New UPDATE Video Is UP ❤ Thank you everyone for your support! I appreciate the love and I pray this video comforts those who feel like they aren’t enough because you were abandoned. th-cam.com/video/ZTUWNUiO8iY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=CiRYmWh8kEZ-r2ch
I’m glad you were brave enough to do this. 👍🏾 Don’t be upset with the nay sayers. We are all ignorant in some areas. Sometimes putting a child up for adoption is best for the child. Many people suffer with emotional & mental conditions. Postpartum is real too. I don’t have a clue about your situation. This is my first time viewing your channel. I’m so glad you’re forgiving and receiving counseling! You are a brave, beautiful, 🦋intelligent, & blessed young woman. I wish you the best.❤
My mother adopted my brother and she got him when he was 23 days old. At 30 he took a DNA test and found a brother. My family met him and there are almost the same in every way. They look alike, play, guitar have similar tattoos. Siblings are so cool.Thank you for sharing
You are so fortunate. You could have ended up in an orphanage or the foster care system. Your adoptive parents did such a wonderful job of raising you and you have a great life, with or without your birth parents. Maybe you would have been miserable growing up with them and would not have been the amazing lady you are today. Really you grew up just the way you were meant to. I hope this experience reassures you that you are 100% OK. Now you can go on with your future without the nagging questions. My dear, you are truly great.
@@Julie-qw5ld Thank you, Julie. I am so blessed to not have grown up in foster care. However, I hope that my video will encourage individuals that have been abandoned that there is light at the end of the tunnel… and for the parents that don’t want to be parents there is a right way to give your child up. Blessings to you.
"God weaves remarkable events in and through our lives."🙏 You are a beautiful, strong woman.💕 You are a wonderful mother who will become an excellent mentor to others who have lived experiences similar to yours. Blessings!
As someone who is African and fascinated with DNA results videos, your DNA video was recommended to me by yt. I was further drawn to watch the video because of your beautiful melanated complexion and your pretty face. Before watching that video, I predicted that you’d definitely have a high percentage of Nigerian DNA and was pleasantly impressed by the fact that you are 94% African (Shout out to your ancestors for keeping it real.) However, as a result of watching that video, I became engrossed in your more personal adoption/voyage of discovery story. After watching the above video, I am glad to see that many of your previously unresolved questions about your past have been answered ….. although it might be me but I still don’t understand your explanation of how your adopted mum and your uncle are related to your birth parents. Your story reminded me of my history. In short, my parents moved to the Uk from Africa, married and because they were young, in a foreign land and pursuing an education, employment etc I was placed in foster care. Whilst I was in care, my parents “separated” which culminated in my mother returning to Nigeria. By the time my father and I went back to Nigeria, my mother had died. The sad thing was I have no recollection of ever seeing my mother. Or indeed any of my grandparents. Has it affected me? Who knows. I say all of this just to make the point that your “journey” although painful has allowed you the opportunity to confront and resolve certain issues. I suspect that you know that in some ways you have been very fortunate. Anyways peace my Sista. I wish you all the best.
You are brave, beautiful and kind! Yes, those abandoned babies, grow up to be the most valuable, influential and caring human beings of all!! You and I are both examples of that . Thanks for sharing!
I pray for your healing my sis. Some of us were (what I call) abandoned in place, meaning although our parents didn't physically abandon us, they did in all other ways. The Most High uses me to minister to others who have had simillar trauma and as you know, HE CARES!
Wow! What a story! I can feel your heartache as you talk about the feelings of abandonment. I'm glad you had good parents to adopt and love you, and a husband to love and support you. And you may not have spent your childhood with your brother, but you can have a relationship now. May you have peace and love the rest of your life.❤
I was abandoned also, and it really hit home when you said that that person is just outliving their life and you need to forgive for yourself. and also being a mom, so super important to me.❤ God bless.
Did your biological mother tell you the circumstances that led her to abandon you in a van . We have a TV program here in the UK that helps people find family and answers in similar situations to yours . You are a lovely person that any mother would be proud of ❤
@@ToraisaJI do genealogy and I have to say that some times, no answer is the answer. I have a lot of insane stories about my family and I will share just one. My great grandfather was an abusive alcoholic and when my great grandmother died, he sold his minor children. I had a cousin reach out to see what I knew about our family. My cousin was not adopted, but he was abandoned by his mother. I was aware that my grandfather found all 13 siblings and they were reunited. He was such a mean person and we didn’t speak for 15 years. He hid family reunions from us and never let us meet all of them. We had reunited 3 years before he passed and I never questioned him. Helping my cousin, we had discovered that our family had a lot of problems and we both knew how much we were better off not being around. His mom abandoned him because she went crazy from the abuse and she didn’t even know that she had a younger sister and felt that everyone had hid her from her. But she had been living in a different state. I discovered that these people had killed others (a 7 year old child 😢 and my great uncle had stabbed his own wife for having to prostitute herself to get food because the kids were starving and he was in prison for robbing someone. So many horrible things about these people that I would have probably been fine without knowing. It helped me heal from the fact I had cut ties with my grandfather for so long and realized that he was protecting us from them. So, not in all cases, but at times, not having the answer we desire may be Gods way of protecting us. I pray for you to be happy and accepting of everything you discover on your journey ❤
I was wondering the same thing. How old was she when she gave birth in the van, why was she giving birth in the van, was she alone? Did the Dad know it happened? Did other family members know? Is Brandon a full sibling? So many questions.
You can be extremely happy with your adopted parents and absolutely have that love for each other. Wanting to know who your biological parents are takes nothing away from that at all ❤️
@@mah3223alia Finally someone understands. I love my adoptive parents. However, I wanted to know who I came from. I don’t regret finding my bio mom and family. This situation has shaped me into the woman I am today.
