I almost bought a new 30K SUV because I "needed" it for our family or 7. Instead I spent $900 to fix our 12 year old van. I avoided 30K in debt because of Dave Ramsey.
John Lester Except next month there will $2000 in repairs. It’s cheaper to buy a whole car than every part individually. Putting money into an old car is throwing good money after bad. If a car needs more than $750 worth of repairs get rid of it and buy a better car. You could buy a $10k car instead of a new $30k car.
This is exactly why I’m single. My ex was a princess living off her parents dime at 30. And she was an alcoholic. Leaving her was the best thing I ever did
Never try to change someone. People only change if they want to, and even then it isn't easy. Find someone who is on the same page. It's worth the wait.
If you want to marry this woman, she’s going to have to understand that her father and brother in law are not the men in her life once she’s married or there will be too many people in the marriage.
Yea, it’s a tough situation, because we also don’t know how she feels about marriage in the nearish future. If it’s too early, bringing this up might make him seem more controlling, rather than just that he cares, and he doesn’t want it to be both of their problems in the future.
@@whitegoodman7465 lol exactly that is a long term relationship making it nowadays. People want a fast food relationship of instant gratification then bounce.
He's coaching her to be the ultimate CONSUMER..Because that's what the brother-in-law is...& he's just hasn't seen the repercussions of that mentality YET.
Black Assassin Just a little because he cares about her. It’s not good to just cancel people. I believe if he has a conversation with her again like Dave suggested, she will turn around. If not, he will probably marry her at his discretion.
@@ChosenDeeDee better to be harsh now then have him 10 years in the future riddled with debt, having to pay alimony over a divorce, and having no financial freedom for the rest of his life.
Seeing yourself marrying someone and knowing that person is feeling the same way because you discuss your future are two different things. She may not be riding on the same train.
That's the point he has to make to the girlfriend....... he's up to his eyeballs in debt, are you sure that's someone you really want to take advice from
Let’s not forget 30 years down the road when the brother-in-law has to try and live off of him and his sister because of his life long poor financial choices.
Empower her with financial knowledge. 💪🏼 Do Financial Peace University together. If she still doesn’t get it, then you know this isn’t the best person for you and you just saved yourself a lifetime of financial problems. If she jumps on board with FPU, then she will have her own decision-making power and you will have a great partner.
I was going to say this but you said it better. “Honey, you are going to be making a lot of money for the first time in your life. You have some big financial decisions to make in the near future. That’s why I got us two Financial Peace University classes for us. The leading cause of divorce is not being in the same page financially.” You should educate not dictate.
@@robertwhite6203 yep this family could interfere overstepping boundaries in other areas too if they stay together. And it's weird lol, typically we hear about in laws or sibling being controlling but not a brother in law.
I was that lazy guy who got into a relationship. It took one kid and another on the way, homeless, sleeping in a church basement, to wake me up. That was 2011. In 2017, I was able to buy a house and my wife has been a stay at home mom to our 3 daughters since 2014. People can change.
Of course people can change but you’re advocating the hard way. You are the exception not the rule and therefore prove the rule. Many people who are unambiguous and homeless for majority of their life usually stay that way or have been so unprepared or unlucky that they never get a another real opportunity at life to correct those wrongs. They are clearly referring to likelihood
I tend to agree. It can go the other way as well. Somebody can be good looking and a hard worker and once they get married turn into a lazy slob. The important thing is to find somebody you enjoy being with that you can take on life with. It's going to go up and it's going to go down, but if you're a solid team you can handle anything!
@@pierrehenry3483 in not advocating the hard way. In saying that it can be overcome. Also, as long as someone has breath, they have opportunity. It's so easy to make money in America and there's no good excuse for most people to just exist in poverty forever
@@saulgoodman2018 Quotes are concise and says a lot in few words. Better than I can explain. On top of that, I can reword the essence of the quote and take credit of other words, as most people do. I think there are no thoughts that hasn't been spoken yet. But If you're curious whether my thought is any good then I've few contents and then you can pass a judgement if you want to.
@@TheQuickyouknow same msg for you too. Quotes are concise and says a lot in few words. Better than I can explain. On top of that, I can reword the essence of the quote and take credit of other words, as most people do. I think there are no thoughts that hasn't been spoken yet. But If you're curious whether my thought is any good then I've few contents and then you can pass a judgement if you want to.
