Jordan Peterson - The Biggest Reason For Failure
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Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan B. Peterson says that the biggest reason why people fail is that they don't ever set the criteria for success. It can be a daunting task, because setting goals also means to set the criteria for failure.
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"Imagine that you were taking care of yourself like someone that you actually cared for..." Holy Shit.
Heheh. Were you surprised? If you were, I'm glad you learned something. If you take the statement seriously, you will come to care for yourself properly.
This is the kind of thing parents should teach their kids.
You never realize how badly you're treating yourself until you see it as another person. When he said that it really opened my eyes.
What if you don’t care for anyone?
dbsk06 you have no friends or family you wouldn’t help on a crisis ?
I absolutely cannot stop watching this guy
Might need to join "JBP Anonymous".
I know right
Yes me too
Joe Waters Me too, I binge watch! My son and I met him in October, he was amazing, so funny and humble 😍
Same. He's a phenomenal speaker.
Since I listened to this advice I decided not to commit suicide until I've tried all the options and started to implement professor Peterson's suggestions and only months later my life has become worth living again, and I have come to realise that the sky is the limit . Thankyou Mr Peterson for a real life line.xx
Lies
That’s fantastic to read. Keep at it, life is hard but it’s worth living.
Good for you friend, im trying but i keep failing maybe the big dream is the only hope for me.
So glad your still around....your the only one of you there is and your amazing...
Wishing you all the best and praying for you.
Suffering without meaning is what depression is.
This quote is painful and beautiful at the same godamn time
It’s from Viktor Frankl.
Though I’d argue, through my own experience with depression, that it is flawed. There is meaning to depression, and for me it was the harshest, worst possible realisation I needed that the values/beliefs and coping strategies I had developed (unhealthy, putting a mask on), were no longer sustainable. I knew I had to pay attention to why this had happened, and after a long two years reconciled with this fact: depression occurred to teach me at a young age invaluable lessons about life to take forward with me, to listen to my gut, how to conduct inner dialogue, and much much more.
Keenan Smith
I wouldn’t be wiser, more experienced and more aware individual that I’m today without my battle with depression!
But the sad thing is some of us don’t make it back from there, if only they all could find out how illuminating it is on the other side!!!
nishan kandel I’m so glad to hear that mate! I fell with depression when I was 18, turned my whole life upside down and what I thought it would look like. Now 20 years old with my whole life ahead of me knowing what I do now.
“Since success is a very narrow line And very unlikely, the probability that you’ll stumble upon it RANDOMLY is ZERO” ouch
3:05
He's projecting himself!
This man is a fountain of wisdom
Jon Brunton dc gonna rek jj
I'm not a bible person, but i think that JP is actually translating to us the bible using, (first time ever?), using modern science, education, experiences and most notably hard psychology. He's revalidating bible versus and life to offer up understanding of our lives.
burtlangoustine1 FOKIN NAILED IT
+burlangoustine
The media has been working tirelessly to make Christianity look stupid and useless for the last sixty years. Have you ever seen a Christian character on TV that wasn't at least a hypocritical weasel if not a thief and a sex pervert et al? And why is it that they always push the most extreme fundamentalists in our faces and make like that's the default version of Christianity - which it was not when I was growing up. They want you to think that Christians all believe the earth is only six-thousand years old and that everybody who isn't exactly like them is going to burn in hellfire. They want you to believe that all Catholic priests are child molesters. You're not imagining it. It's been happening for decades. And they have succeeded in reducing the number of churchgoers to almost zero. The media is hellbent on eradicating the Christian faith and they are succeeding brilliantly in that endeavor...
As they should, religion has no place in a worldwide Utopia unless all believed the same which will never happen.
"You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes well you might find
You get what you need" -Jagger/Richards
key point: " *if you try* sometimes"
“Zigzaggin towards the light”- Connor Oberst
"You got to lose to know how to win" - Steven Tyler
Exacly what I was thinking
@@twoscoopz4944 sad, but true.
Does anyone else find these videos terrifying? Sometimes I have to force myself to watch his videos because I know I'm not going to like what I hear.
