The Reality of An Abusive Relationship
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Contemplated uploading this for weeks and couldn’t bring myself to do it, but couldn’t leave it on my desktop when others could find value from it. You regret the things you don’t do, not the things you do so screw it.
Video was titled “my ex” but a close friend of mine who’s killing youtube said it was stupid because no one will see it and I should change it to this so the message reaches people.
Can’t push this enough but please don’t contact her in anyway - appreciate you guys wanting to know what’s going on but the thing that drove me to make this was the abuse she was getting from people thinking she cheated. Like I said there’s no bad blood, my life is great, I hope her life is going sick. Despite everything that happened it was probably circumstantial and you shouldn’t pass judgement on others from one situation told from the view of another person
Thank you mo , honestly thank you , for sharing this, you deserve the world brother.
I see that the king of clickbait gave you a hand on the title of the video. I can see myself in some of the things you said. Sharing your story can make us think a lot. Thanks Mo
Mate i feel you,
What you said, man i have been through that.
We there for you man 💪
U sharing is just a balls of steel move.
Your an awesome person dont let anyone tell you worse :) you have good heart my friend.
Stay the way u want to be and become the person u see urself being in the future.
You think maybe she had borderline personality disorder?
Been thru something almost exactly the same. Thank you for sharing it helps me feel a lot less alone with it. You’re the man and I’ll never stop watching ya
You’re the realest mo, so much respect for you posting this 🤙🏻
Who is his girlfriend
That’s what an Instagram ass does to you brah, gets you hypnotised. Real shit though, I’ve been through the exact same, I don’t feel I’ve ever been in love, but this girl after months knew I was committed and began testing the limits of what I’d tolerate ... long story short cut toxic people out of your life.
I feel sorry for you because you had to live this 3 times.
1: Experience it
2: Record it and talk about it
3:Edit the video and think about posting it
I'm so sorry mo I genuinely felt so sad listening to this but I'm happy you uploaded this video xo
I think that recording and talking about it is more of a relief instead of keeping it in his head
Probably a million more times while thinking about it
I've been here, bro. It's tough, but you make it through. It'll get better.🙏👍
Give this guy a hug
Appreciate you putting yourself out there and sharing your story brother.
You're a bloody legend!
The one thing that finally got me out of the worst sh*t relationship I've ever had was, "I don't like who I've become with this person." It's a powerful thing when you see all you've built and all you are - come crashing down because of another person's crazy sh*t. You just can't go on being a person that you don't like anymore. No one SHOULD have the power to do that to you, but many a strong person has felt this rough, rough lesson. Love yourself first.... live and learn. Thanks for sharing. Best of luck in future.
Bro, i fully understand you. I used to date a bi-polar girl as well and the mental warfare was honestly on another level, i would legit rather shoot myself in the head than to go through it again. When you're hormones and dopamine are sky high, you don't think straight lad; you see reality though a blind mask. Glad you're safe bruv and never lose focus of who you are no matter who she is, people/girls come and go but the self-improvement is always with you. Respect for sharing this lad.
Bruv, this hit HOME. I’m about 5 months out of an almost identical situation. Dunno why I’m commenting, nice hearing a lad talk about it I think. Madness.
Sometimes you need to argue to fix problems bro
If a couple doesnt have any argue is because they're avoiding problems and saving things, and thats like a snowball that just gets bigger and bigger, so yeah, its better to talk things
100% agreed brother. i know several friends who "never argued" with their bf/gf and kept pushing stuff off to the side. eventually it built up, resulting in a massive argument and they broke up.
communication is key in any relationship. arguing does suck but sometimes it's the only way to talk something through and get a different perspective on the situation.
yeah i have this thinking with my gf that i dont sleep if i dont fix problems with her, you gotta argue man, if you dont they just save things in their head and its way worse
Thank you
I’m happy that you’re still alive, we need you buddy!
Brave stuff Mo
This is more motivating then any of the sick transformations or workout edits that you’ve ever made
Mad respect for talking about this Mo! you will help fucking tons of people with this. Even though that was a horrible time in your life, thats probably the biggest life lesson that you will ever receive.
