BRO THIS DUDE IS GOING EVERYTHING RIGHT, HIS SETUP IS FIRE, HIS EDITING IS ALSO FIRE, AND THE CONTENT IS FIRE! WHY THE CRAP ISNT THIS GETTING MORE VIEWS!!!!!!!!!
His titles/thumbnail packaging aren’t creating a curiosity gap and are kind of hard to understand at first look. His video ideas aren’t interesting to a mass audience which prevents it from going viral. The youtube algorithm is struggling to understand what audience to push his content out to because he makes his videos in multiple different subjects/categories.
Bc he doesn't actually give a clear message, it's just a bunch of rambling about why happiness isn't the point. Well wtf is the point then??? What matters to people isn't an answer, that's just a suggestion. He's essentially stating "find happiness in something u like doing". Kinda contradicts the msg don't u think???
Love your content bro. I resonate so much as a fellow deep thinker. It’s a gift and a curse. Early on it was more like a curse because we lost our innocence quicker than others. While kids were having fun, we were more matured for our age and as a result often sad and depressed. Like who do we relate to? Not the kids around us for sure. Most likely writers like Jung, Nietzsche, Dostoevsky. As adults now and men on our own path, I’m starting to see it more of a blessing. The time alone and introspection gave rise to a sense of self reliance. Maybe I’m not crazy and the world is just dull.. Not being fooled by the world as easily as others. Captivated by the world we want to build type of deal. Anyhow LOVE YOUR SHIT!!
Angelo. This is the message I needed today. I’m going through an existential crisis. Teetering on the verge of falling into darkness and depression. Struggling to figure it how to justify my own existence, in the face of mortality and the question of the meaning or meaninglessness of existence itself. I feel like I have so much potential before me, but can’t figure out the direction to go, and what’s the purpose of doing it if nothing means anything in the end. Where do I derive my sense of meaning in a meaningless world? Torn between my instinct to seek validation through social acceptance and praise, and the feeling of a deep emptiness in the pursuit of doing so, manifesting a voice that tells me to seek a sense of meaning from myself and myself alone. What in the end really matters? And how do you really know before you've even had to face your own mortality in the face of the threat of the extinction of your own conscious experience? What is going to make you happy? The question to which I have no answer… For now I feel like had no answer. This is the answer I have been seeking. And today needed more than ever. Whenever I have these moments, my mind tells me to just go and watch 1 of your videos. And so far, without fail, I find one that has exactly what I’m looking for. Today this was the video. Thank you
I'm 13 at the moment and everytime I experience a strong emotion like sadness or anger I end up writing a book. This video was so fucking relatable for more than just that though.
I've been following you for the past couple of months. Almost every video I watch from you has some very valuable insights in it for my life. You have great potential and a great future ahead of you. God bless you, and thank you for your work.
So cool you wrote a full book at 13yo and so deep. At that age I was only busy with studying and spent the whole day at school 😅. Didn’t do anything useful at 13yo that I can remember.
I am on that same path. I’m still taking notes and formulating my system for happiness, so I’m not at the book phase. 😅 Matterness makes sense, but it still leads back to happiness. We want to matter because that feels good, and feeling good makes us happy. Much of Stoicism centers around areté/excellence/virtue, which makes sense because actions are up to us, whereas outcomes aren’t. We’re all doing what seems reasonable, according to the mind’s reasons. Those reasons are its learned value judgments, which create our likes and dislikes. Naturally, we move toward our likes and away from our dislikes. Unhappiness comes from disliking reality. Our mind judges this outcome as bad, which is upsetting and diminishes our ability to reason logically, making accomplishing our goals harder. The answer seems to be non-attachment to the outcome (no expectations). We can’t set our hearts on any specific outcome because it’s not up to us how things turn out, so we’re bound to be upset when something “bad” happens. We don’t experience the world; we experience our mind’s story about the world. This all leads us back to Matterness regarding what’s up to us, and that’s our judgments. They dictate everything. Is this the way you saw it before you moved to Matterness? I’d love to get your thoughts 🙏
I remember listening to an Alan Watts lecture where he breaks down the quote from Buddha which goes, “above heaven and earth, I alone am the exalted one”, and he describes it as a childish tantrum. Perhaps your you coming full circle on the book you wrote when you were 13 was in a way, your own enlightenment, and also you overcoming a darker past and a misled ideal.