The Passionly Passionate Nightman same here
Truth will rip you to shreds, but it will also set you free. This is why most people prefer to stay unconscious, an idea examined in Plato's cave. Keep pushing your limits, 99% of human anxiety is irrational. Don't trust your mind.
Hey man, just know that by watching these videos despite those feelings, you're already on the path to success. Best of luck in your journey my friend.
Yes. It puts pressure on you if you don't apply it.
If you find it terrifying, that is already a sign you are moving in the right direction
This is so, so true. One of the biggest fears I found was actually getting what you want, because you then realise that you have no idea of what you actually want.
I agree. I'm learning this with fighting. I absolutely love martial arts, however, many practitioners do not talk about the fact that your body is not at all designed to engage in physical combat. So, when you kick another human, you're going to hurt yourself a lot even though you are throwing the kick. However that double edged blade is worth all the pain for a dream.
this might be one of the most important things I've ever listened to
I repentant or useful life is what this lecture is about.
Lightest Asian
Failing is naught but a lesson unless you give up. Then it becomes failure.
@Lightest Asian of course you'll fail. We're humans and we are FAR from perfect. BTW the average person would need a lot of "carving blocks".
Have you found out the answer to the question?
What am I doing on a daily basis to screw up my life? Wasting time on TH-cam. That was easy.
ANTI HERO
Knowledge is worth nothing unless action is applied.
I suppose, sometimes one must let things work themselves out. But in regards to growing, where there is no movement, stagnation sets in.
You can have the perfect plan, yet if you do not act upon it, then it is nothing. There comes a time when one must put this knowledge to use. Knowing what to do and doing it are two different things.
Jnana Kirti cat videos r sooo cuuuuute
Ken Durham 100 % right, as a chronic procrastinator who wasted so many years and opportunities in my life, I can tell you know what you're talking about. Couldn't agree more man.
Doing my job (musician, guitarist, singer), I have the feeling that people hardly take initiatives to organise plans in order to play together, and it's hella frustrating
He`s very good at common sense.
lmao this is the best "in a nutshell" description of J. Peterson
And now go watch his video on common sense lol
common sense isnt common sense anymore..
Fire being hot is common sense. You gotta actually search for this kinda info.
A better description is “concise answers for complex problems”.
Hours upon hours of videos from 'guru's', on self help, how to find, where to find, etc etc...
This 6 minute video is pretty much the entire industry, summarises beautifully, concisely and easy to understand.
Amazing video!
BRB, sorting myself out.
are you cleaning your room?
*B U C K O*
Lorem Ipsum organizing those legos
If your self gets completely sorted YOU wont be back at all, it will be someone entirely different
This one video helped me pull out of depression over failings in the past. I now say to myself daily, I am going to manifest my self in the best possible manner in the world. I would like to do this. What would this be? What do I want? Who can I serve? What can I sacrifice? Why not me, why not now? Thank you Dr. Peterson for expressing the wisdom of the ages in Jesus words and Socrates as well.
In the recent days I have noticed that comments (mostly memes) are getting deleted. That's strange because I don't have moderators and if it was automated they would land in my spam folder, so I assume it has be people with global moderator status. So if my assumption is right, here is my open letter to those people:
Stop deleting comments. Don't touch the memes!
Bite-sized Philosophy can't you block them from doing that?
Gertrude S How would he know who's doing it?
I've noticed in replies to comments I make, they are sometimes marked as spam when they clearly are not, and even though I have a control to make them visible again it doesn't work.
So I wouldn't count on auto-marked spam to work as you expect.
+kovjack I am aware of the automated system, but those all land in the spam folder. I put a daily effort into approving most of the comments in the spam folder, but lately even "clean your room" stuff gets randomly deleted or sometimes not, so I am pretty sure it has to be a person and not a bot.
+ChrisC Don't worry about the spam system. I approve comments in the spam folder multiple times a day to keep the discussions alive, so just be patient until it gets approved. The spam system is a bit bugged though, some messages in the spam folder are not visible to me, but most of them I approve unless its actual spam or untrustworthy links.
