"My brain has too many tabs open" is such an appropriate description of my ADHD mind. Lol I have a sticker that says this. It adds: "4 of them are frozen & I have no idea where the music is coming from."
My relationship with food is about depression, and frustration. And actually I just love food. And this is why, I have been dealing with depression for most of my life. I have a frustration about not being able to get things done or finished projects. Some frustration has been not standing up to others when the need arises and keeping it all inside and getting sick over it. I have more recently been able to, stand up for myself and it's made a difference.
My relationship with food is... unhealthy and has been almost my whole life. I am about 100 lbs over my "ideal" weight. I have a fair understanding at this point of why I have this relationship, it does indeed go back to childhood. I have been successful in controlling my weight on/off over the years, depending on what's going on in life. The most amazing part of all of this is that just last night I was asking my spirit guides for guidance on losing weight and your video with this very topic popped up in my feed this morning. Not a coincidence. Wow.
Good Morning Karen, and Lucy too. I am evolving every day. My relationship with food is: It used to be deadly because, for over 30 years, I was very anorexic and bulimic. I'm healing my relationship with food by: Acknowledging that I have a problem, and it's a disease so I see my psychiatrist, and mental health counselor, and take my meds. I can't miss any part of my healing process. I feel whole now.
Step one , accept my self as I am. Step two turn off the input of the story of how I should be, look, feel, eat behave and relax into being in the world not of it. Be, breath, accept , raise my vibration and be grateful for every day. Shine on. Hold the balance.
I am 54 and my mother is 100% Italian. She grew up in an Italian immigrant ghetto basically. For them, food was survival, community, joy, abundance in poverty, and the ultimate love language. I was raised loving to cook and eat and I still do. I have had a beautiful relationship with food, but I also battle over-eating for comfort. I have decided to allow the comfort aspect in moderation, but to generally eat for nourishment and not just to fill a space. So I cook and eat healthier. 80% vegan and no processed foods. The rest whatever I want (including meat, sugar, and fun JUNK that I want). That seems to work for me. I never feel deprived or hungry. I’ve never been overweight. I think it’s different for everyone. A balance needs to be found I think between want and need.
My relationship with food is improving because I work at it. Consulted my trainer and she suggested pushing my meals and snacks later in the day because I love eating at night. She assured me that was ok. No cliches. I do eat to to soothe myself. I watch TH-cam videos. I’m 68 and still address my food relationship. Exercise is a necessity in mental health.
My relationship with food is “I deserve to eat this”. I am getting help with medication due to pre-diabetes. I am hoping this time I can break this cycle/mental construct
My relationship with food is self judgement. I expect so much from myself in everything I do and am so critical of myself when I eat the wrong thing or overeat especially when others are present. I am trying to stop the judgement not just of myself but others too. And not just about food but all things.
1. My relationship with food is....one that my escape for comfort. and this is why...experiencing trauma. 2. I'm healing my relationship with food by....first, many years ago...i got a nutritionist that helped with what to eat and portions. i joined a 12 step program...and that helped for me to heal...going within myself....the last thing is I went vegan and than gravitated towards a WFPB lifestyle... I eat no meat, dairy, processed foods, oil and working on releasing 30-40 more pounds. I have a strong spiritual program and I found it is so important to love myself...to heal and take care of myself...
I LOVE that mug! Botox can treat conditions of the jaw (TMJ) and teeth grinding and likely that is why your dentist office is offering it I would think.
I have TMJ (less strength & noises better than when it was 1s triggered by teeth braces) from genetics & I'm 1st gen to know of the genetics that maybe snowballed more in me. Swallowing is more of an issue & need to adjust for that, I'm grateful other genetic food intolerances have improved (gi healing) so I can eat more than could 2-12yrs ago.
My relationship with food...is rolled under the umbrella of self-care and wellness, which includes my physical health and spiritual health. The relationship with food often showed up in patterns of behavior and making behavior changes that lead to better wellness decisions without a feeling of lack. For instance, when stopping for gas, going inside the shop and buying quick food, then eating in the car. Improving wellness, was making a small change to purchase string cheese or grapes and still snack in the car. Over time turned into to not going inside at all. A splurge was to go inside for coffee to enjoy in the car. The focus was on small changes, over time, to improved health and feeling better physically & energetically. The feeling of pride and excitement for positive changes helped raise vibrations and physical energy. The pattern changes included foods, coffee, and teas, that I enjoy and empower self care. Thanks you for your thoughts and insights in the channel.
My relationship with food is challenging. I have always struggled to feel good in my own skin. I’m in my last year of my 60s and now getting ready for back surgery which means I can’t be as active as I want to be. I know I feel better when I’m about 30 pounds lower than where I am now. I’m healing my relationship with food by starting to eat healthy ‘real’ food. I plan to continue this while I recover from surgery. I will increase my activity as the doctor allows and will work toward reducing my portions.
Karen I appreciate everything you shared here so much! It took most of my life up until now to feel like I have a healthy relationship w/ my body, I was anorexic & had body dysmorphia for quite a long time. You are absolutely right about the lack of nutritional info available to us; I was horrified to learn that the majority of physicians in our country have less than 20hrs. of nutritional education given to them!
I was born in 1955. When I was first going through menopause I gained 20+pounds. The thing that helped me adjust to my “new”body was keeping track of everything I ate on an app on my phone. I love this way of being mindful …and I lost the weight and then some. Works for me
My relationship with food is slipping back into old negative behavior patterns again and it is slipping because I left a bad therapy relationship a year or so back and never went to seek more help for my true disordered eating patterns. I often eat when depressed or anxious. Needless to say, November threw me back into panic mode. I am healing my eating disorders by accepting that they exist, that they are a problem. Now with the help of a new therapist and psychologist, I am exploring new ways to handle my depression and anxiety that do not involve food.
My relationship with food is bad. I'm about 10 pounds overweight, which is really nothing, but I remember growing up, my super healthy and thin father would see overweight people and sigh, shake his head, and say, "Look at them." Like they were moral failings or something. Typing this out actually makes me want to cry. Those poor people getting all those judgments! I once gained 40 pounds due to medication, and my dad's mom (grandma) saw me and blurted out in front of everyone, "LOOK HOW BIG YOU ARE!" and stared with her mouth open. You could hear a pin drop in that room. No one said anything. I binge eat sweets, then go on healthy eating, then eat sweets again, then the cycle repeats. There's an unhealed part of me that wants to be super thin because only then my dad will praise me. 😭😭
Oh my that statement by family or friends always angers me so much!! Because there is more to a person than thier waist size, I have a friend that says that to me about her family & friends she is always so focused on if a person lost or gained weight, I’ve made remarks to her asking what her problem was ?? It’s really non of her business what people ate & what they weigh, just take care of yourself & leave others be. Since I’ve known her I’ve been up & down & now up again with my weight, just makes me wonder what she says to others about me?
My Grandmother lived through the depression and raised me until I was 12. She allowed all foods joyfully. Biscuits and gravy, hamburger gravy over potatoes, chicken and noodles, waffles, bacon and eggs. Astonishing Thanksgivings and Christmas dinners.I have a memory of walking home from school for lunch at about 9 and scrambling up 6 eggs in butter and wolfing them down! I was a skinny little girl but I could pack away most of a large cheese pizza! Then she would buy a double layer vanilla cake with chocolate and walnut frosting and turn me and my two cousins loose on it. Only crumbs would be left! She also would welcome any of the neighborhood kids I’d last minute drag home for dinner. She really was such a wonderful lady. At 12 I was made to go live with my Dad. He weaponized food. Controlled everything we were allowed to eat and forced us to eat whatever was placed on our plates. We were not allowed to serve ourselves. My stepmother weighed out packets of snacks for our lunches and there was trouble if anyone got into them. It was horrible and almost pushed me into an eating disorder. I think it might have been my Grandmothers foundation that got me through. I left at 17 and throughout my adult life my weight has gone up and down a little through pregnancy’s, menopause etc. I raised my own children with the freedom that my Grandmother gave me. Now I’m 70. I eat whatever I want but find that I don’t need much and feel better with simple foods. That does not mean I don’t enjoy special desserts, cookies, a glass of wine! I certainly do! It’s just I enjoy them and don’t indulge in guilt for enjoying them. Then I find I don’t need or want much and don’t feel the urge to overindulge. My time left on this planet is far too short to not enjoy everything.