Mo my brother..... firstly let me say without sounding patronising. I am very proud of you for making and sharing this video. I know it must have been hard and I understand why it took a while before you could upload it... One thing I want to correct you on, we didnt see you at your weakest, allowing your true feelings out and sharing your vulnerability with us takes incredible strength and nobody will think less of you for it....... The first time you are in love is always the most painful when it ends I just hope that it doesnt prevent you from falling in love again. Thank you for sharing your story with us, it was very honest and you tried to be factual about emotional stuff without making her out to be a bad person. I know you were talking about the darkest moments of your life and I hope that you never have to go there again. If ever you need to talk please hit me up. I will email you.. Tony T.
Massive respect for this! I literally felt emotional watching this. The feeling of wanting something so bad and its just isnt working for you is the worse. Self reflecting is the true skill to go on to better things!
Keep it up Mo!
Fair play Mo very strong video. Awful that you had to go through that trauma, I’m so sorry.
Just remember it’s made you the person you are today; someone to really look up to. And the fact you’ve opened up about it as well will really inspire others that everyone has been through shit.
Head up mate
Well done Mo for posting this. Takes some balls to be able to sit there and relive it. By far the realest TH-camr out there and an unreal role model. The things you say about doing things that scare you are incredible and the fact that you were able to push through all the things you've been through motivate me everyday. Head up
she didnt really change...she simply stopped holding back (common in the very early stages of a relationship). I don't mean this in a harsh way, but unfortunately some girls just are...broken / bat shit insane. Like you said, it's a product of their upbringing and past traumas,. They get affected more by that sort of stuff as they're far more emotional than your typical guy, who'll look at stuff more logically.
Every guy goes through this sort of life lesson with one girl or another. Live and learn.
Rev0UK1 preach!
100%
Only question is, what ends up to these girls that have issues later on?
realist content creator out here, keep it up bro
Gained even more respect for you from this video, man. Glad you made it out of that situation.
Mate fair play for putting yourself out there. I have been there and I know other people who have, so much psychological and emotional abuse goes on in relationships.
Huge respect for this video man, huge respect!
Mo you’re my role model. “Hope you have a fucking great life” 😂
Mo, I understand how you're going through.
And the feeling of contradiction.
Feeling guilty because of love and the feelings, but also logically knowing what's going wrong.
But can't really explain it with words.
Like it's easier to blame it on yourself. But at the same time, you know that's not for the best for the both.
However, nothing and whatever you tried was working and everything just goes in a bad cycle. over and over again.
I was lucky then to have friends to tell me to focus on myself, bear all the problems but not putting it to our heart.
Hope this works for you too.
Man, I've been watching your videos for a long time and still, you're the 'truest' youtuber or at least someone I can really relate to or admire.
Would really love to meet you someday.
But till then All the love and support x
So much respect for this man
I spent 5 years in a relationship similar to this. It is exhausting. It destroys your self esteem. It makes you anxious. It put me into a deep depression and my goals and sense of self completely went. They are professional manipulators. Naturally, like you I am a bit emotionally disconnected but my relationship screwed me up. Even after 7 months I am in therapy to try to figure out what happened. I have severe social anxiety now. Gym went down the pan and I put on 25kg. She isolated me from my friends and I missed so many opportunities. I used to be very optimistic and social. Now I am screwed financially, fitness wise and I have no motivation to progress with my life due to clinical depession and severe social anxiety. I hate it. I feel like I am just being lazy and sensitive but its much much deeper than that. I see it as a lesson learned. I have read so many things on relationship psychology and what love is, from a biological, philosophical and social perspective. I completely understand that love can bring down the toughest of us if it is exploited. I understand why my ex was like it. She had traumas in her life and I really did care for her because of it. But I got sick of the mental warfare. I numbed myself because when I opened up she took advantage of it and made me feel weak. I was her emotional punching bag but I stayed with her because I loved her and I was also scared of how she would act if I left. I tried to once early on and she started to self harm and tell me she would commit suicide or go back with her abusive ex. I hope you dont take the abuse personally, it was her problem not yours.
