Amazing. What I love about DCFC is that they explore perspectives in music that no one has ever done before. They sympathize with the other side, the realistic side - the weddings that don't go perfectly, the person who does the breaking up, new years that don't feel any different, the person who resigns himself to never realizing his dreams. It's part of what is so beautiful about their music; it's so very real. This song perfectly describes everything I'm feeling, to a point. Incredible.
There are those songs where you finally actually listen to the lyrics and they aren't as beautiful as the music itself... This song becomes even better after learning the lyrics. Absolutely beautiful.
I think the song, from my perspective, is more about a guy that really wishes he could fall in love with a girl and no matter how hard he tries... the feelings just aren't there.
My interpretation as well. Whether he's starting afresh or trying to rebound to get over someone, he has a series of hookups and hangouts over the course of two weeks vacation, but despite the surface level attraction/lust, it's all going through the motions of futility because that's all they have in common. Whatever "love" is, it's like a song, in that it can be beautifully put together, but it either "clicks" and resonates deeply for the listener, or it doesn't. And for him, it just doesn't, not matter how much he tries to will it to be or force it. It's delaying the inevitable fizzle...
Absolutely. It's frustration slipping into despair -- accepting that she isn't the One, and confronting the dreadful sequence that awaits you both. Truly the sad side of (the pursuit of) love.
Dying love, where you reach a point in a relationship where you have realized the other doesn't mean as much as they use to. And all that there is left is an unfelt routine.
I believe everyone has their own interpretation or feeling toward this song. I know I do... I tried to love someone more than I loved an ex of mine... and I just couldn't bring myself to love her more than my ex. I feel guilty for having been unable to. That's what I get from this song. Just being honest.
Everyone keeps saying that they think it's about love dying but Idk, I think he was in a dark place and he went to silver lake to get away from it all. And that's where he met her, I think he wanted to actually feel something. So their relationship was nothing more than casual hookups but they would pretend they loved each other so they could feel. And no matter how much he tried it just wouldn't happen.
I love all the different meanings people are pulling from within themselves! It's beautiful one song can mean so many different things to different people. Such as: My own interpretation is that he's trying to form connections, meeting people and doing everything to feel something... and can't. Tracing back steps, attempting to recreate moments thst used to make him feel... only to lay in bed and feel empty and disconnected from the body next to him. That's my take anyways!:)
i literally just had a situation where a man told me he loved me over the course of six-months and lied. It turns out he was with his previous girlfriend, and that he had been lying to us both. In highschool I never understood this song, or how anything like this could happen. But now in my current state, there's some solace in knowing that at least someone knew this situation well enough to write a song about it, and at least that helps me to feel a little less alone
"All I see are dark grey clouds in the distance moving closer with every hour. So when you ask 'Is something wrong?' I think 'You're damn right there is.. but we can't talk about it now. No, we can't talk about it now.'" Explains so much x_x
I love how this song is about how when we're young and naive, we break hearts all the time, and even good people do it. But ultimatley, I feel like this is about realizing that this is life, and sometimes we'll have moments that we're not completely proud of, and we'll recognize how selfish we were or that we were hiding our true self, or some sort of thing that went wrong, and its fine to look back and be a bit sad, but you have to move on.
this happened to me. for six months i could tell something was wrong with my bf but he never would disclose what. he pretended everything was alright and then finally he couldn't stand it anymore. we had to break up. he was the love of my life, he did once love me but he eventually fell out of love with me. i think he still sees me as beautiful, but i dont mean a thing to him. it hurts. this song feels so healing.
Could this be a narcissist’s love letter? He don’t feel anything though acknowledges the beauty of the other. “Is something wrong?” can signal the end of the love bombing phase where the other person feels the shut off and shut out. “Moving together in darkness” contrasted by the “Silver Lake/California Sun” in his face tells me he moved fast yet again with someone, though feigning feelings is on him as a personality flaw. The other person allowed themselves to swept up in a whirlwind romance that was doomed from the start if partner’s unable to feel anything real.
