This hits home for me. My ex wife has 50/50 custody of our 3 year old daughter with me. My ex is on the child abuse registry for two charges, and her "fiance" is a recently removed tier 3 sex offender for assaulting a girl 13 or younger. Did gender play a role? I'm not sure, I guess. She has no remorse and the only thing I got out of it was, no alimony, child support, and the fact my daughter can't be left unsupervised with him. That includes staying the night at his house. I'm luckier than most fathers I know, but it came at the cost of my child being exposed to a child predator.
The all devouring mother as Jung identify it. It is the most dangerous form of human, because it is subtle and our bias of our great experience with our nurturing mother sometimes make our thinking process into default tendency of mother is the most appropriate person to take care a child.
they need to look at things in a case by case nature instead of stupid *gender politics* she had a list an arm long as to why she at the time is an unfit and unsafe parent but no got to give her full custody.
My dad only got custody of me because my mom refused custody. My mom had no inclination to keep me, nor did she want me, but the court still wanted to give her custody over my dad. My dad is caring and kind and a true leader. He has never had a record and kept his nose clean. He still was deemed less fit than a mother who didn't even want me to exist. I probably would have been killed too if my mom gained custody. I am thankful everyday that I was raised by my dad.
@@NagoBust Tell me where you live and I'll tell you something fked up about it. America just gets all the attention as we are the center of the universe.
@Kyle Rittenstritch I'm not sure about that. There was this dark-skinned female in my city that literally killed this kid and put him in a suitcase in the woods. Was literally smiling in her mug shot photo afterwards.
@@kylerittenstritch2903 nice try there but that is not true. My sister in law ( who is not white) has no business having her children and their father(s) work their fingers to the bone, do not have any record whatsoever, and try hard to be in their lives and even buy them clothes, food, and toys. One time she even bagged it all up and tossed it on her son's fathers porch saying she "needs cash not this garbage" ( quote). she ignores the court decision all the time to denies them the right to see their kids', yet the system keeps leaving them with her. He tried to claim neither was paying child support, and here they both showed up with receipts for the things they bought for the kids. She is trash, she doesn't deserve the kids, but the system favors her because...mother. This video proves your opinion wrong.
This. Any officials who are involved in the decision making process fro custody of a child who give them to a parent that kills them should be charged with negligent homicide. I also think the same should be true for when they release criminals before their full sentence is up. Maybe if judges and parole boards actually had skin in the game they would start caring what their decisions mean for others.
The issue is, judges can’t be held accountable. They literally passed laws along time ago so nothing they pass court orders on, can be called into question. It’s called judicial immunity. The only way anything can happen is if another judge overrules the bad judge’s decision.
The justice system is letting violent criminals out with no bail nationwide. Theres no way theyre paying any mind to the wellbeing of children in custody battles.
Around 2012, Texas had to revamp their CPS policies when 9 children with OPEN CPS cases were killed the previous year. NIIIINE!!! I remember clearly because I was going thru invitro wondering why people who don't want their kids get to have them.
We need to END "no liability" special class of lawyers/judges/counselors. Open them all to personal law suits in these kinds of casses. Family court needs major REFORMS.
Yeah like I cannot even blame the mother because she is COMPLETELY out of her mind. Schizophrenia is not a joke, it’s a completely breakdown of someone’s mental condition and they basically don’t live in reality. She shouldn’t have EVER been allowed near that child. This is the judge’s fault.
@@sonialinsey8083 "I cannot even blame the mother" Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit. The mother should 100% be held accountable for her actions. "This is the judge's fault" Do you blame the judge for all nine times the mother shot her son with a 12 gauge shotgun?
My morbid curiosity got the better of me and I looked further into the details of this case. The mother straight up had things in her Google search history like “how much life insurance does a dead child pay” and “how much blood can a 6-year-old lose”. The father also filed a wrongful death lawsuit against the Dakota County judge and 3 different social workers that were all responsible for allowing Eli to be handed over to the mother. This shit is so infuriating with how EASILY it could’ve been avoided. That woman is gonna rot in prison and then hell itself. Along with the idiots that allowed this whole thing to happen.
My friend used to work for Child Protective Services, she quit after 6 months because "I never got to help a single child, I spent more time protecting the rights of abusive and neglectful parents than I did protecting children. In many cases, by the time you get through all the red tape the kid is dead or wishes they were." That job crushed her soul. I could see the dread in her face everytime we met up. RIP Eli Hart
I hate how self-interested the adults in the situation get that they don't think about the interest of the children, the one person without any choice in the matter. This is why I think I should really think before bringing children into this world.
My sister did something similar. She accused her boyfriend at the time of abuse to her 3 children, one of them was his kid. She lied about it to police so that she could resume a relationship with the father of the other two children who was a known abuser. The father of the two killed the one who wasn’t his. He’s in jail now. My sister faced basically zero repercussions for her actions.
As a father, I'd be devastated to find out the court system failed my son just because they show bias to the mother. Rip child....im so sorry our system is so flawed that your life had to be stripped away by a terrible person.
Agreed. My aunt is an example of this. My uncle used to be an alcoholic and she was always a drug user. They eventually had their kids taken away and had to show the courts that they cleaned up their act in order to get them back. My uncle got sober, got most of them back, and does everything for those kids. My aunt on the other hand, still does drugs and invites sketchy people around the kids. Despite being separated my uncle does everything for the kids and makes sure they're taken care of everyday while she just does drugs and sleep. My uncle tried to get full custody many times but they said they don't want the children to be without their mother. The kids hate her for what she does and don't wanna be around her, but the court refuses to give him full custody. The courts 100% have favoritism with mothers and I'm tired of it. Not every mom is a good mom and some kids are better off without them
Naw id go one step further. They killed this child and imo are just as liable as the mother. When the facts are laid out that plainly just for u to ignore them, its not ignorance at that point its negligence.
A friend of mine was the lawyer for a case like this. She and her client won. She represented the father of a brain dead child. They sued the social workers who allowed for his little girl to go back to her mother, and were not following through on checking in on her to make sure she was safe. The father only had her on weekends. Mother ended up beating the little girl to death, and she had already done prison time for child abuse of another one of her kids. Absolutely appalling system we've got here. Some mothers SHOULD NEVER GET THEIR BABIES BACK.
My mother asked me why I was adamant on not having children. This, among so many other issues regarding women, women's mental health and how men are viewed and simply said. "I can do basic math and understand statistics. It's not for me. If I don't even play, I can guarantee none of that will happen." It's sad that I want, yet can't be a father or husband because of society and women. It's the saddest shit. Oh well. At least sexual liberation devalued pussy to 5$ meal dral status so that's cool I guess smh.
@@GBR9794 that’s not gonna help. You have to trust your partner. Having a child as if it’s a possession to be kept during a divorce like a dog is not the way. That’s wild. Going into a situation like that will seed distrust, which may and mostly will be the cause of the break up.
people should get a license before having kids. A full mental health checkup,physical checkup and a look at their net worth and financial stability. Im not american, but im happy to be in a country where child custody isnt determined by you genetelia. My uncle got cheated on and at the divorce he got the custody of the child in 15 mins. And she was a stable good mother too. Just wanted some d on the side.
I work with Eli’s Grampa and this horrible! Tough on the family. These judges that continue to award custody to broken women need to be held accountable!
Yes I agree but I know the judge follows the lead of the CPS and the Child advocate, if there is one. These people don't know what they're doing, or either they don't care
I still remember a story from over 15 yrs ago, here in Chicago. A mother had her kids taken because she was a pot smoker. Also her mother was dating a man who had a past of unsavory crimes. She quit smoking and moved but they still wouldn't give her two sons back to her. Her sons case was being handled by a woman worked in the DCFS dept. She ended up with custody and was making the decisions about if those boys could home to mom. She ended up abusing them. Tying them up with duct tape, suffocating them. I can't believe after that, that dept hasn't been defused, defunded, shut down, repealed, dismantled. Punished. Because that's not the only case. Our govt is rotten. :(
Government is made up of people. and the quality of said government is a direct reflection the society that it is formed over. We don't have parents anymore. We have narcissistic people who happen to produce offspring that they value as less then a gucci Prada bag.
There is legal precedent that will not allow this. Specifically, DeShaney v. Winnebago County is the one always mentioned anytime you try to sue or charge a state entity, and by state I mean any level of government, there are others but this one set the precedent.
@@pauljanetzke then we need to take the law into our own hands and destroy those people involved if we cant hold those in power accountable legally then we should do so illegally, its a moral obligation to stamp out corruption in our society by ANY MEANS, and to protect children when our society and our government will not.
this is why I hate people who ever suggest calling cps on children,they abuse and harm children as well as giving them back to abusive parents, they did all sorts of horrible things to me as well as handed me back to my parents,I'm 31 and STILL struggling!!
My dad worked with a Vietnam vet who was called back to the states during the war because his wife had become a hippie, filed for divorce, and dropped their daughter off with a family member to run off and join a commune. The vet flew back, stood before a judge while his wife didn't even show up to court, and the judge looked him in the face and said "A child belongs with the mother." He told the judge that no one could even find her to hand the daughter over to and the judge still ruled against him. Gender bias is a LONG standing issue in family court and I have no doubt that's what lead to this poor boys death. What an evil woman and the decision makers from social services deserve to be charged as accessories.
With how hated hippies were back then I highly doubt that this happened. But then again the Vietnam war was also very unpopular so it could have been misplaced punishment for an unjust war.
@@Ronnie-mx1wu I mean I wasn't even born when my dad worked with the guy so I can't attest to his character but that's the story he told and I doubt he was lying considering all of the other stories like in this video, comment section, and other stories from people all over the country.
My parents got divorced when I was 2 and my mother was given majority custody even through my dad was doing all of the parenting work that he DOCUMENTED. On the other hand, my mom quit her job as a newsletter editor and started washing fruit to make herself look poor. The judge gave me to my mom because "typically women make better parents then men". That shit ruined my life and I ran back to my dad on my 18th birthday. I'm 20 now and still have nightmares/PTSD from her. My advice to anyone who have/had abusive parents: Never feel obligated to love anyone who does nothing but hurt you.
Talk to your dad about it man let it out I don’t have one and I’m going through the same thing I’m glad you I’m a better place now though brother keep moving forward
Im a single dad, and I feel lucky to be one. My baby mama left me to raise my daughter for 2 years, then accused me of heinous things in an attempt to convince the court to change parenting status. My child was taken from me and given to her mother for 8 days. Worst 8 days of my life. I was so lucky that when we finally went to court, it was somehow apparent to the judge what was happening. Ive had to spend my entire life savings on lawyers- like Im gonna have to live a cardboard box when I retire- but my kid is healthy, safe, and growing into a strong, good-hearted little person. Money well spent. Videos like this make me realize, it could have been worse.
I too spent all my money in divorce court. I will have no retirement savings. but I did save my kids. I see them more than their mother does, she like to forfeit her time with the kids so she can get her hair done and go on dates with the child support money.. ..To all the men/boys reading this....DO NOT GET MARRIED!
how so? men don't have feelings. The father isn't the real father , he's the child support donor who oppress innocent mothers. I bet he drove her crazy. It's his fault. he just wanted get the kid to hurt her.
Wish you and your son the best. Don't respond to the bait above me. The opinions of random people on the internet dosen't matter at all. Including mine.
@@kyj6838 hey , no offense but I only respond to the voices that says " no one loves like the mother" it's a legal discrimination because how you would even think that.
@@latecheckout11 sorry buddy but saying "men don't have feelings" to this father worrying about his son put you in a very bad light. The most important point about all of this is that the children should be safe. Nothing else is important or more important than that.
Bro. A friend of mine who lives in Chi had his 5 y.o. son taken by the mother. Three years and counting. The courts aren't helping him out at all. Hope you find him.
So I'm late, but... When I was about 21, I was in a really, REALLY bad place with my daughter. We were completely on the streets, no hotel room to go to. So I went to the social services office, and she ended up being taken into foster care. Wouldn't you know it, she got an amazing foster family on the first try. I did try to get her back for a while, and I soon realized her now adoptive family was the best option for her. It hurt to sign my parental rights away and stop fighting. It was the most painful decision of my life. But that little girl deserved what I couldn't give her. Years later, she is thriving in ways she never could have with me., with the only parents she's ever known. Her mom is like a big sister to me. These are decisions you sometimes have to make as a parent, because once you have a kid, it's not just about you anymore. But some parents just don't have it in them to give their kids what they need, even if it causes the parent pain. This woman was clearly one of them.
When I was a social worker, a terrible mother had me subpoenaed to testify on her behalf for custody of her son. I testified but not on her behalf. She lost.
I can't even imagine the pain this dad is going through. As a father who fought for 8 long years to get custody of my kids I know personally the bias the courts have towards fathers and the favoritism shown to mothers. This is just devastating to hear
They really don’t though I’m going through this right now and I’m the mother, they favor parenting time period this is why this happens and it’s a policy that needs to change because it puts peoples kids in danger.
@@ericaghelfi8205 No… they 100% favor mothers. It’s a statistic fact. Fathers only win custody in 35% of cases when the mother has a risk factor. Mothers win almost 50% of the time if the father has a risk factor, jumping to over 60% if he has two. There is a wide statistical difference there and you can’t deny that.
100% favor the mothers even though it is changing. I had to spend 12 grand, and a year without seeing my daughter just to get her partial. Now I have primary. She got everything for free, just had to show up and accuse me of stuff and faced no repercussions. They definitely favor the mother
As a father that won full custody and know what its like. It hurts. It takes the child to be in the worst danger before we can even get something. Farhers , good fathers are the best
Yeah my niece was neglected abused molested and many many many other things while in her drug addict mothers care (who refused to hand her over cause she wanted child support to help her get more drugs even though it only probably covered 1/4 of the amount she would spend on drugs) til my brother could finally get her in his care legally. Ridiculous.
@Sophie PenDragon I'm so sorry that happened to her. Some of the same things happened with my son. I'm glad he got custody though. The hard part at that time, after all the abuse, is the years of therapy. God has a plan for all of us. Your neice will grow to become a great person.
Yea having a fun life with your child only for it to be abruptly severed by a system that prioritizes money over the name in their corporate title would have me wanting to fight. Because make no mistake, they proritize women over men because then the man would have to pay alimony or child support if u will, which as we all know the government makes money off of.
She doesn't deserve life in prison, she deserves the chair. The CPS office needs to be investigated and the people who made the decision to give the child back to his mother could be charged with professional negligence or at the very least lose their jobs and be blacklisted form ever having that type of job ever again.
@@william678910 Lives with what? She truly doesn't believe she did anything wrong. "If I can't have him NO ONE CAN". Standard selfish 304 that got mad Family Court wasn't going to side with her. I won't even look up her name online b/c we all KNOW there are going to be a bunch of dumb thots out there defending her by blaming the father for fake stuff they make up in their head.
@@william678910 Agreed. I think most people are quick to ring the bell. Personally I don’t think anyone should die if apprehended (and I’m positive the whole world’ll disagree with that), but I think they should suffer. Torture can be her reward. She needs to see what she did was unacceptable, see the errors and live with the guilt. Death is too good.
My husband is going through this now with his ex-wife. My husband is a vet, no criminal record, and is stable. She was doing drugs, has mental health issues, and had the cops called on her multiple times over the years, and our children suffered. They are now diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. With persistence, recently the case is turning in my husband's favor, so we hope to have the kids in our care pretty soon. 🙏
You being a great wife to be the mother his children never had I believe will definitely increase the court’s favorability towards you. Be kind and stick by your man ❤❤.