When "family" is in your business more than their own, there's a problem with boundaries! Obviously the girlfriend doesn't think their relationship is as solid as he does, so he needs to think twice about her being his future wife. Great guy for being concerned but he should move on.
If you marry her be prepared to be the number 3 guy in her life 😬 you will never come first and your voice won't be heard until she confirms with daddy and brother in law. 🥴
I just got 6 years old car for 7.5k with 30k miles on it that person payed 28k when new. With taxes 8k vs. 31k.... 6 year loan would cost about 4k...35k dollar car for 7.5k ☺️
0:17: Joe: "I've been dating this girl for a long time" 1:35: Dave: "So, how long have you been dating." Joe: "For about a year" This conversation is not going to end well...
My sister bought a brand new Nissan Altima, leather interior, back up cam etc. Overall, it’s a really nice car. She got it for $32k and paid it off in under 2 years. Truly proud of her work ethic. She is a true workaholic just like my mom! It comes down to your discipline. Goodluck
Exactly why I broke up w my ex girlfriend at 18, not willing to work, lazy, sometimes annoying family, no ambition for the future. Best decision of my life so far. Thanks for making me feel even better of that decision.
Kakusei - Yes, but they have been friends for years before they started dated. I think in his mind he is adding all that up. Which would make it "seem" much longer then they have actually dated.
it's the world we live in. I'm 21 and realized that everyone on instagram and other medias count everything from likes to views, but not what really matters.
Boyfriend has no say whatsoever... Brother-in-law and father will be there... Boyfriend can leave tomorrow... Unless he commits, he can make suggest, but really has no say..🤫
He's the exact opposite of that. He's actually smart for seeking the advise of others on a potential relationship issue. I bet you use that word a lot to describe other men, but it never applies to you.
Get her a book on how to have healthy boundaries and tell her you thought she would love it. Let her figure out this simple puzzle for herself without your input, while observing her actions. 2 Possible Outcomes will occur 1. She will either never learn from her mistakes, then you should dump her 2. She will learn how to say NO and stand up for herself, then Marry her..
@@midkort I'm sure he's told her 100 x already, so it doesn't seem to sink in. It's called the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. She's got to figure this out on her own. Common and sense and simple logic is not simple or common for 80% of humans.
"If you marry someone who's lazy..." I'm lazy and I know it. So to get what I want for what I'm willing to do, I have to learn to do something that's really valuable in the marketplace. That's the key. -- Marine Naval Aviator, CPA, MBA.-- Just like anything else, put together a salable package.
My wife wanted to buy a brand new car when we first met and I asked her what was wrong with her current car. I told her not to get a new car because it wouldn’t be a smart financial decision on her part. She ended up getting her dream car later, and I helped her find it, but it took time and patience before she was ready. She listened to me and still thank me to this day for being honest with her. We have no car payments.
Please research divorce statistics before marriage. I'm not saying to not marry necessarily, but you need to know the risks before jumping out of that plane with a parachute that has a 50% chance of opening.
That's the worst marriage advise I've ever heard. It's not to research statistics. It's to research the reasons why people divorce and fully understand the purpose of marriage. If people based their decisions on statistics, then they'll never get married.
Hyundai Palisade, 8-passenger SUV, starts at 32K - probably not a good choice as a starter car for someone on a budget, other wise nice vehicle for a solid career person with 3+ kids. Marina? At 291HP, could probably tow a recreational boat? towing capacity 5000lb?
I believe the best thing to do would be to be understanding of her situation, trying to explain your side but approach it with kindness and not anger/mockery. The best thing you can do is try and be as helpful as possible!
JoeAceJR I think you misunderstand me, I am agreeing with you %100 however there have been many times where someone has asked the advice of another and gone and done the complete opposite. It sounds like this is yet another instance.
Need to get to know someone. Do not move in with girlfriend/boyfriend. If it does not feel right, getting pushed into things financially you know is wrong.
