My husband and I always said divorce is never an option. We thought alike on everything and were true soul mates. Then shortly after our 34th anniversary, he left me. I had always been a housewife, so I had no income and had to move in with my daughter's family. After two years my mom bought me a trailer and that is where I still live today. It's been 15 years since the divorce and I still feel like half of me is missing.
I feel the same. Did not expect it after 20 yrs together, apart since 2014 and I still feel “empty”. Trying to keep moving forward, but everything is “off”, although more bearable I suppose as far as putting a foot in front of the other and keeping life in movement. I think I feel like a widow (no offense to people who have lost a partner), as in my heart is not available and I do not see that changing. I had a close person in my life who was a widow for many years and she explained fo me that she still felt married. And that is the best way I can explain it, I still feel married (whether he is involved or not). I hope life brings you happiness or closure. Whatever heals.
We have been married for 54 years and I am still married to my best friend. He is suffering from dementia now but I still love him more than ever. There are always tough times in any marriage. Divorce was never an option when we got married. It’s always been for better or worse. We have had a wonderful life together. We give God all the praise and glory. 🥰
Many years ago when we started talking about getting married I wanted to go to justice of the peace and my soon to be husband said " I am getting married one time in my life and it will be in a church with a minister". Total commitment from the beginning. We were married 53 yrs when he passed just over 2 yrs ago. Not all roses, but a very good marriage. Miss him every day . Divorce is too easy. Marriage is tough, but so worth the effort.
Married to my best friend for 37 years I lost him November 7 of 2022 miss him every day not sure what’s gonna come next but I face it head on hold my head up and just keep going that’s what he would’ve wanted
This is such a needed video. I have a friend who just recently told me that her and her husband were divorcing after 43 years. We are under attack mentally, spiritually, financially and physically.
After both of us had been divorced and both had children from those marriages, us getting married was the scariest thing we could do. We discussed it and both agreed if we married it was til death do us part. "I always said 1 of us is gonna die getting out of it". Long story short I buried my husband July 2022, nearly 35 years of marriage. Was it easy NO, were there times when giving up would have been easier, maybe. But we didn't give up. 3 kids raised then raised 3 grand kids with NO regrets. I miss my husband, best friend, and the love of my life. Putting God first in our life made a world of difference. Good luck to you and your family. Thanks for the video.
Any guy who can express his feelings and give a talk like this is golden. Jenn is very lucky to have you Zach...you talk openly, and not a lot of men do that. You're very lucky to have Jenn, too. I remember your video talk about divorce 3 years ago. I'm an OG here...lol. I'm beyond happy for both of you and your family. Always loved you guys. You're stuck with me. Haha. Have a wonderful weekend. Much WI Love! Karen ❤
I'm going thru a divorce now. I've also learned what gaslighting is. It's when my husband's girlfriends keep calling me and he says I'm being ridiculous.
This is beautiful, Zach!!! I love your willingness to be Frank and honest on these barn chats, even when I don’t 100% agree with your view of something. Its an important leadership trait to share our views with tactful candor, and you have that! Treasure it and never let it go. It’s one of those traits sorely lacking in our society today.
You've given the best marriage advice ever. My ex cheated for years, my situation. Oh, to you both, this video was more open than the one years ago, thank you for repeating it with more openness
So very true....communication is so important....we have been married 45 years and there was so many rough times...I had 2 children then a Hyster at age 21 right after my 2 one was born....I felt like such a failure...as a wife and a mother...I could not have any more children...and I wanted lots...Hubby tried to help but I didn't let him...after a rough year we thought about divorce....but we talked and he understood the way I felt and I understood how he felt....2 children is enough for us....god bless you for sticking it out.... BTW...(we have 8 grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren) living the dream!!!
Hi Zach. Me and my husband been married 30 years in December. The last couple years we have come very close to divorce several times now. But we are working on the marriage. I remember about a year ago you talked about this. Prayers for all couples going through this. May God help reunite your love and may you all find God in your hearts.
My husband & I met in grade 5 at 10 yrs old, went through school together (small school) & will celebrate 40 yrs Oct 1. It can be rough! But, we love each other & are truly best friends. Divorce is NOT an option!❤
Awesome talk I needed that talk after 38 years I was ready to give up I knew it was worth urging the work in. We got this we chose our Love and our Trust and our Marriage Great talk
I remember watching your videos over the years about divorce and all that has gone with it. Thank you for sharing your story. We are at year 11 and yes we have had issues over the years but I'm so glad we have worked things out and I get to spend my days with my sweet husband.
This August coming ,we will turn 40 years ..3 grown boys and 2 granddaughters we have been there and we Love each other .. My love is very sick Now and I love this man and will be by his side for eternity..♥️🙏🏽
Honestly my stomach sank for a moment when I saw the title but then I just knew you guys are in a good place. It's very obvious the love between you guys, and I am so proud and happy for you both.
