LES GOH. Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:44 Understanding Charisma 09:17 Charlie’s Biggest Influences 13:17 Definition of Introvert & Extrovert 21:21 The Problem with Hustle Culture 29:50 Principles for Charismatic Communication 37:13 Charisma Lessons from Russell Brand 41:13 How to Overcome Shyness 48:36 How to Flirt with Women 59:32 How to Add Humour into a Conversation 1:07:59 Ben Shapiro & The Problem with Modern Debating 1:12:52 How Charlie Got His Whole Family to Take MDMA 1:23:57 Opportunities to Reprogram Yourself 1:41:54 Where to Find Charlie
Because nothing is as good as you can imagine it. No one is as beautiful as she is in your head. Nothing is as exciting as your fantasy. - Chuck Palahniuk, Asfixia
21:14 you need to learn how to use the tool but at a certain point, the tool will become less useful as you build bigger things... though it never harms to keep the tool around just on case you need it
Everyone has a blind spot so his this guest here. The logic he doesn’t get , doesn’t mean it is not said. When he talked about political figures he had pretty strong bias on them.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
I’ve always felt that way. Sure it’s practice, but damn it feels bad to lead anyone on. I tend to just be playful with all women. If I’m actually interested tho I’ll let them know it.
00:00 🏋 Charisma is like fitness; most people neglect it, but a small effort can make you stand out. 03:51 🧠 Charisma has various styles: high conviction (e.g., Conor McGregor), authentic (e.g., Joe Rogan), funny (e.g., Kevin Hart), energetic (e.g., Will Smith), and empathetic (e.g., Oprah Winfrey). 06:10 🔄 Changing yourself for charisma isn't self-betrayal; it's evolving to be the best version while retaining your essence. 08:30 💪 Personality is shaped by past experiences; evolving involves unlearning patterns from younger years. 11:45 📚 Books like "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" emphasize that confidence is earned through behavior, not an inherent birthright. 14:47 🔄 Introversion and extroversion are about where you get energy; it's fluid, influenced by both genes and experiences. 17:18 🔄 Unintended consequences: Pursuing constant socializing for charisma can create anxieties and new neuroses; true choice is essential. 19:13 🔄 Be cautious about dedicating yourself to certain pursuits in your early years (18 to 25), as they may become obstacles later. Consider the potential challenges of unwinding commitments. 21:48 🔄 Advantages in one phase of life can become obstacles in the next. Recognize when the strategies that brought you success need to be reevaluated and adapted for future growth. 23:13 🔄 The video discusses concerns about "hustle culture," emphasizing the importance of working effectively over working harder. Balancing life and avoiding burnout is crucial. 30:06 🤔 When initiating a conversation, set the vibe a level higher than necessary to be a conversational leader. Avoid literal responses to common questions and provide multiple hooks for the other person to connect with. 31:18 🔄 Instead of answering questions literally, offer responses that provide interesting hooks for the other person to connect with, creating more engaging and dynamic conversations. 34:04 🔄 Breaking away from implicit social norms in the workplace by injecting fun into interactions can foster human relationships, leading to professional success. 35:42 🔄 Charisma levels are not infinitely malleable, but anyone can considerably improve their charisma. Not everyone can transform drastically, but improvement is achievable. 37:21 💬 Russell Brand's charisma principles include treating everyone flirtatiously, using a push-pull dynamic in communication, and exhibiting unpredictability, suggesting authenticity. 38:57 💬 Russell Brand's unpredictability in responses adds authenticity, making him fascinating to listen to. The ability to switchbetween jokes and sincere, value-driven answers makes his communication style captivating. 39:25 🎭 Authenticity is crucial; some public figures may raise questions about their true selves if their stories always have the same punchline. 40:08 🤝 Russell Brand excels in authentic communication, maintaining curiosity and playfulness even in political or spiritual disagreements. 41:35 🦸♂ Overcoming shyness involves progressive exposure therapy; start by saying one extra sentence to lower the filter on what's acceptable to express. 43:28 🗣 Finish sentences with the same decibel level you started; practice deliberate conversational assertiveness for shy individuals. 45:20 🔄 Balancing deliberate skill-building with being in the flow ofconversation is crucial for growth in communication. 46:45 ⏰ Deliberate practice, similar to Tiger Woods rebuilding his swing, may involve stepping back initially to improve conversational skills. 48:41 💬 Principles for men communicating attractively to women: show interest, have genuine standards, and manage sexual tension. 54:16 🌐 In small talk, focus on playful world-building; engage in improvisational fantasy scenarios to create a fun and flirty vibe. 56:24 🚀 When discussing your job, speak to your values rather than just logistics; share what drives you and your life philosophy. 57:59 🌐 Most men go wrong by not engaging in conversation; they often disqualify themselves before speaking, missing opportunities for genuine connection. 58:55 🌐 Flirting with the world, being outgoing and friendly habitually, creates a powerful social presence that feels natural and engaging. 59:22 🤣 Adding humor to conversations involves having both a genuine answer and a playful response to common questions, providing a balance of authenticity and lightheartedness. 01:00:56 😄 An easy way to inject humor is by saying the opposite of what people expect, creating unexpected moments that induce laughter. 01:01:24 🎭 Prime yourself for humor by watching content from comedians you enjoy before social interactions, influencing your mindset and conversation style. 01:02:34 🤩 Tim Dillon is praised for his rapid and clever humor, showcasing the value of quick-wittedness in communication and comedy. 01:03:17 🎭 Improv comedy classes are recommended for those serious about developing humor, offering valuable skills in world-building, quick thinking, and comedic timing. 01:04:41 🗣 Effective communicators like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, and Bill Clinton excel in storytelling and creating a sense of safety for open conversation. 