It's so beautifully written and beautifully sung that you forget that the essential message of the song is "Hit it and Quit it". Kind of similar to Someday You Will Be Loved..
I totally agree with you thought the song was about. People can have their other perspectives and try to make the song relate to them, but you explained exactly what Ben was trying to portray in this song.
it's open to the listeners interpretation to fit the listener's situation, to me I see it as a couple that got back together and she still loved him and he just didn't feel anything for her even though they tried to to make it work but he felt nothing because of the way she was in between times
this is the moment that you know that you told her that loved her but you don't.... you touch her skin and then you think she is beautiful but she don't mean a thing to me...
i think its about a girl he met after leaving the love of his life and he thinks shes a great girl, and he just shake these feelings of lost and resentment for this former lover and his heart is torn and just cant bring himself to lie that he actually loves and cares for this chick because he just wants his lover in his life again or isnt ready for that kind of commitment since hes just not over grieving his loss.
Such a heart wrenching, true, but beautiful and true song and pretty much says what what my ex didn't say but felt. Still suffering from a second broken heart, from the same guy. This suck, but am used to it.
the power of this song is very touching for reasons why is because its all about the fact of a one night stand that means nothing to anyone but for some reason they are still stuck in our minds....the fact that love doesent exist in the minds of a stranger...it only exist int the mind of the known
this is about someone cheating on their significant other. They think they want something better and realize they dont know what they want. They lead the person on by making them think they are the one. But the guilt takes over and they realize this is just a temporary fix
This song reminds me of when I was with my ex, and we would be so passionate while I would know deep down that the love wasn't really there that should have been.
Almost every time I hear this song I cry. I have to try not to think about it otherwise I do cry.. its so raw and so true. I love it even though it breaks my heart.
It reminds me of a relationship I have with a friend of mine. He's the sweetest person I could ever meet, yet I've never felt like I had true romantic feelings towards him. I wish I could, I would love too, but it's just not there.
any guys have this reminding them maddd about a chick? got to know her... she seemed so perfect, then it hit you while texting/talkin to her. she aint the one. just beautiful.
I couldn't stop thinking about this song in the weeks leading up to breaking up with my girlfriend. Things like this made me realize I was still with her because I always had been.
Its a song about regret from what I gather. He gets with a girl he finds attractive and eventually they hook up, unfortunately he realizes as its happening that he doesn't care about her. He continues through with it but regrets it in the end~ It makes a lot of sense when you consider how can you possibly stop at that point without hurting her, you get trapped.
It's a nice song and it's brutally honest. The band were actually a little worried about Ben singing it because they thought it'd make Ben look like a bad person but he went ahead and did it anyway because he knows how to be a good artist.
This song reminds me of this guy so much!!!! We dated but ended up breaking up, but then one time when I was trying to get over somebody else we kissed and he's really into me now but I don't like him. He says he loves me a lot and I feel terrible for not loving him back. I told him to listen to this ):
I can really connect to this song. I'm aromantic, meaning I don't experience any romantic feelings. Every time I've started a relationship with someone I've tried to force myself to love them, but I can't. It's frighteningly lonely.
I can relate to this too. And it helps me understand other people,and I appreciate it a lot. I have a hard time feeling things for other people,and that's resulted in people viewing me as an apathetic asshole,which I guess I am, but It just helps me relate to other people..you know?
@TheFallenCanRise i was used and did some incredibly stupid things which i will never forget,i had my heart broken and then he went out with one of my friends i luckily broke up with him first but my god i felt pain. she made my life hell there were points where i just went numb i let the world pass around me and i was a ghost. i've grown stronger but in a way a lot weaker to as now i trust nobody and my heart will forever be unhealed as some pain doesnt go away. so i'm always here
it's horrible how guys can use a girl, touch her, say they love her, just to get into their pants, then later they just drop her, how can people just use people like that, mess with they're emotions, and then not care > : ( not really happy right now, but he'll get what he deserves...