2 minutes in and it's already better than 78% of the shit of my feed. How are you coming up with quality ideas for every video!? (Asking for a friend...)
I was in a new continent and new high school. I was introduced to a bunch of ppl and be friends and join the group, but i just cant relate to anyone, i didnt know what i was doing at all, whether in school or outside in life, i was merely placed there, so i left them. I was all alone. Not long after everyone in the same year knows this. There have been numerous group of ppl asking and wonder why im all alone where everyone else is in a group, my answer is always 'i dont know', i can see some want me to join but NON OF THEM R BEING HONEST, its always tricks every turn to toy with me. I always laugh whenever those ppl laugh at sth, but rlly i dont know what im doing. Every break and lunchtime i would sit and watch those groups being happy, mark around like any other ppl where im just sitting there watching. i asked myself how much longer will this situation continue.Then suddenly one of the ppl i met when i entered this school went to find me and asked 'u can join us if u want to', i didnt have hope that this will work, but i tried anyways. I still cant relate to any1 but we were good for a while, at least i felt my existence in this school again. Just as i started to felt NORMAL and part of sth again, the pandamic striked. After the 1st lockdown we meet again at school, but this time i felt like a side character: there my friends are happy and doing stupid things and im standing next to them. Now its even more lonely then ever. It got worse after a few more lockdowns, some of them even start ghosting me. But whenever i was congraduated of sth they were always the first to clap for me. i dont understand what happened. This situation continued all the way to the end of high school. Did i mattered to them at all? Cuz they mattered a lot to me. After school i was in my lowest, going nowhere doing nothing, alone. Then i landed a job. I met ppl from work whom are very different from school, its new experience that i didnt like or hate, but working hard became a way to forget the past. More ppl of my age joined work and i made friends. I finally got closer to the HAPPINESS i longed for. But whenever i see them going out with their friend group (they knew each other since high school) after work, where Im just standing up far, i immediately felt the difference between me and them. After work its nothing, alone again. Was the happiness fake? The time i had with them? Everytime i see any high school groups it would remind me my high school life. The emptiness is always there. I cant help but look and walk away. I hate that im addicted to meeting and making friends to escape loneliness and BE HAPPY. Its not normal, normal ppl dont need to be happy they're just happy. I dont know what happiness is anymore. I just want to be like everyone else, but im not and never will be.
Whenever i meet and talk to ppl, i would never stop cracking jokes becuase i knew they would laugh and i knew i would be happy if they're happy, thats the only reason i do it.
Great content. Listening, I instantly thought of the book “Man's Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl and the ending of the Logotherapy he built to find meaning in life even when there is apparently no more reason to continue. Matterness is a great word to strive for in that regard.
Mf was writing novels at 13 💀 That's fucking awesome bro. Great video - can't wait for the next one. Cool how everything seems to tie into the agent/arena thing
according to me, objectively speaking(yes ik how stupid that sounds just because of how subjective most if not all the questions revolving about happiness or emotion are but hear me out) sadness and happiness are not supposed to be goals but they are tools developed by evolution in order to teach you weather or not something is good or bad, therefore when you do something good(according to your brain) you get rewarded by feeling happy at the same time if you do something that is bad(also according to your mind) then you sorta get punished by feeling like shit or in other words u feel sad, what im trying to say is that happiness and sadness is our body's biologically programmed method of teaching you through a form of mixed positive and negative reinforcement.