The caller needs to listen to red pill content. He sounds young and the girlfriend is actually considering getting into debt with the Hyundai Palisade which is essentially the Korean Cadillac Escalade lol
I can think of so many more fun things to do than buy a car I can't afford. I mean you could buy nice bike and ride your bike every now and then instead of the car and it wouldn't haunt you with debt
Can someone please help me understand how I gave a 12k dollar down payment towards a vehicle Retailed at 26k Called to find out how much I still owe, and they told me 22k? From supposed warranties I purchased on vehicle that added up to 7k but I remember just purchasing one of their platinum deals for an extra 100 dollars a month not warranties adding up to 7k 😭
"I want you to have a good life, not just a good car". Nicely put, but he is just the b.f., so I think he should just have the Peace University/Baby step conversation and let her make her own decision!!!
Got this friend at work. Got a girlfriend 3 months ago and in that time hes financed a 70K warlock, and he and her are moving in to an apartment together with her sister.
I don’t know as they are only dating a year and not engaged , and she doesn’t have a father so her brother in law is trying to help. Cars are always a depreciating asset and a pre-owned would be the way to go but not sure how much say he has till he puts a ring on her finger. And if she’s going to have a great job- how much will she be making and would you rather her have a reliable car that will keep her safe or a car for the cash she has which might be one or two thousand? Tough situation
I swear this is 2 calls in a row with a boyfriend trying to save someone. Y’all gotta stop trying to save people. One thing you can’t do is tell grown people what to do. Let her do it. She’ll regret it.
Oh I know those exact kind of brother in laws. Sometimes, they will gang up on the boyfriend. Just ignore them and talk to your gf. If she can't understand why her future husband is more important, dump her.
The out-the-door price is going to be about $50,000, but the real problem is the spending/debt mindset. Of course, she will see it as cheap and controlling. Move on.
@@walden0220 He can give his opinion, and leave it at that. But since they are not married, he does not get a vote. If she wants to buy a new car, that's her choice.
Why does he even care? if you are not married/or have kids with her move to another woman if you do not like where it's going. Do not get wrapped up into finances if your not married.
Hyundai pallasade? Thats a huge car, how many people she is carrying But bottom line, your dating for a year is NOT long enough for u to have a say, u just stay back and give advise, and make sure interest rate is not subprime
It shouldn’t matter to her or her family the kind of car she drives. As long as she has her man and loved ones in her life she shouldn’t care about impressing anyone.
I almost bought a new 30K SUV because I "needed" it for our family or 7. Instead I spent $900 to fix our 12 year old van. I avoided 30K in debt because of Dave Ramsey.
Natalie Linden great call always good to be smart with your money. If you need a brand new car to impress your friends, you need new friends.
John Lester Except next month there will $2000 in repairs. It’s cheaper to buy a whole car than every part individually. Putting money into an old car is throwing good money after bad. If a car needs more than $750 worth of repairs get rid of it and buy a better car. You could buy a $10k car instead of a new $30k car.
@@user-tb7rn1il3q the $10K car would also need repairs. The car we have has been reliable with minimal cost. It really depends on the car, of course.
@@natalielinden Get a Toyota and your set.
Yay!
This is exactly why I’m single. My ex was a princess living off her parents dime at 30. And she was an alcoholic. Leaving her was the best thing I ever did
Chuuch!!! Live and learn
Never try to change someone. People only change if they want to, and even then it isn't easy. Find someone who is on the same page. It's worth the wait.
Exactly!
Very well said!!! People expect someone to change after marriage
Good point !
Perfectly put 👌🏻
If you want to marry this woman, she’s going to have to understand that her father and brother in law are not the men in her life once she’s married or there will be too many people in the marriage.
Definitely true.. but he's gotta earn that right first with a ring.. Being the boyfriend doesn't earn it...
love 4leggers totally agree.
Yea, it’s a tough situation, because we also don’t know how she feels about marriage in the nearish future. If it’s too early, bringing this up might make him seem more controlling, rather than just that he cares, and he doesn’t want it to be both of their problems in the future.
This guy gonna figure out a way to. Many everyone happy
“Been dating quite some time” ...”about a year”. Lol
Hahahah...i know right ....come on !!!..
A year is a long time
nowadays thats a long time, sadly.
Zach Scheel 😂😂😂
@@whitegoodman7465 lol exactly that is a long term relationship making it nowadays. People want a fast food relationship of instant gratification then bounce.
Correction. "My girlfriend wants me to get a new Girlfriend".
🤣👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Lol
Guys you never get any action , will do anything once they find it
Boom!!!! Haha
the longterm issue is the brother in law, he's not gonna go away anutime soon
He's coaching her to be the ultimate CONSUMER..Because that's what the brother-in-law is...& he's just hasn't seen the repercussions of that mentality YET.