My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years now and we know keeping God at the centre of it holds us together. As said in the marriage vows - "What God has joined together let no one put asunder." We exasperate each other but equally we share the greatest joys together and we will continue to work at it day by day. Someone once said "marriage isn't gift wrapped it comes in kit form, you have to work at it." Thanks for sharing and being so open and honest. :)
Your amazing. This brought tears to my eyes. I've been divorced 2x. 1st one he cheated and kicked me out 2 months pregnant for his best friends wife. 5 yr marriage down the drain . 2nd, we were married a little over a month, and he left me to keep from paying child support. 15 yes later got my divorce. Never again. The one I'm with now will be 10 yes next month. You guys are truly awesome. I love watching y'all. I've learned so much from y'all. Stay positive. Don't go to bed mad, talk it out 1st. No one is ever promised tomorrow, or even 5 minutes from now. ❤❤
Absolutely beautiful. Well said and great advice. I lost my husband at a young age, but if it wasn’t for that tragedy I would not have found the man I’m with now and I wouldn’t have been able to truly experience that “magic” of true commitment. The wonderful man I’m with now and the type of relationship that you just described is to a T what he and I have. It’s crazy how easy everything else just flows when you have a fully comfortable and committed relationship. I’m glad you and Jen are staying strong. I love watching your videos!
There is one of my favorite priest saying If you not ready for children you shouldn't be getting marry. Your testimony only proves how important is to be open for life and God's will to be in union. God bless!
That is very brave to put your life out there like that. I’m so proud that y’all were able to stay together. I love your videos. I love you sweet wife I love your animals your babies. Yeah we’re just good down to earth people. I love it stay strong and stay together. Love y’all good friends.
What a Blessing it is to have each other, there isn’t many men out there who thinks like your heart is Zac and that’s POWERFUL and a Beautiful Example to your children and to society to stand in the place you stand on marriage!!! I love your barn chats of TRUTH that hits home for many especially in the division society we living in today!!! Keep up the good chats…God Bless You And Your Family 💕
It's okay!! My husband and I have been together for 18 years and never had an argument! We give each other space, grab a cup of coffee, go work on a project, etc., and then communicate everything calmly and with love and respect for each other ❤❤❤
After being together for over 25 years(off and on) and married for 12, I feel where you all are at. Between toxic family members, becoming caretakers of my grandpa and then his passing after cancer, 2 babies, one with medical issues at birth (11 week micro-premmie), our first 3 years of marriage were rough. Even thought we fuss with each other over normal married people stuff, we never fight. He puts up with my hairbrained ideas, and is supporting me starting my business, and I let him have his video games. We share responsibilities with our girls, we work together, and we let our love overcome the toxic people who still, 12 years later, claim it will never last and still send him local divorce lawyer info. You have to work at it, but I can't imagine life without him. Thanks, Zac and Jen, for being an inspiration to all of us.
😔😔😔BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE CHILDREN! I COULD NOT and so we are childless. Now in my late 50's I am thankful for how God handled it for us. Not ALL women are meant to have a child/children.Leave it up to God!
Change is the only constant. My boyfriend and I did not expect thyroid cancer & breast cancer in the middle of building our dreams. You never know what life brings. All you can do is plan for the future, hope for the best & roll with the bumps. Hugs!
William & I have been married 29 years (together 31),, someone said that our marriage would only last a couple of years. We don't have children OUR choice. We argue but nothing serious, we both work, have lots of animals.... Thank u Zach for this video , u have a great wife , family and lifestyle x
We have been trying to normalize talking about this topic (and money) with our teenage daughter. There are so many important topics about work and life that people avoid. I hope our open heart conversations carry forward as lessons our daughter shares with her children and grandchildren ❤ Thank you so much for this.
Thanks for this video. I think people who are married think about this at some point or another during their marriage. The commitment to each other every day and to overcome problems that arise is what matters.
zack, you have such a big heart! My husband and I have been married for 40 years. There have been 3 times during our marriage that we have come close to splitting up - would it have ever led to divorce? I don't think so. But with that being said it was our love for each other that always lead us to the healing and the growing that we needed to journey on! We are like one and I sense the same thing with you and Jen! As far as kids?? I had 2 in my first failed marriage. He has been an amazing stepfather and even more amazing grandpa. We have little regrets, but I've had a wonderful life with my man! He is my life partner, my soul mate!
God bless you BOTH. Through the years you have shared your knowledge, your successes, your "almost successes" and your personal lives with us. This has proven you and your family to be REAL in a world in which there are so few "real" people left. You've given and given, and asked nothing in return. Now... with this video... you have opened and shared your heart with all of us regarding the most difficult situation a couple could face: married, almost married, considering marriage, or divorced: this video will touch the hearts and minds of ALL. Thank you for letting God work through you to encourage, to "wake up", to "sober up" and to consider and reconsider the life-changing issues that your viewers are most certainly facing in the dark, confused and broken world in which we now live. How can anyone survive today without true LOVE? We need to see that it still exists; as it does with you and Jenn. Thank you again. God bless you and your beautiful family. We will pray for one another. If we don't- who will?
We need some of that good rain here in Jefferson County (Louisville) Ky. I wish I could complain about it raining too much at this point. We've had some but it seems every time, it's barely any to wet the sidewalks.
My hubby and I have been married twenty -two years and we’ve had some hard times! I dare say if most couples were honest they’ve been there. We are like you though. We live, work, and play together, around each other all the time. We have people say how do you do that? It’s just our life and the way we roll. Y’all are doing a great job and I’m liking these barn chats!❤
Being married can be hard. My husband shut down another child too. I was bitter for a very long time. We had a tough time when our daughter left. We looked at each other & it was loke who are you! I didnt know if i wanted to be married but i KNEW i didnt want to be divorced! We went to several "therapist" (rolling eyes). That was a joke! We finally found a "relationship couch"! GAME CHANGER!!! We found our way back to each other ❤ its been over 10 years & we still use the skills she taught us! This year will be 36 years!
