This is the kind of healthy discussion on sex that our society needs. These tips and ideas are great, even for non-Christians (such as myself). Thank you for sharing a practical and tangible way to navigate dating that is also universal. And a way to talk to our future children. And thank you for being a great example of marriage and of marriage in Christ.
Love you guys.... I'm 18 year's old & I'm definitely planning to keep myself for marriage,I just pray for God's strength to achieve that just like you did!❤️💯
Well, I will say, watching a video about boundaries is definitely one heck of a step, and shows how much you care about saving yourself! God bless you Victoria!
I am a Christian woman who has been married now for 7 years and dated from the ages of 16 to 21. I greatly appreciate what you guys are doing. I wish I had found videos like these while my husband and I were dating. Thank you for throwing it all out there in a blunt and yet tasteful way.
What can wash away my sin? Nothin' but the blood of Jesus. What can make me whole again? Nothin' but the blood of Jesus. Condemnation comes from Satan. Conviction comes from The Holy Spirit. Forgive, ask forgiveness, repent ( turn away) , and be FREE IN CHRIST JESUS. Keep the videos and TRUTH comin' Cody & Jessie! Maumelle, Arkansas supports you.
Sent to my 17 year old son, Such great advice! Thank you for sharing! Playing house and moving in with my sons father before we were even engaged ruined everything and we never ended up marrying. God has so much for you young people who wait and He will bless you and your future spouse! I am a living example of how much trauma comes with being promiscuous. Jesus saved me from a life of addiction, sexual immorality and abuse and I am now a 38 yr old single momma who is waiting for marriage (my first). It’s not easy but nothing worth having is easy. God has so much grace and mercy for those who follow Him and all you have to do is try to live a life pleasing to Him, read His word and know what it says so you know the guidelines and The Holy Spirit will help you every step of the way! God bless y’all ❤🙏🏻🙌🏼
As a middle aged single women who has been saved for over 30 years.. I have learned there is freedom in keeping good boundaries. Treating others as sisters and brothers in Christ, not playing with anyone's emotions, building genuine friendship - that is very different from the world. Also have learned that segregation and outward rules do not really help to protect from sinning, as people always tend to find a way aroynd.. the motivation to stay pure needs to be in the heart.💙 Sadly, I have met many Christian men, who like to see how far they can get and to keep the woman hooked, just for an ego boost.. so avoiding sex alone does not guarantee the relationship is healthy. Still trusting God for 'the whole package' one day soon ..!🙏🏻
Listened to this last night, and you again are spot on. I think back when I was a young guy, and participated in some of these activities. And one of my hangups today with "free women", ie divorced women, is that the physical relationship starts pretty quickly after meeting.
I'm older, and from a different time. I've met quite a few people who regret their pre-marriage experiences. However, I have never heard anyone say they regretted waiting. Zero. Imagine, The Lord knows what he's talking about, and what is best for his children. Amen.
Thank you so much, I have already decided to keep my virginity until I am married, and I love to see people encouraging others in this area. God bless you, I love your channel.
You guys are great! I completely agree, it took me on a journey to get to come to this point. I'm single and I think your story is a great example to singles on purity.
Good tips. I would add that it is also needed to ask God and yourselves what should you do for purity in your relationship. I think that every couple is different. For us it is ok to go on vacation and sleep in one room with two single beds but on the other hand we don't kiss each other on lips. You should find what works for you ;)
You are exactly right! That is why we said that some of these may seem extreme for some people! Everyone is convicted of something different and everyone has different things that tempt them to do wrong. These boundaries should be decided through prayer for sure.
This is all great advice 😃👍 This is so true about SIN coming into your thoughts. Even though I’m young 33 man waiting for the right woman. I have to ask Jesus every night to help me fight that sin nature battle because I can’t fight it alone. I’m not perfect I need help in guidance from Jesus daily. Thanks for sharing God bless 🙌😃
I want to know why our missionaries don't teach like this. Being in the lds church. No one had EVER brought these things up! But yet I was asked about masterbation and pornography to be Baptisted. Also I was married and 16 weeks pregnant
Like refreshing rain on drought-stricken land are your voices of wisdom, common sense and direction. Keep rockin’ it! Also, you are no doubt familiar with the little book on this subject, Secret Keeper, by Dannah Gresh ... excellent.
