Merry Christmas guys! Our intention with this piece was to start a conversation that needs to be heard. Loving the comments so far. Major love to our writer and director Bunmi Ajakaiye who wrote this in four days with me on her heel, lol. To the amazing actor Eku and Karibi thank you. To my dear talented Ndani team, both in house and contracted, this was a labor of love! Enjoy Ndani family and please share!
Maami Abimbola Peperempe(complete that🤣🤣) Merry Christmas to you darling💃💃...and thanks to you and the entire Ndani team for this priceless Christmas gift... I'm just 3mins into the movie but of course...It's Ndani nowwww
Hmmm, someone whose mom was already suggesting an outside testing? Even if he wanted to, his mother wouldn't allow him! Hmmm, I'm sorry but I don't see the average Nigerian man agreeing to stay with a woman incapable of having children especially if there was proof that he could father children. Laslas side turkey will bear fowl sha ni!
The struggles of life. I hope every one trying to have children get their prayers answered. But above all every couple should stay happy with or without children
I guess its easier said than done. Bcos i for once as long as i can remember, all i want is to have a baby. so to get married and have this not happening is going to be really hard no matter how you try not to think about it.
@@julietcollins Most thoughtful comment so far. It's very very had. It's easier to watch and think about it and only hope i don't have to face it bcos i don't know what i will do.
This is a discussion every couple and every intending couple should have.....If we can't have kids, would we still be happy together...regardless of whose 'fault' it is? Nice piece
Having such a discussion is good but will any of the intending partners be honest? I doubt it. I will of course say yes that we will still be happy but reality is different. U cant even wish your enemy a childless marriage. Its unbearable. And no one remains sane under these conditions
I had the conversation when I was engaged, even though I'd been pregnant before. Many things can still happen; chromosome incompatibility, genetic failures, inhospitable womb etc, so it's a very important conversation to have. It opened up how we felt towards adoption and helped us truly see how we would deal with the situation. This is why marriage should only be done by adults and not youngsters pushed into it by their parents or religious environment or hormones. I honestly don't think anyone under 25 should be getting married, considering the brain isn't fully developed until then. Which is why considering anyone under 25 an adult is a scientific joke and blunder! Marriage needs a developed brain and even with that, it's still a struggle!
@@chijioke4997 but who would dishonesty help? Anyone going into such a conversation needs to understand that the truth would be best and its their time to gauge the true intent of their intended and see if the possibilities are adaptable to them. If you can't be honest in such discussions then I don't see that marriage working, at least not working as well as it could.
@chijioke no one really remains sane,its been 10yrs and we are just taking it one day at a time....i didnt see myself here....after everything still.......
I love how the man stood up for his wife infront of his mom by telling her that he is the one with the problem.I think that was a brave thing to do.Ndanitv love always❤
Yo, the entire cast and crew of this drama and Ndani TV deserves accolades. I'm so proud of the direction the entertainment industry is moving toward. I'm so over watching Nigerian dramas with only "moral lesson" of dos and don't. its high time we start addressing societal and political issues in the country. The issue of male infertility and the idea of what it means "to be a man" is a conversation well all should be having. Its time for the narratives to change.
But the moral lessons sit as the critical seamless fiber for a just society and political arena. You need it as a relevant substratum if society and politics will hold together well. It is indispensable, if you ask me.
Nice. I would have preferred an ending that involved Femi coming to terms with fathering a child that is not his. That would have been the real lemonade.
I hope this short film encourages a couple who may be in this same position. Understand that where there is LOVE there is GOD because He is Love. I have heard of couples who doctors have told are infertile but then had children. Those who are blessed to have a spouse, hold on and let the love from God flow through your bond. May God bless the creator of this film - it must have come from a place of understanding.
I'm a doctor and I have to say I'm so proud of how well researched and acted this was. Well done. This is something every couple definitely needs to discuss before getting married.
How will they know this if not married please? What will they discuss with each other? How will she or her know the other party in infertile? This is a just a crisis in marriage and only prayer and God could help and again they can actually travel out and go see a professional too.
@@bengaisrael3523 The same fertility tests done in marriage can be carried out before marriage. Some now do semen analyses, various scans and hormonal assays before marriage. The only problem I see is that it might only bring or give stigma and more harm but what can you do.
I like the part of him saying he wasn't taught to be vulnerable or fragile. Majority of men are brought up with this idea of what it is to be a man. They aren't suppose to show any weakness . So when they are hit with something like this they don't know how to react. I will definitely not bring a son up with this ideology
The heart of a woman is so large. A major question to be answered is, “If it were to be the woman with the infertility, would the man stay?” This was a very beautiful watch!
I am aware of issues where the man has also exhibited this same large heart because the problem is the wife. Bottom line, pray you get a godly, loving spouse who will understand and walk through this valley with you.
This is so good. I think we have to be very intentional in the upbringing of our male children. Many of us were brought up never to accept defeat, always have the final say or to be the right one always and this is affecting a lot of men. Let's make the male child know that he could also be the one down at a point and he needs support or help just like the way he would want to help a female. Thumbs up for this
I love your comment. The male child is raised to believe lots of unrealistic things. He grows up and gets confused when confronted with reality and who bears the burden? His wife who has also been raised to shoulder everything and die in silent pain.
When he said he would have been ok if she was the problem was really messed up... the way the works is set up against women sucks a lot...men and their egos 🤦♀️
At least he was honest. Most men would feel that way and either bottle up and say nothing or start torturing the woman for real. It's crazy how many men are natural gaslighters especially when they are the problem. The wife really made serious points but reverted back to the norm when the mom appeared. It was really nice to see the hubby become truly the man for her and refuse to let her take on the blame.