I’ve been married 42 years- were there rough times yes and still are - but we meant those vows and so far have been together 45 years -we were high school sweethearts - keep growing and praying
Great video! If all men were like you there would never be divorce! You and Jenn make a beautiful family. I remember when y’all had no running water. That was probably not a good time to bring another baby along but it is my belief that God blesses us with the children we have so I always think if it is meant to be it will happen and if it doesn’t then that is God’s will for your family for whatever reason. You can always pray to adopt a child from newborn. There are so many children that need loving parents that are in DCS under bad conditions. You all could bring so much happiness to one of those children. Pray about it. I was in awe at how many children are in DCS right now in west TN where I live recently DCS here was busted for having children sleep and live in a rented office building which was full of filthy conditions. It breaks my heart that there are so many children in these conditions. My husband and I have been married 43 years and been together 46 years. It has been a roller coaster but we are still together and very much in love. We have four children and four grandchildren. It’s never easy 100% of the time but that is life. Keep God first in your life and He will guide you.
Hey Zach, I hope you’ll see this comment. When I search for you all, divorce doesn’t even show up. Clean you cache and delete your cookies. And I think we all need to do that as a life message. Don’t hold onto the past or let Satan remind you.
Great video brother. Been married 20 years this year. Always put the father 1st then your spouse. Things will fall into place after that. You guys are great together. Thanks again for the video. And God blees you.
Jen will set the temperature. You will need to either turn on the A/C or throw on a sweater. Both of which could happen within the same hour. It's truly up to you. Your job and your honor. Fix what needs to be fixed.
You have to know that your partner has your back and that that commitment is true. We all go through phases and you need to go through them together. God bless you both and your relationship!
My friend at one time was thinking of divorce. I told her if she started thinking about it then it’s like cancer. The negativity spreads and you convince yourself you need to divorce your spouse. My husband and I are 31 years wedlock. We had are ups and downs but always stood by each others. Some days i am upset at hime but we do talk about it. I have a hard time talking about what’s wrong. Still learning that! Diane Hartley
I really appreciate y’all’s honesty…and the most important take away I got from this is that you BOTH wanted it. You both came to realize things and to elevate your priorities. What does one do if their partner doesn’t? I’m contemplating divorce because I been telling my husband for 3 years now we have to get out of town and homestead. I said I’d start small and teach my 2/3 boys to help and do it mostly on my own. Homeschool too…we have a severely autistic child who loves the outdoors. I stay home with him until he can go to school this fall…but anymore I don’t even think they’ll be able to manage it and I worry for him. My husband is utterly apathetic, unmotivated, and depressed for years with no end in sight. I have to take most care of our son because he’s not healthy enough to catch him when he runs away (big time eloper and very quick) It’s come basically down to us discussing at this rate putting him in a facility one day because he has potential to be dangerous to himself if I can’t restrain him. We also live paycheck to paycheck like many autism family’s must due to someone needing to care for child at all times and my husband can’t do it for very long. I think I’m at the point where if I have to I will divorce only because I’ll do everything I possibly can to avoid needing to put my son in a facility. I also became a believer last fall and he is not and I pray he does cause I can’t judge I wasn’t a believer for years. I’m 30 years old with my life ahead and children to consider and divorce is never great to contemplate but I don’t know if I can muster the courage to beg anymore for a family to thrive with no motive or goals on his end and just be ignored every time…or survive the resentment that if I give in to my husband and continue down this miserable trajectory and be forced to put my son in a home without trying this first I don’t know how I’d forgive him…lord please forgive me for these thoughts I just don’t know what to do 😭🙏🙏
My heart goes out to you. I heard every word and felt every emotion behind what you said. Don’t leave/divorce yet. Only God can turn this around. Give God Time, pray, fast and find a mature (in years and faith) Godly woman to pray with you about your situation and for your husbands Salvation. I’m praying for you.
You and Jen are truly a blessing❤ I appreciate all that You share but Also your realness and your hard work towards your marriage. I never wanted to go through a divorce, But my first husband thought The grass was greener somewhere else. After eleven years and three young children he left. It was a single parent for a few years that I got married again, Eighteen years later that husband did the same thing. Those were some really rough years he was never really around. I have been divorced twice, Both of them filed. Like my pastor told me you can't make someone stay And they're walk with the Lord. I am the rich one, My ex's might have all the money. But I have an amazing relationship with my children. I know their friends I was there for them. I am so thankful for people who fight hard for their marriage and last. I'm thankful for their example for my children to see. I pray for you and Jen so often. Bless you both❤ You are giving the best gift you can to your children and are such a light to the world. God bless
I know marriages that are struggling.... It is so heart wrenching.... Praise the Good Lord that you came out of it and Thank you so very much for htting on this issue and sharing your personal struggle and victories. Not many men can open up like this and share their vunerabilities..... it is a God send for sure. Praying for you and your familiy . One note for other readers or anyone wanting to get pregnant you might want to take a look at your diet especially the types of fats you eat and this is why I say that. Omega 6 fats cause inflamation and can have an effect on the reproductive system so be sure to get more Omega 3's and back off of the Omega 6's which are in so many bad fats and processed foods, snack foods, fast foods, etc. This actually happened to a Breeding Stallion that was being fed omega 6 vegetable oil to keep his weight up. As long as he was on the Omega 6 veggie oils his breeding success dwindled. It was hit and miss so to speak. The Vets couldn't help as they didn't have the knowledge but then the owner looked up a product that they had ran out of that actually helped his weight and breeding soundness and found that the Omega 3's were high on the list of it's content... They did more research and the key was to stop the Omega 6 vegetalbe oils. Using the Omega 3's really increased the success rate of this stallions production rate. I know it may seem funny to compare the two but God created our bodies to use food as medicine ..... Maybe this will help someone... Also, God tells us in scripture that if we lack wisdom that we should ask for wisdom from Him and He will NEVER Refuse us but give Wisdom to us generously without finding fault... I can attest that God is faithful to give wisdom Generously. He has answered so many of my prayers and I am so grateful. God bless you mightily !!!
