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Cake smashing without consent always seems to lead to divorce. It shows a lack of respect for the other person in the relationship
The whole point of the cake sharing is that it's symbolic of how you'll take care of each other, so yeah.
Me and my husband both agreed we wouldn't smash eachother with the cake because we thought it was just mean and trashy
Bruh my dad did that to my mom and they just got divorced this year
@@EclipsedCrown Sorry to hear that. I hope they can both maintain a good relationship with you throughout. 💟
I've only ever seen smashing cake into each other's faces on movies, never in real life weddings. Is it an American thing? (Not talking about cutting the cake together, that's done here too).
I know a couple who did the cake face thing and both laughed at the cake on their faces. A quick photographer was able to snap a pic of the bride with a face full of frosting and cake standing underneath one of those gambling addiction posters (reception was at a place that sold pull tabs) that read "Help is just a phone call away!"
They celebrated 20 years of marriage this year.
What an amazing photographer lol
That’s adorable.
The wonders of consent 🤗
I got an ad for divorce lawyers. I'm crying
no you weren't
@Blu Cherries he/she/i don't give a shit, probibly wasnt crying and weren't is a word imao
@@lilcatguy8317 but.. it is a word? "Were not"? Sir do you need some grammar help?
@@pizzafan823 it is a word in fact i dont know what you are saying
Weren’t is a word! It’s the contraction form of “were not” and the past tense form of “are not/aren’t”
The poor minister with 100% divorce rates. That would suck to only wanna bring joy and shit, but having a good feeling it will end
Some religious clergy are refusing to wed people who are obviously not going to take their vows seriously. If I was refused I would take that as a major red flag that I was about to make a major mistake.
@@JA-ev7om I'm a minister for the FSM
@@MemeProphet *I had to look up FSM.* 🤣😂🤣 *That's awesome.*
@@JA-ev7om I have a card stating so, a certificate, and a ring as well. I preach the good word 💋
@@MemeProphet *Thank you for your service.*
Been to a few weddings, The cake thing is a good indicator.
The Cutest couple that is still going strong not only cut each other a bit of cake and fed to each other, but also took turns cutting cake for their parents. It was very sweet.
My fiance and I are currently planning our own wedding and I'll definitely take that bit about cutting for your parents into consideration, that sounds adorable! Thank you! ❤️
Awww
OK so as I was watching the video and heard all of the cake stories I thought of what I would do and immediately thought of feeding it to each other lol but seriously it’s so cute
My wife sent me a death threat preemptively to not smash cake in her face. 6.5 years later, we're doing alright still.
I had no idea that this was a common habit
Haha, same. My fiance and I still have about 18 months to go but I've already warned him once or twice about this, and will continue to do so just in case, death threats maybe included if I don't think he's getting the message
I'm assuming you didn't do it, as you are still alive to tell the tale.
@@FullMoonOctober Ruining her day would have meant ruining mine too.
Is this an American tradition? I'm Brazilian and had never heard about such thing.
Just my judgment, but these:
1. Bride being unwilling to involve the groom/groom's family unless paying for the wedding is involved. That seems selfish.
2. Any bride/groom unwilling to treat their partner's family or members of the bridal/groom's party with respect.
3. Bride/groom getting massively drunk and/or reckless before or during the wedding/reception.
4. The "jokey" forced marriage stuff, essentially saying the man is trapped or is the bride's property. Absolutely hate when women do that or try to joke with me about that, because I've known too many real victims of abusive relationships in my life, both men and women. Just because women do it doesn't make it cute.
5. The cake smashing thing, as people have said. It's something you need to agree upon beforehand if you are doing it at all. Personally, I wouldn't.
6. Anything where the wedding is made super sexual. Maybe it's old-fashioned of me, but that just seems uncomfortable for everyone else involved and seems like the couple wants to show off their relationship instead of appreciating the seriousness of their decision.
Again, it's probably a matter of personal taste, but tight low-cut dresses, twerking/grinding on the dance floor, the whole garter thing...I really dislike that stuff.
Last one seems like they are just together because of sex and not for the real thing
@@nicoleacosta6683 people don’t get married to have sex, they just have sex and then don’t text each other again
@@hunnerd4566 There's a reddit wedding horror story somewhere where a couple got married just so they could have sex and divorced a year later. One of them was super religious and believed in sexual chastity until marriage, so married to have sex
@Dark Zweilous Eh, sounds bad both ways. I'm only going at it from my own perspective because more women talk with me about these things than men, and I always find it "sus", as the kids say, when some women talk about men like they're the lesser partner in the relationship. It's like no, I'm not laughing at that, because that's not what a partnership is or a marriage is, and it's really gross for anyone to say no matter their gender.
Personally, I actually like the garter tradition, simply because I know the history behind it. Not only is it traditional, it's a really cool story. I DO agree about how gross sexualized weddings are, though. However, there's honestly tons of ways to do the garter tradition without it being super gross. So it's not exclusively belonging to the sexualized wedding category.