@@mungalowcrooningswithabian7831 im glad she made him talk and he let it out cos like u said they bottle it in n turn cold/ shut out the woman like he was doing before the argument
I have to applaud the entire team who put this film together. This narrative is real for many couples, yet infertility is mostly showcased on media as "the woman's fault". This piece is a step in the right direction towards breaking that unhealthy and untrue stereotype. I also love another theme of the film, that it's okay for men to be vulnerable. Even after they had that huge argument and he said things that hurt her deeply, she saw him in that vulnerable state on the floor and she reached out. That's big. That's love. That's what it means to make a decision to love and treat that person with a kind and patient heart. "If I was the one with the issue, would you stay?" Damn, now that was a question. What the man was expecting from her, would he be able to do the same if the table were turned? This film right here, is premium content.
Femi's mother acted so well, I could picture an African mother reacting the same way. I so love this short film, it's the reality we face in the society
Omo, this film was so engaging. I found myself wanting more!!!!❤️❤️❤️ I love the fact that the woman stuck with the man for 3 more years.( She probably would have stuck with him forever 👀) This got me thinking though " would the man have stuck with her if she was the problem?" 🤷🏾♀️
Wow this movie made me tear. The cast did very well but above all those story is so vital for this generations, and for us as Africans and for our men to know that being the head does not mean not showing weakness and that you need your partners support. Love this Ndani you guys always put out the best .
Oh Jeez. Bimbo, you brought tears to my eyes with this. True, the Bible says Married people will have tribulations in their flesh. No wonder it also says the Two will become one flesh. Joys shared. Trials shared. HOPE in GOD. TRUST in God and in one's spouse. COMMITMENT to stay loyal and faithful. Vital qualities for Marriage.
He was so sure he wasn't the problem and all that while, he was thinking the woman was? What kind of thinking is this? Indeed our boys need to be raised better!
I just learnt of his passing and rushed here Coz this was the first movie I saw of him. So young🥺. Dear God, give consolation to his family and grant rest to his soul! May we appreciate life more people Tomorrow is never guaranteed 😩🥺
I was.. But 🤷🏾♂️ that would be too cliche dont you think so?.. If you tell a typical African man that you are pregnant after all these saga.. He will start questioning your fidelity. Lol
Y'all can trust Abimbola Craig to bring quality content, every scene and emotion was deliberate and well executed. Surprisingly, its my first time seeing Eku Edewor in a movie but I'm about to search for any other movie she's been in, She embodies poise, maturity but also that meticulous way of owning a character. This narrative NEEDS to be told more often in nollywood as its a way of helping to deal with the toxic masculinity that plagues a lot of African cultures.
This video may have been thirty minutes but it carried a lot of lesson and I must admit it was worth every time and mb. Some couples fail to discuss their thoughts and ideas on having kids and what other options they can have. Others put the blame on the woman forgetting that the problem might also be from the man. At the end of the day, some couple don't even make it past their first anniversary, others rise above it and make the most out of it.
It is very surprising that even in this age and time women still carry most of the emotional baggage.. The lady is even more concern that the guy in question from suggesting adoption, trying to make him feel better, defending him in front of his mother. Women! Such a brave entity. Great storyline
The average African mother and the pressure they exert on young couples😣. "There is no infertility in my lineage ". We are so quick to blame the Women. Thank you Ndani for capturing this narrative 🥂
Waooooo! This is what we need to address. Many men don't want to be the issue when it comes to infertility in the family. Because of pride, ego and the fact that they just want to be the MAN who is in control and that can't have issues. Thank you for putting this up.
The society has been stereotyped to think that women are the problems when it comes to couple inability to become pregnan. The men can't and won't be the problem, nevertheless all thanks to science for helping out with tests and results. So, what happens when the man is the problem of infertility in the family, should they marry another man for her to get her pregnant?
This has been popping up and I have finally watched it, and I must say it was worth it. Going through the comments, I realise we keep saying "our parents". Truth be told, we are still raising men to be egotistic and feel entitled, not to be vulnerable by telling them "you are a man" like it's not clear enough. Lovely storyline and actors.
Wow .. really wondering why this isn’t getting any buzz on social media esp Twitter .. every man / couple should watch this and talk about things like this with each other . Best ndani series in my opinion from cast , story line , cinematography, directing etc . Love it
Here in 2022 to say this movie is IT! Wow! Deep and Karibi and Eku did such a great job. The writing, the directing, the camera shots, the post production everything came together to communicate a very important message. Wow!
I so love how this movie explores the theme of sterility and breaks the stereotype around it. Truly man or woman at the end we are all humans and can suffer like trouble. Watched from Cameroon.
LOL @ women praising him for "defending" his wife. *HE* had the problem so of course he *corrected* his mother, duh. Some of you'll praise men for simply breathing, smh 😂😂😂
Whatever a woman can do, a man can do better 😉. Women through the years have had this pressure so much on them that it has become the norm to assume a woman infertile once there is a delay in been pregnant especially in marriages where the man believes he has been a father. We should learn to let couples sort themselves. Womb watchers, hear me ....You are not God. Men, that moment of vulnerability may just be all you need to live happily ever after. Women, it's not payback time 🤭. Live and Let Live. Many thanks to Ndani TV, Abimbola Craig and team.
Loved this, a perspective that is very rarely spoken about but is very prevalent. Male infertility needs to be less of a taboo, they ended up with children in the end but many don't get that happy ending.
Enjoyed this piece, we do need conversations like this in the society, let's stop hiding that there's only female fertility issues, it is both ways and with this reality helps couple make up their minds to walk together.
Thanks for this amazing movie! It is liberating to see Nigerians speaking about this elephant in the room at last. Sadly many women go and get pregnant by other men in secret because of the societal stereotypes around infertility. Keep up the good work, Ndani.
This is super lovey. Who else ran through series of thought of what they would have done if they were either of the couple. This is so intense and captivating. I’m not surprised at all...it’s a peperempe production 🔥❤️❤️😂😂
This!!!!! I love this narrative, our society is always quick to point fingers at the women forgetting the men might be the problem too. Well done Ndani, Abimbola Craig, Karibi and Eku
very important question.... if the woman was the one with the problem, would the man stay with her? this is very important topic every copule need to talk about before they agree to settle down with each other.
