I've come to realize over my lifetime and growing up with mental struggles chronically online that it's both the most important thing in the world and literally fucking impossible to just believe in yourself and try to love yourself. Some days are harder than others. Having a wife and a kid really helped me see there was something that was worth trying to be happy for. Your everyday decisions effect everything and everyone around you. It might not ever go away but you can't let it win either
Whilst I try to live by the mantra 'Don't stress about what you can't change' it's not always easy for everyone. I've known people who are 'depressed' when they broke a nail, through to a friend who's depression went to the end level when they ran in front of a speeding train. We're all different and can/can't cope with different levels of what life chucks our way. We just have to be true to ourselves and be honest with people we care about. Interesting as always Leon - looking forward to next time, with or without a guest.
My boss tried to tell me to stop being depressed or forget stuff and I have NO CONTROL on when happens, I can just try to help myself get through IT!!!!
Your boss is a total asshole.. sounds like my boss. I'm going through the darkest most uncertain part of my whole life and I try to stuff it down and leave personal life at home and work while at work. I don't laugh at her disgusting jokes when I'm supposed to. I don't talk much like I used to. I'm just going through some things. She does not understand. She's tried writing me up over it and she's tried dragging me down further. Obviously I'm looking for a new job.
I'm nobody but if there's somebody is reading this everything will be Ok I myself and I'm sure everybody else is going through a lot ,but everything will be okay!! Love to everyone!!
My big brother was murdered last year ,two days after my birthday, i love him more than anything in the world. He taught me how to swim ,he taught me how to be a man . Depression and hatred engulfed my entire being . Im still dealing with it and still cant break out of the cycle.
I was prescribed SSRIs at 11. As I got older I was given more mediation. I'm 29 now and have been off of all my meds besides 1. My insurance got turned off. They don't tell you how bad the withdrawal is. I was sick for 3 weeks. I decided that I didn't want to continue putting things in my body that it might not need anymore. I have been off of all my ssris and anti-anxiety medication for about 2 months now. It's been up and down but I feel confident that I made the right decision. Stay strong everyone
I went through a lot when I was younger and I’m not going to trauma dump but I’ve learned pretty much alone that the only way for at least me to grow is just getting over it and focusing in being better for those I love. Keep going with the banger James, we ALL love you. Let’s help with Mr. Algo Rithm!!
Thank you for this. As a female veteran with wartime service, I kept stopping this video to replay sections that resonated hard. Its not just the fellas. We are all on that bus telling horribly morbid jokes and laughing at things that probably are a bit out there. Coping. Sucking it up, and doing work. Thank you. Love watching your content!
Leon I think the biggest irony with “be yourself” when you are depressed is that even if you thought you knew who you were before, the whole spiral of depression leaves you feeling like that isn’t you any more. You disassociate from a prior version of yourself. Whether that version was good or bad. Losing all sense of what your values are, what you enjoy/what you dislike, etc. I think that is separate from a larger existential “who am I” and figuring out your broader identity over a long period of time and as you mature. In my exp. period of depression is more encapsulated, discrete and intense in terms of losing a complete sense of identity during it. For me, I got really angry and upset because I quite liked the person I used to be and the affect I had on others and the role I used to play in my friends lives. During and after depression I had to come to terms with I’m just not the same anymore and I can’t be that person in the same way anymore. Even though I want to be. It’s a horrible feeling. But it’s not to say I’m a bad or cold person now. I just am not the same. So hard to accept
I can't fix the problem, but as someone with a similar problem, this spoke to me. It really feels like there's multiple of You - the You people enjoy, the You you hide, and the You even you are afraid of. Depression is a chemical reality that weighs on us like it's cosmic. Medication and good people have helped me. I wish the best for you too ❤
God bless you, I needed to read this. You just laid out my life right now in ways I haven't been able to utter. I literally am not going to be who I was before after this round ends, & that is the most bizarre thing. I hope you are going well in this process, thank you for taking time to write this out.