You forget that our minds cannot be trusted because in the modern world it goes towards all the instant gratification. Trust your soul and conscience brother. Not some easely duped feelings
Isn’t usefulness making ur life satisfaction dependent on other people and what they deem as useful? I love ur ideas but this one contradicts what i myself discovered. I believe the base of ur behaviour should be informed solely by ur needs (identifying them first is a big part) and then adding ”compromises” meaning that matterness Ure talking about. So basically a calculation between what extras we would like and whether They are worth the effort put in all things considered. What do yall think?
happiness IS 100% the goal, but if we make the analogy of comparing sadness to a person with a different opinion, we don't kill him do we? we try to negotiate something appropriate for both of us don't we? at least I hope that's the answer of most of you. you must not just simply try to remove sadness in any way, you must understand what's making you sad and plan how to help yourself in a reasonable way. that does not make it not the goal, just not the right approach.
I personally believe happiness is not the goal even. I mean, you probably want it to be the goal because happiness feels good. But how do you define what's good? When you boil it down, aren't all feelings just... well, feelings? Why is happiness objectively any better than sadness? Sure, happiness FEELS better, but what is it about the feeling that feels good? I feel like that can be a hard thing to answer. Sadness can even be considered good. Many people like crying because it allows them to get rid of suppressed emotions, which in turn makes you feel good. So in other words, crying feels good too. And when you're really sad you often cry. So why is sadness then considered a bad thing? The point I'm trying to make is, the goal should be to experience all emotions. If you're always happy, then well, you're never happy, because in order to feel the ups of happiness, you'll have needed to feel the lows as well. If happiness is the goal, and sadness should be avoided or something to be worked on, then you're keeping yourself from experiencing part of what it means to be human. People who avoid negative emotion are not happier, they're actually usually more miserable. The more you keep away from negative emotion, the worse you feel. It's only when you allow yourself to feel when you can truly be happy. Edit: Just thought of something else to add: Even just the thought of happiness and sadness being opposites can reinforce the idea that sadness needs to be avoided. At least if your goal is to be happy. The way we view opposites, is that you can't have both at once. You can't have water and fire exist on top of each other, you can't have a room that's hot and cold at the same time. So it would stand to reason if happiness and sadness are opposites, you can't be happy if you're sad. But that's not actually true. They're both simply feelings, and feeling one does not negate the other. You can be a happy person while still feeling sad from time to time, or you can feel sad while being happy from time to time. You can even feel both at once, it's called bittersweet. They're not actually opposites. Just different feelings. I would even argue happiness and sadness are similar. Both can make you cry. Just like anxiety and excitement are similar, both make your stomach rumble and feel tense.
@@Unkn4wN_TM I just read the first part because you literally sound like an evil cruel monster that is trying to guilt trip you into being the saddest person alive and torture you forever and make you believe that you are the problem for wanting to not be sad and making you even sadder and destroying everything and being the absolute worse villain ever and destroying all happiness and guilt tripping you as you do it and I really don't want to read a single more word of that absolute evil garbage, literally stop existing please
If pursuing happiness can be seen as going towards a goal, then pursuing matterness can be seen as implementing a system If you don't know the effectiveness difference between goal vs system orientation make sure to read an Atomic Habits summary
Answer me. What book have you read that time that affect you the most? I'm currently reading a book that have similar opinion as 13 yo you. Wonder if we have the same answer.
BRO THIS DUDE IS GOING EVERYTHING RIGHT, HIS SETUP IS FIRE, HIS EDITING IS ALSO FIRE, AND THE CONTENT IS FIRE! WHY THE CRAP ISNT THIS GETTING MORE VIEWS!!!!!!!!!
His titles/thumbnail packaging aren’t creating a curiosity gap and are kind of hard to understand at first look.
His video ideas aren’t interesting to a mass audience which prevents it from going viral.
The youtube algorithm is struggling to understand what audience to push his content out to because he makes his videos in multiple different subjects/categories.
basically he’s missing lots of the basics but i agree that everything else is actually extremely good
Bc he doesn't actually give a clear message, it's just a bunch of rambling about why happiness isn't the point. Well wtf is the point then??? What matters to people isn't an answer, that's just a suggestion. He's essentially stating "find happiness in something u like doing". Kinda contradicts the msg don't u think???
pretty deep for a 13 year old
Love your content bro. I resonate so much as a fellow deep thinker. It’s a gift and a curse. Early on it was more like a curse because we lost our innocence quicker than
others.
