Though I 100% agree, in general.. When a person is invited to a wedding - there is meant to be a bit of an exchange, taking place. Yes, it is customary to give the bride and groom gifts and/or money - though, it’s generally in exchange for the celebration and event that takes place, and what is meant to go along, with that. Such as dinner and drinks, dancing, etc. And all around good time. Especially, if people are traveling and going out of their way, to attend. However, this isn’t some friend of this woman or whatever, that is getting married - it’s her damned brother. She is digging her heels in, to be difficult and entitled - not on genuine principle. This is the type of family and sister One can never rely on, in times of need and emergency - let alone celebration. I feel for that brother. My family is a lot like this, also.
This is how narcissists work. They do not think of a gift as a gift. It is a transaction that they can cash in on later. This is how their "love" is. It will always be conditional, no matter how much you, a non-narcissistic person, may care about them.
For real. I could understand and sympathize if it was only that she couldn't afford a proper gift after spending $500, but her attitude and entitlement that she has of "Relationships are transactional and I should get something out of YOUR wedding" just makes her so repugnant.
She’s autistic, I’m pretty sure. She’s rationalizing everything she’s doing to a logical level, rather than thinking about societal norms. Like Sheldon cooper would on TBBT💀
Rage bait implies that they don't belive what they ate saying and are just trying to get attention and resources becuase they have zero talent. Some people genuinely belive the stuff the spew out and are willing to lose freinds money and resources for it
1. She is mad at her sister, so she punishes her brother?! 2. She knew the sister had made mistakes in the past, yet she gets offended when asked for help about something that's literally specific to her needs. 3. She expects a return on investment for a wedding gift😂?? 4. She gossipped about the situation and her family to a handful of her friends before even deciding to record & post the TikTok. 5. Begs for feedback, but when she gets the feedback, she deflects, blocks people, and can not accept any type of backlash Just performed a narcissistic evaluation.😂 Edit: I almost forgot she bases her personality on her astrology symbol, and she considers having yo go get chinese for herself as being a "caretaker" for her brother and sister. The entitlement is literally insane.
Especially when she says the the comments have some type of trauma. When she is the one that probably has the trauma. She obviously doesn't really care about the brother and sister. Because of how she talks down to them. They are humans and that day wasn't about you but she obviously had to have it about her because she probably was like that with them growing up. Calling the sister a failure when she can't even be bothered to feed her own kid just to prove a point. That's disgusting.
Self centered comes in every astrological sign. She's using her interpretation of the traits of her star sign to excuse herself for behaving like a horrible human being, and somehow, she thinks it's justified because....Virgo. Stop it. Get some help.
I just Google, "Is Chinese food vegan?" The result said that most sauces are made with chicken broth. I wonder if she knew that since she didn't place the order. According to Google, most Thai food is not vegan. I wonder if she was positive that hers and daughter's food was.
The people that are most vocal about being vegan aren’t actually vegan. They just do it for attention or to simply boost their ego being they’re doing something “good” for the world 😂
Okay, so I've actually had a situation similar to this, at my own brothers wedding too. (I'm a girl) I'm autistic, and a picky eater. Now my brother and I (and his lovely wife ) all have very different palettes, so the food at the wedding was filled with food, I did not enjoy. But, I knew this in advance. (Not that anyone told me, I just know what food my brother and his wife like.) So I took a little lunchbox, It had my preferred food, now I did get some strange looks, from family who don't know me well, but in the end it was the best option. Everyone else got to enjoy their food, I enjoyed mine. I didn't bother anyone. The wedding went great. (Though I did leave the wedding hungry, since it was very long, and my lunchbox was small, but that was just poor planning, on my part.) The entitlement this girl had in the situation was awful, if this is a big deal to her, I couldn't imagine what it was like for her brother to grow up with her as a sister.
Veganism is a choice, Autism isn't. I think what you did was incredibly reasonable. You found a way to do the best you could and allowing others to enjoy their meals.And your family sounds incredibly understanding.Your close family at least. I'm also autistic and often cook for the people. I work with several vegetarians included. I do the best I can to accommodate them and I make sure no matter what I cook There's something for them to enjoy as well. If a vegan ever told me that I should have cooked something differently so they could eat it or to make sure that I don't cook something that offends them. I would throw it all in the garbage and tell everyone to blame them that they don't get to eat. Vegans don't struggle for their beliefs they make knowing them a struggle for those around them.
As someone with a restrictive diet for medical reasons, I'd be fine picking up my own food if they asked or I've even brought my own. She acted so entitled for no reason.
Legit. Had to do this once for a wedding I did attend, cause I have a pretty restrictive diet. I had zero issues picking up/bringing my own meal cause why the hell would I make the coordinators and caterers go out of their way to buy extra product to make a SINGLE meal. I've worked in catering, its stressful as hell! They don't need *more* work.
Y’a my only gripe is they called two hours before and if you’re not planning on that blergh. But then she was like oops gonna withhold the present for this mistake so I can’t be on her side at all😂
Typical narcissist. Create the problem, be super confrontational when the try to fix the problem and then blab about being a victim. If I was your family next time you just don't get invited.
4:02 ughhhh. She really thinks it’s about the meal. Meanwhile the wedding cost $10k+. She’s entitled person that became a vegan and doubled down. So obnoxious.
You don't need to say that she is vegan, and say that she is entitled. If she's vegan, being entitled is implied. Entitlement and privilege are prerequisites for veganism.
@@pkz420 How is being vegan entitled when you as a meat eater are feeling entitled to animals lives. Also, you can eat vegan for cheap it doesn't require privilege.
@@silververnallbells191 When Vegans need labs to get meat tasting whatever the hell ya want. You cannot critique nature when you need affronts to nature in order to taste something you have right in front of you as a human who can hunt. So 🤷🏾♂️
@@jenneacubero1036Her ancestors would give her brother and his wife a gift if they were invited. Wait till she attends a Nigerian wedding where guest throw money on the dance floor to the bride and groom. Nobody gets paid back for that. They do that for baby showers too.