@@ToraisaJ It actually sounds as though your quest to find your bio family has drawn you closer to your adoptive mother. You have approached your search honestly, prayerfully, and with an open heart, ready to accept whatever your learned. Talking and sharing with your adoptive parents about your findings binds them more firmly to you as an adult. Painful as it has been, I can see the joy outweighs the sorrow.
Toraisa, I just came across this video this morning and I feel as it was a divine appointment from God. I am 65 years old and I just found my family through AncestryDNA 2 years ago, that’s right I met my biological family at the age of 63! What a journey it has been and you are so correct that no matter what you want to know who your family is, I cried so many tears over the years! I have been married for 39 years and we have 3 daughters and six grands, I have taught for over 25 years and I would feel empty because the spirit of abandonment was in me my entire life because I didn’t, know who my family was.😢 Also I was never adopted I was in foster care my entire childhood, I didn’t think I was going to make it, but God......I have wrote a book; called “El Roi, The God That Sees Me” and will be published soon! I wrote my story and what I tried to hide from has healed me because I can now see God in my story. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I understand the tears! I pray that you and your biological family can write a new story of love and redemption! God bless you sis!
Wow! What a story. I hope you were about to get answers. 39 years of marriage, three daughters and grandchildren is awesome. I know you give them so much love. Congrats 🎊 on your book. I would love to read it. Even in difficult situations, there is a blessing…. Turning pain into purpose. Praying God continues to cover you and help you continue to heal your heart. Much love ❤️.
Very good video. It deserves more views. I'm happy that you found your biological family. Just more people outside of your parents to show you love. May God continue to bless you and your family.
TH-cam recommended you. I’ve watched the abandoned video and now have watched this one. You are so Awesome! I am so happy for you! Be encouraged for you are blessed!!!❤😊❤
This story is so beautiful and profound! It gave me chills and I shed a tear especially when you met your brother 🥲 I tell you all the time you are so strong and I look up to you. I know this is part of your therapy and thank you so much for sharing it with us all. You are a beautiful person inside and out, “forgive others not for them but for yourself” that wi forever stick with me. I love you friend ♥️
Awwww🥹 This is such a beautiful testimony. I’m so happy for you friend.❣️ I know this is something that you’ve wanted to find out forever. I’m so proud of you for having the courage to find YOUR TRUTH. ❤️
There is nothing wrong with wanting to know where you came from. I guarantee the people who tried to discourage you know who their birth parents are and they are wrong for trying to block you from knowing your truth. I'm glad you're sharing your story. You're helping others to heal.
I think it’s beautiful that in a way you were still raised via a family member (adopted mom being cousins with bio dad) and in a way maybe it was meant to be your ancestors are probably looking down proud of your adopted mother and father that they stepped up for you and your bio mom when she couldn’t
THERE'S too many people that don't want their children. Or abuse and reject them. This is not the child's problem, it's the parent's mental issues, and it's not fair that the victim should suffer for it. In your case, I think, it's made you a better person. Thanks for sharing
If your adopted mother is also related to you then the rest of the family grandparents included knew you were out there with another relative. Why wouldn't you been fellowshipped in. I know its painful but something still sounds amiss.May God bless and guide you.
DNA matches don't have to be much. For example, maybe 300 centimorgans which would be a second cousin. I have only met a few of my second cousins. Third cousins average a shared 100 centimorgans. You will have relative matches you don't know. what is was her adopted uncle had taken a DNA test, so he showed up as a match. Obviously, from what she said, it was not her adopted mom's sibling who is one of her bio parents. Even if a first cousin i of adopted mom's., she may have not known her cousin was pregnant if they concealed their pregnancy or if she was related to bio dad that he had fathered a child. obviously, the birth parents were not telling folks
Shame on those negative people giving negative comments! You are entitled to feel what you feel think what you think. All of us humans have those rights. We can encourage people . That is it. God bless you! Keep 🙂
I love these types of videos and yours is so unique in that the family that you were adopted into were you real family members and they didn't know. Geesh
I think that it was probably a huge blessing that you were brought up by your adoptive parents because they did a wonderful job raising you up to have a most beautiful heart. I imagine that you would have suffered more with your biological parents. You are so very kind and forgiving and are taking excellent care of yourself and your family. Your biological parents missed out on you. You are an excellent example to all. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s painful, but it seems that we receive a pain in our lives that is for us to transform our lives. We have to choose if we will allow that pain to tear us down or allow for transformation and growth. You chose growth. You are an excellent example for your children. Peace to you. Continue in love and grace. ❤
🥺 I’m adopted as well, I listen to so many stories within the triad. Yours be far is the most unique, you were in the presence of your biological family this whole time. 🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing your story, you are so courageous. You are helping to change the narrative of black adoption. One day I’m going to share my story. I know how difficult this is, the cycle of grief last for a lifetime. I wishing you healing, and continuous healing. 💕 (Let me finish this video and cry with you 😢)
Thank you so much for your sweet words. When you’re ready, share your story because it will help so many as well. It’s therapeutic for me when I share my story. So many have experienced abandonment and don’t know how to heal from it… but I am an example that with therapy and God you can learn how to move forward with your life and not hold on to the pain. Sending love your way ❤️
You do want to know. It brought me peace. ❤ You have the right to know simply because you exist and your history and ancestors are part of your existence.
Oh wow this was way more emotional than I expected 😭 I’m so happy for you and the strength you have. You’re a beautiful woman and you are giving so much to your kids! My mom left me when I was 4 and the pain I’ve suffered from feeling like I wasn’t enough intensified when I had my daughter. Woah! But it’s made me a better mother and I’ve also gained such a strong appreciation for my husband ❤ Hugs!