Our wedding officiant pulled us aside after our ceremony and told us we were by far his favorite couple he had ever married. I think that's a pretty good sign.
That's super cute. And belated congratulations!!
Lol. My mom made my wedding cake but I could tell my new husband hated it. I smashed cake in his face to give him an escape route to spit it out. Then he did the same thing to me to make it seem like a cutesy thing. Didn't want to hurt my mom's feelings and she still doesn't know we didn't like her cake
Smart
Actually Genius
Smart but cruel. Your mom probably spend hours making it. If my mom was kind enough to do that even if the cake is on the verge of melting, toppling over id still finish it all.
I remember my mom make a completely burned popcorn, instead of sweet it just taste like burnt sponge. Ate it all and said its delicious.
You can never have this experience anymore once your parents pass away.
@@jeanneann3545
.....there is a huge difference between finishing something out of respect even if you don't like it and LITERALLY EATING BURNT FOOD.
@@SkiggsMoDiggs Yeah i finished the burnt popcorn my mom made for me. so what 🤷
The cake is a truth
Lmao
The cake knows all
Impossible
@@Oddity2994
8ll
The cake isn't a lie?
The cake thing always came off to me as mean spirited, the women almost always seems at least annoyed by it. I mean we just spent 3 hours getting ready so don't put food on me.
Putting food on people is weird in general 😬
I always thought I was being uptight and serious for thinking it was mean and disrespectful. Nice to know others feel the same way.
It supposed to be the most important day of woman's life with all the preparations and maybe first time in her life she splurges on professional makeup artist and then she gets fucking cake on her face when there's photographers around, who wouldn't be mad.
@@edwardhisse2687 Exactly
It's not supposed to be smashing, the bride and groom are supposed be feeding it to each other. I don't know when smashing it in each others faces became a thing... probably some movie or TV show
4:20 My parents at their wedding smashed the cake into the best man and the bride's maid's face instead of each other.
Epic
420 nice
@@atlas1924 *smiling eye roll*
I think there’s something I’ve seen that is a big green flag: the bride or groom is introverted/timid at the wedding, but gets confident around their partner. My friend is a lot like this, and people read it the wrong way.
Aaaaw, that sounds so cute!
I warned my boyfriend long before the day, and again shortly before that he'd better not smash cake in my face, that I would NOT be okay with it. He listened. Marriage only lasted 8 years, but that's better than many.
You’ve been single since
@@sofiadoe6445
LOL...! No, I have not. What makes you draw that conclusion?
8 years is TWO marriages for me!
No cake smashing for me. I'm not a douchebag, unsuitable for marriage. My problem has been poor mate selection, motivated by desperation. I still dislike being alone, but I now THOROUGHLY understand that it is better with the wrong person.
@@billskinner7670
It most certainly is better to be alone, than to be with a wrong person! Sorry you had to divorce twice to realize this. I have two furry babies, and each time my boykitty cuddles on my lap, I'm reminded that =he= will never go behind my back to spend all our money. Nor will my girlkitty go out and get pregnant (spayed/neutered both), and expect me to cater to her every whim.
@@cchastant8251 I have been divorced 3 times, but I knew that after 1. I thought 2nd and 3rd were the right person. Now I know why they weren't. Still learning. The woman I dated for 2 months last year, I thought was right. Now I know why she wasnt. The woman I dated for 5 months this year was right, until abruptly she wasnt. Still learning.
"Then three years later the photographer killed his wife."
BUT ARE YOU STILL MARRIED THO.
Till death do us part lol.
A friend and I did photos for a couple weddings in high school, we were cheap and both had portfolios since we were in a performing arts school. Most weddings were pretty boring. Did one one traditional Chinese wedding that I still have some pictures of because they were so stunning. But I'll never forget one wedding. All was well, day went fairly smooth, until the vows. The groom finishes his vows and they were actually pretty good, I personally thought they were cute and even teared up a little at one point. Out of nowhere, I hear "no". I look up from my camera to find the bride practically shaking with anger. She bursts out screaming "NO NO NO NO NO. I WROTE YOUR VOWS! READ THE ONES I WROTE!" I could feel my entire face turn red out of second hand embarrassment, looked at my friend like "did that really just happen?" Guy fumbles and starts reading off a paper, much sadder. The whole thing was about how wonderful she was. It felt like something out of a movie. We finish the wedding and about six months later, I get a phone call. The guy wanted us to do photos for his divorce party. Great party.
