I admire your bravery, kindness, sensitivity, and honesty! There isn't anything wrong with how you look or do things, do what you feel is right for you. There is as many ways to be a woman as there are women on Earth, and so often they are told how they ought to be by others. The beauty of a person really comes out in how they treat others. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Hope you are having a good holiday season!
I’m cis-presenting (for now), afab, and gender fluid and I don’t really pass anymore (my pfp is about 14 years and 3 kids ago) but my spouse calls me beautiful enough that I believe it now. “Passing” is obviously and practically a thing that gets worried about for safety, but it’s such bullshit that it even needs to be a thing. As long as you feel like yourself, that’s all that should matter… I get that it isn’t like that in real life in the US and the UK (and a couple dozen other countries) but I really want it to not matter. It’s causing too much stress on trans people and even cis people who don’t “pass” TL;DR you **are** beautiful and screw the haters
This video is so wonderful and poetic, as a young trans person it feels so calming to have early transition thoughts said so poignantly. Know that the right people in life will never care about how well you pass and will see you for you, I’m so grateful that after 17 years of struggling I’ve finally found friends who just understand, and it’s so freeing. Dylan Mulvaney has also spoken out a lot about her experience showing her full transition on the internet, and it might help to take a look through her page! It’s certainly not for the weak, and I really admire how honest and vulnerable you’re being here sharing your experience. All the best and good luck!
Thanks 🙏 Yes the people around me in real life have by and large been wonderful and I’m appreciating their support through this journey. I’m curious to see what the next 12 months will bring, as I’ve learnt and grown so much. I hope you’re having a great holiday period and will have a wonderful 2025❤️❤️
Ignore the trolls. Transitioning isn’t about passing. It’s about being authentic and feeling comfortable in your own body. Take your time and embrace what brings you joy. You deserve it! 💖
Thank you 🙏 I’m certainly happier than ever, and its wild that the simple act of being me is so much easier these days! I hope you have a wonderful 2025 ❤️❤️
Another wonderful video, I don't know of any other content like yours, thank you. Gen Z (the ones I know in any case) say 'you do you', and that's what I live by. You will never please everyone, especially on the internet, and some people seem to just say the most hurtful things they can think of. You have more empathy in your little finger than they have in their whole selves. Your 'going to work' photos show an amazing difference in just one year, that's incredible. From a not-very-visual woman who doesn't wear make-up, or nail varnish, or dresses 😂 Have a brilliant Christmas 🎄🎁
Thanks for saying ☺️❤️ Sometimes we are not, after all, our biggest critics, and it’s difficult to not internalise some of it. But, as I say I feel better. It may be in a couple of years I’m no longer interested in nail polish and make up and so on. I kinda hope so. But at the moment it’s a fun way to experiment and explore. Its been wonderful meeting you this year ages I hope you have a fantastic 2025 ❤️☺️🎄
Andi, let me set something straight: This whole 'am I pretty enough' is a bulls### thought. I know by myself (on sleeping medics for years because of overthinking) that this thought comes to mind and isn't easy to be silenced (I hope my english is good enought to describe my thoughts... I am native german...). YOU ARE PRETTY! Yes, you don't look like a Kardashian, but neither do I nor anyone else here in the chat! But you are pretty! It is not the 'shape of the face or the body' , full lips and big bling blang eye lashes - you are pretty because of what your VIBES are, your inner, that you so brave show us in every video. I am going to be 50 soon, got lots of dating experinces before I met my husband a few years ago. And one thing, that I learned: A 'pretty outside' (in the terms of 'Kardashian-pretty' and 'Influencer-pretty' ) is worth NOTHING! Nothing! You are courageous enogh to take us with you on your journey (and with 'us' I mean loooots of people who don't have your best in mind, people who are simply bored, dumb or bad human beings who get joy by pulling others down - the classic troll). I am a mum of a trans daughter on her first steps (she comes out to me half a year ago). And the only measurement I'll do is: Does she look and feel happy. That's the only thing that counts, and than, I think, the path is the right one. But I also heard from her, the concerns of being a biological male becoming a female, the sorrows and pure fear about the world outside and how people would react. What I want to say: YOU ARE PRETTY! Your vibes your energy is and by that the rest of you is also - body, face, the whole person! I met enough people in my life that 'looked pretty' on the first impression, than they opened their mouths and ... well ... no. Not pretty anymore. Anyone who measures pretty by simply body-looks should remember the last time they where mesmerized by someone. Most times it was not 'the look', it was what they have to tell, how someone acts, speaks, his/her minds and thoughts and so on. And again: You are pretty! And it is your way, that you couragiously show to us with high, high risks of showing your life to some people who don't deserve this kind of pure honesty and vulnurability. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Wish you a merry christmas and tons of thousands more subscribers and people who empower you in 2025! 😺
A week since you've posted - just checking in - hope everything is ok and you are enjoying some well deserved holiday time off! All the best to you in 25!
