Pokimane first time sharing a dating story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ค. 2021
- I'm shy so I don't usually share stories like this...
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This channel was created so I could upload whatever the heck I want without the pressure of it being on my "main channel" monkaS, if you know me then hey, if you don't then welcome! My name's Imane, but you can call me Poki/Pokimane :) I'm a creator and streamer who plays Fortnite, Minecraft, and League of Legends.
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POv: You're a Fornite kid that missed the chance to be Poki's spoiled stepson cuz you're dad wasn't upfront about ur existence T-T
I think if he was upfront it wouldn't have even gotten that far
the harsh true lol
sad but true. that's not the kind of person she's looking for
@@HappyBeeGaming he never made it to anything
@@msbabycakes pretty sure she wants someone perfect with no flaws they way she seems
As a divorced father, I was always VERY upfront about my ex and my kids. I feel my kids are such an important part of my life, it’s a huge part of me. About what you said: that being upfront shrinks my dating pool… that’s exactly why I was upfront about it. I didn’t want to date anyone who wasn’t okay with it, and I wasn’t about to trick someone into falling for me and then spring my kids on them when they were hooked. Luckily, I found an amazing woman who loves me for everything I am and I couldn’t be happier.
shes too young to understand LMAO
@@roguethemachine3928 what? That made absolutely no sense
👏🏽💕 Good advice!
@@roguethemachine3928 what do you mean? some people are not ready for children, and ideally want their own. it's the guy's fault for not being upfront about it, especially that honesty is mandatory.
personally, if i were a single father, informing them of the existence of my child would be the first priority. if they can't love my children, then i can't love them. your kids come first, right?
@@roguethemachine3928 She's too young to understand that someone seemingly wants to keep it lowkey or even hidden that he's got kids? Yeah, no. If you've got kids, especially 50% custody, then you def should be open with people who you're considering dating. Just cause you're cool with having kids, doesn't mean a potential partner is too.
Poki: An hour and a half into dinner and he starts talking about his wife and two k...
Me: (removes earphones)
Lmfaooooo
🤣😂!!
same i was listening to the story while doing my homework and i hear that and i just look up and i am like wut
thankfully its EX wife and not regular wife, if it was his wife wife then you just run
Legit cringed and sunk when I heard that 😂
Interesting how you'd be in your 20s and you could either be married and have kids or have very little dating experience at all
And this guy falls under the first 2
jeez, Im 26 and never even dated anyone
@@msbabycakes I’m 14 but going through the same thing
@@maxim_beatbox nigga you 14 it's fine
@@maxim_beatbox Lmao, you still a kid going through puberty
Imagine your dad brings home Pokimane as your stepmom 😂😂😂
Then I'm definitely getting stuck in the dryer
@@purplegion Shit, ill be the dryer if she wants too
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i will play games 😋😋
PH gon email me the next day
He wasn't hiding his kids from Poki, he was hiding Poki from his kids.
Ripppp
dam what a throwback reference
@@XMonasyX haha
lmao so true
Drake moment😭
Hey, big of you for telling him where he went wrong. Most people just block and leave.
hey buck fancy seeing you here 🤭 i liked your comment before i noticed it was you lulw
@@onyi a true man of culture in Pokimane's comment section.
Except he didn't go wrong. Where is it written that he should tell her within the first hour of them meeting that he has two kids? I mean, he told her during their first date, how much earlier should he have told her? Poki just doesn't want to date a guy with a kid, which is fine, nothing wrong with that, but be honest with yourself. Don't lie and give some BS reason like ''Aw, it took too long for him to tell me he had an ex-wife and kids.''
@@handzar6402 it's just naturally appropriate to tell someone you're dating if you have kids. It's a deal breaker to most people and your children are your first priority
@@dicacious9763 He did tell her, though....
Ok but I love how the dating app is literally a sweet- “baklava” 😭😭😭
Someone is the chat said “FeelsDankMan ‘buck lava’” and that made me laugh
@@mrwetframe 😭😭😭
First thing in my mind was this full sweater like called "Backlava. I think this is what bank robbers normally wear. Don't quote me on that.
@@themanidentifiedasdinosaur8138 thats a balaclava
It's food just so you know
I'm a single dad with 2 kids but 38.
And I can relate to your point of view. They are mentioned in my Bio and yes, it is minimizing your dating pool but it's fair and straight and it will be on the table soon enough.
