In the past 8 years I've thought every American wedding looks identical and boring. It's like we've figured out how to mass produce everything, including weddings.
Not only American weddings, I'm from Spain and all the weddings I have been look the same. We don't have bridesmaids, but the decorations are just identical.
@@clarasalinassanchez3705 I've never been to any Spanish weddings, but I'm from your neighbour country(Portugal) and I feel like even though we don't have the bridesmaids and grooms men, the weddings lately have been very "americanized". Very pinteres-ty.
@@lulubelle65 I served Jelly Belly jellybeans in my centerpieces for my reception and apparently there were people talking smack about it as being tacky. With that said those same people who thought my jellybeans were tacky had no problem with eating them so... yeah. But do I care? Not really, my husbvand and I love Jelly Belly Jellybeans!
Sometimes the idea of being a flexible, easy-breezy, eclectic bride is actually WAY more work than just going to a bridal store and picking out the same dress for all your bridesmaids. "Keeping it simple" can absolutely mean deciding what's important to you and then just doing what everyone else does for the other stuff.
i suggested my bridesmaids pick their own dress out and i got negative feedback from that. they didnt want the pressure and felt like it might take a long time to find the perfect one.
As a bridesmaid I got barked at (by another bridesmaid) for suggesting we all wear the same dress...after loooooong deliberations about who to even buy from. What I've learned from the several millennial weddings I've been to (form low key, to extravagant, to all out DIY) is you can't please everyone especially those most involved.
Picking your own can be amazing, but there are tons of barriers. As a bride who works and is in grad school, I didn’t have time to approve and coordinate even the 3 dresses my bridesmaids would be wearing, much less help them find them secondhand (something I really wanted for ethics reasons). In the end, I found one seller selling 3 identical dresses worn once, got the measurements and purchased them on behalf of my bridesmaids. Everyone is happy with this. The bridesmaid dresses are not an important part of the day other than just to look cohesive in some way.
I thrifted my own glassware for my wedding for an eclectic, mismatched look. Cost just as much, if not more (gas i spent driving store to store every other week!), than renting from somewhere, took months of searching and stressing, and then I was left with them all after the wedding. It looked beautiful, but I do agree that sometimes the simpler method is to buy into some of these trends and while i share your distaste for most of them, I can't necessarily blame someone for opting in if they simply don't have the extra emotional energy. Even if you DIY stuff, everything in the wedding industry is expensive in some way.
Yeah I agree that the boho farmhouse wedding vibe is hard to escape. BUT having a cool eclectic wedding is way more work and money than you realize. Most of the time the most simple cost effective choice is the most popular choice. For example thrifting enough china an glassware for a small wedding of 50 people would probably take hundreds of hours to source. Not to mention the hassle of transporting them to and from your venue. It is much *simpler* to just use your caterer or venue's dishes.
tbh all her suggestions are like that lol. like yeah you spend all day trawling fb marketplace and vintage stores for your stuff, it's literally ur job 😂
I wanted to do vintage looking china for my wedding. even mismatched it would've been like a thousand just for the plates for a small wedding. luckily we broke up long before any real planning occured and the guy I ended up marrying wanted small and non cliche too. so we got married in his backyard and had 20 people over after for pizza and beer. so much better
Exactly. I did this and it was way too much of my time because it would have been way to expensive otherwise. It’s easy to say before you actually plan and do a wedding and want to be unique haha
As a person who works with all this wedding related things, I'm sick off everything, nothing looks beautiful anymore to me and I'm never getting married 😂
I used to want a wedding and now they're so cringe to me and I can't justify spending that money. I also have anxiety so I hate the thought of a crowd of people watching me all day lol. Gonna just get it done at the courthouse and then have a meal with immediate family.
I second this! I need 6-12 months notice to budget for our family to travel/fly, save the dates are thoughtful. They don't need to be physical either -- could be an email, a text, a link to a website, etc 🥰
This is actually really funny because most of the ‘trendy’ things you mentioned are things people do to save money! Geometric arches are VERY EASY to make, same with welcome signs and crafty thing like name cards and seating charts so most people save money by DIYing them but they help make your event look fancy/expensive without spending a lot of money. Where as, 100+ glasses of champagne is VERY EXPENSIVE! Eucalyptus/ or just greenery with minimal florals is saving money because florals are likely going to be the most expensive thing you pay for! But the hair and makeup part I completely agree, at my wedding I did my own and told my bridesmaids they could do their own too, that being said, they asked me to hire someone to do it because most people like getting done up for a wedding they’re in 🤷🏼♀️
The funny thing is you don't like stuff that is trendy but at the same time what you propose instead is trendy as hell right know. The difference is that it is fairly new trend (like vintage, earthy, natural, ORGANIC). Listen, I got married 12 years ago, 16 people were invited, we had a nice dinner and went to a club😂so not a very impressive even but all of the stuff that you don't like is very pretty and tasteful, but popular and you are trying to be maybe more cool than that😂 let people be
I work at a wedding venue and the sorority type people are the most common frequenters. All the weddings feel like the exact same event. I like to make bets with my coworkers when the couple will get divorced
You can do millennials ruined photography next. Everyone's doing light and airy photography, and it's all over exposed. Children's interiors are getting scary too. Everything is white and beige. I saw someone selling all white bouncy houses.
For real!! I like that parents aren’t overloading their children senes with too much color and texture in their rooms, but i know that’s not why they’re doing it. They’re doing it for aesthetic, not for baby’s brain development.
i am not sure the cheap multicolored plastic filled environment Xer gave to their children was much better. Nature is full of color, children do not need more stimulation color-wise than that.
I had succulents at my wedding exactly 5 years ago😅 The guests took them home after the wedding and lots of people still have them! I know succulents are not everyone’s thing but at the time it seemed like a unique idea and I have no regrets😄
Mine was 7 years ago and I did the same! And I as well asked everyone to take them with them and so many people still have them as well! I thought it was a way better thing to give out then some gift with our names or date on them that they would just throw away.
The Save The Date photos are typically your "engagement shoot" which is basically a practice run to get to know how to work with your photographer - get comfortable with them and taking direction/being in front of a camera. Save The Dates come into play when people need to request time off of work to attend a wedding (potentially travel). If you only get two weeks of PTO and typically the wedding invite comes five to two months before the wedding, that may be too late for most people to request time off work. STDs are sent out earlier so people can book their time off/travel while the couple finalizes details (like the menu options, which you'll need to send with your RSVP) that typically can't be decided that far in advance.
All valid points, however this can be sent as an email or text instead of wasting money and resources. ALLLL of this wedding stuff typically ends up in the landfill.
Eh that’s not necessarily true, the standard for sending out invites (at least when done professionally) is 6-8 months. 6 months is most common- giving plenty of time to make arrangements. We used to turn people away if they didn’t have at least 8 months before the wedding to allow for printing delays & to ultimately secure that 6 month window. It’s okay to admit that the save the dates is often just an extra unnecessary step. As others pointed out, passing on the actual date you choose for the wedding doesn’t need to be formal whatsoever. I currently have a save the date sitting in my kitchen from my cousin who isn’t getting married until next may… it was sent to me last year before they even had a venue. Between chats with family members and just following her on social media, i have been notified of the date of their wedding (still no venue) at least 15 times. It’s unnecessary, and this is not the first time I’ve run into this. At my former job we would often encourage people to forego save the dates because even we felt bad charging them so much for something that we knew so unnecessary & wasteful.
Yeah Save the Dates are pretty important when you have guests who live far and will have to travel. They didn't use to be necessary when people stayed close to home and moving away wasn't as common. I agree engagement photo sessions are not necessary but you definitely should send some kind of save the date for a bigger wedding whether it be via email or physical! Many people are busy and need reminders for an event happening 8+ months from now.
Yep… I’m a wedding photographer. When a couple books me for their wedding, the engagement shoot is complementary. If they don’t want to do an engagement shoot, then the bride has the option of using that time for a separate bridal portrait session (usually the same day that they might do a hair and makeup trial). But it’s a use it or lose it kind of thing… it doesn’t cost them extra to do it and because portrait time on the wedding day is so rushed, it’s helpful to have had a “dry run” with your photographer before the wedding so that there is an ease and familiarity on the wedding day and you can roll through those portraits quickly. The other reason to do an engagement shoot is to find out if your photographer is actually who you want to work with on your wedding day. I’ve known photographers who got fired by the couple after the engagement shoot because they didn’t click or the photographer didn’t deliver the style or quality of images that the couple ended up wanting. (There are a lot of photographers out there who market themselves using other photographers’ images… or they only show their very best work and after you’ve had a shoot with them, you realize they have a low percentage of usable images from a single shoot or wedding.) So yeah… the engagement session is not superfluous. It’s actually kind of a responsible thing to do to ensure you have excellent wedding photos since the day can’t be “reshot”. As for “Save the Dates”… I think they are important for anyone who is planning a long way out. And if you have engagement photos… why not do a photo Save the Date card?? Photo cards are not expensive anymore… they are no different than photo Christmas cards. Sure you can do it electronically, but it’s nice to get mail too. It’s also good to send a save the date when you maybe know the day, but not the rest of the details that would go on the formal invite.
I pretty much agreed with your take on everything, except the bride's hair and makeup part. The bride is not part of the "decor." Personal style is just that; if the bride wants to look casual and natural for the wedding, do it, but if she wants to go glam on her wedding day, do it.
Save the dates are really common and a fairly old tradition! :) My mother had save the dates for her wedding in the late 90's and so did both of my grandmothers, they are generally sent a courtesy so guest can plan travel before hand and invitations have details regarding the rsvp date, location, dress code, and loose itinerary.
"Keep it simple, keep it natural. You don't have to spend a bunch of money." Shows a picture of Jacklyn Kennedy on her wedding. Literally American royalty. You were referring to vintage wineglasses and plates, but I still thought it was kinda funny. You're not wrong.
Honestly, this is super validating. There's so much pressure to be extravagant and go big. Small, special & unique is the way to go. Love your channel! x
I had a tiny wedding of less than 75 people, my dress was from a department store and I had exactly one bridesmaid, my sister. To this day I look at our pictures and I'm swoon. It was so low key, we got married in an old historical garden and school house. It can be done.
@@dva5610 I’m literally in a wedding of more than 400 later this year. I have loads of family. It was no one I don’t speak with on a weekly basis 🤷🏼♀️
Any wedding is the way to go if the couple is happy. I'm getting married in a few days and it's only 10 people outside of the court house, then dinner at the restaurant where my fiancee proposed to me. We are happy with our tiny wedding, and it suits us because we hate planning parties and dealing with large numbers of people. Flip side, I have been to some absolutely amazing giant weddings with 200+ people where everyone had an amazing time and I would absolutely go to those weddings again. It was clear that those weddings were celebrations of two families coming together to celebrate two people that they both loved, and it was still incredibly special and beautiful.
Currently planning my wedding. That horrid script that’s on literally everything wedding related makes me ill. My best friend, who regularly makes paper crafts, is making everything with print on it and the only stipulation I gave her was to not use that script. My bridesmaids are wearing black because everyone loves to wear black and I told them idc what style they pick, just find something you feel badass in.
I had my bridesmaids wear black too and pick their own style dress. They all looked so damn good and elegant and yes black is such a flattering color and a dress they can keep. I sent some options from Amazon and the dress where all under $60!!!
Huge fan of the little black dress for bridesmaids! I told mine they could just wear whichever one they already owned that they loved; It's hard to have fun in uncomfortable clothes. I've been a bridesmaid in the same situation, too. All of those occasions were elegant & awesome. (I guarantee that not a single person noticed or cared about the particulars, like matching shoes). The way I see it, if someone is dear enough to you that you want them in your wedding, you want them to feel good and have fun.
I would just like to give you hope for my generation. I got married in 2020 and there wasn't a mason jar in sight lollll. They've been "out" for years, since I was in college interning at a bridal/wedding magazine. My boss refused to put a mason jar in the magazine then bc they had already been over done hahaha
I will say, with the engagement photos: it usually comes with your wedding photo package to help you learn how to pose with each other and get comfortable in front of a camera before the big day!
Which can seem silly but for a lot of couples the photos are more 'normal', and when you're dropping $$$$ on a photographer might as well get practice in feeling comfortable on camera!
I honestly don't care much about wedding decor but I had a visceral reaction to the first geometric arch you showed. Very "burning-my-boyfriend-in-a-bearsuit" vibes.
I shot a wedding once where the bridesmaids all wore dresses from Rent the Runway. They were all different, but all in a palette of mauves, champagnes, ivories and silvers. It was lovely. I don’t know why we buy bridesmaids dresses when Rent the Runway exists! If guys can rent tuxes, we can rent dresses!