While kids were having fun, we were more matured for our age and as a result often sad and depressed. Like who do we relate to? Not the kids around us for sure.
Most likely writers like Jung, Nietzsche, Dostoevsky.
As adults now and men on our own path, I’m starting to see it more of a blessing. The time alone and introspection gave rise to a sense of self reliance. Maybe I’m not crazy and the world is just dull..
Not being fooled by the world as easily as others. Captivated by the world we want to build type of deal. Anyhow LOVE YOUR SHIT!!
this comment is so relatable bruh
As a 14-year-old going through school right now, this absolutely hits home.
Angelo. This is the message I needed today.
I’m going through an existential crisis. Teetering on the verge of falling into darkness and depression.
Struggling to figure it how to justify my own existence, in the face of mortality and the question of the meaning or meaninglessness of existence itself.
I feel like I have so much potential before me, but can’t figure out the direction to go, and what’s the purpose of doing it if nothing means anything in the end.
Where do I derive my sense of meaning in a meaningless world?
Torn between my instinct to seek validation through social acceptance and praise, and the feeling of a deep emptiness in the pursuit of doing so, manifesting a voice that tells me to seek a sense of meaning from myself and myself alone.
What in the end really matters? And how do you really know before you've even had to face your own mortality in the face of the threat of the extinction of your own conscious experience?
What is going to make you happy?
The question to which I have no answer… For now I feel like had no answer.
This is the answer I have been seeking. And today needed more than ever.
Whenever I have these moments, my mind tells me to just go and watch 1 of your videos. And so far, without fail, I find one that has exactly what I’m looking for.
Today this was the video.
Thank you
Best video yet mate, really gave me a glimpse into a new perspective, one I want to capture for myself
@@PeterMichaelDarby thank you bro 🫡🤝
I'm 13 at the moment and everytime I experience a strong emotion like sadness or anger I end up writing a book. This video was so fucking relatable for more than just that though.
I've been following you for the past couple of months. Almost every video I watch from you has some very valuable insights in it for my life. You have great potential and a great future ahead of you. God bless you, and thank you for your work.
So cool you wrote a full book at 13yo and so deep. At that age I was only busy with studying and spent the whole day at school 😅. Didn’t do anything useful at 13yo that I can remember.
I am on that same path. I’m still taking notes and formulating my system for happiness, so I’m not at the book phase. 😅
Matterness makes sense, but it still leads back to happiness. We want to matter because that feels good, and feeling good makes us happy.
Much of Stoicism centers around areté/excellence/virtue, which makes sense because actions are up to us, whereas outcomes aren’t.
We’re all doing what seems reasonable, according to the mind’s reasons. Those reasons are its learned value judgments, which create our likes and dislikes. Naturally, we move toward our likes and away from our dislikes.
Unhappiness comes from disliking reality. Our mind judges this outcome as bad, which is upsetting and diminishes our ability to reason logically, making accomplishing our goals harder.
The answer seems to be non-attachment to the outcome (no expectations). We can’t set our hearts on any specific outcome because it’s not up to us how things turn out, so we’re bound to be upset when something “bad” happens. We don’t experience the world; we experience our mind’s story about the world.
This all leads us back to Matterness regarding what’s up to us, and that’s our judgments. They dictate everything.
Is this the way you saw it before you moved to Matterness? I’d love to get your thoughts 🙏
How can you not have like 5M subcribers? Your Content is so fucking inspiring
I remember listening to an Alan Watts lecture where he breaks down the quote from Buddha which goes, “above heaven and earth, I alone am the exalted one”, and he describes it as a childish tantrum. Perhaps your you coming full circle on the book you wrote when you were 13 was in a way, your own enlightenment, and also you overcoming a darker past and a misled ideal.
2 minutes in and it's already better than 78% of the shit of my feed. How are you coming up with quality ideas for every video!? (Asking for a friend...)