01:07:30 🌟 Kevin Hart's ability to command attention and lead conversations, even with a significant height difference, highlights his exceptional communication skills. 01:09:01 💬 In debates, using humor strategically, as seen in Ben Shapiro's tactics, can be powerful in discrediting opponents and winning social approval. 01:12:05 😄 Stephen Fry's ability to inject humor into debates can bridge gaps and humanize individuals with opposing views, fostering better understanding. 01:13:57 🌈 Psychedelic therapy, particularly with MDMA, facilitated significant positive changes in Charlie's life, leading to transformative family experiences and a sense of purpose. 01:17:28 🌌 Exploring the concept of psychedelic therapy is recommended, acknowledging it may not be suitable for everyone but emphasizing its potential for profound personal growth. 01:19:40 🔄 Early childhood experiences, especially in the family, shape one's understanding of concepts like love and power, forming lifelong "accents" in these areas. 01:20:22 🤝 Recognizing and respecting parental wisdom, even if they lack knowledge in modern technologies, is crucial for personal growth and avoiding the dismissal of valuable advice. 01:21:47 🔄 Life involves a continual process of self-discovery, where what serves you at one stage may become problematic later. The challenge is to navigate these changes and find a balance. 01:23:09 💔 Overcompensating to avoid past pains can lead to unhealthy behaviors, and the willingness to experience discomfort is essential for personal growth. 01:25:40 💰 Achieving financial and other goals may not provide lasting fulfillment; the mindset and thought patterns play a crucial role in one's happiness. 01:29:10 🤔 The pursuit of goals can become an endless cycle if not grounded in self-awareness, leading to perpetual dissatisfaction and the constant moving of goalposts. 01:31:55 🔄 Anticipatory beings, humans often find the most enjoyment in the anticipation of events, and dissatisfaction is inherent in our nature. 01:34:56 🔄 Unrealistic idealism is wired into human nature, and recognizing that the imagined satisfaction of an experience will always exceed the reality can lead to a more content life. 01:37:15 🔄 Pursuing external validation, such as charisma and social approval, may not significantly enhance one's subjective experience of life; the real joy often lies in appreciating the present moment and reality. 01:40:55 💡 The journey towards enlightenment involves navigating disappointment and frustration rather than achieving a state of perpetual satisfaction.
@@petestrouse7411 Chris is leagues above as an interviewer. In recent months, Rogan will take every guest off on the same irrelevant tangents, and rarely extract anything interesting or insightful from the guest.
@@georgelovell1 lol this is a prime example of toxic internet expectation that is so unrealistic. Do you think there is an unlimited amount of quality guests that always have something insightful to say? Rogan has done a lot of high level interviews and Chris himself is going upwards. Why can't people just enjoy both.
Totally agree - if your strong opinions are held loosely, I feel like that says that you’re not afraid. You’re eager to take on new information and learn, otherwise your opinions wouldn’t be strong in the first place.
That doesn't work in the long term. That was me 100% but my wife is now my ex-wife b/c I never had a firm opinion about anything, didn't think things were worth discussing, never made firm decisions, often answered with "whatever". Beware the loose/loose combo.
I was thinking it would be great if you had talked to Charlie and/or Ben. I love charisma on command, it has given me tools in life that have made a real difference. They are both great!
Having something interesting to say exponentially creates charisma. This comes from actually developing an interesting value, be knowledgeable, be valuable, be interesting
@stenobro well you tell me.. With all of these institutions running at full steam, are you feeling very compelled by them? I would argue "get woke go broke" would put that paper tiger to rest. Pretiege only gets you as far as the shit hitting the fan. This is true of all things. A war zone being one example and woke ideology being another. One is real the other is far from it. One always dissolves the other no matter how established your brand or self belief, when it comes down to somthing tangible and real the strawman falls apart.
I never comment but this is worth my time. These are the two fellas, along with Ben, that have changed the way that I think and live. It's great to finally see this collab. This is the type of conversation that I strive for in my own life. I really appreciate the work that these two are doing. Thanks!
I'd exercise caution with psychedelics. A good experience can be life changing, but a bad trip can give you phobias and trauma. MDMA is also chemically similar to meth, and can be similarly addictive. Developing a dependence on psychedelics can be incredibly destructive to one's life.
"Guys with 0 standards" is a much much much broader category of men and "simps" is basically a minor subcategory within that broader category, is what I would say
1. Hyper competitive people are very annoying to most people. 2. This probably contributes to their unhappiness because most people probably don’t like them. 3. Agreed that when we are “happy” or content with life, we do less because we are relaxed. I don’t think this is a bad thing because life is absolutely more than just your career.
Sorry but Elon Musk's sincere awkward communication style is better than any fake over-polished communicator out there. Imagine if the world was all full of these clones of "perfect" people, what a nightmare 😅
I'm late to this one 😂. Just one comment from my side, I'm a woman and Russell Brand seems so creepy from my point of view. Careful with being like him 😅
So charisma is literally witchcraft.. LOL you guys can't seriously take advice from a dude who wakes up at 11am.. walks his mutt and plays video games.. but has a self inflated ego 😬👍 Okay then.
@@StreetfighterU pretty much everything. People treat you differently, it boosts your confidence, being charismatic comes more natural to you as a result. You can say pretty much the dumbest shit ever and people will pretend to be interested in you, which further boosts your self esteem, etc. I actually experienced this myself, when I lost weight and got fit. Night and fucking day. Instead of cringing at you, people treat you nicely. Naturally there are exceptions like Churchill, but both that guest and host are playing life on easy mode, trust me.