Rent the runway doesn't always have size inclusive options (in my experience), and asking bridesmaids to pick out their own dresses can be its own set of nightmares and headaches. It's really cool if you can use Rent the Runway though.
You’re not wrong. That being said, there has always been fashion in weddings. Part of the charm of wedding photography is looking back and enjoying (or laughing) the style of the times. Think of weddings in the 1920’s, 50’s, 70’s, 80’s. Bridesmaids choosing their own style is a nice development.
i absolutely love 80s weddings, with the victorian revival gowns, i literally want a vintage 80s dress for my wedding 🥺 so romantic and fun and i love historical styles
As a pro makeup artist and hair artist who works weddings every weekend, I can tell you that we only do what the client wants us to do. We are there for them and if they ask for a certain hair style or makeup look, then that’s what we give them. I also work with a lot of brides/bridesmaids who want to look super natural and effortless. It’s not really a matter of it being hard to find a makeup artist or hairstylist that doesn’t do certain things. You just go to a talented hair or makeup artist that can do what you’re asking them to do. This is also why trials are important
A lot of the things you think are costing extra are actually probably the cheaper alternative to something else. And that’s probably why they became “overdone”. Succulents and eucalyptus are hardy plant material on long days that are can be hard on floral arrangements. My bouquet in my brother’s wedding wilted and became floppy very quickly because it wasn’t designed with florals that would last in the Miami heat and humidity. And as for the arches… a full floral arch is PRICEY. A small spray on a structural arch that is rented is much cheaper. Hairdos… it just depends on what you want to look like on your wedding day in your photos. Is it hot? Humid? How does your hair respond to humidity? Might it rain? Loose, flowy hair looks all easy and “low production”, but it quickly looks a hot, sweaty mess. Those updos are designed to look good for many hours, keep you cool, and hold up a veil.
My wedding is even more minimalistic than the ideal one you described and it’s still around $20k for 150 people. That’s with no booze, basic table settings, a thrifted dress, and no hired entertainment. Maybe in part 2 you can pretend to plan your wedding and see how much it really costs. All the wedding decor may seem excessive to outsiders, but compared to the total cost, it’s generally a small part of the budget.
Same. If you’ve never planned a wedding it’s SO easy to say that you’ll be ~different~ and go the inexpensive route but that’s nearly impossible. These same kind of people will elope and then expect people to come to their “reception” a yr or two later. Only they’ll likely never had it bc it’s always gonna too expensive lol I’m just saying. Her thoughts are WAY easier said than done 😭
Wait what is costing so much money? 20k dollars is such a huuuge amount of money. More then what a lot of people make in a year, and you spent that on a party?
I had the brilliant idea to get married at the courthouse and then do just a reception. I thought it would take the stress out of the wedding planning process. It did not. Planning any big party is stressful, even when you keep it cheap and simple. My reception was at a campground, we paid $200 to have the whole place to ourselves for three nights. I thrifted most of the decor and the flowers were from Trader Joe's. We used string lights to light the venue and it added a lovely dose of magic to everything. The band my husband chose really made the night, no decor or fancy background required! I did have a pie table which was a huge trend for awhile, but I did it anyway to honor my late grandmother who taught me to bake pies when I was a kid. Point is: do what you want!! Weddings are always at least somewhat stressful and trying to make everything Pinterest perfect is not going to do anything but add to the cost and stress. Also, potential hot take: skip the wedding party altogether. You can still celebrate and honor your best friends without requiring them to wear an on-theme outfit or pay thousands of dollars in order to participate in pre-wedding parties and activities. The people who want to help and be more involved will come to you.
Favorite comment! It's YOUR day so do whatever the hell you want! Over the years (being a florist and a wedding attendee), I've learned that the most memorable weddings were the quirky, and different ones. If you decide what's most important to you, you can prioritize accordingly. We wanted really good food and an open bar so other things got booted and nobody noticed.
I would say that being careful about your plant choices can have a huge environmental impact. Locally sourced plants can be really positive, but some succulents and tropical plants are stolen from natural environments rather than reproduced sustainably. Some roses travel crazy distances by air from Ethopia via Amsterdam to your florist. So if you don't have strong preferences or attachments to certain flowers, you just want something pretty, a little research on the front end can really cut down the carbon footprint.
Yes, some endangered succulents and tropical plants are being poached from their natural environment but they are selling for hundreds/thousands of dollars and are sold to rare plant collectors. Most plants used for a wedding or other events are very common plants that are a dime a dozen. I rather see common live plants than plastic faux plants that will be trashed after one day.
I am a millennial planning my wedding right now. We did Save the Dates because engagement photos were included in our wedding photo package and getting the cards/shipping them out was $50. I think its important this year because there are SO many weddings - SO many - and we wanted to give people time to plan/figure out if they could come. I agree with all your takes :)
Apparently started with a woman, who had had multiple miscarriages, announcing that she had held a baby long enough to know it’s gender through a cake announcement. The concept of gender reveal blew up on social media and then snowballed into a giant mess.
@@tgime1 and most recently, that child actually came out as trans so the family did a “do-over” gender reveal with a nice message about how the concept is antiquated & for some people, like her son- it was inaccurate! It was really sweet. His mom has been very vocal about how she didn’t expect to create such a phenomenon, even before she knew her son was trans.
Unpopular opinion: signage is helpful. If you are an out of towner, if you don't know anyone at the wedding, and you're arriving before the couple to both the ceremony and reception, you want to make sure you're at the right place, especially if you're somewhere (like a hotel, convention center, hell even floral conservatories and Gardens and whatnot) where there are multiple weddings or graduations or other formal events occurring. Signage has purpose.
Gender reveal parties would be a good one considering those are something new. There's a lot to deconstruct. Paige might be more Gen Z than a millennial. Z and X are the badasses when it comes to the generation game.
Why? Isn’t the point of this video to do things your own, unique and original way? This video was based 100% on Paige’s opinion and personal preference. Also, keep in mind that geographical location and options will differ from city to city, states, countries, etc. Where I live , an outdoor wedding is risky because it rains often and weather forecast is unpredictable, plus it’s super hot year round, with about 4-5 months of extreme heat, even under any shade, tents, etc. That said, if you have very similar thought and preferences as Paige and want her advice, by all means you’re free to go whichever route you please. Please assume positive intent, I was not trying to be critical, just sharing my point of view. And congratulations on your wedding, so long as you and your partner are happy, your wedding will be fantastic!
I’ve had a wedding Pinterest board since I was in high school and I feel like a long-haul board is a good way to make sure you actually like an aspect and not just following the latest trend. There are a few things that have stood the test of time but now and then I go back and hoo mama thank god I didn’t get married in 2013
Yes!!! One of the reasons I love Pinterest. Works for fashion and interior decor too. You get to see what you still like 2, 5, or 8 years later. I actually like to go back and unpin things I don't like anymore and what I kept is basically my style.
I feel like we should all just accept that whatever we do go with for our weddings, aspects of it WILL look outdated to us in the future no matter what. It’s okay, as long as you enjoy it while you’re at your wedding!
I'm getting married in June and the only thing from this list I'm doing is a welcome sign because my venue told me I had to. "Bridesmaids" (sisters only) are wearing whatever they want. No save the dates. No neon signs. Basically the same hair and makeup I do on any other day. Keeping it very small and simple and trying to avoid the stuff I see everywhere! This made me feel more confident in my choices!
I was going to say, sometimes if the wedding is in a big event center there can be multiple things happening so there isn't an option for no sign. But otherwise, yeah if it's obvious, it's unnecessary! lol
That’s awesome you had your sisters. I did too. It’s amazing we had a weekend getaway and spent so much sisterly love for one another it was great. I wish nothing but the best to you. I also did my hair and makeup. Sending you all the good vibes and love
I worked in custom stationary, including wedding for several years starting back in the early aughts. Save The Dates and the structure of wedding invitations actually have a really long history. It used to be something that only upper class events did but has over the decades trickled down to the average person. We just don't usually have events large enough to justify Save The Dates except weddings.
I'm french, and "save the date" and "faire-part" are two different things. "Save the date" is meant to be sent way ahead of time, like a year in advance, just to tell the guests "book the date for us". The "faire-part" is the wedding invitation, which is sent just one or two months in advance, with all the details of the reception, the adress of the venue, the timing... I think if you're confusing the two, it's actually because "save the date" is a very recent thing in France, it didn't use to exist, at least not to my knowledge. About birth faire-part, i've always thought it's weird to announce the height and weight of a baby, I wonder if it's done in any other country ?
As a professional musician who does a lot of weddings, I’m laughing at her suggestion that a live band would be part of a wedding in a budget. Live music is EXPENSIVE, because you’re paying for the years of training and expertise of people who do it for a living.
she literally said at the end "splurge on good music" she's saying save on the extra unnecessaries and splurge on what's important (music, booze, food)
Our wedding band was our favorite dueling pianos group from the local bar and it was more expensive than the venue, more expensive than my (to me) expensive dress, twice as much as the food, etc. but totally worth it! They didn’t take a break all night and people still talk about them 7 years later!
This is my thought on weddings. I still look back at my wedding fourteen years ago and love everything I chose. I have such wonderful memories. As you get older, there are so few days if any that are dedicated specifically to your happiness. Do what makes you happy and don’t worry about others judging your choices.
We paid $1000 for our wedding with 50 guests. We used hand me downs from friends weddings so it was a little pieces together but it turned out beautifully 😂😂😂
As an Australian, Australian native flowers and Eucalyptus are a staple at many weddings here. You could pretty much just grab a branch from down the road. Never realised this was an American thing.
I'm Spanish and I thought the same thing, but in our case the pampas grass. I live near a dry river, and we have lots of it. And the worst thing is they are an invasive species, and the government has to spend lots of money to eliminate them. Maybe we could just send them to American brides.
100% on all of this & don’t get me started on bachelorette parties 😮💨Having been a bridesmaid in multiple weddings and seeing the stress + financial burden it puts on people, a big wedding was a no for us. My wife and I hired our dream photographer and eloped. Built our bouquets together at a local flower shop, got married at the courthouse, then celebrated with drinks where we had our very first date. Intimate, special, and have never regretted it 💕
OMG yes! My son's been invited to 2 stags in the past year....they were both out of town and three nights away. He doesn't get much time off, and he and his girlfriend would like to get away at some point. Not everyone has the time or money to participate in these extravagant parties. They are both for really good friends, and he is in both wedding parties. He stressed about this so much, and had to turn the second one down.
Probably yes because the stuff you choose is non tasteful and without any soul … Millennials are well known for being self centred and without care for others…
so true, aren't these all just trends? thats what people do, they repeat fashion trends they get oversaturated and dated, some people hate some people love, and then people move on. i don't understand why some people are always so full of drama and anger about millennials, something to be studied really
Paige, I’m with you on all this. I’ve been married twice. The first wedding in the 80’s was in the university’s chapel with a reception in the garden. I wore my great grandmother’s wedding dress, had bridesmaids dresses that were just summery regular dresses, and my friends and I made the food for the reception. It was simple and elegant and I loved it. The second wedding about 6 years ago, was at an old church-turned-theatre. I did the flowers for the arrangements out of white flowers from my yard and my husband and I made all the food. My bouquet was just a couple dozen cream colored roses from the grocery store tied together with ribbon. My dress cost about $200. We did a hand fasting ceremony with the vows partly in Gaelic. The bridesmaids (his daughters) wore non-matching dresses in blue and gray and my sons wore a blue or gray shirt. I loved that wedding, too. There is no need to spend crazy money on a wedding. Instead, we spent our money on a honeymoon to Mexico for the first marriage and Italy and Switzerland for the second. No regrets.
What really has me going is how “easy” and “inexpensive” vintage dishware will be. Big shock, but drinking glasses from the 30’s is actually quite expensive. I think it’d be a fun video in this series to see you plan your wedding and adding up the costs of everything you want in your own wedding
vintage doesnt have to be from the 30s lol its about the vintage glasswear aesthetic. as an avid vintage collector you can get vintage glasswear for 50 cents at a thrift store like goodwill. avoid antique stores or curated vintage shops becuase thats where they upcharge like hell
I was one of the brave souls that collected vintage wine glasses for the wedding, 50c-$1 a piece and got them into two totes. Doable but time consuming
Weddings should reflect the couple, the best weddings are always ones that feel personal and don’t look like everyone else’s (also less expensive weddings are normally more fun imho)
The industry has intentionally over complicated wedding so that brides/grooms feel that they NEED all these stupid little things, and it gets so overwhelming they need a wedding planner too! There goes $5k! I am very proud that my millennial wedding was SO simple and so beautiful, and had NONE of the silly stuff that she mentioned. The only thing I did have was matching bridesmaids dresses, but my mom made them and we gave them to the ladies for free. Oh and when I didn't send save the dates, my aunt was pissed! HAH I am not shelling out a ton of money so that you can throw it in the trash.
