After being married and now divorced. We often say we married the wrong person.. from experience I’ll say this.... you married the wrong person for you. Doesn’t mean their wrong for someone else.
Absolutely... I married the wrong person for me... saw lots of signs that I can look back at now and think.. damn it was right there in my face . I was young and ignored lots of things... he’s not a horrible person but definitely not the man that was meant for me.
I was in a previous engagement. Made the dumb mistake of buying a house together prior to marriage. The relationship was a nightmare! Left her and lost so much money, but I had the biggest smile on my face! Now I sit and think that if I hadn’t left, I would have never met my beautiful wife!
But they keep up appearances. I know several people in that situation, but they hate losing so they stay. It might work out in the end, you never know.
Wow I feel drained aswel 15 years 4 kids but am not happy,we have trust issues ,my marriage is abusive..... don't know wat to do I feel for my kids 😭😭😭😭
WOW! I am in tears.😢 After 28 years in the wrong marriage, I got divorced. I knew more than 10 years before I ended it, that it was over. Thank you for this; I must share.
Thank you for actually making a video on marrying the wrong person. So many of these are like "oh we all marry 'the wrong person' or generally try to persuade the other way. I get it- marriage is sacred and should be, but many people (me included) ACTUALLY married the wrong person. This is refreshing. Appreciate it.
I hear that a lot of married couples knew they shouldn’t have been married to their spouse at the alter or a few months into the marriage. I just got divorced this year. I pray I find the love and peace that God intended Marriage to be.
Wow this spoke to my soul I can't believe it. I'm 30 as well now and going through my own divorce after 3 years of marriage. Being married was a choice that I made from having a child with my 6 year best friend at the time. I didn't want our kid to be out of wedlock so I felt it was the right thing to do. However I knew from a few months of living with each other for the 1st time that something was really wrong. And that wrong feeling carried on the whole 3 years. As crazy as it sounds I'm grateful for my experience because I've learned a lot and I'm a much better person going forward.
Why do you guys marry women who sleep around with you. You guys should not sleep around. Marry the woman who does not sleep around. That's what happens. These women will trap you will friendship, kids and then marriage. It is a desperate move because these kind of women are insecure, they dont have any self worth, self respect or integrity. Low character is what you guys attract with these kind of women. FWB is the worst!
People don't talk about this topic enough...refreshing to hear such a similar situation. You do everything and it just doesn't work. Let it go, heal and live in truth. Life is too short ....God didn't put a lot of these marriages together. Do the work necessary and free yourself
Are you sure? Coz she talks a lot about how visual guys are .. let’s face the truth ... it gets harder as you get older and have baggage? Or I’m i just jaded ??
Interesting, MANY who marry already know that going down the aisle 'this shit ain't gon work, what da fugg am I doing' but you've made all these gastronomical high-priced wedding plans...so very sad. IF we stop making marriage out to be some kind of prize or reward, maybe we will stop fantasizing, romanticizing and WORSHIPPING marriage. This is what happens when you make marriage YOUR IDOL...and we know how God feels about idolatry, don't we? Good luck to everyone. Life is hard enough and filled with enough challenges. Stop listening to folks telling you YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED. Nothing is wrong with marriage. Nothing is wrong with a shoe either...except when it is not the right size: too big, too small, does your feet nor your NO GOOD. IJS.....
My first marriage ended because I knew going in that we weren’t the right fit for one another. There was absolutely nothing that I could do to change him. It was difficult at first, but I do not regret leaving the marriage. My 2nd husband was a much better fit and we built a great life together before he passed 2 years ago.
So glad I found this. This gave me the clarity that I needed on letting a marriage go that has been very depressing. I am not happy and it hasn’t been a year yet, which will be next month. However, at 32, I refuse to go another year or even ten years miserable. Thank you for blessing us with your story.
Sitting here in tears because everything you’ve said hit home. I just turned 30, married at 25 and have been going through it. Thank you for being lead to post this video because it brought me so much clarity.
This spoke to me. This was me from age 20- just before my 29th birthday. I literally felt drained trying to make it work. As soon as i left i felt lighter and motivated. I'm now 30 and training in a new career!
Thank you for this honest and transparent conversation, Mrs. Pope. There are a lot of people (quiet as it's kept) who have married the wrong person and are trying to "stick it out" despite the major issues and the fact that they are incompatible.
I’m soooooo glad I found this VIDEO ! I got married at 20 and I’m now 29 and I finally opened my eyes and I’m ready to turn my life around and be happy again . I’ve been doing all the work in my marriage and my husband is very nonchalant and he don’t fight for our marriage he show he doesn’t care . I’m getting all the signs and I keep trying and trying . So now I’m done and I pray for the strength to get through this !
That pressure is so real!! We are told marriage is hard work... it shouldn’t be miserable, it’s effort, it shouldnt be suffering and hard work all the time, I felt obligated to go through with the wedding because a lot of people were there and I didn’t want to let them down, I felt obligated because we had a child and my family said stay and make it work for my family... I was loyal even though I wasn’t happy. I knew going into the relationship we weren’t supposed to be long term.. every time we broke up I felt bad because “I was breaking up the family” and went back... we were totally opposite and I went to counseling before the wedding and I told the counselor well opposites attract right? She said they do, but ppl with like interests and similarities stay together... I was like well 😩 now what.. there was a lot of pressure to MAKE it work.. my mom always said if it don’t fit don’t force it... I absolutely commend people who say no to marriage proposals because they just know it won’t work or to men who’ve been with good women but don’t propose because they know that woman isn’t his wife... I wasn’t strong enough to say no although I know it wasn’t supposed to be. And it doesn’t mean my ex was a horrible person.. we were not compatible.. and I forced something that wasn’t supposed to fit. Wishing him future love and happiness and partnership with someone that’s for him. Everything you said resonates... everything!!
I can relate. I married at 25 to my college sweetheart right after finishing graduate school. I saw the signs before marriage during premarital counseling but ignored them since we had been together 7 yrs. After a few months in, I knew it was not going to work. I stayed for 3 years. Luckily, we did not have kids. I sold our home before leaving, and so we had no financial ties. No regrets in divorcing.
@@manofvision Absolutely! It ended 20 years ago. I’m also not one to hold on to past hurt. Plus, there was not anything traumatic about the break-up or divorce. It was a clean divorce. I didn’t want anything.
I was 25 when I got married and I knew after the honeymoon, I made a poor choice. The red flags appeared before I was married. I'm now divorced and a single mom to 4 kids. Much better off.
Most men don’t want to get too seriously involved with women that have multiple children, especially young children! That’s just how it is! A single mother of four is not impossible to meet someone who connects with her, but it’ll be a little more difficult! But if being with the husband/father was unbearable you have to move on I guess!