Thanks so much. I'm struggling with finding a partner. I'm almost 26 and I'm really having a hard time mentally accepting I've never had a partner nor have had sex. I am definitely waiting for marriage, however it's so hard to maintain my self-esteem, especially in a hyper sexualized society. Do you have any advice for people who don't have partners/have never had partners but are waiting for marriage? Do you have tips on how to cope? Again, I'm really mentally struggling and it's affecting my health.
Thank you so much for sharing Andrea! We actually released a video not too long ago discussing this topic! What to do in the waiting! Here is the link to the video! I think this will really help and answer some questions for you! God bless you Andrea! th-cam.com/video/QRBxcxQCEvc/w-d-xo.html
My plan was to save sex for marriage. Unfortunately, I was raped and I was a virgin. That happened 19 years ago. He spent 4 years in prison and is a 2 tier sex offender. I am thankful to have lived through it but I stopped dating and so I guess I'll never get married. It's ok.
This breaks my heart… why do you choose to not move forward with trying to find a good man that will treat you as Christ intended? They are out there Kim… you deserve that much… God bless you…
My reason for not marrying is because now I don't want to be intimate. I was raped. This is incredibly hard. He told me he was a demon and I was going to hell. I've suffered mentally and emotionally in the dark and my life hasn't been the same. This doesn't just go away.
@@kimalonzo3363 My heart breaks for you Kim…. I can’t tell you how sorry I am to hear this…. I am going to say a prayer for you right now and know this, I do not take prayer lightly. If I say, I’m going to pray for you, I will pray for you. God bless you, Kim.…
@@kimalonzo3363 You are right. This doesnt just go away. It is a part of you and your story. But its a PART, not the whole. Remi d yourself of all the verses that speak of promise. Promises that what the enemy stole will be paid back! Promises that Through CHRIST we can be conquerers in All things! Definitely be wise as a serpant gentle as a dove. Pray and ask the FATHER what HIS will is. Maybe "dating" is not how you will meet a spouse? FATHER please help Kim in every single way. YOU know all the details of her life and what rape victims go through. Please bring her mercies and miracles in JESUS name.
You are NOT determined or defined by someone else's actions .. You are much loved by God, who created you. I an so very sorry of what happened to you, and grateful that this assaulter is in jail. I pray for God's healing touch for you, and for the right person to gome into your life, if that is His will. Even as single, you are His beloved and valued chld 🙏🏻❤️ and in His eyes, you are a virgin.
If you have a girl friend , or boy friend who wants to get it on. You need to get up, and leave. He are she has just proved. They are not filled with the Holy Ghost.
@@charlescoker7752 the garden did OK. Cucumbers did really well. Tomatoes suffered a lot because of the heat. Grape vines grew like crazy so looking forward to next year. Hopefully getting a crop from them. Peppers did pretty well as usual. Strawberries did very well.
You don’t get to “deal” with them. The answer is self control, prayer and boundaries. Prayer first. Set boundaries to keep yourself from getting “urges” in the first place. Prayer if you happen to get urges. Something like this… “ Father, I know that you created my body to desire sex. Please help me to resist these urges that I am feeling. Help me to control this desire to list and sin against you and look forward to a life of guilt free sex in marriage in Jesus name.” Self control and prayer is how you can purely and biblically deal with the urges you may have. Sex of any form (with a partner or with yourself) is considered fornication prior to marriage and is therefore sinful. I hope this help. We plan to expand more in this in future videos.
@@OurFruitfulFamily this is truly helpful and im looking forward to a video where u talk more about that matter and maybe if u have a bible study daily routine please share, also what advice would you give someone struggling to stay consistent in their faith
As a women that got married a virgen in 2001 at 25 after I got my law degree. My I add some more tips? Don't stay with at your boy friend's or your girl's home alone. This was not that hard for because I lived with my parents till I got married, ( I went to a local law school ) but if it is your case, avoid it. No christian should have oral sex, married or not, the Bible is very clear about how annoying it is for God when even married couples use their body for pervertion. Don't keep condoms in your wallet for the " just in case". Don't go alone on vacations. My husband and I did go on vacations before been married...with family and friends, friends that thought like us...guys in one room, girls in other room Congrats on your videos.
This is great advice on the topic of not keeping condoms just in case and not going alone on vacations. I can’t say that I’ve seen anywhere in the Bible specifically speaking agains oral sex in the confines of the marriage bed. I believe each couple should be personally decide what forms of sex are permissible as long as it is between only the man and his wife. God bless you Andrea! Thank you for sharing!
Did you just state that married Christians should not have oral sex? This is WRONG!!! It is not perversion for married couples to explore each others bodies were their mouths. It’s absolutely not perversion. (My husband and I have never watched porn or anything perverted). We have freedom in Christ to be intimate with each other in every sense of the word.