As a wedding guest, I actually enjoy getting save the dates in the mail - it gets me excited for the wedding and cute photos communicate a glimpse of the vibe and excitement of the day. I also like to put the invites on my fridge as a reminder of something to look forward to 😊
Honestly same! My fridge is covered with save the dates. Although I’m a wedding photographer and also took all the photos on them 😂 which makes me happy to see my couples and my work printed
My daughter had her small reception at a beautiful old coffee shop after hours. We played music with a small portable speaker connected to phones. We got the flowers the night before at a grocery store. They had catered food dropped off. She got a croquembouche instead of a wedding cake. The only splurge was some bartenders brought in for the night. Best. Reception. Ever.
I don't know what a croquembouche is and I'm glad all were happy with it, but give me CAKE! That is the highlight of any wedding for me! (NOT a Costco one, either)
I am a millennial. I am married. I totally agree with you. Lol I had a very weird wedding. 20s 30s wedding and I got married in the Dominican University Library chapel. We had zero decorations in that place. Super gorgeous old, dusty, books. Loved it. I literally totally agree about budget wedding. Not to toot my horn but our wedding was paid off 2 weeks before it happened. Though some traditional thinking family members wanted a wedding cake they were pleasantly surprised and happy with those mini donuts from Firecakes. Not mad at you girl. I agree with you.
A few notes, since I did my undergraduate thesis (almost twelve years ago) on the development of modern wedding customs. The books you might find interesting in addressing this topic are "One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding" and "Cinderella Dreams: The Allure of the Lavish Wedding." They both talk about the modern wedding industrial complex (both are written pre-Pinterest, but I honestly think this madness peaked right before the 2008 housing crisis). Miss Manners writes a very funny takedown of the modern wedding as staged production as well, and she is very clear about which conspicuously expensive "traditions" are actually traditional. As it happens, Save the Dates are something that *did* exist before (and were commonplace enough to be used to be abbreviated STDs). Their purpose was to give notice to people so that they did not set other plans - but usually these were handwritten letters sent by normal post. The most formal form of wedding invitations is also handwritten and would have been delivered by hand (or by footman) to anyone within easy walking or biking distance. Only more distant friends and relations would have received their invitations by post. These were also written on personal stationary that one would use for other forms of letter writing also, so there was relatively little expense for either. In my opinion, Save the Dates are still not needed for anyone who is given the information by word of mouth - especially in an era where one can always go back and check the date on social media or the optional free wedding website.
I have to say, sometimes it can be hard to get away from some of these things, and picking out something that is unique is often a lot more work. I am getting married in May. The only thing we have from this list is the cursive on acrylic (but not painted on the back) wedding signs and that is mostly because my mom bought a Cricut and I didn’t want to break her heart by having basically no Cricut crafts/ just printing out signs where they are helpful. I don’t mind the cursive we chose, and though I know things will look dated soon, I’m happy to have things people I love made as a part of our (minimal) decor.
this is honestly so sweet. wish i couldve made my mom and aunties happy because they wanted to help me plan. but helllllll no, im a graphic and fashion designer and im extremely specific with my aesthetic, lowkey broke their hearts but hey, its my day and what makes me happy is the aesthetic because im an artist. whats more important to you is the sentiment behind things. thats my only advice to brides, do what you want its your day not anyone else's
Very fun video, but an alternative POV on your “scale it back, keep it natural” preference is.. there’s a lot of cultures where weddings are *supposed* to be over the top events with multiple streams of financial support. It’s a community coming together and while it doesn’t look anything like your examples, it’s an important consideration IMO.
I think when weddings got de-tethered from family dominated event histories things got out of hand. I remember big Italian weddings and polka weddings in Wisconsin during my college days. They were both relaxed and formal, elegant yet raucous. Lots of aunts and uncles and cousins. Over the top yet simultaneously unpretentious.
Thank you, Paige, for unintentionally validating everything about our "unconventional" wedding we are planning. Our philosophy: it's basically a party. Just be ourselves and have fun. It's so easy to get caught up in all the drama and FOMO, which is so not the point.
Save the dates can be like 100 bucks to send out, whereas a flower arrangement is 200 a table, lighting is insanely expensive, and it is impossible to find someone who can do natural hair and makeup without charging insane prices (usually affordable hair and makeup artists only know how to do heavier bridal makeup). Just from my experience currently planning and trying to do something simple and realizing how expensive simple really is. And vendors usually do things in packages so something like those tacky flower walls might be a drop in the bucket and by that point you might be so caught up in the wedding rhetoric from months of planning that you think, oh maybe i do need a hedge wall to take pictures in front of…
I was going to say that my wedding was on January 1. Having it in winter meant that the decor was completely different from anything Paige showed (and this was 16 years ago). Of course where I live it is actually cold in winter. We did most everything ourselves. We rented the chairs, tables, some candelabra. We had about 60 guests. The colors were basically dark red, black, and white. The flowers were red roses. The venue was a historic home that served the dinner. I made the invitations and rsvp cards myself--they were red; I bought a fancy font--this was before "that" hand lettered font existed. I was pleased with how everything turned out.
I'm not much of a drinker, so every wedding I've ever been to, what I remember is this: 1. The food. 2. The company. I never remember the decor, just what I ate, and who I got to hang out with.
As someone who specifically asked my florist for NO eucalyptus but then showed up to my wedding to see eucalyptus everywhere….the knife has been twisted😂
I used to work at a place that did custom stationary/invitations for weddings and let me just say,,, the amount of money that people will spend on this aspect alone was insane to me, still is. I’m talking *thousands* and not even only for super super big weddings, i vividly remember an order that came out to around $3,000 for 150 guests
@@clarasalinassanchez3705 yes! So the save the date is sometimes sent as long as a year or two in advance… it’s basically a formal notification that the couple picked a date to get married lol. It makes sense if it’s a destination wedding or something that involves extra accommodations, but it’s definitely overkill in pretty much any other context as the real invites (with the rsvp cards, event info etc) are sent 6-8 months ahead of the actual event, still giving a reasonable amount of time for guests to make arrangements. It really is an odd choice in my opinion, especially when you can just tell your friends and family the date 🤷🏻♀️
As a floral designer and event coordinator, I cringe every time someone wants one of those donut peg walls. No. You cannot have that. I must save you from yourself, and refuse this heinous request.
10 years ago my husband and I got married in a wood paneled courtroom with just us and a judge. We spent $35. The thought of a wedding was 🤢🤢🤮. We’ve never regretted it.
Same, 20 years ago. Every once in a while I start thinking I missed out, but then a friend or family member starts planning their wedding and I’m okay again. We did renew our vows in Vegas for our 13th anniversary though. Just us, again. 10/10 would recommend.
Preach 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I used to plan events and weddings for a living . My husband and I decided to elope . I saw firsthand the insane amount of money people spent on one day and the stress . Nah . Let’s stop overthinking and overproducing weddings . Thanks for keepin it real 😎
I love my parents wedding pictures. They were married at a small church. My mom found her dress in a Goodwill bin for $50. The only people attending were their parents, their siblings (not even all the siblings were able to make it), and one of my mom’s cousins. The wedding reception was just cake and coffee. The pictures look so simple and so elegant. 🥰 My parents also eloped before the wedding, which I always thought sounded sweet and romantic. My parents wedding story definitely has some influence on me. Idk if I’ll get married, but I love love love the idea of eloping. We can always throw a party afterwards.
Love this! Just started *trying* to plan a wedding and am already so overwhelmed. Would love another video from you on wedding ideas/design things you like.
Dude. "I do think I'll just send a text... like, save the date, you'll get a really nice wedding invitation sometime soon." The delivery on that line and her facial expressions has me dying.
I got married in the 80's in an historic home, it was beautiful. Weddings were much more chill then. I did have big puffy sleeves! Love your take, as always.
Before the COVID, we were planing our wedding (90 people) and I was horrified by all the industry around it. I hated the decorations and all looked so wasteful. I'm an artist (painter) and I wanted to be me. I had fun designing our invites and we mailed them. Then the pandemic hit. Finally we got married in March 2021, with lots of restrictions. We got married at my mum's patio (I'm from Valencia, Spain), she decorated it with her plants: my grandma's ferns, snake plants, carnations and other plants she was been growing for years... My sister was my witness (we don't have bridesmaids in Spain), and she was wearing a beautiful purple dress that one of my aunts had sewn. This aunt also did my dress (emerald green) that I had designed and I didn't have a bouquet, I painted a leather jacket with one of my dad's poems (he died when I was a teenager and I wanted him to be part of it). For me was stressful to walk down an aisle without my father, so we didn't have one. My sister-in-law was wearing a dress she had before, she was my husband's witness. My husband was wearing all black suit but as he hates suit trousers he was wearing black jeans. It was a low-key wedding, we were only 8 people and a baby (my husband's niece). We were married by a family friend, and another friend took some photos. After that we and our family went an ate paella at restaurant near the beach. It was perfect. The only downside was that only the people who lived in my town could come, in my case was my mum, my sister and her boyfriend, and it was the same with my husband's family. We want to throw a party now, but not a wedding. A party for the people who couldn't come due to the restrictions.
I totally agree with you! Being french, we don’t do save the date, we don’t do bridesmaids but one witness each (one for the bride and one for the groom) and they dress how they want, for my wedding which was in the south of France in the hottest time (august), I asked my immediate family if they could wear light pastel color dresses but no obligation, everyone wore what they wanted, and for the flowers we only ordered 3 or 4 bouquets and an arrangement for our vintage car (that a friend let us borrow for the day, costed nothing), for the rest we did the flower arrangements ourselves the day before the wedding with friends and family it was actually good fun, we only used some olive tree branches from our garden and gypsophile.. my mum had collected so many vases over the years that we used them all for the center of the tables, nothing identical but everything looked good together.. I totally agree with what you said, guests don’t remember the decor, what they remember is the food, the drinks, the music and the good time they’ve had on the day.. love hearing your opinion!
I'm an American in France, and o was so happy to not have the pressure of bridesmaids, bridesmaid dresses, and everything being themed! Also, no American wedding cake! Just an amazing choux tower!
I’m here for Part 2!! 👏 I had a Covid wedding day (10 ppl because of restrictions) and it really put everything into perspective. It was the most magical, beautiful day, with the most heartfelt and thoughtful details from friends and family who couldn’t be there ❤️ I missed them, but did not miss a geometric arch 😂
our wedding decor was Dutch Still-life inspired. Lol, it turned out great. Main colour scheme was purple, burgundy and navy blue. Big moody florals on silver platters and blue and white dishware with grapes, lemons, pomegranates and figs. Lots of candles and a nighttime ceremony and reception. ceremony started at 6:15 and by 7pm the buffet and finger foods were out and the bar was open, no sit down, a few large tables and a bunch of bar tables and sitting areas throughout the space, cocktail party and dance party to follow after. Tons of food with food stations. One hell of a party!!!
I planned my aunt's wedding last year and it came in under 2 k. It was beautiful. It was also only possible because a lot of people volunteered a lot of time, and we were able to borrow a lot of decor. We were also able to use her parents house and another family member gifted all the food. To do things cheap is a huge investment and group effort.
I got married 5 years ago, and it is ridiculously hard to have an inexpensive wedding. My wedding cost 20k and we had cheesecake from costco, no fresh flowers, liquor from the army base.. Like as cheap as possible. I don't know how anyone affords this stuff.
Omg this video could not have come at a more perfect time. I've been planning my wedding and I have been STRUGGLING because all the decor I've found is so overdone. I definitely am into a nice, dreamy, vintage wedding aesthetic, so if anyone who is reading this (or Paige if you could make a video) on wedding decor that could fit this sort of vibe I would greatly appreciate. Like UGH I can't find any wedding invites that aren't in that terrible cursive! (Speaking of that, if someone could please recommend good templates/fonts/etsy shops/etc I will love you forever)
Don’t buy “wedding” ones. Buy formal invitations in the style of some other occasion. Get an old Emily Post book and look up the standard acceptable texts for weddings. It should have raised type (engraved) and most fonts are available. It should look very plain. (There was a time when only actresses and prostitutes sent out ones in colors with photos and tacky trendy styles.) You’ll make your grandma very happy.
Yes! This was the perfect video for you to do! You’re my favorite person to call out overused or boring or ugly trends, and I’ve been hating all this basic wedding stuff for YEARS!!! I could’ve listened to you talking about this for an hour honestly. Thanks for all your videos and great design opinions/advice!
Is it that she only surrounds herself with one type of person - it speaks volumes of her friend group or millennials that she is exposed too. Diversity in your friend group will allow you to see how other cultures and ethnicities celebrate marriage.