@@tomekhome HAHAHAH..... I have gotten rental cars upgraded to Muscle Sports Cars even when I was renting a small economy.... Being traditionally handsome helps out a lot.... It's beyond silly to me people are playing dumb to the fact....
I think he has a lot of helpful advice. But I don't agree with the comment he made to his father. Emotionally blackmailing him to get him to do MDMA isn't cool. The fucking nerve it takes to even admit to that, holy shit.
I think you missed the point - do you know how many charismatic, charming, funny and successful but physically "unatractive" people there are in the world? A lot... :D
Being the eldest son for 5 siblings and 2 working class parents, when Charlie got to the part where he talks about his family it hit me on a very deep level I didn't know existed up until now. Thank you Chris for this podcast, it was amazing to listen to!
Learn to find people fascinating and you will draw most people to you. People really enjoy being seen and heard. Be open hearted and generous and you will have others respond the same way to you.
The Bill Clinton thing is true. I was one of those people in a line to meet him and he absolutely made every single person I could see, have that important moment with him. Every single person thought he was so warm and comfortable. He hardly had to say anything to convey that feeling. He had that air. And just saying “thank you” he made it feel so genuine. It’s like he is so comfortable in himself that he doesn’t need to say much to make you feel comfortable and important.
“Self-esteem is your reputation with yourself” “Your nature is not pre-determined, but it is pre-disposed” “The advantages of one phase in your life will be then obstacles in the next” “Strong opinions held loosely, not loose opinions held strongly” “It is far easier to achieve your material desires than to renounce them” Wow... This podcast had way to many quotable mic-drop moments. Great listen! Thanks for this you two!
"Strong opinions held loosely not loose opinions held strongly" is what distinguishes a person with integrity vs. someone with none. Someone with strong beliefs for themselves yet is open to listen to different views, and does not superimpose them on others, is someone you want near. And a person who continuously change their stances/beliefs depending on how that benefit them in the moment via shapeshifting to appeal to different groups, yet quick to anger when others believe differently, is someone you want to get rid of as soon as possible.
A PSA to those with no integrity: "stop trying to get into the clubs using my name". Stop trying to associate with me (and others) for clout and for people to like you via association. Fudge off.
This is probably one of the best podcast episodes I’ve ever listened to! Thank you for this gem gentlemen. Will definitely be revisiting this one time and time again
The problem I've always had with Charlie Houpert and Charisma on Command, is that he wants to teach and sell you charisma, but he doesn't have a sample of charisma on him. After all these years of studying and teaching charisma, I find him to not be charismatic at all.
Lost me at not even being able to get up at a reasonable enough hour to care for his dog properly. :( I'm not saying he's a terrible person, but I think if he's going to be a professional personal development person/expert, then he would probably go far in his own personal development firtstly, by stopping his habit of playing video games late at night, so he can get up at a reasonable hour so that at least his pup gets out to eliminate outside in the morning (not halfway through the day). Or, at minimum, walking his dog last thing before going to bed. I'm going to bet that he doesn't do that. I see an opportunity for him to make this foundational shift habit to do better in life by doing better for his dependent/dog! We can all improve! I'm far from perfect and have loads of things I'm working on myself. I have learned that if you can focus/prioritize on serving your dependant's basic needs, you just might improve yourself and your own life, too!
12 minutes in. I feel like whatever this guy is selling is a poor mash up and imitation of Tony Robins and Jordan Peterson advice. Good questioning from Chris as always 👍🏼
HA!.... Be good looking?...... I rode that wave for years.... People tend to be more accommodating and listen to you.... I got bumped to 1st class on flights and got sports car rental on "economy" a ton of times
Thanks again Chris new subscriber but I’ve watched quite a few of your interviews and love how you always give deep well thought out insights and a lot of times touch on topics that I thought only I had pondered before! Thank you so much I really enjoy your content!
1:41:05 that’s because you can’t find peace in another human. Sex is just sex. You had it once you had it a million times. Being in a relationship you have to be mentally stable as well, You have to be ok with yourself. I am at peace with my self and have further it through God ✝️. I hope and pray you find it too.
Why does this video have so few views ? what the hell, this has got to be one of the first podcasts I really want to rewatch because there was SO MUCH ground covered. Holy crap, too many lessons that could span a decade to truly understand. Thanks Chris.
Great collab. Charisma is somehow both the easiest and the hardest thing to work on and definitely needs more of my intentional effort. Also, what a relief when a video podcast has excellent audio and visual quality.
Been listening to the both of you for a while. So great to see this collab. Also good to know even podcasters go through the League of Legends rage phase like the rest of us.
I have Russell Brand envy in terms of his speaking capabilities. I'm the anti-Russell Brand, blathering on with tangential thoughts firing off like and out of control machinegun.
Both these people aren’t charismatic and there’s no useful tips all tips given are common sense 😂 and half the time is them spent rambling about nothing
There seem to be a great many people who have spent years learning 'charisma' , so can persuade readily, but no effort at all into actually thinking or learning. AOC.
Charlie should have displayed some charisma during the interview. But full disclosure: I found him so unappealing in the first few minutes that I tuned out. Maybe it got better.