@@labitcoineragt3596 Don’t have me crying again 🥹🥹🥹 I understand the feeling. I never want my children to feel how I felt so I show them so much love. I hope your daughter knows she has an amazing mother!! Hugs back to you!! ❤️
I don't know why this showed up in my feed two years later, but your transparency is admirable. I'm sure you're an amazing mom, daughter and wife. May God bring abundant blessings.
I wish you so much peace upon your heart and mind. Also, it's so refreshing to see such a real and authentic person sharing their story without trying to get clicks or sell something. I am grateful for your presence here. ❤
@@esspyarrow8772 Thank you. That’s important to me to be real and authentic on my channel and be a might to others. Thank you for kind words and watching.
You are an amazing person! So real! As I commented in your last video regarding ancestry dna, you are so well spoken and a pleasure to watch! You deserve the best!
Hey, congratulations! I just watched your video about the DNA test, so know this has been a long journey for you. You're a very genuine person, and this video is emotional for us too because of that.
I just discovered you on TH-cam ..I'm enjoying your story... you are a beautiful person inside and out.. you were born and saved for a reason... also I love your name it's so pretty ❤
bless you for sharing your story it's very brave and will certainly helped others I think that you're suffering PTSD from your early start it's been something that's affected you badly self care is good and not selfish it's a requirement
MY DEAR YOU HAVE A NEED AND A RIGHT TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE, THAT IS A NATURAL REQUIREMENT OF A PERSON MY SYMPATHY GOES WITH YOU DEAR. I AM GLAD YOU FOUND OUT WHO YOUR MOTHER IS, AND WHO YOU ARE PHYSICALLY. DO YOU RESEMBLE HER? 😊
Your birth mother is so beautiful. Since you have children you know how it would be impossible to leave your baby and walk away....your birth mother must have really been in a difficult situation and she knew that she couldn't take care of you. Beautiful story.
That’s wonderful news for you that you’re related to your adoptive parents. As to where you come from, you DO come from your adoptive parents, in that they took you into their familial “tribe”, raised you according to their ethical and moral codes, and provided you with the fundamental building blocks to turn into the beautiful, pragmatic and wise woman you are today. I feel the same for my stepdad who took my mum and I in when I was five and provided us with security, stability and home but instilled in me with a moral compass while my mothers grasp of ethics and morals was a little more fragile. And i forgive my biodad for walking away because he couldn’t handle the prospects and responsibilities of parenthood, because if he didn’t my stepdad wouldn’t have come along.
You know you are loved and I am truly amazed by how strong you are! You don’t look like what you been through! I’m so happy you’re my little cousin! ❤❤
Wishing you peace of mind and a full heart to move past the pain. You are truly blessed to have loving parents, a caring husband and beautiful kids plus now you are blessed with 2 new aunts, a new brother and more. God bless you!!!!!! Love your spirit...
Hello Toraisa ! 🙋🏽.. Thank you for sharing your story with us . So happy that you found your Birth Parents and Family members !!! ❤.. I know this was important for you .. You will get to start new relationships with each family member. What great Blessings !!!.. Continue to be happy !!.. You are very Strong and Courageous !!! 🙏🏽💞
Congrats! This is amazing! I, too, found my paternal side of the family via social media 8 years ago. My sister, who is 6 years older than me, passed away in 2019-we never met in person. My brother, who is 5 years older than me, we have yet to meet in person. Watching you meet your brother made me think, dang... I really need to go to AB. My father passed away in Aug 2020 from Alzheimer's, we never met. In fact, I have never laid eyes on him, felt his embrace, or heard his voice. I am so happy they have welcomed you with open arms... I have heard some horror stories! You are inspiring! Stay Beautiful!
I suspect the naysayers are triggered by their own abandonment/adoption trauma, so I would not pay them anymone. U HAVE THE RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING TO TRACE UR ORIGINS! ESPECIALLY ONCE U BEGIN HAVING UR OWN KIDS AND CREATING UR OWN FAMILY. U owe it to ur children. Its not just about u anymore.
Hi Toraisa I’m new to your channel (today) did I miss the story of you finding your birth father and an update on y’all’s relationship. May GOD continue to bless you. You are a living example of strength courage.
@@pilar8ful Hi! Welcome 🤗 Thank you so much! You can view the entire playlist here. My Story 😭 Left In A Van th-cam.com/play/PLI96JDI9PysVcy1YSJWfSHuey85gJ56EQ.html
Your story is a beautiful one of strength and grace. May you continue to heal, live, and love in your beautiful family. You deserve all the love that your heart can stand❤
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you had loving parents who raised you. I met quite a few bio family members and had to let them go and pray God looks after them. Sometimes the bio family is just too dysfunctional to be a part of your life.
Sounds like your adopted mom is a wonderful woman. You are a lovely young women smart and full of love. It's seems as though you have grown up in a wonderful family.
Years ago, I was told about a guy who worked in a dry cleaners with my last name (which is an unusual name). I called him and we spoke about 2 times, then agreed to meet. The first thing this creep said to me was ' you don't look like how you sound, I thought you were light-skinned!' Needless to say, I spoke my peace and got out of his presence quickly and never saw him again. This happened in the late 90's.
well done for telling your story so well and yes, with grace, i too have found my bio mother and father. still trying to take it all in. your videos are helpfull thank you x
I enjoyed hearing your story. You are an amazing person, you are obviously beautiful on the outside and inside, and you're a great speaker. I'm so glad you were able to meet your brother and other members of your birth family. I will check out some of your other videos.
You have such a beautiful energy! Irrespective of the situation of your birth, you certainly are here for a purpose . I do not know you but I know from the core that you are whole; and really a lovely person🙏🥰💕
At the beginning of the day everyday!!! You have an absolute right!!!!❤❤ People always seem to be so opinionated until they have to walk in someone else's show. Im so happy for you❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It is a very emotional story, even for the hearer. Youve done a great job with not only your journey but of those around you who are also affected by this story. Ypu are wonderful.