My cousin got married not long ago. Her sister and me didn't even eat at the wedding, we were hosting the guests. We waited until the wedding ended to eat with the rest of the family who were cooking and helping. They did the same on my wedding!! It's not because it's transactional, it's because we care and love them.
@6:15 she says she drove 5 hours to get to the wedding, so she drove, and went straight to the wedding, no hotel stop. But earlier in the video she said she told the coordinator that she lives only 15 minutes away from the venue! Which is it, Karen?
Not only is it not a big deal, it's not even the brother's fault! According to her tge coordinator asked her to pickup the food so I fail to see why she would punish the brother????
I'm not sure why my comment got deleted, and I hadn't seen her 2nd tik tok yet 😅 she does mention it in that one, lol. But, yes, I totally agree. I also don't understand how she thinks her "clarification" would make things better! Like, "ohh now we understand, you're totally right, girl."
I get the sneaking feeling that she’s been lying from the start and intentionally made sure she would not get a vegan dish just to make things about herself. She just has that vibe.
Right! The reception was OBVIOUSLY catered, somehow. I feel… SALAD was an option (as it always is with caterers) and the caterers probably offered something like rice and said they’d roast the vegetable sides in olive oil instead of butter, and she was like, “I don’t want no damn salad and rice.”
As a Nigerian... I am so used to seeing siblings of the bride and groom being part of the event coordinators. As a sibling, you are the one other family and friends would call if they need anything. So I find it super weird that she's this nonchalant about her brother's wedding.
I copped out when she said "You know...I'm a Virgo. You get it" Seriously, what? Why do some people excuse their awful behavior because of their Zodiac sign? It has nothing to do with anything.
Can’t speak for @Finnjaymakes but … I’m pretty sure what they said isn’t racist. They’re most likely talking about all races as a whole. Grow up. Not everything is racist.
@@amytprincessamygaming6022 Never Said anything about Racism. I just Judged her based off of the Title. (Also I Just woke up Because I was Violently Coughing) So I’m not gonna Argue
In other words her sister has a successful business, her brother got married to her friend. I'm guessing she's lashing out at the brother for "stealing" her friend. What a damn child.
The gift at the wedding is not to help cut costs. Traditionally the parents pay for the wedding and the gift are to help the couple start their life and marriage/family.
I had a friend that admitted to me that the only reason they hung out with me was because I paid for their food when we went out to eat. (I was raised being told: "eating in front of people without offering them any is rude, unless you offer and they say no.") and all this friend normally had a her house was: cereal, canned food, or roman (she lived with her parents, we were 16) and we would go walking up town a lot, and it normally got late afternoon. so she would suggest stopping somewhere for lunch (she would never bring money), so I would pay her side, (despite not having much money myself) picture this happening almost every other day for 3 years. yet her acting like spending one dollar on a cheep necklace for my birthday (ONE TIME) was too much.....
Man, if I had a dietary restriction and Im going to a wedding, I'd have my own food to be sure. Theres no guarantee that the coordinator will accommodate a singular person when they have several things and people, mainly bride and groom, to deal with. Theres a lot on their plate so to expect them to start bending to the will of guests is outlandish especially when there were readily available options. Its not like its a destination wedding where the guests have to wait or be late to make sure they eat something, its in a city with 8 other stores, she just wanted to paint them all as the bad guy, I wonder what the family dynamic is like....
@@CraigTraversIm no vegan but I feel like that would cause a lot of problems if everyone doubled their meat intake .. 😭😭😭 Besides… Who could afford it 😭
1 - is her car and lifestyle completely vegan? and 2 - she be a thiccen nugget for someone that only eats grass and ice cubes... the math aint mathin'....
@@Michael-es4dtmost junk food actuqlly isnt vegan they contain milk(yk a animal product) so that automatically disqualifies most of it then most suaces are made using animal fat and oils as well... so unless ur eating a salad or going to a vegan restaurant u aint finding vegan junk food 😂
Honestly the part that bothers me most is that she made her child vegan :p vegetarian is fine, but with veganism you don’t rly get all the essential amino acids & nutrients your body needs to thrive. Adults can make that choice for themselves, but for growing children that didn’t choose their parents - it’s just frustrating
Was looking for this comment. She was willing to not feed her daughter food because she chose to make her daughter vegan and be petty enough not to get her the food just to later blame her brother and sister, that's messed up.
Imagine turning your personal decisions into everybody's problem lol. It's even worse when it's your brother's wedding which she cant compromise on. She just proved that she's an horrible person to be with. I feel bad for whoever decides to be with her
Yeah i wondered if anyone else had caught that, first it was her son and then it was her daughter, although these days maybe her son became her daughter on the drive over 😅
The level of entitled people that are also narcissistic on social media is crazy these days. I somehow missed the part where she thinks "any" Chinese food is going to be vegan...rofl
The fact that she called those out calling her out as having "unhealed trauma" before looking at her entitled self in the mirror? She's living in the land of Delulu! I wouldn't blame her brother and sister cutting off contact with her after dealing with her bs on one of the most important days for wedding. Toxicity at it's finest!
This girl is a bad sibling for sure. My step sister got married a while back and I didn’t hesitate to help out afterwards to clean up and get the dishes cleaned so they could save some money on the venue. Like damn they just spend a ton of money and have gone through all the hassle of getting the whole thing organized and she can’t even have the curtesy to pick up her own special food order, that’s just ridiculous.