You are really a smart person, seeming genuinely "bubbly" (at first, I thought a bit to much tbh but after several videos, it shows that's you and not really pussing the trait).
That was interesting, I strangely relating to the story even if I'm more on the other side of the story.
Keep on doing what you do.
Salutations de Paris, toujours très sympa de voir tes vidéos.
Pokimane: he looks like a nice guy
me: nice
5 min minutes later
Pokimane: he has two kids
Me: what did he say?
LOLOL
abort abort
@@msbabycakes not the right choice of words😨
@@akshatjajoo LMAOO 😂😂
@@akshatjajoo She even said 'abort' exactly twice...
I think you handled that perfectly
LMFAO my guy was like “damn I couldn’t tell her about forex”
LOL or a course
Poki: telling that she doesn’t have dating experience
Chat simps: date me pls
You mean tier 3's there buckaroo
are we seeing the same chat ?
Lol
*that one guy in chat
there, fixed it for you
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i'm glad she feels more comfortable to openly share personal information like this. poki's in her 20s and should be having the time of her life, doing whatever she wants. (not that it's my place to judge) but i'm happy for her
isn't she doing what she wants?
As soon as she said he texted her good-morning/goodnight I knew it was over for him.
Whyy
i love when men do that NOOOOO. maybe not in the first few days but after that i feel like he cares about me a lot :)
@@Lana.a_ Exactly, you said it yourself. Is not a bad thing per se, but given they handy even met in person before so it becomes kind of weird. Even then, you have to have seen a connection for you to start sending those messages; otherwise you seem too needy and weird.
@@locochoify I guess it depends on the age as well. I’m in my early 20s and this is normal behavior LMAO at least for me
truth be told women despise unnecessary simping
"He's 29"
"That's old af"
"No it's not"
It because you're not into twelve year olds, so the whole chat is out of luck
Facts
women are always into dudes a little older than them. Its just nature
People forget she’s literally 25. A 29 y-o is not that old for her age. My parents are 4 years apart. Chat just full of kids crying lmao
I feel like she said that just to make it clear that chat had no chance lol
@@matchalatte73 Well yea let’s be clear 95% of people watching her streams aren’t watching for the actual content or her personality or anything besides the fact that they find her attractive
Not mentioning that he has kids tell me that he’s not as involved in their lives as he would like to lead on.
My cousin is a single dad of 3 and has no problem getting dates cause he’s proud of his kids and isn’t afraid to post about them on social media or dating apps.
I’ve always heard that people hated her but Poki seems to have a good head on her shoulders.
People hate people with good boundaries and self respect because they can’t use them. *drops mic*
Before dating my girlfriend, while we were talking, the first day she told me about her daughter. She was upfront and honest about her situation, and I went with it. The reason why I was in love it was because she wasn’t afraid of loving her daughter, and stating that she was her priority. I knew that she was real, what she was looking for, and we went forward. Best decision I ever made! I totally see where you’re coming from though poki; honesty is the best policy for the sake of both parties.
That is so sweet and how thing should be
I loved the way she handles the offputting message ❤
“Ex wife and 2 kids” my face changed real quick 🙂😧🤣
I was defending the dude all the way until you said "and then he told me about his ex wife and 2 kids" BRUH. Yes, it's not his fault it didnt work out. But it's 100% something you NEED to say way earlier. While it makes your dating pool "smaller" it also sorts out people like you (not like you're bad or sth but you're just not in a place in your life where you wanna date a Dad which is fine). He wasted both of your times by not mentioning it earlier. Your time as you thought he was a solid attractive dude that could work out but eventually won't cause he's a dad and his cause he looked at a cute girl got his hopes up only to then get shut down cause she isn't interested in dating a dad. Just unnecessary from him.
I think the same would apply to men as well if they were told by a girl "oh Im a single mom with 2 kids btw"
@@msbabycakes Yeah obv!
How much earlier? The first second they meet? He told her on the first date for Christ's sake....Man, you simps outta control.
@@handzar6402 He says on a throwaway acc to get reactions.
@@SpicySeb6066 This is my real account, simp. Don't address the actual point or anything..
18:17 Spitting straight facts!!
Her response made me say FACTS out loud lmao.