When my mom married my biological father she took care of everything and all he had to do was get his own tuxedo and book a car to the airport for the honeymoon (she won tickets on the radio but they needed to find their own way to the airport) my mom says that on the day of her wedding she was pulled aside by the wedding photographer, the caterer, and her own parents and asked if she was 100% sure if she wanted to do this. He had shown up to a huge catholic church wedding in the late 80s in a powder blue tuxedo covered in a god awful amount of ruffles, he showed up late, and when they cut the cake he tried smashing it in her face she dodged but got it completely smeared in her hair and side of her face. They spent their honeymoon with him digging a moat around their tent in some random campground because he never booked a car to the airport and they missed their flight (radio station refused to work with them since they had nearly 3 months to find a way to get there) my mom still groans about how she should have taken everyone's advice and just jumped in the photographer's car and ran away from the wedding. They lasted about 4 years since my mom wanted things to make things work for my sister and I. She says that she knew the marriage wasn't going to last/she shouldn't have married him when she was watching him complain in the rain while digging the moat and was blaming her for not just booking the car to the airport.
So if your wedding guests and caterers and photographer offer to help you runaway from the wedding via the photographer's car, just take it
I would say the smashing the cake is a harbinger of divorce, however I will say playfully smeering a little bit (small spoonfull) of whipped cream or frosting on the others face is OK if talked about before hand.
I've never been to a wedding. Is smashing a cake in each other's face really this common? I've only ever seen it on TV, and I can't seriously understand why anyone would ever want that.
i haven’t seen it in an actual wedding though most cakes i’ve seen are styrofoam ones
I've been to a lot of weddings, some couples smash cake in each other's faces and some don't.
It honestly seems fun. No wait it is fun
The only wedding stories I've known are my parents and my aunt's. My aunt didn't have the cake-face smash in her wedding. My parents only married in court. But most women in my family prefer not to have cake smashed into their faces, including me.
My husband and I did during our cake cutting. We both wanted to do it to each other it was fun and still makes me laugh 11 years later.
Bobbling the coordination of feeding the bite of cake to your partner and getting a dab of frosting on their nose is one thing, especially if you can both laugh about it. That's harmless and cute. Trying to flood their sinuses with frosting by smashing the cake into their face is aggressive, rude, and hints at an abusive or malicious nature. From bride or groom, it smacks of disrespect and a touch of sadism.
Unless that's what they are into lol
Assuming they haven't both agreed to it before hand of course. If it's something that they both want to do, then I view it more like a snowball fight with food, but if only one partner agreed to it, then yeah that comes off as super disrespectful and malicious.
_flood their sinuses with frosting_
@Logan Gowan Heck, we can't even breathe coffee, and that's at least a liquid! 😂
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!! You're like the only person here that reconizes that it's supposed to be a feeding and nit actually a smashing thing
My s.o. and I plan to do custom “bride and groom” gundam builds instead of having the bride and groom figurine on the cake.
Yeah, you guys are gonna do just fine.
Thats so fucking nerdy and i love it.
That is sooooo cute. Good idea, too! It's way more unique, which a wedding SHOULD be.
awwwwww y’all will do just fine if not better
please tell me you have that posted on reddit or something 😳
I am 100% against putting cake on the bride's face. It's so rude and ruins the day. Bride's spend so much money on make up hair and dress and your gonna ruin all that with cake. Washing the cake out is gonna ruin everything and then leave you sticky.
I don't know why people think it's supposed to be smashing it in someone's face. You're supposed to feed a small part to each other as a sign of solidarity or your willingness to be there for your partner, something to that effect. What movie or TV show turned it into "smashing the cake in each other's faces." I could understand a young child saying it because they are young and maybe don't quite understand what they are looking at. But adults should know better.
Nice that the one guy who was obviously miserable and not smiling managed to find somebody else to actually be happy with
I was so nervous walking down the isle and once I got to my husband it took everything I had to not open the flood gates, I just wanted to run down, grab him, have him hold me, and spend the day just us. Then when we were reciting our vows, which were a mix of traditional and our own, I was trying so hard to not bawl and just be a complete mess, I was shaking. He is truly my best friend but it was so odd saying such things in front of people. I tend to be more introverted but have a huge family, my dad did our officiating and my step dad walked me down the isle. We tend to have obscure music taste since my husband is a musician so we walked back down the isle to Volbeat and our first dance was Elvis. My husband created the whole playlist to time out with the events that were going on. It went by sooo fast. I honestly didn't eat much because I was so nervous talking to everyone and someone took my food before I was done then people were handing me drinks so I did get pretty buzzed, it hit me when we got in the limo to go to our hotel, my husband had to help me walk to our room, which got upgraded to a suit over looking the water and we got an extra day for free since they gave our original room away :)
That story at 10:20 is a perfect allegory for fandoms if all kinds. Be ot sports, cars, animals, TV series or whatever. Just because two people happen to like the same thing does not mean they like it for the same reason an may be totally incompatible. This seems to be the hardest thing to explain to people. Especially if they are not part of that same fandom in any way.
I know I like the Zelda series for the combat and story, while others like it for the world, or puzzles. Also, have you seen the debates the Fire Emblem community has about who was right in Three Houses?
@@saphiriathebluedragonknight375 and those same people were demanding for years that the series needed to grow up and introduce morally Grey conflicts in which there wasn’t an easy answer. Now all they want is easy answers to what they want to be true.