I think sometimes you want to give back what someone gives to you, or you just want to know that feeling and have what it's like to be in love. I mean, there are a million reasons why and you can't expect someone to love you because you love them. It just doesn't work that way; it's not something that anyone can control. It hurts to have someone tell you they don't really love you, but I'm sure it hurts to pretend, too and to lie to yourself and to force yourself. And some people are just dicks.
@TheFallenCanRise Even though it's been 11 months, I'm sorry for whatever happened, I probably* feel your pain :P. Your pain might be worse, mine might be worse, but loves just a pain. I hope since nearly a years passed you're feeling better, good luck with love :b. And respect for posting how you feel, I'm too much of a wimp to do that >.
I wish the person who I'm with would sing this to me. We both know that he's thinking it. Now he just has to say it. Rather than act it out. Say it and leave me, but with both our heads held high and hands in a clasp of friendship.
Just commenting because I enjoy the story it set up in my head. I get the idea of a man who just broke up with a long time girlfriend, someone special he misses. He goes to California for a while to get away from his troubles; and finds another woman, falling in lust with her. They fling. I think the "tiny vessels leaving bruises" are.. Well, hickies. The vessels being his attempt to make the woman his lost girlfriend through sex. But he finds it pointless and laments. I dunno. Beautiful song
@jgs2390 That is how I always felt the song was about. It's not meant to be mean. It's the guys realizing he didn't love the girl as much as he thought he did.
@Tabroxfcc I don't see it as a sad song... I see it as a song about him coming to a realization, and acting accordingly. Because living a lie usually only works out in the short term, even if it is a beautiful lie.
@toribabi1624 Sure, the title of the song is a part of the lyrics that pertains to a hickey...but the whole song isn't "about a hickey"...no, no, no. It's much more than that.
Amazing. What I love about DCFC is that they explore perspectives in music that no one has ever done before. They sympathize with the other side, the realistic side - the weddings that don't go perfectly, the person who does the breaking up, new years that don't feel any different, the person who resigns himself to never realizing his dreams. It's part of what is so beautiful about their music; it's so very real.
This song perfectly describes everything I'm feeling, to a point. Incredible.
There are those songs where you finally actually listen to the lyrics and they aren't as beautiful as the music itself... This song becomes even better after learning the lyrics. Absolutely beautiful.
I think the song, from my perspective, is more about a guy that really wishes he could fall in love with a girl and no matter how hard he tries... the feelings just aren't there.
My interpretation as well. Whether he's starting afresh or trying to rebound to get over someone, he has a series of hookups and hangouts over the course of two weeks vacation, but despite the surface level attraction/lust, it's all going through the motions of futility because that's all they have in common. Whatever "love" is, it's like a song, in that it can be beautifully put together, but it either "clicks" and resonates deeply for the listener, or it doesn't.
And for him, it just doesn't, not matter how much he tries to will it to be or force it. It's delaying the inevitable fizzle...
Absolutely. It's frustration slipping into despair -- accepting that she isn't the One, and confronting the dreadful sequence that awaits you both. Truly the sad side of (the pursuit of) love.
Dying love, where you reach a point in a relationship where you have realized the other doesn't mean as much as they use to. And all that there is left is an unfelt routine.
This is hitting my feels
you have no idea how much i can relate to this song right now.
I believe everyone has their own interpretation or feeling toward this song. I know I do... I tried to love someone more than I loved an ex of mine... and I just couldn't bring myself to love her more than my ex. I feel guilty for having been unable to. That's what I get from this song. Just being honest.
I feel you bro
Everyone keeps saying that they think it's about love dying but Idk, I think he was in a dark place and he went to silver lake to get away from it all. And that's where he met her, I think he wanted to actually feel something. So their relationship was nothing more than casual hookups but they would pretend they loved each other so they could feel. And no matter how much he tried it just wouldn't happen.