I remember when I first began to understand that the definition of equality in a marriage is a deeply personal thing, watching this, I am more convinced that the terms of engagement in a marriage must remain jointly personal. Not, “what will my family say?”, “what will people say”. It is hurtful and humiliating to be unable to access something you’re sure you deserve and on top of that, capable of having, as we see in Teni’s case. Staying in that kind of marriage must be for yourself and yourself only, will I sleep well at night? If the table were TURNED, will being with me be his resolve? Will he keep me and rear children with other people? Damn, this is so hard. I couldn’t do this if I wasn’t mad sure he would do the same for me. There are too many mediocre things in life, marriage shouldn’t be one them. Thank you Ndani for this beautiful piece of work. I hope it starts all the important conversations that we need to have. Salam!
I love this film. A film that treats different issues in marriages. Teniola tried to stay with him through it all. If he was the one, he would have walked out or had a child outside wedlock. His ego is too big.
This was superb! Absolutely well written and well played. I loved it. When are our african people going to understand that women are not always the problem? May God help all married people to be strong when they face situations like this.
This movie just resonate the last argument I had with a colleague, that men are not meant to be emotional or vulnerable. But this educates otherwise, Men are humans also, and it's okay for them to show their emotions and let it out. Thanks ndanitv!!!
i must confess, the lady is a very strong lady... that was a very difficult situation...but i think if we talk about it before marriage and we are honest about it for our future and togetherness, we will be fine...
Just because women possess the vessels to grow and birth children does not make us the only party responsible for or equipped to handle fertility issues be that wanted/unwanted pregnancy, infertility, contraception etc. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! And let's not forget the gender bias/pressure to have boys in our culture that seems to always be put on the women even though science has proven otherwise. It's so important to have projects like this to get important conversations going and to educate people. Another incredible and well-executed project from the Ndani team! *five stars*
I’m actually so glad that Femi said it... That he would rather she was the issue!!! It’s so weird for me how it must naturally be the women and how she must deal with the insults and shame that will be dished out to her for not being able to make children but when it’s the man the suddenly something isn’t right 🤷🏽♀️ Haaibo 😡
Even religion perpetuates this mindset. How many prayer meetings about infertility have men praying. You will see women wailing amd weeping while the man has peace of mind thinking the issue is the woman. I think women also assume the place of blame far too easily amd what the portrayed was what should be done. Check yourself first and know confidently of your own status and fertility.
POWERFUL MESSAGE embedded here! Moral of this story is CHILDLESSNESS could be as a result of any of the sexes! Conversations amongst spouses as regards family building and periodic medical evaluations should be a necessity for couples. Well done to the entire NDANI team as well as the cast and crew! 👌👍👏
Hmmmmm I saw 5 years later tooo no mind them ...they just mixed up their lines lolzzz . . 5years later means 7years down the line ....but they were greeting themselves happy 5th year anniversary
"I can't be a man if you don't work"... That line got me... Thumbs up to the producers, writers, actors and everyone who made this piece. It so deep and laced with so many lessons to be learnt. Thank you
Perfect Christmas Gift! Thank you Ndani for this film. Especially how it highlights the modern day issues we face daily: the toxic masculinity that prevents most men from showing their human side, the conclusion that it's always women that are the cause of problems in marriages whether child bearing or broken home. Thank you Ndani. Merry Christmas everyone.
Extremely impressed by the details and attention given to the medical condition with spot on explanation and possible prognosis. 👏🏾👏🏾 Physical assessment body consent, therapeutic communication and a lot more by the acting Doctor. Good job 👍🏽
I think it’ll be wiser for couples to take tests before being married especially if they plan on having kids or decide that even if they can’t they’d adopt or try fertility treatment options or be happy despite not having babies
Such a touching piece. The part where the lady kept wondering if he'd still stay with her on a turned table hit different for me as a guy.. I pray this piece strengthens families and their faith.
I work with patients who undergo the procedure and medical problem mentioned here and they've done a great job with portraying the doctor's meeting. Makes a nice change as doctors/nurses in Nigerian films are usually cringe-worthy with the ridiculous dialogue. The mother-in-law is the reason why most African men are the way they are; she was so ready to blame the wife and go and get some stranger outside her son's marriage to bring for him to impregnate to produce a child. Just insane. Kudos to Abimbola Craig on a wonderful set-piece. Great storyline with a stellar cast.
Lovely Film. Each time I find a fractured or wounded boy/man I have questioned the child girl programs and always lobbied that we must have boy child programs running concurrently as girl child programs continue. This boys to men clubs should be initiated across the continent to have sexuality issues discussed freely so that we all are able to cope when faced with life issues.
I had to pause to comment.. this is such a brilliant piece.The production team put in work to bring out best.. I Love that professionals were consulted so wrong info isn’t sent out. I’m so proud. Great work NdaniTv👏🏾👏🏾
The focus shouldn’t only be on the girl child..the boy child needs to be raised properly too. And the last question she asked is very important, would he stay if it was her who couldn’t mother a child. So many mothers assume it’s the female who has the problem. Thank you for this short film Ndanitv 🙏🏽
Beautiful piece. I think men should be more open to other options like adoption and all. A life without people to share it with is no life in my opinion.
@the world of Sam; your last question will he stay faithful? is vital. Some men might stay because of their status In church, at work etc. But will they stay faithful?
An absolutely beautiful and potent story that speaks to the heart. I really loved it when she contemplated leaving... and she said something like "Am I ready to live the rest of my life without children?". These are the conversations we should be having with each other. Not the empty frivolous talk we circle around constantly. Thank you for this film. A work of heart this is. I really do love happy endings but it would have been great to show how they handled the reality of no children or if they chose to separate or maybe if she convinced him to adopt. I'm getting carried away.. I know..That's how much I love this film... Overall, 10/10 for this film...