@@Titus2BibleStudy who said that at all? This video is advice for Christians while dating, i.e. before marriage we said that oral sex is not OK outside of the confines of the wedding bed. Never did we say that Married Christians cannot have oral sex. That would be blatantly wrong. It was an answer to the question whether or not oral sex is OK Outside of marriage. Our answer is most definitely no because oral sex is still sex.
Good question. We actually planned on touching on this in a future video. Been doing lots of reading lately and studying, trying to find everything I can on the subject of sex and sexual immorality in the Bible before making that video. I have yet to come across anything scripturally that says there’s anything wrong with it. As far as I am understanding, anything is permissible within the confines of the marriage bed between a man and a woman. assuming both partners are consenting that is. We will have more information on this, after completing our in-depth study!
I have a real problem with the idea of if you look at someone in lust it's the same as having sex with them. I mean I sort of get what Jesus was saying here, BUT, what is the difference between normal healthy sexual desire and lust? That was something I was never taught. Instead I was taught to be AFRAID of sexual feelings, to the point where I just mentally and physically shut down. I do cardio drumming at the senior center twice a week and there is a song that we do called "I'm So Excited". While I enjoy this song, I am going to be brutally honest with you. I don't get it. I don't understand it. I don't really know (other than on an intellectual level) what this song is about. Because I've never experienced it. I'm in my mid sixties, and I do not know what it feels like to feel this way about another person. I might as well be neutered. It is indeed very possible for someone to hear things like you shouldn't think about sex and internalize this message to the point where you are so repressed sexually you can't respond. If I understand it correctly, this combined with the prohibition against masturbation, means that as a single Christian whose chances of marriage dwindle with every passing year, if I am faithful to the Lord I will never know what it is like to have an orgasm or at least I shouldn't know. Am I right? Is this never knowing, never experiencing something I am being called to, or have others determined it for me? Have I indeed sacrificed something that is my God-given birthright because of a mistaken understanding of what Scripture and Christ demands of me? Oh, I am sure that there are plenty of people out there--because I have run into them--who will say, but God will reward you for being faithful, that's the most important thing. When I was younger I had old church ladies fawn over me and coo and ahh about how wonderful it was that I was still chaste and not going out and having sex like all those other young women. I was their "pet virgin." What I wanted out of life was irrelevant. What pain I felt on not being able to find someone was irrelevant. Scripture indeed says it is better to marry than to burn. But it is totally silent about what to do when you want to marry but there is no one to marry. Do you--should you--destroy your sex drive? Apparently, yes! And so, it seems, I have. I'm not sure if the damage can, or should be reversed. After all, I am almost 70 years old. There aren't a lot of single men out there--and MOST of those are not Christian, or if they say they are, they don't hold with reserving sex for marriage. Look around your church if you don't believe me. How many single men are there? And what age groups do they fall into? If I came to your church tomorrow and asked, is there someone my age that you could introduce me to, how many of you would say, yes I know someone who's single and who you might be interested in? And how many other single women in that church would I be competing against? And at this stage of the game, would marriage help or hurt me? Singles who are seniors have quite different issues than singles just starting out. This is not to say that I disagree with what Christianity teaches about reserving sex for marriage. It is how it works out in practice that I am concerned with. Not all of us get married--and sometimes, in the case of senior citizens on social security and medicare, marriage can actually bring a substantial financial penalty. What does one do then?
Wow. This may be the longest comment we’ve ever received. Haha! I’ll try to get straight to what I’m finding to be your root question. Is there someone out there for everyone? Should everyone marry? If not, what should we do with our sex drive? Paul was saying that it is better to stay single like he is then to marry. This is because you have one less distraction in life if you don’t have an earthly family to be concerned with. You can devote your life to your true love and passion, Christ. Not everyone was meant to marry. If you feel like you were not meant to merry, God calls us to chastity. You must abstain. If you feel you cannot abstain, and burn with lust, you need to marry. To be clear, marriage doesn’t fix lust. It gives you a God given outlet for sexual desire. Lust is a heart issue that you should be in prayer about. Sexual desire is natural. Lust is when you cannot control your sexual desire and you sinfully look at the opposite sex, having sex with them in your heart. You can have sexual desire with lusting. Self control is the key here. I hope this helps. We have all struggled with this. God bless you!