@@tjroybaker7964 Some of them want a perfect happy ending for everyone, but that is what Revelation is bashed for. Besides such an ending is near impossible.
When i kept hearing the cake smash bit i honestly got a bit worried cause my sisters wedding had a lot of that, but then i realized its more "cake smash without consent or reciprocation" and i was like, oh thank god, cause lemme tell you, my sister sure as hell expected it and enjoyed getting him back.
The one of respecting each other's hobbies and preferences rang very true to me. We walked down the aisle with our favorite music: he with metal music, I with Up's (Pixar film) Married Life piece among other small quirky details trademarks of our personalities throughout the night. Everyone complimented the wedding and we have been happily married for almost 2 years.
METAL MUSIC OMG BSTSKEJDMWBD 😭🤣😭
It would be really funny if you got a metal cover of the up song so that you can play both at the same time lol
That is so cute 🥺
Wow, 2 years...
Though I am not a photographer, I have an answer.
You know it won’t work when someone comes in and yells “OBJECTION!” and it becomes a court case.
My husband and I agreed not to do the cake smooshing thing, but then the time came to cut the cake, my husband realized we hadn't planned which tier to cut and he was just holding the knife going "Now what?" so I helped him cut the bottom and we fed each other a piece. I think that caught him off guard, but it was clean and he got a chuckle out of it.
I think it's also worth noting that I encouraged him to take creative control in what he had preferences about, even when my mom thought it was weird. He wears a cowboy hat and cowboy boots in everyday life because that's just what he likes, so when he wanted to wear the same for the wedding, I was all for it, because that was him. He also loves to hunt (there are 2 buck heads decorating our living room wall) so our cake toppers were buck and doe figurines. He loved it and I thought it was super cute and low-key, exactly what we wanted.
My sister's wedding they did a gender reveal with those blue/pink chalk canons. As they were trying to figure out how in the world they worked, my sister accidentally set it off all over her $1000 dress and in her face and on the groom's tux. It was everywhere, bright blue chalk literally all over them. Instead of freaking out, my sister laughed and her husband hugged her super excited about the news of having a boy. We got pictures and dabbed her off the best we could she was all smiles not a single complaint Even though I could tell she was upset, her husband and the whole family and the photographers kept it light, got amazing photos of the blue color mixed into her dress super nicely. I think it really showed they worked super well together and they are the happiest couple I know. How the couple reacts to mishaps on the wedding day definitely show how the marriage will go!
1:57 reminds me of Jim and Pam's wedding, where her veil got torn so he cut his tie in half so they'd match
Don't mind me, just getting 2nd hand information so that my future marriage doesn't fail 😎👌🏼✨✨
Same🙌🏻
i got dragged to a wedding by a friend to be their plus one. i didn't know the bride or groom, so i couldn't attest for how they normally act, but i was positive that they weren't in love. they didn't seem excited to be there, the ceremony was stilted and both their "i do"'s seemed forced, when "you may now kiss the bride" came up the bride turned her head and the groom kissed her on the cheek. at the reception they sat next to each other, but they completely ignored each other. the groom seemed much more interested in talking to his best man than the bride, and the bride seemed much more interested in talking to her maid of honor than the groom. i told my friend later that i didn't think they would last a year, my friend told me to be nice.
i found out six months later, through the same friend who had taken me that both the bride and groom were gay and had married each other to please their conservative parents. the best man was the groom's boyfriend and the maid of honor was the bride's girlfriend. everything made sense after that.
they got divorced after a year and a half and both married their actual partners, from what i hear the bride and groom are still very good friends, and my friend still jokes about it, so i imagine it's an in-joke between the four of them and their other mutual friends.
Oh my God, what a plot!
The doughnut wall is great! My two best friends, whom I introduced to each other, chose pies when they got married. Neither liked cake as much as fruit pies. 23 years and 3 kids ago :D
I don't get why so many people fantasize getting married and want it to be extremely nice. I mean, I get the idea its a very important moment, but i would rather just have my wedding in a backyard potlot style with everyone bringing an item of food
Because what most of the people who create such elaborate fantasies want is not to celebrate a new chapter in their life, but attention. To make themselves feel special.
Bridezillas and Groomzillas are the worst examples of this but from my experience, even newlyweds' parents can work under such logic.
*No one:*
*The text-to-voice:* Fee-yan-kay
The first minute I was already triggered by the bot's mispronunciation. Good thing I stopped after 2 minutes before hearing that.
Somewhere in the UK, the real James May is cringing
makyoop
The cake thing, definitely. The bride went through the expense of hair, make up and a dress. Unless they both agree to it, that cake had better stay on the fricken plate.