*shrugs* then again I've never been in a relationship before so my perspective on this song will probably change as i grow up
i have the same interpretation!
Exactly.
Agreed
I love all the different meanings people are pulling from within themselves! It's beautiful one song can mean so many different things to different people.
Such as:
My own interpretation is that he's trying to form connections, meeting people and doing everything to feel something... and can't. Tracing back steps, attempting to recreate moments thst used to make him feel... only to lay in bed and feel empty and disconnected from the body next to him.
That's my take anyways!:)
i literally just had a situation where a man told me he loved me over the course of six-months and lied. It turns out he was with his previous girlfriend, and that he had been lying to us both. In highschool I never understood this song, or how anything like this could happen. But now in my current state, there's some solace in knowing that at least someone knew this situation well enough to write a song about it, and at least that helps me to feel a little less alone
"All I see are dark grey clouds in the distance moving closer with every hour. So when you ask 'Is something wrong?' I think 'You're damn right there is.. but we can't talk about it now. No, we can't talk about it now.'"
Explains so much x_x
I love how this song is about how when we're young and naive, we break hearts all the time, and even good people do it. But ultimatley, I feel like this is about realizing that this is life, and sometimes we'll have moments that we're not completely proud of, and we'll recognize how selfish we were or that we were hiding our true self, or some sort of thing that went wrong, and its fine to look back and be a bit sad, but you have to move on.
this happened to me. for six months i could tell something was wrong with my bf but he never would disclose what. he pretended everything was alright and then finally he couldn't stand it anymore. we had to break up. he was the love of my life, he did once love me but he eventually fell out of love with me. i think he still sees me as beautiful, but i dont mean a thing to him. it hurts. this song feels so healing.
Could this be a narcissist’s love letter? He don’t feel anything though acknowledges the beauty of the other. “Is something wrong?” can signal the end of the love bombing phase where the other person feels the shut off and shut out. “Moving together in darkness” contrasted by the “Silver Lake/California Sun” in his face tells me he moved fast yet again with someone, though feigning feelings is on him as a personality flaw. The other person allowed themselves to swept up in a whirlwind romance that was doomed from the start if partner’s unable to feel anything real.
It's so beautifully written and beautifully sung that you forget that the essential message of the song is "Hit it and Quit it". Kind of similar to Someday You Will Be Loved..
Harmony Wisdom 😂
my ex used to say this song reminded him of me and I thought it was so sweet,until I listened to it and then I finally understood everything...
This song is so sad.. who knew being told beautiful wasn't as valuable as being loved
I totally agree with you thought the song was about. People can have their other perspectives and try to make the song relate to them, but you explained exactly what Ben was trying to portray in this song.
it's open to the listeners interpretation to fit the listener's situation, to me I see it as a couple that got back together and she still loved him and he just didn't feel anything for her even though they tried to to make it work but he felt nothing because of the way she was in between times
this is the moment that you know that you told her that loved her but you don't....
you touch her skin and then you think she is beautiful but she don't mean a thing to me...
i think its about a girl he met after leaving the love of his life and he thinks shes a great girl, and he just shake these feelings of lost and resentment for this former lover and his heart is torn and just cant bring himself to lie that he actually loves and cares for this chick because he just wants his lover in his life again or isnt ready for that kind of commitment since hes just not over grieving his loss.
I'm getting shivery goosebumps- in a good way...
this is the song, that my crush for 2 years, just told me i meant to him. this is exactly how he feels about me
Such a heart wrenching, true, but beautiful and true song and pretty much says what what my ex didn't say but felt. Still suffering from a second broken heart, from the same guy. This suck, but am used to it.