Thank you for being open and honest Leon. As a 35 year old guy who is highly empathetic, tearing up to veterans coming home and suprise their kids hits the nerve just right :'D It is never 100% granted that you'll see someone again after their deployment. Kids are always so happy to see their dad coming home from war. But when I think about the soldiers.. They come home once they've basically walked through hell and despite all that mental and physical sacrifice, they still have the strength to suprise their kids first thing when they arrive. That is another level of love for me. Purpose even. And to anybody out there struggling with depression, you got this! Like literally. It's in your hands. Grab that depression by the neck. That's YOUR mind. Depression doesn't pay you any rent to stay there so kick that bastard out! 💪 Your mindset is important! Keep evolving
Thank You Leon for addressing the bizarre duality of hyper-emotion vs. apathy. I sometimes feel cruel and dismissive, even as a woman, then sometimes feel like I'm ONLY made of tears, empathy, and a well of feeling. I mean, I have some things to work through, but I'm glad other mature people are experiencing this. It's TPO - tough love and kindness all have their place ❤
Something I’ve learned with my own mental health struggles is learning my own triggers and working with my therapist to work through things I thought I could work on by myself. Medication therapy and just other healthy outlets help but we do have to remember everyone is different and everyone handles things differently so it’s up to the person to find what works for them. Hang in there everyone it does get better. Change is scary and takes time. As much as the world tries to put a timeline on things that should happen just know you have the time to help yourself.
I really dig that you’re going into topics that it only have complex parts to it, but also having an open and honest take on it. Thank you for sharing. I think my own journey in counseling others through these topics come from a very complex series of my own traumas. They are both the wound and the healing. You should definitely check out (if you haven’t already) Jungian Archetypes (Carl Jung), Epictetus (Stoicism), and Alan Watts. They’ve been (for me, at least) a good balance on how various perspectives see what is called as the Human Experience.
This is my favorite video you have ever done. I really appreciate the raw approach to these things. I have suffered my whole life with mental health issues and therapy, meds, whatever has been thrown my way hasn't helped as much as just talking about it. Real and raw conversations about these things to understand myself better and learning to live with my dark passenger. Thank you for speaking your mind Leon. This is why I follow you. I wish you strength during your mental health journey too
In my life, i've gone through the ringer and managed to come out on the other side 99% happy most of the time. 30+ years ago my dog was taken from my backyard and 🐶🩸🔪in the neighborhood pool. I've been dealing with the anger/sadness/madness forever. But this January I'm getting a tattoo to honor him.😊 Then in 2017 I was hit by a car going 50mph while on my bicycle and the only reason I didn't die was because of my bike helmet. My head had gone through the car's windshield. Also I didn't get a scratch on me. I still bike today.😊
Thank you Leon! Keeping it real and grounded from serious to hilarious with the content you put out. This video has helped me and probably others who are silent on the other side by choice or circumstances. Stay safe, stay blessed out there and can't wait for more episodes, if not I got bucket of brain worms to chow down on.
I like therapy because it helps me process through my emotions in a safe place with someone who can give me an outsiders perspective so I am not constantly circling
Yes. Life and death situations.. its the people who are able to put the tough to deal with shit out of the mind and deal with what must be dealt with presently that are successful
I appreciate this. Thank you Leon. Also the Dexter show is awesome. I'm on season 6. I watch a lot of your videos and if I could have a drink with someone it would be you.
Leon, thanks again for an awesome talk dude. It's inspirational and helpful since my dad has been in prison and some other stuff going on. I have a great support system, I'm not a victim but, I realized I needed help. Been going to therapy and pursuing my passion for illustration. Thanks and keep it up.
People frequently tell me they are envious of me because of my marriage and having 2 kids. After i tell them i got lucky, they proceed to call bullsht and they say im not giving myself enough credit. I lived for almost 20 years of wanting to un alive myself before everything fell into place. I found my wife on tinder because i swipped right on every girl until i found the right one after 2 years of trying and went to a course for a CDL to support a family. Its luck through the wherewithal and hope to not give up. time and experience heals through attained knowledge, developed from scars.
For the last couple of years, the only constant in my life is the urge to take a long walk off a short pier, so to speak. I'll be 50 next month and my health is not really good. I had a heart attack 15 years ago and a stroke 5 years ago. I used to be somebody, but my anxiety is so bad it has led to agoraphobia. I keep seeing these 70 uear olds having fun living their best lives, and that is horrifying to me. You grow older, fearing death, but somewhere, i went the other way and fear life.