Ha! With the American justice system and incompotent woke juries.. good luck! You're raising zoomers or generation alphas anyways.. the most mentally damaged suicidal people this country has ever produced. They'll just be running around with all the other mental patients in this screwed up country so it's not like they are left behind
I totally support this, the children are THE most important thing in the entire universe. I had real rough youth, spent in foster homes, one of them was family, who abused my sibs and I in every way possible. I tried to tell, but no one listened. Eventually something horrible happened then we were sent to a loving woman who took all 5 of us and treated us like actual children and teens. The system is broken in so many ways. I dobt want any children to suffer, I hope you and your husband get custody and bless you...
As someone who grew up with an abusive parent and was given back to them because the system is broken, i know what it's like, and despite the fact that my sister and I were eventually removed from there and it was proven that our dad was abusive no one was held accountable for us being put back with him and experiencing more abuse, nor was he ever charged or punished in any way and I have had no faith in any governmental system since then
Men have a reputation for a reason. Please hold yourselves accountable too because there's a REASON judges just default to women. 95 percent of the time its the right choice.
Ive been on the losing end of this situation both as a child and a adult. My mom is bipolar but the courts gave her full custody, and now with my own little girl the judge literally said that I am an exemplary father but because my daughter needs some mystical special care from her mom I couldn't even have joint custody. So much talk about equality but we are still discriminating against men who want to be good dads.
That's because they don't want you! They only one screwed-up parents, the ones who don't want to treat their children right, good Fathers are a shining beacon but they want to pretend you don't exist, and yes I'm saying that as someone who had a bastard for a "father" who beat myself, my siblings and my mother (it wasn't just yesterday it's been more than a decade) but even so I feel i was robbed at the chance of having a real father and I've always strived to at least show my siblings good depictions of fathers so they won't think just because ours was bad that they don't exist, but the courts don't see it that way though only seemingly wanting to give the child to the father if they're not deserving of being one, just like this blatantly screwed-up woman shouldn't have been anywhere near the child. I hope you get your child and that the court see through her but unfortunately I think you have to have a lot of backing if you're dealing with the type of person I think you're dealing with, that being someone who is extremely manipulative and possibly has NPD, those types of males and females almost always win in court no matter what it is, especially when it comes to children because they lie so easily, the women will likely lie about being attacked by the spouse whereas the men will likely lie about their spouse being a bad mother or drug user, they have no morals and when they go into destroy mode whoever their target is will not fare well if they don't know what they're dealing with, so I really hope that's not what you're dealing with, sorry for going so long but I have a lot of experience in both departments and if you're one of the good ones I wish you well.
Mate, I'm a former care kid here in the UK, I didn't have a stable early childhood, but I know my mom cared about me even with the prick I had of a dad egging her to almost starve me to death. She never got the chance to have us back, but saw 3 out of her 4 kids, myself being the only one she never saw again, she sadly died in July last year from breast cancer but she died knowing we grew up happily even if it wasn't with her. Cases like Eli' boil my blood since I have has care workers who didn't give a toss about me and ignored me for months before my carers forced them to do their job and have their semi-annual checks on me. My foster mum's social worker, she worked with the Children's Family Trust here in the UK, was more of a social worker to me than she was for my mum who she knew was raising me right
I have no criminal record, no mental health issues, a stable career and home. The hoops I’ve had to jump through the past 2 years to TRY to get custody of my kids has been enormous, but I did it and finally got awarded custody today. And this is after they got removed the 2nd time from their mothers house for the same reasons within a 5 year period 🤦♂️ The system is very one sided against fathers despite the mothers history. It can be disheartening but patience and perseverance can win out.
I’m really happy to hear that brother, our kids didn’t choose to come into this earth so they deserve the best in the world and all the live in the world
I grew up in Wisconsin. The entire Midwest operates like this in child custody cases. One of my close friends lost custody of his two kids because he didn't have stable housing or a job. He became a truck driver, now has a house, and happily married. The state still won't give him custody despite the mother being an addict, neglecting the kids to where they show up to his house every other weekend dirty, hungry, and when they have to go back they cry because they don't want to go back their mother. This is the state of custody battles in America.
The double standard is so pronounced is almost unbelievable. This bitch had every red flag a person could possibly have meanwhile the father was the complete opposite of her and they still couldn't make the right decision. It's insane.
@Enmanuel CPS workers are not held accountable. My Mom even is a CPS worker but battles other CPS workers who have intrinsic biases. She even talks to me about how many have a Superman complex when it comes to kids. When parents lose custody of their children, the goal is to get them to straighten out their lives. The problem is that many CPS workers refuse to give custody back no matter what because they feel like they're being heroes. It's a messed up system, but no politician fights back or talks about it so we can fix it. We definitely need a movement in this country to fight back against the system that is obviously broken.
@@sheerbeauty You only have a say when you turn 16. I learned this from my own parents fighting over me when I chose to live with my dad. My mom tried to fight it and the judge said, he is 16 now and can choose where he wants to live. The judge couldn't stop me from leaving my mom's house. I didn't know it at the time, I went to court with my dad during the fight but when the judge realized my age he said nothing I can do, 16 is old enough to decide who to live with. Disclaimer: This was about 20 years ago.
I went through a 5 year custody battle in CA, a big mom state. One of the many things it taught me is that as a father, you are only presumed to be the father. Even if you were present at birth and signed the birth certificate. You need a DNA test before they can say that you are 100% the dad. The mother is the mother, regardless, which makes it difficult to fight against the county and or state.
What about in the cases of child support when the Husband isnt the father? Heard nany cases where you have to pay child support even if you arent the father
What kills me about the absurdity of the situation is that if you are a good parent these agencies make it their priority to harass you, meanwhile we have crazies, and crack heads who no one questions 🤔🤔 yep. Rest in peace, beautiful little man. Condolences to the father, he tried.
Cps investigates people who are reported, not random families. Unfortunately that means kids with none around them to advocate don't get reported. And that means false reports can be made. They aren't psychic
That is exactly what I was just saying! Just like in the case I heard about recently where a girl (who luckily survived and got re adopted by a lovely-seeming woman later in life) was placed with a family that had a criminal history already but they want to act surprised when the father starts molesting her and the mother pretends she never knew even though the girl was pregnant at 14 or younger... and it was found out years later that he was also doing so to his biological daughter, if it's a stable and seemingly sane mother and father who want to adopt it is strangely so difficult to get that passed but for these types of scourges against humanity perfectly simple for some reason.
When my father and bio mom got divorced, he had over 300 videos/photos of her physically beating him, myself, and my three siblings. One of the pictures was of when she kicked my younger sister's bedroom door down (like off the hinges, it was a solid core door) and the hole in the drywall where she had beat my sister's head into the wall. The courts gave her full custody of my siblings. I was 15 almost 16 at the time, so I chose to stay with my dad. In the six months she had them she tried to kill herself twice, one of which was suicide by semi truck. Being she tried to drive head on into a semi truck on the highway going 90mph. With all of my siblings in the car with her. If it wasn't for the aforementioned sister who grabbed the wheel and turned them back into the correct lane, they all would have died. That was only two months into her having custody, yet the court still wouldn't hand my siblings over. Safe to say I feel deeply for this father, and that I empathize with him
That's horrific, reading all of these comments is genuinely heartbreaking. It's unbelievable how the courts refuse to view each case rationally and instead continue with the long heald bias against men/fathers, serious reforms are needed. I knew this was a widespread problem, but videos and comments like these just show how mind blowingly huge this problem is. There have been several studies showing that 2 parents households and SINGLE FATHERS have the best outcomes for children, we all know how abysmal the stats are on single mother households. Reading these comments is honestly bringing tears to my eyes, this is such a heartbreaking topic and it needs to be talked about waaaayy more.
@@BigHomieSteveTheMetalHead Same, I honestly had no idea this stuff happens to this extent. I had always thought that while the courts had a rule that a child should be with their mother, unless she was incapable of taking care of them. That if the court had evidence proving the mother was incapable, that they would give custody to the father. This is appalling to know
My daughter was taken from me by an evil witch... I hope I have never to endure this faith... She is 16 now... Got no contact at all for over 3 years now... I could sue her, but my daughter would hate me even more, because she is manipulated by the mother to hate... She worked 12 years for my daughter to hate me now... But I pay no matter what... I have learned from Gustavo Fring in Breaking Bad, that a man takes care of his family, even if he is not loved for that... That hit me, the moment I heared him saying this line... I dont trust women anymore... I have witnessed to many of them, to believe in the "they arent all the same"-saga... To me they are all the same... I have no power left to look for white sandcorn on the oceans beach...
I wish my mom hadn't been awarded custody back when I was a kid. She was a monster to me and lied to the courts about my dad to get what she wanted. It's appalling how many mothers are this despicable and I feel so bad for the children involved.
You’re not alone, my dad was trying so hard to take me in but my mom only wanted to use me as a pawn. She was getting high out of her mind with child support money and even the school knew she wasn’t taking care of me properly. My life probably would’ve been way better if the system let my dad take care of me
This happens all the time. The child services needs to be completely redone or reinforced. Along with the wellness checks. But seriously, protect the children!
The judges who are made aware of the risks of sending these children back to their parents, whether the mother, father, or both, should be held accountable. This has to stop. When judges are held responsible, maybe they'll think twice before making horrible decisions. Smdh
They should be sent to jail. We had a case similar here in Brazil. When the father finally got the full custody she was nowhere to be found. Two years later the little one has barbecued and thrown in a sewage pipe. There was a case where police arrested a dude while he was trying to invade his ex's house to send her to God. A judge ordered his release 24h later. He left jail, went home to grab a gun and finished the job. The judge was a FEMALE and she ignored a law we have saying the man can't be released in a case like this (not even if the attaacked woman decides to forgive him).
problem is nobody can be held accountable except the mother, the laws are written in such a way that anyone officially involved cannot be charged. Americas laws are more fucked up then the most extremist of muslim laws, its absolutely insane.
When I got divorced my lawyer (a woman) told me to not even bother trying to sue for custody "unless his mother is a convicted murderer currently in jail, and even then it might not happen". The system is completely and wholly broken.
Not exactly. If a CPS worker knew about the mother and willingly gave the child to her, they were also neglectful, and can be held responsible. Look at Gabriel Fernandez.
@@KelG It's very rare ANY government worker loses their qualified immunity. ''Mistakes'' in the course of their job are treated as such. It would have to be egregious to remove their immunity. If they were simply following ''standard practices'' of their organization, it will be nearly impossible to strip their QI.
@@andyfletcher3561 I live in MN, and our laws openly favor women in custody and divorce proceedings. We're one of the worst states when it comes to that. This was absolutely standard practice, theres no chance anyone involved sees any justice. Well, except for the mom. She got life in prison.
He needs to take a good look at himself first and his choice of a mother to his kids. Nothing in the reporting suggests this was a recent development ie she had much of these issues before and during their relationship . Lastly he needs to pack up and go to another country where the system will not fail his child.
My sister in law used to work for CPS down in Texas and the stories she told me haunted me .She said she was tired of feeling helpless you try help but the law is prevents you and you end up putting a kid that’s clearly abused back in that same situation. She quit and now works at a non profit
You already know some progressive bureaucrat pulled that shit. Thats what happen when you let progressives run shit. These clowns got ZERO common sense and zero intuition. Its all bullshit studies P-hacked the living shit out of with zero peer reveiw, that are running our country. I have a massive disdain for progressive politics nowadays. I used to support this shit, but lost all faith in politicians that claim to be progressive. Its just bullshit. I hate the government.
Sounds like a good person. I worked in a government office in Canada, and had similar experiences. The amount of shit that goes on because of policies in place that no one is willing to challenge is unbelievable. I don't work there anymore, but man it was infuriating.
So many people told me "you need to work with people, you fit perfectly in that kind of job" but I learnd very early that you will almost never help successfully and or even make it worse, and I knew it would break me. So I'm going to work with plants 😁
As a father fighting for my son, I have to say thank you for trying to bring attention to this issue. It's truly a tragedy that this kind of situation plays out every day in our broken court system.
The system is set up to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up families, it then gives custody to the female because the state collects a portion of all child support payments and 9x out of 10 the father makes more money than the mother. So it's more advantageous for the State to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up the families and give the children to the women, because that creates two single tax payers and they can collect more child support from the MAN. The solution? Don't have kids with a day walking street urchant. Unfortunately that's like 40% of females these days...
she shows how much intellect she has, almost as much as her son, took "if I can't have it, then YOU can't have it" dumbass court system, dumbass people.
I remember when I was wrongfully released into my mother's custody. Over the course of 5 years, I was beaten Nearly everyday or whenever she was mad, had my ankle broken 4 times, was covered in cigarette burns, and then conditioned to say all of it was fine. I despise the system that robbed me of my childhood, and to see another death on their hands is just painful. My heart goes out to the father. It's time we break down the system and restructure it so this never happens again.
This woman is so horrible. She lived right down the street from me. It has our whole town shook. So many chances this sweet angel boy had to not be with his mom. The system failed him horribly. Prayers for him and his Dad.
@@jimbomacgee3499 what do you mean comments like these? 🙄 yeah. This kind of story hits a community different than outside of it. She did live down the street from me. I don’t get it. Are you jealous? What a weird response. I’m just pointing out you never know what kind of monster you can be living next to “Jimbo”.
@@sjaap141 Why would I be jealous 😂 In videos like these suddenly a bunch of people in the comments lived close by or knew someone in the story…. Does that sound realistic to you? Especially since this is an Aba n Preach vid and not a local news channel?
@@jimbomacgee3499 ok well your comment is not appropriate so I’m trying to understand why you’re saying that. She does live in my town. Down the street. We’re raising money for Eli’s playground in remembrance of him. I don’t have to prove anything to an internet troll. Have a great day sir.
@@jimbomacgee3499 You would expect those who actually know her personally, to be the ones to look up videos about them, or get them recommended. Just like how a fisherman would watch fishing videos, or someone being impacted by a hurricane, they’d watch said videos and be more likely to comment on it. Not sure why you’re being such a weirdo
Not long ago, a mom and her husband lost their children temporarily because they had their son walk home, IN THEIR NEIGHBORHOOD, because he was throwing a fit and taking it out on the other kids in the back with him. This was a normal thing, so whenever they got back into their neighborhood, they had him walk home so he could cool down. A neighbor saw him and called the police for child abuse,she got pretty much immediately arrested, and cps immediately took their children until they be investigated. They eventually got their children back, but it had unfortunate repercussions. The mom lost her job, they had to move out of their nice home and into an apartment complex, and in the end it did more harm to those children because now they not only have lost their home, but that boy will blame himself. Meanwhile this woman had horrid living conditions, horrid mental health, and a drug addiction with a theft history; And they gave her complete custody of her child until the dad had to fight for him first. Fuck you, CPS.
People need to mind their own business. Someone called on us, saying kids weren't in school - we homeschool. It was a nightmare that took proving CPS lied in a court of law to get rid of them. PLEASE DON'T CALL CPS ON ANYBODY. YOU ARE NOT HELPING THEM AT ALL.!! if you want to help, walk over and ask if you can do anything!!