With all due respect. Monogamous for 3 months. Bahahahahahahah! He’s a great pic up artist. But not much for relationship advice. Unless you’ve really suffered for another you have no concept of what a real relationship looks like. Also weird that we tend to take advice from the most privileged natural gifted people out there. Like Aubrey is a trust fund kid, who has never had a real job in his life. To place him on a pedestal as “successful” just seems unwise. He’s has literally done the least with what he was given. He has lived a vapid and selfish life that is now dressed up in a weird narcissistic neo pagan spirituality. And now he is an arbitrator of truth? He has never demonstrated real morality character or self sacrificial love. This is obvious to everyone who hasn’t drank the cool aid.
"self-esteem is your reputation with yourself" something that sounds so obvious once you've heard it. But I honestly never thought about it in that way. Great insight barely 10min into the video bodes well for rest of the interview :)
Charisma: "compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others", or "a divinely conferred power or talent"... I almost feel like I have a form of charisma, if only the definition was broadened, to inspire hate and loathing in people; yet I know I am affecting them greatly with my mere presence and so feel I have charisma! Perhaps my idiolect has expanded the feeling the word "charisma" has on me! I guess charisma is the word to use when others aren't scared of you, and something else like psychotic or narcissist is used when people are scared of you!
Chris, have you ever thought about having Eckhart Tolle on? Idk if that’s going too far to the spiritual side. But it would be high value content. Read The Power of Now as a primer.
I remember years ago when I started bartending and discovered Charisma on Command. Looking back on how many things I learned from Charlie and how useful they are to this day. Great interview, love the reminder to be present in life rather than anticipating the next dopamine hit
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LES GOH. Here's the timestamps:
00:00 Intro
03:44 Understanding Charisma
09:17 Charlie’s Biggest Influences
13:17 Definition of Introvert & Extrovert
21:21 The Problem with Hustle Culture
29:50 Principles for Charismatic Communication
37:13 Charisma Lessons from Russell Brand
41:13 How to Overcome Shyness
48:36 How to Flirt with Women
59:32 How to Add Humour into a Conversation
1:07:59 Ben Shapiro & The Problem with Modern Debating
1:12:52 How Charlie Got His Whole Family to Take MDMA
1:23:57 Opportunities to Reprogram Yourself
1:41:54 Where to Find Charlie
Fantastic conversation. My 91th in intellect and 75th in openess to experience highly appreciate this one.
The story with his father was 3 sentences and it tore me to pieces instantly. Awesome to hear him on a podcast interviewed by specifically you.
I hope the best on your quest toward enlightenment. Theres levels. All my blessings bub.
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This was great :) even though I was hoping for more beauty tips 😉
💜 Would 100% pay for Part Time Prettyboy Academy
I gotchu
- workout
- Eat more clean/less processed food
- Smile
- don't use makeup
- Dress matching to your unique body propositions
😂😂😂 nice one
@@hauntedhose he knew it was a joke. His joke was answering seriously
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Charlie, you have changed my life since I found your channel 6 years ago. Russell Brand is also my hero.
Brah he's a known rapist wdym💀
being charming and charismatic is a natural social adaptation that some people have and others don't.
you can't just learn it all of a sudden.
As always awesome Chris 🙂
So easy to listen to and absorb! Such useful content 🤩
Because nothing is as good as you can imagine it. No one is as beautiful as she is in your head. Nothing is as exciting as your fantasy. - Chuck Palahniuk, Asfixia
He's the one I learned those tricks from.
This was really, really, really good
Really interesting video thank you. 😊
Now I need to know what Charlie mains
yo bro! I hear see you're a Tim Dillion fan. Can you get him on the podcast?!
He’d be a huge get. Give me time 🙏
Yes, please.
21:14 you need to learn how to use the tool but at a certain point, the tool will become less useful as you build bigger things... though it never harms to keep the tool around just on case you need it
Everyone has a blind spot so his this guest here. The logic he doesn’t get , doesn’t mean it is not said. When he talked about political figures he had pretty strong bias on them.
How excellent is this? COC gets podcast 420 😂
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
could u share the author and version of that book because there are many books about casanova
thank u
Whos the author?
We're waiting chief
@@mikesplendour8707it’s a bot who buys likes
WTH mate share
Flirting with people you're not attracted to is really bad advice. 🤯
I’ve always felt that way. Sure it’s practice, but damn it feels bad to lead anyone on. I tend to just be playful with all women. If I’m actually interested tho I’ll let them know it.
00:00 🏋 Charisma is like fitness; most people neglect it, but a small effort can make you stand out.
03:51 🧠 Charisma has various styles: high conviction (e.g., Conor McGregor), authentic (e.g., Joe Rogan), funny (e.g., Kevin Hart), energetic (e.g., Will Smith), and empathetic (e.g., Oprah Winfrey).
06:10 🔄 Changing yourself for charisma isn't self-betrayal; it's evolving to be the best version while retaining your essence.
08:30 💪 Personality is shaped by past experiences; evolving involves unlearning patterns from younger years.
11:45 📚 Books like "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" emphasize that confidence is earned through behavior, not an inherent birthright.
14:47 🔄 Introversion and extroversion are about where you get energy; it's fluid, influenced by both genes and experiences.
17:18 🔄 Unintended consequences: Pursuing constant socializing for charisma can create anxieties and new neuroses; true choice is essential.
19:13 🔄 Be cautious about dedicating yourself to certain pursuits in your early years (18 to 25), as they may become obstacles later. Consider the potential challenges of unwinding commitments.
21:48 🔄 Advantages in one phase of life can become obstacles in the next. Recognize when the strategies that brought you success need to be reevaluated and adapted for future growth.
23:13 🔄 The video discusses concerns about "hustle culture," emphasizing the importance of working effectively over working harder. Balancing life and avoiding burnout is crucial.