Everyone who is in a slump is waiting on a superman to come and fix it and save them. But as you said no one really cares, or are just wrapped up in their own shit. I think this is the hardest part of getting yourself out of a hole, the point when you realise people are sympathetic, and that feels nice, but at the end of the day its your problem and it is hard work and conscious effort to get the strength and motivation to get out of it. Baby steps folks, start with a walk. and then a healthier breakfast and build on it from there. on day at a time.
You are the one i listen to and hear the most has to be you. For being a big bad ass handsome dude i see you as loving, humble and caring as the next! KEEP ON KEEPING ON🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤
online culture loves to perpetuate that you need to respect their trauma and lived experience, while literally cannibalizing the most mentally ill person adjacent to them. Yeah doing bad things has bad consequences but we put people to the guillotine instead of telling them to work on themselves and try to actually be a good person. That's a blanket statement, obviously there's things that aren't excusable but i'm tired of pretending like everyone is an awful abuser.
Just lost what I thought was a meaningful/serious relationship to a woman I thought was great that's on SSRI's.(Antidepressants) She started what is called "Splitting" (Major side effect where they go from caring/committed to not at all out of nowhere) stopped caring/ treated me like a stranger in a heartbeat. Shit hurts.
It’s weird how much I related to the second half of this video. All of us go through bad times. I feel like men have it rough with the stigma hanging over our head. But if you use it, it can also be your greatest superpower. But please open up if these thoughts are too overpowering. Everyone matters.
Sounds like u may b addicted to caffeine, which, most of the planet has, which is why u feel better after ur coffee/tea, what have u. Also, the work out stimulates ur serotonin and endorphins, therefore putting u in a better mood . Not all of us have the ability to exercise due to medical issues. Everyone responds to trauma differently, therapy, medications, exercise, being in nature, having quiet time from screens, that all helps too, but the percentage of each of those that a person can spend time on r going to look different for everyone. Some of us don't live our lives caring about what others think. It doesn't matter that no one else cares or in 100 yrs no one will know. What matters is how WE feel about ourselves, and some of us need more help than others. Some people can't find the stamina or dedication to make ourselves well without help. If u can pull urself up by ur bootstraps, great! Not all of us even have boots to have straps on....... just food fer thought
im the exact same way i feel like a god then like trash on the sidewalk all in the span of like 30 mins to an hour i always wonder if other people feel that same and im just to weak to push through it. it'll like cripple me ill be tucked in the covers wishing i didnt wake up and then im like 'zues him self would be lucky to blow me," so i get up but i have to many things on my mind and i cant focus on one task and i never complete anything and if i do it mediocre at best so then i fall back into the covers wishing i didnt wake up agian and the cycle is just non stop
Constant internal negative self talk and depression..??? Yea! Welcome to life. Be a man and deal with it. Stuff sucks. You have to change things for you. Nobody else will. And yes therapy can help you back up and see how you csn do that.
I've come to realize over my lifetime and growing up with mental struggles chronically online that it's both the most important thing in the world and literally fucking impossible to just believe in yourself and try to love yourself. Some days are harder than others. Having a wife and a kid really helped me see there was something that was worth trying to be happy for. Your everyday decisions effect everything and everyone around you. It might not ever go away but you can't let it win either
well said
Whilst I try to live by the mantra 'Don't stress about what you can't change' it's not always easy for everyone. I've known people who are 'depressed' when they broke a nail, through to a friend who's depression went to the end level when they ran in front of a speeding train. We're all different and can/can't cope with different levels of what life chucks our way. We just have to be true to ourselves and be honest with people we care about.
Interesting as always Leon - looking forward to next time, with or without a guest.
My boss tried to tell me to stop being depressed or forget stuff and I have NO CONTROL on when happens, I can just try to help myself get through IT!!!!
amen!❤
Your boss is a total asshole.. sounds like my boss. I'm going through the darkest most uncertain part of my whole life and I try to stuff it down and leave personal life at home and work while at work. I don't laugh at her disgusting jokes when I'm supposed to. I don't talk much like I used to. I'm just going through some things. She does not understand. She's tried writing me up over it and she's tried dragging me down further. Obviously I'm looking for a new job.
