I’m really enjoying the breakdown of this book. And tend to agree with a lot of your points so far. I’d 💯 notice the haircut, but I normally wouldn’t say anything unless I’m really close with them. Because in my mind if I change something I don’t usually like others bringing it up. I don’t like being noticed like that. I would actually try to hide it. So nobody noticed it. lol. I think id have to decline driving the person. I don’t care. If that was their intention or plan they should have asked directly. Im not a mind reader. And I’d never assume what they were alluding to with that question. And it would really upset me to be expected to do that without prior notice. Palm tree. Like one tree at the base that splits in two separate trees that have a slight bend. Both stories. I’m very self conscious about eating. I can’t stand loud eaters/ mouth open chewers. And also I agree with using clothes to express oneself. I like wearing certain things. And I’m definitely taking a shower everyday. It’s like the only sure thing I know I will always do. Even if I go back to bed or lay back down. I enjoy a hot shower once I wake up and get out of bed. Even if it’s the only thing I have energy for sometimes.lol. It tends to motivate me to do other things.
with regards to details vs. the big picture: besides the big picture, there can also be a "massive picture'. autistics are often better at seeing the massive picture (whereas allistics tend to miss it)
Heya! Don't know if you looked into alan watts no rush and if if you and didn't dig it, no worries! I'm sure sure you know of Temple Grandin, she's my hero. I'm trying to find this one interview she had when she was asked if she was ever going to get married, her response was as wonderful as you would expect
@@lightbringer_jeimuzu hi no i am not going to check out alan watts for now. Temple Grandin might have been an inspiration 20 years ago, she was ahead of her time. But she hasn't been willing to evolve with time. She believes in ABA therapy, aspie supremacy and gluten free diet as a treatment for autism. I'm against all those things and cannot support Temple Grandin.
@radishraven9 well don't let that keep you from alan watts but you know what you're doing. It's just a suggestion, I love, at least, what he's allowed me to see. He's got an interesting perspective on the importance of things, but I enjoy finding out my comfort in the minutia too, so no worries
@radishraven9 "treatment for autism" is pretty iffy enough, but that certainly is nutty... I guess everyone is a 'little' nutty but yeah, ok maybe not the best inspirational figure, my bad 😖
The book that I most saw myself in is an old one. Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life by Cynthia Kim. I would still highly recommend it if you can temporarily set aside the title/use of the word Asperger throughout.
I'm sorry - only 3 minutes in, and I already have strong feelings. I got my autism diagnosis in April 2024, after two years of fighting for being seen and not discarded as a "functioning" female adult. All these books written by neurotypicals make me SO angry. THESE people, THESE PROFESSIONALS are the reason why so many autistic people fall through the cracks. They try to enforce compliance in autistic adults - that's the last thing a struggling autistic adult (or child) needs. The same people "advocate" for autism being a "puzzling difference". It's not puzzling, autism is pretty straight forward. And "professionals" like to manifest and point out differences - while telling us "the right amount of eye contact" solves all our problems, belittling the daily struggle. Sorry for the rant - I'll proceed watching your video now - and probably the other ones as well.
@@FreiesRadikales yes i agree with everything you said. I got diagnosed in october. It makes me so mad and i am in no way promoting this book. I am trying to filter the masking bs out and focus on what could be useful. I think there is a lot we still don't know about autism, but like you said the "puzzling" nature should not be the thing that is the symbol of autism as we actually know a lot. I get really mad about the eye contact thing as well, like why are neurotypicals so focused on us fixing that? I hope you find the strength and patience to follow me through this journey 🙂
Thanks for this analysis, it was interesting and I agreed with everything you said 👍
I’m really enjoying the breakdown of this book. And tend to agree with a lot of your points so far.
I’d 💯 notice the haircut, but I normally wouldn’t say anything unless I’m really close with them. Because in my mind if I change something I don’t usually like others bringing it up. I don’t like being noticed like that. I would actually try to hide it. So nobody noticed it. lol.