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I was gonna defend the dude saying like he just knows what he wants... and everything else... and then he drop the kids and ex wife bomb! That is something you have to say upfront...
I feel the same way. Obviously I wasn't there to know the full extent of the conversation but when Poki is saying they're talking about EVERYTHING including relationship expectations, not mentioning having kids is definitely trying to hide it at that point
That's low key the shit you put in bio
Nah, for my personal values, I wouldn’t want to date someone who doesn’t prioritize their kids. And if they can talk about their life without mentioning their kids, their kids aren’t that much of a priority.
But what if that guy actually loves his children a lot but might be afraid to tell it sooner because he thought that for the other person (not for him) it can be a put off? A person can be afraid and have the same amount of love for someone at the same time.
@@prakritishobha6734 I mean if you loved your child you should not be afraid to say them to your date
@@favepiscis7684 yeah but you know not everyone can be like that, if i would have been in his position i would have actually acted the same even though i may love my children a lot and they might be my priority.
@@prakritishobha6734 but I agree with Poki, I would never want to date someone who was turned off by me having kids. Not saying for everyone but for me if I had them there would be no part of my life that wasn't affected by them and I would expect the same if my partner had kids. If I had kids it would never even be an option to date someone who didn't like them or want to eventually be around them.
@@prakritishobha6734 dude if you wouldnt mention your kids from the start you're embarrassed by them and you wouldnt be afraid of it being off putting if you mentioned them in your bio
I respect her for responding back to him and being honest. Ik not to be pushy and be respectful of their space when meeting a someone, or even when dating or married, but please don’t just ghost ppl. Ghost others if they’re just straight disrespectful or trash human beings, or block em, but if u lost interest in a person, tell them! I get that it’s not meant to be, but when I get ghosted I feel like I ain’t worth shit for a while. Confrontation is scary at times, but you’re doing the other person a solid by being honest to them instead of ghosting them
If you get ghosted, they are just piece of shit ppl, just move on.
she mentioned the push and pull thing and i got flashbacks of etika talking about the same thing.. that man has really thaught me a lot no lie
I actually remember watching that exact video wtf. Definitely a tried and true method
That is what we need, more honesty and transparency. How else can you learn to trust or love a person if they feel the need to tip toe around subjects in order to show off some kind of imaginary persona? Be real, be transparent and don’t hide anything, hiding things misleads yourself into the wrong person and misleads the other person to believe they might like someone that isn’t that individual. If you want to find the right person for yourself, be honest with every person you come in contact with until you eventually run into the one that actually vibes with you in a very real sense. That is how you find the one that loves every part of you and vise versa. Otherwise you are falling in love with something that is simply a figment of your imagination...
Yeah, honestly it's not that I don't like the idea of having kids or dating someone who has, but I do believe that I'm still too young to handle that responsibility at this point in life. And I also think he was too young to have an ex wife and two kids if I'm honest. So I completely understand Pokimane, and I would've done the same in her position. Like, I'm still in my 20's I don't know how to handle dating a girl with children xD. Specially like she said, he didn't seem to prioritize them enough to be upfront about them, but said everything about his business. And yeah, he does hide that fact xD.
doesn't anyone else think it's odd that he had gotten divorced that early in life? + the double down with the "I'm not hiding them" seems like a half assed attempt to patch up a fuck up. All the pieces just add up to a big red flag
@@95mustafa Yeah, the "I'm not hiding them" made me think he was an a*hole; no one responds that defensively, unless what the other person said is true xD
Yeah, I agree
This is what I love streams and irl stories, we get to know this person moral/attitude and learn from it
That was a pog video. Also i fully agree with this statement at the end. Its rly nice that you tell these kinda personal things to chat. Its a nice thing to do. Says a lot about how much you care about us all:) take care poki. Hope you find love sooner rather then later. Im sure it will happen tho. Ur personality is rly nice.
A lot of people are timid when it comes to bringing up these types of things but I agree, transparency goes a very long way.
If you aren't open about it people think you're hiding the fact you have kids.
Unless your cool with being a step mom, help raise kids, and contend with the ex wife...
RUUUUUUNNNNNNN!!!
Edit*
Just realized that there's a significant chance that his 1st wife left him due to him prioritizing his business and career over his family.
OR maybe the dad left cause the mother did something bad??
Dangg, Poki throwing facts after facts after facts.
