I'm not bi so I have a question. Since ur bi, so if u r with a guy in a relationship than don't u get a feeling of regrade that u r not with a girl(living with a girl or a boy is different and also it is sexually. because girl have vagina and boys have pennies etc etc.....). Soo how can you be happy only with a guy Or with a girl?🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄 Isn't it difficult for u because u enjoy both sex? (I'm not offending u . I just had this question for really long time😊 )
@@kimkk2981 no :) thank you for phrasing that respectfully. But I never feel like I'm missing out. It's like if I were heterosexual, I don't feel like I'm missing out when I can't be with other boys. If I am in love with somebody, I am monogamously committed and loyal :)
I am bi and proud! I have known I'm bi for about 2 years now, and still find that people don't understand that I'm not 50% Straight and 50% Gay... How can I explain that Bisexuality is its own, unique thing, not two things at once?
Courtney, thanx for this simple, clear, and straightforward analysis! Iunderstand the fear that people have. Still working thru it myself. I am grateful for you.
You speak with a lot of love in your heart. I very much appreciate that. Makes all the difference. Still having some struggles but you made my world so much brighter. Before I watched your vlogs, I would remove any videos related to bi or liking guys from my watch history. Don't feel a need to anymore. Thank you
See this is what I want the social connection its great you guys are here just in case there's a kid out there who feels alone about this they have others to talk to as well
I'm an 84 year old bisexual. Married for 52 years & kept a lid on it most of that time. Suffered bouts of depression throughout, but dare not come out to a homophobic wife. It did bubble to the surface after 15 years wed. I fell in love with a much younger guy, but a very one sided affair & I went through hell with my feelings for him. I had to tell my wife resulting in her leaving me. After 6 months apart we got back together again but lied through my teeth to do so. However a couple of years after being widowed, I came out to my daughter when she told me she was also bi, also my grand daughter! To all those annalists out there; it appears to be hereditary & locked in our genes. I feel at ease & happy now having come out & to be accepted by all of my friends, but too late in life to start up with any sort of relationship.
Bisexuality doesn't mean that you're "on" all the time. Interests increase and decrease for many reasons. Don't try to label and simply try to recognize what your interest is in that time. I think that part of the problem is that most of us are not taught how to listen to what our own body and mind is telling us, but just play the social script in our head. Sexuality is so indivdual, forget the label, and learn to listen to what you're telling yourself. Get to know your interests, whatever they may be and whatever level they may be at that time.
I- think I might be Bi- but like I don't know. I've imagined myself plenty of times with guys, and have had plenty of crushed on guys, and guy celebrities. And that's usually what I think first when thinking about stuff like that. But then I think to my friends and my hobbies and then I just imagine how nice and peaceful it would be to be able to live the rest of my life with them. How soft...? Life would be if I were with a girl... And then my love for some of these fictional girls 😳. *Cough* Catra *cough*
I was lucky that even in 2000 when i came out so to speak in high school i lived in New Orleans and most of the kids in my school were not straight. I guess growing up blocks from Bourbon Street we all knew about the fluidity of sexuality. I didn't actually know of any homophobic trends until the death of a boy in Texas ( Matthew Shepard). It shocked me and my school to the core. I never had any issues telling people because it was never a thing. But i am learning how hard it can be, my 14 year old daughter thinks she is lesbian. I told her no labels and to just be happy and healthy. No labels no box..... Enjoy the exploration and the journey. Its harder for her now that we live in farm land Texas. But she seems happy😏. I joke with her that at least she wont be a teen pregnancy statistic. lol
Im still closeted but I just want you guys to know that when we got outed there are people who will still support and love us the way we are. Many people might dislike us because of it but Let's normalize it so kids in the next generation won't suffer as much as we do. Courtney Jai is here, ready to lend a hand for those who needed help. We will stand together, no one will be ahead nor one will be left behind.
pansexual here. it is the best imo. since i reconciled my identity and embraced just being free. i am truly happy now and are in a beautiful relationship with my trans wife :) ( yes, i am attracted to boys who are boys too. just not overly masculine. i like smooth and fem
I know im late but idk if im bisexual since i dont know if i have a crush or just think theyre good looking!Im so confused.Love ur vids been bingeing them all🥰
@lily-Rose14 well a good way to think about it is could you see yourself having a girlfriend or a boyfriend in the future and how does that make you feel.
HEEEELP Okay, I know this, I am 99% sure i'm bi, I'm just scared of telling people, I told one of my friends a year ago that I was stuggling with this and his reaction was like "please don't" and it broke my heart and made me feel super stupid and insecure. BUT like a week ago I told another friend and he was suuuper nice and told me that he was okay with it and that I should be happy with who I am. That totally made me feel better and I know that when I tell people I am going to feel way better. I JUST WANT TO TELL PEOPLE BUT I'M SO SCARED, What are my friends gonna say? What if they stop talking to me? If someone's reading this, please help, a little advice would be nice
@@Courtney-Jai Yes, I will ask him because I'm still not 100% comfortable by myself, Thank you, It means a lot to me that you actually read my comment and replied. xoxo
You are so young and yet so wise and honest. It takes so much courage to be vulnerable in front of millions and expose yourself. You are such a beautiful human being. Thank you!
Find other people who think and feel like you do. I came out and told my family I was bi when I was 16 but everyone is different. You'll know when it's the right time don't do it until you're ready. Or you don't even have to verbally say anything. Just date who you want and let people drawl their own conclusion about it!
How i found out (Staring at girls) i can't be lesbian (Staring at boys) i don't like boys (Staring at girls) well that's not bad (Staring at boys) eh.... Hahaha isn't this bad either (Staring at both) oh my oh my (I like both) AAAAAAHHHH
When I "came out", I said I was bi because I thought it would be a softer blow to my family. Ironically enough, they thought that was worse! 😂 I am actually fully gay.