Hi Karen and community! As a Taurus, my relationship with food is that I love it. I have three siblings. As a child, I learned to eat fast so I could get any leftovers. I remember standing up at the dinner table (still eating!) so I could snag the last pork chop. To heal my relationship, I need to eat slowly and savor every bite so my brain knows when I am full. It's a hard habit to break. The generations card to me represents my father. He grew up poor in the country during the depression. People always fed visitors since many traveled by horse and they needed to be fed for the journey. It was something that you did when so many people were starving. I need to release want for more food. I'm not poor and definitely not starving 😂
My relationship with food is 'Survival Mode' and this is why. Many years ago my parents survived as children of Great Depression parents. They were taught to eat off the land, gardens, and hunting put food on their tables. Canning anything extra for a meal at a later date was common. My own parents absorbed these teachings and horded food, money and anything they valued to be passed down to us. But the elders of our own society have been pushed aside and knowledge they bring has been disregarded as 'old news'. We live in a new age where many people have been placed in a situation that is reminiscent of that depression era and food chains continually become disrupted by recalls and rising prices. I myself am at a stage where I eat on the budget that is minimal at best. Ramen Noodles and Canned spaghetti are within my price range so that is what ends up on my plate. Health and wealth are tied to each other, eating for the optimal body is expensive. Anyone else out there living from day to day take heart, splurge for that bag of apples or oranges occasionally and remember to stay hydrated. Have a beautiful day.
My relationship with food was kinda up and down but not really that unhealthy until menopause started between 49 & 50 and then when I was 53 my only son died and I basically ate my grief, I gained 45 lbs in less than a year after he died in my living room and in the 9 years since then I’ve only lost 6 lbs and at 62 now I am only 5’4” tall and over 200 lbs and obese on all the medical charts. I grew up for half my childhood on a farm and we grew our own vegetables, and my mom was a great cook so I loved all kinds of healthy veggies and was always very active running around on the farm, we grew cotton and alfalfa too and had beef cattle and in those days we had to go help move heavy water pipes every so often to water the crops, plus I helped herd cattle,drove the tractor, etc! So I wasn’t fat or anything as a child but then we moved to a fairly large city and my high school years were full of fast food and not liking grocery store veggies compared to the much better tasting vegetables we had on the farm. So I had to fight an addiction to chips and junk food starting then. I gained too much weight too with my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies but lost it gradually, but the combination of menopause and losing my son plunged me into this terrible sugar and carbs addiction I am still battling. My daughter bought me a stationary bicycle last Christmas and I try to ride it at least 3-5 days a week but I have thyroid disease and lost my health insurance so I am not taking my levothyroxine anymore and it is almost impossible to lose any real weight now sigh, even cutting back on sugar and starchy foods.
Can you in your Ask your SG’s pod ask them if the relationship with food is part of your lesson for this lifetime and if we carry these food issues in with us from a previous life?
My relationship with food is very complicated and is intertwined with my body and disability. I was born blind, and along with that came defects in other parts of my brain. This doesn't happen to everyone, it's just a part of my condition. I've been overweight or obese for my entire life. I don't remember ever being skinny. I remember once I got put on a simple low-carb diet at school, and I got other food compared to the other students. I just remember feeling so sad. Food is such a big part of socializing, and all I wanted to do is be a kid and not worry about health. It's something old people have to worry about. I often wonder how much of who I am is influenced by my condition, but don't really know how to find out. I am not sure how I'm gonna heal my relationship with food, I just know I love some of it. I have sensory issues surrounding my mouth, and I wish I didn't. It makes doing basic things harder. Hopefully I didn't just cause people to lose hope or lose positivity. I'm taking things one step at a time. Hopefully other folks can do the same.
❤ My daughter has autism and she is very sensitive to the textures etc of food as well and very obsessive compulsive about only wanting to eat the same few food items over and over, sadly none of her ‘accepted’ choices are very healthy. And even though she’s 37 now she still refuses most of the healthier foods sigh.
My relationship with food is complicated & been up & down for my adult life. Some issues I discovered early in life, no simple carbs I need to add protein or I crash about 1/2 hr later. Lactose intolerant & has gotten worse as I age. Gluten intolerant, this one I resent a lot, but my bursitis Thanks me. Love love sugar, it doesn't love me back. I can't tell myself that any food is off limits or that is exactly what I will eat, crave & binge. Lost 50 lbs didn't gain it all back. Modified my eating habits along the way, I am a flexitariann, slowly moving towards more plant based.
Going carnivore [meat and eggs only] helped me to heal my body and to lose all of the carb cravings. I am stronger, healthier, and finally at peace with food and my body. 🥰🥰🥰🥩🥩🥩🤩🤩🤩
My families relationship with food has always been semi toxi. We have all struggled with our weight. I have also lost and gained 20 lbs several times. I try to be an example to my two daughters by not talking down about my body. I remember my mom talking so negatively about her body, and now mine looks like hers did at that time. I also don't force my girls to eat all their food on their plate. I eat on smaller plates to limit portions. So far I feel like i have succeeded. My girls never talk about their bodys or food negatively.
My relationship with food is unpleasant. I could probably write a novella about all the "things" from my past but I'll just mention the major ones here. I have a chronic condition (orthostatic hypotension) and seemingly tied in to that is that foods can affect my body very strongly. If I eat too much, or eat the wrong things, or eat at the wrong time, I become incredibly tired. My and my doctor's theory at this time is that my low blood volume gets depleted by digestion and anything that my body may be intolerant of or something hard to digest, or too much... I can barely stay awake. My eyes begin to roll into my head. I will take a nap even when I really shouldn't and and this is causing so much disruption. My digestion and my nervous system both became more sensitive as I began my spiritual awakening a couple years ago. It might also just be tied to reaching my mid-forties. I also have two picky eaters for kids (my youngest is incredibly sensitive to tastes and textures and unwilling to eat most foods) so a long time ago, I gave up my healthy cooking. It was too demoralizing to have the kids say "gross" or to try to get them to eat. Unfortunately, I adopted their diet in the process (pizza, pasta, etc.) and am having a hard time moving back to eating the way I prefer to. Since Covid began and my gym temporarily closed, I became very inactive and weight gain makes my condition worse. It's been a self-reinforcing cycle of deconditioning that is hard to reverse. I honestly wish I didn't need to eat at all. I lost 75 pounds back in 2005(ish) and was so proud of myself for my willpower and reaching my goal. In 2015 I started gaining some of that back, and then in 2020, it all went out of control. I'm healing my relationship with food by searching for something that is quick, convenient, healthy, meets my nutritional needs and doesn't give me digestive upset or trigger exhaustion. I suspect that most of the things I love to eat, like dairy, are going to need to go in order to heal my gut and feel better. I want to feel pride again and feel comfortable in my skin. It's so complicated, though, that I keep giving up. But then I start again. Karen, I echo the sentiment of reaching an age where I'm "over" the whole dieting thing. But I keep getting back up and into the saddle again because it's imperative for me. I have so much I could say on this... but I'll leave it here. However, if there are any books related to food and spirituality, there might be enough of us interested to form a little book club/group to keep exploring this topic.
My relationship with food is to eat what I like. I love balanced diet, but the snacks are out of control! I want to change my portion sizes and remember I’ve already had a gazillan snacks today-I’m not even hungry! I have a niece who 30 years ago, when she was 12. She ask for a bite of my chocolate cake, so sure! She took one bite, rolled her eyes saying that’s the best chocolate cake I ever had( restaurant cake) I ask if she wanted half? No-I just wanted one bite!!! It was surreal! 😮
GM Karen. Clink. I'm hearing you on the weight issues. Lol. My knees and ankles start yelling at me. I'm a night eater and it's out of boredom. I just need better habits. I'm 70 and it seems less important every day until I bend over to put socks on and my pooch gets in the way. 😆
I am sixty and have had a love hate relationship with food my whole life. Consumed it for comfort, now I am at a stage where I eat whatever I want, in moderation.
