and say things like "I don't know how we got to this point."
When things were good they were GREAT, but I never knew when that would shift so I never lived openly or honestly with her because I just couldn't risk losing whatever little peace I got with her. And when this would come up, she always blamed me and told me it was my fault for not "manning up" to her.
My eyes are opening to the fact that what I experienced wasn't just a roller coaster, but was actual abuse, and I've been trying to figure out how to move forward. This video really helped, because it reminded me of what I was doing and where I was emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially before I met her, and THAT is the man I need to be again!
Was just talking to my brother about feeling unattractive to women last night, and then this popped up. Freaky circumstance...but helpful insight!
Just subbed, I think this is one of the healthiest takes I’ve heard in awhile. Is freshing
My main man. Been waiting for another video drop!
Awesome video man love it
Haven't been watching YT as much recently but good to see this vid since it's been awhile. Always feels like an wise man giving advice haha
Great video so many truths here
The truth bro, the absolute truth 😊
Such a well thought video
momentum is key.
thank you so much bro
Aye aye Captain
well this definitely gave energy back!
Every man out there in thw dating world should watch this.
Loving the cinematics and the laid back talk 😊
I don’t even comment on videos but man your content is just too good, this is the type of valuable content that betters people 👏
Wow the highlight of this video is at 3:40 to 4:01 Well done, Captain Sinbad well done!!
Step 2: pay attention to the ones that want you
Step 1: be attractive
dope intro as usual
Bro i love and appreciate you Nikhil🤝❤️
As a happily married man on 17 years I can tell you there a ton of truth in this video. 🔥
That dude passing by in the cart chiming in that your mate is huge 😂What a great character
upload more often man i love ur videosss
Dang bro honestly needed this video. my gf (on and off 4 years) puts me last on her priority list and its getting really old. Some weeks she's all over me and some she barely shows any affection. just this weekend it was my birthday, we had breakfast and then she dipped out. then the whole day just taking like 2 hours to respond to every text. so today I decided to just leave her on read instead of stressing out about it all day.
I feel that big time, my gf of 3 years would do that crap to me, hot and cold, hot and cold, some days lots of affection, many days absolutely no affection or effort whatsoever. Definitely was not a priority especially towards the end. That stuff hurts. Well we broke up a month ago.
@@cyclingtexas1670 good stuff man how are you feeling now? I been chatting with some different women lately and they’re all pretty interested in me it’s helping me get over my ex. Haven’t talked to her still didn’t even say happy Thanksgiving.
Great video captain❤
With my personal experiences yes you are true.. you shouldn't chase a woman.. if we put that energy in ourselves it creates different dimensions in our life where we will be more happy and have a fulfilling life...
Focusing on myself and developing what's within my control certainly has helped in this area as well, avoiding chasing and prioritizing "leveling up myself instead" 😊💪
I’m seeing a lot of guys in the comments here spout out the same old red pill Hamza nonsense of being a top tier man in order to attract a girlfriend. I think you’re all really overestimating the importance of having a jacked physique or huge income to make girls like you.
You guys don’t realize how much more important being fun to hang out with is. Being funny and able to carry a conversation is a true super power, especially now when so many people suck at it.
Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents.
I appreciate the positivity and the message you're trying to convey, but sometimes, things don't work out immediately or not at all. In the context of romantic relationships, one problem over the years is how dating is treated like a "game".
In general, some things really do take time. Sometimes putting the energy and effort to things or even to people turns out good in the long run (regardless of personal returns/gains we want to get). We are so bombarded by this "self-love" everywhere to the point of creating self-isolation mentality - this "focus on me" thing. Another downside I see is it seems we reduce our social relationships into mere "transactions" in a capitalistic sense. Somehow it creates impatience - if I don't see results from this thing I might as well dedicate my energy on me.
Everyone's different. For some people this can work. I am looking at the bigger picture of how society and social interactions evolved from different generations. And I'm looking at these kinds of ideas like yours trying to understand how it can affect people's sense of loneliness and isolation (Loneliness Social Epidemic in the US).
Cheers
What if you’ve given up on the person you have chased for a long time and then that’s when they come back and want you? Do let them in your life or do you stick to your original decision to drop them? I think this is something that’s rarely talked about in this discussion although it does happen!
this is so real please take this advice bro
As a man who's getting married soon, I can say this...
RAISE YOUR STANDARDS! the right woman will come who genuinely likes/wants you and they will blow your mind. Look for a QUALITY woman
Are mast re baba
Was that beach in the intro san Clemente? Looks beautiful
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Editing was very different than usually, but I really liked it🙌🏻
Go where you are wanted
You don't realize how easy it is until you meet a girl who is really attracted to you. I've been on dates with many girls (who I thought were into me) and the conversation stalled/I had to really make an effort to keep it going. Then I get stuck in my head and think I'm saying/doing something wrong.
On the other hand, there's been girls where everything just flows effortlessly and we just naturally play off each other. It's such a breath of fresh air. I no longer waste my time with the girls where my effort exceeds hers. All it takes is ONE girl fellas. Do not stress about this.
Being a legend in your own mind is basically the lobster chapter in 12 rules for life by J.Peterson
Best intros on YT
...the ad was in the ending...respect bro...respect ,,,,,
“Pay attention to the women who want you”
Very easy, I look at thin air all the time.
this video was goddaam eye opener for me
Wow we stumbled on Rom at the same time. i love it