I never considered getting vintage glassware for a wedding! I went thrifting today and had to hold myself back from buying all the beautiful glasses. It is comforting to know that there is a time and a place to go nuts and buy every gorgeous vintage wine glass I lay my eyes on👌
Girl! Yes to everything you said!!! I’m sick of all of the over the top Pinterest crap!! My wedding was so simple and outdoors and we just let the beautiful outdoors be the decor! Btw, how did you not mention the ‘hoop bouquets’ SO CRINGEEEE 🥴
american wedding customs do look nice polished and cute tbh but i do agree with you that it has to stop. it just has no depth to it, no tradition or culture behind it and its all the same unoriginal boho aesthetic. i really wonder how did it all start edit : and yes we want the wedding decor you love!
Instagram, Pinterest, reality tv, celebrity worship, and the fact that there’s no mystery whatsoever about what’s coming afterwards. The bride and groom already live together and now just want a big party. I’m in my 60s and married a man I’d never slept with and had only known for a year. We got engaged and married within 6 months which was normal. I was the second girl he’d dated. We were 28 and 26, and I was the main wage earner because he was in grad school. Our sisters were the bridesmaids. Our brothers were the groomsmen. Everything was very basic and everyone was kind of electric because there was going to be real novelty that night. I can’t imagine how boring it must be to make love on your wedding night with someone you know ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING ABOUT already. Yuck.
@@sadiehazel3558 What are weddings supposed to commemorate and celebrate? That the couple don’t know how to break up? That they want the loot as if they haven’t had their combined household for ages already? That she’s pregnant? That they want to purchase instead of rent? You call it purity but it’s really what true adulthood is about-exclusivity in support of child rearing. Just because you think it’s quaint, or pointless doesn’t mean that it has lost its true significance completely. Paige and the commenter asked how the occasion became just a big empty Instagram experience? I’m saying why it’s empty. You are celebrating nothing at all when you’ve already drained the transcendence right out of the joining of a man to a woman within a society.
@@rosezingleman5007 You give yourself too much credit. It's antiquated. You might have been a virgin, but your husband wasn't he just never told you the truth. Not everyone has a sister or brother to stand in the wedding, while others have huge families and businesses and want to invite everyone they know. Everyone wants something else. I had a small wedding, and didn't even live with my husband after the wedding. None of this was ideal, but it was what we wanted at that time or couldn't have anything else.
Crappy little sign saying "Here comes the bride" some innocent child has to carry into the church ahead of the bride. Why? Who might you be expecting otherwise? Is that a thing in America too?
I would guess that the sign came about as a result of kids not being trusted to toss flowers, or venues who are concerned about flowers staining floors. I get that it's trendy and therefore feels tasteless. However, if the above concerns apply, having a child hold some sort of unbreakable, easy to hold object is an acceptable alternative to tossing flowers. It doesn't have to be a sign.
@@melissamybubbles6139 good point, but I think it also comes with this world trend of putting up wording and sayings everywhere especially chalk board signs. Never before has walls had so much to read as now. Very cute but just too much. It's really all over some South African homes.
It didn’t start with pinterest, it started with blogs, which predate Pinterest. The photos used for save the dates are usually the engagement shoot which is usually included in your photo package so you can get to know your photographer and practice having your photo taken because it’s awkward if you’re not used to it. Agree the cards being sent are dramatic. Bridesmaids want to pick their own dress but they don’t want to have to find a vintage dress (also, that’s not a size inclusive suggestion). Arches with florals are expensive no matter what shape. Pampas grass is ugly but cheap because it’s dried. Eucalyptus also very cheap. I don’t actually think the updo is popular I’ve never been to a wedding where the bride had one. Absolutely agree on food quality and even more so on music. Every generation hates what people did at wedding ten years ago, id love to see what you do like!
For florals, I feel like it's just nice to include plants that already grow naturally where your event is. Like I live beside the Pacific Ocean in Canada and even though cedar trimmings are played out in decor right now, maybe I would still include them because they're already everywhere around us. Or native wildflowers. I could imagine having small touches of dried grasses if I lived in the prairies
They didn’t ruin anything, they just had their own aesthetic. Every decade had its own cliche trends. Like obnoxious poofy sleeves in the 80’s. There’s no rule out there saying you guys can’t do what you want with your own weddings. Let people do it however they want. It’s their day, not yours.
if anyone planning their wedding feels pressured to play into the millennial wedding trend, consider that your wedding will look so southern sorority rush (i’m planning my sorority’s rush and i’m pulling a lot of inspo from weddings)
I feel like most people use the pictures from their engagement, even if it’s just a selfie, as their save the date photo. But you can get pretty cheap save the dates or even use an Evite which is free. The point is to let your guests block out that day far in advance, especially if it’s an out of state or out of country wedding they’ll need to plan for. And as someone who has been a bridesmaid many times, I would hate for the bride to give me full reign of picking my dress. I want her to tell me what to wear or at least guide me to a specific site and color that she wants because that makes it so much easier on the bridesmaids, at least from my experience. I also really don’t like vintage stuff so I am aware that our tastes are obviously very different 😂 Otherwise I agree that weddings don’t need all this lavish extras lol my florist told me that Pinterest is a blessing and a curse when it comes to wedding planning because people don’t realize how much the florals cost. Florals was my biggest disappointment, I would have had to budget double for flowers if I wanted my vision 😭 I recommend getting married in a garden or something to save on florals and other decor. It’s people who get married in hotels that need all this extra expensive stuff to bring their vision to life haha
I can't express enough how much I loved having a live band at my wedding. We cut back in other ways so that we could afford it, and it was so worth it. For those questioning, you won't regret having a wedding that is very unique and specific to you. Think seriously about what YOU want for a wedding, and avoid pinterest wedding tropes. I definitely regret changing certain things to accommodate particularly unreasonable family members.
I have some tips for a simple wedding. When I got married I didn’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen. We had two witnesses. Our friends were there but we didn’t have to deal with logistics or issues that comes from having a bridal party. (I still got together with my girls and had a shower but there was no pressure on them) We had a small wedding of 35. That allowed our nearest and dearest core of friends and family to be there and because it was so small, those excluded did not feel bad. Because it was smaller it allowed us to spend more on the things that mattered to us, like the food. My other big tip is to try to find a restaurant that has a beautiful venue. Figuring out the food situation and decor is a time/money suck. I wanted a 1930s inspired wedding. I was able to find a French restaurant that was in a converted art deco period building. It already had beautiful velvet drapes, it already had white linens and beautiful chairs. I had to organize nothing. The only thing I did was make my own centerpieces from bi-color roses (short stem $20 a dozen) in mercury glass vases (that I bought cheap) and little favor boxes with macarons. And find an alternative to the usual wedding cake. I had a Croquembouche instead, way cheaper, way more dramatic!
Don’t know about a lot of current day wedding expenses like save the date cards, requiring bridesmaids to travel to an expensive bachelorette location weekend in addition to buying expensive dresses and shoes, buying matching robes for the bridesmaids, paying for eyelash extensions, fake nails, airbrushed makeup and expensive hairdos, location wedding photos, foreign country honeymoons and on and on. It seems as if a wedding isn’t worthy unless it is a Kardashian worthy or Pinterest level event. My perspective is that a wedding is about about heartfelt marriage vows between two people and hosting the honored guests you have invited to witness your vows to a pleasant celebration, not the extensive decorations, makeup, hair, and nails and instagram posts.
You're so right about all of this, I couldn't agree more. I'm getting married next year and researching wedding decor is.... super sad to see people wasting thousands on pointless plastic meaningless trash
I saw someone do a twin peaks themed wedding and also a beetle juice wedding and thought it was so fun! Incorporate what u love in your special occasion instead of going with all this cookie cutter stuff! 🙌
So a lot of couples have almost NO “nice” pics together, no matter how long they’ve been together! An engagement shoot is a great way for them to have quality pics to remember this time together, plus it lets them get comfortable with the photog prior to the wedding day. And prices don’t have to be crazy (they range based on location and vendor, ofc). In central KY where I’m based, you can get a session for $250-350. I do agree that lifestyle shoots are super fun and let the couple incorporate an activity or part of their home that they love! Save the Dates are superfluous I agree, but they can feel necessary for couples doing a destination wedding, a holiday wedding, or a wedding where most of the guests are middle aged/have kids with super active lifestyles. Getting a heads up about the wedding date and location a little extra ahead of time lets your out of town people plan better :)
We eloped in San Antonio TX with cheap rings and jeans. Will be married for 10 years next April and it just going to be us and the kids. I will finally wear my wedding dress and so excited!
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In the past 8 years I've thought every American wedding looks identical and boring. It's like we've figured out how to mass produce everything, including weddings.
unfortunately many ppl in Germany don't have taste or own ideas, so they just copy American stuff. 🤷♀️
Not only American weddings, I'm from Spain and all the weddings I have been look the same. We don't have bridesmaids, but the decorations are just identical.
People are afraid to be different, and the wedding industrial complex has sold everyone a bill of goods about what a wedding *has* to have.
@@clarasalinassanchez3705 I've never been to any Spanish weddings, but I'm from your neighbour country(Portugal) and I feel like even though we don't have the bridesmaids and grooms men, the weddings lately have been very "americanized". Very pinteres-ty.
@@lulubelle65 I served Jelly Belly jellybeans in my centerpieces for my reception and apparently there were people talking smack about it as being tacky. With that said those same people who thought my jellybeans were tacky had no problem with eating them so... yeah. But do I care? Not really, my husbvand and I love Jelly Belly Jellybeans!
Sometimes the idea of being a flexible, easy-breezy, eclectic bride is actually WAY more work than just going to a bridal store and picking out the same dress for all your bridesmaids. "Keeping it simple" can absolutely mean deciding what's important to you and then just doing what everyone else does for the other stuff.
i suggested my bridesmaids pick their own dress out and i got negative feedback from that. they didnt want the pressure and felt like it might take a long time to find the perfect one.
As a bridesmaid I got barked at (by another bridesmaid) for suggesting we all wear the same dress...after loooooong deliberations about who to even buy from. What I've learned from the several millennial weddings I've been to (form low key, to extravagant, to all out DIY) is you can't please everyone especially those most involved.
@@kaylashreve7663 Yep I thought it'd be nice to pick your own but that was more overwhelming than helpful for them
Yeah I tried and after 8 months of nothing I was told I had to pick store and color because it was too stressful 🤦♀️
Picking your own can be amazing, but there are tons of barriers. As a bride who works and is in grad school, I didn’t have time to approve and coordinate even the 3 dresses my bridesmaids would be wearing, much less help them find them secondhand (something I really wanted for ethics reasons). In the end, I found one seller selling 3 identical dresses worn once, got the measurements and purchased them on behalf of my bridesmaids. Everyone is happy with this. The bridesmaid dresses are not an important part of the day other than just to look cohesive in some way.
Here's the best wedding advice I can give: Plan the marriage... not the wedding.
I thrifted my own glassware for my wedding for an eclectic, mismatched look. Cost just as much, if not more (gas i spent driving store to store every other week!), than renting from somewhere, took months of searching and stressing, and then I was left with them all after the wedding. It looked beautiful, but I do agree that sometimes the simpler method is to buy into some of these trends and while i share your distaste for most of them, I can't necessarily blame someone for opting in if they simply don't have the extra emotional energy. Even if you DIY stuff, everything in the wedding industry is expensive in some way.
You could have told everyone to take the glasses on their table as a keepsake. I agree simple and small is the way to go. Or elope.
Yeah I agree that the boho farmhouse wedding vibe is hard to escape. BUT having a cool eclectic wedding is way more work and money than you realize. Most of the time the most simple cost effective choice is the most popular choice.
For example thrifting enough china an glassware for a small wedding of 50 people would probably take hundreds of hours to source. Not to mention the hassle of transporting them to and from your venue. It is much *simpler* to just use your caterer or venue's dishes.
tbh all her suggestions are like that lol. like yeah you spend all day trawling fb marketplace and vintage stores for your stuff, it's literally ur job 😂
Ask your and your spouse's grandmas - there are 4 🤫
I wanted to do vintage looking china for my wedding. even mismatched it would've been like a thousand just for the plates for a small wedding. luckily we broke up long before any real planning occured and the guy I ended up marrying wanted small and non cliche too. so we got married in his backyard and had 20 people over after for pizza and beer. so much better
Exactly. I did this and it was way too much of my time because it would have been way to expensive otherwise. It’s easy to say before you actually plan and do a wedding and want to be unique haha
@@bridgetbardont literally all the time. it's not as prevalent as you think and would add up really quickly
As a person who works with all this wedding related things, I'm sick off everything, nothing looks beautiful anymore to me and I'm never getting married 😂
*MIC DROP!!*
Aversion therapy!