Praise the Lord for your supportive husband and apopted parents who loved on you and encouraged you as you sought out your beginnings. The most blessed outcome is your appreciation for motherhood honoring God by taking that task seriously. Prayers for your bio mom, the shame she may feel, having to admit she did this act in desperation rather than seeking help. Blessings to you dear sister.
@@melong5927 I am thankful for all the people God has placed in my life. Being a mother means so much to me. Yes, even though this is hard for me… I wish the best for my bio mom.
Blessings to you,i came across your video,as inwqs watching different reunions. All i can saybis tears,and ghank you lord god fir his grace and mercy. I identify 😢😢😢
So happy with the update Toraisa. You have learned so much and I thank you for sharing your insights, about forgiving and the way you can heal and move on, with us. I understand your pain in not having had your sibblings in your life, but that is going to change from now on. Much love to you and your family.
God Bless you! Your video made me cry. I am happy you found your birth mother and brother. I am also happy you have a good husband, your beautiful children and great adoptive parents.
So we'll spoken. I'm very proud of you. That's a fine line between being heartbroken and feeling abandoned to that ache and urge of wanting and needing to fill the void with those who abandoned you and only they can fill it. Then you don't know how they will respond to you... I'm so proud of you T! Kudos to you and many blessings along the journey.
I think everyone has the right to know where they came from. It’s part of you no matter what, good or bad. You need to know your family history and genetics. ❤ I hope you are happy with your life. I wish you the best.🙏🏼
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New UPDATE Video Is UP ❤ Thank you everyone for your support! I appreciate the love and I pray this video comforts those who feel like they aren’t enough because you were abandoned. th-cam.com/video/ZTUWNUiO8iY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=CiRYmWh8kEZ-r2ch
I’m glad you were brave enough to do this. 👍🏾 Don’t be upset with the nay sayers. We are all ignorant in some areas. Sometimes putting a child up for adoption is best for the child. Many people suffer with emotional & mental conditions. Postpartum is real too. I don’t have a clue about your situation. This is my first time viewing your channel. I’m so glad you’re forgiving and receiving counseling! You are a brave, beautiful, 🦋intelligent, & blessed young woman. I wish you the best.❤
Thank you ☺️
My mother adopted my brother and she got him when he was 23 days old. At 30 he took a DNA test and found a brother. My family met him and there are almost the same in every way. They look alike, play, guitar have similar tattoos. Siblings are so cool.Thank you for sharing
Thank you for watching! That’s a blessing ❤
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it's cool that the mother that raised you all your life is actually related to you!
It really is. I was shocked when I found out. Thank you for watching.
You have a right to want to know your biological family. This does not invalidate the love and bond with the family who raised you.
You and your brother meeting had me in tears! I have an Irish twin as well….
Glad I was able to meet him. Thank you for the watching video. Stay tuned for the update video.
You are so fortunate. You could have ended up in an orphanage or the foster care system. Your adoptive parents did such a wonderful job of raising you and you have a great life, with or without your birth parents. Maybe you would have been miserable growing up with them and would not have been the amazing lady you are today. Really you grew up just the way you were meant to. I hope this experience reassures you that you are 100% OK. Now you can go on with your future without the nagging questions. My dear, you are truly great.
@@Julie-qw5ld Thank you, Julie. I am so blessed to not have grown up in foster care. However, I hope that my video will encourage individuals that have been abandoned that there is light at the end of the tunnel… and for the parents that don’t want to be parents there is a right way to give your child up. Blessings to you.
The hand of God is over your life. You exude such sweetness!!
Thank you 😊
"God weaves remarkable events in and through our lives."🙏 You are a beautiful, strong woman.💕 You are a wonderful mother who will become an excellent mentor to others who have lived experiences similar to yours. Blessings!
Thank you so much. Seeing comments like this makes me smile. Much love to you ❤️
As someone who is African and fascinated with DNA results videos, your DNA video was recommended to me by yt. I was further drawn to watch the video because of your beautiful melanated complexion and your pretty face. Before watching that video, I predicted that you’d definitely have a high percentage of Nigerian DNA and was pleasantly impressed by the fact that you are 94% African (Shout out to your ancestors for keeping it real.)
However, as a result of watching that video, I became engrossed in your more personal adoption/voyage of discovery story.
After watching the above video, I am glad to see that many of your previously unresolved questions about your past have been answered ….. although it might be me but I still don’t understand your explanation of how your adopted mum and your uncle are related to your birth parents.
Your story reminded me of my history. In short, my parents moved to the Uk from Africa, married and because they were young, in a foreign land and pursuing an education, employment etc I was placed in foster care. Whilst I was in care, my parents “separated” which culminated in my mother returning to Nigeria. By the time my father and I went back to Nigeria, my mother had died. The sad thing was I have no recollection of ever seeing my mother. Or indeed any of my grandparents. Has it affected me? Who knows. I say all of this just to make the point that your “journey” although painful has allowed you the opportunity to confront and resolve certain issues. I suspect that you know that in some ways you have been very fortunate.
Anyways peace my Sista. I wish you all the best.
Thank you for watching and your comment. On the hard days.. I remind myself how blessed I am. Sending love your way ❤
You are brave, beautiful and kind!
Yes, those abandoned babies, grow up to be the most valuable, influential and caring human beings of all!!
You and I are both examples of that . Thanks for sharing!
Thank you sweetheart! So true!
I pray for your healing my sis. Some of us were (what I call) abandoned in place, meaning although our parents didn't physically abandon us, they did in all other ways. The Most High uses me to minister to others who have had simillar trauma and as you know, HE CARES!
I felt this! 🙌🏾
@@ToraisaJ I have a ministry (for sistahs only) where we are on a journey of healing from trauma. It is on zoom and a safe place for my people
@@jill_C-ArukahattheWell Please email me the info.