This is the realest I've listened to about marriage. Others make you feel that your first marriage should be your forever when in fact it wasn't from God and there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people don't reveal themselves until marriage.
When I filed for divorce, my ex mother in law was upset that I wanted to divorce her son. I wasn't happy because of his infidelity and now he has no contact with my daughters and he married his mistress. (I also married at a young age-24)
This is great because churches are teaching that one has to stay.... People are living in such insanity, unhappiness, and pure hell in some circumstances. Being in these circumstances brings a delay in the way one should be going.... God never said we are suppose to live like. Sometimes people are goaded into staying and living in the pressure and demands,,,, God help if youre from a family who is rooted in ministry..OMG...them the other dynamic of "appearances" come into play... People need this...People are being delayed for no reason when one needs to get OUT....It's between yourself and God. People don't have to live with that and they aren't walking in the other shoes...
The church says a lot of things. God gave us a brain to think and we need to use it. The church doesn't have to live in a house where a marriage is not only bad but toxic and sometimes dangerous. I was raised by people who stayed together. I'm 48 now and still bear the scars from their toxic marriage.
I stayed in a relationship after he cheated got married, married for ten years he cheated again I divorced last August I'm glad and I'm free God Bless.
This is so true I spent to years trying to convince someone that I was a good Man, and no matter what I did it was never enough. I had to learn that you can't love someone enough that don't truly love you back. Ioved being a husband just praying that God would send me someone that will be my true soulmate.
This is so true! I knew within the first 6 months, but because we had spent so much on the wedding I stayed and hoped it would get better and it never did. Married 6 years and finally got the strength to leave. Thank God my son is just a toddler.
Hi! Thank you for this! It's 2022 and I just came across this after saying this to myself and having the "Divorce" conversation with my husband. I'm in tears and just praying for strength to actually go through the separation and divorcing period. This marriage has literally been draining me since the beginning and I just can't "fake it" anymore for anyone. I knew from the very beginning that this was NOT the one. I tried to tell others prior to the wedding day however, I was told to put my ring back on or that I just had "pre-wedding jitters" our son is about to turn 4 and I'm hoping that I'm making the right choice at this time for his sake. I'm to the point that I'm just zoning because I'm trying to work through so much! Keep me in prayer we are approaching year 5.
Your story relates so much like mine, i was married at 21, had 2 children and never felt fullfiled inside! 10 years later, I decided to divorce a year ago and everyone is so much happier, we can actually communicate better and our kids 3 and 6 years old our happier without parents arguing all the time! It was for the better. Thank you for this video, I know I’m not alone!
I waited for the kids to grow up and started over . It’s amazing how much pressure you learn to live under but once your free and your healing comes 🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
This is confirmation that marrying @ young age is not for everybody. When I was in early 20s, I was pressured by all the women in my family to marry my ex-boyfriend. Mainly b/c he was in the military & a good guy, I simply felt we were too young. I wanted to finish college & had plans to travel the world. Long story short, we grew apart and I'm so happy I doubled down on my decision. Also, I've had the opportunity to enjoy being young woman. Now, I'm in 30s, single & childless. I have better sense of what I'm looking for in man/partner. Plus, I've had time to accomplish my dreams & set new goals. I'm just so happy I didn't settle for the 1st man who looked @ me!!
I really wish family, friends would stop pressuring folks that they need to jump a gadam broom and get married and that it is needed [for whatever reason they think]. Some folks get married and don't even want to be married and daily it is a struggle to do something that they really were not meant to do or at least at that time.
2 great questions period... Which has NOTHING TO DO WITH MARRIAGE...Alot of it is us needing to become one with Christ.. Marriage is suppose to bring out what you need correcting... The last thing Marriage is about is happiness especially if you looking for someone else to make you happy
I left my ex fiancé and that was the best(not one of) decision of my life! I dodged such a huge bullet and I would have never met the amazing women I’m with now!
Listening on 8/2020 and is so real, I wait for 20 years, feeling guilty for the decision of divorce, but now after 11 years of being divorce, I thank God for the decision, not caring what people thinks but to really cares what God want for me, respect and self esteem. Waiting for the one God have for me.
Thank you for sharing you story. The only thing that I would like to add is that we must seek the word of God in every situation, so that we can make the right decision. We should not rely on our feeling to make a decision because they are not always the reality of what is truly taking place. I don’t think that you were intentionally trying to lead anyone array, but there’s an important part that is missing which is the word of God. We can’t just express that if someone is not happy that people should ultimately end their marriages. I know that’s not what you were specifically trying to say, but there were parts in the video that could be taken out of context and that’s why I am writing this comment. I rarely post comments on people pages, but I felt that I needed to in order to help someone who may or may not fully understand your message as a whole. As a fellow sister in Christ, we are here to encourage each other especially when we are doing the work of the Father. I do agree that God did not put all marriages together, but that does not mean that the blood of Jesus cannot make this right for the Bible states that there is nothing impossible for God. We must see what the word has to say about this in a few verses about marriage and divorce, but for the sake of this video a good reference would be 1 Corinthians 7:10-16. There’s alway two sides to the word of God even when it is pertaining to truth. There’s always a clause that will help us understand what God means in His word and how we can deal with different situations that may or may not present itself. Though, I liked and agreed with a lot that you shared which was true about marriages in the past, about making mistakes and God being a forgiving God, I just know one thing that God will NEVER contradict His word for us. Biblically speaking, we cannot get divorced just because we are not happy. God is more concerned about our salvation than anything else. For what shall it profit us, if we have a good husband or wife here on earth, but we forfeit our souls because of it. I know that the only sin that God will not forgive is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, but we need to tread lightly about what we say is okay because of the grace of God. Again, thank you for sharing the testimony. Most people don’t ever muster up the faith to share theirs, so I thank you for sharing yours. I understand that this is your story and I respect what God is doing in all of our lives. Our journeys will never be the same, but all and all I thank God for the BLOOD of JESUS that takes away the sins of the world. Where would we be without His sacrifice, I know that I would be dammed for all eternity. Grace and leave to you sis.
Thank you for your comment. I do believe that God can turn any marriage around. I also believe that in order for Him to be glorified in a renewed marriage, both spouses must WANT to repent and be transformed. My ex-husband was in a perpetual state of drug addiction and adultery. After much prayer, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that he has an unrepentant heart and the moment he committed adultery, with no possibility of repenting and asking to be forgiven, I was released from the marriage. My ex-husband is mourning the death of his 2nd ex-wife, his self-professed soul mate, with his mistress.