5:30 #3 only giving gifts in order to get sth in return If you expect sth in return then it's not a gift. It's a transaction, a purchase, buy/sell situation. A gift is only truly a gift if you get nothing in return for it, or at the very least not expect sth in return
@@SindyJ37with the way she acts ... the fact that she's a single parent, with that attitude and entitlement? let's just say the math IS mathing. makes sense that no decent man would tolerate her bs, i feel for any man that accidentally gets sucked into her orbit 😂
I felt a little bad for her having a 5 hour drive and having to get her own food even though not getting a gift was kind of petty until she blamed her behaviour on her being a Vergo, now I hate her.
I love the fact you didn’t even spell “Virgo” correctly. BECAUSE IT DOESN’T DUCKING MATTERS (The “ducking” was on purpose. I got scolded by YT for cursing, yesterday).
I didn’t feel bad, my family is 5 hour drive away as well, it comes to the point where it’s normal to drive that far for a family member, I’d say if it were for anyone else or if it was further away it would be a problem but she came early and she knew there was no food for her , like there’s many solutions and she’s just being ignorant
Okay I am Indian and the cultural difference is interesting actually... 1.At our weddings veg options are always available even if it's for only one person. 2.We wouldn't ask that person to bring their own food from a store for any occasion it's extremely disrespectful But she was petty about the gift thing like isn't it your brother's wedding at the end of the day?
Wow… the way she threw her sister under the bus before we knew she was her sister🤨She says “her track record as a coordinator is not great” or something to that end. That was gross because no matter how bad her sister is at this job, she’s always gonna look like the ah for speaking about her that way. Unless you’re doing actual business, relationships *should not be* transactional. Of course if you’re giving everything of yourself and there’s no reciprocity, then by all means leave/set some boundaries. However, if everything you do for someone receives an asterisk until you get something in return, you are the one who’s triggered and needs therapy. The way she weaponized therapy terms and completely misused the concepts of colonialism and patriarchy is infuriating. You know, since those things are actually real and persist as serious problems in our society today, but this gives validity to the people who say those that see it are pulling it out of nowhere. The lack of self awareness for someone who uses such big words is a giant red flag for me. Being in a relationship with her of any kind must be a maddening experience. I would bet the gift of her attendance would’ve readily been returned and exchanged for something more pleasant if given the chance.✌️👋🙂↔️
What a narcissist. For her, the problem isn't her behavior, but all people, who call her out. They all must have trauma issues, she can't be wrong 🤦♂️
Honestly the entitlement is crazy, I do not expect the wedding coordinator to worry about my specific food need and yes I have dietary problems but guess what ? It’s not about me, it’s not my wedding tf am I gonna do
10:29 bruh she’s too lazy to even sit up to defend herself. Literally laying on a cozy, expensive pillow and she actually believes she’s the righteous one.
Wedding gifts "traditionally", are to help a new family get a start... not help cut wedding costs, or a "celebrate you". Traditionally the wedding is paid for by the brides father. The gifts are to help start a family and furnish the new family home. Small appliances, kitchenware, home-goods, baby stuff, or cash. They were not personal, or fun gifts like Christmas or a birthday. They were functional gifts to help start a married-family life. Much of that has changed, sure. But that was Western tradition.
I am struck speachless with infuriation... The fact that she's saying that it's ridiculous that they won't pick it up because it's so close to the wedding venue, yet at the same time she's saying it's outrageous that she should have to pick the food up herself because she drove so far when she's getting there an hour early, giving her plenty of time to go a few blocks to pick up the food. So she's made these people pay for it and refused to pick it up, or, if they hadn't payed yet, the restaurant employees did the labor for nothing because of her... W... T... F...?
I vouch you can be annoyed with driving 5 hours and your food not being there or it being wrong but it’s not your day just get something or shut up and enjoy the event
I can’t explain how happy I was on my sisters wedding. Her husband is a great respectable guy, I was just so excited for both of them. I even called out of work to go, I barely got 10 mins to talk to her because so many people came out. Probably 500 of her friends there so I just stayed back and enjoyed the moment and let her have her day
It's their sister, she is probably doing it for free. Lol Honestly it's dumb logic in my opinion, a wedding is busy AF. They don't got time to bend over backwards for one person that isn't even main part of the wedding. I think even ordering and paying for it was generous enough. Wanna a special meal? Then get it yourself, or like you said bring it from home. But I guess stopping 5 mins to pickup free food is such hard labor. 😂
Wait she thinks $25 per person is cheap for a wedding? That is sadly pretty standard for catering. Planning a wedding right now and my catering is $25-30 per person depending on which menu I pick.
We just spent 10k on catering, we haven’t opened our gifts(we asked for money) and I do not expect to cover even half that cost in gifts. If she wasn’t related to the coordinator and was just a guest I would consider asking her to grab her own food to be unprofessional, I only had one vegan meal and I made sure that it was taken care of and I think it’s very unusual that in 2024 the caterer didn’t have one vegan option or couldn’t figure out how to cook a one off vegan meal. Working with family can be very detrimental to your relationship with them and I really think that is the root of the problem here, her feels got hurt because they were family and thought they were special and in the other side thinking ther relationship means that even in high stress or serious situations their boundaries are the same as if it were a normal day.
if youu have special needs you bring your own stuff my brother has chicken egg alergies so he cant eat a lot food so he just brings his own to be shure
She spoke about the sister (wedding coordinator) like she was just some lady. Like referring to your sibling my their job title is kinda odd to me. I see them as a sibling before their job title. I can imagine she left a negative yelp review on her sister because she wasn't satisfied with the service.
Why are younger generations so freaking entitled?! My god. Also, basing your life on likes on social media is just plain pathetic. Humanity is doomed to go extinct if this continues.
Similar situation from her side here, I live in AK and went to one of my best friend's wedding in Florida, had never met the bride or her family. Touched down in the evening, then drove five hours to where I was staying. Got in Friday night and left Sunday morning, the wedding was on Saturday. I had a great time nonetheless, and was so grateful I got to be there. This was 2020 in the middle of Covid I might add, going through Seattle and Atlanta which were considered the two main hotspots at the time
Does she not know what a gift is??? Your not meant to be getting somthing back! ITS A GIFT! The narcissism is disgusting
Though I 100% agree, in general..