Wow! What a story! I can feel your heartache as you talk about the feelings of abandonment. I'm glad you had good parents to adopt and love you, and a husband to love and support you. And you may not have spent your childhood with your brother, but you can have a relationship now. May you have peace and love the rest of your life.❤
Thank you, Theresa!
I was abandoned also, and it really hit home when you said that that person is just outliving their life and you need to forgive for yourself. and also being a mom, so super important to me.❤ God bless.
I am sorry and hope you’re healing. I mean she was living her best life. That’s what was so hurtful.
Did your biological mother tell you the circumstances that led her to abandon you in a van . We have a TV program here in the UK that helps people find family and answers in similar situations to yours . You are a lovely person that any mother would be proud of ❤
@@rosenamarshall5502 No answers 🥹
@@ToraisaJI do genealogy and I have to say that some times, no answer is the answer. I have a lot of insane stories about my family and I will share just one. My great grandfather was an abusive alcoholic and when my great grandmother died, he sold his minor children. I had a cousin reach out to see what I knew about our family. My cousin was not adopted, but he was abandoned by his mother. I was aware that my grandfather found all 13 siblings and they were reunited. He was such a mean person and we didn’t speak for 15 years. He hid family reunions from us and never let us meet all of them. We had reunited 3 years before he passed and I never questioned him. Helping my cousin, we had discovered that our family had a lot of problems and we both knew how much we were better off not being around. His mom abandoned him because she went crazy from the abuse and she didn’t even know that she had a younger sister and felt that everyone had hid her from her. But she had been living in a different state. I discovered that these people had killed others (a 7 year old child 😢 and my great uncle had stabbed his own wife for having to prostitute herself to get food because the kids were starving and he was in prison for robbing someone. So many horrible things about these people that I would have probably been fine without knowing.
It helped me heal from the fact I had cut ties with my grandfather for so long and realized that he was protecting us from them. So, not in all cases, but at times, not having the answer we desire may be Gods way of protecting us. I pray for you to be happy and accepting of everything you discover on your journey ❤
@@ToraisaJ oh how frustrating for you . Don’t be afraid to ask her outright .
I was wondering the same thing. How old was she when she gave birth in the van, why was she giving birth in the van, was she alone? Did the Dad know it happened? Did other family members know? Is Brandon a full sibling? So many questions.
@@rosenamarshall5502 I have come to the realization I may never get the truth 😭
You can be extremely happy with your adopted parents and absolutely have that love for each other. Wanting to know who your biological parents are takes nothing away from that at all ❤️
@@mah3223alia Finally someone understands. I love my adoptive parents. However, I wanted to know who I came from. I don’t regret finding my bio mom and family. This situation has shaped me into the woman I am today.
@@ToraisaJ It actually sounds as though your quest to find your bio family has drawn you closer to your adoptive mother. You have approached your search honestly, prayerfully, and with an open heart, ready to accept whatever your learned. Talking and sharing with your adoptive parents about your findings binds them more firmly to you as an adult. Painful as it has been, I can see the joy outweighs the sorrow.
God gave you the People he wanted to raise you and Love You, and care for you. ❤ he matched you up.
God is awesome! Thankful for my parents for accepting me and adopting me.
@@ToraisaJ You are Very Loved .
The part where you met your brother for the first time had me in front of my TV looking like this 😭
I can’t even watch it because it makes me cry 😭. One day I will watch that part again.
Same here! I had to put down my breakfast and use all my napkins because I was just bawling my eyes out. So happy for Toraisa !
@@tmoon7730 🥹🥹🥹🥹😭
Toraisa, I just came across this video this morning and I feel as it was a divine appointment from God. I am 65 years old and I just found my family through AncestryDNA 2 years ago, that’s right I met my biological family at the age of 63! What a journey it has been and you are so correct that no matter what you want to know who your family is, I cried so many tears over the years! I have been married for 39 years and we have 3 daughters and six grands, I have taught for over 25 years and I would feel empty because the spirit of abandonment was in me my entire life because I didn’t, know who my family was.😢 Also I was never adopted I was in foster care my entire childhood, I didn’t think I was going to make it, but God......I have wrote a book; called “El Roi, The God That Sees Me” and will be published soon! I wrote my story and what I tried to hide from has healed me because I can now see God in my story. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I understand the tears! I pray that you and your biological family can write a new story of love and redemption! God bless you sis!
Wow! What a story. I hope you were about to get answers. 39 years of marriage, three daughters and grandchildren is awesome. I know you give them so much love. Congrats 🎊 on your book. I would love to read it. Even in difficult situations, there is a blessing…. Turning pain into purpose. Praying God continues to cover you and help you continue to heal your heart. Much love ❤️.
Thank you for sharing this powerful story, and for being a beautiful example of forgiveness, grace, resilience, and dignity.🙏🏿❤️🌹
Wow! That means a lot to me ❤️ Thank you for watching!
👍🏿🙏🏿❤️🌹
Very good video. It deserves more views. I'm happy that you found your biological family. Just more people outside of your parents to show you love. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Thank you ❤ I will be dropping an update video soon when I get the strength.
TH-cam recommended you. I’ve watched the abandoned video and now have watched this one. You are so Awesome! I am so happy for you! Be encouraged for you are blessed!!!❤😊❤
Thank you 😊
This story is so beautiful and profound! It gave me chills and I shed a tear especially when you met your brother 🥲 I tell you all the time you are so strong and I look up to you. I know this is part of your therapy and thank you so much for sharing it with us all. You are a beautiful person inside and out, “forgive others not for them but for yourself” that wi forever stick with me. I love you friend ♥️
Thank you for watching and thank you so much for your sweet comment. I really try to be a good person even in difficult situations.
Hi michael
You are a brave and very wise person❤
All I can say is Highly Blessed and Favored. Two families!