TamaraScott Online Thank you for sharing Tamara. I know sometimes the Holy Spirit may or may not allow us to share certain things about our journey for whatever reason that it is, but that would have been a missing piece that would give those who do not fully understand Biblical reasons to which someone may or may not get a divorce. I think that people who don’t fully understand your testimony can learn a lot from what you just shared in this message. My condolences to your ex-husband and his wife’s family. I hope that this will open his eyes to repent.
HOW ABOUT 2 DECADES AND HOW ABOUT 3 DAYS IN... 19 YEARS AGO... OH MY GOD, WHY, WHAT HAVE I DONE. I CAN’T BELIEVE I DID THIS. AND EVEN MORE KEPT IN IT ALL THIS TIME AND STILL AM;; GOING RIGHT ON THE SAME DESTRUCTIVE PATH... OH GOD HELP ME!
People make mistakes and God knows this. If a person bought a bad car, how many of you would keep pouring money and time into trying to fix something that is simply unfixable? I'm not saying to not try to fix the marriage, but at some point, if the two parties can't live in peace, move on.
Its so sad to see so many married couples unhappy. Am single and listening to there comment. Marriage is a huge commitment and both partners have to communicate about everything to make it work.But if there not the one sent from god then it will not work .
Interestingly maybe you had to spend that 10 years in that relationship because you would have never accomplished what you’ve accomplished and would have not known how good this second relationship is. I’d say for women 30+ and men 35+ based on what I’ve seen around me.
Im in this situation right now. 2 children as well. Wanted to leave but husband in denial that somethings wrong. Married at age 26 husband was 36 at the time. We were friends and got pregnant felt marriage will be the right thing to do. Nothing worse than feeling trapped in marriage with children and spouse not wanting to seek help or let u go.
Married at 29. Settled because being married before 30 was the biggest thing ever for me. 3 kids later, 4 kids total. 7 years in and we're both regretful. 3 seperations total. Glad I watched this.
It be the devil trying to get you to want to stay in a bad relationship. Also the devil wants you to feel ashamed about you being single in your season.
Rebecca this was the one I absolutely needed. It felt like the truth was staring me in the mirror and I needed to just acknowledge and be okay with that. THANK YOU
we don't want to admit our mistakes, thats why we stay, we dont want to admit it to ourselves. its harder to admit we were wrong with our choices, than to prove we were right, so we stay and fight.
At the time I wasnt a super religious person but I was not at peace with those relationships that weren't from me. I found that I wasnt challenged to do be my best in those relationships. One was hard to shake because he was a great guy and cared for me. But he didnt challenge me (he agreed with everything I said and do, even though we both had a passion for nutrition and health I wanted to help others and he only wanted it for himself). I did not feel at peace with this person and constantly ran from him. I found that I was attracting men that I didnt respect because I didnt believe I could attract what I wanted. When I started to believe and put action towards my purpose. I meet men that did the same and worked on self development.
I am married now and I have been with my husband for 20 years together and 10 years married but I feel like we aren't right for one another. I have 4 children with him but one of our daughters passed away in 2019. I didn't ask God if he was my spouse but I just got married because I believe that it was the next step so now I am so scared and nervous with the next steps in my life but the bonus is I am a stay at home mom with nothing to my name but a man who I have been with since I was 19 and he was 32 now I am 39 and he is 52 but now we are on two sides that aren't the same WOW
I needed to hear this. I am going through this right now. I was married at 23 years old and I knew within the first year that it was not for me. Then five years in I wanted to divorce but because I was in Church I decided to stay and stick it out. Now going into 22 years married and discovered a while back that my husband is a covert narc. I always felt that something was wrong with him but did not know what it was.
I got myself out of that toxic relationship it took me 9 Year's and I have 2 kid's but I'm so glad I didn't get married to they father because that was the wrong person and I hate it took me so long to get out but when that soul thes is real but now i got a wonderful God fearing man I'm with now he's my soulmate and the one that God sent to me and my life is better than ever before and I thank him everyday for sending him my way..
My last relationship lasted 16 years should have left sooner unfortunately he pass away suddenly while in the relationship it was a sad day of my life but I wouldn’t have find the man who I’m suppose to be with and who is open to marriage It was devastating the relationship ended in tragedy. God definitely had something better for me, I believe things happen for a reason. Im in a happy space with my new man with a plan. Thank you for sharing a plan. I own this ❤️
Wow this is me, I got divorced after 8 months of marriage. I can honestly say it was the best decision I made to let go. I wasn’t happy and knew it wasn’t the right situation for me. Thank you for this 🙂👏🏽
Thank YOU, Rebecca. I feel better knowing that the age to get marry as a women is 26 and up, or even 30 and up. I dont feel like I'm so behind since I'm 31 now. I definitely have mature more than my 20s.
I can only say thank YOU.. I needed answers and everything you have said is my life.. I'm in a marriage where I'm miserable not because my wife is a bad person but because we aren't just compatible. For so long ive wanted out but I keep holding on
This is Rebecca's story: married young, then felt disappointed by reality. But how can people in general tell how it will work out? And how can you tell if a marriage with problems can be fixed or if the only option for the sanity of the two parties is separation? I say that because I think many marriages go through hard times. I have listened to Shaunti Feldhahn talk about how marriages that seem on the brink of collapse can be repaired when the women learn to respect the man more, or the man learns to be more kind. It seems that Rebecca tried everything available, but there may be solutions for other couples in trouble.
So glad to hear this testimony, for I felt so guilty after my divorce. You ask yourself what I should’ve, would’ve, could’ve done differently because of my faith also.. thank you so much for sharing. Confirming I did do the right thing. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
But think of all the people that marry the wrong person but have nowhere to go. They can't afford to move out/lose the house. They put everything into the marriage. What do they do now?
Start a career in real estate or sell insurance. Need a career where the sky is the limit Or a career in sales!!! Can’t support yourself off a hourly wage job.
You are so right because it's so many people get in relationships and God did not put it together that's why it fails all the time that's why this time around God sent me my soulmate he put this relationship together we didn't so I know it's going to go all the way.
God ordained put my relationship together with my soulmate...but just know that we still go through things...It seems Gods favor will allow you to endure and not allow it to break you...Its a blessing through it all..read Hosea...in the bible...God ordained marriage and also how Israel turned their backs on their God..we are Israel today...🙏
Wow! This is me and my current husband! I knew when I said “I do” , I wasn’t going to be happy! I knew BEFORE I said “I do” that I shouldn’t have! I was pressured due to having a child outside of marriage!