Such a beautiful song. It really tugs at your heart strings.
the power of this song is very touching for reasons why is because its all about the fact of a one night stand that means nothing to anyone but for some reason they are still stuck in our minds....the fact that love doesent exist in the minds of a stranger...it only exist int the mind of the known
this is about someone cheating on their significant other. They think they want something better and realize they dont know what they want. They lead the person on by making them think they are the one. But the guilt takes over and they realize this is just a temporary fix
This song reminds me of when I was with my ex, and we would be so passionate while I would know deep down that the love wasn't really there that should have been.
Dude i think your my twin this mix has me favorite songs from soooooo many genres
Almost every time I hear this song I cry. I have to try not to think about it otherwise I do cry.. its so raw and so true. I love it even though it breaks my heart.
This is song is truly heartbreaking
It reminds me of a relationship I have with a friend of mine. He's the sweetest person I could ever meet, yet I've never felt like I had true romantic feelings towards him. I wish I could, I would love too, but it's just not there.
any guys have this reminding them maddd about a chick?
got to know her... she seemed so perfect, then it hit you while texting/talkin to her.
she aint the one. just beautiful.
2:07 is everything!
It's the saddest song in the world
Try “I’ll follow you into the dark.” From this group and “Tiny Vessels” will become the second saddest song.
I couldn't stop thinking about this song in the weeks leading up to breaking up with my girlfriend. Things like this made me realize I was still with her because I always had been.
Its a song about regret from what I gather. He gets with a girl he finds attractive and eventually they hook up, unfortunately he realizes as its happening that he doesn't care about her. He continues through with it but regrets it in the end~
It makes a lot of sense when you consider how can you possibly stop at that point without hurting her, you get trapped.
It's a nice song and it's brutally honest. The band were actually a little worried about Ben singing it because they thought it'd make Ben look like a bad person but he went ahead and did it anyway because he knows how to be a good artist.
This song reminds me of this guy so much!!!!
We dated but ended up breaking up, but then one time when I was trying to get over somebody else we kissed and he's really into me now but I don't like him. He says he loves me a lot and I feel terrible for not loving him back. I told him to listen to this ):
I got intense chills.
i love this song so much, fave album by dcbc
I'll have to keep this on the back burner to play during the 'last fuck'. ;)
..still by far my favorite band
This song makes me think of chasing after wind.
the lyrics are so raw
amazing song
Thx U God
lovely =] its my favorite song
I can really connect to this song. I'm aromantic, meaning I don't experience any romantic feelings. Every time I've started a relationship with someone I've tried to force myself to love them, but I can't. It's frighteningly lonely.
@LightHeartedMusician it's about the bruises he leaves on her neck after they have sex basically
The beginning makes me cry every time
I can relate to this too.
And it helps me understand other people,and I appreciate it a lot.
I have a hard time feeling things for other people,and that's resulted in people viewing me as an apathetic asshole,which I guess I am, but It just helps me relate to other people..you know?
@TheFallenCanRise i was used and did some incredibly stupid things which i will never forget,i had my heart broken and then he went out with one of my friends i luckily broke up with him first but my god i felt pain. she made my life hell there were points where i just went numb i let the world pass around me and i was a ghost. i've grown stronger but in a way a lot weaker to as now i trust nobody and my heart will forever be unhealed as some pain doesnt go away. so i'm always here
it's horrible how guys can use a girl, touch her, say they love her, just to get into their pants, then later they just drop her, how can people just use people like that, mess with they're emotions, and then not care > : ( not really happy right now, but he'll get what he deserves...
this song makes jesus cry. that's how awesome it is.
this song is beutiful and it means alot to me.
i just liked this song and saw two people disliked this song...who could not like this song? o.o
greatest song ever
This is me. I feel this way. Aboit every one I date. Truth
Gonna play this on my wedding day, lmao
This song is about the lie I tell myself everyday just to get by. Forbidden love...