Very good topic, it's hard work to stay together. My husband and I will be celebrating our 44 years in a few days. Yes, we fought over money and children, but we got through it. Communication is the key to any marriage. The thought I have now days is. What will happen to us when one of passes away. That's another separation that you just don't think about. Good for you for acknowledging and talking about the problem. I do hope you two have another few children when the time is right.
I love these Barn Chats. My husband and I are celebrating nearly 30 years of marriage. We've been through rough stuff, a few times. People ask us how we got through those, our response is always "we believe/believed in our forever".
Such a great video, Zach! I so wish I could have found a guy like you that's committed to a marriage no matter what. It is great that all of us have such a positive example of a good marriage like yours and Jen's. God Bless your beautiful family. 😁❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
How i wish that i had that in my heart when i was married at 18....Coming from a disfuntional family didn't help. After getting the divorce I was left with the core issue, Me!!!! I regret to this day at 63, that i left. I enjoy watching y'all work thru life together. When you find that one... Hang on.
You know Jen & Zach my sister which is 2 years older than me..She wanted a baby so bad...I got pregnant before she did and she was jealous...Her and her husband went to every Dr they could find and nothing worked..Then 7 years later she got pregnant with their son and then a daughter...God is in control and when he sees fit for you to have another baby, it will happen.. I love you guys , you are awesome people... I started watching you guys when you were trying for a baby. Seems like yesterday...God bless you all ...Thank you Zach for this , it was awesome....
I hope to have a marriage like you and Jen have one day! Although time is running out, I am quite older than you two. I’m also from Kentucky. I don’t live there now, but I hope to get back there real soon.
My husband and I will be married 33 years on June 30th. We have had some hard times and the “D” word has come up several times. But we talk and talk, cry and sob then we heal each other. We stay focused on what nice thing we could do for each other every day. It is very difficult some days, but also very necessary. Just pray and let your heart heal. Aside from abuse, love can conquer all.
I was 17 when hubby and i married. That was 35 years ago. Its work. Just like anything else worth keeping put in the care to keep it running smoothly and repair the areas that break over time. Patience kindness understanding love.
Hi Zach! You mentioned adoption and/or fostering. You two would give a child great parents and a great family. I have been married 19 years and it's been rough at times but love each other. Love Your Family.
I have been thru a divorce and it's so hard for a family to break up. I am in my second marriage and learned my mistakes from the first one and is it always perfect nope but he is my ride or die and me for him. Divorce is not an option ever again.
My mother in law always said 7 in the magic number. If you can make it to year 7 you can get through anything! Seems like the devil attacks your marriage HARD in that first 7 years. GOOD FOR YOU GUYS that you've hung in there for your family! May God bless your marriage. ❤
I thought you both looked restless and discontent in 2018. I wondered if you had strayed. While putting your marriage back together I could understand how Jen felt and how you felt. It was a really tough time. I am reminded by this statement was it a bad day or a bad moment?
❤25 years together and 21 married. Times have not been easy 100% of the time, but here we are! Together. Daryl and Christina Carlisle together Forever!❤
We’ve made it 40 years but if I’m honest w/you we went thru some very tough marital times and we’re were super close to divorce but that was 20 years ago.
Communication is the key. There will be tough times in the marriage. It will be tough at first to talk,but it you let it linger,it will be tougher later on. Being mad is one thing, letting it fester will turn into anger.
My husband and I always said divorce is never an option. We thought alike on everything and were true soul mates. Then shortly after our 34th anniversary, he left me. I had always been a housewife, so I had no income and had to move in with my daughter's family. After two years my mom bought me a trailer and that is where I still live today. It's been 15 years since the divorce and I still feel like half of me is missing.
I’m giving you a virtual hug. Like a strong mama hug. So sorry it turned out that way. God bless you hun.
Oh my, such an emotional rollercoaster. So glad you had your daughter and your mom there to help you when you needed it. Hugs and prayers for you....
I really feel for you too. 🤗 so sorry that happen to you honey but thank the Lord you have a trailer …your home to live in.
I feel the same. Did not expect it after 20 yrs together, apart since 2014 and I still feel “empty”. Trying to keep moving forward, but everything is “off”, although more bearable I suppose as far as putting a foot in front of the other and keeping life in movement. I think I feel like a widow (no offense to people who have lost a partner), as in my heart is not available and I do not see that changing. I had a close person in my life who was a widow for many years and she explained fo me that she still felt married. And that is the best way I can explain it, I still feel married (whether he is involved or not). I hope life brings you happiness or closure. Whatever heals.
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We have been married for 54 years and I am still married to my best friend. He is suffering from dementia now but I still love him more than ever. There are always tough times in any marriage. Divorce was never an option when we got married. It’s always been for better or worse. We have had a wonderful life together. We give God all the praise and glory. 🥰
Many years ago when we started talking about getting married I wanted to go to justice of the peace and my soon to be husband said " I am getting married one time in my life and it will be in a church with a minister". Total commitment from the beginning. We were married 53 yrs when he passed just over 2 yrs ago. Not all roses, but a very good marriage. Miss him every day . Divorce is too easy. Marriage is tough, but so worth the effort.