I never really thought about it but the cake cutting is so true. At one of my aunts (mom's cousin) first wedding, her husband (now ex) smeared the cake on her face and they were divorced in 4 months because it turns out he was actually a misogynistic prick that would literally lock her in the house all day every day from from 7am to 11pm in a foreign where she knew absolutely no one. To top it off she is the type to find it hard to ask others for help so her parents and sibling had to pry the truth out of her when she started becoming quiet since she's usually the life of the party always smiling and being cheerful. When she got married againa but over 2 years later the new guy was so respectful and even though he was a bit of a train wreck on the dance floor you could really tell they were both having so much fun. They just had their first baby this year and I swear I've never seen her so happy
In my opinion, the bigger the wedding, the bigger the chance of them to divorce. Love is not measured in material things.
My wedding idea. My lady and i dress as our ffxiv characters, as ffxiv is how we met.
Lol I’m literally in the middle of making a wedding cake topper of my Fiancé and I’s WoW characters :)
@@Wildheartjaypaw my problem is, im a dark knight main, so getting my sword is the money sink
See, that's an idea I'd LOVE to go for myself. Not exactly FF, but something more cosplay-ish. Like, I like traditonal wedding gowns, but it'd be such a small wedding, and it'd be more fun to make it... Personal?
@@MissOnana the more personal means the more unique, the more unique means the more special
@@KissoneKinoma Exactly. And if it's a celebration of your union it SHOULD be special and unique.
This is probably the first time I hear about the cake smash since we rarely do those in my country. But considering how happy my wife was with her makeup and the cost of said makeup, I wouldn't even dream of doing such a thing. Imagine smearing cake over something that took an entire morning to apply.
Oh and a giant donut wall sounds fucking awesome.
I’ve never heard of a giant donut wall. I’m writing that down for a potential idea.
Okay, so apparently my husband and I were the exception to the cake cutting/smashing rule. For the record, *I* was the smasher. He was a gentleman. We remained married until his death.
So sorry for your loss I hope u had a great marriage with your husband
I'm watching this video, and I keep getting ads for finding out a cheating so and divorce attorneys.
I'm asexual and have never been in a romantic or sexual relationship.
Friend's wedding - late start at the church so photos had to be delayed while another couple of weddings took place. Went back to reception hall then the bridal party went back for photos at the church. We stayed and noticed some woman standing around looking awkward so we started to chat to her. Turns out she was a hairdresser hired by the bride to cut her (longish) hair short after the ceremony. OK, thats done some places but turns out she had not told the groom that she intended to do that.
Partner's brother, second marriage, very small group 10-12 people. No chance of cake smashing as the bride refused to allow the cake to be cut at the reception. Ended up about a month later getting a piece each that was about the size of a free sample from the bakery.
Weekend break in Madrid - saw a bride and groom being photographed in the grounds of the Royal Palace (or whatever it is called). Thought that was really nice place for it. Looked back a couple of minutes later and saw them and the photographer running away pursued by the security guards! Should have permission maybe?!
4:35 hold the hell up, I HAVE to know what park this is
Me too.
I always had the worst vibes from yt wedding videos in which people smeared cake in each others' face. now I know why.
I divorced my family after they caked my car. It's been 4 years. I'm a poor guy and they ruined my used 20k car.
Caking a car?? That's just ridiculous and unnecessary
@@TheLibertyRyan they ruined the clear coat all over my freshly cleaned brand new to me ,first nice car I'd ever bought with my first ever salaried promotion pay check.
Yikes! Sorry to hear about that 😟 glad you cut them off though if they're not respectful of you. Hope you and your SO are still doing well
@@Katie-vg3jn we just celebrated 7 years last October. Thank you.
I don't understand. How can cake ruin a clear coat? Surely it just got it dirty? But surely the clear coat underneath the mess was still fine, wasn't it?
I feel if i ever get cake in my face at my wedding, i want it to just be on the nose. like I'll scoop a bit of icing with my finger and just boop it on his nose. Receiving or giving here is fine, and it's mild and ik he wouldn't be bothered by it. id never smash cake in his face, nor would i want that. I wouldn't be mad but id prob start having a panic attack if i didn't know if he was going to do it prior
Is the cake smashing an American thing? I have NEVER heard of that
This reminds me that when I was 7 I definitely ruined a cake cutting. My Dad was getting married ( Divorced parents ) and when they cut the cake , I was hungry and so was my sister because we ran at them screaming " I WANT SOME " tbf I was 8 and my sister was 7. They're still married but I mean I did get the cake so that's all that really matters.
500k wedding? That's a red flag...
I love how I looked up "polish meat butcher" and Google completed "with transition lenses" for me😂 how many others looked this up??
Okayyy now I have to Google it too😂
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I just want to say, about cake smashing, my husband SLAMMED the cake in my face, and I couldn’t stop laughing. He thought I was going to do the same, which I was 😂 but that’s just us! I wasn’t offended or hurt or anything. It was all in fun and our wedding was a blast.
I'm happy for you :)
That’s awesome if it’s something that you both knew that the other would find funny/endearing/cute. When you can see that one of the couple is upset or mad or embarrassed it’s SO awkward.
At any rate, congrats to you and your husband.