18:35 - 18:56
As someone who have divorced parents. Poki be spitting straight facts right there. I fucking hated that rich dude who my mom dated bcuz he didn't like kids. He clearly did not care for me whenever I was around him with my mom.
Boys pay attention, this is a lot of good info in general.
Haha sure
01:21 in the video and Twitch chat already killing it LMAO
This is awesome!
This vid taught me a lot
Being open and vulnerable to just one person alone is sorta daunting being that with multiple people is horrifying, glad you have confidence toto put yourself out there and good luck in your journeys!!
I appreciate your answer to that comment in chat at the end. It shows your genuinely mature values and understanding of things.
I feel the same way about dating apps. I downloaded tinder, got over 100 matches, got creepy people and uninstalled. I definitely feel like having a set connection before dating someone is what i need. I want to be friends with whoever im dating.
I was listening to Pokimane but I was watching her chat more than her. 🙂🙂
You went about it so well and I love that your roommates encouraged you to be super honest so he hopefully doesn't make the same mistake
the silence at 11:37 was a little bit too loud lmao
As a boomer: eventually cancelling plans becomes the best feeling. That freedom of just dropping everything to be real about your desire to sit on your ass. It's a beautiful thing.
who tf ask?
I've heard so, that's a joke from John Mulaney's special lol
I've only ever heard of Baklava in terms of food (first time hearing the word was from lore olympus).
This was super interesting to listen to this story. I appreciate how poki took the courage to speak about this considering the internet is... the internet. I liked how she explained why getting with someone who thinks their kids can be offputting to someone who you recently met is a turn-off. This was intersting to watch and I hope she shares more stories like this in the future. :)
SO many of the things you said are my exact thoughts. Thank you for sharing, now I know I'm not aloneee
Poki: *Talks about dating*
Simps: “She’s talking about me guys”
You can almost ask it as a half serious joke. “You’re way too good to be true. How many kids you got” 😂
First vid I ever watched of her as I’m not what people would consider a fan. Glad I did. She’s literally mentoring kids out here. Great example, lady 🤝 Cootos for this and I hope it ends up you keep having advice for them.
Good info in general. This is a story you can learn things about, plus the way she speaks is eloquent and considerate.
Thanks for sharing, and hope you find a comfortable way to have more positive dating experiences outside of the streaming scene.
I feel bad for anyone with kids and was in a previouse relationship/marriage. They know it is a vibe killer, and potentially hard to be upfront about it.
Thats why imo you should mention it in your bio for a dating app. It instantly filters out anyone who doesn't want that and it saves you time.
Nobody wants to be a step parent
Mhhhmmm straight facts at the end
Last sentence. BARS
The first 4 to 5 minutes were so relatable!
I also really appreciate how she was upfront with the guy, when I try to talk to girls at some point they suddenly stop talking, and I'd love to know why... Am I being too nosy? Am I not showing enough interest? Do I text too much? Too little? Its nice to get feedback from a girl
New doujin: "Pokimane is my step-mom!!!" xD
My god hearing Poki talk about the processes she went through on the dating app echoes my life for the past year on n off. Over analyzing, lazy profiles, am I being judgemental / vein?
You're awesome Poki. Love your sense of humor.
Informative perspective. Nice. Thanks!
Lmao I was typing a response to 14:11 about how he wanted you to get to know him first before saying he got kids, but I got an answer at 18:21
Logically, yeah, it reduces the reach of your dating pool if you're upfront about having kids, but in the end if you keep having people breaking it off when they find out...might as well be upfront to begin with lmao
Every now and then I come hear to hear this story because it's narrated so well..........
Hey we like those good morning messages 😂
nothing against people with kids but if it’s not immediately obvious that they have kids or they don’t tell you right away it’s sus tbh
Or maybe there is just fear.
Totally fine for her to think this way. I'm in my 30's and still working on getting past the idea dating someone with children.
I learned so much from this perspective I never would have gotten, thanks poki!
It's a relief to know I'm not the only one in their 20s who hardly has dating experience. Glad you shared your experience 🤗
LMAO I WAS NOT EXPECTING THAT PLOT TWIST-
It's so weird how much alike the way I think is & how poki says she thinks
It’s about being real. Woman and men are similar in how we communicate if we are being honest with each other. You will find just by talking to people and being open this will happen a lot to you.