I'm a woman and I'm bi-sexual and that's okay .😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 not that I would have felt bad being like that before, but listening to you and noticing that we are underwater is a super feeling. we should be proud to be honest with ourselves and to know what makes us happy dear bi-sexual and all other sexualities, we too are proud of ourselves.
dear cover travelers who are already so far away that you dare to say yes I am different and those who need time. It is normal to feel fear but you are not alone we should be proud not to lie to ourselves about who or what we are, we are not those who should be ashamed. Those who hate do not understand, they may be ashamed that they do not try to understand. But it's also okay because they are afraid and can't react. But we are the ones who are, a little more courageous, who explain to them that there is nothing crazy about it if everything is not as ordinary as the world wants it to be. the most important thing is to love and trust yourself
I've looked at a bunch of videos like this and yours has been the first one which I've felt has given me something concrete to do to figure out my sexuality, so thank you for that. I've been having inklings that I might be bi for about a year now, but haven't really given it much thought as I was quite busy with school and definitely didn't need that extra mental effort at the time. I was suppressing my feelings for a guy I was attracted to at the same time, so it kind of just followed on. But for the past few months, with school ending and not much else to do, I've been focusing more on my personal identity, and actually trying to figure myself out. As such, I've been watching a lot of videos like 'How to know if you're bi', and while their experiences have certainly helped me become more aware and comfortable with sexuality, and to become more okay with being attracted to people (I always hid when I had a crush on someone because I didn't want to be made fun of, and as such have been a bit stunted in my exploration of sexuality as I constantly repressed it), I didn't really have anything else to go by to check if I'm bi. I'm demisexual (something I've known for years), and as such I don't get attracted to people until I've formed an emotional connection with them (I've so far taken about 3-6 weeks of getting to know people), and I thus haven't really been able to check if I'm attracted to female strangers or not to see if I'm bi. But this idea of whether I could imagine myself in a relationship with people of both sexes, that has helped me immensely. I already did my fair share of imagining with a couple of male crushes I've had, but then I realised that I've done a similar thing with some female friends (who I hope will never see this comment, because that's embarrassing af). While I will wait until I get a proper crush on a girl to come out properly, this video really struck a chord with me and I'm pretty sure now that I'm bi. So thanks, you've helped me with a lot of confusion about my identity and I appreciate that I can be more comfortable in that identity now. I haven't told anyone at this point, and it's been eating at me a lot because I want to work myself out, and I want a bit of help doing that, and I think now that I'm a bit closer to being sure I might tell a friend about it, one who won't make a super big deal out of it (so not my lesbian friend who will take it as a lot more certain than it is, and not my friend who is completely straight and quite naive and innocent when it comes to issues of attraction and sexuality). I feel like I've been writing a lot of comments like this on videos like this in lieu of actual people to talk to. They're very much for myself, but I think I need that. If anyone actually read through my paragraph of confusion, I appreciate that, and any advice you have would be appreciated
I have found that sometimes writing it out is therapeutic and most helpful , this maybe the most though out comment I have ever read and I really hope you do discover yourself just remember you only get one life so make the best of it 😋
@@Courtney-Jai Thank you for replying haha. I have a lot of thoughts going on atm to do with my sexuality, so I kinda needed to write them all out to work out my overall thoughts. I tend to overthink things, so there's a lot of them. It helped a lot to write them here where someone might see them, as did telling someone irl
I'm not sure about my sexuality right now that is why I'm seeing this and even though I'm not completely sure that I am bisexual or not this really helped me with some questions I had and made me feel a little bit less confused about it so thanks for making this video
@@Courtney-Jai I didn't mean it that way 😀but I found out by asking my cousin already thanks Courtney I'm just interested in alot of what you have to say because it's interesting that's all I still like your videos😀 your okay Courtney I m just dumb when it comes to social media thanks again Courtney 😊 bye
@@Courtney-Jai I know why you are thought that now because I said compatible I meant astrologically which is why I had asked you about your sign because according to the astrological books we would make good friends that's why I said I that previously 😀 but it's okay just a misunde rstanding your cute anyway bye Courtney 😊and thanks for responding I really did appreciate it very much bye and thanks 😀
I'm gay but I like bi guys more Does that make sense 🥴🥴 🥴😊😂😂💙💛💙 I feel this is so weird I want a bi boyfriend n shout out loud Finally I have a bi boyfriend n we love each other yaaaaa....😂😂😂😂😂 I'm weird weird weird...
I'm also a bisexual gal woo! However I just came out in February and tbh, I still doubt myself a lot which is really annoying me, I wish I just had some clarity in knowing for sure. Im worried I'm kind of inventing or imagining my attraction to girls, but I don't understand why the hell I would do that. I'm just doing a whole lot of thinking and trying to figure out who the heck I like and who I am! This is a helpful video however when discussing gender, i would say try not to gender genitals, they don't always define gender (yanno transgender and non-binary and all that big old spectrum of gender) Still an awesome video though but just wanted to idk give some advice I suppose x
Hi girl! I'm bi too and i can understand your frustration, just a piece of advice to help don't really bother about it that much now. It will all make sense when the right person comes :) why are you so on edge about it?
Iam a guy and I want to date this guy but I don’t wanna mess up at the very last moment that matters most that is why I’m here right now to understand make sure.
I'm 45 and have just recently really realized that I am bi sexual. I'm not gay and I'm not "strait" either. Sorry for the spelling. The thing is my non gay friends feel weird when I talk about men and that I love penis. And my gay friends feel weird when I talk about loving women. Why does this have to be so polarizing? Why am I stuck in the middle of these people who profess to be my friend no matter what? I do understand it though, how do they feel looking at me. Where do I fit? Just because I love both means I am marginalized by both groups? This fucking sucks and I feel stupid. Your vid has helped me talk about it. Thank you.
I find my attraction is different for each sex, I find women more physically appealing but I absolutely hate how they judge who they should date. Men I find less physical attraction (i'm pretty playful so it's not really a problem but it's noticeable) but emotional attraction is much, much stronger. Whenever I have dated women the first question is how tall are you if not in person or, what do you do for work how much do you make. I actually said I was unemployed on purpose the last few times and they would drop me immediately. If they would have stayed I would have clarified at the time my Husband had just passed away and I was taking some time to pull myself together because I had enough money to not need to work. I ended up with a guy because he talked to me like a real person and not a job interviewer. When I eventually got a job i'd fly to the Netherlands for a date over the weekend then be back for work that monday morning. My female boss thought it was romantic and said she couldn't find anyone who would do that kind of thing and I thought maybe the person who would is short.
