I definitely think it’s dangerous to think “a girlfriend will solve all my issues” but I also think you can get stuck in the “I need to be perfectly ready for a girlfriend before I get one” lane forever. I agree that you should work on yourself-for yourself-as a baseline to everything, and the rest will slowly fall into place.
On the 2nd train currently, well I used to. But having talked to a friend, and I think she was right, and if I do that, I'll end up dying alone 😂 Kinda just focusing on myself, school, and my work. If I meet someone, then I meet someone. If I don't? That's fine as well
Guys i think he just means you should become the person you truly want to be, be your best self, before getting a girlfriend. Essentially how could you love someone else, if you don't even love yourself?
Lately ive realised that i dont wish for that kind of relasionship( not yet atleast). I feel like its due to me thinking that i lack something. I feel that i have to meet some kind of standard. I want to receive love and such, but i dont believe im able to give any in return as i am right now. I also believe that a good relationship requires a lot of time which i dont have, or that i actually have enough but cant manage it. I feel that i have to reach a point where i really know myself and where i can manage myself, my time, and prioritise certain stuff. Great videos btw, love watching them!
I feel like before you get into a relationship, you gotta know yourself well enough to the point where you dont stop doing things you love for the sake of your significant other. You are you and nobody else can take your place in this world. If your gf/bf doesnt like you because of the way you dress, the way you actor talk or the things you like, then its just not gonna work out
Getting a girlfriend won't solve your problems. If you use her just to fill a void, she will become your life, and once she leaves you are just gonna be empty again.
I have a very lengthy reason for wanting a partner (of any gender) but here's a summary: Friendships eventually end, and are very unstable. A relationship can fail, but so much commitment is put into it that it's capable of lasting forever. A soulmate to me is someone who will always be there for you, no matter how lonely and busy life gets. I've never had a friend that could do that to me, but a good partner most likely will.
all relationships eventually end. this mindset is dangerous because it puts impossible pressure on a future partner to be your everything, all the time, and noone is really capable of that. the key is the healthy balance of good friends AND a good relationship.
Learning to be happy alone first will make life way better. I felt the same, like I had to do more things just to get someone I love. Improving yourself is good, just don't think you have to get new hobbies just to attract someone, I did that and failed. love your videos
YEAH you are right :D I probably should have said learning to love yourself first is ultimately the best thing you can do but I just forgot. Thank you for the kinds words
before i had my first partner i think i was very closed off from people and most of all closed off from myself, once i had someone who truly loved me i began to open up to myself more and it helped me realise things about myself that i couldn't have otherwise figured out (i wasnt ace, i enjoyed crossdressing, etc) and it made me a much happier and more chill person that i otherwise couldn't have been. I know many people who hop between relationships to hide from themselves as you say though, so its interesting to hear. Much love and great video!
i wasted my teen years because of wanting to be in a relationship. and it makes me livid that i didn't focus more on improving my art. writing and other skills i wanted to improve and inherit. anyone who is reading this who might still be a teen. please. never try to peak at high school. and focus on your life goals and what you wanna do with your life. and cherish your youth cuz adulthood is overrated. cherish your youth before its too late
As an adult in a loving relationship, the amount of focus people put on relationships, esp for like highschool, is just wild. Honestly, you shouldnt expect any highschool relationship to work, its just a helpful experience and a chance for you to learn, while having that *slim* chance it does, but even then dont get your hopes up. There are so many big lifechanging questions that just havent been answered yet, and you cant plan living with someone if you havent made yourself yet. College, work, career paths, financial state, etc are all things you havent even gotten to, and its not a coincidence that so many relationships fail because of these adult issues, theyre some of the hardest parts of loving someone and once the carpet rolls out, practically every highschooler realizes theyre not ready for that kind of commitment.
literally this. i’ve talked before about how i got w one of my friends, and i just wasn’t ready for it. but im finally feeling happy simply… being myself. if you ever get into a relationship, make sure you’re happy with YOURSELF before anything !!!
Very good train of thought. But the thing with having a partner is not when, but who. If a person fits so well to you as a person, you shouldn't lose your chance, just bc you can't do adventurous things with here yet. A relationship that is only built on that fuzzy feeling is bound to be a desaster. A relationship is a choice, and it better be a real commitment. That's why most people take time before starting a relationship. She should choose you, even if you're not at your final goals yet, life is a process. Also yes you can easily lose yourself in a relationship, but also be aware that the more you love someone and the more you spent time with someone in a romantic relationship, the more they can potentially hurt you. That's why you should indeed choose wisely, that's what many people are unaware of. Have boundaries, be respectful (bc you hurt each other more easily), be kind, communicate and be honest to yourself and your partner. That's why choosing wisely is always important!! I hope this helps ^-^
I don't know how old you are. But take it from a guy in his 30s. A lot of people, no matter their age, ruin their lives over relationships. Be it jumping into any one they can obtain, obsessing over not having one, about theirs not being as perfect as others, or completely losing themselves to their other. If you live a good life & are genuinely fulfilled, you will attract people of all sorts to you. Then you use the judgement you've honed with life experience to decide if they're worth including into that fulfilling life of yours. You will make bad decisions with people in life. We all do. Learn from them. Nearly everyone needs people in their life. But that doesn't inherently mean a partner. You may find someone who fits within your values to live with. Or you may not. The most important thing is fulfilment. Living a life that you yourself value. & make sure that those values really are yours, & not the values society has told you you must have.