Man! This is the situation I’m in now. That pressure can weigh you down ... especially when it comes from ppl you trust! We had children so they said we had to and we did and now it’s a mess !🤦🏾♀️
When you changed the camera around and said the light was making you look dark, I felt God put it on my heart to tell you that you are beautiful and dark is beautiful 💗✌🏼 It's ok to look dark 😊💕
I needed to hear this. I married the guy I had my first relationship with at the age of 14. And because I was nieve and not my own individual I agreed and went along with everything he said and did. Now that I ask questions and highlight behaviors it's always a quarrel. I used to be able to talk to him about anything, now he blows up on me. And whenever we're talking/ quarreling about an issue he is always telling me I'm wrong and crazy and the newest title is I'm wicked, and changing the topic. He fails to see my point of view in anything only his logical reasons matter. When I asked if he will go to counseling he said if I have a problem let me go fix myself. I'm now 33years with 2 children and seriously considering divorce.
This is exactly my story! Got married at 23 to my wife who was 22. I had only dated one persons and she never dated anyone. We are 10 years into marriage with 2 children And are at a point where the relationship needs to be ended. I believe both of us are too afraid and not ready to deal with that. Sex and intimacy have been an issue since day one and in pre-marriage counseling sex was never addressed other than her saying “it will be fine once we are married.”
I could relate to this so much ;( been married to my high school sweetheart for the last 6 years, and the past year or so I feel like I cannot breathe anymore :(
You reached me. I married my wife in Las Vegas in 1991, after living together for a year. We are both 68 now and realize we don't have much in common, and both want to move on. I always felt like only 70% in love, not 100% like it should be. Freinds would tell me not to get stressed about it because like the Paula Abdul song "Opposites Attract" and are the best marriages. Thank you.
Sadly…I felt that same feeling before saying “I do" and literally the day of and time after. God couldn’t have been any louder. I struggled and still struggle filtering out my ego verses what is actually my intuition guiding me!
I'm in tears at work right now driving because this is exactly what I've been saying for a long time when Jesus talked to the woman at the well he told her that she had been married five times previously and the man she was married to at that particular time was not her husband also so we look at the woman at the well and she was married six times and none of those men with her husband because that's what Christ told her so it is very well evident that you can marry people that God did not have in his will for your life but because of disobedient and you being hard headed and wanted to be married just because you wanted to be married you end up in bad marriages I have been there I have done that and I do not want to do that again thank you for your boldness in this video because Christian folk will always try to tell you that you not supposed to divorce but the devil is a liar some people GOD did not ordain for us to marry and once we see it we have to make a decision. There is no age attached to marriage. Age has nothing to do with it. But when you are mature and you understand what it means to be married GOD Bless u. Other than that the enemy has infiltrated the union of marriage it out of control. Marriage is now a licence to have sex, live together, and survive in this world and tolerate people for years with no growth anywhere in the relationship. So they do it like its a contract until someone breaches it. Nawww everyone isn't built for marriage because it has been distorted throughout time what it means there is a mixed ideology about it and immature ignorance so they fail and this generation does it like ordering out food id they don't like something they cancel the order and go to another restaurant.
She was not legally married/covenanted with them through holy matrimony. She had sexual relations with them, remember how the Bible says that if you join yourself to a harlot you become one with them? Soul ties is what that scripture is referencing.
Thank you soooooo much Rebecca! This message really encouraged and touched me! I am now looking forward to the future and expectant of fruitfulness that will enter my life!!
Your story is also my testimony. At 37yrs old I am now starting over again after surviving a very toxic 13 yr marriage with two kids. Thank God for second chances and a peace of mind 🙌
I just came across this. This hits home for me. I got married at 49 and in the first year I started getting signs but stick and stay six years because I kept telling myself that it was a covenant and God don't owners divorce. I was trying to make it work but he didn't care. I'm out now for a year.
Wow! I literally searched for this question and listening to you makes me feel so good; because I'm in that situation right now! And you literally explained how I feel. I've been feeling so guilty about having to walk away but I can say, this gives me so much courage and confidence. I have felt really understood from this. Thank you so much dearie. Bless you ❤️
Another scenario is being with someone at 16 and getting married 15 years and 4 kids later. It takes your youth and there was a reason why it took 15 years to marry... it wasn't meant to be.
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After being married and now divorced. We often say we married the wrong person.. from experience I’ll say this.... you married the wrong person for you. Doesn’t mean their wrong for someone else.
Absolutely... I married the wrong person for me... saw lots of signs that I can look back at now and think.. damn it was right there in my face . I was young and ignored lots of things... he’s not a horrible person but definitely not the man that was meant for me.
He's not for me
That was the point of the message. Sometimes people do marry abusive people. They are no good for anyone. 🌻
100%
So true
I was in a previous engagement. Made the dumb mistake of buying a house together prior to marriage. The relationship was a nightmare! Left her and lost so much money, but I had the biggest smile on my face! Now I sit and think that if I hadn’t left, I would have never met my beautiful wife!
You dodged a bullet
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@@thebossupacademy7261 Aggie Pride!!!
EXACTLY
@@Aggie4life77 Aggie Pride to y’all both, from a Bennett Belle all day!💙🔔
I knew the day I got married that I was making a terrible mistake but I did it anyway and I will always regret it
You spoke nothing but the truth. "People secretly are in miserable marriages." Great video!
But they keep up appearances. I know several people in that situation, but they hate losing so they stay. It might work out in the end, you never know.
That's because God didn't put them together
@@SimplisticallyDigital THIS is common.
I knew 3-4 months in. 3 kids, 15 years after I was drained, exhausted and severely damaged. It's been 10 years later and I am still healing.
Sorry to hear that!! I hope you'll find your way out smoothly through that grieving process
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Wow I feel drained aswel 15 years 4 kids but am not happy,we have trust issues ,my marriage is abusive..... don't know wat to do I feel for my kids 😭😭😭😭
WOW! I am in tears.😢 After 28 years in the wrong marriage, I got divorced. I knew more than 10 years before I ended it, that it was over. Thank you for this; I must share.
I am happy for you!
Thank you for actually making a video on marrying the wrong person. So many of these are like "oh we all marry 'the wrong person' or generally try to persuade the other way. I get it- marriage is sacred and should be, but many people (me included) ACTUALLY married the wrong person. This is refreshing. Appreciate it.
I hear that a lot of married couples knew they shouldn’t have been married to their spouse at the alter or a few months into the marriage. I just got divorced this year. I pray I find the love and peace that God intended Marriage to be.
Wow this spoke to my soul I can't believe it. I'm 30 as well now and going through my own divorce after 3 years of marriage. Being married was a choice that I made from having a child with my 6 year best friend at the time. I didn't want our kid to be out of wedlock so I felt it was the right thing to do. However I knew from a few months of living with each other for the 1st time that something was really wrong. And that wrong feeling carried on the whole 3 years. As crazy as it sounds I'm grateful for my experience because I've learned a lot and I'm a much better person going forward.