I'm a bi.. and my parents not happy with it..i came out as a bi to my parents when I was 19 y/o..During my came out, they hit me, they abused me physically and mentally, isolated me and they asked me to change my sexual orientation to straight again.. but I just can't.. And they confiscated my phone and texted my ex boyfriend to dumped me.. I was so depressed and wish there can be a cure for this sexual orientation problem....
CARABEAR greenaway if I’m honest, I don’t want to sound scary or anything, but if your in a country in lockdown at the moment, it would probably not be best to come out now, not everyone understands at first and can need space to process things, but in lockdown there is no space and stress levels can be high. I would recommend hanging on in there for a bit longer, but it will be ok there are plenty of people in the world who will support and love you if things don’t go to plan 🙂
Sometimes I have a feeling but sometimes I don't have the feeling and I did test like and sometimes I force myself but sometimes I have a little feeling of gay porn but sometimes I got really really confused and I don't know if I'm straight or bisexual like all did a test and if o saw gay porn my feeling is gone😔😓
I’m only 12 and I think I’m bisexual, because for me there is no problem in love, imagine that « normally » girls had to be with girls and boys with boys, people would say it’s weird if a girl is with a boy! So for me everything is okay, it’s just that our society thinks that if your bisexual (and a girl for me) it means your lesbian (so it’s hard to have a boy friend). I only said that I’m bisexual to a close friend but not to my family, I’m scared about what they are gonna say (I know they don’t have any problem at all with it but I’m still scared) and I’m stressed about how I’m gonna say it.. Hope someone helps me here, Thank you👍🏼
I think your so very cute! Is it strange that I'm attracted to bisexual guys? And curious what sign are you because you seem comparable in general 😊thanks
Pls help. I am a girl and definitely into guys. But I am also attracted to girls that are on the manly side aka butch (I am sure not into girly girls example those with long hair). Do you think I am considered a bisexual? Or I am just straight and deceived by the looks of butch women as they looks like a man appearance wise?
I feel your pain! A lot of ppl think that in America it's easy to find a large LGBT community and as that may be true in places like LA SF or NYC, it's much different in other parts of the country. It could always be worse though I guess haha
i dont think im bi because i’ve always liked girls and love girls but i think some guys look good looking but i’ve never been attracted to them so wtf am i? 😂
I’ve only had a crush on a guy irl once, and it lasted a year. It was because of his personality. However I’ve had tons of celebrity crushes on guys, which has set my standards pretty high lol. I could see myself dating a guy, but I was never boy crazy, or had much of a thing for abs.. but when it comes to girls I can definitely see myself dating a girl, marrying a girl, everything. Same with a guy, but I don’t think that much about the s*xual bit. I think I’m bi, and I think a huge sign is since I was little I thought it was so cool to be bi. That I even WANTED to be bi. I also have a lot of friends who are bisexual, and I think that hearing them come out has helped me really think about my own sexuality. But I’m still not sure. :((
I know it sounds weird but in 5th grade I got called gay and stuff turns out they aren’t wrong in a way I’m bi so i basically believed it so I forced myself then I stopped in 6th grade heh lol now in 7th gonna keep getting better
I think the guy I was in love with is gay.. I'm pretty sure of it..👬🏾 I mean he tells this guy everything I've done an the guy seems to get defensive and talks down TOWARDS me as if hes a woman.. defending his man..what guys has time to get involved that technical 🤷🏾♀️.
I have been bisexual since I was 15 y.o. I came OUT around ten years ago and most of my friends and family members were very supportive. Being bisexual allows me to enjoy the BEST of BOTH worlds and fully enjoy life.
See I'm bI sexual but I'm confused on who should I date, and a lot of things. I like guys but I want to marry women, only date guys, ugh I'm so confused
I know this is not a new video... *but,* I just wanted to say = I love how you actually acknowledged that you are not required to have sex with someone to still be able to have a totally non-friend relationship with someone! This concept often seems to be considered as strange and poorly understood by people as bisexuality itself, or perhaps even moreso; and, it is so rare to hear someone actually just say it outright like that. THANK YOU💜
I find guys and girls attractive sexually and physically but I've never been in a relationship other than friendship with a girl. I have kissed a couple girls but it still makes me wonder if I could fall in love with a girl and either way am I Bi.
Bi and proud... was really confusing at first though... it took me very long to acknowledge and then accept it. But now I'm ok and fine and loving myself...
Courtney-jai, or anyone else. I’m confused because I know I’m heterosexual, but my mind keeps saying LGBT+, and I don’t know why. I’ve never had sexual thoughts or feelings for a girl?Please help me.
I think if you identify as homosexual you've already decided who you are , I feel relationships need more then just emotional connections to be truly long lasting
Courtney-Jai (I am female btw) and Exactly that’s my problem because I am only attracted to the same sex sexually and only attracted to the opposite sex emotionally. I’ve tried forcing myself into having emotional feelings for women and getting sexually turned on by men but for some reason I just can’t. Then I came across the term cross-orientated and I feel like a freak:( and just like you said relationships need more than sex to function.. so I will never be truly happy with anyone. I’ll look at a women and not know how to love her. I will look at a man but never have sexual intimacy with him.
To me bisexuality isn't like I like women more or I like men more like no...... Its just that GENDER DOSENT MATTER, I fall in love with who I fall in love with😪😒 and I can date both genders the same way because GENDER DOSENR MATTER if I date a man I date one, if I date a women I date one, ohh bisexuality isn't a sexuality, exsuse me but just because we don't date one gender doesn't mean it isn't a sexuality an ways grow up its 2018
@@robstar2gaming424 not true two of my best friends are gay and engaged and they have hardly any feminine qualities that my friend is a stereotype so yes you can be very much masculine and gay masculine and bi
Okay so I’m kinda confused... I don’t wanna be Bi (I’m not against it tho please don’t get me wrong!) and I’m pretty sure I’m straight. I’m not sexually attracted to the same gender. But when you mentioned “emotional relationship” I kinda felt like that if I did have an “emotional relationship” with the same gender I wouldn’t be weirded out with it? Is it me just not being judgmental? I’m worried because I just want to be straight but I’m not against anyone who likes the same gender, I wanna make that clear.