CPS is a thinly veiled child trafficking organization, same with the foster care system. Over 60% of children being trafficked have histories within the so called "child welfare" system
The worst part is she is gonna be getting a lighter sentence and be out in a few years because she is gonna plee for insanity and be out in a few years no questions asked 👿
My mom used to work at a preschool and there was a group of 5 siblings there. They were all living with their mom who had a ton of issues, including alcoholism, drug abuse, and not really doing any effort to take care of her kids. She was also physically abusing them. The preschool reported her for it, but they were only able to prove that 4 of the 5 children were being abused, so those 4 were taken away by child services while the other one was left with her. Soon after that, that child was found dead. And it was so incredibly preventable… This is just unacceptable
@Peter Angles in the eyes of the system, poor people aren't worth wasting limited resources on. Say that next time otherwise you'll come across as a piece of shit
Not at all shocking that bureaucrats follow procedure more than common sense. You would think that, even if you can't prove that a child is being abused, confirming that *4 other siblings in the same house are being abused* would be grounds for removing the 5th from that home!!! Absolutely sickening.
I’ve been saying that we still need to look at the parenting of women as well. Ive witnessed too many abusive mothers to sit there and say “don’t blame the parent that stayed”. We need to start being real about EVERYTHING.
I agree I have a stepsister and she has 2 daughters, by my books she is a terrible parent do to me finding out couple of days ago, that one of the daughters (older one 15) tried to end her self. Why? My stepsister doesn't really want to be around them when she starts arguing with her daughters. The older one had to be put in psychiatric ward...
Unfortunately, I've seen my share of single mothers have very little regard for how they act or the long term affects that come from it (that includes the conception). In today's environment we get called misogynists for criticizing anything women do so I think equal custody rights is a long way off (if we ever get there). My aunt tormented me throughout my childhood while treating her daughter like a spoiled princess My mother never stood up for me My other aunt bullied me about being a crybaby whenever i didn't like something and gets mad at me now that I come off cold and uncaring. If they picked better men and there would be nobody to blame when they don't abandon them.
@@GuerrillaGorilla023 see, I don’t like the argument of picking better men. Even if they found a good guy, the woman’s character is still trash. She would still be a terrible mother. And if the father they chose is trash then the child is just born under unfortunate circumstances. Mothers/women are trash for treating their children like crap and fathers are trash for leaving with no regard to their child’s well being.
As a former CPS worker the hypocrisy of the child welfare system is one of the main reasons I left the field. The amount of bureaucratic red tape is absolutely mind boggling and pretty much prevents case workers from doing their job properly. The system is so broken that sometimes I would have to return kids back to parents who were clearly using drugs, homeless or purposefully put their kids in direct harm's way. It's so stupid.
Thanks as a social worker people don’t understand how as a CPS worker we have zero power and for the small things we can do it takes months and piles of paper work. that’s time that these kids don’t have. this is why on average a cps worker quits after 2 years. because we are the scape goats we are told we are helping children.which is a lie, we can do everything to prove a parent is unfit but a judge or a previously written law will override it and give the child back to an abuser.
God this was like a damn flash back, I went through the same, which ended with my little boy murdered by his own mother, out of nothing but spite and being caught in her own web of lies, she's rotting in prison now. Videos like this need to be shown, we need to show how hard it is for a father to see his child, that even when the mother should not have custody they get it anyway. And I'm glad we have channels like aba and preach who aren't afraid to show this content. I don't know if god exists, but I hope he blesses every day
Sorry for you loss. God definitely exists. Many of us are paying for things we didn’t even do. It could be something a great grandfather or great grandmother did that cross downed. It’s honestly heartbreaking
I’m so sorry to hear that man. That’s truly sickening that a mother can do that to a child they carried and nursed. May God give you comfort and hope .
I went through this with my daughter back in the early 2000s. I prayed every night for a month that my baby would still be alive in the morning. She is a happy and healthy adult now, but it was a long battle to get there. To all the dads out there, STAY STRONG!
I married a loving father who was given the short end of the stick in custody and couldn't understand it because the court was willing to give my child to the violent ex. The system is not capable of recognizing narcisism and sociopaths regardless of man or woman. they don't care about the kids just being happy and stable so they can be successful in life.
Maybe instead of "support the fathers," support the good people and parents, not just based on their gender. Like, jeez. There's men that do horrible stuff to children just like there's women that do that.
@Sero Man obviously you have never been a father in a custody case. There are more good dads getting shafted than bad mothers getting what they deserve out there.
My family started doing foster care when I was 14 and lemme tell you the amount of kids that we cared for and loved seeing them returning to the hell they came from is the most heartbreaking thing I have ever seen, for example sending an 11yr old girl back to her mother who turned a blind eye to this girl's sexual abuse which she suffered under her mom's boyfriend. I struggle to get up in the morning. I struggle to sleep knowing this is how we are running the system.
@@bradwhite5884 yes many times but never the same case its happened hundreds of times its more common then anyone would like to think and the mothers just let it happen
It's almost like our justice system should operate under facts and logic and not feelings and blatant bias. Like how the fuck didn't anything show up for that background check? It's so crazy that we can all acknowledge that bad people, bad parents exist but when it's time to point them out the people that matter don't have fingers all of a sudden.
every issue the mother had was known they made their decisions despite the mother being proven unstable and a danger to herself and her child they discussed this at the end it might have been a case of tied hands regardless at some certain points stupid laws should be broken for legitimate reasons if i was a part of the team at the CPS i'd go to jail gladly as long as i made sure that she didn't get the kid laws are just current rules established by a set of people laws are not absolute and although laws bring order when those laws have very high likelyhood of causing harm then they shouldn't be followed
@@MostWantedWannaBE I can understand where you're coming from but the people behind this case where just doing what they were told. They probably thought it was stupid too, but if they broke the law what do u really think they would've accomplished? They would be put in jail and the kid would be sent to his mother regardless, its a lose lose situation but at leat one of them doesn't require u to go to jail over a matter that will be handled the same way with or without u.
@@christopherlewis6915 im not talking about abducting the child here i'm talking about cutting corners in the process and instead of cutting the case and returning the child they could work with the father or anyone else really capable to start the process imediately to the next step while still keeping the child protected. ie they said that the child had to be returned because the case had to be closed and then the father had to open a case in another court system that entire process could have been skipped by the CPS or done in a way that would warrant the child to remain away from the mother so jail time when it concerns cutting corners in the bureaucracy which is still technically "breaking the law"
Nah, people will overlook giant red flags for white chicks. As long as society continues to let them skirt off without taking responsibility for anything - this all started with Emmett Till
Then they call you "incel," "elitist," or in my case, the Other N-Word. No I did NOT require blonde hair and blue eyes. And yes I am currently Zucced because I used the actual other N-Words, in quotation marks, in a rant about people throwing that worf around very similar to this one. Good job, pro-censorship nutjobs!
That right there is why I am afraid of having children. It's not the kids I'm afraid of. It's the idea that they can be stolen from me by their mother and the state, while I can do nothing about it.
True. A big part of that is picking the right mother, and being the right father. But sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. Life is life I suppose.
Who sat there knowing she had these problems and still went "no she can still take care of the kid". And they keep questioning why no one trust them. The kid should have gone straight to the dad who actually cared about the kid.
As someone who was lucky enough to have their father get custody during a divorce, my heart goes out to this father and the family, I don’t even have words to express how heartbreaking this is
Bro 9 shots from a shotgun, even if it was birdshot, with a lil kid like that the only thing left is goinna be some ground beef clinging to a skeleton. That's fucked up.
As a child I was in DFACS (department of family and child services) twice. Once when I was really little and returned to my mother. After my return to my mom she ended up with a man that molested me and I ended up in dfacs again years later. Because of my attitude (acting like an adult) I was kept up to date on my case. They even listened when I said I didn't want to go back with my mother. (Granted this was in GA). My father got custody of me only after my great aunt agreed that she would help out and my father agreed to live with my great aunt. The loops are crazy.
Single mothers are truly the bane of society, there is no better predictor of a future criminal or bad citizen than the fact of a child being raised by single mothers
I was in CPS. This is a pretty common example tbh. In my case after they took me away from my abusive bio mother and completely broke me. When I was able to find a home about 100 miles away hey couldn't take me themselves... so they had my mother who tried to murder me drive me there. Luckily it didn't go any further than that but the gross incompetence is everywhere in the system.
Reminds me of the California family that tortured and chained up their 13 kids a few years back. The older ones had their GoFundMe money embezzled by a county official, while the younger ones were placed with a foster family that sexually abused them.
lolwut, so you're telling me that they took you away from your abusive mother...only to have her drive you to your foster home or whatever bc they couldn't arrange you transportation? what the actual fuck dude.
This really hits home for me because I wanted to live with my dad so badly growing up. We were so close and he was the far better parent/person in general. My mother lied on my dad in court and to me for years, which conflicted how closely I felt to him. Until one day when I was 16 her and I got into an argument about me wanting to visit him , and she FINALLY told me she lied. But it was far too late . Her lies and keeping us from him caused him major depression and to become suicidal. He stayed in a mental health facility for 2 years. Yet he painted me pictures of horses , and made me bracelets to send to me while he was there :( Instead I had to live with her addictions, every horrible man she would be with for just a hot minute . I had 8 stepdads. Like she remarried regularly. I had neglect and emotional /mental and even physical abuse. To the point I was terrified to be a mother because I was afraid I'd be like her. (Now I know that could never be the case❤️) . I had to see things I never should have. I was a depressed teenager. I now live with anxiety as a 27 year old. It sucks. And it all comes from trauma that she will never admit she did. Dad's need more of a chance, because the lack of a chance ruined my whole childhood. There's so much more to the story but it's too much to type .
Your story is very similar to mine, only difference is I’m a male and my mother never admitted her lies. I left the country (Brazil) after my dad offed himself with depression, now I live in a different country, have my own family, a beautiful wife and 2 kids. But I still go to therapy and will keep going till I die. I strongly advise you do the same. Trust me, everything you wrote, I’ve been through as well (my mom had more than 8 stepdads for me tho, as I was growing up, on worse than the other)
This story is heartbreaking and yet empowering with the details of you realizing you won't be that kind of mother and what your dad did while in institution. Please I would love to hear more. The full story.
I hope you get to be with you father again ! 😢 I’m sorry but I hope your mother gets punished or something . Are you going to file for anything against her ?
@@starlyghtdrifter66 hello! I just want to say I am so sorry that you had to experience this. I know that it is extremely painful and really affects you. I hope you have found a good place within yourself ❤️ I'm so sooooo happy for you that you've got a beautiful family of your own! That is absolutely amazing. I went to therapy for a few years actually! It helped me so so much. I have made so many improvements in my life. There's only one or two things I still need to work on, as I've gotten my anxiety to a completely self manageable state ❤️I personally don't even need medication (BUT people who need it SHOULD take it and there is absolutely NO judgement ) because although it took time, I worked through many of the traumatic things that happened. And I learned by some amazing psychologists some good tools. I'm happy to say that while still having the memories and random spurts of anxiety I find myself only anxious when something is quite triggering. Like family inviting her for a holiday without telling me , and me having to see her sitting across the room . I have always said, and I mean it , she is the only person I have ever truley feared. A man or woman, no matter how big., Small , mean, polite , a stranger etc do not unnaturally scare me. Sure, I'm regularly leveled cautious around strangers , however she is the only person I have ever feared. And that I don't think will change. I'm terrified of the thought of her. I did end up connecting to my father. We got very close again. It was amazing . Unfortunately that ended a couple of years ago ❤️ it was painful and still is jarring because he was genuinely the better parent my whole life. His mental illness , a depression, paranoia and etc really affected him unfortunately. Not only did he miss his children for years and so what he could , but he knew we were being abused and everytime he tried to help it didn't do any good . unfortunately I don't have him anymore. Not to mention she abused him as well , and cheated on him. I do however love and respect people with all of my heart. Sometimes to a fault because my life as a child resulted in me being a doormat and allowing various abuses from partners . That hurts actually. I didn't date until I was 18 because I feared marriage, and I only dated twice. Both times were people that I wanted and craved loved from so much , just to have someone love me , that I allowed many things. I also have self esteem issues. Regularly I'm told I'm attractive n some way, but I'd never believe it. As my appearance had been criticized a lot when I was younger. I'd be looked up and down and told if ai had gained weight, lost weight, had acne , etc. This is something I must change how I think still. Because I still feel ugly. I still feel stupid. And I still trust nearly no one. I only share my sorry to bring awareness to the effects of the systems bias for mother's ❤️ however, I at least know I could NEVER be ike her. Which was major growth for me. Take care friend
@@moniquevandeplas5210 hello! Thank you so so much. I'd love to share more, just to bring awareness. But it is indeed quite a long story. It is so so much I'd be writing. I'm doing good today, though. I have gotten myself to a point with therapy that my psychologist didn't think I needed them anymore! And I'm doing as good as I can now. My anxiety is very managed , but I obviously have a few triggers that just make me anxious or depressed. It however use to be daily , and now is rare ❤️now I function mentally fairly healthy. It's so freeing. Long story short , though, My appearance was criticized every morning. From head to toe. I now think I'm ugly no matter how many times I hear otherwise. I actually find myself more self conscious when someone compliments me. I don't believe them. The way I was treated about my appearance, made me out too much of my worth into how I look. I feel unlovable if I look unattractive. There's so so much more. When I said it's a lot, it is an absolute lot . And I'd love to share for awareness, but it quite a bit to take in I think for someone else Have a lovely day !
The system is set up to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up families, it then gives custody to the female because the state collects a portion of all child support payments and 9x out of 10 the father makes more money than the mother. So it's more advantageous for the State to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up the families and give the children to the women, because that creates two single tax payers and they can collect more child support from the MAN. The solution? Don't have kids with a day walking street urchant. Unfortunately that's like 40% of females these days!
I knew a guy that a similar situation happened with his little boy. My friend fought and fought to get full custody because he noticed his son was coming to his house with bruises and black eyes. CPS gave him the run around and eventually his son was literally beaten to death. CPS doesnt do their job period. My friend then sued CPS. It was a heartbreaking time and it saddens me to see nothing has changed in the last 15 years.
I unfortunately have met a few CPS workers who have quit because of cases like this where their hands were tied and all they could do was watch in horror as something bad happened. They tried so hard to stay, for the kids, but in the end every single one that quit had to do so for their own mental health. I have awful memories of hearing one cry over some kids she’d had to hand over to abusive parents. She’d fought so hard and even tried to get them placed with her as foster kids when the excuse was that they didn’t have a foster placement for them. She wouldn’t say what happened exactly but I know it must have been bad since she got to the point where she was suicidal.
yup the system needs changing as a social worker who was choosing a field to specialize in. a cps worker has the highest turnover of any social work career with the average being 2 years before they quit. they see horrible things and can’t do a damn thing about it and they are often given an impossible amount kids to look after/over so they end up over worked and underpaid and children end up worse off or dead. it’s the worst profession in the US due to how it’s forced to operate.
Child protection services in America are a total joke. This one thing surprising is that this doesn’t happen more often. It truly is a shame and it’s a growing problem.
Of course it happens more often; it just doesn't make the news "to protect the innocent" and "because it is still unclear what exactly happened, and the investigation is still in progress"
Greg, you'd be surprised at how " often " these things happen, I mean hell CPS has a history of just going into homes and snatching kids and when the parents try to find them, CPS has no clue where they are or what family they were put with or even worse, they try to make it damn near impossible for the parents to get their kids back, it's terrifying to say the least man
im studying to get my master's in social work right now and there's definitely a systemic problem when it comes to the way CPS cases are handled. Everyone is quick to blame CPS workers for negligence but you have to remember that they have little say on the decision that the court makes. Advocating for children and father's is something I'll definitely do as a male social worker, but I doubt it'll make a difference. The system failed that boy and so many others, failing to give the father's proper representation in having sole custody. Statistically, the kids turn out better with a single father anyway.