I think id have to decline driving the person. I don’t care. If that was their intention or plan they should have asked directly. Im not a mind reader. And I’d never assume what they were alluding to with that question. And it would really upset me to be expected to do that without prior notice.
Palm tree. Like one tree at the base that splits in two separate trees that have a slight bend. Both stories.
I’m very self conscious about eating. I can’t stand loud eaters/ mouth open chewers. And also I agree with using clothes to express oneself. I like wearing certain things. And I’m definitely taking a shower everyday. It’s like the only sure thing I know I will always do. Even if I go back to bed or lay back down. I enjoy a hot shower once I wake up and get out of bed. Even if it’s the only thing I have energy for sometimes.lol. It tends to motivate me to do other things.
with regards to details vs. the big picture:
besides the big picture, there can also be a "massive picture'. autistics are often better at seeing the massive picture (whereas allistics tend to miss it)
Motivation to "fit in" better is an oxymoron to me. I can't Want something I Don't Want.
Heya! Don't know if you looked into alan watts no rush and if if you and didn't dig it, no worries!
I'm sure sure you know of Temple Grandin, she's my hero. I'm trying to find this one interview she had when she was asked if she was ever going to get married, her response was as wonderful as you would expect
In any case Ms Grandin is inspiring in one way or another, even if she has an odd assessment of her fellow autistic, putting it kindly....
@@lightbringer_jeimuzu hi no i am not going to check out alan watts for now. Temple Grandin might have been an inspiration 20 years ago, she was ahead of her time. But she hasn't been willing to evolve with time. She believes in ABA therapy, aspie supremacy and gluten free diet as a treatment for autism. I'm against all those things and cannot support Temple Grandin.
@radishraven9 oh I didn't know that! I don't keep up with things, I just liked her empathy with animals, that's so sad to hear
@radishraven9 well don't let that keep you from alan watts but you know what you're doing. It's just a suggestion, I love, at least, what he's allowed me to see. He's got an interesting perspective on the importance of things, but I enjoy finding out my comfort in the minutia too, so no worries
@radishraven9 "treatment for autism" is pretty iffy enough, but that certainly is nutty... I guess everyone is a 'little' nutty but yeah, ok maybe not the best inspirational figure, my bad 😖
"NT writing a handbook for autistic adults" gives big "male gynecologist" energy
The book that I most saw myself in is an old one. Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life by Cynthia Kim. I would still highly recommend it if you can temporarily set aside the title/use of the word Asperger throughout.
@@MonaM204 hmm interesting, will look into it, though seeing the word asperger gives me icky feelings
@@radishraven9 I don't even know if it can still be purchased, but I know you visit the library :)
I'm sorry - only 3 minutes in, and I already have strong feelings. I got my autism diagnosis in April 2024, after two years of fighting for being seen and not discarded as a "functioning" female adult. All these books written by neurotypicals make me SO angry. THESE people, THESE PROFESSIONALS are the reason why so many autistic people fall through the cracks. They try to enforce compliance in autistic adults - that's the last thing a struggling autistic adult (or child) needs. The same people "advocate" for autism being a "puzzling difference". It's not puzzling, autism is pretty straight forward. And "professionals" like to manifest and point out differences - while telling us "the right amount of eye contact" solves all our problems, belittling the daily struggle.
Sorry for the rant - I'll proceed watching your video now - and probably the other ones as well.
@@FreiesRadikales yes i agree with everything you said. I got diagnosed in october. It makes me so mad and i am in no way promoting this book. I am trying to filter the masking bs out and focus on what could be useful. I think there is a lot we still don't know about autism, but like you said the "puzzling" nature should not be the thing that is the symbol of autism as we actually know a lot. I get really mad about the eye contact thing as well, like why are neurotypicals so focused on us fixing that?
I hope you find the strength and patience to follow me through this journey 🙂