By the end of it hopefully you have your answer, I think. What matters to you? And explore it. Makes sense?
poor you
I was in a new continent and new high school. I was introduced to a bunch of ppl and be friends and join the group, but i just cant relate to anyone, i didnt know what i was doing at all, whether in school or outside in life, i was merely placed there, so i left them. I was all alone. Not long after everyone in the same year knows this. There have been numerous group of ppl asking and wonder why im all alone where everyone else is in a group, my answer is always 'i dont know', i can see some want me to join but NON OF THEM R BEING HONEST, its always tricks every turn to toy with me. I always laugh whenever those ppl laugh at sth, but rlly i dont know what im doing.
Every break and lunchtime i would sit and watch those groups being happy, mark around like any other ppl where im just sitting there watching. i asked myself how much longer will this situation continue.Then suddenly one of the ppl i met when i entered this school went to find me and asked 'u can join us if u want to', i didnt have hope that this will work, but i tried anyways. I still cant relate to any1 but we were good for a while, at least i felt my existence in this school again.
Just as i started to felt NORMAL and part of sth again, the pandamic striked. After the 1st lockdown we meet again at school, but this time i felt like a side character: there my friends are happy and doing stupid things and im standing next to them. Now its even more lonely then ever. It got worse after a few more lockdowns, some of them even start ghosting me. But whenever i was congraduated of sth they were always the first to clap for me. i dont understand what happened. This situation continued all the way to the end of high school. Did i mattered to them at all? Cuz they mattered a lot to me.
After school i was in my lowest, going nowhere doing nothing, alone. Then i landed a job. I met ppl from work whom are very different from school, its new experience that i didnt like or hate, but working hard became a way to forget the past. More ppl of my age joined work and i made friends. I finally got closer to the HAPPINESS i longed for. But whenever i see them going out with their friend group (they knew each other since high school) after work, where Im just standing up far, i immediately felt the difference between me and them. After work its nothing, alone again. Was the happiness fake? The time i had with them?
Everytime i see any high school groups it would remind me my high school life. The emptiness is always there. I cant help but look and walk away.
I hate that im addicted to meeting and making friends to escape loneliness and BE HAPPY. Its not normal, normal ppl dont need to be happy they're just happy.
I dont know what happiness is anymore. I just want to be like everyone else, but im not and never will be.
Whenever i meet and talk to ppl, i would never stop cracking jokes becuase i knew they would laugh and i knew i would be happy if they're happy, thats the only reason i do it.
Great content. Listening, I instantly thought of the book “Man's Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl and the ending of the Logotherapy he built to find meaning in life even when there is apparently no more reason to continue. Matterness is a great word to strive for in that regard.
Just so good man, honestly
bro, you just, ah, break my fucking brain with every video. God damn
crazy content bro
Looking forward to next vid😊
@@OmPrakash-mu9bo it’s a bit late, had to take a step back and change things up a bit :)
My new favorite TH-camr😁😁
psyched for the deepdive on matterness for sure
Ooft great vid, backdrop looking sauce too
I got into games and porn to distract from the pain that I was letting my dreams slip out and it's not gonna end soon
Buddy did my entire essay for me about emotions and what not 🥶
Love it
Amazing content
I wonder if in a few years you will make a video dissecting this video in the way you have dissected this book.
Mf was writing novels at 13 💀
That's fucking awesome bro.
Great video - can't wait for the next one. Cool how everything seems to tie into the agent/arena thing
awesome
according to me, objectively speaking(yes ik how stupid that sounds just because of how subjective most if not all the questions revolving about happiness or emotion are but hear me out) sadness and happiness are not supposed to be goals but they are tools developed by evolution in order to teach you weather or not something is good or bad, therefore when you do something good(according to your brain) you get rewarded by feeling happy at the same time if you do something that is bad(also according to your mind) then you sorta get punished by feeling like shit or in other words u feel sad, what im trying to say is that happiness and sadness is our body's biologically programmed method of teaching you through a form of mixed positive and negative reinforcement.
