what they dont tell you about living alone.

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  • @fizzybubblech8302
    @fizzybubblech8302 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +861

    There is a big difference between being alone and loneliness! I believe people who are capable of being alone without loneliness are on higher levels

    • @frederickali4044
      @frederickali4044 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

      I used to feel lonely but through trials and tribulations I'm just alone now and I'm at peace with it now and it truly is refreshing

    • @ajspice
      @ajspice 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

      It took me years, but now I'm used to it. Kinda don't want it any other way now.

    • @jakecarroll5
      @jakecarroll5 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      Honestly, its refreshing though. I just slowly work on myself , went full Carnivore Diet, got into fasting, Hiking, finally started to build some muscle.Went back to College for Business and now in my career making good money. I love my life but I don't want to share it with anyone. Now in my 30s I have my whole life ahead of me to focus on my health and career. Best part is no one is going to take away everything I'm building!

    • @derek4412
      @derek4412 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      People were not designed to live alone. Heck, children weren't even designed to sleep in separate rooms from their parents. This is all a consequence of modernity and wealth, and we becoming alienated as a result.

    • @phoenixr6811
      @phoenixr6811 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      @@derek4412 I really don’t know why people say this because it’s simply just not true😒 The status of someone living alone is not wrong in any since of the word. It seemed you just don’t like what he is pointing out in the video which there are benefits to living alone that are not just material possessions. Being disciplined in whatever you choose to do or be is great benefit of living by yourself to name as an example. His video in a roundabout way answered a question that I always wondered about. Which way no tells you what it’s like to live by yourself and your response confirms it. It’s because people like yourself believe that people are not supposed to live by themselves therefore they discouraged others in choosing this as an option in their life🤨

  • @persnicketyVC
    @persnicketyVC 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +621

    as an introvert living alone, it is WORTH IT. every single day. y'alls living in with any crazy parents know the pain; the silence here is the greatest gift i could've ever given myself.

    • @apushman
      @apushman 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +49

      As an introvert as well you can recharge at home without distractions, its kinda nice after a long chaotic day.

    • @Shirou-s5m
      @Shirou-s5m 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

      It is indeed WORTH IT.

    • @thebasketballhistorian3291
      @thebasketballhistorian3291 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      As an extrovert, it was weird the first time I lived alone but I got used to it in just a few weeks.
      I fill the silence with music or having a program on in the background. Or sometimes just silence is fine too. The greatest thing is being able to do and focus on anything you want without distractions. It also makes the time I go out with friends feel more meaningful.
      I'm still an extrovert but prefer living alone. And I kind of get turned off when I'm dating someone and she wants to stay in my house too much. 😅 I know I should get married someday. I'm fine committing myself to one person but I'm dreading having to live with someone for the rest of my life, haha.

    • @Thatoneguy0310
      @Thatoneguy0310 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      I absolutely agree with you on this. Coming home after a long work day to a peaceful apartment to myself with fully prepped meals that I made up over the weekend is an amazing feeling. There's no hassle, minimal cleaning involved, and I get to enjoy the rest of the night the way I want to. You learn to take care of yourself.

    • @EagleEye517
      @EagleEye517 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      As a fellow introvert not sure if it's wrong saying it but I envy you haha

  • @bye-72
    @bye-72 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +459

    Everyone should live on their own once in their lives.
    It makes you tougher mentally.

    • @littlemoth4956
      @littlemoth4956 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      How about people do what makes them happy?

    • @pjmcray101
      @pjmcray101 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      FACTS 💯

    • @misterxxxxxxxxx1
      @misterxxxxxxxxx1 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They weak af​@@littlemoth4956

    • @TheDoomWizard
      @TheDoomWizard 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Been doing it for the past 8 years

    • @pjmcray101
      @pjmcray101 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@TheDoomWizard For me 7 years. Couldn't be any happier

  • @serban2139
    @serban2139 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +471

    I lived alone for 3 years. Best time of my life, had none of your issues, guess we're all different

    • @moondive4ever
      @moondive4ever 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

      absolutely agree. This is so true.

    • @yeastofthoughtsmind9623
      @yeastofthoughtsmind9623 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      🧢

    • @XAZ-ys1jc
      @XAZ-ys1jc 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I've lived with family until I was 28, the only thing I regret in my life.

    • @dirtyscoundrel2013
      @dirtyscoundrel2013 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

      I'm guessing his mom took care of him and didn't teach him any self sufficienty skills. I love living alone. You wouldn't believe how little drama there is

    • @DEERCRACKERLOVER
      @DEERCRACKERLOVER 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@dirtyscoundrel2013 not every parent are good teachers, especially toxic parents are common in asia due to their outdated mentality
      I myself have to suffer so much pain living with em. Sooner ill live on my own

  • @anthonymorris5084
    @anthonymorris5084 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +83

    Saved and saved and saved. Bought a condo at 23 and moved out of my parents home. It was emancipating. Best thing I ever did.