@@TheDutchessOfCornville thank you! And yes I agree! It’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life and it’s especially horrible if it’s your spouse that caused the anger!
Non consensually getting hit in the face leads to divorce lol, I honestly can't wait for my future husband to hit me in the face with cake because I would do it right back and laugh then eat the cake off my face. I would only smash cake in their face if they told me before hand that they wanted to get hit with cake, have respect for your partner
Yes! Thank you! Cake smashing is not everyone’s cup of tea and you’re an amazing person for making sure your partner wouldn’t get their feelings hurt. It’s unbelievable how hard it is for some “pranksters” to understand basic respect.
I always hate it and it makes me die inside when I see good food and especially cake being wasted.
14:15 tale about brides maid that keeps talking about marriage, breaks up with boyfriend and is getting married a year later with someone else. Poster concludes she just wanted to marry and guy was a placeholder for her fantasy.
That’s not necessarily the case. I know quite a few couples that had been together for typically around 7 - 8 years. One wanting to get married for a long time, the other not willing/ready to pull the trigger. Then they split up. The one wanting to get married was typically the first one to find a new partner and marriage usually followed 1 to 2 years later. Just people in a different place in their lives that want to commit and start a family.
And no, I’m not talking about myself.
I was ok with the idea of cake smashing and I know my husband wanted to do it but behind a clenched teeth smile I reminded my husband that his tux and my dress were rented and not to mess them up. He didn't and we have been married 11 years and counting.
Maybe I'm just over analyzing, but I think the cake thing is a combination of communication and respecting your partner.
If you just act without asking your partner beforehand on a matter that affects the both of you, it shows a lack of communication or an inability to listen. this is a really big problem in a relationship, especially a marriage, just because of how many decisions have to be made by both Partners.
when it comes to Smashing it in their face even after they've said they don't want to, it shows an inability to respect their boundaries. If you aren't willing to compromise on something because your partner isn't comfortable or intentionally humilate them in a way you both haven't agreed on, thats a HUGE red flag of things to come.
sometimes Partners disagree, and that's understandable, it's what you do after that disagreement that indicates whether your relationship will last or not.
Indeed! And if I might add: If your partner is unwilling to communicate with you/ respect your wishes over something relatively small in the grand scheme of things, how can you trust them with bigger stuff?
My dad smooshed cake in my stepmom's face even after she told him not to, but she just laughed and they were made for each other :)
Been happily married 11 years we were so happy even when we did the cake smash. Though, we very much agreed to it first. Nothing like getting frosting in your ear.
Until cake do us part.
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Now about the face-cake thing... I didn't do it at my wedding reception, but I licked some of the icing off the cake and held it in my mouth.
She came in for a kiss after getting her slice and I leaned in for it, only to lick her cheek with the tip of my frosted tongue. 🤣
That would have made me laugh if my husband had done it.
Years ago I went to a wedding of a male co-worker. His bride was a girly-girl and always had perfect hair and make-up. She had told him that there would be NO cake smashing period. She was having her hair and makeup done by a professional. He was fine with that because he didn't like that custom. He wanted a low-key wedding because he is a low-key guy but she wanted the whole nine yards. At the reception he nicely gave her a bite of cake and she just smashed/smeared the cake up his nose and down the side of his face.. She was laughing hysterically thinking that she was so cute. He grabbed a huge handful of cake and frosting and let her have it. It was in her hair, eye, face and a big blob of frosting landed down her cleavage. She did not expect retaliation at all since she always got her way with him. He was furious. She whimpered "You ruined my wedding" as he stomped off. I'd never seen him like that. She and the bridesmaids sort of managed to repair her makeup but her intricate hair style was toast. The rest of the night the photographer could only take pictures from her right side because her left side was a mess. They didn't speak the rest of the night. The evening was just terribly awkward afterward. And no, the marriage didn't last long.
“And she hates vests”
Weird thing to hate but okay
I would love to hear what some of the goofiest/awful songs played at weddings are. My stepdad's brother married a girl and their wedding song was the Barney "I love you, you love me" song. Dear God...
Um why??? Details please!
@@eggnogalcoholic I, too, ask why...I have absolutely no idea why they chose that god awful song, but it was super cringey. They also sang it to each other as it played. I was in utter disbelief.
I would have burned the place to the ground...
It might be some kind of inside joke between the couple.
I love you,
You love me,
This isn't 1993! Come on....
One thing I love about my partner is knowing 100% we wouldn't put cake in each other's face without having to say anything
that last one- Me and my boyfriend (we're gay) want to get married and planned to have dogs involved 100%. We're both dog freaks and are probably going to do this space/galactic or fantasy theme with dogs as the main topic
Most of my family does not like that idea, saying it should stay traditional and this and that. I started doubting because i've always been taught to please my family. Boyfriend changed my mind. Once we marry, it's going to be dogs dogs dogs, it's about us tht day
Okay but this sounds like a perfect wedding! As a fellow gay dude, my wedding already isn’t going to be traditional so I would reallyy want to make it fun and unconventional so hell yeah! Get space dogs!