My friend mentioned bisexuality and asked them what it means they told me and I searched to check if I was and this video helped I just don't know if I'm bi though btw I'm 9 so I'm mor nervous about it
Hey dude! Being a Bi guy myself I'm just interested in what sort of reactions have you had from friends, particulary your male friends? I'm sort of in this fuzzy stage of coming out, some people know but its an open secret.
Generally pretty good the odd joke about being greedy but nothing bad , I think because I have a small close friend circle and among them one is gay and another is bi also it's alot easier for them to accept and be happy for me
I'm not trying to promote or anything but there is a video with my friend Jordan it (he's straight) and he explains how he felt about me being bi so that might help aswell it's called coming out FEAT Jordan
Courtney-Jai Thats cool matey, I have a few Bi friends, there are more of us than you'd think haha. They're not exactly "out" just yet, but who knows, maybe time will tell. Keep up tge good work pal!
Great video Courtney-Jai! Amazing that someone just a year older than my son has helped me with my coming out process as a bi man. 2018 is the year that I decided not to "hide" anymore, and I am all the better for it. At 53, it was about time haha. The important people in my life know (parents, family, best friends) and I've decided to mention it to others if it is relevant to the conversation. Anyway, keep up the good work mate!
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Honestly I love being bi, I wouldn't wish for anything else
Same
I'm not bi so I have a question.
Since ur bi, so if u r with a guy in a relationship than don't u get a feeling of regrade that u r not with a girl(living with a girl or a boy is different and also it is sexually. because girl have vagina and boys have pennies etc etc.....). Soo how can you be happy only with a guy Or with a girl?🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄
Isn't it difficult for u because u enjoy both sex?
(I'm not offending u . I just had this question for really long time😊 )
@@kimkk2981 no :) thank you for phrasing that respectfully. But I never feel like I'm missing out. It's like if I were heterosexual, I don't feel like I'm missing out when I can't be with other boys. If I am in love with somebody, I am monogamously committed and loyal :)
@@justink5000 hey thanks for replying 😊😊
And telling me that
Me to
I am bi and proud! I have known I'm bi for about 2 years now, and still find that people don't understand that I'm not 50% Straight and 50% Gay... How can I explain that Bisexuality is its own, unique thing, not two things at once?
The weird thing is its such a simple concept yet people act like its thermodynamics
Than bisexual people never do crossdressing?
Tell please...I want to know
@@matteglossy3405 bi's never cross dresser well some do but I never do that
TheTrueClabio you can say that it’s not blue + red but a mix witch is purple :) idk if it makes sens aha but i kinda see it that way
*When people don't like your bisexuality* Well then,... Bi! Bi! Bi!
Oml yasssss!!!
💖💜💙
Lol
Yes bi shaquisha
Ha!
Courtney, thanx for this simple, clear, and straightforward analysis! Iunderstand the fear that people have. Still working thru it myself. I am grateful for you.
Just happy to help
You speak with a lot of love in your heart. I very much appreciate that. Makes all the difference. Still having some struggles but you made my world so much brighter. Before I watched your vlogs, I would remove any videos related to bi or liking guys from my watch history. Don't feel a need to anymore. Thank you
Proud to bi ;)
You should be 😋
@@Courtney-Jai I am proud to be bi too
@@avastars3393 and you should be
I think im bi, i don't i really know already. I feel so confused
It's a confusing time I guess think of it like a boat Ur in a storm right now but if you get through and find land you could discover something great
noga carmeli yea same, I’m the same way and my friends are telling me I’m not bi but I know what it’s in my head and what I feel when I see girls
As he said do ur homework in a way
Fellow bisexual guy checking in. I already know I am bi, have done since I hit puberty and formally came out about 5 years ago when I was 15.
See this is what I want the social connection its great you guys are here just in case there's a kid out there who feels alone about this they have others to talk to as well
k a w a i i ♡ cheers cutie.
cameron clare it is completely normal to be bisexual, I know how it feels
I'll be sure to check it out
Courtney-Jai I will like to ask you a few questions and advice through email on how to deal with homophobic people
I'm an 84 year old bisexual. Married for 52 years & kept a lid on it most of that time. Suffered bouts of depression throughout, but dare not come out to a homophobic wife. It did bubble to the surface after 15 years wed. I fell in love with a much younger guy, but a very one sided affair & I went through hell with my feelings for him. I had to tell my wife resulting in her leaving me. After 6 months apart we got back together again but lied through my teeth to do so. However a couple of years after being widowed, I came out to my daughter when she told me she was also bi, also my grand daughter! To all those annalists out there; it appears to be hereditary & locked in our genes. I feel at ease & happy now having come out & to be accepted by all of my friends, but too late in life to start up with any sort of relationship.
Bi boys taking over 💙💜💓
TheOtherFWord yep
Bi everyone let's not forget about the girls that's half the battle 😋
Bi's Run It 😘🔥🔥
I’m bi as well and it feels great only found out recently tho
Bi girl taking over 💙💜💓
Sometimes I'm so sure I actually am bisexual and some other times I'm hella confused
Same 🥺
Same
Bisexuality doesn't mean that you're "on" all the time. Interests increase and decrease for many reasons. Don't try to label and simply try to recognize what your interest is in that time. I think that part of the problem is that most of us are not taught how to listen to what our own body and mind is telling us, but just play the social script in our head. Sexuality is so indivdual, forget the label, and learn to listen to what you're telling yourself. Get to know your interests, whatever they may be and whatever level they may be at that time.
