This comment section restored my faith in indian society. In my opinion the loss of either side is incomparable but the way in laws are treating her is wrong on so many parts
@@sandeepverma9183 why do men even marry women, to be a maid ? They shall be remained unmarried if they want a puppet for their parents. Men should swear to be with their parents only and not to marry or be in a relationship with girl if they want her to be a puppet
@@sandeepverma9183 she is a dignified lady. No need to open up her inlaws dirty laundry there. Or she could have said against these bigots that before putting marriage proposal for their other son with her up in media, they should have atleast talked to her.
@@hermionegranger2398 : come back to Indian soil reality from Portals of Harry Porter . First watch whole interview then come and comment. Don’t be in a hurry to reply in the name of feminism/ woman equality.
@sandeepverma9183 you can already see their degraded behavior in media socho ghar me kya karte honge bahu ke saath now that her husband ia gone who's gonna stand by her ?? kuch sochke hi chhora hoga na usne bhi
It's a shame that the father in law said if she says yes I'll get her married to our younger son , like she needs to be stayed married , or more like a thing getting passed on from on to another . And this makes you think why he would suddenly suggest this . Was the brother in law was somehow interested? It gets creppier .
If you don't understand the culture don't comment... Daughter in law is considered as the responsibility to grooms parents after grooms death... So to get her married again, such suggestions are given... Considering that rarely people find a fresh groom after being widow.... they may end up finding a divorce or widower, etc... But its her choice to agree or disagree.... Its not forced upon... Its also suggested more if the women is about to conceive.... So the child remains in the same family...
Y unhone kb kya kha sun to lo ache s phle... Unk bete ki terhvi b nhi hui thi jb ldki k papa khne lge the ki meri beti bs 26 ki h.. tb unhone kha tha blkl hm smjhte h uski aage life h bht bdi... Or jese vo khegi hm agree krenge.. jhn vo chahegi hm use beti bna k vhn uski shadi krva denge.. agr vo khegi ki mujhe isi ghr m shadi krni h.. to mera chota beta bs 2 sal chota h.. agr vo khegi ki mrko anshuman k nam k sath hi jina h.. hm use rightful property share denge.. apne bete ki phli aulad b de denge.. mtlb kese log ho tum . Sun to lo vo kya kh rhe h.. or itna kuch hone k bd b ldki vale unk sath kese kr rhe h.. unki bhu n apne sasur lo kirti chkra dekhne b nhi dia.. vo bhu k papa ko phn krk request krre h.. ki murti pr ek br kirti chkra lgane dijiye.. usk bad vapis le jana.. unk papa khte soch k btayege.. sasur ka haq papa s b jyada h mtlb..
@@kajalrana1380 ladki ke taraf se aajaye kuch bayan tab aage dekh lena kya hai kya nhi . Until then you see this with your perspective as I have seen it with mine .
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life. And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
Perfect ! So parents paid for his education, made him whatever he is. But wife should have all that is cherished becoz she is married. Anyway u being a woman I know you want preferential treatment everywhere.
It is shameful that this is common. Even after many years of marriage, Indian mother-in-laws never accept their daughter-in-laws. As the widow of an army officer, she is entitled to his stuff. For them to come out to the media and talk negatively about her shows that the toxicity of them not wanting their daughter in law to get anything
Bro dont be one sided.. Watch the full story.. And it's not parents, it's the media reaching them to ask about their situation.. I hate this media .. Parents were left no choice but to answer about the situation.. See their full interview, daughter in law left without telling them anything and also they were ready to accept to marry her as their daughter or so to say they were accepting her as a daughter.. Well I'm blaming her here , its their life, they need time and they can do whatever they want
Read the full interview and comment. She didn’t even let his parents touch the Kirti chakra. Took all his and her belongings and left, blocking them. They have clearly said they don’t want the money but she could’ve at least let them hold the Kirti chakra which they said they would give her back. This is not how he would’ve wanted her to treat his parents. They are old. Least she could’ve done is given them half out of respect.
@@Shy-qr9um Nobody is that evil, if I HAD to guess I would say that the in laws were harassing her some way or other .. no daughter in law just hates her in laws for nothing, there is a reason
And what if the girl remarries which she probably will as she is only 26 and her father had told it on the face of the parents that she will move on with her life? Then also she will keep the benefits of her late husband? And what's about the in-laws! Parents aren't worth anything? Indian household works both ways, there aren't all bad in laws or bad daughter in laws.
@laabogada5730 if she remarried the pension for her husband instead will go to the parents and not her so I don't think she will remarry or something but she is young
When someone joins army they generally put their parents name in nok ( next of kin) . When they get married it by default changes to their spouse. If someone wants to give 50 % to their parents then they have to write a letter and get it changed themselves. since late anshuman singh didn't change the default nok, his money, awards, documents, pension and everything else legally belongs to his wife. So his wife might be morally wrong for taking everything for herself but legally she has every write to do so . Also she is not obliged in any way to live with her in laws so saying that she ran away is wrong . The boy was from bihar and the girl is from Punjab and they had love marriage so there is a possibility that the parents only accepted the girl for their sons sake. Also in one of the interview the parents said that she could marry their other son which is absurd
It’s not by default. By default it is 67% to spouse and 33% to parents, however one can get it changed 100% to spouse in case their parents are not financially dependent on them. Also why doesn’t the Father let media know who was his NOK when he was serving.
It's not just that somebody in the comments said that the father-in-law said that if she says yes then they will get her married to the brother. Like what?
@@Dev-qs2yb so you mean the late anshuman singh was wrong or out of his senses when he changed nok name as his wife ? And parents should have rights to decide where their labour son's NOK ?
@@Dev-qs2yb how is she wrong, kindly elaborate From both moral and legal point of view. It's not that she left with the 100% The parents were compensated thoroughly too. They literally suggested she remarry their other son, like the 8.5 years of relationship to be thrown in drain, they had been married for 5 months but they go way back It was late Mr. Anshuman's will shall it not be respected since he flavored his wife??
@@strawberryshortcake4345this is not true. Anshuman parents have already said that she can marry whomever she likes. They are only concerned about veer chakra. That girl didnt let his parents touch the veer chakra neither let them see it. This is cruel. That mother has given birth to anshuman. Do mothers have no right and choice to see the veer chakra of her son. The number of people pulling guns at the parents dont even understamd how the parents are feeling. How the mom is feeling. This comment section literally is anti women. Anti women in the sense that motherd have no right. If mothers dont have basic rights then this society really has become anti women.
No-one is saying that why she left? She left because her in-laws were forcing her to marry, their younger son, which is so nasty. All the power to you smriti.
Force???? esa kaise bola?!! Unhone bus bola ki esa b kr sakte h or agar kisi or se chahe to vo b kr sakti h… force kaha se aya bich me?decision to mam ka hi hoga na.. and Indian household me esa hota h to may b unhone bol dia ho.. mai esse support nahi kar rahi.. apne husband k bhai se shadi nahi krni chahiye but bol dena force krna nahi hota.
@@amanpreet0043 to fir kisi doosre ke daughter ki zindagi kyu kharab kar rahe hai. She became a widow at 26. She did not get her husband killed. It was an unfortunate accident. She got the compensation by the country as per her husband's wishes. Why is she being bullied by this lalchi uncle aunty to get married to their other son. Why? Because they want her share of the money back into the house. Why should she not block them, why should she not go back to her house? She also has to start her life again. This uncle aunty have each other, they have another son, they have a handsome pension, they also have a major chunk of the money from his son's will. Lalchi Buddha buddi nahi hue toh aur kya hue? Pichle 10 din se tv pe footage kha ke bakwas pe bakwas kare Jaa rahe hai.
@@Netflixaddict11 mai reply likhne vali thi ki apne shahed k maa baap ko esa bol dia… esse jada mujhe nahi lagta ki mujhe apne standards low krne chahiye apse baat kr k.. bhot ache se izat de rahe h ap shahed ho or unke maa baap ko. Good, keep it you, all the best for your future
Her inlaws literally said "tum hamare chote bete se shadi karlo"...taki the money given by gov stays in their house. How can anyone expect her to stay with her inlaws then.
@@Rivertalk229they could have said to their daughter in law to further pursue her studies, or start a business and live her life as she wants, but they said stay with us and marry our second son, this clearly shows that they want her money..
The in laws had plans to get her married to their younger son. Terrible people. The father is a pension holder, even if they had issues it could have been solved privately. The parents also got half the insurance money and money from the state which is 50+15 lakhs but of course they won't mention it anywhere
the state govt gave 50L to the family in which 35L went to the wife and 15L went to the parents. Idk why they want a change in the NOK. The AGIF amount has been split between the parents and the wife and the wife only gets the 100% PF.
@@edith7248 it's actually 15 lacs from UP govt. both got 50% each of 1cr insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacs.
I found the family so selfish and mean... How dare they even propose getting their younger son married to the dil... Just for keeping all the money to themselves???
Try getting a widow married in India and u will learn the harsh reality. What kind of options she will get. If they want to preserve her dignity and keep her in the family, what's wrong. Plus no one is forcing her for it. Infact the inlaws are even ready to get her married as a daughter to anyone of her choice, if she chooses to. Watch the entire video before jumping to half baked conclusions.
@@sauravsingh661 this is not 1866 neither 1966. Whatever the situation I am glad she is dignified enough not to open up familys dirty laundry in media like that.
@@hermionegranger2398 I like your optimism How ever I have I question for you. Will u marry a widower ? If ur naive answer is a YES, ask your family if they will agree. If your answer is a NO, then u have answered ur own question.
Bunch of hypocrites. You got your son married, so you agreed the legal financial contract between the son and his wife. Their earnings, their losses, their gains, the loans, the rewards, their awards, and all other financial matters are their shared rights and responsibilities. You can’t expect anything legally
They got girl.. They got 65 lakh compensation and they have 2 other sons also they get pension but what is left with that poor girl.. She became widow at 26 , MIL ruined her image in media and now she has to fight another battle just because she is a women..
@@rohininair5600 Waah Didi For 5 months of marriage, she deserves everything, and his parents raised him and sacrificed for 25 years, they deserve nothing.. Guess u seem like the toxic one now..
@@sanjaykumarsingh275 they just want the son's money even if they got pension and nok from the government and also they suggested her to marry their second son which is disgusting. And these parents trying to defame their Dil just bc she took what is rightfully hers when her husband made her a nominee
@@justforlaugh3244exactly. And some people supporting them. They are just saying oho they gave a option. But my question is who are they to giving this toxic suggestion?
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796 she left because the parents weren't actually supportive of the marriage. Badi mushkil se manaya gaya tha unko shaadi ke liye. If she would've stayed life would be hell.
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796yeh sawal aise bhi to dekho uski in laws ne uske liye kya kiya jab pati mar gaye toh yadi woh usi ghar me rahegi to use jya ijjat milega?kya woh naukarani nahi banegi?us insaan ko paise kyu milna chachiye jisne us ladki ki padhai life me kuch bhi kiya balki Uske khilaf the shadi me bhi toh kyun unko sab Milna chahiye jab us ladki ka bhi bahut kuch gaya .
They are telling their story, if the story makes you feel some type of way it's bcz the story is disgusting not the parents, and the story was written by that daughter in law.