My problem isn't knowing what needs to be changed but rather actually changing. Why is it so hard to get out from under the rut and actually be productive. I learn new things and tend to excel at whatever I put my mind to but I have such a huge problem with being motivated enough to actually learn new things, or go out and be social and get a job. I just lost my job and I don't know what I'm going to do about it. There are so many regrets that I have in life and I want to rectify that but I have this mental blockade stopping me from doing what I need to do and I don't know how to stop it. It's an awful position to be in. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I hope everyone experiencing something similar finds their way out. I hope you thrive in whatever you choose to do and I hope that you may help people in similar situations one day. Much love to you all.
I still stand by the greatest quote I've ever recieved and it's by this guy.
- "if you actually want something, you can have it"
@Miguel Silva imo there's two sides of a quote. One that's measuring how it serves those who said it (for example, fake self-help books saying them just to get a quick buck)
And the other measuring how much they help those who try and find meaning in them.
When I first started watching JP videos I’ll admit I got pretty lost at times. However, the more I watch, the more I start to recognize common themes and ideas and I start to draw connections between all of his points. I feel like the words he’s saying are finally starting to reach my soul.
I'm 47 years old, I have no job, recently divorced, no outlook, failing health, lost my parents and some of my family in a series of tragic events that really took a toll on my sanity. I love Jordan Peterson but I'm really not sure what to do at this point. And I've been in therapy for decades and cannot rid myself of a very debilitating depression, anxiety and cptsd, and just an overwhelming feeling of emptiness that I remember since early childhood. no matter what I tried, and believe me I did. I'm here by mistake. or paying for something I did in a past life. I'm at a total loss, and at this point, just accepting it for what it is. I think that happens sometimes for some people, and it is not necessarily a bad thing. It just is. The main problem I truly and utterly do feel that NOTHING really interests me anymore and I have absolutely no passion for any subject. I did study and did work in the past and touched almost every field you can imagine, but always felt it was eventually useless. Apart from loved ones in my life, nothing ever brought me any joy. zero, nada. I look at this world which can indeed be beautiful, and understand I am a total nihilist.
Society today is extremely demanding and motivational, people who are not 'successful' are ousted and frowned upon, or are forcefully encouraged to do something with themselves. I think it is my right not to. This is my life and I choose to enjoy the little things I still can until I can't any more. The only thing I can think of is me turning back the clock 30 years and doing everything different from the moment I finished high-school. That might have helped, but it's not going to happen, so I'm just here... Until I won't be. I am OK with it. This is my very different POV. I might be rare, but not unique. Some of us really do see no point. Perhaps there isn't one.
I understand you sir. I understand how you feel.
Don't know how you're doing but hope you are doing at least somewhat okay given the circumstances.
No interest at all? Helping/ serving people usually is intrinsically motivating, isnt it?!
Most of this is guys talk is rubbish. I say this after I failed my final attempt of my pharmacy registration. I did 4 years of university got my degree. Then tried to pass my registration. I failed the test the first time where I got 32 in my calcs paper out of 40 and got 82 out of 120...and needed 85 to pass... My second attempt I got 25 put of 40 in calcs and I got 96 in clinical from 120...i failed my calcs by 1 mark.... Then on my final attempt I got 90 in clinical and an invigilator interrupted my calcs exam... Like I killed my self for over 2 yrs studying day in and day out whilst trying to work.... And I couldn't pass my registration.. Now I have a pharmacy degree but can't use it to work as a pharmacist... So it becomes useless other than pharmaceutical jobs which are hard to get into... Plus I can be a pharmacy dispenser but after 4 years of uni and studying 2 years into registration do I want to go back and be a dispenser.. It's stressful even when I step in the pharmacy
When I was at this point in life, I walked into a church and it absolutely changed everything. God changed everything for me. Most of the time, our issue is that we are too focused on ourselves. Try focusing on serving others or helping people. If the world sucks for you, make it better for others. God loves you, brother. God bless you✨
Forget paying 100 of Dollars on Psychologists. Just listen to this great man for free. And please donate to him. We need him.
He is already making hundreds of thousands.
So give him more bc the work he is doing is helping a lot of people
You can ask yourself, "What remarkably stupid things am I doing on a regular basis to absolutely screw up my life? " - Those words right there are gold!