Beautiful story line from you NdaniTV, your casts are adorable. Kudos I must say. Apparently, whenever it comes to infertility and unable to give birth, African parents and society always think it is from women only, but this movie explain it all that even men cannot be able to give birth due to their infertility. Watching from Sierra Leone, much love Ndani team!!!
The little ways by which our society turns men into unemotional beings especially in marriage goes unnoticed. Even in this generation. It's time we start making pointers to it so that parents that did not previously know now know. I was with a family friend a while back. Her son fell while playing and she said 'don't cry, you are not a girl'. I was shocked and I asked her the reason for her statement. She just laughed it off. Imagine the child growing up with such perception that tears is for ladies
I typically don't comment in public opinion polls but, great job Ms Craig and Ndani Tv. My comments 1. Couples(intending) MUST address this issue before tying the knot. While no one desires it, it is a serious fact of life that this happens even in the face of no obvious medical mitigating circumstances. If you can afford it get tested prenup and if clear still know that life happens. Have a game plan and BE HONEST about it. I love his honesty about not wanting to adopt but the better time to air it would have been prenup. 2. Parents, please back off! Its the couple's life and decision. Unless you can afford multiple IVFs AND they ask for your help, kindly refrain from silly suggestions and innuendos. Please and thank you! Great job guys, you added relish to my boxing day!!
Just watching this in 2022. Absolutely amazing ❤️❤️ Karibi Fubara's face brought me here to see this. Am in pain all over again at the loss of a Gem.💔💔😭😭 Sun re o Karibi! Sleep on brother.🙏
Merry Christmas guys!
Our intention with this piece was to start a conversation that needs to be heard.
Loving the comments so far.
Major love to our writer and director Bunmi Ajakaiye who wrote this in four days with me on her heel, lol.
To the amazing actor Eku and Karibi thank you. To my dear talented Ndani team, both in house and contracted, this was a labor of love!
Enjoy Ndani family and please share!
Maami Abimbola Peperempe(complete that🤣🤣) Merry Christmas to you darling💃💃...and thanks to you and the entire Ndani team for this priceless Christmas gift... I'm just 3mins into the movie but of course...It's Ndani nowwww
Eku and Karibi killed it! Fantastic acting by both of them!!! 👌👌👌
Tiwalade.....lolz thanksss so much producing this cant wait for more from in 2020
Abims of laive.....Ndani team always nails it...Treating major issues that alot of us deal with.. Wonderful Actors.. God bless you all
Baddest producer!!!!!!
The last question she asked “if it was me would you stay?” That question deep gan!
With such toxic masculinity that Femi portrayed, I doubt he will stay.
Very very
I've been tryinq to answer that question in my head but I've not been able to....So deeeeep
Hmmm, someone whose mom was already suggesting an outside testing? Even if he wanted to, his mother wouldn't allow him! Hmmm, I'm sorry but I don't see the average Nigerian man agreeing to stay with a woman incapable of having children especially if there was proof that he could father children. Laslas side turkey will bear fowl sha ni!
The main question
Abimbola peperempe!! Baddest producer ever liveth! Can all the peperempes gather round for Christmas photo pls? 📸
yea
We have come ohhhhh !!
Shikum!! We haf snap photo
She and her team are super
I am short ooo, let me pose in Infront 😁
As a medical doctor, I must say this gave me a lot of joy, the attention to medical details was topnotch👌
Olorunfemi Adesola thank you
, same
I agree Dr, the writer took the time to do more than just a basic google search
The guy who acted the doctor part is actually a medical doctor
@@mopelolagbolagunte7989 no wonder, wow kudos to the crew
We stifle little boys emotions and when they grow up they don't know how to be vulnerable.Thank you Ndani TV for this.
MsOchanya THIS!!!!!!!!
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Coming back here to watch this in 2022 cause of it's well deserved Amvca nomination.... RIP Karibi❤
The struggles of life. I hope every one trying to have children get their prayers answered. But above all every couple should stay happy with or without children
Betty Bosz well said!
I guess its easier said than done. Bcos i for once as long as i can remember, all i want is to have a baby. so to get married and have this not happening is going to be really hard no matter how you try not to think about it.
@@julietcollins I see ur point
Amen
@@julietcollins
Most thoughtful comment so far. It's very very had. It's easier to watch and think about it and only hope i don't have to face it bcos i don't know what i will do.
This is a discussion every couple and every intending couple should have.....If we can't have kids, would we still be happy together...regardless of whose 'fault' it is?
Nice piece
Having such a discussion is good but will any of the intending partners be honest? I doubt it. I will of course say yes that we will still be happy but reality is different. U cant even wish your enemy a childless marriage. Its unbearable. And no one remains sane under these conditions
I had the conversation when I was engaged, even though I'd been pregnant before. Many things can still happen; chromosome incompatibility, genetic failures, inhospitable womb etc, so it's a very important conversation to have. It opened up how we felt towards adoption and helped us truly see how we would deal with the situation. This is why marriage should only be done by adults and not youngsters pushed into it by their parents or religious environment or hormones. I honestly don't think anyone under 25 should be getting married, considering the brain isn't fully developed until then. Which is why considering anyone under 25 an adult is a scientific joke and blunder! Marriage needs a developed brain and even with that, it's still a struggle!
@@chijioke4997 but who would dishonesty help? Anyone going into such a conversation needs to understand that the truth would be best and its their time to gauge the true intent of their intended and see if the possibilities are adaptable to them. If you can't be honest in such discussions then I don't see that marriage working, at least not working as well as it could.
@@mungalowcrooningswithabian7831 I cant argue with an ideal picture as presented by you. Marriage is a mystery.
@chijioke no one really remains sane,its been 10yrs and we are just taking it one day at a time....i didnt see myself here....after everything still.......