Depression fuckin sucks man. Hang in there yall
I'm nobody but if there's somebody is reading this everything will be Ok I myself and I'm sure everybody else is going through a lot ,but everything will be okay!! Love to everyone!!
You're not nobody... you're a somebody who's kind enough to think of others enough to write an uplifting comment. Thank you!
Love these podcasts. You are inspirational brother.
My big brother was murdered last year ,two days after my birthday, i love him more than anything in the world. He taught me how to swim ,he taught me how to be a man . Depression and hatred engulfed my entire being . Im still dealing with it and still cant break out of the cycle.
Sorry to hear that brother, hang in there
New Leon while I’m on a day drinking bender? The lord knew I needed this
I was prescribed SSRIs at 11. As I got older I was given more mediation. I'm 29 now and have been off of all my meds besides 1. My insurance got turned off. They don't tell you how bad the withdrawal is. I was sick for 3 weeks. I decided that I didn't want to continue putting things in my body that it might not need anymore. I have been off of all my ssris and anti-anxiety medication for about 2 months now. It's been up and down but I feel confident that I made the right decision. Stay strong everyone
Hang in there Cas, proud of you for making big moves
I went through a lot when I was younger and I’m not going to trauma dump but I’ve learned pretty much alone that the only way for at least me to grow is just getting over it and focusing in being better for those I love. Keep going with the banger James, we ALL love you. Let’s help with Mr. Algo Rithm!!
Thank you for this. As a female veteran with wartime service, I kept stopping this video to replay sections that resonated hard. Its not just the fellas. We are all on that bus telling horribly morbid jokes and laughing at things that probably are a bit out there. Coping. Sucking it up, and doing work. Thank you. Love watching your content!
thanks for being here
Leon I think the biggest irony with “be yourself” when you are depressed is that even if you thought you knew who you were before, the whole spiral of depression leaves you feeling like that isn’t you any more.
You disassociate from a prior version of yourself. Whether that version was good or bad. Losing all sense of what your values are, what you enjoy/what you dislike, etc. I think that is separate from a larger existential “who am I” and figuring out your broader identity over a long period of time and as you mature.
In my exp. period of depression is more encapsulated, discrete and intense in terms of losing a complete sense of identity during it.
For me, I got really angry and upset because I quite liked the person I used to be and the affect I had on others and the role I used to play in my friends lives. During and after depression I had to come to terms with I’m just not the same anymore and I can’t be that person in the same way anymore. Even though I want to be. It’s a horrible feeling. But it’s not to say I’m a bad or cold person now. I just am not the same. So hard to accept
I can't fix the problem, but as someone with a similar problem, this spoke to me. It really feels like there's multiple of You - the You people enjoy, the You you hide, and the You even you are afraid of. Depression is a chemical reality that weighs on us like it's cosmic. Medication and good people have helped me. I wish the best for you too ❤
God bless you, I needed to read this. You just laid out my life right now in ways I haven't been able to utter. I literally am not going to be who I was before after this round ends, & that is the most bizarre thing. I hope you are going well in this process, thank you for taking time to write this out.
Keep on posting. The views will come. You’re doing great. I absolutely enjoyed this. It’s a softer side of you.
Thank you for being open and honest Leon. As a 35 year old guy who is highly empathetic, tearing up to veterans coming home and suprise their kids hits the nerve just right :'D
It is never 100% granted that you'll see someone again after their deployment. Kids are always so happy to see their dad coming home from war. But when I think about the soldiers..
They come home once they've basically walked through hell and despite all that mental and physical sacrifice, they still have the strength to suprise their kids first thing when they arrive.
That is another level of love for me. Purpose even.
And to anybody out there struggling with depression, you got this! Like literally. It's in your hands. Grab that depression by the neck.