This is The Best Wedding Theme Ever.
This sounds absolutely beautiful. Also, if both of you are ok with it, you could get some frosting from your cake and one of you could smear it on the other's lips and then you could kiss and both have frosting on your lips. That is what I hope I get to do if I ever get married
this is such a beautiful and absolutely adorable idea
I accidentally dropped a piece of cake on my wife’s bosom(for lack of a better word) and she took it absolutely well. The photographer caught both of our genuine reactions as she then shoved cake in my face. We laughed and so did everyone else. My wife made the weeding and my grooms cakes. She’s a pastry chef. If there is one thing that I learned is that YOU CAN HAVE TWO DIFFERENT CAKES. The theme of our wedding was music and we agreed on everything. The pictures look like a chaotic mixture of an episode of heehaw and a Metallica concert. My grooms cake was a life size replica of my first electric guitar and was lemon.(my favorite) Her cake was a multi-tiered vanilla cake with pink and black fondant and little pink and black music notes cut out. Thinking back on it makes me smile. We’re still happily married going on 7 years. If I learned anything about the cake thing is that the wedding cake is for the bride. The day is for the bride so let her have it. If you insist on having a different cake, then have your own cake. It may end up more expensive in the long run, but it isn’t worth ruining the one day your bride-to-be gets to act, look, and feel like a princess. If the day goes mostly how she visions it, then she’ll look back on it with fondness and love. If you ruin it, she’ll hold a grudge forever. She may stay mad at you without realizing why she’s even mad later on down the road, but it will always lead back to that day.
Ok, but could you imagine how kickass that cowboy/princess wedding could be if they actually worked together? They could start with entirely different aesthetics but after the ceremony, they could change into outfits that reflect aspects of both of their interests - incorporating knight-esque elements to the cowboy costume (like a helmet plume on a cowboy hat or a gun with a large bayonet to act as a sword) and some more western motifs to the dress (boots, big fancy hat, shorter dress with pearl accents to match his guns etc)? Sucks that they were so dead-set on living in whole separate worlds that they didn’t even consider entertaining one another’s vision.
My wedding photographer went to prison for diddling little boys... Only have the profs, rest of shots went into evidence...
I like watching say yes to the dress and seeing which marriages will last and which one’s don’t. When the husband doesn’t care what the bride wants or wants her too wear something sexy so he can show her off to his friends like a trophy I just feel so bad for the brides😬
My brother and his wife
Even the guy who married them had doubts.
I remember this story about a girl (a grasshopper actually, but not the point) who is getting married, and her grandmother tells her if she isn’t sure if her fiancé is being truthful, to “accidentally” spill water on him and see how he reacts. She does this and he reacts angrily so the girl dumps him. This happened at least two more times with different people, with the final person forgiving her and helping to clean it up.
*Moral of the story: Like the person at **7:31** says, never marry someone until you’ve seen how they react when something goes wrong*
Imagine how expensive the make-up and clothes are. You better be sure your partner consents to having cake smeared all over before doing it
We do not smashed cake in France, because we know it is a lot of work, and we do not like to waste food. So many people die of hunger. Smashed food, or cake not worth it, and you can not eat it after that. Some people do it, but it was with expired cream cake, most of it for challenge or whatever, and even "fake cake" make with shaving cream. (still a waste for me, but at least it is not food.)
9:30 As a polish individual I can say that a lot of people don't smile on their reception/ceremony in the pictures but damn that groom was completely misareble
At my parents wedding they just booped a little icing on each other's noses. 23 years and one vow renewal later they're still going strong!
Oh man, I shouldn't have known we weren't going to last when he left me to exit the church on my own and was angry with me for becoming ill during the reception.
my sister and i photographed both of our cousins weddings and our nightmare uncle has managed to screw up both weddings that lead to huge family rows. first off his sons wedding- the bride and my cousin had agreed to feed each other the cake respectfully as the bride was recently recovering from a mouth injury from a horse riding accident (slipped from a saddle and knocked a tooth out and she'd had it crowned) my uncle dived into the organised photograph of the cake sharing and took his sons arm and made him smash the cake into her mouth. the camera flash goes off and then we see the blood flowing- down their hands and down her dress that was her grandmothers- dumb ass uncle had knocked the crowned tooth clean out of her mouth and she was rushed into emergency dental surgery because they thought she'd severed a nerve because she couldnt move her mouth,
second wedding- his daughters- my sister and i are photographing it too and just knew the uncle was planning something, he struck during toast to the bride and groom, no speeches were planned but he just had to make one and called the groom my cousins ex's name 3 times during the speech-on purpose because he found it hilarious. my camera was on burst mode and i got a frame by frame flick book worthy scene of his ex wife (mother of the bride/my aunt) stand from her seat and drag him by the bow tie from the top table and literally throw him out of the fire exit with a face like thunder.
the fact that both couples are still going strong is wonderful and the fact that my uncle is on his 4th divorce-ZERO SHOCKS!