I- think I might be Bi- but like I don't know. I've imagined myself plenty of times with guys, and have had plenty of crushed on guys, and guy celebrities. And that's usually what I think first when thinking about stuff like that. But then I think to my friends and my hobbies and then I just imagine how nice and peaceful it would be to be able to live the rest of my life with them. How soft...? Life would be if I were with a girl...
And then my love for some of these fictional girls 😳. *Cough* Catra *cough*
I was lucky that even in 2000 when i came out so to speak in high school i lived in New Orleans and most of the kids in my school were not straight. I guess growing up blocks from Bourbon Street we all knew about the fluidity of sexuality. I didn't actually know of any homophobic trends until the death of a boy in Texas ( Matthew Shepard). It shocked me and my school to the core. I never had any issues telling people because it was never a thing. But i am learning how hard it can be, my 14 year old daughter thinks she is lesbian. I told her no labels and to just be happy and healthy. No labels no box..... Enjoy the exploration and the journey. Its harder for her now that we live in farm land Texas. But she seems happy😏. I joke with her that at least she wont be a teen pregnancy statistic. lol
Im still closeted but I just want you guys to know that when we got outed there are people who will still support and love us the way we are. Many people might dislike us because of it but Let's normalize it so kids in the next generation won't suffer as much as we do. Courtney Jai is here, ready to lend a hand for those who needed help. We will stand together, no one will be ahead nor one will be left behind.
pansexual here. it is the best imo. since i reconciled my identity and embraced just being free. i am truly happy now and are in a beautiful relationship with my trans wife :) ( yes, i am attracted to boys who are boys too. just not overly masculine. i like smooth and fem
I know im late but idk if im bisexual since i dont know if i have a crush or just think theyre good looking!Im so confused.Love ur vids been bingeing them all🥰
@lily-Rose14 well a good way to think about it is could you see yourself having a girlfriend or a boyfriend in the future and how does that make you feel.
HEEEELP
Okay, I know this, I am 99% sure i'm bi, I'm just scared of telling people, I told one of my friends a year ago that I was stuggling with this and his reaction was like "please don't" and it broke my heart and made me feel super stupid and insecure.
BUT like a week ago I told another friend and he was suuuper nice and told me that he was okay with it and that I should be happy with who I am.
That totally made me feel better and I know that when I tell people I am going to feel way better.
I JUST WANT TO TELL PEOPLE BUT I'M SO SCARED, What are my friends gonna say? What if they stop talking to me?
If someone's reading this, please help, a little advice would be nice
Maybe ask your friend who you told to help you come out to your other friends having some one there can help out alot for emotional support
@@Courtney-Jai Yes, I will ask him because I'm still not 100% comfortable by myself, Thank you, It means a lot to me that you actually read my comment and replied. xoxo
You are so young and yet so wise and honest. It takes so much courage to be vulnerable in front of millions and expose yourself. You are such a beautiful human being. Thank you!
It takes alot more courage for people to watch me and make that decision to come out
Same comments here (gay guy from Hong Kong)
I have had some bi friends. I always thought that there is a lot of bi people.
My social media Twitter & Instagram @COURTNEY_JAI95
Im a closeted bisexual man😔 I don't know what to do.
Find other people who think and feel like you do. I came out and told my family I was bi when I was 16 but everyone is different. You'll know when it's the right time don't do it until you're ready. Or you don't even have to verbally say anything. Just date who you want and let people drawl their own conclusion about it!
I am bisexual my feelings for guys is different than my feelings for women
Me too and I have always thought that it should be the same, but it is quite different... so I have no idea still confused about 😄
How i found out
(Staring at girls) i can't be lesbian
(Staring at boys) i don't like boys
(Staring at girls) well that's not bad
(Staring at boys) eh.... Hahaha isn't this bad either
(Staring at both) oh my oh my
(I like both) AAAAAAHHHH
When I "came out", I said I was bi because I thought it would be a softer blow to my family. Ironically enough, they thought that was worse! 😂 I am actually fully gay.
I feel you
I just Dont like being Bisexual Before Because im so confused who what i want until I realize This is Exciting. 😅😅
I'm a woman and I'm bi-sexual and that's okay .😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 not that I would have felt bad being like that before, but listening to you and noticing that we are underwater is a super feeling. we should be proud to be honest with ourselves and to know what makes us happy dear bi-sexual and all other sexualities, we too are proud of ourselves.
dear cover travelers who are already so far away that you dare to say yes I am different and those who need time. It is normal to feel fear but you are not alone we should be proud not to lie to ourselves about who or what we are, we are not those who should be ashamed. Those who hate do not understand, they may be ashamed that they do not try to understand. But it's also okay because they are afraid and can't react. But we are the ones who are, a little more courageous, who explain to them that there is nothing crazy about it if everything is not as ordinary as the world wants it to be. the most important thing is to love and trust yourself
YUP BUDDY COURTNEY , AM TOO LIKE YOU BI, EVEN PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALY TOO,
I've looked at a bunch of videos like this and yours has been the first one which I've felt has given me something concrete to do to figure out my sexuality, so thank you for that. I've been having inklings that I might be bi for about a year now, but haven't really given it much thought as I was quite busy with school and definitely didn't need that extra mental effort at the time. I was suppressing my feelings for a guy I was attracted to at the same time, so it kind of just followed on. But for the past few months, with school ending and not much else to do, I've been focusing more on my personal identity, and actually trying to figure myself out. As such, I've been watching a lot of videos like 'How to know if you're bi', and while their experiences have certainly helped me become more aware and comfortable with sexuality, and to become more okay with being attracted to people (I always hid when I had a crush on someone because I didn't want to be made fun of, and as such have been a bit stunted in my exploration of sexuality as I constantly repressed it), I didn't really have anything else to go by to check if I'm bi. I'm demisexual (something I've known for years), and as such I don't get attracted to people until I've formed an emotional connection with them (I've so far taken about 3-6 weeks of getting to know people), and I thus haven't really been able to check if I'm attracted to female strangers or not to see if I'm bi. But this idea of whether I could imagine myself in a relationship with people of both sexes, that has helped me immensely. I already did my fair share of imagining with a couple of male crushes I've had, but then I realised that I've done a similar thing with some female friends (who I hope will never see this comment, because that's embarrassing af). While I will wait until I get a proper crush on a girl to come out properly, this video really struck a chord with me and I'm pretty sure now that I'm bi. So thanks, you've helped me with a lot of confusion about my identity and I appreciate that I can be more comfortable in that identity now. I haven't told anyone at this point, and it's been eating at me a lot because I want to work myself out, and I want a bit of help doing that, and I think now that I'm a bit closer to being sure I might tell a friend about it, one who won't make a super big deal out of it (so not my lesbian friend who will take it as a lot more certain than it is, and not my friend who is completely straight and quite naive and innocent when it comes to issues of attraction and sexuality).