Rest in Perfect Peace Karibi, you were a phenomenal actor 🤍🕊
I love how the man stood up for his wife infront of his mom by telling her that he is the one with the problem.I think that was a brave thing to do.Ndanitv love always❤
Forget because it is his fault
I love how she tried to cover up for him in front of his mum... She was ready to bear his burden
Could he have opened up about his condition if it was the girl's mother?
@@chidinmaokafor2865 hmmm my dear that's the question
@@vivinwa9657 Exactly, lol. Some women will praise men for just breathing 😂😂
What an actor Karibi Fubara is... im so impressed!!!! his facial expression, body language, his reaction are so unreal.. top class actor...
Hollywood class act
And now, he is no more
@@priscillaabijah that’s sad 😔 ... what happened to him?
@@myarue222 He's dead
@@priscillaabijah oh okay dear,, my question was how did he die?
this is the kind of story that should be taken to the CINEMAS........... Great job!!!! NDANITV 👐👌👏👏👏👍
Yo, the entire cast and crew of this drama and Ndani TV deserves accolades. I'm so proud of the direction the entertainment industry is moving toward. I'm so over watching Nigerian dramas with only "moral lesson" of dos and don't. its high time we start addressing societal and political issues in the country. The issue of male infertility and the idea of what it means "to be a man" is a conversation well all should be having. Its time for the narratives to change.
But the moral lessons sit as the critical seamless fiber for a just society and political arena. You need it as a relevant substratum if society and politics will hold together well. It is indispensable, if you ask me.
For example, right in this movie is the nuances of selfishness vs selflessness
Nice. I would have preferred an ending that involved Femi coming to terms with fathering a child that is not his. That would have been the real lemonade.
😂😂😂 baby steps darling, baby steps. We can barely fathom a man is infertile
You are stupid and how would that help the matter. You need to examine your head. Because you are like this you things don't have an imagination.
I hope this short film encourages a couple who may be in this same position. Understand that where there is LOVE there is GOD because He is Love. I have heard of couples who doctors have told are infertile but then had children. Those who are blessed to have a spouse, hold on and let the love from God flow through your bond.
May God bless the creator of this film - it must have come from a place of understanding.
Charmaine B amen to that
That's the pride ooooo
Where there is Love there is God!! Tweet that mama!!!!
U said it all💞💞
I'm a doctor and I have to say I'm so proud of how well researched and acted this was. Well done. This is something every couple definitely needs to discuss before getting married.
How will they know this if not married please? What will they discuss with each other? How will she or her know the other party in infertile? This is a just a crisis in marriage and only prayer and God could help and again they can actually travel out and go see a professional too.
I agree. NdaniTV has done well in this aspect compared to others. Makes me proud they can do great stuff
@@bengaisrael3523 you discuss the probabilities and what you will do about them if they should happen
The 'doctor' is an actual doctor
@@bengaisrael3523 The same fertility tests done in marriage can be carried out before marriage. Some now do semen analyses, various scans and hormonal assays before marriage. The only problem I see is that it might only bring or give stigma and more harm but what can you do.
The whole 'I wasn't raised to' monologue is 🔥🔥🔥🔥
That's the reality of life specially for African brothers
Mad heat 🔥🔥
@@tdoljuu may be, I'll just agree with you but is still very much experienced with my African brothers
She didn't quite kill it
Man! I tore up when she started hers 💔😪
Abimbola Craig Baddest Producer 💃💃💃
She’s amazing
I like the part of him saying he wasn't taught to be vulnerable or fragile. Majority of men are brought up with this idea of what it is to be a man. They aren't suppose to show any weakness . So when they are hit with something like this they don't know how to react. I will definitely not bring a son up with this ideology
....and for how he defended her with his mum...that is brilliant. I love when he says she shouldn't carry a shame that's not her's.
Lol, it was his issue. He doesn't get praise for correcting his mother.
The heart of a woman is so large. A major question to be answered is, “If it were to be the woman with the infertility, would the man stay?” This was a very beautiful watch!
Honestly...our hearts are so big
I am aware of issues where the man has also exhibited this same large heart because the problem is the wife. Bottom line, pray you get a godly, loving spouse who will understand and walk through this valley with you.
Beautiful script. This guy also reminds me of OC ukeje who's another great actor!!! Well done team
This is so good. I think we have to be very intentional in the upbringing of our male children. Many of us were brought up never to accept defeat, always have the final say or to be the right one always and this is affecting a lot of men. Let's make the male child know that he could also be the one down at a point and he needs support or help just like the way he would want to help a female.
Thumbs up for this
Partrick Bayirding Osei- Adjei yaaay yes Patrick 😂
I love your comment. The male child is raised to believe lots of unrealistic things. He grows up and gets confused when confronted with reality and who bears the burden? His wife who has also been raised to shoulder everything and die in silent pain.
The moment I saw Abimbola Craig's name, I knew it was going to be an intelligent piece. Very inspiring with lots of lessons to learn. Well-done 👏👏
When he said he would have been ok if she was the problem was really messed up... the way the works is set up against women sucks a lot...men and their egos 🤦♀️
Is messed up but I like that it was addressed because some men really think like this.
At least he was honest. Most men would feel that way and either bottle up and say nothing or start torturing the woman for real. It's crazy how many men are natural gaslighters especially when they are the problem. The wife really made serious points but reverted back to the norm when the mom appeared. It was really nice to see the hubby become truly the man for her and refuse to let her take on the blame.
@@mungalowcrooningswithabian7831 im glad she made him talk and he let it out cos like u said they bottle it in n turn cold/ shut out the woman like he was doing before the argument
They're very selfish set of people.
She was really mature...the way she handled all that
Maturity in a relationship...sometimes you have to be the strong one I guess
I have to applaud the entire team who put this film together. This narrative is real for many couples, yet infertility is mostly showcased on media as "the woman's fault". This piece is a step in the right direction towards breaking that unhealthy and untrue stereotype.