My relationship with food is very toxic. I'm over 400 lbs, and I was diagnosed with BED (binge eating disorder) two years ago. I've always wanted to do it on my own. I've lost a significant amount twice in the past. It's like once I get to that much weight loss, for some reason it all falls apart. I'm trying to help my toxic relationship by going thru counseling, using a psychiatrist, and being more cognizant of my intake. You are so right about advice. Everyone is different and everyone has their opinion. Other people's opinions don't help, in fact it can detail me.
My relationship with food comes from a place of need for comfort. I’m trying to heal that by using mindfulness with my choices and with the actual act of eating…using all of my senses, and really appreciating the food for its smells, appearance, it’s origins, what it will add to my body, and it’s tastes. Super challenging area of my life
I started emotional eating after my mom died and I became the executor. I was mostly on my own with this task and no time to mourn. I’m tired of waking 8:55 up every morning saying today I will do better…..
I’m adding to my comment. I’m using food to feel better in the moment, unfortunately it doesn’t take long to feel guilt and shame from eating when I’m not hungry, over eating.
In astrology, Cancers ruled by the Moon, often have round rotund faces, lol. I just wanted to mention, they studied genes of irish people, who'd suffered starvation during the potato famine, horrific time for them, but it appears some kind of memory is involved, in the epi-genetics of our dna. That may effect us beyond say, (and it's true), those who lived through the Depression, very conscious of cost, good deals, etc., as you mentioned. But the other, is somehow involved in the automatic & structured nature of our very DNA. Can't tell you more than that, other than epi-genetic studies... BEAUTIFUL family, BTW!
1) My relationship with food is evolving and the why is menopause came. 2) I’m healing my relationship with food by going within myself to work at self love.
My relationship with food is improving. I am 70 and over time I found I did not like to eat to wake up. I naturally started eating later. I then learned about intermittent fasting and found it was easy for me. I started losing weight without effort for the first time in my life. I don't like restrictions so have never dieted, I love food. I now eat in a 6 or 7 hour window, fill up with healthy food and try to keep my treats to the heathier end of the spectrum, fewer ingredients, less veg oils, avoid high fructose . . .
It’s taken me a while and I do still find myself thinking about it because it’s so ingrained but for the most part and with the help of my RD daughter I’ve realized that spending any time worrying or stressing over my weight or what I eat or trying to be perfect about what I eat is more detrimental to my overall health in the long run. Versus living my life, moving my body when I feel the need and eating foods that sound good to me when they sound good to me. I also find that being around people that are not size obsessed (usually to the smaller sizes) and have other interests is helpful 😉. It’s a journey and really a privilege to get to think about. Experiencing food poverty, food deserts or other unstable insecure food situations in younger years (or at any time in life) can have lifetime effects of course and be very difficult to overcome if that’s desired without focused behavioral work. This can be a very triggering topic. Peace and love to all who struggle. Believe you are perfectly made and the beautiful soul you were meant to be. ❤
I'm a lifetime member of my the relationship with food. I have the closet that has 3 sizes of things I love. It started with kids at school in the 50s sang little fatty fatty songs. At 74 I feel like Im just falling in love with my self. Always feeling less than. I've only been thin enough twice. I wasted so much of my life battling this. Even when your body is thin, the mind thinks you're not. I've just lost 62 lbs and I feel good inside and out. Thank you for covering this topic in such a loving way❤❤❤❤
Taste and smell are very closely related. It’s a scientific fact that smells stick in our memories. They carry emotions that we may have experienced when we came into contact with the smell.
My relationship w food has always been a problem. I use food like an addiction. I'm currently on Mounjaro and have lost 60lbs. The food noise is so much better but I'm learning that psychologically I still need to deal with my relationship to food. The mounjaro helps but I still have work to do. I'm so glad you brought this topic up because one of my resolutions this year is to get in shape and eat better but really what I want is to heal my relationship w food and my body. ❤
Mucinex (guaifenesin) thins the mucus so that it’s easier for the body to expel it, & there are a lot of other expectorants out there as well… A few natural examples I can think of off the top of my head would be mullein & ivy leaf extract.
I am feeling very successful in my healing journey with my relationship with food since I started intermittent fasting. It’s been great for my health, my weight, my cravings and my overall energy. I’ve always struggled and I have many good allergies and I finally feel like I’m healing. 😁
Food relationship - called to supporting food access from the backyard garden and beyond; sustainability and regeneration. Seed saving. I am healing my relationship with food through micro gardening, baek (white) kimchi making; making, keeping and baking with a sourdough starter and no nightshade foods (allergy).
ADHA person here. Food is an issue for those of us who A. Forget to eat when hyperfocusing. B. Can't find the energy to cook at the end of a long work day so eat cereal or a bunch of lettuce. C. Can't be bothered to eat any of the leftovers in the fridge because I've completely lost interest in that food. D. Have particular food cravings because I have gone without them for so long because I have terrible eating habits 😢
I grew up eating pretty healthy. I have done things like counseling and reading a lot to help deal with life stress. The most important step for me has been putting the things I have learned into actual practice. I fall down, I get up, like that 😊
P.s. I am so glad to see this in your subject line this morning and thank you for whatever it is you’re gonna say I haven’t listened to the whole video yet.
My Grandma died at age 54 from complications of diabetes. She did not have a healthy relationship with food. I learned from that. My Mom learned from that and was maybe a little OCD about us eating healthy. Limiting the sweets and eating balanced meals.
My relationship with food is rooted in my childhood trauma. I thought I had healed the trauma in therapy, but it wasn't. I didn't discover the trauma until my younger sister remembered that she and I were molested by one of my older brothers. I was probably 40 at the time when she remembered. I have no memories of it to this day, but intuitively knew it was true when she told me. In looking at old photos I noticed that in my first grade picture I had gained a substantial amount of weight over my previous pictures. I talked to my next older brother if he knew if anything happened to us that would have accounted for my weight gain. He denied knowing anything. A few years later he confessed and apologized for what he did. I thought I had worked through it, but when you raised the question about healing our relationship with food, I immediately teared up. I know that's the root of my relationship to food. The funny thing is I've been wanting to figure out how to stop eating for comfort and when I'm stressed--especially eating unnecessarily before bed. Thank you for the impetus to work on healing this rather than trying to diet or withhold food. ❤
My parents divorced when I was 10. My Grandpa had a small acreage and he built a small house in the field next to his house. We lived with them until it was done for 2 years. When Grandma died, in the middle of the night my Grandpa came over and knocked on my Mom’s bedroom window and said: the hospital called Mom died. And that was that. She died of complications of diabetes as I posted before and had an unhealthy relationship with food. It was my first experience with I guess you could call it some sort of knowing. I was in the next bedroom and I knew what he was going to say before he said it. It was the beginning of my knowing some things before they happen.
My relationship with food has been complicated since I was little. Early on I latched on to foods (especially sweets) for comfort, and I would hide from my parents to eat sweets. I was overweight and also much taller than my friends, which made me feel so out of place. My parents were always so supportive, but extended family usually made comments which gave me a lot of anxiety. Growing up in Venezuela with the beauty queen culture did not make it any easier. I have gone through periods where I've improved, but during times of sadness or stress, overeating and sweets again become a go-to comfort. My weight has fluctuated, but from college until I had children, I was in a really good place. Being a mom, wife, professional, etc has pressed all my triggers. Now, at 40, I've been going through a spiritual awakening (never thought that would be me, but here we are 😅), and I'm starting to approach my relationship with food from a spiritual angle. I'm starting to ask myself "why" and to think about this being part of my sould contract. Also working on self acceptance. The journey is the destination I suppose 😊
My relationship with food changed as I became a “sandwich generation” person and is usually women that are finishing raising kids and also are somewhere along the way in caring for their parents. I also went back to school and adds bachelors on to my associates degree in nursing and entered the workforce again. When I left nursing they were beginning to transition from paper charting to computer. So it was a quantum leap. When I was younger and got stressed, I would eat less. When I entered this time of stress, I was in menopause and I wanted to eat more when stressed. It was MK like the perfect storm and Lays Stacks were one of my weapons of choice lol.