When a person is invited to a wedding - there is meant to be a bit of an exchange, taking place.
Yes, it is customary to give the bride and groom gifts and/or money - though, it’s generally in exchange for the celebration and event that takes place, and what is meant to go along, with that.
Such as dinner and drinks, dancing, etc.
And all around good time.
Especially, if people are traveling and going out of their way, to attend.
However, this isn’t some friend of this woman or whatever, that is getting married - it’s her damned brother.
She is digging her heels in, to be difficult and entitled - not on genuine principle.
This is the type of family and sister One can never rely on, in times of need and emergency - let alone celebration.
I feel for that brother.
My family is a lot like this, also.
This is how narcissists work. They do not think of a gift as a gift. It is a transaction that they can cash in on later. This is how their "love" is. It will always be conditional, no matter how much you, a non-narcissistic person, may care about them.
For real. I could understand and sympathize if it was only that she couldn't afford a proper gift after spending $500, but her attitude and entitlement that she has of "Relationships are transactional and I should get something out of YOUR wedding" just makes her so repugnant.
6:02
Boy, in retrospect, that is indeed a *_wild_* statement isn't it...
She’s autistic, I’m pretty sure. She’s rationalizing everything she’s doing to a logical level, rather than thinking about societal norms. Like Sheldon cooper would on TBBT💀
This feels like rage bait, but I can’t tell with people anymore.
Rage bait implies that they don't belive what they ate saying and are just trying to get attention and resources becuase they have zero talent. Some people genuinely belive the stuff the spew out and are willing to lose freinds money and resources for it
@@extoyshred2957 You have a good point.
skibidi bait
Fr some people nowadays are actually this stupid.
believe in every bait out there to be entertained
1. She is mad at her sister, so she punishes her brother?!
2. She knew the sister had made mistakes in the past, yet she gets offended when asked for help about something that's literally specific to her needs.
3. She expects a return on investment for a wedding gift😂??
4. She gossipped about the situation and her family to a handful of her friends before even deciding to record & post the TikTok.
5. Begs for feedback, but when she gets the feedback, she deflects, blocks people, and can not accept any type of backlash
Just performed a narcissistic evaluation.😂
Edit: I almost forgot she bases her personality on her astrology symbol, and she considers having yo go get chinese for herself as being a "caretaker" for her brother and sister. The entitlement is literally insane.
Especially when she says the the comments have some type of trauma. When she is the one that probably has the trauma. She obviously doesn't really care about the brother and sister. Because of how she talks down to them. They are humans and that day wasn't about you but she obviously had to have it about her because she probably was like that with them growing up. Calling the sister a failure when she can't even be bothered to feed her own kid just to prove a point. That's disgusting.
Was her astrology symbol an asshole?
dw she a virgo
Self centered comes in every astrological sign. She's using her interpretation of the traits of her star sign to excuse herself for behaving like a horrible human being, and somehow, she thinks it's justified because....Virgo.
Stop it. Get some help.
@@ThisAlphaWolf nah its all good cuz she a virgo trust
The coordinator is their sister, seems like just a family affair and she chose to be the witch of the family.
I was thinking I bet this isn't even a happy family
@@Ready-ForTheEnd
Bro when he's finished with this wedding: 🏃🏾♂️💨💨
It seems like everyone is the family was pitching in to help except her.
Im tired of these narcissistic girls on tiktok thinking that they can do whatever they want without any consequences
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She’s a grown overweight woman
Except they can cause there is never consequences
@@Ruggi21 You're really not helping.
@@razztastic but unfortunately, it’s true
I just Google, "Is Chinese food vegan?" The result said that most sauces are made with chicken broth. I wonder if she knew that since she didn't place the order.
According to Google, most Thai food is not vegan. I wonder if she was positive that hers and daughter's food was.
That was my FIRST thought. Unless it’s a specifically vegan restaurant, she’s out of luck.
Yeah I found this to be the weirdest suggestion lmao like btch have a salad it ain’t your day lol.
This was my first thought as well!!! I was like “……? 🤔 Chinese??? There's no way thats vegan”
The people that are most vocal about being vegan aren’t actually vegan. They just do it for attention or to simply boost their ego being they’re doing something “good” for the world 😂
I'm sure she believes Panda Express is Chinese food
Okay, so I've actually had a situation similar to this, at my own brothers wedding too. (I'm a girl) I'm autistic, and a picky eater. Now my brother and I (and his lovely wife ) all have very different palettes, so the food at the wedding was filled with food, I did not enjoy. But, I knew this in advance. (Not that anyone told me, I just know what food my brother and his wife like.) So I took a little lunchbox, It had my preferred food, now I did get some strange looks, from family who don't know me well, but in the end it was the best option. Everyone else got to enjoy their food, I enjoyed mine. I didn't bother anyone. The wedding went great. (Though I did leave the wedding hungry, since it was very long, and my lunchbox was small, but that was just poor planning, on my part.) The entitlement this girl had in the situation was awful, if this is a big deal to her, I couldn't imagine what it was like for her brother to grow up with her as a sister.
You're a thoughtful adult for doing this. Your family is lucky to have you
Veganism is a choice, Autism isn't. I think what you did was incredibly reasonable. You found a way to do the best you could and allowing others to enjoy their meals.And your family sounds incredibly understanding.Your close family at least. I'm also autistic and often cook for the people. I work with several vegetarians included. I do the best I can to accommodate them and I make sure no matter what I cook There's something for them to enjoy as well. If a vegan ever told me that I should have cooked something differently so they could eat it or to make sure that I don't cook something that offends them. I would throw it all in the garbage and tell everyone to blame them that they don't get to eat. Vegans don't struggle for their beliefs they make knowing them a struggle for those around them.