I also love another theme of the film, that it's okay for men to be vulnerable.
Even after they had that huge argument and he said things that hurt her deeply, she saw him in that vulnerable state on the floor and she reached out. That's big. That's love. That's what it means to make a decision to love and treat that person with a kind and patient heart.
"If I was the one with the issue, would you stay?" Damn, now that was a question. What the man was expecting from her, would he be able to do the same if the table were turned?
This film right here, is premium content.
If it was me, would you stay? Now that is the million dollar question we'll never get an answer to.
Femi's mother acted so well, I could picture an African mother reacting the same way. I so love this short film, it's the reality we face in the society
Omo, this film was so engaging. I found myself wanting more!!!!❤️❤️❤️ I love the fact that the woman stuck with the man for 3 more years.( She probably would have stuck with him forever 👀) This got me thinking though " would the man have stuck with her if she was the problem?" 🤷🏾♀️
They rarely ever do. The ones that do understand love, loyalty amd have their own minds to not bow to family or societal pressure.
For where na marton race
Wow this movie made me tear. The cast did very well but above all those story is so vital for this generations, and for us as Africans and for our men to know that being the head does not mean not showing weakness and that you need your partners support. Love this Ndani you guys always put out the best .
Yes oh
Oh Jeez. Bimbo, you brought tears to my eyes with this. True, the Bible says Married people will have tribulations in their flesh. No wonder it also says the Two will become one flesh. Joys shared. Trials shared. HOPE in GOD. TRUST in God and in one's spouse. COMMITMENT to stay loyal and faithful. Vital qualities for Marriage.
Yes namesy I agree with you
💯 true
I love how Femi was brave enough to tell his mon!!! A man 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
He was so sure he wasn't the problem and all that while, he was thinking the woman was? What kind of thinking is this? Indeed our boys need to be raised better!
My girlfriend brought this movie to my attention. I am grateful she did. A lot to learn from here.
Mothers... “there’s no infertility in my linage” so there’s infertility in the woman’s linage abi?
Great movie; Deep lessons..
😂😂😂😂😂 very annoying
I just learnt of his passing and rushed here
Coz this was the first movie I saw of him.
So young🥺.
Dear God, give consolation to his family and grant rest to his soul!
May we appreciate life more people
Tomorrow is never guaranteed 😩🥺
Am I the only one interested in the story of the girl that said she got pregnant for him?
Joommie Akintoye me too ooo.
I’m so interested in that part! She prolly a hole! Lol
Me Three!!! She probably lied that it was for him
Not just you, me too
I was.. But 🤷🏾♂️ that would be too cliche dont you think so?.. If you tell a typical African man that you are pregnant after all these saga.. He will start questioning your fidelity. Lol
Y'all can trust Abimbola Craig to bring quality content, every scene and emotion was deliberate and well executed. Surprisingly, its my first time seeing Eku Edewor in a movie but I'm about to search for any other movie she's been in, She embodies poise, maturity but also that meticulous way of owning a character. This narrative NEEDS to be told more often in nollywood as its a way of helping to deal with the toxic masculinity that plagues a lot of African cultures.
Watch Castle and Castle
Will the family suggest that she gets another husband since the one she has can’t give her children 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
It's Lindiwe M 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
U said ma soeur
They will opt for Adoption
Valid question
Oyaaa Shut your mouth( in my best aunty voice)lol
This video may have been thirty minutes but it carried a lot of lesson and I must admit it was worth every time and mb. Some couples fail to discuss their thoughts and ideas on having kids and what other options they can have. Others put the blame on the woman forgetting that the problem might also be from the man. At the end of the day, some couple don't even make it past their first anniversary, others rise above it and make the most out of it.
It is very surprising that even in this age and time women still carry most of the emotional baggage.. The lady is even more concern that the guy in question from suggesting adoption, trying to make him feel better, defending him in front of his mother. Women! Such a brave entity. Great storyline
The average African mother and the pressure they exert on young couples😣. "There is no infertility in my lineage ". We are so quick to blame the Women. Thank you Ndani for capturing this narrative 🥂
The painful part is: all this busy body mother inlaws are not watching this movie😏😏😏
@@lovettejohn9730I know right!
Waooooo! This is what we need to address. Many men don't want to be the issue when it comes to infertility in the family. Because of pride, ego and the fact that they just want to be the MAN who is in control and that can't have issues. Thank you for putting this up.
The society has been stereotyped to think that women are the problems when it comes to couple inability to become pregnan.
The men can't and won't be the problem, nevertheless all thanks to science for helping out with tests and results. So, what happens when the man is the problem of infertility in the family, should they marry another man for her to get her pregnant?
May Karibi's soul rest in peace. He was an awesome actor!
First of all, can we give it up for Eku! She completely blew me away with her acting skill. And Fubara! Gosh. Such a great pair!
This has been popping up and I have finally watched it, and I must say it was worth it.
Going through the comments, I realise we keep saying "our parents". Truth be told, we are still raising men to be egotistic and feel entitled, not to be vulnerable by telling them "you are a man" like it's not clear enough.
Lovely storyline and actors.
Wow .. really wondering why this isn’t getting any buzz on social media esp Twitter .. every man / couple should watch this and talk about things like this with each other . Best ndani series in my opinion from cast , story line , cinematography, directing etc . Love it
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Here in 2022 to say this movie is IT! Wow! Deep and Karibi and Eku did such a great job. The writing, the directing, the camera shots, the post production everything came together to communicate a very important message. Wow!
I so love how this movie explores the theme of sterility and breaks the stereotype around it. Truly man or woman at the end we are all humans and can suffer like trouble. Watched from Cameroon.
LOL @ women praising him for "defending" his wife. *HE* had the problem so of course he *corrected* his mother, duh. Some of you'll praise men for simply breathing, smh 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣africa
J Q THANK YOU!
J Q u are a genius for saying that
Let me find you something! You’re an excellent person!!