Why do you guys marry women who sleep around with you. You guys should not sleep around. Marry the woman who does not sleep around. That's what happens. These women will trap you will friendship, kids and then marriage. It is a desperate move because these kind of women are insecure, they dont have any self worth, self respect or integrity. Low character is what you guys attract with these kind of women. FWB is the worst!
People don't talk about this topic enough...refreshing to hear such a similar situation. You do everything and it just doesn't work. Let it go, heal and live in truth. Life is too short ....God didn't put a lot of these marriages together. Do the work necessary and free yourself
No matter the age there's love after a divorce!
I'm ready and waiting for my second chance at the right Love!
mommy & me 🙏🏾
Are you sure? Coz she talks a lot about how visual guys are .. let’s face the truth ... it gets harder as you get older and have baggage? Or I’m i just jaded ??
@mommy & me. Yes!!!💯 God has a special man for you!! Self Love 💕 first.... Positive Vibes!!😊💜💕
@@mommyme6073 I so needed to hear that
Interesting, MANY who marry already know that going down the aisle 'this shit ain't gon work, what da fugg am I doing' but you've made all these gastronomical high-priced wedding plans...so very sad. IF we stop making marriage out to be some kind of prize or reward, maybe we will stop fantasizing, romanticizing and WORSHIPPING marriage. This is what happens when you make marriage YOUR IDOL...and we know how God feels about idolatry, don't we? Good luck to everyone. Life is hard enough and filled with enough challenges. Stop listening to folks telling you YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED. Nothing is wrong with marriage. Nothing is wrong with a shoe either...except when it is not the right size: too big, too small, does your feet nor your NO GOOD. IJS.....
Alright 💯 still good advice 4 yrs later
My first marriage ended because I knew going in that we weren’t the right fit for one another. There was absolutely nothing that I could do to change him. It was difficult at first, but I do not regret leaving the marriage. My 2nd husband was a much better fit and we built a great life together before he passed 2 years ago.
😥😥 Want to be married and that part scares me.
@@lightinthedusk Even with all that, it is still not 100% that it will work.
Sorry for ur lost ....
Did you get into marriage to change someone!? 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 Like really???....... 👀 You got issues
@@lightinthedusk for me attraction is the root of the problem.
So glad I found this. This gave me the clarity that I needed on letting a marriage go that has been very depressing. I am not happy and it hasn’t been a year yet, which will be next month. However, at 32, I refuse to go another year or even ten years miserable. Thank you for blessing us with your story.
Sitting here in tears because everything you’ve said hit home. I just turned 30, married at 25 and have been going through it. Thank you for being lead to post this video because it brought me so much clarity.
This spoke to me. This was me from age 20- just before my 29th birthday. I literally felt drained trying to make it work. As soon as i left i felt lighter and motivated. I'm now 30 and training in a new career!
Thank you for this honest and transparent conversation, Mrs. Pope. There are a lot of people (quiet as it's kept) who have married the wrong person and are trying to "stick it out" despite the major issues and the fact that they are incompatible.
" I knew going in, going down the aisle, 2 years in, etc... it was a mistake" I have heard this sooooo many MANY times.
I’m soooooo glad I found this VIDEO ! I got married at 20 and I’m now 29 and I finally opened my eyes and I’m ready to turn my life around and be happy again . I’ve been doing all the work in my marriage and my husband is very nonchalant and he don’t fight for our marriage he show he doesn’t care . I’m getting all the signs and I keep trying and trying . So now I’m done and I pray for the strength to get through this !
This is the realest video regarding divorce from a Christian woman I’ve seen after watching about 50 videos. Thank you 🙏🏽
That pressure is so real!! We are told marriage is hard work... it shouldn’t be miserable, it’s effort, it shouldnt be suffering and hard work all the time, I felt obligated to go through with the wedding because a lot of people were there and I didn’t want to let them down, I felt obligated because we had a child and my family said stay and make it work for my family... I was loyal even though I wasn’t happy. I knew going into the relationship we weren’t supposed to be long term.. every time we broke up I felt bad because “I was breaking up the family” and went back... we were totally opposite and I went to counseling before the wedding and I told the counselor well opposites attract right? She said they do, but ppl with like interests and similarities stay together... I was like well 😩 now what.. there was a lot of pressure to MAKE it work.. my mom always said if it don’t fit don’t force it... I absolutely commend people who say no to marriage proposals because they just know it won’t work or to men who’ve been with good women but don’t propose because they know that woman isn’t his wife... I wasn’t strong enough to say no although I know it wasn’t supposed to be. And it doesn’t mean my ex was a horrible person.. we were not compatible.. and I forced something that wasn’t supposed to fit. Wishing him future love and happiness and partnership with someone that’s for him. Everything you said resonates... everything!!
I can relate. I married at 25 to my college sweetheart right after finishing graduate school. I saw the signs before marriage during premarital counseling but ignored them since we had been together 7 yrs. After a few months in, I knew it was not going to work. I stayed for 3 years. Luckily, we did not have kids. I sold our home before leaving, and so we had no financial ties. No regrets in divorcing.
Hi Aretha, may I ask what were the signs you saw but ignored during pre-marital counseling..?
Would you say you have healed from the divorce?
@@manofvision Absolutely! It ended 20 years ago. I’m also not one to hold on to past hurt. Plus, there was not anything traumatic about the break-up or divorce. It was a clean divorce. I didn’t want anything.
@@ArethaRenee Are you a Christian? And did you remarry?
@@manofvisionJesus is my Lord and Savior; however, I’m not religious. I’m not remarried but am in a long- term, committed relationship.
This message was meant for me. 13 years in a marriage I should've ended year 2.
1 year into a marriage that must end now. Let me get out please
Bout to hit 2years, and I can’t stay another month. I gots to leave
God doesn't want us to be miserable. Peace, joy and forgiveness. This forgiveness from ourselves for ourselves. God forgave us already.
I was 25 when I got married and I knew after the honeymoon, I made a poor choice. The red flags appeared before I was married. I'm now divorced and a single mom to 4 kids. Much better off.
Just take your time...pray and wait on GOD's best!
You are never going to get married to a single man, unless maybe a single father
@@CarlosRuiz-gg5wn how do you know🤣🤣🥴
Most men don’t want to get too seriously involved with women that have multiple children, especially young children! That’s just how it is! A single mother of four is not impossible to meet someone who connects with her, but it’ll be a little more difficult! But if being with the husband/father was unbearable you have to move on I guess!
She called it a prison, that’s how I been describing my situation for over 21 years
This is the realest I've listened to about marriage. Others make you feel that your first marriage should be your forever when in fact it wasn't from God and there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people don't reveal themselves until marriage.