My best friend fought his wife in court for years over custody of his daughter. The judge refused to let him have the child even though the mother was diagnosed as mentally unstable. She was granted 100pct custody, even though she didn't have a job and was in section 8, and my friend never missed child support or visitation and never was without a full time job. The mother at one point got a new boyfriend that didn't like children, and the mother drowned her 4 year old in the bathtub to get rid of her for the new boyfriend. Then instead of getting life in prison, they gave her 25 years in a mental institution. Tell me that the court system isn't rigged. The simple fact is that the court system is payed $.62 on every dollar of child support that is collected, and goes towards the Judicial retirement. So the courts are incentivized to give the mothers majority custody over the children regardless of the living conditions. This should not be legal in any way but somehow we continue to let this crap happen.
That sounds like the state wanted the child support. They didn't thunk about the kid, but their own pockets. It's disgusting. There is a place for these people in hell.
I have experience with this. My mom is a drug addict and suffers from mental health issues. Full custody was never given to my dad who is the best human I’ve ever met. Luckily in my older years I was kept safe but honestly fuck the system. It’s so broken. My dad was 100x the parent to me than my mom ever was but she played the victim and got away with it. Fuck the system. Edit: Grammar
As a father who lost his daughter for 15 years because the courts were wrong i understand the saddness by the father. Her mom and grandma both passed recently and she has come to realize they were the problem.
Looking at the photos of the little boy broke me, his big toothless smile was so cute and innocent. You can tell he was a sweet and happy little boy. RIP.
She didn’t just murder the boy she she shot him with large shot gun bullets that splattered him in pieces well before she finished unloading. And when stopped by police she still had his body parts all over her and blamed it on a roadkill
I’m going through the exact same thing with my ex wife now. She’s a nurse who steal patients prescription pills from facilities. They gave her custody of our daughter and she fled to another state to keep me from fighting from custody. The system FAVORS the mother everytime.
This the thing, they were actually "following the law". The point of the Video is that the Courts or the Senate or whoever it is have not updated the information written on stone. It is impossible to fight when and if fighting it gets harder for the victims.
@@blooocki it’s because they don’t want the backlash or someone to commit street justice on them. If they ever get exposed, not only will their pieces be in danger but if they have family, their lives as well.
I'm a father in the middle of trying to get full custody of my daughter myself, it's been over a year since it started. Very close to the"end".. Fairly similar situation of mental illness, instability and drug abuse in the mother's home. This story hits so close to heart and home for me; adds even more fear to my mind knowing what could happen and reinforces my feelings of why I'm doing what I am. I feel so sad for the father and the rest of the family who cared for that little boy. Many times I've seen videos on TH-cam of CPS and the system failing the child and this just breaks my heart.
My mom worked for cps before quitting and moving to a other agency, from what she's told me CPS is so corrupt. They don't care about the kids, they only care about closing cases, getting their next promotion, and they don't give af about the kids
That condolence letter is boiler plate all across the nation. It their way of saying we ain’t gonna do nothing about the system it pays us with your money. That crappy letter has not one drop of sympathy or compassion in it
I counted up almost 50 grand to get sole custody. Took almost a year, and the whole time my ex refused rehab, fired multiple lawyers, supervised visitation gave up on her, etc etc. It is an uphill battle, and it sucks. Especially in NY. But after seeing this, I would pay double... I'm so sorry for this man and his son
And your kids are better for. I see so many men hit a few obstacles and then just complain about the system. You stood up for your kids and that's to be commended!
Some people can't pay so paying double isn't even on the radar and they gotta watch that kid go through the ringer The system is flawed and nobody is interested in fixing it because its making too much money for the private practices and judicial branch to continue operating not to mention the one sided shemenist advocacy that always sides with the mom regardless of what they claim their actions speak louder
"9 times with a 12 gauge shotgun" i have never felt more viscerally disturbed, than i am with the implication that she decided to reload that thing, 9 times, to shoot him.. the image of that boy there, seeing his mom reload that thing, over and over. i can only hope he went on the first shot, and not the last, and that all the others were her insanity falling into repetition. this story is gonna haunt me, i know that already
yeah, I hate to beget violence with violence but I hope one of those big mama's in the prison fuck this woman up. You can tell in the father eyes he is broken and nothing is gonna fill that hole.
Sad thing is, unless she shot him in the face, he might have felt all that and was crying and trying to run away from his mom all within ten seconds. The fact that she managed to toss him into a trunk like a piece of meat would say the latter. She really wanted to shut the kid up. Shooting a dead body would just mean she is even more unstable which is scary
I was a victim of the system, taken from a good home in a decent neighbor and sent to my mother deep in the ghetto in a 3 story 2 bedroom apartment. She couldnt take care of any of us, locked us in the room when she had work and we had no school, beat us (me especially), hit us with heavy objects like irons, starved us and as i got older the abuse got worse until it was just repeated beat downs from a woman twice my size. No one helped me, the police made it my fault, the school pretended not to notice and cps did nothing when she promised to kill me right in front of them. I had to run away and sleep in the woods multiple times, even in the rain. I had to stay in the corner with my hands up for hours and if they dropped she hit me in the head with an iron bar. She did nothing but raise me into a punching bag until i got lucky and was sent to juvenile detention over a crime i didnt commit. The failing system put me there and the system failing again is what saved my life. I fought for years to stay sane in that abusive environment. I havent seen nor spoken to her in 20 years and i never will. The biggest lie ever told is that a mother unconditionally loves her child. I wish nothing but suffering on her and according to my brothers shes getting exactly what she deserves.
Mothers are much more sinister on child abuse because it's largely ignored. I'm sincerely glad your mother is in a bad place now. Honestly fuck gov operations, the only thing that can prevent shit like this is to pick mentally stable partners and try not to have accident babies
Sorry to hear of your abuse I’m 43 and finally healing from mine in real time on my channel. It’s not easy. I prayed for death as a child. Best wishes to you
I am so sorry to hear what you had to go through! Makes me think about how there are other children currently enduring the same right now and how we can help save them? Praying.
As a father who has waded through this crap and dealt with “CPS” gross incompetence, I can affirmatively say yes, there is bias; overt bias against men. I got custody because of one honest judge who wasn’t buying the BS. God bless him.
It’s astonishing how often the courts come down on the wrong side of custody. I see it in my community all the time. It’s as if the courts go out of their way to give a kid to the wrong parent.
It seems intentional doesn't it? I am so glad that years back my mother didn't end up inside of a court case with my biological father because with the way he was he probably would have lied effortlessly and managed to win us from her in spite of the fact that he had been abusing myself, my siblings and her, but because they never seem to think it necessary to have something like a psychiatrist in these cases those horribly, manipulative abusers slip through the net all the time and generally get their way, so I think God for that because I'm pretty sure that some of my siblings would not still be alive if that were the case, he was evil. But of course I didn't realize that until years later, at the time I just wanted to please him not knowing that was impossible.
This hits home for me. My ex wife has 50/50 custody of our 3 year old daughter with me. My ex is on the child abuse registry for two charges, and her "fiance" is a recently removed tier 3 sex offender for assaulting a girl 13 or younger. Did gender play a role? I'm not sure, I guess. She has no remorse and the only thing I got out of it was, no alimony, child support, and the fact my daughter can't be left unsupervised with him. That includes staying the night at his house. I'm luckier than most fathers I know, but it came at the cost of my child being exposed to a child predator.
fam i could NOT do it.. Id rather take my kid and run to another country then even take that chance.
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I'm so sorry your child has to experience that. I feel for them and for you.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Just terrible. Again. One job. Child protective services
...wow... that's rough
As Preach once said in an older video, “sometimes a toxic mother is worse than an absent father”
Most the time
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studies show motherless homes and home with 2 parents do just as well. the only issue is with fatherless homes, ie, single moms.
@@yl6128 Which studies are these, and how is this relevant
The all devouring mother as Jung identify it. It is the most dangerous form of human, because it is subtle and our bias of our great experience with our nurturing mother sometimes make our thinking process into default tendency of mother is the most appropriate person to take care a child.
Worst part? The people who made the decision to return Eli to his mother will never be punished, nor will they feel bad about their decision either.
Hopefully they hear voices telling themselves to hill themselves AND they heed those voices. Before pension collection time.
they may not feel bad or they might have, but I can assure you they'll pay in hell for what they've done.
they need to look at things in a case by case nature instead of stupid *gender politics* she had a list an arm long as to why she at the time is an unfit and unsafe parent but no got to give her full custody.
Hope this keep them up at night. This is their doing
I want names. They should be on the news explaining themselves
My dad only got custody of me because my mom refused custody. My mom had no inclination to keep me, nor did she want me, but the court still wanted to give her custody over my dad. My dad is caring and kind and a true leader. He has never had a record and kept his nose clean. He still was deemed less fit than a mother who didn't even want me to exist. I probably would have been killed too if my mom gained custody. I am thankful everyday that I was raised by my dad.
Do you live in America? The justice system there is fucked I doubt something like this would happen in my country.
So glad you got to live with your father and have a happy life ❤
@@NagoBust Tell me where you live and I'll tell you something fked up about it. America just gets all the attention as we are the center of the universe.
Dude Europe is worse just look at Spain
@@quiroz441 what happens in Spain?
If this doesn’t show how the justice system favors the mother REGARDLESS of her criminal or mental history….THEY’RE LITERALLY THROWING IT IN OUR FACE!
It's so the family court can financially enslave the father, it's called the child support hustle for a reason.
Another example domestic violence
@Kyle Rittenstritch I'm not sure about that. There was this dark-skinned female in my city that literally killed this kid and put him in a suitcase in the woods. Was literally smiling in her mug shot photo afterwards.
@@kylerittenstritch2903 nice try there but that is not true. My sister in law ( who is not white) has no business having her children and their father(s) work their fingers to the bone, do not have any record whatsoever, and try hard to be in their lives and even buy them clothes, food, and toys. One time she even bagged it all up and tossed it on her son's fathers porch saying she "needs cash not this garbage" ( quote). she ignores the court decision all the time to denies them the right to see their kids', yet the system keeps leaving them with her. He tried to claim neither was paying child support, and here they both showed up with receipts for the things they bought for the kids. She is trash, she doesn't deserve the kids, but the system favors her because...mother. This video proves your opinion wrong.
@Kyle Rittenstritch if you racist just say it
The judge who granted custody should be prosecuted as well! This should set a precedence for similar cases in future.
This. Any officials who are involved in the decision making process fro custody of a child who give them to a parent that kills them should be charged with negligent homicide. I also think the same should be true for when they release criminals before their full sentence is up. Maybe if judges and parole boards actually had skin in the game they would start caring what their decisions mean for others.
I would no longer be a lawful citizen after that. That judge and everybody who was part of it have to go.
Can't have the activists behind the bench held to account.
@@donalddavis7423 exactly
You misspelled shot or hung.
These judges and CPS need to start being held accountable.
The issue is, judges can’t be held accountable. They literally passed laws along time ago so nothing they pass court orders on, can be called into question. It’s called judicial immunity. The only way anything can happen is if another judge overrules the bad judge’s decision.
@@Darkmattermonkey77 unconstitutional laws don't matter and can be overturned. Obey the constitution or rot in a cell.
Until they're held accountable nothing will change
Governments do not have a place micromanaging families.
They all need to be charged with Negligence, Child Endangerment, and Accessory to Murder. If they aren’t there is no justice.
This has been happening a lot. CPS officials and judges who place children back in dangerous situations should also be charged.
The justice system is letting violent criminals out with no bail nationwide. Theres no way theyre paying any mind to the wellbeing of children in custody battles.
Seriously!!!! Thought I was the only one who noticed 😔
Around 2012, Texas had to revamp their CPS policies when 9 children with OPEN CPS cases were killed the previous year. NIIIINE!!! I remember clearly because I was going thru invitro wondering why people who don't want their kids get to have them.
Asking for officials and judges to be responsible for their choices after the fact is like asking god to make you a millionaire because you are nice.
Will never happen, they suffer no penalty for their behavior, ever.
We need to END "no liability" special class of lawyers/judges/counselors. Open them all to personal law suits in these kinds of casses. Family court needs major REFORMS.
Yeah like I cannot even blame the mother because she is COMPLETELY out of her mind. Schizophrenia is not a joke, it’s a completely breakdown of someone’s mental condition and they basically don’t live in reality. She shouldn’t have EVER been allowed near that child. This is the judge’s fault.
@@sonialinsey8083 "I cannot even blame the mother" Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit. The mother should 100% be held accountable for her actions.
"This is the judge's fault"
Do you blame the judge for all nine times the mother shot her son with a 12 gauge shotgun?
My morbid curiosity got the better of me and I looked further into the details of this case. The mother straight up had things in her Google search history like “how much life insurance does a dead child pay” and “how much blood can a 6-year-old lose”. The father also filed a wrongful death lawsuit against the Dakota County judge and 3 different social workers that were all responsible for allowing Eli to be handed over to the mother. This shit is so infuriating with how EASILY it could’ve been avoided. That woman is gonna rot in prison and then hell itself. Along with the idiots that allowed this whole thing to happen.
Hope so but i doubt it. With how the system is, id be surprised if she does a full 10yrs
the judges and everyone who let this happen should consider ending their own lives.
@@markcoroneos7811 Worse case prison is very hard on people who hurt children
Let's just hope she gets the VIP prison treatment..
@@magmatard8737 Not women's prison, they do not have those same politics like men prison.
My friend used to work for Child Protective Services, she quit after 6 months because "I never got to help a single child, I spent more time protecting the rights of abusive and neglectful parents than I did protecting children.
In many cases, by the time you get through all the red tape the kid is dead or wishes they were."
That job crushed her soul. I could see the dread in her face everytime we met up.
RIP Eli Hart
Sounds like HR "helping" employees…
@@zenithzeitgeist7489 HR is paid to help the Employer, that's why you need a union.
I blame the lawmakers more than CPS: they are the ones being coerced to respect the rights of addicts and the mentally ill by radical activists.
I hate how self-interested the adults in the situation get that they don't think about the interest of the children, the one person without any choice in the matter. This is why I think I should really think before bringing children into this world.
That's awful. So they're not even ALLOWED to help children. Is that what she meant.
My sister did something similar. She accused her boyfriend at the time of abuse to her 3 children, one of them was his kid. She lied about it to police so that she could resume a relationship with the father of the other two children who was a known abuser. The father of the two killed the one who wasn’t his. He’s in jail now. My sister faced basically zero repercussions for her actions.
Sounds like she isn’t someone who should be inviting to family get togethers, don’t want her killing the nieces and nephews.
That's messed up!
Your sister sounds like a piece of garbage.
I hope her conscience torment her every single day
Appalling and disgusting what she did. Hope karma hits her back before she knows it.
As a father, I'd be devastated to find out the court system failed my son just because they show bias to the mother. Rip child....im so sorry our system is so flawed that your life had to be stripped away by a terrible person.
If that had been my nieces or little brothers that woman would be in hell rn. I cant imagine what the dad must feel. She deserves the chair.
Women in the west have every advantage legally, socially, and in the sexual market place.
Those "Experts" who make that awful decision to give this child to the mentally fucked up mother should be held accountable and prosecuted for murder.