@@OurFruitfulFamily It's not a matter of feeling that you are not meant to marry. What Paul was talking about was voluntarily chosen singlehood for the purposes of God. We can both agree on that. It is involuntary celibacy that is the problem. I do feel that there is such a thing as waiting too long and having TOO much self-control. This isn't talked about. If the church is going to insist on waiting until marriage--and I do agree with that teaching, BTW; it's why I'm in the position I'm in--then the church also needs to be more proactive in seeing that its members who wish to marry actually do marry. That may take the form of singles' events (and not just for young people!). It may take the form of matchmaking. Introducing people to one another. As in, hey, I know someone you might be interested in and who might be interested in you. I'm not saying be a busybody. There are people who are content in being single and that should be respected. But to say to someone whose heart's desire is to have a family, no, you can't have that, when you yourself are feasting at that table, that's wrong. HELP that person find a partner in Christ. Don't leave it all up to chance and fate.
I agree with you. That’s why we are talking about these things from a biblical point of view. The church is too quiet on the matter and when they do talk about it, it’s in a negative light. Purity culture can be so damaging when taught and portrayed incorrectly.
@@OurFruitfulFamily I am so glad that you and others are doing so. It's sorely needed as you can see. I can't change the damage that's been done to me in the name of purity culture but I can speak out about the harm it does. Keep in mind that I am at least twice your age and so I grew up in a time where the attitudes I describe were very common, even in secular society. When the sexual revolution began 50 years ago it was a very difficult and confusing time for me personally as I was starting to go through puberty as well as for the church which was not equipped to deal with this sudden massive social upheaval. There was probably quite a bit of overreaction, driven by fear, which accounted for my repressive upbringing; but as I said, these attitudes were present in society as well to some extent and the sexual revolution partly came about as a means of correcting them. Wrongly in my opinion and I think you can agree with that. So when I critique purity culture I am coming from the standpoint of someone who lived through the sexual revolution and its aftermath. This was very new at the time. So just to give you a bit of context here. Just one more thing and then I'm through. I think the church needs to do some soul-searching on this issue and decide what abstinence really means. Is it abstinence until marriage or lifelong abstinence? If marriage is the primary goal, then what about those who have trouble finding a partner? What are the roadblocks here and how can they be overcome? Because I'm going to be frank here. People like me who are involuntarily single because they believe in waiting for marriage (a marriage which never came) are not exactly a success story--and the world, looking on, has every right to say EPIC FAIL, why should anyone wait? Just some food for thought . . .
This is the kind of healthy discussion on sex that our society needs. These tips and ideas are great, even for non-Christians (such as myself).
Thank you for sharing a practical and tangible way to navigate dating that is also universal. And a way to talk to our future children. And thank you for being a great example of marriage and of marriage in Christ.
Wow! Thank you so much for this lovely encouragement! God bless you!
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Love you guys....
I'm 18 year's old & I'm definitely planning to keep myself for marriage,I just pray for God's strength to achieve that just like you did!❤️💯
Well, I will say, watching a video about boundaries is definitely one heck of a step, and shows how much you care about saving yourself! God bless you Victoria!
@@OurFruitfulFamily Amen ❤️
I am a Christian woman who has been married now for 7 years and dated from the ages of 16 to 21. I greatly appreciate what you guys are doing. I wish I had found videos like these while my husband and I were dating. Thank you for throwing it all out there in a blunt and yet tasteful way.
Thank you so much for the kind words. God bless you!
Fantastic video! I couldn’t be more proud of these two and the way God is using them for the kingdom.
This is fire! We need more of this in the kingdom! So thankful for your bravery on the internet!!!!! So so so brave!!! Keep speaking truth ❤️
Haha God bless you Julia!
What can wash away my sin?
Nothin' but the blood of Jesus.
What can make me whole again?
Nothin' but the blood of Jesus.
Condemnation comes from Satan.
Conviction comes from The Holy Spirit.
Forgive, ask forgiveness, repent ( turn away) , and be FREE IN CHRIST JESUS.
Keep the videos and TRUTH comin' Cody & Jessie! Maumelle, Arkansas supports you.
What beautiful words those are. God bless you. One of my favorite songs growing up.
Your video is exactly what I want to learn from.When I became a Christian I discovered that we can enjoy a date without all those pre-marital stuff.