Thanks 🙏 I’m good, just taking a little break. I’ve been a bit sick and been a bit burned out from everything. How’s your Christmas etc been? I hope you’ve had a restful time ❤️❤️
@@Andy_trans_education Restful HA! My big girl who lives in Cambridge now was over for a week with her BF, who teaches Ukrainian at Cambridge. So we had to shuffle bedrooms a bit. Then me, the Husb, and the 12 yr old twins. And the 2 dogs and the 30 cats. Yes, we had five litters of kittens this year and now coming up we have weeks of vet appointments booked to get everyone "fixed." It's a lot being a rancher of cats while trying to maintain some semblance of a normal-ish home. Are you staying in Warsaw for the whole holiday season?
goodness that sounds ... hectic! Yes, I'm in Warsaw over most of the holidays, but Karolina and I are going to Krakow on the 2nd-4th to have a couple of days away. I'll try to record a few things here and there wile I'm there!
as a nonbinary person its just so weird cause i cant exactly pass at all LOL long time for society even trans people to be more open and accepting of others overall
My 2 cents on your post: -Once you start hiding, you loose. I'm not on social media with trans issues, but in real life, I'm there and don't hide. Neither should you -You don't pass well, but with ffs and voice surgery you could pass very well. Hairline isn't a problem, but nose and adams apple and the usual. -Before I started to transition and in my beginning, I was very eager to talk to trans women, to hear their thoughts etc... It was a dissappointment. They had disphoria as I did, but in general, we didn't have a lot in common. And those who had my age and I felt a bond live far away from me. -Relationsship: Do what you have to do and start dating again once you're finished. It's better to have time for yourself while transitioning. I had a gf half a year after I started, it was a desaster. I think it's better looking once you've become who you wanted to be. Last but not least, what I want you to change? Hey, it's your disphoria, not mine. You should change what you and you alone want to change. If you want to pass as a female, I hope you earn enough money, it's gonna be expensive. For example I didn't have ffs and voice surgery, but I had buttom surgery because that's what mattered to me. I don't pass as a female, but as a trans woman and I am proud of who I am and what I have become. That's what counts, isn't it? As far as beeing a "stranger from the internet", if you want to see how I don't pass you can see me with my partner at www.leandra-honegger.ch All the best to you!
Thanks 🙏 Yes for me I am proud to be a transgender woman. It’s who I am and represents my journey. I’m not going to have the money for a whole host of surgeries. I want to see what HRT and all the other stuff will de before making long term plans.
I think eventually youll pass really well,if you choose to. Some trans women can pass straight away,others take more time. For some they need nose jobs,adams apple shaves,brow lifts, and lots of other surgeries that take time and money.
Thanks. I’m not sure if I want to get a bunch of surgeries, and honestly I’m kinda at peace with being visibly trans - for now at least. There’s something powerful about taking the world IDGAF and just getting out there. It might get a bit tiring over time mind you. I’m just enjoying the journey for now, and certainly appreciating the inner acceptance and peace I’ve found.
As I was editing this video it was interesting how much symbolism and interpretation is involved in my stories here… I’ve never been accused of under thinking things 😆 Have a great holiday period ❤️
I admire your bravery, kindness, sensitivity, and honesty! There isn't anything wrong with how you look or do things, do what you feel is right for you. There is as many ways to be a woman as there are women on Earth, and so often they are told how they ought to be by others. The beauty of a person really comes out in how they treat others. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Hope you are having a good holiday season!