Main character syndrome is so common at this point that it’s really disappointing. Narcissist have reached record numbers in our population.
@@asimhussain8716then they can validate eachother on a remote island
I feel like writing some of my psych papers on this type of behavior. No way this behavior isn’t caused by something small
I am a diagnosed narcissist, literally stop comparing us diagnosed NPD's with those entitled bitches, literally don't fucking compare us.
No the Internet just makes it easier to spot them there was never less narcissistis
As someone with a restrictive diet for medical reasons, I'd be fine picking up my own food if they asked or I've even brought my own. She acted so entitled for no reason.
Ditto.
Legit. Had to do this once for a wedding I did attend, cause I have a pretty restrictive diet. I had zero issues picking up/bringing my own meal cause why the hell would I make the coordinators and caterers go out of their way to buy extra product to make a SINGLE meal. I've worked in catering, its stressful as hell! They don't need *more* work.
Y’a my only gripe is they called two hours before and if you’re not planning on that blergh. But then she was like oops gonna withhold the present for this mistake so I can’t be on her side at all😂
@@withcharmtospare
Yeah, she took the type of problem you'd bring up at the next family reunion and 📈
My cousin is a vegetarian and always brings their own food for holidays and get togethers… it’s not that big of a deal.
Typical narcissist. Create the problem, be super confrontational when the try to fix the problem and then blab about being a victim. If I was your family next time you just don't get invited.
4:02 ughhhh. She really thinks it’s about the meal. Meanwhile the wedding cost $10k+. She’s entitled person that became a vegan and doubled down. So obnoxious.
yes she has i kid i bet she is single
You don't need to say that she is vegan, and say that she is entitled.
If she's vegan, being entitled is implied. Entitlement and privilege are prerequisites for veganism.
@@pkz420 great take
@@pkz420 How is being vegan entitled when you as a meat eater are feeling entitled to animals lives. Also, you can eat vegan for cheap it doesn't require privilege.
@@silververnallbells191
When Vegans need labs to get meat tasting whatever the hell ya want.
You cannot critique nature when you need affronts to nature in order to taste something you have right in front of you as a human who can hunt. So 🤷🏾♂️
The lady thinks giving a gift is reciprocal! The problem is her!
Narcissists operate transactionally.
on very rare occasions things work like that but usually both people are aware beforehand
Compliments are reciprocal. Not gifts!
Luckily i don’t have a sister like this.
I’m at loss of words, speechless
@@asarishepard8171 I no longer reciprocate comments. I just say, "Thank you" & move on.
Not the colonialism card. Gurl sit down 😭
@gaby-leighjonathan2207
I just... I'm _just_ not seeing it. 🤦🏾♂️
Her ancestors would've been disgusted.
@@jenneacubero1036I’m sure they’re okay
@@jenneacubero1036Her ancestors would give her brother and his wife a gift if they were invited.
Wait till she attends a Nigerian wedding where guest throw money on the dance floor to the bride and groom. Nobody gets paid back for that. They do that for baby showers too.
@@jayqwuan Disgusted and okay.
My cousin got married not long ago. Her sister and me didn't even eat at the wedding, we were hosting the guests. We waited until the wedding ended to eat with the rest of the family who were cooking and helping. They did the same on my wedding!! It's not because it's transactional, it's because we care and love them.
Their wedding wasn't all about me!!!
MEEEEEEEEE
RHEEEEEEEEEEE!
@6:15 she says she drove 5 hours to get to the wedding, so she drove, and went straight to the wedding, no hotel stop. But earlier in the video she said she told the coordinator that she lives only 15 minutes away from the venue! Which is it, Karen?
I feel bad for the girls who are named Karen. Seriously.
Not only is it not a big deal, it's not even the brother's fault! According to her tge coordinator asked her to pickup the food so I fail to see why she would punish the brother????
Cuz she is so self-absorbed and miserable she feels entitled to make EVERYBODY else miserable too.
@@Froggy_Bomb yeah they mentioned that also. She just sounds all-around entitled and probably completely miserable to be around.
I'm not sure why my comment got deleted, and I hadn't seen her 2nd tik tok yet 😅 she does mention it in that one, lol. But, yes, I totally agree. I also don't understand how she thinks her "clarification" would make things better! Like, "ohh now we understand, you're totally right, girl."
My cousin is vegan and she brings her own food whenever we have family functions
I get the sneaking feeling that she’s been lying from the start and intentionally made sure she would not get a vegan dish just to make things about herself. She just has that vibe.
There would be no meat in the dish in the wedding if she order it for dinner. Yeah man I have to agree with you and it’s no brainer to do this.
Right! The reception was OBVIOUSLY catered, somehow. I feel… SALAD was an option (as it always is with caterers) and the caterers probably offered something like rice and said they’d roast the vegetable sides in olive oil instead of butter, and she was like, “I don’t want no damn salad and rice.”
I wouldn't be surprised if she lied about being vegan💀
There’s always vegan options, they just want SPECIFIC DISHES (fruits,salads,seafood they don’t care)
As a Nigerian... I am so used to seeing siblings of the bride and groom being part of the event coordinators. As a sibling, you are the one other family and friends would call if they need anything.
So I find it super weird that she's this nonchalant about her brother's wedding.
I copped out when she said "You know...I'm a Virgo. You get it"
Seriously, what? Why do some people excuse their awful behavior because of their Zodiac sign? It has nothing to do with anything.
Your personality doesn't come from when you were born. It comes from if you're an ahole or not!
Damn. Who TF would do this? The things People do For clout concerns me.
racist
Can’t speak for @Finnjaymakes but … I’m pretty sure what they said isn’t racist. They’re most likely talking about all races as a whole. Grow up. Not everything is racist.