Sent to my 17 year old son, Such great advice! Thank you for sharing! Playing house and moving in with my sons father before we were even engaged ruined everything and we never ended up marrying. God has so much for you young people who wait and He will bless you and your future spouse! I am a living example of how much trauma comes with being promiscuous. Jesus saved me from a life of addiction, sexual immorality and abuse and I am now a 38 yr old single momma who is waiting for marriage (my first). It’s not easy but nothing worth having is easy. God has so much grace and mercy for those who follow Him and all you have to do is try to live a life pleasing to Him, read His word and know what it says so you know the guidelines and The Holy Spirit will help you every step of the way! God bless y’all ❤🙏🏻🙌🏼
Absolutely love the videos you post! Wish these videos had been out when i was a teenager. This information should be given/taught to every teenager.
This is so encouraging Annabel! Thank you! God bless you!
As a middle aged single women who has been saved for over 30 years.. I have learned there is freedom in keeping good boundaries. Treating others as sisters and brothers in Christ, not playing with anyone's emotions, building genuine friendship - that is very different from the world.
Also have learned that segregation and outward rules do not really help to protect from sinning, as people always tend to find a way aroynd.. the motivation to stay pure needs to be in the heart.💙 Sadly, I have met many Christian men, who like to see how far they can get and to keep the woman hooked, just for an ego boost.. so avoiding sex alone does not guarantee the relationship is healthy. Still trusting God for 'the whole package' one day soon ..!🙏🏻
You guys just boosted my confidence in waiting. Thanks. Your story is soo inspiring
That what we are here for! God bless you Sofia!
Listened to this last night, and you again are spot on. I think back when I was a young guy, and participated in some of these activities. And one of my hangups today with "free women", ie divorced women, is that the physical relationship starts pretty quickly after meeting.
Yes! Always matters of the heart. 1 priory as Christian is to worship God. He is worthy of our total devotion and fulfillment. Be satisfied in Him
God bless you Maxine!
Not extreme at all ❤ agreed 100% with all of your tips hubby and I implemented them as well
God bless you Elise! Thank you for verifying that We are not crazy ha ha!!!!
I am new here you are really a blessing for many young Christians
Wonderful advice. Every single one. This couple is so honest and genuine. Thumbs up, as always!
God bless you Beth!
Thank you for your videos over dating, I’m 18 and my boyfriend and I are trying to have a relationship like this, and they are really helpful. ❤
God bless you Greek!
I'm older, and from a different time. I've met quite a few people who regret their pre-marriage experiences. However, I have never heard anyone say they regretted waiting. Zero. Imagine, The Lord knows what he's talking about, and what is best for his children. Amen.
Amen!!!
Thank you so much, I have already decided to keep my virginity until I am married, and I love to see people encouraging others in this area. God bless you, I love your channel.
That is so good to hear, Jessica! Thank you so much for reaching out to us! God bless you!
Thank you for the transparency. God speed.
God bless you!
You guys are great! I completely agree, it took me on a journey to get to come to this point. I'm single and I think your story is a great example to singles on purity.
Thank you Geena! God bless you!!!
fantastic video I am Muslim and I like to follow your videos we have the same values as you may God protect you
God bless you Sara!
Y'all are filled with the Holy Spirit on this one. ❤
To God be all of the glory!
Good tips. I would add that it is also needed to ask God and yourselves what should you do for purity in your relationship. I think that every couple is different. For us it is ok to go on vacation and sleep in one room with two single beds but on the other hand we don't kiss each other on lips. You should find what works for you ;)
You are exactly right! That is why we said that some of these may seem extreme for some people! Everyone is convicted of something different and everyone has different things that tempt them to do wrong. These boundaries should be decided through prayer for sure.
I really appreciate your guys videos! Thank you so much!
You are very welcome! God Bless you C!
Thanks so much this such amazing advice and it gives hope for people waiting 😍
These videos will help us so much in the future raising our boys! Church does not teach these things anymore
Thank you so much!
To God be all of the Glory!
This is all great advice 😃👍 This is so true about SIN coming into your thoughts. Even though I’m young 33 man waiting for the right woman. I have to ask Jesus every night to help me fight that sin nature battle because I can’t fight it alone. I’m not perfect I need help in guidance from Jesus daily. Thanks for sharing God bless 🙌😃
Thank you so much for sharing! God bless you Jeremy!
I want to know why our missionaries don't teach like this. Being in the lds church. No one had EVER brought these things up! But yet I was asked about masterbation and pornography to be Baptisted. Also I was married and 16 weeks pregnant
That is exactly why we feel Christians should be speaking on these subjects
Like refreshing rain on drought-stricken land are your voices of wisdom, common sense and direction. Keep rockin’ it!