I’m cis-presenting (for now), afab, and gender fluid and I don’t really pass anymore (my pfp is about 14 years and 3 kids ago) but my spouse calls me beautiful enough that I believe it now.
“Passing” is obviously and practically a thing that gets worried about for safety, but it’s such bullshit that it even needs to be a thing. As long as you feel like yourself, that’s all that should matter…
I get that it isn’t like that in real life in the US and the UK (and a couple dozen other countries) but I really want it to not matter. It’s causing too much stress on trans people and even cis people who don’t “pass”
TL;DR you **are** beautiful and screw the haters
This video is so wonderful and poetic, as a young trans person it feels so calming to have early transition thoughts said so poignantly.
Know that the right people in life will never care about how well you pass and will see you for you, I’m so grateful that after 17 years of struggling I’ve finally found friends who just understand, and it’s so freeing.
Dylan Mulvaney has also spoken out a lot about her experience showing her full transition on the internet, and it might help to take a look through her page! It’s certainly not for the weak, and I really admire how honest and vulnerable you’re being here sharing your experience.
All the best and good luck!
Thanks 🙏
Yes the people around me in real life have by and large been wonderful and I’m appreciating their support through this journey.
I’m curious to see what the next 12 months will bring, as I’ve learnt and grown so much.
I hope you’re having a great holiday period and will have a wonderful 2025❤️❤️
Ignore the trolls. Transitioning isn’t about passing. It’s about being authentic and feeling comfortable in your own body. Take your time and embrace what brings you joy. You deserve it! 💖
Thank you 🙏
I’m certainly happier than ever, and its wild that the simple act of being me is so much easier these days!
I hope you have a wonderful 2025 ❤️❤️
Another wonderful video, I don't know of any other content like yours, thank you.
Gen Z (the ones I know in any case) say 'you do you', and that's what I live by. You will never please everyone, especially on the internet, and some people seem to just say the most hurtful things they can think of.
You have more empathy in your little finger than they have in their whole selves.
Your 'going to work' photos show an amazing difference in just one year, that's incredible. From a not-very-visual woman who doesn't wear make-up, or nail varnish, or dresses 😂
Have a brilliant Christmas 🎄🎁
Thanks for saying ☺️❤️
Sometimes we are not, after all, our biggest critics, and it’s difficult to not internalise some of it.
But, as I say I feel better. It may be in a couple of years I’m no longer interested in nail polish and make up and so on. I kinda hope so. But at the moment it’s a fun way to experiment and explore.
Its been wonderful meeting you this year ages I hope you have a fantastic 2025 ❤️☺️🎄
Andi, let me set something straight: This whole 'am I pretty enough' is a bulls### thought. I know by myself (on sleeping medics for years because of overthinking) that this thought comes to mind and isn't easy to be silenced (I hope my english is good enought to describe my thoughts... I am native german...). YOU ARE PRETTY! Yes, you don't look like a Kardashian, but neither do I nor anyone else here in the chat! But you are pretty! It is not the 'shape of the face or the body' , full lips and big bling blang eye lashes - you are pretty because of what your VIBES are, your inner, that you so brave show us in every video. I am going to be 50 soon, got lots of dating experinces before I met my husband a few years ago. And one thing, that I learned: A 'pretty outside' (in the terms of 'Kardashian-pretty' and 'Influencer-pretty' ) is worth NOTHING! Nothing! You are courageous enogh to take us with you on your journey (and with 'us' I mean loooots of people who don't have your best in mind, people who are simply bored, dumb or bad human beings who get joy by pulling others down - the classic troll). I am a mum of a trans daughter on her first steps (she comes out to me half a year ago). And the only measurement I'll do is: Does she look and feel happy. That's the only thing that counts, and than, I think, the path is the right one. But I also heard from her, the concerns of being a biological male becoming a female, the sorrows and pure fear about the world outside and how people would react. What I want to say: YOU ARE PRETTY! Your vibes your energy is and by that the rest of you is also - body, face, the whole person! I met enough people in my life that 'looked pretty' on the first impression, than they opened their mouths and ... well ... no. Not pretty anymore. Anyone who measures pretty by simply body-looks should remember the last time they where mesmerized by someone. Most times it was not 'the look', it was what they have to tell, how someone acts, speaks, his/her minds and thoughts and so on. And again: You are pretty! And it is your way, that you couragiously show to us with high, high risks of showing your life to some people who don't deserve this kind of pure honesty and vulnurability. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Wish you a merry christmas and tons of thousands more subscribers and people who empower you in 2025! 😺
A week since you've posted - just checking in - hope everything is ok and you are enjoying some well deserved holiday time off! All the best to you in 25!