Married to my best friend for 37 years I lost him November 7 of 2022 miss him every day not sure what’s gonna come next but I face it head on hold my head up and just keep going that’s what he would’ve wanted
So sorry for your loss. Sending love and prayers
@@jennawinkelman8260 thank you God Bless
This is such a needed video. I have a friend who just recently told me that her and her husband were divorcing after 43 years. We are under attack mentally, spiritually, financially and physically.
After both of us had been divorced and both had children from those marriages, us getting married was the scariest thing we could do. We discussed it and both agreed if we married it was til death do us part. "I always said 1 of us is gonna die getting out of it". Long story short I buried my husband July 2022, nearly 35 years of marriage. Was it easy NO, were there times when giving up would have been easier, maybe. But we didn't give up. 3 kids raised then raised 3 grand kids with NO regrets. I miss my husband, best friend, and the love of my life. Putting God first in our life made a world of difference. Good luck to you and your family. Thanks for the video.
Any guy who can express his feelings and give a talk like this is golden. Jenn is very lucky to have you Zach...you talk openly, and not a lot of men do that. You're very lucky to have Jenn, too. I remember your video talk about divorce 3 years ago. I'm an OG here...lol. I'm beyond happy for both of you and your family. Always loved you guys. You're stuck with me. Haha. Have a wonderful weekend. Much WI Love! Karen ❤
I'm going thru a divorce now. I've also learned what gaslighting is. It's when my husband's girlfriends keep calling me and he says I'm being ridiculous.
Tape record her,buy a cassette recorder,put phone on speaker.
This is beautiful, Zach!!! I love your willingness to be Frank and honest on these barn chats, even when I don’t 100% agree with your view of something. Its an important leadership trait to share our views with tactful candor, and you have that! Treasure it and never let it go.
It’s one of those traits sorely lacking in our society today.
Being a man, I'm glad you can reflect, and work on your issues! Not all men, can mentally do that.
You've given the best marriage advice ever. My ex cheated for years, my situation. Oh, to you both, this video was more open than the one years ago, thank you for repeating it with more openness
So very true....communication is so important....we have been married 45 years and there was so many rough times...I had 2 children then a Hyster at age 21 right after my 2 one was born....I felt like such a failure...as a wife and a mother...I could not have any more children...and I wanted lots...Hubby tried to help but I didn't let him...after a rough year we thought about divorce....but we talked and he understood the way I felt and I understood how he felt....2 children is enough for us....god bless you for sticking it out.... BTW...(we have 8 grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren) living the dream!!!
Hi Zach. Me and my husband been married 30 years in December. The last couple years we have come very close to divorce several times now. But we are working on the marriage. I remember about a year ago you talked about this. Prayers for all couples going through this. May God help reunite your love and may you all find God in your hearts.
My husband & I met in grade 5 at 10 yrs old, went through school together (small school) & will celebrate 40 yrs Oct 1. It can be rough! But, we love each other & are truly best friends. Divorce is NOT an option!❤
Awesome talk I needed that talk after 38 years I was ready to give up I knew it was worth urging the work in. We got this we chose our Love and our Trust and our Marriage Great talk
I remember watching your videos over the years about divorce and all that has gone with it. Thank you for sharing your story. We are at year 11 and yes we have had issues over the years but I'm so glad we have worked things out and I get to spend my days with my sweet husband.
I remember you shared this before.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL. Love to each of you
Yes, I remember this story was shared before as well.
What a wonderful commitment!
This August coming ,we will turn 40 years ..3 grown boys and 2 granddaughters we have been there and we Love each other ..
My love is very sick Now and I love this man and will be by his side for eternity..♥️🙏🏽
i remember back then it was a rough talk you guys had and you worked it out keep on keeping well hugsssssss
Honestly my stomach sank for a moment when I saw the title but then I just knew you guys are in a good place. It's very obvious the love between you guys, and I am so proud and happy for you both.
My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years now and we know keeping God at the centre of it holds us together. As said in the marriage vows - "What God has joined together let no one put asunder." We exasperate each other but equally we share the greatest joys together and we will continue to work at it day by day. Someone once said "marriage isn't gift wrapped it comes in kit form, you have to work at it." Thanks for sharing and being so open and honest. :)
Your amazing. This brought tears to my eyes. I've been divorced 2x. 1st one he cheated and kicked me out 2 months pregnant for his best friends wife. 5 yr marriage down the drain . 2nd, we were married a little over a month, and he left me to keep from paying child support. 15 yes later got my divorce. Never again. The one I'm with now will be 10 yes next month.
You guys are truly awesome. I love watching y'all. I've learned so much from y'all. Stay positive. Don't go to bed mad, talk it out 1st. No one is ever promised tomorrow, or even 5 minutes from now. ❤❤
I’m glad you worked thru that time! You both are such a blessing to us! God bless you!❤️🙏🏻🇺🇸
I strongly believe if we put God first , wich we failed to do years ago, then God will get you through it,
AMEN!!
Today is mine and hubby 39th anniversary and happy.
Absolutely beautiful. Well said and great advice. I lost my husband at a young age, but if it wasn’t for that tragedy I would not have found the man I’m with now and I wouldn’t have been able to truly experience that “magic” of true commitment. The wonderful man I’m with now and the type of relationship that you just described is to a T what he and I have. It’s crazy how easy everything else just flows when you have a fully comfortable and committed relationship. I’m glad you and Jen are staying strong. I love watching your videos!