Awwww🥹 This is such a beautiful testimony. I’m so happy for you friend.❣️ I know this is something that you’ve wanted to find out forever. I’m so proud of you for having the courage to find YOUR TRUTH. ❤️
Hugs!! ThanK you friend ❤️It was so hard.. couldn’t stop crying but I had to do it. Love you 😘
There is nothing wrong with wanting to know where you came from. I guarantee the people who tried to discourage you know who their birth parents are and they are wrong for trying to block you from knowing your truth. I'm glad you're sharing your story. You're helping others to heal.
Thank you. It was my goal to help others.
You were right about needing a tissue, my eyes started sweating. You and your brother look alike 😍
Still can’t believe how we look alike.
I was adopted too. I totally understand everything you said. I also found my birth father's family on Ancestry. Much Love and hugs to you.
I hope you were able to get some answers finding your family. Thanks! Sending lots of love back to you.
I did! ❤️ Thank you
I think it’s beautiful that in a way you were still raised via a family member (adopted mom being cousins with bio dad) and in a way maybe it was meant to be your ancestors are probably looking down proud of your adopted mother and father that they stepped up for you and your bio mom when she couldn’t
You and your family are very forgiving! Your right forgiveness is for yourself!
yes, it’s for yourself ❤️ It stings but forgiving is a part of the healing process. Thank you for watching ❤️
THERE'S too many people that don't want their children.
Or abuse and reject them.
This is not the child's problem, it's the parent's mental issues,
and it's not fair that the victim should suffer for it.
In your case, I think, it's made you a better person.
Thanks for sharing
Thank you for watching! This situation has made me a better person. I struggle some days.. but I choose to keep going. Update video coming soon.
If your adopted mother is also related to you then the rest of the family grandparents included knew you were out there with another relative. Why wouldn't you been fellowshipped in. I know its painful but something still sounds amiss.May God bless and guide you.
DNA matches don't have to be much. For example, maybe 300 centimorgans which would be a second cousin. I have only met a few of my second cousins. Third cousins average a shared 100 centimorgans. You will have relative matches you don't know. what is was her adopted uncle had taken a DNA test, so he showed up as a match. Obviously, from what she said, it was not her adopted mom's sibling who is one of her bio parents. Even if a first cousin i of adopted mom's., she may have not known her cousin was pregnant if they concealed their pregnancy or if she was related to bio dad that he had fathered a child. obviously, the birth parents were not telling folks
@@peachygal4153 Maybe true but what I know of black people there is always someone in the family that knows all the biz.
Shame on those negative people giving negative comments! You are entitled to feel what you feel think what you think. All of us humans have those rights. We can encourage people . That is it. God bless you! Keep 🙂
People were very mean.
I love these types of videos and yours is so unique in that the family that you were adopted into were you real family members and they didn't know. Geesh
Gives me chills and makes me cry thinking about it. Thank you for watching!
I think that it was probably a huge blessing that you were brought up by your adoptive parents because they did a wonderful job raising you up to have a most beautiful heart. I imagine that you would have suffered more with your biological parents. You are so very kind and forgiving and are taking excellent care of yourself and your family. Your biological parents missed out on you. You are an excellent example to all. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s painful, but it seems that we receive a pain in our lives that is for us to transform our lives. We have to choose if we will allow that pain to tear us down or allow for transformation and growth. You chose growth. You are an excellent example for your children. Peace to you. Continue in love and grace. ❤
Tears 😭🥹 Thank you. I realize as an adult I was and am very blessed. Thank you for this comment. Blessings to you.
🥺 I’m adopted as well, I listen to so many stories within the triad. Yours be far is the most unique, you were in the presence of your biological family this whole time. 🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing your story, you are so courageous. You are helping to change the narrative of black adoption. One day I’m going to share my story.
I know how difficult this is, the cycle of grief last for a lifetime. I wishing you healing, and continuous healing. 💕
(Let me finish this video and cry with you 😢)
Thank you so much for your sweet words. When you’re ready, share your story because it will help so many as well. It’s therapeutic for me when I share my story. So many have experienced abandonment and don’t know how to heal from it… but I am an example that with therapy and God you can learn how to move forward with your life and not hold on to the pain. Sending love your way ❤️
So wise and beautiful. I feel your goodness and it shines and will help so many that you meet.
@@lamonarankin5504 Thank you 😊
You are so wise!!!!
You do want to know. It brought me peace. ❤ You have the right to know simply because you exist and your history and ancestors are part of your existence.
Oh wow this was way more emotional than I expected 😭
I’m so happy for you and the strength you have. You’re a beautiful woman and you are giving so much to your kids!
My mom left me when I was 4 and the pain I’ve suffered from feeling like I wasn’t enough intensified when I had my daughter. Woah! But it’s made me a better mother and I’ve also gained such a strong appreciation for my husband ❤
Hugs!
@@labitcoineragt3596 Don’t have me crying again 🥹🥹🥹 I understand the feeling. I never want my children to feel how I felt so I show them so much love. I hope your daughter knows she has an amazing mother!! Hugs back to you!! ❤️
You have a lovely, soothing voice. The story of you is very important. How brave to share this.
@@lh5677 Thank you for your comment. It was so hard but God gave me the strength.
Really happy you reunited with your family ❤️ and I literally cried when u met your brother ...
Thank you hun! I cry every time I see the clip 😭
I don't know why this showed up in my feed two years later, but your transparency is admirable. I'm sure you're an amazing mom, daughter and wife. May God bring abundant blessings.
It was very hard. Thank you for this sweet comment. Blessings to you ❤️
I wish you so much peace upon your heart and mind.
Also, it's so refreshing to see such a real and authentic person sharing their story without trying to get clicks or sell something.
I am grateful for your presence here. ❤
@@esspyarrow8772 Thank you. That’s important to me to be real and authentic on my channel and be a might to others. Thank you for kind words and watching.