Whatever a woman can do, a man can do better 😉.
Women through the years have had this pressure so much on them that it has become the norm to assume a woman infertile once there is a delay in been pregnant especially in marriages where the man believes he has been a father.
We should learn to let couples sort themselves. Womb watchers, hear me ....You are not God.
Men, that moment of vulnerability may just be all you need to live happily ever after.
Women, it's not payback time 🤭.
Live and Let Live.
Many thanks to Ndani TV, Abimbola Craig and team.
Loved this, a perspective that is very rarely spoken about but is very prevalent. Male infertility needs to be less of a taboo, they ended up with children in the end but many don't get that happy ending.
you literally spoiled the whole thing in one sitting smh
@@lustfilled_1178 lmao
Why were you reading comments? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
viola Ename lmfao I couldn’t stop myself 😫
Enjoyed this piece, we do need conversations like this in the society, let's stop hiding that there's only female fertility issues, it is both ways and with this reality helps couple make up their minds to walk together.
Thanks for this amazing movie! It is liberating to see Nigerians speaking about this elephant in the room at last. Sadly many women go and get pregnant by other men in secret because of the societal stereotypes around infertility. Keep up the good work, Ndani.
This is super lovey. Who else ran through series of thought of what they would have done if they were either of the couple. This is so intense and captivating.
I’m not surprised at all...it’s a peperempe production 🔥❤️❤️😂😂
This!!!!! I love this narrative, our society is always quick to point fingers at the women forgetting the men might be the problem too. Well done Ndani, Abimbola Craig, Karibi and Eku
This film is deserving of an Oscar. I swear.
@Abisola Abiodun l could like your comment a 1000 Times
very important question.... if the woman was the one with the problem, would the man stay with her?
this is very important topic every copule need to talk about before they agree to settle down with each other.
D answer is capital noooo
I remember when I first began to understand that the definition of equality in a marriage is a deeply personal thing, watching this, I am more convinced that the terms of engagement in a marriage must remain jointly personal. Not, “what will my family say?”, “what will people say”.
It is hurtful and humiliating to be unable to access something you’re sure you deserve and on top of that, capable of having, as we see in Teni’s case. Staying in that kind of marriage must be for yourself and yourself only, will I sleep well at night? If the table were TURNED, will being with me be his resolve? Will he keep me and rear children with other people? Damn, this is so hard. I couldn’t do this if I wasn’t mad sure he would do the same for me. There are too many mediocre things in life, marriage shouldn’t be one them.
Thank you Ndani for this beautiful piece of work. I hope it starts all the important conversations that we need to have. Salam!
I love this film.
A film that treats different issues in marriages.
Teniola tried to stay with him through it all. If he was the one, he would have walked out or had a child outside wedlock. His ego is too big.
This was superb!
Absolutely well written and well played. I loved it. When are our african people going to understand that women are not always the problem? May God help all married people to be strong when they face situations like this.
This film has a lot of hidden messages that a lot of men needs to sit down and watch! I wished it was longer tho. This was an amazing film!!
Best Christmas gift !!!!!! A lot of us are going through this and we just don’t know how to voice out,thank u Bunmi Ajakaye
This movie just resonate the last argument I had with a colleague, that men are not meant to be emotional or vulnerable. But this educates otherwise, Men are humans also, and it's okay for them to show their emotions and let it out. Thanks ndanitv!!!
i must confess, the lady is a very strong lady... that was a very difficult situation...but i think if we talk about it before marriage and we are honest about it for our future and togetherness, we will be fine...
Just because women possess the vessels to grow and birth children does not make us the only party responsible for or equipped to handle fertility issues be that wanted/unwanted pregnancy, infertility, contraception etc. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! And let's not forget the gender bias/pressure to have boys in our culture that seems to always be put on the women even though science has proven otherwise. It's so important to have projects like this to get important conversations going and to educate people. Another incredible and well-executed project from the Ndani team! *five stars*
Honestly, Ndani, where do you guys get ladies with natural hair? I love love love this.
I’m actually so glad that Femi said it... That he would rather she was the issue!!!
It’s so weird for me how it must naturally be the women and how she must deal with the insults and shame that will be dished out to her for not being able to make children but when it’s the man the suddenly something isn’t right 🤷🏽♀️
Haaibo 😡
Even religion perpetuates this mindset. How many prayer meetings about infertility have men praying. You will see women wailing amd weeping while the man has peace of mind thinking the issue is the woman. I think women also assume the place of blame far too easily amd what the portrayed was what should be done. Check yourself first and know confidently of your own status and fertility.
POWERFUL MESSAGE embedded here! Moral of this story is CHILDLESSNESS could be as a result of any of the sexes! Conversations amongst spouses as regards family building and periodic medical evaluations should be a necessity for couples. Well done to the entire NDANI team as well as the cast and crew! 👌👍👏
I'm here because Fractured got nominated in 2022
Well done to the cast and crew
Keep resting Chief Black
Great acting.
Hard stuffs for the holidays sha.
5 years later plus two years of trying. That's seven years married.
I thought so too
7yrs anniversary
No ...2 years of trying......5th year wedding anniversary....so its 3years after the whole surgery saga
Hmmmmm I saw 5 years later tooo no mind them ...they just mixed up their lines lolzzz . . 5years later means 7years down the line ....but they were greeting themselves happy 5th year anniversary
God will do it
My Aunty and Uncle tried for 15 years, gave up and adopted and then found out they were pregnant a month later.
"I can't be a man if you don't work"...
That line got me...
Thumbs up to the producers, writers, actors and everyone who made this piece.
It so deep and laced with so many lessons to be learnt. Thank you
Perfect Christmas Gift! Thank you Ndani for this film. Especially how it highlights the modern day issues we face daily: the toxic masculinity that prevents most men from showing their human side, the conclusion that it's always women that are the cause of problems in marriages whether child bearing or broken home.
Thank you Ndani.