63 years young here. Struggled with my weight all my adult life 20-40 lbs overweight. A book called the pleasure trap explains why we are all addicted to the food that is now available to us. Processed foods and high calorie density foods are consumed 3 times a day, hence many more calories and fat consumed and more weight on the body. I am an emotional sugar high eater but made the choice 3 years ago to go whole food plant based no oil with a lot less sugar. I’m far from perfect but have decreased inflammation in my body dramatically. Lost the weight and have kept it off. I now love my food and eat more of a starch based eating style. (The starch solution book). Works for me, although it is so hard to be surrounded by the western diet everywhere. Sort of like an acoholic having to live in a bar all the time. Our tastebuds have been high jacked by the food industry for money with salt oil and sugar on everything., at the expense of our health. It takes a bit to readjust your tastebuds and cravings and enjoy real food. You mentioned that you went vegan years ago. I want a higher quality of life as I age and want to slow my aging process without all the common cancers and diseases. I’m on no medications. My friends say I am so strong to have this food lifestyle. I don’t feel strong, but feel better than I ever have and plan to keep on it. Great topic to address Karen, love it. It helps us all to hear your honesty. Thank you.
Also it feels like foods and events both good and bad are linked in my memories. Food is life giving and family share food and ideally family love is life giving. This is just my stream of thought that has popped into my head. It may be helping me. Wow.
Request for light, love, and prayers: my 83 year-old father was just diagnosed with Covid. He and my mom share a room in a skilled care facility. She is suffering from Alzheimer’s and dementia. She doesn’t remember the pandemic and is really upset and peeved about the 10 day quarantine, they are under. Please help me focus the light on their physical health and their mental well-being. I am struggling to explain and to lift her spirits, because she doesn’t understand. This will also be the second Christmas. She has missed because she had a stroke and brain surgery on Christmas Eve last year. And this may be one of the last Christmases she can cognitively comprehend.
Grew up in a Belgian/German/Irish family. Food was always around and used as a reward or punishment. I LOVE sugar and carbs. I am about 55 lbs overweight and have terrible digestive issues. I fast 18-18 /1/2 hours on week days and on weekends I am more loose with it. I only drink a few on Fridays and Saturdays (SOME Sundays) and never during the week. I lost 31 lbs in 2020 when everyone else was gaining weight during the C. I gained it all back since. It seems like I always self sabotage and I haven’t figured out why.
I don’t say the word diet. It’s a trigger word and then people sort of go off on me and they want to know what I’m doing and offer advice and/or correct me with what I should be doing or ask me why do you even need to be on a diet. I’m 30-35lbs overweight and dress to hide it. I just say I’m on a specific eating regimen and don’t share it, just I’m doing what works for me. I can also just say I’m just eating healthy. I can just say I’m watching my carbs like potato chips and no desserts. People seem to get that. Or when people shove food at me, I just say no thank you and that’s all. That’s how I’m dealing with it. Some people eat more when they’re alone. I’m one of those that eats more when I’m with other people visiting and I’m not being mindful of the amount of food I’m eating.
Interesting when you see someone who has fillers in natural light. You can totally tell and they just look fake. I agree with you on the look of beauty in seniors.
Right now I’m up with my weight, I’ve asked my guides to help me, I don’t want to go to the gym anymore for a couple of reasons one being the time it takes away from me, as I still work & I feel that there not enough hours in the day to do what I want to do, So for now I’m trying to eat as healthy as possible, I’m a vegetarian been that for over 25 years, but now I’m trying to focus on more whole natural food & not buy processed veggies foods, once in a while I still do, my biggest problem is sweets always was….my meal doesn’t feel complete without something sweet to have at the end, it almost makes me sad it I have nothing for dessert, I’m trying to just stick to dark chocolate, no cookies or cakes. Still a daily struggle over here.
I dont have will power is a lie 2 ur self. Will power is learned and earned. Saying no is earning will power and gets easyer 1 no at a time. The problem is we dont admit cause of shame mostly the real reason. U just wanted 2 not having will power is a scape goat. I ev struggled with many addictions. From no will power. Prospective is powerful. like karen i dont want 2 cut everything out. But learning blance at least with food is easyer then cold Turkey and we are hear to experience lifes joys like food the middle way is the best way!!! At least for me
My relationship with food is fine now and that is only because I was sick and all the tests that my GP, cardiologist, pulmonologist etc ordered didn’t help find the cause. I was not doing well at all and missing out on so much of life! I googled incessantly to find an answer. All the tabs open! Then I started praying for discernment. And it lead me to a functional medicine clinic where I worked with a team of people. 2weeks later I felt so much better and my gratitude for my health keeps my relationship on this new track. Going inside was the only thing that helped me. Praying for discernment and living in gratitude (not for a perfect weight, but for a body that wants to heal). I have always said that if life were a true false test, I would be doing fine but life is really like a lab test. You need to know things AND apply them!😂 This comment is only about me. What my weight is/was is not important nor is the type of diet that I followed. It’s just about getting quiet and listening to what I already know. And acting on it. And gratitude. I closed all the tabs.
When I was on Semiglutide I lost weight. After I retired and my insurance changed I got off of it and gained it all back 30 lbs mainly due to drinking wine. Both my husband and I are starting to eat mainly “real” foods cause we need to change our relationship to food too.
My relationship with food is somewhat unhealthy. This has followed me since I can remember. I have no self discipline generally. I don't plan much and I do what I want when I'm not watching my grandson's. I have never followed a diet my whole life. I watch my mom do the diets and diet pills in the 70's. I was in my teens. I ate a lot of candy and love chocolate. I am 65 now and I eat what I want when I want. Karen you are not alone with the bedtime snack. 😂 I have been 40 pounds over weight since my 40's.aka menopause.
I need to work on quantifying my worth to any degree based on my weight or youthfulness. Because I know deep down on a spiritual level that does not affect my worth at all.
I'm 65 and around 30 lbs overweight. I've struggled with food all my life. Diets? Been there, done that. My relationship with food I've come to realize is an inside job. I've dwelled on it for.....years. I think I use food as a comfort mechanism. If I'm stressed...eat. Bored....eat. How it came about, I don't know. Perhaps low self esteem....from a youth of growing up dealing with having ADD? Perhaps the death of my mom when I was 15? So many factors could, and still do, influence my relationship with food. I'm frustrated that I don't know the root cause, and I'd rather not take this crap into my next life, so......I guess I will continue to wonder and think about this and work on healing it. But I do know that it is an inside job.
I am currently trying to heal my relationship with food, which is not a healthy one by calling out to God source spirit, angels guides please help me heal from my food obsession. I don’t know anything else to do. I just keep asking.
Check out my first listed video on the channel page where I give an in depth explanation of them, make sure your energy is flowing, and practice practice practice! 💫💖
COMMENT STRUCTURE FOR THIS VIDEO:
1. My relationship with food is....and this is why.....
2. I'm healing my relationship with food by....
I do a lot of emotional eating; therefore, healing those emotions is the goal.
"My brain has too many tabs open" is such an appropriate description of my ADHD mind. Lol I have a sticker that says this. It adds: "4 of them are frozen & I have no idea where the music is coming from."
Lol, I don't have ADHD, but still can relate totally. And the music is always there! 😅
Lol, brilliant!
Love this
My relationship with food is about depression, and frustration. And actually I just love food.
And this is why, I have been dealing with depression for most of my life. I have a frustration about not being able to get things done or finished projects.
Some frustration has been not standing up to others when the need arises and keeping it all inside and getting sick over it.
I have more recently been able to, stand up for myself and it's made a difference.
I can completely relate to your comment.
I can definitely relate as well
My relationship with food is... unhealthy and has been almost my whole life. I am about 100 lbs over my "ideal" weight. I have a fair understanding at this point of why I have this relationship, it does indeed go back to childhood. I have been successful in controlling my weight on/off over the years, depending on what's going on in life. The most amazing part of all of this is that just last night I was asking my spirit guides for guidance on losing weight and your video with this very topic popped up in my feed this morning. Not a coincidence. Wow.
Good Morning Karen, and Lucy too. I am evolving every day.
My relationship with food is: It used to be deadly because, for over 30 years, I was very anorexic and bulimic.
I'm healing my relationship with food by: Acknowledging that I have a problem, and it's a disease so I see my psychiatrist, and mental health counselor, and take my meds. I can't miss any part of my healing process. I feel whole now.