  • @ja-no6fx
    @ja-no6fx 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +220

    ive been living alone for the last 10 years. love it. the days where i havent spoken at all are lovely

    • @Wubby805
      @Wubby805 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Bliss.

    • @jaytee2642
      @jaytee2642 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      True.
      I love the solitude. It is what fuels me.

    • @forsadeltoro8692
      @forsadeltoro8692 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      when you talk, you try to explain sth or persuade smone for sth, you get tired

  • @roshanjoseph5830
    @roshanjoseph5830 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +84

    Looking at the ceiling laying down is way better than scrolling mindlessly on the phone. Its awesome.

    • @Abitibidoug
      @Abitibidoug 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Why not read a book or take on a hobby or interest instead?

    • @ryud0
      @ryud0 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      @@Abitibidoug why do you always have to do something? what are you running from? sit in silence and learn something from yourself

    • @Abitibidoug
      @Abitibidoug 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@ryud0 Running from something? That's ridiculous. I've maintained in my adult life the curiosity we're all born with but many people lose by their teen years. I enjoy seeing, doing, experiencing new things. I think a lot of people lose that desire and wonder why they have a mid life crisis. I'm still waiting for mine. There'll be all of eternity to sit around doing nothing when I'm dead.
      Sometimes I do just relax, like sitting in the sun with the radio on to soak up some vitamin D. It keeps my immune system and bones strong for the next wipeout from my various activities. Have you ever taken a mountain biking or ski wipeout, or had a hard parachute landing?

    • @RobotScrambler
      @RobotScrambler 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      *You are aware that he literally filmed himself laying on the floor, then posted that on social media with his phone, right* ? He's responding to messages, checking number of likes, views, etc. lol

  • @Donaldalanbolton
    @Donaldalanbolton 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    living alone is often great - but it's the loneliness that gets me

  • @gt-gu7rb
    @gt-gu7rb 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    I'll put is this way. The thing people who live alone understands is, the only thing worst than living alone, is living with someone and its as if you were alone anyway.

  • @Phoenix-pm2qr
    @Phoenix-pm2qr 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +112

    I'm a 32 year old male. I've lived alone since 2020. I'll sadly admit I've become an alcoholic due to the pure silence and being alone non stop. I also work from home now since that time, so I feel trapped. Hoping to find a better life and situation in 2025.

    • @Dlweta57
      @Dlweta57 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      Get a pet if you can, a dog makes a great companion and also gives you the opportunity to meet others whilst doing wallies , exercise for you and your pet the caveat being.. You have to be willing to talk to strangers... I sincerely hope this helps

    • @scaliwag9947
      @scaliwag9947 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      feel for you man, I have no advice, I'm sort of in the same spot same age, 10 yrs ago I feared this would happen and it did, started drinking around 14, now I'm lost depressed insecure and a full blown alcoholic.. you are not alone

    • @lindarespress8631
      @lindarespress8631 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Get some help. There are people who would love to help and follow their lead. Your going to be okay❤❤❤❤

    • @jakecarroll5
      @jakecarroll5 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Go Carnivore and start working out. Will change your life.

    • @TheBlumann
      @TheBlumann 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      keep trying to do better and you will.

  • @SINNER666-v3d
    @SINNER666-v3d 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I'm 53, I used to be an extrovert but as I aged my priorities changed. I have been living alone for approx 7 years. Once a year I travel abroad for 2 or 3 months holiday then back to serenity. I can honestly say that it's the most enjoyable stage of my life so far ❤❤❤ Thanks.

  • @williamj.dovejr.8613
    @williamj.dovejr.8613 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +40

    The problem with living alone is that people who can't be alone will feel entitled to your time. Another problem is that living alone can be addictive.. the peace, the quiet, and solitude.

  • @hamzaahmed3066
    @hamzaahmed3066 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +265

    I’m 33 and have only lived on my own for a month. It felt so strange, the silence. I thought I wanted independence from my parents but I was so lonely. Plus I was in a different state so I had no friends. Just an enormous learning experience. In other countries it’s okay to live with your parents for a long time

    • @leodekleijn7712
      @leodekleijn7712 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      wow same experience

    • @wolfgangmozart888
      @wolfgangmozart888 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      That's because the other countries are poor. You're a full grown adult, it's about time you learned how to fend for yourself.

    • @RickGTI2019
      @RickGTI2019 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +37

      I was out of my parent’s house at 17. I joined the army and grew up overnight. Now I’m 80, i outlived two wives, relocated to Florida after my first wife died. When my second wife died, I moved to the west coast of Florida. Bottom line, being alone can be tough, but you never have to answer to anyone except yourself. Enjoy the journey !