Agreed. My aunt is an example of this. My uncle used to be an alcoholic and she was always a drug user. They eventually had their kids taken away and had to show the courts that they cleaned up their act in order to get them back. My uncle got sober, got most of them back, and does everything for those kids. My aunt on the other hand, still does drugs and invites sketchy people around the kids. Despite being separated my uncle does everything for the kids and makes sure they're taken care of everyday while she just does drugs and sleep. My uncle tried to get full custody many times but they said they don't want the children to be without their mother. The kids hate her for what she does and don't wanna be around her, but the court refuses to give him full custody. The courts 100% have favoritism with mothers and I'm tired of it. Not every mom is a good mom and some kids are better off without them
Naw id go one step further. They killed this child and imo are just as liable as the mother. When the facts are laid out that plainly just for u to ignore them, its not ignorance at that point its negligence.
A friend of mine was the lawyer for a case like this. She and her client won. She represented the father of a brain dead child. They sued the social workers who allowed for his little girl to go back to her mother, and were not following through on checking in on her to make sure she was safe. The father only had her on weekends. Mother ended up beating the little girl to death, and she had already done prison time for child abuse of another one of her kids. Absolutely appalling system we've got here. Some mothers SHOULD NEVER GET THEIR BABIES BACK.
My mother asked me why I was adamant on not having children. This, among so many other issues regarding women, women's mental health and how men are viewed and simply said. "I can do basic math and understand statistics. It's not for me. If I don't even play, I can guarantee none of that will happen." It's sad that I want, yet can't be a father or husband because of society and women. It's the saddest shit. Oh well. At least sexual liberation devalued pussy to 5$ meal dral status so that's cool I guess smh.
This is why some people can’t be parents, they view the kid as leverage if the relationship is rocky/they love the drama.
Some people should not be mothers. Abortion is a necessity sometimes.
@@GBR9794 that’s not gonna help. You have to trust your partner. Having a child as if it’s a possession to be kept during a divorce like a dog is not the way. That’s wild. Going into a situation like that will seed distrust, which may and mostly will be the cause of the break up.
people should get a license before having kids. A full mental health checkup,physical checkup and a look at their net worth and financial stability. Im not american, but im happy to be in a country where child custody isnt determined by you genetelia. My uncle got cheated on and at the divorce he got the custody of the child in 15 mins. And she was a stable good mother too. Just wanted some d on the side.
I work with Eli’s Grampa and this horrible! Tough on the family. These judges that continue to award custody to broken women need to be held accountable!
And broken men! They keep kids from loving fathers but they award them to horrible men. Horrible!
Can not say what they deserve. Is it wrong to wish it on them? Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
Pass my condolences along to the family
Yes I agree but I know the judge follows the lead of the CPS and the Child advocate, if there is one. These people don't know what they're doing, or either they don't care
I hope the family sues the county, it won't bring Eli back but it would hold the system accountable.
I still remember a story from over 15 yrs ago, here in Chicago. A mother had her kids taken because she was a pot smoker. Also her mother was dating a man who had a past of unsavory crimes. She quit smoking and moved but they still wouldn't give her two sons back to her.
Her sons case was being handled by a woman worked in the DCFS dept. She ended up with custody and was making the decisions about if those boys could home to mom.
She ended up abusing them. Tying them up with duct tape, suffocating them.
I can't believe after that, that dept hasn't been defused, defunded, shut down, repealed, dismantled.
Punished. Because that's not the only case. Our govt is rotten. :(
Gov is rotten in so many more ways than one. Its horrifying that cps fails so miserably, and funding isnt gonna help.
Government is made up of people. and the quality of said government is a direct reflection the society that it is formed over.
We don't have parents anymore. We have narcissistic people who happen to produce offspring that they value as less then a gucci Prada bag.
This makes me so mad.
So maybe just keep drugs but ditch motherhood? That's what I heard
We need to hold court guardian, child protective services, and the judge accountable and put them on trial
There is legal precedent that will not allow this. Specifically, DeShaney v. Winnebago County is the one always mentioned anytime you try to sue or charge a state entity, and by state I mean any level of government, there are others but this one set the precedent.
@@pauljanetzke then we need to take the law into our own hands and destroy those people involved if we cant hold those in power accountable legally then we should do so illegally, its a moral obligation to stamp out corruption in our society by ANY MEANS, and to protect children when our society and our government will not.
Laws have been made to put them above reproach.
@@pauljanetzke a CA mom got millions from CPS.
this is why I hate people who ever suggest calling cps on children,they abuse and harm children as well as giving them back to abusive parents, they did all sorts of horrible things to me as well as handed me back to my parents,I'm 31 and STILL struggling!!
My dad worked with a Vietnam vet who was called back to the states during the war because his wife had become a hippie, filed for divorce, and dropped their daughter off with a family member to run off and join a commune. The vet flew back, stood before a judge while his wife didn't even show up to court, and the judge looked him in the face and said "A child belongs with the mother." He told the judge that no one could even find her to hand the daughter over to and the judge still ruled against him. Gender bias is a LONG standing issue in family court and I have no doubt that's what lead to this poor boys death. What an evil woman and the decision makers from social services deserve to be charged as accessories.
What the actual fuck!?
With how hated hippies were back then I highly doubt that this happened. But then again the Vietnam war was also very unpopular so it could have been misplaced punishment for an unjust war.
gender bias IS a long-standing issue. except, contrary to popular belief, courts actually favor fathers.
@@Ronnie-mx1wu I mean I wasn't even born when my dad worked with the guy so I can't attest to his character but that's the story he told and I doubt he was lying considering all of the other stories like in this video, comment section, and other stories from people all over the country.
@@kayladenette2050Nice troll
My parents got divorced when I was 2 and my mother was given majority custody even through my dad was doing all of the parenting work that he DOCUMENTED. On the other hand, my mom quit her job as a newsletter editor and started washing fruit to make herself look poor. The judge gave me to my mom because "typically women make better parents then men".
That shit ruined my life and I ran back to my dad on my 18th birthday. I'm 20 now and still have nightmares/PTSD from her.
My advice to anyone who have/had abusive parents: Never feel obligated to love anyone who does nothing but hurt you.
Wow! This stuff is so unfair. I'm sorry you went through that.
What causes your PTSD from being with your mom?
Aww, sweetheart, sorry to hear that. Some people don't deserve to have kids. I pray you seek more help to deal with the PTSD. Stay strong 💪 ✨️ 💓
Talk to your dad about it man let it out I don’t have one and I’m going through the same thing I’m glad you I’m a better place now though brother keep moving forward
@@Tionaintown876 moms cause the most psychological damage to children. i got a gd personality disorder thats only formed from trauma because of mine.
Statistically children raise by single dads are better off in life than children raised by single mothers; look it up.
The worst part about this is how happy he looks in the pictures with his father. RIP little man and so sorry for that father.
Im a single dad, and I feel lucky to be one. My baby mama left me to raise my daughter for 2 years, then accused me of heinous things in an attempt to convince the court to change parenting status. My child was taken from me and given to her mother for 8 days. Worst 8 days of my life. I was so lucky that when we finally went to court, it was somehow apparent to the judge what was happening. Ive had to spend my entire life savings on lawyers- like Im gonna have to live a cardboard box when I retire- but my kid is healthy, safe, and growing into a strong, good-hearted little person. Money well spent. Videos like this make me realize, it could have been worse.
I too spent all my money in divorce court. I will have no retirement savings. but I did save my kids. I see them more than their mother does, she like to forfeit her time with the kids so she can get her hair done and go on dates with the child support money.. ..To all the men/boys reading this....DO NOT GET MARRIED!
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. But your child is so lucky to have you.
Whaaaaaaaaat
Man I’m so sorry to hear this happened. It makes me blood boil for you
The judge saw it because it happens everyday, the more custody, the more child support. You are lucky you had a judge with some honour intact.
As a father it hit me hard when he said “he was everything to me, completed my life”. I couldn’t imagine losing my little boy like that.
how so?
men don't have feelings.
The father isn't the real father , he's the child support donor who oppress innocent mothers.
I bet he drove her crazy.
It's his fault.
he just wanted get the kid to hurt her.
Wish you and your son the best. Don't respond to the bait above me. The opinions of random people on the internet dosen't matter at all. Including mine.
@@kyj6838 hey , no offense but I only respond to the voices that says " no one loves like the mother" it's a legal discrimination because how you would even think that.
@@latecheckout11 sorry buddy but saying "men don't have feelings" to this father worrying about his son put you in a very bad light. The most important point about all of this is that the children should be safe. Nothing else is important or more important than that.
@@latecheckout11 whats the point in trolling here? to get attention from random poeple online or to confirm to yourself that you are a piece of shit
As a father who has been searching for his son for 3 years this tears into my soul. Wow just wow
Bro. A friend of mine who lives in Chi had his 5 y.o. son taken by the mother. Three years and counting. The courts aren't helping him out at all.
Hope you find him.
I'm so sorry I hope life begins to treat you better
Damn man. Sorry to hear that I hope you guys reunite.
Best wishes man
I hope you find him.
So I'm late, but...
When I was about 21, I was in a really, REALLY bad place with my daughter. We were completely on the streets, no hotel room to go to. So I went to the social services office, and she ended up being taken into foster care. Wouldn't you know it, she got an amazing foster family on the first try. I did try to get her back for a while, and I soon realized her now adoptive family was the best option for her. It hurt to sign my parental rights away and stop fighting. It was the most painful decision of my life. But that little girl deserved what I couldn't give her. Years later, she is thriving in ways she never could have with me., with the only parents she's ever known. Her mom is like a big sister to me. These are decisions you sometimes have to make as a parent, because once you have a kid, it's not just about you anymore. But some parents just don't have it in them to give their kids what they need, even if it causes the parent pain. This woman was clearly one of them.
I'm sorry you went through this. You are a good man and a father.
When I was a social worker, a terrible mother had me subpoenaed to testify on her behalf for custody of her son. I testified but not on her behalf. She lost.
tnx you
The only one winning with kid abandonment is the one who don't want thee baby I never want sole custody of either kid I dumped
I can't even imagine the pain this dad is going through. As a father who fought for 8 long years to get custody of my kids I know personally the bias the courts have towards fathers and the favoritism shown to mothers. This is just devastating to hear
They really don’t though I’m going through this right now and I’m the mother, they favor parenting time period this is why this happens and it’s a policy that needs to change because it puts peoples kids in danger.
@@ericaghelfi8205 don't what?
@@ericaghelfi8205what? Bro they do favor the mother.
Snoop Dogg would slap you.
@@ericaghelfi8205 No… they 100% favor mothers. It’s a statistic fact. Fathers only win custody in 35% of cases when the mother has a risk factor. Mothers win almost 50% of the time if the father has a risk factor, jumping to over 60% if he has two. There is a wide statistical difference there and you can’t deny that.
100% favor the mothers even though it is changing. I had to spend 12 grand, and a year without seeing my daughter just to get her partial. Now I have primary. She got everything for free, just had to show up and accuse me of stuff and faced no repercussions. They definitely favor the mother
As a father that won full custody and know what its like. It hurts. It takes the child to be in the worst danger before we can even get something. Farhers , good fathers are the best
Yeah my niece was neglected abused molested and many many many other things while in her drug addict mothers care (who refused to hand her over cause she wanted child support to help her get more drugs even though it only probably covered 1/4 of the amount she would spend on drugs) til my brother could finally get her in his care legally. Ridiculous.
@Sophie PenDragon I'm so sorry that happened to her. Some of the same things happened with my son. I'm glad he got custody though. The hard part at that time, after all the abuse, is the years of therapy. God has a plan for all of us. Your neice will grow to become a great person.
As a single father with custody of my son this breaks my heart. I cannot imagine this man’s pain. I’m praying for him and his family.
Seriously, this is so sad. I feel for the man, may God strengthen him in such trying times 🙏
Only mistake he maid is shooting the load in the wrong psycho.
go hug your son right now and tell him you love him bro
Yea having a fun life with your child only for it to be abruptly severed by a system that prioritizes money over the name in their corporate title would have me wanting to fight. Because make no mistake, they proritize women over men because then the man would have to pay alimony or child support if u will, which as we all know the government makes money off of.
The impact this video had on me was tremendous.
She doesn't deserve life in prison, she deserves the chair. The CPS office needs to be investigated and the people who made the decision to give the child back to his mother could be charged with professional negligence or at the very least lose their jobs and be blacklisted form ever having that type of job ever again.
She needs the same thing that happened to him to be done to her. Starting with her feet and hands.
Nah its better if she lives with that for the rest of her life, death is too final but life can be torture
@@william678910 Not for someone lke that.
@@william678910 Lives with what? She truly doesn't believe she did anything wrong. "If I can't have him NO ONE CAN". Standard selfish 304 that got mad Family Court wasn't going to side with her. I won't even look up her name online b/c we all KNOW there are going to be a bunch of dumb thots out there defending her by blaming the father for fake stuff they make up in their head.
@@william678910 Agreed. I think most people are quick to ring the bell. Personally I don’t think anyone should die if apprehended (and I’m positive the whole world’ll disagree with that), but I think they should suffer. Torture can be her reward. She needs to see what she did was unacceptable, see the errors and live with the guilt. Death is too good.
My husband is going through this now with his ex-wife. My husband is a vet, no criminal record, and is stable. She was doing drugs, has mental health issues, and had the cops called on her multiple times over the years, and our children suffered. They are now diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. With persistence, recently the case is turning in my husband's favor, so we hope to have the kids in our care pretty soon. 🙏
Hope it works out Skyward!!!
You being a great wife to be the mother his children never had I believe will definitely increase the court’s favorability towards you. Be kind and stick by your man ❤❤.
Ha! With the American justice system and incompotent woke juries.. good luck! You're raising zoomers or generation alphas anyways.. the most mentally damaged suicidal people this country has ever produced. They'll just be running around with all the other mental patients in this screwed up country so it's not like they are left behind
good luck
I totally support this, the children are THE most important thing in the entire universe. I had real rough youth, spent in foster homes, one of them was family, who abused my sibs and I in every way possible. I tried to tell, but no one listened. Eventually something horrible happened then we were sent to a loving woman who took all 5 of us and treated us like actual children and teens. The system is broken in so many ways. I dobt want any children to suffer, I hope you and your husband get custody and bless you...
As someone who grew up with an abusive parent and was given back to them because the system is broken, i know what it's like, and despite the fact that my sister and I were eventually removed from there and it was proven that our dad was abusive no one was held accountable for us being put back with him and experiencing more abuse, nor was he ever charged or punished in any way and I have had no faith in any governmental system since then
Dads aren't second-class parents. They are just as important as mothers.
Word. And its often been proven that boys especially have a tendency to go a bad way without a positive father figure in their lives.
According to CPS and Family Court they're just walking ATM's.
@@SpikeRazzor couldn’t have said it better myself
Amen
Men have a reputation for a reason. Please hold yourselves accountable too because there's a REASON judges just default to women. 95 percent of the time its the right choice.
Ive been on the losing end of this situation both as a child and a adult. My mom is bipolar but the courts gave her full custody, and now with my own little girl the judge literally said that I am an exemplary father but because my daughter needs some mystical special care from her mom I couldn't even have joint custody. So much talk about equality but we are still discriminating against men who want to be good dads.
This mythology of the mother is a detriment to our society. Stats show Dads are better parents than mothers.
That's because they don't want you! They only one screwed-up parents, the ones who don't want to treat their children right, good Fathers are a shining beacon but they want to pretend you don't exist, and yes I'm saying that as someone who had a bastard for a "father" who beat myself, my siblings and my mother (it wasn't just yesterday it's been more than a decade) but even so I feel i was robbed at the chance of having a real father and I've always strived to at least show my siblings good depictions of fathers so they won't think just because ours was bad that they don't exist, but the courts don't see it that way though only seemingly wanting to give the child to the father if they're not deserving of being one, just like this blatantly screwed-up woman shouldn't have been anywhere near the child.