@@amytprincessamygaming6022 Never Said anything about Racism. I just Judged her based off of the Title.
(Also I Just woke up Because I was Violently Coughing) So I’m not gonna Argue
@@Finnjaymakes damn they after you even tho ur comment said nothing about Race😂
@@Finnjaymakesdude ur just getting attacked for nada rn lol
In other words her sister has a successful business, her brother got married to her friend. I'm guessing she's lashing out at the brother for "stealing" her friend. What a damn child.
She’s also a single mother, if I was in her position I’d be miserable too😭😭😭. Still doesn’t justify how she acts tho😅
Bet shes thinking we were supposed to be single girlies together forever!
The gift at the wedding is not to help cut costs. Traditionally the parents pay for the wedding and the gift are to help the couple start their life and marriage/family.
The BRIDE’s family pay. Unfortunately, too many single mothers, so this tradition is gone.
@@darylrichardson8567thats very strange to me. In my culture the man does, he even pays a dowry
I'm getting jealousy vibes. She is just jealous that he is getting married and she is single and miserable.
And she just prepared herself a single bed for a few decades.
Well, I’m not sure if a partner was mentioned, but I would be surprised if she had one
it's a mystery why she would be single.
"Some of your responses are Rude and PATRIARCHY... AND COLONIALISM!"
Wow 😅 4 seconds at the start of the video and her career has been ruined🤷🏻♂️
*rooted in patriarchy, but yea, this was a wild situation to try and throw these buzzwords in 😂
What career.
Right? Getting out all the buzzwords.
@@djwolfenstien305
Huh...
Good point!
Narcissists going to deflect.
My Ex-wife had almost the exact same response when her sister picked a restaurant that had no Vegan options for the Rehearsal Dinner.
Good thing she is your Ex-wife 😂
@@thestonedrone
And that I'm not stuck with her debt.
She’s the type of person who would get made at a newborn for refusing to drink vegan milk instead of breast milk.
If you think about it, breast milk isn’t vegan🤔….and we’re technically animals (depending on your beliefs)
I had a friend that admitted to me that the only reason they hung out with me was because I paid for their food when we went out to eat.
(I was raised being told: "eating in front of people without offering them any is rude, unless you offer and they say no.")
and all this friend normally had a her house was: cereal, canned food, or roman (she lived with her parents, we were 16)
and we would go walking up town a lot, and it normally got late afternoon. so she would suggest stopping somewhere for lunch (she would never bring money), so I would pay her side, (despite not having much money myself)
picture this happening almost every other day for 3 years.
yet her acting like spending one dollar on a cheep necklace for my birthday (ONE TIME) was too much.....
I'm glad it's "had." I was raised that way too. Not great to have people taking advantage of you.
Man, if I had a dietary restriction and Im going to a wedding, I'd have my own food to be sure. Theres no guarantee that the coordinator will accommodate a singular person when they have several things and people, mainly bride and groom, to deal with. Theres a lot on their plate so to expect them to start bending to the will of guests is outlandish especially when there were readily available options. Its not like its a destination wedding where the guests have to wait or be late to make sure they eat something, its in a city with 8 other stores, she just wanted to paint them all as the bad guy, I wonder what the family dynamic is like....
Vegan: not buying meat from the store
Animal: still dead
I eat twice more meat to compensate
@@CraigTraversIm no vegan but I feel like that would cause a lot of problems if everyone doubled their meat intake .. 😭😭😭 Besides… Who could afford it 😭
@@user-hb3mh2pk7ytrue, I’m poor
@@CraigTravers"let's protest these assholes by being assholes"; winning tactics 🤡
@@user-hb3mh2pk7y Don't worry, I'll donate my meat to help
A return on a gift? That's like an oxymoron, you don't get a return off a gift, it's not an investment
It's an investment into Bros happiness
1 - is her car and lifestyle completely vegan? and 2 - she be a thiccen nugget for someone that only eats grass and ice cubes... the math aint mathin'....
She thinks that Chinese food is healthy so yeah
Oreos and chips are vegan lol. You can still get fat.
@@Michael-es4dt I’m pretty confident Oreos are indeed not vegan
@@Ruggi21 Really? I was fairly sure they were. Whether or not they are, there's a shit ton of junk food that's vegan. I've seen some big ass vegans.
@@Michael-es4dtmost junk food actuqlly isnt vegan they contain milk(yk a animal product) so that automatically disqualifies most of it then most suaces are made using animal fat and oils as well... so unless ur eating a salad or going to a vegan restaurant u aint finding vegan junk food 😂
all I know is this is a drama llama that won't be invited to any more family functions
Thankfully at the cook out she’ll be cooking for herself or be asked to bring the drinks😂
100% this chick is pissed her brother is getting married, and she knows she never going to be.
How tf does a 5 hour drive cost 500$? Is she driving an M1 Abrams?
😂 Maybe she was going full throttle in a Hellcat all the way there.
She must got that new gas guzzler Jeep
😂😂😂
Honestly the part that bothers me most is that she made her child vegan :p
vegetarian is fine, but with veganism you don’t rly get all the essential amino acids & nutrients your body needs to thrive. Adults can make that choice for themselves, but for growing children that didn’t choose their parents - it’s just frustrating
Was looking for this comment. She was willing to not feed her daughter food because she chose to make her daughter vegan and be petty enough not to get her the food just to later blame her brother and sister, that's messed up.
If you can’t get all the necessary stuff from a vegan diet then it’s not fine.
@@Justin-pe9cl I said vegetarian is fine, not vegan - vegetarian includes eggs, dairy, other animal products, just not meat directly 👍
@@MaddieFishblob Ah, I read vegan
I hope someone calls CPS on this heifer.
somehow i love her family... i suspect the reception was amazing without her there
It was BETTER without her
“I am nobody’s caretaker” uhhhh…your kids maybe? Professional victim.