@@Dev-qs2yb she didn't even say anything yet and people like you are calling her bad and what not.....Her In-laws are the worst like you and it's good that she left the house.
@@Dev-qs2yb you are an perfect example of these type of people who treat the women like a piece of mass. I am very worried how you treat the girls of your home? Will you treat your daughter the same way? I think yes.
It is good that the wife of the deceased got all the entitlement, because, going by the in-laws behaviour, if it was the other way round, then they would have treated her as the extra mouth to feed in the house or thrown her out of the house.
Thank you everyone for supporting the wife. As a women i m so so so thankful. Its so hard when such thing happens neither can we complain nor can we keep quite. All we need is a word saying we are with you n we trust you.
I am amazed seeing such sensible comments. People are getting more rational and aware. Such stupid or selfish acts must be condemned. They wanted to have complete right over their widowed DIL without caring about her feelings and situation. And the sentence she ran away has been only made to demean her integrity.
This channel's followers are mostly the educated class, hence the sensible comments. Look at the comments under Hindi news channels and Hindi Facebook pages, you will find dehatis galore doing maa baap ki puja & bahu ke khilaf randi rona. Education and exposure makes all the difference.
@@yuvraj1971 They have received a replica of Kirti Chakra, 50 lakh insurance money and 15 lakh from UP govt. The sasur is an army pension holder himself, and his wife was his NOK nominee during his service, not his parents. They are just greedy people and evil human beings overall.
@@yuvraj1971beta gya h unka aur unhe chakra aur paise ki padi h..kaunsa chakra ab unki ijjat badha dega samaj m.. Bete k liye hi bahu ko duniya k samne badnam na krte ..8 saal ka relationship tha dono ka kuch toh soch lete badnam krne k phle.. 65 lakh mil toh gya aur kitna paisa lenge budhape m+ do aur bete bhi h unke fir bahu ka kya kaam unke ghr p?? Chhote bete se shadi kra de taki 85 lakh bhi ghr m aa jaye.. Such a cheap mentality parent's.. Sick sick sicko
@@shristisrivastava1938 Tumhe 8 saal ka relationship dikh raha hai ye nahi dikh raha ki ek maa- baap ka 26 saal ka beta chala gaya Jinhone usko raise kiya padhaya likhya Is kaabil banaya ki wo army doctor ban shake Unhone apna beta khoya hai wo kirti chakra deserve karte hai Ladki ko 1 crore + compensation mila 60k/month pension mili lifetime ke liye Kirti chakra Mila Lekin parents ne kirti chakra maang kar li toh woh greedy and selfish ho gaye na? Atleast Kuch toh identity honi unke pass apne bete ki Ya sabh kuch wife hi deserve karti hai parents gaye bhaar me na?🤦🏼
Exactly. This girl was in a long distance relationship for 8 years but still never ditched him. Even after knowing that her bf's profession is so risky still she married him. Balki agar wo chahti to use bahot paise wali family ka ladka aaram se mil jata because she is very beautiful, educated and from a well settled family. Still she choose him and was by his side. And at last jiske liye itna intezar ki wahin humesha ke liye chala gaya. I am not saying ki parents ko bura nahi lag raha but still they have 2 more children but uss ladki ka kya. People are saying very casually ki wo dusri shadi kar legi as if shadi bachon ka khel hota hai. It hurts agar kisi ke liye itne saal intezaar karo, uske sath apna future planning karo, ye socho ki kaise buddhe hone ke baad tum log sath mein life ko enjoy karoge and suddenly wo humesha ke liye chala jaye.... People are really heartless.... Mujhe to inki beti pe taras aa raha hai. Ye to apni beti ko bhi taunt marne lagenge agar uske husband ke sath aisa ho
@@janhvisingh1857 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the facts. I had no idea that they were married for that long, as she looks young. I thought maybe they were married for a year or two. Mujhe bhi lagta tha, this is unfair to parents but now I changed my mind
@@janhvisingh1857Marrige and relationship has lot of difference itna hi pyar toh death ke kuchi mahino me iss mahan DIL ne new shadi ka decision kese le liya.. ? She even changed the Guys permanent address from his home address to her parents home address in Punjab.. so that all offical ceremony etc notification and letter sirf usse mile? Parents kuch nai he kya? Kirti chakra leke chali gai.. Ladke ke pita ne chua tk nahi he.. uss award ko. Uske khudke bete ke award ko.? Kyu ? Ye uss DIL ke baap ka award he? Ya usne kirti chakra kamaya he? Don't parents have any role in growth development and support of a child? They are ones who supported him throughout his career financially emotionally everything since childhood and they didn't even deny when he wanted to do love marriage. They have been supportive to their DIL always.. pls do watch their interview first. Aaj kal ladkiya bohot ache se Victim play kr leti he. She is benefiting everywhere.. Medal , Pese , Pension Respect sab uska? Aur parents ko kya milega? Not even a good mention abt them? She is not ready to show them the award too? What kind of shitty woman is she?
My dad is in the army. The rule states that under NOK 50% goes to the spouse and if requested by the personal the other 50% goes to the nominee selected. In this case the son itself hadn't nominated the parents. And after marriage the next of kin is immediately the spouse not the parents. As shame on the parents to air their grievances with the media. Shows how much they actually cared about their bahu who is grieving just like them. Maybe one of the reason the parents weren't nominated for the 50% share.
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life. And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
Its all done by rahul gandhi and congress they visited this family and put this all on media,congress is just,i am lost for words,congress did this before with that agniveers family few days back and when the truth came in open,they choose this family
I dont think its shameful ,if parents feel cheated they raised the matter...while wife has option to start life again but for parents its not possible.
Thats the weirdest mom! The society is blindly gonna protect her, because she's a mother and no matter how evil she could be, people are going to criticise the young women. Imagine crying over for not getting the proper PR as your daughter-in-law got that she never asked for.
I think that there some misunderstanding between them and we should not speak because we don't know the whole story also girls parents didn't say anything
@@sanjaykumarsingh275because they are educated, they don't want to ruin their son in law's image in front of media.. She became widow at 26 and this evil women is asking her to marry her younger son.. Sick sick sick.. They just want all the money with themselves, it's not about the kirti chkra it's about that 85 lakh rupees and pension. They both have 2 other son's to take care of them but that girl lost her 8 years of love.. Basically she lost her everything
She has lost a husband, she can get married and gain a husband immediately, probably given her age this is something that she will do. Now the parents have lost a son who was their support in old age. No matter what they do they will never get a son back. So I suppose they need greater assistance.
@@sauravsingh661she will marry bro it's her choice..we cannot comment on that. But now her husband is late she will be having all benefits. She is young and she deserves it rather than serving her in laws life long. It's her descion and also now they treat her
The words they have used for her kind of shows how the daughter inaw was being treated before the death of her husband. The father in law is a pension holder and they have another son. Those shameful parents were planning on getting her married to their younger son right after the death of the eldest. The father in law is also a pension holder, they had no need to bring attention of public towards their personal lives in such times
@@edith7248He also said he was ready to married her like daughter with whoever she wish or her parents wish and what you know about the society do you really her husband would given her name because he knows that she will his parents after his death really how could you say it don't defend the wrong person
Parents shouldn't have speak to media in this manner "unka chal raha tha planning...". They should have solved their family issue in a dignified manner. She lost the love of her life..her husband. she has her whole life ahead of her. But it seems mother-in-law doesn't like her at all, so why should she stay with her in-laws! There are rules for a reason.
They want their DIL to stay at their home doing the houseworks/ problem with India marriage system- treating the DIL as an house help should stop. She lost her husband at an young age - i feel she has all the rights to take that award.with her. Why parents obssessed to control their son's personal matter even after death? So scary to think even in women's perspective in this cruel marriage system - Lucky that i born as a man - atleast we have some freedom from our parents inside the house border
@@sanjaykumarsingh275 You might find it easy to sleep with your brother's wife and ask another girl (coming from a different house) that question, but not everyone is a prostitute, money minded family. For the sake of money, they might as well go to a brothel and get money if they are that desperate. It is a sin, and even God would never let these rascals escapes.
Dil doesn't love their family either..... it's ok she left their home but how can she change his permanent address....she only loved him didn't have good relationship with family
@@swapnalishapradhan1391 clap is always with two hands, if in-laws are so greedy about money and don't even hesitate to insult DIL publicly then it is good for her that she left house. No sane person will send their daughter/sister to such toxic in-laws family. Btw 100 ℅ nok to wife was chosen by late soldier . If he really wanted then he would have split 50-50 with parents and wife. It was his choice but parents are greedy here
@@swapnalishapradhan1391it's perfectly normal if her relationship with in laws were not that great. She was just married for 5 months so how can you except from a girl to adjust with her in laws in just 5 months after her husband's death. And they look like typical in -laws. I am sure that in the last one year after captain anshuman's agar smriti apne in-laws ko call nahi ki hogi to ye log bhi use call nahi kiye honge. So it was from both the side and now suddenly they are calling media and doing all this.
@@Anonymoushuman13 it's good for her future that she left house....she has full rights....but she should not have changed his address.... about nok his father said both sides have got money...who told you captain mentioned 100% money to his wife...
The daughter in law is the rightful owner of anything her deceased husband had. These are the same type of people who would have kept everything had it been the other way around and their son was the one benefiting. Hope that young woman goes on to live a wonderful life without these toxic people around, to ruin it further.
I am really really liking the comment section . It's so good to see people are not blindedly supporting the parents and supporting the Dil. It's rare to see that in Indian society . It's the harsh reality .🙃🙃 .. I am kinda relieved that the girl left her in-laws instead of accepting any sort of abuse
This is such a disgusting family. After marriage of course all husband things belong to wife... All i can understand is parents and his brother they only need money only Anshuman wife showing real affection.
Y are they being so petty its not just them who lost their their son The women lost her husband too.What th do they mean by 'took away' it was given to her not stolen!
No it was not given to her, it was given to the martyred. Who is a son and a husband. If she wants a new life, then why does she need the belongings of her late husband. She can get a new husband but they cannot get a new son.
@@vip-yr9jc you guys are against Anshuman sirs decision, it was suppose to be 50%(for wife if married) other 50% for rest of family members, but he choose not to , you must know the reason his parents hate her you can see , how can she will be with them like this
@@Allofanl does that entitle her to take all his belongings with him to her house?? What about the kirti chakra? Break it in half? Why can't you accept that she can remarry and the belongings of her late husband belong to his family not hers.
@@Allofanl everything belongs to his wife that's ok...but how can his wife change his address to gurdaspur??? The parents are left with nothing literally....
@@vip-yr9jc firstly u should yourself about the rule of army, parents do get some insurance money and other benefits like medical facilities etc, it's just that wife has right to larger portion as she is the life partner... AND if she remarries, she will get nothing that's the law even .. about kirti chakar, it's a debatable topic but not on national media, they brought shame to martyr sacrifice.
Idiots commenting without knowing that while entering the force the nomination is automatically done by the personal. Just like you have to nominate people for life insurance claim. The decision was made by Late Anshuman Singh and let's respect that. Shame on the parents to fight in public and dis their daughter-in-law like this in public while all are mourning.
Even if it's his decision she can be sensible enough to hand over some assets lol it was just a 4-5 months of marriage and she gets the whole thing without doing anything!!!