5:40 the chat lol
I feel the same way as Iman about the texting a lot before meeting. Too RELATABLE
Poki: An hour and a half into dinner and he starts talking about his ex-wife and -
Me : Excuse me, *the f&*k did you just say?*
*ex-wife
@@synchronium24 oop yea thx, edited
Damn I was having similar thoughts to the person in chat at the end but she had a great response. She kinda right
12:20
Hey poki, you should upgrade your processor. core i9 or i7 LOL😂😂
5:40 look at chat 😅😂
My parents met on a dating app and after 6 months they where moved in and my mom was pregnant. They’ve been together for 16 years now and me and my little brother couldn’t have better parents:)
Your parents met in a dating app.... How old are you??????
Were dating apps even a thing 16 years ago??
i so badly wanna know what was the roomies talk was about the date
super mature and respectable take i loved listening to this!!!!!!!
5:34 me when someone from my school recognizes me at the gas station 😭😣😩
The only thing I want to say is that you are my favorite streamer and you inspire me too much to continue with my goals and you make me very happy when I watch your videos and streams
Simp
I think its perfectly normal to continue chatting until the day of the date, so that you can get to know the person you are meeting for the first time.
You want to try to see if you get serial killer vibes before the actual date lol, so you can then cancel if need be. Be respectful tho when cancelling and try to do it with advanced notice because the other person did make room in their schedule for that day(unless its a serious last minute red flag).
It's probably your lack of "dating experience" that gives you the "too eager" vibes.
It would have been a show of immaturity/lack of confidence/anxiety if he didn't message you before the actual date and would be your first red flag(warning). With that said, we don't fully know the exact frequency of the messages that were sent.
To be honest some guys don't even mention it until several dates later which I feel is another red flag. Waiting until the first date to mention it is normal because they first want to know if you're even worth sharing this information. They may find they don't like you and want to keep their information to themselves.
A kid is not an easy subject to bring up because there are people who think/know they don't want to be with someone who already has kids and don't even try to get to know a person. As you said it decreases their dating pool.
The more you step out of your comfort zone, the more you'll learn about yourself and learn what you like and don't like. It's great that you know you aren't ready to be in a relationship that involves children because it involves a lot more responsibility and maturity.
Anyway, just sharing a perspective you may or may not have already read/known about. Hope it helps you or anyone else reading.
Poki is on the roll bro!!!
I'm impressed how she handled the situation and also realized she is really mature.
Fun fact: 5 people can’t be first
shut up
@Jacks. ok JACKS ✋🏽 😭
@@freecoems sorry Ignacio 😘
@@barbergen2085 lol 😘😘
nice demon slayer pfp
man is 29 and have kids
chat : poggers whe can say pokimom
thanks for sharing poki . spot on!! ❤❤❤
Poki the step mom 😂😂😂😂
Dating is hard, but it's easier when one is being honest. I love my nephew to death and I put on my profile that I love him to death and I say while I'm not his father I am still so proud of every milestone he has. He is a big part of my life now and has lead me to the decision of wanting kids in the future. Maybe not right away but definitely some day.
my therapist helped me understand i do this thing a lot where i chase my tail and it sounds like maybe you're doin the same thing xD sometimes you just gotta let it rip
11:35 LMAO
Poki's comment at the end about the person potentially finding the kids off-putting is complete facts. Love it.
if anything my takeaway is that i love how poki is with her boundaries... if that had been me in the situation i jus know i wouldve been on 3 more dates bc i cant reject ppl lol
I feel this on a personal level cuz I'm also Moroccan goddamn
I was just listening to this while playing bedwars lol. Great story tho
Lol inb4 this guy sees this video, he'll take notes for his next date to mention that first hahaha
Poki: dated a guy for a few days
That guy who was secretly a simp: bish we livin life shling
Fun fact: *Baklava (باقلوا) is a Persian/Arabic/Greek word, and it's a layered pastry dessert made of filo pastry, filled with chopped nuts, and sweetened with syrup or honey... We Iranian people use this in our gatherings to serve our guests.. If you had a chance to try some, DON'T HESITATE!!!*
Do Americans not know what Baklava is? I thought people ate it everywhere
Correct
That is correct! As someone who is Turkish my mom makes it mainly when guest so come over :) its VERY GOOD
Interesting oponins and takes, thanks 👌
i love your analytical processes ....lol
i know im weird