Also, you are no doubt familiar with the little book on this subject, Secret Keeper, by Dannah Gresh ... excellent.
You just made our evening. Actually, we haven’t read that one haha! God bless you Sandra!
Thanks so much. I'm struggling with finding a partner. I'm almost 26 and I'm really having a hard time mentally accepting I've never had a partner nor have had sex. I am definitely waiting for marriage, however it's so hard to maintain my self-esteem, especially in a hyper sexualized society. Do you have any advice for people who don't have partners/have never had partners but are waiting for marriage? Do you have tips on how to cope? Again, I'm really mentally struggling and it's affecting my health.
Thank you so much for sharing Andrea! We actually released a video not too long ago discussing this topic! What to do in the waiting! Here is the link to the video! I think this will really help and answer some questions for you! God bless you Andrea!
th-cam.com/video/QRBxcxQCEvc/w-d-xo.html
@@OurFruitfulFamily Thanks so much- I’ll watch it now!
@@OurFruitfulFamily Just watched it! It's good to recognize what thoughts are of my own construction and what G-d's plans actually are!
@@AndreaMarthaSugar what's the meaning of G-d vs God?
Find a Godly Husband ASAP.
Helpful.... May God bless your family!
God bless you Herojit!
@@OurFruitfulFamily Thanks
I wish that my boyfriend Ronnie and I would have waited but sometimes life just gets in the way
Another great video! 👍
Thank you Jerry!
It's easier to say no now rather than later
You got that right! God bless you!!!
From Ghana 🇬🇭🇬🇭 Africa
Great tips
I really like you guys ❤️💯
Welcome to the channel Abraham! God bless you!!! Social media sure has a way of connecting people from all over the world!
My plan was to save sex for marriage. Unfortunately, I was raped and I was a virgin. That happened 19 years ago. He spent 4 years in prison and is a 2 tier sex offender. I am thankful to have lived through it but I stopped dating and so I guess I'll never get married. It's ok.
This breaks my heart… why do you choose to not move forward with trying to find a good man that will treat you as Christ intended? They are out there Kim… you deserve that much… God bless you…
My reason for not marrying is because now I don't want to be intimate. I was raped. This is incredibly hard. He told me he was a demon and I was going to hell. I've suffered mentally and emotionally in the dark and my life hasn't been the same. This doesn't just go away.
@@kimalonzo3363 My heart breaks for you Kim…. I can’t tell you how sorry I am to hear this…. I am going to say a prayer for you right now and know this, I do not take prayer lightly. If I say, I’m going to pray for you, I will pray for you. God bless you, Kim.…
@@kimalonzo3363 You are right. This doesnt just go away. It is a part of you and your story. But its a PART, not the whole. Remi d yourself of all the verses that speak of promise. Promises that what the enemy stole will be paid back! Promises that Through CHRIST we can be conquerers in All things! Definitely be wise as a serpant gentle as a dove. Pray and ask the FATHER what HIS will is. Maybe "dating" is not how you will meet a spouse?
FATHER please help Kim in every single way. YOU know all the details of her life and what rape victims go through. Please bring her mercies and miracles in JESUS name.
You are NOT determined or defined by someone else's actions .. You are much loved by God, who created you. I an so very sorry of what happened to you, and grateful that this assaulter is in jail. I pray for God's healing touch for you, and for the right person to gome into your life, if that is His will. Even as single, you are His beloved and valued chld 🙏🏻❤️ and in His eyes, you are a virgin.
First kiss should be done during marriage.🥰
If you have a girl friend , or boy friend who wants to get it on. You need to get up, and leave. He are she has just proved. They are not filled with the Holy Ghost.
It’s so good to hear from you, Charles! God bless you
Just get busy, and You tube fails to notify most of the time. How did the Back to Eden Garden turn out. The Hot weather did a number on our garden.
@@charlescoker7752 the garden did OK. Cucumbers did really well. Tomatoes suffered a lot because of the heat. Grape vines grew like crazy so looking forward to next year. Hopefully getting a crop from them. Peppers did pretty well as usual. Strawberries did very well.
Amen! Flee is what the Bible says! Run forest Run!!!
Did someone write Strawberries! I scream for strawberries....😃😄😀
Y'all are funny 😅
Hahahah God bless you Sharon!
How did u deal with your " " urges?