Shame on u...ure cursing a martyr family..Nd striking some cheap allegations on them... Listen Bh..all things need to be fair.. She can marry anyone..but parents can't get their son back... Nd Im sure when our captain was doing the nominee thind he didn't ever considered to be in a situation like this...if she wants to remarry she have to leave all his allowances and kirti chakra back to his parents.....
@@neenamajukar4852so what? Does their marital relationship last over 11 years?.. Dating years doesn't come into the count as these years have no importance, no responsibility, only for having fun.women ☕
She has every right on Kirti Chakra and other benefits, now even though she has moved away from home they should make their bond even stronger and remember the fallen hero in good conscience. They shouldn't have gone to media channels like this.
@chris_louis you are in no state to give advice here. It’s their family matter. Nobody knows the ins and outs of it. And it is by law of army she deserves it . Parents are being selfish.
Everything related to their son was taken by her They were getting hate everywhere Who would listen their voice? Everyone is busy sympathizing with the wife This step was needed
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life. And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
In this case, the wife should herself have handed over everything to the parents. She doesn't have kids and might ger married again. Parents have two more kids who are still studying. The father is retired.
@@logicsandtrolls3616no parents could not have done much because as it is evident that the dil did not need them & went to her home (before marriage). She clearly is following what she wants!
Assuming his parent's mentality he took the decision, and he jnew that his parent's gonna abandon his wife,so he decuded to make her financially 💪. Seems his assumption was right.😢
Could be plus I thin’ we must respect the deceased decision he nominated his wife as nok not his parents and he must have done so in front of min 2 witnesses as per the law and not his parents so he must have known what he is doing
Army has its own rules. Whether one likes it or not. It is not an ordinary job,therefore,not an ordinary death. Those who don't know these rules or reasons for it, should refrain from emotional comments. There are numerous unique cases in past. Wife's entitlement is correct.
@@RAVITESHKUMAR-bq1pj could be. But Law is not feminist. Laws have reasons and basis for existing, not opinions. It has nothing to do with gender. Law is above that ideology that if a woman supports a woman it is feminism. Blind support...only chauvinists think of it first.
As per army rules, next of kin is added as parents and once the officer gets married it automatically defaults to the spouse and awards that are awarded posthumously goes to NOK. Regarding the AGIF insurance post death and PF the officer can allocate percentage to his family and accordingly the amount is distributed. Pension belongs to the widowed spouse. Capt. Anshuman Singh has divided the insurance money 50% to parents and 50% to wife so parents received 50 lakhs. Wife received the other 50 lakhs PF and pension which is legally hers. Then CM relief fund awarded 15 lakhs to parents and 35 to wife. Since parents received 65 lakhs in total, and the father-in-law is a pensioner (he was JCO in army) there's no moral quandary of the wife and she is in the clear morally. Legally also she is in the right. If anyone is morally wrong here it's the parents for blaming her for husband's death, asking her to marry the brother-in-law, as well as defaming her on media after she received such a bad blow of life and lost her love of 8 years and husband. They also had some very twisted notion and told her if she marries the brother-in-law and gives birth to a child, he will be named Anshuman's child in records. I can't fathom this kind of thought process and it's toxic as hell. She is completely in the right to safeguard her mental health here. She is under no obligation to stay with the in-laws so it's incorrect to say she ran away.
I'm a bit confused about the NoK policy. Does it cover just accolades and pensions, or does it extend to include all other monetary benefits as well? According to what I've read, everything else can be divided except for the pension, which, as decided by the Supreme Court, goes to the widowed spouse. There's also a mention that the pension may cease if the widowed spouse's income exceeds the pension amount, though I'm not entirely sure about this detail.
@@bluecotton6841 NOK will cover everything if the officer is not dividing it among others. It covers everything. Regarding division, the officer has to divide the insurance and PF among his dependents in percentages and they are allowed to choose any percentage they see fit. Capt. Singh divided the insurance but not PF. Pension is only for the spouse. Not sure about pension ceasing because I have also heard if they get married to someone else the pension ceases but not sure how much truth is there to it. And another thing that comes to mind is if an officer dies unmarried then does the dependent parents get pension or not. In other government jobs even the dependent unmarried daughter gets the pension, my aunt got my grandfather's pension after my grandfather and then grandmother passed on. But there's no mention of parents in case of pension.
@@meghasanyal4861 You've erased my doubts. Thank you. I believe the existing approach is sensible, as it preserves officers' autonomy while giving them the authority to make decisions for themselves. Whether the current policy should be revised is a sensitive topic. It involves a conflict of tenets, so I resolve to refrain from discussing it. As someone who is drawn to the idea of applying anarchy to relationships, it pains me to witness how people undermine the roles and feelings of everyone involved in conflicts, reducing their experiences to mere contests. I speak more generally than specifically about the martyred officer's case.
You better remain a sitting duck. They had to finally speak after one year of their son’s demise looking at their DIL behaviour. Can’t even them touch KC let alone hand over !! Shameful on such girls
That young lady lost her husband who was only shelter for her for whole life. The parents have another son, so why they are demanding money? The soldier himself has decided the NoK to be his wife, what is their problem?
@@sabahanief1969 Ultimately money is crux of this issue babu... You live in which world? Without money intention nobody cares to come out and spend so much time to speak.
@@deepakk3434Even if it's money doesn't mean the wife will run away. If not money, the parents 100 percent deserve his son's other belongings and the medal.
Wife can remarry someone but old parents can't get their son back. Btw it seems u r living in stone age. Who told u women widow lives single whole life in memories of husband in today's world ?
@@manasac3102they should not get off their son married then. They don't have full right when their son is married. It's the wife who gets. It's his family now.
@@chakithaponnala9869 parents will spend all their hard earned money on their children's education and they have no right on the child ha?? She didn't even let them touch the kirti chakra. I fear for your parents, you must treat them like garbage
If the wife of the deceased person was being cared for like a daughter by the in-laws,then she would have stayed back with them. But the fact that she had to leave clearly shows the ill-treatment she was facing. It was wise of her to leave. If they would have treated her well, she would have willingly handed over some of the entitlement to the in-laws, but in this case, the in-laws action speaks otherwise.
Sir/Ma'am you don't know nowadays even if the parents likes their daughter in law , the daughter in law refuses to take care of them . Most of the husband and wives stay seperately.
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796she has the right to decide whether to leave or live in that house... It's very clear these parents give a shit about their son but they want only the money...not even the medal...
@@vaishu20rockin dumbo the wife give shit about her husband 😂 she need money only, now she will marry again and enjoy life time pension also. She used her husband as golden egg hen.
She has her whole life ahead and if she will move on and marry another man then she have no right to keep the award or chakra. Then she should hand over the Chakra to his family. Because captain Anshuman Singh parents will never move on from him as he is his son and they have worked hard and educated him and raised him up.
5 moths wife. What responsibility does she perform during those 5 months? Please tell me. That smriti singh is turning out to be extremely unlucky for both captain Anshuman singh life and also his whole family. Panuti aurat😢😢
Then according to your logic all parents are like that only. Expecting from children is not wrong. What's wrong with people these days? Itna simping karo ki maa baap ko hi galat bata do
I know ppl in the army. The protocol is that after the officer's demise, the wife gets the full pension notwithstanding duration of marriage. So the parents are being petty here.
@@VaishnaviVashisthit's not about money brother this channel is so fraud they wanted the award for a day and she didn't give it to them his parents are going to donate all their wealth it's not about money this channel is disgusting
It's about the award not money they have plenty of money they only wanted that award for a day but she didn't give them and avoids their phones her father too avoids them saying he has no sim card 😂 can you believe it this channel is too disgusting
The accolades and the money - legally everything belongs to the spouse. After marriage, they become a separate family unit. I don’t know why these people think so lowly even when their son is no more.
I get that the parents must be devastated but why are they so insensitive towards their own daughter-in-law? Who in their senses talk about remarriage with devar to a widow at her late husband's terhvi? How could she live in the same house after such a conversation? I once met a young childless widow who used to get upset at someone suggesting her to remarry even when 6 years had passed after her husband's death. Some people take years to move on and yet his parents couldn't even wait 13 days.
If they have another son, certainly he can take care of his parents. All is not lost for them. But the young widow has her whole life ahead and instead of supporting her they are talking about money.
@@Allofanl do u use the bathroom or your keyboard is the only place where u shit? she got a medal as his wife! if she wants to start a new journey then she must give the money and the medal to his parents coz they would never disown him or start a new life by forgetting him
Wtf! The son himself set his wife as the next of kin. She knew her husband for 8 years and his parents for 6 months...why should she stay? Why is anyone even expecting her to stay? She lost her life partner...SPARE HER PEOPLE!!!! SHE'S ALREADY GRIEVING, DON'T MAKE IT WORSE FOR SOME POLITICAL AGENDA (OTHERWISE WHY RAHUL GANDHI COMES INTO PICTURE?? CHANGE YOUR SOURCES OF INFORMATION PEOPLE!!!
Feeling sad for that young lady How can a parent go after money and awards in this situation Consider that lady's sorrow, plz Don't act like in-laws in bakwaas daily tv shows Attain maturity through age
So she ran away with the money and kirti chakra is ok? She even went to police station to take 10000 rupees that is given for funeral arrangements which is not being done by her anyway. She didn't even come for Shanti Puja. She didn't allow the parents to even hold the kirti chakra. Is it ok for you? She took away all his belongings and changed his address too. He is her husband but also a son. The parents should be allowed to cherish the award too.
They had to finally speak after one year of their son’s demise looking at their DIL behaviour. Can’t even them touch KC let alone hand over !! Shameful on such girls
@@namratagogoi2763ran away? How dumb are ya? It was in the nok and she took what was rightfully hers. If her in laws really liked her, maybe she would have stayed. But we can see their cheap mentality and we know the reason why she had to leave.
As much as i know, these rules apply not just in India, but every other country. U.s, canada, Australia, whole of Europe. I am sorry but parents need to understand, parents in law still have each other. But The daughter in law is a widow now, she has a full life ahead of her.
Kal tu marr gaya aur teri wife sab kuch lekar, tere parents ko chod kar nikal jaye toh tujhe kaisa lagega. Itna bada simp mat ban ke parent ko hi galat declare kar dein
@@sandeepverma9183parents for money and wife for support Because wife ne paise ke liye rona nhi kiya 1 crore me se 50 lakh parents ko bhi mile hai Wife chahti to wo bhi rona karti Par she is a sensible woman unlike these folks who call themselves the parents of a martyr
The parents demanding all the money would have been justified if the deceased was their only son .But no they have another son and if he gets married then the family will again be complete and plus they were receiving pension too from the govt so yes they were well settled and absolutely have no need for the money.But his wife on the other hand has just lost the person whom she had invested in completely.His parents have another son she had only one husband I hope u get the difference .She absolutely deserves most of it as she was his better half .Now a question arises if she gives all the money and the medal to his parents will they still keep her in their house,would they still treat her with respect,would they not use her like a maid to get all their needs met ,would she have any say in their house in the future now these are some things that need to be thought on 🤔
For some people who say she can remarry while his parents cannot replace their son ,let me make it clear all husbands cannot be replaced some widows do not choose to remarry and plus remarrying is absolutely not easy .Most men/women in India look only for the fresh meats and never the used ones so yeah being a widow/widower is pretty much game over in marriage.This is the case for men and woman alike.so yup her needing of financial assistance is more than his parents who have another son.Plus for those who say wife can be replaced but son cannot be his parents can go for an adoption too so yup they can get another child to raise.So stop being emotional and let’s state facts.Plus I would highly appreciate if people argue more maturely rather than always falling for mother emotion.plus I am man not a woman just to make it clear to all those who would accuse me of being a feminazi feminist etc etc.