I feel like I've been writing a lot of comments like this on videos like this in lieu of actual people to talk to. They're very much for myself, but I think I need that. If anyone actually read through my paragraph of confusion, I appreciate that, and any advice you have would be appreciated
I have found that sometimes writing it out is therapeutic and most helpful , this maybe the most though out comment I have ever read and I really hope you do discover yourself just remember you only get one life so make the best of it 😋
@@Courtney-Jai Thank you for replying haha. I have a lot of thoughts going on atm to do with my sexuality, so I kinda needed to write them all out to work out my overall thoughts. I tend to overthink things, so there's a lot of them. It helped a lot to write them here where someone might see them, as did telling someone irl
Yeah I'm bisexual.. Attracted by female and males... 🤔🤔
Good for you
I'm not sure about my sexuality right now that is why I'm seeing this and even though I'm not completely sure that I am bisexual or not this really helped me with some questions I had and made me feel a little bit less confused about it so thanks for making this video
No problem would you think it's would help if I made more updated video of this just wandering
I meant compatible with me which is why I thought you were awesome😀
Haha unfortunately I'm very much taken but I'm sure there someone out there for you
@@Courtney-Jai I didn't mean it that way 😀but I found out by asking my cousin already thanks Courtney I'm just interested in alot of what you have to say because it's interesting that's all I still like your videos😀 your okay Courtney I m just dumb when it comes to social media thanks again Courtney 😊 bye
@@Courtney-Jai I know why you are thought that now because I said compatible I meant astrologically which is why I had asked you about your sign because according to the astrological books we would make good friends that's why I said I that previously 😀 but it's okay just a misunde rstanding your cute anyway bye Courtney 😊and thanks for responding I really did appreciate it very much bye and thanks 😀
@@hwilliams275 haha cool cool have a lovely day 😊
@@Courtney-Jai thanks Courtney😊
This video was extremely helpful, thanks!
I dont understand bisexuality and wish someone could help me really understand it.
I'm gay but I like bi guys more
Does that make sense 🥴🥴
🥴😊😂😂💙💛💙
I feel this is so weird
I want a bi boyfriend n shout out loud
Finally I have a bi boyfriend n we love each other yaaaaa....😂😂😂😂😂 I'm weird weird weird...
I'm also a bisexual gal woo! However I just came out in February and tbh, I still doubt myself a lot which is really annoying me, I wish I just had some clarity in knowing for sure. Im worried I'm kind of inventing or imagining my attraction to girls, but I don't understand why the hell I would do that. I'm just doing a whole lot of thinking and trying to figure out who the heck I like and who I am! This is a helpful video however when discussing gender, i would say try not to gender genitals, they don't always define gender (yanno transgender and non-binary and all that big old spectrum of gender) Still an awesome video though but just wanted to idk give some advice I suppose x
Hi girl! I'm bi too and i can understand your frustration, just a piece of advice to help don't really bother about it that much now. It will all make sense when the right person comes :) why are you so on edge about it?
If you’ve come to terms with yourself that you are indeed bisexual, you most likely are! So don’t worry :)
NailDit100 same girl....watching this video because I’m questioning today 😅
Iam a guy and I want to date this guy but I don’t wanna mess up at the very last moment that matters most that is why I’m here right now to understand make sure.
Me too girl, me too
I'm 45 and have just recently really realized that I am bi sexual. I'm not gay and I'm not "strait" either. Sorry for the spelling. The thing is my non gay friends feel weird when I talk about men and that I love penis. And my gay friends feel weird when I talk about loving women. Why does this have to be so polarizing? Why am I stuck in the middle of these people who profess to be my friend no matter what? I do understand it though, how do they feel looking at me. Where do I fit? Just because I love both means I am marginalized by both groups? This fucking sucks and I feel stupid. Your vid has helped me talk about it. Thank you.
I like boys girls and boys and girls I don’t know if I’m pan but or gay
I am bisexual
I'm bi and I have been dating my gf for about 2 months and I love her and ppl don't understand it so we just don't rally tell anyone
I find my attraction is different for each sex, I find women more physically appealing but I absolutely hate how they judge who they should date. Men I find less physical attraction (i'm pretty playful so it's not really a problem but it's noticeable) but emotional attraction is much, much stronger. Whenever I have dated women the first question is how tall are you if not in person or, what do you do for work how much do you make. I actually said I was unemployed on purpose the last few times and they would drop me immediately. If they would have stayed I would have clarified at the time my Husband had just passed away and I was taking some time to pull myself together because I had enough money to not need to work. I ended up with a guy because he talked to me like a real person and not a job interviewer. When I eventually got a job i'd fly to the Netherlands for a date over the weekend then be back for work that monday morning. My female boss thought it was romantic and said she couldn't find anyone who would do that kind of thing and I thought maybe the person who would is short.
I'm a bi.. and my parents not happy with it..i came out as a bi to my parents when I was 19 y/o..During my came out, they hit me, they abused me physically and mentally, isolated me and they asked me to change my sexual orientation to straight again.. but I just can't.. And they confiscated my phone and texted my ex boyfriend to dumped me.. I was so depressed and wish there can be a cure for this sexual orientation problem....