You are an amazing person! So real! As I commented in your last video regarding ancestry dna, you are so well spoken and a pleasure to watch! You deserve the best!
Thank you! I appreciate it so much. ❤️
So happy you found out who you are connected too ❤ . Very touching story. Wishing you peace and clarity 🙏
Thank you for watching ❤
you and your brother are so beautiful!!!!!!
Hey, congratulations! I just watched your video about the DNA test, so know this has been a long journey for you. You're a very genuine person, and this video is emotional for us too because of that.
@@sarahcohen3844 Whew! It’s was hard to do but I hope someone is encouraged by my story ❤️ Thank you for watching!!
Congratulations! Happy for you.❤ Beautiful family.
I just discovered you on TH-cam ..I'm enjoying your story... you are a beautiful person inside and out.. you were born and saved for a reason... also I love your name it's so pretty ❤
Thank you! I am grateful for the support. ❤️
bless you for sharing your story it's very brave and will certainly helped others I think that you're suffering PTSD from your early start it's been something that's affected you badly self care is good and not selfish it's a requirement
I suffered depression after I met her. I lied to myself… but it was bad. Thankful I am better mentally.
MY DEAR YOU HAVE A NEED AND A RIGHT TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE, THAT IS A NATURAL REQUIREMENT OF A PERSON MY SYMPATHY GOES WITH YOU DEAR. I AM GLAD YOU FOUND OUT WHO YOUR MOTHER IS, AND WHO YOU ARE PHYSICALLY. DO YOU RESEMBLE HER? 😊
Yes, we look just alike. Her picture is in this video.
What a beautiful family! I am so happy that you have found your history.
@@nataliesirota2611 Thank you so much!
Toraisa, you deserved to know where you came from. So happy for you. Take care lots of ❤️ from South Africa 🙏
Toraisa, You are a bright and beautiful light in this world! Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you Jude 😊
Your birth mother is so beautiful. Since you have children you know how it would be impossible to leave your baby and walk away....your birth mother must have really been in a difficult situation and she knew that she couldn't take care of you. Beautiful story.
Thank you 😊
Thank you for your inspiring words. It means a lot to us, too. ❤
Thank you 😊 I'm glad my story can help encourage others.
I came across your videos today. Thank you for sharing your story and your healing. You are absolutely gorgeous! Keep smiling beautiful!
Thank you Kimberly for leaving this sweet comment ❤️
That’s wonderful news for you that you’re related to your adoptive parents. As to where you come from, you DO come from your adoptive parents, in that they took you into their familial “tribe”, raised you according to their ethical and moral codes, and provided you with the fundamental building blocks to turn into the beautiful, pragmatic and wise woman you are today. I feel the same for my stepdad who took my mum and I in when I was five and provided us with security, stability and home but instilled in me with a moral compass while my mothers grasp of ethics and morals was a little more fragile. And i forgive my biodad for walking away because he couldn’t handle the prospects and responsibilities of parenthood, because if he didn’t my stepdad wouldn’t have come along.
@@phoenixkali Everything happens for a reason.
It's such a normal thing to want to know about your ancestry. You go girl!
I am so glad you are taking us on this journey with you
This is powerful. Your story from the beginning to now is amazing. To see the joy in your face and your voice is amazing.
Awww 🥹 Thank you so much and thanks for watching.
BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE HELPING OTHERS GOD BLESS YOU
@@dc.t.5980 Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
You are a strong women! Bless you.
You know you are loved and I am truly amazed by how strong you are! You don’t look like what you been through! I’m so happy you’re my little cousin! ❤❤
Thank you 😊 I love you too cousin ❤️
Wishing you peace of mind and a full heart to move past the pain. You are truly blessed to have loving parents, a caring husband and beautiful kids plus now you are blessed with 2 new aunts, a new brother and more. God bless you!!!!!! Love your spirit...
@@mandyhill3211 Thank you. I remind myself everyday I am blessed… especially when I have a hard day. Thank you for this comment. I appreciate it!
Hello Toraisa ! 🙋🏽.. Thank you for sharing your story with us . So happy that you found your Birth Parents and Family members !!! ❤.. I know this was important for you .. You will get to start new relationships with each family member. What great Blessings !!!.. Continue to be happy !!.. You are very Strong and Courageous !!! 🙏🏽💞
Thank you so much for your encouragement ☺️It meant everything finding out who my birth parents are and now I know.
Watching this video 2 years after you made it and you have me in tears. My heart is breaking for you.
@@tinamarie7869 🥹🥹🥹
Congrats! This is amazing! I, too, found my paternal side of the family via social media 8 years ago. My sister, who is 6 years older than me, passed away in 2019-we never met in person. My brother, who is 5 years older than me, we have yet to meet in person. Watching you meet your brother made me think, dang... I really need to go to AB. My father passed away in Aug 2020 from Alzheimer's, we never met. In fact, I have never laid eyes on him, felt his embrace, or heard his voice. I am so happy they have welcomed you with open arms... I have heard some horror stories! You are inspiring! Stay Beautiful!
@@QJR583 I am so sorry for your losses. I pray you and your brother can meet. Thank you for watching and your comment.
Bless you. Most people have some painful family issues. This is helpful for anyone with this family pain. Wishing you peace.
@@MaryKeane-n8f Thank you. I hope this encourages someone.
I suspect the naysayers are triggered by their own abandonment/adoption trauma, so I would not pay them anymone. U HAVE THE RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING TO TRACE UR ORIGINS! ESPECIALLY ONCE U BEGIN HAVING UR OWN KIDS AND CREATING UR OWN FAMILY. U owe it to ur children. Its not just about u anymore.
Exactly! Thank you for commenting.