So much love for uploading that!
Had the same thing with the birth control situation, complete personality change and anything I did would piss her off but soon as she was off it all went back to normal. It’s a shit place to be in
This is a really important comment. Birth control pills can change your hormones so much and influence you a lot...and the second you get off it, back to normal.
That's called attachment, not love. Relationships that start intensely almost always turn out to be attachment, which is easily mistaken for love due to the intensity. But relationships based around that never last, because at least one part if using the other person to 'fill the cracks' of their life, but the cracks always show back up, because they haven't truly repaired.. and ofcourse, then YOU become the problem. You 'fixed' the problem (or so they believed), therefor when the pain comes back, it must be down to YOU. The hormones ofcourse play a role, but it isn't just the hormones, that's a scapegoat. There's also the reason they call the beginning of a relationship the 'honeymoon' period.
Harsh reality. Been there, done that. Not love, attachment.
Read 'the subtle art of not giving a f*ck', I can almost guarantee that book will feel like reading your life story back.
Robin J pretty sure Mo has read that
Well if he has, I think he needs to read it again. Because what he's talking about here, is detailed in that book, but the way he's talking about it sounds like he's not realised that yet. Not a dig, he seems like a proper decent lad, and this story sounds almost EXACTLY like the situation I went through, so it hits close to home.
The reason I made the point was because that is not love, not even close, and believing it is, is dangerous - because you run the risk of repeating similar situations.
I think sometimes it's hard to accept it wasn't love, because then people think it was a waste, that they falsely invested their time - but that's equally false. The real value in this situation is to realise exactly what it is, understand not only the role they played, but the role you played, and learn from it, so as to never repeat it.
Just offering advice, that's all! Doesn't have to take it. ;)
so much respect for this video stay strong mo
I think after this experience it is important to understand that not every girl is like her, so you will love another girl again somewere in the future. Maybe you aren't scared of loving another girl, but if you are... you will need to work on it at the damage she has done to you. This video shows that you divided that girl literally into two people. In the beginning of your video you look so happy when you talk about her.
Mo: the worst part was... she made me go vegan for a week.
Obviosuly joking hope the best for you wob king and keep it real ma vegan lord🥑
Yo, Ryan! Hope all is well, bro!👍
@@mauricecooper9763 trying to make a video😂 cheers for the support
Ryan Chandra man what a nice comment
yo how is that a joke being vegan for a week is not hard at all, ever got sick and ate nothing but rice?
@@bqfilms i ate nothing for a week when my appendix was removed. Just watch his videos he always talks about vegan and taking the piss out of it
Much Respect bro!
Mo thank you for posting this.
Not much to say, I've had suicidal shit go through my head so I get it, but dont put yourself down over it, you are human, you can't always be 100% rational, its ok to fuck up.
Please try therapy, it works wonders, at least for me.
For some reason I can related to this because of how persistent and possessive I can be to a thing I love.
Really appreciate this upload Mo, takes a lot of balls. You are a stronger person now because of all of it I’m sure with a new outlook on relationships. Can totally relate to not ever being in love and “emotionless” too 😂
Fucking mad love for you mo
I've dealt with the exact same thing but it's still kinda happening. But my whole world is based around her and I can't break up with her.. We are actually really alike, you and me. By being cold and all that shit. Like your content keep it up!
Recently came out of a similar abusive relationship, almost married her as well, thankfully I didn't. Feel the same about her like wish her the best but don't want to be involved her anymore.
It's sad but they say the one who has the most power in a relationship is the one who cares the least. I'm starting to believe that even though I've always been a hopeless romantic.
I never comment on youtube videos. I feel that I am living in the story that you're telling me. I've delt with and am still dealing with this kind if relationship. I am also not very in tune with my emotions or lack of them for better words. The part of losing your mindset hit close to home, I feel that I am in that stage of my relationship. Reducing time at the gym, not going as often and not being able to do things for my own personal growth I don't truly know if it's going to get better but I am glad that I can use you as proof that it will get better. Thank you so fucking much Mo. You're my role model.