When I filed for divorce, my ex mother in law was upset that I wanted to divorce her son. I wasn't happy because of his infidelity and now he has no contact with my daughters and he married his mistress. (I also married at a young age-24)
I have repented....Asked God for forgiveness....& Im praying & Seeking God for where I belong.....
Me too
This is great because churches are teaching that one has to stay.... People are living in such insanity, unhappiness, and pure hell in some circumstances. Being in these circumstances brings a delay in the way one should be going.... God never said we are suppose to live like. Sometimes people are goaded into staying and living in the pressure and demands,,,, God help if youre from a family who is rooted in ministry..OMG...them the other dynamic of "appearances" come into play... People need this...People are being delayed for no reason when one needs to get OUT....It's between yourself and God. People don't have to live with that and they aren't walking in the other shoes...
The church says a lot of things. God gave us a brain to think and we need to use it. The church doesn't have to live in a house where a marriage is not only bad but toxic and sometimes dangerous. I was raised by people who stayed together. I'm 48 now and still bear the scars from their toxic marriage.
I stayed in a relationship after he cheated got married, married for ten years he cheated again I divorced last August I'm glad and I'm free God Bless.
This is so true I spent to years trying to convince someone that I was a good Man, and no matter what I did it was never enough. I had to learn that you can't love someone enough that don't truly love you back. Ioved being a husband just praying that God would send me someone that will be my true soulmate.
😊 you got out of the relationship. Nobody wants a cheater!
This is so true! I knew within the first 6 months, but because we had spent so much on the wedding I stayed and hoped it would get better and it never did. Married 6 years and finally got the strength to leave. Thank God my son is just a toddler.
You said everything that I have felt for the past 12 years. Thank you for this video. Such a great encouragement!
Hi! Thank you for this! It's 2022 and I just came across this after saying this to myself and having the "Divorce" conversation with my husband. I'm in tears and just praying for strength to actually go through the separation and divorcing period. This marriage has literally been draining me since the beginning and I just can't "fake it" anymore for anyone. I knew from the very beginning that this was NOT the one. I tried to tell others prior to the wedding day however, I was told to put my ring back on or that I just had "pre-wedding jitters" our son is about to turn 4 and I'm hoping that I'm making the right choice at this time for his sake. I'm to the point that I'm just zoning because I'm trying to work through so much! Keep me in prayer we are approaching year 5.
This video hit hard for those of us on the edge.
My heart is breaking right now because I know you are telling the truth
Your story relates so much like mine, i was married at 21, had 2 children and never felt fullfiled inside! 10 years later, I decided to divorce a year ago and everyone is so much happier, we can actually communicate better and our kids 3 and 6 years old our happier without parents arguing all the time! It was for the better. Thank you for this video, I know I’m not alone!
Wow iv never had the courage to leave 😭😭😭😭 15 years,4 kids were do I start from am drained 😭😭😭
I waited for the kids to grow up and started over . It’s amazing how much pressure you learn to live under but once your free and your healing comes 🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
This is confirmation that marrying @ young age is not for everybody. When I was in early 20s, I was pressured by all the women in my family to marry my ex-boyfriend. Mainly b/c he was in the military & a good guy, I simply felt we were too young. I wanted to finish college & had plans to travel the world. Long story short, we grew apart and I'm so happy I doubled down on my decision. Also, I've had the opportunity to enjoy being young woman. Now, I'm in 30s, single & childless. I have better sense of what I'm looking for in man/partner. Plus, I've had time to accomplish my dreams & set new goals. I'm just so happy I didn't settle for the 1st man who looked @ me!!
Married according to the word of God and you can't go wrong too Young is not an excuse either with God or without God that's the answer
I really wish family, friends would stop pressuring folks that they need to jump a gadam broom and get married and that it is needed [for whatever reason they think]. Some folks get married and don't even want to be married and daily it is a struggle to do something that they really were not meant to do or at least at that time.
Sounds like you hit the wall.. career over family is a no for me, but whatever makes you happy.
@@godschosen4291 I am happy!!
@@godschosen4291 Sounds like u choose to be a mule! To each is own😏
I received this message. Been there and working on me so I will be ready again for the marriage I’m supposed to be in.
AMEN
one day I realized,"why am I looking to someone else to make me happy? How am I honoring God by sitting and simmering in misery and bitterness?"
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2 great questions period... Which has NOTHING TO DO WITH MARRIAGE...Alot of it is us needing to become one with Christ.. Marriage is suppose to bring out what you need correcting... The last thing Marriage is about is happiness especially if you looking for someone else to make you happy
I left my ex fiancé and that was the best(not one of) decision of my life! I dodged such a huge bullet and I would have never met the amazing women I’m with now!
I'ts so nice to hear you met your match the second time. You're a blessed woman! Congratulations! Praise the Lord!
Listening on 8/2020 and is so real, I wait for 20 years, feeling guilty for the decision of divorce, but now after 11 years of being divorce, I thank God for the decision, not caring what people thinks but to really cares what God want for me, respect and self esteem. Waiting for the one God have for me.
Thank you for sharing you story. The only thing that I would like to add is that we must seek the word of God in every situation, so that we can make the right decision. We should not rely on our feeling to make a decision because they are not always the reality of what is truly taking place.
I don’t think that you were intentionally trying to lead anyone array, but there’s an important part that is missing which is the word of God. We can’t just express that if someone is not happy that people should ultimately end their marriages.
I know that’s not what you were specifically trying to say, but there were parts in the video that could be taken out of context and that’s why I am writing this comment. I rarely post comments on people pages, but I felt that I needed to in order to help someone who may or may not fully understand your message as a whole. As a fellow sister in Christ, we are here to encourage each other especially when we are doing the work of the Father.
I do agree that God did not put all marriages together, but that does not mean that the blood of Jesus cannot make this right for the Bible states that there is nothing impossible for God. We must see what the word has to say about this in a few verses about marriage and divorce, but for the sake of this video a good reference would be 1 Corinthians 7:10-16.
There’s alway two sides to the word of God even when it is pertaining to truth. There’s always a clause that will help us understand what God means in His word and how we can deal with different situations that may or may not present itself.
Though, I liked and agreed with a lot that you shared which was true about marriages in the past, about making mistakes and God being a forgiving God, I just know one thing that God will NEVER contradict His word for us. Biblically speaking, we cannot get divorced just because we are not happy. God is more concerned about our salvation than anything else. For what shall it profit us, if we have a good husband or wife here on earth, but we forfeit our souls because of it. I know that the only sin that God will not forgive is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, but we need to tread lightly about what we say is okay because of the grace of God.