Glad yall worked it out because yall are so cute together! Yalls strong bond is obvious!
There is one of my favorite priest saying If you not ready for children you shouldn't be getting marry. Your testimony only proves how important is to be open for life and God's will to be in union. God bless!
That is very brave to put your life out there like that. I’m so proud that y’all were able to stay together. I love your videos. I love you sweet wife I love your animals your babies. Yeah we’re just good down to earth people. I love it stay strong and stay together. Love y’all good friends.
What a Blessing it is to have each other, there isn’t many men out there who thinks like your heart is Zac and that’s POWERFUL and a Beautiful Example to your children and to society to stand in the place you stand on marriage!!! I love your barn chats of TRUTH that hits home for many especially in the division society we living in today!!! Keep up the good chats…God Bless You And Your Family 💕
It's okay!! My husband and I have been together for 18 years and never had an argument! We give each other space, grab a cup of coffee, go work on a project, etc., and then communicate everything calmly and with love and respect for each other ❤❤❤
After being together for over 25 years(off and on) and married for 12, I feel where you all are at. Between toxic family members, becoming caretakers of my grandpa and then his passing after cancer, 2 babies, one with medical issues at birth (11 week micro-premmie), our first 3 years of marriage were rough. Even thought we fuss with each other over normal married people stuff, we never fight. He puts up with my hairbrained ideas, and is supporting me starting my business, and I let him have his video games. We share responsibilities with our girls, we work together, and we let our love overcome the toxic people who still, 12 years later, claim it will never last and still send him local divorce lawyer info. You have to work at it, but I can't imagine life without him. Thanks, Zac and Jen, for being an inspiration to all of us.
😔😔😔BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE CHILDREN! I COULD NOT and so we are childless. Now in my late 50's I am thankful for how God handled it for us. Not ALL women are meant to have a child/children.Leave it up to God!
Change is the only constant. My boyfriend and I did not expect thyroid cancer & breast cancer in the middle of building our dreams. You never know what life brings. All you can do is plan for the future, hope for the best & roll with the bumps. Hugs!
I'm assuming y'all beat cancer? I certainly hope so!❤
Thank you for sharing❤️
Awesome message of love and a love lesson🦋🎈Y’all have a wonderful weekend 🦋🎈
William & I have been married 29 years (together 31),, someone said that our marriage would only last a couple of years. We don't have children OUR choice. We argue but nothing serious, we both work, have lots of animals.... Thank u Zach for this video , u have a great wife , family and lifestyle x
We have been trying to normalize talking about this topic (and money) with our teenage daughter. There are so many important topics about work and life that people avoid. I hope our open heart conversations carry forward as lessons our daughter shares with her children and grandchildren ❤ Thank you so much for this.
Thanks for this video. I think people who are married think about this at some point or another during their marriage. The commitment to each other every day and to overcome problems that arise is what matters.
zack, you have such a big heart! My husband and I have been married for 40 years. There have been 3 times during our marriage that we have come close to splitting up - would it have ever led to divorce? I don't think so. But with that being said it was our love for each other that always lead us to the healing and the growing that we needed to journey on! We are like one and I sense the same thing with you and Jen! As far as kids?? I had 2 in my first failed marriage. He has been an amazing stepfather and even more amazing grandpa. We have little regrets, but I've had a wonderful life with my man! He is my life partner, my soul mate!
You truly are an awesome person!!! Love these chats you do.
So love y'all. I feel like you're family. Keep up the encouragement to others. It matters.
God bless you BOTH. Through the years you have shared your knowledge, your successes, your "almost successes" and your personal lives with us. This has proven you and your family to be REAL in a world in which there are so few "real" people left. You've given and given, and asked nothing in return. Now... with this video... you have opened and shared your heart with all of us regarding the most difficult situation a couple could face: married, almost married, considering marriage, or divorced: this video will touch the hearts and minds of ALL. Thank you for letting God work through you to encourage, to "wake up", to "sober up" and to consider and reconsider the life-changing issues that your viewers are most certainly facing in the dark, confused and broken world in which we now live. How can anyone survive today without true LOVE? We need to see that it still exists; as it does with you and Jenn. Thank you again. God bless you and your beautiful family. We will pray for one another. If we don't- who will?
We need some of that good rain here in Jefferson County (Louisville) Ky. I wish I could complain about it raining too much at this point. We've had some but it seems every time, it's barely any to wet the sidewalks.
My hubby and I have been married twenty -two years and we’ve had some hard times! I dare say if most couples were honest they’ve been there. We are like you though. We live, work, and play together, around each other all the time. We have people say how do you do that? It’s just our life and the way we roll. Y’all are doing a great job and I’m liking these barn chats!❤
Being married can be hard. My husband shut down another child too. I was bitter for a very long time. We had a tough time when our daughter left. We looked at each other & it was loke who are you! I didnt know if i wanted to be married but i KNEW i didnt want to be divorced! We went to several "therapist" (rolling eyes). That was a joke! We finally found a "relationship couch"! GAME CHANGER!!! We found our way back to each other ❤ its been over 10 years & we still use the skills she taught us! This year will be 36 years!