I am rooting for you! 📣📣📣📣📣 (Sorry, I hope it's OK if I say that)
@gojiberry7201 of course!! Thank you bunches.
I gardened with my Grandpa. Still about food: growing it, harvesting it and eating it. I still love gardening.
This is a wonderful tribute to your grandfather🌿
Step one , accept my self as I am. Step two turn off the input of the story of how I should be, look, feel, eat behave and relax into being in the world not of it. Be, breath, accept , raise my vibration and be grateful for every day. Shine on. Hold the balance.
I needed to hear this message today. Thank you 💕
I am 54 and my mother is 100% Italian. She grew up in an Italian immigrant ghetto basically. For them, food was survival, community, joy, abundance in poverty, and the ultimate love language. I was raised loving to cook and eat and I still do. I have had a beautiful relationship with food, but I also battle over-eating for comfort. I have decided to allow the comfort aspect in moderation, but to generally eat for nourishment and not just to fill a space. So I cook and eat healthier. 80% vegan and no processed foods. The rest whatever I want (including meat, sugar, and fun JUNK that I want). That seems to work for me. I never feel deprived or hungry. I’ve never been overweight. I think it’s different for everyone. A balance needs to be found I think between want and need.
My relationship with food is improving because I work at it. Consulted my trainer and she suggested pushing my meals and snacks later in the day because I love eating at night. She assured me that was ok. No cliches. I do eat to to soothe myself. I watch TH-cam videos. I’m 68 and still address my food relationship. Exercise is a necessity in mental health.
My relationship with food is “I deserve to eat this”. I am getting help with medication due to pre-diabetes. I am hoping this time I can break this cycle/mental construct
My relationship with food is self judgement. I expect so much from myself in everything I do and am so critical of myself when I eat the wrong thing or overeat especially when others are present. I am trying to stop the judgement not just of myself but others too. And not just about food but all things.
1. My relationship with food is....one that my escape for comfort. and this is why...experiencing trauma. 2. I'm healing my relationship with food by....first, many years ago...i got a nutritionist that helped with what to eat and portions. i joined a 12 step program...and that helped for me to heal...going within myself....the last thing is I went vegan and than gravitated towards a WFPB lifestyle... I eat no meat, dairy, processed foods, oil and working on releasing 30-40 more pounds. I have a strong spiritual program and I found it is so important to love myself...to heal and take care of myself...
I LOVE that mug! Botox can treat conditions of the jaw (TMJ) and teeth grinding and likely that is why your dentist office is offering it I would think.
I have TMJ (less strength & noises better than when it was 1s triggered by teeth braces) from genetics & I'm 1st gen to know of the genetics that maybe snowballed more in me. Swallowing is more of an issue & need to adjust for that, I'm grateful other genetic food intolerances have improved (gi healing) so I can eat more than could 2-12yrs ago.
My relationship with food...is rolled under the umbrella of self-care and wellness, which includes my physical health and spiritual health. The relationship with food often showed up in patterns of behavior and making behavior changes that lead to better wellness decisions without a feeling of lack. For instance, when stopping for gas, going inside the shop and buying quick food, then eating in the car. Improving wellness, was making a small change to purchase string cheese or grapes and still snack in the car. Over time turned into to not going inside at all. A splurge was to go inside for coffee to enjoy in the car. The focus was on small changes, over time, to improved health and feeling better physically & energetically. The feeling of pride and excitement for positive changes helped raise vibrations and physical energy. The pattern changes included foods, coffee, and teas, that I enjoy and empower self care. Thanks you for your thoughts and insights in the channel.
My relationship with food is challenging. I have always struggled to feel good in my own skin. I’m in my last year of my 60s and now getting ready for back surgery which means I can’t be as active as I want to be. I know I feel better when I’m about 30 pounds lower than where I am now. I’m healing my relationship with food by starting to eat healthy ‘real’ food. I plan to continue this while I recover from surgery. I will increase my activity as the doctor allows and will work toward reducing my portions.
Thank you for showing us your grandma. She IS so cute with those glasses!
I watch cooking shows and travel/cooking shows on PBS and historically food is a central part of life; we gather, we eat.
Karen I appreciate everything you shared here so much! It took most of my life up until now to feel like I have a healthy relationship w/ my body, I was anorexic & had body dysmorphia for quite a long time. You are absolutely right about the lack of nutritional info available to us; I was horrified to learn that the majority of physicians in our country have less than 20hrs. of nutritional education given to them!
I was born in 1955. When I was first going through menopause I gained 20+pounds. The thing that helped me adjust to my “new”body was keeping track of everything I ate on an app on my phone. I love this way of being mindful …and I lost the weight and then some.
Works for me
My relationship with food is slipping back into old negative behavior patterns again and it is slipping because I left a bad therapy relationship a year or so back and never went to seek more help for my true disordered eating patterns. I often eat when depressed or anxious. Needless to say, November threw me back into panic mode.
I am healing my eating disorders by accepting that they exist, that they are a problem. Now with the help of a new therapist and psychologist, I am exploring new ways to handle my depression and anxiety that do not involve food.
My relationship with food is bad. I'm about 10 pounds overweight, which is really nothing, but I remember growing up, my super healthy and thin father would see overweight people and sigh, shake his head, and say, "Look at them." Like they were moral failings or something. Typing this out actually makes me want to cry. Those poor people getting all those judgments!
I once gained 40 pounds due to medication, and my dad's mom (grandma) saw me and blurted out in front of everyone, "LOOK HOW BIG YOU ARE!" and stared with her mouth open. You could hear a pin drop in that room. No one said anything.
I binge eat sweets, then go on healthy eating, then eat sweets again, then the cycle repeats. There's an unhealed part of me that wants to be super thin because only then my dad will praise me. 😭😭
Oh my that statement by family or friends always angers me so much!! Because there is more to a person than thier waist size, I have a friend that says that to me about her family & friends she is always so focused on if a person lost or gained weight, I’ve made remarks to her asking what her problem was ?? It’s really non of her business what people ate & what they weigh, just take care of yourself & leave others be. Since I’ve known her I’ve been up & down & now up again with my weight, just makes me wonder what she says to others about me?
@@nedanashu5025 Ugh, my experience is that people who talk about others will also talk about you. :(
the food industry (processed foods) are made to get you addicted--salt, sugar
What has helped me most in life (food is life) is “what needs to be healed. Is the idea we Need healing”. Life is a path. Life s path can heal it self
My Grandmother lived through the depression and raised me until I was 12. She allowed all foods joyfully. Biscuits and gravy, hamburger gravy over potatoes, chicken and noodles, waffles, bacon and eggs. Astonishing Thanksgivings and Christmas dinners.I have a memory of walking home from school for lunch at about 9 and scrambling up 6 eggs in butter and wolfing them down! I was a skinny little girl but I could pack away most of a large cheese pizza! Then she would buy a double layer vanilla cake with chocolate and walnut frosting and turn me and my two cousins loose on it. Only crumbs would be left! She also would welcome any of the neighborhood kids I’d last minute drag home for dinner. She really was such a wonderful lady. At 12 I was made to go live with my Dad. He weaponized food. Controlled everything we were allowed to eat and forced us to eat whatever was placed on our plates. We were not allowed to serve ourselves. My stepmother weighed out packets of snacks for our lunches and there was trouble if anyone got into them. It was horrible and almost pushed me into an eating disorder. I think it might have been my Grandmothers foundation that got me through. I left at 17 and throughout my adult life my weight has gone up and down a little through pregnancy’s, menopause etc. I raised my own children with the freedom that my Grandmother gave me. Now I’m 70. I eat whatever I want but find that I don’t need much and feel better with simple foods. That does not mean I don’t enjoy special desserts, cookies, a glass of wine! I certainly do! It’s just I enjoy them and don’t indulge in guilt for enjoying them. Then I find I don’t need or want much and don’t feel the urge to overindulge. My time left on this planet is far too short to not enjoy everything.