    • @tomashons90
      @tomashons90 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      I feel the same way, so I decided to move back into my parent's apartment and rent the apartment I bought. Everything was clean, there was food on the table, I could take care of myself without any problems, but the loneliness, boredom and silence were killing me. Now I'm back, I live in an apartment with my mother, we laugh and talk and live well, we have a really great relationship, so we are happy. Now I'm looking for a girlfriend and when I find one and she is willing to move into our apartment with me, I won't have a problem with that, but until then I'm staying at home.

    • @leodekleijn7712
      @leodekleijn7712 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@tomashons90 yes man

  • @arshaqrazeen8465
    @arshaqrazeen8465 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +236

    This is exactly what I go through as an 19 year old living alone

    • @dark_nightwing_xl2797
      @dark_nightwing_xl2797 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Good luck

    • @MenyeMC
      @MenyeMC 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Same bro 😢
      College student in final year, 19, and solo

    • @Lees_Automotive_36972
      @Lees_Automotive_36972 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Same
      When my roommates were kicked out
      At first, I was happy
      But then the loneliness settled in
      And I was so depressed…
      Thankfully, that was my last year in college this last May I graduated

  • @lancejames4693
    @lancejames4693 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This message is accurate. I continue to experience all of this once my partner and I separated and I found myself living alone. The experiences are infinite as long as you live alone.

  • @412willis
    @412willis 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Nothing is more lonely than living with the wrong person.

  • @thiswasmytumblr
    @thiswasmytumblr 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    Simple and beautiful. Exactly what I felt when I finally dipped to LA at 26.
    Notable mentions, bordering a constant state of hunger since you need to buy, prepare and cook for yourself, every single time.
    Washing all the dishes after you devoured your food in a couple minutes.
    While it does have its ups and down, there is absolutely zero price on independence and freedom.
    And lastly, you’re in direct control of your entire life trajectory.
    We got this, brah!

  • @cowtownflyer7874
    @cowtownflyer7874 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I've lived alone all my life. I'm 65 now. I can't imagine what it would be like to have a spouse. I think it would be a real imposition to have somebody sharing my space. Alone is good.

  • @tadmartin223
    @tadmartin223 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is one of the truest videos on here. I live alone, but it's the best feeling in the world once your mental is correct. You become self-sufficient and way more focused. You get YOURSELF right before you can get others right. This will be my daily bread.

  • @Naturalintelligence30
    @Naturalintelligence30 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +63

    Living alone must have been fun back in the 70s 80s and 90s. It looks like it would suck now in 2024 because we live in a very anti social society now where no one trusts each other. There's tons of fear and competition now between people. Everything is a drag now politically and socially. I still want to live alone and try it someday for myself. I just need the money to move out on my own. That's all.

    • @scorpionwins6378
      @scorpionwins6378 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

      Living alone in this age is actually a great thing when you consider all of those points you mentioned.
      Been living alone for 5 years now, peaceful and drama free. After a hard day at work it's wonderful coming back home to solitude.

    • @XAZ-ys1jc
      @XAZ-ys1jc 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I'm 28 and just now getting ready to live alone, I can't wait honestly but I'm taking the deeper dive and moving out of country solo.

  • @AnatolianOghuzTurk
    @AnatolianOghuzTurk 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +28

    I am 21 and I started to live alone because of that God damn Uni and I am walking exact the same path you have walked on.

  • @JB-yn4cs
    @JB-yn4cs 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    It's worth learning to be content alone, like really comfortable and used to it. It's a mindset I lost whilst married then once divorced I tried to fill the gap rather than accept it. That led to dating apps, one night stands then eventually what initially seemed like an amazing relationship. The relationship turned sour, manipulative and controlling but I put up with it out of fear of solitude - eventually lost my life's savings and sanity. Rebuilding alone now, but all this would have been avoided if I'd made peace with being alone early on.

  • @Rufus2325
    @Rufus2325 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I've lived alone for 12 years best thing ever. I couldn't live with someone and I never will

  • @CrowFuu
    @CrowFuu 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Living along AND being alone is amazing. Not having to deal with other people's problems is the best feeling ever, as well as knowing you are responsible enough to make sure all your needs are taken care of.
    The only people who can't live alone are those who are weak and need to grow up.........

  • @jeffharper7579
    @jeffharper7579 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have been alone for three years and yes I do get lonely at times but also tired of being used, I was used for the last six years of my marriage. I think it's better to be alone than being alone while with her, only thing I was to her was a A.T.M, cook,and a servant. All I did was work come home had cook do the dishes while she just set and watched tv all day and half the night, I still work come home cook and clean but I do it for me .

  • @r.d.493
    @r.d.493 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I lived at home until I was 35 all the while going to college and graduate school. I was offered a job out of state, I moved in with a friend of a friend and a year and half later, just months before I turned 37, I got my own place and have been living on my own ever since. It does take plenty of discipline to cook for myself and maintain sufficient cleanliness, but it’s so worth it. I love only focusing on myself when I get home from work whether it’s going to the gym or playing music or treating myself to a night out. Some of my coworkers and friends cannot believe how much effort I put into making my own breakfast everyday and how I won’t leave any dishes in my sink before going to work, but the mental rewards are countless. I talk to myself all the time and it’s wonderful not having to worry that any thoughts I may vocalize will rub people the wrong way.