"what remarkably stupid things am I doing on a regular basis that's screwing my life" you can't be any more sincere to yourself than that! 💪
That's a new concept to me. Caring for myself like I'm someone else I care about. It kinda makes sense. Some people find it easier to care for someone else than themselves. Conceptualizing yourself as separate can make the regard you have easier. In other words, treat yourself like a real person to to help you help yourself easier. That made more sense in my head.
PanicByNumbers and if you don’t know how pretend you have a daughter or son.. how would you morally teach them and what.. make those same boundaries for yourself!
I’ve just started university after a long bout of depression. I’ve turned it around and ready to make something of myself, thank you for telling me what I was desperate to hear professor Peterson
Give me an update.
Found so much enjoyment and meaning in my studies, I’ve connected myself with other musicians that I really enjoy spending time with and found a girl that I think could be the one, I completely forgot I wrote this message and how lost I must’ve been back then but my god how my life has improved just from getting up in the morning and having faith in myself, thank you guys 🙏🏼
@@georgeydlfc Hey, I'm happy for you.
@@georgeydlfc Inspiring
In a similar position now, with the exception of having been in social isolation and inactivity rather than depression (I never really "felt" depressed). I can see some of the paths which lie in front of me, and I presume there are many more which I can't see, some plentiful, some nightmarish. God willing I have the strength to follow a path of prosperity, and not one of stagnation and decay.
Have been watching you since 30k subs, listened to all your podcasts. You are a legend. Can't wait to see you in the future, you are brilliant!
This seems like a variation of the best advice I have ever gotten from a friend. He told me not to waste a second thinking about what you don't want, but think hard about what you do want. It's funny how many people do the exact opposite.
I can’t stop coming back to this video
These are very difficult questions to ask, but very necessary.
I`m really thankful for these clips of Jordan Peterson on this channel, since some videos on his channel were removed, its great that we can still have access to it...
Great! Thank you for uploading this video.
This video was the boost I needed to keep going for today. ❤ Thank you ever so much JP. I can never thank this man enough! 🙂
Thanks for making Jordan Peterson available to us!
The thumbnail makes it appear that Peterson is busting some vintage disco moves. Love it:)
Gen Ohmni Biggest reason for failure is not having JBP's sick moves.
He is speaking about such common things in a way so deep that we actually open our eyes to it. It's those most obvious things that we take for granted and simply ignore that are actually the most valuable.
Be humble.
This one's going into my favorites playlist
We should have a university named after him. One that would live up to his teachings. one that would support free speech and challenge thought.
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I find that to be a fantastic idea. In case I happen to become fairly rich one day, I wouldn't hesitate implementing it in the world.
@@wolfmidnaoftwilight I agree!
That would turn into an ideology real quick.
I “fourth” that movement.
We may completely disagree on religion but that's irrelevant. Your insights have helped me through times when I couldn't afford help. Just watching three videos and hearing you speak is inspirational.
Going after what you need vs what you want. Hadn't thought of it that way.
He's incredible. One of a kind. I hope he's getting better! I can not imagine the heartache he must have felt when realising he'd become dependant on PRESCRIBED medication. Such courage to try and tackle the issue head on the way that he did. We all get older, we'll all become unwell as it happens. Why and how some people have reacted to him being sick in such an evil way baffles me. I'm assuming they never sorted out their own rooms. Doubt they ever will either the wimps!
Much love to you, Dr Peterson AKA my one true hero 😘
Exactly this. Figure out what you're passionate about, figure out a career that allows you to achieve that general aim, sacrifice as MUCH AS YOU CAN to achieve that aim, and in a few years, you'll have achieved what you thought impossible and so much more. If you pursue a single goal single-mindedly, it becomes very feasible to achieve, as I've discovered. You need to really WANT it, though. As he says, you need to be DEATHLY serious about wanting to achieve it.
At the ripe age of 50, what I've seen is that the people with networking skills, friends, and acquaintances that help them get to where they want to be are the ones that succeed. Introverts and social losers are screwed
Ouch
You cracked it again brother. Awesome and thank you.