Hi Karen and community! As a Taurus, my relationship with food is that I love it. I have three siblings. As a child, I learned to eat fast so I could get any leftovers. I remember standing up at the dinner table (still eating!) so I could snag the last pork chop. To heal my relationship, I need to eat slowly and savor every bite so my brain knows when I am full. It's a hard habit to break. The generations card to me represents my father. He grew up poor in the country during the depression. People always fed visitors since many traveled by horse and they needed to be fed for the journey. It was something that you did when so many people were starving. I need to release want for more food. I'm not poor and definitely not starving 😂
My relationship with food is 'Survival Mode' and this is why. Many years ago my parents survived as children of Great Depression parents. They were taught to eat off the land, gardens, and hunting put food on their tables. Canning anything extra for a meal at a later date was common. My own parents absorbed these teachings and horded food, money and anything they valued to be passed down to us. But the elders of our own society have been pushed aside and knowledge they bring has been disregarded as 'old news'.
We live in a new age where many people have been placed in a situation that is reminiscent of that depression era and food chains continually become disrupted by recalls and rising prices. I myself am at a stage where I eat on the budget that is minimal at best. Ramen Noodles and Canned spaghetti are within my price range so that is what ends up on my plate. Health and wealth are tied to each other, eating for the optimal body is expensive.
Anyone else out there living from day to day take heart, splurge for that bag of apples or oranges occasionally and remember to stay hydrated. Have a beautiful day.
My relationship with food was kinda up and down but not really that unhealthy until menopause started between 49 & 50 and then when I was 53 my only son died and I basically ate my grief, I gained 45 lbs in less than a year after he died in my living room and in the 9 years since then I’ve only lost 6 lbs and at 62 now I am only 5’4” tall and over 200 lbs and obese on all the medical charts. I grew up for half my childhood on a farm and we grew our own vegetables, and my mom was a great cook so I loved all kinds of healthy veggies and was always very active running around on the farm, we grew cotton and alfalfa too and had beef cattle and in those days we had to go help move heavy water pipes every so often to water the crops, plus I helped herd cattle,drove the tractor, etc! So I wasn’t fat or anything as a child but then we moved to a fairly large city and my high school years were full of fast food and not liking grocery store veggies compared to the much better tasting vegetables we had on the farm. So I had to fight an addiction to chips and junk food starting then. I gained too much weight too with my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies but lost it gradually, but the combination of menopause and losing my son plunged me into this terrible sugar and carbs addiction I am still battling. My daughter bought me a stationary bicycle last Christmas and I try to ride it at least 3-5 days a week but I have thyroid disease and lost my health insurance so I am not taking my levothyroxine anymore and it is almost impossible to lose any real weight now sigh, even cutting back on sugar and starchy foods.
Good thoughts to share with everyone. We need a lot of positive words and sharing these days. Let’s keep it helpful and healthy.
There are sooo many choices out there. I would just say to do your research and be aware what you’re getting into as much as possible 😊❤
Can you in your Ask your SG’s pod ask them if the relationship with food is part of your lesson for this lifetime and if we carry these food issues in with us from a previous life?
My relationship with food is very complicated and is intertwined with my body and disability. I was born blind, and along with that came defects in other parts of my brain. This doesn't happen to everyone, it's just a part of my condition. I've been overweight or obese for my entire life. I don't remember ever being skinny. I remember once I got put on a simple low-carb diet at school, and I got other food compared to the other students. I just remember feeling so sad. Food is such a big part of socializing, and all I wanted to do is be a kid and not worry about health. It's something old people have to worry about. I often wonder how much of who I am is influenced by my condition, but don't really know how to find out. I am not sure how I'm gonna heal my relationship with food, I just know I love some of it. I have sensory issues surrounding my mouth, and I wish I didn't. It makes doing basic things harder. Hopefully I didn't just cause people to lose hope or lose positivity. I'm taking things one step at a time. Hopefully other folks can do the same.
❤ My daughter has autism and she is very sensitive to the textures etc of food as well and very obsessive compulsive about only wanting to eat the same few food items over and over, sadly none of her ‘accepted’ choices are very healthy. And even though she’s 37 now she still refuses most of the healthier foods sigh.
Such a good topic! Thank you, Karen!
My relationship with food is complicated & been up & down for my adult life. Some issues I discovered early in life, no simple carbs I need to add protein or I crash about 1/2 hr later. Lactose intolerant & has gotten worse as I age. Gluten intolerant, this one I resent a lot, but my bursitis Thanks me. Love love sugar, it doesn't love me back. I can't tell myself that any food is off limits or that is exactly what I will eat, crave & binge. Lost 50 lbs didn't gain it all back. Modified my eating habits along the way, I am a flexitariann, slowly moving towards more plant based.
I have people in my family that are very judgy about weight and comment about it. I don’t control them but I do ignore them.
Going carnivore [meat and eggs only] helped me to heal my body and to lose all of the carb cravings. I am stronger, healthier, and finally at peace with food and my body. 🥰🥰🥰🥩🥩🥩🤩🤩🤩
My families relationship with food has always been semi toxi. We have all struggled with our weight. I have also lost and gained 20 lbs several times. I try to be an example to my two daughters by not talking down about my body. I remember my mom talking so negatively about her body, and now mine looks like hers did at that time. I also don't force my girls to eat all their food on their plate. I eat on smaller plates to limit portions. So far I feel like i have succeeded. My girls never talk about their bodys or food negatively.
@ChickenDestroyefier. . . . I have to say, I admire how you're going about this, especially how you're interacting with your daughters about food.
My relationship with food is unpleasant. I could probably write a novella about all the "things" from my past but I'll just mention the major ones here. I have a chronic condition (orthostatic hypotension) and seemingly tied in to that is that foods can affect my body very strongly. If I eat too much, or eat the wrong things, or eat at the wrong time, I become incredibly tired. My and my doctor's theory at this time is that my low blood volume gets depleted by digestion and anything that my body may be intolerant of or something hard to digest, or too much... I can barely stay awake. My eyes begin to roll into my head. I will take a nap even when I really shouldn't and and this is causing so much disruption. My digestion and my nervous system both became more sensitive as I began my spiritual awakening a couple years ago. It might also just be tied to reaching my mid-forties. I also have two picky eaters for kids (my youngest is incredibly sensitive to tastes and textures and unwilling to eat most foods) so a long time ago, I gave up my healthy cooking. It was too demoralizing to have the kids say "gross" or to try to get them to eat. Unfortunately, I adopted their diet in the process (pizza, pasta, etc.) and am having a hard time moving back to eating the way I prefer to. Since Covid began and my gym temporarily closed, I became very inactive and weight gain makes my condition worse. It's been a self-reinforcing cycle of deconditioning that is hard to reverse. I honestly wish I didn't need to eat at all. I lost 75 pounds back in 2005(ish) and was so proud of myself for my willpower and reaching my goal. In 2015 I started gaining some of that back, and then in 2020, it all went out of control.
I'm healing my relationship with food by searching for something that is quick, convenient, healthy, meets my nutritional needs and doesn't give me digestive upset or trigger exhaustion. I suspect that most of the things I love to eat, like dairy, are going to need to go in order to heal my gut and feel better. I want to feel pride again and feel comfortable in my skin. It's so complicated, though, that I keep giving up. But then I start again. Karen, I echo the sentiment of reaching an age where I'm "over" the whole dieting thing. But I keep getting back up and into the saddle again because it's imperative for me.
I have so much I could say on this... but I'll leave it here. However, if there are any books related to food and spirituality, there might be enough of us interested to form a little book club/group to keep exploring this topic.
Great suggestion! 📚
Oh my! I was just researching about food and how to eat better and I saw this video. This is amazing! It’s like you read my mind! Thank you Karen. ❤
My relationship with food is to eat what I like. I love balanced diet, but the snacks are out of control! I want to change my portion sizes and remember I’ve already had a gazillan snacks today-I’m not even hungry! I have a niece who 30 years ago, when she was 12. She ask for a bite of my chocolate cake, so sure! She took one bite, rolled her eyes saying that’s the best chocolate cake I ever had( restaurant cake) I ask if she wanted half? No-I just wanted one bite!!! It was surreal! 😮
GM Karen. Clink. I'm hearing you on the weight issues. Lol. My knees and ankles start yelling at me. I'm a night eater and it's out of boredom. I just need better habits. I'm 70 and it seems less important every day until I bend over to put socks on and my pooch gets in the way. 😆
I am sixty and have had a love hate relationship with food my whole life. Consumed it for comfort, now I am at a stage where I eat whatever I want, in moderation.