That can be arranged 😈
No, the BIL isn't the issue. He's a symptom.
Buying a new car is the worst mistake. We bought a 1996 pick up truck for $3300 in 2012. With regular maintenance, it runs great!
A new girlfriend is cheaper than a new car lol
Aww that’s so mean 🤣
Is it though?....
Black Assassin Just a little because he cares about her. It’s not good to just cancel people. I believe if he has a conversation with her again like Dave suggested, she will turn around. If not, he will probably marry her at his discretion.
A fleshlight is cheaper than both 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
@@ChosenDeeDee better to be harsh now then have him 10 years in the future riddled with debt, having to pay alimony over a divorce, and having no financial freedom for the rest of his life.
Seeing yourself marrying someone and knowing that person is feeling the same way because you discuss your future are two different things. She may not be riding on the same train.
“He gets into debt like it’s his day job” that was pretty funny😂😂
That's the point he has to make to the girlfriend....... he's up to his eyeballs in debt, are you sure that's someone you really want to take advice from
Let’s not forget 30 years down the road when the brother-in-law has to try and live off of him and his sister because of his life long poor financial choices.
Empower her with financial knowledge. 💪🏼 Do Financial Peace University together. If she still doesn’t get it, then you know this isn’t the best person for you and you just saved yourself a lifetime of financial problems. If she jumps on board with FPU, then she will have her own decision-making power and you will have a great partner.
Well said!
I was going to say this but you said it better. “Honey, you are going to be making a lot of money for the first time in your life. You have some big financial decisions to make in the near future. That’s why I got us two Financial Peace University classes for us. The leading cause of divorce is not being in the same page financially.”
You should educate not dictate.
Oh you do not want to marry into this, you'd be controlled by them too.
Sitting both on the couch with brother in law right in the middle.
100% true
Sounds like a mess !
@@robertwhite6203 yep this family could interfere overstepping boundaries in other areas too if they stay together. And it's weird lol, typically we hear about in laws or sibling being controlling but not a brother in law.
I was that lazy guy who got into a relationship. It took one kid and another on the way, homeless, sleeping in a church basement, to wake me up. That was 2011. In 2017, I was able to buy a house and my wife has been a stay at home mom to our 3 daughters since 2014. People can change.
Stop teaching young men to be simps please
Of course people can change but you’re advocating the hard way. You are the exception not the rule and therefore prove the rule. Many people who are unambiguous and homeless for majority of their life usually stay that way or have been so unprepared or unlucky that they never get a another real opportunity at life to correct those wrongs. They are clearly referring to likelihood
@@edgehodl4832 what do you mean by your comment?
I tend to agree. It can go the other way as well. Somebody can be good looking and a hard worker and once they get married turn into a lazy slob. The important thing is to find somebody you enjoy being with that you can take on life with. It's going to go up and it's going to go down, but if you're a solid team you can handle anything!
@@pierrehenry3483 in not advocating the hard way. In saying that it can be overcome. Also, as long as someone has breath, they have opportunity. It's so easy to make money in America and there's no good excuse for most people to just exist in poverty forever
As the boyfriend, don’t make other people’s problems, your problem.
If he plans on marrying her than it will become his problem (as they mentioned marriage)
“Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, you'll be a mile from them, and you'll have their shoes.”
-- Jack Handey
What's your point?
@@TheQuickyouknow point [noun] : the tapered, sharp end of a tool, weapon, or other object. Source: Google.
@@saulgoodman2018 Doesn't look like it lol
@@saulgoodman2018 Quotes are concise and says a lot in few words. Better than I can explain. On top of that, I can reword the essence of the quote and take credit of other words, as most people do.
I think there are no thoughts that hasn't been spoken yet. But If you're curious whether my thought is any good then I've few contents and then you can pass a judgement if you want to.
@@TheQuickyouknow same msg for you too. Quotes are concise and says a lot in few words. Better than I can explain. On top of that, I can reword the essence of the quote and take credit of other words, as most people do.
I think there are no thoughts that hasn't been spoken yet. But If you're curious whether my thought is any good then I've few contents and then you can pass a judgement if you want to.