30:06 🤔 When initiating a conversation, set the vibe a level higher than necessary to be a conversational leader. Avoid literal responses to common questions and provide multiple hooks for the other person to connect with.
31:18 🔄 Instead of answering questions literally, offer responses that provide interesting hooks for the other person to connect with, creating more engaging and dynamic conversations.
34:04 🔄 Breaking away from implicit social norms in the workplace by injecting fun into interactions can foster human relationships, leading to professional success.
35:42 🔄 Charisma levels are not infinitely malleable, but anyone can considerably improve their charisma. Not everyone can transform drastically, but improvement is achievable.
37:21 💬 Russell Brand's charisma principles include treating everyone flirtatiously, using a push-pull dynamic in communication, and exhibiting unpredictability, suggesting authenticity.
38:57 💬 Russell Brand's unpredictability in responses adds authenticity, making him fascinating to listen to. The ability to switchbetween jokes and sincere, value-driven answers makes his communication style captivating.
39:25 🎭 Authenticity is crucial; some public figures may raise questions about their true selves if their stories always have the same punchline.
40:08 🤝 Russell Brand excels in authentic communication, maintaining curiosity and playfulness even in political or spiritual disagreements.
41:35 🦸♂ Overcoming shyness involves progressive exposure therapy; start by saying one extra sentence to lower the filter on what's acceptable to express.
43:28 🗣 Finish sentences with the same decibel level you started; practice deliberate conversational assertiveness for shy individuals.
45:20 🔄 Balancing deliberate skill-building with being in the flow ofconversation is crucial for growth in communication.
46:45 ⏰ Deliberate practice, similar to Tiger Woods rebuilding his swing, may involve stepping back initially to improve conversational skills.
48:41 💬 Principles for men communicating attractively to women: show interest, have genuine standards, and manage sexual tension.
54:16 🌐 In small talk, focus on playful world-building; engage in improvisational fantasy scenarios to create a fun and flirty vibe.
56:24 🚀 When discussing your job, speak to your values rather than just logistics; share what drives you and your life philosophy.
57:59 🌐 Most men go wrong by not engaging in conversation; they often disqualify themselves before speaking, missing opportunities for genuine connection.
58:55 🌐 Flirting with the world, being outgoing and friendly habitually, creates a powerful social presence that feels natural and engaging.
59:22 🤣 Adding humor to conversations involves having both a genuine answer and a playful response to common questions, providing a balance of authenticity and lightheartedness.
01:00:56 😄 An easy way to inject humor is by saying the opposite of what people expect, creating unexpected moments that induce laughter.
01:01:24 🎭 Prime yourself for humor by watching content from comedians you enjoy before social interactions, influencing your mindset and conversation style.
01:02:34 🤩 Tim Dillon is praised for his rapid and clever humor, showcasing the value of quick-wittedness in communication and comedy.
01:03:17 🎭 Improv comedy classes are recommended for those serious about developing humor, offering valuable skills in world-building, quick thinking, and comedic timing.
01:04:41 🗣 Effective communicators like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, and Bill Clinton excel in storytelling and creating a sense of safety for open conversation.
01:07:30 🌟 Kevin Hart's ability to command attention and lead conversations, even with a significant height difference, highlights his exceptional communication skills.
01:09:01 💬 In debates, using humor strategically, as seen in Ben Shapiro's tactics, can be powerful in discrediting opponents and winning social approval.
01:12:05 😄 Stephen Fry's ability to inject humor into debates can bridge gaps and humanize individuals with opposing views, fostering better understanding.
01:13:57 🌈 Psychedelic therapy, particularly with MDMA, facilitated significant positive changes in Charlie's life, leading to transformative family experiences and a sense of purpose.
01:17:28 🌌 Exploring the concept of psychedelic therapy is recommended, acknowledging it may not be suitable for everyone but emphasizing its potential for profound personal growth.
01:19:40 🔄 Early childhood experiences, especially in the family, shape one's understanding of concepts like love and power, forming lifelong "accents" in these areas.
01:20:22 🤝 Recognizing and respecting parental wisdom, even if they lack knowledge in modern technologies, is crucial for personal growth and avoiding the dismissal of valuable advice.
01:21:47 🔄 Life involves a continual process of self-discovery, where what serves you at one stage may become problematic later. The challenge is to navigate these changes and find a balance.
01:23:09 💔 Overcompensating to avoid past pains can lead to unhealthy behaviors, and the willingness to experience discomfort is essential for personal growth.
01:25:40 💰 Achieving financial and other goals may not provide lasting fulfillment; the mindset and thought patterns play a crucial role in one's happiness.
01:29:10 🤔 The pursuit of goals can become an endless cycle if not grounded in self-awareness, leading to perpetual dissatisfaction and the constant moving of goalposts.
01:31:55 🔄 Anticipatory beings, humans often find the most enjoyment in the anticipation of events, and dissatisfaction is inherent in our nature.
01:34:56 🔄 Unrealistic idealism is wired into human nature, and recognizing that the imagined satisfaction of an experience will always exceed the reality can lead to a more content life.
01:37:15 🔄 Pursuing external validation, such as charisma and social approval, may not significantly enhance one's subjective experience of life; the real joy often lies in appreciating the present moment and reality.
01:40:55 💡 The journey towards enlightenment involves navigating disappointment and frustration rather than achieving a state of perpetual satisfaction.
Thank man can see you put a effort in. ❤
Thanks for the effort
Chris should pin this comment.
Joe Rogan authentic. Thanks for the laugh.
Underrated comment
One of the best podcasts I’ve listened to lately. Two of my favorite personalities! 🔥
Woooh Cole Rolands hear too? 😅
Man your A7x covers are kick ass
Chris, you’re probably the best podcaster I ever listened to. Better than the big ones.