Again, thank you for sharing the testimony. Most people don’t ever muster up the faith to share theirs, so I thank you for sharing yours. I understand that this is your story and I respect what God is doing in all of our lives. Our journeys will never be the same, but all and all I thank God for the BLOOD of JESUS that takes away the sins of the world. Where would we be without His sacrifice, I know that I would be dammed for all eternity. Grace and leave to you sis.
Thank you for your comment. I do believe that God can turn any marriage around. I also believe that in order for Him to be glorified in a renewed marriage, both spouses must WANT to repent and be transformed. My ex-husband was in a perpetual state of drug addiction and adultery. After much prayer, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that he has an unrepentant heart and the moment he committed adultery, with no possibility of repenting and asking to be forgiven, I was released from the marriage. My ex-husband is mourning the death of his 2nd ex-wife, his self-professed soul mate, with his mistress.
TamaraScott Online Thank you for sharing Tamara. I know sometimes the Holy Spirit may or may not allow us to share certain things about our journey for whatever reason that it is, but that would have been a missing piece that would give those who do not fully understand Biblical reasons to which someone may or may not get a divorce.
I think that people who don’t fully understand your testimony can learn a lot from what you just shared in this message. My condolences to your ex-husband and his wife’s family. I hope that this will open his eyes to repent.
I absolutely agree
HOW ABOUT 2 DECADES AND HOW ABOUT 3 DAYS IN... 19 YEARS AGO... OH MY GOD, WHY, WHAT HAVE I DONE. I CAN’T BELIEVE I DID THIS. AND EVEN MORE KEPT IN IT ALL THIS TIME AND STILL AM;; GOING RIGHT ON THE SAME DESTRUCTIVE PATH... OH GOD HELP ME!
People make mistakes and God knows this. If a person bought a bad car, how many of you would keep pouring money and time into trying to fix something that is simply unfixable? I'm not saying to not try to fix the marriage, but at some point, if the two parties can't live in peace, move on.
Its so sad to see so many married couples unhappy. Am single and listening to there comment. Marriage is a huge commitment and both partners have to communicate about everything to make it work.But if there not the one sent from god then it will not work .
Interestingly maybe you had to spend that 10 years in that relationship because you would have never accomplished what you’ve accomplished and would have not known how good this second relationship is.
I’d say for women 30+ and men 35+ based on what I’ve seen around me.
Thanks for this message. This is confirmation that I made the right decisions. I was down and out feeling like I was a failure.
Im in this situation right now. 2 children as well. Wanted to leave but husband in denial that somethings wrong. Married at age 26 husband was 36 at the time. We were friends and got pregnant felt marriage will be the right thing to do. Nothing worse than feeling trapped in marriage with children and spouse not wanting to seek help or let u go.
Married at 29. Settled because being married before 30 was the biggest thing ever for me. 3 kids later, 4 kids total. 7 years in and we're both regretful. 3 seperations total. Glad I watched this.
That's why there's courtship.
Totally agree. I married at 21 and now looking back after 29 years , I would have made different choices.
It be the devil trying to get you to want to stay in a bad relationship. Also the devil wants you to feel ashamed about you being single in your season.
Rebecca this was the one I absolutely needed. It felt like the truth was staring me in the mirror and I needed to just acknowledge and be okay with that. THANK YOU
we don't want to admit our mistakes, thats why we stay, we dont want to admit it to ourselves. its harder to admit we were wrong with our choices, than to prove we were right, so we stay and fight.
At the time I wasnt a super religious person but I was not at peace with those relationships that weren't from me. I found that I wasnt challenged to do be my best in those relationships. One was hard to shake because he was a great guy and cared for me. But he didnt challenge me (he agreed with everything I said and do, even though we both had a passion for nutrition and health I wanted to help others and he only wanted it for himself). I did not feel at peace with this person and constantly ran from him. I found that I was attracting men that I didnt respect because I didnt believe I could attract what I wanted. When I started to believe and put action towards my purpose. I meet men that did the same and worked on self development.
The middle paragraph is totally me. I just don't feel peace about the relationship
That “dry spot” you talk about was sooooo on point. Very eye opening.
I am married now and I have been with my husband for 20 years together and 10 years married but I feel like we aren't right for one another. I have 4 children with him but one of our daughters passed away in 2019. I didn't ask God if he was my spouse but I just got married because I believe that it was the next step so now I am so scared and nervous with the next steps in my life but the bonus is I am a stay at home mom with nothing to my name but a man who I have been with since I was 19 and he was 32 now I am 39 and he is 52 but now we are on two sides that aren't the same WOW
I needed this. Thank you for your honesty. Trying to leave. Moved out in 6 months of marriage trying to divorce soon while it's 11 months marriage
I needed to hear this. I am going through this right now. I was married at 23 years old and I knew within the first year that it was not for me. Then five years in I wanted to divorce but because I was in Church I decided to stay and stick it out. Now going into 22 years married and discovered a while back that my husband is a covert narc. I always felt that something was wrong with him but did not know what it was.
I got myself out of that toxic relationship it took me 9 Year's and I have 2 kid's but I'm so glad I didn't get married to they father because that was the wrong person and I hate it took me so long to get out but when that soul thes is real but now i got a wonderful God fearing man I'm with now he's my soulmate and the one that God sent to me and my life is better than ever before and I thank him everyday for sending him my way..
My last relationship lasted 16 years
should have left sooner unfortunately
he pass away suddenly while in the
relationship it was a sad day of my
life but I wouldn’t have find the man
who I’m suppose to be with and who
is open to marriage It was devastating
the relationship ended in tragedy. God
definitely had something better for me,
I believe things happen for a reason.
Im in a happy space with my new man
with a plan. Thank you for sharing
a plan. I own this ❤️
Wow this is me, I got divorced after 8 months of marriage. I can honestly say it was the best decision I made to let go. I wasn’t happy and knew it wasn’t the right situation for me. Thank you for this 🙂👏🏽
Thank YOU, Rebecca. I feel better knowing that the age to get marry as a women is 26 and up, or even 30 and up. I dont feel like I'm so behind since I'm 31 now. I definitely have mature more than my 20s.
@Euphora eup thank you. Your comment is very meaningful
I can only say thank YOU.. I needed answers and everything you have said is my life.. I'm in a marriage where I'm miserable not because my wife is a bad person but because we aren't just compatible. For so long ive wanted out but I keep holding on
I admit I have made a mistake.....I am not happy.....Thank you so much for your words of wisdom
This is Rebecca's story: married young, then felt disappointed by reality. But how can people in general tell how it will work out? And how can you tell if a marriage with problems can be fixed or if the only option for the sanity of the two parties is separation?
I say that because I think many marriages go through hard times. I have listened to Shaunti Feldhahn talk about how marriages that seem on the brink of collapse can be repaired when the women learn to respect the man more, or the man learns to be more kind.