Same!! Every wedding I’m at, I’m just like “I’ve seen this a million times”
I used to want a wedding and now they're so cringe to me and I can't justify spending that money. I also have anxiety so I hate the thought of a crowd of people watching me all day lol. Gonna just get it done at the courthouse and then have a meal with immediate family.
Same here!!
“Save the Date” is NOT something new. It allow for guests to budget if they will need to travel. Photos are not required for them.
I second this! I need 6-12 months notice to budget for our family to travel/fly, save the dates are thoughtful. They don't need to be physical either -- could be an email, a text, a link to a website, etc 🥰
Okay, so then, why not just send out the invitations 6 - 12 months in advance? Why 2 sets of cards?
She means the formal cards and photo shoots, as she showed in her examples.
@@pegm5937 Because invitations have specific info that may not be worked out 6-12 months in advance. Like meal choices, exact times and locations etc.
This is actually really funny because most of the ‘trendy’ things you mentioned are things people do to save money!
Geometric arches are VERY EASY to make, same with welcome signs and crafty thing like name cards and seating charts so most people save money by DIYing them but they help make your event look fancy/expensive without spending a lot of money. Where as, 100+ glasses of champagne is VERY EXPENSIVE!
Eucalyptus/ or just greenery with minimal florals is saving money because florals are likely going to be the most expensive thing you pay for!
But the hair and makeup part I completely agree, at my wedding I did my own and told my bridesmaids they could do their own too, that being said, they asked me to hire someone to do it because most people like getting done up for a wedding they’re in 🤷🏼♀️
side note lol but vintage glasses of champagne would be about 50 cents at a thrift store. dont go to antique stores tho they upcharge like hell
I think it also tells about our life as milennials tbh. We save money on other things, or cannot afford fancy fun wedding?
The funny thing is you don't like stuff that is trendy but at the same time what you propose instead is trendy as hell right know. The difference is that it is fairly new trend (like vintage, earthy, natural, ORGANIC). Listen, I got married 12 years ago, 16 people were invited, we had a nice dinner and went to a club😂so not a very impressive even but all of the stuff that you don't like is very pretty and tasteful, but popular and you are trying to be maybe more cool than that😂 let people be
I work at a wedding venue and the sorority type people are the most common frequenters. All the weddings feel like the exact same event. I like to make bets with my coworkers when the couple will get divorced
You can do millennials ruined photography next. Everyone's doing light and airy photography, and it's all over exposed. Children's interiors are getting scary too. Everything is white and beige. I saw someone selling all white bouncy houses.
For real!!
I like that parents aren’t overloading their children senes with too much color and texture in their rooms, but i know that’s not why they’re doing it.
They’re doing it for aesthetic, not for baby’s brain development.
I know someone whose kid’s toys all have to be neutral too so it doesn’t ruin the home’s aesthetic 🫠
Absolutely agree, I mourn for these kids who have such a lack of color in their lives!
omg yes! This, so much! Like they can't express and develop their senses cause everything is beige. Which kid wants to live in a world like that?
i am not sure the cheap multicolored plastic filled environment Xer gave to their children was much better. Nature is full of color, children do not need more stimulation color-wise than that.
I had succulents at my wedding exactly 5 years ago😅 The guests took them home after the wedding and lots of people still have them! I know succulents are not everyone’s thing but at the time it seemed like a unique idea and I have no regrets😄
Mine was 7 years ago and I did the same! And I as well asked everyone to take them with them and so many people still have them as well! I thought it was a way better thing to give out then some gift with our names or date on them that they would just throw away.
The Save The Date photos are typically your "engagement shoot" which is basically a practice run to get to know how to work with your photographer - get comfortable with them and taking direction/being in front of a camera. Save The Dates come into play when people need to request time off of work to attend a wedding (potentially travel). If you only get two weeks of PTO and typically the wedding invite comes five to two months before the wedding, that may be too late for most people to request time off work. STDs are sent out earlier so people can book their time off/travel while the couple finalizes details (like the menu options, which you'll need to send with your RSVP) that typically can't be decided that far in advance.
All valid points, however this can be sent as an email or text instead of wasting money and resources. ALLLL of this wedding stuff typically ends up in the landfill.
@@sandyzupancic3059 I designed mine digitally and sent it out as an email. Looked great and cost almost nothing
Eh that’s not necessarily true, the standard for sending out invites (at least when done professionally) is 6-8 months. 6 months is most common- giving plenty of time to make arrangements. We used to turn people away if they didn’t have at least 8 months before the wedding to allow for printing delays & to ultimately secure that 6 month window.
It’s okay to admit that the save the dates is often just an extra unnecessary step. As others pointed out, passing on the actual date you choose for the wedding doesn’t need to be formal whatsoever. I currently have a save the date sitting in my kitchen from my cousin who isn’t getting married until next may… it was sent to me last year before they even had a venue. Between chats with family members and just following her on social media, i have been notified of the date of their wedding (still no venue) at least 15 times. It’s unnecessary, and this is not the first time I’ve run into this.
At my former job we would often encourage people to forego save the dates because even we felt bad charging them so much for something that we knew so unnecessary & wasteful.
Yeah Save the Dates are pretty important when you have guests who live far and will have to travel. They didn't use to be necessary when people stayed close to home and moving away wasn't as common. I agree engagement photo sessions are not necessary but you definitely should send some kind of save the date for a bigger wedding whether it be via email or physical! Many people are busy and need reminders for an event happening 8+ months from now.
Yep… I’m a wedding photographer. When a couple books me for their wedding, the engagement shoot is complementary. If they don’t want to do an engagement shoot, then the bride has the option of using that time for a separate bridal portrait session (usually the same day that they might do a hair and makeup trial). But it’s a use it or lose it kind of thing… it doesn’t cost them extra to do it and because portrait time on the wedding day is so rushed, it’s helpful to have had a “dry run” with your photographer before the wedding so that there is an ease and familiarity on the wedding day and you can roll through those portraits quickly. The other reason to do an engagement shoot is to find out if your photographer is actually who you want to work with on your wedding day. I’ve known photographers who got fired by the couple after the engagement shoot because they didn’t click or the photographer didn’t deliver the style or quality of images that the couple ended up wanting. (There are a lot of photographers out there who market themselves using other photographers’ images… or they only show their very best work and after you’ve had a shoot with them, you realize they have a low percentage of usable images from a single shoot or wedding.) So yeah… the engagement session is not superfluous. It’s actually kind of a responsible thing to do to ensure you have excellent wedding photos since the day can’t be “reshot”. As for “Save the Dates”… I think they are important for anyone who is planning a long way out. And if you have engagement photos… why not do a photo Save the Date card?? Photo cards are not expensive anymore… they are no different than photo Christmas cards. Sure you can do it electronically, but it’s nice to get mail too. It’s also good to send a save the date when you maybe know the day, but not the rest of the details that would go on the formal invite.
I pretty much agreed with your take on everything, except the bride's hair and makeup part. The bride is not part of the "decor." Personal style is just that; if the bride wants to look casual and natural for the wedding, do it, but if she wants to go glam on her wedding day, do it.
Agreed. Though I will say, having matching hair and makeup for all the bridesmaids starts tipping into "production" territory, for me.
Save the dates are really common and a fairly old tradition! :) My mother had save the dates for her wedding in the late 90's and so did both of my grandmothers, they are generally sent a courtesy so guest can plan travel before hand and invitations have details regarding the rsvp date, location, dress code, and loose itinerary.
“late 90’s” does not qualify as a fairly old tradition.
@@ssstaffordva6113yeah but they say their grandmothers did it too so i think thats where the old comes from
This. Save the Date is a courtesy.
@@ssstaffordva6113 of course, but my grandmother in the 1940's also had save the dates!
A text for save the date is just tacky! As far as the wedding decor, you do you and leave the other brides alone!
"Keep it simple, keep it natural. You don't have to spend a bunch of money." Shows a picture of Jacklyn Kennedy on her wedding. Literally American royalty. You were referring to vintage wineglasses and plates, but I still thought it was kinda funny. You're not wrong.
hahaha I thought the same
that also made me laugh. im just wondering if she knows thats a picture of a former president and his wife lmao
She’s trying to avoid looking basic but if you’re getting hetero married in your 20s/30s, sorry you’re basic just accept it.
Honestly, this is super validating. There's so much pressure to be extravagant and go big. Small, special & unique is the way to go. Love your channel! x
I had a tiny wedding of less than 75 people, my dress was from a department store and I had exactly one bridesmaid, my sister. To this day I look at our pictures and I'm swoon. It was so low key, we got married in an old historical garden and school house. It can be done.
@@kikimincksroten4828 omg 75 ppl is still a lot
@@dva5610 I’m literally in a wedding of more than 400 later this year. I have loads of family. It was no one I don’t speak with on a weekly basis 🤷🏼♀️
OMG THANKYOUSOMUCHFOR DOING THIS😂😂😂😂
Any wedding is the way to go if the couple is happy. I'm getting married in a few days and it's only 10 people outside of the court house, then dinner at the restaurant where my fiancee proposed to me. We are happy with our tiny wedding, and it suits us because we hate planning parties and dealing with large numbers of people. Flip side, I have been to some absolutely amazing giant weddings with 200+ people where everyone had an amazing time and I would absolutely go to those weddings again. It was clear that those weddings were celebrations of two families coming together to celebrate two people that they both loved, and it was still incredibly special and beautiful.
Currently planning my wedding. That horrid script that’s on literally everything wedding related makes me ill. My best friend, who regularly makes paper crafts, is making everything with print on it and the only stipulation I gave her was to not use that script. My bridesmaids are wearing black because everyone loves to wear black and I told them idc what style they pick, just find something you feel badass in.
🙌🏻🙌🏻 LOVE to see a bride hyping up her bridesmaids instead of feeling threatened!! Congrats on your pending nuptials!
I had my bridesmaids wear black too and pick their own style dress. They all looked so damn good and elegant and yes black is such a flattering color and a dress they can keep. I sent some options from Amazon and the dress where all under $60!!!
You should have your invitations done in Wingdings.
Do you need a photographer or invites done :))
Huge fan of the little black dress for bridesmaids!
I told mine they could just wear whichever one they already owned that they loved; It's hard to have fun in uncomfortable clothes. I've been a bridesmaid in the same situation, too. All of those occasions were elegant & awesome.
(I guarantee that not a single person noticed or cared about the particulars, like matching shoes).
The way I see it, if someone is dear enough to you that you want them in your wedding, you want them to feel good and have fun.
Thank you for talking about this. I thought I was crazy. I hate millennial wedding decor. If I see one more mason jar…
YES! Whyyyy does everything have to be done in a mason jar?? lol
Mason jar… wrapped in twine!! Genuinely hundreds left by previous weddings in the store at my venue
so true lol
I am so tired of mason jars I literally can't stand them
I would just like to give you hope for my generation. I got married in 2020 and there wasn't a mason jar in sight lollll. They've been "out" for years, since I was in college interning at a bridal/wedding magazine. My boss refused to put a mason jar in the magazine then bc they had already been over done hahaha
I will say, with the engagement photos: it usually comes with your wedding photo package to help you learn how to pose with each other and get comfortable in front of a camera before the big day!
Which can seem silly but for a lot of couples the photos are more 'normal', and when you're dropping $$$$ on a photographer might as well get practice in feeling comfortable on camera!
Honestly you can tell most folks commenting on this video are unfamiliar with the production almost always required for a wedding.
I think you were pretty gentle on the whole topic...and I think there needs to be part 2 of this topic! Love your rings!
I honestly don't care much about wedding decor but I had a visceral reaction to the first geometric arch you showed. Very "burning-my-boyfriend-in-a-bearsuit" vibes.
LOL NOO I knew it reminded me of something!!
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I shot a wedding once where the bridesmaids all wore dresses from Rent the Runway. They were all different, but all in a palette of mauves, champagnes, ivories and silvers. It was lovely. I don’t know why we buy bridesmaids dresses when Rent the Runway exists! If guys can rent tuxes, we can rent dresses!
I agree with this!
Rent the runway doesn't always have size inclusive options (in my experience), and asking bridesmaids to pick out their own dresses can be its own set of nightmares and headaches. It's really cool if you can use Rent the Runway though.