The way the voice thing said fiancée reminded me of the DaVinci meme and I had to rewind several times because I kept laughing and wouldn't hear the rest of the story 🤣
I know I'm late to the party, still:
18:31 my mom and dad(stepfather, but more of a father than my biological one) had Ameno by Era playing instead of the wedding march(spelling?). They were together until he died 5 years later. We knew it was coming long before she married him. I'm pretty sure that the fact she was willing to sit during the priest's speech thing was a green flag. My five year old self calling him 'Dad' almost two years before they were even together was probably another green flag but I don't know.
Cake smashing. My wedding was in a church and the reception afterwards was done in the church's Family Life Center. Even if either me or my wife would have thought to do this, we still wouldn't have done it. Because that just leaves a mess and more that has to be cleaned up later. Not only would it have shown some level of disrespect to your now spouse but it would have also shown some level of disrespect towards the church.
I can't help but wonder if most of these cake smashing events occur at venues not church grounds related.
I used to be gung-ho about the idea of marriage with one of my loves. After having some breakups and having been cheated on, I’m honestly terrified of that kind of commitment. I don’t even date right now, I have a mix of anxiety about dealing with it after some bad dates and then the whole commitment issue. I hate to be cornered on such a thing and to hurt a partner over it. Gah it’s so much simpler being single.
Yikes, this reminds me of my friends wedding where at the reception the groom was, uh, acting odd, maybe he was a little drunk, I'm not sure. He was dancing with other women and everything and my friend must have caught me looking at him confused because she muttered in my ear "Please try and keep an open mind" and continued on as if nothing happened. To this day I'm still not 100% sure if I heard her correctly, she never clarified what she meant and I'm not sure if I should ask. The wedding was in August so it hasn't been a year yet but so far they seem ok. I hope.
They may have mutually agreed upon boundaries for their relationship that are different from what you expect. It's their business unless they decide to open up to you about it.
21.10 - whelp. That described my wedding. Yep - ended in divorce lol
I was just thinking . Next vid you should do . School nurses of reddit why treat everything with ice and a paper towel . Just a suggestion. Anyway great vid 😁
I told my husband 100% no to the cake. Not at all. Dumbass booped my nose with icing, and I smeared it down his cheek. 8 years, and then divorced. My wife and I both understand this is a no with each other.
Jesus, y'all have no God damn chill
When one half of the couple does not wanting the cake in face thing at the wedding, and the other half wants to do it. Then I think a good compromise is to do the cake face smush before the wedding to get the impulse out, or just smear a bit of frosting on their partner’s nose.
Yoooo, gotta give it up to the minister with a 100% divorce rate and him knowing that he is. 😂😂😂😂
With the cake, I plan on doing it twice. First one the nice way. The second one. A playful little smudge for the laugh that doesn’t devolve into a mini food fight.
Can someone explain the cake smearing concept to me. It seems to mostly be a thing in the US.
It seems like some unsuccessful attempt to be original, spontaneous and a little ‘crazy’. While in fact it’s rather trite, planned and taken directly from what you’ve seen others do.
Wait people actually smash cake on their spouse's face? Why? Of course doing that without consent is going to signify the relationship breaking up
13:42 call me old-fashioned, but I find it tacky when someone else than the bride wears white. Even when the bride herself doesn't wear white.
Literally unless it is a small child, it’s not a good idea to wear white to a wedding and not as the bride
Just gonna say that the one. That sticks out is the guy who’s fiancé says he “won’t be doing any of that anymore” and then getting annulled cus he could tell that she was just going to steal his joy was so poignantly sad.
If you’re in a relationship and they cannot support your interest or hobbies, it will never work out. They don’t need to have the same level of interest, but they should at the very least be interested in your happiness outside of them and you’re role as not just a spouse but an individual.
"...she told me the bride has no ideas, she obeys the groom, and the groom obeys mom."
"Okay, can I please speak to your husband then, or one of his parents if they're still around?"
A wild west saloon photo shoot would have been badass
0:20 to be fair he probably already knew that his marriage was going to fail, sooooo...
I’d totally go to a half gunslinger half beautiful medieval wedding. I’m definitely watching this to see what to look out for and not do when wedding planning. I don’t know if I’d be brave enough to do a themed wedding unless my husband was totally excited about it. But I’d be very open to a Star Wars or GOT or Harry Potter wedding. I mean come on. There are so many cool possibilities for a Star Wars themed wedding that could still look good and be cool.
I HATE the cake smash. If I’ve spent hundreds on hair and makeup and god knows how much on a dress, I will murder ANYONE who gets cake on me.
I’m extremely easy to please. My ONLY demand is that there be no cake smashing at the reception.
How about a little frosting on the cheek just below the eye? Haha
When you have to PHOTOSHOP A SMILE on someone at their WEDDING!