Hi Toraisa I’m new to your channel (today) did I miss the story of you finding your birth father and an update on y’all’s relationship. May GOD continue to bless you. You are a living example of strength courage.
@@pilar8ful Hi! Welcome 🤗 Thank you so much! You can view the entire playlist here. My Story 😭 Left In A Van
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So proud of you .Sending you big hugs 🤗❤
Thank you ☺️.
Your story is a beautiful one of strength and grace. May you continue to heal, live, and love in your beautiful family. You deserve all the love that your heart can stand❤
Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you had loving parents who raised you. I met quite a few bio family members and had to let them go and pray God looks after them. Sometimes the bio family is just too dysfunctional to be a part of your life.
Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤️ This is true. Sometimes you have to let them go even when it hurts.
What a testimony!!! So happy for you filling your void💜🙏💜🙏
🙌🏾 I am still here!!
Sounds like your adopted mom is a wonderful woman. You are a lovely young women smart and full of love. It's seems as though you have grown up in a wonderful family.
She is! Thank you so much 😊 I know I am doing what God wants me to do… seeing these messages.
Years ago, I was told about a guy who worked in a dry cleaners with my last name (which is an unusual name). I called him and we spoke about 2 times, then agreed to meet. The first thing this creep said to me was ' you don't look like how you sound, I thought you were light-skinned!' Needless to say, I spoke my peace and got out of his presence quickly and never saw him again. This happened in the late 90's.
Good that you never spoke to him again what a creep
well done for telling your story so well and yes, with grace, i too have found my bio mother and father. still trying to take it all in. your videos are helpfull thank you x
Take it one day it one day at a time. Do things on your terms. Sending lots of love your way.
Blessings young lady 💙 Live your life, follow your dreams, and continue your authentic self. YOUR life. YOUR rules.
@@renebyers6153 Thank you. I am doing all of this 🥰
I enjoyed hearing your story. You are an amazing person, you are obviously beautiful on the outside and inside, and you're a great speaker. I'm so glad you were able to meet your brother and other members of your birth family. I will check out some of your other videos.
Thank you so much ☺️
What a testimony. You are truly amazing, beautiful, and eloquent. Keep up the positivity. God bless and keep you.
@@MMead-ti7bl Thank you 😊 Whew! It’s some nice people in the world. Thank you for watching my story and this sweet comment ❤️
You have such a beautiful energy! Irrespective of the situation of your birth, you certainly are here for a purpose . I do not know you but I know from the core that you are whole; and really a lovely person🙏🥰💕
Thank you ❤ Whew! This message makes me smile.
At the beginning of the day everyday!!! You have an absolute right!!!!❤❤ People always seem to be so opinionated until they have to walk in someone else's show. Im so happy for you❤
@@TTee203 This is so true! Thank you so much!
so glad you got to meet your brother its just a start he seems so nice I bet he would be loved by your adopted family as well
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I wish I could give you a big hug!
@@PJ-wu8wq I need one 😩😍 Thank you for watching my story.
Grace indeed, thank you for sharing! Greetings from Amsterdam
Thank you for sharing your story. It is a very emotional story, even for the hearer. Youve done a great job with not only your journey but of those around you who are also affected by this story. Ypu are wonderful.
Thank you so much! You’re going to have me crying again. These messages mean so much ❤
Praise the Lord for your supportive husband and apopted parents who loved on you and encouraged you as you sought out your beginnings. The most blessed outcome is your appreciation for motherhood honoring God by taking that task seriously. Prayers for your bio mom, the shame she may feel, having to admit she did this act in desperation rather than seeking help. Blessings to you dear sister.
@@melong5927 I am thankful for all the people God has placed in my life. Being a mother means so much to me. Yes, even though this is hard for me… I wish the best for my bio mom.
So pleased you found out who your birth parents are Toraisa. God bless xx
Thank you. Our relationship may not be perfect but I am glad I know. Thank you for watching.
You are beautiful inside and out blessings to you and your family.
Thank you ❤️
Love your message of love. We all have weak moments when we F’up. We humans like judging others without understanding them. I love your positivity.
Thank you ❤
Blessings to you,i came across your video,as inwqs watching different reunions. All i can saybis tears,and ghank you lord god fir his grace and mercy. I identify 😢😢😢
@@raynellsmith6044 Hugs! 💕 Thank you for watching!
So happy with the update Toraisa. You have learned so much and I thank you for sharing your insights, about forgiving and the way you can heal and move on, with us. I understand your pain in not having had your sibblings in your life, but that is going to change from now on. Much love to you and your family.
@@secret3957 Hugs 🤗 Thank you for this sweet comment and watching my story ❤️
God Bless you! Your video made me cry. I am happy you found your birth mother and brother. I am also happy you have a good husband, your beautiful children and great adoptive parents.
@@autumnjohnson2127 God bless you too! Thank you for your comment.
So we'll spoken. I'm very proud of you. That's a fine line between being heartbroken and feeling abandoned to that ache and urge of wanting and needing to fill the void with those who abandoned you and only they can fill it. Then you don't know how they will respond to you... I'm so proud of you T! Kudos to you and many blessings along the journey.
** so well spoken**.
Auto correct is my enemy! Lol
Thank you so much 😊
Thank you for sharing your amazing story. Your love and courage are so inspiring. ❤️
@@IneffableSquirrel Thank you, sweetie ❤️
I think everyone has the right to know where they came from. It’s part of you no matter what, good or bad. You need to know your family history and genetics. ❤ I hope you are happy with your life. I wish you the best.🙏🏼
@@juliearnold5832 Yes, I wanted to know so bad… good or bad. I didn’t know who I was. Thank you 😊
I’m such a big baby! I cried through the whole video! Congratulations of completing your journey
I am so glad you felt connected to the video. This journey has been so emotional 😭😭😭
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I want to say you're very mature in yhe Lord keep it up.
Thank you for watching ❤️