Always grateful for your videos, thank you so much for sharing your experiences- it really helps me gain new perspectives and feel less alone in what I experience.❤
Really understandable point. I myself am not looking for one actively just being myself and if I do happen to meet someone so be it :) Nice video 🔥🔥 and I hope your toe is doing ok xd
Self love comes first. An stable job with your OWN property are the big benefits of not bringing girlfriend/boyfriend to your parents house [if you still live with them for example] I always repeat to myself "Hey... Get an job, get your own place and THEN think about someone who would make an company in lonely evenings". Life lead me to an friends house and realise, that i was missing out just an simple human touch n "company" overall. I, uhh, ain't ready to be silly n carry lockpad around my neck 24/7, so being like an freebird is somewhat "responsible-free" lifestyle what you can swap or change at anytime of your life without hurting other persons heart or mess up their mindset.
Been thinking about this a lot man it’s pretty amazing how small vids like this come into my recommendations. Personally for me if the opportunity arises I definitely want to jump on it as long as I am mentally well. Don’t pass it up if you get the chance to talk to someone that you think looks cute btw 🙂↔️. I fumbled at least 9-10 times because of my low self esteem. So even if you think you are not mentally good enough. At the least befriend a person you like if you meet them. Absolutely love the vid btw such a chill vibe.
i really had to learn this the hard way. i jumped right into the first relationship i got the opportunity to as an adult without taking into account whether or not this was the appropriate time to be doing that. it wasn’t. i had no sense of school/work/relationship/hobby balance. on top of that, i wasn’t self aware enough to realize just how much money should be put into a relationship. i didn’t want to spend ANYTHING, i barely spent money on myself to begin with. i had to pick one thing to cut out to make room and that was my hobbies. bad idea. do not devote all of your free time to your so. it’s so mentally draining when you can’t rest and recharge by yourself
this video is making me think really hard, i have recently been not caring about myself more and more, and instead of caring about myself ive been caring about my girlfriend, and it is really mentally draining me, and i feel like im more drained then i was when I was alone. i really dont know what to do lol i haven't even been able to upload because of how depressed ive been getting. do you have any tips to possibly end a relationship without sounding like a jerk? sorry if thats a lot to ask.
☆*exists in polyamorous*☆ ☆One of my lovers needs me. He’s very..yk.. but I disappeared from the community and I don’t know if he’s ok, but.. I hav lovers, and I have crushes a lot, but no one ever likes me back unless were far away. Me and Michy LOVE each other. Me and Aile LOVE each other. No money needed, just communicating. Calls on disc, before I got caught. Right now, I’m in pain, I’m sad, but.. I’m alone, and it’s nice.☆
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I definitely think it’s dangerous to think “a girlfriend will solve all my issues” but I also think you can get stuck in the “I need to be perfectly ready for a girlfriend before I get one” lane forever. I agree that you should work on yourself-for yourself-as a baseline to everything, and the rest will slowly fall into place.
Yeah thats def a better way to put it!
On the 2nd train currently, well I used to. But having talked to a friend, and I think she was right, and if I do that, I'll end up dying alone 😂
Kinda just focusing on myself, school, and my work. If I meet someone, then I meet someone. If I don't? That's fine as well
True Love isn't being with someone you love, but being someone you love.
Mmmmm you are right
I can't understand it
love yourself and love the other person for who they are I guess
Guys i think he just means you should become the person you truly want to be, be your best self, before getting a girlfriend. Essentially how could you love someone else, if you don't even love yourself?
So a narcissist?
Lately ive realised that i dont wish for that kind of relasionship( not yet atleast). I feel like its due to me thinking that i lack something. I feel that i have to meet some kind of standard. I want to receive love and such, but i dont believe im able to give any in return as i am right now. I also believe that a good relationship requires a lot of time which i dont have, or that i actually have enough but cant manage it. I feel that i have to reach a point where i really know myself and where i can manage myself, my time, and prioritise certain stuff. Great videos btw, love watching them!
I feel like before you get into a relationship, you gotta know yourself well enough to the point where you dont stop doing things you love for the sake of your significant other. You are you and nobody else can take your place in this world. If your gf/bf doesnt like you because of the way you dress, the way you actor talk or the things you like, then its just not gonna work out
That makes sense!