Oh I’m struggling real hard right now I want to tell my mom but I am scared to tell her that I’m bi but I’m afraid that she’ll kick me out I’m only 15
CARABEAR greenaway if I’m honest, I don’t want to sound scary or anything, but if your in a country in lockdown at the moment, it would probably not be best to come out now, not everyone understands at first and can need space to process things, but in lockdown there is no space and stress levels can be high. I would recommend hanging on in there for a bit longer, but it will be ok there are plenty of people in the world who will support and love you if things don’t go to plan 🙂
Thanks for the Advice
Omg we r the same person
samad ya we probably are the same person
thanks for existing man im not sure this helped alot ❤
Im
bi, 😉 yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet
I'm Pure Gay, my boyfriend is Bi..
till now, i still can't get how a person can love/attract to both gender..
Pretty much the same as how your attracted one gender we are attracted to two genders
What if I'm a biological male but am attracted to FEMALES and TRANS FEMALES (girls with a...) but NOT attracted to guys?!?!
I'm guessing that's pansexuality
I’m Bisexual but it’s so hard finding other bisexuals out there. Am I only the who can’t find other bisexuals ?
Guess you just have to look in the right places
Sometimes I have a feeling but sometimes I don't have the feeling and I did test like and sometimes I force myself but sometimes I have a little feeling of gay porn but sometimes I got really really confused and I don't know if I'm straight or bisexual like all did a test and if o saw gay porn my feeling is gone😔😓
Love the music
I wasn't bisexual, UNTIL I watched this video.....
Nah, just kidding, I was, but he's so cute it just reminded me of why....
Well I'm happy to be a reminder
My frist time I gave it to him it was his size ,and those lips I gave it to him the frost meeting
I know that I am bisexual but I am still assimilating the idea (romantic and physical attraction to women but physical attraction to guys )
I’m only 12 and I think I’m bisexual, because for me there is no problem in love, imagine that « normally » girls had to be with girls and boys with boys, people would say it’s weird if a girl is with a boy! So for me everything is okay, it’s just that our society thinks that if your bisexual (and a girl for me) it means your lesbian (so it’s hard to have a boy friend). I only said that I’m bisexual to a close friend but not to my family, I’m scared about what they are gonna say (I know they don’t have any problem at all with it but I’m still scared) and I’m stressed about how I’m gonna say it.. Hope someone helps me here, Thank you👍🏼
I know how I can come out I need a lovee
I think your so very cute! Is it strange that I'm attracted to bisexual guys? And curious what sign are you because you seem comparable in general 😊thanks
I'm a Pisces ♓
Pls help. I am a girl and definitely into guys. But I am also attracted to girls that are on the manly side aka butch (I am sure not into girly girls example those with long hair). Do you think I am considered a bisexual? Or I am just straight and deceived by the looks of butch women as they looks like a man appearance wise?
I'd say your bi if your attracted to both men a women doesn't matter how someone looks
Well I'd say you're still straight... Tbh you don't got much to worry about.
I have the signs of being bi but shouldn't we experiment to find out
I'm bi but I can't find anyone in my area that's bi... I'm sad now 😿
I feel your pain! A lot of ppl think that in America it's easy to find a large LGBT community and as that may be true in places like LA SF or NYC, it's much different in other parts of the country. It could always be worse though I guess haha
i dont think im bi because i’ve always liked girls and love girls but i think some guys look good looking but i’ve never been attracted to them so wtf am i? 😂
I need help, I think I am bi or bi curious but I am not sure ... I realized this last night at 12 am so.... Any help would be great
I’m not gay or by like I liv girls sexually but I like the way boys look like I don’t get it but I not attracted to boys I’m attracted to girls
I’ve only had a crush on a guy irl once, and it lasted a year. It was because of his personality. However I’ve had tons of celebrity crushes on guys, which has set my standards pretty high lol. I could see myself dating a guy, but I was never boy crazy, or had much of a thing for abs.. but when it comes to girls I can definitely see myself dating a girl, marrying a girl, everything. Same with a guy, but I don’t think that much about the s*xual bit. I think I’m bi, and I think a huge sign is since I was little I thought it was so cool to be bi. That I even WANTED to be bi. I also have a lot of friends who are bisexual, and I think that hearing them come out has helped me really think about my own sexuality. But I’m still not sure. :((
I know it sounds weird but in 5th grade I got called gay and stuff turns out they aren’t wrong in a way I’m bi so i basically believed it so I forced myself then I stopped in 6th grade heh lol now in 7th gonna keep getting better
I think the guy I was in love with is gay.. I'm pretty sure of it..👬🏾 I mean he tells this guy everything I've done an the guy seems to get defensive and talks down TOWARDS me as if hes a woman.. defending his man..what guys has time to get involved that technical 🤷🏾♀️.
I have been bisexual since I was 15 y.o.
I came OUT around ten years ago and most of my friends and family members were very supportive.
Being bisexual allows me to enjoy the BEST of BOTH worlds and fully enjoy life.
That really a great I'm very happy for you
AF I am Search Wrong Content
3:38 that makes so much more sense now
Hello I consider myself straight I have aesthetic attraction towards men will that devlop into romantic and sexual
Aesthetic attraction is mostly towards their face
I also tried fantasising about men but it did not feel good Am I suppressing my feelings I think I have HOCD
no i’m just gay :’)
Zoella Caylen and that's still awesome
That’s kind of funny i’m in the sea of people who are saying their bi in these comments and then I just see one comment that says they’re gay
See I'm bI sexual but I'm confused on who should I date, and a lot of things. I like guys but I want to marry women, only date guys, ugh I'm so confused
Man since im no I've been getting bullied
I know this is not a new video... *but,* I just wanted to say = I love how you actually acknowledged that you are not required to have sex with someone to still be able to have a totally non-friend relationship with someone! This concept often seems to be considered as strange and poorly understood by people as bisexuality itself, or perhaps even moreso; and, it is so rare to hear someone actually just say it outright like that.
THANK YOU💜
Well I think the more I talk about the subject the more I can educate people on it Im happy you liked the video
I find guys and girls attractive sexually and physically but I've never been in a relationship other than friendship with a girl. I have kissed a couple girls but it still makes me wonder if I could fall in love with a girl and either way am I Bi.