I hope you get your child and that the court see through her but unfortunately I think you have to have a lot of backing if you're dealing with the type of person I think you're dealing with, that being someone who is extremely manipulative and possibly has NPD, those types of males and females almost always win in court no matter what it is, especially when it comes to children because they lie so easily, the women will likely lie about being attacked by the spouse whereas the men will likely lie about their spouse being a bad mother or drug user, they have no morals and when they go into destroy mode whoever their target is will not fare well if they don't know what they're dealing with, so I really hope that's not what you're dealing with, sorry for going so long but I have a lot of experience in both departments and if you're one of the good ones I wish you well.
Not even joint custody?!?!
Tell the courts you identify as a woman, you should at least get joint custody then.
The fact that the judge thought that you're an exemplary father but STILL doesn't give joint custody is absurd.
Mate, I'm a former care kid here in the UK, I didn't have a stable early childhood, but I know my mom cared about me even with the prick I had of a dad egging her to almost starve me to death. She never got the chance to have us back, but saw 3 out of her 4 kids, myself being the only one she never saw again, she sadly died in July last year from breast cancer but she died knowing we grew up happily even if it wasn't with her. Cases like Eli' boil my blood since I have has care workers who didn't give a toss about me and ignored me for months before my carers forced them to do their job and have their semi-annual checks on me. My foster mum's social worker, she worked with the Children's Family Trust here in the UK, was more of a social worker to me than she was for my mum who she knew was raising me right
I have no criminal record, no mental health issues, a stable career and home. The hoops I’ve had to jump through the past 2 years to TRY to get custody of my kids has been enormous, but I did it and finally got awarded custody today. And this is after they got removed the 2nd time from their mothers house for the same reasons within a 5 year period 🤦♂️ The system is very one sided against fathers despite the mothers history. It can be disheartening but patience and perseverance can win out.
I’m really happy to hear that brother, our kids didn’t choose to come into this earth so they deserve the best in the world and all the live in the world
Congrats on the victory man
Congrats to you👏🏽❤ so sad it has to be so difficult to give a child a loving home especially when there’s someone who is willing and able.
The system is biased for a good reason. You must remember that literally everything else is biased in men's favor
@Noel Stoneville What exactly is biased in men's favor? Answer: nothing
Social services and the judges should be held accountable. The blood is on their hands.
This is actually the "laws" fault. They did what they had to do according to a stupid law that didn't take custody decisions into account.
@@Quiselott The law has no power except when given power by those who enforce it.
Or, you know, it's on the person who actually did it.
@@Cybertech134 cps doesn't enforce anything
They should be rounded up and butt f@$# on national television
I grew up in Wisconsin. The entire Midwest operates like this in child custody cases. One of my close friends lost custody of his two kids because he didn't have stable housing or a job. He became a truck driver, now has a house, and happily married. The state still won't give him custody despite the mother being an addict, neglecting the kids to where they show up to his house every other weekend dirty, hungry, and when they have to go back they cry because they don't want to go back their mother. This is the state of custody battles in America.
The double standard is so pronounced is almost unbelievable. This bitch had every red flag a person could possibly have meanwhile the father was the complete opposite of her and they still couldn't make the right decision. It's insane.
@Enmanuel CPS workers are not held accountable. My Mom even is a CPS worker but battles other CPS workers who have intrinsic biases. She even talks to me about how many have a Superman complex when it comes to kids. When parents lose custody of their children, the goal is to get them to straighten out their lives. The problem is that many CPS workers refuse to give custody back no matter what because they feel like they're being heroes. It's a messed up system, but no politician fights back or talks about it so we can fix it. We definitely need a movement in this country to fight back against the system that is obviously broken.
Can the kids petition to stay with their dad? Don't they have a say?
@@sheerbeauty You only have a say when you turn 16. I learned this from my own parents fighting over me when I chose to live with my dad. My mom tried to fight it and the judge said, he is 16 now and can choose where he wants to live. The judge couldn't stop me from leaving my mom's house. I didn't know it at the time, I went to court with my dad during the fight but when the judge realized my age he said nothing I can do, 16 is old enough to decide who to live with.
Disclaimer: This was about 20 years ago.
@@sheerbeauty no. America only wants kids to have a say on if they have life altering surgery not if a parent is clearly shite compared to another one
I went through a 5 year custody battle in CA, a big mom state. One of the many things it taught me is that as a father, you are only presumed to be the father. Even if you were present at birth and signed the birth certificate. You need a DNA test before they can say that you are 100% the dad. The mother is the mother, regardless, which makes it difficult to fight against the county and or state.
What about in the cases of child support when the Husband isnt the father? Heard nany cases where you have to pay child support even if you arent the father
But guess what, when it's about alimony they don't need DNA test
What kills me about the absurdity of the situation is that if you are a good parent these agencies make it their priority to harass you, meanwhile we have crazies, and crack heads who no one questions 🤔🤔 yep. Rest in peace, beautiful little man. Condolences to the father, he tried.
facts!!
Cps investigates people who are reported, not random families. Unfortunately that means kids with none around them to advocate don't get reported. And that means false reports can be made. They aren't psychic
That is exactly what I was just saying! Just like in the case I heard about recently where a girl (who luckily survived and got re adopted by a lovely-seeming woman later in life) was placed with a family that had a criminal history already but they want to act surprised when the father starts molesting her and the mother pretends she never knew even though the girl was pregnant at 14 or younger... and it was found out years later that he was also doing so to his biological daughter, if it's a stable and seemingly sane mother and father who want to adopt it is strangely so difficult to get that passed but for these types of scourges against humanity perfectly simple for some reason.
It's easier to write reports
This is TRUE…wicked judges with agendas and they are often into horrible things themselves
When my father and bio mom got divorced, he had over 300 videos/photos of her physically beating him, myself, and my three siblings. One of the pictures was of when she kicked my younger sister's bedroom door down (like off the hinges, it was a solid core door) and the hole in the drywall where she had beat my sister's head into the wall. The courts gave her full custody of my siblings. I was 15 almost 16 at the time, so I chose to stay with my dad. In the six months she had them she tried to kill herself twice, one of which was suicide by semi truck. Being she tried to drive head on into a semi truck on the highway going 90mph.
With all of my siblings in the car with her.
If it wasn't for the aforementioned sister who grabbed the wheel and turned them back into the correct lane, they all would have died. That was only two months into her having custody, yet the court still wouldn't hand my siblings over.
Safe to say I feel deeply for this father, and that I empathize with him
Yeah, white chicks are scary. Emmett Till killer is still out there. Maybe they need to kill enough white kids to be taken seriously
Have western women lost their minds? 💀 Trust me no women in Asia do this kind of unhinged stuff, at least it isn't this common.
That's horrific, reading all of these comments is genuinely heartbreaking. It's unbelievable how the courts refuse to view each case rationally and instead continue with the long heald bias against men/fathers, serious reforms are needed.
I knew this was a widespread problem, but videos and comments like these just show how mind blowingly huge this problem is.
There have been several studies showing that 2 parents households and SINGLE FATHERS have the best outcomes for children, we all know how abysmal the stats are on single mother households.
Reading these comments is honestly bringing tears to my eyes, this is such a heartbreaking topic and it needs to be talked about waaaayy more.
It's so sad there is no website showing such judges to the public with the stories and receipts next to it
I bet it would stop such shit
@@BigHomieSteveTheMetalHead Same, I honestly had no idea this stuff happens to this extent. I had always thought that while the courts had a rule that a child should be with their mother, unless she was incapable of taking care of them. That if the court had evidence proving the mother was incapable, that they would give custody to the father.
This is appalling to know
"I'm Innocent, f*** y'all, you're garbage." She deserves a lifetime in prison for what she did.
What I have heard about the prisons in the US, they dont take kindly to people who hurt kids. Especially the women.
…she’s not gonna last long in the big house At All.
death👏penal👏ty👏
@@jayclearmen411 Good, I hope her death is very painful.
Personally I'm more torn between "drawn and quartered" and the more modern "firing squad."
My daughter was taken from me by an evil witch... I hope I have never to endure this faith... She is 16 now... Got no contact at all for over 3 years now... I could sue her, but my daughter would hate me even more, because she is manipulated by the mother to hate... She worked 12 years for my daughter to hate me now... But I pay no matter what... I have learned from Gustavo Fring in Breaking Bad, that a man takes care of his family, even if he is not loved for that... That hit me, the moment I heared him saying this line...
I dont trust women anymore... I have witnessed to many of them, to believe in the "they arent all the same"-saga... To me they are all the same... I have no power left to look for white sandcorn on the oceans beach...
I wish my mom hadn't been awarded custody back when I was a kid. She was a monster to me and lied to the courts about my dad to get what she wanted. It's appalling how many mothers are this despicable and I feel so bad for the children involved.
Same
@@himir_yua_sakura2851 sorry you had to go through something similar
You’re not alone, my dad was trying so hard to take me in but my mom only wanted to use me as a pawn. She was getting high out of her mind with child support money and even the school knew she wasn’t taking care of me properly. My life probably would’ve been way better if the system let my dad take care of me
Same. Court system is fucked up.
@@xxironcloudxx3643 same here. My mom and her mom messed me up bad and the courts/system didn't care one bit. Sorry you went through it too.
This happens all the time. The child services needs to be completely redone or reinforced. Along with the wellness checks. But seriously, protect the children!
Exactly!!! They are failing badly!
😭😭😭
Want to know why it’s so efd up? Follow the money. The state gets a cut when the mother gets cs so the judges give the mother custody
@@dcg590 It just biased. If the state makes moms pay child support they get the same cut.
It isn't going to happen. They say they will but they won't
The judges who are made aware of the risks of sending these children back to their parents, whether the mother, father, or both, should be held accountable. This has to stop. When judges are held responsible, maybe they'll think twice before making horrible decisions. Smdh
They should be sent to jail. We had a case similar here in Brazil. When the father finally got the full custody she was nowhere to be found. Two years later the little one has barbecued and thrown in a sewage pipe.
There was a case where police arrested a dude while he was trying to invade his ex's house to send her to God. A judge ordered his release 24h later. He left jail, went home to grab a gun and finished the job.
The judge was a FEMALE and she ignored a law we have saying the man can't be released in a case like this (not even if the attaacked woman decides to forgive him).
problem is nobody can be held accountable except the mother, the laws are written in such a way that anyone officially involved cannot be charged. Americas laws are more fucked up then the most extremist of muslim laws, its absolutely insane.
When I got divorced my lawyer (a woman) told me to not even bother trying to sue for custody "unless his mother is a convicted murderer currently in jail, and even then it might not happen". The system is completely and wholly broken.
To his father, I’m so very sorry for your loss. If possible, please sue CPS and the state. This should have never happened.
Most have immunity.
Not exactly. If a CPS worker knew about the mother and willingly gave the child to her, they were also neglectful, and can be held responsible. Look at Gabriel Fernandez.
@@KelG It's very rare ANY government worker loses their qualified immunity. ''Mistakes'' in the course of their job are treated as such. It would have to be egregious to remove their immunity. If they were simply following ''standard practices'' of their organization, it will be nearly impossible to strip their QI.
@@andyfletcher3561 I live in MN, and our laws openly favor women in custody and divorce proceedings. We're one of the worst states when it comes to that. This was absolutely standard practice, theres no chance anyone involved sees any justice. Well, except for the mom. She got life in prison.
If it was me and I had nothing to lose, I'd go after them, legally or otherwise. Click click.
Wow that lack of any shame or regret shows how evil she is
@@noahL3654 I'll just assume that was sarcasm
@@noahL3654 Bro st£u. Even if that's irony, that's an abhorrent level of indecency.
@@noahL3654 well I'm sure no one is denying that but that doesn't make this case any less evil
@@noahL3654 this is next level sarcasm. Impressive
@@noahL3654 Please say that was a joke... just please.
That man is never gonna be the same and he is one of the few people when asked who hurt you has a legitimate answer.
I would understand if he became a bonofied woman hater
@@Token_Black_Guy i would even understand if he terminated that biatch
Then we'll call him misogynistic for joining MRA.
The state itself demonstrated gross incompetence/negligence in this case and should be found liable for any damages this man seeks.
He needs to take a good look at himself first and his choice of a mother to his kids. Nothing in the reporting suggests this was a recent development ie she had much of these issues before and during their relationship . Lastly he needs to pack up and go to another country where the system will not fail his child.
Rest in peace to that poor kid. He’s with the angels now.
always someone spouting religious bullshit smh
@Is really toasty here Asshole
My sister in law used to work for CPS down in Texas and the stories she told me haunted me .She said she was tired of feeling helpless you try help but the law is prevents you and you end up putting a kid that’s clearly abused back in that same situation. She quit and now works at a non profit
You already know some progressive bureaucrat pulled that shit.
Thats what happen when you let progressives run shit.
These clowns got ZERO common sense and zero intuition. Its all bullshit studies P-hacked the living shit out of with zero peer reveiw, that are running our country.
I have a massive disdain for progressive politics nowadays.
I used to support this shit, but lost all faith in politicians that claim to be progressive. Its just bullshit. I hate the government.
Sounds like a good person. I worked in a government office in Canada, and had similar experiences. The amount of shit that goes on because of policies in place that no one is willing to challenge is unbelievable. I don't work there anymore, but man it was infuriating.
CPS are the BIGGEST ABUSERS AND CHILD TRAFFICKERS!!!!!
So many people told me "you need to work with people, you fit perfectly in that kind of job" but I learnd very early that you will almost never help successfully and or even make it worse, and I knew it would break me. So I'm going to work with plants 😁
The turnover rate in child protection is crazy, it's actually one of the problems. Lack of continuity.
As a father fighting for my son, I have to say thank you for trying to bring attention to this issue. It's truly a tragedy that this kind of situation plays out every day in our broken court system.
The system is set up to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up families, it then gives custody to the female because the state collects a portion of all child support payments and 9x out of 10 the father makes more money than the mother.
So it's more advantageous for the State to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up the families and give the children to the women, because that creates two single tax payers and they can collect more child support from the MAN.
The solution? Don't have kids with a day walking street urchant. Unfortunately that's like 40% of females these days...
Never stop fighting. Go balls to the wall and hire the best lawyer you can. Being in debt with your child safe is worth more than anything.
she shows how much intellect she has, almost as much as her son, took "if I can't have it, then YOU can't have it" dumbass court system, dumbass people.
This is feminist fault man
Careful about buddy above me
Being broke with the kid is still pretty bad
Try and get in context with people who will help you majorly
I remember when I was wrongfully released into my mother's custody. Over the course of 5 years, I was beaten
Nearly everyday or whenever she was mad, had my ankle broken 4 times, was covered in cigarette burns, and then conditioned to say all of it was fine. I despise the system that robbed me of my childhood, and to see another death on their hands is just painful. My heart goes out to the father. It's time we break down the system and restructure it so this never happens again.
Delete the libtards running it.
☝🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿
The judges must be on drugs.
Just know that you are loved amigo
You poor love! 😢😢😢😢 You deserved, and deserve the best ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
As a dad this shit is so heartbreaking rest in peace little buddy 🙏
This woman is so horrible. She lived right down the street from me. It has our whole town shook. So many chances this sweet angel boy had to not be with his mom. The system failed him horribly. Prayers for him and his Dad.
