In her statement she answered herself. I am 41 my husband of 8 years is 27 it’s about maturity. He pays all the bills and treats me better than older guy I used to date. I think the problem is with her because of how she feels about herself. Age has nothing to do with it. She believes because she is 40 and not worth being with him so she pays all the bills and take care of him. He is treating her the way she feels about herself. People will only treat you how to feel about yourself.
Completely agree. My fiancé is 32 and Im 48 and he is more of a man than I have EVER experienced! I call him an old, young MAN!! I adore him and cant wait to be his Mrs! Age only matters when immaturity is a factor.
You give the most loving, considerate and thoughtful advice. All while pulling no punches. What magic is this? Lol! Love you, Fumi! Sending prayers for your continued fortitude. We need you out here in these streets!😂🎉❤❤
Leave him asap. You're losing the best time of your life on him. The good thing is you already know this. Don't be afraid to leave him, you'll regret it if you stay.
S’cuse me??? What!!! The 40 yr old is raising another child. He’s not in your era he’ll never be compatible as a life mate. He needs to Grow Up. He’s a “holding pattern “ not a forever partner. Enjoy this distraction while it lasts BUT be prepared to let it go and move on. ❤😘👍🏾👍👍🏿👍🏻👍🏽😺
When I was about 16 years old and started to be aware about relationships on any term I realize one has to stand for something or fall for anything. Set boundaries etc. I don't allow anyone to talk to me with disrespect and I do not do that to them. I even had a pastor to shout at me, what did I do ? I left his church. I paid good tithes but excuse me, there are many other churches where the pastors were loving and respectful. That pastor that shouted at me because I said hello, he kept calling (had people calling too) I never looked back. So I do not believe any man or women should treat each other badly. At 40 years old, 25 years old etc. One should have enough knowledge to know what they want and don't want.
I dated a guy same age as me at 40, i have 2 kids he had one. However I noticed he thought he was "the catch". He came twice I cooked we had drinks, 3rd time he came asked for food, I said "what do you take me for? Mother Christmas? I said I have 2 kids not 3. I gave him a lecture & told him there's nothing that puts a woman off than a 'dependent', stingy man. He got it, he bought my kids gifts, every month he bought grocery, he was very generous...why.. because I showed him I won't be used.
If he were a mature, self sufficient, 28 y/o there'd be no problem with your age gap.10-12 yrs wouldn't matter. You all would be on equal ground prepped and ready to build together.But he's not. He's served his rebound purpose, and he's gotten enough out of you in return, so shoo him away now and free yourself up for your upgraded husband or an insanely satisfying and enriched life of singleness!
I do not like to date younger men, my question is always what does he want with me? Men tend to date younger is my mindset….(that’s just my thinking) so when a younger guy steps to me I am cautious.
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature for that guy. Let her let him go. Or else, he will drag her backwards
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature for that guy. Let her let him go. Or else, he will drag her backwards
It’s my opinion:
~The outfit Fumi is gorgeous, the hair, the glowing skin,,,,,,yes you are living😇
Keep planting sis~
In her statement she answered herself. I am 41 my husband of 8 years is 27 it’s about maturity. He pays all the bills and treats me better than older guy I used to date. I think the problem is with her because of how she feels about herself. Age has nothing to do with it. She believes because she is 40 and not worth being with him so she pays all the bills and take care of him. He is treating her the way she feels about herself. People will only treat you how to feel about yourself.
Your husband of 8 years is 27 ? So you married a 19 year old boy when you were 33 ? Ma’am you’re a predator and a groomer this is not a flex
Completely agree. My fiancé is 32 and Im 48 and he is more of a man than I have EVER experienced! I call him an old, young MAN!! I adore him and cant wait to be his Mrs! Age only matters when immaturity is a factor.
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You give the most loving, considerate and thoughtful advice. All while pulling no punches. What magic is this? Lol! Love you, Fumi! Sending prayers for your continued fortitude. We need you out here in these streets!😂🎉❤❤
Every sister to sister makes me realize that i need to detox from the pain i have around me , self love and healing
Run 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ for your dear life!!! That's a time waster...hungry guy seeking temporary refuge!