3:01 I love the added touch of you playing the song in the background too. Love the video, mate!!
Ayyye thank you I appreciate it! Much love
all i need is fish
So true king or queen
Getting a girlfriend won't solve your problems. If you use her just to fill a void, she will become your life, and once she leaves you are just gonna be empty again.
yeah!
I have a very lengthy reason for wanting a partner (of any gender) but here's a summary:
Friendships eventually end, and are very unstable. A relationship can fail, but so much commitment is put into it that it's capable of lasting forever. A soulmate to me is someone who will always be there for you, no matter how lonely and busy life gets. I've never had a friend that could do that to me, but a good partner most likely will.
That’s pretty fair
all relationships eventually end. this mindset is dangerous because it puts impossible pressure on a future partner to be your everything, all the time, and noone is really capable of that. the key is the healthy balance of good friends AND a good relationship.
Learning to be happy alone first will make life way better. I felt the same, like I had to do more things just to get someone I love. Improving yourself is good, just don't think you have to get new hobbies just to attract someone, I did that and failed. love your videos
YEAH you are right :D I probably should have said learning to love yourself first is ultimately the best thing you can do but I just forgot. Thank you for the kinds words
before i had my first partner i think i was very closed off from people and most of all closed off from myself, once i had someone who truly loved me i began to open up to myself more and it helped me realise things about myself that i couldn't have otherwise figured out (i wasnt ace, i enjoyed crossdressing, etc) and it made me a much happier and more chill person that i otherwise couldn't have been. I know many people who hop between relationships to hide from themselves as you say though, so its interesting to hear. Much love and great video!
hey no problem! thank you for listening/watching!! Thats a pretty cool story tho im glad you found someone!
I've never even thought about relationships in that kind of way, thank you for sharing this!
Im glad I can Help
i wasted my teen years because of wanting to be in a relationship. and it makes me livid that i didn't focus more on improving my art. writing and other skills i wanted to improve and inherit. anyone who is reading this who might still be a teen. please. never try to peak at high school. and focus on your life goals and what you wanna do with your life. and cherish your youth cuz adulthood is overrated. cherish your youth before its too late
That’s facts
As an adult in a loving relationship, the amount of focus people put on relationships, esp for like highschool, is just wild.
Honestly, you shouldnt expect any highschool relationship to work, its just a helpful experience and a chance for you to learn, while having that *slim* chance it does, but even then dont get your hopes up. There are so many big lifechanging questions that just havent been answered yet, and you cant plan living with someone if you havent made yourself yet. College, work, career paths, financial state, etc are all things you havent even gotten to, and its not a coincidence that so many relationships fail because of these adult issues, theyre some of the hardest parts of loving someone and once the carpet rolls out, practically every highschooler realizes theyre not ready for that kind of commitment.
Yeah I do agree!
literally this. i’ve talked before about how i got w one of my friends, and i just wasn’t ready for it. but im finally feeling happy simply… being myself. if you ever get into a relationship, make sure you’re happy with YOURSELF before anything !!!
YES Self love and appreciation is the best before a relationship!!
I don't need a girlfriend, I need an RTX4090 to host my own AI model. /j/s
Hey bro saw your about relationships and have been watching every video since. You are awesome keep making content bro
Appreciate that bro! Glad you are enjoying it
Everything true and real. Good vid 👍
Thank you for listening to me rant!
Very good train of thought.
But the thing with having a partner is not when, but who.
If a person fits so well to you as a person, you shouldn't lose your chance, just bc you can't do adventurous things with here yet.
A relationship that is only built on that fuzzy feeling is bound to be a desaster.
A relationship is a choice, and it better be a real commitment. That's why most people take time before starting a relationship.
She should choose you, even if you're not at your final goals yet, life is a process.
Also yes you can easily lose yourself in a relationship, but also be aware that the more you love someone and the more you spent time with someone in a romantic relationship, the more they can potentially hurt you.
That's why you should indeed choose wisely, that's what many people are unaware of.
Have boundaries, be respectful (bc you hurt each other more easily), be kind, communicate and be honest to yourself and your partner.
That's why choosing wisely is always important!!
I hope this helps ^-^
Yeah it helps thanks for the kind words and advice much love !!
I don't know how old you are. But take it from a guy in his 30s.
A lot of people, no matter their age, ruin their lives over relationships.
Be it jumping into any one they can obtain, obsessing over not having one, about theirs not being as perfect as others, or completely losing themselves to their other.
If you live a good life & are genuinely fulfilled, you will attract people of all sorts to you. Then you use the judgement you've honed with life experience to decide if they're worth including into that fulfilling life of yours.
You will make bad decisions with people in life. We all do. Learn from them.
Nearly everyone needs people in their life. But that doesn't inherently mean a partner.