That's YOUR mind. Depression doesn't pay you any rent to stay there so kick that bastard out! 💪 Your mindset is important! Keep evolving
Thank You Leon for addressing the bizarre duality of hyper-emotion vs. apathy. I sometimes feel cruel and dismissive, even as a woman, then sometimes feel like I'm ONLY made of tears, empathy, and a well of feeling. I mean, I have some things to work through, but I'm glad other mature people are experiencing this. It's TPO - tough love and kindness all have their place ❤
Something I’ve learned with my own mental health struggles is learning my own triggers and working with my therapist to work through things I thought I could work on by myself.
Medication therapy and just other healthy outlets help but we do have to remember everyone is different and everyone handles things differently so it’s up to the person to find what works for them. Hang in there everyone it does get better. Change is scary and takes time. As much as the world tries to put a timeline on things that should happen just know you have the time to help yourself.
I really dig that you’re going into topics that it only have complex parts to it, but also having an open and honest take on it. Thank you for sharing. I think my own journey in counseling others through these topics come from a very complex series of my own traumas. They are both the wound and the healing. You should definitely check out (if you haven’t already) Jungian Archetypes (Carl Jung), Epictetus (Stoicism), and Alan Watts. They’ve been (for me, at least) a good balance on how various perspectives see what is called as the Human Experience.
This is my favorite video you have ever done. I really appreciate the raw approach to these things. I have suffered my whole life with mental health issues and therapy, meds, whatever has been thrown my way hasn't helped as much as just talking about it. Real and raw conversations about these things to understand myself better and learning to live with my dark passenger. Thank you for speaking your mind Leon. This is why I follow you. I wish you strength during your mental health journey too
In my life, i've gone through the ringer and managed to come out on the other side 99% happy most of the time.
30+ years ago my dog was taken from my backyard and 🐶🩸🔪in the neighborhood pool. I've been dealing with the anger/sadness/madness forever. But this January I'm getting a tattoo to honor him.😊
Then in 2017 I was hit by a car going 50mph while on my bicycle and the only reason I didn't die was because of my bike helmet. My head had gone through the car's windshield. Also I didn't get a scratch on me.
I still bike today.😊
Depression killed all the things I once loved. I'm still fighting it.
Thank you Leon! Keeping it real and grounded from serious to hilarious with the content you put out. This video has helped me and probably others who are silent on the other side by choice or circumstances. Stay safe, stay blessed out there and can't wait for more episodes, if not I got bucket of brain worms to chow down on.
I like therapy because it helps me process through my emotions in a safe place with someone who can give me an outsiders perspective so I am not constantly circling
Your videos only get better and better each year
During Covid I feel like it really showed who was happy and who was just hanging on to sanity by a thread. I’m on the happy end.
Yes. Life and death situations.. its the people who are able to put the tough to deal with shit out of the mind and deal with what must be dealt with presently that are successful
I watch same stuff as u! U one of people who got me STARTED BEING A TH-camR!!!!
I'm gonna get this shit done leon, your a big inspiration
I appreciate this. Thank you Leon. Also the Dexter show is awesome. I'm on season 6. I watch a lot of your videos and if I could have a drink with someone it would be you.
Love you Leon
We all love you Leon😂❤❤❤🎉😅
Leon, thanks again for an awesome talk dude. It's inspirational and helpful since my dad has been in prison and some other stuff going on. I have a great support system, I'm not a victim but, I realized I needed help. Been going to therapy and pursuing my passion for illustration. Thanks and keep it up.
proud of you brother, keep on trucking
People frequently tell me they are envious of me because of my marriage and having 2 kids. After i tell them i got lucky, they proceed to call bullsht and they say im not giving myself enough credit. I lived for almost 20 years of wanting to un alive myself before everything fell into place. I found my wife on tinder because i swipped right on every girl until i found the right one after 2 years of trying and went to a course for a CDL to support a family. Its luck through the wherewithal and hope to not give up. time and experience heals through attained knowledge, developed from scars.
For the last couple of years, the only constant in my life is the urge to take a long walk off a short pier, so to speak. I'll be 50 next month and my health is not really good. I had a heart attack 15 years ago and a stroke 5 years ago. I used to be somebody, but my anxiety is so bad it has led to agoraphobia.
I keep seeing these 70 uear olds having fun living their best lives, and that is horrifying to me. You grow older, fearing death, but somewhere, i went the other way and fear life.