No wonder women these days educate themselves and stand their ground....because even in tragedy women will never be accorded their respect. A daughter in law will always remain an outsider to the family she is married to....very rare that she is accepted....
The rule is right. What if the married soldier & his wife have children. Who will take care of his wife & children after death? So, for this particular exceptional case these parents want soldier fathers to forget & abandon their children & wife after death just to take care of his parents...Will soldiers parents take care of their son's children & wife?
The wife is entitled, she is the only person who should have a say. She is not beholden onto them. They squawk on the media from pillar to post, all they will get is “we will see” DIL will get it, simple as that pops!
Actually its even more saddening to see ther family issues getting uncovered on television and online. What we can do is support and wishes to both families to overcome this time❤
I get they are parents but they have eachother and maybe other children, this woman left her parents and her family for their son and also waited loyally whilst knowing her husband is away and may never come back making her a widow. She she lost a husband so she should get it her being his wife and all the dutie she has fullfilled is enough for her to deserve it . If some daughter in law has toxic inlaw and she disnt get anything where would she end up in life atleast witn this she can live her life and move on
It does takes a lot of courage to talk about money and medals when their son is no more. I don't know whether the wife is correct or not but I don't think they are good parents either.
The way they are insulting her in front of whole media they don't seem very innocent. The money provided by the government has been divided equally b/w both the parties..but they are being greedy for the pension too how is this justified even though the father in law is also an ex army personnel...
husband ke death k baad kya patni kuch nhi lgti 🥴🥴 ! In law ko media m tamasha banne k wajya widow wife ko bolte k unke beta ka award, money sab unko de !
Why change army rules? First, I don’t agree with parents coming into picture when marriage is between two adults. If one party is insecure about money, have a pre-marital agreement where everything about money both earned by wife/husband while they are alive or after death is mentioned. It can be practiced in civilians as well as in army. I have seen this happening ever among civilians. Mother in law is greedy, and over possessive about her son. She is not happy with her daughter in law further education. This shows her hatred for daughter in law. She would have made her life hell. I am happy Smriti left home and wish God give her strength to face all this emotional turmoil.
but anshuman ki mummy to khud apne sas sasur k sath nahi rahti😂😂😂 anshuman k dada dadi Deoria me rahte hai or parents Lucknow me..(anshuman k papa ne khud kaha tha ki unke parents ko bhi nhi pta ki smriti chli gyi h).khud alg rhte h or smriti se expect kr rhe ki wo unke sath rahe
Its very shameful to see such domestic distress coming in public which is not at all expected from the parents of such a dignified martyr. The parents have stooped so low that they have even joined hands with political leaders for getting the money. Very shameful. May his soul rest in peace and may his widowed wife get the respect and stature she deserves.
@@takashimitsuya5225mind your words man ! In request you to watch whole interview. Smriti was married to Anshuman for 5 months, They accused that their Daughter in law , she took away *kirti chakra* with her and didn't even let allow them to touch *Kiti chakra* ! She did not come for ritual-Narayan Bali of Anshuman's in February , she left their home without telling them just after 13th day of ritual & never come back ! She has been compensated with 50 lacks & parents 15 lacks. Although Smriti & her parents still didn't give any statement about this incidents & accusations whether Anshuman father telling truth or not. Let see what will happen, it would be not fair to be quite judgemental. 🙏
This family is unbelievable!!! Why does it matter if she has the medal?! Was she his nothing? You lost your son, she lost her husband, grieve and let her grieve for god’s sake!
So progressive of you na? Demanding women to sacrifice their lives as u have been since thousands of years. The girl was literally married just for 5 months. And hasn't even crossed 30. Tf u mean she can't marry?
@@mahalak4383 I didn't said she should remain unmarried...just said if she married then she didn't need any support from exhusband's wealth so parents could have a share
Imagine if something happens to this ladies husband will she recieve the insurance money or she will give to his old mother.. Sooo shameful to disrespect this warrior and his wife...this family is shaming the warrior
I literally understand what this young girl had gone through after marriage. She might got bad treatment from these in-laws when her husband was alive and now what these people are doing just showing their true colours only. Full support to Smriti. Shameless people using the son's death to get footage.
"Daughter in law had left their home ". So the parents demand makes sense i guess . But u never know fully without knowing the wife's side of the story.
She has gone to live with her parents. Look at the way the mother in law is talking about her, why would she want to live with someone like that just after the death of her husband
@@DHHFanatictbh it was personal not be discussed on national media... Everyone is talking about money what about the brave heart who laid his life... This is so sad
This comment section restored my faith in indian society. In my opinion the loss of either side is incomparable but the way in laws are treating her is wrong on so many parts
The way she treated is right in all the ways ??? And she has not replied yet on media in the age of information !! That’s dubious
@@sandeepverma9183 why do men even marry women, to be a maid ? They shall be remained unmarried if they want a puppet for their parents. Men should swear to be with their parents only and not to marry or be in a relationship with girl if they want her to be a puppet
@@sandeepverma9183 she is a dignified lady. No need to open up her inlaws dirty laundry there. Or she could have said against these bigots that before putting marriage proposal for their other son with her up in media, they should have atleast talked to her.
@@hermionegranger2398 : come back to Indian soil reality from Portals of Harry Porter .
First watch whole interview then come and comment. Don’t be in a hurry to reply in the name of feminism/ woman equality.
@sandeepverma9183 you can already see their degraded behavior in media socho ghar me kya karte honge bahu ke saath
now that her husband ia gone who's gonna stand by her ?? kuch sochke hi chhora hoga na usne bhi
It's a shame that the father in law said if she says yes I'll get her married to our younger son , like she needs to be stayed married , or more like a thing getting passed on from on to another . And this makes you think why he would suddenly suggest this . Was the brother in law was somehow interested? It gets creppier .
Poor girl😢
If you don't understand the culture don't comment... Daughter in law is considered as the responsibility to grooms parents after grooms death... So to get her married again, such suggestions are given... Considering that rarely people find a fresh groom after being widow.... they may end up finding a divorce or widower, etc... But its her choice to agree or disagree.... Its not forced upon... Its also suggested more if the women is about to conceive.... So the child remains in the same family...
Y unhone kb kya kha sun to lo ache s phle... Unk bete ki terhvi b nhi hui thi jb ldki k papa khne lge the ki meri beti bs 26 ki h.. tb unhone kha tha blkl hm smjhte h uski aage life h bht bdi... Or jese vo khegi hm agree krenge.. jhn vo chahegi hm use beti bna k vhn uski shadi krva denge.. agr vo khegi ki mujhe isi ghr m shadi krni h.. to mera chota beta bs 2 sal chota h.. agr vo khegi ki mrko anshuman k nam k sath hi jina h.. hm use rightful property share denge.. apne bete ki phli aulad b de denge.. mtlb kese log ho tum . Sun to lo vo kya kh rhe h.. or itna kuch hone k bd b ldki vale unk sath kese kr rhe h.. unki bhu n apne sasur lo kirti chkra dekhne b nhi dia.. vo bhu k papa ko phn krk request krre h.. ki murti pr ek br kirti chkra lgane dijiye.. usk bad vapis le jana.. unk papa khte soch k btayege.. sasur ka haq papa s b jyada h mtlb..
@@mr.chindo8570 you think it's about culture ? Okay then think that .
@@kajalrana1380 ladki ke taraf se aajaye kuch bayan tab aage dekh lena kya hai kya nhi . Until then you see this with your perspective as I have seen it with mine .
This is the story of every other deceased armyman's family.. people start fighting for money during funerals
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life.
And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
Funeral happened a year ago
A news channel showed 50L was received by parents and 50L was received by wife@@logicsandtrolls3616
@@janitkumar7283 I am not talking about this particular case.. I was talking about in general..
Perfect ! So parents paid for his education, made him whatever he is. But wife should have all that is cherished becoz she is married.
Anyway u being a woman I know you want preferential treatment everywhere.
It is shameful that this is common. Even after many years of marriage, Indian mother-in-laws never accept their daughter-in-laws. As the widow of an army officer, she is entitled to his stuff. For them to come out to the media and talk negatively about her shows that the toxicity of them not wanting their daughter in law to get anything
Bro dont be one sided.. Watch the full story.. And it's not parents, it's the media reaching them to ask about their situation.. I hate this media .. Parents were left no choice but to answer about the situation.. See their full interview, daughter in law left without telling them anything and also they were ready to accept to marry her as their daughter or so to say they were accepting her as a daughter.. Well I'm blaming her here , its their life, they need time and they can do whatever they want
Read the full interview and comment. She didn’t even let his parents touch the Kirti chakra. Took all his and her belongings and left, blocking them. They have clearly said they don’t want the money but she could’ve at least let them hold the Kirti chakra which they said they would give her back. This is not how he would’ve wanted her to treat his parents. They are old. Least she could’ve done is given them half out of respect.
@@Shy-qr9um Nobody is that evil, if I HAD to guess I would say that the in laws were harassing her some way or other .. no daughter in law just hates her in laws for nothing, there is a reason
And what if the girl remarries which she probably will as she is only 26 and her father had told it on the face of the parents that she will move on with her life? Then also she will keep the benefits of her late husband? And what's about the in-laws! Parents aren't worth anything? Indian household works both ways, there aren't all bad in laws or bad daughter in laws.
@laabogada5730 if she remarried the pension for her husband instead will go to the parents and not her so I don't think she will remarry or something but she is young
When someone joins army they generally put their parents name in nok ( next of kin) . When they get married it by default changes to their spouse. If someone wants to give 50 % to their parents then they have to write a letter and get it changed themselves.
since late anshuman singh didn't change the default nok, his money, awards, documents, pension and everything else legally belongs to his wife.
So his wife might be morally wrong for taking everything for herself but legally she has every write to do so .
Also she is not obliged in any way to live with her in laws so saying that she ran away is wrong .
The boy was from bihar and the girl is from Punjab and they had love marriage so there is a possibility that the parents only accepted the girl for their sons sake.
Also in one of the interview the parents said that she could marry their other son which is absurd
The parents are insane. What is wrong with them? She had to left to protect herself.
The last line has me in shock how can parents say that she can marry their other son ?!!? They are so shameless
Basically if widow gets married to the other brother.. Sara paisa ghar k ander hi rahega control m.
@@daymbb9321if a widow remarries she is not entitled to pension they were ina relationship for 8 years they loved each other
It’s not by default. By default it is 67% to spouse and 33% to parents, however one can get it changed 100% to spouse in case their parents are not financially dependent on them. Also why doesn’t the Father let media know who was his NOK when he was serving.
The comment section restores my faith in people's reasoning. Good to know there are people who are sound minded and aware of the Nok rules!!
It's not just that somebody in the comments said that the father-in-law said that if she says yes then they will get her married to the brother. Like what?