I think sometimes you want to give back what someone gives to you, or you just want to know that feeling and have what it's like to be in love. I mean, there are a million reasons why and you can't expect someone to love you because you love them. It just doesn't work that way; it's not something that anyone can control. It hurts to have someone tell you they don't really love you, but I'm sure it hurts to pretend, too and to lie to yourself and to force yourself.
And some people are just dicks.
this is breakin` me apart.:(
fuckin shit. i thought this song was great until i realized wat hes saying in the bridge. now its fuckin amazing. how badasss.
song of my life
@TheFallenCanRise Even though it's been 11 months, I'm sorry for whatever happened, I probably* feel your pain :P. Your pain might be worse, mine might be worse, but loves just a pain. I hope since nearly a years passed you're feeling better, good luck with love :b. And respect for posting how you feel, I'm too much of a wimp to do that >.
Well said.
this song reminds me of someone i used to be crazy about. i didnt mean a thing to him either. ass.
i love this song, its so powerful.
I can relate to this 100%
“you are beautiful, but you don’t mean a thing to me.” i know. i know i’m nothing.
I wish the person who I'm with would sing this to me. We both know that he's thinking it. Now he just has to say it. Rather than act it out. Say it and leave me, but with both our heads held high and hands in a clasp of friendship.
Ahh the feels :(
right there...right there
This is like every alloaro’s experience before they found out what they were
Just commenting because I enjoy the story it set up in my head.
I get the idea of a man who just broke up with a long time girlfriend, someone special he misses.
He goes to California for a while to get away from his troubles; and finds another woman, falling in lust with her. They fling.
I think the "tiny vessels leaving bruises" are.. Well, hickies. The vessels being his attempt to make the woman his lost girlfriend through sex. But he finds it pointless and laments.
I dunno. Beautiful song
this song sums up the way most guys treat women.
cheer up life is full of struggles i hope ur better now =)
@toribabi1624 If you were even a Death Cab For Cutie fan you'd get it too....
I feel bad cause I only came here from awsten knight. but it is a good sad song.
Dshaye Bailey i did too lmao
it's impossible for me to sing this without crying
True, although you have to wonder why, considering the lead singer and songwriter is married to Zooey Deschanel
This is about a one night stand in my opinion. "It was vile and it was cheap"
I wabt to hear that song when I'll die, it's just to beautiful. :(
Holy macaroni. I would tell him that he should stop playing around with hearts and much stronger words, if I could.
@jgs2390 That is how I always felt the song was about. It's not meant to be mean. It's the guys realizing he didn't love the girl as much as he thought he did.
I am embarrassed to say I can relate to this song
I don't think this is about losing love i think it's about him wanting to love someone but can't
@Tabroxfcc I don't see it as a sad song... I see it as a song about him coming to a realization, and acting accordingly. Because living a lie usually only works out in the short term, even if it is a beautiful lie.
@achillesheel86 true, but it is mostly guys who do those types of things, you cant deny that.
@TheFallenCanRise wow that was really thoughtful...i may not know u but im deeply sorry that happened to you..
such a sad song! :'( sniffle sniffle. lol i still l.o.v.e it tho haha
Tried loving someone who loves me so much but I just can't.
@TheFallenCanRise I hear you, and majority of times i feel the same way.
@frozenheartsmelt15 its a tip that not only guys do that!
what does this song mean??
@laurenvalo
yeah.. Me too. Honestly it happens to much, right? :/
Am I the only one who lol'd at KaylaKITTi3 status
That's exactly how I feel.
@toribabi1624 Sure, the title of the song is a part of the lyrics that pertains to a hickey...but the whole song isn't "about a hickey"...no, no, no. It's much more than that.
this song just reminds me of all the terrible things that came about because i used a word i didn't understand.
@TheFallenCanRise i care, i care because it happened to me and it sucks and it hurts and its hard to move on and i still love her, so i care
This song fits in perfectly with how my current boyfriend views me.
I love him still though...What's wrong with me?