Bi and proud... was really confusing at first though... it took me very long to acknowledge and then accept it. But now I'm ok and fine and loving myself...
Courtney-jai, or anyone else. I’m confused because I know I’m heterosexual, but my mind keeps saying LGBT+, and I don’t know why. I’ve never had sexual thoughts or feelings for a girl?Please help me.
Can a person who is homosexual and heteroromatic identify as bisexual ??
I think if you identify as homosexual you've already decided who you are , I feel relationships need more then just emotional connections to be truly long lasting
Courtney-Jai (I am female btw) and Exactly that’s my problem because I am only attracted to the same sex sexually and only attracted to the opposite sex emotionally. I’ve tried forcing myself into having emotional feelings for women and getting sexually turned on by men but for some reason I just can’t. Then I came across the term cross-orientated and I feel like a freak:( and just like you said relationships need more than sex to function.. so I will never be truly happy with anyone. I’ll look at a women and not know how to love her. I will look at a man but never have sexual intimacy with him.
Courtney-Jai Also, when I say homosexual I mean I am only sexually attracted to people of the same sex. But I am not emotionally attracted to them.
@@ax3lsantana897 I know what you said and my point still stand s relationship is complex there has to be more then just or just sexual attraction.
I really want a cute、handsome boyfriend with profound insignts like u.
I am bi
Well your not the only one 😋
I just came out to my sister!!!!!!
Congrats
My question is can you deny the fact that you are bi??
Ofcourse it's actually a big part of thr coming out process for alot of people look up my video 5 stages of bisexuality
To me bisexuality isn't like I like women more or I like men more like no...... Its just that GENDER DOSENT MATTER, I fall in love with who I fall in love with😪😒 and I can date both genders the same way because GENDER DOSENR MATTER if I date a man I date one, if I date a women I date one, ohh bisexuality isn't a sexuality, exsuse me but just because we don't date one gender doesn't mean it isn't a sexuality an ways grow up its 2018
I can see your point , we don't date on gender but on love itself
so i keep tellin myself im nit bi and i dont really like men i just pretend to and i cant shake the self doubt, help please
I m from india can bisexual man so masculine ?? Can gays be so manly and handsome ??
I gay person can be any person regardless of traits
@@Courtney-Jai no as mostly gays are feminine na
@@robstar2gaming424 not true two of my best friends are gay and engaged and they have hardly any feminine qualities that my friend is a stereotype so yes you can be very much masculine and gay masculine and bi
I feel something to my best friend guy.
I'm bisexual?
I don't know what to say about it 😁😅🖐🏻❣️
Okay so I’m kinda confused... I don’t wanna be Bi (I’m not against it tho please don’t get me wrong!) and I’m pretty sure I’m straight. I’m not sexually attracted to the same gender. But when you mentioned “emotional relationship” I kinda felt like that if I did have an “emotional relationship” with the same gender I wouldn’t be weirded out with it? Is it me just not being judgmental? I’m worried because I just want to be straight but I’m not against anyone who likes the same gender, I wanna make that clear.
You can have an emotional relationship without it being romantic and by what you've said I'm pretty sure your not bisexual
So don't worry about it 😋
@@Courtney-Jai Wow, thank you so much. I feel a lot less confused after watching this video!
@@Courtney-Jai U won't you helped! thank you!
@@aleesha8859 good to hear and merry Christmas
I just found out I was bi 5 months ago
I don’t know who I am anymore do you have to only be a boy to be bi I am so confused🥺🥺🥺
No you can class yourself as any gender you like and still be bi
My friend mentioned bisexuality and asked them what it means they told me and I searched to check if I was and this video helped I just don't know if I'm bi though btw I'm 9 so I'm mor nervous about it
Well your still young don't feel like you have to label yourself you still have alot of life to live yet
I'm such a child. I laughed when he said penis. I am immature.
I am probably a bisexual.iam not sure.my sexual attraction 98% to female.
Maybe Ur a little bicurious
@@Courtney-Jai i feel the same too it disgusts me
@@Courtney-Jai i feel like i am not getting aroused by anything
Im just confused 🥴
Softer sounds boring 😴😐
I am not romantically attracted to guys but I am sexually. does that make me bi?
Only if you think it does u decide the label you want to put on the package that is you
No. Being bi means that your sexually attracted to BOTH genders. You might be homosexual aromatic
forgot to add I am sexually attracted to cis females and trans ladies
I’m 14 and I feel like I am but I don’t want to be
its the denial stage don't worry you'll get through it
Hey dude! Being a Bi guy myself I'm just interested in what sort of reactions have you had from friends, particulary your male friends? I'm sort of in this fuzzy stage of coming out, some people know but its an open secret.
Generally pretty good the odd joke about being greedy but nothing bad , I think because I have a small close friend circle and among them one is gay and another is bi also it's alot easier for them to accept and be happy for me
I'm not trying to promote or anything but there is a video with my friend Jordan it (he's straight) and he explains how he felt about me being bi so that might help aswell it's called coming out FEAT Jordan
Courtney-Jai Thats cool matey, I have a few Bi friends, there are more of us than you'd think haha.
They're not exactly "out" just yet, but who knows, maybe time will tell.
Keep up tge good work pal!
Thanks man I will
Great video Courtney-Jai!
Amazing that someone just a year older than my son has helped me with my coming out process as a bi man.
2018 is the year that I decided not to "hide" anymore, and I am all the better for it. At 53, it was about time haha. The important people in my life know (parents, family, best friends) and I've decided to mention it to others if it is relevant to the conversation.
Anyway, keep up the good work mate!
By that someone do you mean me because if so that's amazing , that's what makes these videos worth it I am very happy with you
Patrick Gosselin how old is your son
I think I’m bisexual
That's good how are you handling it
It’s hard because nobody like me
So love
Is that a question
I have a friend that is bisexual and I love him to death because we are the same xoxo ❤️♥️💜💛💚💙 xoxo to you brother
No problem and that's good it's always important to have friends
@@Courtney-Jai I do they support me
@@Courtney-Jai thanks for the wiseness in this video