Imagine turning your personal decisions into everybody's problem lol. It's even worse when it's your brother's wedding which she cant compromise on. She just proved that she's an horrible person to be with. I feel bad for whoever decides to be with her
more than happy that i never installed or used tiktok
Me too. I will never download TikTok. I will never even make an account.
why is she obese if she has a vegan diet? isnt it supposed to be healthier?
🤭
You don’t need to consume meat to overeat
Sugars can do that to you, for example Oreos are vegan and are packed with calories.
i don't feel bad for laughing maniacally that was so funny
She probably just started and is pretending to be all serious about it like she's been doing it for years.
So is it a son or a daughter? 🤔 she’s can’t even tell the truth about that how can you believe anything she says
Yeah i wondered if anyone else had caught that, first it was her son and then it was her daughter, although these days maybe her son became her daughter on the drive over 😅
The level of entitled people that are also narcissistic on social media is crazy these days.
I somehow missed the part where she thinks "any" Chinese food is going to be vegan...rofl
Man, to think she'd act like this on her own brothers wedding 🤦♂️
6:53 was waiting for the astrology sign lol
You’re both the same weight 👏
How do people just come out the womb and act like this? 😭
The fact that she called those out calling her out as having "unhealed trauma" before looking at her entitled self in the mirror? She's living in the land of Delulu! I wouldn't blame her brother and sister cutting off contact with her after dealing with her bs on one of the most important days for wedding. Toxicity at it's finest!
delulu kinda sounds delicious though
This girl is a bad sibling for sure. My step sister got married a while back and I didn’t hesitate to help out afterwards to clean up and get the dishes cleaned so they could save some money on the venue. Like damn they just spend a ton of money and have gone through all the hassle of getting the whole thing organized and she can’t even have the curtesy to pick up her own special food order, that’s just ridiculous.
5:30 #3 only giving gifts in order to get sth in return
If you expect sth in return then it's not a gift. It's a transaction, a purchase, buy/sell situation. A gift is only truly a gift if you get nothing in return for it, or at the very least not expect sth in return
she just wanted an excuse to not buy a gift. If she did her food, it would of been some other eexcuse
main character syndrome
🤦🏽♀️... If you are expecting a return that's an investment, a GIFT is literally the polar opposite!
Ugh I’m so tired of these grotesque “women” thinking everyone gives af about their problems🤢🤮
Likewise...sounds like she had a kid but no man...shocker!
How to say your a racist without saying your a racist
@@SindyJ37with the way she acts ... the fact that she's a single parent, with that attitude and entitlement? let's just say the math IS mathing. makes sense that no decent man would tolerate her bs, i feel for any man that accidentally gets sucked into her orbit 😂
As a woman myself, I agree like I just wanna tell them to shut the F up
@@sassysarah39 a respectable woman 🫡🤝
Chinese food is vegan?
Nope , all sauces have a chicken broth base.
What I’m saying, what Chinese food is vegan?
The food was probably just too fancy for her so she used that as an excuse
Right ? Most Chinese food I have had had chicken in a lot of it. And pork
There are vegan dishes
I felt a little bad for her having a 5 hour drive and having to get her own food even though not getting a gift was kind of petty until she blamed her behaviour on her being a Vergo, now I hate her.
I love the fact you didn’t even spell “Virgo” correctly.
BECAUSE IT DOESN’T DUCKING MATTERS
(The “ducking” was on purpose. I got scolded by YT for cursing, yesterday).
@@XOChristianaNicole Sorry i have bad spelling, i'm a Vergo too. (Actually am lol)
@@XOChristianaNicole
Bro...
I don't get this shtick, man. How does TH-cam even decide? 😭
I didn’t feel bad, my family is 5 hour drive away as well, it comes to the point where it’s normal to drive that far for a family member, I’d say if it were for anyone else or if it was further away it would be a problem but she came early and she knew there was no food for her , like there’s many solutions and she’s just being ignorant
2 hours before sounds pike they just wanted her to have fresh food that wasnt a day old
Based off that BMI ain’t no way she an actual Vegan 😂
Oreos are vegan 😋
Lazy vegans eat SO many french fries. The easiest choice at any restaurant when you just can't stand to look at another salad.
@@johnwethekylowThose salads aren't that healthy anyway when people load them down with dressing. Lol
Why not just have pockets filled with peas. Snack anytime
😂
nah, your gift ain’t your attendance, the best gift you can give is your absence
The fact she would let her own kids go hungry before feeding them regular food is so sad neglect fr
Okay I am Indian and the cultural difference is interesting actually...
1.At our weddings veg options are always available even if it's for only one person.
2.We wouldn't ask that person to bring their own food from a store for any occasion it's extremely disrespectful
But she was petty about the gift thing like isn't it your brother's wedding at the end of the day?
i think the reason she was acting this way was because she is related to them
Wow… the way she threw her sister under the bus before we knew she was her sister🤨She says “her track record as a coordinator is not great” or something to that end. That was gross because no matter how bad her sister is at this job, she’s always gonna look like the ah for speaking about her that way.
Unless you’re doing actual business, relationships *should not be* transactional. Of course if you’re giving everything of yourself and there’s no reciprocity, then by all means leave/set some boundaries. However, if everything you do for someone receives an asterisk until you get something in return, you are the one who’s triggered and needs therapy. The way she weaponized therapy terms and completely misused the concepts of colonialism and patriarchy is infuriating. You know, since those things are actually real and persist as serious problems in our society today, but this gives validity to the people who say those that see it are pulling it out of nowhere. The lack of self awareness for someone who uses such big words is a giant red flag for me. Being in a relationship with her of any kind must be a maddening experience.