You’re not wrong. That being said, there has always been fashion in weddings. Part of the charm of wedding photography is looking back and enjoying (or laughing) the style of the times. Think of weddings in the 1920’s, 50’s, 70’s, 80’s. Bridesmaids choosing their own style is a nice development.
i absolutely love 80s weddings, with the victorian revival gowns, i literally want a vintage 80s dress for my wedding 🥺 so romantic and fun and i love historical styles
As a pro makeup artist and hair artist who works weddings every weekend, I can tell you that we only do what the client wants us to do. We are there for them and if they ask for a certain hair style or makeup look, then that’s what we give them. I also work with a lot of brides/bridesmaids who want to look super natural and effortless. It’s not really a matter of it being hard to find a makeup artist or hairstylist that doesn’t do certain things. You just go to a talented hair or makeup artist that can do what you’re asking them to do.
This is also why trials are important
A lot of the things you think are costing extra are actually probably the cheaper alternative to something else. And that’s probably why they became “overdone”. Succulents and eucalyptus are hardy plant material on long days that are can be hard on floral arrangements. My bouquet in my brother’s wedding wilted and became floppy very quickly because it wasn’t designed with florals that would last in the Miami heat and humidity. And as for the arches… a full floral arch is PRICEY. A small spray on a structural arch that is rented is much cheaper. Hairdos… it just depends on what you want to look like on your wedding day in your photos. Is it hot? Humid? How does your hair respond to humidity? Might it rain? Loose, flowy hair looks all easy and “low production”, but it quickly looks a hot, sweaty mess. Those updos are designed to look good for many hours, keep you cool, and hold up a veil.
I agree and thought the same thing and this coming from me... I got married in the courthouse with just pants and a t-shirt but I know she's wrong
My wedding is even more minimalistic than the ideal one you described and it’s still around $20k for 150 people. That’s with no booze, basic table settings, a thrifted dress, and no hired entertainment. Maybe in part 2 you can pretend to plan your wedding and see how much it really costs. All the wedding decor may seem excessive to outsiders, but compared to the total cost, it’s generally a small part of the budget.
Same. If you’ve never planned a wedding it’s SO easy to say that you’ll be ~different~ and go the inexpensive route but that’s nearly impossible. These same kind of people will elope and then expect people to come to their “reception” a yr or two later. Only they’ll likely never had it bc it’s always gonna too expensive lol I’m just saying. Her thoughts are WAY easier said than done 😭
@@AC_Divine I know somebody just like this ! Invited me to their reception after eloping and it never happened
Wait what is costing so much money? 20k dollars is such a huuuge amount of money. More then what a lot of people make in a year, and you spent that on a party?
I had the brilliant idea to get married at the courthouse and then do just a reception. I thought it would take the stress out of the wedding planning process. It did not. Planning any big party is stressful, even when you keep it cheap and simple. My reception was at a campground, we paid $200 to have the whole place to ourselves for three nights. I thrifted most of the decor and the flowers were from Trader Joe's. We used string lights to light the venue and it added a lovely dose of magic to everything. The band my husband chose really made the night, no decor or fancy background required! I did have a pie table which was a huge trend for awhile, but I did it anyway to honor my late grandmother who taught me to bake pies when I was a kid. Point is: do what you want!! Weddings are always at least somewhat stressful and trying to make everything Pinterest perfect is not going to do anything but add to the cost and stress. Also, potential hot take: skip the wedding party altogether. You can still celebrate and honor your best friends without requiring them to wear an on-theme outfit or pay thousands of dollars in order to participate in pre-wedding parties and activities. The people who want to help and be more involved will come to you.
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It's YOUR day so do whatever the hell you want! Over the years (being a florist and a wedding attendee), I've learned that the most memorable weddings were the quirky, and different ones. If you decide what's most important to you, you can prioritize accordingly. We wanted really good food and an open bar so other things got booted and nobody noticed.
I would say that being careful about your plant choices can have a huge environmental impact. Locally sourced plants can be really positive, but some succulents and tropical plants are stolen from natural environments rather than reproduced sustainably. Some roses travel crazy distances by air from Ethopia via Amsterdam to your florist. So if you don't have strong preferences or attachments to certain flowers, you just want something pretty, a little research on the front end can really cut down the carbon footprint.
Yes, some endangered succulents and tropical plants are being poached from their natural environment but they are selling for hundreds/thousands of dollars and are sold to rare plant collectors. Most plants used for a wedding or other events are very common plants that are a dime a dozen. I rather see common live plants than plastic faux plants that will be trashed after one day.
I am a millennial planning my wedding right now. We did Save the Dates because engagement photos were included in our wedding photo package and getting the cards/shipping them out was $50. I think its important this year because there are SO many weddings - SO many - and we wanted to give people time to plan/figure out if they could come. I agree with all your takes :)
What really gets me are the baby gender reveals. Ridiculous. When did that become an event that anyone besides the parents cares about?
YAS!!! Seriously, what is with that trend?
Apparently started with a woman, who had had multiple miscarriages, announcing that she had held a baby long enough to know it’s gender through a cake announcement. The concept of gender reveal blew up on social media and then snowballed into a giant mess.
@@tgime1 Ya, it was more of a "milestone" party than to do with the gender. It started out as something quite tender and bittersweet.
Yes! Nobody cares. And it's a bit weird to make so much of gender anyway...
@@tgime1 and most recently, that child actually came out as trans so the family did a “do-over” gender reveal with a nice message about how the concept is antiquated & for some people, like her son- it was inaccurate! It was really sweet. His mom has been very vocal about how she didn’t expect to create such a phenomenon, even before she knew her son was trans.
Unpopular opinion: signage is helpful. If you are an out of towner, if you don't know anyone at the wedding, and you're arriving before the couple to both the ceremony and reception, you want to make sure you're at the right place, especially if you're somewhere (like a hotel, convention center, hell even floral conservatories and Gardens and whatnot) where there are multiple weddings or graduations or other formal events occurring. Signage has purpose.
The people need MORE Paige. I need a part 2, I need an in depth “what I would do”, and I need it now
I second this😂😂
PLEASE
Gender reveal parties would be a good one considering those are something new. There's a lot to deconstruct. Paige might be more Gen Z than a millennial. Z and X are the badasses when it comes to the generation game.
Getting married in August, I need it yesterday haha
Why? Isn’t the point of this video to do things your own, unique and original way? This video was based 100% on Paige’s opinion and personal preference. Also, keep in mind that geographical location and options will differ from city to city, states, countries, etc. Where I live , an outdoor wedding is risky because it rains often and weather forecast is unpredictable, plus it’s super hot year round, with about 4-5 months of extreme heat, even under any shade, tents, etc. That said, if you have very similar thought and preferences as Paige and want her advice, by all means you’re free to go whichever route you please. Please assume positive intent, I was not trying to be critical, just sharing my point of view. And congratulations on your wedding, so long as you and your partner are happy, your wedding will be fantastic!
I’ve had a wedding Pinterest board since I was in high school and I feel like a long-haul board is a good way to make sure you actually like an aspect and not just following the latest trend. There are a few things that have stood the test of time but now and then I go back and hoo mama thank god I didn’t get married in 2013
YES!!! This comment right here. 😂 We should make a trend on of roasting our own wedding Pinterest board’s.
Yes!!! One of the reasons I love Pinterest. Works for fashion and interior decor too. You get to see what you still like 2, 5, or 8 years later. I actually like to go back and unpin things I don't like anymore and what I kept is basically my style.
So you’re saying you don’t want a fully coral and teal chevron wedding!!!?!!
I like when you can go back and see not just overall wedding trends but also your own dating trends rflected back at you.
I feel like we should all just accept that whatever we do go with for our weddings, aspects of it WILL look outdated to us in the future no matter what. It’s okay, as long as you enjoy it while you’re at your wedding!
I'm getting married in June and the only thing from this list I'm doing is a welcome sign because my venue told me I had to. "Bridesmaids" (sisters only) are wearing whatever they want. No save the dates. No neon signs. Basically the same hair and makeup I do on any other day. Keeping it very small and simple and trying to avoid the stuff I see everywhere! This made me feel more confident in my choices!
I was going to say, sometimes if the wedding is in a big event center there can be multiple things happening so there isn't an option for no sign. But otherwise, yeah if it's obvious, it's unnecessary! lol
That’s awesome you had your sisters. I did too. It’s amazing we had a weekend getaway and spent so much sisterly love for one another it was great. I wish nothing but the best to you. I also did my hair and makeup. Sending you all the good vibes and love
@@colettenowacki4100 thanks so much!
The smaller the wedding the bigger the marriage. Wishing you every happiness.
I worked in custom stationary, including wedding for several years starting back in the early aughts. Save The Dates and the structure of wedding invitations actually have a really long history. It used to be something that only upper class events did but has over the decades trickled down to the average person. We just don't usually have events large enough to justify Save The Dates except weddings.
Random facts, in France "save the date" called "faire-part", are made for every big announcement, birth or wedding for example, it's a tradition :)
If I remember right they also don’t have matchy matchy wedding party attire. Americans are so tacky
Wait, what does it mean for the birth? Just like a "heads up", or do new mothers start receiving guests...like....right away?
@@Mary-td2zw No no, no guests right away it's more to announce the newborn with the name, size, weight and sometimes a picture
I'm french, and "save the date" and "faire-part" are two different things. "Save the date" is meant to be sent way ahead of time, like a year in advance, just to tell the guests "book the date for us". The "faire-part" is the wedding invitation, which is sent just one or two months in advance, with all the details of the reception, the adress of the venue, the timing... I think if you're confusing the two, it's actually because "save the date" is a very recent thing in France, it didn't use to exist, at least not to my knowledge.
About birth faire-part, i've always thought it's weird to announce the height and weight of a baby, I wonder if it's done in any other country ?
As a professional musician who does a lot of weddings, I’m laughing at her suggestion that a live band would be part of a wedding in a budget. Live music is EXPENSIVE, because you’re paying for the years of training and expertise of people who do it for a living.
agreed.
I think she meant spend your money on things that are worth it, that can be a part of the budget. Like live music!
she literally said at the end "splurge on good music" she's saying save on the extra unnecessaries and splurge on what's important (music, booze, food)
You are so negative and can’t hear properly
Our wedding band was our favorite dueling pianos group from the local bar and it was more expensive than the venue, more expensive than my (to me) expensive dress, twice as much as the food, etc. but totally worth it! They didn’t take a break all night and people still talk about them 7 years later!
This is my thought on weddings. I still look back at my wedding fourteen years ago and love everything I chose. I have such wonderful memories. As you get older, there are so few days if any that are dedicated specifically to your happiness. Do what makes you happy and don’t worry about others judging your choices.
I imagine there's an inverse correlation between how edgy and unique a wedding is and how long the marriage lasts.
We paid $1000 for our wedding with 50 guests. We used hand me downs from friends weddings so it was a little pieces together but it turned out beautifully 😂😂😂
As an Australian, Australian native flowers and Eucalyptus are a staple at many weddings here. You could pretty much just grab a branch from down the road. Never realised this was an American thing.
I was just thinking this! I agreed with everything except the eucalyptus, I feel like it has a different vibe here in aus and it's not seen as tacky.
I'm Spanish and I thought the same thing, but in our case the pampas grass. I live near a dry river, and we have lots of it. And the worst thing is they are an invasive species, and the government has to spend lots of money to eliminate them. Maybe we could just send them to American brides.
The Aussie eucalyptus is WAY nicer than the round eucalyptus popular in the US.
Just commented this! We had that eucalyptus on the table, but we got married in Sydney so it's just a classic. Bouquet was all natives.
Fellow Aussie, and the eucalyptus comment absolutely threw me off! I planted 3 different euc trees in my backyard I love them so much 😢
100% on all of this & don’t get me started on bachelorette parties 😮💨Having been a bridesmaid in multiple weddings and seeing the stress + financial burden it puts on people, a big wedding was a no for us. My wife and I hired our dream photographer and eloped. Built our bouquets together at a local flower shop, got married at the courthouse, then celebrated with drinks where we had our very first date. Intimate, special, and have never regretted it 💕
OMG yes! My son's been invited to 2 stags in the past year....they were both out of town and three nights away. He doesn't get much time off, and he and his girlfriend would like to get away at some point. Not everyone has the time or money to participate in these extravagant parties. They are both for really good friends, and he is in both wedding parties. He stressed about this so much, and had to turn the second one down.
I feel like us millennials get blamed for everything that becomes popular lol.
Probably yes because the stuff you choose is non tasteful and without any soul … Millennials are well known for being self centred and without care for others…
Yea this is ridiculous. Every decade has its thing. The way weddings are done now will be historic later. Like damn can people have what they like!!
so true, aren't these all just trends? thats what people do, they repeat fashion trends they get oversaturated and dated, some people hate some people love, and then people move on. i don't understand why some people are always so full of drama and anger about millennials, something to be studied really
Yes!! Is gen z all about aesthetic too? 🤣
As a florist I have to say can we quit with the baby's breath in mason jars with raffia or burlap ribbon?