Such profound words of wisdom! I think what he is referring to here is self-analysis in terms of looking inwards. When we carve out time on a daily basis to reflect, think about what matters and who we truly want to be, we will be rewarded with powerful insights and knowledge. I have seen this in my life!
Been doing it for 56 years starting then go a different way. We all know what we're supposed to do but don't doing it is the Key
Thanks Doc.
I want to reach that day when this Video is no longer terrifying for me.
Jordan Peterson
Thank you so much.
Brilliant video. Possibly my favourite JP video so far.
The best advice going!
Awesome. Simplicity.
A true "one of a kind" individual that is set apart from the rest of humanity!
I really got to get more people to watch this guy! He cristalises so much are wisdom and truth, I'd love to met him proud a camp fire and have a real good talk....
God bless you Mr Peterson!
Great one!
Preach it brotha!
Every person is a neural network. Neural networks work by nudging.
To success you will have to nudge yourself, everyday, every second.
Damn! That's like we're problem solvers and trying to optimise stuff out. It's very very interesting to think about it that way
I never had a feeling for someone i could call a role model, he truly is... Someone i can look up to and gives me hope ,that we can change the world to a better place if we are willing to talk to each other. Peace fam!
Watching his videos and lectures gives me dopamine rush and I learn a lot
Thank you Dr. Peterson
That thumbnail is excellent LOL
what if the most remarkably stupid thing I do on a regular basis to absolutely screw up my life, mainly by sapping far too much of my productivity and time, is also the only way I could have been exposed to this information to know to even ask myself that question? perhaps even time wasted can have value...unfortunately the rarity of that exception serves more to prove the rule than to disprove it, but it still felt worth mentioning for some strange reason ;)
I think in this case if it trulty helps you then this rarity does in fact serve your purpose. But i also recognize that the idea of orientation is a hard one to implement so good luck to you in your endeavours and remember that there is no courage without fear
i love this man
I agree.
this might be the best piece of advice ever.
Listen to this every morning
Best Peterson clip yet.
This has to be the most powerful force-for-good video clip on TH-cam.
Possibly the best six minutes of the Professor I have seen...
This is so beautiful
This vid really did put together some pieces that I needed to stop myself from blowing my brains out.
I haven't totally decided I won't ever yet, but he just perfectly summarized my idea's ( or gave them to me I can't remember) on what I should do about it.
But I remember pretty vividly crying in the car and going through the logic.If I am suffering everyday sulking is the worst thing to do, this limbo of suffering is the worst place to stay. ANTE UP! Either DO IT, OR DON'T. But if I don't that means I need to do EVERYTHING in my power to make it worth it.
I decided I hate my situation and I have a vision for how I want things to be. I am quite idealistic. I want that girl that just makes my world go round. But if I want my ideal girl, who makes sense partnered with her? Well... that would be the ideal man. Who is that? That is what I am looking to narrow down to and become. Once I can become something close to that I can pursue my girl and have a life. I think it looks something like being fit, strong, being able to provide for myself and a family, educated, intelligent, thoughtful, caring, having a mission in life and actually doing something for the people around me. That honestly sounds like a pretty full plate there and would take a while to get to. Hopefully if I can chase that mission I can get that girl of my dreams ( Anna Shcherbakova baby here I come)
But it really takes a lot of sacrifices, and looking in the mirror. Lots of exercising is hard work, but I am so happy to have turned my life around from wasting time playing games. Glad to be away from abusive family members. Realizing my problems and trying to face them head on, there is no one to blame now.
Finally getting up on my feet and getting a chance. I hope it goes well...
nice video thanks
Love him
Jordan peterson is the king
This blowed my mind
Dam, I needed that
This guy is right in a lot of things
I have often thought that most wisdom has been described in song lyrics. In this case it was a Rolling Stones song. The important verse goes like this "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, You get what you need".
"You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you find, you get what you need!"
The best!
Sometimes you just need someone to believe in you and be there for you.
I'm questioning everything at the moment i'm 19 i spent 7 months giving it my all,worked my ass off and did well for myself at my former job, now 6 months later after being tired of the crew i worked with and had enough of the abuse,toxic culture, and asshole boss i quit with a naive or delusional sense of confidence that with the skills i developed i could find a job no matter the obstacles, now 3 attempts and 6 months later i feel like an utter failure and hate myself.