I would bet the gift of her attendance would’ve readily been returned and exchanged for something more pleasant if given the chance.✌️👋🙂↔️
What a narcissist. For her, the problem isn't her behavior, but all people, who call her out. They all must have trauma issues, she can't be wrong 🤦♂️
Well done! The effort and passion are evident.
Honestly the entitlement is crazy, I do not expect the wedding coordinator to worry about my specific food need and yes I have dietary problems but guess what ? It’s not about me, it’s not my wedding tf am I gonna do
10:29 bruh she’s too lazy to even sit up to defend herself. Literally laying on a cozy, expensive pillow and she actually believes she’s the righteous one.
$25 in chinese food for one person?! is she ordering three entrees? and you know this narcissist isn’t going to tip
Wedding gifts "traditionally", are to help a new family get a start... not help cut wedding costs, or a "celebrate you".
Traditionally the wedding is paid for by the brides father. The gifts are to help start a family and furnish the new family home. Small appliances, kitchenware, home-goods, baby stuff, or cash.
They were not personal, or fun gifts like Christmas or a birthday. They were functional gifts to help start a married-family life.
Much of that has changed, sure. But that was Western tradition.
I'm sure there was some delicious grass all around the Church. Why didn't you just eat that?
Works for cows🤡🪴🌿🐮🐮🐮🐄🐄🐄
I am struck speachless with infuriation... The fact that she's saying that it's ridiculous that they won't pick it up because it's so close to the wedding venue, yet at the same time she's saying it's outrageous that she should have to pick the food up herself because she drove so far when she's getting there an hour early, giving her plenty of time to go a few blocks to pick up the food. So she's made these people pay for it and refused to pick it up, or, if they hadn't payed yet, the restaurant employees did the labor for nothing because of her... W... T... F...?
"My gift was my attendance" is an absolutely diabolical thing to say. Can't even fathom a more narcissistic thing to say
chinese food aint cheap and not all chinese restaurants taste the same, sounds kinda sus to me...
I’m A Virgo And I Don’t Even Act Like This.
So glad I stumbled on this channel 😂 This guy's breakdowns and narration are just too darn good!
Pegasus video = happiness , literally just got home and finally getting into relaxing and watching stuff
I vouch you can be annoyed with driving 5 hours and your food not being there or it being wrong but it’s not your day just get something or shut up and enjoy the event
All them gray hairs on her head. She too old to be acting like that.
I can’t explain how happy I was on my sisters wedding. Her husband is a great respectable guy, I was just so excited for both of them. I even called out of work to go, I barely got 10 mins to talk to her because so many people came out. Probably 500 of her friends there so I just stayed back and enjoyed the moment and let her have her day
This heffa acts likes she about to gift this couple a brand new house. Girl, bye. You could have kept these feelings to yourself.
I actually agree with her. I probably would have just packed my own sandwich in a lunch box. I'm not doing your job for you, that's why you get paid.
It's their sister, she is probably doing it for free. Lol
Honestly it's dumb logic in my opinion, a wedding is busy AF. They don't got time to bend over backwards for one person that isn't even main part of the wedding.
I think even ordering and paying for it was generous enough.
Wanna a special meal? Then get it yourself, or like you said bring it from home.
But I guess stopping 5 mins to pickup free food is such hard labor. 😂
This is the 3rd time this week I've had to say this..but leave Virgos out of this mess! 😂
Sounds like there's some jealousy issue there. And why was she even mad, Chinese food ISN'T VEGAN.
Wait she thinks $25 per person is cheap for a wedding? That is sadly pretty standard for catering. Planning a wedding right now and my catering is $25-30 per person depending on which menu I pick.
99% of weddings have salads, she obviously wasn’t happy with it, so she doesn’t get to eat. Done.
yoooooo Big P js posted!!
We just spent 10k on catering, we haven’t opened our gifts(we asked for money) and I do not expect to cover even half that cost in gifts. If she wasn’t related to the coordinator and was just a guest I would consider asking her to grab her own food to be unprofessional, I only had one vegan meal and I made sure that it was taken care of and I think it’s very unusual that in 2024 the caterer didn’t have one vegan option or couldn’t figure out how to cook a one off vegan meal. Working with family can be very detrimental to your relationship with them and I really think that is the root of the problem here, her feels got hurt because they were family and thought they were special and in the other side thinking ther relationship means that even in high stress or serious situations their boundaries are the same as if it were a normal day.
We all have those kind of family members. Hope the brother's wedding was good! Bless that couple! 🙏
if youu have special needs you bring your own stuff my brother has chicken egg alergies so he cant eat a lot food so he just brings his own to be shure
i don't usually generalize but her hair style kinda explains everything tbh.
She spoke about the sister (wedding coordinator) like she was just some lady. Like referring to your sibling my their job title is kinda odd to me. I see them as a sibling before their job title. I can imagine she left a negative yelp review on her sister because she wasn't satisfied with the service.
this is what jealousy looks like, she is so unhappy that she isn't married herself, so she acts out like this
12:52- Her: I been vegan for most of my life
Me: My BS meter just broke after that statement.
Why are younger generations so freaking entitled?! My god. Also, basing your life on likes on social media is just plain pathetic. Humanity is doomed to go extinct if this continues.
Similar situation from her side here, I live in AK and went to one of my best friend's wedding in Florida, had never met the bride or her family. Touched down in the evening, then drove five hours to where I was staying. Got in Friday night and left Sunday morning, the wedding was on Saturday. I had a great time nonetheless, and was so grateful I got to be there. This was 2020 in the middle of Covid I might add, going through Seattle and Atlanta which were considered the two main hotspots at the time
the sister twist was a good surprise thank you
Thanks god tiktok is getting banned
Fr tiktok make us brainroot
Bro think he the main character 💀
When people go out of their way to accommodate your bullshit, you should go out of your way to at least pretend like you're thankful
19:32 petition to make that Pegasus' profile picture