@@Dev-qs2yb Elaborate yer claim how wife is wrong?
@@Dev-qs2yb so you mean the late anshuman singh was wrong or out of his senses when he changed nok name as his wife ?
And parents should have rights to decide where their labour son's NOK ?
@@Dev-qs2yb how is she wrong, kindly elaborate
From both moral and legal point of view.
It's not that she left with the 100%
The parents were compensated thoroughly too.
They literally suggested she remarry their other son, like the 8.5 years of relationship to be thrown in drain, they had been married for 5 months but they go way back
It was late Mr. Anshuman's will shall it not be respected since he flavored his wife??
@@strawberryshortcake4345this is not true. Anshuman parents have already said that she can marry whomever she likes. They are only concerned about veer chakra. That girl didnt let his parents touch the veer chakra neither let them see it. This is cruel. That mother has given birth to anshuman. Do mothers have no right and choice to see the veer chakra of her son. The number of people pulling guns at the parents dont even understamd how the parents are feeling. How the mom is feeling. This comment section literally is anti women. Anti women in the sense that motherd have no right. If mothers dont have basic rights then this society really has become anti women.
No-one is saying that why she left?
She left because her in-laws were forcing her to marry, their younger son, which is so nasty. All the power to you smriti.
Force???? esa kaise bola?!! Unhone bus bola ki esa b kr sakte h or agar kisi or se chahe to vo b kr sakti h… force kaha se aya bich me?decision to mam ka hi hoga na.. and Indian household me esa hota h to may b unhone bol dia ho.. mai esse support nahi kar rahi.. apne husband k bhai se shadi nahi krni chahiye but bol dena force krna nahi hota.
@@amanpreet0043 were you there? Lalchi maa baap ki side lene ka acha tareeka hai.
@@Netflixaddict11 thankyou. Par maa baap kaise lalchi ho sakte h?? Unka to sb kuch gaya.. paisa chodho, ladka b gay
@@amanpreet0043 to fir kisi doosre ke daughter ki zindagi kyu kharab kar rahe hai. She became a widow at 26. She did not get her husband killed. It was an unfortunate accident. She got the compensation by the country as per her husband's wishes. Why is she being bullied by this lalchi uncle aunty to get married to their other son. Why? Because they want her share of the money back into the house. Why should she not block them, why should she not go back to her house? She also has to start her life again. This uncle aunty have each other, they have another son, they have a handsome pension, they also have a major chunk of the money from his son's will. Lalchi Buddha buddi nahi hue toh aur kya hue? Pichle 10 din se tv pe footage kha ke bakwas pe bakwas kare Jaa rahe hai.
@@Netflixaddict11 mai reply likhne vali thi ki apne shahed k maa baap ko esa bol dia… esse jada mujhe nahi lagta ki mujhe apne standards low krne chahiye apse baat kr k.. bhot ache se izat de rahe h ap shahed ho or unke maa baap ko. Good, keep it you, all the best for your future
Her inlaws literally said "tum hamare chote bete se shadi karlo"...taki the money given by gov stays in their house. How can anyone expect her to stay with her inlaws then.
Unfortunately in our country women have to bear the brunt every time
No you guys understanding it wrongly, it was one of suggestion, not they wanted to marry her to their son
@@Rivertalk229they could have said to their daughter in law to further pursue her studies, or start a business and live her life as she wants, but they said stay with us and marry our second son, this clearly shows that they want her money..
True@@anujsingh8892
Source truth me sis, bruh fenenist trying cheap misinformation tricks to save their face 😂😂😂😂
The in laws had plans to get her married to their younger son. Terrible people. The father is a pension holder, even if they had issues it could have been solved privately. The parents also got half the insurance money and money from the state which is 50+15 lakhs but of course they won't mention it anywhere
Why my comment has been deleted
Because you told the truth@@deepanshichoudhary5864
Really ?
the state govt gave 50L to the family in which 35L went to the wife and 15L went to the parents. Idk why they want a change in the NOK. The AGIF amount has been split between the parents and the wife and the wife only gets the 100% PF.
@@edith7248 it's actually 15 lacs from UP govt. both got 50% each of 1cr insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacs.
I found the family so selfish and mean... How dare they even propose getting their younger son married to the dil... Just for keeping all the money to themselves???
Try getting a widow married in India and u will learn the harsh reality. What kind of options she will get.
If they want to preserve her dignity and keep her in the family, what's wrong.
Plus no one is forcing her for it. Infact the inlaws are even ready to get her married as a daughter to anyone of her choice, if she chooses to.
Watch the entire video before jumping to half baked conclusions.
@@sauravsingh661 this is not 1866 neither 1966. Whatever the situation I am glad she is dignified enough not to open up familys dirty laundry in media like that.
@@sauravsingh661 god ur so unware of the currrent society, its not hard to remarry now
@@hermionegranger2398
I like your optimism
How ever I have I question for you.
Will u marry a widower ?
If ur naive answer is a YES, ask your family if they will agree.
If your answer is a NO, then u have answered ur own question.
@@sauravsingh661 Only question here is compatibility and humility in humans. Be it wodower or not. My naive answer is that.
Bunch of hypocrites. You got your son married, so you agreed the legal financial contract between the son and his wife. Their earnings, their losses, their gains, the loans, the rewards, their awards, and all other financial matters are their shared rights and responsibilities. You can’t expect anything legally
They got girl.. They got 65 lakh compensation and they have 2 other sons also they get pension but what is left with that poor girl.. She became widow at 26 , MIL ruined her image in media and now she has to fight another battle just because she is a women..
She took a sensible decision to leave the house. Those parents are real time toxic and shameless too.
how?
@@rohininair5600
Waah Didi
For 5 months of marriage, she deserves everything, and his parents raised him and sacrificed for 25 years, they deserve nothing..
Guess u seem like the toxic one now..
Your lamb mind and toxic comment, I am not going to say who is wrong but your comments is worst didi 🤡🤡
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@@sauravsingh661ab ladki ka kaun hai apna? Woh toh vidhwa ho gai na..
Such a dignified son .....i just feel sorry for that boy's soul.
It's so embarrassing and disrespectful to their martyred son.Literally clear that they don't care about their son but money.Shamefull acts
@@sanjaykumarsingh275 they just want the son's money even if they got pension and nok from the government and also they suggested her to marry their second son which is disgusting. And these parents trying to defame their Dil just bc she took what is rightfully hers when her husband made her a nominee
@@justforlaugh3244exactly. And some people supporting them. They are just saying oho they gave a option. But my question is who are they to giving this toxic suggestion?
You got it 100% this is so embarrassing to even watch
how come the widow is at fault. the officer decided the percentage for his NoK not his wife. Shas a whole life ahead of her as a young widow.
Poor girl has to face another battle with in laws now.
Finally a post where I am seeing sensible comments from people.Let the grieving wife alone. Enough of politics from others.Shes not at fault.
Oh really how could say that if she is good then why she leave Har in law like this don't be one-sided also her father told that she will move on
Being army family they should not have spoken in front of media it is hurting their son don't wash your dirty linen in public be a dignified parents
oh they why tf did she leave home? shouldn't she be ashamed too?
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796 she left because the parents weren't actually supportive of the marriage. Badi mushkil se manaya gaya tha unko shaadi ke liye. If she would've stayed life would be hell.
@@ww.wisewave toh usko medal aur money kyun mila? uske padhai me kitne rupay kharch kiya tha uske wife ne??????
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796yeh sawal aise bhi to dekho uski in laws ne uske liye kya kiya jab pati mar gaye toh yadi woh usi ghar me rahegi to use jya ijjat milega?kya woh naukarani nahi banegi?us insaan ko paise kyu milna chachiye jisne us ladki ki padhai life me kuch bhi kiya balki Uske khilaf the shadi me bhi toh kyun unko sab Milna chahiye jab us
ladki ka bhi bahut kuch gaya .
Yadi meri wife kal shaheed ho jaye to unke parents jinhonne meri life me kuch bhi kiya unko sab kahe ko mile .
Parents of Martyr talking like this in the media about their daughter in law is not good to watch.
They are telling their story, if the story makes you feel some type of way it's bcz the story is disgusting not the parents, and the story was written by that daughter in law.
@@Dev-qs2ybSuppose, you marry your bhabhi and sleep with her who belongs to your dead brother? Whether she wants to or not...do you?
@@Dev-qs2yb she didn't even say anything yet and people like you are calling her bad and what not.....Her In-laws are the worst like you and it's good that she left the house.
@@Dev-qs2yb you are an perfect example of these type of people who treat the women like a piece of mass.
I am very worried how you treat the girls of your home? Will you treat your daughter the same way? I think yes.
Ikr, this entire fiasco is so distasteful
It is good that the wife of the deceased got all the entitlement, because, going by the in-laws behaviour, if it was the other way round, then they would have treated her as the extra mouth to feed in the house or thrown her out of the house.
They raised that man. Wife came into the life just few years ago
Who raised that man, educated him?
@@lubnasart6955agfi cleared it was According to the soldiers will why do u have to butt in
@@lubnasart6955 So? Once you marry, your spouse (and kids if any) is the closest/immediate family.
@@lubnasart6955 Nobody gets married at birth.
Thank you everyone for supporting the wife.
As a women i m so so so thankful. Its so hard when such thing happens neither can we complain nor can we keep quite. All we need is a word saying we are with you n we trust you.
I am amazed seeing such sensible comments. People are getting more rational and aware. Such stupid or selfish acts must be condemned. They wanted to have complete right over their widowed DIL without caring about her feelings and situation. And the sentence she ran away has been only made to demean her integrity.
Parents lost their son now you're calling them selfish and they haven't even got kirti chakra yet
This channel's followers are mostly the educated class, hence the sensible comments. Look at the comments under Hindi news channels and Hindi Facebook pages, you will find dehatis galore doing maa baap ki puja & bahu ke khilaf randi rona. Education and exposure makes all the difference.
@@yuvraj1971 They have received a replica of Kirti Chakra, 50 lakh insurance money and 15 lakh from UP govt. The sasur is an army pension holder himself, and his wife was his NOK nominee during his service, not his parents. They are just greedy people and evil human beings overall.
@@yuvraj1971beta gya h unka aur unhe chakra aur paise ki padi h..kaunsa chakra ab unki ijjat badha dega samaj m..
Bete k liye hi bahu ko duniya k samne badnam na krte ..8 saal ka relationship tha dono ka kuch toh soch lete badnam krne k phle.. 65 lakh mil toh gya aur kitna paisa lenge budhape m+ do aur bete bhi h unke fir bahu ka kya kaam unke ghr p?? Chhote bete se shadi kra de taki 85 lakh bhi ghr m aa jaye.. Such a cheap mentality parent's.. Sick sick sicko
@@shristisrivastava1938
Tumhe 8 saal ka relationship dikh raha hai ye nahi dikh raha ki ek maa- baap ka
26 saal ka beta chala gaya
Jinhone usko raise kiya padhaya likhya
Is kaabil banaya ki wo army doctor ban shake
Unhone apna beta khoya hai wo kirti chakra deserve karte hai
Ladki ko 1 crore + compensation mila
60k/month pension mili lifetime ke liye
Kirti chakra Mila
Lekin parents ne kirti chakra maang kar li toh woh greedy and selfish ho gaye na?