Paige, I’m with you on all this. I’ve been married twice. The first wedding in the 80’s was in the university’s chapel with a reception in the garden. I wore my great grandmother’s wedding dress, had bridesmaids dresses that were just summery regular dresses, and my friends and I made the food for the reception. It was simple and elegant and I loved it. The second wedding about 6 years ago, was at an old church-turned-theatre. I did the flowers for the arrangements out of white flowers from my yard and my husband and I made all the food. My bouquet was just a couple dozen cream colored roses from the grocery store tied together with ribbon. My dress cost about $200. We did a hand fasting ceremony with the vows partly in Gaelic. The bridesmaids (his daughters) wore non-matching dresses in blue and gray and my sons wore a blue or gray shirt. I loved that wedding, too. There is no need to spend crazy money on a wedding. Instead, we spent our money on a honeymoon to Mexico for the first marriage and Italy and Switzerland for the second. No regrets.
What really has me going is how “easy” and “inexpensive” vintage dishware will be. Big shock, but drinking glasses from the 30’s is actually quite expensive. I think it’d be a fun video in this series to see you plan your wedding and adding up the costs of everything you want in your own wedding
vintage doesnt have to be from the 30s lol its about the vintage glasswear aesthetic. as an avid vintage collector you can get vintage glasswear for 50 cents at a thrift store like goodwill. avoid antique stores or curated vintage shops becuase thats where they upcharge like hell
I was one of the brave souls that collected vintage wine glasses for the wedding, 50c-$1 a piece and got them into two totes. Doable but time consuming
Weddings should reflect the couple, the best weddings are always ones that feel personal and don’t look like everyone else’s (also less expensive weddings are normally more fun imho)
The industry has intentionally over complicated wedding so that brides/grooms feel that they NEED all these stupid little things, and it gets so overwhelming they need a wedding planner too! There goes $5k! I am very proud that my millennial wedding was SO simple and so beautiful, and had NONE of the silly stuff that she mentioned. The only thing I did have was matching bridesmaids dresses, but my mom made them and we gave them to the ladies for free. Oh and when I didn't send save the dates, my aunt was pissed! HAH I am not shelling out a ton of money so that you can throw it in the trash.
As a wedding guest, I actually enjoy getting save the dates in the mail - it gets me excited for the wedding and cute photos communicate a glimpse of the vibe and excitement of the day.
I also like to put the invites on my fridge as a reminder of something to look forward to 😊
Honestly same! My fridge is covered with save the dates. Although I’m a wedding photographer and also took all the photos on them 😂 which makes me happy to see my couples and my work printed
Lolled all the way through this….was hoping you’d mention the awful farmhouse bloody straw hay fucking bales for guests to sit on
My daughter had her small reception at a beautiful old coffee shop after hours. We played music with a small portable speaker connected to phones. We got the flowers the night before at a grocery store. They had catered food dropped off. She got a croquembouche instead of a wedding cake. The only splurge was some bartenders brought in for the night. Best. Reception. Ever.
Sounds like an absolute dream!
I don't know what a croquembouche is and I'm glad all were happy with it, but give me CAKE! That is the highlight of any wedding for me! (NOT a Costco one, either)
This sounds awesome
I am a millennial. I am married. I totally agree with you. Lol I had a very weird wedding. 20s 30s wedding and I got married in the Dominican University Library chapel. We had zero decorations in that place. Super gorgeous old, dusty, books. Loved it. I literally totally agree about budget wedding. Not to toot my horn but our wedding was paid off 2 weeks before it happened. Though some traditional thinking family members wanted a wedding cake they were pleasantly surprised and happy with those mini donuts from Firecakes. Not mad at you girl. I agree with you.
A few notes, since I did my undergraduate thesis (almost twelve years ago) on the development of modern wedding customs. The books you might find interesting in addressing this topic are "One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding" and "Cinderella Dreams: The Allure of the Lavish Wedding." They both talk about the modern wedding industrial complex (both are written pre-Pinterest, but I honestly think this madness peaked right before the 2008 housing crisis).
Miss Manners writes a very funny takedown of the modern wedding as staged production as well, and she is very clear about which conspicuously expensive "traditions" are actually traditional.
As it happens, Save the Dates are something that *did* exist before (and were commonplace enough to be used to be abbreviated STDs). Their purpose was to give notice to people so that they did not set other plans - but usually these were handwritten letters sent by normal post. The most formal form of wedding invitations is also handwritten and would have been delivered by hand (or by footman) to anyone within easy walking or biking distance. Only more distant friends and relations would have received their invitations by post. These were also written on personal stationary that one would use for other forms of letter writing also, so there was relatively little expense for either. In my opinion, Save the Dates are still not needed for anyone who is given the information by word of mouth - especially in an era where one can always go back and check the date on social media or the optional free wedding website.
I have to say, sometimes it can be hard to get away from some of these things, and picking out something that is unique is often a lot more work. I am getting married in May. The only thing we have from this list is the cursive on acrylic (but not painted on the back) wedding signs and that is mostly because my mom bought a Cricut and I didn’t want to break her heart by having basically no Cricut crafts/ just printing out signs where they are helpful. I don’t mind the cursive we chose, and though I know things will look dated soon, I’m happy to have things people I love made as a part of our (minimal) decor.
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this is honestly so sweet. wish i couldve made my mom and aunties happy because they wanted to help me plan. but helllllll no, im a graphic and fashion designer and im extremely specific with my aesthetic, lowkey broke their hearts but hey, its my day and what makes me happy is the aesthetic because im an artist. whats more important to you is the sentiment behind things. thats my only advice to brides, do what you want its your day not anyone else's
Very fun video, but an alternative POV on your “scale it back, keep it natural” preference is.. there’s a lot of cultures where weddings are *supposed* to be over the top events with multiple streams of financial support. It’s a community coming together and while it doesn’t look anything like your examples, it’s an important consideration IMO.
Yes! I guess I’m talking about the culture of American weddings hahah
@@wasselpa no worries! I enjoyed the vid as always!
I think when weddings got de-tethered from family dominated event histories things got out of hand. I remember big Italian weddings and polka weddings in Wisconsin during my college days. They were both relaxed and formal, elegant yet raucous. Lots of aunts and uncles and cousins. Over the top yet simultaneously unpretentious.
Thank you, Paige, for unintentionally validating everything about our "unconventional" wedding we are planning. Our philosophy: it's basically a party. Just be ourselves and have fun. It's so easy to get caught up in all the drama and FOMO, which is so not the point.
Save the dates can be like 100 bucks to send out, whereas a flower arrangement is 200 a table, lighting is insanely expensive, and it is impossible to find someone who can do natural hair and makeup without charging insane prices (usually affordable hair and makeup artists only know how to do heavier bridal makeup). Just from my experience currently planning and trying to do something simple and realizing how expensive simple really is. And vendors usually do things in packages so something like those tacky flower walls might be a drop in the bucket and by that point you might be so caught up in the wedding rhetoric from months of planning that you think, oh maybe i do need a hedge wall to take pictures in front of…
Planning a wedding for December and literally watching with baited breathe to see if I committed a Paige faux pas!!
Now, did you? 😆
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I was going to say that my wedding was on January 1. Having it in winter meant that the decor was completely different from anything Paige showed (and this was 16 years ago). Of course where I live it is actually cold in winter. We did most everything ourselves. We rented the chairs, tables, some candelabra. We had about 60 guests. The colors were basically dark red, black, and white. The flowers were red roses. The venue was a historic home that served the dinner. I made the invitations and rsvp cards myself--they were red; I bought a fancy font--this was before "that" hand lettered font existed. I was pleased with how everything turned out.
I'm not much of a drinker, so every wedding I've ever been to, what I remember is this: 1. The food. 2. The company. I never remember the decor, just what I ate, and who I got to hang out with.
As someone who specifically asked my florist for NO eucalyptus but then showed up to my wedding to see eucalyptus everywhere….the knife has been twisted😂
girl. i just KNOW we'd be good friends. love the shameless opinions, i tend to always agree with you
I used to work at a place that did custom stationary/invitations for weddings and let me just say,,, the amount of money that people will spend on this aspect alone was insane to me, still is. I’m talking *thousands* and not even only for super super big weddings, i vividly remember an order that came out to around $3,000 for 150 guests
Is there a difference between invitations and save the dates?
@@clarasalinassanchez3705 yes! So the save the date is sometimes sent as long as a year or two in advance… it’s basically a formal notification that the couple picked a date to get married lol. It makes sense if it’s a destination wedding or something that involves extra accommodations, but it’s definitely overkill in pretty much any other context as the real invites (with the rsvp cards, event info etc) are sent 6-8 months ahead of the actual event, still giving a reasonable amount of time for guests to make arrangements. It really is an odd choice in my opinion, especially when you can just tell your friends and family the date 🤷🏻♀️
As a floral designer and event coordinator, I cringe every time someone wants one of those donut peg walls. No. You cannot have that. I must save you from yourself, and refuse this heinous request.
10 years ago my husband and I got married in a wood paneled courtroom with just us and a judge. We spent $35. The thought of a wedding was 🤢🤢🤮. We’ve never regretted it.
Same, 20 years ago. Every once in a while I start thinking I missed out, but then a friend or family member starts planning their wedding and I’m okay again. We did renew our vows in Vegas for our 13th anniversary though. Just us, again. 10/10 would recommend.
My guest list was 4 people. No care invites. Just verbal invites.
@@parisholidayinn3260 Same here. And it’s held up since 1985!
Same here and we're still a couple 43 years later--while some of our friends who had huge weddings divorced not long after their expensive shindigs!
The smaller the wedding the bigger the marriage. Wishing you continued happiness.
Preach 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I used to plan events and weddings for a living . My husband and I decided to elope . I saw firsthand the insane amount of money people spent on one day and the stress . Nah . Let’s stop overthinking and overproducing weddings . Thanks for keepin it real 😎
I love my parents wedding pictures. They were married at a small church. My mom found her dress in a Goodwill bin for $50. The only people attending were their parents, their siblings (not even all the siblings were able to make it), and one of my mom’s cousins. The wedding reception was just cake and coffee. The pictures look so simple and so elegant. 🥰 My parents also eloped before the wedding, which I always thought sounded sweet and romantic.
My parents wedding story definitely has some influence on me. Idk if I’ll get married, but I love love love the idea of eloping. We can always throw a party afterwards.
Love this! Just started *trying* to plan a wedding and am already so overwhelmed. Would love another video from you on wedding ideas/design things you like.
Dude. "I do think I'll just send a text... like, save the date, you'll get a really nice wedding invitation sometime soon."
The delivery on that line and her facial expressions has me dying.
wow I wish this was an hour long cause your opinions are never wrong and you bring up points that I didn't even realize I also hated
I would love a part 2 a lot
For real Paige takes the words from my brain that I didn’t know were there
@@emilywerner4748 we deserve it!!
Opinions are opinions!
I got married in the 80's in an historic home, it was beautiful. Weddings were much more chill then. I did have big puffy sleeves! Love your take, as always.
Before the COVID, we were planing our wedding (90 people) and I was horrified by all the industry around it. I hated the decorations and all looked so wasteful. I'm an artist (painter) and I wanted to be me. I had fun designing our invites and we mailed them. Then the pandemic hit. Finally we got married in March 2021, with lots of restrictions. We got married at my mum's patio (I'm from Valencia, Spain), she decorated it with her plants: my grandma's ferns, snake plants, carnations and other plants she was been growing for years... My sister was my witness (we don't have bridesmaids in Spain), and she was wearing a beautiful purple dress that one of my aunts had sewn. This aunt also did my dress (emerald green) that I had designed and I didn't have a bouquet, I painted a leather jacket with one of my dad's poems (he died when I was a teenager and I wanted him to be part of it). For me was stressful to walk down an aisle without my father, so we didn't have one. My sister-in-law was wearing a dress she had before, she was my husband's witness. My husband was wearing all black suit but as he hates suit trousers he was wearing black jeans. It was a low-key wedding, we were only 8 people and a baby (my husband's niece). We were married by a family friend, and another friend took some photos. After that we and our family went an ate paella at restaurant near the beach. It was perfect. The only downside was that only the people who lived in my town could come, in my case was my mum, my sister and her boyfriend, and it was the same with my husband's family. We want to throw a party now, but not a wedding. A party for the people who couldn't come due to the restrictions.