Merry Christmas everyone.
Extremely impressed by the details and attention given to the medical condition with spot on explanation and possible prognosis. 👏🏾👏🏾
Physical assessment body consent, therapeutic communication and a lot more by the acting Doctor. Good job 👍🏽
Blessing Adekunle Exactly my thoughts, the topic was well researched.
As a Dr I give them kudos
I think it’ll be wiser for couples to take tests before being married especially if they plan on having kids or decide that even if they can’t they’d adopt or try fertility treatment options or be happy despite not having babies
Such a touching piece. The part where the lady kept wondering if he'd still stay with her on a turned table hit different for me as a guy.. I pray this piece strengthens families and their faith.
That’s the million dollar question “if i was the one that couldn’t give you children, will you stay?!”
I work with patients who undergo the procedure and medical problem mentioned here and they've done a great job with portraying the doctor's meeting. Makes a nice change as doctors/nurses in Nigerian films are usually cringe-worthy with the ridiculous dialogue. The mother-in-law is the reason why most African men are the way they are; she was so ready to blame the wife and go and get some stranger outside her son's marriage to bring for him to impregnate to produce a child. Just insane. Kudos to Abimbola Craig on a wonderful set-piece. Great storyline with a stellar cast.
Lovely story. It is a test to love and family. Perhaps they allowed themselves to relax and de-emphasize pregnancy and so pregnancy came.
Very captivating! Great film! Thanks GTB for putting all my card maintenance fee into great use. Lool. Just kiddin'
Lmaooo....Glory this your comment is deep oo
Ha ha. Na joke oo. Merry Christmas!
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Abi naaaaa
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Lovely Film. Each time I find a fractured or wounded boy/man I have questioned the child girl programs and always lobbied that we must have boy child programs running concurrently as girl child programs continue. This boys to men clubs should be initiated across the continent to have sexuality issues discussed freely so that we all are able to cope when faced with life issues.
Ikr, boys need attention too. They make men feel like super heroes.
It a tough decision to make however I learnt if you need help ask for it, be a man or woman it okay to need/ask for help among others. Lovely story🥰
I had to pause to comment.. this is such a brilliant piece.The production team put in work to bring out best..
I Love that professionals were consulted so wrong info isn’t sent out.
I’m so proud. Great work NdaniTv👏🏾👏🏾
Your soundtracks of your shows is always fire💥💥
Thank you @Adwoa
I love the fact that femi came out straight to his mum.......kudos to Abimbola Craig(the baddest producer ever liveth.
Africans most especially Nigerians inlaws need to change their mentality.
Nice story
well told👌
I like the happily ever after.
Bravo🙌🙌
The focus shouldn’t only be on the girl child..the boy child needs to be raised properly too. And the last question she asked is very important, would he stay if it was her who couldn’t mother a child. So many mothers assume it’s the female who has the problem. Thank you for this short film Ndanitv 🙏🏽
Such a good film. Hopefully the stigma of adoption changes soon, here in the US people who adopt are celebrated, not pitied.
Beautiful piece. I think men should be more open to other options like adoption and all. A life without people to share it with is no life in my opinion.
HMMMMM......That big important question - If she was the one with the problem, would he stay? And stay faithful?
@the world of Sam; your last question will he stay faithful? is vital. Some men might stay because of their status In church, at work etc. But will they stay faithful?
Faithful men in Nigeria are 10%
vivi nwa -0.000001%
An absolutely beautiful and potent story that speaks to the heart. I really loved it when she contemplated leaving... and she said something like "Am I ready to live the rest of my life without children?". These are the conversations we should be having with each other. Not the empty frivolous talk we circle around constantly. Thank you for this film. A work of heart this is. I really do love happy endings but it would have been great to show how they handled the reality of no children or if they chose to separate or maybe if she convinced him to adopt. I'm getting carried away.. I know..That's how much I love this film... Overall, 10/10 for this film...
Real life issues, acting on point. Bravooooooooo Ndani.
THIS IS THE BEST NDANI SHORT MOVIE .I LOVE THE WAY THEY BROUGHT OUT THE STEREOTYPES OF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AND HOW PATRIARCHY IS RUINING MARRIAGES
YOu guys are mean, got me all teary in the office. Mean!!!
Beautiful story line from you NdaniTV, your casts are adorable. Kudos I must say.
Apparently, whenever it comes to infertility and unable to give birth, African parents and society always think it is from women only, but this movie explain it all that even men cannot be able to give birth due to their infertility. Watching from Sierra Leone, much love Ndani team!!!
“So you would’ve been ok if I wasn’t ok?”....deep
The little ways by which our society turns men into unemotional beings especially in marriage goes unnoticed. Even in this generation. It's time we start making pointers to it so that parents that did not previously know now know.
I was with a family friend a while back. Her son fell while playing and she said 'don't cry, you are not a girl'. I was shocked and I asked her the reason for her statement. She just laughed it off.
Imagine the child growing up with such perception that tears is for ladies
I typically don't comment in public opinion polls but, great job Ms Craig and Ndani Tv.
My comments
1. Couples(intending) MUST address this issue before tying the knot. While no one desires it, it is a serious fact of life that this happens even in the face of no obvious medical mitigating circumstances. If you can afford it get tested prenup and if clear still know that life happens. Have a game plan and BE HONEST about it. I love his honesty about not wanting to adopt but the better time to air it would have been prenup.
2. Parents, please back off! Its the couple's life and decision. Unless you can afford multiple IVFs AND they ask for your help, kindly refrain from silly suggestions and innuendos. Please and thank you!
Great job guys, you added relish to my boxing day!!
Just watching this in 2022. Absolutely amazing ❤️❤️ Karibi Fubara's face brought me here to see this. Am in pain all over again at the loss of a Gem.💔💔😭😭 Sun re o Karibi! Sleep on brother.🙏
Yeah. Great actor . Rest on Kabiri Fubara.