  • @natbrownizzle1387
    @natbrownizzle1387 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +70

    The thing I hate the most is, when I scroll through crap when I am bored instead of just picking up a game and game. You can't read the whole day, so it's okay to game every now and then after doing al the necessary stuff.

    • @trevorfranks69
      @trevorfranks69 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Just don't get addicted to porn
      At least with games you can play with your bros or visit internet cafes

    • @yeastofthoughtsmind9623
      @yeastofthoughtsmind9623 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You can absolutely read all day.

    • @natbrownizzle1387
      @natbrownizzle1387 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@yeastofthoughtsmind9623 Sure, depends on what, but I get what you are saying.

  • @nighthawwwk
    @nighthawwwk 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have lived alone for 22 years. I enjoy it every day and I never feel lonely.

  • @dillonc7955
    @dillonc7955 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    The interactions part isn't that simple anymore. Going outside doesn't guarantee an interaction. You have to push for them or set yourself up for persistent interactions. Going to the gym or park nobody wants to talk. People at the store barely make conversation. If you're not in church, college, or already embedded in a friend group, you can go for multiple days without an interaction unless you actively go for them. As an introvert who has lived alone bordering 2 years now, and this is what I've noticed.

  • @jamessmithson-br7rm
    @jamessmithson-br7rm 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Living alone is the best. Not defining yourself by other people makes you a stronger individual. Easy to still make room for loved ones, just more room for you.

  • @lindarespress8631
    @lindarespress8631 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    I think all of you are very courageous and smart. Living alone takes you a level of responsibility that many adults run from and don’t have a clue how to survive. Be proud of yourself, I don’t, know you and I’m happy and proud of all who took the challenge. You will be fine.❤❤❤❤

  • @REE-Animation
    @REE-Animation 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    We all live alone at some point in our lives.. And it is extremely important that we do so, to build up our self discipline.. Learning to clean up your own mess is essential!

  • @SmallerLives
    @SmallerLives 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    I don't live alone but I live with a landlord who I hardly ever see (we get along fantastically, she's just out and about and doing stuff all the time). I have a decent sized room and I have virtually no clutter. I have a lot of time to myself and I absolutely love it. As someone else said, I guess we're all different.

    • @scorpionwins6378
      @scorpionwins6378 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You live with your landlord?? The hell..

    • @jaytee2642
      @jaytee2642 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@@scorpionwins6378
      Since they said they have "a decent sized room", it sounds like they are renting a room in someone's house, thus they would be "living with" their landlord.

  • @sandrao8002
    @sandrao8002 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is why we made all our kids move out. They were always welcomed back home but they had to experience life away from Mom and Dad to become the people they were meant to be. They are all amazing adults now and we couldn’t be prouder of them.

  • @man_on_wheelz
    @man_on_wheelz 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Introvert here, I can’t tell you how much I prefer living alone! Moved out at age 22 with my then gf. Lived together for like 3 years, broke up and she moved out taking all the furniture with her since she bought it. Happiest day of my life up to that point! I got a blank canvas to slowly fill the space with my own things. Now I’m 35, still living alone but in my own house, best feeling ever! Always on top of my bills, groceries, and chores so I have a lot of that bored time. Entrepreneurs will make you feel bad for not filling that time with chasing money in some way, but I feel pretty damn good spending that time playing video games and just relaxing in the home I pay this mortgage on, on the furniture I spent so much time picking out and paying good money for.

  • @wdhubb
    @wdhubb 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    After my divorce, I lived alone for almost 10 years before my dad had to move in with me because of his health issues. Let me tell you, it has been the greatest experience and solidified me being totally independent for life. When it comes to living alone, everything is on you. No one is coming to save you. You have to figure it out on your own and you'll be all the better for it.

  • @AstroZombie1138
    @AstroZombie1138 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have lived alone nearly all my adult life. I shared a house after education but we both had separate rooms and hardly saw each other. If I look around I see 6 bookcases and that's just in one room. Some would say too many but it means I never get bored.

  • @usemorebrainplz-is7gy
    @usemorebrainplz-is7gy 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Good summary, this is basically everyday as a single kid in a household - Just me and my mom or me and my father. Facing boredoom is what I did everyday since being a little kiddo going home from school. Living alone is peace of cake, hard struggle is to live with another human being that I need to interact with 24/7

  • @Jake_Towne
    @Jake_Towne วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ive been living alone for 5 Years or so now and i can say it is the best decision of my life. Living alone is the best, No distractions, No stress, No noise just peace and you can do whatever you want!

  • @Stayfocused99
    @Stayfocused99 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Just got my appartement 5 months ago, and I can relate with the coming home tired and not wanting to cook. BUT I wouldn’t trade the freedom of having my own space for anything else, for me my mental health is more important.