Me and food break up once a day 😂. Internment fasting at least 12 to 16 hours. Then goe back crying into foods loving delicious embrace ❤
My relationship with food is very toxic. I'm over 400 lbs, and I was diagnosed with BED (binge eating disorder) two years ago. I've always wanted to do it on my own. I've lost a significant amount twice in the past. It's like once I get to that much weight loss, for some reason it all falls apart.
I'm trying to help my toxic relationship by going thru counseling, using a psychiatrist, and being more cognizant of my intake.
You are so right about advice. Everyone is different and everyone has their opinion. Other people's opinions don't help, in fact it can detail me.
My relationship with food comes from a place of need for comfort.
I’m trying to heal that by using mindfulness with my choices and with the actual act of eating…using all of my senses, and really appreciating the food for its smells, appearance, it’s origins, what it will add to my body, and it’s tastes.
Super challenging area of my life
I started emotional eating after my mom died and I became the executor. I was mostly on my own with this task and no time to mourn. I’m tired of waking 8:55 up every morning saying today I will do better…..
I’m adding to my comment. I’m using food to feel better in the moment, unfortunately it doesn’t take long to feel guilt and shame from eating when I’m not hungry, over eating.
In astrology, Cancers ruled by the Moon, often have round rotund faces, lol.
I just wanted to mention, they studied genes of irish people, who'd suffered starvation during the potato famine, horrific time for them, but it appears some kind of memory is involved, in the epi-genetics of our dna. That may effect us beyond say, (and it's true), those who lived through the Depression, very conscious of cost, good deals, etc., as you mentioned. But the other, is somehow involved in the automatic & structured nature of our very DNA. Can't tell you more than that, other than epi-genetic studies...
BEAUTIFUL family, BTW!
1) My relationship with food is evolving and the why is menopause came.
2) I’m healing my relationship with food by going within myself to work at self love.
My relationship with food is improving. I am 70 and over time I found I did not like to eat to wake up. I naturally started eating later. I then learned about intermittent fasting and found it was easy for me. I started losing weight without effort for the first time in my life. I don't like restrictions so have never dieted, I love food. I now eat in a 6 or 7 hour window, fill up with healthy food and try to keep my treats to the heathier end of the spectrum, fewer ingredients, less veg oils, avoid high fructose . . .
It’s taken me a while and
I do still find myself thinking about it because it’s so ingrained but for the most part and with the help of my RD daughter I’ve realized that spending any time worrying or stressing over my weight or what I eat or trying to be perfect about what I eat is more detrimental to my overall health in the long run. Versus living my life, moving my body when I feel the need and eating foods that sound good to me when they sound good to me. I also find that being around people that are not size obsessed (usually to the smaller sizes) and have other interests is helpful 😉. It’s a journey and really a privilege to get to think about. Experiencing food poverty, food deserts or other unstable insecure food situations in younger years (or at any time in life) can have lifetime effects of course and be very difficult to overcome if that’s desired without focused behavioral work. This can be a very triggering topic. Peace and love to all who struggle. Believe you are perfectly made and the beautiful soul you were meant to be. ❤
I'm a lifetime member of my the relationship with food. I have the closet that has 3 sizes of things I love. It started with kids at school in the 50s sang little fatty fatty songs. At 74 I feel like Im just falling in love with my self. Always feeling less than. I've only been thin enough twice. I wasted so much of my life battling this. Even when your body is thin, the mind thinks you're not. I've just lost 62 lbs and I feel good inside and out. Thank you for covering this topic in such a loving way❤❤❤❤
Taste and smell are very closely related. It’s a scientific fact that smells stick in our memories. They carry emotions that we may have experienced when we came into contact with the smell.
My relationship w food has always been a problem. I use food like an addiction. I'm currently on Mounjaro and have lost 60lbs. The food noise is so much better but I'm learning that psychologically I still need to deal with my relationship to food. The mounjaro helps but I still have work to do. I'm so glad you brought this topic up because one of my resolutions this year is to get in shape and eat better but really what I want is to heal my relationship w food and my body. ❤
Mucinex (guaifenesin) thins the mucus so that it’s easier for the body to expel it, & there are a lot of other expectorants out there as well… A few natural examples I can think of off the top of my head would be mullein & ivy leaf extract.
I am feeling very successful in my healing journey with my relationship with food since I started intermittent fasting. It’s been great for my health, my weight, my cravings and my overall energy. I’ve always struggled and I have many good allergies and I finally feel like I’m healing. 😁
The topic i really needed to hear. Thx, Karen!
Food relationship - called to supporting food access from the backyard garden and beyond; sustainability and regeneration. Seed saving. I am healing my relationship with food through micro gardening, baek (white) kimchi making; making, keeping and baking with a sourdough starter and no nightshade foods (allergy).
OMG. My brain has too many tabs open. You just explained my entire bumfuzzledness.
This mug cracks me up! ☕😅
ADHA person here. Food is an issue for those of us who A. Forget to eat when hyperfocusing. B. Can't find the energy to cook at the end of a long work day so eat cereal or a bunch of lettuce. C. Can't be bothered to eat any of the leftovers in the fridge because I've completely lost interest in that food. D. Have particular food cravings because I have gone without them for so long because I have terrible eating habits 😢
Wow! I love the cards!
I grew up eating pretty healthy. I have done things like counseling and reading a lot to help deal with life stress. The most important step for me has been putting the things I have learned into actual practice. I fall down, I get up, like that 😊
I am overweight, I'm 60 and I'm ok with it.
P.s. I am so glad to see this in your subject line this morning and thank you for whatever it is you’re gonna say I haven’t listened to the whole video yet.
You can not run from death...my Mom dyed her hair until she died....she never understood why I did not
My Grandma died at age 54 from complications of diabetes. She did not have a healthy relationship with food. I learned from that. My Mom learned from that and was maybe a little OCD about us eating healthy. Limiting the sweets and eating balanced meals.
My relationship with food is rooted in my childhood trauma. I thought I had healed the trauma in therapy, but it wasn't. I didn't discover the trauma until my younger sister remembered that she and I were molested by one of my older brothers. I was probably 40 at the time when she remembered. I have no memories of it to this day, but intuitively knew it was true when she told me. In looking at old photos I noticed that in my first grade picture I had gained a substantial amount of weight over my previous pictures. I talked to my next older brother if he knew if anything happened to us that would have accounted for my weight gain. He denied knowing anything. A few years later he confessed and apologized for what he did. I thought I had worked through it, but when you raised the question about healing our relationship with food, I immediately teared up. I know that's the root of my relationship to food. The funny thing is I've been wanting to figure out how to stop eating for comfort and when I'm stressed--especially eating unnecessarily before bed. Thank you for the impetus to work on healing this rather than trying to diet or withhold food. ❤
Good morning! I'm happy I finally caught you live! Have a great day!
My parents divorced when I was 10. My Grandpa had a small acreage and he built a small house in the field next to his house. We lived with them until it was done for 2 years. When Grandma died, in the middle of the night my Grandpa came over and knocked on my Mom’s bedroom window and said: the hospital called Mom died. And that was that. She died of complications of diabetes as I posted before and had an unhealthy relationship with food. It was my first experience with I guess you could call it some sort of knowing. I was in the next bedroom and I knew what he was going to say before he said it. It was the beginning of my knowing some things before they happen.
How many mugs do you have?? Hahaha. Enjoy you!! I feel like we could be friends (not a crazy stalker) lol
A lot 😅☕ and adding more all the time
I'm 4 hours late. I missed you gals this morning! Love you all! Have a wonderful day!❤
My relationship with food has been complicated since I was little. Early on I latched on to foods (especially sweets) for comfort, and I would hide from my parents to eat sweets. I was overweight and also much taller than my friends, which made me feel so out of place. My parents were always so supportive, but extended family usually made comments which gave me a lot of anxiety. Growing up in Venezuela with the beauty queen culture did not make it any easier.
I have gone through periods where I've improved, but during times of sadness or stress, overeating and sweets again become a go-to comfort. My weight has fluctuated, but from college until I had children, I was in a really good place. Being a mom, wife, professional, etc has pressed all my triggers.