Just grind through it. Jesus is good. Work and the process itself will direct you. Be very INTENTIONAL and sow many seeds to see which bring back diviine multiplication.
Reassess, choose, find out what, it, is, that, you, really want. And go for it but you have to want that thing like you want to breathe!
Well, maybe all I want is more Peterson videos from Bite-sized Philosopy! So ha!
I started listening to self help videos like Tony Robbins and Jordan Peterson which has given me very positive results.
Jordan is a god send
Setting up the criteria of succes is the key! Thank you for the words! Inspiring!
Ask and it shall be given:
1) decide what you want; you must actually want it
2) try to obtain what want; aim at it. Reorient you life in the way that allows you to get it.
On continue on the path of 2 and you may not exactly what you want but you get what you need.
i love this guy
2:42 That was quite the dance move
Thank you for the source and for exact timing. EDIT - link does not work.
apathy, is often underestimated, its hypnotic in its affliction. where everything becomes too much trouble, even when you know what you need to do, and know full well you can do it, that feeling, some describe as 'chronic fatigue' or laziness, as i'd be more inclined to say, is one hell of a negative force to fight with. especially when you're 'comfortable'. people get settled, they get soft, and then one day, they panic, that life is passing them by. i guess this is what they call a form of midlife crisis?
He looks so smart and inceptive! You'd think he probably was "the chosen one" just by his gestures, without even having to know which language he was speaking! Really well-instrumented.
From self observation I derived that in my case I'm hesitating to take care of myself. I come from a deep place - the place of not caring about anything. But I am very supportive of the noble, the virtuous and the selfless. Thus to me to start thinking of myself as of someone I loved and genuinely cared about carries a great risk of going off-road into extreme selfishness and malevolence. You see, I'm one of the 99% of the people who have yet to discover their Shadow, and negotiate with it to integrate it. Thus I think (maybe naively) that the best way to shelter myself and society from the devil I could become is to let it sleep - which mean to lead a miserable boring uninteresting life where most of the times when I'm thinking of the world and the future I'm scared madly. What I've yet to attempt is to believe in myself and my capacity of self control, and to trust my family that they'll hold me back if I really attempt to do something evil. From the point of not caring about anything to living a meaningful life the only way is through checkpoints which include saving oneself first and not looking at the price of selfishness but what it actually might bring, and how a better "me" could be better for myself and the world than the "spineless me". I'm still having an internal conflict over this issue.
Take a positive stand against your fears ! Ask for help to set new goals; and Fight!
Destroyer Inazuma bro,no need for complicated words,just say that you were afraid to make mistakes
Yes, those two comments but also - like, forget the evil shit - it will come to haunt you in your dreams but it is not supposed to be there but by being spineless is your strength!! Don't give out any shit but don't take any shit either!
If you want to spare the world from your omnipotent wrath then believe in G O D (who will also protect you, (so there's a bonus in everything in life)) 😷👍 There you have a choice: Lead a fruitful existence with your power for good and contribute to mankind and be protected by God or, be a spineless slave to some evil alter-ego demon which is also two bangers short of a barbecue....
(bangers are sausages, in case you're not English.)
@@a320nick my biggest complex is the size of my contribution. I've been 10 years into college and by that I don't mean I have a PhD. I'm obsessed with making up for lost time but self-help ppl tell me to just let it go. It's sometimes hard to deploy humility. Faith helps with that, thankfully.
2:47 There it is !!
4:27 GENIUS
I love him
2.46 Very true
5.13❤🧡❤❤❤
감사합니다! :)
The moment I found out this man existed, I am trapped in this field of clicking on his videos no matter what.
my problem is that i spend so much of my time just browsing and doing nothing on the internet... i've even written down what i want, a 1, 5, and 10 year goals.. none of which i'm beginning to get done cause i'm a fuckin internet addict. must....... stop......
letsgetdowntobusiness take hammer smash router
GET DOWN TO BUSINESS!
i know that feel
This man must be protected at all costs🙏🏼