    • @joshh.2159
      @joshh.2159 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Yeah I fully agree. I moved out officially in April and it's been a wonderful ride. Everyone asks me if when my lease is up what will I do when I think it's a pretty easy answer.

  • @BigBoss89189
    @BigBoss89189 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    For me, I had no choice since relationships weren't working out and went most of my life in silence due to not being able to talk (had dealt with seizures as a child and took years to learn to talk suffered rejection because of it), but later in life, I came to Jesus Christ to help not only deal with any loneliness but also depression and 20-year addictions I had while in isolation. Believe in Him for salvation and heal any emptiness, whether out in the world surrounded by many or as an introverted person.

  • @solitaryguy54
    @solitaryguy54 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I've lived alone and kept to myself for the last 30+ years and love it! My life is void of energy draining drama that people can bring into your life, especially with the state of the country these days. People, no thank you.

  • @Eric-jo8uh
    @Eric-jo8uh 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Living alone…. I LOVE IT. No nagging, peace and quiet, no constant moaning………

  • @ssl-xh7te
    @ssl-xh7te 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The trick is to not to run away from yourself. You have to get used to living by yourself but when you do a new world opens for you where your start to see and accept that no one is realy happy. Alone or not. Life is not about achieving happiness. Life is mostly suffering and if you are lucky you get a few happy moments. Cherish all the moments it has a reason and helps you grow in life. And staring at the cealing is healthy for ya😊 Boredom is healthy. That is where creation begins❤

  • @dannyw7479
    @dannyw7479 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Great video lad, important issue you are making people aware of. People assume it's mainly older people who get lonely or isolated but can happen to anyone. I take the opportunity to talk to anyone, whether in a shop, takeaway shop, work, bar etc, you'll be amazed how easy it is to strike up a short conversation with a stranger and it helps make me feel better.

  • @georgezundell3619
    @georgezundell3619 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    A wise person once told me”it is better to be alone than WISH you were alone.”

  • @elaishh3533
    @elaishh3533 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    That time on your floor in your own thoughts are a blessing

  • @Bournefort
    @Bournefort 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Moving to an apartment just to get away from your parents is a huge financial mistake. Save money while living with your parents until you can get the down payment for a house. Paying rent is just paying for somebody else's mortgage.

  • @piemcclung2502
    @piemcclung2502 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Been on our own since 15yrs old. Now 48. Love living alone. Dont see what the problem is.😊

  • @JamieWillcox-wz3xe
    @JamieWillcox-wz3xe 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    As a 20 year old living alone (house share) it’s taught me a lot. There’s a lot of good & bad things and I’ve learned a lot about myself,by myself. I love my independence

  • @bluecollarbuilds
    @bluecollarbuilds 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Been on my own for 6 years now and it’s still the greatest decision I’ve ever made

  • @cisium1184
    @cisium1184 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I've lived alone for 30 years. Mostly wonderful, sometimes lonely. My biggest recommendation for being happy is you have to create obligations for yourself that keep you "making progress" in different areas of your life. For example, don't just cook your own meals - make a menu each week of what you're going to eat, and an ingredient list. Don't "take up guitar" as a hobby - take lessons that you have to show up for every week and show the instructor your progress. Don't just go to the gym, start with a trainer or better yet take some kind of exercise class. And most importantly, start "paying yourself first" by doing a budget and simple investment plan, even if it's only $20 a week in a high-interest savings account with an online bank.
    *Do little things that point aspects of your life in a direction and make a little progress that you can measure.* It doesn't matter how fast the progress is, just that you are doing them every day, every week, or whatever your plan is. Just feeling that you are making progress in life will do more for your mental health than any counseling, drug, or other person you let into your life.

  • @TJSx
    @TJSx 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’ve lived alone for years and don’t see it any other way. I don’t even have loneliness. I don’t desire the company of other people, but I go out to see people anyways because people wanna see me. If I stay away too long, they let me know so I do it for them, but my natural inclination is not to even bother.

  • @damnridge
    @damnridge 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I thank my parents for leaving me on my own since I was 13 at home alone and I got the best experiences of my life learning things on my own. It definitely feels very good to finally talk to people after being quiet for so long. I became very independent ever since and my goal now as a 22 yo is to have my own place, just because I want to live the full experience of living on my own.

  • @grzegorzmucha1966
    @grzegorzmucha1966 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    If you have a lot of money, living alone is not a problem. Money gives a sense of security and self-sufficiency

  • @oligarchy-usa
    @oligarchy-usa 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Some people seem to lack imagination & thus lack hobbies & interests. Being alone is torture & boredom to them. Glad I'm not like that. Perfectly happy single, lone-wolf & introvert. Had my share of relationships & fun when I was younger & in retrospect it was mostly a waste of time, energy & resources.