You forget that our minds cannot be trusted because in the modern world it goes towards all the instant gratification. Trust your soul and conscience brother. Not some easely duped feelings
amazing brooo. soo true. just saying you would get so big if you did this stuff on TikTok
Brilliant
Isn’t usefulness making ur life satisfaction dependent on other people and what they deem as useful? I love ur ideas but this one contradicts what i myself discovered. I believe the base of ur behaviour should be informed solely by ur needs (identifying them first is a big part) and then adding ”compromises” meaning that matterness Ure talking about. So basically a calculation between what extras we would like and whether They are worth the effort put in all things considered. What do yall think?
are you happy? = do you matter?
happiness IS 100% the goal, but if we make the analogy of comparing sadness to a person with a different opinion, we don't kill him do we? we try to negotiate something appropriate for both of us don't we? at least I hope that's the answer of most of you. you must not just simply try to remove sadness in any way, you must understand what's making you sad and plan how to help yourself in a reasonable way. that does not make it not the goal, just not the right approach.
I personally believe happiness is not the goal even. I mean, you probably want it to be the goal because happiness feels good. But how do you define what's good?
When you boil it down, aren't all feelings just... well, feelings? Why is happiness objectively any better than sadness? Sure, happiness FEELS better, but what is it about the feeling that feels good? I feel like that can be a hard thing to answer.
Sadness can even be considered good. Many people like crying because it allows them to get rid of suppressed emotions, which in turn makes you feel good. So in other words, crying feels good too. And when you're really sad you often cry. So why is sadness then considered a bad thing?
The point I'm trying to make is, the goal should be to experience all emotions. If you're always happy, then well, you're never happy, because in order to feel the ups of happiness, you'll have needed to feel the lows as well.
If happiness is the goal, and sadness should be avoided or something to be worked on, then you're keeping yourself from experiencing part of what it means to be human.
People who avoid negative emotion are not happier, they're actually usually more miserable. The more you keep away from negative emotion, the worse you feel.
It's only when you allow yourself to feel when you can truly be happy.
Edit: Just thought of something else to add: Even just the thought of happiness and sadness being opposites can reinforce the idea that sadness needs to be avoided. At least if your goal is to be happy. The way we view opposites, is that you can't have both at once. You can't have water and fire exist on top of each other, you can't have a room that's hot and cold at the same time. So it would stand to reason if happiness and sadness are opposites, you can't be happy if you're sad. But that's not actually true. They're both simply feelings, and feeling one does not negate the other. You can be a happy person while still feeling sad from time to time, or you can feel sad while being happy from time to time. You can even feel both at once, it's called bittersweet.
They're not actually opposites. Just different feelings.
I would even argue happiness and sadness are similar. Both can make you cry.
Just like anxiety and excitement are similar, both make your stomach rumble and feel tense.
@@Unkn4wN_TM I just read the first part because you literally sound like an evil cruel monster that is trying to guilt trip you into being the saddest person alive and torture you forever and make you believe that you are the problem for wanting to not be sad and making you even sadder and destroying everything and being the absolute worse villain ever and destroying all happiness and guilt tripping you as you do it and I really don't want to read a single more word of that absolute evil garbage, literally stop existing please
Isn't matterness just another attempt at happiness?
If pursuing happiness can be seen as going towards a goal, then pursuing matterness can be seen as implementing a system
If you don't know the effectiveness difference between goal vs system orientation make sure to read an Atomic Habits summary
@interbution1709 I like the idea of that. I might give the book a read
this is relatable lol
Answer me.
What book have you read that time that affect you the most?
I'm currently reading a book that have similar opinion as 13 yo you.
Wonder if we have the same answer.
bro changed the thumbnail too many times
Hahahah yeah I think they put me in TH-cam jail for it
I think what you're saying is really good but maybe you could really simplify what you're saying so it's super clear.
I think it’s super clear. If you want to be happy = be useful. Really easy. If you watched the full video u would have understood it.
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