I totally agree with you! Being french, we don’t do save the date, we don’t do bridesmaids but one witness each (one for the bride and one for the groom) and they dress how they want, for my wedding which was in the south of France in the hottest time (august), I asked my immediate family if they could wear light pastel color dresses but no obligation, everyone wore what they wanted, and for the flowers we only ordered 3 or 4 bouquets and an arrangement for our vintage car (that a friend let us borrow for the day, costed nothing), for the rest we did the flower arrangements ourselves the day before the wedding with friends and family it was actually good fun, we only used some olive tree branches from our garden and gypsophile.. my mum had collected so many vases over the years that we used them all for the center of the tables, nothing identical but everything looked good together.. I totally agree with what you said, guests don’t remember the decor, what they remember is the food, the drinks, the music and the good time they’ve had on the day.. love hearing your opinion!
I'm an American in France, and o was so happy to not have the pressure of bridesmaids, bridesmaid dresses, and everything being themed! Also, no American wedding cake! Just an amazing choux tower!
@@erinsmith2589 I forgot about the choux tower the “pièce montée”, the highlight of a French wedding meal (or christening meal also!)..
I’m here for Part 2!! 👏 I had a Covid wedding day (10 ppl because of restrictions) and it really put everything into perspective. It was the most magical, beautiful day, with the most heartfelt and thoughtful details from friends and family who couldn’t be there ❤️ I missed them, but did not miss a geometric arch 😂
Congratulations 🏹❤️
I'm in a bridesmaid in a wedding next week and my dress is horrifying. I swear to never put my friends through this
our wedding decor was Dutch Still-life inspired. Lol, it turned out great. Main colour scheme was purple, burgundy and navy blue. Big moody florals on silver platters and blue and white dishware with grapes, lemons, pomegranates and figs. Lots of candles and a nighttime ceremony and reception. ceremony started at 6:15 and by 7pm the buffet and finger foods were out and the bar was open, no sit down, a few large tables and a bunch of bar tables and sitting areas throughout the space, cocktail party and dance party to follow after. Tons of food with food stations.
One hell of a party!!!
I planned my aunt's wedding last year and it came in under 2 k. It was beautiful. It was also only possible because a lot of people volunteered a lot of time, and we were able to borrow a lot of decor. We were also able to use her parents house and another family member gifted all the food. To do things cheap is a huge investment and group effort.
I got married 5 years ago, and it is ridiculously hard to have an inexpensive wedding. My wedding cost 20k and we had cheesecake from costco, no fresh flowers, liquor from the army base.. Like as cheap as possible. I don't know how anyone affords this stuff.
Omg this video could not have come at a more perfect time. I've been planning my wedding and I have been STRUGGLING because all the decor I've found is so overdone. I definitely am into a nice, dreamy, vintage wedding aesthetic, so if anyone who is reading this (or Paige if you could make a video) on wedding decor that could fit this sort of vibe I would greatly appreciate. Like UGH I can't find any wedding invites that aren't in that terrible cursive! (Speaking of that, if someone could please recommend good templates/fonts/etsy shops/etc I will love you forever)
Don’t buy “wedding” ones. Buy formal invitations in the style of some other occasion. Get an old Emily Post book and look up the standard acceptable texts for weddings. It should have raised type (engraved) and most fonts are available. It should look very plain. (There was a time when only actresses and prostitutes sent out ones in colors with photos and tacky trendy styles.)
You’ll make your grandma very happy.
@@rosezingleman5007 Agree! In fact, generally avoid anything that markets itself as "for weddings" haha (cakes, decor, accessories)
Yes! This was the perfect video for you to do! You’re my favorite person to call out overused or boring or ugly trends, and I’ve been hating all this basic wedding stuff for YEARS!!! I could’ve listened to you talking about this for an hour honestly. Thanks for all your videos and great design opinions/advice!
Wow I didn't realize it was all the same cursive lol. Cannot unsee.
Is it that she only surrounds herself with one type of person - it speaks volumes of her friend group or millennials that she is exposed too. Diversity in your friend group will allow you to see how other cultures and ethnicities celebrate marriage.
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I never considered getting vintage glassware for a wedding! I went thrifting today and had to hold myself back from buying all the beautiful glasses. It is comforting to know that there is a time and a place to go nuts and buy every gorgeous vintage wine glass I lay my eyes on👌
Girl! Yes to everything you said!!! I’m sick of all of the over the top Pinterest crap!! My wedding was so simple and outdoors and we just let the beautiful outdoors be the decor! Btw, how did you not mention the ‘hoop bouquets’ SO CRINGEEEE 🥴
american wedding customs do look nice polished and cute tbh but i do agree with you that it has to stop. it just has no depth to it, no tradition or culture behind it and its all the same unoriginal boho aesthetic. i really wonder how did it all start
edit : and yes we want the wedding decor you love!
Instagram, Pinterest, reality tv, celebrity worship, and the fact that there’s no mystery whatsoever about what’s coming afterwards. The bride and groom already live together and now just want a big party. I’m in my 60s and married a man I’d never slept with and had only known for a year. We got engaged and married within 6 months which was normal. I was the second girl he’d dated. We were 28 and 26, and I was the main wage earner because he was in grad school. Our sisters were the bridesmaids. Our brothers were the groomsmen. Everything was very basic and everyone was kind of electric because there was going to be real novelty that night. I can’t imagine how boring it must be to make love on your wedding night with someone you know ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING ABOUT already. Yuck.
Right… upholding purity culture naturally folds into a video on decor… 😂
@@sadiehazel3558 What are weddings supposed to commemorate and celebrate? That the couple don’t know how to break up? That they want the loot as if they haven’t had their combined household for ages already? That she’s pregnant? That they want to purchase instead of rent? You call it purity but it’s really what true adulthood is about-exclusivity in support of child rearing. Just because you think it’s quaint, or pointless doesn’t mean that it has lost its true significance completely. Paige and the commenter asked how the occasion became just a big empty Instagram experience? I’m saying why it’s empty. You are celebrating nothing at all when you’ve already drained the transcendence right out of the joining of a man to a woman within a society.
@@rosezingleman5007 thank you for this! I needed a small chuckle this morning!
@@rosezingleman5007 You give yourself too much credit. It's antiquated. You might have been a virgin, but your husband wasn't he just never told you the truth. Not everyone has a sister or brother to stand in the wedding, while others have huge families and businesses and want to invite everyone they know. Everyone wants something else. I had a small wedding, and didn't even live with my husband after the wedding. None of this was ideal, but it was what we wanted at that time or couldn't have anything else.
Crappy little sign saying "Here comes the bride" some innocent child has to carry into the church ahead of the bride. Why? Who might you be expecting otherwise?
Is that a thing in America too?
I would guess that the sign came about as a result of kids not being trusted to toss flowers, or venues who are concerned about flowers staining floors. I get that it's trendy and therefore feels tasteless. However, if the above concerns apply, having a child hold some sort of unbreakable, easy to hold object is an acceptable alternative to tossing flowers. It doesn't have to be a sign.
@@melissamybubbles6139 good point, but I think it also comes with this world trend of putting up wording and sayings everywhere especially chalk board signs. Never before has walls had so much to read as now. Very cute but just too much. It's really all over some South African homes.
@@bernices9923 Absolutely.
“I mean, I’m not actually going to do anything about it…” 💓😂
It didn’t start with pinterest, it started with blogs, which predate Pinterest. The photos used for save the dates are usually the engagement shoot which is usually included in your photo package so you can get to know your photographer and practice having your photo taken because it’s awkward if you’re not used to it. Agree the cards being sent are dramatic. Bridesmaids want to pick their own dress but they don’t want to have to find a vintage dress (also, that’s not a size inclusive suggestion). Arches with florals are expensive no matter what shape. Pampas grass is ugly but cheap because it’s dried. Eucalyptus also very cheap. I don’t actually think the updo is popular I’ve never been to a wedding where the bride had one. Absolutely agree on food quality and even more so on music. Every generation hates what people did at wedding ten years ago, id love to see what you do like!
For florals, I feel like it's just nice to include plants that already grow naturally where your event is. Like I live beside the Pacific Ocean in Canada and even though cedar trimmings are played out in decor right now, maybe I would still include them because they're already everywhere around us. Or native wildflowers. I could imagine having small touches of dried grasses if I lived in the prairies
They didn’t ruin anything, they just had their own aesthetic. Every decade had its own cliche trends. Like obnoxious poofy sleeves in the 80’s. There’s no rule out there saying you guys can’t do what you want with your own weddings. Let people do it however they want. It’s their day, not yours.
This!
My thoughts exactly
Yea it's not deep
please rewatch the first minute of this video 💀
No. They ruin everything.
if anyone planning their wedding feels pressured to play into the millennial wedding trend, consider that your wedding will look so southern sorority rush (i’m planning my sorority’s rush and i’m pulling a lot of inspo from weddings)
I feel like most people use the pictures from their engagement, even if it’s just a selfie, as their save the date photo. But you can get pretty cheap save the dates or even use an Evite which is free. The point is to let your guests block out that day far in advance, especially if it’s an out of state or out of country wedding they’ll need to plan for.
And as someone who has been a bridesmaid many times, I would hate for the bride to give me full reign of picking my dress. I want her to tell me what to wear or at least guide me to a specific site and color that she wants because that makes it so much easier on the bridesmaids, at least from my experience.
I also really don’t like vintage stuff so I am aware that our tastes are obviously very different 😂
Otherwise I agree that weddings don’t need all this lavish extras lol my florist told me that Pinterest is a blessing and a curse when it comes to wedding planning because people don’t realize how much the florals cost. Florals was my biggest disappointment, I would have had to budget double for flowers if I wanted my vision 😭
I recommend getting married in a garden or something to save on florals and other decor. It’s people who get married in hotels that need all this extra expensive stuff to bring their vision to life haha
I can't express enough how much I loved having a live band at my wedding. We cut back in other ways so that we could afford it, and it was so worth it.
For those questioning, you won't regret having a wedding that is very unique and specific to you. Think seriously about what YOU want for a wedding, and avoid pinterest wedding tropes. I definitely regret changing certain things to accommodate particularly unreasonable family members.
As a wedding photographer, I can say that a free engagement session and free save the date cards are included with all my wedding packages.
I have some tips for a simple wedding. When I got married I didn’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen. We had two witnesses. Our friends were there but we didn’t have to deal with logistics or issues that comes from having a bridal party. (I still got together with my girls and had a shower but there was no pressure on them) We had a small wedding of 35. That allowed our nearest and dearest core of friends and family to be there and because it was so small, those excluded did not feel bad. Because it was smaller it allowed us to spend more on the things that mattered to us, like the food. My other big tip is to try to find a restaurant that has a beautiful venue. Figuring out the food situation and decor is a time/money suck. I wanted a 1930s inspired wedding. I was able to find a French restaurant that was in a converted art deco period building. It already had beautiful velvet drapes, it already had white linens and beautiful chairs. I had to organize nothing. The only thing I did was make my own centerpieces from bi-color roses (short stem $20 a dozen) in mercury glass vases (that I bought cheap) and little favor boxes with macarons. And find an alternative to the usual wedding cake. I had a Croquembouche instead, way cheaper, way more dramatic!
Don’t know about a lot of current day wedding expenses like save the date cards, requiring bridesmaids to travel to an expensive bachelorette location weekend in addition to buying expensive dresses and shoes, buying matching robes for the bridesmaids, paying for eyelash extensions, fake nails, airbrushed makeup and expensive hairdos, location wedding photos, foreign country honeymoons and on and on. It seems as if a wedding isn’t worthy unless it is a Kardashian worthy or Pinterest level event. My perspective is that a wedding is about about heartfelt marriage vows between two people and hosting the honored guests you have invited to witness your vows to a pleasant celebration, not the extensive decorations, makeup, hair, and nails and instagram posts.
You're so right about all of this, I couldn't agree more. I'm getting married next year and researching wedding decor is.... super sad to see people wasting thousands on pointless plastic meaningless trash
I saw someone do a twin peaks themed wedding and also a beetle juice wedding and thought it was so fun! Incorporate what u love in your special occasion instead of going with all this cookie cutter stuff! 🙌
I loved this! Definitely want more of this content! Maybe like birthday party decor or holiday decor
So a lot of couples have almost NO “nice” pics together, no matter how long they’ve been together! An engagement shoot is a great way for them to have quality pics to remember this time together, plus it lets them get comfortable with the photog prior to the wedding day. And prices don’t have to be crazy (they range based on location and vendor, ofc). In central KY where I’m based, you can get a session for $250-350. I do agree that lifestyle shoots are super fun and let the couple incorporate an activity or part of their home that they love!
Save the Dates are superfluous I agree, but they can feel necessary for couples doing a destination wedding, a holiday wedding, or a wedding where most of the guests are middle aged/have kids with super active lifestyles. Getting a heads up about the wedding date and location a little extra ahead of time lets your out of town people plan better :)
We eloped in San Antonio TX with cheap rings and jeans. Will be married for 10 years next April and it just going to be us and the kids. I will finally wear my wedding dress and so excited!