  • @realomegamodern
    @realomegamodern 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    i love this video man. just real facts. i also dont regret moving out. i like visiting my parents like 2x a week and sometimes even sleep there for a night, but nothing is better than being alone, just chilling after completing all of your work and being able to make choices. When do i go for grocery shopping? When should i clean? I can finally eat whatever i want, whenever i want etc. i still dont regret living alone, even tho i could have saved more money. it was worth for my developement. Cheers guys!

  • @jamieswithenbank1813
    @jamieswithenbank1813 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I had an ex who was a psycho and a bit of a narcissist - she wanted rid of me, but she didn't want me having anyone who would treat me better. She threatened to try to arrange things so I would be left alone (to satisfy her own narcissistic urges to have complete control over my life and destiny) - but it didn't scare me like she thought it would. You see she was a narcissist and she needed other people in order to feel worth anything, and she thought everyone else was the same (in deep personal need of validation by others) - but I am mildly autistic, and I do just fine on my own (even if life can be better with the right people around) - as others have said, being alone is not the same as loneliness.

  • @lindsey5365
    @lindsey5365 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    As a female, I lived alone for five years. In an apartment. Living an apartment alone is different than living in a house alone. You’re very close to your neighbors in an apartment. I don’t recommend this route unless you have enough money to buy a house or rent one. Anyways, I cooked more the first 2 to 3 years after that I just slowly started buying takeout. I often went to my parents for dinners. I did not have laundry in unit keep in mind.
    I hate white noise I always had my tv or
    Music on I didn’t want to hear my loud neighbors.
    I was doing laundry at my parents because the laundromat was getting too expensive laundromat on The apartment grounds is a joke. I didn’t even want to invest in that. I also only have two friends one lives in Germany. The other one is a homebody that’s very lonely.
    The only social interaction I had was meeting with my parents and hanging out with my niece. Long story short ended up moving back home After the five years I couldn’t take it anymore.
    Going back to the office for social interaction was a blessing. I did enjoy entertaining myself for the time being I got to complete my homework/study because I was in grad school and I also was on a hybrid model in 2020 which also dives deep into the real reason of feeling lonely. Living alone is quite an experience. I believe everyone should have the chance to experience it on their own.

  • @KnightRaymund
    @KnightRaymund 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I like being alone at home. I talk to myself all the time. I interact with others on the internet.
    Play stuff with my brother once a week or so online and we talk. Have a friend over once a week. I'm good.

  • @GrafsGarage3
    @GrafsGarage3 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Great video! Lived alone for about 8 years. Be comfortable with trying new things, push yourself to get that chore done before bed, and open your home up to friends and family to visit when they can. Dont be upset if you go months without visitors and accept that it may be easier for you to go to a group of friends than it is for them to come to you.

  • @e-business786
    @e-business786 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’d really like to move out and get my own place but I didn’t graduate high school and I just turned 20 years old and don’t really know what work there is to even afford my own place monthly let alone getting food and all the other stuff I was pretty spoiled growing up and never really had to much for my own and I feel like it’s been a disservice in a way and I have a hard time not having a resentment towards my dad because he never really disciplined me and in a way I feel like he never wants me to move out so he can keep controlling me I’m scared that if I really move out one day and make some way for myself that people will find out that I’m a narcissistic spoiled asshole and that it will be extremely difficult dealing with people because I won’t be always getting my way and I’ll have to accept that I’m just some regular guy I know it’s kind of weird that I’m so aware of all this but I think I know myself quite well and that just because I can say that I’m a narcissist doesn’t now not make me one because I know the whole “Well a narcissist wouldn’t be able to say that their a narcissist crap” I think some people can be very self aware and still be a self absorbed asshole

  • @GubernareMens
    @GubernareMens 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    Ooh and the best: the primal fear of dying alone that comes up when you have an extended period without plans ahead of you, forcing you to either accept you may indeed just die alone or go out, make plans, meet new friends, start new hobbies, or as an alternative become a Discord hobo playing video games in your 30's.

    • @XAZ-ys1jc
      @XAZ-ys1jc 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Nothing wrong with playing games in your 30s, especially if you grew up and come from that lifestyle. I'm a huge gamer, bigger than most people but I still make 7 figures a year, I'm only 28 but still.

  • @tomkoutsopoulos528
    @tomkoutsopoulos528 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I go to work 12 hour days….. I come home to solitude, quiet and peace. Long time ago I would work a 12 hour day and I came home to chaos. I will never go back to that.

  • @MrSupraman13
    @MrSupraman13 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Ive been living alone for almost 2 years now. Its different, Im a widower. The silence is deafening

  • @tekgeekster
    @tekgeekster 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    It's been a year. I hated being around people before I started living alone.
    Now I resent that. I miss people. I want friends. I want a lover. I want family. It's gotten to the point where I talk to myself like someone else is in the room.
    Yeah, I guess I'm better as an independent person, but I can't help but think of that phrase.
    You don't know what you had until it's gone.