When "family" is in your business more than their own, there's a problem with boundaries! Obviously the girlfriend doesn't think their relationship is as solid as he does, so he needs to think twice about her being his future wife. Great guy for being concerned but he should move on.
Good point ! In laws have no business in other family’s business . Some are just plain nosy .
@@robertwhite6203 yep too controlling and overbearing. We hear about this with in laws but it's even more stupid a brother in law involved.
Why is she putting so much faith in what her brother in law says but she doesnt even want to hear her boyfriend out? Suspish
Her brother in law hitting her cheeks 😴
I think every guy who has seen too many sibling in law “videos” will assume something is going on.
Daniel Veira probably is. Your partner is suppose to have the most influence in your life not some relatives.
NoSpark sweet home .....
NoSpark more like destroying her gutz!
If you marry her be prepared to be the number 3 guy in her life 😬 you will never come first and your voice won't be heard until she confirms with daddy and brother in law. 🥴
He pointed out daddy is dead
Sell the gf.
If you said rent, I might be interested
Lol “that’s why I’m still single” @Anthony 🤣🤣🤣
I think it's great that Dave said he couldn't say it nicer and then literally formulated the perfect response.
When your brand new car’s back tires roll off the pavement of the car lot, you’ve lost $3k in value and now own a used car. STUPID!!
Truth :(
I just got 6 years old car for 7.5k with 30k miles on it that person payed 28k when new. With taxes 8k vs. 31k.... 6 year loan would cost about 4k...35k dollar car for 7.5k ☺️
But if you keep it 8-10 years it will be worth it
@@krecikowi must not be a good car if it lost that much value in that short of time.
People saying sell the gf? She’s in debt.. she has no value to sell 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
well than make her work it and pay it.
He can take a personal loan to cover the loss
"Hyundai Palisade"???. So she has kids right?
SIMP away Joe. SIMP away.
0:17: Joe: "I've been dating this girl for a long time"
1:35: Dave: "So, how long have you been dating."
Joe: "For about a year"
This conversation is not going to end well...
He is so naive. Thinking he is more into the relationship than she is.
Long is relative. Maybe this is his longest relationship. He needs to keep looking.
@Shorty Uh, he's smart enough to seek out advice before moving forward. Meanwhile, you're home jerking it, "alpha" boy.
My sister bought a brand new Nissan Altima, leather interior, back up cam etc. Overall, it’s a really nice car. She got it for $32k and paid it off in under 2 years. Truly proud of her work ethic. She is a true workaholic just like my mom! It comes down to your discipline. Goodluck
Exactly why I broke up w my ex girlfriend at 18, not willing to work, lazy, sometimes annoying family, no ambition for the future.
Best decision of my life so far. Thanks for making me feel even better of that decision.
Better get a brand new girlfriend.
"quite sometime" ... 1 year. 🤦♂️ That's not long at all.
Right!! 🤣🤣🤣
Kakusei - Yes, but they have been friends for years before they started dated. I think in his mind he is adding all that up. Which would make it "seem" much longer then they have actually dated.
What he meant: they were play buddies for years ...She recently gave him a chance..So they are now official...😄😄
When you get married you get the whole family as well so make sure you make the right decision before committing to crazy
I can see that he cares about her
@Shorty And you're a jag off. What's your point?
Don’t co-sign with anyone, simple. There’s no need especially when nothing is guaranteed.
Ahh the American princesses who live to impress others, rather than themselves
it's the world we live in. I'm 21 and realized that everyone on instagram and other medias count everything from likes to views, but not what really matters.
@@armandol1826 very wise!!! They are living from their egos not soul purpose striving to impress others with fake lifestyles.
With just 800 miles on the clock I saved 9k and a wait for my Car.
Don’t buy new buy nearly new.
I just bought 2005 Mustang for 2k it's new for me
Boyfriend has no say whatsoever... Brother-in-law and father will be there... Boyfriend can leave tomorrow... Unless he commits, he can make suggest, but really has no say..🤫
He literally acknowledges and says this himself
Why should he commit before he finds out if she will listen to reason?
@@LG123ABC this^
Hey Joe.... Look up the Word “SIMP” and read the definition to yourself 10x’s....🤷♂️😂
Lol
💯
A simp is a man who beckons to a woman’s every need. Key words “every need”
Lolollo so true
He's the exact opposite of that. He's actually smart for seeking the advise of others on a potential relationship issue. I bet you use that word a lot to describe other men, but it never applies to you.