Thank you Kay. Turning idols into rivals.
+1. He's right up there with Rogan. If not even a clearer speaker.
@@petestrouse7411 Chris is leagues above as an interviewer. In recent months, Rogan will take every guest off on the same irrelevant tangents, and rarely extract anything interesting or insightful from the guest.
@@georgelovell1 lol this is a prime example of toxic internet expectation that is so unrealistic. Do you think there is an unlimited amount of quality guests that always have something insightful to say? Rogan has done a lot of high level interviews and Chris himself is going upwards. Why can't people just enjoy both.
Facts
Having “strong opinions held loosely, rather than loose opinions held loosely” is the key to a more harmonious way of life… Brilliant sentence.
"Loose opinions held strongly"***
I think they said
@@GM-qi8pw Yes, it's at 40:55
Totally agree - if your strong opinions are held loosely, I feel like that says that you’re not afraid. You’re eager to take on new information and learn, otherwise your opinions wouldn’t be strong in the first place.
Golden sentence there damn
That doesn't work in the long term. That was me 100% but my wife is now my ex-wife b/c I never had a firm opinion about anything, didn't think things were worth discussing, never made firm decisions, often answered with "whatever". Beware the loose/loose combo.
I was thinking it would be great if you had talked to Charlie and/or Ben. I love charisma on command, it has given me tools in life that have made a real difference. They are both great!
You manifested this episode Brenden.
@@ChrisWillx they had you in their thumbnail for Their Female Dating Strategy video and I was so hoping that you were a guest on it
Softly tap the "like" button. For the algorithm.
Having something interesting to say exponentially creates charisma. This comes from actually developing an interesting value, be knowledgeable, be valuable, be interesting
Problem. The left.
Cute theory tho.
@stenobro well you tell me.. With all of these institutions running at full steam, are you feeling very compelled by them?
I would argue "get woke go broke" would put that paper tiger to rest.
Pretiege only gets you as far as the shit hitting the fan. This is true of all things. A war zone being one example and woke ideology being another.
One is real the other is far from it. One always dissolves the other no matter how established your brand or self belief, when it comes down to somthing tangible and real the strawman falls apart.
@@OoO-rf2gt lmao stop whining and playing victim to "woke culture"
@@OoO-rf2gt What are you talking about?
I never comment but this is worth my time. These are the two fellas, along with Ben, that have changed the way that I think and live. It's great to finally see this collab. This is the type of conversation that I strive for in my own life. I really appreciate the work that these two are doing. Thanks!
Victor mentality. Seize the day man.
Which Ben? Shapiro?
@@_Palesa_M I would assume Charlie's business partner/podcast co-host Ben
@@twhiteofrd_1102 Oh 🙈 Thank you!
These two got me through 2020. I listen to both podcasts weekly
I'd exercise caution with psychedelics. A good experience can be life changing, but a bad trip can give you phobias and trauma. MDMA is also chemically similar to meth, and can be similarly addictive. Developing a dependence on psychedelics can be incredibly destructive to one's life.
He looks like a Male Model and wants to tell me how to build Charisma? Hahahahahha. Funny isnt it?
“One of the things guys miss out is having genuine standards” 😂 he said that so sincerely.
Pain Lmao😂😂😂
It's the truth. We literally have a word for guys with 0 standards, we call them "simps"
@@dynamicpaintball you're lost
@@45blank16lmao what? How is he lost, that is literally what they are…
"Guys with 0 standards" is a much much much broader category of men and "simps" is basically a minor subcategory within that broader category, is what I would say
1. Hyper competitive people are very annoying to most people.
2. This probably contributes to their unhappiness because most people probably don’t like them.
3. Agreed that when we are “happy” or content with life, we do less because we are relaxed. I don’t think this is a bad thing because life is absolutely more than just your career.
Just finished 6 pillars of self-esteem after hearing about it on here! Such a great book!
You'd recommend?
@@ChrisWillx Yes, please read. Life changing book.
"This is what a lot of LA's like, very poorly trained animals that pee and poop in the wrong places" - and don't get me started on the dogs!
I think it’s important to remember that being yourself can be different in one moment to the next.
Great guest. Charlie is a very interesting guy. Looking forward to seeing them interview you on their podcast too Chris.
Really? 🤔
Sorry but Elon Musk's sincere awkward communication style is better than any fake over-polished communicator out there. Imagine if the world was all full of these clones of "perfect" people, what a nightmare 😅
"Your ability to be idealistic is always going to outstrip realities ability to deliver that to you." - Chris Williamson
dude literally said u have to flirt with men, ima head out
You don’t flirt with your bros?
Guys, what's wrong with you people?! It's episode 420 and not a single person has made a reefer joke
I really fucked up on this. Formal apology.
I'm late to this one 😂. Just one comment from my side, I'm a woman and Russell Brand seems so creepy from my point of view. Careful with being like him 😅
He wakes up at 11am? Whew he definitely charisma’d me into wanting his life.
I would feel so lethargic if I woke up around that time.
As Charlie Munger said: The best way to cultivate such things is "to deserve it"
@@easter_sunday Its not about telling yourself to deserve it, it's about doing the things that _actually_ make you deserve it
@@easter_sunday I fully agree!
Like Brandon Carter says a lot ... "Don't do what you need to win. Do what you need for it to be impossible to fail."
So charisma is literally witchcraft.. LOL you guys can't seriously take advice from a dude who wakes up at 11am.. walks his mutt and plays video games.. but has a self inflated ego 😬👍 Okay then.
it's easy to be born with a "chad face" and preach about charisma....