You don’t get to “deal” with them. The answer is self control, prayer and boundaries. Prayer first. Set boundaries to keep yourself from getting “urges” in the first place. Prayer if you happen to get urges. Something like this… “ Father, I know that you created my body to desire sex. Please help me to resist these urges that I am feeling. Help me to control this desire to list and sin against you and look forward to a life of guilt free sex in marriage in Jesus name.” Self control and prayer is how you can purely and biblically deal with the urges you may have. Sex of any form (with a partner or with yourself) is considered fornication prior to marriage and is therefore sinful. I hope this help. We plan to expand more in this in future videos.
@@OurFruitfulFamily this is truly helpful and im looking forward to a video where u talk more about that matter and maybe if u have a bible study daily routine please share, also what advice would you give someone struggling to stay consistent in their faith
As a women that got married a virgen in 2001 at 25 after I got my law degree. My I add some more tips?
Don't stay with at your boy friend's or your girl's home alone. This was not that hard for because I lived with my parents till I got married, ( I went to a local law school ) but if it is your case, avoid it.
No christian should have oral sex, married or not, the Bible is very clear about how annoying it is for God when even married couples use their body for pervertion.
Don't keep condoms in your wallet for the " just in case".
Don't go alone on vacations. My husband and I did go on vacations before been married...with family and friends, friends that thought like us...guys in one room, girls in other room
Congrats on your videos.
This is great advice on the topic of not keeping condoms just in case and not going alone on vacations. I can’t say that I’ve seen anywhere in the Bible specifically speaking agains oral sex in the confines of the marriage bed. I believe each couple should be personally decide what forms of sex are permissible as long as it is between only the man and his wife. God bless you Andrea! Thank you for sharing!
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Did you just state that married Christians should not have oral sex? This is WRONG!!! It is not perversion for married couples to explore each others bodies were their mouths. It’s absolutely not perversion. (My husband and I have never watched porn or anything perverted). We have freedom in Christ to be intimate with each other in every sense of the word.
@@Titus2BibleStudy who said that at all? This video is advice for Christians while dating, i.e. before marriage we said that oral sex is not OK outside of the confines of the wedding bed. Never did we say that Married Christians cannot have oral sex. That would be blatantly wrong. It was an answer to the question whether or not oral sex is OK Outside of marriage. Our answer is most definitely no because oral sex is still sex.
Is oral sex permissible after you're married or is it a deviant sexual behaviour? I've heard a televangelist say it isn't right.
Good question. We actually planned on touching on this in a future video. Been doing lots of reading lately and studying, trying to find everything I can on the subject of sex and sexual immorality in the Bible before making that video. I have yet to come across anything scripturally that says there’s anything wrong with it. As far as I am understanding, anything is permissible within the confines of the marriage bed between a man and a woman. assuming both partners are consenting that is. We will have more information on this, after completing our in-depth study!
Hi, for how long did you two date?
Way too long… haha. We dated for nearly 8 years. That’s how we know these work and that’s part of the reason we had to be so strict.
I have a real problem with the idea of if you look at someone in lust it's the same as having sex with them. I mean I sort of get what Jesus was saying here, BUT, what is the difference between normal healthy sexual desire and lust? That was something I was never taught. Instead I was taught to be AFRAID of sexual feelings, to the point where I just mentally and physically shut down.
I do cardio drumming at the senior center twice a week and there is a song that we do called "I'm So Excited". While I enjoy this song, I am going to be brutally honest with you. I don't get it. I don't understand it. I don't really know (other than on an intellectual level) what this song is about. Because I've never experienced it. I'm in my mid sixties, and I do not know what it feels like to feel this way about another person. I might as well be neutered. It is indeed very possible for someone to hear things like you shouldn't think about sex and internalize this message to the point where you are so repressed sexually you can't respond. If I understand it correctly, this combined with the prohibition against masturbation, means that as a single Christian whose chances of marriage dwindle with every passing year, if I am faithful to the Lord I will never know what it is like to have an orgasm or at least I shouldn't know. Am I right? Is this never knowing, never experiencing something I am being called to, or have others determined it for me? Have I indeed sacrificed something that is my God-given birthright because of a mistaken understanding of what Scripture and Christ demands of me? Oh, I am sure that there are plenty of people out there--because I have run into them--who will say, but God will reward you for being faithful, that's the most important thing. When I was younger I had old church ladies fawn over me and coo and ahh about how wonderful it was that I was still chaste and not going out and having sex like all those other young women. I was their "pet virgin." What I wanted out of life was irrelevant. What pain I felt on not being able to find someone was irrelevant.