You may find someone who fits within your values to live with. Or you may not. The most important thing is fulfilment.
Living a life that you yourself value. & make sure that those values really are yours, & not the values society has told you you must have.
Yeah that hundred percent makes sense! I’m in my early 20’s. Thank you for watching and giving advice
commenting bc your content is so good it needs more views
thank you! :D
While you are small: what industry were you laid off from?
Just a game store so retail!
Always grateful for your videos, thank you so much for sharing your experiences- it really helps me gain new perspectives and feel less alone in what I experience.❤
Hey no worries! Thank you for watching and being kind :D
I dont need a gf, i need a bf
(Fr tho great stuff here :3)
Thanks for watching :D
never really cared about dating but whenever i feel like i made a new friend i feel like we could start dating
Mmmm I think I can kind of get thatb
Really understandable point. I myself am not looking for one actively just being myself and if I do happen to meet someone so be it :) Nice video 🔥🔥 and I hope your toe is doing ok xd
THANK YOU! Im getting my xrays done today SO IM HOPING ITS NOT BAD. But seriously you are right. if you find someone you find someone!!
Self love comes first. An stable job with your OWN property are the big benefits of not bringing girlfriend/boyfriend to your parents house [if you still live with them for example]
I always repeat to myself "Hey... Get an job, get your own place and THEN think about someone who would make an company in lonely evenings".
Life lead me to an friends house and realise, that i was missing out just an simple human touch n "company" overall.
I, uhh, ain't ready to be silly n carry lockpad around my neck 24/7, so being like an freebird is somewhat "responsible-free" lifestyle what you can swap or change at anytime of your life without hurting other persons heart or mess up their mindset.
yeah self love is important
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I love your content, but I have a question, do you have a script while making the video?
No most of the time it’s just off my head or like I make slight bullet points so I remember the subject
Been thinking about this a lot man it’s pretty amazing how small vids like this come into my recommendations. Personally for me if the opportunity arises I definitely want to jump on it as long as I am mentally well. Don’t pass it up if you get the chance to talk to someone that you think looks cute btw 🙂↔️. I fumbled at least 9-10 times because of my low self esteem. So even if you think you are not mentally good enough. At the least befriend a person you like if you meet them. Absolutely love the vid btw such a chill vibe.
Yeah you are right about that :DD Im glad you are enjoying the videos as well! preesh
i really had to learn this the hard way. i jumped right into the first relationship i got the opportunity to as an adult without taking into account whether or not this was the appropriate time to be doing that. it wasn’t. i had no sense of school/work/relationship/hobby balance. on top of that, i wasn’t self aware enough to realize just how much money should be put into a relationship. i didn’t want to spend ANYTHING, i barely spent money on myself to begin with. i had to pick one thing to cut out to make room and that was my hobbies. bad idea. do not devote all of your free time to your so. it’s so mentally draining when you can’t rest and recharge by yourself
Yeah I agree!
Nah I need a boyfriend, being gay is hard and lonely
That’s fair 😭. Thanks for watch :D
hey you're right! thank you for this it rly helped me out :)
WOOHOO I HELPED! Hope it works out for you soon
I just wanna not be lonely mane 🥹
That’s fair!! Everyone is different
I have a crush on my math teacher but he said I will have to get straight A's for it to work out for us.
what 😭
@@SnowyApril what do you mean? could u help maybe like give advice. I think ur older than me
this video is making me think really hard, i have recently been not caring about myself more and more, and instead of caring about myself ive been caring about my girlfriend, and it is really mentally draining me, and i feel like im more drained then i was when I was alone. i really dont know what to do lol i haven't even been able to upload because of how depressed ive been getting. do you have any tips to possibly end a relationship without sounding like a jerk? sorry if thats a lot to ask.
I can’t really give any advice but just speak from the heart man.
Thank you bro
You are welcome. Thank you for watchin :D
but what if she hugs me ]]:
you do you gang :D
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toaster?
the finest one to go along side my bath
☆*exists in polyamorous*☆
☆One of my lovers needs me. He’s very..yk.. but I disappeared from the community and I don’t know if he’s ok, but.. I hav lovers, and I have crushes a lot, but no one ever likes me back unless were far away. Me and Michy LOVE each other. Me and Aile LOVE each other. No money needed, just communicating. Calls on disc, before I got caught. Right now, I’m in pain, I’m sad, but.. I’m alone, and it’s nice.☆
hopefully life gets easier!
@@SnowyApril ☆it will. My online dad told me it will.☆
Poly relationships are worse than being single. Stay out of such relationships, nothing good comes out of them.
☆That’s what YOU think.☆
☆I don’t mind being poly☆
why do these crazy ass webfishing videos come up in my recommended
lol sorry 😭
@SnowyApril It is my mistake, Mr Bender Fry guy. This is my sincere apology.