😂 My take away fumi is all I want to carry is my Louis Vuitton! Remain blessed good job. ❤
PREACHHHH Fumi!! Nothing but gems being dropped ❤️🥰🙏🏼✨
Leave him asap. You're losing the best time of your life on him. The good thing is you already know this. Don't be afraid to leave him, you'll regret it if you stay.
Looking good Fumi😊
Happy Sunday Fumi and family ❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹👸
Thank you Fumi for the safe space you give us all.We live we love
FD-Vold Exactly Fumi I agree w/ur answer Great Advice age does not equal maturity ❤
Let him goooooo.
Looking so beautiful aunt fumi
Wow Fumi!!!! You really said it all in this one!!!! It begins with self!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
WHEW!!!!!
You're looking fabulous as usual!!!!❤❤❤
He’s taking advantage on her because of the age difference!
S’cuse me??? What!!! The 40 yr old is raising another child. He’s not in your era he’ll never be compatible as a life mate. He needs to Grow Up. He’s a “holding pattern “ not a forever partner. Enjoy this distraction while it lasts BUT be prepared to let it go and move on. ❤😘👍🏾👍👍🏿👍🏻👍🏽😺
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature than that guy.
Wise and very kind words 🙏🏾 ✨️ love, love your content ma'am ❤ he's sensing her low self esteem. I wish her lots of self love ❤️
When I was about 16 years old and started to be aware about relationships on any term I realize one has to stand for something or fall for anything. Set boundaries etc. I don't allow anyone to talk to me with disrespect and I do not do that to them. I even had a pastor to shout at me, what did I do ? I left his church. I paid good tithes but excuse me, there are many other churches where the pastors were loving and respectful. That pastor that shouted at me because I said hello, he kept calling (had people calling too) I never looked back. So I do not believe any man or women should treat each other badly. At 40 years old, 25 years old etc. One should have enough knowledge to know what they want and don't want.
Fumi! Words well spoken ❤
Thanks, fumi I really appreciate you ❤️
I love you outfit reveals, so cute
What’s she’s thinking? She’s not his mother. The guy is 28 yr, he’s there temporarily to organize his life at your COST. I’m just saying!
I dated a guy same age as me at 40, i have 2 kids he had one. However I noticed he thought he was "the catch". He came twice I cooked we had drinks, 3rd time he came asked for food, I said "what do you take me for? Mother Christmas? I said I have 2 kids not 3. I gave him a lecture & told him there's nothing that puts a woman off than a 'dependent', stingy man. He got it, he bought my kids gifts, every month he bought grocery, he was very generous...why.. because I showed him I won't be used.
I would ended the relationship after the all the cleaning 😅
If he were a mature, self sufficient, 28 y/o there'd be no problem with your age gap.10-12 yrs wouldn't matter. You all would be on equal ground prepped and ready to build together.But he's not. He's served his rebound purpose, and he's gotten enough out of you in return, so shoo him away now and free yourself up for your upgraded husband or an insanely satisfying and enriched life of singleness!
Thanks!
I do not like to date younger men, my question is always what does he want with me? Men tend to date younger is my mindset….(that’s just my thinking) so when a younger guy steps to me I am cautious.
My first thought is what he want from me, my first guess is he wants a caregiver.
Same here l always question them. Either they want a mother or a retirement plan.
Love the look awesome gorgeous ❤😊
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature for that guy.
Let her let him go. Or else, he will drag her backwards
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Great advice Fumi. He is immature and will only hold her back.
Classy
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He has hands and she’s not his mother nor sister! Period.
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I’m 29 and you couldn’t pay me to do this lol
Women it is very okay to not always be in a relationship. Why are people so scared of singleness?
28?😂😂😂 so she's been babysitting for a year now. 😮
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature than that guy.
As a matter of fact Fumi, this 40-year old lady has been refined by life's experiences. So she is way mature for that guy.
Let her let him go. Or else, he will drag her backwards