Ok once again comments like these… yea i lived right down the street from her as well 🙄🙄🙄
@@jimbomacgee3499 what do you mean comments like these? 🙄 yeah. This kind of story hits a community different than outside of it. She did live down the street from me. I don’t get it. Are you jealous? What a weird response. I’m just pointing out you never know what kind of monster you can be living next to “Jimbo”.
@@sjaap141 Why would I be jealous 😂 In videos like these suddenly a bunch of people in the comments lived close by or knew someone in the story…. Does that sound realistic to you? Especially since this is an Aba n Preach vid and not a local news channel?
@@jimbomacgee3499 ok well your comment is not appropriate so I’m trying to understand why you’re saying that. She does live in my town. Down the street. We’re raising money for Eli’s playground in remembrance of him. I don’t have to prove anything to an internet troll. Have a great day sir.
@@jimbomacgee3499 You would expect those who actually know her personally, to be the ones to look up videos about them, or get them recommended.
Just like how a fisherman would watch fishing videos, or someone being impacted by a hurricane, they’d watch said videos and be more likely to comment on it.
Not sure why you’re being such a weirdo
All the people responsible for granting her custody need to be prosecuted.
Facts
They need to be punished physically... ill leave it at that
That's everybody involved in creating our modern western society I'm afraid 😭
Prosecuted that’s to easy
Super duper big mega facts
Not long ago, a mom and her husband lost their children temporarily because they had their son walk home, IN THEIR NEIGHBORHOOD, because he was throwing a fit and taking it out on the other kids in the back with him.
This was a normal thing, so whenever they got back into their neighborhood, they had him walk home so he could cool down. A neighbor saw him and called the police for child abuse,she got pretty much immediately arrested, and cps immediately took their children until they be investigated. They eventually got their children back, but it had unfortunate repercussions.
The mom lost her job, they had to move out of their nice home and into an apartment complex, and in the end it did more harm to those children because now they not only have lost their home, but that boy will blame himself.
Meanwhile this woman had horrid living conditions, horrid mental health, and a drug addiction with a theft history;
And they gave her complete custody of her child until the dad had to fight for him first.
Fuck you, CPS.
People need to mind their own business. Someone called on us, saying kids weren't in school - we homeschool. It was a nightmare that took proving CPS lied in a court of law to get rid of them. PLEASE DON'T CALL CPS ON ANYBODY. YOU ARE NOT HELPING THEM AT ALL.!! if you want to help, walk over and ask if you can do anything!!
No, it was that wmn who wouldn't mind her own business and called the cops instead of letting the child's parents be parents...she's the culprit
@@jaha777jaha6
CPS is a thinly veiled child trafficking organization, same with the foster care system. Over 60% of children being trafficked have histories within the so called "child welfare" system
I see a CPS piece of shit anywhere near my house, they will be leaving with multiple broken bones. Hate those fucks like you wouldn't believe.
The worst part is she is gonna be getting a lighter sentence and be out in a few years because she is gonna plee for insanity and be out in a few years no questions asked 👿
My mom used to work at a preschool and there was a group of 5 siblings there. They were all living with their mom who had a ton of issues, including alcoholism, drug abuse, and not really doing any effort to take care of her kids. She was also physically abusing them. The preschool reported her for it, but they were only able to prove that 4 of the 5 children were being abused, so those 4 were taken away by child services while the other one was left with her. Soon after that, that child was found dead. And it was so incredibly preventable… This is just unacceptable
@Peter Angles ok boomer
@Peter Angles and saying poor people aren’t worth wasting time for didn’t age too well either buddy
@Peter Angles neither has “poor people bad” but that didn’t stop your dumbass did it?
@Peter Angles in the eyes of the system, poor people aren't worth wasting limited resources on.
Say that next time otherwise you'll come across as a piece of shit
Not at all shocking that bureaucrats follow procedure more than common sense.
You would think that, even if you can't prove that a child is being abused, confirming that *4 other siblings in the same house are being abused* would be grounds for removing the 5th from that home!!!
Absolutely sickening.
I’ve been saying that we still need to look at the parenting of women as well. Ive witnessed too many abusive mothers to sit there and say “don’t blame the parent that stayed”. We need to start being real about EVERYTHING.
I agree I have a stepsister and she has 2 daughters, by my books she is a terrible parent do to me finding out couple of days ago, that one of the daughters (older one 15) tried to end her self. Why? My stepsister doesn't really want to be around them when she starts arguing with her daughters. The older one had to be put in psychiatric ward...
Unfortunately, I've seen my share of single mothers have very little regard for how they act or the long term affects that come from it (that includes the conception).
In today's environment we get called misogynists for criticizing anything women do so I think equal custody rights is a long way off (if we ever get there).
My aunt tormented me throughout my childhood while treating her daughter like a spoiled princess
My mother never stood up for me
My other aunt bullied me about being a crybaby whenever i didn't like something and gets mad at me now that I come off cold and uncaring.
If they picked better men and there would be nobody to blame when they don't abandon them.
Literally statistics show kids raised by single fathers are less likely (far less) to turn out to be criminals/addicts. Especially boys
@jesterr_chester I've seen thoese stats too.
@@GuerrillaGorilla023 see, I don’t like the argument of picking better men. Even if they found a good guy, the woman’s character is still trash. She would still be a terrible mother. And if the father they chose is trash then the child is just born under unfortunate circumstances. Mothers/women are trash for treating their children like crap and fathers are trash for leaving with no regard to their child’s well being.
As a former CPS worker the hypocrisy of the child welfare system is one of the main reasons I left the field. The amount of bureaucratic red tape is absolutely mind boggling and pretty much prevents case workers from doing their job properly. The system is so broken that sometimes I would have to return kids back to parents who were clearly using drugs, homeless or purposefully put their kids in direct harm's way. It's so stupid.
Guys let's bump this up the comment section. This is hella fucked.
Thanks as a social worker people don’t understand how as a CPS worker we have zero power and for the small things we can do it takes months and piles of paper work. that’s time that these kids don’t have. this is why on average a cps worker quits after 2 years. because we are the scape goats we are told we are helping children.which is a lie, we can do everything to prove a parent is unfit but a judge or a previously written law will override it and give the child back to an abuser.
If these officials could be held accountable they might more inclined to "get it right'.
God this was like a damn flash back, I went through the same, which ended with my little boy murdered by his own mother, out of nothing but spite and being caught in her own web of lies, she's rotting in prison now. Videos like this need to be shown, we need to show how hard it is for a father to see his child, that even when the mother should not have custody they get it anyway. And I'm glad we have channels like aba and preach who aren't afraid to show this content. I don't know if god exists, but I hope he blesses every day
God, I am so truly sorry you went through that Stefan. She's definitely right where she needs to be. Keep strong, man.
Sorry for you loss. God definitely exists. Many of us are paying for things we didn’t even do. It could be something a great grandfather or great grandmother did that cross downed. It’s honestly heartbreaking
I’m so sorry to hear that man. That’s truly sickening that a mother can do that to a child they carried and nursed. May God give you comfort and hope .
I will pray for you and your son Stefan. I am deeply sorry for your loss and pain.
my god... rip man
I went through this with my daughter back in the early 2000s. I prayed every night for a month that my baby would still be alive in the morning. She is a happy and healthy adult now, but it was a long battle to get there. To all the dads out there, STAY STRONG!
Support Our Fathers!
I married a loving father who was given the short end of the stick in custody and couldn't understand it because the court was willing to give my child to the violent ex. The system is not capable of recognizing narcisism and sociopaths regardless of man or woman. they don't care about the kids just being happy and stable so they can be successful in life.
@Dog jeep meat At the end of the day the child's well being is all that is truly important and the system just loses site of that
Maybe instead of "support the fathers," support the good people and parents, not just based on their gender. Like, jeez. There's men that do horrible stuff to children just like there's women that do that.
@Sero Man obviously you have never been a father in a custody case. There are more good dads getting shafted than bad mothers getting what they deserve out there.
My family started doing foster care when I was 14 and lemme tell you the amount of kids that we cared for and loved seeing them returning to the hell they came from is the most heartbreaking thing I have ever seen, for example sending an 11yr old girl back to her mother who turned a blind eye to this girl's sexual abuse which she suffered under her mom's boyfriend. I struggle to get up in the morning. I struggle to sleep knowing this is how we are running the system.
Wait, that case sounds familiar, was that on the news or something?
@@bradwhite5884 yes many times but never the same case its happened hundreds of times its more common then anyone would like to think and the mothers just let it happen
@Brad White this is a common story sadly.
My brother lived in the foster system for too long. Truly a hidden warzone going on in America, he told me horrors
As well, CPS is known for trafficking at times and foster care for the mentioned abuse. Physically, Mentally amd sexually.
If I was father sue the sh!t out of the child protective service, county, state and file new law across America change bs.
It's almost like our justice system should operate under facts and logic and not feelings and blatant bias. Like how the fuck didn't anything show up for that background check? It's so crazy that we can all acknowledge that bad people, bad parents exist but when it's time to point them out the people that matter don't have fingers all of a sudden.
every issue the mother had was known
they made their decisions despite the mother being proven unstable and a danger to herself and her child
they discussed this at the end it might have been a case of tied hands
regardless at some certain points stupid laws should be broken for legitimate reasons
if i was a part of the team at the CPS i'd go to jail gladly as long as i made sure that she didn't get the kid
laws are just current rules established by a set of people
laws are not absolute
and although laws bring order when those laws have very high likelyhood of causing harm then they shouldn't be followed
You asking to much and making to much sense
i see that isom pfp, bro.
@@MostWantedWannaBE I can understand where you're coming from but the people behind this case where just doing what they were told. They probably thought it was stupid too, but if they broke the law what do u really think they would've accomplished? They would be put in jail and the kid would be sent to his mother regardless, its a lose lose situation but at leat one of them doesn't require u to go to jail over a matter that will be handled the same way with or without u.
@@christopherlewis6915 im not talking about abducting the child here
i'm talking about cutting corners in the process and instead of cutting the case and returning the child they could work with the father or anyone else really capable to start the process imediately to the next step while still keeping the child protected.
ie they said that the child had to be returned because the case had to be closed and then the father had to open a case in another court system
that entire process could have been skipped by the CPS or done in a way that would warrant the child to remain away from the mother
so jail time when it concerns cutting corners in the bureaucracy which is still technically "breaking the law"
This is why it's important who you have kids with, rip little dude.
Nah, people will overlook giant red flags for white chicks. As long as society continues to let them skirt off without taking responsibility for anything - this all started with Emmett Till
Don’t stick your dick in crazy are words to live by.
Facts
A lawyer once told me, you can marry anyone but you can't have kids with anyone
Then they call you "incel," "elitist," or in my case, the Other N-Word. No I did NOT require blonde hair and blue eyes. And yes I am currently Zucced because I used the actual other N-Words, in quotation marks, in a rant about people throwing that worf around very similar to this one.
Good job, pro-censorship nutjobs!
That right there is why I am afraid of having children. It's not the kids I'm afraid of. It's the idea that they can be stolen from me by their mother and the state, while I can do nothing about it.
I pray you and many other men have kids with the right woman or a woman who won't do such things
Time to flip the script and say guys need to pick better women.
@@TheWolffBro it’s both. Love does crazy things to your rationality
True. A big part of that is picking the right mother, and being the right father. But sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. Life is life I suppose.
It's almost as if there was a social structure in place at some point, for quite a long time that, you know...headed off these kinds of things
Who sat there knowing she had these problems and still went "no she can still take care of the kid". And they keep questioning why no one trust them.
The kid should have gone straight to the dad who actually cared about the kid.
Damn as a dad this hurt me. The little man deserved better. I don't even want to think how his dad is feeling
As a retired pediatrician, I have seen this same scenario many times. It has caused me much frustration in dealing with child protection workers.
As someone who was lucky enough to have their father get custody during a divorce, my heart goes out to this father and the family, I don’t even have words to express how heartbreaking this is
More people that have been in situations similar to you need to work their way into the court system or CPS.
Change things from within the system.
Bro 9 shots from a shotgun, even if it was birdshot, with a lil kid like that the only thing left is goinna be some ground beef clinging to a skeleton. That's fucked up.
As a child I was in DFACS (department of family and child services) twice. Once when I was really little and returned to my mother. After my return to my mom she ended up with a man that molested me and I ended up in dfacs again years later. Because of my attitude (acting like an adult) I was kept up to date on my case. They even listened when I said I didn't want to go back with my mother. (Granted this was in GA). My father got custody of me only after my great aunt agreed that she would help out and my father agreed to live with my great aunt. The loops are crazy.
So basically you could only be with your dad if there was a woman involved? Bruh.
@@lonerevenant0 it was mainly because my dad needed the support, financially to take care of me for my last few years of high-school.
Single mothers are truly the bane of society, there is no better predictor of a future criminal or bad citizen than the fact of a child being raised by single mothers
@@jsav4269 oh she wasn't single she was married
@@ILLeyaDonyenik damn!
I was in CPS. This is a pretty common example tbh. In my case after they took me away from my abusive bio mother and completely broke me. When I was able to find a home about 100 miles away hey couldn't take me themselves... so they had my mother who tried to murder me drive me there. Luckily it didn't go any further than that but the gross incompetence is everywhere in the system.
Reminds me of the California family that tortured and chained up their 13 kids a few years back. The older ones had their GoFundMe money embezzled by a county official, while the younger ones were placed with a foster family that sexually abused them.
Jfc glad you are ok
lolwut, so you're telling me that they took you away from your abusive mother...only to have her drive you to your foster home or whatever bc they couldn't arrange you transportation? what the actual fuck dude.
Nobody in CPS considered maybe she might drive off a cliff or something with you in the car? Jesus!
Must've been one awkward road trip lmao
I will never forget that my dad gave up nearly everything he had to ensure he kept me in the custody battle.
Mad respect for those dads that really fight the good fight, win or lose. It shows they actually have a fuck. Props to my old man who fought and won.
There are very few people in the world that love you unconditionally, give your dad a hug and tell him how much you love him
This really hits home for me because I wanted to live with my dad so badly growing up. We were so close and he was the far better parent/person in general.
My mother lied on my dad in court and to me for years, which conflicted how closely I felt to him. Until one day when I was 16 her and I got into an argument about me wanting to visit him , and she FINALLY told me she lied. But it was far too late .
Her lies and keeping us from him caused him major depression and to become suicidal. He stayed in a mental health facility for 2 years. Yet he painted me pictures of horses , and made me bracelets to send to me while he was there :(
Instead I had to live with her addictions, every horrible man she would be with for just a hot minute
. I had 8 stepdads. Like she remarried regularly. I had neglect and emotional /mental and even physical abuse. To the point I was terrified to be a mother because I was afraid I'd be like her. (Now I know that could never be the case❤️) . I had to see things I never should have. I was a depressed teenager. I now live with anxiety as a 27 year old. It sucks. And it all comes from trauma that she will never admit she did.
Dad's need more of a chance, because the lack of a chance ruined my whole childhood. There's so much more to the story but it's too much to type .
Your story is very similar to mine, only difference is I’m a male and my mother never admitted her lies.
I left the country (Brazil) after my dad offed himself with depression, now I live in a different country, have my own family, a beautiful wife and 2 kids.
But I still go to therapy and will keep going till I die. I strongly advise you do the same. Trust me, everything you wrote, I’ve been through as well (my mom had more than 8 stepdads for me tho, as I was growing up, on worse than the other)
This story is heartbreaking and yet empowering with the details of you realizing you won't be that kind of mother and what your dad did while in institution. Please I would love to hear more. The full story.