This was surprisingly triggering, but also a good reminder that I never wanna feel like that again.
*Pauses video* Shit hole ! North !? . . . . *carries on watching*
Basically you got a taste of your own medicine
The way you looked at the start of this video, Mo - talking about your summer and how you felt when you first met her. You could literally hear the passion in your voice see the love in your eyes. And then by the end of that video that same face was just completely heart broken and destroyed.
I’m really sorry that you had to go through what you did. Don’t even feel like you’re alone. Your friends and family are always going to be there for you no matter where in the world you are.
Big respect for you posting this too - guys don’t really talk about mental health like it’s something to be ashamed of. It takes a fucking lot of balls to post a video at your most vulnerable state.
I really hope you’re okay, in every sense of the term. Love x
Thank you for sharing such an personal experience........ It's never easy to let go all the burden someone causes you when you truly care about them and I know this cause I've been there and when it ends you think that it is the end for you............. Again thanks for sharing and hope ppl can learn something from it which might avoid a lot of pain or even a major loss.
I have only just come across this video but I went through the same thing and it's almost a relief that I'm not the only one, as messed up as it sounds.
Being with someone like this can really mess with your self esteem and identity as a person. Unfortunately this tends to be with people who have avoidant attachment, where for the first few months they are full of love and energy but after a while they start to push people away as a defence mechanism, usually due to past trauma as a child. The more you feel like you want to be close to them and fix issues you might be having, the more they push you away and self sabotage the relationship to keep themselves safe.
Unfortunately these types of people find it incredibly hard to get help from other people and usually never do, so it really takes themselves to realise and step up to get help.
For anyone who is an avoidant or with an avoidant, realise that it is not their fault that they are this way but it is their responsibility to change, if they want to change. Because they usually have so much love to give but are afraid of letting people get close.
Brave man 🙏🏻
You're a fucking soldier bro. Your helping alot of people feel like they aren't alone with their similar situations. Love that shit honestly.
I Had The Same Situation Bruv,Thanks For Sharing Your Story Keep Rocking On 😎
You need to stop worrying about coming off soft my dude, things like this happens to everyone.
Respect.
Big respect on posting this! My previous relationship made aspects of this video very relatable and as horrible as it is I'm sure on both your side and mine it's nice knowing you're not the only one.
This is sick of you to come forward about mo, will always support you through thick and thin mate
So many people watching this can relate. Thanks for sharing, welcome to life there are many lessons to be learnt. 👍
I've lived this. This is a BPD relatiobship. It almost killed me. Never again.
Big up man, you’ve helped a lot of people with this. I hope your feeling better. Sick videos - new sub!👍🙏🏼
There’s a difference between loving someone and being in love and when you’re in love with someone and it goes to shit it’s the worst feeling in the world so I get this shit completely. Absolutely get it
Mo we fucking love you man
Don't mean to throw any hate, but felt like she fucked with your love for her. Played along the vulnerability of that.
All I can say is always know your worth. And always keep in mind what a healthy relationship is, but I believe you do know what that is.
Don’t blame yourself man, it was just a toxic situation. I don’t know how you can forgive her for that but I guess you’re the bigger man
Who is she
So basically going to the toilet really hacked her off
What the hell? How dumb can a person be to get that upset over such things?
Man thats one crazy person from what im hearing. Great that you left her, youll find the right one someday. 💪🏻
It's real life it happens
So she gets angry at him for taking a shit?
amazing video taught me so much and how similar humans react to certain situations when they can't actually handle it
Love you even more for making this
Man, it takes balls to talk about it, respect. 💪🏼
holy shit.... Mo i have so much fucking respect for you. thanks for uploading this vid, maybe itll help other people going through similar situations.