1 year in relationship? nahhhh you gotta let her go
Get her a book on how to have healthy boundaries and tell her you thought she would love it.
Let her figure out this simple puzzle for herself without your input, while observing her actions.
2 Possible Outcomes will occur
1. She will either never learn from her mistakes, then you should dump her
2. She will learn how to say NO and stand up for herself, then Marry her..
Yup, I think that's the best way to do it.
If he tells her what to do, how does know if she really understood the underlying problems?
@@midkort I'm sure he's told her 100 x already, so it doesn't seem to sink in. It's called the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. She's got to figure this out on her own. Common and sense and simple logic is not simple or common for 80% of humans.
"If you marry someone who's lazy..." I'm lazy and I know it. So to get what I want for what I'm willing to do, I have to learn to do something that's really valuable in the marketplace. That's the key.
-- Marine Naval Aviator, CPA, MBA.-- Just like anything else, put together a salable package.
My wife wanted to buy a brand new car when we first met and I asked her what was wrong with her current car. I told her not to get a new car because it wouldn’t be a smart financial decision on her part. She ended up getting her dream car later, and I helped her find it, but it took time and patience before she was ready. She listened to me and still thank me to this day for being honest with her. We have no car payments.
Leave bro! Her family is wayyyyyyy to overbearing
If you're wondering why your kid college fund isn't funded. Take a look in your driveway! You are driving it.
A kid's college fund should be funded...by that kid. Mom and Dad should worry about retirement.
They also want the prestigious college decal on the back of that fancy car!
Disobedience from a woman is sickening!
Please research divorce statistics before marriage.
I'm not saying to not marry necessarily, but you need to know the risks before jumping out of that plane with a parachute that has a 50% chance of opening.
Very well said !!
That's the worst marriage advise I've ever heard. It's not to research statistics. It's to research the reasons why people divorce and fully understand the purpose of marriage. If people based their decisions on statistics, then they'll never get married.
Waiting for your dream car to depreciate for the price is the best feeling for a car guy like me . 💰🤣
My girlfriend bought a $62K car before I met her and said I “need” it for my future kids. She’s 30, living at home, broke, and has no kids.
Dave knocked this out the park
Hyundai Palisade, 8-passenger SUV, starts at 32K - probably not a good choice as a starter car for someone on a budget, other wise nice vehicle for a solid career person with 3+ kids. Marina? At 291HP, could probably tow a recreational boat? towing capacity 5000lb?
Ayy CT represent! Also never get a new car unless you wanna throw away your money.
Leave her if she buys a new car.
Don’t date people in debt. It’s hard to get through to someone who is in debt and doesn’t know any better. They’ll think you’re “showing off”
And that life is necessary to live without actual means. Those people-and there's a lot of them-will never accumulate enough to be safe.
With marriage, their debt is your debt. You can't control anyone. Don't get married! Marriage is a liability.
"I'm not known for sugar-coating things..." see entry for "understatement" in dictionary
She isnt buying the car. She is borrowing money to drive the bank's car. Unless its paid off, its not really your car.
Perfect counsel! If they do it while you’re dating, they’ll do it worse when you’re married! That goes for ALL bad behavior.
correction: my girlfriend wants *(me)* to buy *(her)* a brand new car
If you can afford it, why not?
@@glorymanheretosleep A girlfriend...? That's why.
glorymanheretosleep don’t buy a girlfriend a new car. That’s stupid. Buy your wife a car.
@@scuba535 Buy your wife a used car with cash and invest the difference.
Dave Ramsey is so wise
I got this one Dave: to the caller,
AMS
The Four Horsemen of game podcast
Yes lol
Fthts😂
Dusty male strategies.
Learning tact is a great thing.
Ex-girlfriend I hope. Just dump the whole family. Don't do it son. Run away now. Save yourself.
I believe the best thing to do would be to be understanding of her situation, trying to explain your side but approach it with kindness and not anger/mockery. The best thing you can do is try and be as helpful as possible!
JoeAceJR I didn’t say there was, but I don’t think beating a dead horse is a constructive counter argument.
JoeAceJR I think you misunderstand me, I am agreeing with you %100 however there have been many times where someone has asked the advice of another and gone and done the complete opposite. It sounds like this is yet another instance.