Atleast Kuch toh identity honi unke pass apne bete ki
Ya sabh kuch wife hi deserve karti hai parents gaye bhaar me na?🤦🏼
Rules are there for good reason. They should not fight for it. There is no reason. The wife has her whole life ahead of her.
But who thinks in this way
Exactly. This girl was in a long distance relationship for 8 years but still never ditched him. Even after knowing that her bf's profession is so risky still she married him. Balki agar wo chahti to use bahot paise wali family ka ladka aaram se mil jata because she is very beautiful, educated and from a well settled family. Still she choose him and was by his side. And at last jiske liye itna intezar ki wahin humesha ke liye chala gaya.
I am not saying ki parents ko bura nahi lag raha but still they have 2 more children but uss ladki ka kya. People are saying very casually ki wo dusri shadi kar legi as if shadi bachon ka khel hota hai. It hurts agar kisi ke liye itne saal intezaar karo, uske sath apna future planning karo, ye socho ki kaise buddhe hone ke baad tum log sath mein life ko enjoy karoge and suddenly wo humesha ke liye chala jaye....
People are really heartless.... Mujhe to inki beti pe taras aa raha hai. Ye to apni beti ko bhi taunt marne lagenge agar uske husband ke sath aisa ho
@@janhvisingh1857 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the facts. I had no idea that they were married for that long, as she looks young. I thought maybe they were married for a year or two. Mujhe bhi lagta tha, this is unfair to parents but now I changed my mind
@@janhvisingh1857Marrige and relationship has lot of difference itna hi pyar toh death ke kuchi mahino me iss mahan DIL ne new shadi ka decision kese le liya.. ? She even changed the Guys permanent address from his home address to her parents home address in Punjab.. so that all offical ceremony etc notification and letter sirf usse mile? Parents kuch nai he kya? Kirti chakra leke chali gai.. Ladke ke pita ne chua tk nahi he.. uss award ko.
Uske khudke bete ke award ko.?
Kyu ? Ye uss DIL ke baap ka award he? Ya usne kirti chakra kamaya he?
Don't parents have any role in growth development and support of a child? They are ones who supported him throughout his career financially emotionally everything since childhood and they didn't even deny when he wanted to do love marriage. They have been supportive to their DIL always.. pls do watch their interview first. Aaj kal ladkiya bohot ache se Victim play kr leti he. She is benefiting everywhere.. Medal , Pese , Pension Respect sab uska? Aur parents ko kya milega? Not even a good mention abt them? She is not ready to show them the award too? What kind of shitty woman is she?
First know the full case they say something
The parents are a different breed... openly asking for money ...could really saved their family's pride by keeping these things to themselves
My dad is in the army. The rule states that under NOK 50% goes to the spouse and if requested by the personal the other 50% goes to the nominee selected. In this case the son itself hadn't nominated the parents. And after marriage the next of kin is immediately the spouse not the parents. As shame on the parents to air their grievances with the media. Shows how much they actually cared about their bahu who is grieving just like them. Maybe one of the reason the parents weren't nominated for the 50% share.
It is not about chakra it is actually about money.
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life.
And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
Its all done by rahul gandhi and congress they visited this family and put this all on media,congress is just,i am lost for words,congress did this before with that agniveers family few days back and when the truth came in open,they choose this family
I dont think its shameful ,if parents feel cheated they raised the matter...while wife has option to start life again but for parents its not possible.
She moved out and took everything
She has whole life ahead of her , she is still young and she can remarry
But who will care for them
Thats the weirdest mom! The society is blindly gonna protect her, because she's a mother and no matter how evil she could be, people are going to criticise the young women. Imagine crying over for not getting the proper PR as your daughter-in-law got that she never asked for.
Exactly
Anshuman's mom herself doesn't stay with her mother in law....anshuman's grandparents and parents live separately
@@anushka0569 this is what no one highlights.... besides he is a ex servicemen. He should reveal whom he kept as nominee
I think that there some misunderstanding between them and we should not speak because we don't know the whole story also girls parents didn't say anything
@@sanjaykumarsingh275because they are educated, they don't want to ruin their son in law's image in front of media..
She became widow at 26 and this evil women is asking her to marry her younger son.. Sick sick sick.. They just want all the money with themselves, it's not about the kirti chkra it's about that 85 lakh rupees and pension.
They both have 2 other son's to take care of them but that girl lost her 8 years of love.. Basically she lost her everything
They seriously expect her to stay with them after they asked het to marry her own brother in law ??? Terrible people
They also told that if she wish they will marry her with whoever ever she wish or her parents wish
@@sanjaykumarsingh275 No they didn't say that. If she wants to marry, she will take that decision. She is well educated
It’s clear how the in-laws treat her
They have showed their true colors..
Now I got the reason why she did this!!
She has lost a husband, she can get married and gain a husband immediately, probably given her age this is something that she will do.
Now the parents have lost a son who was their support in old age. No matter what they do they will never get a son back. So I suppose they need greater assistance.
Actually she's the one showed her true colors lol left them empty handed
@@sauravsingh661she will marry bro it's her choice..we cannot comment on that. But now her husband is late she will be having all benefits. She is young and she deserves it rather than serving her in laws life long. It's her descion and also now they treat her
The words they have used for her kind of shows how the daughter inaw was being treated before the death of her husband. The father in law is a pension holder and they have another son. Those shameful parents were planning on getting her married to their younger son right after the death of the eldest. The father in law is also a pension holder, they had no need to bring attention of public towards their personal lives in such times
@@edith7248He also said he was ready to married her like daughter with whoever she wish or her parents wish and what you know about the society do you really her husband would given her name because he knows that she will his parents after his death really how could you say it don't defend the wrong person
Parents shouldn't have speak to media in this manner "unka chal raha tha planning...". They should have solved their family issue in a dignified manner.
She lost the love of her life..her husband. she has her whole life ahead of her. But it seems mother-in-law doesn't like her at all, so why should she stay with her in-laws! There are rules for a reason.
and mother lost nothing😂😂
@@MuhammadAliQureshi-ds3tw okay then I'll take your word for it .
@@depressed_af3763 he means that the mother also lost her son all are victims
@@anayadegani626 they all lost him, yes . That's true .
@@MuhammadAliQureshi-ds3tw obviously she lost...par vidhwa toh patni hi hoti hai?😢😢 why yall so bitter?
She is widow at such young age. She is her whole life's struggle ahead of her. Her in-laws have a second son to lean to for their needs.
They want their DIL to stay at their home doing the houseworks/ problem with India marriage system- treating the DIL as an house help should stop. She lost her husband at an young age - i feel she has all the rights to take that award.with her. Why parents obssessed to control their son's personal matter even after death? So scary to think even in women's perspective in this cruel marriage system - Lucky that i born as a man - atleast we have some freedom from our parents inside the house border
Oh really would like if your wife leave like she did they just want to have some relationship with her
@@sanjaykumarsingh275 You might find it easy to sleep with your brother's wife and ask another girl (coming from a different house) that question, but not everyone is a prostitute, money minded family. For the sake of money, they might as well go to a brothel and get money if they are that desperate. It is a sin, and even God would never let these rascals escapes.
The fact that they are not happy with all the entitlements being given to their DIL speaks volume to their characters.
Two words explains everything : love marriage. Mil seems to hate Dil
Not only in love marriage even if it’s arranged they hate rarely their is exceptions
Dil doesn't love their family either..... it's ok she left their home but how can she change his permanent address....she only loved him didn't have good relationship with family
@@swapnalishapradhan1391 clap is always with two hands, if in-laws are so greedy about money and don't even hesitate to insult DIL publicly then it is good for her that she left house. No sane person will send their daughter/sister to such toxic in-laws family. Btw 100 ℅ nok to wife was chosen by late soldier . If he really wanted then he would have split 50-50 with parents and wife. It was his choice but parents are greedy here
@@swapnalishapradhan1391it's perfectly normal if her relationship with in laws were not that great. She was just married for 5 months so how can you except from a girl to adjust with her in laws in just 5 months after her husband's death. And they look like typical in -laws. I am sure that in the last one year after captain anshuman's agar smriti apne in-laws ko call nahi ki hogi to ye log bhi use call nahi kiye honge. So it was from both the side and now suddenly they are calling media and doing all this.
@@Anonymoushuman13 it's good for her future that she left house....she has full rights....but she should not have changed his address.... about nok his father said both sides have got money...who told you captain mentioned 100% money to his wife...
The daughter in law is the rightful owner of anything her deceased husband had. These are the same type of people who would have kept everything had it been the other way around and their son was the one benefiting. Hope that young woman goes on to live a wonderful life without these toxic people around, to ruin it further.
I am really really liking the comment section . It's so good to see people are not blindedly supporting the parents and supporting the Dil. It's rare to see that in Indian society . It's the harsh reality .🙃🙃 .. I am kinda relieved that the girl left her in-laws instead of accepting any sort of abuse
Poor Capt Anshuman, what a shame that his parents are trying to ruin his & his widow’s name in public like this!
This is such a disgusting family. After marriage of course all husband things belong to wife... All i can understand is parents and his brother they only need money only Anshuman wife showing real affection.
Y are they being so petty its not just them who lost their their son The women lost her husband too.What th do they mean by 'took away' it was given to her not stolen!
No it was not given to her, it was given to the martyred. Who is a son and a husband. If she wants a new life, then why does she need the belongings of her late husband. She can get a new husband but they cannot get a new son.
@@vip-yr9jc you guys are against Anshuman sirs decision, it was suppose to be 50%(for wife if married) other 50% for rest of family members, but he choose not to , you must know the reason his parents hate her you can see , how can she will be with them like this
@@Allofanl does that entitle her to take all his belongings with him to her house?? What about the kirti chakra? Break it in half? Why can't you accept that she can remarry and the belongings of her late husband belong to his family not hers.
@@Allofanl everything belongs to his wife that's ok...but how can his wife change his address to gurdaspur??? The parents are left with nothing literally....
@@vip-yr9jc firstly u should yourself about the rule of army, parents do get some insurance money and other benefits like medical facilities etc, it's just that wife has right to larger portion as she is the life partner...
AND if she remarries, she will get nothing that's the law even .. about kirti chakar, it's a debatable topic but not on national media, they brought shame to martyr sacrifice.
Idiots commenting without knowing that while entering the force the nomination is automatically done by the personal. Just like you have to nominate people for life insurance claim. The decision was made by Late Anshuman Singh and let's respect that. Shame on the parents to fight in public and dis their daughter-in-law like this in public while all are mourning.
Even if it's his decision she can be sensible enough to hand over some assets lol it was just a 4-5 months of marriage and she gets the whole thing without doing anything!!!
@@krishnagarg7429ja ke padh le bacche tujhe nhi milna 2 rupiah bhi isme se kyu har jagah naach rha hai😂
@@krishnagarg7429They dated for 11 years before marriage.
Shame on u...ure cursing a martyr family..Nd striking some cheap allegations on them...
Listen Bh..all things need to be fair..
She can marry anyone..but parents can't get their son back...
Nd Im sure when our captain was doing the nominee thind he didn't ever considered to be in a situation like this...if she wants to remarry she have to leave all his allowances and kirti chakra back to his parents.....