It seems that Rebecca tried everything available, but there may be solutions for other couples in trouble.
So glad to hear this testimony, for I felt so guilty after my divorce. You ask yourself what I should’ve, would’ve, could’ve done differently because of my faith also.. thank you so much for sharing. Confirming I did do the right thing. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
2 years late getting the message I've been married for 20 years we are polar opposite you are exactly right
Me 21, silently suffering
@@RawDeal-mo1ng it's a tough road
But think of all the people that marry the wrong person but have nowhere to go.
They can't afford to move out/lose the house. They put everything into the marriage. What do they do now?
Start a career in real estate or sell insurance. Need a career where the sky is the limit Or a career in sales!!! Can’t support yourself off a hourly wage job.
You are so right because it's so many people get in relationships and God did not put it together that's why it fails all the time that's why this time around God sent me my soulmate he put this relationship together we didn't so I know it's going to go all the way.
God ordained put my relationship together with my soulmate...but just know that we still go through things...It seems Gods favor will allow you to endure and not allow it to break you...Its a blessing through it all..read Hosea...in the bible...God ordained marriage and also how Israel turned their backs on their God..we are Israel today...🙏
😢😢😢 you don’t know how much I needed to hear this..thank you
About to leave my marriage of TW0 years so this video is helping a lot.
Wow! This is me and my current husband! I knew when I said “I do” , I wasn’t going to be happy! I knew BEFORE I said “I do” that I shouldn’t have! I was pressured due to having a child outside of marriage!
Man! This is the situation I’m in now. That pressure can weigh you down ... especially when it comes from ppl you trust! We had children so they said we had to and we did and now it’s a mess !🤦🏾♀️
When you changed the camera around and said the light was making you look dark, I felt God put it on my heart to tell you that you are beautiful and dark is beautiful 💗✌🏼
It's ok to look dark 😊💕
Perfectly said . Thank you for speaking the truth that so many of us experience and are not honest enough to open about it .
I needed to hear this. I married the guy I had my first relationship with at the age of 14. And because I was nieve and not my own individual I agreed and went along with everything he said and did. Now that I ask questions and highlight behaviors it's always a quarrel. I used to be able to talk to him about anything, now he blows up on me. And whenever we're talking/ quarreling about an issue he is always telling me I'm wrong and crazy and the newest title is I'm wicked, and changing the topic. He fails to see my point of view in anything only his logical reasons matter. When I asked if he will go to counseling he said if I have a problem let me go fix myself. I'm now 33years with 2 children and seriously considering divorce.
This is exactly my story! Got married at 23 to my wife who was 22. I had only dated one persons and she never dated anyone. We are 10 years into marriage with 2 children And are at a point where the relationship needs to be ended. I believe both of us are too afraid and not ready to deal with that. Sex and intimacy have been an issue since day one and in pre-marriage counseling sex was never addressed other than her saying “it will be fine once we are married.”
Im still stuck....situation is worse....& Im seeking God on HIS way out
Necessary gems for so many people and I pray they take heed
I could relate to this so much ;( been married to my high school sweetheart for the last 6 years, and the past year or so I feel like I cannot breathe anymore :(
Its even worse when you know for sure that its over before its over.
My parents never slept in the same room, and neither did their parents. One spouse could not handle the others snoring. Great advice. Thank you
You reached me. I married my wife in Las Vegas in 1991, after living together for a year. We are both 68 now and realize we don't have much in common, and both want to move on. I always felt like only 70% in love, not 100% like it should be. Freinds would tell me not to get stressed about it because like the Paula Abdul song "Opposites Attract" and are the best marriages. Thank you.
Sadly…I felt that same feeling before saying “I do" and literally the day of and time after. God couldn’t have been any louder. I struggled and still struggle filtering out my ego verses what is actually my intuition guiding me!
I'm in tears at work right now driving because this is exactly what I've been saying for a long time when Jesus talked to the woman at the well he told her that she had been married five times previously and the man she was married to at that particular time was not her husband also so we look at the woman at the well and she was married six times and none of those men with her husband because that's what Christ told her so it is very well evident that you can marry people that God did not have in his will for your life but because of disobedient and you being hard headed and wanted to be married just because you wanted to be married you end up in bad marriages I have been there I have done that and I do not want to do that again thank you for your boldness in this video because Christian folk will always try to tell you that you not supposed to divorce but the devil is a liar some people GOD did not ordain for us to marry and once we see it we have to make a decision. There is no age attached to marriage. Age has nothing to do with it. But when you are mature and you understand what it means to be married GOD Bless u. Other than that the enemy has infiltrated the union of marriage it out of control. Marriage is now a licence to have sex, live together, and survive in this world and tolerate people for years with no growth anywhere in the relationship. So they do it like its a contract until someone breaches it. Nawww everyone isn't built for marriage because it has been distorted throughout time what it means there is a mixed ideology about it and immature ignorance so they fail and this generation does it like ordering out food id they don't like something they cancel the order and go to another restaurant.
The women was married to them by having sex with them. She was in prostitution. Back then sex meant marriage.
@@harmonyranay07 right!
She was not legally married/covenanted with them through holy matrimony. She had sexual relations with them, remember how the Bible says that if you join yourself to a harlot you become one with them? Soul ties is what that scripture is referencing.
That scripture was about her sleeping with married men.
This is my story! Thank you for being so transparent!
Thank you soooooo much Rebecca! This message really encouraged and touched me! I am now looking forward to the future and expectant of fruitfulness that will enter my life!!
Thank you so much for this video! Just recently got married less than 1 month ago and it is all wrong
Your story is also my testimony. At 37yrs old I am now starting over again after surviving a very toxic 13 yr marriage with two kids. Thank God for second chances and a peace of mind 🙌
I just came across this. This hits home for me. I got married at 49 and in the first year I started getting signs but stick and stay six years because I kept telling myself that it was a covenant and God don't owners divorce. I was trying to make it work but he didn't care. I'm out now for a year.
Wow! I literally searched for this question and listening to you makes me feel so good; because I'm in that situation right now! And you literally explained how I feel. I've been feeling so guilty about having to walk away but I can say, this gives me so much courage and confidence. I have felt really understood from this. Thank you so much dearie. Bless you ❤️
I definitely believe this is for me.... I came searching for this. 15 years and have been ready to coach since year 1.
Ultimately people ignore the spirit telling them No! Most people put themselves together then God!
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Another scenario is being with someone at 16 and getting married 15 years and 4 kids later. It takes your youth and there was a reason why it took 15 years to marry... it wasn't meant to be.
7 yrs.. I've tried everything.. I've given everything.. I'm ready to pull the plug.