Need to get to know someone. Do not move in with girlfriend/boyfriend. If it does not feel right, getting pushed into things financially you know is wrong.
The caller needs to listen to red pill content. He sounds young and the girlfriend is actually considering getting into debt with the Hyundai Palisade which is essentially the Korean Cadillac Escalade lol
How old is the girl? That plays a huge role.
CT! Let’s go!
I can think of so many more fun things to do than buy a car I can't afford. I mean you could buy nice bike and ride your bike every now and then instead of the car and it wouldn't haunt you with debt
Don’t tell utube. But I smell red pill. Dave is changing. Spread the word. Brother
Dave is not red pill at all, but a lot of guys in the comments are...
Valor_X true that. lol true that
Can someone please help me understand how I gave a 12k dollar down payment towards a vehicle
Retailed at 26k
Called to find out how much I still owe, and they told me 22k?
From supposed warranties I purchased on vehicle that added up to 7k but I remember just purchasing one of their platinum deals for an extra 100 dollars a month not warranties adding up to 7k 😭
Great video
when he marries her thats his debt
"I want you to have a good life, not just a good car". Nicely put, but he is just the b.f., so I think he should just have the Peace University/Baby step conversation and let her make her own decision!!!
So Dave wants them to get divorced?
2:44
at 34 i've never felt more understood than Anthony's comment of knowing in 10 minutes if it will work or not on a date.
Dave's right you need to be on the same page. In-laws will effect your finances if you let them.
Got this friend at work. Got a girlfriend 3 months ago and in that time hes financed a 70K warlock, and he and her are moving in to an apartment together with her sister.
Liabilities have this thing about them that makes you love them more than you do reason.
Just tell her bro to think twice before buying the car bye
Boundaries in Dating by Cloud and Townsend a good read.
I don’t know as they are only dating a year and not engaged , and she doesn’t have a father so her brother in law is trying to help. Cars are always a depreciating asset and a pre-owned would be the way to go but not sure how much say he has till he puts a ring on her finger. And if she’s going to have a great job- how much will she be making and would you rather her have a reliable car that will keep her safe or a car for the cash she has which might be one or two thousand? Tough situation
Brother in laws 😂
Father in laws 😂
It’s brothers-in-law and fathers-in-law.
I swear this is 2 calls in a row with a boyfriend trying to save someone. Y’all gotta stop trying to save people. One thing you can’t do is tell grown people what to do. Let her do it. She’ll regret it.
Oh I know those exact kind of brother in laws. Sometimes, they will gang up on the boyfriend. Just ignore them and talk to your gf. If she can't understand why her future husband is more important, dump her.
Great content! Maybe i'll add that in my VIDS. 💪🏻
The out-the-door price is going to be about $50,000, but the real problem is the spending/debt mindset. Of course, she will see it as cheap and controlling. Move on.
Since he has not stepped up and married her, he does not get a vote. She is a single adult and can decide for herself.
It's been one year. It is not been long enough to see a person's true intentions in a situation like this will help show it
@@walden0220 He can give his opinion, and leave it at that. But since they are not married, he does not get a vote. If she wants to buy a new car, that's her choice.
This guest dude is hilarious 😂😂
The brother sounds like a pretty bad "coach" if he's telling her to buy a car🔥🔥🔥
This guy is jumping the gun trying to marry this girl after only a year of dating. He definitely doesn't think rationally.
Kinda seemed like Anthony was going in a different direction until Dave gave his opinion then Anthony hopped on that
Do I want to buy a new car. Those are my favourite talk em out of it!!
Why does he even care? if you are not married/or have kids with her move to another woman if you do not like where it's going. Do not get wrapped up into finances if your not married.
Hyundai pallasade? Thats a huge car, how many people she is carrying
But bottom line, your dating for a year is NOT long enough for u to have a say, u just stay back and give advise, and make sure interest rate is not subprime
It shouldn’t matter to her or her family the kind of car she drives. As long as she has her man and loved ones in her life she shouldn’t care about impressing anyone.
Anthony got that summer glow! We see you
Dave - providing pretty good relationship advice!
if she doesn't listen to you now, do you think she will listen to you when you get married?
Buy a fun car that you can sell for nearly what you paid for it. Get a Jeep Wrangler 29mpg and you barely loose any $ in depreciation