You are a great guy 👍🍺🍺 for me I am not interested in relationships or marriage or having families just like to stay single and mingle around. 😉⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Mate sorry you had to go through that wow
Mo I know you might not see this but I hope you know how much I relate to this video, I know exactly how it is to give up absolutely everything for them no matter how badly they treat you and how hard it is to leave. I’m in the stage of wanting to give them another chance despite giving it hundreds. Thank you.
I have never heard of birth control causing moods changes like this. She sounds maybe more of bipolar disorder to me. Everyone’s got to experience crazy once in their life 😄 in order to appreciate the good one you get.
Been through something similar, I'm sorry u went through that, I know how blinded one can be, it's a horrible mental prison.
I appreciate u more talking about this, Ur a top bloke Mo
props to you man. Takes a lot of strength to make and post this video.
Fuck, this sounds very similar to my scenario. Moved away with my ex (we were both at Uni) and blamo!
Mad respect for you Mo
I watched my bro got therw an abusive relationship with a girl that had bipolar. Physical abuse mental. And even made him change his appearance. And no one could make him see that it was wrong. There was a lot more involved but won't go into detail. But just want you to know you will be stronger form sharing this. And we maybe people to that just watch you like and comment. But we are here for you bro. If you need to talk I'll happily listen and give you honest advice.
Sorry you suffered this man. If all true, she is very mentally ill and I hope she is getting treatment now for her trauma. The best thing you could do is talk about this, so props to you on posting this for the world. That’s the biggest step you could take. You’re not alone, keep trucking
Brilliant
*pauses video* ok I’m 16 mins in, have you tried watching the note book ? If you don’t cry at that seek help *un-pauses video*
thank fuck you didn't die man
I’m not saying this to show you that I’ve been there too and blah blah like everyone says to help you but I’m living that rn bud... it gets better
Good for you for standing up for yourself and not letting it continue! No one should make someone else feel like that or drive them to doing something like that either. I've got so much respect for you posting this video, on top of still remaining so positive and nice about her etc. It is okay to show your emotions and to talk about things, this is what people need to remember, especially guys. Keep doing what makes you feel good and happy Mo your doing great👍🏼❤️
You deserve better mate. Just another life experience. Harden up and accept the fact that this person wasn't for you, never change yourself for someone else, like you said you tried to change and nothing worked. Good luck brother.
I’ve been there bro and so have many of us. I moved away from my friends and family for a girl and spent two years of my life being abused by what started as small things and turned bigger and bigger. It’s brutal taking that from someone you love and it sticks with you but from it you’ll be so much stronger man. You’re a strong geeza, just Keep doing your thing bro and good things will keep coming to you! Thanks for being the realest as always 🙏🏻
Yes Mo, there is great value here for someone, to be sure. Introspection and retrospection are signs of maturity. It is a catharsis of no small measure for you to record this. You're both vulnerable and brave in posting this. The awareness you bring to people will change lives. Thanks.
You’re fucking great! Onwards and upwards baby
So proud of you for sharing this Mo, thank you ❤️
Hey! Could you recommend me some books that you have read.
And if they are about mindfulness or spirituality of some kind it would be great!
Ty Samuel!
Damn that shit was as scary as an Apache Helicopter trying to gun you down
Bro you opening up about things like this makes you more of a man. Don’t care what others think. Thank you for being honest and letting others know it’s ok to talk about tough things like this.
Respect for uploading this mate, I’m sure a lot of people will take something from this, myself included!
Appreciate ya man, good on you for putting this out there. Keep doing you man😊👍
this video is too real. so many points in this are so important and so difficult to see when you're neck deep in one of these relationships. i wish i'd seen this video 6 months ago! anyway, going to have to rewatch one of the festivals vlogs and smash a preworkout to get me fired up for the gym. great video man!
Started watching you recently. This hit hard 8:10.
Bro an unbelievable amount of respect for having the honesty to upload this man. I've been in a very similar situation before and it really isn't easy to know what to do but I'm sure everyone here can say they're glad you got past it and are helping us all and giving us a right laugh on your videos so thank you bro, we all appreciate it ❤️
Nobody else would post something this real. Much love mate. You know now not to stay in a situation like that.