I’ve been married 42 years- were there rough times yes and still are - but we meant those vows and so far have been together 45 years -we were high school sweethearts - keep growing and praying
This video could not have come out in a more convenient time….. thank you! 😊
Great video! If all men were like you there would never be divorce! You and Jenn make a beautiful family. I remember when y’all had no running water. That was probably not a good time to bring another baby along but it is my belief that God blesses us with the children we have so I always think if it is meant to be it will happen and if it doesn’t then that is God’s will for your family for whatever reason. You can always pray to adopt a child from newborn. There are so many children that need loving parents that are in DCS under bad conditions. You all could bring so much happiness to one of those children. Pray about it. I was in awe at how many children are in DCS right now in west TN where I live recently DCS here was busted for having children sleep and live in a rented office building which was full of filthy conditions. It breaks my heart that there are so many children in these conditions. My husband and I have been married 43 years and been together 46 years. It has been a roller coaster but we are still together and very much in love. We have four children and four grandchildren. It’s never easy 100% of the time but that is life. Keep God first in your life and He will guide you.
Hey Zach, I hope you’ll see this comment. When I search for you all, divorce doesn’t even show up. Clean you cache and delete your cookies. And I think we all need to do that as a life message. Don’t hold onto the past or let Satan remind you.
Great video brother. Been married 20 years this year. Always put the father 1st then your spouse. Things will fall into place after that. You guys are great together. Thanks again for the video. And God blees you.
Jen will set the temperature. You will need to either turn on the A/C or throw on a sweater. Both of which could happen within the same hour. It's truly up to you. Your job and your honor. Fix what needs to be fixed.
You have to know that your partner has your back and that that commitment is true. We all go through phases and you need to go through them together. God bless you both and your relationship!
This will never be my problem. Widowed.
My friend at one time was thinking of divorce. I told her if she started thinking about it then it’s like cancer. The negativity spreads and you convince yourself you need to divorce your spouse. My husband and I are 31 years wedlock. We had are ups and downs but always stood by each others. Some days i am upset at hime but we do talk about it. I have a hard time talking about what’s wrong. Still learning that!
Diane Hartley
I really appreciate y’all’s honesty…and the most important take away I got from this is that you BOTH wanted it. You both came to realize things and to elevate your priorities. What does one do if their partner doesn’t? I’m contemplating divorce because I been telling my husband for 3 years now we have to get out of town and homestead. I said I’d start small and teach my 2/3 boys to help and do it mostly on my own. Homeschool too…we have a severely autistic child who loves the outdoors. I stay home with him until he can go to school this fall…but anymore I don’t even think they’ll be able to manage it and I worry for him. My husband is utterly apathetic, unmotivated, and depressed for years with no end in sight. I have to take most care of our son because he’s not healthy enough to catch him when he runs away (big time eloper and very quick) It’s come basically down to us discussing at this rate putting him in a facility one day because he has potential to be dangerous to himself if I can’t restrain him. We also live paycheck to paycheck like many autism family’s must due to someone needing to care for child at all times and my husband can’t do it for very long. I think I’m at the point where if I have to I will divorce only because I’ll do everything I possibly can to avoid needing to put my son in a facility. I also became a believer last fall and he is not and I pray he does cause I can’t judge I wasn’t a believer for years. I’m 30 years old with my life ahead and children to consider and divorce is never great to contemplate but I don’t know if I can muster the courage to beg anymore for a family to thrive with no motive or goals on his end and just be ignored every time…or survive the resentment that if I give in to my husband and continue down this miserable trajectory and be forced to put my son in a home without trying this first I don’t know how I’d forgive him…lord please forgive me for these thoughts I just don’t know what to do 😭🙏🙏
My heart goes out to you. I heard every word and felt every emotion behind what you said. Don’t leave/divorce yet. Only God can turn this around. Give God Time, pray, fast and find a mature (in years and faith) Godly woman to pray with you about your situation and for your husbands Salvation. I’m praying for you.
🩷to you both for hanging in there, until the clouds subsided!
Such a Beautiful ❤️ heartfelt, video
You and Jen are truly a blessing❤ I appreciate all that You share but Also your realness and your hard work towards your marriage. I never wanted to go through a divorce, But my first husband thought The grass was greener somewhere else. After eleven years and three young children he left. It was a single parent for a few years that I got married again, Eighteen years later that husband did the same thing. Those were some really rough years he was never really around. I have been divorced twice, Both of them filed. Like my pastor told me you can't make someone stay And they're walk with the Lord. I am the rich one, My ex's might have all the money. But I have an amazing relationship with my children. I know their friends I was there for them. I am so thankful for people who fight hard for their marriage and last. I'm thankful for their example for my children to see. I pray for you and Jen so often. Bless you both❤ You are giving the best gift you can to your children and are such a light to the world. God bless
so good to hear your story, wished i heard this years ago. Words of Wisdom 🙏
I know marriages that are struggling.... It is so heart wrenching.... Praise the Good Lord that you came out of it and Thank you so very much for htting on this issue and sharing your personal struggle and victories. Not many men can open up like this and share their vunerabilities..... it is a God send for sure. Praying for you and your familiy . One note for other readers or anyone wanting to get pregnant you might want to take a look at your diet especially the types of fats you eat and this is why I say that. Omega 6 fats cause inflamation and can have an effect on the reproductive system so be sure to get more Omega 3's and back off of the Omega 6's which are in so many bad fats and processed foods, snack foods, fast foods, etc. This actually happened to a Breeding Stallion that was being fed omega 6 vegetable oil to keep his weight up. As long as he was on the Omega 6 veggie oils his breeding success dwindled. It was hit and miss so to speak. The Vets couldn't help as they didn't have the knowledge but then the owner looked up a product that they had ran out of that actually helped his weight and breeding soundness and found that the Omega 3's were high on the list of it's content... They did more research and the key was to stop the Omega 6 vegetalbe oils. Using the Omega 3's really increased the success rate of this stallions production rate. I know it may seem funny to compare the two but God created our bodies to use food as medicine ..... Maybe this will help someone... Also, God tells us in scripture that if we lack wisdom that we should ask for wisdom from Him and He will NEVER Refuse us but give Wisdom to us generously without finding fault... I can attest that God is faithful to give wisdom Generously. He has answered so many of my prayers and I am so grateful. God bless you mightily !!!