I hope you get to be with you father again ! 😢 I’m sorry but I hope your mother gets punished or something . Are you going to file for anything against her ?
@@starlyghtdrifter66 hello! I just want to say I am so sorry that you had to experience this. I know that it is extremely painful and really affects you. I hope you have found a good place within yourself ❤️
I'm so sooooo happy for you that you've got a beautiful family of your own! That is absolutely amazing.
I went to therapy for a few years actually! It helped me so so much. I have made so many improvements in my life. There's only one or two things I still need to work on, as I've gotten my anxiety to a completely self manageable state ❤️I personally don't even need medication (BUT people who need it SHOULD take it and there is absolutely NO judgement ) because although it took time, I worked through many of the traumatic things that happened. And I learned by some amazing psychologists some good tools. I'm happy to say that while still having the memories and random spurts of anxiety I find myself only anxious when something is quite triggering. Like family inviting her for a holiday without telling me , and me having to see her sitting across the room . I have always said, and I mean it , she is the only person I have ever truley feared.
A man or woman, no matter how big., Small , mean, polite , a stranger etc do not unnaturally scare me. Sure, I'm regularly leveled cautious around strangers , however she is the only person I have ever feared. And that I don't think will change. I'm terrified of the thought of her.
I did end up connecting to my father. We got very close again. It was amazing . Unfortunately that ended a couple of years ago ❤️ it was painful and still is jarring because he was genuinely the better parent my whole life. His mental illness , a depression, paranoia and etc really affected him unfortunately. Not only did he miss his children for years and so what he could , but he knew we were being abused and everytime he tried to help it didn't do any good . unfortunately I don't have him anymore. Not to mention she abused him as well , and cheated on him.
I do however love and respect people with all of my heart. Sometimes to a fault because my life as a child resulted in me being a doormat and allowing various abuses from partners . That hurts actually. I didn't date until I was 18 because I feared marriage, and I only dated twice. Both times were people that I wanted and craved loved from so much , just to have someone love me , that I allowed many things. I also have self esteem issues. Regularly I'm told I'm attractive n some way, but I'd never believe it. As my appearance had been criticized a lot when I was younger. I'd be looked up and down and told if ai had gained weight, lost weight, had acne , etc. This is something I must change how I think still. Because I still feel ugly. I still feel stupid. And I still trust nearly no one.
I only share my sorry to bring awareness to the effects of the systems bias for mother's ❤️ however, I at least know I could NEVER be ike her. Which was major growth for me.
Take care friend
@@moniquevandeplas5210 hello! Thank you so so much. I'd love to share more, just to bring awareness. But it is indeed quite a long story. It is so so much I'd be writing.
I'm doing good today, though. I have gotten myself to a point with therapy that my psychologist didn't think I needed them anymore! And I'm doing as good as I can now.
My anxiety is very managed , but I obviously have a few triggers that just make me anxious or depressed. It however use to be daily , and now is rare ❤️now I function mentally fairly healthy. It's so freeing.
Long story short , though,
My appearance was criticized every morning. From head to toe. I now think I'm ugly no matter how many times I hear otherwise. I actually find myself more self conscious when someone compliments me. I don't believe them. The way I was treated about my appearance, made me out too much of my worth into how I look. I feel unlovable if I look unattractive.
There's so so much more. When I said it's a lot, it is an absolute lot . And I'd love to share for awareness, but it quite a bit to take in I think for someone else
Have a lovely day !
Every adult aside from his father failed him. Sleep tight little Eli you deserved better 💐💔
At the same time, his father failed him too by having a child with someone with mental issues and a serious drug problem in the first place.
The system is set up to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up families, it then gives custody to the female because the state collects a portion of all child support payments and 9x out of 10 the father makes more money than the mother.
So it's more advantageous for the State to *INCENTIVIZE* women to break up the families and give the children to the women, because that creates two single tax payers and they can collect more child support from the MAN.
The solution? Don't have kids with a day walking street urchant. Unfortunately that's like 40% of females these days!
Not gonna lie bro, you could worded that better 😂
I knew a guy that a similar situation happened with his little boy. My friend fought and fought to get full custody because he noticed his son was coming to his house with bruises and black eyes. CPS gave him the run around and eventually his son was literally beaten to death. CPS doesnt do their job period. My friend then sued CPS. It was a heartbreaking time and it saddens me to see nothing has changed in the last 15 years.
Did they get any money from those bastards
@@A-TALKING-TOASTER yes he used them for millions. But no amount of money could bring his son back.
And unfortunately that means less resources for them for later etc etc.
@@bibsp3556 you ain't wrong.
@@bibsp3556 I mean it's not like they were using the money they had well in the first place :/
When i heard the shotgun thing, i almost teared up. As a father, that hits home.
I unfortunately have met a few CPS workers who have quit because of cases like this where their hands were tied and all they could do was watch in horror as something bad happened. They tried so hard to stay, for the kids, but in the end every single one that quit had to do so for their own mental health. I have awful memories of hearing one cry over some kids she’d had to hand over to abusive parents. She’d fought so hard and even tried to get them placed with her as foster kids when the excuse was that they didn’t have a foster placement for them. She wouldn’t say what happened exactly but I know it must have been bad since she got to the point where she was suicidal.
yup the system needs changing as a social worker who was choosing a field to specialize in. a cps worker has the highest turnover of any social work career with the average being 2 years before they quit. they see horrible things and can’t do a damn thing about it and they are often given an impossible amount kids to look after/over so they end up over worked and underpaid and children end up worse off or dead. it’s the worst profession in the US due to how it’s forced to operate.
Heart breaking stuff.
Devil’s work
Child protection services in America are a total joke. This one thing surprising is that this doesn’t happen more often. It truly is a shame and it’s a growing problem.
Of course it happens more often; it just doesn't make the news "to protect the innocent" and "because it is still unclear what exactly happened, and the investigation is still in progress"
Greg, you'd be surprised at how " often " these things happen, I mean hell CPS has a history of just going into homes and snatching kids and when the parents try to find them, CPS has no clue where they are or what family they were put with or even worse, they try to make it damn near impossible for the parents to get their kids back, it's terrifying to say the least man
It truly is.
im studying to get my master's in social work right now and there's definitely a systemic problem when it comes to the way CPS cases are handled. Everyone is quick to blame CPS workers for negligence but you have to remember that they have little say on the decision that the court makes. Advocating for children and father's is something I'll definitely do as a male social worker, but I doubt it'll make a difference. The system failed that boy and so many others, failing to give the father's proper representation in having sole custody. Statistically, the kids turn out better with a single father anyway.
Not just the US though. They're trash in most of Europe as well.
My best friend fought his wife in court for years over custody of his daughter. The judge refused to let him have the child even though the mother was diagnosed as mentally unstable. She was granted 100pct custody, even though she didn't have a job and was in section 8, and my friend never missed child support or visitation and never was without a full time job. The mother at one point got a new boyfriend that didn't like children, and the mother drowned her 4 year old in the bathtub to get rid of her for the new boyfriend. Then instead of getting life in prison, they gave her 25 years in a mental institution. Tell me that the court system isn't rigged.
The simple fact is that the court system is payed $.62 on every dollar of child support that is collected, and goes towards the Judicial retirement. So the courts are incentivized to give the mothers majority custody over the children regardless of the living conditions. This should not be legal in any way but somehow we continue to let this crap happen.
That sounds like the state wanted the child support. They didn't thunk about the kid, but their own pockets. It's disgusting. There is a place for these people in hell.
Their justification must be that not all kids die. And that is sad and horrible
If that had happened to me and I didn't have any other kids,that judge would be feeling the same as me.
Can't change until feminism is recognized as the enemy to civilization it always has been
@@ikapatino3214 And you’d be setting a great example by doing so. He was serving evil. At that point he at the very least must be in prison for years.
If I was the father, I will guarantee hell of payback towards the state who made this type of decision. Special one reserved for that evil mother.
I have experience with this. My mom is a drug addict and suffers from mental health issues. Full custody was never given to my dad who is the best human I’ve ever met. Luckily in my older years I was kept safe but honestly fuck the system. It’s so broken. My dad was 100x the parent to me than my mom ever was but she played the victim and got away with it. Fuck the system.
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The system needs to be burned down and rebuilt to root out all the favoritism and bias
As a father who lost his daughter for 15 years because the courts were wrong i understand the saddness by the father. Her mom and grandma both passed recently and she has come to realize they were the problem.
children just don't deserve it, really makes me lose my faith in humanity hearing this shit
Looking at the photos of the little boy broke me, his big toothless smile was so cute and innocent. You can tell he was a sweet and happy little boy. RIP.
She didn’t just murder the boy she she shot him with large shot gun bullets that splattered him in pieces well before she finished unloading. And when stopped by police she still had his body parts all over her and blamed it on a roadkill
It would tragic if it was negligence accident, but he was shot especially brutally like some war criminal or home invader.
I lost all my words.
Whoever gave the kid back to his mother should be fired and put in prison. The devil made me do it.
I’m going through the exact same thing with my ex wife now. She’s a nurse who steal patients prescription pills from facilities. They gave her custody of our daughter and she fled to another state to keep me from fighting from custody. The system FAVORS the mother everytime.
Wish u the best man hope u get your kid
Say you indenifity as women, play them at the system. There was a dude who by doing this.
All you have to do is identify as a woman and they’ll favor you
Damn this is dark. The people who returned that kid to that crazy woman should be held accountable and face the consequences.
💯
This the thing, they were actually "following the law". The point of the Video is that the Courts or the Senate or whoever it is have not updated the information written on stone. It is impossible to fight when and if fighting it gets harder for the victims.
It's so sad there is no website showing such judges to the public with the stories and receipts next to it
I bet it would stop such shit
Odds are, they won't.
@@blooocki it’s because they don’t want the backlash or someone to commit street justice on them. If they ever get exposed, not only will their pieces be in danger but if they have family, their lives as well.
I'm a father in the middle of trying to get full custody of my daughter myself, it's been over a year since it started. Very close to the"end".. Fairly similar situation of mental illness, instability and drug abuse in the mother's home. This story hits so close to heart and home for me; adds even more fear to my mind knowing what could happen and reinforces my feelings of why I'm doing what I am. I feel so sad for the father and the rest of the family who cared for that little boy. Many times I've seen videos on TH-cam of CPS and the system failing the child and this just breaks my heart.
Get the kid back soon or the possible outcome is the kid will start using when she gets older
My mom worked for cps before quitting and moving to a other agency, from what she's told me CPS is so corrupt. They don't care about the kids, they only care about closing cases, getting their next promotion, and they don't give af about the kids
That condolence letter is boiler plate all across the nation. It their way of saying we ain’t gonna do nothing about the system it pays us with your money. That crappy letter has not one drop of sympathy or compassion in it
I counted up almost 50 grand to get sole custody. Took almost a year, and the whole time my ex refused rehab, fired multiple lawyers, supervised visitation gave up on her, etc etc. It is an uphill battle, and it sucks. Especially in NY. But after seeing this, I would pay double... I'm so sorry for this man and his son
And your kids are better for. I see so many men hit a few obstacles and then just complain about the system. You stood up for your kids and that's to be commended!
Some people can't pay so paying double isn't even on the radar and they gotta watch that kid go through the ringer
The system is flawed and nobody is interested in fixing it because its making too much money for the private practices and judicial branch to continue operating not to mention the one sided shemenist advocacy that always sides with the mom regardless of what they claim their actions speak louder
@@beneg417
Do you have 50 F'in grand?!?!?
Yeah bro. Cant put a price on it, I sleep so much better now i have sole custody
Yep going through it in now in Rochester ny and they don't even hide that they are gonna screw you over
As a new dad, my eyes are fill. Absolutely gut wrenching.
Rest in peace little man 🙏
"9 times with a 12 gauge shotgun" i have never felt more viscerally disturbed, than i am with the implication that she decided to reload that thing, 9 times, to shoot him.. the image of that boy there, seeing his mom reload that thing, over and over.
i can only hope he went on the first shot, and not the last, and that all the others were her insanity falling into repetition. this story is gonna haunt me, i know that already
Ex father going to need therapy after this 🤕
Im pretty sure he would have been dead after the first shot. A shotgun blast would blow a hole in a door.
yeah, I hate to beget violence with violence but I hope one of those big mama's in the prison fuck this woman up. You can tell in the father eyes he is broken and nothing is gonna fill that hole.
This really shakes me up too, I hope the dad is okay, and I hope theirs a heaven for the boy
Sad thing is, unless she shot him in the face, he might have felt all that and was crying and trying to run away from his mom all within ten seconds. The fact that she managed to toss him into a trunk like a piece of meat would say the latter. She really wanted to shut the kid up. Shooting a dead body would just mean she is even more unstable which is scary
Me and my brother got given to our mom who then gave us to her mom and dad came with the cops....so grateful
I was a victim of the system, taken from a good home in a decent neighbor and sent to my mother deep in the ghetto in a 3 story 2 bedroom apartment.
She couldnt take care of any of us, locked us in the room when she had work and we had no school, beat us (me especially), hit us with heavy objects like irons, starved us and as i got older the abuse got worse until it was just repeated beat downs from a woman twice my size.
No one helped me, the police made it my fault, the school pretended not to notice and cps did nothing when she promised to kill me right in front of them.
I had to run away and sleep in the woods multiple times, even in the rain.
I had to stay in the corner with my hands up for hours and if they dropped she hit me in the head with an iron bar.
She did nothing but raise me into a punching bag until i got lucky and was sent to juvenile detention over a crime i didnt commit.
The failing system put me there and the system failing again is what saved my life.
I fought for years to stay sane in that abusive environment.
I havent seen nor spoken to her in 20 years and i never will.
The biggest lie ever told is that a mother unconditionally loves her child.
I wish nothing but suffering on her and according to my brothers shes getting exactly what she deserves.
Mothers are much more sinister on child abuse because it's largely ignored. I'm sincerely glad your mother is in a bad place now. Honestly fuck gov operations, the only thing that can prevent shit like this is to pick mentally stable partners and try not to have accident babies
Sorry to hear of your abuse
I’m 43 and finally healing from mine in real time on my channel. It’s not easy. I prayed for death as a child.
Best wishes to you
I thought I was the only one, we all will heal but a mothers love not given is a special kind of pain. Wishing us all the best in 2023.❤
I am so sorry to hear what you had to go through! Makes me think about how there are other children currently enduring the same right now and how we can help save them? Praying.
Fuck dude...glad you got outta that shit...stay strong.
As a father who has waded through this crap and dealt with “CPS” gross incompetence, I can affirmatively say yes, there is bias; overt bias against men. I got custody because of one honest judge who wasn’t buying the BS. God bless him.
It’s astonishing how often the courts come down on the wrong side of custody. I see it in my community all the time. It’s as if the courts go out of their way to give a kid to the wrong parent.
They literally do go look it up. The fed incentivizes this stuff.
The duluth Model and it's consequences have been disastrous for families and society.
It seems intentional doesn't it? I am so glad that years back my mother didn't end up inside of a court case with my biological father because with the way he was he probably would have lied effortlessly and managed to win us from her in spite of the fact that he had been abusing myself, my siblings and her, but because they never seem to think it necessary to have something like a psychiatrist in these cases those horribly, manipulative abusers slip through the net all the time and generally get their way, so I think God for that because I'm pretty sure that some of my siblings would not still be alive if that were the case, he was evil. But of course I didn't realize that until years later, at the time I just wanted to please him not knowing that was impossible.
This is why feminism is a load of shit
Look up title IV d money for the states to the tune of millions of free dollars for the state.