Thanks 🙏
I’m good, just taking a little break. I’ve been a bit sick and been a bit burned out from everything.
How’s your Christmas etc been? I hope you’ve had a restful time ❤️❤️
@@Andy_trans_education Restful HA! My big girl who lives in Cambridge now was over for a week with her BF, who teaches Ukrainian at Cambridge. So we had to shuffle bedrooms a bit. Then me, the Husb, and the 12 yr old twins. And the 2 dogs and the 30 cats. Yes, we had five litters of kittens this year and now coming up we have weeks of vet appointments booked to get everyone "fixed." It's a lot being a rancher of cats while trying to maintain some semblance of a normal-ish home. Are you staying in Warsaw for the whole holiday season?
goodness that sounds ... hectic!
Yes, I'm in Warsaw over most of the holidays, but Karolina and I are going to Krakow on the 2nd-4th to have a couple of days away. I'll try to record a few things here and there wile I'm there!
@@Andy_trans_education Have fun in Krakow!! And happy new year!
thanks 🙏 ❤️
I hope you have a blast with all your cats and relatives! 🥳
as a nonbinary person its just so weird cause i cant exactly pass at all LOL long time for society even trans people to be more open and accepting of others overall
You are amazing and fabulous hun
Thank you 🙏 you are very kind ❤️❤️
My 2 cents on your post:
-Once you start hiding, you loose. I'm not on social media with trans issues, but in real life, I'm there and don't hide. Neither should you
-You don't pass well, but with ffs and voice surgery you could pass very well. Hairline isn't a problem, but nose and adams apple and the usual.
-Before I started to transition and in my beginning, I was very eager to talk to trans women, to hear their thoughts etc... It was a dissappointment. They had disphoria as I did, but in general, we didn't have a lot in common. And those who had my age and I felt a bond live far away from me.
-Relationsship: Do what you have to do and start dating again once you're finished. It's better to have time for yourself while transitioning. I had a gf half a year after I started, it was a desaster. I think it's better looking once you've become who you wanted to be.
Last but not least, what I want you to change? Hey, it's your disphoria, not mine. You should change what you and you alone want to change. If you want to pass as a female, I hope you earn enough money, it's gonna be expensive. For example I didn't have ffs and voice surgery, but I had buttom surgery because that's what mattered to me. I don't pass as a female, but as a trans woman and I am proud of who I am and what I have become.
That's what counts, isn't it?
As far as beeing a "stranger from the internet", if you want to see how I don't pass you can see me with my partner at www.leandra-honegger.ch
All the best to you!
Thanks 🙏
Yes for me I am proud to be a transgender woman. It’s who I am and represents my journey.
I’m not going to have the money for a whole host of surgeries. I want to see what HRT and all the other stuff will de before making long term plans.
i don't know if this is helpful but part of why i clicked is because i swear you look like my friend's mom 😭
Haha I hope she’s cute ☺️
Yikes
I think eventually youll pass really well,if you choose to. Some trans women can pass straight away,others take more time. For some they need nose jobs,adams apple shaves,brow lifts, and lots of other surgeries that take time and money.
Thanks. I’m not sure if I want to get a bunch of surgeries, and honestly I’m kinda at peace with being visibly trans - for now at least. There’s something powerful about taking the world IDGAF and just getting out there.
It might get a bit tiring over time mind you.
I’m just enjoying the journey for now, and certainly appreciating the inner acceptance and peace I’ve found.
“Pre-fect” is very poignant
As I was editing this video it was interesting how much symbolism and interpretation is involved in my stories here… I’ve never been accused of under thinking things 😆
Have a great holiday period ❤️
@@Andy_trans_education
you still dont pass bro, clocked you immediately from the thumbnail. Happy Christmas dude
@@IloveTide1997 that’s… that’s my whole point:
That utter fridge magnets like you don’t phase me.
And maybe you’re like my ex wife.