What does looks have to do with charisma? Was Churchill a "chad face"?
@@StreetfighterU pretty much everything. People treat you differently, it boosts your confidence, being charismatic comes more natural to you as a result. You can say pretty much the dumbest shit ever and people will pretend to be interested in you, which further boosts your self esteem, etc. I actually experienced this myself, when I lost weight and got fit. Night and fucking day. Instead of cringing at you, people treat you nicely. Naturally there are exceptions like Churchill, but both that guest and host are playing life on easy mode, trust me.
@@tomekhome HAHAHAH..... I have gotten rental cars upgraded to Muscle Sports Cars even when I was renting a small economy.... Being traditionally handsome helps out a lot.... It's beyond silly to me people are playing dumb to the fact....
@@StreetfighterU Well Canada's Prime Minister who cries a lot and that Macron Dude from France are prime examples.....
@@tomekhome the blackpill is real boyos
God Tier Charisma: Influence family to take MDMA ✅
I think he has a lot of helpful advice. But I don't agree with the comment he made to his father. Emotionally blackmailing him to get him to do MDMA isn't cool. The fucking nerve it takes to even admit to that, holy shit.
Step one: Be atractive
Step two: Don't be unatractive
I think you missed the point - do you know how many charismatic, charming, funny and successful but physically "unatractive" people there are in the world? A lot... :D
Being the eldest son for 5 siblings and 2 working class parents, when Charlie got to the part where he talks about his family it hit me on a very deep level I didn't know existed up until now.
Thank you Chris for this podcast, it was amazing to listen to!
Learn to find people fascinating and you will draw most people to you. People really enjoy being seen and heard. Be open hearted and generous and you will have others respond the same way to you.
This 1000% it’s how I’ve applied myself and I’ve seen a huge increase in how much people engage with me
@@nannoreul Both of you are females. This rule doesn't apply to men.
Literally every league of legends player: DONT PLAY IT
The Bill Clinton thing is true. I was one of those people in a line to meet him and he absolutely made every single person I could see, have that important moment with him. Every single person thought he was so warm and comfortable. He hardly had to say anything to convey that feeling. He had that air. And just saying “thank you” he made it feel so genuine. It’s like he is so comfortable in himself that he doesn’t need to say much to make you feel comfortable and important.
I don't put much stock in charisma tips from young, square-jawed men with thick, wavy hair. Ask Danny DiVito or Jerome Flynn.
“Self-esteem is your reputation with yourself”
“Your nature is not pre-determined, but it is pre-disposed”
“The advantages of one phase in your life will be then obstacles in the next”
“Strong opinions held loosely, not loose opinions held strongly”
“It is far easier to achieve your material desires than to renounce them”
Wow... This podcast had way to many quotable mic-drop moments. Great listen! Thanks for this you two!
Appreciate you writing these out for us
"Strong opinions held loosely not loose opinions held strongly" is what distinguishes a person with integrity vs. someone with none. Someone with strong beliefs for themselves yet is open to listen to different views, and does not superimpose them on others, is someone you want near. And a person who continuously change their stances/beliefs depending on how that benefit them in the moment via shapeshifting to appeal to different groups, yet quick to anger when others believe differently, is someone you want to get rid of as soon as possible.
A PSA to those with no integrity: "stop trying to get into the clubs using my name". Stop trying to associate with me (and others) for clout and for people to like you via association. Fudge off.
How To Be More Socially Attractive - does it mean How to become a BS master?
This is probably one of the best podcast episodes I’ve ever listened to! Thank you for this gem gentlemen. Will definitely be revisiting this one time and time again
You lost me at “wake up at 11 and go to my barrel sauna in the backyard.”
This is one of the greatest conversations of all time .
Yall covered stuff I think about every day.
I don't care about society liking me after what I have seen in the last decade. Yall ain't worth a thought. I'm good
The guy wakes up at 11am and plays video games for rest of day. What an inspiration
No there's the jacuzzi in there as well.
I'd rather aspire for a life where I can do that than aspire to get up at 4am and grind all day.
@@ryancollinsvideo you aspire to a life of playing video games?
You can't teach charisma just like class. It feels like 2 highschool soyboys. 😅😅😅
*"I believe every human has a finite number of heartbeats. I don't intend to waste any of mine." - Neil Armstrong*
Cause no one EVER does things they don’t intend to.....
Chris needs to lay back, he looks too intense that close to the camera with his shiny eyes.
He looks amazing for 34. Looks 10 years younger than his actual age.
Just had a thought..
Maybe instead of introvert and extrovert it’s
Energy givers and energy takers 🤷🏻♀️
The problem I've always had with Charlie Houpert and Charisma on Command, is that he wants to teach and sell you charisma, but he doesn't have a sample of charisma on him. After all these years of studying and teaching charisma, I find him to not be charismatic at all.
YES! I thought it was just me that had noticed that, thank god!
How can you take advice from someone that can't even meet their dogs needs?
I’ve always talked about how anticipation is better than the actual thing, and haven’t heard someone else articulate it so well! Thank you!
Lost me at not even being able to get up at a reasonable enough hour to care for his dog properly. :( I'm not saying he's a terrible person, but I think if he's going to be a professional personal development person/expert, then he would probably go far in his own personal development firtstly, by stopping his habit of playing video games late at night, so he can get up at a reasonable hour so that at least his pup gets out to eliminate outside in the morning (not halfway through the day). Or, at minimum, walking his dog last thing before going to bed. I'm going to bet that he doesn't do that. I see an opportunity for him to make this foundational shift habit to do better in life by doing better for his dependent/dog! We can all improve! I'm far from perfect and have loads of things I'm working on myself. I have learned that if you can focus/prioritize on serving your dependant's basic needs, you just might improve yourself and your own life, too!