Scripture indeed says it is better to marry than to burn. But it is totally silent about what to do when you want to marry but there is no one to marry. Do you--should you--destroy your sex drive? Apparently, yes! And so, it seems, I have. I'm not sure if the damage can, or should be reversed. After all, I am almost 70 years old. There aren't a lot of single men out there--and MOST of those are not Christian, or if they say they are, they don't hold with reserving sex for marriage. Look around your church if you don't believe me. How many single men are there? And what age groups do they fall into? If I came to your church tomorrow and asked, is there someone my age that you could introduce me to, how many of you would say, yes I know someone who's single and who you might be interested in? And how many other single women in that church would I be competing against? And at this stage of the game, would marriage help or hurt me? Singles who are seniors have quite different issues than singles just starting out.
This is not to say that I disagree with what Christianity teaches about reserving sex for marriage. It is how it works out in practice that I am concerned with. Not all of us get married--and sometimes, in the case of senior citizens on social security and medicare, marriage can actually bring a substantial financial penalty. What does one do then?
Wow. This may be the longest comment we’ve ever received. Haha! I’ll try to get straight to what I’m finding to be your root question. Is there someone out there for everyone? Should everyone marry? If not, what should we do with our sex drive? Paul was saying that it is better to stay single like he is then to marry. This is because you have one less distraction in life if you don’t have an earthly family to be concerned with. You can devote your life to your true love and passion, Christ. Not everyone was meant to marry. If you feel like you were not meant to merry, God calls us to chastity. You must abstain. If you feel you cannot abstain, and burn with lust, you need to marry. To be clear, marriage doesn’t fix lust. It gives you a God given outlet for sexual desire. Lust is a heart issue that you should be in prayer about. Sexual desire is natural. Lust is when you cannot control your sexual desire and you sinfully look at the opposite sex, having sex with them in your heart. You can have sexual desire with lusting. Self control is the key here. I hope this helps. We have all struggled with this. God bless you!
@@OurFruitfulFamily It's not a matter of feeling that you are not meant to marry. What Paul was talking about was voluntarily chosen singlehood for the purposes of God. We can both agree on that. It is involuntary celibacy that is the problem. I do feel that there is such a thing as waiting too long and having TOO much self-control. This isn't talked about.
If the church is going to insist on waiting until marriage--and I do agree with that teaching, BTW; it's why I'm in the position I'm in--then the church also needs to be more proactive in seeing that its members who wish to marry actually do marry. That may take the form of singles' events (and not just for young people!). It may take the form of matchmaking. Introducing people to one another. As in, hey, I know someone you might be interested in and who might be interested in you. I'm not saying be a busybody. There are people who are content in being single and that should be respected. But to say to someone whose heart's desire is to have a family, no, you can't have that, when you yourself are feasting at that table, that's wrong. HELP that person find a partner in Christ. Don't leave it all up to chance and fate.
I agree with you. That’s why we are talking about these things from a biblical point of view. The church is too quiet on the matter and when they do talk about it, it’s in a negative light. Purity culture can be so damaging when taught and portrayed incorrectly.
@@OurFruitfulFamily I am so glad that you and others are doing so. It's sorely needed as you can see. I can't change the damage that's been done to me in the name of purity culture but I can speak out about the harm it does. Keep in mind that I am at least twice your age and so I grew up in a time where the attitudes I describe were very common, even in secular society. When the sexual revolution began 50 years ago it was a very difficult and confusing time for me personally as I was starting to go through puberty as well as for the church which was not equipped to deal with this sudden massive social upheaval. There was probably quite a bit of overreaction, driven by fear, which accounted for my repressive upbringing; but as I said, these attitudes were present in society as well to some extent and the sexual revolution partly came about as a means of correcting them. Wrongly in my opinion and I think you can agree with that. So when I critique purity culture I am coming from the standpoint of someone who lived through the sexual revolution and its aftermath. This was very new at the time. So just to give you a bit of context here.
Just one more thing and then I'm through. I think the church needs to do some soul-searching on this issue and decide what abstinence really means. Is it abstinence until marriage or lifelong abstinence? If marriage is the primary goal, then what about those who have trouble finding a partner? What are the roadblocks here and how can they be overcome? Because I'm going to be frank here. People like me who are involuntarily single because they believe in waiting for marriage (a marriage which never came) are not exactly a success story--and the world, looking on, has every right to say EPIC FAIL, why should anyone wait? Just some food for thought . . .
in jewish religion its called Yichud
i dont believe in god but shes a ten and a vergin😍😍
Not a virgin anymore 😜! We got married in 2013.