Very good topic, it's hard work to stay together. My husband and I will be celebrating our 44 years in a few days. Yes, we fought over money and children, but we got through it. Communication is the key to any marriage. The thought I have now days is. What will happen to us when one of passes away. That's another separation that you just don't think about. Good for you for acknowledging and talking about the problem. I do hope you two have another few children when the time is right.
so inspiring to witness this come around. You guys are role models for marriage.
That was just beautiful and all people should hear what you just had to say.
Amen, amen & amen. Take it off the table from the start. 38 years and going strong. ❤❤❤
I love these Barn Chats. My husband and I are celebrating nearly 30 years of marriage. We've been through rough stuff, a few times. People ask us how we got through those, our response is always "we believe/believed in our forever".
So inspiring because you are right about it all. Thanks
Such a great video, Zach! I so wish I could have found a guy like you that's committed to a marriage no matter what. It is great that all of us have such a positive example of a good marriage like yours and Jen's. God Bless your beautiful family. 😁❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
My parents have been married 72 years
Wow, Fantastic.. My mom spouse died in 68. 26 years married.He still alive it would be 81.She gonna be 104 July 20,23. Never remarried
My husband is completely draining me! I feel the life fading away from me! I am done with us! 35 years I gave to the wrong person!
Maybe not,Talk to therapist,focus on you
41 years married, and there have been a lot of blips!
Amen, Blessings & Shalom ❤
We have been married 46 years and still going strong. Yes we had down years. But we survived and thrive together. A bond that will never sever.
Thanks for sharing very inspiring 🙏
How i wish that i had that in my heart when i was married at 18....Coming from a disfuntional family didn't help. After getting the divorce I was left with the core issue, Me!!!! I regret to this day at 63, that i left.
I enjoy watching y'all work thru life together. When you find that one... Hang on.
You know Jen & Zach my sister which is 2 years older than me..She wanted a baby so bad...I got pregnant before she did and she was jealous...Her and her husband went to every Dr they could find and nothing worked..Then 7 years later she got pregnant with their son and then a daughter...God is in control and when he sees fit for you to have another baby, it will happen.. I love you guys , you are awesome people... I started watching you guys when you were trying for a baby. Seems like yesterday...God bless you all ...Thank you Zach for this , it was awesome....
I hope to have a marriage like you and Jen have one day! Although time is running out, I am quite older than you two. I’m also from Kentucky. I don’t live there now, but I hope to get back there real soon.
Sending you both prayers ❤
My husband and I will be married 33 years on June 30th. We have had some hard times and the “D” word has come up several times. But we talk and talk, cry and sob then we heal each other. We stay focused on what nice thing we could do for each other every day. It is very difficult some days, but also very necessary. Just pray and let your heart heal. Aside from abuse, love can conquer all.
I was 17 when hubby and i married. That was 35 years ago. Its work. Just like anything else worth keeping put in the care to keep it running smoothly and repair the areas that break over time. Patience kindness understanding love.
Wise words💚 my husband and I chose our marriage and we are going on 23 years. We are best friends and have been since we met in jr. high.
Y’all are amazing!
My husband and I have been together for 47 years. There could not be two more different people.......but GOD!
Amen! 30 years here. But God!
Hi Zach! You mentioned adoption and/or fostering. You two would give a child great parents and a great family. I have been married 19 years and it's been rough at times but love each other. Love Your Family.
Good wisdom
I have been thru a divorce and it's so hard for a family to break up. I am in my second marriage and learned my mistakes from the first one and is it always perfect nope but he is my ride or die and me for him. Divorce is not an option ever again.
My mother in law always said 7 in the magic number. If you can make it to year 7 you can get through anything! Seems like the devil attacks your marriage HARD in that first 7 years. GOOD FOR YOU GUYS that you've hung in there for your family! May God bless your marriage. ❤
Hun My husband and u have been married thus july 49 years and without God it was not possible
Thank you
Great info
I thought you both looked restless and discontent in 2018. I wondered if you had strayed. While putting your marriage back together I could understand how Jen felt and how you felt. It was a really tough time. I am reminded by this statement was it a bad day or a bad moment?
❤25 years together and 21 married. Times have not been easy 100% of the time, but here we are! Together. Daryl and Christina Carlisle together Forever!❤
Just got my salve. Thank you.
I wish all men had your outlook on life. There wouldn’t be any divorces.
Do you w a tonic for pain
We’ve made it 40 years but if I’m honest w/you we went thru some very tough marital times and we’re were super close to divorce but that was 20 years ago.
Communication is the key. There will be tough times in the marriage. It will be tough at first to talk,but it you let it linger,it will be tougher later on. Being mad is one thing, letting it fester will turn into anger.
Enjoyed the video
God bless