@@neenamajukar4852so what? Does their marital relationship last over 11 years?.. Dating years doesn't come into the count as these years have no importance, no responsibility, only for having fun.women ☕
She has every right on Kirti Chakra and other benefits, now even though she has moved away from home they should make their bond even stronger and remember the fallen hero in good conscience.
They shouldn't have gone to media channels like this.
Sure, cz life works like a suraj barjatya movie anyday in real.
@chris_louis you are in no state to give advice here. It’s their family matter. Nobody knows the ins and outs of it. And it is by law of army she deserves it . Parents are being selfish.
Everything related to their son was taken by her
They were getting hate everywhere
Who would listen their voice?
Everyone is busy sympathizing with the wife
This step was needed
Those toxic parents should be ashamed. No wonder she moved out.
Parents won't let their DILs have any rights even after their son is dead. Shameful.
Why would they??? If she can't be a good DIL
parents should have taken the moral high ground. They should have helped the girl start her new life.
And girl should have shared some of the money with parents as gratitude since obviously they did not have anything left
In this case, the wife should herself have handed over everything to the parents. She doesn't have kids and might ger married again. Parents have two more kids who are still studying. The father is retired.
@@logicsandtrolls3616no parents could not have done much because as it is evident that the dil did not need them & went to her home (before marriage). She clearly is following what she wants!
@@tathagatabanerjee946 they were literally suggesting her to marry their son, i am glad she left those weirdos.
Assuming his parent's mentality he took the decision, and he jnew that his parent's gonna abandon his wife,so he decuded to make her financially 💪. Seems his assumption was right.😢
She didn't ? Attended the last rituals ?
Oh really dumbo😂 she used her husband for money and life time pension
Could be plus I thin’ we must respect the deceased decision he nominated his wife as nok not his parents and he must have done so in front of min 2 witnesses as per the law and not his parents so he must have known what he is doing
Bro, she's an engineer.
Rather you stop making assumptions 💀
Army has its own rules. Whether one likes it or not. It is not an ordinary job,therefore,not an ordinary death. Those who don't know these rules or reasons for it, should refrain from emotional comments. There are numerous unique cases in past. Wife's entitlement is correct.
Nopess you are wrong 😂
Yeah exactly 💯...these indian cheap in laws can go to any extent for son's money
You are wrong miss feminist😂
@@t.brahma2645 Maybe I am wrong . Maybe you are. Its not our debate. And Law is gender neutral.
@@RAVITESHKUMAR-bq1pj could be. But Law is not feminist. Laws have reasons and basis for existing, not opinions. It has nothing to do with gender. Law is above that ideology that if a woman supports a woman it is feminism. Blind support...only chauvinists think of it first.
Parents are genuinely toxic here.
Can’t even have the grace to allow the daughter to law to have the money?
It is her right
As per army rules, next of kin is added as parents and once the officer gets married it automatically defaults to the spouse and awards that are awarded posthumously goes to NOK. Regarding the AGIF insurance post death and PF the officer can allocate percentage to his family and accordingly the amount is distributed. Pension belongs to the widowed spouse. Capt. Anshuman Singh has divided the insurance money 50% to parents and 50% to wife so parents received 50 lakhs. Wife received the other 50 lakhs PF and pension which is legally hers. Then CM relief fund awarded 15 lakhs to parents and 35 to wife. Since parents received 65 lakhs in total, and the father-in-law is a pensioner (he was JCO in army) there's no moral quandary of the wife and she is in the clear morally. Legally also she is in the right.
If anyone is morally wrong here it's the parents for blaming her for husband's death, asking her to marry the brother-in-law, as well as defaming her on media after she received such a bad blow of life and lost her love of 8 years and husband. They also had some very twisted notion and told her if she marries the brother-in-law and gives birth to a child, he will be named Anshuman's child in records. I can't fathom this kind of thought process and it's toxic as hell. She is completely in the right to safeguard her mental health here.
She is under no obligation to stay with the in-laws so it's incorrect to say she ran away.
I'm a bit confused about the NoK policy. Does it cover just accolades and pensions, or does it extend to include all other monetary benefits as well?
According to what I've read, everything else can be divided except for the pension, which, as decided by the Supreme Court, goes to the widowed spouse. There's also a mention that the pension may cease if the widowed spouse's income exceeds the pension amount, though I'm not entirely sure about this detail.
@@bluecotton6841 NOK will cover everything if the officer is not dividing it among others. It covers everything.
Regarding division, the officer has to divide the insurance and PF among his dependents in percentages and they are allowed to choose any percentage they see fit. Capt. Singh divided the insurance but not PF.
Pension is only for the spouse. Not sure about pension ceasing because I have also heard if they get married to someone else the pension ceases but not sure how much truth is there to it.
And another thing that comes to mind is if an officer dies unmarried then does the dependent parents get pension or not. In other government jobs even the dependent unmarried daughter gets the pension, my aunt got my grandfather's pension after my grandfather and then grandmother passed on. But there's no mention of parents in case of pension.
@@meghasanyal4861 You've erased my doubts. Thank you.
I believe the existing approach is sensible, as it preserves officers' autonomy while giving them the authority to make decisions for themselves. Whether the current policy should be revised is a sensitive topic. It involves a conflict of tenets, so I resolve to refrain from discussing it.
As someone who is drawn to the idea of applying anarchy to relationships, it pains me to witness how people undermine the roles and feelings of everyone involved in conflicts, reducing their experiences to mere contests. I speak more generally than specifically about the martyred officer's case.
Don't pollute the image of family of a martyr....
It is not politics.
The issue may be resolved later on in a dignified manner.
This is the most serious issue
If the family comes out and maligns their own family name then the public will politicise no
@@izzzy14 exactly
@@saptarshighosh4563Yes itis typical of all m i l in our society
Looks tough
Feel bad for her. She's mourning her husband and her in-laws are taking advantage of her silence.
You better remain a sitting duck. They had to finally speak after one year of their son’s demise looking at their DIL behaviour.
Can’t even them touch KC let alone hand over !! Shameful on such girls
@@sandeepverma9183 what behaviour. did you see everything personally?
@@AshuSingh-mw2wtso why the person who has been charged of such immoral behaviour is not replying ? And absent from 13th day of his demise.
@@sandeepverma9183 why should she sink to their lows? It's better to not keep contact. She deserves to live her like the way she wants.
That young lady lost her husband who was only shelter for her for whole life. The parents have another son, so why they are demanding money?
The soldier himself has decided the NoK to be his wife, what is their problem?
They didn't demand money , one should not be commenting before watching all of their interviews
@@sabahanief1969 Ultimately money is crux of this issue babu... You live in which world? Without money intention nobody cares to come out and spend so much time to speak.
@@sabahanief1969they said benefits which means money
@@deepakk3434Even if it's money doesn't mean the wife will run away. If not money, the parents 100 percent deserve his son's other belongings and the medal.
Wife can remarry someone but old parents can't get their son back.
Btw it seems u r living in stone age. Who told u women widow lives single whole life in memories of husband in today's world ?
Shameful that the parents are even thinking of entitlements.
There's nothing shameful in it. So you mean they shouldn't raise their voice if the feel they faced injustice!!
@@manasac3102they should not get off their son married then. They don't have full right when their son is married. It's the wife who gets. It's his family now.
So the wife ran away with everything isn't shameful?
@@chakithaponnala9869 parents will spend all their hard earned money on their children's education and they have no right on the child ha?? She didn't even let them touch the kirti chakra.
I fear for your parents, you must treat them like garbage
@@namratagogoi2763 no, its not. Wife can decide where she wants to stay.
Maybe even late Anshuman knew it's gonna be like this, and his own parents will priorities money..... So he didn't nominate his parents after marriage
If the wife of the deceased person was being cared for like a daughter by the in-laws,then she would have stayed back with them. But the fact that she had to leave clearly shows the ill-treatment she was facing. It was wise of her to leave.
If they would have treated her well, she would have willingly handed over some of the entitlement to the in-laws, but in this case, the in-laws action speaks otherwise.
Sir/Ma'am you don't know nowadays even if the parents likes their daughter in law , the daughter in law refuses to take care of them . Most of the husband and wives stay seperately.
@@Eat_Your_Lifenot in this case.
Im literally shocked.How can they be so heartless.A wife lost her husband, a mother lost her son yet they are fighting for money and a medal.☹️☹️☹️
Yes, i absolutely agree with you. They should be ashamed.
why tf did she leave her late husbands' house??? coz they didn't ask her to leave their home.
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796she has the right to decide whether to leave or live in that house... It's very clear these parents give a shit about their son but they want only the money...not even the medal...
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796they would hv kept pestering her n she would hv left.
@@vaishu20rockin dumbo the wife give shit about her husband 😂 she need money only, now she will marry again and enjoy life time pension also. She used her husband as golden egg hen.
The wife is entitled to keep the award.
She has her whole life ahead and if she will move on and marry another man then she have no right to keep the award or chakra. Then she should hand over the Chakra to his family. Because captain Anshuman Singh parents will never move on from him as he is his son and they have worked hard and educated him and raised him up.
No she don't
Yes according to law
But these parents who looked after their son from childhood are entitled to nothing?
@@Ankit1shaw unfortunately, that's the way of the world
5 moths wife. What responsibility does she perform during those 5 months? Please tell me. That smriti singh is turning out to be extremely unlucky for both captain Anshuman singh life and also his whole family. Panuti aurat😢😢
So shameful of parents
His wife Smriti took the right decision to leave the toxic in laws. They are so mean.
It seems the deceased army officer was just a credit card/pension plan for them
Hm
Then according to your logic all parents are like that only. Expecting from children is not wrong. What's wrong with people these days? Itna simping karo ki maa baap ko hi galat bata do
call it capitalism, call it ghor kaliyug, indian people rejected humanity in their parenthood and took to raising their children as another livestock.
I believe soldiers are usually the debit cards of their family. Their family rarely loves them if they don't give them money.
Yes
The lost the man she loved. She is actually grieving. Parents on the other hand are onto their usual business.
I know ppl in the army. The protocol is that after the officer's demise, the wife gets the full pension notwithstanding duration of marriage. So the parents are being petty here.
But he was their son
The amount should be distributed equally
@@VaishnaviVashisthit's not about money brother this channel is so fraud they wanted the award for a day and she didn't give it to them his parents are going to donate all their wealth it's not about money this channel is disgusting
It's about the award not money they have plenty of money they only wanted that award for a day but she didn't give them and avoids their phones her father too avoids them saying he has no sim card 😂 can you believe it this channel is too disgusting
@@Little-cat-9-f7q just saw the interview, what she did was so wrong man!
@@VaishnaviVashisth yes that is right even the dispute wasn't that big she single-handedly created this issue but her father in law handled it well
His family Don't look grieving 🙄.
How toxic and cheap they are!
The accolades and the money - legally everything belongs to the spouse. After marriage, they become a separate family unit. I don’t know why these people think so lowly even when their son is no more.
I get that the parents must be devastated but why are they so insensitive towards their own daughter-in-law? Who in their senses talk about remarriage with devar to a widow at her late husband's terhvi? How could she live in the same house after such a conversation? I once met a young childless widow who used to get upset at someone suggesting her to remarry even when 6 years had passed after her husband's death. Some people take years to move on and yet his parents couldn't even wait 13 days.