Leon pulled up in the dark room… know we in for a real talk 🤧
Aye, aye, captain! Cheers to ya!
Great video Leon
cheers brotha much resepct !
Everyone who is in a slump is waiting on a superman to come and fix it and save them. But as you said no one really cares, or are just wrapped up in their own shit. I think this is the hardest part of getting yourself out of a hole, the point when you realise people are sympathetic, and that feels nice, but at the end of the day its your problem and it is hard work and conscious effort to get the strength and motivation to get out of it. Baby steps folks, start with a walk. and then a healthier breakfast and build on it from there. on day at a time.
Thanks brotha
Prison gave me that hardened kind of callus. And I’m glad I have it
it can be very valuable in today's world
You are the one i listen to and hear the most has to be you. For being a big bad ass handsome dude i see you as loving, humble and caring as the next! KEEP ON KEEPING ON🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤
🙏🏼❤️
online culture loves to perpetuate that you need to respect their trauma and lived experience, while literally cannibalizing the most mentally ill person adjacent to them. Yeah doing bad things has bad consequences but we put people to the guillotine instead of telling them to work on themselves and try to actually be a good person. That's a blanket statement, obviously there's things that aren't excusable but i'm tired of pretending like everyone is an awful abuser.
Just lost what I thought was a meaningful/serious relationship to a woman I thought was great that's on SSRI's.(Antidepressants) She started what is called "Splitting" (Major side effect where they go from caring/committed to not at all out of nowhere) stopped caring/ treated me like a stranger in a heartbeat. Shit hurts.
damn man, sorry that happeend
It’s weird how much I related to the second half of this video. All of us go through bad times. I feel like men have it rough with the stigma hanging over our head. But if you use it, it can also be your greatest superpower. But please open up if these thoughts are too overpowering. Everyone matters.
Sounds like u may b addicted to caffeine, which, most of the planet has, which is why u feel better after ur coffee/tea, what have u. Also, the work out stimulates ur serotonin and endorphins, therefore putting u in a better mood . Not all of us have the ability to exercise due to medical issues. Everyone responds to trauma differently, therapy, medications, exercise, being in nature, having quiet time from screens, that all helps too, but the percentage of each of those that a person can spend time on r going to look different for everyone. Some of us don't live our lives caring about what others think. It doesn't matter that no one else cares or in 100 yrs no one will know. What matters is how WE feel about ourselves, and some of us need more help than others. Some people can't find the stamina or dedication to make ourselves well without help. If u can pull urself up by ur bootstraps, great! Not all of us even have boots to have straps on....... just food fer thought
Wisdom😮
I knew when i went to the comment section it wouldn't be filled with the normal 1 or 2 line/word comments
im the exact same way i feel like a god then like trash on the sidewalk all in the span of like 30 mins to an hour i always wonder if other people feel that same and im just to weak to push through it. it'll like cripple me ill be tucked in the covers wishing i didnt wake up and then im like 'zues him self would be lucky to blow me," so i get up but i have to many things on my mind and i cant focus on one task and i never complete anything and if i do it mediocre at best so then i fall back into the covers wishing i didnt wake up agian and the cycle is just non stop
Just described me to a T… not sure what it’s called but we just gotta keep it moving I guess
Evil VS good
Ying Yang
Yes! You wouldn't notice good days if you didn't have bad ones...just enjoy the good ones more than you hate the bad ones.
@@Gyrgal that’s EXACTLY what I was thinking when I post that comment! Feels good to KNOW other people recognize what I’m trying to convey!💯
@@mikeydsk8r4life 💯
I went in on this vid and thought Leon would just shit on people mental health issues. Glad I was wrong. Fuck depression
You look like Stone Cold Steve Austin in that Lightning. 😂😂😂
Constant internal negative self talk and depression..??? Yea! Welcome to life. Be a man and deal with it. Stuff sucks. You have to change things for you. Nobody else will. And yes therapy can help you back up and see how you csn do that.
28:23 I still like the podcast. Because it's you opening up more.🙂
26:02 that's me.😊 But I'm still a great guy who's fun to be around.😊