Charlie is a legend, really helped out my social abilities with some good advice.
Wakes up at 11 and plays video games??
Why are people actually paying this scam artist $600 for his content. I am NOT impressed
“How to be con people into liking you by being fake”. There I fixed the title.
Two hot guys with amazing smiles and personalities and hyper intense minds, this is what Im looking for.
12 minutes in. I feel like whatever this guy is selling is a poor mash up and imitation of Tony Robins and Jordan Peterson advice.
Good questioning from Chris as always 👍🏼
HA!.... Be good looking?...... I rode that wave for years.... People tend to be more accommodating and listen to you.... I got bumped to 1st class on flights and got sports car rental on "economy" a ton of times
No way I'm taking Charisma advice from a League of Legends player. For a Charism coach, leading with that is an awful choice.
Thanks again Chris new subscriber but I’ve watched quite a few of your interviews and love how you always give deep well thought out insights and a lot of times touch on topics that I thought only I had pondered before! Thank you so much I really enjoy your content!
1:41:05 that’s because you can’t find peace in another human. Sex is just sex. You had it once you had it a million times. Being in a relationship you have to be mentally stable as well, You have to be ok with yourself. I am at peace with my self and have further it through God ✝️. I hope and pray you find it too.
Gaming has taught me to be more encouraging, because being toxic just annoys and destroys team work.
Shapiro would do a 360 dunk on this guest.
Why does this video have so few views ? what the hell, this has got to be one of the first podcasts I really want to rewatch because there was SO MUCH ground covered. Holy crap, too many lessons that could span a decade to truly understand. Thanks Chris.
Because it´s not very charismatic.
Too much focus on being fake...
Because it’s long 🤷🏻♂️
As an autistic individual I have trouble trusting charisma. To me it’s usually a front for not the true character or personality
Great collab.
Charisma is somehow both the easiest and the hardest thing to work on and definitely needs more of my intentional effort.
Also, what a relief when a video podcast has excellent audio and visual quality.
Knees! How uncharismatic. 😂 This guy for teaching "charisma" is not very charming himself.
Been listening to the both of you for a while. So great to see this collab. Also good to know even podcasters go through the League of Legends rage phase like the rest of us.
I have Russell Brand envy in terms of his speaking capabilities. I'm the anti-Russell Brand, blathering on with tangential thoughts firing off like and out of control machinegun.
This was a good and solid episode! I have been following both of you guys for a while, so it was cool seeing you do this! Much love from Norway!
typically being sober and facing harsh challenges is the best route to becoming stronger
I think what makes Chris one of the best interviewers is that he finds out why people say what they say rather than just accepting it at face value.
It's quite ironic because this guy is not at all charismatic. His "techniques" are not new either. Grifter.
Definition of charisma;( at 36 seconds in) , saying he gets up at "around 11am" and not looking like he's being judged!
Both these people aren’t charismatic and there’s no useful tips all tips given are common sense 😂 and half the time is them spent rambling about nothing
There seem to be a great many people who have spent years learning 'charisma' , so can persuade readily, but no effort at all into actually thinking or learning. AOC.
Charlie should have displayed some charisma during the interview.
But full disclosure: I found him so unappealing in the first few minutes that I tuned out. Maybe it got better.
It's amazing how Chris meets Charlie at his level of emotion.
With all due respect. Monogamous for 3 months. Bahahahahahahah!
He’s a great pic up artist. But not much for relationship advice. Unless you’ve really suffered for another you have no concept of what a real relationship looks like.
Also weird that we tend to take advice from the most privileged natural gifted people out there.
Like Aubrey is a trust fund kid, who has never had a real job in his life.
To place him on a pedestal as “successful” just seems unwise.
He’s has literally done the least with what he was given.
He has lived a vapid and selfish life that is now dressed up in a weird narcissistic neo pagan spirituality.
And now he is an arbitrator of truth?
He has never demonstrated real morality character or self sacrificial love.
This is obvious to everyone who hasn’t drank the cool aid.
"self-esteem is your reputation with yourself" something that sounds so obvious once you've heard it. But I honestly never thought about it in that way.
Great insight barely 10min into the video bodes well for rest of the interview :)
The guy is highly uncharismatic, he is rather sociopathic, tense and unnatural. Quite the opposite.
Step 1 of being charismatic.
Be attractive.
Step 2. N/A
Does anyone think this guy is charismatic? To be honest he doesn’t come off as charismatic at all
Charisma: "compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others", or "a divinely conferred power or talent"... I almost feel like I have a form of charisma, if only the definition was broadened, to inspire hate and loathing in people; yet I know I am affecting them greatly with my mere presence and so feel I have charisma! Perhaps my idiolect has expanded the feeling the word "charisma" has on me! I guess charisma is the word to use when others aren't scared of you, and something else like psychotic or narcissist is used when people are scared of you!
What if you're perceived as both psychotic/narcissistic and charisma inspiring? Is that a natural leader?
Then examine your motives.
Chris, have you ever thought about having Eckhart Tolle on? Idk if that’s going too far to the spiritual side. But it would be high value content. Read The Power of Now as a primer.
I remember years ago when I started bartending and discovered Charisma on Command. Looking back on how many things I learned from Charlie and how useful they are to this day. Great interview, love the reminder to be present in life rather than anticipating the next dopamine hit