Shame on the family. Some people go mad when they get old. Turning the bravery of Mr. Anshuman singh into something petty
Look at that poor widow's face. Barely holding it together. And the parents are making their benefits priority.
Feminist scholar..
So she will stay unmarried? She can get a husband but parents can't get their son😢
Using your logic, they can have another son too@@SJ-yg1bh
Wamaan are good at acting and simps keep looking at them
@@kumarabhishek1064 exactly what a simp would say
If they have another son, certainly he can take care of his parents. All is not lost for them. But the young widow has her whole life ahead and instead of supporting her they are talking about money.
I think 🤔 the martyr choose his wife for nok,parents should be merciful
they are very petty for calling the media. Cheap.
@@prernasingh8908They didn't call media ....rahul gandhi visited there home or us Chutiye ne bhadka diya unko
@@prernasingh8908 exactly
@@prernasingh8908true
NOK is changed automatically on marriage by rule that’s the issue chuty@@@n
What's wrong in it ? She (wife) deserves full financial support.
the she should have remained at her late husbands' house right???????
Why s that she should remain with them forever...?@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796
@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796nope , not required she has every right to have a happy life like others , we will not expect any more sacrifice from her
@@Allofanl do u use the bathroom or your keyboard is the only place where u shit? she got a medal as his wife! if she wants to start a new journey then she must give the money and the medal to his parents coz they would never disown him or start a new life by forgetting him
Why ?? Every soldier should name NOK and Sharing of its all entitlement and let both have their choice of life@@bk-shubhamhcr2gaming796
Wtf! The son himself set his wife as the next of kin. She knew her husband for 8 years and his parents for 6 months...why should she stay? Why is anyone even expecting her to stay?
She lost her life partner...SPARE HER PEOPLE!!!! SHE'S ALREADY GRIEVING, DON'T MAKE IT WORSE FOR SOME POLITICAL AGENDA (OTHERWISE WHY RAHUL GANDHI COMES INTO PICTURE??
CHANGE YOUR SOURCES OF INFORMATION PEOPLE!!!
Feeling sad for that young lady
How can a parent go after money and awards in this situation
Consider that lady's sorrow, plz
Don't act like in-laws in bakwaas daily tv shows
Attain maturity through age
So she ran away with the money and kirti chakra is ok? She even went to police station to take 10000 rupees that is given for funeral arrangements which is not being done by her anyway.
She didn't even come for Shanti Puja. She didn't allow the parents to even hold the kirti chakra. Is it ok for you?
She took away all his belongings and changed his address too. He is her husband but also a son. The parents should be allowed to cherish the award too.
They had to finally speak after one year of their son’s demise looking at their DIL behaviour.
Can’t even them touch KC let alone hand over !! Shameful on such girls
@@namratagogoi2763ran away? How dumb are ya? It was in the nok and she took what was rightfully hers. If her in laws really liked her, maybe she would have stayed. But we can see their cheap mentality and we know the reason why she had to leave.
@@namratagogoi2763there is nothing to cherish in the award. Good lord. Grow up. A person is dead.
As much as i know, these rules apply not just in India, but every other country. U.s, canada, Australia, whole of Europe. I am sorry but parents need to understand, parents in law still have each other. But The daughter in law is a widow now, she has a full life ahead of her.
Wo sipahi bhi sochta hoga kaise logo k liye jaan di hai maine😂
Kal tu marr gaya aur teri wife sab kuch lekar, tere parents ko chod kar nikal jaye toh tujhe kaisa lagega.
Itna bada simp mat ban ke parent ko hi galat declare kar dein
Unhone 3 families bachayi aur khud ki toot gyi😢 wo bhi paiso k liye
Wife for money and parents for emotional support !!
@@sandeepverma9183parents for money and wife for support
Because wife ne paise ke liye rona nhi kiya
1 crore me se 50 lakh parents ko bhi mile hai
Wife chahti to wo bhi rona karti
Par she is a sensible woman unlike these folks who call themselves the parents of a martyr
His parents was waiting for his death so as to encash everything. Shameless parents.
Don’t wash your dirty linen in public. Big mistake by the parents. Now this will forever sully the memory of this brave heart.
The parents demanding all the money would have been justified if the deceased was their only son .But no they have another son and if he gets married then the family will again be complete and plus they were receiving pension too from the govt so yes they were well settled and absolutely have no need for the money.But his wife on the other hand has just lost the person whom she had invested in completely.His parents have another son she had only one husband I hope u get the difference .She absolutely deserves most of it as she was his better half .Now a question arises if she gives all the money and the medal to his parents will they still keep her in their house,would they still treat her with respect,would they not use her like a maid to get all their needs met ,would she have any say in their house in the future now these are some things that need to be thought on 🤔
For some people who say she can remarry while his parents cannot replace their son ,let me make it clear all husbands cannot be replaced some widows do not choose to remarry and plus remarrying is absolutely not easy .Most men/women in India look only for the fresh meats and never the used ones so yeah being a widow/widower is pretty much game over in marriage.This is the case for men and woman alike.so yup her needing of financial assistance is more than his parents who have another son.Plus for those who say wife can be replaced but son cannot be his parents can go for an adoption too so yup they can get another child to raise.So stop being emotional and let’s state facts.Plus I would highly appreciate if people argue more maturely rather than always falling for mother emotion.plus I am man not a woman just to make it clear to all those who would accuse me of being a feminazi feminist etc etc.
If stating facts would make me a simp for women then I think you need to get an iq check
@@shobarajesh2724loved your reply sir
No wonder women these days educate themselves and stand their ground....because even in tragedy women will never be accorded their respect. A daughter in law will always remain an outsider to the family she is married to....very rare that she is accepted....
Dear parents of a brave soldier, you have displayed to the entire world that your greed is greater than grief.
The rule is right. What if the married soldier & his wife have children. Who will take care of his wife & children after death? So, for this particular exceptional case these parents want soldier fathers to forget & abandon their children & wife after death just to take care of his parents...Will soldiers parents take care of their son's children & wife?
The wife is entitled, she is the only person who should have a say. She is not beholden onto them. They squawk on the media from pillar to post, all they will get is “we will see” DIL will get it, simple as that pops!
Actually its even more saddening to see ther family issues getting uncovered on television and online. What we can do is support and wishes to both families to overcome this time❤
I get they are parents but they have eachother and maybe other children, this woman left her parents and her family for their son and also waited loyally whilst knowing her husband is away and may never come back making her a widow. She she lost a husband so she should get it her being his wife and all the dutie she has fullfilled is enough for her to deserve it . If some daughter in law has toxic inlaw and she disnt get anything where would she end up in life atleast witn this she can live her life and move on
It does takes a lot of courage to talk about money and medals when their son is no more. I don't know whether the wife is correct or not but I don't think they are good parents either.
Parents have legally zero control on children reaching 18. I don't think anything wrong done from wife's side....
The way they are insulting her in front of whole media they don't seem very innocent. The money provided by the government has been divided equally b/w both the parties..but they are being greedy for the pension too how is this justified even though the father in law is also an ex army personnel...
Ye parents hain... Besharam...lagta hai inko apne bete k veergati se zyada paise na milne ka dukh hai...
husband ke death k baad kya patni kuch nhi lgti 🥴🥴 ! In law ko media m tamasha banne k wajya widow wife ko bolte k unke beta ka award, money sab unko de !
It's her husband who she has every right to keep with her unless she is married, shameless in laws
Shameless in laws...
Why change army rules? First, I don’t agree with parents coming into picture when marriage is between two adults. If one party is insecure about money, have a pre-marital agreement where everything about money both earned by wife/husband while they are alive or after death is mentioned. It can be practiced in civilians as well as in army. I have seen this happening ever among civilians. Mother in law is greedy, and over possessive about her son. She is not happy with her daughter in law further education. This shows her hatred for daughter in law. She would have made her life hell. I am happy Smriti left home and wish God give her strength to face all this emotional turmoil.
but anshuman ki mummy to khud apne sas sasur k sath nahi rahti😂😂😂 anshuman k dada dadi Deoria me rahte hai or parents Lucknow me..(anshuman k papa ne khud kaha tha ki unke parents ko bhi nhi pta ki smriti chli gyi h).khud alg rhte h or smriti se expect kr rhe ki wo unke sath rahe
Its very shameful to see such domestic distress coming in public which is not at all expected from the parents of such a dignified martyr. The parents have stooped so low that they have even joined hands with political leaders for getting the money. Very shameful. May his soul rest in peace and may his widowed wife get the respect and stature she deserves.
Shame on the parents that they are fighting over money after his death.
Wife is not fighting, only parents are doing this
No wonder she left them
Imagine what life she must be living if they are like this infront of media
@@takashimitsuya5225mind your words man ! In request you to watch whole interview. Smriti was married to Anshuman for 5 months, They accused that their Daughter in law , she took away *kirti chakra* with her and didn't even let allow them to touch *Kiti chakra* ! She did not come for ritual-Narayan Bali of Anshuman's in February , she left their home without telling them just after 13th day of ritual & never come back ! She has been compensated with 50 lacks & parents 15 lacks.
Although Smriti & her parents still didn't give any statement about this incidents & accusations whether Anshuman father telling truth or not.
Let see what will happen, it would be not fair to be quite judgemental. 🙏
@@takashimitsuya5225 I agree, I will change my comment
All they (parents) need is only Captain's (son) money and rewards. Smriti sensed it and stepped out with honesty. May God bless you, Smriti ❤❤❤
This family is unbelievable!!! Why does it matter if she has the medal?! Was she his nothing? You lost your son, she lost her husband, grieve and let her grieve for god’s sake!
If she remains unmarried then everything belongs to her ....but if not then parents also should have a share in it
@@KumarAkshay-so3enthank you for the information. If it’s his choice let it be with her
Yes. Ultimately it is the loss of parents🙏🏼
So progressive of you na? Demanding women to sacrifice their lives as u have been since thousands of years. The girl was literally married just for 5 months. And hasn't even crossed 30. Tf u mean she can't marry?
Why should she remain unmarried. What a regressive thinking
@@mahalak4383 I didn't said she should remain unmarried...just said if she married then she didn't need any support from exhusband's wealth so parents could have a share
Parents emotionally immature
Imagine if something happens to this ladies husband will she recieve the insurance money or she will give to his old mother..
Sooo shameful to disrespect this warrior and his wife...this family is shaming the warrior
I literally understand what this young girl had gone through after marriage. She might got bad treatment from these in-laws when her husband was alive and now what these people are doing just showing their true colours only. Full support to Smriti.
Shameless people using the son's death to get footage.
The way they talk about their daughter in law on social media is horrible 😢
"Daughter in law had left their home ". So the parents demand makes sense i guess . But u never know fully without knowing the wife's side of the story.
She has gone to live with her parents. Look at the way the mother in law is talking about her, why would she want to live with someone like that just after the death of her husband
@@edith7248 maybe ur right. It's a complicated matter and only those who personally know about the situation can get a clear answer.
@@DHHFanatictbh it was personal not be discussed on national media... Everyone is talking about money what about the brave heart who laid his life... This is so sad
She is free to live wherever she wants and is also free to get married.
She was asked to marry her brother in law. So shame less parents