  • @serendipityshopnyc
    @serendipityshopnyc 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I never lived alone till I was 38. It's my single greatest luxury.

  • @ianlaccohee7180
    @ianlaccohee7180 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I remember this over 20 years ago. However my spare time was spent doing D.I.Y. at my house, or at the gym. But that was back when people in the gym used to talk to one another, & not wear headphones. I built up a great circle of like minded friends.

  • @diegovargas9956
    @diegovargas9956 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    be happy you can afford it, last 30 days at my place…

  • @jayneshort8603
    @jayneshort8603 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Glad you found yourself, in life we all have learning curves. I wish everyone a good new year and good people health and peace in your life.

  • @bdflatlander
    @bdflatlander 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I was 26 when I got my first apartment (1 bedroom) by myself.
    I loved it. It was nice to come home to my own place after a challenging day at work and enjoy the solitude and not have to worry about dealing with a roommate.
    I lived by myself for 2 years and then moved into a rented townhouse with my then girlfriend, now wife. That was the only option for living with someone else. We have now been married for 40 years.
    If my wife dies before I do then I would live by myself. Even if I became romantically involved with a woman I would not marry her or even live with her. At 71 years old I am pretty much set in my ways and I admit it would be difficult to try and adapt to living with someone new.

  • @Thatoneguy0310
    @Thatoneguy0310 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm currently 31 years old and I've lived by myself in an apartment for two years now. It's helped teach me to think for myself. If I have a household question or basic home economics question, I always have Google to help me figure out what I need to do as well as family to ask. You feel a bit more free and independent if you learn this mindset or have hobbies that don't require you to be around other people constantly (Playing the piano, reading, playing video games, etc. in my case) outside of working an 8-5 job. I've learned to use my weekends to get groceries and other items for my apartment, cleaning the apartment, and meal prepping lunch and dinner for the upcoming work week. I still get social interaction by calling and texting friends and family, which was something that he pointed out, and I like to set aside time on weekends to visit my family and friends if I have the extra time. If you dedicate your energy towards hobbies or things that you enjoy, then it helps to make living by yourself feel much better. It may not be a lifestyle for everyone, but if you can adapt to it and also properly balance your budget, then it is a decent lifestyle that isn't as bad as people make it out to be.

    • @9mwirelessholepuncher
      @9mwirelessholepuncher 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yeah! Ask Google what to do and how to live your life . Very sad life!

  • @andrewmaclean9810
    @andrewmaclean9810 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I live alone, but I'm not even remotely lonely and have a great social life. My roommate moving out definitely had some growing pains, the first few months I let the place get BAD, complete mess, dish piles, etc. But now I'm (usually) way better about it and keep things in order, though the house is kind of falling apart. It's great though, there's no need to debate about the ideal AC temp, or how I want to use the space, or when i can play music loud. Hell I even get to shit with the door wide open! Brilliant. I never really get bored at home either, i got my pc, I got my school obscene amounts of studying to do for my pilot certificates, I got video games, making music, etc. And I'm a server anyways so usually by the time my work day is over my social battery is on 0% and the silence is oh so refreshing

  • @erp010
    @erp010 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I've lived alone for nearly 6 years . . . I have not had this many issues and this deep of a thought process . . . must be all the podcasts haha

  • @Michael.Virtus
    @Michael.Virtus 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    0:43 - Boredom? I don't have enough time to read/watch/play all the stuff I have. Boredom. 🤣

    • @jaytee2642
      @jaytee2642 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      Right?
      If it was possible to be awake 24 hours a day for the rest of my life, I still wouldn't have time to get bored.
      There is ALWAYS something to do or learn.

    • @Michael.Virtus
      @Michael.Virtus 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@jaytee2642 Exactly.

  • @ShiggyMomo
    @ShiggyMomo 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    If you hurt yourself while you're alone, nobody's there to help

  • @lifewithbakari1413
    @lifewithbakari1413 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’m 23 been living alone since 18 in my own apartment and I can say right now it’s going amazing I guess everyone is different

  • @Johanhakansson91
    @Johanhakansson91 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    i am 33. And still alone. Hope i will find someone one day

    • @luminis-novum
      @luminis-novum 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Seek God and find him. The thing about God is that while yes, he loves all humans, some of them have more of his favor than others. He is everywhere, yet he is closer to some than others. Those who are alone, while having a disadvantage in this world, have a major advantage with Jesus Christ their creator. He is close to the alone, or those who feel left behind. That’s why he says to those who do healings and cast out demons that they neglected to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, visit the imprisoned. Even the miracle workers neglected these kinds of people. Because it is among them where God is found. Its not a feeling, it is simply a reality. And those who draw near to God- God draws near to them and gives directly to the heart that which the world seeks through toil.

    • @XAZ-ys1jc
      @XAZ-ys1jc 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'm 28 and just going to start living alone, I'm going to enjoy my years of being solo. I took the jump and went straight to moving out of the country though.