Now, at 40, I've been going through a spiritual awakening (never thought that would be me, but here we are 😅), and I'm starting to approach my relationship with food from a spiritual angle. I'm starting to ask myself "why" and to think about this being part of my sould contract. Also working on self acceptance.
The journey is the destination I suppose 😊
My relationship with food changed as I became a “sandwich generation” person and is usually women that are finishing raising kids and also are somewhere along the way in caring for their parents. I also went back to school and adds bachelors on to my associates degree in nursing and entered the workforce again. When I left nursing they were beginning to transition from paper charting to computer. So it was a quantum leap. When I was younger and got stressed, I would eat less. When I entered this time of stress, I was in menopause and I wanted to eat more when stressed. It was MK like the perfect storm and Lays Stacks were one of my weapons of choice lol.
Loved that you shared the family photos. It’s always nice to see people you hear stories about so you can put a face to them😊
63 years young here. Struggled with my weight all my adult life 20-40 lbs overweight. A book called the pleasure trap explains why we are all addicted to the food that is now available to us.
Processed foods and high calorie density foods are consumed 3 times a day, hence many more calories and fat consumed and more weight on the body. I am an emotional sugar high eater but made the choice 3 years ago to go whole food plant based no oil with a lot less sugar. I’m far from perfect but have decreased inflammation in my body dramatically. Lost the weight and have kept it off. I now love my food and eat more of a starch based eating style. (The starch solution book). Works for me, although it is so hard to be surrounded by the western diet everywhere. Sort of like an acoholic having to live in a bar all the time.
Our tastebuds have been high jacked by the food industry for money with salt oil and sugar on everything., at the expense of our health. It takes a bit to readjust your tastebuds and cravings and enjoy real food.
You mentioned that you went vegan years ago.
I want a higher quality of life as I age and want to slow my aging process without all the common cancers and diseases. I’m on no medications. My friends say I am so strong to have this food lifestyle. I don’t feel strong, but feel better than I ever have and plan to keep on it.
Great topic to address Karen, love it. It helps us all to hear your honesty. Thank you.
Also it feels like foods and events both good and bad are linked in my memories. Food is life giving and family share food and ideally family love is life giving. This is just my stream of thought that has popped into my head. It may be helping me. Wow.
Request for light, love, and prayers: my 83 year-old father was just diagnosed with Covid. He and my mom share a room in a skilled care facility. She is suffering from Alzheimer’s and dementia. She doesn’t remember the pandemic and is really upset and peeved about the 10 day quarantine, they are under. Please help me focus the light on their physical health and their mental well-being. I am struggling to explain and to lift her spirits, because she doesn’t understand. This will also be the second Christmas. She has missed because she had a stroke and brain surgery on Christmas Eve last year. And this may be one of the last Christmases she can cognitively comprehend.
Grew up in a Belgian/German/Irish family. Food was always around and used as a reward or punishment. I LOVE sugar and carbs. I am about 55 lbs overweight and have terrible digestive issues. I fast 18-18 /1/2 hours on week days and on weekends I am more loose with it. I only drink a few on Fridays and Saturdays (SOME Sundays) and never during the week. I lost 31 lbs in 2020 when everyone else was gaining weight during the C. I gained it all back since. It seems like I always self sabotage and I haven’t figured out why.
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There are Kohls stores in Idaho.
I don’t say the word diet. It’s a trigger word and then people sort of go off on me and they want to know what I’m doing and offer advice and/or correct me with what I should be doing or ask me why do you even need to be on a diet. I’m 30-35lbs overweight and dress to hide it. I just say I’m on a specific eating regimen and don’t share it, just I’m doing what works for me. I can also just say I’m just eating healthy. I can just say I’m watching my carbs like potato chips and no desserts. People seem to get that. Or when people shove food at me, I just say no thank you and that’s all. That’s how I’m dealing with it. Some people eat more when they’re alone. I’m one of those that eats more when I’m with other people visiting and I’m not being mindful of the amount of food I’m eating.
Oh wow!!!. . . and your Mom and Marcia/Marsha(?) and your Mom in law. Happy family members.
Interesting when you see someone who has fillers in natural light. You can totally tell and they just look fake. I agree with you on the look of beauty in seniors.
Right now I’m up with my weight, I’ve asked my guides to help me, I don’t want to go to the gym anymore for a couple of reasons one being the time it takes away from me, as I still work & I feel that there not enough hours in the day to do what I want to do, So for now I’m trying to eat as healthy as possible, I’m a vegetarian been that for over 25 years, but now I’m trying to focus on more whole natural food & not buy processed veggies foods, once in a while I still do, my biggest problem is sweets always was….my meal doesn’t feel complete without something sweet to have at the end, it almost makes me sad it I have nothing for dessert, I’m trying to just stick to dark chocolate, no cookies or cakes. Still a daily struggle over here.
Love this conversation!❤️
I dont have will power is a lie 2 ur self. Will power is learned and earned. Saying no is earning will power and gets easyer 1 no at a time. The problem is we dont admit cause of shame mostly the real reason. U just wanted 2 not having will power is a scape goat. I ev struggled with many addictions. From no will power. Prospective is powerful. like karen i dont want 2 cut everything out. But learning blance at least with food is easyer then cold Turkey and we are hear to experience lifes joys like food the middle way is the best way!!! At least for me
Ok I got you at 2 minutes! Next time…. Live! ❤
Perfect mug for me 😂 🤣
My relationship with food is fine now and that is only because I was sick and all the tests that my GP, cardiologist, pulmonologist etc ordered didn’t help find the cause. I was not doing well at all and missing out on so much of life! I googled incessantly to find an answer. All the tabs open!
Then I started praying for discernment. And it lead me to a functional medicine clinic where I worked with a team of people. 2weeks later I felt so much better and my gratitude for my health keeps my relationship on this new track.
Going inside was the only thing that helped me. Praying for discernment and living in gratitude (not for a perfect weight, but for a body that wants to heal).
I have always said that if life were a true false test, I would be doing fine but life is really like a lab test. You need to know things AND apply them!😂
This comment is only about me. What my weight is/was is not important nor is the type of diet that I followed. It’s just about getting quiet and listening to what I already know. And acting on it. And gratitude. I closed all the tabs.
When I was on Semiglutide I lost weight. After I retired and my insurance changed I got off of it and gained it all back 30 lbs mainly due to drinking wine. Both my husband and I are starting to eat mainly “real” foods cause we need to change our relationship to food too.
Good morning Karen ☕️
My relationship with food is somewhat unhealthy. This has followed me since I can remember. I have no self discipline generally. I don't plan much and I do what I want when I'm not watching my grandson's. I have never followed a diet my whole life. I watch my mom do the diets and diet pills in the 70's. I was in my teens. I ate a lot of candy and love chocolate. I am 65 now and I eat what I want when I want. Karen you are not alone with the bedtime snack. 😂 I have been 40 pounds over weight since my 40's.aka menopause.
I need to work on quantifying my worth to any degree based on my weight or youthfulness. Because I know deep down on a spiritual level that does not affect my worth at all.
You’re the cool aunt.
Nephew Lob here, she definitely is! 😎
Sorry for the typos, read what it’s supposed to be on that last post.
Back issues for me at higher weight
Kohl's on West Coast
I'm 65 and around 30 lbs overweight. I've struggled with food all my life. Diets? Been there, done that. My relationship with food I've come to realize is an inside job. I've dwelled on it for.....years. I think I use food as a comfort mechanism. If I'm stressed...eat. Bored....eat. How it came about, I don't know. Perhaps low self esteem....from a youth of growing up dealing with having ADD? Perhaps the death of my mom when I was 15? So many factors could, and still do, influence my relationship with food. I'm frustrated that I don't know the root cause, and I'd rather not take this crap into my next life, so......I guess I will continue to wonder and think about this and work on healing it. But I do know that it is an inside job.
I have migraines for 30 days good morning
I am currently trying to heal my relationship with food, which is not a healthy one by calling out to God source spirit, angels guides please help me heal from my food obsession. I don’t know anything else to do. I just keep asking.
Off topic but... I have dousing rods and they do not work for me. What to do?
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