    • @superbros1690
      @superbros1690 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@XAZ-ys1jc I want to move out but I am afraid if I lose my job, how am I going to cover rent?

    • @XAZ-ys1jc
      @XAZ-ys1jc 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@superbros1690
      Work for 3-4 months now, save some money for a backup if you are that worried about losing your job.
      If you are working a decent job, you just go for it, that is part of what living alone is all about, making things work.
      I spent the last year grinding, I didn't have to pay rent because I lived with my mom. I put over 55K in my savings and built a steady online income. Use your time wisely, stop worrying about the small things.
      Whether you are 20 or 30 moving out for the first time, you will thank yourself for living on your own, especially when you get older and potentially have no one.

  • @lemonchan2013
    @lemonchan2013 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    this is all nice but you could have mentioned one big hurdle: the increase in vulnerability to depression which can be hell to get out of let alone go through alone in the absence of friends or family

  • @OneDigitalSoul
    @OneDigitalSoul 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    You got this my G. Respect from London 👊

  • @rmcgraw7943
    @rmcgraw7943 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    When I was in 7th and 8th grade, just a kid, I went through A LOT of abuse, began to distrust everyone, and for 2 years I never spoke except to give yes and no answers, AND NO ONE EVER EVEN NOTICED, NOT EVEN MY FAMILY. Whether you live alone or not, you ARE alone.

  • @glennz6686
    @glennz6686 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Living alone has it's advantages, disadvantages but most of the time it's f*** awesome.

  • @yay795
    @yay795 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Being able to be alone and being productive is like a superpower. Once you master this no one can mess with you ever again.

  • @BunchoMitch
    @BunchoMitch 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I honestly feel like I'd go insane living on my own, despite how much I like the silence

  • @omega_sauce
    @omega_sauce วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Are you a rapper? I love the rhythm in how you talk

  • @conradsealy9603
    @conradsealy9603 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Heres the bad part,getting happy,comfortable and contented in your solitude. When you get there and start enjoying the peace and quiet,any person coming to your home becomes somewhat of a energy drain. I lived alone for 11 years. It was the most peaceful time of my life.

  • @bunathan2485
    @bunathan2485 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    living alone, is AMAZING

  • @mythril4
    @mythril4 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have no idea what boredom is, there are thousands of things to do. I am fine alone, never bothers me.

  • @xavierwilliams2228
    @xavierwilliams2228 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    As a person who had 3 weird room mates 3 seperate occasions before finally getting my own, I can tell u ain’t nothing like your own spot.

  • @Alex1988it
    @Alex1988it 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I like to talk to myself, like we are two people in one, i' m crazy like that i guess..
    Also i'm not young anymore, well into my 30es.

  • @TheAllSeeingEye2468
    @TheAllSeeingEye2468 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Frozen food and mac and cheese bowls are a quick meal

  • @LMays-cu2hp
    @LMays-cu2hp 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for sharing your great observations of life on your own.😊

  • @orjay6745
    @orjay6745 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I moved out end of september, halfway across the country. next family member or friend is about 350km away. At first, I was depressed. Then I found joy in improving myself. My diet, my clothes, my flat, and I even found time to get into playing an old E-piano I found in my moms basement. So, within 3 months I've had one of my lowest lows ever, but right now I am well on my way to become the best version of myself to date.
    Moving out is amazing, you should try it aswell if you can.

  • @xms2960
    @xms2960 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

    Good video, keep it up !

    • @Selfdevsam
      @Selfdevsam  24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you

  • @BastarD
    @BastarD 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    For some people that's loneliness, for others it is freedom.

  • @SpyCrew1212
    @SpyCrew1212 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I like this message. Great content.

  • @phoenixr6811
    @phoenixr6811 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Living by yourself or alone isn’t for everyone and you are right no one teaches you this. 😊but it can have its advantages. When you live by yourself you learn how to be dependent because there are times in a person’s life where they are living by themselves. 😊

  • @kevinguimond7711
    @kevinguimond7711 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This feels very accurate and resonates, except for the fact that I've lived alone for 2 years and still figuring shit out for myself

  • @miamijim5964
    @miamijim5964 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    In my youth I lived with friends and then got married and then lived with friends again... by 29 I was alone again... but I had drugs lots and lots of drugs and although I lived alone I was never alone... then i went off to work at Hotels living in with staff.. again never alone.... then I moved to The Nordics.. lived with 2 girls over a 4 years period... and then 14 years ago... I started properly living alone.. I have a son now and he comes to visit on weekends.. but he's almost 17 now so will be starting his own adventure... right now I cherish my alone time.. I chill, i play music and I sleep....

    • @Dlweta57
      @Dlweta57 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Ahhh natures balm... Sleeping....

  • @WillWonkeyTertel
    @WillWonkeyTertel 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Personally like being alone. And most of these things I learned when I was younger so that helped. Started to learn to cook when I was 8 and was doing shopping for my mom when I was 10 and managing her money.